May 2022 New England Monthly

MAY 2022

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Set on high, this custom built home was meticulously crafted for today’s discerning buyer. This 3 bedroom, 2.5 bathroom residence on nearly an acre, features an open floor plan, spacious first floor master, a kitchen fit for a chef and an oversized 3 car garage. Contact Sarah Korolnek 774.644.9156 MARION | $599,000

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Adorable summer cottage or year-round home with deeded beach rights and fabulous water views. Contact Collette Lester 508.287.2075

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Sophisticated summer living at Birchfield Farms. Five bedroom, 3.5 bath set on nearly two acres with spectacular water views. Contact Sarah Meehan 508.695.8926

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WELCOME An early start to what we hope will be a long summer

TRAVEL A trip to funky Rockport, Massachusetts, is inspiring

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IMPRESSIONS You, us, and them; what generation will create meaningful change?

TABLE A labor of love by two Rockport women keeps this landmark restaurant alive and well

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HOME An antique country retreat comes to market, but it won’t last long

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FILM “The Gilded Age” is a remarkable story; even though, not everyone agrees

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PHOTO BY: KITCHEN AT THE ELMS & THE BREAKERS MUSIC ROOM BY ALISON COHEN ROSA/HBO

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WRITTEN WORD We’ve seen and heard enough, and we’re not taking it any longer; these are Fighting Words

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STEPPING OUT It’s time to put on your red shoes and dance; the city is hosting a week of excitement at “Let’s Dance Boston!” this month

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PROFILE Arriving in style is Chris Hiller’s motto, and his collection of cars assures he does

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MOTORING Glitz, glamor, and our affinity to the motor car. The Greenwich Concours d’ Elegance returns this summer

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NEWS If we report it; you need to know about it

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LIVING WELL Suicide is on the rise; take an honest look at the problem and learn how you can help find a solution

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INTIMACY Right or wrong…you’re likely wrong; learn how to play defense, if you decide to stay

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HEALTH Crazy is as crazy does. It might be time to take action and find peace for you and those you care about the most

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WELL DONE Music across borders

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Welcome

Be Relevant

e finally made it, and not too soon.

May’s arrival brings cheers and smiles to most faces and considering it’s the shoulder to summer, we’re predicting higher than average temperatures, plus well-deserved relief from the daily grind.

This month we try to entice getting outdoors as much as possible; you will be delighted with our “Travel” section as we share a daytrip to Rockport, Massachusetts, and a taste of culinary supremacy at award-winning and ocean-side restaurant, My Place By The Sea. Speaking of the ocean—and who doesn’t want to talk about it, we caught up with Chris Hiller at Round Hill Beach in South Dartmouth to hear about his interest in collecting. No, not stamps or coins; Hiller has an unusual interest; it’s Range Rovers. It’s an excellent topic for discussion with summer approaching; sun, sand, and what many claim to be the top-ofthe-line SUVs made for a perfect day.

We also take on serious issues; this month’s “Impressions” addresses our readers’ pent-up frustration. They have been forced to spend excessive time watching the erosion of values and their way of life, and they are not afraid to share their observations. Venting is a great stress reliever; and we decided to share their thoughts—and ours.

In this month’s “Living Well”, Rob Saint Laurent explores the topic of Suicide. It’s a tragedy that touched nearly everyone, most unsettling is the significant rise in these types of fatalities since 1999.

Especially concerning is the participation of younger people.

For this reason, we’ve given space to an organization sponsoring an event in New York City designed to bring awareness to the topic and alert people on how to identify the subtle signs someone is struggling. The “Out of Darkness /Overnight Walk" is a meaningful method for getting attention to the prevention of suicide, and begin an active and potent conversation throughout local, regional and national communities.

It’s not too early to plan a season of events, and we have the most exciting and enjoyable list of activities singles, couples, and families will enjoy doing over the next two months.

Hagerty’s, Concours d’Elegance in Greenwich, Connecticut, is around the corner, as is the renowned Newport Flower show.

Also, not to be missed is the start of Open-Air Saturdays, held in the DownCity area of Providence, Rhode Island. And for those light on their feet, check out the Let’s Dance Boston Series at the Rose Kennedy Greenway. Held on five separate occasions this month, live bands will entertain, while expert dance instructors will offer lessons. It’s free, so why not drop in?

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Impressions

SELF-AWARENESS

We’re fortunate each morning, our eyes open, a simple motor action that could be construed as a message delivered about our continued existence.

As the sun rises or the cover of clouds hover, it becomes transparent; we’ve been approved for another day and the opportunity to make choices.

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off the day, only to succumb to the tugging of responsibilities, urging participation in new experiences.

With a yawn, blurred eyes, and the shuffle of feet, kitchens become bright with light, coffee brews, and new adventures are planned.

Too often, life is taken for granted, and at some point, everyone hears echoes of “Youth is wasted on the young.” Fret not; it’s part of the journey, it happens to be one of life’s alerts, indicating it’s time to do a personal inventory. Life proves to be

conciliatory when giving us notice that it’s time to get serious and treat each day as capital—not to be squandered.

It can be unnerving when your wake-up call is delivered; but, trying to ignore it is futile—there’s no escaping time and humility. However, it is comforting to realize that the rest of your life is of your choosing.

What follows can be surprising; few individuals discover the knowledge necessary to strip away pride, grandiosity, and greed once used to shield feelings of fear, frailty, and mortality. There is contentment in understanding that it is one of the necessary stages of human development.

Every so often, a journalist will ask an octogenarian, nonagenarian, or centenarian what they believe contributed to their longevity. Usually, their answers are more humorist than good guidance, friendly advice like, ‘a drink each day,’ ‘arduous work,’ with others claiming— in jest, ‘never getting married’ was the secret to their longevity.

On occasion, a senior may be prodded to explain their accumulated wisdom over a lifetime. This information is important to listen to; their experiences and knowledge can be reliable indicators of the state of society and accurate measurement in evaluating its progress, success, and failures.

IMBALANCES

We are surrounded by crime, poverty, blatant disregard for authority, and intense efforts to erase history.

Simultaneously science and industry are reaching for the stars, discovering life-saving cures, and creating new economies. Wealth is shared like no other time in history, but it is never enough for some.

Vanity, power, riches, control, and the belief they are better than others—or more deserving have been prevalent throughout civilization. And while we’ve had centuries to discover approaches to level or balance social status, society is on a rampage in a quest to create greater differences.

The race to the top knows no boundaries. Cooperation must have a payoff rather than an honest offering. Fabrication, deception, and omissions of truth have infused our lives because it is considered fair game if you want to “make it.”

It is a sad commentary about the direction of our nation.

WE DESERVE BETTER

The extraordinary bias coming from news organizations in the US is frightening; a divided country, out-of-touch or duplicitous pundits cheerleading their favorite team, and the acceptance of violent crime going unpunished has protruded sensibility.

Laptops, dirty tricks, and leaders getting extraordinarily rich through public service is reported but never resolved. At the same time, others look to tear up public lands for energy, have tried to disrupt the transfer of power, and gaslight the uninterested and uninformed for personal gain.

While the public is wrapped up in getting what they need

Today we dream yet knowing that passing our inspiration to other generations might ignite a movement with a focus on actual change and the removal of those who have long abused our trust.

to survive, the government is fogging our vision, so nothing is clear and concise; instead, every topic is nuanced or vague, and if pushed, those with a voice are marginalized, attacked, or canceled.

Sadly, no knife is large enough to cut through the bureaucracy that entombs our freedoms.

OVER THERE

There’s terrific progress being made for the benefit of humanity, but it isn’t enough. We support the Ukrainian people, not their government; we feel compassion for the Russians while condemning the country’s leaders and those who would commit atrocities.

But there is more; within the former Soviet bloc countries (and other parts of the world), human trafficking is a way of life; millions of children and young women are living in poverty, told their bodies are currency and if they wish to survive or escape, they will comply.

Their stories of fear and heartbreak are disturbing; the victims feel they are destined to servitude if they are to survive. It has become ingrained in cultures without intentions of reform.

Perhaps we should consider where our energy should be allotted; coming together to free victims of sex-trafficking, making our streets safe, or on the local level, argue and battle over mascots of high school sports teams.

AT HOME

Our veterans, Native Americans, and the elderly go neglected while Washington D.C. flourishes with extravagance before our eyes; so often, we hear promises made but not kept.

It’s not a perfect world, and there is a long way to find a resolution to what ails us. Wouldn’t it be great if millions of people descended on the Capitol one day, not along party lines, but in unity so a single voice—a large bi-partisan voting block—can have their voices heard for honest representation, truth, and repair to a faltering country?

Today we dream knowing that passing our inspiration to other generations might ignite a movement with a focus on actual change and the removal of those who have long abused our trust.

In hindsight, maybe youth isn’t wasted on the young; it might also be expended by the young at heart too.

It’s just a thought.

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ABLE TO PU RCHASE? Don’t Let This One Get Away

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This month’s feature home is nestled where history was made.

A quintessential New England home, built in 1781, it boasts charm, elegance, and authenticity.

Continuous updates with modernday conveniences blend the old and new, allowing the next family to take pride in its preservation.

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ocated in a community once referred to as the best-kept secret on the coast of Massachusetts, this historical property has just become available, but you better act quickly; in today’s real estate market, a property of this significance will not last long.

Within the confines of Russells Mills Village, part of a community once referred to as the best-kept secret on the coast of Massachusetts, the home is in proximity to the picturesque Paskamanset and Slocum rivers at the intersection of Russells Mills and Horseneck roads.

Also nearby is a general store dating to the late 18th century and waterfalls, where many have proposed marriage and children journey on bicycles for a day of exploration.

The location remains rural and enchanting, close to roadside fruit and vegetable stands, working dairy farms, and orchards; the list of the area’s neighbors.

Each season is unique along the coast; minutes from Horseneck Beach, a State Reservation, Demarest Llyod State Park, and a private beach known as Barney’s Joy allow a different perspective of nature’s beauty and a chance to experience it at will.

Russells Mills Village boasts a past in industries during the 18th and 19th centuries.

Even though the British burned and pillaged, roughly 40 buildings—wood-framed, remaining from the era; in fact, one home, thought to have been built in 1670, has survived.

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The Village was once recognized for its processing of grain and lumber. With nearby Padanaram and New Bedford harbors nearby, businesses thrived—it was the hub of activity.

Also significant to the area is the Apponegansett Meeting House, set on 14-acres of land; it has a cemetery and the remains of other buildings from the era. The structure dates to 1791, while the land’s use goes back to when the Quakers first settled the area in 1664.

This month’s feature home is nestled where history was made. A quintessential New England home, built in 1781, it boasts charm, elegance, and authenticity. Continuous updates with modern-day conveniences blend the old and new, allowing the next family to take pride in its preservation.

Don’t let the age distract you from a closer look; it is a solid home and has been continuously upgraded with improvements such as air-conditioning, updated windows, new appliances and counters, a new roof, upgraded electrical system, alarm system, new paint (interior & exterior), ungraded antique kitchen stove and shingled.

Its antique surroundings offer gracious living. The floor plan shows an ample 2,325 square-feet of living space accented with stunning architectural details. The home includes a spacious 18 | MAY 2022 | NEW ENGLAND NEWS + MEDIA

kitchen, pantry, master suite with bath and walk-in closet, formal living and dining rooms with fireplaces, and three bedrooms on the second floor offering views of the river.

There is also a den at the lower level with a fireplace and an attached two-car garage.

For sailors, Padanaram Harbor and sweeping views of Buzzards Bay and the Elizabeth Islands make this hard-to-find home a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity.

Located at 13 Horseneck Road in South Dartmouth, it is offered at $879,000 by Anne Whiting Real Estate, 250 Elm Street, South Dartmouth, annewhitingrealestate.com. H For more information, interested parties should reach out to Fatima Simas at 508-287-0003 or fatima@annewhitingrealestate.com.

Eden…A Personal Paradise The Newport

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BY STEVEN CHAN | PHOTOGRAPHY BY STEVEN CHAN

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n hour from Boston, and an easy drive from everywhere else, the village of Rockport is intriguing and inspirational.

It is not a ‘dress to impress’ vacation spot, although the crowd has been known to keep quiet about the movers and shakers of large international corporations who prefer privacy and to blend into the surroundings.

Upon your visit, you could find yourself sitting on a bench with a Fortune 500 company president, talking about who has the best lobsters in town, only to mistake them for the local lobster fisherperson. At the same time, Rockport is a community of artists, designers, and makers who want promotion and recognition for their quality

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art and products; they too will talk you up and make you feel comfortable and feel like you belong.

The amalgamation of lifestyles and talent is a draw to tourists from all walks of life, and one of the first places everyone wants to visit is the parking lot on the inner harbor.

Of all the sites found in the towns and a city that make up Cape Ann, nothing is more iconic than “Motif Number 1.”

It is believed that a painter by the name of Lester Hornby (1882–1956) was the first to reference the spot as “Motif Number 1,” according to Roadtripping USA: The Complete Coast-to-Coast Guide to America.

Set on the end of a granite pier known as Bradley Wharf, the original ‘red’ fishing shack, built in 1840, was lost during the Blizzard of ‘78. “Motif Number 1” is recognized for its stunning location, the harbor’s configura-

Rockport is the quintessential New England fishing village, but it has become so much more over the years; now is the perfect time to add it to your summer vacation list—you are going to love it!

tion, and near-perfect lighting; its importance to artists worldwide (and the town) was identified, and a replica was built.

The scene is thought to be one of the most painted and photographed locations in the US. Rockport is home to art and cultural events, with over 30 galleries, including the Rockport Art Association and Museum. Live entertainment can also be found at the impressive Shalin Liu Performance Center and the historic campus of the Windhover Center for Performing Arts.

As for shopping, there is nothing like Bearskin Neck. The busy lane may seem to resemble a miniature version of Cape Cod’s P-Town, but it has an inimitable vibrance and style and is less commercial and more local. With its narrow streets and dozens of galleries and shops, it is the go-to place for people watching,

relieving stress, and finding great food and gifts.

Walking the easy incline to the top of Bearskin Neck, visitors meet at the award-winning My Place by the Sea Restaurant, flanked by the historic Transit Tower circa 1892; the two buildings with dramatic views of the Atlantic Ocean function as the entrance to a jetty which seems to go on forever!

If you plan to stay, and you should, there is an assortment of Inns offering the finest hospitality and comfort to guests. Be sure to pack for a day in the sun because Front Beach and Back Beach are on Sandy Bay’s shores—only minutes from town and worth the journey.

Rockport is the quintessential New England fishing village, but it has become so much more over the years; now is the perfect time to add it to your summer vacation list—you are going to love it! H

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Oceanfront dining, freshly caught seafood and locally sourced produce, sweeping views of the Atlantic Ocean, and breathtaking sunsets cannot adequately be put into words… it’s cathartic, an experience that engulfs all the senses.

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My Place by the Sea— Is Cape Ann’s Slice of Heaven

BY STEVEN CHAN | PHOTOGRAPHY BY STEVEN CHAN

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isiting My Place by the Sea is more than charming culinary dining; it’s emotional. Witnessing the endearment to visualize the potential of a business balanced on a pile of boulders— set into a rocky shoreline, is moving. The extraordinary effort to provide the highest standards of hospitality and unparalleled service is a labor of love. The combination is a winning formula for success.

It began as a dream of Executive Chef Kathy Milbury and co-owner Barbara Stavropoulos prior to 2000. Then, the day came when they took over the restaurant and considerable risk and grew it into one of the most recognized restaurants along

the eastern seaboard.

The Zagat-rated and award-winning competitors have been approved and raved about in People magazine, Yankee magazine, Chronicle’s “A Food Find,” and now here.

Most people in the food-service business and the media recognize a kitchen is only as good as the last meal prepared. In the case of these women, they reap success every day they are open—which is all year long.

Milbury and Stavropoulos are not ordinary restaurateurs, not even close.

They are both compassionate about what they have built, going to the ends of the earth to satisfy their loyal clientele while giving back more to their community than

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anyone would imagine—their honorable deeds go unnoticed—they’re humble.

“I want everyone who comes here to feel like they’re at our home; dining here isn’t going out, it’s connecting with Barbara and me for a lifetime…most everyone returns over and over,” Milbury said with a smile that could warm a morning chill.

There is a genuine friendliness—about the location, and the people found here.

At the same time, the restaurant shares an ambiance with a casual but sophisticated presence. A fine glass of Champagne, wine, or favorite cocktail while viewing the crest of the crashing waves upon the shoals causes an intoxicating state of relaxation.

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vate dining experience; it changes often based on the season, ‘catch of the day,’ and Milbury’s creativity.

A visit begins with a heartfelt greeting, sitting comfortably among white linens, nicely weighted tableware, and colorfully dressed servers owning above-average knowledge, and skills diners come to appreciate.

The cocktail and wine lists have reasonably priced depth and variety; there’s no disappointment with the finely crafted selections that pair well with the delicious small plates, appetizers, and entrées.

The two daily menus include delectable surf, turf, and garden delights.

My Place by the Sea offers Casual Fare, including sandwiches, soup, or chowder

for smaller appetites, with more robust cuisine on the dinner menu.

One appetizer quickly captured my interest is the “Appetizer Kit.” I highly recommend the inventive trio of savory clam chowder, meaty crab cake, and lightly Tempura shrimp—but don’t plan on sharing, it's too delicious!

Entrées include eclectic choices of local fish, lobster, shrimp, scallops, beef, chicken, and an assortment of salads from local farms. My choice of entrée was the Grilled Salmon with Grapefruit & Beat Salad drizzled with a poppyseed vinaigrette. It was the best Salmon I have ever tasted; I had forgotten how it is supposed to taste.

And what is day or evening on the water without a sweet? On my visit, the decadent selections included the Coco Daniel, “Something Chocolate,” Lemon Sorbet, and Warm Apple Crunch; any one of them is a sure way to impress upon your mind you must return sooner versus later.

A trip to Rockport’s, My Place by the Sea, is enchanting, romantic, and will touch your heart with comfort and ease. H Don’t put off the pleasures of today; visit myplacebythesea.com or call 978-546-9667 for a reservation. My Place by the Sea Restaurant, 68 Bearskin Neck, Rockport, Massachusetts.

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eave it to the New York Times to throw cold water on the HBO series “The Gilded Age.” Yes, in a review of the popular series, the failing paper describes Julian Fellowes’s work as “[a white whale dragging] him and a large, talented cast beneath the waves.” Really?

Unfortunately, but not unexpected, we are to take one person’s point of view as gospel. But, no worry, the research site Internet Movie Database (IMDb) reports what we and the public feel about the quality, costumes, and story of “The Gilded Age.” Data collected by IMDb found a satisfaction score: an 8 out of 10.

Further evidence of the series’ initial success is confirmed with a 79 percent rating

by Rotten Tomatoes, with an incredible 89 percent of Googlers liking the show.

While it is natural to compare the period production with the highly acclaimed “Downton Abbey,” which has fans excited about the opening of “Downton Abbey: A New Era” in US theaters on May 20, it too will be compared to the series’ first few episodes.

We get it; some dislike the shine of the era and cannot rectify it as history. They would prefer to hold a grievance and voice inuendos, describing it as tarnished; luckily, not everyone agrees.

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MOVING ON.

Some may not have been interested in tuning in when “The Gilded Age” aired in January, I was hesitant, but took the bait after about two or three months, deciding to watch the season’s opening.

After viewing the introduction to the expected glitter, social climbing, and backstabbing, I tuned out, but it wasn’t for long—it is just something I do with almost every film. I soon became interested in how each character was being developed; it didn’t take long to select favorites, one being Christine Baranski as Agnes

van Rhijn, a haughty aristocrat whom I adore. Oddly, and it only took about three episodes, my attention was drawn to her adversary, Bertha Russell, played by Carrie Coon, who is from the middle-class, but determined to launch herself into the upper echelon of New York society.

Both Baranski and Coon are dynamic and intriguing; they allow viewers to go beyond tough exteriors and unveil their character’s strengths, sensibilities, and weaknesses. Another notable actor—bigger than life—is Nathan Lane incarnating Ward McAllister; he is the balance between Russell and Donna Murphy, who plays Mrs. Astor. His appearance and method acting, making him a huge draw on Broadway, is revealed in such a manner you find yourself laughing during what is ostensibly a melodrama.

The sets are beyond compare; while the Crawly Family enjoyed extravagance at Highclere Castle in Hampshire, England, the Americans built Newport’s Bellevue Avenue and lined the coastline with luxurious cottages boasting what was considered by the English as ostentatious.

A lengthy list of scenes took place at The Preservation Society’s Newport Mansions. Fellowes decided to use the Newport Mansions to instill legitimacy in the series, using The Breakers, Marble House, The Elms, Rosecliff, and Chateau-sur-Mer. In doing so, he successfully illustrates the glory, expense, and egos that went into the original homes, now magnified on the screen. The use of the Newport Mansions is a reminder that history was made in the city by the sea; the buildings were people’s homes, and they created the lives as thought best; it should not be forgotten or condemned.

We learn a great deal about how our world has developed and changed for the better. Hats off and applauds to everyone involved in making “The Gilded Age;” it is a winner and worth your time.

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FIGHTING WORDS The fog of war blocks out the sun A world at peace is on the run Strong gusts of wind blow from the west Through our loud voices love’s expressed Are humans taught to be so cruel From other bullies back at school Tormenting classmates half their size To rule the playground as their prize In countries where there is no vote Leaders have folks by the throat Freedom for all is just a dream Wealth and power drive their regime The future’s what dictators fear No change is how they persevere Glorifying their country’s past Deciding borders shouldn’t last We watch the hurt they put you through A world away we feel it too Not the bloodshed when shooting starts The pain’s in our brains, in our hearts The fog of war blocks out the sun A world at peace is on the run Strong gusts of wind blow from the west Through our loud voices love’s expressed.

Contribution by Peet Nourjian, author of “Poem-Frites, Crisp & Lightly Salted.”

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Stepping Out

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“LET’S DANCE BOSTON!” ON THE GREENWAY RETURNS IN MAY

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BY SUSAN FLETCHER

t’s back! The popular five-day spring dancing event is scheduled for May 11-15, and it is a must-attend for anyone who loves music.

The Celebrity Series of Boston has announced one of their most popular productions, featuring highly acclaimed ensembles and top dance instructors who will get your feet moving and clear your mind.

Experience or not, everyone is invited to join the excitement of Swing, Salsa, Garba, Motown, and Mambo.

After a five-year hiatus, “Let’s Dance Boston!” is promised to be bigger and better.

The fun begins Wednesday, May 11, with East Coast Swing Night with musical guests, The Eyal Vilner Big Band, and dance instructors Katie and Paolo Piselli, on the Rose Kennedy Greenway, near Rowes Wharf.

Thursday, May 12, is Mambo Night with teachers G. “Masacote” Rossignol and Lisa Field-Coleman, and music by Tito Puente Jr. and His Orchestra. They get the action started with tunes and moves rooted in 1940s Cuba; this Latin-inspired evening will heat up quickly.

On Friday, May 13, guests are in for an experience with West Coast Swing. Musical entertainment is provided by Motor City Revue, a new genre for this event.

Originally from California, its rhythm and blues vibe is soothing.

Instructors haven’t been named at

press time, but they will be there!

And, what dance festival is complete without Salsa? Taught by Jenna Robey & Luis Talavera, with music from Edwin Perez and His Orchestra, the Salsa evening will blend the styles of Latin Mambo and elements of American swing and tap into the mix. The fun begins on Saturday, May 14.

Wrapping up the week-long event on Sunday, May 15, is Garba, featuring instructors Heena Patel and music by Kashyap Jani & Friends.

This joyful Indian folk dance, commonly practiced by those from the Indian state of Gujarat during weddings and the fall festival of Navratri, gets its spring incarnation here.

How do the organizers feel about the week?

“We couldn’t be more pleased to welcome back Let’s Dance Boston! to The Greenway,” said Keelin Caldwell, Director of Programs and Community Engagement for The Greenway Conservancy. “It finally feels like we can have a full season of events…what better way to kick that off than with excellent musicians and free dancing in the park?”

Adding to the open invitation, Gary Dunning, the Celebrity Series Executive Director, assures those who are shy, “No previous dance experience is required­­—just a sense of fun and a desire to spend a joyous night out.”H out.”

For more information and event times, visit celebrityseries.org/liveperformances/public-performance-projects/lets-dance-boston-2022/.

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CHRIS HILLER — PAT I E N T

BY STEVEN CHAN

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A N D CO N F I D E N T

At 8-years-old, I recall my aunt having a Range Rover, and for some reason, I became fascinated with it…the style, color, and even the head lights drew my attention.

It was so intense that I asked my dad if we could get one.

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hen the topic of collecting is discussed, often stamps, coins, and antiques come to mind; yet, people are known to accumulate thousands of items, some rare—others ordinary, filling rooms, attics, or storage units.

In this case, South Dartmouth resident Christopher (Chris) Hiller fills garages with his collection of Range Rovers. At first thought, it may seem a bit eccentric, but digging deeper into the reasons for surrounding oneself with what is the icon on/off-road utility vehicle for rugged explorers, only to turn into the world’s most luxurious SUVs, began to make sense.

Hiller, a real estate agent with Milbury and Company in Dartmouth (along with his collection of trucks), met with us at a beach where sun, surf, and a scenic horizon created the appropriate setting to discuss his long-time dream.

“At 8-years-old, I recall my aunt having a Range Rover, and for some reason, I became fascinated with it…the style, color, and even the head lights drew my attention. It was so intense that I asked my dad if we could get one,” Hiller explained with childlike excitement.

It didn’t happen, Rovers don’t come easy, but Hiller’s determination to not only own one—but many, never wavered.

After graduating from high school, he went on to study economics at nearby Roger Williams University in Bristol, Rhode Island. Upon completing his studies, Hiller began a career in property management and on to real estate sales. He is also interested in sailing and devotes his free time to volunteering his experience with students.

When asked when he started his collection, Hiller explained that about six years ago, he purchased a 1964 Range Rover, Series IIA. (Second from the left, page 40). “That one required the biggest overhaul; it took me a few years to get it into this condition. It will take me a few more to get it to the next level, [mostly] 42 | MAY 2022 | NEW ENGLAND NEWS + MEDIA

cosmetic,” he said, smiling.

Rovers have come a long way in their design and physical appearance. Their mechanical prowess, legendary toughness, and ongoing improvements in comfort are evident when following their accent to undeniable prestige and stature.

For decades Land Rover’s heritage had belonged to Great Britain, followed by the purchase of the brand by BMW in 1974, sold to Ford Motor Company, then turned over to Tata Motors of India in 2008.

One driver and her family are eponymous with Range Rover; for countless years, Queen Elizabeth and the Royal Family rode and drove them regularly.

Ardent fans of the brand, upon Prince Philip’s passing, a modified Land Rover transported him to his resting spot.

Hiller went on to describe his other purchases. “The 2004 Land Rover Discovery (far right, page 41) [came] next—about a year and a half ago, following the 2002 P38, (extreme left, page 40) six months later. I bought the

P38 from Florida sight unseen,” he said confidently.

On a roll, Hiller told me he surprisingly stumbled on a 1995 Range Rover County LWB SUV that has been customized; he refers to it as the “Beecher.” (Third from the left, page 40). It is a head-turner in every aspect.

When asked about the effort and investment to keep the small fleet of Rovers insured, inspected, and running, he enthusiastically said, “A lot!” then smiled.

Each car Hiller owns has character and historical significance. And, considering that to climb into a new Rover will set a buyer back somewhere from $92,000 to over $200,000, the resale of these awe-inspiring SUVs makes them a valuable investment.

As the sun was setting and the interview ended, one final question needed to be asked; “Will you be buying another Rover soon?” Hiller looked over from inside one of his treasures and responded, “I haven’t decided what I’ll buy next, but something will move me when the time is right.” H

Motoring THE 26TH ANNUAL GREENWICH CONCOURS D’ELEGANCE IS ABOUT TO BEGIN!

BY STEVEN CHAN | PHOTOGRAPHY BY LUCKI SCHOTZ

I Ladies And Gentlemen, Start Your Engines

f you are reading this, you know when the weather warms, we get revved up for a trip to Greenwich, Connecticut, for a pleasurable weekend at the premier automobile show of the year.

We will be in good company as more than 10,000 curious fans visit the prestigious Greenwich Concours d’Elegance. Held at the Roger Sherman Baldwin Park on the banks of the town’s picturesque harbor, facing Long Island Sound, Friday, Saturday & Sunday, June 3-5, the event celebrates tradition, innovation, and the next generation’s engagement in automobiles.

It is an exciting weekend for luxury shopping, demonstrations, seminars, food, and, not to forget, social interactions with like-minded fans.

Greenwich Concours d’Elegance, a nationally recognized event, begins with a Grand Tour on Friday. Saturday, June 4, is the RADwood Concours d’Lemon, and Porshella events.

There will be live interviews, judging, and prizes all weekend long, but best of all, the value of learning automotive history through interaction.

The show’s producer, Hagerty, is well-tuned in the global automotive enthusiast market and is a specialty insurance provider. Coming from the companies’ success is the support they offer local charities, including Americares and The Hometown Foundation.

Other celebrated sponsorships include Amelia Island Concours d’Elegance, Concours d’Elegance of America, California Mille, and the Motorworks Revival.

The time-honor event draws from miles away by allowing an up-close look at the most celebrated, prestigious, and artfully designed automobiles vying for top honors in various classes.

“Outstanding events like the Greenwich Concours d’Elegance get people excited about cars, and that’s what it’s all about. That’s how we will save driving and car culture for future generations,” says Hagerty CEO and Concours Chair McKeel Hagerty.

While emphasizing continuing the Greenwich Concours tradition, Hagerty also aims to increase opportunities for attendees to get their hands on the wheel, strategically integrate the Greenwich community, and enhance the family experience. H For details and questions, visit greenwichconcours.com.

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Mechanics Cooperative Bank Announces New Headquarters

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he board of directors and executive leadership team of the Taunton-based financial institution are pleased to announce the purchase of a 42,000 square-foot corporate building located at 470 Myles Standish Boulevard.

Mechanics Cooperative Bank is pleased for the opportunity to create a more efficient and collaborative work environment that is specifically designed to support the needs of staff and customers and its continued growth throughout the region.

President and CEO of Mechanics Cooperative Bank, Joseph T. Baptista Jr., shared his excitement about the purchase; “This is a significant investment for the future of our organization, our employees, and the City of Taunton. We have [always been based in Taunton] since 1877, and it was important for us to remain in the City and stay true to our roots. This new build-

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ing will serve the bank’s current and future needs, and we look forward to the positive impact a new and modern workspace will have on our entire organization.”

The building will undergo substantial renovations over the next eight months to modernize. Mechanics Cooperative Bank is working with a local design firm to create floor plans that complement workflows and create an inviting and aesthetically pleasing environment.

The new location will feature state-of-the-art office space with ergonomically designed furniture and workstations. Energy efficiency upgrades will include advanced LED lighting, energyefficient windows, doors, and new HVAC systems accompanied by solar energy.

There will also be a large employee breakroom with access to an outdoor patio for the warmer months and a full-service fitness area. The bank anticipates occupying the building in early 2023. H

Out Of The Darkness & Into The Light A World Without Suicide

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he American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP), led by Robert Gebbia, with chapters and events in all 50 states, announced the New York City Out of the Darkness—Overnight Walk, to be held June 4.

The organization’s mission is to “Save Lives and Bring Hope to Those Affected by Suicide.”

The AFSP work involves Five Core Strategies: – Funding of scientific research – Offer educational programs for professionals – Educate the public about mood disorders and suicide prevention – Promote policies and legislation that affect suicide and prevention – Provide programs and resources for survivors of suicide loss and people at risk, and involve them in the work of the Foundation

Once a year, thousands join to walk through the night to prevent suicide; conversations begin, support embraced, and a better understanding of the problem.

Participants will trek over 16 miles, from dusk til dawn, and find support and understanding in a community of others affected by suicide.

The Overnight Walk kicks off with an opening ceremony framed by the setting sun.

Each person walks at their own pace, with experienced crew members available to support the walkers. The route is clearly marked, and a team of sweep vans, motorcycle escorts, and bicyclists will patrol the route to ensure safety. Additionally, medical and support crews will be on hand throughout the night.

Lining the end of the route are thousands of luminaria representing a life touched by suicide. Described as a “truly moving sight, and a reminder of the importance of our mission,” the closing ceremony culminates the journey as the sun rises that morning. H To become part of this monumental event, visit afsp.org or call 888-333-AFSP.

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Newport Leads In Summer Outings

The Newport Flower Show Returns to Rosecliff ith limited availability, The Preservation Society is announcing the sale of tickets for the 2022 event planned for June 17-19 at Rosecliff.

Returning with features the public recalls from previous shows, this year’s spectacular will include hundreds of colorful creations by floral designers, horticulturists, and botanical artists, following the theme, “Eden…A Personal Paradise.”

Entries will be displayed in the Rosecliff ballroom and salon, while other exhibits will be set in the Courtyard of Love and the oceanside terrace and lawn.

“The Newport Flower Show is growing back, step by step, from the COVID pandemic,” said Trudy Coxe, CEO and Executive Director of The Preservation Society of Newport County, which has hosted the show since 1996. “This year’s event will not include the lectures, demonstrations, or champagne brunch of past Flower Shows, and the vendor marketplace will be smaller. But, after having no Flower Show in 2020 and a smallscale version called ‘Back in Bloom’ in 2021, the 2022 edition will be a step forward,” Coxe said.

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All proceeds from The Newport Flower Show are dedicated to the ongoing restoration and preservation of The Preservation Society of Newport County’s 88-acres of gardens and landscapes. H To reserve your place, visit newportmansions.org.

CLASSICAL MUSIC AT THE MANSIONS

Classical music by internationally known performers has plans to return to the Newport Mansions this July. The Newport Classical series starts July 1 at The Breakers with the Grammy-winning Orpheus Chamber Orchestra.

Altogether, 10 of Newport’s 24 Classical concerts will be held at The Breakers, four at The Elms, two at the Chinese Tea House, one at King Park, one at Blithewold Mansion, one at the Newport Art Museum, one at Castle Hill Inn, one at the Norman Bird Sanctuary, one at The Great Friends Meeting House, one at Redwood Library & Athenæum and one at Emmanuel Church.

Being staged at such magnificent properties, guests will relax and enjoy the refined and timeless entertainment in the most opulent settings possible.

The partnerships between The Preservation Society of Newport County/Newport Mansions and Newport Classical allow for the finest in summer entertainment.H entertainment.

For tickets and concert information, contact newportclassical.org/ music-festival.

(From left to right) Michael Medeiros, Tiverton Branch Manager; Abigail Books, President, Sakonnet Preservation Association; Matthew Payette, Regional Branch Manager; Xenia Ledoux, Little Compton Branch Manager

BayCoast Bank Expands Service—

25th Branch Opens On Fall River’s Scenic Waterfront

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ayCoast Bank, a full-service financial service company, announced a second branch opening in less than 60 days.

On the heels of their new location on East Main Road in Portsmouth, Rhode Island, BayCoast now occupies the first floor of the pristine River’s Edge Residences at 20 Turner Street, steps from Battleship Cove and Heritage State Park.

“We are very pleased to announce the opening of our River’s Edge branch, expanding service on the SouthCoast,” said Nicholas M. Christ, President, and CEO of BayCoast Bank. “The Bank has a proud history of helping our local community members with their financial well-being. We look forward to providing exceptional service near Fall River’s scenic waterfront.” The new location includes all customary banking services and products, a walk-up, and two drive-up Interactive Teller Machines (ITMs).

Olga Fernandes, a resident of Pawtucket, Rhode Island, serves as Branch Manager and is responsible for the daily, efficient operation of the new branch. She and her staff are ready to assist customers with their banking needs. H

SAKONNET PRESERVATION ASSOCIATION RECEIVES GRANT FROM BAYCOAST BANK Also making news is the announcement that BayCoast Bank has provided a grant to the Sakonnet Preservation Association’s 50th Anniversary Celebration, to be held this summer on July 16.

The event will honor the work and contributions of legions of supporters, landowners, and volunteers who, for 50 years, have initiated and contributed to the Association’s conservation successes in Little Compton since 1972.

The occasion will acknowledge the outpouring of support received from the community for the Association’s five-year Campaign for Sakonnet Preservation.

“We could not be more grateful to BayCoast for its generous $25,000 sponsorship. It makes a compelling statement of the bank’s engagement in our community,” said Abigail Brooks, President of the Sakonnet Preservation Association. “Grants, such as the one received from BayCoast, make it possible for us to engage proactively in land conservation while conducting our extensive stewardship responsibilities and education initiatives that go hand-in-hand with our mission.” H

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New Hampshire Cold Case Investigation Re-Opened ttorney General John M. Formella, Concord Police Chief Bradley C. Osgood, and Colonel Nathan A. Noyes of the New Hampshire State Police, announced the New Hampshire Cold Case Unit and the Concord Police Department are investigating the disappearance of Janis Taylor (15) from Concord, reported missing on January 8, 1968.

At the time of her disappearance, Taylor lived in Concord at various addresses, including 176 N. State Street, 89 School Street, and the Alosa Trailer Park on Manchester Street.

She was a sophomore attending Concord High School in the Fall/Winter of 1967-68. Taylor was previously enrolled at Manchester Central High School.

Taylor grew up in Warner, N.H., with her eight siblings.

During the initial investigation, she was described as 5 feet 3 inches tall and weighing 110 pounds with brown eyes and long brown hair. She enjoyed 4-H activities and riding horses.

Additionally, Ms. Taylor was associated with people who worked at Rumford Press in Concord.

Taylor’s disappearance is considered suspicious, and the Cold Case Unit asks the public for assistance in the current investigation. Police are looking for anyone who had contact with her between December 1967, or any time after.

Anyone who knew or associated with Taylor or has information about her disappearance is requested to contact Detective Paul Shaughnessy at the Concord Police Department at 603-230-4934 or pshaughnessy@Concordpolice.com, the Concord Police Department Crimeline at 602-226-3100, or Sergeant Matthew Koehler of the New Hampshire Cold Case Unit at 603-223-3648. H

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A Voice Against Cruelty To Wild Horses and Burros n April 23, 2022, while we were going to print with this issue, a protest was held at the Rhode Island Capitol and every other US State Capitol building, to rally against the US government’s Bureau of Land Management’s (BLM) dangerous, inhumane, and unnecessary roundups of America’s wild horses and burros from federal lands.

In 2022, a record-breaking 22,000 federally protected wild horses and their foals will be stampeded with helicopters, captured, and held in compact holding pens, where their spirits are broken and family units dissolved. Most Americans are against roundups, while livestock owners support roundups.

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tarting in May and running through October, “Open Air Saturdays” will begin at multiple locations, including Grant’s Block, Aborn and Union Streets, Biltmore Park, and the Bank Newport City Center.

Every week the events include live musical performances, food trucks, beer gardens, marketplaces, outdoor games, activities, and outdoor dining at your favorite restaurants.

The family-oriented programs are held on May 7, June 4, July 2, August 6, September 3, and October 1. Each event is from 12-6 p.m. H To learn more, visit goprovidence.com/blog/post/open-airsaturdays-in-downtown-providence.

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Living Well

When Hope Is Hard to Find W H Y P E O P L E TA K E T H E I R L I V E S , I T S I M PA C T, A N D P R E V E N T I O N

BY ROB SAINT LAURENT, M.ED

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o the casual observer, 30-year-old Chelsie Kryst had it all: beauty, brains, charisma, and a determination to realize her dreams.

Her accomplishments were stellar: multiple graduate degrees; a licensed attorney in both North and South Carolina, where she grew up; an activist for the underserved; a model; a television correspondent for the television show Extra, achieving two Daytime Emmy Award nominations; and the 2019 winner of the Miss USA pageant. The daughter of an African American mother and Polish American father, she was a symbol of excellence to the Black community before her tragic death on January 30.

The nation was shocked, and many were left bewildered when news broke that Kryst had jumped from a Manhattan apartment hi-rise.

According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), suicide is the twelfth leading cause of death in the US. In 2020, there were nearly 46,000 suicides and 1.2 million attempts.

These numbers represent an upward trend since 1999, in which half of US states experienced a 30 percent increase in suicides. In 2020, white men accounted for roughly 70 percent of all suicide deaths, with middle-aged white males at the greatest risk.1, 2

MANY SAY SUICIDE IS NOT A CHOICE.

In practical terms, helping a depressed person should entail listening with a caring, empathizing attitude. A person should be optimistic but careful not to minimize the person’s pain. Avoid statements like “Everything is fine, your life is good.” Instead, say something along the lines of “I see your hopelessness. I hear you. I’m here to help. I believe things can get better.”

Mike Williams was a pastor who was full of compassion, lived with Type 1 diabetes, and took his life at the age of 55.

Explains his daughter Anna Ruth Williams of Atlanta, “It’s not a choice. When you live in an orbit of despair, it’s not a choice to you. You have no way out. It’s like your final days of cancer.

You have no choice. It is eating your body. You are going to pass, right? The only choice I think you do have to make is to reach out for help.”3 While the reasons for suicide can be complicated, the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP) says depression is a factor in roughly half of all suicides. In a severely depressed state of mind, there is great emotional pain, and hope seems lost, leading one to believe their only relief is through death.4 Kryst’s mother said that her daughter was suffering from “high-functioning depression,” but that her daughter had only recently confided that to her.5 Keeping depression hidden isn’t unusual, as the CDC says 54 percent of people who die from suicide have no known mental health issues.1 Researchers say that in the absence of another diagnosis, major clinical depression is most associated with suicidal ideation.

However, they note that only a fraction of severely depressed people ever consider suicide.6 To better understand suicidal ideation, the case of a depressed 63-year-old male entrepreneur with no history of mental illness was studied by psychiatrist, Maurizio Pompili, M.D., Ph.D., for how he nearly became a statistic. The man successfully operated his own business for about 30 years and was highly regarded by his peers. However, like many business owners, the pandemic made it impossible to sustain operations.

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standing symbol of self-identity was in jeopardy.

The man started experiencing intense feelings of sadness, anxiety, hopelessness, and irritability, with trouble sleeping and appetite loss. This led to great discomfort in his upper abdomen and even occasional breathlessness. Like Anna Ruth’s description, the man recalled being in a “tunnel” with no way out of his economic predicament. After several months of these feelings, thoughts of suicide began. These thoughts became his “companion,” giving relief from his pain amidst continual bad news and a sense of security that he had a way of escape.6 Pompili described the man’s experience as a “narcissistic failure” and that he was “between life and death,” “hoping someone would rescue him and reduce his suffering.”

Like the despondent man, a plea for help is another reason people attempt suicide. Other reasons include underlying psychosis (schizophrenia, for example), impulsiveness (often after becoming overly sentimental from substance abuse), and a philosophical desire for death (typically to alleviate suffering from a terminal illness).7 Underneath all this, new research shows genetics likely have a significant role in many suicides, supporting the belief it is not a choice.

In the biggest genomic study of suicide to date involving nearly 30,000 people who had attempted suicide, an international team of researchers found DNA variations on chromosome 7 that increased a person’s risk of attempting suicide.

They also found this genetic propensity overlapped with not only associated mental health disorders—namely severe depression—but also non-mental health disorders such as smoking, difficulty sleeping, and poorer physical health.8 The authors say it’s vital to understand the biology of suicidal thoughts for better treatment and prevention.

THE IMPACT ON SURVIVORS

In a cruel irony, research shows that close relatives of those killed by suicide are up to three times more likely to take their own lives.3 Anna Ruth realizes this, saying, “As a survivor of suicide, I have the genetics, and I’ve experienced something very traumatic in life,” she says. “I have to be very vigilant when a shoe drops and life gets tough. I have to be very careful to take care of myself.” To help survivors cope, she encourages forming new traditions since the old ones will change. For her, the comfort provided by celebrating Father’s Day with a colleague who also lost her father to suicide is “very powerful.”3 The grieving process is especially challenging for those left behind by suicide. While survivors often find it difficult to reach out for support, people are often unsure how to help.

Suicide can be hard to think about and even harder to confide in. Survivors experience trauma and, sometimes, post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) after a sudden, violent, and often unanticipated death of a loved one. They may feel stigma and shame from their loved one’s mental illness and separation from the community and even other family members if the suicide is 52 | MAY 2022 | NEW ENGLAND NEWS + MEDIA

RISK FACTORS Health • Mental health issues • Serious physical health issues • Traumatic brain injury • • • •

Environmental Prolonged stress Stressful events Exposure to suicide Access to lethal means

Historical • Previous suicide attempts • Family suicide • Childhood abuse, neglect, or trauma

WARNING SIGNS Talk • Speaks of killing themselves • Feels hopeless • Feels trapped • Has no reason to live and is in pain Behavior • Increased substance use • Withdrawing from activities, family, and friends • Giving away prized items Mood • Depression • Anxiety • Irritability

• Shame • Anger • Guilt

Example Risk Factors and Warning Signs of Suicide 11 kept secret or there is disagreement over whether it could have been avoided. Survivors often feel torn between emotions of sorrow over the mental illness and anger, rejection, and abandonment over being left behind. In their need for reason, they ask many “what if ” questions and often greatly overestimate their impact on the outcome.9 Like Anna Ruth has found, support from other suicide survivors can be particularly helpful. Survivors are advised to learn as much as they can about the factors leading up to the death to help them make sense of the event; friends who will listen, suicide support groups (in-person or online), and professional counselors trained in suicide-related grief can help in this process.

Whether a support group is led by a layperson or clinician isn’t as important as the level of comfort and trust since many lay group leaders are suicide survivors themselves and trained by the AFSP.9 SUICIDE PREVENTION

Chelsie Kryst had no one to intervene at her fateful moment, but the 63-year-old businessman was fortunate. As he was driving randomly for hours with a firearm, he instead reached for his cellphone to call a friend about taking care of his family after his departure. As it turned out, the friend was skilled at keeping the conversation going and supporting a desire to live.

The police could track the man, leading to his temporary hospitalization, and eventually be referred to Pompili.

This period of uncertainty demonstrated the man still had an attachment to life and is “a crucial element in suicide prevention, providing a period available for rescuing the individual in crisis,” says Pompili. During this time, a person typically

expresses their wish to die, either openly or covertly.6 In practical terms, helping a depressed person should entail listening with a caring, empathizing attitude. A person should be optimistic but careful not to minimize the person’s pain.

Avoid statements like “Everything is fine, your life is good.” Instead, say something along the lines of “I see your hopelessness.

I hear you. I’m here to help. I believe things can get better.”

Then, suggest going for a walk to talk more, as well as seeking professional assistance together. That said, if a person is threatening suicide in the immediate future, is actively pursuing suicide, or has just attempted it, call 911.10

daily goals, changing your scenery for needed stimulation, and being kind to others (we reap what we sow).12 Commenting on Chelsie Kryst, licensed psychologist Charmain Jackman, Ph.D., reminds us that mental health issues don’t discriminate on the basis of looks, wealth, or job title.

People who die by suicide don’t always show what they’re feeling on the inside. But, she says, “What we see when people are suicidal is that loss of hope.”5 If you’re in crisis, please call the National Suicide Prevention 24-hour Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255), text TALK to 741-741, or suicidepreventionlifeline.org. H 1. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. (n.d.). Suicide rising across the US.

‘THAT LOSS OF HOPE’

2. American Foundation for Suicide Prevention. (n.d.). Suicide statistics.

Research has revealed a high level of depression, anxiety, and suicidal ideation during the prolonged stress of the pandemic, and there are likely to be more significant stressors ahead.

AFSP Vice President of Research Jill Harkavy-Friedman, Ph.D., is “pragmatically optimistic” about the future, however, and wants us to be, too. To help us protect our mental health during these troubling times, she says mindfulness and being purposeful in our actions have been shown in research to reduce the impact of stress. More hands-on practices she’s been doing herself include covering the basics (eating healthy, exercising when and however possible, getting enough sleep, staying hydrated, and keeping socially connected), setting realistic

3. Goodman, B. (2018, June 8). ‘It’s Not a Choice:’ Trying to Understand Suicide. WebMD. 4. Schimelpfening, N. (2021, February 19). Why Do People Commit Suicide? VeryWell Mind.

5. Smalls, K. (2022, February 3). Chelsie Kryst’s Mother Says Daughter Suffered from ‘HighFunctioning Depression’ as Psychologist Offers Insights on Warning Signs. Atlanta Black Star.

6. Pompili, M. (2019). Critical appraisal of major depression with suicidal ideation. Annals of General Psychiatry, 18(7).

7. Lickerman, A. (2010, April 29). The Six Reasons People Attempt Suicide. Psychology Today.

8. Mullins, N., Kang, J., Campos, A., et al. (2021, September 8). Dissecting the Shared Genetic Architecture of Suicide Attempt, Psychiatric Disorders, and Known Risk Factors.

Biological Psychiatry, 91(3), 313-327.

9. Harvard Health Publishing. (2019, May 29). Left behind after suicide.

10. U.C. Santa Cruz Counseling & Psychological Services. (n.d.). Depression and Suicide.

11. American Foundation for Suicide Prevention. (n.d.). Risk factors, protective factors, and warning signs.

12. Harkavy-Friedman, J. (2022, February 3). Managing COVID-19—and Our Mental Health—in 2022. American Foundation for Suicide Prevention.

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BY ANDREW AARON, LICSW

t’s a game we play, attempting to be right; avoid being wrong—because it feels so good.

Encouraging a partner’s well-being is part of healthy loving, yet, often, one partner may tend to dominate or subjugate the other by accusing them of continuously being wrong with the result of eroding their self-esteem.

Blaming, ‘wrong-making,’ or ‘wronging’ is enacted through behaviors and attitudes, some subtle, others egregious.

The expression, “You’re wrong,” or “I know better than you,” will highlight differences between partners while suggesting, with innuendos, that the violator is the more competent of the two.

The practice of wronging is usually delivered in small doses, which slowly acclimate the other partner to powerlessness.

And, through continuous criticism, such accumulation becomes a formidable negative force.

One example of this is the constant correcting of a partner’s verbal or physical expressions, often during moments where the correction provides no tangible benefit.

Another is opposing or disagreeing about minor matters when the cost of agreeing would be minimal. In a parade of small instances, each exchange undermines the other partner’s value.

When one partner quickly points out an error of another, the victim is reminded of past mistakes, likely to feel hurt, uncomfortable, or make an effort to withdraw.

Another technique is using sarcasm or teasing; this method allows a partner to take on the judge or jury role, resulting in invalidating the other partner’s feelings.

When declaring a partner unreasonable, assigning blame, or degrading, the true intent is to devalue or diminish the importance of the inflicted partner—while never admitting to the action.

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Gaslighting is a term used when a person, often a romantic partner, intentionally and maliciously seeks control of the partner by undermining their grip on reality. Wronging is similar but less malicious, although it is still harmful.

Chronically making another person feel wrong is a passive/aggressive behavior rooted in resentment. It can also result from growing up powerless in a harsh wrong-making environment with emotionally negative, unsupportive, and even abusive parents.

Wrong-making is the expression of a pain-filled, bitter, negative, and unhappy person.

Too often, we have unpleasant or toxic individuals in our lives, causing a reaction that makes us want to escape.

But, if they are a co-worker, partner, or spouse, distancing isn’t possible.

So, what is the solution?

You may protect yourself by bolstering your certainty that you are correct and that your feelings are valid. Imagine wearing protective armor around a perpetrator, like what a zookeeper may wear when caring for dangerous animals.

Be vigilant for wrongly intrusive statements or actions, but beware, counterattacks will only invite more venom.

Another idea is to firmly and gently neutralize their invalidations with assertive responses such as, “I am comfortable with my choice” or “Those are my feelings, whether you care for them or not.” Repetitively asserting that you are valuable and valid will gradually foil the wrong maker’s attempt to dominate. Know that unintentionally, a wrong-maker is constantly testing you, and little do they know you will become stronger and add to your self-value over time. H Andrew Aaron, LICSW, is a sex and relationship therapist who practices in the New Bedford Seaport.

The practice of wronging is usually delivered in small doses, which slowly acclimate the other partner to powerlessness.

And, through continuous criticism, such accumulation becomes a formidable negative force.

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Bad behavior is on the rise, fighting on airlines, road-rage incidents ending in deaths, and relationship disasters. Is there any resolution in sight?

BY JAMES HOLDEN

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oor conduct surrounds us; it’s unavoidable, exemplified by a night of entertainment going awry when Chris Rock got slapped by Will Smith. This boorish action was the tipping point for the need to address a return to civility.

Short tempers are witnessed in grocery lines, between neighbors, and in the schoolyard; it appears no place is safe from experiences with people having nasty attitudes.

As emotional temperatures rise, violence follows. Mall shootings, murders in subways, and kids killing kids are examples of what happens when the clinically ill are left on the streets to fend for themselves or people feeling less responsible for their actions.

In dissecting the problem, it is easy to see that one component is the lack of psychiatric hospitals offering dangerous people the inpatient care they need. In the past, plenty of hospitals were equipped with ‘locked units’ for those with the most severe emotional challenges, acute inpatient stays, or outpatient facilities that could keep watch on those maintaining equilibrium.

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companies and the government to pay for long-term care options. Communities with clinics serving a chronic psychiatric impaired population are not equipped for the care needed.

As a result, the public is not safe, and people are afraid for themselves and their families.

Next on the agenda is the increased stress levels affecting all of us.

It seems like a blanket of worry began during and in the aftermath of the vicious terrorist attacks on September 11, 2001, when the Twin Towers came down. The response from the public was united when they hailed police officers and first responders; today, it is no longer the case– they are now demonized.

Others were traumatized and left with PTSD (post-traumatic stress disorder) and have lived with the pain for over two decades.

Technology has also played a role in lives; everyone is running at the fastest pace in history; more is demanded, and communication devices are bombarded with expectations searching for immediate reactions. Social media—the main culprit, has changed personalities for the worse, such that there is no turning back.

Of course, the lengthy and still unresolved issues of COVID continue to plague the health of people worldwide, with isolation topping the list of events that changed our view of self and others.

Finally, Putin’s attack and atrocities in Ukraine have added to the pile of indignations we are left to cope with but feel helpless to act upon.

Intolerance, frustration, and rage are becoming commonplace; entitlement, narcissism, and righteousness have worked their way into personality development. As these behaviors continue to be tolerated, replication will follow and be handed down as learned values to future generations.

It’s not unusual to hear someone claim they may be nearing the ‘breaking point,’ unfortunately, the reaction is to avoid problems by ignoring the stressors or running away from them.

Experts have noticed a response to increased levels of recent stress; they’ve noted significant increases in alcohol consumption. It soothes negative emotions but enhances depression, outbursts, and aggressive actions and words. Substance abuse can often be traced to aggressive or violent behavior.

The population is evolving into a collective wave of anger, both at self and others. Anxiety leads to an increased incidence of disrespect, short tempers, and loneliness; these feelings show intolerance and a willingness to strike out at others.

What can be done to fix the problems created by our evolution?

To begin with, stop isolating; as social animals, we need connections for wellbeing; that means reaching out and establishing a network of support. Social media can be turned from an adversary to a friend by curating the sites and people to connect with and developing positive interactions. The same goes with in-person exchanges, it’s essential to be selective, but it doesn’t mean you must limit your circle. The first objective is to deselect the toxic people from those who share in your principles and ethics.

Give yourself a break, acknowledge your intrinsic value and consider how you may share your emotional treasures with others.

Take time to be pampered; it is not being selfish; it is a wise person who recognizes when they are peaking, then intervenes by treating themselves to an activity that brings them solace.

Vote: It sounds strange, but with excessive tolerance comes increases in illicit behavior, followed by criminals believing they won’t be held accountable, leading to a vicious circle of worse acts against a lawabiding public.

Begin to find representatives that hold your values and morality. Look for positive change. Desensitizing ourselves to violence and depravity is not the answer.

And, one last thing; do something nice for people you meet, good feelings are contagious, and that is a disease we could use more. H

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n mid-March of this year, Boston Baroque, the oldest period-instrument orchestra in North America under the direction of Founder, Music Director, and Conductor Martin Pearlman, presented Vivaldi’s Gloria and Handel’s Ode for Saint Cecilia’s Day in the intimate setting of the GBH Calderwood Studios in Boston, Massachusetts.

In front of a live audience, the performance was streamed worldwide to millions of listeners with poise and perfection.

The fill to capacity room was treated to the work of master musicians and chorus members, plus the added gift of experiencing the magical voices of soloists Elena Villalón, soprano, and Rufus Müller, tenor.

Overhearing a few audience members, some whom seemed displaced from the former concert hall, soon lost their apprehension when Pearlman raised his baton, and the night began.

Acoustically, the sound was remarkable, and the two stages of thrust-style tiered seating offered everyone a “best seat.” As for lighting, it was broadcast quality, and nothing could compete.

These sensory elements allowed performers to reach perfection; not an extraneous sound was heard throughout the performance, except the overwhelming applause at the end of each program. Not an extraneous sound was heard throughout the performance, except the overwhelming applause at the end of each program.

A moving yet unexpected gesture caused pause when Pearlman announced they would perform a hymn called Prayer for Ukraine, written nearly 150 years ago by composer Mykola Lysenko. The conductor explained its text, which asks “God to protect Ukraine, to give it freedom and wisdom, and to guide it into a world of kindness.”

A touching and necessary reminder of the horrible acts and destruction facing the Ukrainian people, it further shows the will of the American people and the lack of action in facing an invasion and genocide.

This season’s performances have shown the importance of music in our lives and that the future holds even greater recognition for a man’s life’s work and deserving organization. H NEW ENGLAND NEWS + MEDIA | MAY 2022 | 63

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Stroke, Stroke, Stroke this Summer Looking for something unusual to do this summer?

ne great idea is to join the Watuppa Rowing Center in Fall River, Massachusetts. Located on the South Watuppa Pond, with about 1,550-acres of non-tidal water mass, the non-profit organization provides lessons for children and adults who want to row and race competitively.

The Bay Coast Rowing Center was opened in 2018 but later re-branded as the Watuppa Rowing Center to highlight its unique location.

Its programs have yielded satisfying results, serving teens to masters, military vets to paraathletes, and those training for the highest level of competition. H To learn more, go to watupparowingcenter.org.

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Executive Chef Jeffrey Thompson of Wheatleigh Hotel Announces an Epicurean Experience in the Berkshires

he luxurious Wheatleigh Hotel is an Italianate-style country home conveniently found in the cultural hub of Lenox, Massachusetts.

Thanks to Wheatleigh’s short distance from Tanglewood, the summertime home of the Boston Symphony Orchestra, The Portico is a go-to dinner spot for visitors on show nights or long weekends.

In anticipation of their summer arrivals, Wheatleigh’s Chef Jeffrey Thompson is excited to present “Summer Culinary Offerings,” including a three-course theater menu to pair with Tanglewood performances.

The Wheatleigh offers a remarkable experience rooted in the stately charm of the Gilded Age combined with contemporary accommodations, extraordinary cuisine, and exceptional service. H To book a memorable vacation, visit wheatleigh.com.

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he Gardens will be blooming with spring daffodils, making this the perfect time to explore the grounds, which are home to more than 80 topiaries in the shape of animals and geometric designs. The estate has planted 19,000 daffodils in 58 varieties, with more than 6,000 tulips and thousands of uncommon and unusual flowering bulbs.

“Spring is always a wonderful time to visit Green Animals, and every year we plant more bulbs in new varieties to make it even more spectacular,” said Trudy Coxe, CEO and Executive Director of The Preservation Society of Newport County, which owns the topiary garden as well as 10 historic properties in Newport. “We hope to build on the incredible success of last year when Green Animals was visited by far more people than ever before.”

Situated alongside Narragansett Bay, Green Animals is the oldest and most northern topiary garden in the United States. The American Daffodil Society has recognized it as one of 28 official Daffodil Display Gardens in the United States and one of only three in New England. H For more information, go to NewportMansions.org.

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The Preservation Society of Newport County Opens the Green Animals Topiary Garden

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t should, especially to those who followed our enticement to binge on the film Inventing Anna in last month’s issue.

This is the building Anna Delvey (aka Anna Sorokin) hoped to secure funding for its purchase. But as luck would have it, her plan didn’t work out and Fotografiska, a Stockholm-based organization, turned it into a museum, housing what is considered the world’s best photography.

The building is a registered landmark constructed in 1894 and originally named “The Church Mission House.” It, of course, has been renovated and now offers an experience of world-class art, cultural events, retail, and epicurean dining— similar to Anna’s plan, if believable?

The museum is open daily and has various exhibits and programs available to guests and members. H Learn more at fotografiska.com/nyc.

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