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personal growth
Living with Fear or Trust
THE CHOICE IS OURS
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by Mike Berlin
Dr. Mike Berlin is the creator of the Living the Miracle coaching program. Join the Facebook group for valuable discussions and free videos at Facebook.com/groups/262492902312224. For more information, visit www.DrMikeBerlin.com/ LivingtheMiracle.
Some of us were taught when we were young by our parents and others that to receive love, we had to give people what they wanted. If they got what they wanted, then they would be happy with us and give us love, praise and closeness. Conversely, if we did anything that displeased our parents or others, then they would generally get angry and/or withdraw their love and attention. This led to a cycle of self-neglect as we looked to others for clues on how to please and appease them.
The problem with this learned behavior is that when we abandon ourselves, we never learn how to authentically be ourselves and/or authentically receive others to create deep joy, fulfillment and connection with others. Deep inside, a feeling of fear grows until we mostly live in a state of fear, subconsciously knowing that we are faking our way through a life we don’t recognize and without the joyful and fulfilling relationships that we want. We eventually manage our inner sadness with addictive and/or controlling behaviors.
We adopt controlling behaviors because we don’t trust ourselves, others or life to create the intimate and fulfilling life we want. We control by being aggressive/in-charge, being too passive, controlling conversations, having to be “right” and being secretive and/or judgmental. We find ourselves overeating and/ or addicted to substances or relationships, sex, phones/computers, TV, working out, success and more, all to help us try to find some pleasure to balance out our inward feelings of loss.
But we can choose to live from a state of love and trust rather than a state of fear and mistrust. It is possible to find freedom while learning to transform pain and stress into deep inner peace, connection and courageous authenticity. When we learn to live from our authentic, eternal self and connect to our innate wisdom, we can discover and love who we uniquely are. Freeing ourselves from the past and honoring our authentic talents, values and abilities will allow us to create the intimate and exciting life that we have always dreamed of.
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Reasons to Consider Life Coaching Instead of Therapy
by Candida R. Diaz
While therapy and coaching can overlap in some ways, they are two very different approaches for meeting someone's needs. Therapy focuses on mental health treatment, while coaching, on the other hand, is more wellness centered. Neither is better than the other; it’s merely a personal preference and requires a clear understanding of the desired outcome.
Therapy is an excellent option for individuals seeking help managing mental health struggles like depression, anxiety or PTSD. When a person comes in for therapy, it’s often because their symptoms have exceeded what is typical. An example might be someone crying uncontrollably more days than not or having ongoing panic attacks that interfere with their daily functioning. These symptoms require more of a clinical approach to resolve them.
Coaching, however, falls under the scope of health and wellness and is for everyone and anyone. In coaching sessions, individuals are generally functioning well and ready to tackle specific goals in their life. Typical coaching clients are well enough emotionally to put their attention and energy toward goal creation in areas such as self-growth, family, performance, career, relationships and more.
Consider these five reasons for working with a life coach when therapy is not needed: 1.Extra support, direction or accountability is needed while working toward an important life goal. 2.You find yourself on a self-growth path. 3.A short-term approach is needed to help reach a specific goal. 4.There is a desire to move out of the past and a readiness to work towards creating change. 5.There is an understanding that coaching is both an emotional and financial investment in one’s overall wellness, and you’re ready and able to commit.
Candida R. Diaz is a board-certified coach, specializing in wellness and relationships. For more information, visit CandidaRDiaz.com or FaceToFaceCounseling.
HERPES: CAN IT BE CURED?
From the Desk of Dr. Howard Robins at The Healing Center in New York City
Imagine . . . You’ve got that first date with him or her. You’ve got an interview for that new job you so very much need. You’re getting married today. You’re meeting that new client, the CEO of the biggest account you’ve ever had.
And you wake up in the morning with a huge, red, ugly blister on your lip.
It’s a herpes outbreak—it couldn’t have picked a worse time to appear. There’s no way to cover it up. You couldn’t be more embarrassed. Do you cancel? What do you do?
Herpes can be dangerous.
The problem isn’t complicated.
You caught a virus, the herpes virus, which comes in two varieties, Herpes Type I and Herpes Type II. The CDC says that more than 50 million out of 350 million Americans have it. But it appears that those numbers are really reversed. In truth maybe only 50 million Americans don’t have it, as most people aren’t blood-tested for it. Stress of any kind may bring on an attack or outbreak, as your immune system weakens for the moment.
While there are many other types of herpes viruses, these two—Types I and II—are the most psycho-socially embarrassing ones. They’re ugly, painful and at times dangerous. Years ago we generally ignored cold sores (or “canker sores”). That’s not the case today. Relationships have ended, or never even started, when it’s revealed or discovered that someone has herpes. While Type I is Dr. Howard Robins generally considered oral and Type II genital, it has been proven by testing that you can have either in both locations.
Here’s the truth about how you got it.
Believe it or not, Grandma might have given you herpes. Or it might have been your best friend.
Wait, you think. How is that possible? Isn’t herpes sexually transmitted? What you don’t know could get you infected.
In truth, while herpes often is sexually transmitted, it can also be passed on by contact with silverware while dining or even sharing a water bottle at the gym. It’s that easy.
One morning years ago, when she fed you your oatmeal, Grandma may have had a little brown or pink dot on her tongue—not the full-blown blister that we all recognize as an outbreak. She tested it, found it too hot, blew on it and tested it again before feeding it to you. Unfortunately, she transferred the virus to you too.
Have you ever shared food in a restaurant with a friend, a family member or that special someone? Ever shared a soft drink with a friend or allowed your date to taste your cocktail? The same thing that could have happened with Grandma could have happened then. If you’re diagnosed with herpes, you may be inclined to blame the last person you were intimate with, but unless you had a blood test proving you were herpes-free right before you were with that person, you may have already been infected. As scary as this may sound, an outbreak on your lips or inside your nose can travel up your face to your eyes and literally blind you. Believe it or not, this is not an uncommon situation. Besides being painful, as it attacks the sensory nerves, and putting aside the small scar a lesion can leave (though most lesions fade away), herpes poses a specific danger during pregnancy. If a woman has it internally, it may break out during birth, causing the baby to be born blind.
How can you get rid of herpes permanently?
Please don’t believe the TV commercials that say herpes can only be suppressed. The drug manufacturers’ only interest is to keep you on expensive medication for the rest of your life. Either they don’t know about the treatment I’m going to share with you, or they’ve chosen to ignore and suppress its existence. Intravenous ozone therapy uses ozone gas as a medicine, effectively destroying these dreaded viruses completely. Over the past 70 years, some 45,000 physicians in more than 50 countries have safely used it for this purpose, although its use has been suppressed in this country—obviously for the financial gain of Big Pharma. In truth, herpes is a very, very hard virus to kill. The good news is that ozone used as a medicine intravenously will penetrate its defenses and completely eradicate it without the possibility of a mutated or resistant strain developing. It does this safely, with virtually no adverse reactions. Believe it or not, it’s even possible to rid your body of herpes so completely with ozone therapy that you will stop manufacturing antibodies for it (the body’s normal defense mechanism). You will test negative for it, as if you never had it. Cured! More information about this amazing, safe and effective treatment is available at OzoneWithoutBorders.ngo, on my website OzoneDoctor.net, and on my radio show, “Functional Medicine with Dr. Robins,” which is archived but live each week on VoiceAmerica.com’s Health and Wellness channel. Questions? Call my office at 212-581-0101.
