The Unspoken Truth

MAY 2020 | VOL 01 ISSUE 001

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PAEDOPHILIA : THE UNSPOKEN TRUTH

by Motswedi Mankwe

In this newsletter:

Pedophilia

is

attraction

What is paedophilia?

Page 01

Types of paedophilia Page 02

Recognized signs to look out for Page 03

How can paedophilia be prevented?

Page 04

the

sexual

towards

pre-

Living in a cultural and highly sensitive

society,

where

such

pubescent children of ages 13

things are always swept under the

and below by an older man or

carpet, it is very difficult to have

woman.

conversations

Paedophiles

aroused

by

and

are

fantasize

about

issues

of

child sexual abuse.

almost exclusively about

In an African household, parents

pre-pubescent children.

or guardians would rather protect a child abuser and throw out their

We always hear about people

gay or lesbian children due to

who

sexual

ignorance, fear and hierarchical

interactions with children and

structure in society . This on its

some

own shows that we have a long

have have

had

unfortunately

experienced such. It is usually

way

at the hands of trusted family

normalizing talks about child sex

members,

abuse

trusted

close

people

positions.

friends in

and

leadership

to

go

and

with

actually

regards having

to the

courage to report abusers to the authorities, regardless of who the perpetrator is.

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TYPES OF PAEDOPHILES FIXATED PAEDOPHILES

WHO COULD BE A PAEDOPHILE?

DESCRIPTION

Researchers do not know for sure what causes

They are people who are predominantly attracted to children.

They have poor social skills and prefer the company of children instead of adults.

They

plan

offences

paedophilia, however, many child molesters or sexual abusers have proven that anyone in any profession could be a paedophile due to many causes.

CYCLE OF ABUSE

beforehand

(premeditated

Some research papers state that people who become

offences).

sexual abusers may have experienced some kind of

These kind of paedophiles usually offend outside of

sexual abuse from their loved ones when they were

their families.

They are usually fixated on a specific age group of children.

young. It damages them somehow and causes a cycle of abuse where they further victimize others.

Here is a youtube video of a rapist, James, explaining how his childhood experiences led to him becoming a

AGGRESSIVE PAEDOPHILES DESCRIPTION

rapist.

https://youtu.be/WpgDPwo64lo

SOCIAL AND PSYCHOLOGICAL EXPLANATIONS

These kind of paedophiles are sadistic and violent.

They abuse children because of the sense of power they have over children.

Researchers found that sexual abusers are more prone to having psychological disorders and are thought to be socially

awkward.

Furthermore,

they

suffer

from

depression, are highly sensitive and prone to loneliness as well as low self esteem. They tend to have better

REGRESSED PAEDOPHILES

relationships with children and believe that children understand them better.

DESCRIPTION They are predominantly attracted to people of their own age.

They

have

a

regular

intimate

relationship life and may even be married.

Their paedophilic tendencies develop during adulthood as a result of stressors around them.

Some of their offending is usually caused by the abuse of alcohol and other substances.

This kind of paedophile is most common in families and households.

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PAEDOPHILIA IN BOTSWANA It

is

important

to

note

that

all

the

According to Mmegionline, from

30th

information provided is research done in

March 2020 to 5th April 2020, there

other countries. All efforts have been

were 23 reported cases of defilement

made

is

and 22 rape cases. Of the 22 reported

contextualization to Botswana. However,

cases, 7 involved minors. Keep in mind

it is difficult to do so because sexual

t h a t t h e s e a r e o n l y r e p o r t e d c a se s,

abuse relating to minors is not reported

which means that the numbers could

as often as it should be. Furthermore,

b e h i g h e r i f e v e r y o n e r e p o r t e d su c h

there is no specific clarification of crimes

cases.

specifically relating to paedophilia. All

In addition, in January 2019, it was

reported crimes are either classified as

r e p o r t e d t h a t t h e r e w a s a n i n c r e a se o f

defilement, molestation or rape.

sexual

The

to

ensure

outbreak

resultant

lock

of

that

Covid-19

down

there

and

the

regulations

have

offences

against

m i n o r s.

Statistics show that from January to May 2017, 171 cases of defilement

created an opportunity for paedophiles

were reported. Furthermore, in 2017

to constantly, sexually abuse children

there

more than they usually do.

compared to 543 cases in 2015.

were

617

reported

c a se s

as

This shows there is indeed a growing p r o b l e m t h a t n e e d s t o b e a d d r e sse d .

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Note that paedophiles are very manipulative and deceitful. They use different tactics to lure children and establish a relationship with them. This makes it extremely difficult to notice if your child is being taken advantage of. Furthermore, women CAN be child sexual abusers or paedophiles, however, because it rarely happens or gets noticed, there are less known cases of such.

RECOGNIZED SIGNS TO LOOK OUT FOR to

It is important for parents to be vigilant

children than to adults and has either

of how their partners relate with their

very

whose

children. Observe the way they touch

friends might also be sex offenders.

children, speak to them and even the

Someone few

who adult

relates

friends

better

or

gifts they give to them. Single mothers Look out for people who ‘hang out’

are an easy target for sexual predators

with children more than with their

whose

own age mates. Paedophiles usually

relationship

prefer children in one specific age

c o n t i n u i n g a s e x u a l r e l a t i o n sh i p w i t h

group, such as infants and toddlers,

the mother.

real

intention with

the

is

to child,

have

a

while

children between six and ten years old, or young teenagers up to the age of 16.

When

male

malome

children,

“tla

(uncle) ke

bone

says

to

gore

o

godile” which loosely translates to

show

me

your

private

parts

and

proceeds to touch the private parts of children. This is not right and should be taken seriously because it is

a

sign

Family molester is usually an adult

that

one

could

be

such

as

the

father,

st e p f a t h e r ,

u n c l e , g r a n d - f a t h e r o r y o u n g e r c o u si n s who live with the family as well as carers. Ask your children to show you how their cousins, siblings or anyone

who usually bathes them. This is often an opportunity to take advantage of children.

a

paedophile. Such behavior should be discouraged.

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HOW CAN PAEDOPHILIA BE PREVENTED?

with

In efforts to encourage children to

children, to enable them to

speak up and be open with their

freely talk to parents or any

parents, we encourage parents to

adult whom they trust about

teach

anything.

P.A.N.T.S. RULE.

Building

friendships

Reporting any

and

looking

allegations

into

made

by

children about being sexually abused.

their

children

about

the

P – pri vate parts are private, no one should touch them A – always remember, my body is

mine and only mine N – no means no and I won’t give

Raising

awareness

sexual

abuse

about in

the

community.

in to pressure T – there are no secrets from mom

and dad S – say something so mom and

Parents need to learn how to create meaningful friendships with their children. An environment where children can speak openly about

dad can do something

anything without fear.

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ABOUT US

THE UNSPOKEN TRUTH AN INITIATIVE

BY MOTSWEDI MANKWE The Paedophilia campaign started as a

To rewrite the rules, I started doing

final year project among a group of ten

what I call awareness-drives. This is

media studies students, but it evolved

where I go around schools to talk to

into something bigger as we saw the value

children about paedophilia and equip

and impact of the campaign. The project

them with knowledge on how to deal

is

Unspoken

with such issues. I have already been to

Truth. The campaign ran from March 2019

two schools and the reception has been

and ended on May 2019.

amazing. In order to reach adults, I had

called,

Paedophilia:

The

planned an event titled “Mamas and I

continued

working

on

this

project

because I believe I can be the solution to the problems around me and that it will help save a lot of people from going through

the

traumatic

experience

of

having their innocence taken away from them. I genuinely believe that the reason why some of my peers are rowdy, and act irresponsibly is because they are trying to run away or heal from previous traumas they

experienced,

one

of

them

being

Papas workshop about paedophilia� but the plans got thwarted by the Covid-19 outbreak...so, be on the lookout for that once the outbreak has been dealt with completely.

On

my

journey

to

create

a

new

tomorrow for our future generation, I met a few people who recognized the potential of my project and offered a helping

hand.

I

hope

to

create

a

sexual abuse.

network of such people, where we learn

They engage in dangerous activities to get

create a safer tomorrow for children in

from one another and most importantly

rid of the pain they carry around with them.

The

project

exists

to

prevent

a

repeat of what is going on right now. To save our younger brothers and sisters from

addition to rewriting the rules and talk openly because

about it

child

does

exist

sexual and

abuse it

ruins

peoples lives.

going down the destructive path my peers find themselves in, I am trying to rewrite or create a new reality for the upcoming generation.

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REFERENCES Bothoko,P.(14 April 2020).Close family members drive lockdown rapes Police. Mmegionline .https://www.mmegi.bw/index.php? aid=85233&dir=2020/april/14 Jacks,T(28 February 2017).What is grooming? How to spot a paedophile before it's too late[BlogPost].Retrieved from https://www.theage.com.au/national/victoria/what-is-grooming-how-to-spot-apaedophile-before-its-too-late-20170228-gumyd4.html Khulma,M.(13th January 2019).Botswana becoming a paedophiles paradise.

Sundaystandard. https://www.sundaystandard.info/botswana-becoming-apaedophiles-paradise/ Mallett, X. (26 May 2016).Psychology of a paedophile: why are some people attracted to children?[Blog Post]. Retrieved from https://theconversation.com/psychology-of-a-paedophile-why-are-some-peopleattracted-to-children-59991 McCartan, K. (2008). Current understandings of paedophilia and the resulting crisis in modern society.

Montaldo, C,(06 July 2019).Profile and Common Characteristics of a Pedophile[Blog Post]. Retrievedd from https://www.thoughtco.com/profile-ofpedophile-and-common-characteristics-973203 PANTS: The Underwear Rule. (n.d.). Retrieved May 16, 2020, from https://www.nspcc.org.uk/keeping-children-safe/support-for-parents/underwearrule/ Rowan M.D., E. L. (2006). Understanding Child Sexual Abuse (1st ed). Mississippi, United States of America: University Press of Mississippi.

C O N TACTS

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