Moda Madison: November 2017 Issue

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Team EDITOR IN CHIEF Darby Hoffman DEPUTY EDITOR Eva-Delilah Weiland ART DIRECTOR Alix DeBroux

ASSOCIATE ART DIRECTOR Lauren Chung PHOTOGRAPHY DIRECTOR Marissa Haegele ARTS CURATOR Ben Golden

WUD PUBLICATIONS COMMITTEE DIRECTOR L. Malik Anderson

CREATIVE DIRECTORS Geordon Wollner Reilly Koch

WUD PUBLICATIONS COMMITTEE ADVISOR Jim Rodgers

FASHION EDITOR Ashley Mackens

WUD PRESIDENT Iffat Bhuiyan ON THE COVER Collin Imig photographed

by Michael Lim SPECIAL THANKS TO Jazzman

LIFESTYLE EDITOR Cassie Hurwitz

CONTRIBUTING WRITERS Carlie Chesebro Sam Georgson Maryam Muhammad Sally Plampton Molly Rapozo Madeline Rasmussen Channing Smith Matt Weinberger

SOCIAL MEDIA AND MARKETING LIAISON Lindsey Young

MODELS Morgan Baker Noah Christopher Osato Eke Collin Imig Jasmine Kiah Synovia Knox Maryam Muhammad Mara Nashui Michelle Pelowski Kynala Phillips

FINANCIAL MANAGER Margaret Brennan

ART Yiting Liu

WEB MASTER Leah Leonidas

PHOTOGRAPHY Mark Diny Brooke Komas Michael Lim Cameron Smith

CULTURE EDITOR Haidee Chu ARTS EDITOR Margaret Duffey

CREATIVE TEAM Mia Boulukos Brooke Komas Alexa McGoey Janey Sheth Channing Smith Emily Woodzicka

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STAFF WRITERS Francesca Acciardo Kasey Busiel Amanda Glass Clarke Smith Shelby Spiegel Francisco Velazquez

Table of Contents

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FASHION

CULTURE

04 Rising to the Top of a Broken Industry

Not everyone can play in the fashion world’s game

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06 Glamour Nomad

Clothes that tell a story 12 Breaking the Rules

True fashionistas wear what they want, when they want

LIFESTYLE

#MeToo: Breaks the Silence Retweet if you agree

ARTS 31 The Art of Love and War

Developing meaning through shadows 36 The Modern Caste: An Exploration of Works by Claudio Dicochea

Visualizing the modern caste system

13 More to it Than the Likes The problem of profiles

36 Mu-Sick of Feeling Down?

Improve your mood with these 20 uplifting tracks

14 Mending Society’s Broken Body Image

How one company is making this

topic their mission

FEATURED

16 Turn Your Breakdowns into Breakthroughs

Sometimes, a meltdown is all

you need 24 Breaking Away from Unhealthy Relationships Learn the signs of a dangerous connection

18 Creating Everything Again: Reconstruction

Old to New with Just a Pair of Scissors 34 Defeat Not everything that is broken visibly appears so 42 Saturdays

For the boys

24 Stop the Hair Breakage this Winter Five recipes to rejuvenate your locks 28 Navigating Broken Dreams Let your goals change as you grow 30 Like a Broken Record: Learning to Give and Take Advice Advice is easier said than done November 2017 3

FASHION

Rising to the Top of a Broken Industry

BY FRANCESCA ACCIARDO, FASHION WRITER

DAMSEL IN DIOR

We all know the feeling of scrolling through our favorite blogs, reading magazine articles, looking at street style from Fashion Week and thinking to ourselves: there’s no way Gucci jackets and Chanel bags are working their way into this college budget. In a world of influencers and Instagram, it appears unrealistic that people can really afford all Chaneleverything and endless wardrobes, and truthfully, it is.

Today’s fashion industry elevates influencers who wear designer items and discounts (pun intended) the mavens sporting budgetfriendly buys. How has fashion become defined by wearing brands

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without wearing the cost? How are all of these people affording it (or are they)?

Take this excerpt from a blog post

by Damsel in Dior, for example.

Jacey shares an outfit from Paris Fashion Week and exclaims, “I cannot thank the amazing team at Net-a-Porter enough for allowing me to dip into their inventory and borrow fantastic pieces from their store.”1 This is just one example of the many bloggers and influencers who share content that was composed with a little help from 1 Duprie, Jacey. “My Fashion Month Savior.” Damsel In Dior, 10 Oct. 2017.

a gifted product or being part of a brand campaign. The bloggers that expect you to buy those $500 boots likely did not even buy them themselves. The fashion industry is broken. Countless blog posts are “in partnership with,” products are “care of xyz” and instagrams are subtly captioned with “#ad.” Take note next time you scroll through Instagram; there is a new feature specifically for paid partnerships: the “paid partnership with xyz” copy appears just below a user’s handle. Influencers with wellrecognized names in the industry are overwhelmed with goodies arriving at their door to share with their following and flights to exotic countries for brand campaigns.

SONG OF STYLE

Bloggers aren’t doing anything pick out a dress to wear, why would Instagram grow and engage with wrong when it comes to you say no? And, why wouldn’t you bigger audiences. Thanks to the partnerships. In fact, this strategy create beautiful content so maybe, marketers behind the brands, it of collaboration with brands is just maybe, it would happen again? didn’t take long for companies to pure genius. The content featured That is, after all, exactly what figure out that working with people in sponsored or collaborative happened to Aimee Song, blogger who are already at the top is an posting is almost always on-brand behind Song of Style, at this easy way to slide into hundreds and sometimes even exceeds season’s Paris Fashion Week. Song of thousands of followers feeds. expectations because of the stayed true to her style in a dress How influencers got to the top, encouragement to post and the big that reflected her girly but grungy well that was some real business reward at the end of a campaign. aesthetic, and the gifted gown strategy back when it made a No one likes an influencer who produced beautiful photographs difference, before outfit posts strays from her style just to make and outfit content for her blog and and photography skills were the money on a collab. With smart Instagram. simple essentials to success. Back sponsorships, bloggers are true when the world of blogging and to themselves while producing The fashion industry is not what it “influencing” was just developing, exemplary content by the help used to be, and the playing field the key to the top was authenticity. of the collaborator’s resources. If is far from level. Brands have had Now it looks more like Alexander Christian Dior personally invited to react fast to an oversaturation McQueen… and #ad. you to his fashion show and let you of influencers as platforms like

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Glamour Nomad

BY MARYAM MUHAMMAD, CONTRIBUTING WRITER MARYAM MUHAMMAD AND KYNALA PHILLIPS PHOTOGRAPHED BY MARISSA HAEGELE Textiles that are transparent of their country’s code cause eyes to be bold, Just to see threads, just to see the story being told Fashion that tells a story and allows it to be cloth from parts of the world such as Russia shared is characteristic of a glamour nomad, and Thailand. a fashion traveler. That means the stamp on a passport and the crossing of the border When walking down the street, eyes will leads them to places such as the street follow and mouths will open to give the markets of India, the malls of China and the wearer an opportunity to conserve the culture shops of France for a souvenir of chic clothes, that can lay on the body. A cultural conserver rather than a new refrigerator magnet. Their upholds the stories and people that formed wardrobe creates a world that one can bring the distinct pieces, appreciating the culture anywhere, utilizing their role as a trend through their world travels. influencer to showcase a country’s culture and history.

The creations of others has always served as an inspiration. Cultural influences often appear Glamour nomads can be easily seen through in the fashion world, such as in the Dolce & social media — especially on Instagram — Gabbana spring/ summer 2017 ready-to-wear where style bloggers such Cheri (@cheristyle) collection, marked as #DGTropicolItaliano. and InStyle editor Kahlana Barfield Brown (@ This collection featured patterned images kahlanabarfield) are helpful in showing how of hay, flowers and even Italian tomato to use the world for wardrobe by tagging the soup, revealing a presence of what an Italian brands of the various designers’ clothes they countryside may be detailed with. are rocking.

There is no need to limit one’s self to a world The experience of observing art, famous wardrobe consisting only of one’s own historical attractions and cultural dynamics passed down cultural stories. There are the is something that travelers try to keep creations of a trend influencer that lead to a permanently encapsulated in their memories. whole new side of a glamour nomad. They Each culture has its own textiles, developed create their transcript from the malls and from the depth of its history — stories that venders that showcase the fashion trends of unravel history as elegant identifiers. that country. Make sure to catch those “thrift shops that make you drop” and “sales that The concept of layering is not solely attached make you pale” from the outfit possibilities. to fall fashion outfits, but has origins in the When traveling, it is not the time to regret techniques of weaving embroidered crevices that second glance. Be sure to bring empty of cloths laminated by the loom. These luggage, because every piece can add to a showstopping pieces allow the wearer to global collection. feel glamourous through a simple statement

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KIMONO: JAPAN PANTS: MALAYSIA November 2017 7

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SWEATER: MOROCCO PANTS: THAILAND November 2017 9

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FASHION

Breaking the Rules

BY KASEY BUSIEL, FASHION WRITER ILLUSTRATED BY YITING LIU Fashion is an ever-changing form of expression. often than not the prints will look good together too.”1 Because fashion evolves from a world of individuality, It is also easiest to mix simple and complex patterns. there should not be a set of guidelines when it comes Try a black and white striped shirt with a more wild to personal style. It is time to break the common, floral or paisley print on the bottom. outdated “rules” of fashion and move forward into a more modern and trendy way to look at our everyday Navy And Black Don’t Go Together apparel.

Pairing navy and black has long been considered a fashion no-no, because the colors can easily be Don’t Wear White After Labor Day mistaken for one another. In order to confidently rock We have all heard this at one time or another. It is this moody, chic look, try layering. For example, a black time to throw the calendar out the window and leather jacket or belt are perfect accessories to add incorporate white into all four seasons. The key is to over a navy blue dress. Mixing tones and textures is avoid lightweight linens and stick to more substantial another smart way to make the two colors stand out. apparel in the colder months. This upcoming winter, Whether you are playing with layers, accessories, tones dare to wear white straight-cut jeans, an oversized or textures, diversification is key to making a to-die-for sweater or a wooly coat. outfit.

No Mixing Prints

Who says you are not allowed to wear polka dots with stripes or plaids with florals? Mixing prints is a great way to add excitement and flare to an outfit. Although prints are pretty interchangeable, there are a few key tips to keep your outfit looking clean and puttogether. First, match colors, not prints. According to Cosmopolitan, “If the colors look good together, more

Gold And Silver Don’t Mix

Harper’s Bazaar notes, “Just like navy and black, [mixing gold and silver] is another passè rule on color mixing.”2 Mixing these two eye-catching metals only enhances each other’s gleaming appearance. Whether you are mixing silver and gold jewelry or rocking shoes or a purse that showcase the two metals, others will be scrambling to copy your trendy look.

Showing Skin Is Not Sophisticated

In some setting, there is no need to shy away from showing a little skin. A sly peekaboo cut out at the waist could be an exciting accessory to add a little surprise to your look. When you are rocking a cutout at the waist, the rest of the outfit should have an overall conservative neckline and length to keep the outfit looking tasteful.

Don’t be fooled into following these six common fashion myths. You don’t need to be told what you can or cannot wear when it comes to your personal fashion choices. Break the rules, have fun with your style and dare to be different by rocking these fashion trends with confidence.

1 Charles Manning, “4 Life-Changing Tips For Mixing Prints You Need to Know NOW!” Cosmopolitan, October 9, 2017.

2 Chrissy Rutherford, “8 Fashion ‘Rules’ To Break Now,” Harper’s BAZAAR, October 6, 2017.

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LIFESTYLE

More To It Than The Likes Share Tactics: Instagram’s Facade

BY AMANDA GLASS, LIFESTYLE STAFF WRITER ILLUSTRATIONS BY CHANNING SMITH Instagram has taken society by storm over the past decade as the platform began to conquer…well… everything. “Instagrammers” exist on a wide spectrum, ranging from those who have not posted since 2012 to those who do not know how to stop. Within these varying degrees of usage can come the Instagram addiction, causing millennials to use their Instagram profiles as displays of themselves in a different (or completely untrue) light. As the app gains popularity, it is important to ask ourselves: are our profiles representative of our true selves, or are they simply a facade?

trast adjustments in SnapSeed, finding the perfect effect in VSCO or piecing together various selfies in PicCollage, the process is anything but quick and easy. What happens, though, when this concept of “editing” is taken to an extreme?

When instead of editing our photos, we end up editing ourselves?

Increasingly intense Instagram usage has led to a trend of posting photos that look very different from perceptions of our real selves.

Most common nowadays are strategies such as posing in unnatural Scrolling down to that first Insta- positions, showing off designer gram post, when the platform was handbags and clothing, FaceTunnothing but a spur-of-the-moment ing our bodies to look a certain way download from the App Store, we or developing an “aesthetic” for our see a stark difference from today’s feeds. If none of these attempts coplatform. Getting more than 10 incide with what is natural to our likes on a single post was unheard everyday lives, then why are we of. Having over 100 followers meant striving to make our profiles look nothing less than sheer fame. Lo-Fi so staged? was the go-to, built-in filter for every photo, no matter the circum- By trying to achieve these seemstances. A simpler time, surely, but ingly cool trends, we are distanced not necessarily better. further from our individualities, and our Instagram profiles stop reToday, there are numerous steps flecting our true selves. A profile that Instagrammers take when is meant to be a representation of posting that perfect photo. Wheth- someone’s unique characteristics, er it is tweaking lighting and con- identifying and highlighting what

makes someone an individual. As millennials continue to play the Instagram game, their profiles slowly start to look similar to one another, blurring our understanding of who someone really is and what their life is really like.

When building an Instagram profile, it is important to remember that photos are worth a thousand words. Each post is representative of some aspect of either your character, personality or style, and as you continue to be an engaged Instagrammer, these individual pieces create your persona.

Do not let today’s social media trends influence the way in which you use the platforms, Instagram in particular. It is a powerful app that was created for portraying your true self through snapshots and photographs of your true life. Keep in mind the importance of genuineness on social media, as without it, its purpose is defeated.

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Mending Society’s Broken Body Image

BY REILLY KOCH, CO-CREATIVE DIRECTOR REILLY KOCH, MORGAN BAKER, MICHELLE PELOWSKI, MARA NASUI PHOTOGRAPHED BY BROOKE KOMAS

According to DoSomething.org, “approximately 91% of women are unhappy with their bodies and resort to dieting to achieve their ideal body shape.” At the same time, “only 5% of women naturally possess the body type often portrayed by Americans in the media.”1 Why is it that an overwhelming majority of women feel this way? These numbers signal an issue in our society, one that Aerie saw and decided to act on.

At the beginning of 2014, Aerie decided to challenge mainstream “11 Facts About Body Image.” DoSomething.org.

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marketing by nixing photoshop Aerie launched a college campus from their ad campaigns. In ambassador program, piloting the a Time interview following the project at 10 universities across the announcement, Jenny Altman, nation, UW-Madison included. The an Aerie representative, spoke to aim of this project is to have these this change saying, “They are still #AerieREAL girls educate others models, they’re still gorgeous, they about the Aerie mission by hosting just look a little more like the rest events on campus that raise of us. We’re hoping to break the awareness for causes such breast mold… We hope by embracing this, cancer and eating disorders.3 that real girls everywhere will start to embrace their own beauty.”2 At the end of the day, you should take Aerie’s statements to heart. All Three years later, Aerie is still bodies are beautiful. holding strong to their promise of 3 “Arie Real.” AE.com. using “real” girls. This past summer, Dockterman, Eliana. “American Eagle Stops Photoshopping Models for New Lingerie Campaign.” Time. January 17, 2014. “Arie Real.”

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AERIE’S MISSION STATEMENT: “We Are Aerie: Real. Empowering. Honest. Fun. Smart.

Inspiring. Sexy. Kind. Diverse. Game Changer. Strong.

We Love What We Do: We make bras, undies, swim, sleep, clothing, body care, and accessories. We design sizes from XXS to XXL and 30A to 40DD. We are committed to making all girls feel good about their real selves.

We Are #AerieREAL: #AerieREAL means no retouching and loving your real self inside and out. Flaws? No such thing. We are all perfectly imperfect.

Let the real you shine!”

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Turn Your Breakdowns into Breakthroughs WRITTEN AND PHOTOGRAPHED BY SAM GEORGSON, CONTRIBUTING WRITER It is that time of the semester again. School work is building up, you have one exam after the next and projects and papers galore occupy your days. You are probably already operating on little-to-no sleep, and yet you still try to enjoy the weekends. You might be struggling to balance your social life with school and family time, often sacrificing a good night’s sleep to finish a paper or see a friend. All at once, the stress catches up to you and hits you like a wall.

Sometimes life’s tasks build up.

Without realizing it, you start to approach your tipping point, and suddenly, you explode. Do not worry, it happens to the best of us. No one is above a mental

breakdown. In fact, this release is often necessary. You can harness these meltdowns and turn them into a positive experience for your mind and body.

rock bottom, you have no place to go but up. There are several steps you can take to manage a meltdown. Ultimately, you can reorganize your life, your priorities and your goals to prevent the next breakdown.

Recently, I learned to value these emotional collapses, because I found a way to turn them into a The most important step in productive experience that keeps handling a breakdown is to do a the next meltdown at bay. I can complete “brain dump.” A brain usually feel a breakdown brewing; dump is a concept devised by stress and exhaustion build up author David Allen, who is an until I run out of steam. However, expert on focusing your priorities instead of allowing the situation and finishing the things you start.1 to generate any more tension, I Although Allen’s concept focuses channel that release of energy into mainly on bettering your financial getting myself organized, being situation, the “brain dump” is one realistic with my goals and honest of the most useful strategies for with my strategies for productivity. reducing stress levels regardless of Breakdowns are inevitable. As the cause. cliché as it sounds, once you hit A brain dump is simply the complete unloading of everything that is on your mind.

Get out a notebook, open up a blank Word document or even use the notes app on your phone.

Do not think, just start spilling.

Write down everything you need to do and everything that has been stressing you out recently.

These notes can (and should) range in length, all the way from important due dates for papers and midterms down to the toilet paper you meant to buy last week. Leave this list out for a few hours, even a few days, and write down frustrations as they 1 Allen, David, 1945 December 28. Getting Things Done: the Art of Stress-Free Productivity. New York: Viking, 2001.

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come. Your first instinct will be to jot down all of the major due dates and stressors, but the little things that build up and get brushed under the rug are sometimes more dangerous. Leave yourself some room to mark those as well.

Once you have put everything down on paper — tasks big and small — you should sit with your list. Now is the time to assess and prioritize your time and life as a whole. Think about all of the things that are important to you and the tasks that need your immediate attention. Make sure your priorities and goals align with your core values. Whether it is good grades, spending time with friends and family or saving money, you want to prioritize your life and time in ways that will satisfy these values.

The end goal is to avoid another stress-inducing situation and to boost your confidence levels.

After prioritizing your list, you should start breaking down your goals into realistic, doable tasks.

You must make sure all of your goals are actually attainable. This kind of mental mapping will greatly reduce stress levels. Besides, the whole point of this exercise is to actually begin checking things off of the list.

you probably should, it is hard not to spread yourself thin. Life is a delicate balance, and sometimes, caring for our own mental health gets lost in the mix. We have all been there. We all know that sometimes, life can suddenly become so overwhelming that we need a moment to recollect ourselves.

Once you have all of your goals in mind and a realistic strategy for accomplishing them, you can get to work. Pick a few goals to focus on each day. You should be realistic in deciding how much you are going to accomplish in a day, week or even a month. Small tasks matter, and it will feel just as good to knock the little things off of your list to make more room for your major goals.

So, the next time you feel a freakout brewing, take advantage of your stressful situation and motivate yourself to reorganize and rethink what matters to you most. If you are successful, you will keep the next one at bay. David Allen puts it best when he says “Your mind is for having ideas, not holding them.”1 By following these healthy steps for managing a meltdown, you too can turn your breakdowns into breakthroughs.

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CREATING EVERYTHING AGAIN : RECONSTRUCTION OSATO EKE, JASMINE KIAH AND SYNOVIA KNOX PHOTOGRAPHED BY CAMERON SMITH DIRECTED BY CLARKE SMITH AND FRANCISCO VELAZQUEZ WITH ASSISTANCE FROM ASHLEY MACKENS, FASHION EDITOR

In reconstructing what broken may mean, we alternate clothing to work in our favor.

By redefining the expected, we continue pushing the standard idea of fashion and what old and new can mean. We transform the way clothing defines standards and manually shift the outcome for a new garment without spending a dime.

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LIFESTYLE

Breaking Away from Unhealthy Relationships

BY SALLY PLAMPTON, CONTRIBUTING WRITER PHOTOGRAPHED BY MARISSA HAEGELE S: Are unhealthy relationships only romantic or can they happen in friendships too?

JF: I believe that healthy relationships are built on things like communication, trust and respect.

When someone violates those things, especially in a repeated pattern, a relationship can become unhealthy. This means that healthy or unhealthy behaviors can present I sat down with Janie Felton, themselves in friendships, hookchair of Promoting Awareness, ups, friends-with-benefits situaVictim Empowerment (PAVE) tions and even things we choose at UW-Madison to learn more not to label. While the health of our about how to spot and handle intimate relationships is important, unhealthy relationships. PAVE is a it is also good to think about the student organization dedicated to quality of all of our relationships preventing sexual assault, dating and how those relationships make violence and stalking through us feel. education and activism.1 S: What are some of the major S: What are some types of signs of an unhealthy relationship? unhealthy relationships?

JF: When we think about healthy JF: Unhealthy relationships take relationships, we often think about many shapes and forms, but all things like trust, respect, shared involve a pattern of behavior where responsibility, support and fairness. one person exerts power and It would make sense to assume that control over another person. This unhealthy relationships typically power and control can manifest lack these things. This is not itself in emotional, physical, sexual because two people have created a and/ or economic abuse. It is “bad” relationship; it is because one important to remember that while person has chosen to exert power IPV [Intimate Partner Violence] and control over another, and this is a gendered issue, people of all pattern is sustained over time. identities may experience violence within their relationships. One First, it is important to note that way that we can better support most unhealthy relationships survivors is by recognizing that typically do not start with violence. there is not a single story about If they did, folks would leave the unhealthy relationships. Even if relationship immediately. Instead, your experience is not reflected in trust is built up, feelings of love and mainstream media, it is still valid, connection are fostered, and it may and you deserve support. feel like a good relationship overall.

When in college, it seems no one is unfamiliar with the world of dating, but it is also the setting for a lot of people’s first relationship experiences. Learning the qualities of a healthy relationship in this new world can be a lot harder than we expect, and we may find ourselves having a difficult time recognizing unhealthy behaviors.

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In this first stage, partners may spend lots of time together. One might buy the other unexpected gifts, and the relationship might become “official” quickly.

Warning signs that we tend to think of often arise later in the relationship. Some examples of this may include someone isolating their partner from family and friends, using threats and intimidation to get what they want or making all of the decisions in the relationship.

The abusive partner might use emotional put-downs, manipulation and/or physical/ sexual violence to harm their partner. Typically there is a period of calm in between incidents that gets shorter and shorter with time. At first, it may be months, then dwindle to weeks, then days. The violence also tends to escalate over time, making the situation increasingly dangerous.

S: What resources are available to me at UW if I think I may be in an unhealthy relationship?

JF: If you think you are in an unhealthy relationship, PAVE wants you to know three things. 1) What happened is not your fault. 2) Your safety and healing are so important.

3) There are people here for you. UHS Violence Prevention and Survivor Services offers free, confidential support and victim advocacy to survivors of sexual assault, intimate partner violence and stalking. Their office is located on campus at 333 East Campus Mall. Another great local resource is Domestic Abuse Intervention Services (DAIS.)

Finally, be patient — simply being there for your friend is a powerful source of support as they make difficult decisions and take steps to heal. Know that supporting a friend can be hard, and it’s normal to feel like you need to process your emotions too. All of the resources listed above can also be used by supporters, and we encourage you to take care of yourself while supporting your friend.

They offer emergency shelter, legal advocacy, support groups and a helpline at 608-251-1237.

Unidos Against Domestic Violence, Freedom Inc. and Deaf Unity are population-specific organizations that aid survivors who are a part of the Latinx, African American and Southeast Asian and/or Deaf communities, respectively.

To learn more about the resources listed above and to find additional information about medical care, reporting options and financial assistance, you can visit PAVE’s website.

of that power and control, we can let our friends define their own experience.

Instead, try naming what you’re seeing. Maybe instead of “I think your partner is isolating you,” you could say “I feel like we never really see each other any more, and I miss you. What have you been up to lately?” Using that as a conversation starter allows your friend the opportunity to talk to you without making them feel accused and lets them know that you care about them.

S: What should I do if I think one You can also express concern from of my friends is in an unhealthy a caring place. Phrases like, “I’m relationship? Is it my place to say worried for your safety and want to anything? help” can go a long way in letting JF: If you believe one of your friends your friend know that you are here is in an unhealthy relationship, for them and you care about them. know that your support is crucial, If they choose to talk with you, it and there are several things you is important to listen, affirm and can do to help. First, try not to believe them without judgment. Let name the experience for them, them know that it is not their fault even if it’s tempting to say, “That’s and that their feelings are normal. a red flag, I think you’re in an Remind them that they are strong, abusive relationship.” In abusive smart and brave. Offer resources or unhealthy relationships, power like the ones at PAVE’s website and and control is taken away from one respect their choices. person. In order to restore some

S: How can I learn more about unhealthy relationships?

JF: PAVE has two workshops that focus solely on relationships. The first, “(Un)Healthy Relationships,” focuses on how to identify your wants/ needs in a relationship, how to recognize healthy and unhealthy behaviors and how to support a survivor. The second, Relationship “FLAGS,” is a partnership between PAVE, DAIS and student recipients of the Wisconsin Idea Fellowship.

It is tailored to help Greek organizations, athletes and all student leaders recognize the warning signs of an unhealthy relationship and learn how to help a friend. Both workshops are roughly an hour in length and are free for all students! [Also], feel free to stop by the PAVE office to chat with staff, check out a book from our library or learn about volunteer opportunities. DAIS offers trainings for folks who want to volunteer and can also provide additional information.

As Janie mentioned, unhealthy behaviors are often difficult to cope with or understand. If you believe you or someone you know is in an unhealthy relationship, be sure to check out PAVE and the resources they offer. If this is a topic you are passionate about, clubs like PAVE provide the perfect platform and opportunity to get involved. A special thanks to Janie Felton for answering our questions.

Janie Felton, “Unhealthy Relationships,” e-mail interview by author, October 24, 2017.

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LIFESTYLE

Stop the Hair Breakage this Winter

BY SALLY PLAMPTON, CONTRIBUTING WRITER PHOTOGRAPHED BY MARK DINY As another Wisconsin winter approaches, keeping hair moisturized and damage-free is almost as tough as not slipping down Bascom. The cold air brings dull, dry and damaged hair along with the snow flurries and sub-zero temperatures. While skincare is fre-

Dry Hair

1 tablespoon olive oil ½ cup yogurt Mix ingredients until combined. Apply to dry hair and leave for 20 minutes, then wash and rinse as usual. This mask will moisturize your hair to leave you with soft and strong locks.

Dull Hair

1 tablespoon olive oil 1 egg ½ cup coconut milk Whisk together ingredients until combined. Pour over scalp and massage into dry hair. Leave mask on for 20 minutes, then wash and rinse as usual.

This mask gives hair shine, while conditioning for softness and strength.

quently discussed and more widely practiced, hair care is often forgotten. Dedicating a few extra minutes to your locks will work wonders. Do not forget to give yourself (and your hair) a break this winter by recharging with one of these five easy, DIY hair masks.

Frizzy Hair

2 tablespoon honey ½ tablespoon almond oil or coconut oil ½ banana Mash up the banana (enjoy the other half as a healthy snack during your mask) and combine with the other ingredients. Massage into dry hair and let soak for 20 minutes, then wash and rinse as usual. This mask will leave you with a frizz-free, sleek and shiny look.

Oily Hair

⅛cup milk 1 tablespoon almond oil or coconut oil ¼ cup oats Combine ingredients in a blender until they reach a paste-like consistency. Apply to dry hair and leave in for 15 minutes, then wash and rinse thoroughly. This mask is great if you already have naturally oily hair. It will moisturize without leaving greasy residue.

Split Ends

2 tablespoon honey 1 tablespoon almond oil or coconut oil 2 tablespoon apple cider vinegar Mix together ingredients until combined. Apply to dry hair and leave for at least 30 minutes, then wash and rinse as usual. This mask is not a total fix for split ends, but it will drastically improve the look and feel if there is no time for a hair trim.

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Do not forget your hair this winter, as it is an important aspect of your well-being. Take your pick of these five DIY hair masks to keep your locks strong and healthy. They are the perfect excuse to take a break with your friends and de-stress.

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Navigating Broken Dreams WRITTEN AND PHOTOGRAPHED

BY MOLLY RAPOZO, CONTRIBUTING WRITER

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We all have visions of who we would like to be in the future. When confronted with the “What do you want to be when you grow up?” question, every child shoots for the stars. From rock stars to professional athletes and doctors, these aspirations are usually somewhat farfetched professions. We plan the house we will live in, where we will move and who we will marry. As we grow up, we learn what we do and do not like, and we adapt our dreams to fit our reality.

“As we grow up, we learn what we do and do not like, and we adapt our dreams to fit our reality.”

We make and break dreams constantly, so why do we take it so hard when a dream we thought of in the past does not pan out like we wanted? That sweet spot of late teens and twenties is the perfect time to accept the broken ideas we had for ourselves and explore what else the world has to offer.

where my family is, and studying physical therapy (one of countless scenarios I pictured for the future). I am now in Madison studying communications and exploring things that I have never done before, such as writing outside of a classroom setting.

I am somewhat of a perfectionist; I plan The worst advice given to any high school and plan, thinking out every small aspect or college student is the old saying, “Do of my future. After months of switching not stress about picking what you want to majors and finding new things to do, I do, you have time,” because — although sat back and looked at how the events of absolutely true — we still feel the pressure. my life were unfolding. Events that were We feel that there is no time and that completely impossible in my made-up we need to make decisions in this very plan were happening. I finally realized moment. That stress is always there, and that I needed to let go of that controlling it will continue to be that way. It is a norm impulse and let life happen. for people to pester you on what you will The point of a dream is to break it. Whether do with the future. or not you accomplish them is irrelevant, This dynamic is incredibly stressful, because once you attain what you were because while attempting to gain hunting down, there is no reason to independence and control, you still have dream anymore. A dream is what moves to decide your identity in that moment you forward and drives you to do better.

— a process that typically takes years. It should not matter if things did not turn Usually, there are no answers to relatives’ out as you had imagined, as long as they incessant questioning, or answers change. are moving forwards and upwards.

As accepting as your relatives seem over the Thanksgiving dinner table, sometimes Accept your broken dream, change your visions for yourself do not match up. You approach and explore what our world has are left with awkward silence and an to offer. Instead of viewing the situation as uncomfortable feeling that you moved in a loss of yourself, you can use a shattered plan to strengthen your identity and find the wrong direction. what you do and do not like. The end of A few months ago, I had an epiphany. My your old dreams creates a new beginning current life is absolutely, in no way, what I for your personal evolution. When it comes imagined it would look like. I had dreams to dreaming, we think “the sky’s the limit,” in high school of going to college in Texas, so why let your dreams limit you?

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LIFESTYLE

Like a Broken Record: Learning to Give and Take Advice

BY SHELBY SPIEGEL, LIFESTYLE STAFF WRITER UNSPLASH Have you ever heard that you sound know it may be for the best, is not However, those on the outside like a broken record, repeating the usually easy. looking in may be the best for same advice over and over again? the advice-giving job, seeing as More often than not, giving out The advice situation becomes they are not personally invested advice is the easy part. Accepting more complex once feelings in the issue. Those providing their your own advice and applying it to and emotions are added to words of wisdom usually have the your life is where the challenge lies. the equation. We ignore these receiver’s best interest in mind.

It is easy to be an outsider looking important elements when giving Typically, they also hope for their in, offering advice to others in advice to others, but when taking friend’s success in all aspects of their times of need. It is especially it for ourselves, emotions are all their life. These people may be your easy to give tough advice to we think about. What to do after parents, professors, significant others when it does not affect a breakup, how to overcome a others or friends that offer insight you personally. However, when it low exam score or coping when and guidance when the going comes to our own lives, following not receiving your dream job all gets rough. Although you may through is easier said than done. involve strong responses. It is not always want to hear what they important to keep in mind what is have to say, it is important to be When taking advice, most people going through your friend’s mind grateful for their advice. It shows have a strong devotion to their when attempting to give advice. that you have many individuals in emotions. All aspects of the your life that care about you and problem or situation are analyzed Additionally, it is difficult to receive want to see you succeed. and decisions are made based on criticism from those closest to you. the best possible outcomes. The While trying to take it in a positive Although you may find yourself solution might seem simple as a way, getting advice that you do not pointing fingers and always friend, parent or colleague giving want can create a negative impact offering your two cents, remember advice to those that are struggling. on your mood and relationship the effort it takes to receive input With little emotional investment with that person. Collectively, our from others, in fear that something in the issue, it does not take much society today has a headstrong may go wrong. The next time you to make suggestions and see attitude and always feels as if it can need help from others, widen your the “easy” way out. More often, handle whatever comes its way. This perspective and open yourself to though, receiving certain advice creates a feeling of independence, more opportunities. You may find does not make us feel better that you do not need others to help yourself more surprised at the about the situation. In fact, it might you with struggles and challenges outcomes than you would ever make matters worse. Hearing you may encounter. imagine. the hard truth, even though you

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#MeToo: Breaks the Silence What the Hashtag Means for the Future of Online Activism WRITTEN AND ILLUSTRATED BY CHANNING SMITH, CONTRIBUTING WRITER It was too easy, too simple. Two short words could not summarize years of institutional sexism and inequality — that’s like dipping your toe in the Atlantic and claiming you swam the ocean. #MeToo is an online activist movement sparked by a tweet from Alyssa Milano. Milano called for women to come forward as allegations against Harvey Weinstein started surfacing to stress the widespread nature of sexual harassment and assault. The phrase “Me Too” itself is neither shiny nor new, though, as feminist and activist Tarana Burke had coined the term 10 years earlier.

The man who called “Dibs!” as I walked down State Street, or the guy who told me I was “too pretty not to smile?”

I didn’t count any of them. It’s difficult to narrow down what the “#MeToo” movement covers, because the definition of assault varies widely — everything from extreme sexual abuse to catcalling are being blanketed into the same category.

I was reluctant to tap out those six brief letters onto my keyboard, because I was sure these incidents didn’t count.

They weren’t important enough, I reasoned.

behavior and rape culture to grow and thrive like deadly bacteria, but rape isn’t a culture — it is a crime.

Even after my dramatic epiphany, I was still skeptical. The fact that I could “like” and “comment” on someone’s assault was particularly off putting to me — deeply personal experiences suddenly became as anonymous as a username behind a keyboard. However, this is simply the new world we live in: we live online. Our views, experiences and communities are translated to the public via a medium of less than 140 characters. Social media trends ebb and flow, but the #MeToo movement is much more than a hashtag — it’s the beginning of a larger push for awareness.

At first, I had my reservations. But then I realized, I’m part of the Although I applauded these women problem. for their bravery in stepping I suppose writing this and shooting forward, something made me Although the spectrum of sexual it off into the World Wide Web uneasy: breaking the silence is an assault stretches wide, nothing that mimics the public sharing of act of courage, but that doesn’t falls on it is acceptable. Years of #MeToo. However, I am still not make a person a coward if they institutional sexism convinced me ready to tweet about sexual assault chose to stay silent. that my experience didn’t count; on the same platform Kardashian the ideas of “boys being boys” was memes are exchanged.

What about the boy who pushed a burned onto my conscious. They drink in my hand before cornering expected my silence then and A hashtag on Twitter can’t reverse me in a sweaty fraternity house? Or expect it now. centuries of sexism, but maybe it’s the man who pressed up against a place to start. Like and retweet if me in the subway, as I held my This spiral of silence, though, you agree. breath until reaching 14th Street? is exactly what enables sexist November 2017 31

ARTS

The Art of Love and War

BY MATT WEINBERGER, CONTRIBUTING WRITER Creativity is a process; one of experimentation, undoing expectations and leaving room for mistakes. It is rare that a fully developed idea will translate into a final product.

I started the process which eventually became “The Art of Love and War” with no set end-goal. I created a backdrop using printer paper and gathered a variety of objects around my room. Things like dice, golf tees, coins, playing cards, rocks, a lock, toy soldiers and chalk ended up in a pile beside the backdrop.

I turned off the lights and closed the blinds to darken the room. My iPhone flashlight lit the stage.

Drawing on Paul Cezanne’s still life paintings of apples and flowers as inspiration, I photographed household objects in the style of still life. Feeling like a mundane exercise, I was not content. After practicing how to control light and playing with shadows, I retired for the night, having created nothing particularly significant.

After I got home from school the next day, what had been an exercise turned into a route to discovery when I happened to pick up two toy soldiers. I noticed that the shadow on the wall looked like the soldiers were interacting in some sort of amorous way. With a few minor adjustments I managed to make them look like they were embracing, on the verge of a kiss. I took a few photos but was still not content. The photos felt bland, until I introduced the ace of hearts from the deck of cards. Leaning against the backdrop, the shadows of the toy soldiers were cast onto the card below the central heart. The single image birthed inspiration for a full series.

Now, two years since I shot the first photo of the soldiers, I still go back to work on the series, adding new images and replacing old ones. Through experimentation without direction, I developed a process that I was both content with and happy to continue evolving — “The Art of Love and War.”

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ARTS

The Modern Caste: An Exploration of Works by Claudio Dicochea

BY MADELINE RASMUSSEN, CONTRIBUTING WRITER “light-skinned” and “dark-skinned” families.

Because eighteenth century colonial Mexico prioritized racial purity, the light-skinned families could be found at the top of the hierarchy, peering down onto their darker skinned counterparts.

Claudio Dicochea is a Coloradobased artist whose works dissect and disfigure the narrative of these historical casta paintings.

Putting a contemporary spin on centuries-old paintings, Dicochea successfully confronts identity in the modern age by trading in classical representations for pop culture icons and contemporary iconography. Through appropriation and reworking of pop culture, Dicochea depicts the awkward disconnect between true identity and representation in modern society.

ADRIANACLAUDIO.COM The mention of a caste system invokes a specific image of an ancient Hindu tradition. The castes in this context entail an intricate hierarchy, which dictates all social and religious aspects of life.1 In the western world, it is easy to feel removed from such a system. The 1 T.N. Madan, “Caste,” https://www.britannica.com/ topic/caste-social-differentiation, (July 20, 2016).

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simple notion of a rigid social order can create discomfort. One could argue, however, that this discomfort is telling of the ignorance within western society regarding its own caste system.

The casta paintings of colonial Mexico are a group of works that detailed the conflict between the

This brings the viewer to an interesting line of inquiry. How is identity stratified in modern society? How does the legacy of colonialism and anti-blackness affect how identity is portrayed?

Ironically, Claudio Dicochea offers answers to these questions, while making humorous allusions to the 1979 thriller “Alien.” Dicochea places his figures in typical casta compositions, but replaces the portrayed victims with icons such as Princess Diana and Don Pedro. Dicochea’s use of bright colors and collage shifts his work

“Through appropriation and reworking of pop culture, Dicochea depicts the awkward disconnect between true identity and representation in modern society.”

toward contemporary style and people of color leads to serious force the viewer to see his images disparities. as current. When juxtaposed, it becomes abundantly clear that About his work, Dicochea says whiteness maintains dominance that “meaning can be dismantled in contemporary culture. Through and broken loose from fixed refracted and abstracted scenes, identities, thus moving us towards Dicochea’s works create a a different awareness and, ideally, hierarchy in and of themselves, towards socio-political agency.”2 albeit an obscure one.

His motivation is to disfigure the notion of the traditional “casta” and This hierarchy presents itself in renovate it into a source of political society and, consequently, in media. power. When their perspective is The dehumanization of blackness illuminated, caricatured individuals serves to create characters out can be liberated from a broken of complex individuals, a piece of system. slavery and colonialism’s legacy.

References made in Dicochea’s work speak not only of irony and humor, but also of institutional 2 Claudio Dicochea, “About,” (National Museum violence. The dehumanization of of Mexican Art, 2014), http://www.adrianaclaudio. com/Claudio-Dicochea-Artist-Statement.html

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Mu-sick of Feeling Down?

BY CARLIE CHESEBRO, CONTRIBUTING WRITER Music and emotion are two forces that connect us with people from every corner of the world. Functioning as a universal tool, music helps people through some of their most difficult times. Considering the broken state of the world today, music is especially important to cheer us up. My go to song (included on this playlist) is “Carry On” by fun. Its uplifting messages empower me to keep moving and overcome whatever is bringing me down. The following playlist includes 20 of my favorite go-to songs for when I’m feeling down.

1. CARRY ON / FUN. 2. WAIT SO LONG / TRAMPLED BY TURTLES 3. SHAKE / THE HEAD AND THE HEART 4. THE OUTSIDERS / NEEDTOBREATHE 5. IT DON’T HAVE TO CHANGE / JOHN LEGEND FT. THE STEPHENS FAMILY 6. START RIGHT NOW / YOUNG PINES, LANEY JONES 7. CROOKED SMILE / J. COLE FT. TLC 8. LIFE’S WHAT YOU MAKE IT / GRAHAM COLTON 9. CLEOPATRA / THE LUMINEERS 10. I KEEP TICKIN’ ON / THE HARMALEIGHS 11. CHANGES / LANGHORNE SLIM 12. WOLF / SYLVAN ESSO 13. SEDONA / HOUNDMOUTH 14. HAPPINESS IS NOT A PLACE / THE WIND AND THE WAVE 15. NO MATTER WHERE WE GO / WHITNEY 16. TRY / COLBIE CAILLAT 17. KING AND LIONHEART / OF MONSTERS AND MEN 18. SIMPLE THINGS / ZIGGY ALBERTS 19. ROLL UP YOUR SLEEVES / MEG MAC 20. STRONGER (WHAT DOESN’T KILL YOU) / KELLY CLARKSON If you are mu-sick of feeling down, pop in your headphones and listen to the “Uplifting Tracks” playlist on Moda Magazine Art Section’s Spotify account.

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