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A N O TE F RO M TH E

Publisher Myra Gammon Adver tising Sales Myra Gammon | Jill Futch | Julie Shaw Creative Director Travis Aptt Ar t Director Jennifer Casey

The holidays are here! I love this season when we all take the time to gather with family and friends. Plus, the weather is perfect to curl up by the fire with your favorite drink and a magazine – hopefully this one!

I love our gift guide this year on page 27; I’ve already been marking off a few items for the special people in my life. We’re so lucky to have truly unique and creative options. If you haven’t checked out these local shops, now is the time to do some serious browsing.

Have you unpacked the ornaments yet? We do it right after Thanksgiving. Unwrapping each ornament always brings back memories of where we got them or who gave them to us. Three Cary families share a few of their favorite family ornaments and traditions on page 12.

In this issue, we also take a look at The Cary Arts Center on page 18. Formerly Cary Elementary, this beautiful facility provides a new home for the timeless play “A Christmas Story.” Downtown Cary is a great place to be to enjoy many other holiday celebrations, including Santa’s Workshop, the winter festival, the town tree lighting and a gingerbread house competition.

Finally, if you haven’t quite gotten your outfit together for your annual holiday party, don’t miss our fashion spread on page 52.

Gold and black dominates this year and local boutiques are sharing their strategies to work these elements into your winter wardrobe.

Keep those ideas coming. We love to hear from you as much as we love being a part of this vibrant, growing community. From all of us here at the magazine, we wish peace and joy to your family this holiday season.

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12 ALL THE TRIMMINGS Three families share a few of their favorite ornaments as well as a holiday tradition.

48 BLACK & GOLD HOLIDAY STYLE It’s time to pull out the glitz and glam and rock the holiday season in style.

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HOME FOR A CHRISTMAS STORY Cary Players & A Christmas Story: Community theater has a new home for a beloved show.

25 2012 HOLIDAY GIFT GUIDE Something for everyone on your holiday shopping list.

34 HOAs: THE REAL NEIGHBORHOOD WATCHDOGS The four questions you may want to ask your Homeowners Association.

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HAPPY FOR HOCKEY These women used to sit on the sideline.

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NOW THAT’S ITALIAN Paisan’s embraces family and food.

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68 TESTING MY LIMITS It’s the most festive time of the year, but take care with your merrymaking!

One of our writers tested with the Raleigh Police Department and discovered it’s easier than you think to become too impaired to drive.

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BY CHRISTA GALA

Unpacking our Christmas ornaments each year is a little like reliving our life story – from the gingerbread-man cookie we made in preschool to the ornament we got last year on vacation. And all the memories and places in-between. Here, three families share a few of their favorite ornaments as well as a holiday tradition.

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A COLLAGE OF MEMORIES Gina Gilliam’s boxes of ornaments are a tie to different generations as well as a reminder of how tender it was to blend families back in the late 70s.

Her parents divorced when she was very young, and her father married a wonderful woman who Gilliam has always called mom. “Christmas ornaments are so significant to me because one of the first things we did as a new family was to go shopping for ornaments for the tree.

“And then my mom’s grandmother, my greatgrandmother, began giving me Christmas ornaments just like she did the rest of her grandkids,” continues Gilliam. “She was the first of my mom’s family to make me feel like I was part of the family. Those ornaments, when I look at them, I remember that. That’s what makes them so special to me.”

One favorite is a wooden angel with bright-yellow yarn hair from 1983. “It’s a little drummer boy angel ornament,” says Gilliam. “Every year we would get an ornament from Great-Grandma, and we would be able to open it on Christmas Eve; that was the only present we were allowed to open early.”

Gilliam also inherited the vintage bubble lights from her grandmother, her dad’s mom, when she passed away just a few years ago. But before that, she longed for bubble lights of her own. “They were so special, and I had never seen them on anyone else’s Christmas tree,” says Gilliam. “I thought that she was the only one to have these magical lights.

“My uncle Ed also loved them and one Christmas I was out in California, and he and I were shopping in Union Square in San Francisco,” continues Gilliam.

“That night we walked into a kitschy gift shop that had a lot of vintage items and on the display were bubble lights. My uncle bought me a bunch of boxes. “I think he was afraid I was actually going to steal Grandma’s bubble lights, that’s why he bought them for me.”

Gilliam’s husband, Kent, started the tradition of the couple buying each other ornaments. “When we were dating, he surprised me with an ornament when we were out shopping,” says Gilliam. “It’s a little bunny underneath a poinsettia.

Yarn-hair ornament: Circa 1983: A wooden angel with yellow yarn-hair (remember Troll dolls?) from Gilliam’s great grandmother.

This bunny ornament was the first ornament Gilliam received from her husband; exchanging ornaments is now a yearly tradition.

“He knew about my great grandmother’s ornaments and how much I loved them, and it set off a tradition for us,” Gilliam continues. “During the year, we pick up ornaments that make us think of each other, maybe while traveling or to celebrate a milestone for that year or even just something we’re passionate about.”

Unpacking the ornaments is a little like flipping through a giant photo album. “My tree is basically a collage of memories from my entire lifetime.”

GILLIAM HOLIDAY TRADITION: Buying ornaments for nieces and nephew each year.

“We shop for each other individually, but every year now we go out together and pick out ornaments for my nieces and nephew that we think they would like.”

HOME AGAIN They say you can’t ever go back home, but don’t tell Liz McCabe that. About a decade ago, her mother and father passed away a few years within each other, both from lung cancer, and when it came time to sell their home in MacGregor Downs, she just couldn’t do it.

Instead, she bought it with her husband, Ray, and the couple renovated it and are now raising their three children there. McCabe hosts most holidays in the family home, including her brother and sister and both of their families.

“It’s not like my parents never left, but the dining room is the same; I use my mom’s china,” says McCabe. “Everybody else may not know it, but my brother and sister and I do. I want my kids to have that feeling as well – that family is important.”

Decorating the tree always floods McCabe with memories as she unpacks all of the ornaments her mother gave her. Her favorites include ornaments of a handmade girl. Her mom bought them at a shop in Long Beach Island in New Jersey where the family had a beach house.

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Handmade ornaments Liz McCabe’s mom bought her while the family vacationed at the beach.

“Every year my mom would buy us each three ornaments, and she would mark the year and where she bought it,” says McCabe, who does the same thing now for her three kids: Connor, 11; Madelyn, 7 and Daniel, 5.

When McCabe was growing up, she and her sister and brother each selected a star to top the tree. The family rotated the stars each year depending upon whose turn it was. “If you wanted to put an ornament at the top instead, my mom would let you do it. It didn’t have to be a department store tree, that’s the thing. It was our tree. I think I picked my star because it sparkled; it has all mirrored pieces.”

Each of McCabe’s children has their own star now, too.

“They always remember whose turn it is,” she laughs. “It’s neat for them to think that I was little once, too, and this is what my mom did for me and now I’m doing it for them.”

The Christmas pickle ornament her aunt gave her always adds a little excitement to the beginning of the season as each child races around trying to be the first one to spot it. “It’s good luck if you’re the first one to find the pickle on the tree,” says McCabe.

MCCABE HOLIDAY TRADITION: Every year, Liz McCabe hosts an ornament exchange party for friends and neighbors. “I like it because it’s something that reminds me of our Christmas gatherings.

When there are 30 ornaments under the tree, even the kids love it. I know each of my ornaments, what exchange it came from and who bought it.”

ALL ABOUT CHRISTMAS Kelley Simpson loves Christmas. The only china she registered for when she got married was Spode’s Christmas pattern. Then there are the boxes and boxes of decorations. Her husband, Kevin, finally issued a cease-and-desist order on Christmas decorations a few years ago, excluding ornaments. Those still change hands between parents and kids of different generations.

Some of Simpson’s favorite ornaments have come from her students. An assistant principal at Apex High School, Simpson taught for many years here and in Charlotte.

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“When I pull out each ornament I can remember the year, who it gave it to me and what class it was. For the most part, I can remember those kids going all the way back to when I was a student teacher,” says Simpson.

A big family favorite is Kevin’s grandmother’s handmade advent calendar. Each day counting up to Christmas holds an ornament instead of a piece of candy. “Every day you pull out the ornament from that day and then put it somewhere on the tree. That’s what Kevin grew up with and now our boys use it,” says Simpson of sons Hart, 15, and Sam, 11.

“It’s a really nice piece; we were fortunate to get it.”

And then of course there’s Buddy. Buddy, the Elf on the Shelf. If you haven’t heard of this, one of Santa’s elves comes to stay in your house and reports to Santa on whether the kids have been naughty or nice. A book comes with the elf that explains this relatively new Christmas tradition.

“The big thing is, every morning the kids have to figure out where he is. Sometimes he’s in the pantry; sometimes he’s sitting on the couch. Our hiding places are really good,” says Simpson. “The first year we had it, Sam cried when Buddy went back to the North Pole. They wrote letters to him and told him how much they would miss him and they promised they’d be better next year.”

Buddy injects fun into the house during the Christmas season and is usually good for at least a few belly laughs.

SIMPSON HOLIDAY TRADITION: The family Christmas card. “It’s a huge deal to me,” says Simpson. “I say every year, ‘When I’m dead and gone you’re going to appreciate that I made us get a family picture made every year.’ And my husband says, ‘Aren’t we too old to be on a Christmas card?’ It’s a family production, but I love it.”

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SIXPENCE ACCENTS, $8.95

SWAGGER, $12.95

Hung with Care

THE GARDEN HUT, $9.99

As you unwrap your Christmas ornaments this holiday season, don’t the memories just come flooding back? We reached out to some of our local stores for some of the seasons best ornaments. Hopefully one of these will spark an idea for the perfect gift for that special someone on your list.

THE PINK ALLI, $62.99

LUCKY PIE GALLERY, $9

THE PERFECT PIECE, $15

ARIA GIFTS, $14

THE SASSY BLOSSOM, $19.99

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IVY COTTAGE COLLECTIONS, $55

FLORAL ACCENTS & INTERIORS, $5.25

STYLISH LIVING, $14

GREENPEA BABY & CHILD, $16.99

SOUTHERN CHARM BOUTIQUE, $26.50

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The newly-remodeled Cary Arts Center opened in 2011 with a 400-seat theater that’s home to the Cary Players Community Theatre Company. The building also houses classrooms, art gallery space and a ceramics studio.

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BY KATE TURGEON

Cary Players & the Cary Arts Center

An iconic leg lamp sits in a basement closet at the Cary Arts Center. “A Christmas Story” made it famous. Fishnet stockings, black pumps and a shade trimmed with black fringe made it racy, at least by 1940s standards. Sure, there were longer and skinnier leg lamps on the market, explains Debra Grannan, chief operating officer for Cary Players. But the lamp inside that props closet has a more pronounced knee, a thicker thigh and just a hint of, well … a cheek.

The lamp gets around. From 2004 until 2007 Cary Players Community Theatre Company produced “A Christmas Story” each holiday season. Back then the actors, directors and crew members were nomads.

With no home auditorium, they performed a variety of shows year-round in small venues from Bond Park’s amphitheater to the Holly Springs Cultural Center.

By 2011 they had a home – the newly remodeled Cary Arts Center. It was not an altogether strange place, however. Before the remodel it was an old elementary school where Cary Players had previously performed in a small media center. But things were different.

Professional-type dressing rooms replaced the

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In 2006 Debra Grannan was cast as “Mother” and Wilson Pietzsch was selected to play “The Old Man” in the Cary Players production of “A Christmas Story.” Just three weeks before opening night, Pietzsch died unexpectedly.

A Cary Players award was named in his memory.

old classrooms where actors would prepare. With a light loft, control room and large stage equipped with a fly loft, the new 400-seat theater was ideal.

But there was a problem with running “A Christmas Story” that year. Cary Players lost the rights to produce it to a professional company performing it at Raleigh’s Memorial Auditorium. That Christmas, Cary Players produced “It’s a Wonderful Life” instead.

This year they’d better check the lamp’s light bulb. They have the rights to produce the show. They have the theater. And they have Matt Schedler, who will play the role of narrator “Ralph” for the fifth time in a Cary Players production. “Matt’s great because he knows the role so well and he captures ‘Ralph’ with the perfect balance of humor and nostalgia,” says director Dan Martschenko.

While Cary Players moves forward, it does so with a heart for the past. For many associated with the all-volunteer company, “A Christmas Story” brings back memories of Wilson Pietzsch (pronounced peach). He was cast as the “Old Man” in the 2006 production, but died unexpectedly just three weeks before opening night.

“It was a shock to all of us,” remembers Martschenko, who co-founded Cary Players. “Wilson had appeared in every Cary Players production up until that point and was one of our original board members.” They con-

sidered cancelling the show. But an actor who played the role the year before relearned the “Old Man’s” lines and stepped in. It was the most-attended show in the pre-Cary Arts Center era. And today Cary Players honors its most

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Every time is a charm for Matt Schedler, who will play the role of “Ralph” for the fifth time in a Cary Players production. “Ralph” is the show’s narrator and the adult version of “Ralphie.”

According to his director, Schedler has the perfect blend of nostalgia and humor.

CARY ARTS CENTER’S HISTORY: A LEARNING EXPERIENCE In addition to the auditorium, the Cary Arts Center has a ceramics studio, kiln, art gallery space and about 16 classrooms. It’s a fitting use for a site that’s history includes three schools. In the 1870s it was home to the original Cary Academy. By 1896 Cary Academy was incorporated into Cary High School, one of the state’s first public high schools. By the early 1900s students throughout North Carolina attended school on the property. In the 1930s the present building was built using neo-classical style. In 1960 it was converted to Cary Elementary when Cary High School opened on Walnut Street.

outstanding performers with Pietzsch awards in memory of Wilson Pietzsch.

The stage version of “A Christmas Story” has some surprises not seen in the movie. Extra characters, such as “Esther Jane,” a young love interest for “Ralphie” and “Red Ryder” himself accompany old standbys such as “Flick” and “Schwartz.” According to Martschenko, the play includes scenes that give audiences a deeper glimpse into “Ralphie’s” imagination.

“It’s a little bit nicer … at least that’s my word for it,” laughs Grannan, who once directed the show for Cary Players. “The family relationship is gentler.” And while the “Old Man” father may be known for his profanity, Martschenko says no swear words are actually said.

Think of it as colorful, family-friendly language, even as “Old Man” discovers that his prized lamp has been broken. Whether audiences think it’s indescribably beautiful or the ugliest thing they’ve ever seen, that lamp – and the story it serves – has a place in Cary’s history.

And when the lights open on “Ralph” remembering “another Christmas in another time … in another place,” those behind the curtain and in front of it will recall “Ralphie’s” quest for a Red Ryder BB gun. They’ll also remember “A Christmas Story” – in other times and other places.

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A CARY CHRISTMAS SATURDAY, DECEMBER 1ST

Here’s a look at Town of Cary events in the historic downtown area: Santa’s Workshop – Cary Teen Council’s annual holiday celebration with crafts for children, entertainment from Cary Ballet Company and a visit from Santa Claus.

Donations of cash and non-perishable food are accepted for a local charity.

Location: Herbert C. Young Community Center. Time: 10am-1pm. Questions?

Call (919) 460-4965.

Heart of Cary Association’s Ole Time Winter Festival – Arts & crafts, entertainment, food, vendors and activities. Location: Downtown Cary.

Time: 10am-4pm.

Heart of the Holidays Gingerbread House Competition – The sweet is on for gingerbread creations! Houses will be on display December 1st. Entries are accepted in these categories: family, teen (13-17) and adult. Location: Downtown Cary.

Page-Walker Arts & History Center Holiday Open House – Experience an old-fashioned Victorian Christmas.

Tour Cary’s 1868 historic hotel, listen to carolers or take a horse-drawn carriage ride. Location: Page-Walker Arts & History Center. Time: 4-6pm.

Official Town of Cary Tree Lighting Ceremony – Make the season official as the tree in front of Town Hall gets a festive look. Talented actors, singers, dancers and musicians will be on stage. Location: Town Hall Campus by the Town Christmas Tree.

Time: 6pm.

“A Christmas Story” – Cary Players presents a hilarious classic based on Jean Shepherd’s movie of the same name. Watch the heart-warming story with your family and friends before or after the tree lighting! Location: Cary Arts Center at the corner of Dry and Academy Streets. Times: 3pm and 8pm.

(Visit www.caryplayers.org for information about tickets and other show dates and times.)

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Charlotte’s Moon and Lola’s personalized acrylic monogram necklace is available in 23 colors and four sizes. The perfect gift for the lady who has everything!

ADORE Designer Resale Boutique, Cary Judith Ripka sterling silver cuff bracelet with three bezel set square cut amethyst stones, inner fretwork and hinged on one side for easy wearablity. $148.99

Beautimous Beads Leather, glass and semi-precious beads are latticed together to wrap your wrist in style. A plethora of colors are in stock for holiday gift giving. $48

Aria Gifts This ceramic piece made by Grasslands is one of the most versatile and beautiful items we carry this Christmas season. This plate is beautifully detailed and comes with a ceramic nutcracker handled knife. $22

Bloom Skin Spa The Eminence Organic Collection tubes are great for trying a new line without investing in full-size products. $59-72 Chocolate Smiles Make a big impression with chocolates and a keepsake tray. Sized to fit Santa’s List. Small tray, as shown, with a halfpound of chocolates $17.50.

Ashworth’s Clothing Peter Millar’s Auckland Element 4 Performance Sweater Fleece. Extreme warmth. Dynamic breathability. $175

Blue Water Spa Donate $25 to the Boys and Girls Club of Wake County and receive $300 off of Juvéderm® from the #1 provider of Juvéderm® in the Triangle.

Diamonds Direct Crabtree Add a splash of color to your holidays this season with one of these stunning gemstone rings!

Cute Buttons Add style to your holiday entertaining this season with these personalized tempered glass cutting boards! Perfect gift for holidays, weddings, or even yourself. Available in two sizes. $43

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Donovan’s Dish Give the gift of delicious this holiday with Donovan’s Dish’s Sweet & Savory Ham Rolls. Just $14 per dozen and guaranteed mouth watering!

Gig’s Boutique Scarves make the perfect gift this holiday season. No need to worry about size or whether it will fit because an accessory will always be a hit!

Elegant Stitches Make gorgeous gifts this year with a sewing and embroidery system with technology so advanced, and features so thoughtful, the experience of sewing on it is simply luxurious.

Featuring the Bernina 830.

The Garden Hut Adorable Skinny Leg Mice, “Hairy” the Gnome, plus velvet hand embroidered pillows and more to deck your halls in the Christmas Shop. Gifts for gardeners and the whole family too! $18.99

Hunt & Gather Fine Estate Furnishings on Glenwood Avenue Tyler candles make the perfect holiday gift, with four sizes and over 15 available scents.

Priced from $3-22.

Great Harvest Bread Company We are baking spirits bright this holiday season! From our family to yours we are baking made-from-scratch breads for holiday gifts to give your friends and clients.

Bella Bridesmaid Kendra Scott has become a household fashion name to women around the world. Cherish Collection – Nyla in Orchid. $95 GNC – Park West Village Raspberry Ketones ($28.99 - 90 caps) and Green Coffee Bean Extract ($21.99 - 60 count) – 2 non-stimulant weight loss supplements seen on several popular daytime TV shows.

Floral Accents and Interiors Festive holiday nutcracker. $33.50

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Stonehaven Jewelry This pendant, designed by Ron Lodholz, features a gorgeous 14 carat zircon complemented by 104 bead-set diamonds in palladium. $8,400

GreenPea Baby Your little girl will look too cute in this Christmas dress by Le Za Me. The dress is hand smocked with Santa and candy canes on a beautiful green damask print. $64

Swagger Gifts & Style Faux fur is the perfect way to stay on trend this fall! Two great colors to choose from for all your fall outfits! Looks great with a chunky long necklace. Wear it with jeans or over a dress!

Harry & David The Crater Lake Gift Basket Classic is a collection of some of our favorite treats inspired by one of our favorite Southern Oregon landmarks, Crater Lake.

A perfect choice for business or personal holiday gifting. $49.95

LeadHead A unique gift idea and perfect piece for any home. Cherish those photographic memories with a custom pencil portrait created from your photos.

J.M. Edwards Fine Jewelry The Submariner watch by Rolex. The perfect partner on land or in the sea for the special someone on your list. $9,050

Lucky Pie Gallery Give the one-of-a-kind person in your life a pair of our, locally crafted, hand-wrapped and beaded glasses or chose one of our other wire-wrapped and beaded kitchen designs. $35.00 for a set of two glasses.

Elaine Miller Collection

Faceted ruby quartz ring set in 24 carat gold “vermeil” over sterling silver. $119

Uniquely designed gold dragonfly cuff by Alexis Bittar. $379

Timeless Roman Goddess earrings accented with cabachon sapphires set in 14 carat gold and oxidized silver.

Designed by Mazza and Co. $695

Extraordinary Cartier estate emerald cut sapphire and diamond ring.

Our customers’ favorite Elizabeth Locke earrings. 19 carat gold with diamonds.

Fabulous Faux Enamel giraffe bangle with magnetic closure. $59

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gift certificates Healing Waters Share the gift of relaxation this holiday season with our perfect spa packages. Perfect for the best mom, spectacular secretary, and all your girlfriends! Packages vary in price.

Nirvelli Day Spa Give the gift of our Cinnamon and Vanilla Hot Stone Massage. It combines elements of Shiatsu, Reflexology and Swedish massage, aromatic oils calm the nerves and restore even the most tired of bodies. $65

Dust and Mop Cary’s locally-owned house cleaning service. A perfect holiday gift for one-time, weekly, bi-weekly and monthly services.

Ask about our gift cards and our Ahhh…

Package, cleaning service for 12 months.

Raleigh Vein & Laser Center Give a gift that can increase confidence and make legs look and feel great. Sclerotherapy is used to treat unsightly spider veins, causing them to collapse and then fade from sight.

Waves of Change A customized hypnosis session is the perfect gift to jump-start a New Year’s Resolution.

Weight loss, smoking cessation, stress management and more! $125

Scruffy Duck Full Service Car Wash and Detail Center Keep your car clean and shiny with a gift card from us. For the retired grandparents who don’t have time to wash their cars, a car wash or detail gift card is a great stocking stuffer. Available in any amount.

Backyard Bistro Happy holidays from Backyard Bistro.

Mention Cary Living between November 8th - December 31st and get a $25 gift card for $20 or a $50 gift card for $40. No expiration date on gift cards.

Chef Mario Chef prepared dinners for a week from Chef Mario’s, Inc! Two person packages start at just $185 Paisan’s Italian Ristorante This is the perfect way to treat family and friends to an authentic Italian dining experience. Mangia!

All Events DJs, Inc. Know someone planning a special event in the upcoming year – wedding, birthday, anniversary? We offer gift certificates in any denomination that can be used towards any of our services such as DJ, photography, lighting and more!

Blockade Runner Beach Resort Give the gift of relaxation! We offer rendezvous packages starting at $99 a night. Enjoy oceanfront accomodations, award-winning prix fixe dinner for two, champagne and chocolate-covered strawberries and breakfast each morning. Gift certificates available.

Music & Rock School Live the rock ‘n’ roll lifestyle with our All-Access rock band experience. Live performances, weekly rehearsals, 100% fun!

Perfect for adults recapturing a dream or kids pursuing one! Three month program for $495.

ShelfGenie The perfect gift for the person who has everything. Our glide-out shelving provides better access, improved storage, and more organizational options for your cabinets and pantry.

Metabolic Research Center Get that jump start on the new year and give someone you care about a gift card to lose weight (special gift card offer – six weeks for $99). Lose up to 30 pounds in six weeks!

Make 2013 your “I Did It” year!

Western Wake Farmers’ Market Give the gift of fresh produce with a CSA (Community Supported Agriculture) share.

The farm provides you and your family with fresh, healthy, local vegetables and fruits.

Shares can be purchased in various sizes, with prices typically ranging from $100-300.

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Joint Venture Jewelry This 3 carat emerald cut 1930s filigree white gold and amethyst ring is perfect for the holidays. $750

Ivy Cottage Collections We carry Hen House Linens that have beautiful colors and patterns, perfect for the holidays and everyday use. $8/napkin, $8/placemat

Maui Wowi Enjoy this fun Maui Wowi Hawaiian basket which includes delicious Hawaiian grown coffee, Hawaiian treats, 24oz souvenier Tiki cup and a Maui Wowi t-shirt. $30

Pattywhacks Gund’s Personalized Storytime Bear reads “Twas The Night Before Christmas” with your little one’s name in the story!

Sophie & Mollies Boutique We have a beautiful collection of jewelry. We have everything from statement piece necklaces to leather inspirational wrap bracelets. A perfect place to find a holiday gift!

Stonehaven Jewelry Hand crafted platinum earrings with pear shaped pink tourmalines topped by marquis diamonds. A classic Stonehaven earring design with a contemporary flair. $3,100

My Girlfriend’s Closet Boutique Serenity strands beautiful handmade, quality-bead bracelets.

Created locally, these stunning, colorful and sparkly bracelets will dress up any outfit! $26. Necklaces also available for $28 each.

Swagger Gifts & Style These monogrammed cuff bracelets are a customer favorite! Choose from tons of patterns and monogram fonts. The sturdy aluminum bracelet will come formed, but you will be able to adjust the shape to fit your wrist. $20

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Main & Taylor Shoe Salon Give the gift of style with this purse and boots by Corral Vintage. $300, purse. $290, boots.

Love All Tennis This preppy tennis necklace features colorful enamel surrounding a gold and crystal tennis racquet inlay and a crystal finished toggle clasp. $38. Matching earrings $25.

Available in other beautiful colors.

Peak Olive Oil Company Our wonderful assortment of specialty oils, extra virgin olive oils and artisan balsamic vinegars make gift selection easy for everyone on your gift list! $20-50

Amorphic Artwork’s Booth at The Perfect Piece One-of-a-kind, hand-built, hand carved, clay luminary by local artist Valerie McConnell. $35.

Total Wine & More Champagne at its best! Not a fan of the bubbly? Try a coastline cabernet gift basket which includes crackers, cheese and wine.

A great holiday gift. Mailly Les Echanson Grand Cru. $119.99

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GreenPea Baby The Ahoy Matey Bath Time Ship is a must have for bath time! With a squirting captain, cannons and planks there is lots of fun to be had. Hidden wheels on the bottom allow for fun outside of the bath too! $30

Warm ‘n Fuzzy Unique gifts for knitters and crocheters. Find specialty yarns, needles and handmade notions. Perfect for knitting by the fire this season! Yarns range from $5 to approximately $40 per skein.

Stylish Living This Apple & Bee envelope/clutch in Japan Silver is the perfect bag to hold items in your suitcase or, with just the right amount of sparkle, as an elegant clutch on date night. $27

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Sixpence Accents Girls need Beaucoup jewelry!

Create a personalized look with sterling silver and 14 carat gold plated charms, crystals and adornments from Beaucoup Designs. Prices range from $12-63.

2012

Luscious Couture Every piece of this Mariana necklace is hand-crafted with Swarovski crystals and is designed with love, warmth and spiritual harmony. $59.99

The Spotted Spaniel Boutique at The Perfect Piece Have a very vintage Christmas!

The LuRay Collection holiday vintage inspired handkerchiefs.

Limited edition fabrics ensure collectability. $7 each

Southern Charm Boutique Trendy wall art monograms as seen on Pinterest. Acrylic or wood designs from 6” to 18”. Several designs to choose from. We also do custom pieces for your door or indoor designs. 18” unfinished wood, $48. 18” acrylic, $170.

The Purple Polka Dot Will you be having a preppy holiday?

This is the perfect gift for every monogram lover! Each wooden bangle is hand painted in a variety of colors. $46

The Pink Alli You won’t find a cuter agenda than the Lilly Pulitzer Agenda 2013. The bright floral patterns of these agendas are stylish and sophisticated, without being too stuffy. Small, $16. Large, $26.

The Sassy Blossom We carry 100% cotton, long or short sleeve pocket tees, monogrammed with your initials in your choice of shirt and font color. Short sleeve, $26. Long sleeve, $32.

The Perfect Piece Our brilliant colored glass bowls will add interest and style to any room.

Various colors and sizes available.

Large, $49.99. Small, $29.99.

Peachy Keen Boutique The holidays are all about glitz and glam.

Pair a sparkly dress with a wrap belt.

Metallic gold wrap dress by Only Hearts $173, burgundy Ada wrap belt $78.

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Moon Audio The LP2 is the ultimate versatile and multipurpose headphone. The Crossfade LP2 is made for people on the move, at the gym or on the stage. $199

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THE REAL NEIGHBORHOOD WATCHDOGS

BY DAVID DROSCHAK

The pilgrimage from the Rust Belt to the Sun Belt has seen Cary’s population accelerate rapidly over the last two decades, with planned communities of every size, shape and form filling out seemingly every square inch of one of North Carolina’s most desirable places to live.

Many from the North previously lived in larger cities or on “streets” not governed by Homeowners Associations. Purchasing a home and moving into neighborhoods linked to HOAs is an education for some. New residents often wonder: What exactly is the function of my HOA? What do my quarterly payments fund?

And the queries don’t stop there. So, Cary Living enlisted one of the leading HOA management firms in North Carolina to answer some of the more frequently asked questions.

“It’s all about maintaining property values, and protecting and hopefully improving your lifestyle to some degree,” said HRW president Cathy Wade, whose firm is celebrating its 30th anniversary in the Triangle.

HRW provides management services to more than 100 communities, ranging in size in Cary from 14 lots (Friendship Corner) to 2,000 (Lochmere).

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The following are some of the more frequently asked questions about HOAs: Who is on my HOA board? Folks just like you. All HOAs are run by volunteer residents in your planned community who vote on a long list of neighborhood items, including a budget for items like community curb appeal and pool upkeep. “Our goal is to keep things simple. It’s not rocket science,” Wade said. “Our job as an HOA management firm is to promote harmony in the community and help communities plan for the future as they change over time.

We like to promote positive neighborhood events and community building, so if there is an annual meeting you can make it into more of a social event.”

Do I need to contact my HOA if I’m changing the color of my house? Technically, yes. Any significant changes to the exterior of your house or yard require HOA approval.

“The intentions of the associations are to control the esthetics of the community, so your color palette has to be approved, but it also extends to fences, decks, anything like that because it can change the personality of the community,” Wade said. If you have any questions on items that need prior approval, a copy of your neighborhood’s governing documents are public record.

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Why does our community pool close after Labor Day? Pools fall under one of the most frequently asked “4P’s” questions that include pets, parking and plants. “Pool is a big one,” Wade said. “Your community budget is going to drive how long your pool stays open and whether you have lifeguards or not. We always encourage homeowners to participate in board meetings and look at the pool and ask, ‘Are we getting maximum use out of it and are we spending more money than we should?’ Be part of the solution to design something that works for your community.”

Why does our planned community need an HOA management firm? Running a business as volunteers can be next to impossible with time constraints and financial knowledge not always readily available among HOA board members. That’s where firms like HRW provide much needed experience. “We manage the financial funds for the association, helping them with long-range planning,” Wade said. “And as communities age they have different needs, so we also help boards think about ways they can configure their community so it remains a place where people want to buy.”

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NOVEMBER | DECEMBER 2012

ORNAMENT PARTY November 1-3 | Sassy Blossom Tryon Village Shopping Center | Cary www.thesassyblossom.com

THE RALEIGH SCHOOL: 18 MONTHS – 5 YEARS PROSPECTIVE PARENTS November 2, 16, 30 | 9:15-10:30am November 6, 27 | 1:15-2:30pm RSVP at 919.828.5351 www.raleighschool.org FALL CRAFT FAIR November 3 | 8am-1pm Western Wake Farmers’ Market 1225 Morrisville Carpenter Rd. | Cary www.westernwakefarmersmarket.org CHINESE BRUSH PAINTING November 3, 10, 17; December 8 9:30am-12:30pm | Chambers Arts 200 S. Academy St. | Suite 130 | Cary info@chambersarts.com | 919-460-8047 ANNUAL HARVEST TEA November 4 | 4pm | Spy Raleigh 330 West Davie St. | Raleigh BEGINNING KNITTING November 6 & 13 | 10am-12pm Warm ‘N Fuzzy | 200 S. Academy St. Suite 140 | Cary | www.warmnfuzzy.net WINE TASTING November 7 | 6-8pm | The Garden Hut 1004 Old Honeycutt Rd. | Fuquay-Varina www.NelsasGardenHut.com

MOMMY AND ME PRESCHOOL ARTS & CRAFTS November 7, 14, 28 & December 5, 12, 19 9:15-9:45am | LeadHead Studio 212 East Chatham St. | Cary www.leadhead.net THE RALEIGH SCHOOL: KDG – 5TH PROSPECTIVE PARENTS November 8, 29 | 9:15-11am RSVP at 919.546.0788 ext. 117 www.raleighschool.org COREN MOORE TRUNK SHOW November 9-10 | By Appointment Only Raleigh Bella Bridesmaid 2425 Kildaire Farm Rd. | Suite 305 Cary | www.bellabridesmaid.com ANNUAL CAMPAIGN CELEBRATION November 10 | 8am-12pm Western Wake Farmers’ Market 1225 Morrisville Carpenter Rd. | Cary www.westernwakefarmersmarket.org

CHINESE BRUSH PAINTING November 11 | 1-4pm | The Nature of Art at Chambers Arts | 200 S. Academy St. Suite 130 | Cary | 919-553-5633 www.TheNatureOfArtFrameShop.com PARTY WITH SANTA November 11 | 1-5pm | GreenPea Baby 106 North Salem St. | Apex www.greenpeababystore.com WBON HOLIDAY GALA AND SCHOLARSHIP AUCTION November 13 | 5:30-7:30pm Homewood Suites | Cary www.womenbusinessassociation.com

PERSONALIZATION PARTY November 15 | 4-7pm Sassy Blossom | Cary www.thesassyblossom.com ULTHERAPY UPLIFTING SEMINAR November 15 | Bloom Skin Spa 527 Keisler Dr. | Suite 204 | Cary 919-233-3992 HOLIDAY EXTRAVAGANZA TRUNK SHOW November 16 & 17: 10am-8pm November 18: 12-6pm Diamonds Direct Crabtree 4401 Glenwood Ave. | Raleigh www.Diamonds-Direct.com TRIMMING THE TREE SEMINARS November 17 & 24 | 10:30am & 1:30pm Floral Accents & Interiors 220 W. Chatham St. | Cary | 919-460-9663 DRAG BRUNCH November 18 | 12:30pm | Solas | 419 Glenwood Ave. | Raleigh | 919-755-0755 PRE-THANKGIVING MARKET November 20 | 2-5pm Western Wake Farmers’ Market 1225 Morrisville Carpenter Rd. | Cary www.westernwakefarmersmarket.org HUGE BLACK FRIDAY SALE November 23 | Sassy Blossom | Cary www.thesassyblossom.com SHOP SMALL BUSINESS SATURDAY November 24 | GreenPea Baby 106 North Salem St. | Apex www.greenpeababystore.com CARY ACADEMY HOLIDAY SHOPPE November 29: 10am-5pm November 30: 10am-5pm and 6:30-9pm December 1: 10am-4pm Cary Academy | www.caryacademy.org

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FINAL FRIDAY ART OPENING November 30 | 6-9pm | Chambers Arts!

200 South Academy St. | Suite 130 | Cary www.chambersarts.com THE RALEIGH SCHOOL: KDG – 5TH PROSPECTIVE PARENTS December 3, 11, 14 | 9:15-11am RSVP at 919.546.0788 ext. 117 www.raleighschool.org SLEIGH RIDES & TREE LIGHTING December 6 | 6-8pm Downtown Fuquay-Varina www.fuquay-varinadowntown.com LADIES’ NIGHT December 6 | 6-8pm The Garden Hut | 1004 Old Honeycutt Rd. Fuquay-Varina | www.NelsasGardenHut.com CHRISTMAS BAND & CHORAL CONCERT December 6 | 7pm | GRACE Christian School | 1051 Buck Jones Rd. | Raleigh www.gracechristian.net BLING NIGHT PARTY December 6 | 6-9pm | ADORE Designer Resale Boutique | 8111 Creedmoor Rd. Raleigh | www.adoreboutiques.com APEX NATIVITY CELEBRATION December 6 & 7: 6-9pm December 8: 3-9pm | Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints | 590 Bryan Dr. | Apex www.apexnativity.org THE RALEIGH SCHOOL: KDG – 5TH PROSPECTIVE PARENTS December 6 | 7pm | Information Evening RSVP at 919.546.0788 ext. 117 www.raleighschool.org ASSOCIA CARES AWARDS CELEBRATION December 6 | 5-7pm | HRW Office 4700 Homewood Ct. | Suite 380 Raleigh | www.associacares.com

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LULAKATE TRUNK SHOW December 7-8 | By Appointment Only Raleigh Bella Bridesmaid 2425 Kildaire Farm Rd. | Suite 305 Cary | www.bellabridesmaid.com THE RALEIGH SCHOOL: 18 MONTHS – 5 YEARS PROSPECTIVE PARENTS December 7, 14 | 9:15-10:30am December 4, 11 | 1:15-2:30pm RSVP at 919.828.5351 www.raleighschool.org HOLIDAY POPS IN CARY December 8 | 3-8pm | Cary Arts Center 101 Dry Ave. | Cary | www.townofcary.org KINDERGARTEN-6TH GRADE CHRISTMAS PROGRAM December 11 | 9am | GRACE Christian School | 821 Buck Jones Rd. | Raleigh www.gracechristian.net MEN’S NIGHT December 13 | 4-8pm | Sassy Blossom Cary | www.thesassyblossom.com A VERY CARY CHRISTMAS December 14: 7pm December 15: 2 & 7pm December 16: 2pm | Cary Arts Center 101 Dry Ave. | Cary | www.townofcary.org HOLIDAY DRAG BRUNCH December 16 | 12:30pm | Solas | 419 Glenwood Ave. | Raleigh | 919-755-0755 GUYS’ NIGHT December 20 | 6-8pm The Garden Hut | 1004 Old Honeycutt Rd. Fuquay-Varina | www.NelsasGardenHut.com PRE-CHRISTMAS MARKET December 22 | 10am-12pm Western Wake Farmers’ Market 1225 Morrisville Carpenter Rd. | Cary www.westernwakefarmersmarket.org

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BY CHRISTA GALA

You’ve heard it said that diamonds are forever but, really, your teeth are what you wish came with an unlimited lifetime warranty. But we often don’t give much thought to our teeth until they start giving us problems.

The best strategy is preventive. Instead of taking for granted what you do know about healthy teeth, we’ve asked several local dentists to tell us what you may not know.

ATTACK PLAQUE AND GUM DISEASE Dr. Paul Kazmer Jr., DMD,MS,PA Periodontics & Implant Dentistry 3550 NW Cary Parkway, Suite 106, Cary 919-468-6410 www.kazmerperio.com

“Most dental problems are caused by plaque, that sticky bacterial film that you brush to remove,” says

Dr. Kazmer. “It’s hard to beat an electric toothbrush.

Investing in a good quality electric brush like an Oral B/Braun or a Sonicare is your best weapon. Keep the plaque away and prevent many dental problems.”

Another culprit for tooth loss? Gum disease. In September 2012, the Centers for Disease Control (CDC) reported 47 percent of adults in the U.S. have some form of gum disease, otherwise known as periodontitis.

“Has your dentist or hygienist ever mentioned ‘pockets,’ or ‘bone loss?’” says Dr. Kazmer. If so, you may be a candidate for gum disease.

“Fortunately, one of the biggest advancements in dentistry in recent years has been in how we treat gum disease,” continues Dr. Kazmer. “Many forms of gum disease can now be treated with a laser procedure. Gum surgery that involves incisions and sutures can now be done with a laser instead. Discomfort is very minimal, patients experience very little down time, and the results are predictable.”

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GIVING KIDS A GOOD START Dr. Raymond J. Tseng, DDS, PhD. High House Pediatric Dentistry 351 Wellesley Trade Lane, Cary 919-267-4211 www.highhousepedo.com

Q. When should I take my child for his first dental checkup?

A. “It does not take a very long time for a cavity to form in a baby tooth,” says Dr. Raymond Tseng of High House Pediatric Dentistry. His patients affectionately call him “Dr. Ray.” “The American Academy of Pediatric Dentistry generally recommends that children have their first visit by their first birthday. Our practice follows that guideline, especially for first-time parents.

We find that kids who start with dental visits at an earlier age tend to have fewer cavities overall, have cleaner mouths, and are more comfortable and happier when they go for a dental visit.”

Q. What, if anything, should I be doing those first few months?

A. Brushing involves having something rub against a child’s gums or teeth and having the child get used to the process twice a day. Parents can help their children with this even before the first tooth erupts and before the first visit. Prior to the eruption of teeth, parents can use a wet cloth to wipe the gums and start to do this in the morning and night. When teeth erupt, parents can use a training toothpaste and a toothbrush, again twice a day. This will help a child gradually transition to going to the dentist regularly and also get used to having his teeth brushed and eventually flossed.

Q. My child is terrified of going to the dentist.

How should I handle this?

A. The most important thing is to be positive! If you have had negative experiences in the past, try not to let these influence how you talk to your child. Dental visits for children have come a long way and are usually fun experiences. Parents can tell their children that at the first visit, the dentist will take pictures of the teeth, count them, clean them, and paint on “tooth vitamins” (fluoride varnish) to help the teeth become stronger. From chocolate or birthday cake-flavored toothpaste, to the ever-popular stickers and prizes for a job well done, the first dental visit can be made into something that kids look forward to.

Q. How are pediatric dentists different from traditional dentists?

A. Pediatric dentists have undergone additional training, examination and certification that allow them to manage the mental and dental needs of infants, children, adolescents and individuals with special healthcare needs. The most important thing for parents is to find a provider they trust and one that can make a connection with your child.

DID YOU KNOW… • After the common cold, tooth decay is the most common disease in the U.S.?

• Fifty percent of lifethreatening diseases have oral symptoms?

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WHEN YOU JUST WANT TO CHECK OUT… Dr. Paula Stapleton Stapleton Dentistry 8204 Tryon Woods Drive, Cary 919-851-6161 www.stapletondentistry.com

If even the idea of going to the dentist makes you nervous, Dr. Paula Stapleton of Stapleton Dentistry understands. In fact, more than 30 percent of Americans avoid necessary dental work due to fear or anxiety of the dentist, according to the Dental Organization for Conscious Sedation.

There’s even a term for this anxiety: dental phobia. Like many phobias, the fear doesn’t always make sense.

“Today’s dental patients are experiencing far less pain and discomfort than they were even ten years ago,” says Dr. Stapleton. “Despite this fact, there are millions of Americans who continue to avoid going to the dentist out of anxiety or fear that they will have a traumatic, painful experience. Dental phobia is often a result of bad experiences with dentists in the past or a fear of loss of control, and has contributed to millions of people having unmet dental needs such as tooth decay or periodontal (gum) disease.”

Avoiding the dentist isn’t the answer. Stapleton’s office utilizes sedation dentistry for routine procedures as well as more advanced procedures such as root canals.

The following reasons might indicate sedation dentistry: • A history of traumatic dental incidents; • Anxiety attacks; • Claustrophobia, fear of needles or any other medical or dental-related phobias; • Difficulty sitting still for extended periods of time; • Difficulty controlling movements – individuals with cerebral palsy, restless leg syndrome or other neuromuscular disorders; • Natural resistance to local anesthetics; and • Overly sensitive teeth, gums, jaw or gag reflex.

“Sedation dentistry also allows dentists to perform multiple extensive procedures in one sitting that would have previously required multiple dental visits,” says Stapleton.

ABOUT YOUR TOOTHBRUSH...

• Hard, medium or soft?

Soft bristles are best because they won’t cause gingival recession.

• Electric or traditional?

Although an electric toothbrush is often easier to use,

a traditional brush does the same job as long as it’s used correctly.

• Handle shape? Irrelevant!

Studies show handle shapes had little effect on overall results.

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DentAl MythS: trUe or FAlSe

• An apple a day keeps the dentist away. False.

People who eat a lot of apples are three times more likely to have dental problems than those who don’t.

• Fifty percent of adults admit to having some fear about going to the dentist. True.

• Flossing once a day can increase your life span by six years. True.

• In the U.S., 25 percent of people have some stage of periodontal disease. False: It’s 75 percent.

• Keep your toothbrush three feet away from the toilet as flushing can transfer bacteria from the toilet to the toothbrush. False: Keep it at least six feet away.

PREVENTION IS KEY Dr. Wayne Beavers Beavers Caring Family Dentistry 1146 Executive Circle, Cary 919-467-0654 www.beaversdentistry.com

Dr. Wayne Beavers has been practicing in Cary for decades. But there’s one thing that hasn’t changed over the years. Prevention is truly the best medicine for healthy teeth.

Your second best bet? Early detection and early treatment.

“It’s still very timely,” says Beavers. “It’s important to repair small problems to prevent more advanced needs.”

The most common mistake Beavers sees patients making is not flossing. The American Dental Association recommends flossing at least once a day. When you’re too tired to floss, remember that you’re missing about 35 percent of your tooth surfaces, according to the CDC. Flossing removes bacteria and food particles your brush can’t reach. If that food isn’t removed, it starts to rot, leading to bad breath and tooth decay.

You might also want to delve a bit into your family dental history. “There is a genetic component to dental health; some people are more susceptible to dental problems than others,” says Beavers. If you know you have a family history, that’s even more incentive to stay on top of prevention.

Other good preventive measures include regular checkups and tooth sealants for children and teens. Dental sealants are thin plastic coatings applied to the chewing surfaces of the back teeth (usually molars) to protect them from decay. It’s best to apply sealants as soon as the teeth erupt.

Finally, when going through life transitions, make sure your good dental habits survive the change. “Sometimes I notice college freshmen seem to forget good preventive care and study while sipping soft drinks – a bad combination.”

Opt for food and drinks – at least sometimes – that are low in sugar or have no sugar.

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GOLD

Holiday S LUSCIOUS COUTURE, $49.99

It’s time to pull out the glitz and glam and rock the holiday season in style. Whether you choose to go all out when dressing up for holiday festivities or prefer to keep it real by simply jazzing up your everyday duds, it’s time to let your own sense of style shine through.

A trick to live by for party dressing: Have an array of glam, always-in-style black and gold accessories on hand in order to make those silk blouses and cotton dresses stand out in the crowd. It’s one of the easiest tricks in the event-dressing book. Black and gold accessories are a classic.

MY GIRLFRIEND’S CLOSET BOUTIQUE, $178

GIGI’S BOUTIQUE, $30

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y Style BEAUTIMOUS BEADS, $44.50

THE PURPLE POLKA DOT, $36

JOINT VENTURE JEWELRY, $550

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FINANCIALFOCUS

DON’T MAKE TAX TIME

MORE TAXING THAN NECESSARY

BY KELLY B. GREEN-KRIST, CPA, CGMA | GREEN-KRIST, CPA PLLC

Few things in life are more dreaded than tax time. Taxes don’t need to be so stress-inducing, though. There are some simple things you can do now to help ease your burden – and your mind – in 2013.

Start by scheduling a meeting with a tax professional before the end of the year. The sooner, the better. This meeting is crucial, given the potential changes that could be in store with the tax code beginning in 2013.

Then, get organized. Your tax preparer can best help you if you are prepared. Every CPA has had clients show up with a shoebox full of documents. (Once, I had a lovely client who brought me a storage box with flowers. It was very pretty but not very organized.) Keeping documents organized, whether they are W-2s, 1099s, mortgage or investment statements, will save you time, money and headaches.

Most CPAs charge based on the number of tax forms and schedules we need to complete. We also have to charge a fee to organize documents that don’t come to us in good order.

Depending upon the volume, this could range from $150 to upwards of $300. If you organize your documents yourself, that’s money in your pocket. Organization can be as old school as an accordion file or as elaborate as a software program.

Still not convinced it pays to be organized? Consider this: Disorganized documentation may lead to missed deductions. Let’s say you have a bunch of receipts in a box but nothing documented as to what they were for. You could miss out on business deductions such as meals and entertainment. If you are an employee, you could miss out on taking an unreimbursed employee business expense.

A CPA can help ensure you take all the deductions you’re entitled to. I’ve heard from a number of clients who are concerned over taking the home office deduction. They seem to think taking this deduction increases their risk of an audit. While the IRS does focus attention on certain deductions, such as the Earned Income Credit, the home office deduction does not in itself increase your risk of an audit. If you are entitled to a deduction, take it.

Another way you may miss out on deductions is by going it alone – without the aid of a CPA or tax software. There are those who are intent on the DIY route. For those people, I recommend a software package, such as Turbo Tax, which I’ve used to do my personal taxes. I like the program. It’s user friendly, but there is only so much it can do. If you answer a question incorrectly, you may risk losing a deduction. A friend who used a software program to complete her taxes answered a question incorrectly and missed out on a $9,000 deduction.

We eventually filed an amended return, but these types of mistakes happen. These programs are ideal if you are familiar with taxes and/or have an extremely simple tax return.

If you decide to use a CPA, the first thing you should look for is someone you connect with. Trust is a major factor in the CPA/client relationship, and it goes both ways. My clients need to trust that I have their best interests at heart, and I need to trust that they are providing me with accurate information. You also want a CPA who asks questions – about your business, your personal financial goals and, most importantly, why you are leaving your current CPA (if that’s the case).

The tax code is always changing, and sometimes even retroactively. Confusing? Yes. The frequent changes can cause people to miss out on deductions they were entitled to or take deductions they weren’t entitled to. Even if you think your return is simple, it’s always worth speaking to a CPA. A CPA knows what questions to ask that will keep you in compliance with the IRS and possibly save you money. And if you are ever audited by the IRS, definitely seek the advice of a CPA. There are many tax cuts scheduled to expire at the end of 2012 and many new taxes that will go into effect in 2013 due to The Patient Protection and Affordable Care Act. The best way to stay educated on these changes is to work with a CPA. Hiring a CPA you trust may not make April 15th a day worth celebrating, but it can make you dread it a lot less.

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COMING UP IN THE NEXT

WESTERN WAKE WEDDINGS Planning your big day? Don’t miss Cary Living’s 2013 Western Wake Wedding Guide for everything you need to know about saying “I do!”

HEALTHY LIVING IN THE NEW YEAR We’ll look at everything that being healthy means.

RETIREMENT It’s a 10-letter word that either describes the best years of your life, or panic! We introduce you to the best in retirement options and offer you tips on making retirement the best years of your life.

BRRR...IT’S COLD OUTSIDE! We’ll ask local boutiques to share with us their favorite scarves for winter! We’ll give you tips on how to wear them.

every issue

• SIGHTINGS • HEALTHY LIVING TIPS • CHEF’S CORNER • CALENDAR OF EVENTS • TALK OF THE TOWN • & MUCH MORE!

Look for the JANUARY | FEBRUARY edition on shelves the first week of January.

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GUIDING YOUR THROUGH THE

MEDICARE MAZE

BY BRYAN PEARSON | BRYAN PEARSON & ASSOCIATES

This year Medicare beneficiaries will find more choices with lower costs when they review their Medicare plan options during the Open Enrollment Period now through December 7th. That’s because on average Medicare Advantage premiums are 10% lower than they were just two years ago. Currently one out of every four Medicare recipients – about 12 million people – choose to receive their Medicare benefits through a Medicare Advantage Plan, and the Department of Health and Human Services (HHS) expects 2012 enrollment to increase by 11%.

Medicare Advantage, also known as Part C Medicare, is a program that allows people with Medicare a way to get more from their healthcare dollars. The concept is that private insurers can manage costs and offer plans with better coverage than the government’s own top down insurance plan. You still have all the rights and protections of original Medicare, with added benefits and services.

Medicare Advantage plans aren’t supplemental coverage – they are health insurance plans from private insurance companies who are contracted with Medicare to provide your original Medicare benefits. By law, Medicare Advantage Plans must provide at least the same coverage that you get with original Medicare Parts A and B, and most plans include Part D prescription drug coverage as well (MA+PD). Medicare Advantage Plans have predictable out-of-pocket maximums for covered services and may include extra benefits and services you don’t get with Medicare like vision, dental, preventive and wellness services and even membership at local fitness clubs.

Some points to consider: • With a Medicare Advantage plan you’ll be using a provider network, so be sure to check that the doctors and facilities you

want to use are in network and how your plan works if you go outside of your network.

• Remember, you are always covered for emergency and urgent care services nationwide and most plans provide worldwide coverage for emergencies.

• A Medicare Supplement Insurance policy will not work with Medicare Advantage. There is no need to have both Medicare Advantage and a Medicare Supplement.

• Medicare Advantage Plans have an annual cap on how much you pay for Part A and B services during the year. This annual maximum out-of-pocket amount can be different between Medicare Advantage Plans. You should consider this when you choose a plan.

• To join a Medicare Advantage Plan you must live in the service area of the plan. You must also be enrolled in Medicare Part A and Part B. • Every year the Centers for Medicare and Medicaid Services (CMS) grade the overall performance of all Medicare Advantage Plans and assigns each a rating of from one “star” (poor) to five “stars” (excellent), making it easy for you to compare plans. Consider plans that have consistent 4 or 5 star ratings. Ratings for Medicare Advantage Plans are available at www.medicare.gov.

You’ll have a chance to review and make changes to your current Medicare Advantage Plan or Medicare Prescription Drug coverage for the following year. The Annual Open Enrollment for 2013 is October 15th through December 7th, 2012. Remember, if you’re happy with your current plan you don’t have to do a thing.

Or you can look for a different plan that provides better coverage, lower premiums or both.

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Proud dad daughter raises money for

BY CHRISTA GALA

Cary’s seventh annual Triangle Down Syndrome Network (TDSN) Charity Golf Tournament on Saturday, October 6th raised more than $53,000.

“The weather was absolutely perfect without a cloud in the sky,” says tournament founder and Cary resident Lou Giambalvo.

The tournament began seven years ago as Lou and Esther Giambalvo’s personal mission to raise money to create a place where their daughter, Gianna, 17, who has Down Syndrome could one day live independently but with some supervision.

That personal mission is becoming a reality with big sponsors like Maggiano’s, Credit Suisse, Modern Woodmen, IBM and Johnson Lexus. This year, the tourney at The Preserve at Jordan Lake raised more money than ever before. “We had 41 hole sponsors, the most since the inception of the tournament,” says Giambalvo. “We had the pleasure to have three great local

restaurants out on the golf course sponsoring holes and giving out food to the golfers: Ruckus, Firebirds and Hooters.”

What started as a grassroots golf tournament seven years ago has raised enough money and awareness to create the HopeSpring Village Board of Directors, which has been researching good examples of Down Syndrome housing options across the country in the hopes of building a home right here in the Triangle.

Gianna Giambalvo continued her tradition of giving the golfers and volunteers a heartfelt sendoff speech as well as a word of thanks for their efforts – something else that makes Giambalvo proud.

“I think people look forward to what she’s going to say, and she always draws a tear,” he says. “She speaks from the heart.”

To learn more, visit: www.triangledownsyndrome.org or www.hopespringvillage.com.

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These women used to sit on the sidelines.

But then they got game.

The laughter was what surprised friends Camille Lewis and Julie Llanes the most.

“In the locker room, Camille and I just laughed the whole time putting on our hockey gear,” says Llanes, 40. “You feel like this big, giant oompha loompha. Then, after each drill down the ice, I would just laugh. It was so fun. She and I have been addicted ever since.”

That’s how Llanes and Lewis, two friends from Cary, made the transition from hockey moms to hockey players – laughing.

Before that, though, there was trepidation. Sure, their sons played hockey, but what business did they have being on the ice?

“Hockey wasn’t on my radar,” says Llanes, 40, who works full-time and has four kids ages 13, 10, 8 and 5. “If you would have asked me for a list of things I’d want to do with my free time, hockey was nowhere in there. But watching the boys, it looked like fun, and we just thought it would be a neat thing to try.”

Lewis, 44, has two kids ages 11 and 9. Growing up in Canada, she knew how to skate and was curious about the game. “When I was growing up, they just weren’t encouraging girls to play so I had never played before.”

The two wheedled each other for a few weeks at their sons’ practices, until finally one day Llanes texted Lewis: “Let’s do it.” So the two signed up for an eight-week session of the co-ed Adult Learn to Play class at the Polar Ice House of Cary. Although the class had a handful of women, the majority of the players were men.

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Friends Julie Llanes (left) and Camille Lewis (right) convinced each other to learn to play ice hockey and now play for the NC Trailblazers on opposing teams.

“I have to admit, if the Learn to Play league had been women only, I might have signed up alone, but not with a co-ed league,” says Lewis. “If you have a friend who’s counting on you to go, it really makes you stick with it.”

‘YOU CANNOT THINK OF ANYTHING ELSE’ Llanes and Lewis completed two sessions of Learn to Play instruction and now play for an all-women hockey league, the NC Trailblazers. They’re not on the same team – organizers try to

spread out the newbies – but they’re still having a blast. The season lasts for 12 weeks, and each team plays one game a week, usually on Friday or Sunday nights.

“Now that I’m doing it, I look forward to Sunday nights like you wouldn’t believe,” says Llanes. “Before, I would kind of dread them because I’d think, ‘It’s back to work, back to school.’”

Lewis adds: “I just love it, it’s a great workout and great stress-relief. Since we’re just learning the game, it takes a lot of concentration. You really just cannot think of anything else when you’re on the ice.”

Llanes has been surprised at her competitive streak – the one she thought was gone once she started having kids. “I couldn’t believe the competitiveness it brought back out in me,” she says.

“You have that when you’re younger but you forget. It comes back.”

That kind of talk is music to Margaret Lillard’s ears.

Lillard, 52, has been playing ice hockey since 1995. She picked up the sport in Brooklyn when she was working as a journalist for the Associated Press. She plays defense now in the

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Trailblazers league and also helps teach the kids’ Learn to Play classes at the Polar Ice House. As an AP reporter, she covered both Olympic and NHL hockey from 1997 to 2004.

She’s passionate about it and loves introducing the sport to others, especially beginners.

“Hockey seems like a very intimidating thing to take up for fun – and it’s not cheap,” says Lillard, a certified USA Hockey coach. “But the Trailblazers was created to help adult women learn to enjoy hockey to the fullest, by giving it a try themselves. We make a particular effort to bring new players to the sport and keep it as affordable and fun as possible.

“Plus, many of the hockey moms in our program have kids who play and often husbands who play as well,” Lillard continues. “They learn together and it becomes a family passion. And you should see the expression some of the kids get when they see their moms play for the first time: ‘Wow, I didn’t know my mom was so cool!’”

Although Lewis’ 11-year-old daughter is “slightly horrified” that yet another family member has taken up hockey – she’s the only non-player in the family now – her 9-year-old son thinks it’s great. “My son was like, ‘Of course you can play hockey.’ He didn’t have any pre-conceived notions that you can’t play if you’re not a guy or you can’t play if you’re old,” says Lewis. “My husband, I think, has been completely shocked by how much my friends and I love it.”

FLYING ON THE ICE Both Llanes and Lewis get out on the ice with their sons now.

“All the rinks around here have ‘stick and puck,’ which is kind of like public skating for hockey,” explains Lewis. “You just show up and you can go on the ice in your hockey gear with sticks and pucks and just practice skills with each other. Sometimes there will be an impromptu scrimmage. It’s people of all ages out there playing hockey.”

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The biggest misconception is that we play a different brand of hockey from the guys. Sure, most of us don’t have lifelong experience and haven’t played at a high level.

But when we play, we’re as serious about having a good, challenging game as any other recreational player. The other idea I wish people would get over is that a woman who’s learned to play as an adult doesn’t know what she’s doing; many of us are not espe-

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cially fast, but we do know what offsides means, thank you.

– Margaret Lillard, Trailblazers hockey player and USA Hockey certified coach

Lillard says she was just as surprised as Llanes and Lewis when she took up the sport 17 years ago. “I was never terribly athletic,” Lillard says. “I worked one summer as a lifeguard and I took riding lessons for a few years. So it was quite a revelation that I could play hockey. I’m not a great player, but I do all right for a non-athlete who first stepped on the ice in her mid-30s. It’s funny that after being the scrawniest person in my family for all but the past decade, they think of me now as a jock.

“Plus, even for the lousiest player,” Lillard continues, “there’s this sense when you’re on the ice that you’re almost flying. It certainly beats plodding along with one foot in front of the other.”

TAKING IT UP A NOTCH Learning something new – and doing something for ourselves – is just a lot of fun. It not only improves our mood and

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SHOP

Stone Creek Village

Want to play hockey?

Polar Ice House of Cary Adult Learn to Play sessions last for eight weeks, one hour per session.

Cost is $120; full gear required. www.icehousecary.com N.C. Trailblazers Women’s league plays Fridays and Sundays at 6:30 p.m. Season lasts 12 weeks.

Cost is $240; full gear required. www.nctrailblazers.org

outlook on life, but can also affect our brain health.

Research shows our brains have the ability to change no matter how old we are. It’s called “brain plasticity.” A brain that is 70 is just as capable of learning and changing as a brain that’s 30. Then again, if you don’t use certain circuits of the brain, they begin weakening and shrinking. Some research shows engaging the brain by learning new things can stave off Alzheimer’s and dementia.

Taking up hockey convinced Lewis. “It really reminded me that you’re never too old to try something new. I never thought I would play hockey but here I am.

I’m almost 44, and I’m just starting. Sometimes I think you just need to push yourself to try something new, even if you’re nervous about it.”

In fact, Lillard says the league’s biggest challenge is to find other women to play against. “As president and an assistant coach in past years, I tried hard to encourage women to give it a shot; I’ve even loaned my gear to people,” says Lillard. “But the best advertisement is when women bring their kids to the rink and see us taking the ice; they’re like, ‘Hey, if she can do that, why not me? And I say, ‘No reason at all; come on out.’”

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Now That’s Italian!

Paisan’s Embraces Family and Food

EDITORIAL AND PHOTOGRAPHY BY DAVID DROSCHAK

If everything goes as planned, expect to receive a warm hug from Lisa Ferstler after your hearty meal at one of Cary’s newest restaurants.

“Hey, I give hugs, I’m a hugger, it’s Italian, it’s just the way I am,” said Ferstler, coowner and general manager of Paisan’s Italian Ristorante in the Maynard Crossing shopping center.

“It makes the customers feel good and it makes me feel good because they are pleased.”

Ferstler can’t help but to treat her customers like family. It’s in her blood. Don’t let her last name fool you. The maiden name of Ceriello and her Flushing, N.Y., and Long Island roots give her plenty of credence on the Italian front.

And her husband David moved the couple to the Triangle area and opened the first of three Michelangelo’s Pizza shops 20 years ago.

While the pizza shops flourished, Lisa still dreamed of opening her own restaurant, featuring family recipes. What’s truly authentic Italian food to her?

“Recipes carried down from the family – the staples of our house – the idea of making people feel comfortable while they are eating, that’s authentic Italian,” she says.

Mission accomplished with an 85-seat restaurant that could easily double as an outside bistro in Naples, with its wrought iron motif accented with window frames and flower boxes. And don’t forget to stop by two of the walls to check out the black-and-white family photos of weddings and first communions dating to the 1930s.

The interior is truly Italian … and as warm as a Ferstler hug on a chilly December day. And with homemade meatballs that combine veal, pork, beef and lots and lots of cheese, patrons are in for some tasty food from start to finish.

“The basis of everything we’ve always done is food,” said Jacqui Hakooz, Lisa’s sister and Paisan’s marketing director, “Every time we get together there is always food. Mom would make a pot of sauce on Sundays and you always would smell it, and whoever came in wanted a meatball. There were tons of

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meatballs and you would grab a piece of Italian bread and dip it in the sauce to make sure the sauce was okay. There was always plenty, so if somebody showed up by accident they got to sit down at the table and eat.”

“That’s the one comment I get here, that our plates are so full,” Lisa added. “I say, ‘Well, it’s Italian, you’ve got to make sure you have enough food for everybody.”’

It’s sort of ironic how Paisan’s came together, though.

Lisa was still dreaming, and not really looking for a restaurant location when the lease was expiring at the Harrison Avenue pizza shop. The Maynard Crossings location was offered up, and one of the three Michelangelo’s was set to move. However, another pizzeria was set to open in that same shopping center … so, Paisan’s was suddenly born.

“When I told the family their jaws dropped and they said, ‘Really?’” she said.

Paisan’s opened March 1st after a bittersweet 2011.

David’s father passed away in February and Lisa lost her dad a few months later. Caricatures of the faces of Francis (Pop Pop) and Frank (Poppy) catch your eye as you enter the restaurant.

The family, including Lisa’s mom, tries to gather each Sunday in their back corner table to break bread and pour some “gravy,” which is what true New York Italians call sauce.

“Food is something that needs to be described with love,” Lisa said. “I told my chef he has to cook with love.

You can see the love in every plate of food that comes out of our kitchen.”

Meatballs 1 pound ground beef ½ pound ground pork ½ pound ground veal ½ cup Italian parsley, chopped 1 cup grated Pecorino Romano cheese

4 cloves garlic, minced 1 cup Italian seasoned breadcrumbs 3 eggs 3 teaspoons salt 1 teaspoon black pepper

Mix all the ingredients thoroughly in a large bowl by hand. Add a little water if mixture seems dry. Roll meatballs to about the size of a golf ball, and brown slowly 1 ½” apart in hot vegetable oil that will fill a skillet ½” deep. Turn them often so they don’t stick to the pan. When the meatballs are browned well on all sides, remove from the pan and drain on paper towels. Don’t worry about the center getting cooked through, as you will finish these in the gravy (red sauce). Add the next batch to the pan and continue until all are cooked. Place into gravy (red sauce) when done frying and let simmer for a few hours.

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BY DAN BAIN PHOTOGRAPHY BY SEAN JUNQUEIRA PHOTOGRAPHY

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When I was 16, my best friend was killed while riding in a car that slammed into a retaining wall. The driver survived. Both had been drinking. In the days that followed, I promised my friend’s mother that I would never drink and drive. That promise has stuck with me, influenced my decisions, and possibly kept me alive for the three decades since. And it’s why, just a few weeks ago, I jumped at the chance to drive drunk in front of a group of watchful police officers.

Never mind that I was actually driving on a simulator.

The alcohol was real, and I had blown the 0.10 to prove it.

But I still thought I could negotiate the turns and stops on the laptop display in front of me. Three officers watched me miss the obvious cues, and Senior Officer Pete Manukas shook his head and said, “We’d call you slow.”

Along with Senior Officer Chris Bradford, Manukas is a Drug Recognition Expert (DRE) with the Raleigh Police Department’s Special Operations Division – specifically, the Crash Reconstruction Unit – and since 2006 has been involved in administering more than 300 standard field sobriety tests (SFSTs), both in enforcement and in training scenarios similar to what they set up for me.

TEACHING THE DETECTIVES The typical training scenario is a three-day class, where police officers learn to recognize the signs of alcohol and drug impairment. Their trainers do this with the aid of up to eight citizens, who essentially volunteer to get drunk under police supervision, then submit to a range of SFSTs. The volunteers drink in a safe, controlled environment, and must agree to ride home afterward with a designated, sober driver. Lt. Tim Tomczak, also of the Special Operations Division, was kind enough to schedule a special session for me one evening, separate from one of their classes. Manukas and Bradford were on-hand to administer the tests (and provide commentary).

My session started with some measurements – pulse, blood pressure, pupil dilation, and blood alcohol content (BAC) – to ensure I wasn’t under the influence of drugs or alcohol before the test began. (I wasn’t.) They also let me take their Vericom Response Tester for a spin; it’s a driving simulator composed of a steering wheel and brake/accelerator pedals that work in conjunction with computer software to time a driver’s reactions to various stimuli.

THE TRUTH ABOUT BREATH TESTS They determined my BAC with the EC/IR II breath testing instrument, more commonly known as a breathalyzer. That was the first of four times that I blew into it that night, and I learned a few things about it in the process. First, it’s failsafe – so if someone is thinking of claiming a false positive, they shouldn’t waste their time. “The EC/IR II checks its accuracy with an internal gas canister,” Tomczak explained. “And if it’s not able to get an accurate reading from the gas, it disables itself and does not allow the officer to run a breath test.”

Secondly, if someone insists on going down the “false positive” road in hopes that a different test would exonerate them, they should hope again – even though the EC/IR II reading will probably differ from the results of a different test, it will do so on the low side. In other words, the breathalyzer is your best bet. “Your actual blood alcohol content can CARYLIVING.COM | 69

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Bain signs a waiver before systematically becoming inebriated; even in a controlled environment with precisely measured servings, there are risks involved with being impaired.

be higher than the breath reading,” said Tomczak. “Whatever you blow on the EC/IR II, it can’t possibly be higher than the actual blood figure. Drawing blood would give equal to or higher results than breath every time.”

Clever individuals might reason that this is okay, as they know it would take time to arrange for a blood test, allowing BAC levels to drop – but that won’t help. A state statute has set an elimination rate of 0.0165 percent per hour to calculate previous BAC through retrograde analysis.

CRUNCHING THE NUMBERS A suspect also shouldn’t get too excited if their test shows their BAC to be less than 0.08 percent – what Manukas calls, “the illegal limit.” This means it’s illegal for someone to operate a motor vehicle if they have a BAC of 0.08 percent – but it doesn’t mean they’re off the hook if their BAC is lower. Illegal drugs won’t generate a BAC number; those cases are based on impairment rather than a quantitative analysis. It’s also possible to be impaired without having alcohol or illegal drugs in your system – one way is

with the use of certain anti-depressants, whose side effects mimic the effects of alcohol. “One of the most dangerous times is when you first start taking a new medication, and you don’t know how it’s going to affect you,” cautioned Tomczak.

Even if alcohol is the only thing in a suspect’s system, a 0.08 isn’t necessary – a person can be convicted of Driving While Impaired (DWI) at any alcohol level, provided they have appreciably impaired faculties. “Appreciable impairment is determined by the officer’s opinion and tests, based on SFST training,” said Bradford.

That’s where I came in. I volunteered for this session to determine how easy it is to get a DWI. As it turns out, it’s very easy…

CONSUMPTION ASSUMPTIONS Once they had my baseline numbers, we got to my favorite part – having a police officer serve me drinks. They measured out five ounces of 80-proof Jack Daniel’s and instructed me to finish it within 45 minutes, whether sipped or slammed, straight, on the rocks or mixed. I poured it over ice in a big Solo cup, added some ginger ale, and got to work.

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SOBERING STATISTICS Even if judgment lies, numbers don’t. The following numbers are for the U.S. in 2010. Keeping them in mind might help quiet the persuasive voice of impaired judgment: • 31 percent of driving fatalities were due to alcohol impairment – nearly one-third of all driving deaths could have been avoided. (The Century Council) • Of the 10,839 people killed in drunk-driving crashes, 65 percent were drivers, 28 percent were passengers, and 7 percent weren’t in the vehicle. (NHTSA) • Adults drove drunk about 112 million times – almost 300,000 times a day. (Centers for Disease Control and Prevention) • More than 1.41 million drivers were arrested for driving under the influence of alcohol or narcotics. (FBI) • In drunk-driving fatalities, the highest-percentage age groups of the drivers were 21-24 (34%), 25-34 (30%), and 35-44 (25%). (NHTSA) • Drunk driving costs $132 billion per year. (NHTSA) • On average, a drunk driver has driven drunk 80 times before being arrested. (Centers for Disease Control) • 345,000 people were injured in drunk-driving crashes. (NHTSA) • Every day, 28 people die as a result of drunk-driving crashes. (NHTSA)

Five ounces of 80-proof liquor has the same alcohol content as 40 ounces of regular beer – about three bottles and change – or 17 ounces of table wine (a little more than three standard servings). Depending on what type of cocktail you prefer and how heavyhanded your bartender is, it’s possible to get five ounces of liquor in two mixed drinks.

If you think 45 minutes is not a reasonable amount of time to finish that much – that it would skew the results – you should know that’s not necessarily the case.

Drinking alcohol quickly won’t always get it into your system quickly. Your body absorbs most of its alcohol via the small intestine, and what you consume with your mouth doesn’t make a beeline for that region. There’s a layover in the stomach, where food and beverages wait for a while in order to be properly digested. Alcohol in the stomach has to wait for the pyloric valve to open before it can enter the small intestine, and sometimes that valve isn’t willing to let the stomach’s visitors go. In fact, there are certain types of food that will “fool” the valve into staying closed, even if you’ve eaten only a small amount. One of those is peanuts – grab a handful of those while you’re waiting for the bartender, and chances are good you won’t feel the effects of your first drink until you’ve ordered a few more.

It’s a misconception that food “absorbs” alcohol, and that eating a lot before drinking will prevent a person from becoming drunk. In reality, it merely delays the absorption of the alcohol into the body. If the pyloric valve stays open and you’re able to absorb the alcohol gradually, then drinking over a longer time can make a difference, as your body eliminates it naturally. But the “one hour per drink” rule of thumb is another myth – even the healthiest liver can’t break down alcohol that quickly.

You’ll reach the point of diminishing returns. Tomczak explained, “It’s hard to find evidence to say one drink will significantly affect your judgment and motor skills; where the numbers get squishy is at two to four drinks.”

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TESTING, 1-2-3…

I finished my double Jack and Ginger in the prescribed amount of time, and submitted myself for the first round of testing. I was apprehensive – even with their blessing, and in a controlled environment, it goes against the natural order to sit there, intentionally getting drunk in front of a tribunal of cops. They were casual during the 45 minutes between tests, but when it came time to determine my appreciable impairment, they were all business. Manukas measured my BAC and administered two of the physical tests, and I can tell you with absolute certainty that you don’t want to end up on the wrong side of his EC/IR II. Outlining each procedure that was about to take place, he had his speeches memorized, and I’d bet they never vary by even one word when he gives them in the field. In a flat, all-business tone, he told me what he was about to do and what he expected me to do, and I could tell his steely gaze was taking in every reaction on my face. At the end of each speech, he asked, “Do you understand everything I just said?” and I knew that was one question a person should consider carefully before answering, because once they answered in the affirmative, there’d be no going back.

“Everything in court depends on the officer,” said Tomczak. “It’s essential to have good notes and video… The Raleigh Police Department prides itself on integrity, and we know we’ve done everything we could, aboveboard. It’s frustrating sometimes to see someone beat our case, but our attitude is, the officer needs to be well-prepared and have an airtight case.

Then it’s up to the courts.”

I answered “Yes, I understand” after hearing how the breath test would work, and proceeded to blow a 0.04 – lower than I expected, considering how tipsy I was already feeling. When I mentioned my surprise and told Manukas I could already tell my judgment was too impaired to drive, he just smiled and told me to wait until I hit 0.08 and see if I felt differently.

Bradford administered the next test, and in this case, he didn’t take in every facial reaction, instead watching only my eyes. This was the Horizontal Gaze Nystagmus (HGN) Test, one of the three main SFSTs. HGN refers to an involuntary eye jerk that occurs when someone tries to look to the side. Bradford instructed me to keep my head still and follow his finger, which he moved right and left at varying degrees of speed and direction change. His eyes stayed on mine the entire time, and even though I never felt or otherwise detected it, he told me my eyes were jerking with the effort. He also had to remind me several times to not move my head, even though I never felt that I was. During this test, an officer watches for multiple clues – smoothness of motion, distinct jerking at maximum deviation, and angle of onset of jerking – and according to the National Highway Traffic Safety Administration (NHTSA), the presence of four

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Bain tries to follow Bradford’s finger for the HGN Test [left]. He started the evening by providing a 0-percent BAC reading [above, left], but ended with 0.09 percent being his lowest possible BAC.

or more of those clues between both eyes is an indicator that a suspect likely has reached 0.08 percent BAC. And there’s nothing a suspect can do to prevent their eyes from giving those clues; memorize the backward alphabet and practice touching your nose all you want, but you cannot fake your way out of this one.

ANOTHER ROUND Saving the best tests for last, the officers measured out another five ounces of Jack and started the clock again. After 45 minutes, I excused myself to go to the men’s room, and as I came out and headed back toward the testing station, all three officers watched me walk. One of them quipped that he could tell just from that, that I was “already there.”

And he was right – I submitted to two breath tests with Manukas, blowing a 0.09 and a 0.10, respectively. By then, my outlook had changed – I felt I was on top of the world, nothing was wrong with my judgment, and I could drive anywhere with no problems. The tests said different.

It was time for the next two from the main SFST battery of three – the Walk-and-Turn and the One-Leg Stand. Manukas placed a length of duct tape on the floor and gave me my orders for the former, asking me before I started if I had understood everything. I shuddered at the implications, answered in the affirmative, and began when I was ready – but no amount of preparation or inner pep talks can help someone successfully complete this test if they are at 0.08 BAC. I was to take nine steps, heel-totoe, along the line of duct tape – on the tenth step, I was to turn on one foot and return to my starting point, again walking heel-to-toe.

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By the end of the session, Bain couldn’t keep his balance during the One-Leg Stand Test [near right], and failed to safely brake and/or turn on eight consecutive driving simulations.

keep my balance. I almost fell multiple times. Had it been a real field test, they should have had cuffs on me before I could make it back to my starting point.

Next, I attempted the One-Leg Stand, raising one foot about six inches off the ground with a straight leg in front of me, and trying to hold that position for as long as I could while Manukas counted out loud by thousands. It’s disconcerting to start a test with no set stopping point, attempting to judge for myself whether I’d gone long enough. At least, that’s what I told myself – that when I finally put my foot down, it was because I thought I’d been standing there long enough, and chose to put it down. Hardly. I felt like I was about to fall over, and by then my foot felt like it must have weighed 75 pounds. But I played it off like I was just impatient, silently congratulating myself for lasting to the count of 18. Then he told me most sober people can leave it up there for well over a count of 30.

According to the NHTSA, 83 percent of subjects who fail at two of the four indicators in the One-Leg Stand Test, are past the illegal limit.

When both tests are combined with the HGN Test, officers are accurate 91-94 percent of the time. And, like the HGN Test, you cannot hide the symptoms. These two physical tests are easy for a sober person, but an impaired person will give clues every time – even if they try to cheat the system by practicing. The tests also indicate how well a subject can divide their attention, another indicator – an impaired person will have trouble completing a task that requires them to divide their attention between simple mental and physical parts of that task. And that’s an important thing to test, as divided attention is a necessity for safe driving. Said Manukas, “If you can’t divide your attention while you’re sitting there and I’m talking to you, you’re not gonna be able to divide your attention when you’re doing 60.”

And I couldn’t. Remember the driving simulator? They had me try it after my SFSTs, and I failed eight consecutive times. On my worst attempt, I practically tripled my baseline reaction time/distance of 0.72 seconds and 64.33 feet. A lot can happen in those additional 124 feet – just ask my old friend Mike.

HOW TO JUDGE YOUR IMPAIRED JUDGMENT That’s the crux of the matter – the probable outcome when a driver’s reaction time and distance increase due to impaired judgment. At 0.08 BAC, a person’s vision is affected and their judgment is no longer reliable, regardless of whether they believe they can drive a car. Bradford told of a traffic stop where he became suspicious that the driver had been drinking. Her driving had appeared to be fine as she approached – no swerves, etc. – but she was clearly impaired and, as such, was a hazard. He still doesn’t know exactly what her BAC was, because the breathalyzer maxed out at 0.40 – by all rights she should have been comatose or dead, but she was driving a car and unable 74 | CARYLIVING.COM

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to comprehend why that was a problem. Manukas reminded me, “Your driving doesn’t have to be bad for you to be convicted; you just have to show appreciable impairment. The offense is ‘Driving While Impaired’, not ‘Driving Was Impaired.’”

In other words, when you’re impaired you might think you’re doing fine, but you’re not. Even if you’re keeping it between the lines, it’s only a matter of time until something happens that requires a reaction many times faster than what a drunk person is capable of. “A lot of people who know it’s bad to drink and drive, fail to realize that when they’re drinking,” said Tomczak.

Why? Because their judgment is impaired, and as he said, most fatalities are the result of judgment issues. And according to the NHTSA, one happens every 52 minutes. That bears repeating – somewhere in the U.S., someone dies at the hands of a drunk driver every 52 minutes. That’s why Tomczak and his colleagues are proud of what they do, and take it seriously. “Unfortunately, a lot of the job of law enforcement is reactive – someone’s already hurt somebody else, so we go get them,” he said. “But a DWI checkpoint is proactive – we get them off the street before they can hurt somebody else.”

But they can’t get all of them off the street. We have to take the onus on ourselves when we drink. The only way to end the fatalities is to stop driving after drinking.

Don’t think. Don’t attempt to judge. Just know – if you’ve been drinking, you should not drive. The consequences are too dire.

Accept the fact that your judgment is suspect after drinking – commit it to memory, make a mantra of it, and be sure to remind yourself multiple times as you drink, so you won’t convince yourself that you’re fine to drive. As Manukas said, “If you have to ask yourself if you’re okay to drive, then don’t.”

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BY CARTER & LAURA DALTON | GNC AT NORTH HILLS

Dr. Weil, Dr. Oz, Dr. Perricone – all the docs we respect and enjoy agree – this spice is a virtual powerhouse! I am speaking of turmeric. Turmeric, known throughout the world as “The Spice of Life”, has been used for its therapeutic properties for thousands of years. As you probably already know, this brightly colored relative of ginger is a major ingredient in Indian curries, and makes American mustard yellow. But evidence is accumulating that turmeric, and its primary active ingredient, curcumin, is a promising disease-preventive agent as well, probably due largely to its anti-inflammatory effects.

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THE SCIENCE Inflammation: You don’t have to have a serious medical condition to suffer from inflammation. It can show up in the form of poor skin, heartburn or allergies and be a bear to get rid of, especially if you have stress in your life. Stress is a HUGE contributor to inflammation! Turmeric contains more than two dozen anti-inflammatory compounds, including COX-2-inhibitors (the COX-2 enzyme promotes pain, swelling and inflammation), making it a go-to for symptom relief of osteoarthritis/rheumatoid arthritis. Inflammatory conditions such as fibromyalgia and colitis, as well as those mentioned above, have been found to improve in some folks with the help of turmeric.

Alzheimer’s disease: Epidemiologists have hypothesized that the turmeric that is part of daily curries eaten in India may help explain the low rate of Alzheimer’s disease in that country. Among people aged 70 to 79, the rate is less than one-quarter that of the United States! Reports indicate that extracts of turmeric contain a number of natural agents that block the formation of a substance responsible for obstruction of cerebral function. It is also used by anyone looking to increase mental sharpness, which makes me a prime candidate, as my clarity seemed to disappear when I had children.

Cancer: Studies using curcumin have shown it to be effective in animal models in prevention and/or treatment of colon cancer, mammary cancer, prostate cancer, liver cancer, esophageal cancer, and oral cancer. Moreover, researchers from the University of South Dakota have found that pretreatment with curcumin may make cancer cells more vulnerable to chemo and radiotherapy.

Anti-everything: Curcumin has been shown to exhibit antioxidant, anti-inflammatory, anti-aging, antiviral, antibacterial, antifungal, and anticancer activities. Not only can it help protect against types of lung damage, liver damage, heart failure, stomach ulcers, diabetes, high cholesterol, depression and other chronic illnesses, but it’s even used by herbalists to help alleviate gas, bloating and water retention! Simply put, this is a supplement that should be in everyone’s daily regime.

DOSAGE, ABSORPTION AND CONTRAINDICATIONS Turmeric is normally taken as a powdered extract standardized to contain 95% curcumin. The recommended dose is 300mg-600 mg taken up to four times daily. NOTE: As turmeric is not readily bioavailable (absorbed), many health professionals encourage the use of bioperine (black pepper) and bromelain (an enzyme) along with curcumin to enhance its effectiveness. Bioperine can assist the absorption of nutrients, and bromelain, when taken on an empty stomach, has anti-inflammatory effects as well. Consider trying one or both of these supplements with your turmeric first, as you may get away with a lower dose this way. Source Naturals brand, Turmeric Extract, has all three.

If you have acid reflux, ulcers or bile duct obstructions, consult your physician before using turmeric, as it may increase the production of bile and stomach acid. Turmeric may also increase the effectiveness of blood thinners or drugs to lower blood sugar.

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WHAT IS IT?

BY JESSICA SABROWSKY MSN, REGISTERED NURSE, FAMILY NURSE PRACTITIONER FASTMED URGENT CARE & FAMILY PRACTICE – HOLLY SPRINGS, NC

A major public health concern, obstructive sleep apnea, is the intermittent interruption of airflow through the nose and mouth that occurs during sleep, including naps, and is considered present when individuals have more than five apneic episodes per hour of sleep.

Research recently published shows that each year the lives of millions of Americans are disrupted, disturbed or destroyed by the consequences of sleep disorders. As a family practice provider, I believe it is my duty to address all health concerns that may impact the overall health of an individual.

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HISTORY OF OSA Ten to 15 years ago, OSA was considered a medical curiosity that was of little importance, and snoring was more a subject of humor than one of scientific investigation. However, given the high prevalence of symptomatic OSA in the general population, its serious consequences, and the fact that it is readily treatable, providers – particularly those practicing primary care – have a responsibility to identify individuals who are at risk for the disorder and refer them to appropriate specialists for further evaluation. Many providers use the Epworth Sleepiness Scale as a tool to screen those who are believed to potentially have obstructive sleep apnea.

Obstructive sleep apnea is associated with increased risk for many health conditions such as: • High blood pressure • Heart disease • Diabetes • Obesity Obstructive sleep apnea can also increase risk for stroke and heart attack.

Recent data suggest that sleep disordered breathing occurs in approximately 10% of randomly selected women and 25% of men, many who do not realize that they are breathing abnormally during sleep. Snoring alone is not a strong indicator for OSA. However, the combination of snoring, nighttime gasping or choking, witnessed episodes of an individual stopping breathing, along with excessive daytime sleepiness is a

strong indicator that someone is likely to have sleep apnea, and are good questions to focus on when considering whether an individual has OSA. TREATMENT The most widespread and effective treatment for individuals with OSA is use of a continuous positive airway pressure (CPAP).

The continuous pressure, like a vacuum in reverse, gently splints open the upper airway typically stopping snoring and the airway from collapsing.

There are surgical procedures and other items such as dental devices available, but none of them have proven to be as effective as treatment with CPAP. Typically, after about three to six months of optimal CPAP use patients often see dramatic improvements in health and well-being, specifically reflected in: • Improved blood pressure control • Improved mood • Potentially reversing metabolic abnormalities such as fasting blood glucose levels, insulin resistance, and fasting lipid profile results Because sleep apnea can have so many clinical consequences, it is vital that family practice providers not overlook the possibility of the condition. As noted by the National Commission of Sleep Disorders Research, it is time for the nation to wake up to the staggering impact of sleep disturbances on the health and well-being of our society, an impact that rivals that of smoking.

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Spider and varicose veins can be more than a cosmetic problem; they may cause throbbing pain. There’s help.

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BY JANICE HONG MESSIER, M.D. | RALEIGH VEIN & LASER CENTER Varicose and spider veins are so common that if you were to gather a group of people over the age of 50 in a room, every other person would have the telltale purplish markings. A full 35 percent of Americans are afflicted with vein disease, and that number increases to 50 percent for people age 50 and up.

Spider veins rarely pose a serious health problem. But some people consider them a serious cosmetic problem, and there are easy ways to treat them. Most commonly seen on the legs, spider veins can also show up around the nose and lips. There may be some physical pain associated with them. The cause is largely genetic but can also be due to pregnancy, childbirth, use of

birth control pills, estrogen replacement therapy, prolonged standing (hey’re especially common in people who have to stand up all day on the job) physical trauma and aging.

Varicose veins are both more noticeable and more painful than spider veins. They’re the knotty, ropy-looking blue vessels under the skin. While spider veins appear flush with the skin, engorged varicose veins protrude from the skin. A clotted varicose vein causes phlebitis – hot, red and painful skin at the site of the clot. Other physical symptoms may include tiredness, restless legs at night, pain, aching, itching, swelling, burning or cramping.

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An ultrasound can determine if your vein disorder is merely a cosmetic one, or if there’s a deeper pathology. Treatment addresses both the look and feel of spider and varicose veins. Physicians begin by treating the underlying cause. Quite often, the symptoms and the appearance will improve after this treatment alone. Your doctor should begin by offering you the most conservative options.

Injections and laser treatments are a good starting place for spider veins. These conservative treatments are often followed by the patient wearing elastic compression stockings and elevating the feet above the level of the heart when sleeping or lying down.

Other treatments – all offered as officebased procedures at Raleigh Vein and Laser Center – include a microphlebectomy and laser ablation, a newer technology where your doctor will thread a laser fiber through a catheter into the vein to seal it shut. Once that vein is closed, the branch veins – those close to the skin – shrink and lose their unsightly appearance. Once we ablate, that troublesome spot is usually gone for good.

Not so with all spider and varicose veins, though. Virtually half of all patients who have spider or varicose veins have a family member with them. If you have a genetic predisposition toward them, they are likely to be a lifelong problem.

Ultrasound guided sclerotherapy may be used to treat the deeper blue, bulging, medium-sized varicose veins. A physician injects the sclerotherapy solution into the vein with sonar guidance. The “scleroing agent” causes the vein to close and eventually disappear. In traditional sclerotherapy, we inject a solution via a very small needle into the abnormal vein, frequently using magnification. Foam sclerotherapy is similar, but the solution is a chemical foam.

Talk with your doctor about your desired results and which treatment option is best for you.

All the treatment procedures used these days should allow you to return to work and normal activities within a few days.

Varicose and spider veins are a common problem that may be more than cosmetic in nature. If you’re bothered by their look, or if they’re causing discomfort, be sure to see a vascular specialist. Bulging, painful veins can be more than just an issue of vanity.

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Turnips are a root vegetable commonly associated with potatoes or beets, but their closest relatives are radishes and arugula, which are also members of the mustard family.

How to choose: Look for brightly colored turnips with creamy looking bulbs and a violet-hued ring around the tops. In fall and spring, look for turnips with their greens attached to be sure they were freshly harvested.

How to prepare: They are delicious roasted, mashed, baked, added to soups or stews and even raw. The “hot” flavor associated with turnips makes them particularly well suited to mixing and matching with other root vegetables.

How to store: If you buy turnips with their greens attached, remove the greens when you get them home. Store turnips loosely wrapped in a plastic bag in the crisper of the fridge.

Beer Braised Turnips Makes 2 servings

1 large turnip - peeled, halved lengthwise, and sliced 1/2-inch thick 2 tablespoons butter, cut into small pieces 1 (12 fluid ounce) bottle dark beer, or amount to cover 1 pinch dried savory Salt to taste

Healthy, Local Produce and Foods Every Tuesday and Saturday at the Western Wake Farmers’ Market in Cary!

Please check www.WesternWakeFarmersMarket.org for weekly guest educators and musicians.

Preheat an oven to 350 degrees. Place the turnip in a pot with enough cold, salted water to cover.

Bring the water to a boil and cook until the turnips are soft, about 7 minutes; drain. Transfer the turnips to a shallow baking dish. Dot the top of the turnips with pieces of butter. Pour enough of the beer into the dish to cover the turnips.

Season with savory and salt. Bake in the preheated oven until the beer is mostly cooked off and the turnip is tender, about 1 hour.

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On Wednesday, September 5th, Cary Living honored their “Diamond Award” winners and advertisers at Café Caturra in Cary. Everyone enjoyed cocktails and hors d’oeuvres while over 35 Western Wake businesses were recognized for being the readers’ favorites. Two lucky guests won special raffle items from Diamonds Direct Crabtree and Blossom Shop Florist.

PHOTOGRAPHY BY SEAN JUNQUEIRA PHOTOGRAPHY

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sightings G RA N D O P ENING Peachy Keen hosted its grand opening Fall Fashion Show: Fire & Ice on October 10th. The fashion show consisted of 27 looks ranging from casual to cocktail.

Sticking true to the grim destruction theme in Robert Frost’s poem Fire & Ice, the models embodied either flames or icicles.

BRUNS W I C K ST E W C OOK- OFF Larry Knott, former Harnett County Sheriff, is serving up his prize winning (2nd place) brunswick stew during the 2nd Annual “Downtown Bounty” Festival Brunswick Stew Cook-Off competition in downtown FuquayVarina on September 29th.

RI BBON CUTTING Stonehaven Jewelry Gallery celebrated their ribbon cutting in their new location in Downtown Cary on September 28th.

Stonehaven offers custom designed and hand-crafted jewelry.

LAZY DA ZE A RTS & C RA FTS FE ST I VA L The 36th Annual Lazy Daze Arts & Crafts Festival was held on August 25th in downtown Cary. A record breaking crowd of 70,000 visitors were in attendance, browsing more than 385 artists’ exhibits, as well as a number of entertainment acts and activities.

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Carpenter Village Marketplace 1225 Morrisville Carpenter Rd., Cary Local Seasonal Produce, Meats, Seafood, Eggs, Cheeses, Honey, Coffee, Breads, Baked Goods, Crafts and More

UPCOMING EVENTS • Nov. 3 • 8am-1pm: Fall Craft Fair • Nov. 10 • 8am-12pm: Annual Campaign Celebration • Tues., Nov. 20 • 2-5pm: Pre-Thanksgiving Market • Nov. 24: WWFM CLOSED • Dec. 22 • 10am-12pm: Pre-Christmas Market • Dec. 29 • 10am-12pm: WWFM OPEN

S I P & SH O P The Cary Junior Woman’s Club hosted the Sip & Shop event on October 4th at the Scotts Mill Clubhouse in Apex. Our spotlight vendor Sip...a wine store was on hand with wines and accessories from their Cary store.

5 T H A N NUAL PH I OLYMP I C S Glenaire residents competed in the 5th Annual Presbyterian Homes, Inc. Olympics (PHI Olympics) on October 10th. The PHI Olympics encourages residents to participate in healthy lifestyles in a fun, friendly and competitive environment.

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Raleigh’s eight historic downtown churches hosted the Second Annual Community Historic Church Walk on October 6th. About 200 people strolled from one church to another, welcomed by greeters who answered questions and pointed out details and items of interest. The following churches were included: Edenton Street United Methodist Church, First Baptist Church, Salisbury St., First Baptist Church, Wilmington St., First Presbyterian Church, Christ Church, St. Paul AME Church, The Church of the Good Shepherd, and Sacred Heart Cathedral.

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