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I am excited to share this issue of Cary Living with you! It’s overflowing with ideas for enjoying the holiday season. When planning an issue we don’t start with a theme, but often one reveals itself Jennifer Robertson Photography

by the time we finish a magazine – and that is definitely the case this issue. This issue evolved quickly into the holidays made easy! There are things we want to do this season to things we need to do, so in this issue we give you wonderful ideas for making your holidays more enjoyable. Fun things first: Check out the “Top 10 Things To Do This Holiday Season” (p. 14). We’ve compiled a list of the best ways to have fun with your family while reminding of us what the season is really about. You’ll love this to-do list. Cooking and decorating for the holidays can be overwhelming, even if you’re a bona-fide “Martha Stewart” hostess. In “Holiday Touches for Your Home” (p.24), local boutiques share ideas for sprinkling holiday spirit all over your home. In “Holiday Lovin’ from the Oven” (p. 34), Chef Mario shares some of his most decadent cookie recipes! Make these cookies, and your kids will be convinced you’re one of Santa’s elves. Also check out “Get Lucky” (p. 50) for must-haves on your New Year’s Day menu (my mom even shared her wealthy healthy stewed tomatoes recipe). And for conquering your holiday shopping list, check out our “2011 Holiday Gift Guide” (p. 27). This pull-out book is filled with great ideas for everyone on your shopping list; the best part is that every gift is available right here in Western Wake. Buy local! Every issue I ask you to let us know what you like or don’t like about Cary

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Cookie recipes that Santa will love!

Living and thankfully many of you respond. You share your opinions and your story ideas, and for this I am grateful. William Arthur Ward said “Feeling gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it.” So thank you for letting Cary Living into your home! Merry Christmas!

Gina Pearce Stephens Publisher/Partner Midtown, Cary Living, Pinehurst and Premier Baby & Child 4818 Six Forks Road | Suite 204 | Raleigh, NC 27609 919-782-4710 |

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Thanksgiving, after all, is a word of action. – W.J. Cameron

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toP 10 tHinGS to do tHiS Holiday SeaSon Put down your to-do list and get busy having fun this holiday season.


Holiday toUCHeS for tHe Home tHiS SeaSon Holiday touches you can sprinkle throughout your home.


PerfeCt maintenanCe Clean The quickest and most efficient ways to get your house ready for the holiday season.


forGet aBoUt it...or not Wondering if your forgetfulness is normal? We’ll help you figure it out.


Get lUCKy From collard greens to black-eyed peas; why are these New Year’s foods so lucky?


SPray yoUr Way into SavinGS Cut those utility bills once and for all.


tHe ConverSation Ideas for talking to your parents about retirement communities.


KidS Holiday faSHion Santa’s little helpers will deck the halls and enchant the family in these cute looks.


PlUS...don’t miss our special pull-out Holiday Gift Guide for 2011!


ColorS of tHe SeaSon Great ideas for your wardrobe.

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first night Raleigh 2012


you’re thinking, “i don’t need any

more to-do lists!” we know how you

feel. But you’ll love checking off these fun family activities that take you from

mid-november right up to the first of the year.

lights on the neuse River

The Rockettes

new Hope valley Railroad

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Santa Train at Pullen Park

It’s been nearly two years since Pullen Park, North Carolina’s oldest public park, closed for renovations. Don’t miss the grand opening November 19th from 10am 6pm; the Holiday Express train runs December 8th-11th from 4-9pm and will include special activities and a visit from Santa. The train is now handicapped accessible, and there’s a brand new tunnel for kids to scream through. Check out the other new additions while you’re there, including the climate-controlled carousel house, welcome center, concession stand with restaurant, rope climbing structure, tire swings, water and sand area and special areas for toddlers and preschoolers. Still the same: Paddle boats on Lake Howell, the old red caboose, the kiddie boats and 66 acres of rolling hills to let the kids run wild. Visit www.raleighnc. gov/arts and enter “Pullen Park” in the search box.

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The Raleigh Christmas Parade actually takes place this year before Thanksgiving on November 19th. The 67th annual parade started in 1944 and is the largest parade between Washington, D.C. and Atlanta. It starts at 9:40am, but arrive early for a good spot along the parade route, which runs along Hillsborough, Salisbury and Fayetteville Streets. Cary, Apex, Holly Springs and Fuquay-Varina have amazing parades as well. Get to one at least: Apex Christmas Parade Saturday, December 3rd at 5pm

Fuquay-Varina Christmas Parade Sunday, December 4th at 3pm

Holly Springs Christmas Parade Saturday, December 10th at 11am

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Letters to Santa PHOTOS © Joy C. Ennis, Town of Cary

“He’s making a list and checking it twice…” but only if Mom and Dad remember to mail it! Ah, Christmas is a time of wonder and magic for most younger kids, and that hinges largely on the great bearded Santa Claus who, with lists in hand, loads his sleigh with toys on Christmas Eve. Many parents love the annual tradition of helping their kids write a letter to Santa. Consider doing something special first – lunch with hot chocolate, perhaps – then head to the Town Hall in downtown Cary, where a special North Pole mailbox awaits. “Collections” start at the end of November and run through mid-December. The whole thing is free – no postage or return envelope needed – but be sure to include your child’s name and address so Santa can write him or her back. And then let the countdown to Christmas begin. Bonus: This activity could lead to extra good behavior from the kids! PHOTOS © Sam Mchan


Journey to Bethlehem

This interactive gospel tour at Salem Baptist Church in Apex transports you back 2,000 years and reminds us of what the Christmas season celebrates. Travel through first century Bethlehem where you’ll make a number of stops – first at the markets to buy goods and then on to King Herod’s palace, where you’ll hear rumors of a new king soon to be born. Outside, you’ll find the shepherds with their sheep talking of the impending birth. Next, the innkeeper will tell you how he turned Joseph and Mary away. Eventually, you’ll find a touching live nativity. Dates are December 9th-10th from 6-8:30pm and December 11th12th from 5:30-8:30pm Cost is free, although donations are accepted. Expect to wait; word is spreading about this amazing drama. There are puppet shows, games and activities to keep you occupied until your group number is called. Visit 18 |

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Visions of Sugarplums


Winter Wonderland at Bond Park

The Cary Ballet Company presents Visions of Sugarplums, highlights from the Nutcracker Ballet, on Friday, December 16th (7pm) and Saturday, December 17th (2pm and 7pm) at The Cary Arts Center. Enjoy beautiful costuming and elegant artistry; 3D Project will also provide holiday jazz pieces. And don’t miss “Land of Sweets,” a children’s tea party following the Saturday matinee. Adult tickets cost $12; kids $10. Visit

If you need snow and cold temperatures to get you in the holiday spirit, grab your sled and get ready to ride! Pre-register for a 90-minute time slot on December 3rd or 4th when Snow My Yard will make tons of snow for the steep sledding slopes at Bond Park. Space is limited, and you must preregister; you cannot register the day of the event. Cost is $12 for Cary residents and $16 for nonresidents. Visit | 19

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New Hope Valley Railroad

Dating back to 1904, this railway is still somewhat of a well-kept secret. Kids and grown-ups alike love the old-fashioned steam train as well as a diesel train that makes the one-hour trip through beautiful forests from Bonsal (right next to Apex) to New Hill and back. Santa jumps on board only during the weekends of December 3rd-4th and December 10th-11th. To be sure you get a seat, buy tickets online; $10 for adults and $7 for kids ages 2-12. Remaining tickets are sold at the ticket booth the day of. Trains leave at 11am, 12:15pm, 1:30pm, 2:45pm and 4pm. Visit


The Rockettes

New this year, the Rockettes are coming to the Durham Performing Arts Center. The muchanticipated tickets for The Radio City Christmas Spectacular went on sale in May; performances run from Thursday, November 10 th through Sunday, November 27th with tickets ranging from $50 to more than $300 per seat. The 90minute show includes a seven-minute tap dance counting down “The Twelve Days of Christmas,” including those famous eye-high kicks, as well as an onstage live nativity complete with camels, sheep and donkeys. The show also brings to town the traditional wooden soldiers used since 1933. Visit

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Lights on the Neuse River

Consider this your old-fashioned Christmas experience. Catch the one-mile tractor-pulled hayride to take in all the beautiful lights, followed by a trip through the 3D Christmas barn, where you’ll see Santa and Rudolph. Favorites include the farmyard and nativity scene. Afterward, sip hot chocolate or make your own s’mores. It’s a bit of a drive to Clayton, but the lights set against the backdrop of the Neuse River are a sight to behold. Open the day after Thanksgiving through Christmas Eve; tickets are $10 for adults and $7 for kids ages 3-11. polar ice house_nd.pdf 10/3/11 9:47:47 AM

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First Night Raleigh 2012

Would you believe this annual alcohol-free family celebration is going on 20 years? The festivities start at 2pm on New Year’s Eve day, with downtown Raleigh as the stage for countless artists, musicians and performers. Performances take place at the Bicentennial Plaza, the North Carolina Museum of History and the North Carolina Museum of Natural Sciences, as well as in plazas, churches and lobbies, nearly 20 blocks of entertainment! Activities are geared toward kids from 2-6pm; they even get their own “ball drop.” After that, expect adult-oriented events – including comedy, music and dancing – culminating with the acorn drop at midnight. Although this event is alcoholfree, downtown bars and clubs are open. Adult tickets are $12; kids ages 6-12 are $10. Kids age five and under are free with a “buttoned” adult. Visit | 21

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The holidays are a festive time, and festive wines are required. Sparkling wines, rich Cabernet, sexy Syrah and crisp Chardonnay will delight you and your guests.

1. ’08 Frogs Leap Cabernet Sauvignon, California A classic Rutherford Cabernet can make any holiday gathering extra special. Aromas of cassis and currant combine with a mineral tone and a touch of warm spices. Rich black cherry flavors are enhanced with notes of pomegranate, spice, cedar and green olive. 2. NV Billecart-Salmon Brut Reserve, France Billecart-Salmon is one of the few remaining champagne houses to be owned by its original family. Lovely bubbles with aromas of honeyed apricots and freshly baked biscuits. A blend of 45% Pinot Meunier, 30% Pinot Noir and 25% Chardonnay. 3. ’09 Sant’Evasio Brachetto, Italy Brachetto will make any dessert seem extra special. This semi-sweet, ruby-red bubbly has bright cherry and strawberry flavors. This wine is more floral than others, giving it an added dimension.




4. ’08 Stemmler, Pinot Noir, Sonoma Looking for a sexy wine for those intimate celebrations? This Pinot Noir will not disappoint. Beautiful ripe strawberry, raspberry and intense black cherry and plum aromas mingled with hints of cola, forest floor and earth. The wine is fleshy, sleek and spicy, with copious wild berry, black cherry and strawberry flavors, good grip and a sustained, well-balanced finish. 5. ’10 Lioco, Sonoma Chardonnay, California This is the perfect wine to serve at your next intimate celebration. Aromas of fresh Meyer lemon, lime leaf and river stones. The wine is round with lovely flavors of lemon drop candies and green pear. 6. ’06 Qupe “Bein Nacido Hillside” Syrah, California Made from the southwest-facing, low-yielding hillside at Bien Nacido Vineyard, the grapes for this wine have the winemaker’s special touch. About 10-15% of the juice is barrel fermented ‘en saignée’, which adds a toasty mocha complexity. The wine is aged for 20 months in 60% new Burgundy barrels.


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you’ r e invited Sip‌a wine store & Wine and Design of Cary are teaming up for a

Tuscany Painting and Wine Tasting Event

Saturday, November 19th | 1-3pm at Sip...a wine store

Holiday Painting and Wine Tasting Event

Wednesday, December 7th 5:30pm tasting & 6:30pm painting at Wine and Design of Cary For more information visit CARYLIVING.COM | 23

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for your home

Guest Room for the

Whimsical snowman is the perfect touch for your little guests. Family Home & Garden

Festive gold Santa by the bed! Sixpence Accents

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your home is ready for the holidays – the tree is trimmed, the lights are twinkling in each window and your wreath is hung. But are you ďŹ nished? What about your powder room, guest room or guest bath? little holiday touches in these rooms will offer family and friends warmth and cheer this holiday season. our shops and designers share simple holiday touches.

WoodWick crackling candles in wonderful holiday scents. Sassy Blossom

Adorn your guest bed with this adorable Frosty pillow. Family Home & Garden

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Guest Bath for the

Luxurious soaps to treat your guests. Lillys

Let Frosty greet your guests by the bathtub. Sixpence Accents

Mercury glass candle holders add a glimmer to your guest bath. Ivy Cottage Collections



Gold sparkling boxes on the counter for extra storage. Ivy Cottage Collections

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St. Nicholas brings the spirit of Christmas to your kitchen. Floral Accents

Dining for

Stunning cake stand with Christmas ornaments and greenery add a special touch to your kitchen counter. Lilly’s

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perfect maintenance clean By Jamie rohrbauck | dust and mop

Looking forward to holiday guests visiting, but not looking forward to the pre-cleanup? We asked Jamie Rohrbauck, owner of Dust and Mop, to share her expertise on the quickest and most efficient way to get your home sparkling for the holidays. “At Dust and Mop we call this the ‘Perfect Maintenance Clean’; it’s 13 steps taken from Speed Cleaning by Jeff Campbell,” says Rohrbauck. “If a homeowner utilizes these rules, she can literally cut her cleaning time in half.”

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Make every move count. That means work around the room once. Don’t backtrack. It also means you must carry your equipment and supplies with you so you don’t make dozens of aggravating trips back and forth across the room. Walk around the room once and you’re done, except for the floor.

Work from Top to Bottom. Dirt follows the laws of gravity just like anything else. When you start at the top and work to the bottom, you won’t be constantly re-cleaning surfaces with dirt from above.

Not dirty, don’t clean it. For example, vertical surfaces are almost never as dirty as horizontal surfaces. Upper shelves and molding have less dust than lower ones. Often all that’s dirty about a surface is a few fingerprints, so don’t clean the whole area.

Don’t keep cleaning after it’s clean. Once you’ve reached ground zero, stop! You’re cutting into VLT – Valuable Leisure Time. Rinse or wipe, and move on.

Use the right tools. Ah! Here’s probably the major timesaver of the bunch. Give your specialized gadgets to your enemies. You need real tools that cut time to shreds. Most of all, you need a cleaning apron to hang tools on and store cleaning supplies in as you move around the room. The method depends on it, and soon you’ll feel lost without yours.

Don’t rinse or wipe a surface before it’s clean. You’ll just have to start over. In other words, when you’re cleaning a surface, don’t rinse or wipe just to see if you’re done. If you were wrong, you’ll have to start all over again. Learn to check as you’re cleaning by “seeing through” the gunk to the surface below. Then you can tell when it’s dislodged and ready to be wiped or rinsed...once!

Change your tools. You’re going to get very good at knowing what tool or product to use without having to throw everything in the book at it. You’ll be learning to anticipate what to reach for before you start a task so you won’t have to shift.

Take care of your tools. Dull razors scratch – they don’t clean. Clogged spray bottles puff up and make funny noises – they don’t spray.


Put your tools back in the same place in your apron. You can’t spare the time to fumble around for them. And you can’t afford to leave them lying around in alien places for the dog to carry away. You’ll quickly get so expert you’ll become aggravated if the tool you expected isn’t in the right spot when you reach for it.


Pay attention. Almost everything else will fall into place if you do. Don’t think about the revisions in the tax code. Or anything else. In Latin: Age quod agis-”Do what you are doing.”


Time yourself. Get a little faster every time.


Use both hands. Your work force is half idle if one hand is doing all the work. Finish one step with one hand and start the next step with the other. Or, wipe with one hand while the other steadies the object.

If there is more than one, work as a team. You’re what the biologists call a “superorganism.” If your partner gets done ten minutes faster, the team gets done ten minutes faster. And that is a wonderful thing. You can’t stop being vigilant for one moment about what will speed up or slow down your partner’s progress.

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about it... or Not By illYse lAne

When the story broke that Tennessee women’s basketball coach Pat Summit had early onset dementia, the news networks was reeling. And for those of us at home, listening to her son says that one of the warnings was that she went from misplacing her keys once a day to three times a day, well, we took a big gulp and thought, “uh-oh”.

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The fact is many of us misplace our keys on a regular basis. I do it so often that when I actually find my keys in the spot they’re supposed to be, I’m genuinely surprised. And I know I’m not alone in my forgetfulness. An informal survey of both my male and female friends found that many of us often forget the name of the person we just met, the title of the movie we saw on our last date night, where we parked the car and whether or not we turned off the stove. Many of us leave sticky notes on the bathroom sink and the fridge reminding us about an early meeting and even though we sometimes make lists for our lists, we still forget to grab that extra gallon of milk at the store. One friend confessed to only remembering that she’d forgotten to serve the broccoli she’d prepared with dinner upon discovering it the following morning, when she opened the microwave door to heat up breakfast. And it seems that the older we get, the more frequently our brain seems to lapse, making us wonder, is what we are experiencing normal? The Age Factor The answer is yes. Age-related memory loss is not only normal, but it is to be expected. And though it’s easy for us to acknowledge that the body ages – those extra few pounds, those wrinkles and that thinning hair make it hard for us to miss – it can be more difficult to accept that our brain also changes. “As we age, we lose brain cells and experience age appropriate atrophy,” says Dr. Paul C. Peterson of Duke Neurology Raleigh. “We still form memories and new connections, but the process of remembering is slower.” While there is no hard and fast rule as to when our slowing down may occur, Peterson says that generally, we see the first shifts between the ages of 40 and 50. We then may see another decrease during the next decade, between the ages of 50 and 60. So, if we’re thinking about enrolling in a college course, be prepared. It will likely take us more time to process the information than the average 20-year-old sitting beside us. All Forgetfulness is Not Created Equal The key is recognizing when this slowing down is occurring at a much higher rate than what is considered normal. “It is normal to have a lapse when you forget someone’s name or something you were supposed to do, and then remember it later on,” says Dr. Peterson. “It’s when a person is having trouble recalling information, forgetting things that they should know how to do, or asking for the same information over and over that there is cause for concern.” Let’s say, for example, I’m getting ready to leave the house with my husband when I realize that I have once again misplaced my keys. With normal memory loss, I would retrace my steps, searching for them. And even if I received a phone call in the middle of my search and got temporarily distracted, ideally, upon hanging up, I should be able to recall what I was doing in the first place – searching for my keys so I could leave the house. | 31

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It’s when a person is having trouble recalling information, forgetting things that they should know how to do, or asking for the same information over and over that there is cause for concern. – Dr. Peterson

But, if I was struggling with a more serious type of memory loss, I may forget to continue my search for the keys once hanging up the telephone. I may begin doing something completely unrelated, such as picking up the book I’ve been reading. And when my husband asks me what I’m doing, I would not recall that I had been both searching for my keys and planning on going out. While the above example could be indicative of early onset dementia, Dr. Peterson cautions against jumping to any conclusions. “There are dozens of reasons why you can have memory loss, including infections, brain cancer, medications and depression,” says Dr. Peterson. “And with early onset

dementia, it’s not just forgetfulness. There may also be lack of concentration, a language dysfunction that involves more than forgetting a word, impaired judgment, behavior changes, and an inability to take care of daily activities.” The bottom line is that if you’re concerned, or someone that knows you well (a spouse, child, or caregiver) is concerned, it makes sense to see your physician. The Focus Factor So what about my friend who left her broccoli in the microwave overnight? She didn’t remember it was in there until the next morning, when she ended up staring straight at it as she went to pop in the sausage. Should she be concerned? The answer is no. For once she discovered the broccoli, she immediately knew why she had forgotten about it. “I had turned the sound option off on the microwave when we had guests, so it wouldn’t be noisy. Without the bell, I didn’t think about the cooking cycle being over,” she says. “And, when the broccoli was cooking, I headed off to multitask, doing emails and such.” The key word in that sentence is multitask. The truth is, while it can be considered a gift to juggle multiple tasks at the same time, it also contributes to our forgetfulness. “Temporary memory lapses, especially those in our recent memories, can be made worse by distraction,” says Dr. Peterson. “And it can be even more challenging with age.”

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tips to

REMEMBER BETTER Dr. Peterson offers the following tips to help us remember better:

Exercise your brain. Doing puzzles and playing games are helpful, but it’s even better to engage your brain with new activities. Challenge yourself to learn a new skill or relearn something you first did 20 years ago. Exercise your body. Feed your body well. Eat a natural diet, full of fruits and vegetables, and stay away from processed food.* Get organized! Use memory tools such as calendars, notes and lists. Create designated spots for objects. When learning new information, use associations (facts, songs or names) to help you remember. Limit alcohol and do not smoke. Spend time with family and friends. Stay involved with your community. Get lots of rest. *Supplements are not proven to improve your memory and should only be taken if you are deficient in a particular area as determined by your physician.

consider that our memory works like a filing cabinet. First, our brain registers new information. Then, it gets filed away. However, if we don’t file properly because we aren’t focusing our full attention on what we’re doing – we put our cell phone down but don’t notice where we placed it, we impulsively leave the kitchen to take care of something in the garage, we look at a text message while the receptionist tells us our new appointment time, we’re preoccupied by bad news when someone is talking to us or we’re simply bored during a conversation – recent information may not get stored. Therefore, when we go to retrieve it, it’s just not in there. reMeMBer BeTTer Fortunately, with just a little effort, we can improve our memories. an easy first step is making an effort to pay attention. “When talking with someone, practice active listening by concentrating on what is being said,” recommends Dr. Peterson. and when it comes to completing even the tiniest of tasks, take the time to devote your attention to what you’re doing at that moment. While we can’t fight Father Time, making positive lifestyle changes can also help us to remember better. Staying active, eating a healthy diet, getting organized and challenging our brains are just a few ways we can help keep our memory strong. and if you’re worried about forgetting these tips, relax. Just glance at the top of this page. We’ve written them down for you. | 33

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CRANBERRY CRINKLE COOKIES Approximately 2 dozen Ingredients 3/4 cup all-purpose flour 3/4 cup sugar 1 tsp baking powder 1/2 tsp salt 4 Tbsp butter 1/3 cup cocoa powder 1 egg 1 tsp instant coffee mixed with 2 Tbsp hot water 1/2 tsp vanilla 1/3 cup chocolate chips 1/3 cup dried cranberries 1 cup powdered sugar Directions Preheat oven to 350 degrees. Mix together flour, sugar, baking powder and salt, then set aside. Place butter in a microwave safe bowl and melt. Add cocoa powder to butter and whisk until smooth. Add egg, coffee mixture and vanilla to butter mixture and mix well. Stir flour mixture into butter mixture until combined. Fold in the chocolate chips and cranberries. Divide dough into walnu-sized balls. Roll balls into powdered sugar twice. Arrange them 2 inches apart on a parchment-lined cookie sheet. Bake for 10-12 minutes or until cookies look cracked but are still soft. Cool.


PEPPERMINT KISSES Approximately 2 dozen Ingredients 3 egg whites 1/4 tsp cream of tartar 1/4 tsp peppermint extract 1/8 tsp salt 3/4 cup sugar Directions Preheat oven to 200 degrees. Line a cookie sheet with parchment paper. In a mixing bowl, combine egg whites, cream of tartar, peppermint extract and salt with an electric mixer on a medium setting. Beat mixture until you have soft peaks, then gradually add the sugar while continuing to beat on high speed until you get stiff peaks. Fit a pastry bag with a star-shaped tip. With a small paintbrush, paint lines of red food coloring on the inside of the pastry bag. Carefully scoop the merengue into the pastry bag and pipe stars the size of walnuts about 2 inches apart on the lined cookie sheet. Bake meringues for about 1 1/2 hours or until they feel dry when lightly touched. Allow to cool and enjoy!

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Ingredients 3/4 cup peanut butter 2 sticks butter 2 3/4 cups brown sugar 1 egg 1 Tbsp vanilla 2 1/2 cups flour 1 tsp salt 1 tsp baking soda 1 cup chocolate chips 1 cup chopped cooked bacon Directions In a bowl add together flour, salt and baking soda. Mix well and set aside. In a mixer, cream together peanut butter, softened butter and brown sugar until light and fluffy, 3 minutes. Crack the egg into a container (try not to break the yolk) and add vanilla. Pour egg into sugar mixture (if doing a larger batch, add the eggs one at a time), mixing well after each addition (scrape bowl often). Then add the flour mixture and mix on low until smooth. Add the chocolate chips and bacon and then mix until everything is combined. Drop scooped dough onto sheet pan close together, then wrap and store in fridge. To bake: Place cookie scoops on an ungreased parchmentlined sheet pan. Bake at 350 degrees 4 minutes, turn and then another 4 minutes. Cool.

Ingredients 3/4 cup butter, softened 1/2 cup sugar 1 tsp baking powder 1 egg 1 tsp vanilla 1 cup cornmeal 1 1/2 cups all-purpose flour 1 cup pistachio nuts, whole 2 tsp lemon zest 8 oz chocolate chips 1 tsp shortening 1/2 cup pistachio nuts, chopped Directions Preheat oven to 350 degrees. Place the butter, sugar and baking powder in a large bowl and cream together with an electric mixer, until light and fluffy. Add the egg and vanilla and beat until combined. Mix in the cornmeal, flour, 1 cup pistachio nuts and lemon zest. Mix together until you have a dough. Divide dough into 3 equal portions. Form each portion into a loaf shape and flatten slightly. Place loaves on a parchment-lined cookie sheet, about 2 inches apart. Bake in oven for about 20 minutes, then take out and allow to cool for about an hour. Take each loaf and slice into 1/2 thick cookies. Place cookies flat on a parchment lined sheet pan and bake for about 6 minutes. Flip the cookies over and bake for another 6 minutes, or until lightly golden. Then take out of oven and allow to cool. On the top of a double boiler, melt chocolate and shortening together. Dip each cookie in the chocolate mixture and then in chopped pistachio mix. Let set and then enjoy!

LEMON PISTACHIO BISCOTTI Approximately 2 dozen


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Estimated number of cookies that will be left out for Santa Claus this Christmas Eve.

OREOS are by far the most popular cookie left for Santa on Christmas Eve; however, a lot of homemade cookies are used also!


CRACKERS began as edible ornaments. Nabisco introduced Animal Crackers in 1902 as a seasonal item, and the boxes were marketed as Christmas tree ornaments!



of all home baked cookies are chocolate chip.

SECOND best selling cookie in the U.S. is Chips Ahoy Chocolate Chip Cookie, second to the Oreo.

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Watercolor Holiday Gifts With Rocky Alexander November 3 | 10am-12pm The Nature of Art | Garner

Coton Colors Get Happy Holiday Party November 3-5 | Sassy Blossom | Cary Christmas open house November 3-5 Floral Accents & Interiors | Cary 919-460-9663 Painting for Children and Teens November 5, 12, 19 December 3, 14, 17, 31 | 2-4pm Chambers Arts | Cary Holiday Open House November 5 | 8:30am-5pm The Garden Hut | Fuquay-Varina Sip’s…Local Beer Fest November 5 | 3-7pm Sip...a wine store | Cary 9th Annual Holiday Open House November 6 | 10am-5pm | Swagger Lochmere Pavillion | Cary | 919-858-5884 Paint your own wine glasses November 7 & December 5 | 6:30pm

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Free Beading Classes November 7 & December 5 Beautimous Beads | Cary

Cary Creative Journaling November 7, 14, 21, 28 December 5, 12, 19 | 12-1pm Chambers Arts | Cary Oil or Acrylic Painting for Adults November 7, 14, 21, 28 December 5, 12, 19 | 1:30-4pm Chambers Arts | Cary Watercolor Painting November 8, 15, 22, 29 December 6, 13, 20 | 2-4pm Chambers Arts | Cary Abstract Painting November 8, 15, 22, 29 December 6, 13, 20 | 11am-1pm Chambers Arts | Cary Wine 101: Malbec & Merlot November 8 | 6-8:30pm Sip...a wine store | Cary WBON-Cary Annual Silent Auction Fundraiser November 9 | 11:30am - 1:30pm Cary |

Thanksgiving Wine Tasting and Local Turkey Tasting November 11, 12 | 5-8pm, 1-4pm Sip...a wine store | Cary Plant Walk with Nelsa November 12 | 11am The Garden Hut | Fuquay-Varina Western Wake Artists’ Studio tour November 12: 10am-5pm November 13: 12-5pm Artists’ studios in Apex, Cary, Fuquay-Varina and Holly Springs | Wine 101: Cabernet and Cabernet Franc November 12 & 19 | 6-8:30pm Sip...a wine store | Cary Christmas open House November 15 | 6-8pm Family Home & Garden | Cary Open beading Classes November 16, 30 & December 14 1-3pm | Beautimous Beads | Cary Wines of Piedmont Class November 17 | 7-9:30pm Sip...a wine store | Cary Wine Tasting and Painting November 19 | 1-3pm | Sip...a wine store 1059 Darrington Drive | Cary TRIMMING THE TREE SEMINARS November 19 & 26 | 10:30am, 1pm, 2pm Floral Accents & Interiors | Cary 919-460-9663

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Raleigh Christmas Parade November 17 | 9:40am Sancerre and Local Goat Cheese Tasting November 22 | 5-8pm Sip...a wine store | Cary Holiday painting November 25 | 6:30pm Wine and Design of Cary Sleigh Rides December 1 | 6-8pm Fuquay-Varina Revitalization Association Abstract Art opening December 1 | 6-9pm | Café Caturra Cary | Christmas Tree Lighting December 1 | 6-8pm Fuquay-Varina Cary Academy Holiday Shoppe December 1: 10am-5pm December 2: 10am-5pm and 6:30-9pm December 3: 10am-4pm Cary Academy | It’s a Wonderful Life December 1-5 | 7pm Cary Arts Center | Date Night December 2 | 6:30pm Wine and Design of Cary

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Christmas Tree Lighting December 2 Morrisville Town Hall Apex Christmas Parade December 3 | 5pm HEART OF THE HOLIDAYS CELEBRATION December 3 | Downtown Cary (various locations and times) 919-469-4061 The Cary Christmas Tree Lighting Ceremony December 3 | 6pm | Town Hall Campus CAry community Choir performing handel’s messiah December 4 | 7pm Westwood Baptist Church | Cary 919-469-9393 | 919-467-1924 Fuquay-varina Christmas Parade December 4 | 3pm Holiday painting and WINE tasting December 7 5:30pm tasting & 6:30pm painting Wine and Design of Cary or Ladies Night December 8 | 6-8pm The Garden Hut | Fuquay-Varina Wine 101: Zinfandel and Primativo December 8 | 6-8:30pm Sip...a wine store | Cary

Annual apex nativity celebration December 8-10 | The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints | Apex holly springs Christmas Parade December 10 | 11am 6th Annual Jolly Elf Trail Run December 10 | 7:15am (Check-In) Bond Park | Cary cary Christmas Parade December 10 | 2pm Wine 101: Champagne/Sparkling December 10, 11 | 6-8:30pm, 5-7:30pm Sip...a wine store | Cary Guys Night December 15 | 6-8pm | The Garden Hut Fuquay-Varina | Dessert Wine Tasting December 15 | 7-9:30pm | Sip...a wine store | Cary | New Years Eve “Paint Party” December 31 | 7pm Wine and Design of Cary Send us your events Community events you would like published in the calendar can be emailed to

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CHANEL Rouge Coco Hydrating Creme Lip Colour, $32 If you are short on time, turn to a bold lip color. Keep eyes simple & make a statement with classic red or burgundy. Tip: Add longevity to your look by layering lipstick over lip liner. TO BUY: Available at local department stores

3. liquid liner REVLON Colorstay Liquid Eye Pen, $7.74 If you don’t have time for complicated shadow, leave lids bare (or apply a simple wash of pale shadow) and define eyes with liquid liner. Tip: New applicators make applying liquid liner a breeze. Look for pointed felt-tip pen liners. TO BUY: Available at Walmart

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Busy holiday schedules are no excuse! Like most women, I find myself with little time to transition from work to play. Here are a few of my favorite tricks to go from office appropriate to holiday glam in no time.

4. glitter polish Nicole by OPI Nail Polish, $7.04 Trade in your everyday manicure for something more festive. Tip: Apply a clear top coat with sparkle over your existing nail color. TO BUY: Available at Target

5. stick foundation BECCA Stick Foundation, $44 Cocktail parties call for a more polished look than your day-to-day routine. Apply over tinted moisturizer or lightweight foundation only in areas that require more coverage. TO BUY: Available at Luxe Beauty Boutique | 47

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L U C K Y By CHriSta GaLa

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Will you have good luck this year? No one knows for sure, but there’s no harm in indulging in a few traditional superstitions. Let’s just call it insurance.

Every new year’s Day my sister calls me, not too early, and asks the same question: “are you cooking your black-eyed peas?” she’ll ask. and every year i scoff, “no! i don’t believe in that stuff.” Plus, i don’t even like black-eyed peas. She then tells me i’m not going to have luck or money in the new year, whereas she and her husband are die-hard new year’s Day traditionalists, at least in the Southern way. not only do they have their peas, there are also collards and some type of pork, simmering away all day on the stove. ah, maybe i scoff too soon. it’s true that i’m not technically a superstitious person, but what’s wrong with a little insurance? after all, these traditions have withstood hundreds of years. That in itself is a kind of ringing endorsement. could there be something to these new years staples? i mean, i could use luck and prosperity in 2012. couldn’t you? Join me as i uncover why we eat what we eat on new year’s Day. oN your PLatE Black-eyed peas: Why, exactly, are these legumes lucky? During the civil War, black-eyed peas were used as a livestock crop. So when Sherman’s troops marched through the South, they left the pea fields alone. after the war, black-eyed peas became a nourishing food source for surviving confederates. lucky, indeed. Some people believe in eating black-eyed peas at the stroke of midnight; others are content to wait until the next day. and still others believe you must eat 365 blackeyed peas, which is a little gross and, frankly, problematic for the person you live with. Stewed tomatoes: This was new to me, but apparently if you eat your peas with stewed tomatoes, you’re courting both health and wealth. Collard greens: Some prefer to eat green beans or kale, but as long as it’s a green veggie, you’re good to go. The green stands for paper money; sometimes black-eyed peas are seen as the “coins.” Eating both together is supposed to usher in prosperity in the new year. Pork: Why not beef or chicken? Supposedly a cow stands still and a chicken scratches backwards, neither of which bode | 51

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well for the coming year. Pigs, on the other hand, root forward. Eating pork means you’ll move forward all year instead of scratching out a meager existence like chickens and turkeys or waiting for things to happen like the cows. Cornbread: This hearty staple hitches a ride on the prosperity wagon as well, representing gold. Do it your way The point, it seems, is to prepare and eat a meal that ushers in the New Year and closes the door on the old one. Feel free to add in your favorites to the traditional Southern staples. Each year Dan and Dawn Hamel of Apex cook a New Year’s Day feast that’s a nod to both her Southern roots and his Polish heritage. “Since I was raised Southern, we make black-eyed peas and collard greens, but Dan is polish, so we add in sauerkraut and kielbasa.” As for me, I usually adds something to ease my aching head, like pizza and pie. Combine your meal with activities you enjoy – an afternoon of football or movies. Or the traditional New Year’s kiss. Now that one’s a keeper.

Yummy Collard Greens

Recipe contributed by Virginia Walker

Ingredients 3 slices bacon 1 tsp salt 1 tsp pepper 3 cups chicken broth 1 pinch red pepper flakes 1 lb fresh collard greens, cut into 2-inch pieces Directions Cook bacon in a large pot over medium-high heat. Remove bacon from pan, crumble and return to the pan. Add collard greens, and fry until they start to wilt. Pour in chicken broth, and season with salt, pepper and red pepper flakes. Reduce heat to low, cover and simmer for 45 minutes, or until greens are tender.

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BlaCK-eYed Peas

Recipe contributed by Will Stephenson

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Recipe contributed by Barbara Pearce Ingredients 1 (28 oz) can petite diced tomatoes 1 cup sugar 1/4 tsp black pepper Directions Pour tomatoes into sauce pan. Add the sugar slowly, 1/4 cup at a time, and taste until sweet or until acid taste is gone. Add pepper to taste (more pepper can be added later). Cook over medium heat until thick. Watch your temperature and stir often. Cook about 1 hour.

Ingredients 1 package (16 oz) uncooked blackeyed peas 1/2 lb seasoned cured hamhock of side meat 1 Tbsp olive oil

2 Tbsp butter or margarine 2 tsp seasoned salt 2 tsp black pepper 2 cups water

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SPRAY your way into

SAVINGS By Bobby Myers Myers Professional Insulation, Inc.

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None of us enjoy that trip to the mailbox where we know we’ll find a fistful of bills. Two bills that hurt families the most are the gas and electric bills, particularly during frigid winters and broiling summers. During those months, those two bills can sometimes double in size putting a real pinch on the family budget, especially in this economy.

The big question: how do you keep the “conditioned” air inside? You don’t want the cold or hot air outside seeping in or the conditioned air you’re paying for seeping outside. Often, if you put your hand against a door or window when it’s extremely cold, you can actually feel the spots where the air is getting in. The problem isn’t going to go away by itself; in fact, over time, as your home ages, it’s just going to get worse. The good news is that technology has brought about all kinds of advances, not the least of which has been a focus on innovative “green” or “energy saving” products. Spray foam insulation was conceived through these concerns. What is spray foam insulation? Spray foam insulation is actually just like it sounds. A trained technician sprays the insulation, which expands to fill gaps, blocking air infiltration and providing both a sound and air barrier. You’re protected not only from unwanted air leakage but also outside pollutants, moisture and noise. Spray Foam Insulation is available in both open and closed cell foam. Certified technicians help you pick the most effective cell foam to provide the best coverage. The green benefits Spray Foam insulation is environmentally friendly and non-toxic, containing no VOCs; it also has a True R-Value and is an Energy Star Partner. Insulation is installed by Energy Gold Star certified contractors who are familiar with the impact of materials on the environment. Keep in mind


With spray foam insulation, your HVAC unit may not need to be as large. In fact, proper design and sizing of the HVAC system is necessary when installing spray foam insulation. Its high efficiency actually requires a reduction in the capacity of the system – that’s how “green” it is. So it’s important that your existing mechanical system is designed or adjusted for foam insulation; otherwise it could short cycle, causing decreased comfort levels and increased energy bills – definitely not what you want. Done right, however, and it’s a fantastic investment in your home, warranted for the life of the home. It seals the building envelope as well as the crawl space and won’t sag or settle. If you’re tired of skyrocketing energy bills, it just might be worth checking out.

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Apple varieties range in size from a little larger than a cherry to as large as a grapefruit. There are apples that have an aftertaste of pears, citrus, cinnamon, cloves, coconut, strawberries, grapes and even pineapple!

buy in season All fruit has an optimum season when flavor, freshness and nutritional value are at their peak. buy loCally When you buy local produce there are many benefits. Local growers are a great source for suggestions, recipes and harvest information. Supporting local growers helps preserve family farms. be adVenturous Don’t be afraid to experiment. Try some new varieties. Keep apples Cool Apples continue to ripen after they have been picked. Keeping them cool retards this process. Never leave apples out at room temperature. Nothing can ruin an apple’s flavor more than letting it sit out at room temperature.

easy apple dumplings 4 large Granny Smith apples, peeled and cored 2 (10 ounce) cans refrigerated crescent roll dough 1 cup water 1 cup white sugar 1/2 teaspoon ground cinnamon 1/2 cup butter Preheat the oven to 350 degrees. Grease a 9x13 inch baking dish. Cut each apple into 4 wedges and set aside. Separate the crescent roll dough into triangles. Roll each apple wedge in crescent roll dough, starting at the smallest end. Pinch to seal and place in the baking dish. Melt butter in a small saucepan and stir in the water, sugar and cinnamon. Pour over the apple dumplings. Bake for 35 to 45 minutes in the preheated oven, or until golden brown.

healthy, local produce and foods every tuesday and saturday at the Western Wake farmers’ market in Cary! Please check for weekly guest educators and musicians. Cary Living is the exclusive print sponsor of the Western Wake Farmers’ Market.

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North Carolina


7th in apple production in the U.S.

Apples are harvested from orchards in Henderson, Haywood, Wilkes and Cleveland counties.

Mainly produce 4 varieties: red deliCious apple This is a favorite type for the Americans it has a sweet-tart crisp, with a thick bitter skin and strong flavor. This type can be eaten raw, but not suitable for baking.

golden deliCious apples They have a thin skin and juicy texture. These apples are great for baking.

rome Originated from Rome, Ohio, are round fleshy apples. These are red with a greenish cast and light sharp-tasting. Rome apples have a thick skin though they can be used for baking

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Conversation Approaching the idea of a retirement community By Kate Turgeon

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It was decades ago, but maybe you remember when your parent sat you down to have “the talk.” Adolescent angst met parental discomfort, and there you two were discussing the proverbial birds and bees. Sure, it was a little awkward. But it was necessary. Consider that talk a walk in the park. These days you’re older and so is your parent. Forget conversations that center on birds and bees in the air. Today there’s an elephant in the room. And, once again, the two of you need to talk. Your parent is aging. Maybe daily chores seem to overwhelm him. Perhaps her rheumatoid arthritis makes it painful to cook or dress. There are a myriad of reasons that continuing to live at home may not be the right fit for your aging parent. While it’s difficult and emotional to realize that a change could be best, remember that it all starts with conversation. And Cary Living has ideas and tips for how to approach it. Remember who is number one Elder care experts stress that the most important participant in planning for care is the person whose care is being considered. Engage your parent in the process and respect his feelings and thoughts. “The worst mistake is making them feel like they have no choice, no control. Never assume that you know what they will like or dislike,” says Staci Stewart, leasing manager at Waltonwood Cary Parkway Senior Living. Seek help No one expects you to have all the answers. Experts suggest talking to trusted clergy members, counselors or friends who have been in similar situations. Visit your local library for books on caring for an aging loved one. Don’t wait Talk about choices before a crisis situation occurs, says Stewart. After all, a hospital room isn’t the best place to begin a conversation about a new living situation. “I don’t think you are ever too young to start examining your options…transition is hard no matter how the move may go or even when the move is. There is an adjustment period. There may be bumps in the road. However, it’s how we handle these situations that determines overall happiness,” says Stewart. Stay positive The American Association of Retired Persons (AARP) suggests stating your concerns in the “I” form by beginning sentences with words such as “I feel,” “ I need” or “I’m concerned.” It’s a more positive route than starting sentences with the word “you.” For example, saying “I’m concerned that you may fall on the stairs” is less threatening than “Going upstairs in your condition is ridiculous. You’re sure to fall.” | 59

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Consider the time and place Choose a comfortable, non-threatening environment for the conversation. “It’s important for them not to feel they are being ambushed [or feel like] this has been a topic of conversation and they were not included,” says Stewart. Knowing your parent well is a benefit. Select the time of day she generally feels best and choose a place where she feels most relaxed.

The thought of a move is always emotional for anyone, especially for a senior. When talking with a family member about making a move, it is so important to keep an open mind and understand their thoughts, wishes and concerns. - Staci Stewart, Waltonwood Cary Parkway Senior Living

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Need help assessing the situation? Here are some questions to ask your loved ones. About their home

• Is your home still appropriate for you now that

you’re getting older?

• Can you manage the stairs, or would you do

better on one level? About their activities

• Do you need help with household chores, such

as cleaning, fixing meals or taking care of the yard?

• Does poor eyesight interfere with your

daily activities?

• Can you always hear the telephone or a knock

at the door? About their mobility

• Is driving difficult for you?

• Do you have reliable transportation for shopping,

medical visits, religious services and visits with family and friends? About their health

• What health problems do you have?

• Have you been to your doctor lately?

• What has your doctor told you about your health?

Source: AARP

Break the ice Noticing the health and housekeeping issues that are creeping into your parent’s life was the easy part. Speaking the first words about what’s happening may be more difficult. The AARP has ice-breakers to help: Ask your loved one what they want and need, share your own emotions about their changing situation (and urge them to do the same), raise the issue indirectly (mention someone else’s experience or something you’ve seen in the news) and watch for opportunities your loved one presents (such as giving information from a doctor’s appointment). Let it evolve Understand that this conversation will be a series of many talks, and could take months, even years to complete. “It is not a conversation you have one day and then the move is made the next week,” explains Stewart. “This is a process that takes time, many visits and lots of conversations. Some moves can take up to two years to complete.” (Of course, if physical or mental health is at risk, time may be a luxury that you don’t have. Always consult medical professionals and take appropriate actions.) | 61

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the dream reality! is one step closer to

Over six years ago Lou Giambalvo started the Triangle Down Syndrome Network Golf Tournament,, raising money to create independent living for future adults with Down syndrome like his daughter, Gianna. The success of this year’s tournament at The Golf Club at Chapel Ridge takes his dream one step closer to reality. The October 1st, 2011 tournament raised over $34,000, selling all 144 golfer slots in just four weeks. one hundred and fifteen sponsors donated food, sponsored golf holes or donated gift certificates and items for the silent auction. This year golfers had three opportunities to win a new car in Hole-in-One contests. Even though nobody made a hole-in-one, it was an exciting opportunity provided by Hendrick Auto Mall in Cary, Crossroads Infinity in Cary and Pittsboro Ford. Without a doubt the big moment of the day was Giambalvo announcing the hiring of a project manager/ consultant and the name of his dream, Hope Spring Village,

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coming up in the next

Western Wake Weddings Planning your big day? Don’t miss Cary Living’s 2012 Western Wake Wedding Guide for everything you need to know about saying “I do!” Your Beastly Back Back pain – whether mild or extreme, quick or constant – affects 80% of adults over 30. What raises your risk? What can you do about it? Learn about back pain’s causes, risks and prevention. The Art of Lighting! Lamps are a great piece of functional art, from modern to traditional. We will feature lamps of all sizes and shapes and share guidelines for choosing the right lamp for your space. Weathering Winter Sweaters, jackets, gloves, scarves, boots… Great looks for weathering winter!

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holiday fashion kids


Santa’s little helpers will deck the halls and enchant the family in these cute, colorful holiday looks!

1 Get ready for holiday fun with this Santa Baby tunic and sock legging set. Available at GreenPea Baby.

2 Your little guy will look festive in this Peaches n’ Cream


Christmas green santa face long-all. After the holidays it reverses to black check for those remaining winter months! Available at Pattywhacks.

3 Twinkle, twinkle, little snowflake. A dress that is great for the holidays and beyond! Available at GreenPea Baby.

3 This hand-knit gown will make a wonderful keepsake for their first Christmas. Available at GreenPea Baby.

5 Your little guy will be oh so handsome in this French

blue corduroy hand-smocked nativity scene John John Hand by Anavini. Coordinating girls bishop also available. Available at Pattywhacks.

6 From the Christmas Cheer Collection by Hartstrings, an

adorable baby girls vanilla button-front cardigan sweater with velvet ruffle detail paired with mesh knit red skirt featuring all-around mesh ruffle detail with vanilla tights and red shoeIntarsia detail. Available at Pattywhacks.

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Patients are relieved that in some situations, cavity preparations can be done without the need for anesthetic, which is also beneficial for senior patients, who can be sensitive to the effects of anesthetic. Dentists around the world have performed an array of procedures with WaterLase with less need for shots, anesthesia, drills and post-op numb lips. If you consider yourself somewhat of an anxious dental patient and are seeking extreme safety and comfort, laser dentistry with WaterLase iPlus may be just what you are looking for. What is the All-Tissue Laser – WaterLase iPlus? The WaterLase iPlus all-tissue laser is the fastest, most advanced evolution from BIOLASE. Your dentist will remove cavities with only light and water using the WaterLase iPlus. You can expect healthier, more comfortable care throughout your dental experience. Additionally, WaterLase iPlus All-Tissue Laser is cleared for a full range of hard-tissue, soft-tissue, periodontal, endodontic, and surgical procedures. Traditional treatment of gum disease requires cutting and folding back the gums to clean the surface of the root of the affected teeth. With the advanced technology of the WaterLase iPlus, it can go between the teeth and gums, clean the root surface, remove diseased tissue, kill germs, and remove calculus, which helps the gum reattach to the tooth to keep harmful bacteria out – no scalpels or sutures necessary. The benefits of using laser dentistry include: • Procedures performed using soft tissue dental lasers may not

require sutures • Anesthesia and/or injections may not be required • Minimizes bleeding because of the high energy light beam,

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inhibiting blood loss • Bacterial infections are minimized • Damage to surrounding tissue is minimized • Wounds heal faster and tissues can be regenerated Most patients want to spend as little time as possible in the dentist’s

chair. With WaterLase iPlus, your dentist can go right to work removing tooth decay, without waiting for anesthesia to work. WaterLase iPlus seeks out decayed teeth and is very precise, leaving more of the healthier tooth than the drill. Once your procedure is completed, there is no need to wait for that numb lip to go away, you can return to work, school or play immediately. Hard and Soft Tissue Procedures Performed The application of laser dentistry with WaterLase iPlus opens an array of opportunities for dentists to perform a wide variety of dental procedures they otherwise may not be capable of performing. Hard tissue – or tooth – procedures include:

• Cavity detection

• Dental fillings/tooth preparation

• Tooth sensitivity

Soft tissue – or gums – laser procedures include:

• Crown lengthening

• Gummy smile

• Soft tissue folds

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is this the

By Anna quinn harrelson, md | fastmed urgent care

It is absolutely no fun and completely inconvenient to be sick. This time of year the flu seems to be everywhere, but how do you know if that’s what your sickness is? Colds and the flu are both caused by viruses and are very similar in other ways. Both can cause congestion, cough and fever, making it difficult to discern the difference.

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Once you have decided you have the flu, it is important to seek medical

to develop the proper antibodies to defend against the flu. Flu season

care quickly. However, there are no effective medicines to stop a cold-

in our area of the country comes towards the end of January and the

you can only treat the symptoms and allow your body time to fight it.

beginning of February, which means you need to receive your vaccination

With the flu there are antivirals that can be prescribed to shorten the du-

in the month of November to be properly and effectively protected.

ration and lesson the severity of it if started within 48 hours of the onset

The flu, if untreated, typically will run its course over a few week’s

of symptoms. These can only be prescribed by a doctor after a flu swab

time, but can lead to more serious complications. Once the body’s

confirms the illness or exposure history plus symptoms.

immune system has been weakened and respiratory illness has set in,

Early flu vaccination plays an important role in protecting yourself

someone suffering from the flu is much more likely to get pneumonia,

during the height of flu season. Many people believe that just getting

sinus infections, or worse. Therefore, it is important to get your flu shot

the vaccine protects them from the flu, when in fact the timing of the

every year and keep your immune system healthy with rest, proper nutri-

vaccination is very important. It takes up to eight weeks for your body

tion and adequate hand washing!

Here are some simplified ways to help with the diagnosis:



Runny nose

Overwhelming exhaustion


Total body aches


Fever 101 or higher

Mild headache

Headache (worse than that from a cold)

Starts with one symptom then evolves

Comes on fast

Usually lasts about a week

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turkish nights at cary arts center

The new Cary Arts Center hosted “Turkish Night: Expressions in Music and Dance” on Saturday, September 17th. The American Turkish Association of NC (ATA-NC) presented the Blue Star Dance Troupe, Anatolia Wave Dance Ensamble and NewWave of ATA-NC, all highlighting Turkish Folk Dances from various regions of Turkey.

C anes corner at backyard bistro On Wednesday, September 28th, Backyard Bistro held the first Canes Corner of the season, featuring All-Star goalie Cam Ward.

Pay it forward party Caring Community Foundation’s Pay It Forward Party was held on Saturday, September 10th. The charitable organization that provides financial support to cancer patients in need raised over $150,000!

third annual uncork for a cause The Cary Junior Woman’s Club held the 3rd annual “Uncork for a Cause” wine tasting on Friday, October 7th, at Halle Cultural Arts Center in downtown Apex. Proceeds from the event this year will benefit Horse and Buddy, a local nonprofit organization providing therapeutic riding experiences to individuals with disabilities.

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Grand Op e n i ng SOHO Consignments held their grand opening on Saturday, October 1st. Guests enjoyed refreshments as they browsed the vast selection of home furnishings at the recently opened store.

CARY BALLET C o n s e rvatory awa r d e d r e s i d e nc y Cary Ballet Conservatory was awarded residency status at the new Cary Cultural Art Center in downtown Cary, where their company will perform their holiday show and the grand celebration of their 15th Annual Spring Gala.

Cute buttons third birthday On Saturday, September 24th, Cute Buttons held a party to celebrate their third birthday and to benefit 2 Paws Up, an organization dedicated to saving animals from high-kill shelters. Here’s a photo of young customers who put together a lemonade stand in their neighborhood to raise money for 2 Paws Up, along with a rep from 2 Paws Up (left). | 71

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stonehaven cele brates 10th anniversary

On Thursday, September 15th, Stonehaven Jewelry Gallery celebrated its 10th Anniversary with a soiree. They had live music, hors d’ oeuvres, cocktails and giveaways throughout the event.

HOliday Shopp e 2011 The popular Cary Academy Holiday Shoppe will be held this year from December 1st - 3rd, on the campus of Cary Academy. Each year the Shoppe attracts more than 4,000 shoppers. Proceeds from the Shoppe support scholarships and community service. For more information please go to

grand opening Swagger “Style with Flair” had their grand opening on Thursday, September 29th. They celebrated by offering customers special discounts and giveaways.

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On Wednesday, September 7th, Cary Living honored their “Diamond Award” winners and advertisers at Café Caturra in Cary. Everyone enjoyed cocktails and hors d’oeuvres while over 35 Western Wake businesses were recognized for being the readers’ favorites. Three lucky guests won special raffle items from Diamonds Direct Crabtree, Stonehaven Jewelry and Blossom Shop Florist. | 73

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oops..... In the September/October issue “Triangle-Based Indie Band Living the Dream� the photos on pages 20, 21 and 22 were incorrectly credited. These photos are the work of Timothy Szczesniak and Hunter Lee Elliott with Fade To Black Photography and Cinema, 919-283-9540, We apologize for the error!

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1 1. Stonehaven Jewelry Gallery Award winning platinum design featuring beautiful pink tourmaline and small diamond accents on each end.


2. Swagger Gifts & Style Introducing the fun, fab way to dress up any pair of boots – the faux fur boot topper! $39.95


3. Make your mark with the Noteworthy Snap Stamp. This stamp base allows you to customize stationery with multiple interchangeable face designs. $38.99 - $47.99 4. Blue Water Spa Donate $50 to the Boys and Girls Club this holiday and receive $350 off of Juvederm.

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5. GreenPea Baby Perfect for preschool or trips to grandmas! This holiday season, get it personalized for added fun. $23.95 and $33.95 personalized. 6. Sixpence accents An angel of a gift! Measure your rainfall with this antique metal garden angel rain gauge. 7. Chocolate Smiles A-tisket a-tasket…WOW…a chocolate filled basket! Makes a delightful and tasty hostess gift or center piece for holiday entertaining. Custom made to meet your needs. $15 per pound


8. J.alane’s Fine lingerie Cozy pima cotton/modal camisole & boxer short set by B*UP with a matching ruffle trimmed cardigan. Short set - $105; cardigan - $58


9. Heather Swanner Photography Studio Choose your favorite images to create a “Floating” Gallery Blocks™ for that special someone.




10. Sassy Blossom The perfect personalized gift this season. Choose from a variety of personalization options. We can even print a company logo for corporate gifts! Mugs - $17.99; iPhone 4 case - $22



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11. Beautimous Beads Snowman ornament/trinket box with two tone leopard scarf along with this freshwater Pearl bracelet with Swarovski Rondelles and a sweet floral wristlet would make a great gift for that special loved one. 12. Family Home and Garden This beautiful beaded necklace will dress up any outfit for the someone special on your gift list. 13. Elegant Stitches The BERNINA 830 makes a gorgeous gift this year with a sewing and embroidery system with technology so advanced, and features so thoughtful, the experience of sewing on it is simply luxurious.



14. Great Harvest Bread Company From our family to yours we are baking made fromscratch breads for holiday gifts to give your friends and clients. 15. Floral accents Festive Christmas sleigh filled with sparkling ornaments and artificial evergreens. $89.50 16. Cute Buttons Gift and Paper Boutique These Christmas countdown plates by Rosanna will amuse you every time you sit down to your holiday table. Set of 12. $112



17. Diamonds Direct Crabtree An 18 karat yellow gold bangle style bracelets containing multicolored rose cut diamonds weighing 2.75-4.39 carats. 18. Flant Boutique Pamper someone you adore with our all-natural body products. Available in 2 scents – Trispiration and White Ginger. 19. Gigi’s Boutique With endless ways to wear it, this paisley printed scarf in multi colors works well for all occasions, casual to dressy. $18



20. Foot Solutions Give the gift of comfort that’s sure to bring great joy! Your loved one’s feet will receive lots of TLC.

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gift certificates Nirvelli Day Spa The cinnamon and vanilla aromatherapy massage combines elements of shiatsu, reflexology and Swedish massage; aromatic oils calm the nerves and restore even the most tired of bodies. $65 Hand & Stone Massage and Facial Spa Relax, refresh, restore! Gift cards are the perfect way to say you care. Choose from a variety of services for a fun and healthy gift!

Backyard Bistro The home of the Tom O’Brien Show and Canes Corner, Backyard Bistro is your #1 sports headquarters in the Triangle. Chef Mario The ultimate care package! Chef Mario’s Personal Chef Meal Delivery packages start at just $185, which includes dinner for two, for 5 days! Klara’s Restaurant Give the gift of Czech cuisine. Great holiday gift for everyone! The Meat House Give the gift of a delicious and memorable meal with a gift card to your neighborhood butcher. With each $25 card purchase, you will receive a $5 card for yourself, or take 20% off your total gift card purchase for your whole staff.

Dust and Mop Cary’s locally-owned house cleaning service. A perfect holiday gift for one-time, weekly, bi-weekly and monthly services. Ask about our Ahhh…Package, cleaning service for 12 months.

Café Caturra With influences from the Mediterranean to classic American fare, we bring an extraordinary experience in a familiar way.

Scruffy Duck Full Service Car Wash and Detail Center From the teenager who never has time to wash his car to the soccer mom who can’t seem to keep the minivan clean, a car wash


or detail gift card is a great stocking stuffer.

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Excel Body Fitness Give the gift of fitness! Our 12-week program is designed for all fitness levels and will get you in the best shape of your life! Purchase a gift certificate and get a 15% discount – coupon code: CL2012. Metabolic Research Center Get that jump start on the new year and give someone you care about a 6 weeks for $99 gift card! Lose up to 30 pounds. Make 2012 your “I Did It Year!”

Wine and Design in Cary Have fun painting while enjoying a glass of wine with your friends or your date with our “Paint Party” gift certificates!

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Want Your Holiday Gifts and Cards to Arrive

on Time? It’s never too early to start your planning!

First Class Mail Within the U.S. send by

December 20th To APO/FPO addresses send by

December 10th To international addresses send by

December 9th Priority Mail Service Within the U.S. send by

December 21st

December 17th To international addresses send by

December 15th |

Express Mail Service To APO/FPO addresses send by

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23 21. aDoRE Designer Resale Boutique Nothing says extravagance, style, and glamour more than CHANEL! Classic black CHANEL chain link belt (can also be accessorized as a necklace). $319.99


22. ashworth’s Clothing Classic Peter Millar multi tattersall mens shirt atop a seagrass quarter zip Peter Millar wool and cashmere sweater. Shirt - $115; Sweater - $195


23. Swagger Gifts & Style Knit gloves with ruffle wrist accent features conductive’ smart screen’ knit on thumb and index finger for use with smart phones and other touch screen devices. $15 24. lilly’s - Historic Downtown apex Swan Creek Candles are made with 100% American soybean wax. They are clean burning, lead free, and intensely fragrant. $11 - $20 25. ivy Cottage Collections Adorable 13” tall porcelain snowmen with blinking LED lights! Festive and fun for the holidays. $28 each or 1 free with a purchase of $50 or more, get both free with a purchase of over $100. (Limit one set per customer, while supplies last!)

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26. Pattywhacks Gund’s Personalized Storytime Bear reads “Twas The Night Before Christmas” with your little one’s name in the story!


27. SoHo Consignments This solid brass lamp was brought back from Taiwan during the Korean War by a soldier for his beautiful bride. $195


28. Southern Charm Boutique Acrylic monogram necklace on sterling silver chain. Over 20 colors to choose from. $54


29. Sip...a wine store Jo Landron Sparkling Wine “Atmospheres” Brut makes the perfect hostess gift this holiday. 30. Pool Professionals Take advantage of our Winter Installation Special! All contracts signed by December 31st, 2011 will receive a 5% discount – up to $5,000 off.





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Cary Living Magazine  

November/December 2011