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Empty naves could be a common sight if the Church doesn’t clean its house.

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I appreciated very much Tom Gogola’s article about the law firm Jeff Anderson & Associates releasing the names of the Catholic clergymen with sexual-abuse histories (“Roster of Abuse,” Oct. 31). Usually, the names are not mentioned unless an archbishop or cardinal is involved.

The sickening switching around of abusers from school to school and parish to parish has kept the names out of the news. Kudos to the law firm and to the Pacific Sun. Ann Woodward Greenbrae

Poultry Effort

What the author fails to mention in his article concerning chickens at McCoy Poultry Services (“Cage Match,” Oct. 24) is the condition of the 10 chickens rescued from the facility. Their injuries were so severe that they had to be euthanized.

Instead of holding a conference on how to “prepare and manage activists,” why doesn’t the Sonoma County Farm Bureau do the right thing and tell farmers they have to treat their chickens humanely?

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California’s wine industry began in 1857 in Sonoma, at what winery, California’s oldest?

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What product did Apple computers introduce in 2007 that sold less than 2 million units its first year, but which now sells over 200 million units per year?

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The United States of America is named after what person?

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Iconic singer-actress Cher starred in what three movies between 1985 and 1990 that have single-word titles beginning with “M”?

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Since 2016, the most popular texting and photo-sharing social network among American teenagers has been what?

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There are a number of systems in the human body—the skeletal system, for example. Name six more.

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What fast-food restaurant chain, founded almost a hundred years ago, reached the height of its popularity during the 1950s carhop era, shrunk in popularity over the past few decades, and is now making a comeback, with plans to open 45 new restaurants this year?

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Both the Los Angeles Lakers and the Los Angeles Clippers play their home basketball games in what Los Angeles arena?

BONUS QUESTION: Medieval Italian scientists originally named this disease “bad air,” inaccurately believing that one caught it by breathing sulfuric air found in swampy regions. Now we know the real cause. What disease is this?

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Heroes &Zeroes

By Nikki Silverstein

Hundreds of students from Venetia Valley Elementary School delivered cards, drawings and flowers to the Rodef Sholom campus in San Rafael last week. The gifts, shared in the aftermath of the Pittsburgh synagogue massacre, carried comfort to the campus. The notes contained the sentiments “We Are with You” and “Kindness Is Everything.” Rodef Sholom said the visit from the Venetia Valley students was a true act of neighborliness and brought hope for their shared future.

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The annual Homeless Outreach event, hosted by the Sausalito Police Department, provides the anchorout and homeless communities with a variety of free services and supplies, including medical and dental care, lunch and clothing. Marin Mobile Care, a nonprofit operation, offers the use of a mobile shower trailer at the event. The police say the relaxed atmosphere helps foster communication between officers and attendees. Homeless Outreach takes place on Tuesday, Nov. 13, from 1:00pm to 3:30pm, at Marinship Park in Sausalito.

Erika Bodo submitted a zero about “people who sit in their cars with the engine running, burning fossil fuels and condemning us all to an earlier death.” While sitting in the parking lot outside Starbucks in Marin City last weekend, we watched a truck idle for 25 minutes.

We wanted to call out the driver, but chickened out. But Erika did knock on the window of a guy sleeping in his car with his motor running, and asked why he was emitting CO2 without the benefit of motion. He said he was keeping the temperature inside the car at a comfortable level.

It was 62 degrees outside. “I’m afraid there are people out there who don't have enough of a science education to know that running a car is contributing to global warming,” says Erika. That’s optimistic. We’re afraid people just don’t care.

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Election Day was also a referendum on the charterization of the American public school system.

Midterm Exam Will progressivism trump privatization in GOP push to destroy public education in America? By Jeff Bryant

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or years, the policy window for privatizing public schools has been wide open, and what was once considered an extreme or at least rare idea—such as outsourcing public schools to private contractors with few strings attached, or giving parents public tax money to subsidize their children’s private school tuitions— has become widespread, as charter

schools are now legal in all but a handful of states, and voucher programs have proliferated in many forms across the country.

Politicians of all stripes have been extremely reluctant, especially at the national level, to lean into a real discussion of the negative consequences of redirecting public education funds to private operators, with little to

no regulation on how the money is being spent. Candidates have instead stuck to a “safe boilerplate” of education being “good” and essential to “the workforce” without much regard to who provides it.

But policy windows can be fleeting and multiple factors can rejigger the public’s views. Indeed, in campaigns that candidates waged in the midterm elections, one can

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It is the wave of new progressive candidates who appear to be the ones who are shifting the policy window on school privatization.

Take the campaign of progressive superstar Randy Bryce, in his run for the congressional seat Paul Ryan held in Wisconsin. The Badger State recently expanded statewide a voucher program that was confined to Milwaukee and Racine, and charter schools have expanded significantly under the leadership of Republican Gov. Scott Walker.

On his website, Bryce provides the usual bromides about “every child deserves a quality education” and “charter, private and traditional public schools can all thrive,” but he then adds the curious statement that “no student should see money taken from their classroom in order to serve another.” What does that mean?

Click through the “Learn More” prompt and you’ll watch a video in which he makes a much stronger statement about the problems of privatizing public schools. “We can’t afford two school systems, a public one and a private one,” he elaborates, and he blasts “vulture schools that don’t have the same accountability and don’t have the same rules.”

The example of the school he brings up that closed after head count day and whose owners “moved to Florida” is a real school run by a husband-and-wife team who abruptly closed their Milwaukee private school after taking more than $2.3 million of state voucher money, and moved to Florida to start another one.

These sorts of scandals have become nearly daily occurrences in the privately operated school industry.

Schools for Scandals The latest scandal breaks from Arizona, where the state auditor found that parents who used the state’s voucher-like education

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savings program spent more than $700,000 on cosmetics, music, movies, clothing, sports apparel and other personal items. Some even tried to withdraw cash with the state-issued debit cards. The state has not recovered any of the money.

But the state legislature recently passed a bill to expand the voucher program, which was challenged by a recall effort in this election.

In California, a recent audit of a charter school found the married couple who ran the school made almost $850,000 in less than two years and secretly hired people and created positions without approval from the school’s board.

(There are some 1,200 charter schools in California, and Sonoma County dominates the North Bay with nearly 60 charters currently operational; Napa has three and Marin has four charter schools.)

Of course, financial scandals happen in public schools too. That’s why they’re heavily regulated. But the notion that “parent choice” can keep charter schools and private voucher schools clean and honest is disproven nearly every day. A recent analysis of states with the most charter schools and the most charter closures finds the federal government dumps millions into these schools but provides little oversight and guidance for what to do when these schools close, leaving millions of dollars in taxpayer money at risk to scamming.

The endless revelations of corruptions in the charter school and school voucher racket are now what’s driving policy. Of course, some progressives stick to the old script of “investing in schools” with little regard to who runs them, and a few still cling to the school privatization cause. But the trend that made privatizing public schools an acceptable if not preferential policy has at least stalled, if not completely been thrown into reverse.

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Five Easy Splices Stinson Beach Doc Fest another hit By Pauline Kale Alex Honnold loses his mind and climbs El Capitan without ropes in the doc ‘Free Solo.’

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he Stinson Beach Doc Fest, now in its fifth year, offers a truly filmic treat under one roof—and for a good cause. The festival showcases five great documentaries and is devoted to helping fund the Stinson Beach Community Center. This year’s films gained international attention and accolades, and also hit on an issue or ethic near and dear to many North Bay hearts.

This year’s festival also promises to be deliciously local, with all the choice trimmings drawn from our local larder of love. On opening night, “Gala Night,” North Bay chef David (“I’m the Anthony Bourdain of the North Bay”) Cook will be on hand preparing the food, a “Tastes of West Marin” menu for attendees. Cook will also be dishing

up between-films meals through the weekend to attendees at $20 a pop.

They ought to make a film about Dave. Maybe next year.

Free Solo Nov. 10, 7pm There’s a line from Freddie Nietzsche where the philosopher points out that if you stare at the abyss long enough, it will start to stare back.

With that in mind, there’s no sport like the free-climbing of rocks to make the point about the abyss that looms for one and all—despite the best efforts of the Buck Institute for Research and Aging. Free-climbing has got to be both the dumbest and bravest sport in the world, and every time Netflix puts one of these crazy-climber stories up—you

know I’m sitting there, glued to the screen, anxiously puffing away. “Don’t fall, man!”

There’s really no sport that offers such a level of visceral and direct contemplation of the very thin line between life and death that’s all around us, or as the French like to say, le voile est mince.

Free Solo tells the life story of Alex Honnold, who set out a few years ago to climb the 3,000-foot El Capitan massif in Yosemite National Park. He set out to do it without a rope. Dude, are you crazy?

Two climbers this year died while climbing El Capitan—with ropes.

There’ve been more than two dozen deaths on the iconoclastic massif since 1968. Every time I watch one of those angsty docs about extreme climbers, I die a little too.

Honnold gave an interview to Rolling Stone recently where he says he’s an atheist and comments on that whole idea of staring into the abyss: “Being on big granite walls is a constant reminder that nature just does not care. You’re just another animal that slipped off something.

I’ve seen animals fall off cliffs. I saw a mountain goat bite it in Mexico, which was crazy because you think of them as being so majestic and surefooted. He survived, actually, and just got back up. I saw a squirrel fall off a cliff once. I was like, ‘Holy shit, even squirrels!’ That’s nature, you know.”

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is to be squashed like a bug in the crosshairs of a Democracy beset by reptile-brain derangement and wet-brain justice, courtesy of Donald Trump and his various appointments to high positions of power; e.g., Brett Kavanaugh.

So it’s cool that liberal feminist crusader Ruth Bader Ginsburg, an appointee of the philandering gasbag Bill Clinton, is in her mid-80s, has survived pancreatic and colon cancer, lifts weights and has been pegged with a nickname that invokes a long-dead Brooklyn rapper and crack dealer, the original Notorious B.I.G, aka Biggie Smalls. They share a lot in common.

Ginsburg was also born in Brooklyn.

RGB delves into the mystique and the mirthful, mass-cult hagiography that attends the elevation of a Supreme Court judge to a position of high-media rock-stardom and pop-culture legend.

Much as I totally dig her gestalt, it’s unclear to me how or why Ruth Bader Ginsburg earned this stature— it’s not just because of her opinions and dissents—but I guess the film will explain everything, and then some. It premiered at Sundance this year and has done pretty well at the box office.

Here’s to RBG’s continued good health, and to a future filled with films that also celebrate the likes of Snoop Dogg Sotomayor.

Potomac, Phil and Poppet—well, it almost makes me want to gouge out my eyeballs, grab a stick and be led around the county by a highly trained Labrador. There are worse things.

Pick of the Litter

Well, this one looks fun and totally local, keying in as it does on the birth of the organic-produce movement in America—which is to say, at the ground zero for organic agriculture in these here United States, Star Route Farms in West Marin.

Why, there’s even a local actress of some renown doing the voiceover for Evolution of Organic, and who once starred as a public defender in the hit cop show Hill Street Blues, in the 1980s.

Weird, we haven’t heard much from her since her starring role in the Steven Bochco drama, but the growth of the organic foods movement since the 1960s is a different story—it has been a loud and proud addition to the American food scene, accessible and delicious to all who dare take a bite, and humble in its vegetative state of no-pesticide purity. The film features interviews with the likes of Warren Weber (founder of Star Route Farms) and Paul Muller of Full Belly Farm, among others.

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Hey, it was just a couple of weeks ago that we were highlighting San Rafael’s Guide Dogs for the Blind in our Pacific Sun nonprofit issue, and—boom!—just like that, here’s a documentary screening of Pick of the Litter at the Stinson fest that’s all about guide dogs and how their cute little lives unfold.

Bay Area filmmakers Dana Nachman and Don Hardy have produced a wonderful and poignant film that highlights how competitive the world out there is for would-be guide dogs, and how not every animal makes the cut. The film focuses on the trainers at the San Rafael training center, where some 800 dogs are born each year—but only a few hundred make the final cut through a rigorous training regimen that takes years to complete.

The trailer alone to this sweet film is so loaded with puppy love and sloppy beasts by the name of Primrose, Patriot,

Dark Money Nov. 11, 7pm When most people think about outrageous political conduct in Montana, well, it’s hard to not focus on Sen. Greg Gianforte beating up a Guardian reporter for daring to ask him a question.

Dark Money takes place in Montana and provides some of the sober architecture that explains how a goon like Gianforte could be considered for higher office, and the answer is the 2010 disastrous Citizens United ruling from the Supreme Court, which turned corporations into people, then turned electoral politics into a rolling scandal where thugs like Gianforte would be celebrated by the likes of Donald Trump for body-slamming the First Amendment—which is pretty much exactly what the Citizens United ruling did, too.

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Two movements have dominated discussions in 2018: gender equality and action over outrage, topics that reign at the Napa Valley Film Festival, running Nov. 7–11.

The NVFF, now in its eighth year, takes a stand with the #ArtInspiringAction initiative, where provocative, issue-based films amp up theatergoers to take action in support of themes explored in the films. One such documentary, This Changes Everything, features an army of A-list actresses who speak out on gender disparity in the entertainment industry. Actor, activist and producer Geena Davis (the main subject of the film), will be presented with the Visionary Award on Friday, following the screening.

Davis will be honored for her work to further women’s rights and gender equality; as special envoy for the U.N.’s International Telecommunications Union, and through her nonprofit, the Geena Davis Institute.

On Saturday, a panel, Women in Film: Shattering the Glass Lens, will further extend the conversation around equality with a lineup of female filmmakers who will discuss their careers and ways we can band together to effect change in the industry.

Other #ArtInspiringAction programming includes Afghan Cycles, about a tribe of Afghan women who, despite cultural barriers, oppression and death threats, rally against the patriarchal hold of the Taliban for the freedom to ride a bicycle. Soufra follows the journey of Mariam al-Shaar, a generational refugee, who spent her whole life in a refugee camp in Lebanon. Over the course of the film, Shaar changes her fate when she builds a catering company and food truck with the help of fellow refugee women.

Ask for Jane tells the story of a group of college women who developed an underground abortion network to help over 11,000 women get illegal abortions in Chicago between 1969 and 1973.

The film is based on the real-life activist group, the Janes, who operated a spy network to assist with abortions before they were arrested in 1972.

A bevy of Bay Area films hit the screen, including Uncrushable, directed by celebrity chef Tyler Florence. The film documents last year’s wildfires through the eyes of some of those most affected, including victims who lost homes or businesses, first responders, chefs and winemakers. Tails are sure to wag at the #ArtInspiringAction screening of Pick of the Litter, as theatergoers see a

litter of puppies scrap it out on a quest to become guide dogs for the blind.

The movie is directed by Bay Area filmmakers Don Hardy and Dana Nachman, and also screens in Stinson Beach this week.

With all the drama on and off screen, festival-goers can laugh it off at a sneak peek of the National Geographic miniseries Valley of the Boom (premiering January 2019).

The two-episode screening explores the detonation and disruption of the tech boom and browser wars of the ’90s, weaving scripted dialogue and real-life segments. Bradley Whitford and Steve Zahn star.

Funny bones are sure to be flexed at Friday’s special tribute honoring the legendary Groundlings theater group, which launched comedic wunderkinds like Will Ferrell, Lisa Kudrow and Melissa McCarthy. Ferrell said this about his experience at last year’s fest, “I was just happy to be a part of the festival and do a little Q&A but to be honored as well,” Ferrell said about last year’s festival. “It’s great because in the comedy world, we don’t get a lot of awards. It’s nice to have your work recognized.” One of Groundlings’ founding members, Laraine Newman, is expected to attend alongside alums Cheri Oteri, Taran Killam, Stephanie Courtney and Julia Sweeney.

At Thursday’s Celebrity Tribute, actor, producer and director Laurence Fishburne will receive the Legendary Actor award, alongside Maverick Award recipient Billy Bob Thornton.

Saturday’s Rising Star Showcase will honor up-and-coming talents, including Camila Mendes (Riverdale), Billy Magnussen (Game Night), Rosa Salazar (American Horror Story), Alexandra Shipp (X-Men: Apocalypse), Tye Sheridan (Tree of Life) and Taissa Farmiga (The Nun; What They Had).

Two new venues make their debut at this year’s NVFF. In Calistoga, theatergoers can get rolling at the drive-in theater at the Calistoga Fairgrounds, which will screen a daily double feature and sport 50 parking spots for cars and bleacher seating for 100, with enough throwback snacks to cure even the meanest case of the munchies.

The new Feast It Forward studio in Napa will host the Wednesday-night kick-off party and serve as the down valley hub, with a diverse programing and party scene that includes culinary demos, film inspired wine and food pairings, a filmmaker lounge and live music, all set within a happening indooroutdoor space.—Christina Julian Visit nvff.org for the full lineup.

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From Boston to Seattle and everywhere in between, audiences love the Tommy Lama Comedy Experience—the get-rich-quick life coach/guru character created by veteran comedian Tommy Savitt that skewers America’s fascination with selfhelp. Savitt knows his stuff, having earned a bachelor’s in psychology and using it to spoof the likes of Tony Robbins, Deepak Chopra, Joel Osteen and other so-called gurus. After an extended run in Las Vegas, Tommy Lama comes to the North Bay with a satirical life-coaching venture on Friday, Nov. 9, at Throckmorton Theatre, 142 Throckmorton Ave., Mill Valley. 8pm. $20–$30. 415.383.9600.

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Funny Voices Award-winning voice actor Samantha Paris has appeared in over a thousand commercials, as well as multiple television shows and cartoons, though she’s best known these days as a voice-acting educator, founding and running the Voicetrax academy in San Francisco for 30 years. She is also the author of a book on the subject, Finding the Bunny. This weekend, Paris leads an innovative event that includes live voice actors acting out excerpts of the book. Paris takes you inside the world of voice acting on Saturday, Nov. 10, at Barnes & Noble, 313 Corte Madera Town Center, Corte Madera. 3pm. Free. 415.927.9016.

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Rockin’ Broadway The Mountain Play Association, which has produced an annual outdoor theater adventure on Mount Tamalpais each summer for over a hundred years, is taking on the Broadway classic Grease next summer. To help fund the fun, the organization gets ready to Rock, Roll & Broadway at its annual fall fundraising gala this weekend. Enjoy a Champagne and wine reception, buffet dinner, silent and live auctions and a spectacular musical revue directed by Eileen Grady and featuring over 20 Bay Area artists on Saturday, Nov. 10, at Osher Marin JCC’s Hoytt Theater, 200 N. San Pedro Road, San Rafael. 5pm. $100–$150. 415.383.1100.

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Visions of Peace Founded in 1982, the Marin Interfaith Council celebrates all faith traditions, advocates for justice and builds a community that now include over 52 congregations, 8 religious organizations and 19 nonprofits. This weekend, the council is gathering the community for the 13th annual Visionary Marin Awards. This year’s topic is “Education Equality,” and the honorees include Bettie Hodges and Kim Mazzuca, both known for their work in local educational endeavors. Connect with the community, enjoy a delicious lunch and enter to win gifts on Sunday, Nov. 11, at Congregation Rodef Sholom, 170 N. San Pedro Road, San Rafael. 3:30pm. $60 and up. marinifc.org.

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Backpacker, writer, artist and poet Obi Kaufmann reads from his ‘California Field Atlas’ during a presentation on ecology and conservation on Wednesday, Nov. 14, at the Marin Art & Garden Center in Ross. See Readings, p20.

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Debt or Alive Student-loan debt and the dilemma of getting an education By Aiyana Moya

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onversations about debt and loan repayment are an alltoo-familiar discussion when it comes to college—and especially for those who attend fouryear universities these days. I graduated from the UC Santa Barbara this year, and now I’m living at home. My recently graduated friends have a game we play where we compare our ages when we’ll be debt-free.

With a little bit of luck, I will be 33 when I finish paying off my college loans, in 10 years. This is a rough estimate: I added two years to account for interest, and I calculated the pay-off in hopes I can continue to make payments above the minimum required—and this is on the condition I never defer a payment. Using my peers as a comparison, I will be the first to pay off my loans. It’s cold comfort.

A new analysis by the Federal

Reserve Bank of New York found that college graduates borrow, on average, $34,000 by the time they get out of school. The report also found that the total amount of student loans has risen from $300 billion to $1.1 trillion in the past decade. Students accept the debt because it comes with the promise of higher paying jobs and increased quality of life after graduating.

This promise is an empty shell of what was true for older generations.

Tuition rises and the cost of housing rises, but entry-level positions are still compensated with measly wages, and there are few resources to help graduates pay back debt.

The loans I’d taken out during my first years of school began to materialize this year in the form of $20,000 in debt. That’s why, in the months leading up to my graduation, I felt an imperative to make a career move. I

considered my options. I wanted to go to graduate school, but taking a break from college to chisel away at my debt seemed more responsible than heaping another $30,000 a year onto it.

So I did what college graduates do: I scoured the internet for jobs, attended job fairs and spoke with advisors.

Despite my internships and experience, I found no entry-level jobs that paid more than $15 an hour.

I expanded the search to include any and all jobs I was equipped to work, from public relations to accounting.

Even when my experience made me a qualified candidate, the compensation was never enough to live on while also repaying my loans. The pressure to decide what to do with my future—and quickly!—felt like a suction cup slowly narrowing and collapsing in on itself.

Decisions about where and how to live plague me and my friends. Some

Aiyana Moya is a paid intern at the ‘Pacific Sun.’

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are lucky enough to have parents who can supplement their incomes, and are able to pursue jobs within their desired field, despite the low wages (or, in some cases, nonexistent wages—looking at you, unpaid internships). Most of my friends take customer-service jobs in order to make the rent, and a handful have moved home.

I took a hit to my pride and decided the most financially sensible decision was to move home, and dutifully assumed my status as the broke college graduate.

I work as a waitress in Sebastopol, where I make three times what I make writing for my internship.

Despite (because of ?) a degree in political science, my previous experience writing for the local newspaper in Santa Barbara and my position as editor at my school magazine, finding a career that paid enough to sustain myself turned out to be an impossible assignment.

Perhaps this speaks to the particular field I would like to go into—writing—but the phenomenon is relevant to nearly all graduates outside of engineering and computerscience majors. I cite close friends as evidence. They have degrees ranging from accounting to environmental science to sociology. None has a job in their chosen field.

I’m not complaining. But I am trying to understand the value of higher education, and I’m trying to reconcile my definition of its value with society’s definition. Apparently, they’re not the same.

I love learning. I thrive on discussions that stretch my perspectives. I collect facts as a hobby. Education, to me, has intrinsic value. Yet society puts a value on that education at $34,000 a year— with the implied promise of a highpaying job in the future.

This is totally at odds with my experience job hunting. I’ve found that many employers use a college degree as a prerequisite for any job, often regard degrees as insufficient, and then pay the bare minimum. The dynamic is compounded regionally by the lack of affordable housing and those looming loan repayments that come due just as graduates are entering a very tight job market.

It’s unsustainable. More people have college degrees now than at any time in history, but the crippling reality increasingly lends credence to the idea that education as a means to achieve financial stability is a fool’s errand.

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Blitzen Trapper mark a decade of ‘Furr’ By Charlie Swanson

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he year 2008 feels like a long time ago to songwriter Eric Earley, frontman of Portland, Ore., folk-rock group Blitzen Trapper—though it was a monumental one for the band. It was the year they released their acclaimed breakout fourth LP, Furr, via Sub Pop and gained an international fan base.

“I remember being pretty consumed by music at that time, writing and recording it. There wasn’t a whole lot else,” says Earley. Having fronted Blitzen Trapper for nearly a decade already at that time, Earley was living in inner city Portland, and capturing slices of life in the city, both the good and the bad, through narrative songs that resonated with audiences then and now.

This year, Furr gets the deluxe treatment in an expanded 10-yearanniversary reissue that contains all 13 original tracks as well as 10 bonus

songs recorded around the same time, and two live tracks.

To celebrate the reissue, Blitzen Trapper are on a major U.S. and Canadian tour performing the album in its entirety. The band storms into the North Bay to play the HopMonk Taverns in Novato and Sebastopol on Nov. 10 and 11, respectively.

While Furr depicted a Portland that has certainly changed in the last decade, Earley’s songwriting has remained true.

“I’ve cycled through different ways of writing, but ultimately I’m still writing a lot of story-songs, folk songs,” he says.

“I still like to dabble in other genres here and there, and that’s the cool thing about playing Furr live—the record touches on a lot of different things, different genres. It remains interesting for us to play every night.”

In the last decade, Blitzen Trapper have released eclectic records and experimented with the art form on

such records as 2017’s stage-play-turned album Wild & Reckless, which Earley describes as a companion piece to Furr.

“I was going back to certain themes in the show,” says Earley.

“For me, it’s kind of the same head space and the same stories retold.”

Currently deep on the tour, Earley has heard from longtime fans how Furr touched their lives. “Some of those songs seemed to have helped people through difficult times, which is pretty great,” he says.

“As a writer of songs, I wouldn’t necessarily think about them in that way, but to hear people’s stories on it and about their lives is pretty amazing.”

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rson Welles’ Other Side of the Wind is likely the most famous unfinished film ever, blighted with feuding producers and heirs, and shoots that continued over the course of some seven years. After paying off the participants (including the Shah of Iran’s brother) and satisfying all the parties who had a piece of it, and with money raised from everyone from producer Frank Marshall to a $1 million crowdfunding campaign, The Other Side of the Wind is now available from Netflix, in what the streaming service deems “an attempt to honor and complete [Welles’] vision.”

Director Jake Hannaford ( John Huston as Welles’ alter ego) is found dead in a car crash the night after his wild birthday party in a

desert mansion—a party crowded with old-time filmmakers, filmschool poindexters and young flatvoiced groupies.

Hannaford was making a film within a film, which the studio was ready to pull the plug on. When we visit the set, with its bevy of topless hippie chicks, the shoot looks like crassness itself. But in the screenings, velvety images form, suffused with L.A. beachfront smog. Welles’ mistress (and cowriter), the dark, impassive Oja Kodar, reflects zero emotion as she strides around nude in this blue gloaming.

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Welles’ terminal vision of the studio era was contemporary with titles like The Last Picture Show and The Last Movie, whose directors, Peter Bogdanovich and Dennis Hopper, show up here for Hannaford’s last party.

The twilight of the Hollywood gods is embodied by Kodar, solitary, striped with shadows from the laths of ruined, wobbling backlot movie sets. In this evocative satirical drama, Welles demonstrates a last magic act. He was still ahead of his time even at the end of his career.

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Friday, November 9–Thursday, November 15 Anna Karenina: The Musical (2:05) Direct from Moscow, it’s a new musical version of Leo Tolstoy’s epic romance—complete with ice-skating.

Beautiful Boy (1:52) Timothée Chalamet delivers a career-defining performance as a real-life Marin meth addict; Steve Carell costars as his supportive Inverness dad.

Bohemian Rhapsody (2:14) Biopic traces the rise, fall and death of singer extraordinaire Freddie Mercury and how his band Queen redefined rock.

Bolshoi Ballet: La Sylphide (2:00) The acclaimed dance troupe presents Bournonville’s romantic fable of a young Scotsman ensorcelled by an ethereal winged creature.

Boy Erased (1:55) Tue story about a gay teenager forced to choose between losing his family and undergoing conversion therapy; Russell Crowe and Nicole Kidman star.

Burn the Stage: The Movie (1:23) Catch the popular South Korean boy band in concert, backstage and in exclusive one-onone interviews!

Can You Ever Forgive Me? (1:46) Melissa McCarthy stars as real-life celebrity biographer Lee Israel, who found greater fortune (and ill-fame) as a literary forger; Richard E. Grant costars.

Coldplay: A Head Full of Dreams (1:55) Loving tribute to the British pop band features archival footage, backstage interviews and concert mayhem.

Fantastic Beasts: The Crime of Grindelwald (2:14) Gellert, Newt and the rest of the J. K. Rowling Players are back and grappling with arcane matters of wizardly bloodlines; Jude Law is Albus Dumbledore.

First Man (2:21) Ryan Gosling stars as Neil Armstrong in a first-person account of the seven-year struggle to land a man on the moon.

Free Solo (1:40) Edge-of-your-seat documentary follows mountaineer Alex Honnold as he attempts to scale Yosemite’s vertiginous El Capitan—without a rope!

Funny Girl: The Musical (2:40) Acclaimed new West End production of the Jule Styne/ Bob Merrill musical stars Sheridan Smith as Fanny Brice.

The Girl in the Spider’s Web (1:57) Stieg Larsson’s ever-beleaguered computer hacker Lisbeth Salander returns for more violence, language and sexual content.

The Grinch (1:00) Dr. Seuss’s green-hued, Yuletide-loathing grump takes on Whoville for the third time; Benedict Cumberbatch vocalizes.

Human Smugglers (1:00) Documentary focuses on the “travel agents” who’ve helped millions of migrants make their way to Europe beneath the legal radar.

Instant Family (1:57) Newlyweds Rose Byrne and Mark Wahlberg get more than they bargained for when they set out to adopt a child and end up with three.

Johnny English Strikes Again (1:28) Rowan Atkinson is back as the bumbling secret agent, taking on a super cyber-villain with gadgets and pratfalls.

Life and Nothing More (1:54) Timely,

Anna Karenina: The Musical (NR) Beautiful Boy (R)

Bohemian Rhapsody (PG-13) award-winning neorealist drama about a single mother struggling with race, class and poverty in contemporary Florida.

Liz and the Blue Bird (1:30) Naoko Yamada anime about the troubled relationship between two high school girls, one an oboist, one a flautist.

The Metropolitan Opera: Marnie (3:20) Winston Graham’s tale of a quicksilver beauty burdened with secrets and lies gets the operatic treatment from composer Nico Muhly and diva Isabel Leonard.

Mid90s (1:24) Lively dramedy about a 13-year-old kid and the cool skater dudes who befriend him; Jonah Hill directs.

More than Funny (1:30) Rising comic Michael Jr. stars in a movie that’s part autobiography and part stand-up routine.

Museo (2:08) True tale of two layabouts who overcame their midlife crises by looting Mexico City’s National Anthropological Museum; Gael García Bernal stars.

The Nutcracker and the Four Realms (1:39) Lasse Hallström reconfigures the holiday classic with Clara discovering a parallel universe of sugarplum fairies, brave soldiers and rambunctious mice; Keira Knightley and Helen Mirren star.

Overlord (1:49) WWII actioner with a horror-flick twist as D-Day paratroopers discover a Nazi experiment gone rogue in a Normandy church basement.

The Old Man & the Gun (1:33) Robert Redford’s final film role as a real-life charismatic 70-something bandit; Sissy Spacek and Tom Waits co-star.

A Private War (1:46) Rosamund Pike stars as real-life globetrotting war correspondent Marie Colvin in Matthew Heineman’s tribute to old-school journalism.

Restoring Tomorrow (1:22) Inspiring documentary about the history and restoration of Los Angeles’s venerable Wilshire Boulevard Temple.

Suspiria (2:32) Fever dream of a horror flick in which an evil force infiltrates an elite dance troupe; Tilda Swinton and Dakota Johnson star.

Tea with the Dames (1:24) Eavesdrop as theatrical royalty Eileen Atkins, Joan Plowright, Maggie Smith and Judi Dench dish the dirt over crumpets and oolong.

Thugs of Hindostan (2:44) Aamir Khan and Amitabh Bachchan star in a sword-andcrossbow swashbuckler extravaganza; Vijay Krishna Acharya directs.

Tombstone Rashomon (1:23) Timetraveling, 21st-century filmmakers arrive in Tombstone the day after the Gunfight at the O.K. Corral only to find that the survivors’ accounts of the event conflict wildly.

Widows (2:08) Action-filled caper flick about four women paying off their late husbands’ criminal debts stars Viola Davis, Colin Farrell, Michelle Rodriguez and Robert Duvall; Steve McQueen directs.

Wildlife (1:44) Evocative adaptation of Richard Ford’s novel about a midcentury Montana family falling apart at the seams; Carey Mulligan and Jake Gyllenhaal star.

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Coldplay: A Head Full of Dreams (NR) Fantastic Beasts: The Crimes of Grindelwald (PG-13)

Lark: Thu 6:30 Regency: Fri 11:25, 2:10, 4:50, 7:30, 10:15; Sat 2:10, 4:50, 7:30, 10:15; Sun, Wed 11:15; Mon-Tue, Thu 11:25, 2:10, 4:50, 7:30 Sequoia: Fri-Sat 4:20, 7:20, 10; Sun-Mon 1:40, 4:20, 7:20; Tue, Thu 4:20, 7:20 Fairfax: Fri-Sat 1, 4, 6:10, 7, 8:35, 9:25, 9:55; Sun-Wed 1, 4, 6:10, 7 Northgate: Fri-Mon, Wed 11:20, 12:40, 2:40, 4, 5:50, 7:10, 9, 10:20; Tue 11:20, 12:40, 2:40, 4, 5:50, 9, 9:30 Playhouse: Fri 3:30, 6:30, 9:25; Sat 12:30, 3:30, 6:30, 9:25; Sun 12:30, 3:30, 6:30; Mon-Wed 3:30, 6:30 Regency: Fri-Sat 12, 3:10, 6:10, 9:10; Sun 3:50, 6:40; Mon 11; Tue 12, 3:10; Thu 12, 3:10, 6:10 Rowland: Fri-Mon 10:20, 11, 1:40, 2:10, 6:30, 7, 9:40, 10:15 Regency: Sun 12:55 Regency: Fri-Sat 11:10, 1:50, 4:40, 7:20, 10; Sun-Thu 11:10, 1:50, 4:40, 7:20 Lark: Thu 9 Rafael: Fri 3:30, 5:45, 8; Sat-Sun 1:15, 3:30, 5:45, 8; Mon-Thu 5:45, 8 Rafael: Wed 6:30, 9

Cinema: Thu 5, 8:15 Fairfax: Thu 5, 8; 3D showtime at 5:15 Northgate: Thu 5, 7, 8, 10, midnight; 3D showtimes at 6, 9 Playhouse: Thu 5, 8 Rowland: Thu 5, 8:10, midnight First Man (PG-13) Larkspur Landing: Fri, Mon-Wed 6:30, 9:40; Sat-Sun 12, 3:15, 6:30, 9:40 Free Solo (NR) Rafael: Fri 4, 6:15, 8:30; Sat-Sun 1:45, 4, 6:15, 8:30; Mon-Tue, Thu 6:15, 8:30; Wed 4, 4:30 Funny Girl: The Musical (NR) Lark: Mon 1 Larkspur Landing: Fri, Mon-Wed 7:15, 10; Sat-Sun 11, 1:45, • The Girl in the Spider’s Web (R) 4:30, 7:15, 10 Northgate: Fri-Wed 11, 145, 4:30, 7:15, 10:10 Rowland: Fri-Mon 10:40, 1:30, 420, 7:10, 10:10 Fairfax: Fri-Sat 12, 12:50, 1:30, 2:20, 3:20, 3:50, 4:40, 6:15, • The Grinch (PG) 7, 9:20; Sun-Wed 12, 12:50, 1:30, 2:20, 3:20, 3:50, 4:40, 6:15, 7 Northgate: Fri-Wed 11:30, 12:20, 2, 2:50, 4:20, 5:20, 6:10, 7, 7:50, 8:40, 9:30, 10:25; 3D showtimes at 10:50, 1:10, 3:40 Playhouse: Fri 4, 7, 9:30; Sat 12, 2, 4, 7, 9:30; Sun 12, 2, 4, 7; Mon-Thu 4, 7 Rowland: Fri-Mon 10, 10:30, 12:20, 2:40, 3:10, 5:30, 7:20, 7:50, 9:50, 10:20; 3D showtimes at 12:50, 5 The Hate U Give (PG-13) Northgate: Fri-Wed 12:30, 3:45, 6:50 Lark: Tue noon (guest speakers TBA) • Human Smugglers (NR) Northgate: Thu 7:05, 9:55 • Instant Family (PG-13) Northgate: Fri-Wed 7:25 • Johnny English Strikes Again (PG) Regency: Tue 7 • Kurios—Cabinet of Curiosities (NR) Rafael: Thu 7 (cineaste Alex Cox in person) • The Last Movie (R) Life and Nothing More (NR) Rafael: Sat-Sun 3:15 Lark: Sat 4; Sun 10:50; Mon 4:20 • Liz and the Blue Bird (PG) • The Metropolitan Opera: Marnie (NR) Lark: Sat 9:55am; Wed 6:30 Regency: Sat 9:55am; Wed 1, 6:30 Sequoia: Sat 9:55am; Wed 1, 6:30 Northgate: Fri-Wed 10:05pm • Mid90s (R) Rafael: Fri 3:15, 8:15; Sat 12:30, 8:15; Sun 11:30; Mon 8:15; Tue • Museo (NR) 8:45; Thu 4:30 Nobody’s Fool (R) Northgate: Fri-Wed 11:35, 2:25, 5:05, 7:45, 10:30 Rowland: FriSun 11:10, 1:50, 4:30, 7:30, 10:30 The Nutcracker and the Four Realms (PG) Fairfax: Fri-Sat 12:40, 3:30, 6:40, 9:15; Sun-Wed 12:40, 3:30, 6:40 Larkspur Landing: Fri, Mon-Wed 7:30, 10:05; Sat-Sun 11:15, 2, 4:45, 7:30, 10:05 Northgate: Fri-Wed 11:50, 1:15, 2:20, 3:50, 4:50, 6:30, 9:05 Playhouse: Fri 3:45, 6:45, 9:15; Sat 1, 3:45, 6:45, 9:15; Sun 1, 3:45, 6:45; Mon-Wed 3:45, 6:45 Rowland: Fri-Mon 10:50, 1:20, 4:10, 6:50, 9:30 The Old Man & the Gun (PG-13) Regency: Fri-Sat 12:15, 2:40, 5:15, 7:40, 10:10; Sun-Thu 12:15, 2:40, 5:15, 7:40 Overlord (R) Northgate: Fri-Wed 11:10, 1:50, 4:35, 7:35, 10:15 Regency: Fri-Sat 11, 1:40, 4:30, 7:05, 9:50; Sun-Thu 11, 1:40, • A Private War (R) 4:30, 7:05 Northgate: Tue 7 • Restoring Tomorrow (PG) Northgate: Fri-Wed 9:25pm • Suspiria (R) Thugs of Hindostan (NR) Northgate: Fri-Wed 10:55, 2:35, • 6:15, 10 (in Hindi with English subtitles) Rafael: Wed 7 (writer-director Alex Cox in person) • Tombstone Rashomon (NR) Northgate: Thu 7, 10:10 • Widows (R) We have omitted some of the movie summaries and times for those that have been playing for multiple weeks.

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Chekhov’s bleak masterpiece great for a woeful night out

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don’t know anyone who attends theater to reinforce a belief that life is simply a series of travails to be endured until the sweet release of death, but if you’re out there, have I got show for you. Birdbath Theatres is presenting Anton Chekhov’s Uncle Vanya in a new adaptation by Jesse Brownstein, directed by David Abrams.

Vanya (Rob Garcia) and his niece, Sonya (Winona Wagner), manage the small estate of his late sister where they live with the family matriarch, Mariya (Molly Noble), an old family nurse (Shirley Nilsen Hall) and a guitar-playing family friend (Andrew Byars). The estate’s meager proceeds have gone to support his late sister’s husband Professor Serebryakov (Ray Martin) and his new trophy wife, Yelena (Claire Champommier).

A perpetually infirmed Serebryakov, after spending the summer at the estate, has come to a decision: he wishes to sell the estate to come up

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with enough money to purchase a nice retirement cottage in Finland for himself and his wife. What of the others who live there? Well, those details can be worked out later.

This infuriates Vanya, who’s already ticked off because Yelena, for whom he secretly pines, has shown affection for country doctor Astrov (Jesse Lumb), who has also caught the eye of the perpetually sad Sonya, who bemoans her looks. After two and a half hours, no one ends up with anyone, nothing is sold, and life drones on.

Abrams takes a minimalist approach to Chekhov’s look at the miserable lives of a turn-of-the-20th-century Russian family. There’s no set to speak of, and the action (I use that term loosely) often takes place at opposites sides of the small space, leaving many in the audience watching the play is if it were a tennis match.

It’s a well-acted production, however, with Garcia’s Vanya a

cauldron of self-loathing who, after finally boiling over, returns to a state of eternal simmering. Lumb’s Dr. Astrov is the least dreary of the lot who, while filled with remorse about his life decisions, provides a welcome spark to the often-lethargic proceedings.

The play’s bleak tone is reinforced with some fine cello accompaniment

by Diego Martínez Mendiola. Is there any sadder sound produced than that of the bowed chordophone?

Regret is the overriding theme of Uncle Vanya—the regret that comes when revisiting the decisions that define a life. I don’t regret the time I spent with the dispiriting Voinitsky family, but I don’t see the need to revisit them anytime soon.

‘Uncle Vanya’ runs Friday–Saturdays through Nov. 18 at the Belrose, 1415 Fifth Ave., San Rafael. Friday– Saturday, 7:30pm; Sunday, 2pm. $20–$28.

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Band. Nov 10, Persian Flamenco with Farzad Arjmand. 919 Fourth St, San Rafael. 415.813.5600.

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George’s Nightclub Nov 9, Aries Show. Nov 10, DJ Jorge. 842 Fourth St, San Rafael. 415.226.0262.

Everyone Orchestra All-star ensemble features Michael Kang and Jason Hann (String Cheese Incident), Dan “Lebo” Lebowitz (ALO), Robin Sylvester (Rat Dog) and others. Nov 8-9, 8pm. $35. Terrapin Crossroads, 100 Yacht Club Dr, San Rafael.

415.524.2773.

Mike Lipskin & Dinah Lee The jazz pianist and vocal powerhouse are joined by saxophonist Leon Oakley for an afternoon of classic songs. Nov 11, 4pm. Free. Rancho Nicasio, 1 Old Rancheria Rd, Nicasio. 415.662.2219.

Soul Ska Bay Area favorites perform a tribute concert Studio One, home to the Skatalites, Bob Marley & the Wailers and others. Nov 9, 9pm. $20-$25.

Sweetwater Music Hall, 19 Corte Madera Ave, Mill Valley. 415.388.3850.

SONOMA California Banjo Extravaganza Seventh annual fest features all-stars Ned Luberecki, Chris Coole and Bay Area favorite Bill Evans. Nov 11, 7pm. $25-$27. Sebastopol Community Center Annex, 425 Morris St, Sebastopol. 707.823.1511.

The Sam Chase & the Untraditional San Francisco folk-rock bandleader celebrates his birthday with a concert featuring support from the Crux. Nov 9, 8pm. $15. HopMonk Sebastopol, 230 Petaluma Ave, Sebastopol. 707.829.7300.

Vice Reine Bay Area disco-punk party band rocks the North Bay with openers Ismay, Agouti and the Drought Cult. Nov 10, 8pm. $10. The Phoenix Theater, 201 Washington St, Petaluma. 707.762.3565.

NAPA Baskery BottleRock presents Sweden trio of siblings Greta, Stella and Sunniva Bondesson playing a mix of traditional and dance music. Nov 10, 8pm. $20.

Silo’s, 530 Main St, Napa. 707.251.5833.

The Struts Rock ‘n’ rollers have perfected a sing-along-ready and riff-heavy sound. Nov 12, 8pm. Sold-out. JaM Cellars Ballroom at the Margrit Mondavi Theatre, 1030 Main St, Napa. 707.880.2300.

Clubs & Venues Dance Palace Nov 11, Contemporary Opera Marin. 503 B St, Pt Reyes Station. 415.663.1075.

Fenix Nov 8, the B Street Project. Nov 9, the Reed Fromer

HopMonk Novato Nov 10, Blitzen Trapper and Luluc. 224 Vintage Way, Novato. 415.892.6200.

Iron Springs Pub & Brewery Nov 7, Jon Chi and friends. Nov 14, Jen Rund. 765 Center Blvd, Fairfax. 415.485.1005.

L’Appart Resto Nov 8, Amanda Addleman and Lee Dynes. 636 San Anselmo Ave, San Anselmo. 415.256.9884.

Marin Country Mart Nov 9, 5:30pm, Dave Getz’ Noisy Children. Nov 11, 12:30pm, Folkish Festival with Greg Lamboy. 2257 Larkspur Landing Circle, Larkspur. 415.461.5700.

19 Broadway Nightclub Nov 8, Bobby Love and Sugar Sweet. Nov 9, DJ Gavin Hardkiss. Nov 10, the Valley. Nov 11, 3pm, Westside Jazz Club. 17 Broadway Blvd, Fairfax.

415.459.1091.

Osteria Divino Nov 7, Jonathan Poretz. Nov 8, Eric Markowitz Trio.

Nov 9, Ken Cook Trio. Nov 10, David Jeffries Jazz Fourtet. Nov 11, Parker Grant Trio. Nov 13, Rob Reich.

Nov 14, Nathan Swedlow Trio. 37 Caledonia St, Sausalito. 415.331.9355.

Panama Hotel Restaurant Nov 7, Rivertown Trio. Nov 8, the Buzz. Nov 13, Panama 3. Nov 14, Michelle Lambert. 4 Bayview St, San Rafael. 415.457.3993.

Papermill Creek Saloon Nov 9, Kelly Peterson Band. Nov 10, Sticky’s Backyard. Nov 11, 6pm, Papermill Gang. 1 Castro, Forest Knolls. 415.488.9235.

Peri’s Silver Dollar Nov 7, Michael Brown and friends. Nov 8, Mark’s Jam Sammich. Nov 9, Everyone Is Dirty.

Nov 10, Sucker MCs. Nov 11, Tremelo Saints. 29 Broadway, Fairfax. 415.459.9910.

Presidio Yacht Club Nov 9, the 7th Sons. 600 Sommerville Rd, Sausalito. 415.332.2319.

Rancho Nicasio Nov 9, Spirits of Turpentine. Nov 10, Stompy Jones with Annette Moreno. 1 Old Rancheria Rd, Nicasio.

415.662.2219.

Sausalito Cruising Club Mon, Joe Tate & Blue Monday Band jam session. 300 Napa St, Sausalito. 415.332.9922.

Sausalito Seahorse Nov 8, opera night. Nov 9, DJ Gei. Nov 10, salsa with DJ Jose Ruiz. Nov 11, 4pm, Orquestra Borinquen.

305 Harbor View Dr, Sausalito. 415.331.2899.

Smiley’s Schooner Saloon Nov 8, Sissy Brown. Nov 9, Musica Records Release Party. Nov 10, Buck Thrifty and Caitlin Jemma.

Nov 11, jazz afternoon. 41 Wharf Rd, Bolinas.

415.868.1311.

Station House Cafe Nov 11, 5pm, Joe Kelner. 11180 State Route 1, Pt Reyes Station. 415.663.1515.

The Tavern on Fourth Nov 9, Roots Man Project. Nov 10, Steady Eddy & the Shakers. 711 Fourth St, San Rafael.

415.454.4044.

Throckmorton Theatre Nov 10, Danny Click & the Hell Yeahs. Nov 14, 12pm, Amy Zanrosso with Alisa Rose and Michael Graham. 142 Throckmorton Ave, Mill Valley.

415.383.9600.

Trek Winery Nov 10, Aint Misbehavin. 1026 Machin Ave, Novato.

415.899.9883.

Art Openings Art Works Downtown Nov 9-Dec 22, “Art Works Downtown Members’ Exhibit,” showing in the Underground, Founders and Donors’ Gallery. Reception, Nov 9 at 5pm.

1337 Fourth St, San Rafael. Tues-Sat, 10 to 5.

415.451.8119.

Marin Society of Artists Nov 7-Dec 1, “Realism to Abstraction,” exhibit features diverse richness of talent, knowledge and experience. Reception, Nov 9 at 5pm.

1515 Third St, San Rafael. Wed-Sun, Noon to 4pm.

415.464.9561.

Comedy Fenix Comedy Night See standups Oliver Graves (“America’s Got Talent”), Mario Dion Hodge (“Kevin Hart Show”) and others. Nov 11, 6:30pm. $15. Fenix, 919 Fourth St, San Rafael. 415.813.5600.

Scott Capurro Standup star comes to Fairfax. Nov 9, 7pm. $20$25. 19 Broadway Nightclub, 17 Broadway Blvd, Fairfax. 415.459.1091.

Tommy Lama Comedy Experience Enjoy a self-help comedy satire from the veteran performer. Nov 9, 8pm. $20-$30. Throckmorton Theatre, 142 Throckmorton Ave, Mill Valley.

415.383.9600.

Tuesday Night Live See standup comedians Rodger Lizaola, Jason Stuart, Joe Praino and others. Nov 13, 8pm. $17-$27. Throckmorton Theatre, 142 Throckmorton Ave, Mill Valley. 415.383.9600.

Events Celebrate Native American Heritage Month Museum of the American Indian offers free admission every Sunday this month for Native American Heritage Month. Sun, Nov 11. Museum of the American Indian, 2200 Novato Blvd, Novato.

415.897.4064.

Feast of Color & Tiny Treasures Fundraiser Celebrate the changing colors of the season with dinner, live music and handmade gifts. Nov 10, 6pm. $75. O’Hanlon Center for the Arts, 616 Throckmorton Ave, Mill Valley. 415.388.4331.

Fibershed Symposium Seventh annual event focuses on wool, fiber systems and functional use of garments. Nov 10, 10am. $20-$40. Dance Palace, 503 B St, Pt Reyes Station. 415.663.1075.

Inside the World of Voice Acting Author, educator and acclaimed voice actor Samantha Paris presents an innovative event. Nov 10, 3pm. Free. Barnes & Noble, 313 Corte Madera Town Center, Corte Madera.

415.927.9016.

Northgate Artisan Fair Shop locally crafted jewelry, art, clothing and more while enjoying food, drink and music. Sat, Nov 10, 11am. Oak Plaza at Northgate, 5800 Northgate Mall, San Rafael. 415.479.5955.

Rock, Roll & Broadway Benefit for the Mountain Play includes Champagne reception, silent and live auction and a Broadway revue. Nov 10, 5pm. $100-$150.

Osher Marin JCC, 200 N San Pedro Rd, San Rafael.

415.444.8000.

Thrive Alive Join the community in an interactive program that improves brain wellness and increases longevity through socialization, music and moving. Wed, Nov 7, 1pm. $10-$25. St Columba’s Episcopal Church, 12835 Sir Francis Drake Blvd, Inverness.

415.669.1039.

Visionary Marin Marin Interfaith Council fundraiser includes guest speakers and more. Nov 11, 3:30pm. $60 and up.

Congregation Rodef Sholom, 170 N San Pedro Rd, San Rafael, marinifc.org.

Field Trips Kule Loklo Open House & Workday Visit a replica Coast Miwok village that offers a glimpse of life in pre-European California. Nov 10, 10am. Free. Kule Loklo, Pt Reyes National Seashore, Olema. 415.464.5137.

Sunrise Tour of Muir Woods See majestic trees and hear the story of the forest. Reservations required. Nov 11, 6:30am.

Free. Muir Woods Visitor Center, 1 Muir Woods Rd, Mill Valley. 415.388.2596.

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The great Alex Cox presents his new film, ‘Tombstone Rashomon,’ an innovative take on the Gunfight at the O.K. Corral, at the Rafael Film Center on Nov. 14. See Film, below.

Wild Strawberries Swedish film icon Katinka Faragó presents and discusses this early masterpiece by Ingmar Bergman. Nov 8, 7pm. Smith Rafael Film Center, 1118 Fourth St, San Rafael. 415.454.1222.

Napa Valley Film Festival The ultimate film, food and wine experience features independent and studio features with celebrity guests galore. Nov 7-11. Napa Valley, various locations, Napa. nvff.org.

Petaluma Cinema Series See a restored version of the 1977 Italian comedy “A Special Day” with lecture and discussion. Nov 14, 6pm. Carole L Ellis Auditorium, SRJC Petaluma Campus, 680 Sonoma Mountain Pkwy, Petaluma.

Rockin at the Lark See the concert film “Soft Cell: One Final Time.”

Nov 8, 7:30pm. Lark Theater, 549 Magnolia Ave, Larkspur. 415.924.5111.

Stinson Beach Documentary Film Festival Three days of docs includes popular films, live music and more. Nov 9-11. Stinson Beach Community Center, 32 Belvedere Ave, Stinson Beach. stinsondocfest.org.

Tombstone Rashomon Filmmaker Alex Cox presents and discusses his retelling of the fabled Gunfight at the OK Corral.

Wilder Than Wild Award-winning documentary on fire suppression and climate change screens with discussion. Nov 8, 7pm. $5. Fairfax Women’s Center, 46 Park Rd, Fairfax.

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Food & Drink Fresh Starts Chef Event Rebecca Katz a menu promoting wholesome food. Nov 8, 6:30pm. $60. The Key Room, 1385 N Hamilton Pkwy, Novato. 415.382.3363, ext 215.

Off the Grid Food Trucks Eat your way through the largest gathering of mobile food trucks in Marin, listen to live music and take in great views. Sun, 11am.

Marin Country Mart, 2257 Larkspur Landing Circle, Larkspur. 415.461.5700.

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Mind Reels Thought-provoking film series presents “Human Smugglers” about the drug trade and its effects on those involved. Nov 13, 12pm. Lark Theater, 549 Magnolia Ave, Larkspur. 415.924.5111.

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Lectures East Meets West: Jewels of the Maharajas Discover the cultural and material exchanges between India and Europe through jewelry and precious objects . Nov 13, 12pm. San Anselmo Library, 110 Tunstead Ave, San Anselmo. 415.258.4656.

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The Bourne Identity Spy thriller is the subject of a film class by Ian McIver. Nov 13, 1pm. $10. Cameo Cinema, 1340 Main St, St Helena. 707.963.9779.

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Love & Wisdom Sufi master Ali Kianfar presents a series of classes on understanding the Koran, the Bible and more.

Sun, Nov 11, 1pm. $20 and up. Institute for Sufi Studies, 14 Commercial Blvd, Ste 101, Novato.

415.382.7834.

Meditation at Whistlestop Learn how to lower stress levels, reduce anxiety and depression, and restore healthy sleep patterns. Thurs, 3:30pm. $5. Whistlestop, 930 Tamalpais Ave, San Rafael. 415.456.9062.

San Francisco Opera Preview Librettist Gene Sheer previews San Francisco Opera’s upcoming performances of “It’s a Wonderful Life.” Nov 12, 7:30pm. $10.

The Redwoods, 40 Camino Alto, Mill Valley.

415.383.2741.

Senior Circle & Stretch Class Share the challenges of aging with the Center for Attitudinal Healing, followed by Sunlight Chair Yoga session. Wed, 10am. Free. Whistlestop, 930 Tamalpais Ave, San Rafael. 415.456.9062.

Tai Chi Class David Mac Lam teaches classic Yang-style and Taoist-style meditation. Mon, 11am. $8-$10.

Whistlestop, 930 Tamalpais Ave, San Rafael.

415.456.9062.

Taking the Stress Out of Taking Tests Workshop is for parents and teens. Nov 11, 12pm.

Free. Corte Madera Library. 707 Meadowsweet Dr, Corte Madera. 707.924.6444.

Tips & Tricks for a Healthy Holiday Season Workshop on how to enjoy the festivities without throwing yourself off track is led by dietitian Denise Zaragoza. Nov 8, 7pm. Free. Corte Madera Library. 707 Meadowsweet Dr, Corte Madera.

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Book Passage Nov 7, 7pm, “Hungry Ghost Theater” with Sarah Stone. Nov 9, 6pm, Lit Camp Fundraiser with various authors. Nov 10, 1pm, “Notes from the Bottom of the World” with Suzanne Adam. Nov 10, 7pm, “Better Than This” with Catherine Zane. Nov 11, 4pm, “The Way of Grace” with Miranda Macpherson. Nov 12, 7pm, “Asymmetry” with Lisa Halliday. Nov 13, 7pm, “Happier Now” with Nataly Kogan.

Nov 14, 7pm, “Lady in Ermine” with Donna DiGiuseppe. 51 Tamal Vista Blvd, Corte Madera 415.927.0960.

Book Passage By-the-Bay Nov 8, 5:30pm, “The Marsh Builders” with Sharon Levy. Nov 9, 5:30pm, “Author” with Beowulf Sheehan. Nov 10, 11am, “Do You Believe in Unicorns?” with Bethanie Murguia. Nov 13, 6pm, Barbara Artson & Ruth Goldman In Conversation.

Nov 14, 6pm, “Marinship” with Eric Torney. 100 Bay St, Sausalito 415.339.1300.

College of Marin Library Nov 7, 1pm, Poetry as Resistance with Javier Zamora. 835 College Ave, Kentfield 415.485.9475.

Left Bank Brasserie Nov 8, 6:30pm, “Everyday Dorie” with Dorie Greenspan, includes meal and book. $120-$185.

507 Magnolia Ave, Larkspur 415.927.3331.

Marin Art & Garden Center Nov 14, 6pm, “California Field Atlas” with Obi Kaufman. 30 Sir Francis Drake Blvd, Ross 415.455.5260.

Point Reyes Books Nov 7, 7pm, “Evolution” with Eileen Myles. 11315 Hwy 1, Pt Reyes Station 415.663.1542.

Theater Disney’s Aladdin Jr Pied Piper Productions takes on the popular musical hit filled with magic and adventure. Nov 8-10. $18-$22. Marin Center Showcase Theatre, 10 Avenue of the Flags, San Rafael. 415.499.6800.

God of Carnage Two sets of parents try to civilly discuss a problem between their kids, but the night devolves into chaos in this biting comedy. Through Nov 11. $21-$27. Novato Theater Company, 5240 Nave Dr, Novato. 415.883.4498.

Hand to God Left Edge Theatre presents the award-winning comedy featuring a hand puppet possessed by the devil. Through Nov 11. $25-$40. Luther Burbank Center for the Arts, 50 Mark West Springs Rd, Santa Rosa. 707.546.3600.

101 Dalmatians KIDS A fantastic theater experience for young audiences. Through Nov 11. $5. Steele Lane Community Center. 415 Steele Lane, Santa Rosa. atheaterforchildren.com.

The New Century Pegasus Theater Company presents a hilarious and affecting comedy. Through Nov 25. $15$18. Mt Jackson Masonic Hall, 14040 Church St, Guerneville. 707.708.8604.

The Spy Who Killed Me Get a Clue Productions hosts an interactive and humorous murder-mystery dinner theater experience. Fri, Nov 9, 7pm. $68 (includes meal).

Charlie’s Restaurant, Windsor Golf Club, 1320 19th Hole Dr, Windsor. getaclueproductions.com.

Uncle Vanya Birdbath Theatres presents a new, surreal look at Chekhov’s classic tale of provincial Russian life.

Through Nov 18. 415.426.0269. The Belrose, 1415 Fifth Ave, San Rafael. 415.454.6422.

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SINGLE & DISSATISFIED? Tired of spending weekends and holidays alone? Join with other single men and women to explore what’s blocking you from fulfillment in your relationships. Nineweek Single’s Group, OR weekly, ongoing, coed Intimacy Groups or Women’s Group, all starting the week of November 12th. Groups meet on Mon, Tues, & Thurs evenings. Space limited. Also, Individual and Couples sessions. Central San Rafael. For more information, call Renee Owen, LMFT #35255 at 415-453-8117 Especially with the holidays approaching, this safe, supportive/ exploratory on-going group has been extremely helpful… some say “life-changing!” The GROUP FOR MOTHERLESS DAUGHTERS, Women who have lost their mothers through death, illness (including mental illness/narcissism, etc.), separation or abandonment in childhood, adolescence, or adulthood meets alternate Wednesdays, 6:30 – 8:00 PM in Kentfield. Women address relevant issues in their lives including loss and grief, relationships, trust (self and others), family of origin, work, parenting (motherless mothers), self-care, and much more. Women gain acknowledgement, validation, and ways in which they’ve coped through difficult times. Contact: Colleen Russell, LMFT, CGP, herself a motherless daughter, who’s developed and facilitated this group since 1997. Phone: 415-785-3513; Email: crussell@ colleenrussellmft.com; website: http://www.colleenrussellmft.com. Individual, Couple, Family, Group Sessions and Workshops also offered.

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FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT—File No: 145519. The following individual(s) are doing business: FARMACARY, 420 CANAL STREET APT 6, SAN RAFAEL, CA 94901: STEVEN SINGLETON, 420 CANAL STREET APT 6, SAN RAFAEL, CA 94901. This business is being conducted by AN INDIVIDUAL. Registrant will begin transacting business under the fictitious business name(s) listed herein. This statement was filed with the County ClerkRecorder of Marin County on OCTOBER 3, 2018.

(Publication Dates: October 17, 24, 31 and November 7 of 2018) FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT— File No: 145586. The following individual(s) are doing business: ALL MARIN ELECTRIC, ALLMARINELECTRIC. COM, 8 BROOKLINE DR, NOVATO, CA 94949: ALEXEY BYCHKOV, 8 BROOKLINE DR, NOVATO, CA 94949. This business is being conducted by A CORPORATION. Registrant will begin trans-

acting business under the fictitious business name(s) listed herein. This statement was filed with the County Clerk-Recorder of Marin County on OCTOBER 16, 2018. (Publication Dates: October 24, 31 and November 7, 14 of 2018) FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT— File No: 145553. The following individual(s) are doing business: ANGEL ISLAND TRAM TOURS AND CATERED EVENTS, ANGEL ISLAND STATE PARK, TIBURON, CA 94820: URBAN PARK CONCESSIONAIRES, 2150 MAIN STREET, RED BLUFF, CA 96020. This business is being conducted by A CORPORATION. Registrant will begin transacting business under the fictitious business name(s) listed herein. This statement was filed with the County Clerk-Recorder of Marin County on OCTOBER 11, 2018. (Publication Dates: October 24, 31 and November 7, 14 of 2018) FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT—File No: 145610. The following individual(s) are doing business: MULTICULTURAL CENTER OF MARIN, 30

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(Publication Dates: October 31 and November 7, 14, 21 of 2018) FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT— File No: 2018-145571.

The following individual(s) are doing business: AMAZING GRACE MUSIC, 91 REDHILL AVE, SAN ANSELMO, CA 94960: JUDY KAUFMAN, 93 MERCED AVE, SAN ANSELMO, CA 94960, JOHN PEDERSEN, 93 MERCED AVE, SAN ANSELMO, CA 94960. This business is being conducted

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PublicNotices October 31 and November 7, 14, 21 of 2018) FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT—File No: 145567. The following individual(s) are doing business: COMPACT CONSTRUCTION, 1422 CAMBRIDGE ST., NOVATO, CA 94947: BEN LAPLACA, 1422 CAMBRIDGE ST., NOVATO, CA 94947. This business is being conducted by AN INDIVIDUAL. Registrant will begin transacting business under the fictitious business name(s) listed herein.

This statement was filed with the County ClerkRecorder of Marin County on OCTOBER 15, 2018.

(Publication Dates: October 31 and November 7, 14, 21 of 2018) FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT—File No: 2018-145670. The following individual(s) are doing business: MARIN SPEECH WORKS, 131 CAMINO ALTO SUITE E-3, MILL VALLEY, CA 94941: RENEE TIMARCO MS, CCC, SLP, 820 LOVELL AVE, MILL VALLEY, CA 94941. This business is being conducted by AN INDIVIDUAL. Registrant will begin transacting business under the fictitious business name(s) listed herein. This statement was filed with the County Clerk-Recorder of Marin County on OCTOBER 30, 2018. (Publication Dates: November 7, 14, 21, 28 of 2018) FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT— File No: 2018-145581. The following individual(s) are doing business: ARIGATOU JAPANESE FOOD TO GO, 2046 FOURTH ST, SAN RAFAEL, CA 94901: TAKUJI ISIZAKI, 118 BAYO VISTA WAY, SAN RAFAEL, CA 94901, HISAKO ISHIZAKI, 118 BAYO VISTA WAY, SAN RAFAEL, CA 94901. This business is being conducted by A GENERAL PARTNERSHIP. Registrant will begin transacting business under the fictitious business name(s) listed herein. This statement was filed with the County Clerk-Recorder of Marin County on OCTOBER 16,

2018. (Publication Dates: November 7, 14, 21, 28 of 2018) FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT—File No: 145650. The following individual(s) are doing business: KLA ENTERPRISE, 72 BAHAMA REEF, NOVATO, CA 94949: KELLEIGH LYNN ALDRIDGE, 72 BAHAMA REEF, NOVATO, CA 94949. This business is being conducted by AN INDIVIDUAL. Registrant will begin transacting business under the fictitious business name(s) listed herein. This statement was filed with the County Clerk-Recorder of Marin County on OCTOBER 26, 2018. (Publication Dates: November 7, 14, 21, 28 of 2018) FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT—File No: 145680. The following individual(s) are doing business: THACKREY & CO., 240 OVERLOOK ROAD, BOLINAS, CA 94924: SEAN THACKREY, 240 OVERLOOK ROAD, BOLINAS, CA 94924. This business is being conducted by AN INDIVIDUAL. Registrant will begin transacting business under the fictitious business name(s) listed herein.

This statement was filed with the County ClerkRecorder of Marin County on NOVEMBER 2, 2018.

(Publication Dates: November 7, 14, 21, 28 of 2018) FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT— File No: 145691. The following individual(s) are doing business: CALEX CONSTRUCTION, 28 PHILLIPS DR., APT. 31, SAUSALITIO, CA 94965: SERGEY NOSACH, 28 PHILLIPS DR., APT. 31, SAUSALITIO, CA 94965. This business is being conducted by AN INDIVIDUAL. Registrant will begin transacting business under the fictitious business name(s) listed herein. This statement was filed with the County Clerk-Recorder of Marin County on NOVEMBER 5, 2018. (Publication Dates: November 7, 14, 21, 28 of 2018)

OTHER NOTICES ORDER TO SHOW CAUSE FOR CHANGE OF NAME CASE NUMBER: CIV 1803657 SUPERIOR COURT OF CALIFORNIA, COUNTY OF MARIN TO ALL INTERESTED PERSONS 1. Petitioner (name of each): Marianne Claire Atterbury Bernard, has filed a petition with this court for a decree changing names as follows: Present Name: Marianne Claire Atterbury Bernard to Proposed Name: Claire Atterbury Bernard Miller 2. THE COURT ORDERS that all persons interested in this matter shall appear before this court at the hearing indicated below to show cause, if any, why the petition for change of name should not be granted. Any person objecting to the name changes described above must file a written objection that includes the reasons for the objection at least two court days before the matter is scheduled to be heard and must appear at the hearing to show cause why the petition should not be granted. if no written objection is timely filed, the court may grant the petition without a hearing.

NOTICE OF HEARING a. Date: 12/3/2018, Time: 9:00am, Dept: B, Room: B. The address of the court is same as noted above; 3501 Civic Center Drive, San Rafael, CA 94903. 3.a. A copy of this Order to Show Cause shall be published at least once each week for four successive weeks prior to the date set for hearing on the petition in the Pacific Sun, a newspaper of general circulation, printed in the county of Marin.

DATED: OCT 11, 2018 Roy O. Chernus Judge of the Superior Court James M Kim Court Executive Officer MARIN COUNTY SUPERIOR COURT

By C Lucchesi, Deputy (October 17, 24, 31, and November 7 of 2018) NOTICE OF PETITION TO ADMINISTER ESTATE OF: ROSEMARY THERESA BOCK CASE NO.: PR 1802115 To all heirs, beneficiaries, creditors, contingent creditors, and persons who may otherwise be interested in the will or estate, or both, of: ROSEMARY

THERESA BOCK A Petition for~Probate~has been filed by: MICHAEL BOCK in the Superior Court of California, County of Marin. The Petition for~Probate~requests that: HOLGER SIEGWART be appointed as personal representative to administer the estate of the decedent. The petition requests authority to administer the estate under the Independent Administration of Estates Act. (This authority will allow the personal representative to take many actions without obtaining court approval. Before taking certain very important actions, however, the personal representative will be required to give notice to interested persons unless they have waived notice or consented to the proposed action.) The independent administration authority will be granted unless an interested person files an objection to the petition and shows good cause why the court should not grant the authority. A hearing on the petition will be held in this court as follows: Date: JULY 30, 2018, Time: 9:00AM, Dept.: J, Room: Address of court: 3501 Civic Center Drive, PO Box 4988, San Rafael, CA 94913-4988. If you object to the granting of the petition, you should appear at the hearing and state your objections or file written objections with the court before the hearing. Your appearance may be in person or by your attorney. If you are a creditor or a contingent creditor of the decedent, you must file your claim with the court and mail a copy to the personal representative appointed by the court within the later of either (1) four months from the date of first issuance of letters to a general personal representative, as defined in section 58(b) of the California~Probate Code, or (2) 60 days from the date of mailing or personal delivery to you of a notice under section 9052 of the California~ Probate~ Code. Other California statutes and legal authority may affect your rights as a creditor.

You may want to consult with an attorney knowledgeable in California law.

You may examine the file kept by the court. If you are a person interested in the estate, you may file

with the court a Request for Special Notice (form DE-154) of the filing of an inventory and appraisal of estate assets or of any petition or account as provided in~Probate~Code section 1250. A Request for Special Notice form is available from the court clerk.

Attorney for Petitioner: HOLGER SIGWART, ESQ., SIEGWART GERMAN AMERICAN LAW, 1799 Bayshore Highway, Suite 150, Burlingame, CA, 94010 (650) 259-9670 FILED: Jun 19, 2018 James M. Kim Court Executive Officer MARIN COUNTY SUPERIOR COURT By: R Smith, Deputy No. 1171 (October 24, 31, November 7 2018) ORDER TO SHOW CAUSE FOR CHANGE OF NAME CASE NUMBER: CIV 1803829 SUPERIOR COURT OF CALIFORNIA, COUNTY OF MARIN TO ALL INTERESTED PERSONS 1. Petitioner (name of each): DEBBIE WONG aka Debbie Wong Stompanato aka Ngan Ling Wong, has filed a petition with this court for a decree changing names as follows: Present Name: DEBBIE WONG to Proposed Name: DEBBIE WONG-STOMPANATO 2. THE COURT ORDERS that all persons interested in this matter shall appear before this court at the hearing indicated below to show cause, if any, why the petition for change of name should not be granted.

Any person objecting to the name changes described above must file a written objection that includes the reasons for the objection at least two court days before the matter is scheduled to be heard and must appear at the hearing to show cause why the petition should not be granted. if no written objection is timely filed, the court may grant the petition without a hearing.

NOTICE OF HEARING a. Date: 12/20/2018, Time: 9:00am, Dept: B, Room: B. The address of the court is same as noted above; 3501 Civic Center Drive, San Rafael, CA 94903. 3.a. A copy of this Order to Show Cause shall be published at least once each week for four successive weeks prior to the date set for hearing on the petition in the Pacific Sun, a newspaper of general circulation, printed in the county of Marin. DATED: OCT 25,

2018 Roy O. Chernus Judge of the Superior Court James M Kim Court Executive Officer MARIN COUNTY SUPERIOR COURT By C Lucchesi, Deputy (October 31, and November 7, 14, 21 of 2018) ORDER TO SHOW CAUSE FOR CHANGE OF NAME CASE NUMBER: CIV 1803890 SUPERIOR COURT OF CALIFORNIA, COUNTY OF MARIN TO ALL INTERESTED PERSONS 1. Petitioner (name of each): MARY ANN GRILLER, has filed a petition with this court for a decree changing names as follows: Present Name: MARY ANN GRILLER to Proposed Name: MARY ANN CIALLO GRILLER 2. THE COURT ORDERS that all persons interested in this matter shall appear before this court at the hearing indicated below to show cause, if any, why the petition for change of name should not be granted. Any person objecting to the name changes described above must file a written objection that includes the reasons for the objection at least two court days before the matter is scheduled to be heard and must appear at the hearing to show cause why the petition should not be granted. if no written objection is timely filed, the court may grant the petition without a hearing.

NOTICE OF HEARING a. Date: 1/4/2019, Time: 9:00am, Dept: B, Room: .

The address of the court is same as noted above; 3501 Civic Center Drive, San Rafael, CA 94903. 3.a. A copy of this Order to Show Cause shall be published at least once each week for four successive weeks prior to the date set for hearing on the petition in the Pacific Sun, a newspaper of general circulation, printed in the county of Marin.

DATED: OCT 30, 2018 Roy O. Chernus Judge of the Superior Court JAMES M. KIM Court Executive Officer MARIN COUNTY SUPERIOR COURT By E. CHAIS, Deputy (November 7, 14, 21, 28 of 2018)

By Amy Alkon

Q:

My husband and I started having problems when I found an email he sent to his ex-girlfriend saying, “You’re the most beautiful woman I’ve ever met. I want to spend the rest of my life with you.” He’s never complimented me during our five years together. He revealed that he and his ex used to have sex for hours, while the most we ever spent making love was 45 minutes—only once, when we were first dating. I think I should leave, but we have a one-yearold child. We are good together caring for the baby, but it’s terrible to be with a man who lacks love, respect and desire for you.—Tormented

A:

Parents today are in fierce competition for whose kid achieves things first: “Little Euripides graduated Phi Beta Kappa from Harvard while still in the womb!” Best not to be the parents whose child has the dark side nailed, reflected in Instagram brag shots like “Baby’s First Rehab!”

A good deal of research suggests that the healthiest home environment for a kid is an “intact family”—as opposed to the “Uncle” of the Month Club. Couples wanting what’s best for their children are motivated to de-uglify their relationship, and can often work out what I call “process-oriented” problems (counterproductive ways of interacting that lead to nasty fights or just seething resentment). This is essential because even if nobody’s screaming and hurling casserole dishes, the underlying tone of a relationship is reflected in interactions as mundane as “Can ya pass the salt?” since, ideally, your tone suggests some affection for your partner.

You, however, are in a relationship with a man who is deeply passionate about another woman and appears to see sex with you as a household chore. Your resentment from feeling unwanted are sure to seep into your daily life. So staying together under these circumstances would most likely be damaging for your child—but chances are, so would splitting up. To understand why an intact family seems important for kids’ well-being, it helps to understand a few things from an area of evolutionary research called “life history theory,” which explores how the environment we grows up in calibrates our psychology and behavior.

This calibration is basically a form of human mental economics, a subconscious calculation of how stable or risky a person’s childhood environment is and whether they’d be better off allocating their energy and efforts toward the now or the future.

A stable, predictable environment—like growing up with middle-class parents who remain married, live in a peaceful neighborhood and always provide enough food to eat—tends to lead to a more future-oriented approach (like being able to save money). Conversely, growing up in a dangerous neighborhood, having divorced parents with unpredictable finances and getting moved around a lot is likely to lead to a more now-oriented approach (spendorama!).

The good news is, you two may be able to break up without it breaking your kid. My friend Wendy Paris and her former husband split up as a couple while staying together as parents of their young son. Wendy writes in her book Splitopia: Dispatches from Today’s Good Divorce and How to Part Well that they even relocated together from New York to Los Angeles, moving to separate places a few blocks apart. They hang out and do activities as a family. Her ex often comes over to make breakfast for her son and coffee for her. He even takes out the trash!

It’s difficult to set up an arrangement like Wendy’s if you’re, say, preoccupied with wishing your husband’s penis would wither and fall off like a skin tag under a dermatologist’s liquid nitro. In a situation like yours, where resentment is high, a mediator could be helpful. (Look for a marital specialist at Mediate.com.) A mediator is not a judge and won’t tell you what to do. He or she is a neutral third party, de-escalating conflict and creating a safe, productive psychological environment. This makes it possible for people with disputes to work out a mutually acceptable agreement for how they’ll go forward.

Now, mediation doesn’t work for everyone. However, it’s probably your best bet for “having it all”—acting in your child’s best interest and eventually having a man in your life who sees you as more than ballast to keep the mattress down in case there’s a tornado.

Got a problem? Write Amy Alkon at 171 Pier Ave. #280, Santa Monica, CA 90405, or email adviceamy@aol.com. @amyalkon on Twitter. Weekly radio show, blogtalkradio.com/amyalkon

Astrology

For the week of November 7

ARIES (March 21–April 19) In 1994, Aries pop

diva Mariah Carey collaborated with an associate to write the song “All I Want for Christmas Is You.” It took them 15 minutes to finish it. Since then it has generated $60 million in royalties. I wish I could unconditionally predict that you, too, will efficiently spawn a valuable creation sometime soon. Current planetary alignments do indeed suggest that such a development is more possible than usual. But because I tend to be conservative in my prophecies, I won’t guarantee anything close to the $60 million figure. In fact, your reward may be more spiritual in nature than financial.

TAURUS (April 20–May 20) An interactive post at Reddit.com asked readers to write about “the most underrated feeling of all time.” One person said, “When you change the sheets on your bed.” Another extolled “the feeling that comes when you pay all your bills and you’ve still got money in the bank.” Others said, “dancing under the rain,”“physical contact like a pat on the back when you’re really touch-starved” and “listening to a song for the first time and it’s so good you just can’t stop smiling.” I bring this to your attention, Taurus, because I suspect that the next two weeks will bring you a flood of these pleasurable underrated feelings.

GEMINI (May 21–June 20) “Beer makes you feel the way you ought to feel without beer,” wrote Gemini author Henry Lawson. Do you have any methods for making yourself feel like you’ve drunk a few beers that don’t involve drinking a few beers? If not, I highly recommend that you find at least one. It will be especially important in the coming weeks for you to have a way to alter, expand or purify your consciousness without relying on literal intoxicants or drugs. The goal: to leave your groove before it devolves into a rut.

CANCER (June 21–July 22) Study the following five failed predictions. 1. “There is no likelihood man can ever tap the power of the atom.”—Robert Miliham, Nobel laureate in physics, 1923. 2. “This ‘telephone’ has too many shortcomings to be seriously considered as a means of communication. The device is inherently of no value to us.”—Western Union internal memo, 1876.

3. “Rail travel at high speeds is not possible because passengers, unable to breathe, would die of asphyxia.”— Dionysius Lardner, scientist, 1830. 4. “There is no reason anyone would want a computer in their home.”—Ken Olson, president of Digital Equipment Corporation, 1977. 5.

“Most Cancerians will never overcome their tendencies toward hypersensitivity, procrastination and fear of success.”—Lanira Kentsler, astrologer, 2018. (P.S.: What you do in the next 12 months could go a long way toward permanently refuting the last prediction.)

LEO (July 23–August 22) German scientists have

created cochlear implants for gerbils that have been genetically modified, enabling the creatures to “listen” to light. The researchers’ work is ultimately dedicated to finding ways to improve the lives of people with hearing impairments. What might be the equivalent of you gaining the power to “hear light”? I understand that you might resist thinking this way. “That makes no sense,” you may protest, or “There’s no practical value in fantasizing about such an impossibility.” But I hope you’ll make the effort anyway. In my view, stretching your imagination past its limits is the healing you need most right now. I also think that doing so will turn out to be unexpectedly practical.

VIRGO (August 23–September 22) Here’s useful

wisdom from the poet Rumi. “Our defects are the ways that glory gets manifested,” he said. “Keep looking at the bandaged place. That’s where the light enters you.”

Playwright Harrison David Rivers interprets Rumi’s words to mean, “Don’t look away from your pain, don’t disengage from it, because that pain is the source of your power.” I think these perspectives are just what you need to meditate on, Virgo. To promote even more healing in you, I’ll add a further clue from poet Anna Kamienska: “Where your pain is, there your heart lies also.” (Rumi is translated by Coleman Barks; Kamienska

by Clare Cavanagh.)

LIBRA (September 23–October 22) Artist David Hockney is proud of how undemanding he

By Rob Brezsny

is toward his friends and associates. “People tell me they open my e-mails first,” he says, “because they aren’t demands and you don’t need to reply.

They’re simply for pleasure.” He also enjoys giving regular small gifts. “I draw flowers every day and send them to my friends so they get fresh blooms.”

Hockney seems to share the perspective expressed by author Gail Godwin, who writes, “How easy it was to make people happy, when you didn’t want or need anything from them.” In accordance with astrological omens, Libra, I suggest you have fun employing these approaches in the coming weeks.

SCORPIO (October 23–November 21) I

am not currently a wanderer or voyager or entrepreneur or swashbuckler. But at other times in my life, I have had extensive experience with those roles. So I know secrets about how and why to be a wanderer and voyager and entrepreneur and swashbuckler. And it’s clear to me that in the coming weeks you could benefit in unforeseen ways from researching and embodying the roles of curious wanderer and brave voyager and savvy entrepreneur and prudent swashbuckler.

SAGITTARIUS (November 22– December 21) “The best thing one can do when it is raining is let it rain.” That brilliant formulation came from poet Henry Wadsworth Longfellow.

Does it seem so obvious as to not need mentioning?

Bear with me while I draw further meaning from it, and suggest you use it as an inspiring metaphor in the coming weeks. When it rains, Sagittarius, let it rain; don’t waste time and emotional energy complaining about the rain. Don’t indulge in fruitless fantasizing about how you might stop the rain and how you’d love to stop the rain. In fact, please refrain from defining the rain as a negative event, because after all, it is perfectly natural, and is in fact crucial for making the crops grow and replenishing our water supply. (P.S.: Your metaphorical “rain” will be equally useful.)

CAPRICORN (December 22–January

19) “Every true love and friendship is a story of unexpected transformation,” writes activist and author Elif Shafak. “If we are the same person before and after we loved, that means we haven’t loved enough.” I bring this to your attention because you’re in a phase when your close alliances should be activating healing changes in your life. If for some reason your alliances are not yet awash in the exciting emotions of redemption and reinvention, get started on instigating experimental acts of intimacy.

AQUARIUS (January 20–February 18) I suspect you will be an especially arousing influence in the coming weeks. You may also be inspiring and disorienting, with unpredictable results. How many transformations will you unleash? How many expectations will you dismantle? How many creative disruptions will you induce in the midst of the daily grind? I hesitate to underestimate the messy beauty you’ll stir up or the rambunctious gossip you’ll provoke.

In any case, I plan to be richly amused by your exploits, and I hope everyone else will be, as well. For best results, I will pray to the Goddess of Productive Fun, begging Her to ensure that the commotions and uproars you catalyze will be in service to love and kindness.

PISCES (February 19–March 20) Gonzo

journalist Hunter S. Thompson wasn’t always a wild and crazy writer. Early in his career he made an effort to compose respectable, measured prose. When he finally gave up on that project and decided he could “get away with” a more uninhibited style, he described it as being “like falling down an elevator shaft and landing in a pool full of mermaids.” I foresee a metaphorically comparable development in your future, Pisces.

Go to realastrology.com to check out Rob Brezsny’s Expanded Weekly Audio Horoscopes and Daily Text Message Horoscopes. Audio horoscopes are also available by phone at 1.877.873.4888 or 1.800.350.7700.

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