MetroFamily Magazine June 2020

JUNE 2020

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Real dads of OKC Celebrating fathers focused on service, family & fun

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REAL DAD OF OKC: BERNARD JONES

Features

Departments

8 Father’s Day Gift Guide

10 Real Dads of the Metro

14 The Taste of Satisfaction

18 Local Family Fun

The hottest local swag for the coolest pops Gardening with dad

U.S. District Judge exemplifies vocation of service Unplugged adventures for greater connection

22 Calendar of Events

Virtual & in-person summertime family fun

26 Exploring Beyond Oklahoma

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34 Family Mental Wellness

5 steps to address anxiety in children

36 Super Kids of the Metro

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High school grad leads with purpose

40 Last Look

Authentic conversations about real-life issues

On the cover Hot swag for cool pops page 8 Unplugged adventures page 18 Real Dads of OKC pages 10, 14, 18 and 40

LETTER FROM THE EDITOR 2020

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Sarah Taylor

Managing Editor Erin Page

Assistant Editor Lindsay Cuomo

Contributing Writers Michael Bergin Kristy Blosch Dr. Erica Faulconer Khari Manuel

Contributing Photographer Bridget Pipkin

Art Director Stacy Noakes

Senior Project Manager Kirsten Holder

Director of Events Marissa Raglin

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was fortunate to grow up in a household where my dad was a constant source of both fun and support. Because his work schedule was more flexible than my mom’s, he was the one who took me to school and stayed home when I was sick. Yes, he carved the Halloween jack-o-lanterns and turned Christmas tree decorating into a dance party. But he also practiced flash cards and study questions with me. We watched a lot of Friends together, but he also initiated conversations about hard issues. As an adult, that’s one of the things I most appreciate about my dad.

I’m seeing history repeat itself with my husband. He’s totally a fun dad, complete with wrestling matches and terrible dad jokes.

But he’s also an always-available source of comfort and listening ear. And he’s not afraid to initiate hard conversations and answer tough questions from our kids, either.

We’ve talked with our kids about the history of racism and racial injustice since they were tiny. But we’ve realized we need to be doing more. We’re talking about white privilege.

We’re talking about how to be anti-racist.

We’re talking about how our white family is responsible for making this community better for our brown and black friends.

As we enter into this month of celebrating dads, a single truth keeps haunting me: I’ve never known, and never will know, the visceral fear of wondering whether my dad, husband, sons won’t come home to me because of the color of their skin.

SINCE I WAS YOUNG, DAD HAS NEVER SHIED AWAY FROM TALKING WITH ME ABOUT HARD ISSUES, A PRACTICE I AM CONTINUING WITH MY CHILDREN NOW.

I understand that I will never fully understand.

But I am committed as a mom, community member and editor of this magazine to listening, learning and taking action to ensure that, together, we create a better world for all our children.

In solidarity,

Erin Page Managing Editor

Kathy Alberty

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This Month’s Cover Ayden is a cool 10 years old and he just completed the fourth grade at Santa Fe South Penn Elementary School. Thoughtful, hard working and considerate, Ayden loves to draw, plays flag football and basketball and is a member of the Boys & Girls Club of OKC. Ayden is the son of Abigail and Fabian and an awesome big brother to Areli. Along with four-legged family member Jackson, they love Friday family nights with movies, board games and snacks. The family enjoys exploring OKC every chance they get, with favorite spots including Scissortail Park, Factory Obscura, Bricktown and the Myriad Gardens. Photos by Foto Arts Photography in the Boathouse District.

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Let’s eat — for FREE! Who wouldn’t love free groceries for a year?! You can have your cake and eat it too, literally, when you enter our grocery giveaway at metrofamilymagazine.com/ contests, starting June 15.

Black Lives Matter At MetroFamily, we’re committed to listening to, learning from, supporting and elevating people of color. To provide solidarity and solace for our readers of color and to provide educational opportunities for our white readers, we are sharing important advice and experiences from parents of color and parents of children of color via our blog Hashtag Parenting. Read their powerful words at metrofamilymagazine. com/hashtag-parenting.

We are committed to ongoing contributions to the vital and necessary conversations about racism and racial injustice in hopes that together we can create a better future for all our children. If you have a story, experience or advice to share, please email us at tips@metrofamilymagazine.com.

Pop-up for cool pops You’re not a regular dad — you’re a cool pop! Celebrate your awesomeness, or that of your favorite father figure, at our popup photo booth at the Myriad Gardens on June 14 from 10 a.m. to 3 p.m. Join us on the Myriad’s Devon Lawn for a photo in front of our Father’s Day backdrop. Bring your own props and cameras and share you photos on social using #CoolPopsOKC. Plus, enjoy a chalk obstacle course for families to navigate around the lawn as well as two food trucks on site.

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The first 100 families will receive one Father’s Day coloring craft from MetroFamily and one seed kit from the Myriad for at-home gardening fun. This special event is sponsored by Green Bambino.

Please maintain social distancing recommendations while on the garden grounds.

Summer Fun is NOT canceled This summer is not only salvageable, the season can be enjoyed to the fullest, and we’ve got everything you need to plan the #bestsummerever! Find our entire collection of summer fun, with everything from our favorite cool treats and frugal family fun to socially distant road trips and outdoor adventures at metrofamilymagazine.com/summer. Plus, find 100 ideas for at-home fun and safe out-and-about options, as well as hands-on activities from partners like SKELETONS: Museum of Osteology, National Cowboy Museum, Oklahoma Hall of Fame and Visit Shawnee in our 100 Days of Summer Guide at metrofamilymagazine.com/all-digital-issue.

Raising OKC Kids Like many of you, the COVID-19 pandemic forced us to get creative. Our new video podcast was born out of our desire to provide you the content and resources you need while reaching you in the ways that are most helpful. Raising OKC Kids features conversations with local experts and parents, helping families connect, learn from each other and grow community. Visit metrofamilymagazine.com/raising-okc-kids for a candid conversation with OKC Mayor David Holt to talk about leading our city (while also parenting) during the COVID-19 pandemic, the promise of MAPS 4 investments in our community and how we as a city can better denounce racism and racial injustice. Plus find tips from a local pediatrician about keeping kids safe this summer and a look at the power of play in child development and relationships.

“Everything” is coming Our issues have been digital since April, but that’s changing in July when we release our annual Everything Guide. We’ll announce the winners of our Family Favorites Awards, nominated and voted on by you our readers. Plus, find the dish from metro moms on their favorite locales for eats, swag and family fun, and get the ultimate guide for grandparent and grandkid road trips. Look for it on stands starting July 15.

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D A d D a R We know we are not alone when we say dads are seriously the hardest ones to shop for! As we approach Father’s Day, we’ve turned to some of our favorite locally-owned stores and made-inthe-metro products for dad inspo.

For everyone’s favorite punny, lovable dad, we’ve highlighted some of the best men’s gifts that really think outside the grill set.

BY KIRSTEN HOLDER. PHOTOS PROVIDED.

Kicked up coffee from Eote

EOTE goes to the ends of the earth to source the best coffee beans, and it shows.

Tees, hats, coffee packages and tumblers can be combined into the perfect brew package for Pops. eotecoffee.com

OKC in a box from City Box From the time he wakes up until the time he winds down, dad will be taken care of with The Brew Box. Created to support local business during the COVID-19 pandemic, this package includes Elemental Coffee, Woodshed tea, Stonecloud beer and a mug from Shop Good.

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Ben’s book recs from

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Owner and dad Ben Nockles had four recommendations for dads right off the top of his head, and TBH, we are in love. Find Pops: Fatherhood in Pieces by Michael Chabon and The Second Mountain by David Brooks, plus lots more options at this Midtown bookstore. Mention that your purchase is a gift for Father’s Day and Ben will knock 15% off your purchase! commonplacebooksokc.com

Wilde Moon Leather wallets

What dad wouldn’t love the smell and feel of genuine leather at his fingertips? Wilde Moon Leather carries practical and luxury products that we are drooling over! Make dad’s day with a one-of-a-kind, slim-fit cardholder wallet. wildemoonleather.bigcartel.com

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REAL DADS OF THE METRO

Vocation of Service:

U.S. District Judge

Bernard M. Jones

BERNARD, MAUTRA, BJ, BRENDAN AND KENNEDY JONES ON THE DAY OF BERNARD’S INVESTITURE AS U.S. DISTRICT JUDGE

“They tell me they’ll even autograph a copy for me,” laughs Bernard Jones, “reminding me where I am in the pecking order.”

THE JONES FAMILY JOINS BERNARD AS HE TAKES HIS OATH OF OFFICE.

Though BJ, Kennedy and Brendan Jones watched dad Bernard’s investiture as a United States District Judge with pride, they were quick to remind him they’re famous in their own right, recently featured on MetroFamily’s March 2020 cover.

BY ERIN PAGE. PHOTOS BY FOTO ARTS PHOTOGRAPHY.

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Even on one of the most important professional days in Jones’ career, punctuated by speeches from fellow U.S. district judges, U.S. Senator James Lankford, former Gov. Mary Fallin and Oklahoma City Mayor David Holt, Jones indulged his children in sharing the spotlight, speaking praise over them and eagerly inviting their participation in his official robing.

BJ, Kennedy and Bernard’s high energy and happy voices in an often stoic courtroom gave the February ceremonial investiture a fittingly celebratory air. One of the youngest of the 12 active judges for the Western District of Oklahoma, Jones received judicial commission on Dec. 31, 2019 after being confirmed by an almost unheard of 91 to 3 vote from the U.S. Senate. Senator James Lankford noted the only votes not in favor of Jones were senators absent while on the presidential campaign trail. Former Oklahoma Gov. Mary Fallin added that Jones’ nomination by President Trump was met with no opposition, another example of bipartisan support.

Jones’ appointment is a testament to his impressive judicial career, including a controversial case involving a high school football playoff game, and his reputation for always ascribing to the rule of the law. But his most noteworthy role has always been husband and dad. As a dad, an attorney and a jurist, Jones has focused his life on how he can best serve others, and he is called to pass that perspective to his three kids.

“They have opportunities we didn’t have,” said Jones of his children compared to his and wife Mautra’s childhoods. “I want my children to benefit from that but also want them to realize they have an obligation to be of service to others.”

U.S. DISTRICT JUDGE BERNARD JONES ADDRESSES FRIENDS, FAMILY, COLLEAGUES AND SUPPORTERS DURING HIS INVESTITURE CEREMONY.

Making a difference Jones grew up in northeast Oklahoma City, graduating from Bishop McGuinness High School and earning his undergraduate degree at Southern Methodist University and juris doctorate from Notre Dame Law School. Though Jones said at the time he wanted a one-way ticket out of Oklahoma, watching the capital city transform thanks to MAPS began to change his mind about Oklahoma City becoming a place he could return to.

“At 5 p.m. on a Friday, Oklahoma City used to be a ghost town,” recalls Jones. “Now with the housing options, restaurants, parks, the arts, opportunities for business and families, I stand in awe at the investment we are making. It’s a testament to our leadership but also to our beliefs in ourselves as a city.”

After working in a Columbus law firm for a few years, Jones was recruited to return to Oklahoma City to work for McAfee & Taft and then served as a dean for Oklahoma City University School of Law. Jones served the state of Oklahoma first as a district judge for Oklahoma’s seventh judicial district, overseeing, initially, the family and domestic relations docket and later the civil docket.

Jones has always approached his judicial position with the intent to make a difference, not just in terms of his rulings but in the relationships people develop with the court.

“I want everyone, regardless of the case outcome, to leave feeling as if they were treated with dignity and respect,” said Jones.

“I want them to know [I] treated them like a person and was not influenced by anything other than the law.”

Throughout Jones’ career, he’s aspired to treat everyone equally using the rule of the law as his measure, but, once a ruling has been determined, that doesn’t negate his commitment to offer compassion in his delivery. Jones is obligated to apply the law and mandate punishment as necessary, but he believes he also has a responsibility to communicate that in a way that will ultimately help those who find themselves in his courtroom.

“It’s not just about penalizing but rehabilitation,” Jones explained of his hope to positively influence citizens toward growing into productive members of society.

Doing what is right While Jones was a state district judge, a 2014 case over a high school football playoff game between Douglass and Locust Grove drew national attention. The game was allegedly botched by referees, resulting in Douglass’ loss, so Oklahoma City Public School District took the case to court to request the game be replayed.

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Jones denied the request to replay the game, ultimately determining that a ruling on the game was out of the jurisdiction of a courtroom, a decision that, though not popular, was praised by Oklahoma City Mayor David Holt at Jones’ investiture.

“Upholding the rule of the law can be inconvenient, time consuming and not result in a popular outcome,” said Holt. “I have admiration for Bernard Jones on many levels, including his respect for the rule of law and how he took that pressure, that extra burden of facing voters, with that message that the rule of law matters.”

Jones remembers that electrified time in his career as he processed the case, with racial undertones and hostilities amid a call from many in the community to “let the kids play.” He knew no matter his decision he’d be celebrated by some and vilified by others, but that reality didn’t play into his ruling.

“I had a lot of people in the profession say to ignore the law, but our job is not one where we ought to be concerned with what is popular but about doing what is right and what the law requires,” said Jones. “Folks were surprised and disappointed but what people cannot say was that my decision was not consistent with the law. It was a challenging and difficult day, and still there are folks who aren’t happy, but it was right not only from a legal perspective but from a practical one, and that’s what I pride myself on.”

Dean Emeritus Lawrence K. Hellman from OCU School of Law spoke at Jones’ investiture of his work ethic, unlimited energy, determination and wisdom beyond his years. He laughingly added that the only problem, both when Jones was on faculty at OCU and still today, is that Jones is so young.

“It has been a joy to watch his judicial career,” said Hellman. “He has unlimited devotion to the values of judiciary independence, the rule of law and democracy. He’s able to deliver unpleasant rulings without being unpleasant.”

Jones entered federal judicial service in 2015, appointed a U.S. magistrate judge, the first African American appointed to this position in Oklahoma. He held this position until his 2019 appointment to federal district court service. Jones is the second African American to hold this position in Oklahoma, following mentor and friend former Judge Vicki Miles-LaGrange. Jones’ family lived around the corner from LaGrange when he was a child, and she attended high school with his dad. Jones has long admired her career and is grateful for the trails she’s blazed.

“She and I have a series of firsts under our belts, but we have never been interested in or focused on being first,” said Jones. “We want to ensure that we’re not the last. She led a great example for me, and it’s one I intend to build on.”

Dad life Lankford remarked that the progression to become a U.S. district judge, from initial consideration to presidential nomination to Senate confirmation, is a long, hard process, commending Jones and his wife and children for accepting the challenges. And Jones is quick to credit his family for believing in him when he hasn’t believed in himself. He and Mautra, vice president of institutional advancement and external affairs for Langston University, both have demanding careers, which Jones eloquently calls vocations of service.

“We come from humble beginnings,” said Jones. “We want to do our part to ensure others have similar opportunities.”

Just as Mautra attends court functions regularly, Jones often meets Langston students. As parents, in their careers and as community leaders, the duo recognizes that working together expands their opportunities for service and the impact they are able to make on the world around them.

In addition to teaching their three kids the value in helping others, the Jones parents impart their faith and the importance of working hard.

“Those were the things impressed upon me that have helped me be a better judge and better member of society,” said Jones.

As Jones strives to set a good example for his kids, he’s also a playful dad, quick to listen and ever affirming of the uniqueness his children possess.

“What truly brings me joy is the fact that they are so inquisitive and so empathetic,” said Jones.

The Jones children have, truly, never met a stranger, and are attuned to the realities of the world, both good and bad, thanks to parents intent upon raising fellow citizens who will give back.

“They really see people and want them to succeed,” marvels Jones. “I love that about them. They are thoughtful children and have realized early on that it’s not just about them.”

THE JONES FAMILY SHARES IN BERNARD’S SPECIAL DAY.

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Gardening with

Dad

The taste of satisfaction STORY AND PHOTOS BY MICHAEL BERGIN.

CLICK FOR MOBILE-FRIENDLY VERSION BERGIN SHARES THE JOY OF GARDENING WITH HIS CHILDREN.

The thorny dewberry vines that grow in the garden along the side of our house are transplants from the home of my wife’s late grandmother.

After she passed, I moved several of these native blackberry-like bushes from her rural Oklahoma farmyard to our place, where they now flourish and compliment the annual bounty of our suburban fruit and vegetable garden.

Like many family matriarchs, my wife’s grandmother was a special individual. A survivor of the Great Depression and a stalwart example of the endearing qualities of the people of western Oklahoma — this is a woman whose memory is worthy of passing down to my children.

I’m grateful I was afforded the opportunity to know her and the experiences and traditions of her home.

Although my three small children will never sit and visit with their great-grandmother in her home, through vegetable and fruit gardening, they will know some connection to her. With each summer evening’s visit to the dewberry bushes, our children hear the stories of warm country evenings, funny memories and wisdom passed down through the generations.

In those moments, our kids smell and taste fresh dewberries right off the vine, just like their mother grew up doing at “Grandma’s house.”

And just like at Grandma’s, they’re invited into the ritual of gathering with loved ones around delicious food — in this case homegrown dewberry cobblers that are second to none. In this way we enrich not only our children’s experience in the garden but also their connection to our family roots.

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BERGIN’S CHILDREN, AGES 5, 4 AND 2, ARE AVID HELPERS IN THE FAMILY’S GARDENS.

Establishing traditions

Reveling in the reward

From a patch of thorny vines in our backyard garden spring forth so many valuable lessons, traditions and opportunities to enrich the lives of our young kids. And so it can be for anyone who starts a home garden with their kids. Gardening can strengthen the bond between parents and children, build memories that long outlast the time it takes to produce a crop and deepen the connection kids have with the natural world. And that’s just the beginning of the tangible and intangible rewards that come from growing fruit and veggies with your children.

There’s something viscerally rewarding about growing and raising your own food. And kids who take interest in raising a vegetable crop from start to finish are sure to feel it. But even if a child isn’t actively involved throughout the entire process, they can still enjoy gardening if you involve them in steps along the way.

The value of hard work For me, gardening has always been about the hard work, the sweat, digging my hands into the soil and working with shovels and forks and wheelbarrows. It’s about creating fertile ground and attracting earthworms and bees. And it’s about providing my family with quality food.

Add children to the mix and you’ve got a perfect environment for teaching hard work, patience, problem-solving and the importance of making fresh air, nature and nutritious food part of one’s daily routine.

My oldest son enjoys explaining the step-by-step process of growing food, from planting a seed to adding compost, watering and eventually nurturing a plant that produces the most flavorful tomatoes.

Even more, he’s discovered the pleasure of doing the work, harvesting squash or green beans he’s planted and raised himself (OK, mostly himself!) He’s even felt the urge to grow “his own” garden in a space designated just for kids to plant and experiment.

Fortunately, even the youngest among us can participate. A 2-yearold can walk along a patch of loose ground scattering lettuce seeds.

The steady hand of an older child can plant garlic or green beans with precision. A stronger child can carry a watering can. And a patient youngster can help with weeding and pruning. Even a small child with an appropriately-sized basket can stay occupied with a plant loaded down with ripe cherry tomatoes or sugar snap peas.

Homegrown harvest And perhaps the pinnacle of the gardening experience is the time spent after the harvest, in the kitchen. Involving your young gardener in the preparation of the meal is an important part of the gardening process. Even if you just have one or two ingredients from the garden on hand, that homegrown essence is sure to enrich your meal with a deeper connection to the ground outside your door, a better understanding of where food comes from and opportunities to affirm a child for his or her contribution to that meal.

Regardless of what you grow or choose to prepare with it in the kitchen, the taste of food grown at home in partnership with your kids is that of pure satisfaction.

His two younger siblings may not fully grasp all these concepts yet, but they still experience the gratification of planting fast-growing vegetables — like radishes — that sprout before they lose interest.

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Tips for Keeping Kids Engaged in Gardening • Don’t underestimate what a child wants to learn. Study topics like foods you want to grow, composting and beneficial insects, then share what you’ve learned with your young helper.

• Start small. A surprising amount of food can be produced in a 4’x6’ raised bed or containers filled with a potting soil made for growing vegetables.

• Purchase kid-specific gardening tools for your children. The smaller size handles and implements are easier for kids to use than full-size tools and give young gardeners a sense of ownership over their equipment and the tasks around the garden.

• Make a day of if when you buy seeds or young plants. Children will look forward to it each year and enjoy the opportunity to help decide what to plant.

• With young children, plant fast-growing crops like radishes and lettuce. If you start in early spring and water daily, you’re likely to notice seedlings within about three days. Check the soil every day with your kids so that the planting will be fresh on their minds when they finally see the plants emerging.

• Involve your child in daily garden tasks.

Set goals at the beginning, like watering and weeding the garden together twice a week, then lead your family in keeping the commitment to each other and your garden.

Bergin Family Favorites • Green beans are easy to grow and fun to plant and harvest, even in a small garden.

• Cherry tomatoes are prolific and hard to mess up. The fruits are also sweet and delicious.

• Perennials like asparagus or blackberries take longer to establish but they help keep children interested and excited about gardening when they come back each year.

• Purchase a bag of beneficial ladybugs from a local garden center or online, then release them into your garden with your children. It’s great fun for everyone!

• Find an online resource or book to guide your efforts.

There are many excellent options. Good starting points include the book The Vegetable Gardener’s Bible by Edward C. Smith or the “From Seed to Spoon” app for your iPhone.

THE BERGIN FAMILY GARDEN YIELDS A VARIETY OF FRESH FRUITS AND VEGETABLES.

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BERGIN’S SON INSPECTS THE DEWBERRY VINES, TRANSPLANTED FROM HIS GREATGRANDMOTHER’S OKLAHOMA FARM.

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LOCAL FAMILY FUN

Outdoors with the Manuels 5 places to get unplugged for greater connection

BY KHARI MANUEL. PHOTOS PROVIDED.

In today’s world, we are all connected. It is hard to walk away, for adults and kids both, when you are constantly poked by friends, work and activities through emails, social media and YouTube. Without mandatory device-less activities, we can all get sucked in to the challenges of our exceedingly connected world, which leaves us depleted but not truly understanding that we are often exhausted due to our constant connectivity.

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(LEFT) BRYCE AND KINLEY ENJOY THE FAMILY’S FAVORITE OUTDOOR ACTIVITY; ROCK CLIMBING. (ABOVE) KHARI AND SON DRAKE PLAY SPIKEBALL AT SCISSORTAIL PARK.

I am an advocate for quality time under the canopy of the sky without devices. As a strong believer in the strength and energy that comes from nature, my family and I build it into our schedule as a priority to get outside as much and as often as possible year-round.

Outdoor activities are the heart of our family time, and these are my family of five’s favorite places to unplug from our devices and get connected with each other:

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Scissortail Park in Oklahoma City provides a vast area to roam and play for both humans and pets. The hours fly by as we compete in our favorite outside game of Spikeball, which is a cross between four square and volleyball. The local food trucks allow us to feed our ravished bodies after hours of outdoor play.

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If you don’t find us at Scissortail Park, we’re likely at Martin Park Nature Center walking the trails, taking a gander at the birds and running through the woods. Perhaps the greatest joy in this park is watching the turtles. Our family has nicknamed our favorite turtles, including “Big Earl,” and we watch to see who can spot “our” turtles first.

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When we don’t have time to venture away from home, you can find us at our neighborhood pond where we enjoy fishing and sitting on the bank. Memorable moments do not have to cost a pretty penny, nor do they have to include travel, but they do need to be generated and formulated by the leaders of a household. That’s you, parents!

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In Oklahoma, weather tends to dictate the activities available on any given day. On a wet, cold or rainy day we advocate heading indoors to prep for nicer days. To combine inside practice with outside adventure, we start at Threshold Rock Climbing Gym in northwest Oklahoma City. Threshold is a fantastic rock-climbing adventure that leaves us physically exhausted from climbing but also connected to our community when weather prohibits us from enjoying the outdoors. The climbing challenges are limitless as are the laughs that accompany the triumphs and failures of figuring it all out.

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Threshold provides the opportunity to practice the skills needed to take rock climbing outside in Lawton’s Wichita Mountains or at Horseshoe Canyon Ranch in Arkansas.

My family spends many hours each spring and fall camping and playing in the outdoor climbing adventures that await us at Horseshoe. Beyond the seemingly endless climbing routes, there are multiple opportunities for action with the giant zip line, the oversized tree swing, frisbee golf, hiking, hanging out in hammocks and interacting with the ranch animals that roam the acres of land. We rise with the sun and find ourselves immersed in the outdoors while the hours of the day fly by, and we concluded with s’mores and a recap of our day around the campfire.

At the end of the day, month or year, I want to be able to look back and have memories created around time with my family. Time is never replaceable but it is certainly valuable. I want to look back and see what we have cherished as time together to be a reflection of what we value in our household. For us, that means prioritizing quality connection, away from our devices, in the great outdoors.

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The annual Walk for Kids offers metro families an active way to support the Ronald McDonald House and the programs that help families stay together and close to the resources they need while a child is in the hospital. Participants complete a walk of any distance in their neighborhood or favorite walking spot. Registered walkers can win prizes, including Apple AirPods and a round-trip Southwest Airlines voucher.

Participation is free but fundraising is encouraged. Organizers encourage walkers to be safe and practice social distancing.

Step back in time to celebrate Flag Day and watch a reading of Fibber McGee the Census Taker. The family-friendly show presented via Zoom follows comedian Fibber McGee as he visits various neighbors. Prior to the show, museum staff will present a short lecture on the radio program and conclude with a talk about the 2020 Census.

JUNE 9 FREE Improv Basics metrolibrary.org, 7pm Ages 14+, preregister Teens can learn the basics and practice their improvisational skills with experts from OKC Improv.

The interactive, virtual program includes games and skill building.

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JUNE 28 FREE SONIC Drive-In Virtual Family Day okcmoa.com All ages Family Day is going virtual! Several Sundays each year OKCMOA invites families for a day of art exploration. This June, the museum is bringing that same art-inspired fun to families at home. Find a virtual tour of the new POP Power exhibition, a performance by the Sugar Free Allstars, art workshops with local artists and more on the museum’s YouTube channel.

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JUNE 14 FREE Cool Pops Pop-Up Father’s Day Celebration Myriad Gardens, 10am-3pm All ages Celebrate all dads at this free come-and-go event. In honor of Father’s Day, bring the family and stop by the Myriad Botanical Gardens’ Devon Lawn for a photo in front of a fun Father’s Day backdrop. Share your photos on social using the hashtag #CoolPopsOKC. We’ll have a special chalk obstacle course for families to navigate around the lawn as well as one savory and one sweet food truck on site. Bonus: The first 100 families will receive one Father’s Day coloring craft from MetroFamily and one seed kit from the Myriad for at-home gardening fun.

This event is sponsored by Green Bambino. metrofamilymagazine.com

JUNE 27 Glowstick Firefly Night Walk Martin Park Nature Center, 8:30-9:30pm Ages 6+, $5 Learn about the life cycle and habitat of fireflies as well as how they communicate and how you can communicate with them on a night hike led by park staff. Ages 6+, $5, preregister, okc.gov/parksignup.

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JUNE 19-28 Children’s Garden Festival Myriad Gardens, 10am-5pm daily All ages, non-members (ages 2 & up), $8 Spend time in the Children’s Garden and enjoy iconic scenes from favorite children’s books centered on nature including Peter Rabbit, Alice in Wonderland and The Giving Tree. Take part in story times, seed growing lessons and browse books, plants and garden vendors during this 10-day festival. Admission is $8 for nonmembers; free for members and kids 2 & under. myriadgardens.org

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National Cowboy Museum, 10am-noon All ages, free with admission Celebrate Independence Day in Prosperity Junction, the museum’s Western frontier town.

Enjoy a cake walk, crafts, story time and more.

Activities are free with museum admission, while supplies last. nationalcowboymuseum.org

Find our full calendar of virtual and in-person events at metrofamilymagazine.com/calendar.

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Dreaming of

SanHDiego

EXPLORING BEYOND OKLAHOMA CLICK FOR MOBILE-FRIENDLY VERSION

BY ERIN PAGE. PHOTO (ABOVE) BY JOHN BAHU, COURTESY OF SANDIEGO.ORG. OTHER PHOTOS PROVIDED.

While traditional vacations may not be viable for all families or destinations for awhile yet, dreaming of future bucket list family vacations and reminiscing on past favorites are never off limits!

As we await the time when we can book family adventures again, I’ve been thinking back on our 2019 fall break trip to sunny San Diego that generated a lifetime of memories for our party of five.

Even sweeter, October is “Kids Go Free” month in San Diego, and this mama needed no more prompting than the promise of frugal family fun to hit “reserve” on our 2019 fall vacation.

Whenever you’re dreaming of visiting San Diego, during fall break to take advantage of kids’ free admission at local hot spots, summertime to sun on the beaches or winter in search of warm weather, our family can promise yours that a trip to the birthplace of California will result in sunshiny memories for years to come. Tuck away our five day itinerary for future planning!

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Day 1

We booked an early morning flight (because, let’s be honest, when it’s vacation day, the kids will be up at the crack of dawn anyway!) to ensure time to play once arriving in San Diego. After picking up our rental car, we headed straight to Seaport Village, a beautiful hub of waterfront dining, shopping and outdoor entertainment. Our kids were intrigued by the antique carousel, danced to live music, begged for ice cream (wishes granted) and enjoyed strolling along the pier.

From Seaport Village, it’s a quick walk to the USS Midway Museum, the longest-serving naval aircraft carrier of the 20th century, now a historic museum, where the kids got in free.

A self-guided audio tour of more than 60 locations in the carrier takes you though this city upon water, narrated by Midway sailors, from the flight and hanger decks featuring more than 30 restored aircraft to below-decks exhibits exploring how thousands of sailors made this ship home and even a peek at the engine room that kept the craft running.

We marveled at the kitchen that served more than 14,000 meals a day, the hospital ward and the size of the sailors’ bunks (tiny!) Other highlights included several climb-aboard aircraft and cockpits (with my Top Gunloving husband calling first dibs to command the Maverick aircraft). An audio tour especially for kids, including a scavenger hunt to complete for their very own set of wings, kept my trio engaged for several hours.

AT THE USS MIDWAY MUSEUM, THE KIDS CHECK OUT A RESTORED AIRCRAFT ABOVE WHILE BELOW DAD IMITATES MAVERICK FROM TOP GUN.

l o o C s p o P We chose to stay north of San Diego in Carlsbad, both because we could score cheaper hotel rates and we knew several families who raved about Omni La Costa Resort and Spa. In addition to typical hotel rooms for up to four, they offer larger rooms to comfortably fit families of five, plus villas with fully stocked kitchens. We made use of most of the eight (yes, eight!) outdoor swimming pools, especially the family pool with a sandy beach entry and splash landing pool complete with two large water slides, a smaller slide and a splash pad. Three restaurants, two coffee shops/cafes and poolside bars (in season) gave us plenty of dining options without having to leave the resort, a major plus on our first night when we hit the pool and grabbed pizzas from the marketplace.

Day 2

Another reason we opted for the Omni is its proximity to the mecca of Carlsbad, LEGOLAND. To fuel up for a full day of fun, we stopped first at Beach Plum Kitchen in Carlsbad, where old-fashioned buttermilk pancakes and waffles, migas with chorizo and roasted bell peppers and choose-your-hash with options like mushroom and spinach or house-cured pork belly are beautifully presented and top-notch tasty. Don’t miss the blueberry muffins with buttery crumble topping or the homemade pop tarts.

To get kid-free admissions to LEGOLAND, tickets must be purchased online ahead of time, and the park only allows one free kid admission per paid adult admission.

Arriving about an hour before official opening is key (hint: the gates actually open about 30 minutes early); while rides are only open to hotel guests, early rope drop allowed us to get the lay of the land, check out the gift shop and plan our day.

Our adventure junkies loved the thrill rides, while our youngest most enjoyed driving school, commanding his own LEGO car.

Mainland USA is a must-see, with iconic cities built with intricate details. We all loved spotting our favorite fairy tales come to life in LEGO form as we drifted through Fairy Tale Brook and the interactive fun aboard submarines in LEGO CITY Deep Sea Adventure, where we competed in a scavenger hunt on touch screens.

For dinner after a fun-filled day, we chose Karl Strauss Brewing for its location near LEGOLAND, family-friendly menu and indoor/outdoor dining options. One of SoCal’s most famous local breweries, Karl Strauss offers everything from indulgent “Mac on Tap” featuring a variety of mac and cheese combinations to spicy salmon or chicken quinoa rice bowls. The kids’ menu included burgers, mac and cheese, chicken and even fruit and veggies (some in our party were happier about this than others).

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Day 3

Less than a one-hour drive from Carlsbad, the nearby beach town of La Jolla is home to a resident population of wild seals and sea lions, one of our kids’ must-sees in San Diego.

We were greeted by a plentiful, playful pod at Children’s Pool at Casa Beach. Though originally created for kids to swim as the name implies, it was quickly taken over by area seals and sea lions, which can now be observed at a respectable distance.

LA JOLLA SHORES OFFERS HOURS OF SOCAL BEACHY FUN, WHILE A MEAL AT DUKE’S SERVES UP A SLICE OF HAWAII.

Next, we stopped in at Birch Aquarium, where the kids got in free, a small attraction offering special opportunities to understand sea creatures, including public feedings of their famous leopard sharks and sea turtles and a dive show in the two-story kelp forest. In addition to hands-on fun at the outdoor tide pool, the panoramic ocean views are breathtaking.

A slice of Hawaii in SoCal, lunch at Duke’s in downtown La Jolla overlooks the sparkling sea and features flavorful fare like fish tacos, Korean sticky ribs, seared ahi bowls, fish and chips and the famous (definitely shareable!) Hula Pie, towering macadamia nut ice cream on a chocolate cookie crust, topped with hot fudge, whipped cream and toasted macadamia nuts.

We spent a lazy afternoon at La Jolla Shores, a popular public beach, where the ocean was decidedly too frigid for the adults but didn’t deter the kids from frolicking in the surf for hours.

Back in Carlsbad, we enjoyed dinner al fresco at Tinleaf Fresh Kitchen, a delicious fast-food alternative with creative salad, sandwich and soup combinations, including the spicy cubano sandwich and mediterranean salad with hearts of palm, chickpeas and candied pistachios.

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Day 4

After a quick breakfast at our hotel overlooking the rolling hills, we made the 45-minute drive to the San Diego Zoo, which met all our expectations and then some! We arrived prior to the 9 a.m. opening, which meant we got right in when the gates opened. In October, kids are automatically free, no pre-purchase or coupon required.

UP-CLOSE EXPERIENCES WITH INCREDIBLE ANIMALS AT THE SAN DIEGO ZOO

With more than 3,700 animals on 100 acres, we planned ahead of time which animals we most wanted to see, focusing especially on those we don’t have at the OKC Zoo. We loved the lush greenery of the monkey and tiger trails, and even got to see one of the big cats enjoying his breakfast with educational commentary by a zoo volunteer. At the river hippo trail, an underwater peek at two napping hippopotamuses made us gasp at their sheer size. Penguins zipping through their watery habitat, fuzzy koala bears dozing in their treetop homes and real reindeer grazing next to the habitat of huge polar bears made our favorites list.

The grounds of this zoo are out-of-this-world impressive and the engaging volunteers make for an educational experience. Though we packed snacks, we purchased lunch onsite and were pleased with the selection of gourmet bowls, salads and sandwiches with fresh ingredients. Eat early to avoid heavy lunchtime crowds.

After a long day of walking, we rested our tired legs poolside and watched our kids speed down the water slides. We opted for a quiet dinner at one of the hotel restaurants, dining outdoors to enjoy a beautiful sunset on our family getaway.

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Day 5

The saddest day of vacation … time to go home. We booked an early afternoon flight so we’d be less rushed and made one final stop at our favorite restaurant of the trip, Beach Plum Kitchen, for more of those delectable blueberry muffins.

We returned home with a bit of sand stuck to flip flops, rosy cheeks thanks to that sweet sunshine and memories to last a lifetime.

What is “Kids Kids Go Free”?

Free ?

It’s true! During the month of October, kids can eat, stay and play for free at more than 100 San Diego attractions, hotels and restaurants. Big name attractions like LEGOLAND, SeaWorld San Diego, the San Diego Zoo and San Diego Zoo Safari Park all typically participate, with deals varying by location (for example, at the zoo, all three of our kids got in free, but LEGOLAND only allowed one free kid admission per paid adult admission).

With a pass downloaded from sandiegomuseumcouncil.org, kids ages 12 and under receive free admission at more than 40 area museums, including two on our itinerary, Birch Aquarium at Scripps and the USS Midway Museum. You can even find free surf lessons, kayak rides and whale watching and boat tours. Check sandiego.org/kidsfree for all the offers, with the full list of participants typically available by mid-July each year. As COVID-19 has impacted the tourism industry and city and state regulations across California, double check with all attractions, hotels and restaurants prior to booking.

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Fourth of July AT-HOME FUN

If your family will be sticking close to home to celebrate the Fourth of July, explore these activities to add some sparkle to your celebration: 1. Let the kids decorate their bikes with balloons and streamers for a neighborhood parade.

2. Learn about the Declaration of Independence! Explore the National Archives digitally to see what the document looks like today. Then, introduce your kids to an elementary school classic, Schoolhouse Rock: Fireworks.

You can also check out the animated series Liberty’s Kids that explores important moments in America’s history.

3. Set up a sprinkler or Slip-n-Slide for a fun way to cool down. These homemade sponge bombs make for a mess-free water fight!

4. Make your own festive t-shirt with this bleach art method and craft a patriotic necklace. These easy-tomake crafts are perfect for a variety of ages.

5. Entertain the kids at your backyard BBQ with some fun, old fashioned games, like gunny sack races, spoon races, watermelon eating or seed spitting contests, croquet, horseshoes or kickball.

6. Keep the fun going after dark with glow games. Stock up on a few glow sticks for a fun twist on classic kid games like glow-in-the-dark Tic Tac Toe, ring toss or bowling.

For metro events to celebrate the Fourth of July, festive food recipes or fireworks safety tips, visit metrofamilymagazine. com/independence-day-fun-guide.

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FREE events JULY 3 & 4 FREE Yukon Freedom Fest Chisholm Trail & Yukon City Park, 5:30-10pm All ages Two-day festival with live music, car show, food trucks, fireworks and more. Concerts begin at 8:30pm; fireworks, 10pm. Car show 10am-2:30pm on Saturday. cityofyukonok.gov

JULY 4 Celebration in the Heartland Buck Thomas Park, Moore, 10am-10pm All ages, free to attend Features live entertainment, vendors, food, games, music, car show and more. Fireworks begin at dusk. cityofmoore.com/events

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FAMILY MENTAL WELLNESS

5 Steps

to address anxiety in children

BY DR. ERICA FAULCONER

Anxiety and stress. We are living in an era in which these feelings seem to rule our existence. Many of us deal with anxiety in our normal everyday lives, but with the addition of social distancing and isolation, these emotions are more pronounced than ever.

Adults are not the only ones affected by stress and anxiety. Our children and teens are dealing with new and unsettling emotions as well. Adolescent children and teens in particular often exhibit different outward signs of stress than we would expect; they tend to be more affected than other ages due to increased responsibility, puberty and social stressors. Emotions can range from anger and aggression to withdrawal and moodiness.

We all deal with stress differently, and we also allow stress and anxiety to affect our lives in different ways. Just as we are teaching our children via school and in life skills, it is important to teach them how to recognize and manage stress and anxiety. We also need to talk to them about both healthy and unhealthy ways to manage our worries.

Follow these steps to open those doors of conversation with your children:

initial step is to help children 1 The recognize when they are feeling anxious

final, and seemingly most difficult 4 The thing, can be finding ways to mitigate

these feelings in your child. Give 2 Affirm them a name. Reassure them that feeling

these coping strategies can help 5 While in many situations, knowing when to

or stressed. Parents can help bring this to their child’s attention when they notice something is worrying them. Address these feelings with your child in a calm manner and avoid confronting them when they are at the peak of stress or emotion.

mad and frustrated or scared and worried is OK. Refrain from belittling your child’s stress or anxiety. The last thing we as parents want to do is make our child feel shame for how they feel. Let them know that we are all allowed to feel whatever feelings come to us even if we aren’t always allowed to act on those feelings.

next step is to work on a list of 3 The triggers, or things that seem to bring about stress or anxiety most often. These are very different for each child. Some may be overwhelmed with large amounts of school work and home responsibilities while others may react more strongly toward social or world events. Communication is key here as is helping children learn to develop self-introspection.

this stress. These could include exercise, reading, journaling, listening to music, counting, deep breathing exercises or meditation. Helping your child find the activity that centers them and relaxes them is the key (and a great practice for parents, too!)

seek professional help and guidance is vital. If your child is canceling typical activities with friends, has lost interest in activities that used to excite them or becoming aggressive toward others, or you have concern that they are a danger to themselves or others, it is time to see your child’s doctor, psychologist and/ or psychiatrist. Calling or making an appointment with your child’s pediatrician is a great first step toward finding the kind of professional help that will be most beneficial for your child’s situation.

Anxiety and stress do not often go away throughout our lives; rather they change and evolve over time. Things that seemed stressful at 13 years of age may seem silly at 40 years old, but that doesn’t mean it isn’t challenging to the person who is affected.

The goal for every parent is to help guide our children to become independent and successful adults. Self awareness and behavioral health is an important milestone in this journey.

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Editor’s note: This column is the second in a 12-month series on family mental wellness, written by local experts on topics pertinent to parents and children. Columnists include Dr. Faulconer, Thai-An Truong, LPC, LADC, in private practice as a postpartum therapist and mom of two; Stacey Johnson, LPC, (@staceyjohnsonlife) in private practice at The Purple Couch and mom of eight; and Dr. Lisa Marotta. a psychologist, writer, speaker and mom in private practice in Edmond.

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Kid perspective

All kids who experience anxiety have varied symptoms and reactions. But to give us some insight into what anxiety feels like to a child, we asked 8-year-old Addie to describe it for us.

What does anxiety feel like …

• I think I worry way more than other people do.

• I worry a lot about something bad happening to my family or me.

• Anxiety is like a voice in my head telling me scary things or telling me I’m not good enough.

• I have a hard time sleeping because I stay up worrying.

• Sometimes I get really mad or frustrated that I worry so much.

What helps you feel better …

• When I can’t sleep, reading a book or listening to a calming app helps me relax.

• When I am worrying about something scary happening, I try to change the pictures in my head into something funny or silly.

• I gave my anxiety a name and talk back to it to tell it the truth.

• I ask myself if what I’m worried about is possible, then if it’s likely and if it is, what I could do if it did happen.

• I talk to my mom, which helps because she has anxiety, too, so she understands how I feel.

• When I’m feeling worried or scared all the time and I can’t stop it, I know it’s time to go talk to my counselor.

Dr. Erica Faulconer is native to Oklahoma City and enjoys being a part of this thriving community as a wife, mom of three beautiful children and pediatrician at Northwest Pediatrics.

She received her bachelors degree in microbiology from Oklahoma State University, completed medical training at the University of Oklahoma College of Medicine and spent her residency in pediatrics at the University of Oklahoma Children’s Hospital, completing her training in 2013. Dr. Faulconer and her husband, Chris, are both avid sports fans who enjoy attending concerts and being outdoors at every opportunity.

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Dedication to excellence through service:

Tobias’ story What qualities come to mind when you think of a strong and effective leader? Perhaps someone who is driven and passionate. Selfless and caring.

Encouraging and motivating.

Polished and experienced.

It can be challenging to find these characteristics in a single person, let alone a teenager. But that’s exactly what can be found in Tobias Johnson, an 18-year-old 2020 graduate of Piedmont High School.

Tobias’ resume reads like that of a seasoned politician or executive, including impressive experiences such as United States Senate Youth Program delegate, American Legion Boys Nation delegate, Oklahoma Association of Student Councils state president, Oklahoma Hall of Fame Teen Board chairman, Piedmont High School Student Council president, PHS DUCK (Doing Unselfish Charities for Kids) Week co-chair — and the list continues on with leadership and community service experiences galore.

But what really stands out about Tobias is his drive and motivation.

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From ideals to action Tobias recalls walking along the Vietnam Veterans Memorial in Washington, D.C., during Boys Nation while hearing veterans’ stories of heroism and sacrifice. That opportunity inspired him to serve his nation and community by pursuing a career in public service.

His parents, Emily and Trinity Johnson, taught him to embrace his potential to be a positive influence and build a strong work ethic.

“My parents instilled in me the idea of setting a good example and always doing the right thing,” said Tobias. “I have to always remember who and what I’m doing it for.”

The teen also gives credit to Alissa Antwine, leadership and Student Council sponsor at Piedmont High School, for helping mold him into who he is today.

From all his mentors, Tobias takes the ideals instilled in him and puts them to work.

“One thing I strive for when leading a team is to clearly communicate our goals and to get everyone on board, to show them what they’re capable of,” said Tobias of his leadership style. “I always want to be dedicated to excellence.”

Antwine recalls that as PHS Student Council president, Tobias led just as well as, or even better than, most adults.

“One of the things I admire most about Tobias is his desire to not only put in the time and energy to make sure that everything he does is a success but to help those around him succeed in their endeavors as well,” said Antwine.

Always learning President John F. Kennedy said, “Leadership and learning are indispensable to each other,” a sentiment that Tobias strives to embody.

Always seeking to learn from the examples of others, Tobias began researching internship opportunities with the U.S. Senate as a junior in high school. Though he discovered those internships are typically reserved for college students, he did find an application for the U.S. Senate Youth Program, a unique educational experience for outstanding high school students interested in pursuing careers in public service.

After a months-long process of applications, interviews and tests, Tobias was chosen as one of only two students to represent Oklahoma for a week-long program in

Washington, D.C. He was looking forward to connecting with and learning from some of the nation’s heavy-hitters, such as Chief Justice Roberts, Oklahoma Senators Lankford and Inhofe and even President Trump, as well as his fellow student delegates.

Unfortunately, the program, scheduled to take place over spring break, was canceled for 2020 due to the COVID-19 pandemic.

Although Tobias was understandably disappointed, he sought a silver lining in connecting with the other delegates via social media. These future world-changers have been discussing current events and exchanging ideas and advice for following their dreams of bettering their communities through public service.

A clear vision of big dreams In true Tobias fashion, the high school graduate has a detailed plan for pursuing his dreams.

He will attend Dartmouth College in the fall to pursue a degree in political science

and economics, then aspires to earn a law degree from Yale University. Tobias dreams of clerking for the U.S. Supreme Court before working for Becket, a nonprofit law firm specializing in religious liberty. But he ultimately plans to enter the public service arena through elected office or the judiciary.

“As I embark on the next chapter of my life, I will carry all of the lessons I’ve learned through my leadership opportunities,” reflects Johnson. “The biggest lesson I’ve learned is the value of service. It’s not always easy, but as I lead in the future, I will always try to serve my community, Oklahoma, our nation and everyone around me.”

Editor’s note: Kristy Blosch, MBA is a former marketing and communications director and current stay-at-home mom to two boys, Noah (4) and Judah (2). She is married to Cody, and together their family can usually be found traveling, hiking, camping, cooking and cheering on the OSU Cowboys.

TOBIAS ADDRESSES HIS FELLOW OKLAHOMA STATE SENATE PAGES IN THE SENATE CHAMBER.

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Parenting is beautiful and messy and hard, and through our blog Hashtag Parenting we strive to lend voice to the real-life, everyday issues facing metro families. This month we’re celebrating dads (and that includes all you stepdads, grandfathers, foster dads, father figures and moms pulling double duty!),

You know what ‘excuse’ or thought has NEVER crossed my mind when trying to talk myself out of exercising? Fear of losing my life due to the color of my skin. Though I will never know what it truly feels like to be the target of such hatred, I know what it feels like to love someone who is. @tara_kcarr shares the realities of racial injustice as her husband Michael celebrates his first Father’s Day at metrofamilymagazine.com/i-run-with-ahmaud.

but we’re also committed to ongoing discussions addressing racism and racial injustice, through the words of local parents. From the sweet sentiments of a great-grandfather to the anguish of a black mom of three young boys, here’s a glimpse into what you’ll find at metrofamilymagazine.com/hashtag-parenting.

I am a black mother of three boys. I agonize over the possibility of not being able to protect them from those who fear them. I fret over the chance of them being the next news headline or the next hashtag on social media. I do not know the answer and I feel absolutely powerless.

Dr. Tamecca Rogers pens heartfelt words about the ongoing conversations she must have with her sons about racism and racial injustice at metrofamilymagazine.com/blackmother-of-three-boys. Photo by Denice Toombs.

I’m watching you grow up through the magic of video technology. But I can hardly wait until I can take off my mask and park you on my knee for endless horsey rides.

Dow Dozier writes a heartfelt Father’s Day letter to his three great-grandchildren at metrofamilymagazine.com/letterto-my-great-grandchildren.

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The only *tiny* silver lining in all of this is the number of white friends I see calling racism for what it is.

They are using their privilege to expose and educate their children, friends, families and colleagues.

Kay Robinson shares how her white friends can move from words into action against racism at metrofamilymagazine.com/ combatting-racism.

My sincere hope as a father is that Jimmy learns empathy for the world and leads with understanding for others before passing judgement.

The only way I can hope to teach him this is to aspire to do better myself and model it for him. @holder89 shares his hopes for his son at metrofamilymagazine.com/ what-i-hope-my-son-learns.