Methodist Message: January 2024

48th Annual Conference reports Six new MOTs share their stories A faithful and unchanging God: A deeper look at Jeremiah's lament

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Vol 126 No 1 JANUARY 2024

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Contents

Editorial Board Adviser and Publisher Dr Anthony Goh Chairperson, Council on Communications

/ Bishop’s Message /

Communications Manager Lynn Tan

/ News /

Managing Editor

3 Presidents' Greetings 2024

Alvin Tay

Editor Lianne Ong

Communications Executive Kathrynn Koh

Sub-editors Lucy Cheng Janice Khoo Tan Chiu Ai Elliot Soh

Proofreaders Kenneth Lee Christabel Tan

4 48th Session of the Trinity Annual Conference:

Ideas to help an ageing congregation while not forgetting the young 10 48th Session of the Chinese Annual Conference:

Serving seniors, rethinking ministry models and prioritising the Great Commission 16 48th Session of the Emmanuel Tamil Annual Conference:

A modest growth in membership and pastoral supply

/ Feature / 18 Called to serve

/ Opinion / 24 Soundings: A faithful and unchanging God

/ Outreach / The official monthly publication of The Methodist Church in Singapore. Published material does not necessarily reflect the official view of The Methodist Church. All Scripture quoted is based on the English Standard Version unless otherwise stated.

26 "I questioned God when my daughter died,

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28 Delight in the Lord!

/ Relationships / When time runs out for a machine-man 32 At The Well

/ Worship / 38 Seeking God every hour

/ People / 41 Leaning on God for greatness

New every morning, and every new year The steadfast love of the LORD never ceases; his mercies never come to an end; they are new every morning; great is your faithfulness.

Lamentations 3:22-23

W

hen I was a teenager, I sang both the

Yet from such a context where all hope in

hymn "How Great Thou Art" and the

God had perished comes the determination

chorus "The Steadfast Love of the Lord" that are

in verses 21-23 to revive and retain fresh

based on the Bible verse above. I sang, giving

hope in God: "No, I will (still) hope in God. His

thanks for the blessings God had showered on

mercies are new every morning. Great is your

me. Great is thy faithfulness, Lord, unto me.

faithfulness."

But nowadays I think more about the terrors

Today we too live in a time of great darkness

and tragedies of this world when I sing: a world

and despair. Every new day—every new year—

where children are kidnapped, and families

seems only to exacerbate the hopelessness of

destroyed by bullets, bombs, famines and

any positive change in the future. It is in such

floods. This is not because I have become more

horrible and hopeless times that we also need

pessimistic in outlook, but because I now realise

the example of Lamentations 3:21-23 to revive

that this was the terrible and troubling context

and retain hope in God.

out of which this faith-full and hope-filled Bible verse in Lamentations 3:22 was birthed. Feel the

Yet will I still hope in God. His mercies are new

anguish conveyed in verses leading up to verse 22.

every morning—and every new year. Great is his faithfulness.

Verses 2-3: (God) has driven and brought me into darkness without any light; surely against

Whatever the terrors which 2024 may

me he turns his hand again and again the

bring, may God grant us the rugged faith to

whole day long.

revive and retain hope in the mercies and faithfulness of God which are new every

Verses 17-18: My soul is bereft of peace; I have

morning and every year.

forgotten what happiness is; so I say, "My endurance has perished; so has my hope from the LORD."

January 2024 Methodist Message 1

News

Presidents' Greetings 2024

Rev Stanley Chua

Rev Dr Gregory Goh

Rev Philip Abraham

President Trinity Annual Conference

President Chinese Annual Conference

President Emmanuel Tamil Annual Conference

As we bid farewell to the past year and welcome the dawn of a new one, I want to take a moment to express my heartfelt gratitude to God for his grace and mercy on all of us. I echo the words of the psalmist in Psalm 124 (NIV) where he says, "If the Lord had not been on our side … the flood would have engulfed us, the torrent would have swept over us, the raging waters would have swept us away … Praise be to the Lord, who has not let us be torn ... Our help is in the name of the Lord, the Maker of heaven and earth."

Praise the Lord indeed!

2023 was a year of drastic change and unexpected events. The impact of wars, inflation, natural disasters and more, have affected the relationships between countries, groups and individuals. When we look around us, there are many pressing needs both locally and overseas.

As God’s people, we are called to be ambassadors of Christ, to be salt and light in the community and to be peacemakers to a fragmented society. We need to have a strong sense of urgency to do God’s work: to bring the gospel, healing and restorative work to people in need.

We praise God for graciously giving us another new year.

We are truly thankful to him. Looking at the current issues of the world, we are going through terrible and uncertain times. As disciples of Jesus, it is our duty to intercede daily for peace and unity in our world.

In this new year, I pray that it will be a time of renewed faith, abundant blessings and profound spiritual growth for each one of us. I pray also that our good Lord will continue to watch over us. May the love of Christ continue to guide us in all our endeavours, and may his light illuminate our path as we seek to be a beacon of hope and love in our community and our world. Wishing you and your loved ones a joyous and blessed New Year filled with peace, prosperity and an unwavering faith that carries us through any storm. Glory be to God!

As we enter 2024, let us continue to draw near to God, work together in fulfilling the Great Commission, carry out justice, love mercy and walk humbly with our Lord.

May God’s goodness and love follow you and your household wherever you may be. Blessed New Year!

Whatever the circumstances may be, Jesus has promised us, just as he promised his disciples in Matthew 28:20, "And behold, I am with you always, to the end of the age."

Through the Holy Spirit, we can be sure that God is with us. Therefore, as we step into this new year, his sustenance will allow us to live as God’s representatives on earth—to be witnesses in all circumstances.

Wishing you and your family a meaningful, hopeful and fruitful 2024!

January 2024 Methodist Message 3

News

Alvin Tay is the Managing Editor of Methodist Message. / Photos courtesy of Hon Chee Seng

Ideas to help an ageing congregation while not forgetting the young 48th Session of the Trinity Annual Conference

T

Methodist Church from 20 to 23 November

Trend of TRAC churches moving away from traditional liturgical worship services

2023. The year 2023 marked Rev Stanley

Of the 21 TRAC churches, 12 churches are

Chua's third year as President of TRAC.

still offering traditional worship services,

he 48th Session of the Trinity Annual Conference (TRAC) was held at Bedok

while nine churches have stopped doing so In his President's Address, Rev Stanley

and now offer only contemporary worship

Chua continued with the Conference

services. Of these, two churches have

theme for this quadrennium, "Remember

blended worship services.

who we are: Recovering our Methodist doctrine, spirit and discipline". He provided

Rev Chua said, "I would strongly urge our

a progress report on previous proposals,

churches that are still offering traditional

highlighted four areas of concern and put

worship services not to give up ... but to

forth seven proposals to address them.

continue to build even stronger and more

Rev Chua also proposed a TRAC "Wesley

vibrant liturgical worship services to minister

Sandbox" project, "Young Methodist

and reach out to our ageing population."

Changemakers". (More details on page 7.)

He cited three reasons for doing so. The first

4 Methodist Message January 2024

(top left) Left to right, ETAC President Rev Philip Abraham (partially hidden), CAC President Rev Dr Gregory Goh, Bishop Dr Gordon Wong, TRAC President Rev Stanley Chua, TRAC VP Dr Cheah-Foo Fung Fong and Conference Lay Leader, Henry Tan (partially hidden) (top right) Rev Stanley Chua delivering the President's Address (bottom left) Delegates casting their votes

reason was Singapore's ageing population.

"That is why people who attend the

By 2030, one in four Singaporeans would

traditional liturgical worship services

be aged 65 and above. Likewise, TRAC faces

can often remember hymns, songs and

a growing problem of ageing members.

prayers much better than those who attend

According to the Conference Statistician's

contemporary worship services."

report, the number of persons 60 years old and above in TRAC stood at 12,403 in 2023,

The third reason was to fulfil the purpose

or 41.3 per cent of our total membership.

of Witness & Evangelism. According to the

In a span of five years, it has risen by 3,331

Statista Research Department report on

persons or 36.7 per cent.

22 May 2023, the Christian population in Singapore is but a mere 19% of the total

The ageing membership aside, Rev Chua

population. There is still much witness and

said he was more concerned with the spiritual

evangelism work to be done among our

well-being of the growing elderly congregation.

fellow Singaporeans.

"Studies have shown that the Christian

"But for us to do that, we need to bear in

traditional liturgical worship services, with

mind some sensitivities especially from

their rich history and deep-rooted rituals,

those who come from faith backgrounds

can provide a sense of familiarity and

that place a strong emphasis on ancient

continuity that can be comforting to the

rituals, Scriptures and practices," said Rev

elderly," he said.

Chua. For such persons, "they may be averse to the Christian contemporary worship

"As individuals age, their cognitive abilities

service as they perceive it to be too casual

may decline, making it challenging to retain

or lacking in reverence." Thus, a more formal

new information or adapt to unfamiliar

and traditional service has its purpose.

practices. The Christian traditional liturgical worship services, with their repeated prayers,

As a second proposal to address the first

familiar hymns and Scripture readings,

area of concern, Rev Chua suggested

offer a format that provides regularity and

sending a TRAC pastor to be trained

familiarity that engages the mind and

in liturgical worship. The presence of a

memory of the elderly."

trained pastor in worship liturgy is essential for a vibrant and meaningful worship

The second reason was the high prevalence

experience, he said.

of dementia among the elderly. According to the World Alzheimer Report 2019,

"Importantly, their expertise in preserving

Singapore has one of the highest rates of

tradition, crafting engaging worship

dementia in the world.

services, fostering congregational participation, ensuring liturgical integrity

"One of the strengths of the traditional

and nurturing spiritual growth contributes

liturgical worship services is the repetition

to the overall spiritual health and vitality of

of familiar prayers, hymns, songs and rituals

our church community."

in the order of worship which contemporary worship services are weak in," said Rev

Rev Chua clarified that he was not

Chua. "Often, the songs that we sing in

suggesting that churches do away with

our contemporary worship services today

contemporary worship services. Instead,

will no longer be sung in a few years' time.

he encouraged churches to "continue to

Modern contemporary worship songs tend

excel" in contemporary worship services so

to come and go but the traditional hymn or

that they could "cater and reach out to the

song remains evergreen."

younger members in our congregation".

January 2024 Methodist Message 5

Ideas to help an ageing congregation while not forgetting the young

Pastoral supply woes

a servant-leader with qualities like being

As of 2023, TRAC has a total of 74 active

teachable, able to work under authority,

pastors, including seven re-engaged pastors.

self-motivated and highly responsible."

By the end of the next quadrennium (2028), these seven re-engaged pastors would be 70

Like unpaid Lay Ministry Staff, the role of

years old or older and unlikely to seek re-

Executive Director would be by invitation

engagement, leaving TRAC with 67 pastors.

only and would have the same requirements.

16 of these 67 pastors will reach or pass the

However, their primary responsibility is

age of 65 by 2028, leaving the Conference

to support the PIC's Office in terms of

with 51 pastors. Assuming only 10 of these

administration and the execution of strategic

16 pastors decide to seek re-engagement,

events of the church.

there would only be 61 pastors left.

"The truth is, we are not replacing enough of our pastors that are retiring from ministry," said Rev Chua, elaborating on the need to produce three Members-on-Trial (MOTs) each year to replace retired pastors. However, in 2021, there were no MOTs; in 2022, there was one; and in 2023, there were two.

At TRAC 2022, Rev Chua had proposed the appointment of lay pastors to ease the shortage of pastors. The Board of Ministry (BOM) has set up a taskforce to look into this initiative and is targeting to present concrete proposals before the end of 2024.

Going forward, Rev Chua said more needs to be done to address this area of concern and proposed three plans: •

Have able Lay Ministry Staff head and

Standardising TRAC's Local Conference reports For this third area of concern, Rev Chua proposed streamlining and standardising Local Conference reports across all TRAC churches using a template to make it less onerous and facilitate the smooth administration by the District Superintendents.

manage staff teams and ministries in our

•

local churches in order to free up pastors

"With a standardised template or format, the

to focus on pastoral duties

process also becomes clearer and consistent so

Have unpaid lay people be part of Lay Ministry Staff teams to support church pastors better

•

Have unpaid Executive Directors in Pastoral Team leadership to support the PIC's Office, to address the overwhelming administrative duties that pastors face

that we don't miss out on important standard agenda items. It also makes it easier for our administrators, secretaries, and Chairs of Committees to manage," said Rev Chua.

On personal holiness "As uncomfortable as it is, I wish to underscore the critical need for our pastors and leaders to uphold personal holiness, so that we may

"My idea of these unpaid lay ministry staff

not bring shame to the name of our Lord and

is that they have a covenant with the local

our Methodist Church and importantly, we

church for two years and thereafter have

do not become stumbling blocks to those we

their covenant renewed on a bi-annual basis,"

shepherd and lead," said Rev Chua. "Holiness

said Rev Chua. "They must be persons who

is not a luxury of the few, but a necessity for

are spiritually mature and have a heart of

all," he said, reminding the delegates that

6 Methodist Message January 2024

From left to right: Rev Malcolm Tan, Rev Jonathan Seet, Rev Lilian Ang and Rev See Swee Fang, who retired at the 48th Session of TRAC

John Wesley, Methodism's founder, placed a strong emphasis on personal holiness in his teachings.

Importantly, the Bible says in no uncertain terms in Hebrews 12:14 (NIV), "Make every effort to live in peace with everyone and to be holy; without holiness no one will see the Lord."

Rev Chua reminded delegates that as pastors and leaders who had been entrusted with a sacred responsibility, their lives were "meant to reflect God's character and godliness, shining as a beacon of hope and inspiration to those who look to us for guidance".

"However, when we fall into immorality, it not only damages our own souls, but it also undermines the credibility of the [g]ospel message that we proclaim. The consequences of our actions as leaders are also far-reaching. They can impact the faith Newly ordained elders (from left to right) Rev Jeremy Yap, Rev Tay Li Ping, Rev Emanuel Goh and Rev Chan Mei Ming with newly ordained deacon Rev Isaac Tan (first from right)

of those who follow us, causing confusion, disillusionment and even leading them astray," Rev Chua said.

Rev Chua proposed that the Local Conference Executive Committee work with pastors to develop a plan of accountability on how they can watch over each other within the key leadership of the local church, with "pastors watching over leaders and leaders watching over pastors".

YOUNG METHODIST CHANGEMAKERS A Wesley Sandbox project "Young Methodist Changemakers" is a Wesley Sandbox project that seeks to encourage Methodists aged 15 to 35 to spearhead the development of our worship services and outreach efforts with creative ideas designed specifically for young minds and hearts.

Proposed by Rev Stanley Chua, if approved, it will be an invitation to our young Methodists from TRAC churches to step forward to make their voices heard.

"We want to hear their ideas, their dreams and their aspirations," said Rev Chua. "We want to see them take the lead in designing worship experiences and youthled ministry programmes that are authentic, relevant and inspiring for young people."

Interested young Methodists can submit their plans and ideas to a panel of assessors, comprising pastors and lay leaders from our 21 churches, said Rev Chua.

Rev Chua proposed that successful applicants be funded up to 50 per cent by TRAC and the other 50 per cent by their local churches to encourage ownership.

Aside from funding, Rev Chua also suggested that successful applicants be supported with mentorship provided by the local church and Conference to assist them in conceptualising and implementing their ideas in their local churches or at Conference level.

January 2024 Methodist Message 7

Trinity Annual Conference 48th Session

PASTORAL APPOINTMENTS FOR THE YEAR 2024 Trinity Annual Conference President: Rev Stanley Chua

District 1

District 2

District 3

District Superintendent:

District Superintendent:

District Superintendent:

Rev Alvin Chan

Rev Kenneth Huang

Rev Reuben Ng

Barker Road MC

Ang Mo Kio MC

Agape MC

Pastor-in-Charge

Pastor-in-Charge

Pastor-in-Charge

Rev Wendy Watson

Rev Chan Siew Chye

Rev Jason Phua

Pastors

Pastor

Pastor

Rev Dr Daniel Koh

Rev Emanuel Goh

Rev Dr Chiu Ming Li

Rev Lai Kai Ming Rev Benjamin Fong Assistant Pastors

Rev Gilbert Lok Ps Joshua Kwok

Living Hope MC Pastor-in-Charge

Rev Joel Yang Pastors

Rev Gabriel Liew

Cairnhill MC Pastor-in-Charge

Rev Dr William Sam Pastor

Rev Ling Kin Yew

Bedok MC

Rev Joshua Loo

Pastor-in-Charge

Methodist Church of the Incarnation

Fairfield MC

Pastor-in-Charge

Rev Wendy Tay

Rev Dr Aaron Tay Pastor

Rev Timothy Yong

Christ MC Pastor-in-Charge

Rev Dr Edwin Wong Pastor

Rev Barnabas Chong

Christalite M Chapel Pastor-in-Charge

Rev Edmund Koh Pastor

Rev Allan Lee

Paya Lebar MC Pastor-in-Charge

Rev Dr Kow Shih Ming Pastors

Rev Vincent Goh Rev Jacob Lim

Pastor-in-Charge

Pastor

Rev Ivan Tan

Toa Payoh MC Pastor-in-Charge

Rev Benjamin Lee Pastors

Rev Ming Feong Ching Rev Poh Zhi-Hui

Rev Shaun Chong

Rev Joey Chen

Wesley MC

Pastor

Pentecost MC

Pastor-in-Charge

Rev Tay Li Ping

Kampong Kapor MC Pastor-in-Charge

Rev Tay Kay Leong Pastor

Rev Anthony Phua

Pastor-in-Charge

Rev Anthony Lee Pastor

Rev Collin See

Pastors

Rev Lim Jen Huat Rev Lilian Ang (re-engaged) Rev Chia Chin Nam

Assistant Pastor

Rev Gladwin Lee

Rev Isaac Tan

Rev Ian Lee

Trinity MC

Rev Adrian Ng

Pastor-in-Charge

Rev Alvin Chan Pastors

Rev Sng Chong Hui Rev Byron Teo

8 Methodist Message January 2024

Rev Raymond Fong

Rev Benjamin Lau Assistant Pastor

Rev Clement Ong

SPECIAL APPOINTMENTS FOR THE YEAR 2024 Director, Truthmin

Rev Byron Teo Assistant Directors, Youth Ministry

Rev Benjamin Fong

District 4 District Superintendent:

Rev Dr Edwin Wong

Rev Timothy Yong (Schools) Rev Allan Lee (Trackers) Director of Young Adults Ministry

Rev Adrian Ng Director, Lay Equipping and Development Institute (LEAD)

Rev Ming Feong Ching

Aldersgate MC Pastor-in-Charge

Rev Dr Lynette Sathiasingam Pastor

Rev Jeremy Yap

Assistant Director, Lay Equipping and Development Institute (LEAD)

Rev Ling Kin Yew Director, Seniors' Ministry

Rev Joshua Loo TRAC Crisis Relief Coordinator

Covenant Community MC

Rev Jason Phua

Pastor-in-Charge

TRAC Chaplains to TRAC TTC Students

Rev David Gwee

Rev Dr Chiang Ming Shun

Pastor

Rev Daniel Terence Yeo Assistant Pastor

Ps Rufus Chan

Rev Dr Bernard Chao Rev Wendy Tay Lecturers, Trinity Theological College

Rev Dr Chiang Ming Shun Rev Dr Bernard Chao

Faith MC

On Sabbatical Leave

Pastor-in-Charge

Rev Daniel C Tan

Rev Reuben Ng Pastors

Rev Kenneth Huang Rev John Benedict Foo Rev Peter Koh Rev Eddie Ho

On Study Leave

Rev David Ho Seng Hian Coordinator Peranakan/Indonesian Ministry

Rev Christopher Chin

Holland Village MC

APPOINTMENTS MADE THROUGH THE BISHOP'S OFFICE

Pastor-in-Charge

Director, Ministry in Schools

Rev Jeremy Ong

Rev Dr Aaron Tay

Pastor

Associate Directors, Ministry in Schools

Rev Loretta Lim

Rev Dr William Sam

Rev Chan Mei Ming

Living Waters MC Pastor-in-Charge

Rev Poh Zhi-Hui

Pastor

METHODIST MISSIONS SOCIETY 2024

Rev Alex Chew

Executive Director Rev Derrick Lau

Rev Khoo Kay Huat

Missionary Pastor (Thailand) Rev Clarence Lee Missionary Diaconal Minister (Thailand) Rev Vincent Lim Missionary Pastor (Vietnam) Rev Leslie Lim Missionary Diaconal Minister (Timor-Leste) Rev Teresa Wilborn Information is correct at time of printing.

January January2024 2024 Methodist Message 9

News

Article by CAC Comms Team. / Photos courtesy by Ray Chang and Joshua Khoo

Serving seniors, rethinking ministry models and prioritising the Great Commission 48th Session of the Chinese Annual Conference

(top left) CAC pastors and leadership (top right) Rev Dr Gregory Goh delivering the sermon at the Closing Service (bottom left) Closing Service recessional

C

(bottom right) Presentation of Long Service Awards at the Opening Service

hurch delegates gathered for the 48th Session of the Chinese Annual Conference

(CAC) at the newly renovated Paya Lebar

15-29 years (1,242)

8%

Chinese Methodist Church (PLCMC) from 13 to 16 November 2023.

30-44 years (2,873)

20%

Rev Dr Gregory Goh, President of CAC, shared his reflections on the Conference's ministries.

Re-examining age-group ministries

45-59 years (3,458)

24%

CAC's membership is approximately 14,600, and almost half (48%) of the members are aged 60 and above.

Given that the Conference membership reflected national population trends, Rev

60-74 years (4,051)

75+ years (3,051)

27% 21%

Dr Goh said it was "equally important" to invest in ministries for seniors as well as

10 Methodist Message January 2024

CAC Church Members Age Profile 2023

youth and young adult ministries. "This

Rev Dr Goh, reminding all that the Great

faithful segment of members has seen

Commission was non-negotiable.

their church through its ups and downs; in the marketplace. We ought to care for

Updates on CAC initiatives and ministries

them pastorally as we equip them with the

Several CAC initiatives have gained

understanding of today's church ministry

momentum.

they also carry with them vast experience

and encourage them to serve alongside the younger generations," he said.

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Loving Families Sunday and Carnival

With the success of the Loving Families

Re-thinking ministry models

Sunday and Carnival that took place

During the pandemic when places of

in 2023, many members expressed a

worship had to close, the importance of

desire to see more events like this in the

at-home cell groups and ministry within

future. While decisions on future runs

the family took precedence. However,

of the Carnival will be left to the next

after the restrictions were lifted, ministries

quadrennium's Executive Board to make,

quickly reverted to pre-Covid ways, using

the present Executive Board has approved

the physical church building as the main

and designated the last Sunday of every

location for ministry and church activities.

April to be Loving Families Sunday.

"We limit ourselves to the space constraints Illumine – Christian Worldview Curriculum

of the church premise and subsequently



deem it a necessity to rebuild or extend the

The project, which began in August 2022,

church building when membership grows,"

is progressing well with the roll-out of

Rev Dr Goh said.

Module 1 (Introduction to Worldviews). Two rounds of the Module 1 Leaders' Training

Instead, he challenged ministries to look

have been held and were attended by

beyond the church building. "Can we instead

participants coming from various churches.

see homes, offices, cafés and parks as

To date, 23 curriculum leaders have been

'extensions', embrace ministry outside the

trained and the curriculum has been

walls of the church and extend God's grace

launched in three churches. The Illumine

to more corners of society? … As a people

website was launched during the CAC

called to be the salt and light of the world,

Special Session on 23 July 2023.

we need to be out there in the world!" 

Christian Counselling Ministry

Prioritising the Great Commission

A Basic Counselling Skills training held earlier

The Church exists today solely to fulfil the

this year saw the attendance of 48 CAC

Great Commission given by Jesus, which

church members. Six individuals have been

involves evangelism and discipleship. Given

selected to serve as lay counsellors for two

that, Rev Dr Goh said the health of these

years (2024-2025). These individuals have each

ministries should be the main indicators of

completed their 10-session Lay Counsellor

churches' "performance" and faithfulness

course and are due to attend two group

to God.

supervision sessions every month beginning January 2024. The counselling team currently

"[John Wesley's] zeal for lost souls to hear

consists of two trained counsellors and 13

the Good News led him to allow for lay

counselling interns. Altogether, the team

preachers and to start ministries such as

has received 30 counselling cases thus far.

education, medicine and publication. His

A working committee was also formed to

zeal for evangelism and discipleship sits at

determine the structure and scope of this

the heart of Methodism and is exactly what

ministry, and look into establishing the

I believe CAC should be marked by," said

ministry under the President's Office.

January 2024 Methodist Message 11

ACS (International)

ACS (International) Singapore is a distinctive international secondary school open to all Singaporeans & other nationalities, offering an all-round English-based education for students aged 12 to 18 years leading to the International General Certificate of Secondary Education (IGCSE) and the International Baccalaureate Diploma Programme (IBDP).

Senior Leadership Team

Building Through Belief, this school of choice provides • Exceptional examination results, strong value-added achievement and an all-round holistic education • 50:50 mix of local and international teachers who uphold the dual Methodist ethos and ACS heritage • Small class sizes with overall student-teacher ratio of 8.7 : 1 • 40 different CCAs – 16 Sporting, 12 Visual and Performing Arts, 12 Special Interest Groups • Over 200 formal student leadership positions • Scholarships for four Singaporeans to undertake the IBDP

Mr Gavin Kinch Principal

Mrs Tan Siew Hoon Vice-Principal

Achievements include • Students with perfect score of 45 points in IBDP • 23 “Top in the World” awards in IGCSE examinations over each of the past twelve years • Students accepted to Oxford and Cambridge universities for the past eight years

Mr Christopher Hayward Vice-Principal

Dr Kristopher Achter Vice-Principal

For more information, please contact Joseph Ng or Serene Lim at +65 6472 1477 or admissions@acsinternational.edu.sg

• Admissions to top universities in the UK, the US, Australia and Singapore • PSLE and GCE ‘O’ Level students obtaining outstanding value-added examination results for the IBDP and improved pathways to good universities • Successes at national level in Athletics, Touch Rugby, Debating, Orchestra, Volleyball, Taekwondo, Ice Hockey, Fencing, Swimming, Artistic Swimming, Rhythmic Gymnastics and Wushu.

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Schools Outreach Ministry Task Force (SOM_TF)

To encourage the deployment of more Christian Ministry Staff (CMS) into the Methodist Schools, a CMS Salary Support Fund was set up to

REFLECTIONS OF NEWLY ORDAINED AND RETIRED PASTORS Translation by Charis So

partially fund the salary of the CMSes employed by the churches. 

North-East Outreach Strategic Planning Task

Force (NEO_TF) Key church leaders plan to form an Operations Committee to devise a strategy and budget to establish a new school/student outreach

"Putting on my clergy shirt for the very first time, I am struck with a sense that my role has shifted in profound ways that are hard to articulate.

To be high is to be low; to lead is to serve."

Rev Gareth Yeo Assistant Pastor at Grace Methodist Church

ministry in the area.

Ordination and retirement ceremony The congregation joined in witnessing and celebrating the ordination of four new deacons: Rev Sharon Lee, Rev Teh You Siong, Rev Joseph Chen and Rev Gareth Yeo; as well as three new elders: Rev Joshua Ong, Rev Ong Bee Keow and Rev Timothy Ang. The dedicated service of Rev Paul Thian and Rev Chua Ooi Suah was recognised, both of whom retired at the Closing Service.

"在一次的训练中被告知原来按牧后带上的“牧师领”代表的是仆人 的轭，用意在提醒每个带上的人不要错以为按牧是一种身份的

提升，而是要每时每刻意识到自己是上帝的仆人，众人的仆人。 我想这样的一个提醒是重要的，让受按牧的我能够时时被提醒， 调整自己的心态，在服事中忠心地摆上，清楚知道自己是服事 上帝，服事教会，而不被自己的某些思想所挟制。"

"In one of the training sessions, we were taught not to mistake the stole worn during ordination as a symbol of upgrade in status, but that it serves

"Ordained ministers are representatives of Christ,

to remind everyone who wears it that they are

called to self-emptying lives of obedience and

a servant of God and his Church. I think this is

servanthood," Rev Dr Goh said. Working within

an important reminder so that I may realign my

an itinerant system, the President exhorted that

attitudes during my ordination, to wholly offer

both pastors and churches put their obedience

myself in ministry, knowing that I am serving

into practice and, in turn, see God's glory displayed in our midst.

A total of 59 pastors were appointed to our 17

God and his Church, and avoid being held hostage by other thoughts."

Rev Teh You Siong Assistant Pastor at Bukit Panjang Methodist Church

churches this year. Rev Christopher Kong has also been appointed to take over Rev Chua Ooi Suah as the District Superintendent for District 4. "上帝是很幽默的。我胆小，不爱改变，但却经历了9次的委派， 共到过8所教会。我的服事旅程很精彩，上帝与我同在，

MEMORIAL SERVICE

并差派许多同工与我同行。经过整理，我发现共有38人。

A Memorial Service was held on 15 November

陪伴我最久的是刚才站在我后面的那位姊妹（蔡师母）。"

to remember CAC pastors and spouses of pastors who passed away in 2023. They were the late Rev Goh Aik Hiang, the late Rev Seet Keng Tat, the late Rev Fong Mow Hee, and the late Mrs Lee Chin Ming (née Seet Siok Hing).

In addition to the eulogies delivered in honour of them, the pastors of CAC also rendered the hymn, "Blessed Assurance". Before the service concluded, service leader Rev Paul Thian invited Bishop Emeritus Dr Chong Chin Chung to lead in praying for the bereaved families before giving the benediction.

其中有老师、长辈、年轻的战友和多位信徒。当然，

"God has a great sense of humour. I am naturally timid and dislike changes, yet I was sent out nine times to eight different churches. My journey in ministry is thoroughly an adventure.

God was with me, and he sent many co-workers.

I did some counting and there were altogether 38 of them. Among them were teachers, elders, younger comrades and fellow believers.

And of course, the one who journeyed with me for the longest time is my wife."

Rev Chua Ooi Suah who retired at the 48th CAC Session January 2024 Methodist Message 13

Chinese Annual Conference 48th Session 卫 理 公 会 华 人 年 议 会 2 0 2 4 委 任

PASTORAL APPOINTMENTS FOR THE YEAR 2024 Chinese Annual Conference President 华人年议会会长:

Rev Dr Gregory Goh Nai Lat 吴乃力牧师（博士） District 1 第一教区

District 2 第二教区

District 3 第三教区

District Superintendent 教区长

District Superintendent 教区长

Rev Andy Goh Yik Wah

District Superintendent 教区长

陸永德牧师

吴毅华牧师

何秋吟牧师

Geylang Chinese MC 芽笼堂

Telok Ayer Chinese MC / TA2

Foochow MC

Pastor-in-Charge 主理

Rev Simon Cheo Hsun Shen 石训深牧师

直落亚逸堂／直落亚逸第二礼拜堂

福灵堂

Associate Pastor 协理

Pastor-in-Charge 主理

Rev Edmund Koh Lik Hng 许立欣牧师

Rev Lek Yong Teck

Rev Chin Yan Chong 陈元昌牧师

Paya Lebar Chinese MC / Paya Lebar Methodist Mission

巴耶黎峇堂／巴耶礼峇美以美宣教站 Pastor-in-Charge 主理 Rev Dr David Koh Ah Chye 许亚才牧师（博士）

Associate Pastors 协理

Rev Irman Halim 林恩信牧师

Rev Glenn Tan Tze Meng 陈书铭牧师

Rev Patrick Lim Kok Chu 林国柱牧师 Rev Lin Ming Zhong 林明忠牧师 Assistant Pastor 助理

Rev Sharon Lee Li Ping 李丽萍牧师

Associate Pastors 协理

Bukit Panjang MC

Rev Wilfred Leow Hui Ann 廖惠安牧师

Pastor-in-Charge 主理

Rev Helen Hoe Chiew Ngin

Pastor-in-Charge 主理

Rev Lau Chong Yaw 刘昌耀牧师 Associate Pastors 协理

Rev Patrick Chen Guek Fah 曾国华牧师

Rev Peace Choi Pyong Hwa 崔平和牧师

Hinghwa MC

天道堂

Pastor-in-Charge 主理

Rev Chu Vee Ping 周伟平牧师 Associate Pastor 协理

Rev Ng Beng Keow 黄明娇牧师

武吉班让堂

Rev Boey Kok Yeow 梅国耀牧师

Rev Lek Yong Teck 陸永德牧师

Kum Yan MC

Associate Pastors 协理

感恩堂

Rev Peter Pan Seng Tai 宾昇泰牧师

Changi MC 樟宜堂

Rev Paul Thian Moon Hee 程文喜牧师 Rev Christopher Louis Kong Chung Dai

Rev Ong Bee Keow 王美娇牧师

Assistant Pastor 助理

Pastor-in-Charge 主理

Charis MC 颂恩堂

Pastor-in-Charge 主理

Rev Lui Yuan Tze 雷远智牧师 Associate Pastor 协理 Rev Dr Alex Chng Peng Lian

江宗大牧师 Rev Teh You Siong 郑有祥牧师 Preacher 传道

Pr Jason Lee Le’En 李乐恩传道 Attachment 隶属

Rev Erick Tan Eng Ghee 陈英意牧师 Rev Dr Andrew Peh Swee Kian

庄炳亮牧师（博士）

白瑞健牧师（博士）

Rev Poh Heow Lee (PT) 傅後利牧师 (部分)

Grace MC 恩典堂

Rev Jasper Ngoh Jun Jie 吴钧杰牧师

Sengkang MC 盛港堂 Pastor-in-Charge 主理

Rev Dr Niam Kai Huey 严家慧牧师（博士） Associate Pastors 协理

Rev Tan-Yeo Lay Suan 陈杨丽旋牧师 Rev Andy Goh Yik Wah 吴毅华牧师 Rev Ong Bee Keow (dual appt) 王美娇牧师 (兼) Assistant Pastor 助理

Rev Shawn Koh Shin Jan 许巽然牧师 Attachment 隶属

Rev Lisa Yu Li Hsin 俞丽鑫牧师 Rev Dr Nathanael Goh Jun Chuen 吴俊强牧师（博士）

Pastor-in-Charge 主理 Rev Dr Ian Jew Yun Shern 尤永深牧师（博士） Associate Pastor 协理 Rev Eric Soh Wai Foon (Jan to Mar) 苏伟峰牧师 Assistant Pastor 助理

Rev Gareth Yeo Yong Tai 杨泳泰牧师 Preacher 传道

Pr Michael Lee Swee Yen 李瑞缘传道

Holy Covenant MC 恩约堂 Pastor-in-Charge 主理

Rev Florence Ngu Siew Ning 吴晓宁牧师 Associate Pastor 协理

Rev Timothy Ang Pei-Zheng 洪培正牧师

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Rev Peter Soh Kee Lie 苏圻利牧师

Pastor-in-Charge 主理

Rev Philip Lim Kian Leong 林建隆牧师 Associate Pastor 协理

Rev Stefanie Oh Wen-Ying 胡文莹牧师 Assistant Pastor 助理

Rev Joseph Chen Yongchang 陈勇畅牧师 Attachment 隶属 Rev Dr Wilfred Ho Wai Tat 何威达牧师（博士）

Hakka MC

天恩堂

Pastor-in-Charge 主理

Rev Jasper Sim Shenq Chyi 沈圣奇牧师 Associate Pastor 协理

Rev Nathanael Chew Eng Pin 周永斌牧师

Yishun Methodist Mission

义顺北宣堂

Pastor-in-Charge 主理

Rev Bernard Chng Chun Yong 庄俊勇牧师 Associate Pastor 协理

Rev Chua Ooi Suah (PT) 蔡伟山牧师 (部分)

2024 CAC PASTORS' SPECIAL APPOINTMENTS BY BISHOP

2024年会督特别委任本年议会教牧

Associate Director of Christian Ministry in Schools 学校圣工副主任

District 4 第四教区 District Superintendent 教区长

Rev Christopher Louis Kong

江宗大牧师 Queenstown Chinese MC

女皇镇堂

Pastor-in-Charge 主理

Rev Ling Tieng Ngung 林天源牧师

Rev Edmund Koh Lik Hng 许立欣牧师 Rev Jasper Ngoh Jun Jie 吴钧杰牧师

Methodist School Chaplains 卫理学校校牧 Rev Bernard Chng 庄俊勇牧师

Rev Ong Bee Keow 王美娇牧师

Rev Christopher Kong 江宗大牧师

Rev Paul Thian 程文喜牧师

Rev Boey Kok Yeow 梅国耀牧师

Rev Dr David Koh 许亚才牧师（博士） Rev Edmund Koh 许立欣牧师 Rev Gareth Yeo 杨泳泰牧师 Rev Glenn Tan 陈书铭牧师

Rev Irman Halim 林恩信牧师

Rev Jasper Ngoh 吴钧杰牧师 Rev Jasper Sim 沈圣奇牧师

Associate Pastors 协理

Rev Joseph Chen 陈勇畅牧师

Rev Eric Soh Wai Foon (Apr to Dec) 苏伟峰牧师

Rev Lek Yong Teck 陆永德牧师

Rev Anne Lim Ai Lei 林爱莉牧师

Rev Joshua Ong 王志翔牧师

Rev Jacqueline Ho Sow Fong 何秀芳牧师

Rev Lui Yuan Tze 雷远智牧师

Rev Wang Hai Bin 王海斌牧师

Ang Mo Kio Chinese MC

宏茂桥堂

Pastor-in-Charge 主理

Rev Tack Ng Lai Chun 吴丽真牧师 Associate Pastor 协理

Rev Koh Chew Hai 许就凯牧师 Preacher 传道

Rev Patrick Chen 曾国华牧师 Rev Peace Choi 崔平和牧师 Rev Peter Pan 宾升泰牧师

Rev Simon Cheo 石训深牧师

Rev Tan-Yeo Lay Suan 陈杨丽旋牧师 Rev Teh You Siong 郑有祥牧师 Rev Timothy Ang 洪培正牧师

Rev Wilfred Leow 廖惠安牧师 Pr Jason Lee 李乐恩传道

Pr Jonathan Huang 黄敬权传道 Pr Michael Lee 李瑞缘传道

Missionaries with MMS 卫理宣教会宣教士 Rev Cassandra Lee Boon Eng 李文英牧师

Director, Centre for Missions Analysis, Reconstruction and D e v e l o p m e n t ( M M S ) 卫理宣教会宣教分析、重组和发展中心主任 Rev Erick Tan Eng Ghee 陈英意牧师

D i r e c t o r , D i s c i p l e A g e n c y ‘门徒机构’主任 Rev Lisa Yu Li Hsin 俞丽鑫牧师

Pr Jonathan Huang Jingquan 黄敬权传道

Toa Payoh Chinese MC

大巴窑堂

Pastor-in-Charge 主理

Rev Helen Hoe Chiew Ngin 何秋吟牧师 Associate Pastor 协理

Rev Joshua Ong Chee Xiang 王志翔牧师

2024 SPECIAL APPOINTMENTS

BY PRESIDENT 2 0 2 4 年 会 长 特 别 委 任 Trinity Theological College Principal & Lecturer

Lady Chaplains to CAC Students at Trinity Theological College

三一神学院院长及讲师

华人年议会三一神学生女院牧

Rev Dr Edwin Tay Ed Min 郑益民牧师（博士）

Lecturers at Trinity Theological College & Chaplains to CAC Students at Trinity Theological College

三一神学院讲师及华人年议会 三一神学生院牧 Rev Dr Wilfred Ho Wai Tat 何威达牧师（博士）

Local Church Attachment 隶属: Kum Yan MC 感恩堂

Rev Dr Andrew Peh Swee Kian 白瑞健牧师（博士）

Faculty in Development 储备讲师 Rev Timothy Ang Pei-Zheng 洪培正牧师

Re-engagement of Retired Pastors 重聘退休教牧 Rev Poh Heow Lee (Part-Time) 傅后利牧师 (部分）

Rev Chua Ooi Suah (Part-Time) 蔡伟山牧师 (部分） Rev Paul Thian 程文喜牧师

Principal, Four Denominations Institute of Elderly

Local Church Attachment 隶属:

四宗乐龄学院院长

Rev Dr Nathanael Goh Jun Chuen

邱仁发牧师（义务）

Bukit Panjang MC 武吉班让堂 吴俊强牧师（博士）

Local Church Attachment 隶属: Sengkang MC 盛港堂 Information is correct at time of printing.

Rev Helen Hoe Chiew Ngin 何秋吟牧师

Rev Khoo Cheng Hoot (Honorary)

Supernumerary 额外传道

Rev Cynthia Choo Bee Lay 周美丽牧师

January 2024 Methodist Message 15

Soundings News

Lianne Ong is the Editor of Methodist Message. / Photos courtesy of Daniel Lie

A modest growth in membership and pastoral supply 48th Session of the Emmanuel Tamil Annual Conference

T

he 48th Session of the Emmanuel Tamil

be required for reaping. In January, ETAC

Annual Conference (ETAC) was held

will hold a dialogue session where pastors,

at Sembawang Tamil Methodist Church

church leaders and witness and evangelism

from 10 to 11 November 2023. The year 2023

chairpersons will congregate to discuss

marked Rev Philip Abraham's third year as

further growth strategies.

President of ETAC.

Other highlights Progress on Vision 2024—Towards Harvest

Pasir Panjang Tamil Methodist Church

In his President's Address, Rev Philip

organised a Thursday Night Connection (TNC)

Abraham gave an update on the progress

initiative for young adults, which began in

of ETAC's Vision 2024—Towards Harvest.

2022. The meeting, which happens on the

Churches continued with an initiative

first Thursday of each month, sees 10-15 young

that had begun in 2021, committing to a

adults attending. The first study series was

synchronised prayer at 1 p.m., to pray for

on the Seven Deadly Sins, where pastors and

one soul for a minute (termed "1.1.1. Prayer

leaders from the Methodist community, such as

Waves"). Every member was encouraged

Rev Derrick Lau, Rev Shawn Koh, Rev Anthony

to identify 10 pre-believers and pray for

Lee and Mrs Gnanamany Philip shared.

and Jurong Tamil Methodist Church jointly

them. Significantly, ETAC's membership has continued to grow with membership

The Board of Outreach & Social Concerns

now at 914 members across the eight Tamil

continued its outreach activities, most

Methodist churches, up from 869 in 2020.

significantly to migrant workers. An ETACwide breakfast distribution to 1,000 migrant

From 2021 to 2023, the annual themes were

workers at S11 dormitory was conducted on 9

"PRAY", "SEEK" and "SOW". The theme for

August 2023 (National Day).

2024 is "REAP". Rev Philip shared that the step of reaping or gathering typically came

ETAC Board of Archives & Communications

after hard work and was often marked with

launched an annual newsletter. The

painful situations. But it was also often a

inaugural issue is available online at

time of rejoicing and special skills would

http: //tiny.cc/etacnewsletter.

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(left) Rev Philip Abraham addressing delegates (right) All delegates, ETAC leadership, worship team and guests

Emmanuel Tamil Annual Conference 48th Session Pastoral supply Two new Members-on-Trial were admitted. They are Pastor Joseph Vasanth and Pastor Jesudoss Charles. Mr Elisha Phililp, son of Rev Philip Abraham, has enrolled in Trinity Theological College and is currently in his first year of study towards a Master of Divinity. Rev C Jebakumar, an ordained minister from the Church of North India, will serve in ETAC for two years as an Elder.

(See sidebar for other Pastoral Appointments).

Christian perfection At the Closing Service, Bishop Dr Gordon Wong preached from Matthew 5:43-48 on the topic of Perfect Love. In a humorous conversation between a Lion and an Owl, he acknowledged that while not all Methodist pastors were the same, they were all asked the same questions before getting ordained. These questions—19 in total (listed in The Methodist Church in Singapore Book of Discipline, para 548.2)—were written by the founder of Methodism, John Wesley, and were asked of would-be Methodist pastors to this day.

Highlighting just the first four questions, Bishop Dr Wong talked about how Wesley believed that every Christian should strive for Christian perfection.

Have you faith in Christ?

Are you going on to perfection?

Do you expect to be made perfect in love in this life?

PASTORAL APPOINTMENTS FOR THE YEAR 2024 Emmanuel Tamil Annual Conference President: Rev Philip Abraham Ang Mo Kio Tamil MC Pastor-in-Charge Rev Albert Vijay Joseph Jurong Tamil MC Pastor-in-Charge Rev Philip S Abraham Pastoral Assistant Ps Jesudoss Charles Pasir Panjang Tamil MC Pastor-in-Charge Rev Philip S Abraham Pastoral Assistant Ps Jesudoss Charles Part-Time Approved Supply Pastor Ps Stephen Shadrak Seletar Tamil MC Pastor-in-Charge Rev James Nagulan Sembawang Tamil MC Pastor-in-Charge Rev Saravana Kumar Pastoral Assistant Ps Adlin Jacob

Are you earnestly striving for it?

Tamil MC, Short Street Pastor-in-Charge Rev James Nagulan

While Wesley scholars may not agree on the meaning

Associate Minister Rev R Prabhu

of perfection "in this life", Jesus did clearly command Christians to "[b]e perfect … as our heavenly Father is perfect."

By examining the character of the heavenly Father, who causes the sun to rise on the evil and the good, and send rain on the righteous and the unrighteous, Bishop Dr Wong reminded us that we were called to "love our enemies". And in doing so, we would be showing mercy to those who were ungrateful and wrong, showing perfection in love.

Perfection was at odds with the ways of the world, and indeed, "not normal". "But Jesus is not normal. Our heavenly Father is not normal," said Bishop Dr Wong.

To the pastors and leaders, the Lion and Owl concluded by asking if the Methodist pastors and leaders would be made perfect in love "in this life", or whether they would just remain normal.

Pastoral Assistant Ps Joseph Vasanth Singapore Telugu MC Interim Appointment: Associate Minister Rev C Jebakumar from 16 Nov 2023 Pastor-in-Charge Rev C Jebakumar from 1 Jan 2024 Toa Payoh Tamil MC Pastor-in-Charge Rev Saravana Kumar Pastoral Assistant Ps Adlin Jacob

SPECIAL APPOINTMENTS FOR THE YEAR 2024 District Superintendent Rev James Nagulan Methodist Welfare Homes Coordinator Ps Jesudoss Charles Chaplains to Methodist Schools Ps Adlin Jacob Ps Joseph Vasanth Information is correct at time of printing.

Feature

Called to serve Meet the Members-on-Trial who were admitted in November 2023 to their respective Annual Conferences.

"He is always with me" Ps Joshua Kwok Member-on-Trial, Barker Road Methodist Church

clarity, "The saying is trustworthy: If anyone aspires to the office of overseer, he desires a noble task." I felt that God was calling me through my desire to serve him in fulltime ministry as long as I was doing it with genuine intentions.

Over the next few years, I embarked on the discernment process and joined the marketplace upon graduation to gain some working experience. While I enjoyed the work at the marketplace, the desire to spend more time equipping people for the work of ministry in the church mounted.

Not long after, I joined my church as a Pastoral Team Member.

I

first sensed God's call to full-time vocational ministry while on a mission trip.

During this trip, one of the locals asked if I was considering to be a pastor. I was taken aback by that remark as I had not openly shared my desire for full-time ministry. I did not think much of that incident after that as I had the misconception that the call to fulltime ministry had to be via a supernatural revelation, perhaps an audible voice or a vision.

Rev Anthony Lee, who was my mentor, helped to clear my doubts. Discerning this call together with me, he affirmed my pastoral heart and the desire for fulltime ministry. Also, God's Word through 1 Timothy 3:1 helped me to gain greater

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The final confirmation to join as an MOT came through God's deliverance from my physical pain. Before entering TTC, I encountered a sharp hip pain without any known cause. As my daily functioning was affected, I pondered if this would hinder me from answering God's call. I cried to the Lord for healing and to show me a way forward to obey his calling.

In response to my prayer, God pointed me to the right tests and doctors which gave an accurate diagnosis of my pain. I was diagnosed with an autoimmune disease, ankylosing spondylitis (AS) and the longterm treatment was thankfully effective.

As a result of this, my disease is currently in remission.

While I have to live with this condition, I witnessed God's deliverance through the right diagnosis and effective treatment.

I saw this as a confirmation from God that he is indeed calling me to pastoral ministry. This has provided assurance that despite any challenges I may face, he is always with me.

Ps Joshua Kwok with his wife, Jayna / Photo courtesy of Joshua Kwok

"It's scarier not doing what God wants you to do" Ps Rufus Chan Member-on-Trial, Covenant Community Methodist Church

first-hand encounter with God's profound forgiveness. This was the turning point for my life. It was in that year that I genuinely and wholeheartedly dedicated my life to Jesus Christ, setting me on a path of active service within the church. From assuming various leadership roles in the youth ministry to eventually becoming the youth chairperson in 2006, I served passionately for six years as a lay person.

Prompted by a sense of "holy dissatisfaction" with my secular work, I heeded God's call in 2011 and transitioned from the marketplace. I joined Trackers in 2012 as a mentor. It was during a mission trip that I felt a distinct calling on my life. Following much contemplation and having sought confirmation, I took the leap into full-time ministry at AMC, with my wife's support.

When I shared with her my fears of being in full-time ministry, she said, "It is scarier not being in the place that God wants you to be, not doing what he wants you to do."

With that, I had the assurance that she would support my calling whatever the circumstances may be.

G Ps Rufus Chan with his wife, Gracia, and daughters, Inez Faith (left) and Zoey Grace (right) / Photo courtesy of Rufus Chan

rowing up as a third-generation believer in a Christian household, my spiritual journey began in Telok Ayer Methodist Church. However, it wasn't until 1995, when I started attending Aldersgate Methodist Church (AMC) with my Boys' Brigade officers, that my faith saw exponential growth.

In 1997, a significant crisis unfolded within my family, coinciding with a mistake I had made in school. Through it, I had a

Another confirmation came from my mother, who shared a diary entry from 30 years ago, recounting her act of surrendering me for the Lord's service.

While listening to a sermon based on 1 Samuel where Hannah offered Samuel to God for the work in the temple, my mother had a sudden stirring in her heart.

That day, she too, surrendered me as an offering for the Lord's service. It became clear that God had set me apart long before I fully understood.

The final affirmation came on 12 December 2020 during a run as I embraced my calling as a pastor and preacher of God's Word. The Greek word "Logos", symbolising the Word of God, emerged in my mind. Three years since that final affirmation, here I am now, ready to serve as the Lord has called.

January 2024 Methodist Message 19

Called to serve

From brokenness to service Pr Jonathan Huang Member-on-Trial, Ang Mo Kio Chinese Methodist Church

Shortly after I answered the call to serve as a youth worker, my dad was diagnosed with cancer. Nevertheless, I believe that God honoured my obedience by allowing my dad to hear the gospel in his heart language.

Eventually, by God's amazing grace, he

I

grew up in a broken family, but by the divine grace of God, I came to know

my mentor who not only brought me to church, but also engaged me with persistence and intention, journeying with me like an older brother. His patience, care and love reflected Christ, and he was instrumental in my decision to follow Christ when I was 18 years old.

Around that time, during a prayer meeting, I experienced an amazing sense of shalom, which I am convinced helped heal the brokenness I experienced as a child. That experience led me to become more interested in knowing God on a deeper level. In the years following my National Service, God opened the door for me to serve as a church worker, allowing me to have a flavour of what it is like to work in a church, moulding me in the process and helping me discern my call to become a pastor.

was baptised and even reconciled with my mother before he went home to be with the Lord. Looking back, I can see how God turned what the devil meant for evil into something good (Genesis 50:20).

In 2020, by God's grace, I enrolled at Trinity Theological College. I cannot emphasise enough the importance of having the support and affirmation of my wife, conference, church and pastors, as I pursue my calling as a pastor. Such Christian unity and fellowship with the community have encouraged and challenged me on my faith journey and have held me accountable in my pursuit of holiness.

On this note, I am inviting you to journey with me by being patient with me and praying for me and my family. I look forward to interacting with you, engaging with you, and learning along with you as we pursue holiness together. God bless!

Pr Jonathan Huang with his wife, Karen, and son, Josiah / Photo courtesy of Jonathan Huang

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"Let no one despise you for your youth"

I was hesitant to respond because of the doubts I had in my mind. I was worried that I would not be able to fulfil

Pr Jason Lee

this calling after responding. But in my

Member-on-Trial,

heart, I sensed strongly that this was

Bukit Panjang Methodist Church

God’s direction, and so I responded, trusting that God will continue to guide me.

Throughout the years, I would have doubts about becoming a missionary and what I had thought about in Myanmar. I wanted to serve God but questioned my suitability and adequacy.

However, at the Methodist Young Leaders Conference held in 2018, I responded again to the call to full-time ministry. I knew in my heart that this is what God wanted me to do. Since then, I’ve never looked back.

In 2020, I entered full-time theological studies at Trinity Theological College.

While I studied with the mission field in mind, I felt led to consider the possibility of ordination after learning more about pastoral ministry. This was surprising to me because I was preparing myself to be a missionary.

Nonetheless, I considered it seriously because I knew that God was speaking.

I

Pr Jason Lee with his wife, Shermaine, and son, Nathan / Photo courtesy of Jason Lee

first received the call to Christian ministry

After much prayer and speaking with

in February 2013 when I attended a three-

lecturers and pastors, in 2022 I applied

month discipleship programme organised

to be a Member-on-Trial in the Chinese

by the TRAC Board of Youth Ministries. On a

Annual Conference (CAC). Never in my life

mission trip to Yangon, I was reminded that

would I have thought that God would lead

the harvest is plentiful, but the labourers

me to pastoral ministry in the CAC, but I

are few (Matt 9:37). This prompted me to

hold 1 Timothy 4:12 close to my heart, "Let

discern whether God was leading me into

no one despise you for your youth, but set

full-time Christian ministry.

the believers an example in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith, in purity."

A few months later, I attended a worship night held at Paya Lebar Methodist

My heart is filled with gratitude for the

Church. At the end of the gathering,

privilege to serve God in this manner.

a pastor issued the call for people to

May my life be a living sacrifice, pleasing

respond to full-time Christian ministry.

to him. Amen.

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Called to serve

Dedicated to God before birth Ps Jesudoss Charles Member-on-Trial, Jurong Tamil Methodist Church

By God's grace, a small chapel was built in Sevalur village in South India in 2012 and I was appointed Evangelist to run it from Singapore. During that time, I developed a spiritual thirst to study theology and pursue full-time ministry, proceeding to complete my Bachelor's degree at Tamil Nadu Theological Seminary (TTS) via long-distance learning. In 2022, God opened the doors for me to pursue a Master of Ministry at Trinity Theological College (TTC) while serving as a part-time supply Pastor in ETAC. Starting from 2024, I will begin my full-time ministry as an MOT at ETAC. Looking back, all I can see is his love and amazing grace. I've also come to understand that while our amazing God

M

made a covenant with the Israelites, he y parents prayed to dedicate their

also makes one with each individual

first child to God before I was even

believer to fulfil our spiritual missions and

born. They never forced me to study

goals through his grace. I came to realise

theology, but always reminded me about

the significance of my parents' dedication

their dedication to God.

and see how God has been with me and guiding my path all my life.

As a young child, I was involved in local church ministries and grew closer to God.

I extend my heartfelt gratitude to my

However, in my youth, during the time

parents and my wife, Manimegalai,

that I was in Singapore for work and study,

for their unwavering dedication and

my spiritual life momentarily derailed in

support. I’m also grateful to all ETAC

the midst of worldly blessings and career

pastors, TTS and TTC Professors for their

growth. But God consistently spoke to

spiritual guidance, support and teaching.

me through the covenant words he made

In addition, I want to express my deep

with me. I was given Isaiah 41:8-10 on my

appreciation to my prayer warriors: my

confirmation day, and those words have

daughter, Angelina, and my nieces,

guided me in all aspects of my life since.

Thulya and Megha.

My life’s ups and downs, alongside my wife's, allowed me to experience his grace

I pray to hear "Well done, good and

and love, oftentimes through the wise

faithful servant!" from the Lord.

counsel of his ministers.

All glory to our God!

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Ps Jesudoss Charles with his wife, Manimegalai, and daughter, Angelina /Photo courtesy of Jesudoss Charles

Amazing grace, how sweet the sound Ps Joseph Vasanth Member-on-Trial, Tamil Methodist Church, Short Street

His unwavering love and presence also kept me during the time I strayed in my teenage years. Although there wasn't a single significant event that drew me back to God, I gradually grew in faith with the prayers of my family and church. In his time, I became actively involved in the youth fellowship at an independent church in Chennai.

At that point, I began to contemplate the direction of my ministry and God's specific calling in my life. God, in his grace, led me through this discernment process and helped me take one step at a time. In 2017, I decided to leave my secular work and a promising ministry in Chennai to pursue theological studies at Trinity Theological College (TTC) in Singapore.

A

mazing grace! how sweet the sound,

I started my journey in TTC with many

That saved a wretch; like me!

presumptions and ambitions, but God

I once was lost, but now am found,

humbled me and helped me unlearn

Was blind, but now I see.

many things. I surrendered myself to the potter's hand once again and

I used to wonder why my testimony

prayed for him to mould me, and make

leading to full-time ministry seemed

me a vessel useful for his kingdom.

uneventful compared to others. But then

Ps Joseph Vasanth with his wife, Priyadarshini, and son, Jonathan / Photo courtesy of Joseph Vasanth

I came to a deeper understanding of God

Covid-19 brought on trials and

and his ways—his thoughts are not our

unexpected challenges, including a

thoughts, and his ways are not our ways—

premature return to India, but God

and saw how he had my life in his hand

remained in control and I am grateful

right from the beginning.

to now be able to embark on this new journey of pastoral ministry in ETAC.

If not for God's grace, I wouldn't be here.

I recognised it was in fact God that had

In his profound love, I am found.

preserved my life as a toddler—healing

It is by his amazing grace

me from a serious illness; and as a child—

I serve his kingdom.

saving me from a potentially fatal fall

In prayer, I desire to live a fruitful

from the fourth storey.

and purposeful life, pleasing to God.

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Soundings

Dr Roland Chia is Chew Hock Hin Professor of Christian Doctrine at Trinity Theological College and Theological and Research Advisor at the Ethos Institute for Public Christianity.

A faithful and unchanging God

The lament of the prophet Jeremiah (Lamentations 1:12). Wood engraving by Julius Schnorr von Carolsfeld (1860) / Source: iStock.com/ZU-09

The steadfast love of the LORD never ceases; his mercies never come to an end; they are new every morning; great is your faithfulness. ~ Lamentations 3:22-23

T

he new year has dawned upon a world that remains restive and anxious.

The wars in the Middle East and Ukraine continue to plod on with no end in sight, bringing immense suffering and death in their wake. They epitomise all the other political hotspots in our troubled world, even as they steal the spotlight from them: Syria, Iraq, Libya, Yemen, South Sudan, Somalia, Afghanistan, the Central African Republic and Myanmar.

Closer to home, for some of us perhaps, 'uncertain' is the word that best describes how we feel as we step into this new year.

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Will there be an opening this new year that will bring this long and dry spell of unemployment to an end? Will the current treatment strategy be successful in getting rid of my metastatic cancer? Will I ever be able to crawl out of this quicksand of depression?

In the midst of our trials and worries, we once again hear the familiar words from Lamentations—words that we have committed to memory, words that we have repeatedly sung.

While these words are familiar to many Christians, the context in which they were originally written is perhaps less so.

It was 586 BC. Jerusalem was in a state

of utter devastation. It had fallen into the hands of its enemy, trampled upon by the Babylonians. The great temple, the centre of the spiritual life and energy of God's people, now lay in ruins, burnt to the ground. The leaders of the city were banished to that 'strange land', Babylon.

God is the great I AM (Exodus 3:14), "with whom there is no variation or shadow due to change" (James 1:17). Yet, this unchanging and unchangeable God is also "the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our affliction" (2 Corinthians 1:3-4).

As Jeremiah witnessed the destruction and humiliation of the City of David, he lamented at the utter hopelessness of the situation with these sad and haunting words:

The faithful God is not simply present in our trials and comforting us in our struggles. He is present as our refuge and as our strength. Most significantly, he is here as our deliverer and saviour.

How lonely sits the city that was full of people!

How like a widow has she become, she who was great among the nations!

She who was a princess among the provinces has become a slave. ~ Lamentations 1:1

For the next 64 verses, the prophet would mourn the destruction and desolation of the great city in heart-wrenching poetry.

Then in 3:21, the prophet paused to turn his attention to the one who alone was the foundation of hope amid this crisis—the God whose love and mercy endures, the God who is ever faithful.

The situation had not changed. Jerusalem still lay in ruins. Its people still remained in exile, subjugated by a godless tyrant. Yet in this ongoing crisis, Jeremiah turned his gaze upon God and was reminded of his faithfulness.

He then came to the realisation that God had not abandoned his people—not even in this dark period of their history. The dust and rubble of the fallen city did not signal the absence of the God of the Covenant.

God continued to be faithfully present in the devastation and suffering—but present in his hiddenness, and present as Mystery.

The faithfulness of God cannot be properly understood apart from his attribute of immutability. God is ever-faithful because he is unchanging—in his essence, his being, his knowledge, his character and his purposes.

Recalling the deliverance of God, the psalmist gives voice to this wonderful truth when he declares: The LORD is my rock and my fortress and my deliverer, my God, my rock, in whom I take refuge, my shield, and the horn of my salvation, my stronghold. ~ Psalm 18:2

Jeremiah knew this. Standing in the chaos of hopelessness and despair, he called to mind the faithfulness of God, whose purposes for his people had not changed.

And this act of remembering the faithfulness of God, this acknowledgement that God is indeed there during the tumult and the travail, filled the prophet once again with hope—"But this I call to mind, and therefore I have hope" (Lamentations 3:21).

Jeremiah saw that because God is faithful, the future can be different from the present.

He saw that because God is faithful, the past and the present do not determine the future. Our future is in the hands of God. As we cross the threshold into the new year, let us all follow the example of Jeremiah regardless of our circumstances. Let us remember that the God we worship, love and serve is always faithful.

And in remembering our God, let us also put our hope in him!

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By the Methodist Welfare Services (MWS) Communications Team.

"I questioned God when my daughter died, and wanted to join her…"

After her daughter's death sent her into the depths of despair and teetering on the brink of suicide, discovering she wasn't alone became a lifeline for a 90-year-old.

Source: iStock.com

T

he statement "No parent should outlive their child" encapsulates the profound mental anguish and indescribable grief that follows a bereaved parent for a lifetime.

relationship with her daughter-in-law, who was working remotely at that time. With nowhere to go, Mdm Fang sought refuge at an MWS Active Ageing Centre (AAC) in her neighbourhood.

Living out that painful reality is 90-year-old Mdm Fang (pseudonym), who lost her 67-year-old daughter to Covid-19 last year. Widowed for 20 years with three children, Mdm Fang shared a tight bond with her late daughter, who had been her main caregiver.

"The staff noticed that she was showing signs of depression, crying every day and constantly expressing a desire to reunite with her late daughter," shared MWS Senior Associate Chaplain, Sally Tan, who stepped in to offer pastoral care and counselling support to Mdm Fang after being alerted by the Centre staff. "I met with her regularly and listened to her. I also shared comforting Bible verses and we prayed together."

"My daughter was incredibly kind and caring, always looking after me and actively helping others. She was also deeply involved in church. Her funeral drew people of all ages and from all walks of life, a testament to the impact she had with her kindness. I couldn't comprehend why God would take away someone so good. I felt it should have been me instead," shared Mdm Fang, a member of a Methodist Church.

For months, sleep eluded Mdm Fang, food lost its joy, and memories of her daughter dominated every waking moment. Tears filled her days, from dawn till dusk, and lingered into the night. "I wrestled with God, questioning why he did not take me instead," Mdm Fang recalled, pausing to sob uncontrollably into a handkerchief.

Overwhelmed by grief after her daughter's death, Mdm Fang spiralled into deep depression.

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While the sorrow of losing her child will last a lifetime, more than a year on, Mdm Fang is in a better place emotionally.

A listening ear, a caring heart Social isolation and loneliness mark the lives of countless seniors like Mdm Fang. In their silver years, older adults may grapple with challenges such as the loss of loved ones, health issues, financial strain and cognitive decline. These struggles may reduce social connections and lead to loneliness, leaving them feeling stuck in a place of pain.

Social isolation extends beyond solo living. A 2021 study in Singapore revealed that even elderly individuals residing with family or friends can experience social isolation.1 More than half of

those feeling socially disconnected said they lacked a support figure, the study found.

Take Mdm Fang, for instance, who despite living with family, grappled with deep social and emotional disconnection, intensifying her loneliness. This underscores the need for genuine engagement, understanding and companionship in countering social isolation that can lurk even in the most bustling of households.

Research has shown that social isolation and loneliness carry substantial risks for both physical and mental health, including suicidal ideation. Recognising the signs, extending a listening ear and providing support are crucial in preventing suicide.

For Mdm Fang, it was a supportive community—from church friends to staff at the MWS AAC—that played a vital role in dispelling her suicidal thoughts. Their caring presence and willingness to listen provided a sense of comfort and validation to her, knowing that she was not walking the path of healing alone.

Their empathy and support were a lifeline of hope and resilience for Mdm Fang during a time of deep despair.

"The staff and friends from the AAC and my church regularly called to check on me, offering comfort and encouragement.

The AAC members would also take me out for meals. It helped ease the burden and loneliness of my grief and loss," shared Mdm Fang, who has since moved out of her son's place and currently lives alone.

Sally stressed: "For seniors who are isolated like Mdm Fang, a listening ear and a bit of care can make a profound difference. A simple phone call lets them know that someone cares."

Navigating life after loss Encouraged by the AAC staff, Mdm Fang began participating in a range of social activities. Board games, art workshops and cooking demos served as meaningful diversions for Mdm Fang, while creating opportunities for social interaction and cognitive engagement to keep loneliness and cognitive decline at bay, shared Sally.

With time and a strong support network, Mdm Fang's grief has mellowed. "During our initial meetings, Mdm Fang was severely depressed, and her conversations revolved around her late daughter. She seemed trapped in hopelessness and emotional turmoil," recalled

Sally. "However, through joining Centre activities and making new friends, Mdm Fang has gradually found solace and uplifted her emotional state."

She added: "Suicidal thoughts often arise when individuals feel lost and isolated, lacking support. The inability to envision a better future leads them to contemplate giving up, especially when dealing with sensitive issues like family conflicts. Many keep these struggles private due to shame, but building trust and closeness can encourage them to open up. Our approach involves providing hope, painting a positive picture of possibilities, and assuring them that there is a way out."

Today, while Mdm Fang is still grieving, she is thankful to God for providing the people around her as a source of comfort and companionship. "I am very thankful to my friends from the AAC and Pastor Sally for their care and concern," she said. "Their support has been a guiding light, reminding me that I am not alone in this journey."

If you feel that you are unable to cope and have thoughts of harming yourself or someone else, please contact SOS 24-hour hotline 1767, or their 24-hour SOS CareText via WhatsApp 9151 1767. If you feel you may be at immediate risk of harming yourself, call 995 or approach the A&E department of your nearest hospital.

Seniors like Mdm Fang, who grapple with social isolation and loneliness, are prevalent. Research has shown that loneliness' toll on health is akin to smoking 15 cigarettes a day. It can lead to premature mortality and diminish the overall well-being and quality of life of older adults. Make a meaningful impact by volunteering as a befriender at an MWS Active Ageing Centre.

Email volunteer@mws.sg or visit https: // mws.sg/volunteer/ for more information.

Alternatively, if you wish to support active ageing activities for isolated seniors, please donate at https: //mws.sg/give/.

1 Barrenetxea J, Yang Y, Pan A, Feng Q, Koh WP. "Social Disconnection and Living Arrangements among Older Adults: The Singapore Chinese Health Study", Gerontology, 2021.

January 2024 Methodist Message 27

Rev Derrick Lau is the Executive Director of Methodist Missions Society (MMS). / Photos courtesy of MMS

Delight

IN THE LORD!

M

ethodist Missions Society (MMS), the

We praise God that over 20 local churches

denominational missions agency of

(Methodist and others) are directly

The Methodist Church in Singapore (MCS),

collaborating with us. They support the

delights in mobilising the local churches

sending of 38 members as missionaries,

in fulfilling the mandate of the Great

pray regularly, give generously and visit the

Commission, i.e. to preach the Good News

fields to conduct a variety of programmes to

to the nations. Jesus said to his disciples in

bless the churches and community projects.

Matthew 9:37, "The harvest is plentiful…" The task of reaching the lost, the least and the

In our quest to fulfil Christ’s mandate,

last is enormous and urgent. And it cannot be

we are to be mindful of the fundamental

achieved by a handful of pastors, lay leaders

theological principle undergirding our

and members alone. We encourage and

service. We should not be preoccupied with

challenge you to pray and seek God’s direction

the service itself. Instead, let us embrace

to serve the mission of Christ with us.

the first biblical principle of service in the Kingdom of God, i.e. we are called

We have developed a Christo-centric

to "Delight in the Lord!" The Psalmist

strategic roadmap and communicated

declares, "I delight to do your will, O my

the opportunities to participate in MMS'

God; your law is within my heart" (Psalm

mission through mobilising a network of

40:8). He adds, "Lead me in the path of

intercessors, and raising and equipping

your commandments, for I delight in it"

a team of missionaries and lay members.

(Psalm 119:35). Therefore, the primary focus

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(top) Our Delighters at our Delighters Fellowship on 28 July 2023 (bottom left) Wooden cross gifts personally handcrafted by Rev Derrick Lau for those who turned up for the Delighters Fellowship sessions (bottom right) A token of appreciation for all our Delighters for their invaluable service with MMS

is upwards in terms of delighting in the

our team as they lighten our burden with

Lord and in maintaining that priority, we

their active and sacrificial service.

avoid Martha’s syndrome, where too often, the works of service itself can become a

One Delighter shared, "Thank you so much

distraction from our devotion in the Lord.

for your wooden crosses. They are the best presents I have ever received. They are

Furthermore, the Psalmist declares, "Delight

authentic, genuine, unique and memorable!

yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the

Thank you for hosting a lovely appreciation

desires of your heart" (Psalm 37:4).

nite. Appreciation both ways. Thank you for appreciating us too!

"

Recently, we organised two "Delighters Fellowship" sessions. The purpose was

James David Greear, 62nd president of the

to acknowledge, affirm and attest to the

Southern Baptist Convention from 2018 to

invaluable spirit of active participation

2021, wrote, "True religion is when you serve

by volunteer members. In addition to our

God to get nothing else but more of God.

team of full-time missionaries and Home

Many people use religion as a way of getting

Office staff, they play an indispensable role

something from God they want—blessings,

in strengthening the much needed portion

rewards, even escape from judgment. This is

of facilitating the operational aspects of

wearisome to us, and to God. But when God

our mission. These members include MMS

is [h]is own reward, Christianity becomes

Exco, MMS Sub-Committees (Education,

thrilling. Sacrifice becomes joy."

Finance, Missionary Service Member Care,

Another group of Delighters on 30 August 2023

Training, Building and Construction), Field

I would like to encourage and inspire you

Board of Ministry, mailers and servers.

to be part of our Delighters Fellowship.

We express our sincere and heartfelt

The Bible informs us that, "The steps of a

appreciation to our Delighters! As they

man are established by the Lord, when he

delight in the Lord, they bring delight to

delights in his way" (Psalm 37:23).

To find out how you can be part of MMS' Delighters Fellowship, visit https://www.mms. org.sg/join-us for details.

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You and Your Family

Benny Bong has over 40 years of experience as a therapist, counsellor and trainer. He also conducts regular talks and webinars.

Benny has helmed the You & Your Family column for more than 16 years and is a member of Kampong Kapor Methodist Church.

WHEN

TIME RUNS OUT

FOR A MACHINE-MAN

H

e sat scowling and with eyes intently

When he did speak, he did not mince his

fixed on me throughout the first part

words. He directly addressed the cause

of our meeting. Even when correcting some

of their marital conflicts over the last few

of what his wife and son had said, he never

years as a "misunderstanding". His wife

once took his eyes off me. It made me feel a

had been concerned about his relationship

little uncomfortable.

with a number of his female assistants.

He admitted to giving them his attention

I would have felt intimidated if I thought

but stopped short of admitting anything

that this was his intent. However, I could

deeper. He had even gone a step further

see how this man of 70 years was himself

to reassign all the women and now worked

feeling somewhat uncomfortable. He

with male assistants only.

had been "persuaded" by their four adult children to attend couples counselling. He

Then, he made an unexpected

had promised to at least "give it a shot". But

announcement about a very recent

as a self-made man with a large business

development. He disclosed a recent health

empire, he was more used to barking out

diagnosis which indicated he might have

orders about making more money than

only three to four years to live. Medical

engaging in a conversation about improving

intervention could prolong the inevitability

his social skills and marriage.

but would not add much more time. With

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this knowledge, he had decided on some

happy. Happiness also relates to the values

radical refocusing of his remaining years.

he holds dear—not on transient things or experiences. Being happy is an internal

For one, instead of expending all his time

experience unfamiliar to him as happiness

and effort into growing his business—at

was often seen as an indulgence and not a

great expense to his health, he added—he

necessity in life. Being happy is about being

now wanted to focus on doing what would

and not about doing. It is not about rushing

make him happy. Before embarking on

around nor about a striving. Ecclesiastes

this, he wanted to use the next few months,

2:11 reminds us that chasing after wealth

whilst his declining health still allowed,

and success is ultimately futile, like chasing

to wind up several of his latest business

after the wind.

ventures.

Secondly, being happy often involves My client then described himself in a

significant others—not being happy alone

manner that stuck in my mind for some

but with others. This however means that

time. He likened himself to a machine that

we can only do so much and whether

had been running at a fast and relentless

others appreciate it or are positively

pace since the tender age of 14. There

affected is outside our control. A few of my

was hardly any slowing down—not with

high-achieving clients hope that by leaving

National Service, marriage or building his

a strong financial legacy, their beneficiaries

business empire. His wife seemed to accept

will be pleased. To make others happy

it as her lot in life for marrying a man

involves taking the time to do what they

bent on climbing out of poverty without

want and to address what they need, not

a backward glance. He feared that if he

what we want them to have.

suddenly stopped the furiously spinning wheels of this man-machine, other dire

Will my client be successful in his latest

consequences would follow.

endeavour? At least for now, he has perhaps three or four years to work on it. Many of

I have met a few men like him in

us may not have as long or even be aware

counselling. Men with a singular drive to be

of how much time we have left. Death may

successful, to make it big. Of course, for the

come as a thief in the night and rob us of

few who make it, often with much toil and

whatever opportunity that may still remain.

sacrifice, countless have not. Sadly, even after accumulating massive wealth, many are not happy.

Returning to my client: Will this turning point in his life lead to what he wants to achieve and will he be successful here too?

I feel that the outcome depends on two big challenges for him.

Firstly, to make a radical shift from making money towards finding happiness means that he needs to know what makes him

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Benny Bong has over 40

years of experience as a therapist, counsellor and trainer. He also conducts regular talks and webinars.

Benny has helmed MM’s You & Your Family column for more than 16 years and is a member of Kampong Kapor Methodist Church.

Rev Tay Li Ping is currently

pastoring at Christalite Methodist Chapel. Trained as an Industrial-Organisational Psychologist before becoming a pastor, Rev Tay is particularly interested in the intersection of Psychology and Theology. She is married and has five sons.

Koh Ai Jin is a registered

clinical counsellor with extensive experience in marriage and family counselling, mental health concerns and psychological trauma. She runs her own practice and currently serves as Vice-President of the Association of Christian Counsellors (Singapore).

Need advice? Scan the QR code or visit https://www.methodist.org.sg/mm-atthe-well/ to submit your question. Due to space constraints and repetition of topics, we may not be able to feature all questions submitted.

Friendships

Cell group members not building relationships with one another My cell group functions only when we meet and during church services. Outside of these times, most of the group members don't seem to have friendships with one another. A few of us, including the cell leader and myself, are trying hard to keep the group going, but the other members are busy doing their own thing and not really involved. How can we improve this situation as it has been going on for some time? How do we keep on going, without feeling burnt out?  Damascus

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Ai Jin says Dear Damascus, I hear your desire for the cell group members to connect better and wish the members were more committed to building relationships.

To avoid burnout, you should be doing tasks which you are happy to set aside time and energy for and be careful not to take on more than you can handle. Perhaps focus on how to make the best use of the cell group time to achieve the goal of deepening connections.

Consider some ways your cell group leader and you can be instrumental in creating connections between the members.

While not exhaustive, here are some ideas: • Introduce warm up questions at start of cell group. Questions that are personal, light-hearted and help everyone to learn something new about each other. Some

examples: What was your favourite meal of the week? / Share an embarrassing moment and how you overcame it. / If you are granted a wish, what would you wish for and why?

•

•

How about addressing the concern together with the group and embark on a journey to be more relational by reading a relevant book together?

Here's one on spiritual friendship, 3-21: Following Jesus in Threes (published

by Graceworks, 2014) which could encourage members to practise doing life together in smaller groups of three, during the week.

Discuss and draw up a simple roster for everyone to take turns to contribute to the cell group programme. Some can bring food, while others lead worship or Bible study discussions. This can be divided according to their preference/ spiritual gifts. Have them serve together in pairs.

Psalm 127:1 (ESV) reminds us that "Unless the Lord builds the house, those who build it labour in vain." We can pray and trust the Holy Spirit to minister and connect every heart each time your cell group meets.

Friendships

My friends keep hurting me I have two best friends since secondary school. But both have hurt me deeply through their actions and words. They can't seem to be there for me when I need them, and they only speak about their problems and do not care about my problems. Each time my friends hurt me, I will distance myself from them but they will apologise and I will return to them.

I feel tired emotionally. Should I still be friends with my secondary school mates despite them hurting me? But I know that they will never badmouth me as they love me.  Sian

Ai Jin says Dear Sian, I am not sure what the extent of hurt is upon you. Criticisms, put-downs, disrespect are some reasons why you may want to put a distance to protect yourself. However, if you find that the friendship is lacking in consideration of your needs, perhaps your friends are not good listeners, and it can be a matter of personality differences, or self-centredness. Like two sides of a coin, I hope the positive aspects of the friendship outweighs the negative aspects.

With most relationships, there tend to be ups and downs, better days and not so good days. Even close family members do hurt one another sometimes because people are not perfect. Others may have hurt us with their actions and words; unknowingly, we too, may have done the same towards them.

The fact that you have been best friends from secondary school years speaks volumes of the resilience in your friendship.

In addition, you mentioned that they love you, would not badmouth you and would apologise to you. These are positive aspects to focus on. Scripture exalts that a friend loves at all times (Proverbs 17:17a). Friends are to encourage one another, build one January 2024 Methodist Message 33

At The Well

another up (1 Thessalonians 5:11), to bear

That said, the considerations whether your

with one another and forgive one another

sister will take to it kindly, I believe, depends

of grievances (Colossians 3:13). May these

on the closeness of your relationship with

acts of love be found mutual in your

her, as well as how you put the content

friendship to them and vice versa.

across. Consider the choice of words, how you can be specific, objective, and with clear reasons. If you do share with your sister, just

Family

Should I tell my sister I think her son might have special needs?

know that it does not need to be weighty. It can be tentative and offered as a suggestion, spoken with respect and love.

I think my nephew may have special needs as he exhibits behaviours that are unusual. But I am not an expert on such matters so I can't be certain. My sister and brother-in-law are stressed out trying to ensure their child is obedient and behaves appropriately. Should I mention my suspicions to them so that they can consider getting him assessed since early intervention is important? I just don't know whether they will take to it kindly.  Bibi

Ai Jin says Dear Bibi, It's a dilemma indeed: You think your

Family

Strained relationship with our daughter

hunches may be helpful information to your sister and brother-in-law. However,

Our relationship with our daughter has

you could be too presumptuous, and

been hostile for a decade now. Though

may cross a line which may hurt your

the three of us are living together, my

relationship with them.

daughter has been avoiding contact and communication with my wife. Because

As you mentioned that you are not "an

of the strained relationship, my wife has

expert on such matters", you seem to

ever considered evicting her. She believed

recognise that you do need to gather more

getting her out of her sight altogether

information and gain more confidence in

was the only way to deal with the stress

your understanding of the matter. Why not

of maintaining a fractured relationship.

do that first? Consider also that your sister

Adding to the problem is that my wife

and brother-in-law, as parents would have an

suffers from chronic migraines and

intimate and holistic knowledge about their

IBS. My daughter has been out of a job

son than you do. You also want to defer to

since the end of last year. It has been

them that in their role and responsibility as

a nightmare for me to be caught in

parents, they reserve reasons what they are

between. My wife and I are believers.

doing is what they think is best for their son.

My daughter is atheist.  Troubled

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Benny says Dear Troubled, It is never easy being caught in the middle. Although you had not asked any specific question, I suspect that this comes from how painful it is to even consider what options your family has.

Given your current circumstance, it may be better if your daughter moves out. This will help alleviate the current condition of your wife. It may even improve the current family relationship. This suggestion challenges the notion that staying together is always essential for a good relationship.

Having clear boundaries may help improve or at least minimise conflicts.

However, to ensure that this suggestion is not misconstrued, here are some suggestions as to its delivery. Firstly, present the rationale as a way of preserving family harmony, not as a rejection of a family member or ridding the family of a troublemaker. Secondly, involve your daughter in the process by talking about a timeframe and giving her a choice of where to live. You might even suggest a place that is not too far away so that it may be convenient to visit each other. Thirdly, if possible and if needed, offer her any financial help to make such a move possible. Finally, do emphasise the desire to maintain family ties. This may be

Dating & Marriage

My husband does not want to explore IVF My husband and I have been trying to conceive but have not been successful.

We have discussed assistive treatments and did two rounds of IUI to no avail.

IVF seems to be the natural next step, which is aligned with my beliefs, desires and hopes, but my husband is not comfortable with the idea. As a woman, I feel that that denies me the opportunity to be a mother and the biological clock is ticking; as a wife, I'm called to submit. What should I do?  GH

Li Ping says Dear GH, I hear your deep longing to be a mother.

Perhaps this is an opportunity to wrestle with what it means to have children. I commend Dr Roland Chia's article to your reflection: https://ethosinstitute.sg/havingchildren/. In brief, children are gifts to be received from God rather than an exercise of one's rights, or a means of self-fulfilment.

This was a hard lesson for me to learn too as I wrestled with multiple miscarriages.

Children, being the literal product of a

in the form of regular family meals.

husband's and wife's love, should also be

As you take such a move, be prepared

crucial that husband and wife express their

for some sadness on your part to see your daughter leaving the home. Such sadness is part of the process of letting go and letting her grow as a person. It will also give your wife and you some needed breathing space to deepen your relationship.

borne out of unity rather than conflict. It is own desires, but also hear each other out, and prayerfully come to a decision.

Submission looks different in every marriage, but it always presupposes that the husband loves his wife the way Christ does—sacrificially and like his own body.

This means submitting to your husband's decision knowing he has considered your views and needs carefully, and you have both prayerfully sought God's guidance.

January 2024 Methodist Message 35

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You did not mention the reasons for your

to "resolve" them. When their attempts fail, they

husband's discomfort with IVF. There are

often draw in their children to support them.

ethical considerations, especially the creation of surplus embryos that may be destroyed,

You would have noticed I used the inverted

which is problematic if we take the view that

commas for the word resolve. This is because

life begins at conception. There are alternatives

resolution can take several forms. One is to

like donating the embryos or keeping them

have the other party agree completely with

frozen, but both have their own issues as well. If

them and offer an unreserved apology or

you have not done so, you may also prayerfully

to try to make amends. Another is to offer

consider alternative routes like adoption.

an explanation followed by an apology.

A third resolution is to agree to disagree.

How this may be a resolution is when each

Family

Caught in between quarrelsome parents

party believes that they each are right but acknowledge that there are other important things in remaining as the status quo. With some couples in a long-term relationship, the "glue" that has kept them together (for

As far as I can remember, my parents had

example, to raise the children) is no longer

a difficult marriage. They never divorced

relevant. With such couples, it may be that

but stayed together for the sake of their

recognising their own imperfections and

children. They would quarrel very often

faults and recalling how each have struggled

and complain about each other to my

to get to where they are now, can help.

siblings and me. They would not speak to each other for many days and would ask

What can you do? Firstly, listen and try to be

us to pass messages on their behalf. As

understanding. You may not agree with all

children, we did as we were told. However,

that has been said. But you can agree or at

the pattern continues today even when

least acknowledge the emotions of the other.

I am married and have moved out. My

Try your best to not act as a spokesperson.

father calls me to vent his frustration with

Secondly, help them to focus on the positives

my mother and asks me to speak to her

in their lives, e.g. the grandchildren. Thirdly,

on his behalf. I have told him several times

look at some possible reasons that may be

that this is a matter between him and

adding to the senior's emotional state, e.g.

my mother and not to get the children

concerns about money, declining health,

involved. However, I can see that he is

loss of relationships, etc. Addressing these

very troubled and has no one else to vent

concerns may help improve their quality of

his frustration to. By continuing to listen

life. Finally, some adult children attempt to act

to him and trying to mediate with my

as grievance arbitrators. This may only work if

mother, am I really helping the situation

both parents see you as someone they respect

or encouraging a wrong pattern of

or fear. Other children try to get a neutral third

behaviour? My parents are not Christian.

party like pastors or counsellors to counsel and

 Hello Kitty

reason with them. Such efforts generally see only temporary benefit if any. This is because

Benny says

most of our parents have grown up with the idea that the endurance of hardship is more

Dear Hello Kitty,

prized than its resolution.

Your parents' quarrels could be historical

Free yourself of the need to help your

and may be about issues that even predate

parents resolve their problems and live

the arrival of any of the children. For some

more harmoniously. Focus more on your

inexplicable reason, seniors seem to have an

relationship as a dutiful daughter and not as

ability to recall these conflicts and have a desire

their counsellor.

January 2024 Methodist Message 37

Worship

Dr Judith Laoyan-Mosomos is the Director for Worship & Church Music at the Methodist School of Music and a member of Kampong Kapor Methodist Church. / Photos courtesy of Judith Laoyan-Mosomos

Seeking God every hour

T

here are always simple melodies of

New mercies each returning day

childhood that we remember for life.

hover around us while we pray

I vividly recall the bedtime prayer my

new perils past, new sins forgiven

siblings and I recited during our primary

new thoughts of God, new hopes of

school years.

heaven.

Now I lay me down to sleep

I realise that the prayer-songs my

I pray thee Lord my soul to keep

mother taught us, before bed and upon

Guide me safely through the night

waking, were fair means to transit from

and wake me to the morning light.

our unconscious sleep to the joyful

(Grace Bridges, 1932)

consciousness of God's new mercies each morning. Truly, to seek God in every

In the morning, my mother would have us

hour, what reflections might shape your

sing this prayer before breakfast.

consciousness before sleeping, that upon waking you are alive to God’s new mercies?

Father we thank you for the night and for the pleasant morning light

Each of us wakes up to a mix of concerns

for rest and food and loving care

and anticipations every day. But when we are

and all that makes the day so fair.

conscious of God’s presence, the one who

(Rebecca J. Weston, 1885)

is worried finds assurance in the promise of new mercies while the one who is excited is

I also remember a beautiful hymn we sang

filled with even greater anticipation for the

in church on some Sundays.

blessings that God will reveal.

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Judith with her daughter, Chaya, and her late mother, Frances, at the 2011 Worship Symposium

We believe our merciful God extends his

Lord, please show your handiwork

grace through the actions of people to

Through the day that has been spent

bless others. When prompted to be a

And with gratitude we sing

conduit of this divine benevolence, we

For the blessings that you’ve giv’n.

may be inspired to send a heartfelt "get well soon" note, provide a nourishing

Now we lay for evening’s rest

meal for someone who is unwell, offer

grant us peace and quietness

a ride to someone in need, or express

in the morning when we wake

gratitude for help we have received. God's

New mercies all from you we take.

mercy manifests in diverse forms, and as recipients of his grace, we can be vessels

Thankful! Yes, that’s how we are

through which his mercy flows to others.

For the day that’s new to dare

This is my prayer-song to add to my

With new mercies and your care

mother's deck.

Make us useful, help us share (Judith Laoyan-Mosomos, 2023)

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Tan Shieh Jeanne worships at Holland Village Methodist Church.

She serves as the Comms & Media Chairperson and also serves on the video team. / Photo courtesy of Tan Shieh Jeanne

Leaning on God for greatness After the internship, I continued pouring my time in the Comms and Media ministry, from editing Instagram reels to designing church banners. Over time, I realised the potential to enhance the HVMC team with my past comms experience. God's timing unfolded mysteriously, leading the LMS in charge to offer me the role of Comms Chair. I didn't accept right away—in fact, I rejected the role for half a year, thanks to a little something called self-doubt.

Eventually, I understood that embracing my humanity and imperfections means leaning Tan Shieh Jeanne

M

on God for greatness. Rather than focusing on myself, I should focus on how God can

y creative journey kicked off in my teens,

work through me for others, such as using my

after immersing myself in Comms and

experience to guide and train those who are

Media internships at age 16. Despite showcasing

keen to join the ministry, creating a place where

a portfolio I took immense pride in, a lingering

people can come together and grow without

emptiness persisted within. I realised it

fear or judgment. So, I accepted the role.

stemmed from a lack of purpose; however, I didn't have a solution and instead focused my

I'm putting my trust in the Lord to steer me

energy on an upcoming internship with Holland

through this journey. I truly look forward to

Village Methodist Church (HVMC), tasked with

watching just how God will continue to grow

developing its Comms and Social Media content.

this ministry as he has this past year.

Kopi kakis by Lau Peng Leong, Yen Tun I and Zachary Yong

January 2024 Methodist Message 41

CHRISTIAN SPIRITUALITY 1: FOUNDATIONS FOR EVERYDAY LIFE 20 January – 30 March (Saturdays), 9.30 a.m. – 11.45 a.m.

Online via Zoom except for first and last sessions to be held in-person (for local students) at BGST, 50 Kallang Pudding Road, #07-01 AMA Building, S349326 Register by 17 January via https://courses.bgst.edu.sg $300 per person Grow deeper in your spiritual life through drawing spiritual disciplines from historical Christian writings and practices.

The course aims to be both academic and practical. Besides live and recorded lectures, students engage with readings, group discussion and individual reflections throughout the course. There will be in-depth discussions on how we can grow deeper in our spiritual life in a busy world, e.g. finding the rhythm between work and rest, cultivating the spiritual disciplines to keep one's spiritual life vibrant.

About the instructor: Dr Tong Mee Onn graduated from Trinity Theologial College and Tao Fong Shan Christian Centre (HK) and was conferred DMin (Spiritual Direction) by Graduate Theological Foundation, USA. Her passion is to help people be aware of, and live in, the presence of God. She does this through offering spiritual direction, companionship and retreats.

Organised by Biblical Graduate School of Theology (BGST)

ART OF PARENTING SMALL GROUP 3 February – 18 May (Saturdays), 3.00 p.m. – 5.00 p.m.

Hybrid: online via Zoom and on-site at Cru Centre, 18 Verdun Road, #03-01, S207280 Register by 21 January via https://mde.cru.org.sg/Event/ $120 per couple (inclusive of GST and workbooks) The Art of Parenting brings parents on a journey of growing in awareness of God, child and self. Applying biblical principles, parents learn to disciple their children for the glory of God. More information about this 8-session small group video series for couples can be found at https://cru.sg/aop.

Important information: * For parents of children 12 years and below * Attendance as a couple is required Organised by Cru Singapore

STORIES FROM THE FIELD: ARTS IN TRAUMA HEALING 6 February, 8.00 p.m. – 9.30 p.m.

Online via Zoom Register by 5 February via www.wycliffe.sg/events How do the arts play a part in the process of trauma healing? Does using the arts help in the trauma-healing process?

About the speaker: Mary Beth Saurman is an Arts Master Facilitator with the Bible Society’s Trauma Healing Institute.

She teaches MA courses in Arts and Trauma Healing and also offers shorter training in Arts in the Healing Process. She has worked with SIL International for the last 30 years as an advocate for the music and arts of ethnic minority groups and has 13 years of experience working as a Creative Arts Therapist and Music Therapist in clinical settings, including mental health care, geriatric care, and special needs. Her training and expertise focus on Music and Dance/Movement Therapy. She has also used other forms of Creative Arts as therapy such as drama, visual arts and verbal arts.

Organised by Wycliffe Singapore