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Dear Annie: Unfortunately, after years of declining health, my wife’s father passed away this year. The reason that I’m writing is that, since my father-inlaw’s death, my wife wants me to not even bring up my dad, who is still alive. It’s very extreme. She doesn’t even want to see our daughters making arts and crafts to give to my dad. My father is in a nursing home, and I haven’t seen him in months. I miss him very much. But since my wife’s dad died, I’m more or less not allowed to discuss my dad. She even makes me leave the room if he calls. Is this normal, healthy behavior, and how should I handle this situation moving forward? Because whatever I say or do is, apparently, insensitive to her feelings. — At a Loss Dear At a Loss: Please accept my heartfelt condolences for the loss of your father-in-law. Grief can make it impossible to think clearly, but that doesn’t make it acceptable to mistreat our part-
ners. Your wife could benefit from seeing a therapist who specializes in grief. I’d also recommend attending therapy together, even if just for one or two sessions. You might also look into grief support groups in your area; if your wife isn’t ready for that yet, you can go on your own. Keep trying to be as patient as possible, but let her know that you will keep in contact with your father. It’s not just the right thing to do for you and him but also what’s best for your marriage in the long-term. If you miss spending this precious time with your dad now, you might always resent your wife for it. ——— Dear Annie: Your suggestions for “Striking Out,” who has been going on interviews but having no luck, were great! Can I also suggest any job applicant do the following before the interview: 1. Check your own online identity: Facebook, Twitter, etc. Many still believe there’s truth in “You’re known by the company you keep.” So make sure that your profile blocks the ability of anyone to see who your friends are. (Sometimes our friends may not post the best things.) 2. Research the com-
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pany: Examine their online personality and history. Who are their target customers? Who are the heads of the organization? See if you can find them on LinkedIn to see how they got to where they are. 3. Ask the person interviewing you: “What things do you wish YOU knew when you started working here that could have helped your success?” — Ramona Dear Ramona: These are great tips. Glassdoor.com is another useful resource for job hunters. Look not just at a company’s overall rating but the individual reviews themselves: If all the reviews are either onestar or five-star, take a closer look and try to determine whether those fivestar reviews are genuine. And go into the interview with your eyes wide open. ——— Dear Annie: You should always research the company you are interviewing with. Showing respect, interest and curiosity compliments the company for which you are interviewing. If you are interviewing for a company that makes cement, ask them about the process. If they clean windows, ask them what is their biggest job. If they clean linens, inquire about the cleaning machinery. Have follow-ups ready. It shows an appreciation for the core business. — Timothy C. Dear Timothy: Astute advice: Everyone likes to be asked about themselves (or
their work, in this case). I might add that this also applies to first dates!
Little kids and big days can mean a huge mess Dear Annie: I guess I need to be brought into 2020 on an issue of wedding etiquette. I lived for several years in the Deep South, and it was a common practice to feed your family before attending a wedding, BBQ or other function, especially when you had children. The reason is so that your spouse and kids would not swarm the appetizer table or buffet line and completely embarrass you Recently, I attended a wedding where one woman and her spouse brought their six kids. Additionally, there were countless other children. There was an appetizer table set up while the wedding party had photos taken, and the children acted like they hadn’t eaten in weeks. They also ran, played tag and generally acted like it was a game to see who could take the most from the table. They did not get food and then find a seat to settle down and eat. An 86-year-old man, a family member of the groom, left before the meal as he was concerned someone would make him fall! There was a cash bar there as well. I, too, left early — and I am the parent of one of the people being married. The chil-
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dren were already running without any parental supervision, and I did not think alcohol was going to improve the situation. Was I wrong to just ignore the hoards of children running through the dance floor and dashing under tables? I did not know all the people to ask them to control their children, but I also did not feel it was my place — Confused Southerner Dear Confused Southerner: I’m sorry that you had to experience that. I don’t think it matters if it’s 1920 or 2020 — allowing children to take all of the food and run around as if it’s recess on a playground is incredibly rude. Their parents should have stopped them and explained that they need to be respectful during a wedding and that it is an honor to be invited, so they should act accordingly. In hindsight, you should have said something to the parents of the children — politely and firmly. ——— Dear Annie: I live in an apartment with my boyfriend, and the neighbor next door keeps coming out of her apartment to investigate who is at our residence. Or she comes out when we have company and rudely interrupts our gathering. She has to know who is there and what we are doing. She purposely eavesdrops on our conversations and has called our landlord. She even called
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the police, giving false statements that my boyfriend and I were fighting. We have been threatened by the landlord that we have to move out if we don’t stop, despite our explaining that there is no fighting. We don’t bother her, and we do not have any other issues with her. We have tried to get along with her. We even told her she does not need to come out every time someone visits us. I have started documenting her actions, and since I get along with all the other neighbors in the building, I am going to get statements from them as well. She doesn’t talk to us, but she continues to come out to investigate. What is the best advice to get her to stop the unnecessary invasion of privacy? What is my next step? — Tired of Nosey Neighbor Dear Tired of Nosy Neighbor: Your next step is to talk to her again. Ask her to kindly mind her own business. If she does not, then you can continue documenting her snooping. Give the documentation to your landlord and save a copy for your records. You have every right to feel comfortable in your own home and don’t need to put up with someone intruding on your personal space.
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ORDER TO SHOW CAUSE FOR CHANGE OF NAME Case Number: CVPT-20-751 1. Valentin Bravo Luna filed a petition with this court for a decree changing CITY OF DAVIS ORDINANCE SUMMARY names as follows: Valentin Bravo Luna NOTICE IS HEREBY GIVEN that on June to 16, 2020 the City Council of the City of Valentin Ibarra-Luna Davis introduced, and on July 7, 2020, the City Council unanimously adopted 2. THE COURT ORDERS that all persons interested in this matter shall appear the following ordinance entitled: before this court at the hearing indicated below to show cause, if any, why the AN ORDINANCE OF THE CITY OF petition should not be granted. DAVIS AMENDING THE CITY’S NOTICE OF HEARING GENERAL PLAN TO AMEND AND Date: August 5, 2020 Time: 9 a.m. EXTEND “MEASURE J” WHICH Dept: #9 Room: N/A ENACTED A POLICY REQUIRING The address of the court is VOTER APPROVAL FOR CERTAIN 1000 Main Street, Woodland, CA 95695 CHANGES TO THE LAND USE DESIGNATIONS OR ENTITLEMENTS 3. a) A copy of this Order to Show Cause shall be published at least once a week OF PROPERTIES SHOWN ON THE for four successive weeks prior to the GENERAL PLAN LAND USE MAP date set for hearing on the petition in AND ENACTING THE CITIZENS’ RIGHT TO VOTE ON FUTURE USE OF the following newspaper of general circulation, printed in this county: OPEN SPACE AND AGRICULTURAL LANDS ORDINANCE TO EXTEND THE The Davis Enterprise 315 G Street, Davis, CA 95616 SUNSET DATE OF THE MEASURE Date: June 17, 2020 TO DECEMBER 31, 2030 AND TO Daniel M. Wolk MAKE TECHNICAL CHANGES TO THE ORDINANCE WHICH PROVIDES Judge of the Superior Court 6/24, 7/1, 7/8, 7/15 881 FOR VOTER APPROVAL OF (1) ANY GENERAL PLAN LAND USE MAP AMENDMENT THAT CHANGES A LAND USE DESIGNATION FROM AN AGRICULTURAL OR URBAN RESERVE DESIGNATION TO AN URBAN DESIGNATION OR FROM AN AGRICULTURAL DESIGNATION TO AN URBAN RESERVE DESIGNATION AND (2) ANY PROPOSAL FOR DEVELOPMENT ON THE LAST TWO LARGE VACANT PROPERTIES DESIGNATED FOR URBAN USE COMMONLY KNOWN AS THE COVELL CENTER AND NISHI PROPERTIES; THIS ORDINANCE TO BE ADOPTED BY THE VOTERS AND EFFECTIVE UPON ADOPTION BY THE VOTERS OF THE CITY The ordinance will go before the voters on November 3, 2020. If passed by the voters, the ordinance would extend the sunset date of the “Citizens’ Right to Vote on Future Use of Open Space and Agricultural Lands” ordinance 10 years to December 31, 2030, and incorporate minor technical changes into the ordinance’s language. This ordinance was first passed by the voters in 2000 and was reaffirmed and extended by the voters in 2010. It is codified in the Davis Municipal Code as Chapter 41. In sum, this ordinance requires a vote of the citizens before land can be re-designated from agriculture or open space to any urban use, as those land uses appear in the 1999 land use map in the City’s prior General Plan. It also requires a vote if urban development is proposed on two large parcels that were already designated for urban uses on the 1999 land use map. Those two large parcels are (1) the Covell Center property (more commonly known today as the “Covell Village” site), and (2) the Nishi property. Measure J is currently set to expire at the end of this year. The minor technical changes include (1) edits to remove language referring to redevelopment, (2) edits to account for events that have happened since 2010, and (3) edits to extend the sunset date of the ordinance to December 31, 2030. The above summary constitutes the major highlights; to obtain a full understanding of the ordinance, a reading of the document in its entirety may be necessary. A certified copy of the full text of the proposed ordinance may be viewed in the City Clerk’s Office, 23 Russell Boulevard, Davis, California, and/ or copies may be obtained at a nominal charge. 7/22 914
ORDER TO SHOW CAUSE FOR CHANGE OF NAME Case Number: PT-20-791 1. Esteban Daniel Zuniga filed a petition with this court for a decree changing names as follows: Esteban Daniel Zuniga to Esteban Daniel Corrales 2. THE COURT ORDERS that all persons interested in this matter shall appear before this court at the hearing indicated below to show cause, if any, why the petition should not be granted. NOTICE OF HEARING Date: August 3, 2020 Time: 9 a.m. Dept: #9 Room: N/A The address of the court is 1000 Main Street, Woodland, CA 95695 3. a) A copy of this Order to Show Cause shall be published at least once a week for four successive weeks prior to the date set for hearing on the petition in the following newspaper of general circulation, printed in this county: The Davis Enterprise 315 G Street, Davis, CA 95616 Date: June 19, 2020 Daniel M. Wolk Judge of the Superior Court 7/1, 7/8, 7/15, 7/22 897
ORDER TO SHOW CAUSE FOR CHANGE OF NAME Case Number: PT20-915 1. Billy Luangphonh filed a petition with this court for a decree changing names as follows: Billy Luangphonh to Billy Nguyen-Rossi 2. THE COURT ORDERS that all persons interested in this matter shall appear before this court at the hearing indicated below to show cause, if any, why the petition should not be granted. NOTICE OF HEARING Date: August 26, 2020 Time: 9 a.m. Dept: #9 Room: N/A The address of the court is 1000 Main Street, Woodland, CA 95695 3. a) A copy of this Order to Show Cause shall be published at least once a week for four successive weeks prior to the date set for hearing on the petition in the following newspaper of general circulation, printed in this county: The Davis Enterprise 315 G Street, Davis, CA 95616 Date: July 8, 2020 Daniel M. Wolk Judge of the Superior Court 7/15, 7/22, 7/29, 8/5 911
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