WEDNESDAY, DECEMBER 29, 2021 B5
THE DAVIS ENTERPRISE
Boyfriend is hiding things
One-line nuggets of wisdom
Dear Annie: My boyfriend and I have been dating for two years. He’s a hard worker, which appealed to me, as I’ve always been the breadwinner in previous relationships. But lately, I feel like he’s not putting any effort into the relationship. For one, we always hang out at my house. I’ve only been to his house three times in the two years we’ve been dating. For another, he does not allow me on his social media. He refuses to accept my friend requests, and he never posts any photos of me. We used to see each other once a week, but lately he’s been working so much that we only see each other once a month. I get that he’s busy, but it’s starting to seem like he really doesn’t care whether he sees me or not. I confronted him about this, and he got upset and accused me of trying to stir up drama. I’m not trying to stir up drama; I just don’t want to go through this anymore. When I told him as much, he hung up on me. Apparently, it’s annoying to him when I share my feelings. As his girlfriend, I expect to see him more than once a month. We only live 20 minutes apart! I’m just not satisfied with the level of attention I’m getting in this relationship at this point. He does frequently tell me that he loves me, and he calls me every day. But I sometimes feel like I’m an afterthought. What is your opinion on this? — Back-Burnered Dear Back-Burnered: It sounds like he’s got another pot on the stove. And if he’s not cheating on you, he might as well be. Only seeing you once a month, never having you over to his place, excluding you from his social media — of course you’re not satisfied. He’s feeding you scraps. You deserve to be with someone who makes you a proud part of his life. The sooner you end things with him, the sooner you open yourself up to bigger and better things. ——— Dear Annie: This is for the woman whose husband cheated on her with his bookkeeper. I heard this many years ago: “Trust is lost in buckets and won in drops.” — Trust Again Dear Trust Again: Very true words.
Dear Annie: My mother passed away earlier this year. I’m sad to say that I did not like her. She was never nice to me. I was having a hard time in my life and for a while didn’t talk to anyone. My mother would say mean things to me like, “Your father wants to take you out of the will,” along with her favorite line: “I hate you!” She said that to me so many times over the years; it killed my selfesteem. Since she died, I’ve been curious about reconnecting with my dad. But I have no idea what he thinks of me. Maybe he hates me, too. I’m afraid to ask. What should I do? — Confused About Family Dear Confused: I absolutely think that you should try reconnecting with your dad. But first, I’d encourage you to seek some professional counseling. A therapist can provide guidance and emotional support as you take this step. They can also help you process the years of emotional abuse that your mother inflicted on you. Visit https://www. psychologytoday.com and select “Find a Therapist” for a database of mental health care providers who are in your area or available for tele-appointments. Talkspace and BetterHelp offer online therapy appointments. For more affordable options, visit https://www.openpathcollective.org, which offers a database of therapists willing to offer sliding-scale rates for those who need it. I am so sorry that your mother treated you so abhorrently. She must have not been well mentally to say such things to anyone, let alone her own child. That’s not to excuse her behavior, just to remind you that it had nothing to do with you and everything to do with her. Please reach out for help to begin the healing you so need and deserve. ——— Dear Readers: A prompt for your consideration: In one sentence, what is the best piece of advice that you’ve ever received? I’ll start by sharing a few
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favorite one-line nuggets that I’ve heard over the years. No. 1: If something seems too good to be true, it probably is. No. 2: Listen more than you talk. No. 3: If you’ve got a burning desire to gossip, hold off a day; it will cool off. No. 4: Always go to the funeral. No. 5: When someone shows you who they are, believe them. ——— Dear Annie: I read the letter from “Still Hurting,” who had a verbally abusive stepmom during her teenage years, thinking I could have written that myself. When I was 8 years old, my dad married a woman who had four kids. She treated me like dirt, but never in front of him, and lied about it when I tried to tell him. I, too, felt like Cinderella. I was fortunate that when they split up, he finally saw her for what she was, and he did apologize, without my needing to ask. I hope, for her sake, she can learn to forgive her dad anyway. My dad died at 54 years old, and I’m so happy we got to spend what time we had without the wicked witch coming between us. — Been There Dear Been There: Thanks for speaking from the other side of this experience. It’s wonderful that you had that time with your father before he died so young. I’m sorry about that, by the way. I’m sure you still miss him every day.
How do I tell my kids our dog died? Dear Annie: One of our two sweet dogs died recently. Do you have any suggestions for how to explain it to our two children, who are 3 and 7 years old? She had heart disease that progressed quickly — within a month and mainly over the last five days of her sweet life. Thank you very much. — Explaining to Our Children Dear Explaining: Losing
a pet is always difficult, whether you are a child or an adult. They were a member of your family that was with you for too short a time. I am very sorry for your loss. When explaining to your children, avoid saying that they just went to sleep; rather, tell them that they will not be physically coming back. Try to find children’s books that address this issue. “Dog Heaven” by Cynthia Rylant is a great one. I also always find comfort in reading the classic “Rainbow Bridge” poem: “Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge. “When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge. There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together. There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable. “All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor. Those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by. The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind. “They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent. His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster. “You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart. “Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together ... “ — Author Unknown ——— Dear Annie: Your advice to the gentleman who wrote about his fiancee’s
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discomfort at family gatherings with his ex around was spot-on. I would also have mentioned that, in addition to having been married to his first wife for more than 20 years, he has grown children with her, which may also mean shared grandchildren someday. His fiancee could very well find herself with his ex at a Little League game or dance recital. It would behoove her to understand that such a scenario is natural when married to someone who was formerly married, and all is OK. Just more adults to love those grandbabies! — Being Positive Helps Dear Being Positive: What a wonderful perspective you have! Thank you for sharing.
Relationship red flag Dear Annie: My daughter is a 57-year-old divorced mom of four. All of her children live with her except for one, who is a college student. She has been divorced for 10 years. Her husband was having an affair and denied it, but my daughter has proof he did have an affair. Since her divorce, and even prior to the divorce, I have helped her financially. I am a widow. Now it seems that she is having very little to do with me. She calls occasionally, but I have only seen her for about an hour in 2020 and so far this year. I am deeply hurt. I recently had major surgery, and she did not come for my surgery. She was moving the day of my surgery. She called and sent a gift, but that’s it. Do I have the right to be hurt? She lives two hours away. I do not think I have offended her in any way. I should add that she does have a new boyfriend who she sees on weekends. — Hurt Grandmother Dear Grandmother: Of course you have a right to be hurt. Feelings are never wrong so long as you acknowledge them and move forward. Perhaps your hunch that she is spending time with a new boyfriend might be a contributing factor to her distance. She is managing four children and a new relationship, so for the time being, try to cut her some slack.
Visit her more often, if you can make the trip. Once she sees that you are making an effort, she will be more willing to make an effort to see you. But by all means, tell her this. Don’t start from a place of guilting her, but rather from a place of love. Tell her that you genuinely miss her company. ——— Dear Annie: I got back with my ex after two years of separation. We have a beautiful baby girl together, and I really love this lady. When I suggested marriage, she was happy and looking forward to it; however, out of the blue, she changed her mind and even asked for space. She told me that I should start calling her before I go to visit her and our girl. This really confused me, and I even started suspecting she was seeing someone else. This has really affected me greatly, and I don’t know if I should even go ahead with the marriage anymore. Kindly advise; am I being unrealistic and selfish? — Confused Dear Confused: No, I don’t think you are being unrealistic or selfish at all. I think you are confused and hurt. And for good reason. A complete change in attitude in any relationship is a red flag that something is not right. The best way to figure out what is going on is to tell her how you feel and ask her why her behavior toward you has shifted so dramatically.
Husband on the go
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married for nearly three decades. Up until seven years ago, my husband, who is very sensitive, had a difficult time making friends. Oh, he’s super funny, charismatic and adventurous, but he struggled outside the home. Then he started finding groups of guys who were as adventurous and fun as he was. However, my husband has always been self-centered and took off on loads of trips. For the past seven years, it has been trip after trip of four to seven days. He asks me to celebrate his kids’ birthdays, and sometimes he doesn’t even consider
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NOTICE TO CONTRACTORS Notice is hereby given that the County of Yolo Community Services Department, Division of Integrated Waste Management, will receive sealed bids for construction of THE EXTRACTION WELL PIPELINES, until 2pm on January 18, 2022, at 44090 County Road 28H, Woodland, CA 95776. Each bid must conform to the requirements of the Contract Documents, which can be downloaded along with all bid documents at www.bidsync.com at no cost. It is the bidder’s responsibility to register at www.bidsync.com to ensure notification of all addenda. It is the bidder’s responsibility to arrange for printing services. For more information, send questions through www.bidsync.com. There will be a pre-bid meeting at 2pm on January 4, 2022 at the Yolo County Central Landfill, located at 44090 County Road 28H, Woodland. Each bidder shall be a licensed contractor pursuant to sections 7000 et seq. of the Business and Professions Code in the following classification(s) throughout the time it submits its bid and for the duration of the contract: A license. The successful bidder shall furnish a payment bond and a performance bond, each in the full amount of the contract price. These bonds shall be executed by a surety specified in California Code of Civil Procedure Section 995.310. Pursuant to Public Contract Code section 22300, the successful bidder may substitute certain securities for funds withheld by the County to ensure its performance under the contract. Pursuant to Section 1773 of the Labor Code, the general prevailing wage rates in the County in which the work is to be done have been determined by the Director of the California Department of Industrial Relations. These wage rates are set forth in the General Prevailing Wage Rates for this project, available for review at Yolo County Central Landfill, 44090 County Road 28H, Woodland, California and available from the California Department of Industrial Relations’ internet web site at http://www.dir.ca.gov/DLSR/PWD. The successful bidder shall post a copy of the prevailing wage rates at each job site. It shall be mandatory upon the bidder to whom the contract is awarded, and upon any subcontractors, to comply with all Labor Code provisions, which include but are not limited to the payment of not less than the said specified prevailing wage rates to all workers employed by them in the execution of the contract, employment of apprentices, hours of labor and debarment of contractors and subcontractors. Pursuant to Labor Code section 1725.5 and 1771.3, contractors and subcontractors who intend to bid on, be listed in a bid proposal, or enter into a contract to perform public work must be registered with the Department of Industrial Relations. No proposal will be accepted nor any contract entered into without proof of the contractor’s and subcontractors’ current registration with the Department of Industrial Relations to perform public work. This project is subject to compliance monitoring and enforcement by the Department of Industrial Relations. Note to General Contractors; Joint Apprenticeship Committee Participation Requirement: The County adopted a policy that one of requirements to be deemed a responsive bidder is that when submitting a bid at or in excess of seven hundred fifty thousand dollars the bidder must then be participating in a joint apprenticeship committee on public works projects. The California Department of Industrial Relations defines a joint apprenticeship committee as a committee made up of equal number of members from labor and management. Bidders submitting bids at or in excess of one million dollars must complete a California Department of Industrial Relations’ DAS-7 form that documents the bidder’s participation in a joint apprenticeship committee. Bids that are not accompanied by such proof of participation will be rejected. The County will verify participation prior to the award. Published December 22, 29, 2021 #1626