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Stuck with unmotivated “grownup” children Dear Annie: I have two grown children living at home. Both are disrespectful to me and to my husband. I feel obligated to allow them to live here since they don’t have anywhere to go, stable jobs or means of transportation. How can I get rid of them and move on with my life? — Tired of Carrying Grown Children Dear Tired of Carrying: Let them stand on their own two feet. Ask your son and daughter to start paying rent or to find their own places. If you feel guilty, as though that’s too much to ask, then just imagine if you were in their shoes: Would you expect your mom and dad to pay your way well into your 20s and 30s? I think not. They are grown adults capable of taking care of themselves. By letting them find that out, you’ll be doing them a favor in the long run. ——— Dear Annie: I’ve been seeing my friend for four years. We’re technically just friends, but there has always been a romantic tension between us. I do call him pet names like “Bae,” and he does the same to me. He’s always insisting that we’re not together. Yet, if I tell him that I’m going on a date, he gets upset. I have no idea what to call our relationship. I just need him to tell me what this is. — Lonely Dear Lonely: I’d call it a con job. He’s using you for validation, to feel attracted and wanted, yet he refuses to commit to you after four years. Stop seeing him. ——— Dear Annie: I felt I needed to comment regarding the criticism from “Call Me From Home,” who was frustrated that people only called her when they were driving, as if they only wanted to talk when they had nothing better to do. I, too, use the free time I have driving to call my mom and friends. However, even when I arrive at my destination (usually home), I have on most calls sat in my car parked in my driveway and continued my conversation until its natural end. Works for me and the person I called. While I understand the writer being miffed, I believe getting a call while someone is driving is better than never getting a call. — Marguerite M. Dear Marguerite: I have to note again that it’s important to exercise extra caution when talking on the phone while driving, as it reduces our ability to perceive hazards. But you make a good point that one shouldn’t feel slighted for receiving these roadcalls. ——— Dear Annie: I am the mother of three incredible adult children. About a year and a half ago, my only daughter just cut me off without any explanation. My youngest son then moved in next door to her and hasn’t spoken to me in almost a year. They both refuse to talk to me. So much has happened since then. My daughter got engaged and since then has gotten married. She did not tell me of either the engagement or the wedding. I had to, unfortunately, find out on Facebook. She did not invite anyone from
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Moving somewhere new Dear Annie: I have always dreamed of moving to Memphis, Tennessee, and would really like to do so. It cost so much to get a hotel there, so I know I would need to find an apartment to rent pretty quickly. Can you give me some advice on what I can do as soon as I get there to get situated? I do not have a job lined up, but I would like to relocate there as soon as possible. — Dreaming of Memphis Dear Dreaming: First, save. Second, save some more. You should have enough set aside to last at least three to six months. When calculating your living expenses, take into account rent, groceries, utilities and other daily expenses such as ordering out from restaurants. Be realistic now so that you’re not sorry later. If you can safely do so, travel to Memphis ahead of time to look at apartments. Having a place lined up makes the moving process simpler and less expensive. You’ll be able to move right in, with no worries as to where to store your things, and no need to drop hundreds or thousands of dollars on staying at a hotel room indefinitely. If you are apartment-hunting from afar, then be cautious. On websites such as Craigslist, scammers will often advertise properties that they don’t actually own, in an attempt to steal the fee for a “rental application” or security deposit. It would be safer to work with a rental agent or go through rental management companies. Start applying to jobs before
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you move. It’s harder to get a job in a city in which you don’t yet live, but not impossible. Let potential employers know a firm date by when you will be in town and able to work. Having a job will make the transition smoother financially and also socially, as it gives you a chance to meet new people right off the bat. Lastly, a big asterisk to all this: I’d strongly encourage you to wait on moving until the COVID-19 pandemic has subsided. ——— Dear Annie: I have complex PTSD from the first 18 years of my life involving sexual abuse and witnessing violent abuse on my brother and mother. I have found a wonderful therapist and have quieted a lot of the guilt, shame and night terrors but I continue to have low selfesteem, anxiety and depression that I choose not to medically treat because of being 54 and not wanting to increase my chances at dementia. Because of this trauma, am I likely to get dementia because of the damage that was caused from years of abuse? — Concerned About Consequences Dear Concerned: I am so sorry for what you went through and so relieved to hear you have a therapist whom you like. You raise an important issue. The available scientific research does indicate that the stress of PTSD can increase one’s risk of dementia. A review published in September 2020 found that people who suffer from PTSD are up to twice as likely to develop dementia later in life. The exact reasons for this are unknown. A 2018 study noted that PTSD increases levels of cytokines (proteins that trigger immune responses), which cause inflammation that may damage the brain. So, it’s important that you get appropriate and comprehensive mental health care. Talk to your physician and your therapist about what the best course of treatment might be. ——— Dear Annie: I contracted genital herpes 35 years ago when a sex partner failed to tell me he had this virus. Over time, outbreaks became shorter, less frequent and virtually painless. Based on talks with others with GH, this is typical of the virus’ progression. Most claim that the worst thing about having GH is confessing this to a prospective sex partner. I did this recently. “Kenny” and I dated briefly 44 years ago, and then parted to lead separate lives while on active duty. He called me out of the blue last summer, and we began talking and texting every day. We believed we had a lot in common and might someday be together. He regularly expressed his affection for me and often told me how happy he was that we have reconnected, albeit from 600 miles away. I was amazed and grateful. I really believed I’d found a man who was so happy to have me in his life again that he’d stay with me through thick and thin.
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FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT Filed: November 18, 2020 FBN Number: F20200936 1. Fictitious Business Name(s) WOODLAND STORAGE WOODLAND SELF STORAGE 2. Street Address, City, State and Zip of Principal Place of Business in California. Business is located in Yolo County. 1434 East Main Street Woodland, CA 95776 Mailing address: 1620 North Main Street #5 Walnut Creek, CA 94596 3. List Full Name(s) of Registrant(s), Residence Address, State, and Zip California Commercial, LLC 591 Colusa Ave. Yuba City, CA 95991 4. Business Classification: Limited Liability Company 5. Beginning Date of Business: The Registrant(s) commenced to transact business under the fictitious business name or names listed above on: N/A “I declare that all information in this statement is true and correct.” (A registrant who declares as true information which he or she knows to be false is guilty of a crime.) 6. Signature of Registrant(s): Ranjit Khagura 11/20, 11/27, 12/4, 12/11 1057
PUBLIC NOTICE LEGAL NOTICE BOARD OF SUPERVISORS NOTICE OF PUBLIC HEARING NOTICE IS HEREBY GIVEN that the Yolo County Board of Supervisors will be conducting a public hearing on Tuesday, December 15, 2020 at 9:00 a.m., or as soon thereafter as the matter may be heard, utilizing teleconference and video conference applications that will be identified on the agenda released for the meeting at least 72 hours in advance. The purpose of this hearing is to adopt the update to the 2020-21 master fee resolution to incorporate changes since June 23, 2020; and approve the proposed fees associated with the Community Services Department, Public Defender’s Office, Probation Department, Sheriff’s Department, and Health & Human Services Agency.
All interested parties are invited to attend the meeting and provide any comments they believe are appropriate. Send written comments by December 14, 2020 to the Clerk of the Board of Supervisors at 625 Court St., Room 204, Woodland, CA 95695 or by email to clerkoftheboard@ yolocounty.org. List of proposed fees are on file with the Clerk of the Board for public review. You may also subscribe NOTICE OF PETITION TO ADMINISTER online to receive e-mail notifications and ESTATE OF updates on proposed fee changes. To Sheila Stephens subscribe, go to www.yolocounty.org, CASE NO. PR-2020-0176 select the Email Subscription Signup and To all heirs, beneficiaries, creditors, check ‘County Fees.’ contingent creditors, and persons who may otherwise be interested in the will Dated: Dec. 4 and 9, 2020 or estate, or both, of: Sheila Stephens Lupita Ramirez, Deputy Clerk A PETITION FOR PROBATE has been Yolo County Board of Supervisors filed by: Deborah Stephens in the 12/4, 12/9 1073 Superior Court of California, County of: Yolo PUBLIC NOTICE THE PETITION FOR PROBATE requests that: Deborah Stephens be appointed LEGAL NOTICE as personal representative to administer BOARD OF SUPERVISORS the estate of the decedent. NOTICE OF PUBLIC HEARING THE PETITION requests authority to administer the estate under the NOTICE IS HEREBY GIVEN that the Yolo Independent Administration of Estates County Board of Supervisors will be Act. (This authority will allow the personal conducting a public hearing on Tuesday, representative to take many actions December 15, 2020 at 9:00 a.m., or as without obtaining court approval. Before soon thereafter as the matter can be taking certain very important actions, heard, during the regularly scheduled however, the personal representative will meeting of the Board of Supervisors. The be required to give notice to interested meeting will be held virtually pursuant persons unless they have waived notice to Executive Order N-29-20 (March 17, or consented to the proposed action.) 2020) with participation instructions as The independent administration set forth on meeting agenda posted to authority will be granted unless an the County website (www.yolocounty. interested person files an objection to org) and available for viewing outside the petition and shows good cause why of the County Administration Building the court should not grant the authority. located at 625 Court Street, Woodland, A HEARING on the petition will be held CA 95696 at least 72 hours in advance of on December 3, 2020 at 9:00 a.m. in the meeting. Department 9 located at 1000 Main Street, Woodland, CA 95695. The Board of Supervisors will hold a IF YOU OBJECT to the granting of public hearing to act upon a request for the petition, you should appear at the authorization to further study a General hearing and state your objections or file Plan Amendment, Rezone, and Use written objections with the court before Permit proposed by Heer Development the hearing. Your appearance may be in to develop a truck stop near Zamora. person or by your attorney. The request seeks to amend the General IF YOU ARE A CREDITOR or a contingent Plan to change the land use designation creditor of the decedent, you must file on Assessor’s Parcel Number 055-150your claim with the court and mail a copy 008, an approximately 17.5-acre parcel to the personal representative appointed located south of Zamora along the by the court within the later of either Interstate 5 corridor, from Agriculture (1) four months from the date of first (AG) to Commercial General (CG). A issuance of letters to a general personal Rezone from Agricultural Commercial representative, as defined in section 58(b) (A-C) to Highway Services Commercial of the California Probate Code, or (2) 60 (C-H) and a Use Permit would also be days from the date of mailing or personal required. The study will also include a delivery to you of a notice under section comparative analysis of an agriculturally9052 of the California Probate Code. related use, as permissible in the Other California statutes and legal Agricultural Intensive Zone, that would authority may affect your rights as a creditor. You may want to consult not require a General Plan Amendment. with an attorney knowledgeable in California law. YOU MAY EXAMINE the file kept by the court. If you are a person interested in the estate, you may file with the court a Request for Special Notice (form DE-154) of the filing of an inventory and appraisal of estate assets or of any petition or account as provided in Probate Code section 1250. A Request for Special Notice form is available from the court clerk. Signed: Nicholas D. Yonano, Esq. Attorney for petitioner Yonano Law Offices, P.C. 4944 Windplay Drive, Suite 119 El Dorado Hills, CA 95762 (916)817-4422 12/2, 12/4, 12/9 1070
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Wrong! During a talk about our childhood viral diseases, I made the excruciatingly difficult decision to tell him I had GH. His response was, “Oh, wow!” Then silence, followed by a change of subject. We hung up, and he has not called me or answered my calls since. I am so broken-hearted. Kenny effectively told me that my having GH negated every single good quality that he saw in me. So Annie, what do you say to people like me who do the right thing and to people like Kenny who are on the receiving end of this news? There are a lot of us out there who have GH. — Rejected Dear Rejected: To those on the receiving end of this news, I’d say keep an open mind. HSV-2 is more common than you’d think. In the United States, more than 1
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An authorization from the Board of Supervisors would not approve the General Plan Amendment or other required entitlements and permits, but is a preliminary step that would allow the proposal to be environmentally evaluated and processed by the Department of Community Services, as per Yolo County Code Section 8-2.223. If the planning and environmental review process moves forward, the entire project would return to the Planning Commission and Board of Supervisors for separate public hearings before a decision can be made on the General Plan Amendment, comparative analysis, and other required approvals and permits. This request for authorization is statutorily exempt from the Environmental Quality Act. Anyone who wishes to comment on this matter may do so in advance by emailing clerkoftheboard@yolocounty.org or telephonically at the public hearing. All documents related to this application are available at the Office of the Clerk of the Board, 625 Court Street, Room 204, Woodland, CA 95695, by telephone (530) 666-8195, or at the Yolo County Web site (www.yolocounty.org). Dated: December 4, 2020 Lupita Ramirez, Deputy Clerk Yolo County Board of Supervisors 12/4 1074