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Cyberbullying solutions Dear Annie: This is about the young girl who was being bullied by some schoolgirls. Our daughter got bullied, and I want to share how my wife handled it.

She invited the mothers and daughters over for coffee and dessert. She made it clear the invitation was mandatory. They all came. It was a nice meeting.

She explained what was going on and why bullying is unacceptable. If it didn’t stop, she said, she would take further action, and no one wants that to happen. The mothers were surprised to hear what their daughters were doing.

It not only stopped, but the girls all became friends. I’m sure all their lives changed. Bullying can scar some people for life.

— A Solution Dear Solution: It’s amazing that your wife took the high road and taught your daughter to do the same. It is good that the bully and her mother showed up. If they had refused, more serious action like letting the school know would have been mandatory.

Many readers reacted to this column. Read on to see more letters on cyberbullying.

Dear Annie: You missed one important piece of advice to Concerned Mother about her daughter being cyberbullied. Contact her school. Most schools have programs in place to deal with students who engage in cyberbullying. The mother and daughter are obligated to try and prevent this from happening to others, and the school needs to be made aware that this is happening, even though it didn’t take place in a classroom setting.

— School First Dear Annie: I have been in education for 18 years. I have been a teacher, department chair, dean and an assistant principal.

So I read with interest the letter from Concerned Mother about her daughter being cyberbullied.

Mom needs to contact her daughter’s school principal. Even though the party took place outside of school and off school grounds, it is still affecting the

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daughter and her schooling. In most states, the principal can still take action against the girl(s) who posted the modified picture and made disparaging comments.

Additionally, the school might have mental health professionals who could help her daughter.

— PhD in Education Dear Annie: I would like to add to your response to Concerned Mother, whose 14-year-old daughter was bullied over social media by someone she thought was her friend.

I think you missed an opportunity to teach both girls a life lesson.

The parents of this young lady, in my view, should have reached out to the other girl’s parents in person to talk about what their daughter is doing on social media.

They might be unaware. It would give them a chance to hold their daughter accountable for a very negative behavior. It would also teach the girl who was victimized how to stand up for herself in an appropriate way.

It might be better if the parents, after talking, arranged an in-person meeting between all four parents and the two girls, to talk about accountability for rude, hurtful behaviors and the full impact they can have on another human being. I would want to know if my child did that to another.

There would definitely be consequences, such as no social media for a while, no phone, monitoring her posts and contacts, as well as therapy.

If my daughter was the victim, I would have therapy for her as well.

As parents, our job is to teach our children how to be good people with integrity. We need to teach by example, with love.

— Empathic Parent Dear Empathic Parent: Thank you for your letter. I love the idea of taking a hurtful situation and turning it into a learning opportunity. That is the only way we can stop bullying from taking place.

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Dear Annie: My husband had an emotional affair with his boss.

He texted her, called her and tried to go out with her. She did not reciprocate and, as far as I know, kept it strictly business. He told her his feelings, but she told him she was not interested. He quit his job after that but continued to text her, asking her to go out. She didn’t reply.

When I found out, he told me he just wanted to have sex with her, and her not giving in made him pursue her more. Now, I feel in second place in my marriage.

Would he still be here if had she had said yes? What were his true feelings?

They only worked together and were never physically intimate. I am lost and don’t know what to do.

— Lost and Alone Dear Lost: What your husband did to you was disgraceful. You have every right to be upset and hurt. His intentions were enough for you to leave. You should seek the help of a professional marriage counselor to decide whether it is worth staying together. Best of luck.

——— Dear Annie: I’m a 24-year-old new mom to a gorgeous son. But I discovered that my husband was — and I’m 100% sure still is — cheating on me with someone who I thought I could trust. She has known us since I found out I was pregnant.

On the day that I brought my son home from the hospital, she was the first person to hold him outside of my husband and me.

He keeps saying that she’s distancing herself from him because he turned her down for sex, but I went through his phone and saw a message from her saying to come over, and he said he was on his way.

I don’t know what to do. I love him so much, and he’s the father of my son. Help please.

— Shocked and Saddened Dear Shocked and Saddened: Congratulations on the birth of your gorgeous son. I am so sorry

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that your husband is unable to be present for you and your newborn. Sadly, some men feel jealous of a newborn and sometimes act out. This awareness in no way excuses his behavior.

While you can’t control his actions, you can control yours.

Stop snooping on his phone and start having real and honest conversations with him about his infidelity. If this is to work, you have to seek the help of a counselor.

——— Dear Annie: I remember when my husband, my kid’s dad, used to threaten me with leaving if I didn’t kick out whichever kid had incurred his wrath. This would happen more times than not, with my pointing out that you don’t kick your kids out of the house because they make you angry or are irritating you.

Finally, I got tired of it, as it left our kids and me mentally and emotionally drained for days.

The next time the threat was issued, I didn’t say anything.

Instead, I walked out to the garage and started bringing boxes in, along with a suitcase. He asked me what I was doing, and where did I think I was going? I told him that I wasn’t going anywhere but that since he was leaving, he’d need to pack his stuff.

Tell Grandma that if “Grumpy Gramp” honestly loved her, he wouldn’t ask her to choose between her grandkids and him.

The relationship children have with their grandparents creates memories that last a lifetime.

Grumpy Gramp can be replaced. I’m sure he understands that the door swings both ways.

— Been There Dear Been There: Thank you for your letter. It highlights the importance of standing up to bullies, which is usually the best way to make them stop.

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Gaining confidence Dear Annie: Lately, I have been feeling like I am not good enough.

I have anxiety and depression, which I have had since I was young, to the point where I have attempted suicide four times. I used to have anorexia and bulimia and cut myself on my arms and legs. I had thought this was the one thing in my life I had control over. I am not proud of myself for those days.

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Public Notices  PUBLIC NOTICE FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT Prime Development Land for Sale Filed: October 1, 2020 FBN Number: F20200816 SEALED BID SALE 1. Fictitious Business Name(s) Suggested Asking Price: $3,500,000 Classic Business Solutions 2. Street Address, City, State and Zip of 3031 2nd Street, Davis, CA 95618; Principal Place of Business in California. ±6.56 acre development parcel, Business is located in Yolo County.

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4. Business Classification: Individual Bids to be delivered to The Regents of 5. Beginning Date of Business: The the University of California, c/o RESS Registrant(s) commenced to transact 1111 Franklin St., 6th Floor, Oakland, business under the fictitious business CA 94607-5200. Attn: Brendon Lydon, name or names listed above on: N/A no later than 5:00PM PST on Thursday, “I declare that all information in November 12, 2020. Public bid opening this statement is true and correct.” will be on Friday, November 13, 2020 (A registrant who declares as true at 10AM. information which he or she knows to be 10/14, 10/21, 10/28 1009 false is guilty of a crime.)

6. Signature of Registrant(s): PUBLIC NOTICE Muhammad Ahmad Waheed NOTICE OF SALE-LIQUOR LICENSE 10/7, 10/14, 10/21, 10/28 1005 Pursuant to BPC 24049.5 and RTC 6796, the California Department of Tax & Fee Administration (CDTFA) will sell the following ABC License during a public auction held at 3321 Power Inn Road, Sacramento, CA 95826 on November 11th at 10:00 am, unless the liability is paid by the licensee. 47-453679 (Yolo) Minimum bid $30,000. Contact CDTFA at (916)309-8779 10/14, 10/21, 10/28 1013

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I have children now, and my son, at 14 years old, questions himself like I did — and do. I keep comparing myself to women, and not just women but my best friends, from their faces to their bodies.

Even though I have been told I am beautiful, I never believe it.

And it’s so hard sometimes because I don’t want my son to go down the same road as me. I keep thinking, what if I never learn to love myself and be confident?

Will I teach him to be in the world without a voice, questioning everything he does? Will he believe he is not handsome and ruin his relationships, like I have, with his insecurities? I am scared, honestly, because I see so much of myself in him, and even though I try to say positive things about myself, I just never can.

When I am depressed, I cry on and off all day; I can’t concentrate on anything and am constantly telling myself that I’m not worth it, that I’m not skinny enough, that I’m not beautiful because I don’t have long flowing hair. I don’t want to leave this earth not loving myself. I don’t want to leave this earth not teaching my babies that they are beautiful and that they deserve to be heard.

I know that the things I do affect them. In my mind, I am sure I can change it, but in my heart, I’m this little girl who felt unprotected and grew up being bullied and wearing glasses and the only thing I had going for me was that I was the smartest child in my class. I guess what I’m needing to know is this: How do you build confidence? How do you stop your child from repeating your life?

— Hurting Dear Hurting: You should seek the help of a professional therapist as soon as possible. You are dealing with depression, low selfworth and what sounds like a continued eating disorder. None of these diseases is your fault, but you must get help. You are incredibly self-aware, which is half the healing journey.

Clearly, you suffered trauma when you were younger, being bullied, and you are projecting that experience onto your son.

This is very typical thing for parents, and it is not fair to our children. But the good news is that you are aware and want to end this cycle.

As for building confidence, start with that you are a wise and caring mother who wants to be emotionally healthy for your children. Soak that in.

Appreciate all you have done to accomplish that. So much of good parenting comes from modeling good behaviors, and showing yourself appreciation will allow your son to appreciate himself, too. You can even say to your son that his mom sometimes feels insecure, but she wants to change and is seeking the help of a professional t to do so.

Being an open-minded person willing to look at yourself, admit your mistakes and say you need help is a wonderful example to set for your children. Try not to be so hard on yourself. You sound wonderful, and so does your son.

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FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT Filed: October 5, 2020 FBN Number: F20200823 1. Fictitious Business Name(s) STOARCEY RESEARCH 2. Street Address, City, State and Zip of Principal Place of Business in California.

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506 Marina Circle Davis, CA 95616 3. List Full Name(s) of Registrant(s), Residence Address, State, and Zip Stuart Andrew Ross 506 Marina Circle Davis, CA 95616 4. Business Classification: Individual 5. Beginning Date of Business: The Registrant(s) commenced to transact business under the fictitious business name or names listed above on: July 27, 2011 “I declare that all information in this statement is true and correct.”

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6. Signature of Registrant(s): Stuart A. Ross 10/14, 10/21, 10/28, 11/4 1018

FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT Filed: October 2, 2020 FBN Number: F20200819 1. Fictitious Business Name(s) Spotlight 2. Street Address, City, State and Zip of Principal Place of Business in California.

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2312 Lassen Place Davis, CA 95616 Mailing address: 105 E Street Suite 2A Davis, CA 95616 3. List Full Name(s) of Registrant(s), Residence Address, State, and Zip Opinion Interactive LLC 2312 Lassen Place Davis, CA 95616 4. Business Classification: Limited Liability Company 5. Beginning Date of Business: The Registrant(s) commenced to transact business under the fictitious business name or names listed above on: November 9, 2015 “I declare that all information in this statement is true and correct.”

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FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT Filed: September 25, 2020 FBN Number: F20200802 1. Fictitious Business Name(s) El Pantano 2. Street Address, City, State and Zip of Principal Place of Business in California.

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425 East Street Woodland, CA 95776 3. List Full Name(s) of Registrant(s), Residence Address, State, and Zip Jessica Gamez 425 East Street Woodland, CA 95776 4. Business Classification: Individual 5. Beginning Date of Business: The Registrant(s) commenced to transact business under the fictitious business name or names listed above on: September 24, 2020 “I declare that all information in this statement is true and correct.”

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6. Signature of Registrant(s): Jessica Gamez 10/28, 11/4, 11/11, 11/18 1031

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