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Teaching gratitude Dear Annie: Many of the letters to you complain of ungrateful children and adults who don’t send thank-you’s, don’t call, or who are otherwise ungrateful. Too often, children (aka future adults) are taught to be takers, not givers, so they don’t build habits of giving, giving back, or sending replies. Let’s change that. Starting early, let’s teach children to feel joy as givers themselves. Teach youngsters to pack up a few of their too-small, but clean clothes, outgrown or neglected toys, already-completed puzzles, etc., and let them go with you to drop them off at a local donation center or shelter in need. Designate a box for donations to always have somewhere in your house. When they receive a gift, help them write a thank you, help a tot to include inside a thank you a smiling face picture they have drawn. With grown kids, children or grandchildren, especially if they never or seldom reply, or if they just have a surfeit of “things,” tell them you have sent a check to a charity in their name. They may then think to do the same. Take this as a lifetime project, and don’t limit your own giving to family, etc., but reach out to the world, after a flood or fire or refugee situation. Include something in your seasonal letter about your joy in giving to some worthwhile organization (but check with Charity Navigator for the reliability of the charity, especially with money gifts). There are a great many needs near home or across the world. Let you be a giver! And encourage children, and others in your family and beyond, to do the same. — Dick Nelson, Retired Counselor Educator Dear Dick: Fantastic advice that, if followed on a mass scale, would help create a more generous world. Thanks for writing. ——— Dear Annie: I’m sure your inbox gets flooded this time of year about problem relatives and holiday dinners. My 35-year-old nephew, “Nick,” has been separated from his wife, “Nora,” for the past three years. They have five children under the age of 7.
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Nick, Nora and the kids all come to Thanksgiving dinner, and the children act like wild banshees the whole time. Nick and Nora sit at separate tables and ignore one another and their children. I don’t think they have ever said “no” to these children. Nick just sits at the table, staring, like a deer caught in the headlights. Other members of the family bring their young children, and those children are well-behaved. I’ve never had children or been around them so I’m already starting at an uncomfortable place. I need a tranquilizer after Thanksgiving dinner. It’s my youngest brother and his wife, “Rose,” who host the dinner, as they are the only ones with a big enough house. I confided in my Rose that it would be a much more peaceful celebration if they didn’t invite Nick, Nora and their kids this year. Rose agreed but said that wasn’t being a good Christian to not invite them. I told her that when Jesus said to turn the other cheek, he didn’t say, “Let the person slap the heck out of you.” Rose said, “What if Nora invites herself?” I answered it was all about what she wanted, and I wouldn’t say anything else about it. What do you think? — Fed Up Dear Fed Up: Rose’s house, Rose’s guest list. I suggest you take up meditation or another calming practice between now and then and engage in said calming activity before heading to her house on Thanksgiving. If and when the noise gets to be too much, take your leave, and be grateful you only have to be in the middle of the hullabaloo for a few hours every year versus 24 hours a day.
Sink or swim Dear Annie: My sister-in-law of more than 40 years has again done something that I feel is disrespectful. She has taken one of my granddaughters under her wing. What’s wrong with that? A few years ago, our then-21year-old granddaughter moved in with us to save money. We gave
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her three months, rent-free, to get on her feet; her grandfather also cooked lunch and dinner for her, without cost. She agreed to save $1,000 a month and use it to rent an apartment and eventually it became a down payment on a house. She ended up living with us for almost two and a half years. During that time, she should have saved more than $20,000. Instead, she invested thousands into a scam business by a boyfriend. We were ready to ask her to move out late last year, but then she learned she was pregnant. We agreed to support her until the baby was born. She agreed she would have her own apartment before the baby came but stay with us till she went into labor. Well, she never actually went to look at apartments, just found excuses why none of them would work. One day, I found one she could afford, in a good neighborhood, not too far from her work. She refused to even go look at it, and over the next hour or so, in text messages, she became belligerent. When she said: “You’re stressing me out! If I lose this baby, I hope you commit suicide!” That was the last straw. We packed her stuff, put it on the porch and changed the locks. (We’re in our 70s, we weren’t prepared for an angry 20-something.) On that day, she had probably $7,000 in savings and could have easily rented an apartment. Now, enter my sister-in-law, “Mayra.” Mayra basically gave her a get-out-of-jail-free card and undercut the independence that we were trying to instill in our granddaughter. Mayra lets her stay there with her sometimes. She babysits for her. She lets her use her address for mail. Meanwhile, our daughter lives in a group home provided by a church she never went to, has lost her job and blames us for all of it to anyone who will listen. I don’t want to confront Mayra because I don’t want to implode
the family, again. But I don’t want to pretend that nothing is wrong. So I’ve just been avoiding talking to her. How do I handle these two relationships, or better, how do I NOT? — Peeved Parents Dear Peeved: You were wise to push this overgrown birdy out of the nest so that she might learn how to fly. Now, let her learn. Don’t track her every move from your perch up above. If your sister-in-law chooses to take her under her wing, that is between the two of them, and it’s in no way a personal affront to you. Once you unburden of the illusion that you can control your granddaughter’s life, I think you’ll find the resentment toward your sister-in-law starting to melt away, and you’ll feel much lighter for it.
Caught in the middle Dear Annie: I have close friends who in the past few years have gravitated to both the far left and far right of the sociopolitical spectrum. It has made it hard on both my wife and me, as we sit somewhere in the middle. Today’s environment does not seem to allow for compromise or conversations of differing opinions. I love my friends dearly, but have found myself less and less likely to join them in social gatherings. This is because conversations always turn to politics, and the sarcasm, and sometimes vitriol, of my friends’ opinions ruins what should be a happy gettogether. The pandemic does not help, as it adds another layer of opinion to the conversation and limits the number of times we can all get together. I miss when we all could just get together and enjoy each other’s company. Now, my wife and I would rather sit at home alone with the kids than go out and see anyone. I’m not sure how to deal with an isolation that is both pandemic and socially caused. How do we find a way to get back to a time when a get-together was a chance to unwind and visit with friends? — Stuck in the Middle Dear Stuck in the Middle: You’re not alone. Our politics are extremely polarized these days. My advice is to agree in advance not to discuss politics, which
includes a rule saying no snide cracks from either side. That way, you can all enjoy the many things that made you friends in the first place. If they can’t go along, then you are right to stay home with your wife and kids, but try to persuade your friends to get together to share the many bonds and interests you all have without political interference. ——— Dear Annie: This is regarding the man who was not interested in being a grandparent. We have a daughter, and bringing her up was a privilege, but being a grandparent is 100 times better. We have a 27-month-old granddaughter and another on the way, due just before the holidays. I have friends who say it is better than being a parent because you don’t change diapers. Well, we still change the occasional diaper, but the greatest part is that we do not see our granddaughter every day but (until COVID-19) perhaps twice every three weeks. We have become amazingly aware just how fast young children grow. She is so different every week or two, something we never noticed when our daughter was young. It is a real treat to see our granddaughter say new words or express new ideas that were completely off the radar a few weeks before. I used to smoke and gave it up 35 years ago so I could make sure I was here to see my daughter grow up. But the privilege of seeing my granddaughter is an even better reason, and something I could never have imagined as being so rewarding. A few weeks ago, she was visiting and wanted to come to the basement with me to try and find something. I told her she could only go if she held my hand on the stairs. It was as good a feeling as I have ever had. — Loving Grandpa Dear Grandpa: I love your letter because you seem to appreciate all the joys of children and being a grandparent. The image of your granddaughter grabbing for your hand and walking down the stairs, and your appreciation for it, is very touching. It is finding those little moments of joy that make for a great big lifetime of happiness.
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ORDER TO SHOW CAUSE FOR CHANGE OF NAME Case Number: CV2020-1275 1. Saravady Me filed a petition with this court for a decree changing names as follows: Saravady Thida Me to Saravady Elliot Thida 2. THE COURT ORDERS that all persons interested in this matter shall appear before this court at the hearing indicated below to show cause, if any, why the petition should not be granted. NOTICE OF HEARING Date: November 18, 2020 Time: 9 a.m. Dept: 9 Room: N/A The address of the court is 1000 Main Street, Woodland, CA 95695 3. a) A copy of this Order to Show Cause shall be published at least once a week for four successive weeks prior to the date set for hearing on the petition in the following newspaper of general circulation, printed in this county: The Davis Enterprise 315 G Street, Davis, CA 95616 Date: September 30, 2020 Daniel M. Wolk Judge of the Superior Court 1001 10/4, 10/11, 10/18, 10/25 FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT Filed: September 23, 2020 FBN Number: F20200796 1. Fictitious Business Name(s) Community Development Fund 2. Street Address, City, State and Zip of Principal Place of Business in California. Business is located in Yolo County. 2934 Boathouse Avenue Davis, CA 95616 3. List Full Name(s) of Registrant(s), Residence Address, State, and Zip California Statewide Community Development Fund, Inc. 426 D Street Davis, CA 95616 4. Business Classification: Corporation 5. Beginning Date of Business: The Registrant(s) commenced to transact business under the fictitious business name or names listed above on: N/A “I declare that all information in this statement is true and correct.” (A registrant who declares as true information which he or she knows to be false is guilty of a crime.) 6. Signature of Registrant(s): Barbara A. Vohryzek 1003 10/4, 10/11, 10/18, 10/25
PUBLIC NOTICE NOTICE OF CURRENT PROPERTY TAXES DUE Made pursuant to Section 2609, Revenue and Taxation Code Chad Rinde, Yolo County Tax Collector, hereby announces that regular secured tax bills will be mailed on or before November 1, 2020, to all property owners, at the addresses shown on the tax roll. Owners of property in Yolo County that do not receive a tax bill by November 10, should contact the tax collector’s office, 625 Court Street, Room 102, Woodland, California or call 530-666-8190. Failure to receive a tax bill does not relieve the taxpayer of the responsibility to make timely payments. The FIRST INSTALLMENT of 2020/2021 taxes is due and payable on November 1, 20202, and will become delinquent if not paid by 5:00 P.M. on December 10, 2020; thereafter a 10% penalty will be added. The SECOND INSTALLMENT will be due on February 1, 2021 and will become delinquent if not paid by 5:00 P.M. on April 10, 2021; thereafter a 10% penalty and $10 cost charge will be added. BOTH INSTALLMENTS MAY BE PAID when the first installment is due. SUPPLEMENTAL TAX BILLS are an additional tax liability due to a reassessment of property value and are due on the date the bill is mailed. Supplemental delinquent dates should be checked to be sure the taxes are paid timely. Mail payments to P.O. Box 4400, Whittier, California 90607. The envelope must be POSTMARKED BY THE DELINQUENT DATE to avoid late penalties. Payments may also be made in person at the County Tax Collector’s office, 625 Court Street, Room 102, Woodland, California between the hours of 8:00 A.M. to 4:00 P.M., Monday through Friday, holidays excepted. Credit card or e-check payments may be made at www.yolocounty.org, in the office or by telephone at (877)590-0714. Chad Rinde Yolo County Tax Collector Executed at Woodland, Yolo County, California, on October 14, 2020. Published in the Davis Enterprise on October 18th and October 25th, 2020. 10/18, 10/25 1020
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ORDER TO SHOW CAUSE FOR CHANGE OF NAME Case Number: CV2020-1374 1. Annah Elizabeth Webb filed a petition with this court for a decree changing names as follows: Annah Elizabeth Webb to Anny Baker 2. THE COURT ORDERS that all persons interested in this matter shall appear before this court at the hearing indicated below to show cause, if any, why the petition should not be granted. NOTICE OF HEARING Date: December 3, 2020 Time: 9 a.m. Dept: #10 Room: N/A The address of the court is 1000 Main Street, Woodland, CA 95695 3. a) A copy of this Order to Show Cause shall be published at least once a week for four successive weeks prior to the date set for hearing on the petition in the following newspaper of general circulation, printed in this county: The Davis Enterprise 315 G Street, Davis, CA 95616 Date: October 20, 2020 Samuel T. McAdam Judge of the Superior Court 10/25, 11/1, 11/8, 11/15 1029 ORDER TO SHOW CAUSE FOR CHANGE OF NAME Case Number: CV2020-1407 1. Dorian Aceves Moreno filed a petition with this court for a decree changing names as follows: Dorian Aceves Moreno to Francisco Dorian Espinoza Moreno 2. THE COURT ORDERS that all persons interested in this matter shall appear before this court at the hearing indicated below to show cause, if any, why the petition should not be granted. NOTICE OF HEARING Date: December 11, 2020 Time: 9 a.m. Dept: #9 Room: N/A The address of the court is 1000 Main Street, Woodland, CA 95695 3. a) A copy of this Order to Show Cause shall be published at least once a week for four successive weeks prior to the date set for hearing on the petition in the following newspaper of general circulation, printed in this county: The Davis Enterprise 315 G Street, Davis, CA 95616 Date: October 21, 2020 Daniel M. Wolk Judge of the Superior Court 10/25, 11/1, 11/8, 11/15 1030