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annoyed that your food might not have been ordered. It sounds like your friends were thinking more about themselves than about you. That can happen, and in the end, it is your choice to either accept their faults and try to focus on the good of your friends, or to relive your anger at one dinner. You would be a lot happier if you let it go.
Friends have bad table manners Dear Annie: I recently dined out with three friends. The restaurant was very busy, and we waited for nearly two hours for our food. We were drinking and enjoying a band, so it wasn’t that bad. I went to the restroom and was literally gone for three minutes. When I came back, the food had been served except for mine. My place-setting was empty. My three friends were chowing down and told me the server couldn’t remember what I ordered. And I was like: “What does that mean? Does that mean my dinner order was not placed? What is the server doing about it?” And they shrugged. I looked around for the server and didn’t see anybody. The restaurant was extremely crowded and busy, and there were no servers in sight. I didn’t know how long it would be until I would see wait staff and was annoyed and a little panicked that I might have to wait two hours for dinner all over again. I got up and walked around the restaurant until I found someone to help. Turns out that my food was waiting for me in the kitchen all along, and it was brought to me. I was annoyed that my friends made no attempt to solve the issue in my absence but happily ate their own dinners. One of them could have texted me or come to the restroom to say that food was being served. I definitely would have done this for any of them. All they did was eat their meals, which is bad table manners anyway, and let me fend for myself. I was visibly annoyed for several minutes after, but I got over it and didn’t allow the incident to ruin the night. I think one of my friends is now mad at me because I was upset about the situation. And now that makes me mad all over again because this is a friend of mine who, in the past, has actually put our wine glasses side by side to make sure I didn’t have more than she did. So, how does she deny me the right to have been angry that I had bad service? I feel they should have tried to help while the server was available. Again, I was gone for all of three minutes. I think I made her feel guilty for not helping, and that’s why’s she’s mad. Thoughts? — Hungry in NJ Dear Hungry in NJ: No one is perfect. You get annoyed with your friend about her pettiness with the wine glass, and she gets annoyed with you about being
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husband refuse to tell their ters religious. Unfortunately, not Dear Am I Wrong: You’re not 6-year-old daughter. I under- only did they continue to inter- being overly sensitive. But I see no stand that grief is very personal fere with our parenting, but they need to tell your son what a miserfor everyone. But her decision to also continued to speak nega- able old crank his grandpa is. At withhold his death is affecting my tively about me to my wife con- this point, he’s probably figured family. My niece is not allowed stantly. Years of such comments that out for himself. Likewise, you inside our house, for fear she have caused great strain on my should give your wife more credit. might ask about her grandpop. marriage, and I believe, at this We don’t get to choose our families, but we do get to choose our partMy young children are not point, divorce is inevitable. The way I see it, my in-laws ners, and your wife chose you. allowed to speak about their grandpop in her presence — no forced my wife (who is an only Don’t lose sight of that fact. While memories, no references whatso- child) to choose between them it’s hurtful that she hasn’t stood up and me. She’s tried to remain neu- for you too much until that point, ever. I have confronted my sister tral, and I do my best to ignore you should try expressing that to about my concerns, and she told their snark, but I’ve come to her constructively so that you me that they’ll parent the way believe there’s no solution to this might have the chance to work through it. Twenty years of marthat they want to. I agree that problem other than to split up. And on top of all they’ve done to riage warrants at least a few hours they have that right. But it’s been six months, and she still is telling our marriage, my father-in-law of couples counseling before throwmy children they cannot talk has taken to saying he has our old- ing in the towel, I would think. Lastly, though it’s easier said about their grandfather in their est child “in the palm of his hand.” He’s extremely manipulative, and than done, try not to take your cousin’s presence. She has started to exclude us from family activi- this commentary troubles me father-in-law’s jabs personally. I ties for fear that my children will greatly, as our teenager seems guarantee he would have found mention his name and/or disclose blissfully ignorant. My question to fault with any man your wife his death to their cousin. My chil- you is: Should I enlighten our might have married. Some people 5:00 pm pm atas Davis 18-year-old to Central what hasPark are so unhappy with themselves dren are old enough to realize it is - 9:30 occurred in his family, or leave that they derive joy in deriding wrong, and a rift is growing at a The Yolano Scouting Community is hosting an evening of fun and everyone is invited!!! rapid rate. I have spoken to my things as they are because I’m others. That’s his problem, not yours.Derby Don’t car. take the bait. overly sensitive? — AmaILego Wrong us for games and food. Build and race Pinewood personalJoin therapist, the hospice See what is going on with the scouts in our community. therapist and my daughter’s And comprecomplete the evening with a movie in the park! therapist. All three can’t hend my sister’s actions. 5:00 to 9:30 p.m. • Friday, October 22 — Heartbroken • Carnival • MovieCentral in the Park Park• Davis Dear Heartbroken:Food Your sister’s parenting rights end where yours begin. Allow your children to speak as they normally would regarding your dad’s death. Asking them to abide by her dysfunctional dynamics sends the wrong message on multiple levels. Hopefully, your sister comes to her senses with time. But until then, you can’t walk on eggshells just to suit her. And although the situation with your sister may have drawn the focus these past few months, the fact remains that your dad died mere months ago. Be sure to take care of yourself, creating the emotional space to grieve your father. I’m so sorry for your loss.
Friday, October 22, 2021
Dear Annie: My former boyfriend and I were in a serious, exclusive relationship for nearly six years. While we never lived together, we were intimately close and spent most nights together. He always told me how much he loved me and that I was the best. Seven months ago, he blindsided me. He broke up with me, in the coldest, least empathetic way possible. I hardly even recognized him as he spoke. He said that we’d been a great couple, and I cried hearing him speak about our relationship in the past tense that way. Since breaking up with me, he suddenly bought a house and cut off all contact with me. It seems he’s turned to stone and has no remorse. I think about him every day. I feel like an old fool for having loved him, having overlooked his faults all these years. I’m so ashamed. It’s as though we never happened, since we don’t speak or text at all now. I really feel like a part of me died when we broke up. How did this man forget me so quickly? How could he not feel olano Friends of Scouting Championship present an evening of family, food, and fun. Scout • Pinewood Derby familyShowcase drama Admission is free. The event will highlight Scouting in our any remorse or sadness? He said Do I share All proceeds will benefit the Yolano District Friends of Scouting campaign community. Activities include carnival games, food vendors, Scout with my son? he would always love me. Parents are encouraged to contact the activity if they questions – (916) 704-4720 showcase,sponsor buildingdirectly and racing Lego have Pinewood Derby cars, corporate and — Believe in Love Dear Annie: I’m a father of two youth Pinewood Derby championships, and a screening of “Coco” on a Dear Believe in Love: You amazing children and completely giant inflatable screen. deserve to be with someone who loyal husband of more than 20 wants to be with you. And being years. But I have an ongoing issue Present Coupon at Autumn in the Park for single is better than being with with my parents-in-law, espe(upside down) someone who doesn’t want you. cially my father-in-law. As painful as it is right now, there About 15 years ago, when our Sudoku 1 t Sudoku 2 t will come a day when you’re glad oldest child was a toddler, my inOctober 22, 2021 - Central Park, Davis he ended things. In the mean- laws became upset that I wasn’t time, spend some time as a single pushing religion hard enough in person, nurturing your hobbies, the household. They told my wife friendships and family relation- I was a “bad father.” When I conships, really getting to know fronted my in-laws during a yourself again. future visit, they denied saying it ——— until my wife agreed with me in Dear Annie: Six months ago, front of them. After that, they my dad passed away. My frustra- agreed to leave it to my wife and tion is that my sister and her me to educate our kids in all mat-
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With the ongoing drought and dry weather currently predicted to continue this fall, staff is requesting that City Council conduct a public hearing to implement a reduced watering schedule (of two days NOTICE OF PUBLIC HEARING per week from November 1, 2021 to ADDITIONAL OUTDOOR WATERING February 28, 2022 increasing to three days RESTRICTIONS AND VOLUNTARY 15% per week from March 1, 2022 until the WATER USE REDUCTION CITY-WIDE watering restrictions are lifted or modified CITY OF DAVIS by City Council) to reduce the pressure on regional surface and ground water The Davis City Council will conduct a sources. The Council will also be asked to public hearing at the City Council meeting reaffirm the Governor’s call for a voluntary at 6:30 p.m. on Tuesday, October 19, 2021, in the Community Chambers at 15% reduction on overall water use cityCity Hall, 23 Russell Boulevard, Davis, wide as compared to 2020 water usage. California, for the purpose of receiving comments on potential additional PUBLIC COMMENTS: outdoor watering restrictions. The Council All interested parties are invited to will also reaffirm the Governor’s call for participate in the meeting electronically voluntary 15% reductions in water use or by teleconference, or send written city-wide as compared to water use in comments to Dawn Calciano, City of Davis, 2020. In accordance with AB 361, this Public Works Utilities and Operations meeting may be conducted electronically Department, 1717 Fifth Street, Davis, or by teleconference, without a physical California, 95616; or via email at: water@ location from which members of the cityofdavis.org, by the end of the public public may observe and offer public hearing. For questions, please call the comment. Information on how to observe Public Works Utilities & Operations the meeting and offer public comment Department at (530) 757-5686. The City of electronically or telephonically will be Davis does not transcribe its proceedings. included in the meeting agenda. Please Persons who wish to obtain a verbatim contact the City Clerk’s Office for the record should arrange for attendance approximate time this item will be heard. by a court reporter or for some other acceptable means of recordation. Such DESCRIPTION: arrangements will be at the sole expense On May 10, 2021, Governor Newsom of the person requesting the recordation. signed a drought declaration which Individuals wishing to challenge the action included Yolo County. Following the drought declaration in May, on July 8, 2021 taken on this matter in court are notified Governor Newsom called for a voluntary that, the challenge may be limited to only 15% reduction in water use state-wide those issues raised at the public hearing from 2020 levels. The Executive Order described in this notice, or in written recognized that during the 2012-2016 correspondence delivered to the City drought, Californians took permanent Clerk, at or prior to the public hearing. actions to reduce water consumption that continue to yield benefits. It also Stan Gryczko, Director recognized that local water suppliers and Public Works Utilities & Operations communities have taken steps to improve Department supplies and drought resilience. October 10, 2021 1523 PUBLIC NOTICE