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Grandma feels forgotten Dear Annie: I believe the most valuable lesson my father instilled in me was to do one good deed every day. He always told my sisters and me that we would have a truly meaningful life if we practiced that. He didn’t give us everything we asked for, but he did encourage us to share some of our toys, books and more with other neighborhood kids in need. I remember Dad worked a fulltime job and helped my mother with housework, but he would always take time to give someone a lift, mow a lawn or help a farmer with chores (my father loved farming). Thank you, Dad. I still follow your good example every day. — Your Loving Daughter Dear Loving Daughter: Your father sounds like a wonderful man. A truly happy life is not about one big life event that happens; it is about living each day to the fullest, and the best way to do that is to do good for others. Thank you for sharing your father’s wisdom and example. ——— Dear Annie: I was married for 28 years to a man who was incredibly emotionally abusive. He came and went as if our home were a hotel, and he cheated on me with other women. It took me a long time to “find the door” to leave, but I got a master’s degree while going to school at night and got a teaching job, which allowed me the independence to leave. Besides being abusive, he would use our money for himself. He bought cars and other items while we struggled with basic needs. Fast forward 20 years. I am now retired, but I struggle with trust in relationships, and I am experiencing some post-trau-
matic stress disorder. However, I am proud to have moved on and am doing my best. My ex remarried, and his second wife left him for basically the same reasons I did. I have never remarried. As of July, he is on his third wife. My children are having their children call her “Grandma.” I am brokenhearted. My grandchildren will not be able to differentiate between this new wife and me. After I raised them in such adverse circumstances, they do not care how I feel. I have asked them to call her by her first name or another nickname. They care more about her feelings than mine. Should brand-new step-grandparents be called “Grandma”? Additionally, some of them live in the same town, while I have retired to another state. I am seriously brokenhearted. — Sad Grandma Dear Sad Grandma: Everyone reading your letter feels your pain. You have every right to be sad about this situation. Your children have taken their father’s side in this, possibly out of fear. The good news is that wife number three will probably not last, and the whole family knows who the real grandma is. Tell your children how much this hurts you, but also stress that you love them and your grandchildren and nothing should interfere with that. In the long run, nothing will.
Looking for love Dear Annie: This will be my first time writing to you. I have read your previous work, and you
give sound advice, so I pray you can do the same for me. I have had issues in finding a woman for me, and this is nothing new. I had this same issue starting back in high school. I admit that, at first, I did nothing about it, thinking it would just work itself out. I had time, after all. Well, time is running out. Let me explain further. I said five years ago that if I was not married by 40, I would not have kids. I have no kids at the present time. Well, I am five years closer to 40. I am nervous that I will not make my deadline. More importantly, I feel I will not make my mother a grandmother, and she wants to be a grandmother. I started with the online dating thing and, so far, have not had any success. I’ve met some wonderful women; however, they never want to keep going out with me. I have asked them what the issue is, and the common response I get is that I can come off as being a little insecure or weak. My own assessment is that I am very nice but not a pushover. I love to have conversations, and I love to think. I will give my opinion, even when it is not popular. I have multiple degrees, including a doctorate of education. I have my own home, and I have a job that pays all my bills. I am independent. I’m told often by others that they do not understand why I am not with someone, and I also wonder the same thing. What advice could you give me? — What Am I Doing Wrong? Dear Doing Wrong: The only
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thing you are doing wrong is being too hard on yourself and setting deadlines. Don’t give up too soon. The right girl will come along, but it’s important to look at yourself honestly. First, it was great that you had the confidence to ask the girls why they didn’t want a second date. That type of self-reflection and ability to look at one’s faults, and learn from them in order to grow, are what make for outstanding boyfriends, husbands, fathers and just good people overall. You sound like all of that. Now the most important part is believing that, through the help of a professional therapist or life coach, you can get to the root of what you really want out of a partner — which is not for your mother to become a grandmother. While that is a lovely desire and hopefully happens someday, it cannot be the driving force in your decision-making for a partner. Along with some self-reflection and continuing to put yourself out there, always remember that each rejection is bringing you one step closer to finding the right person for you. ——— Dear Annie: I’m a retired registered nurse practitioner who has helped people with body odors. Among other things available, such as deodorant body washes, absorbent powders, garment pads, cotton clothing and moderating diet, there are prescription deodorants that work very well. Some people have “extra” sweat glands, while others have glands that put in overtime. Talk to your provider for assistance in obtaining these products. Insurance covers most of these items. — Nurse Practitioner Dear Nurse Practitioner: I always love to hear from profes-
sionals. Thank you for your wonderful suggestions.
First relationship post-abuse
Dear Annie: I was in a very controlling and abusive relationship from the time I was 15 until three years ago, when my ex passed away. We were both in our late 30s at the time. After he died, it took me 10 months of searching before I found someone who is kind and caring — just such a sweet guy. But lately, I’ve been frustrated with the dynamics of our relationship. I work seven days a week, nearly 60 hours. He works maybe 10 hours a week. And I would say that 95% of what I make seems to be spent on him and something he needs. And I already pay every single bill that comes to the house — utilities, phone plans, groceries, etc. I’m at my breaking point. I can’t live like this anymore. The happiness seems to have been all wrung out of this relationship. It’s almost starting to feel like my last relationship, just without the abuse. I’ve told him how I feel, and he acts like it’s no big deal and that he’d just like to continue with things the way that they are. I’m not so happy anymore, but I don’t know what to do because he is such a great guy. Please help me. — Very Confused Girlfriend Dear Confused: Just because a relationship isn’t abusive doesn’t mean it’s good, or even healthy, and a great guy wouldn’t dismiss your feelings when you bring them up. But I have to ask why you started paying all his bills in the first place. It sounds as though you’re exhibiting codependent tendencies, which is
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TEMPORARY PART-TIME HELP WANTED Community Services Officer (CSO) Immediate opening. Department: Police. Hours: Flexible hours - typically M-F, 8AM-6PM – approx. 20 hrs./week. Wages: $14.00/hr. to start. Status: Temporary Part Time, No benefits. Duties: Duties include vehicle coordinator, code enforcement, property clerk, and/or data entry.
To Apply: Email letter of interest to policeweb@cityofdavis.org FINAL FILING DATE: 09/17/21 @ 5:00 p.m. or until filled
All interested parties should appear and will be provided an opportunity during the public hearing to present relevant information. Written responses will also be considered at the hearing.
The Yolo County Zoning Administrator will consider the following matter on Wednesday, October 6, 2021, by Pursuant to California Government Code teleconference, beginning at 1:00 p.m. Section 65009(b)(2) and other provisions or as soon thereafter as may be heard. of law, any lawsuit challenging the approval of a project described in this ZF #2021-0032: The Project is a notice shall be limited to only those request for approval of a Minor Use issues raised at the public hearing or Permit to allow a utility contractor to described in written correspondence use an existing office and storage yard delivered for consideration before the to support powerline construction, hearing is closed. maintenance, and storm response. The Project is located at 13975 County *** NOTICE *** Road 97F outside the unincorporated If requested, this agenda can be made community of Yolo (APN: 025-250-017). A available in appropriate alternative Categorical Exemption was prepared for formats to persons with a disability, as the project. (Applicant: Rokstad Power, required by Section 202 of the Americans Inc.; Owner: SKJ Strehle Farms) (Planner: with Disabilities Act of 1990 and the JD Trebec) Federal Rules and Regulations adopted in implementation thereof. Persons seeking ZF #2021-0033: The Project is a an alternative format should contact request for a Use Permit for a County Stephanie Cormier, Principal Planner, determination of Public Convenience for further information. In addition, a and Necessity for an ABC Permit to sell person with a disability who requires beer, wine, and spirits at the United a modification or accommodation, Truckstop in Dunnigan. The Project is including auxiliary aids or services, in located at 29770 County Road 8 in the order to participate in a public meeting unincorporated community of Dunnigan (APN: 052-060-008). A Categorical should telephone or otherwise contact Exemption was prepared for the project. Stephanie Cormier, Principal Planner, as (Applicant/Owner: K&D Partnership) soon as possible and preferably at least 24 hours prior to the meeting. Stephanie (Planner: JD Trebec) Cormier, Principal Planner, may be reached at telephone number 530-666Join the meeting online at: https://yolocounty.zoom.us/j/83813729 8041 or at the following address: Yolo 935?pwd=RlFWMWp4ZkJJcFlJK2dMTTZ County Department of Community Services, 292 West Beamer Street kYmdSQT09 Woodland, CA 95695. Or by phone at 1-408-638-0968 Meeting ID: 838 1372 9935 Password: 189135 The Yolo County Zoning Administrator will consider these matters at the time and place stated above. Staff reports with environmental documentation for the projects are on file in the Yolo County Community Services Department, located at 292 West Beamer Street, Woodland, California, and will be available for review by calling or e-mailing JD Trebec, Senior Planner, (530) 666-8036 or jd.trebec@ yolocounty.org.
*** NOTICE *** Any person who is dissatisfied with the decisions of the Zoning Administrator may appeal to the Planning Commission by filing with the Director of Department of Community Services within fifteen days from the date of the action. A written notice of appeal specifying the grounds and an appeal fee immediately payable to the Yolo County Community Services Department must be submitted at the time of filing. The Planning Commission may sustain, modify or overrule this decision. 9/26 1500
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HELP WANTED Theater Technician, FFD: 10/4/2021
HELP WANTED Parks Manager – Parks & Community Services
Salary: $19.98 - $22.06 / Hour; City of Davis, 23 Russell Blvd., Davis, CA 95616. FFD: 10/4/2021. See job bulletin at www.cityofdavis.org for min. req. or call (530) 757-5644, TDD (530) 757-5666; City emp. appl. req. EOE.
Salary $7,560.89 - $9,190.25 Monthly. City of Davis, 23 Russell Blvd., Davis, CA 95616. FFD: 10/6/21. See job bulletin at www.cityofdavis.org for min. req. or call (530) 757-5644, TDD (530) 757-5666; City emp. appl. req. EOE.
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HELP WANTED WWTP Laboratory Assistant, FFD: 10/11/2021
HELP WANTED Accountant I/II – Finance Department
Salary: $16.97 / Hour; City of Davis, 23 Russell Blvd., Davis, CA 95616. FFD: 10/11/2021. See job bulletin at www.cityofdavis.org for min. req. or call (530) 757-5644, TDD (530) 757-5666; City emp. appl. req. EOE.
Salary $5,950.53 - $7,957.73 Monthly. City of Davis, 23 Russell Blvd., Davis, CA 95616. FFD: 9/13/21. See job bulletin at www.cityofdavis.org for min. req. or call (530) 757-5644, TDD (530) 757-5666; City emp. appl. req. EOE.
PUBLIC NOTICE There will be a lien sale at 2nd Street Storage, 2525 2nd Street, in the City of Davis, County of Yolo, State of California 95618. WEDNESDAY, OCTOBER 20TH AT 12:45 PM (PST). This enforcement is authorized by Division 8, Chapter 10 of the California Business & Professions Code (21700 et seq. California Self-Service Facility Act). Items from sale must be paid in full, with cash only at the time of purchase. All purchased items are sold "as is" and must be removed at the time of sale with unit swept clean. Sale is subject to cancellation in the event of settlement between owner and obligated party. Certain terms and conditions apply.
HELP WANTED Crime Analyst – City of Davis Police Department, FFD: 9/9/2021 Salary: $4,902.63 - $5,959.17 Monthly; City of Davis, 23 Russell Blvd., Davis, CA 95616. FFD: 9/9/2021. See job bulletin at www.cityofdavis.org for min. req. or call (530) 757-5644, TDD (530) 757-5666; City emp. appl. req. EOE.
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PUBLIC NOTICE
ORDINANCE NO. 2611 AN ORDINANCE AMENDING SECTION 22.07.030 OF THE MUNICIPAL CODE OF THE CITY OF DAVIS RELATING TO STOP SIGN INTERSECTION DESIGNATION NOW THEREFORE, THE CITY COUNCIL OF THE CITY OF DAVIS DOES HEREBY ORDAIN AS FOLLOWS: Section 22.07.030, Stop Intersections Designated, is hereby amended by the addition of the following item: • A Street, northbound and southbound at Seventh Street INTRODUCED on the 31th day of August, 2021, and PASSED AND ADOPTED by the City Council of the City of Davis on this 21st day of September, 2021, by a unanimous vote. 9/26 1503
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