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Dear Annie: Your advice to “Feeling Left Out,” the woman who was feeling excluded by two friends who were widows and had invited another widow to go to dinner, was spot on. I became a widow last Christmas morning, and I’d like to add a perspective from a widow’s point of view. I want to address your reader and any others who find themselves feeling excluded by widows who are close. Your friends are not trying to exclude you, but they belong to a club that thankfully you haven’t joined. As a widow, you don’t have to worry about taking a long lunch or dinner date with your friends, because there’s no one waiting for you at home. You don’t have to coordinate your plans around your spouse’s, and you’re pretty much free to come and go as you wish. Please don’t confront them because you’ll only come across as petulant. Trust me when I tell you that they wish they still had someone waiting for them at home. Including another widow is not about you; they recognize that someone they know has experienced the same pain and loss as they have, and they know what kind of loneliness that woman feels. Continue being the friend that they’ve come to
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know and love, and be thankful that you’re not a member in the widows club. — A Widow Dear A Widow: I am so very sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing your experience and explaining the deep connection you feel to other widows. Your shared experience, grief and sadness creates a bond that is unique to your new situation and a source of support for your loss. Send your questions for Annie Lane to dearannie@ creators.com.
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