change the narrative for a happier life

Jana Rossi Staff writer

Who doesn’t need a different perspective, a shift from the negative dialogue subconsciously played in the mind?

El Dorado Hills author Lynn Lok-Payne’s new book, “Speak This Not That Positive Affirmations to Have a Better Day,” shares different ways of phrasing negative thoughts that sometimes plague the subconscious.

The affirmation author acknowledged, having gone through her own period of tragic losses, not every day can be rosy. “Everyone has challenges but with positive self-talk, they can make it out the other side.” Lok-Payne explained. She’s proof of that theory.

Through a series of events, the world she once knew was quickly lost. Her husband of 23 years unexpectedly died and only three weeks later she lost her home in a fire. But she still found hope to pass along. “You go through challenges and come out stronger.”

Journaling her feelings became a way to deal with the mounting grief. “I found writing to be healing,” Lok-Payne shared, adding with a background in sales, she said she never saw herself as a writer. As she continued to pen her feelings and experiences, the tone became more inspirational and she knew she wanted to share her story. “We are so connected,” she said. “Sharing my journey helps to relate and connect with others.”

“Speak This Not That Positive Affirmations to Have a Better Day” is set up with various examples of negative phrases that people sabotage themselves with. Following each negative statement are three positive affirmations that offer the reader a different perspective to which the situation can be looked at.

Replacing “I’m not good enough” with “I surrender the need to be perfect and choose to stop comparing myself to others” or “I love myself just n See Better days, page B5