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Unkind image sharing Dear Annie: Our daughter was almost ready for kindergarten and still was not the least bit interested in writing, coloring or even “Mister Rogers” on PBS, and she was always off playing with her toys or in the backyard. As a precaution, we decided to have her eyes checked before starting kindergarten. Much to our surprise, she tested farsighted. The reason she was not interested in TV, writing or coloring was that she could not see that well. Corrective eyeglasses made a world of a difference. So please include in your advice that before putting kids on medication, have their eyes and hearing tested. — Went at the Problem From a Different Lens Dear Lens: Thank you for your letter. My hope is that it helps other parents get their children’s eyes tested as a possibility for why they are not reading. ——— Dear Annie: I’ve been friends with “Keith” for 15 years. We talk almost daily, enjoy the same things and go on some road trips every year. For the most part, I enjoy his company. Here’s the problem: Keith loves to sneak cellphone photos of people he knows. Invariably, the photos are unflattering, and sometimes they are just mean. He has taken photos of friends who have gained weight, photos showing how they are dressed and photos that make fun of how much they just ate. One friend has some medical issues. Keith snaps photos that make him look extra sick or photos of his medical problem, such as when his hair is falling out. The worst part is that he sends the photos to other friends and always writes something snarky or funny. If he does this with all his friends, I’m sure he does it with me, too, and I told him to stop. It is hurtful and strange. But eventually, he does it again, and I find out by accident. I don’t have many friends, and I enjoy spending time with him, but this photo thing is childish and mean. He’s 56, short, balding, overweight and missing several teeth. What should I do? — Friend of the Bad Shutterbug Dear Friend of the Bad Shutterbug: Your friend is so desperate for attention that his actions are cruel and borderline sadistic. Laughing at other people’s imperfections, or just everyday moments of life, is not funny at all and says a great deal more about Keith than about the person in the photo. While he might be “fun” to hang out with, I would have a long talk with him about your disapproval of making fun of others and taking their picture without their consent. At least 12 states have laws that pertain specifically to nonconsensual image sharing. Tell Keith to cut it out or you will find a new friend, and then follow through. ——— Dear Annie: My young-
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Legals@DavisEnterprise.net est daughter holds my past mistakes as an excuse to not allow me to see my grandchildren. It hurts when she judges and belittles me in front of them, and I often go home in tears. I am seeking counseling on how to communicate and save my relationship with her, which has been a roller coaster. I need the love of my little ones. I get pretty quiet with this going on. I don’t interfere. What can I do? — Hurt Grandmother Dear Hurt Grandmother: What you can do is continue what you are doing. Say you are sorry for the past and that you would like to repair the future. In other words, make amends with her. I’m not sure that your daughter is using your past mistakes as an excuse; rather, she is hurt and afraid by the past. The more you can own your mistakes and show her through actions how much better you are doing, the more repair will happen.
Too many tips? Dear Annie: This is in response to “Let the Truth Out.” I was the woman on the hurt partner end of an affair, and I disagree with your advice not to tell the wife about her husband’s cheating. The cheater informing their spouse is something that rarely happens, which perpetuates the lie. In the end, someone outside the marriage should inform the hurt partner. Hurt partners not knowing about infidelity stifles opportunities for the couple to seek support and does not afford opportunity for partners to move forward. My husband cheated on me 20 years ago. The affair came to light recently, after 41 years of marriage. Only now, with the help of a counselor, are we dealing with the hurt, pain and destruction that this longkept deception caused, and we are finally repairing issues in our marriage. My husband’s affair was with a person with whom he worked. Knowing that the school staff knew and gossiped about the two of them, and it was public knowledge within our community, is extraordinarily hurtful. The fact that no one told me allowed the affair to continue for 14 months. If I had known about the affair when it was going on, it might have ended earlier, and we could have dealt with issues in our marriage 20 years sooner. Yes, it could have ended in divorce, but at least I wouldn’t have been living in a marriage that was a sham for 20 years and could have been with some-
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one deserving of my love. I contend that telling the hurt partner is hurtful but not cruel. In the end, someone informing the hurt partner allows opportunity for healing or for the marriage to be terminated. The real cruelty to the hurt partner is living a lie. Finding out about an affair is devastating, but when the hurt partner is made aware of the deception, the couple has an opportunity to deal with issues in their marriage. No matter what choices are made regarding the marriage, the hurt partner is not living in an unfulfilling marriage fraught with deception. Knowing is a gift. — Wish I Had Known Dear Wish I Had Known: Thank you for your letter, and I hope you and your husband find healing through the truth. If you love him, work on forgiving him, for your sake. Remember the old saying that acid can do more damage to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured. ——— Dear Annie: I was brought up to tip 18% to 20% at restaurants and bars. Exemplary service deserves a little more. We were told waiters and bartenders only earned a few dollars an hour and tips were their livelihood. Now it seems tip jars are everywhere, from bakeries to movie theaters to retail shops to cafes. I don’t understand why people who are doing their job and being paid $10 to $16 an hour expect tips. Ironically, it seems that when I add a tip on a card (especially on takeout), the product is worse, not better. I regret tipping and know if a tip is deemed as insufficient, items will turn up missing or be small or burnt. Besides cooking every meal, what is the solution here? Do you agree there are tip jars at far too many businesses? — Frustrated in Friendswood, Texas Dear Frustrated in Texas: Tipping for good service is a polite and kind gesture. I don’t think there are too many tip jars everywhere, unless, of course, the jar says you must tip. It is simply your choice. Ask yourself why you have such a hard time being generous to people who are serving you a meal or making you a cup of coffee. It feels better to give than receive. Try to keep the smile you get from
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A parent’s unconditional love Dear Mothers: Thank you so much for loving your children unconditionally. May your letters comfort any child who doesn’t feel completely loved and accepted by their parents for any reason. Dear Annie: I am writing to you in response to “Riley,” the gay teen who wrote to you because, since his coming out as gay, his parents have decided that he is no longer invited on family outings or welcome at relatives’ homes. I am the mother of three (out of four) gay children, and this letter broke my heart. No child should be made to feel unloved by their family, especially by their own parents. I understand that when you find out your child is LGBTQ, it can take some adjusting for some parents. You are changing the mindset that you have had about your child for his entire life, but you need to work through that and always love your child. The way these people are treating Riley, quite honestly, just seems cruel. I loved my children the day they were born; I loved my children the day they told me they were gay; and I will love my children every day, because I am their mother. I don’t love my children in spite of the fact that they are gay. I love them because they are gay and that is a part of who they are and a part of what makes them perfect and beautiful. I hope this family gets counseling and finds healing because I don’t believe Riley deserves to spend his teenage years feeling this way. These should be the best years of his life. If Riley needs a surrogate mom when he turns 18, please pass along my info at that point. — Everyone Deserves a Mom Dear Everyone Deserves a Mom: Thank you for your letter. I am printing it so that the other Rileys of the world know they are not alone. Here is a letter from a mom who lost her son: Dear Annie: I would love to tell “Riley” that he is brave. He is strong! He is loved by so many! Never give up! You MATTER!!! My son was not gay, but I lost him at age 15 to suicide. I’d give anything to have him back. If my son had told me he was gay, l would have loved him no differently. He would still be my son. I would have gotten an “extra” son if and when he found his “person.” Parents should truly put aside THEIR opinions on how they want their kids’ lives to be. You can have opinions, but you cannot force your will on them. If you apply force, after a certain point, anger, resentment and a huge rift appears. I’d rather have my son back, gay, bi, straight, purple. Alien. I’d rather have him back than to lose him
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There will be a lien sale at South Davis Storage, 4836 Chiles Rd, Davis, CA 95618 On: Tuesday January 18th 2022 at 11AM This enforcement is authorized by Division 8, Chapter 10 of the California Business & Professions Code, commencing without warranty or guarantee for cash only. Purchased items must be removed immediately following the sale. The personal Property stored with the undersigned by: Chala Holloway FIRST Unit B15 (kids toys, mattress, boombox, clothing, pillows, shoes, handbag, cooler, bedframe) The personal Property stored with the undersigned by: Jessica Heidelberg Second Unit B57 (mattresses, headboard, shoes, clothes, bedding, portable fan, towels, tote boxes) BOND#0342850 Published December 31, 2021, January 7, 2022
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FILED IN YOLO COUNTY CLERK'S OFFICE Jesse Salinas, Yolo County Clerk/Recorder F20220003 01/04/2022 Business is located in YOLO County Fictitious Business Name: Pure Poured Aroma Physical Address: 1955 Lehigh Drive Davis, CA 95616 Mailing Address: Names of Registrant(s)/Owner(s): 1) Jack Allen Meyer 1955 Lehigh Dr. Davis, CA 95616 Business Classification: Individual Starting Date of Business: N/A s/ Jack Allen Meyer Official Title: Corporation Name: I hereby certify that this is a true copy of the original document on file in this office. This certification is true as long as there are no alterations to the document, AND as long as the document is sealed with a red seal. Jesse Salinas, County Clerk/Recorder, State of California, County of Yolo Published January 7, 14, 21, 28, 2022 #1633 FILED IN YOLO COUNTY CLERK'S OFFICE Jesse Salinas, Yolo County Clerk/Recorder F20211030 12/01/2021 Business is located in YOLO County Fictitious Business Name: Fitness System of West Sacramento Physical Address: 2531 Evergreen Ave. West Sacramento, CA 95691 Mailing Address: Names of Registrant(s)/Owner(s): 1) Best Supplement Guide LLC 512 N. Cherokee Ln. Lodi, CA 95240 Business Classification: Limited Liability Company Starting Date of Business: 1/1/2012 s/ Sean Covell Official Title: CEO Corporation Name: Best Supplement Guide LLC I hereby certify that this is a true copy of the original document on file in this office. This certification is true as long as there are no alterations to the document, AND as long as the document is sealed with a red seal. Jesse Salinas, County Clerk/Recorder, State of California, County of Yolo Published December 24, 31, January 7, 14, 2022 #1627 NOTICE OF TRUSTEE'S SALE TS No. CA-21-893636-BF Order No.: 210523613-CA-VOI YOU ARE IN DEFAULT UNDER A DEED OF TRUST DATED 4/23/2004. UNLESS YOU TAKE ACTION TO PROTECT YOUR PROPERTY, IT MAY BE SOLD AT A PUBLIC SALE. IF YOU NEED AN EXPLANATION OF THE NATURE OF THE PROCEEDING AGAINST YOU, YOU SHOULD CONTACT A LAWYER. A public auction sale to the highest bidder for cash, cashier's check drawn on a state or national bank, check drawn by state or federal credit union, or a check drawn by a state or federal savings and loan association, or savings association, or savings bank specified in Section 5102 to the Financial Code and authorized to do business in this state, will be held by duly appointed trustee. The sale will be made, but without covenant or warranty, expressed or implied, regarding title, possession, or encumbrances, to pay the remaining principal sum of the note(s) secured by the Deed of Trust, with interest and late charges thereon, as provided in the note(s), advances, under the terms of the Deed of Trust, interest thereon, fees, charges and expenses of the Trustee for the total amount (at the time of the initial publication of the Notice of Sale) reasonably estimated to be set forth below. The amount may be greater on the day of sale. BENEFICIARY MAY ELECT TO BID LESS THAN THE TOTAL AMOUNT DUE. Trustor(s): LINDA MIZOGAMI, AN UNMARRIED PERSON Recorded: 5/6/2004 as Instrument No. 2004-0019322-00 of Official Records in the office of the Recorder of YOLO County, California; Date of Sale: 1/28/2022 at 12:45 PM Place of Sale: At the North entrance to the City Hall located at 1110 West Capitol Avenue, West Sacramento, CA 95691 Amount of unpaid balance and other charges: $152,568.44 The purported property address is: 417 K STREET, DAVIS, CA 95616 Assessor's Parcel No.: 070331-009-000 NOTICE TO POTENTIAL BIDDERS: If you are considering bidding on this property lien, you should understand that there are risks involved in bidding at a trustee auction. You will be bidding on a lien, not on the property itself. Placing the highest bid at a trustee auction does not automatically entitle you to free and clear ownership of the property. You should also be aware that the lien being auctioned off may be a junior lien. If you are the highest bidder at the auction, you are or may be responsible for paying off all liens senior to the lien being auctioned off, before you can receive clear title to the property. You are encouraged to investigate the existence, priority, and size of outstanding liens that may exist on this property by contacting the county recorder's office or a title insurance company, either of which may charge you a fee for this information. If you consult either of these resources, you should be aware that the same lender may hold more than one mortgage or deed of trust on the property. NOTICE TO PROPERTY OWNER: The sale date shown on this notice of sale may be postponed one or more times by the mortgagee, beneficiary, trustee, or a court, pursuant to Section 2924g of the California Civil Code. The law requires that information about trustee sale postponements be made available to you and to the public, as a courtesy to those not present at the sale. If you wish to learn whether your sale date has been postponed, and, if applicable, the rescheduled time and date for the sale of this property, you may call 916-9390772 for information regarding the trustee's sale or visit this internet website http://www.qualityloan.com, using the file number assigned to this foreclosure by the Trustee: CA-21893636-BF. Information about postponements that are very short in duration or that occur close in time to the scheduled sale may not immediately be reflected in the telephone information or on the internet website. The best way to verify postponement information is to attend the scheduled sale. NOTICE TO TENANT: You may have a right to purchase this property after the trustee auction pursuant to Section 2924m of the California Civil Code. If you are an "eligible tenant buyer," you can purchase the property if you match the last and highest bid placed at the trustee auction. If you are an "eligible bidder," you may be able to purchase the property if you exceed the last and highest bid placed at the trustee auction. There are three steps to exercising this right of purchase. First, 48 hours after the date of the trustee sale, you can call 916-939-0772, or visit this internet website http://www.qualityloan.com, using the file number assigned to this foreclosure by the Trustee: CA-21-893636-BF to find the date on which the trustee's sale was held, the amount of the last and highest bid, and the address of the trustee. Second, you must send a written notice of intent to place a bid so that the trustee receives it no more than 15 days after the trustee's sale. Third, you must submit a bid so that the trustee receives it no more than 45 days after the trustee's sale. If you think you may qualify as an "eligible tenant buyer" or "eligible bidder," you should consider contacting an attorney or appropriate real estate professional immediately for advice regarding this potential right to purchase. The undersigned Trustee disclaims any liability for any incorrectness of the property address or other common designation, if any, shown herein. If no street address or other common designation is shown, directions to the location of the property may be obtained by sending a written request to the beneficiary within 10 days of the date of first publication of this Notice of Sale. If the sale is set aside for any reason, including if the Trustee is unable to convey title, the Purchaser at the sale shall be entitled only to a return of the monies paid to the Trustee. This shall be the Purchaser's sole and exclusive remedy. The purchaser shall have no further recourse against the Trustor, the Trustee, the Beneficiary, the Beneficiary's Agent, or the Beneficiary's Attorney. If you have previously been discharged through bankruptcy, you may have been released of personal liability for this loan in which case this letter is intended to exercise the note holders right's against the real property only. Date: Quality Loan Service Corporation 2763 Camino Del Rio S San Diego, CA 92108 619-645-7711 For NON SALE information only Sale Line: 916-939-0772 Or Login to: http://www.qualityloan.com Reinstatement Line: (866) 645-7711 Ext 5318 Quality Loan Service Corp. TS No.: CA21-893636-BF IDSPub #0176011 1/7/2022 1/14/2022 1/21/2022 #1629