WEDNESDAY, JANUARY 5, 2021 B5
THE DAVIS ENTERPRISE
Dear Annie: I was married 45-plus years when my husband passed away. After being alone for a few years, I married a longtime family friend. His wife had passed away several years earlier. He pursued me and is a good man, and we seem to be happy together. But at times, I do feel like his first wife lives with us. My question is, should he be carrying a picture of his first wife in his billfold? He does not carry one of the two of us. This really bothers me, and I am wondering what you think. — Second Wife Dear Second Wife: If there’s any hope of the two of you carrying out a fulfilling and enduring marriage, it’s time to bury the past. Share with your husband how it makes you feel to have his late wife still seemingly, and quite literally, in the picture. He may not realize that what he perceives as part of the grieving process is actually a detriment to the security and progression of your marriage. As for his billfold, it’s in with the new. Find a pocket photo of you and your husband to give to him. He may not have had one before. ——— Dear Annie: I moved to a new neighborhood a few weeks ago. I really love the bustle and the energy; however, there is one drawback — the noise. More specifically, the noise of this one ice cream truck that passes by my apartment every single day. Talk about “First World problems,” I know. I am lucky enough to work remotely during this pandemic, so I’m at home all day. And even with the windows shut, I still hear the song. I find myself singing it in the shower, when doing chores and as I’m falling asleep. Plus, it makes me think about ice cream more often than is probably healthy.
Annie, do you or your readers have advice on how to tune out the tunes? I can only imagine what parents go through listening to the same movies or music day in and day out, particularly during this last year. I would appreciate any tips! — Debugging This Earworm Dear Debugging: Use this daily occurrence as a reason to get up and out. Take advantage of the time the truck sits on your block to walk around your new neighborhood. Get acquainted with your new home. With the bustle and energy you mention, there should be more than enough to explore, and now that your home is also your office, it will do you good to get a change of scenery now and again. On the other side of the coin, you can always lean into the skid. One of the best ways to rid yourself of an earworm is to embrace it. Grab yourself a cone and listen to the song up close. Life is sweet; enjoy it before it melts. ——— Dear Annie: My girlfriend and I met about two years ago. She has two younger kids, ages 3 and 6. I have older kids, 15 and 16. She’s a “helicopter parent” who wants to micromanage everything her kids do. Well, when it comes to my kids, she wants to scrutinize everything they do, too. She says she doesn’t agree with my parenting and basically calls me a crappy parent when I don’t do things her way. She also thinks that it is a requirement for my kids to speak to her, even if they are busy or having a bad day. She will text my kids and say mean things to them and even drag their mom into it.
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Yolo Local Agency Formation Commission Notice of Public Hearing Notice is hereby given that on Thursday, January 27, 2022, at 9:00 am, or as soon thereafter as the matter may be heard, the Yolo Local Agency Formation Commission (LAFCo) will hold a Public Hearing via teleconference, pursuant to Government Code section 54953(e)(1) (as amended by Assembly Bill 361), to consider the following agenda item: Project Title: Yolo County Flood Control and Water Conservation District Annexation (LAFCo No. 21-06) Project Description: The Yolo County Flood Control and Water Conservation District (YCFCWCD) has submitted an application to annex 17 parcels to the District to provide surface water irrigation for agricultural purposes. The YCFCWCD is not seeking property taxes. The District will utilize its two-tiered rate structure with newly annexed parcels paying a direct in-lieu fee. Per Government Code Section 56662, unless written opposition to the proposal is received before the conclusion of the public hearing, the commission intends to waive protest proceedings because the District and landowners have given written consent to the proposal. Location: The following parcels are located in five separate areas adjacent to the District, four areas on the north side and one area on the west side of the District: 025-280-001, 025-280-002, 025-280-005, 025-280-008, 047-130-006, 050-140-001, 050140-003, 050-140-007, 054-190-011, 054-190-012, 054-220001, 054-220-002, 054-220-003, 054-220-004, 054-230-015, 061-070-002, 061-070-010. Environmental Review: The potential environmental effects of the proposal have been reviewed by the YCFCWCD as Lead Agency and determined there is no substantial evidence supporting a fair argument that the project will have a significant effect on the environment and filed a Notice of Exemption in accordance with the California Environmental Quality Act (CEQA). Contact: Christine M. Crawford, AICP LAFCo Executive Officer (530) 666-8048 or christine.crawford@yolocounty.org The Proposal Application is currently posted on the LAFCo website at www.yololafco.org/active-proposals. The Executive Officer's Report and the Agenda will be posted online at least five days prior to the noticed hearing at www.yololafco.org. All interested parties are invited to attend the public hearing. Teleconference Options to join meeting: By PC: https://yolocounty.zoom.us/j/86074085899 or By Phone: (408) 638-0968 Meeting ID: 860 7408 5899 In compliance with the Americans with Disabilities Act, if you need special assistance to participate in this meeting, please call Commission Clerk Terri Tuck at (530) 666-8048. Notification 48 hours prior to the meeting will enable LAFCo to make reasonable arrangements to ensure accessibility. Published January 5, 2022 #1620
My kids don’t do drugs. They don’t lie. They are heavily involved in sports, on the honor roll and don’t get in trouble. But my girlfriend has caused so many issues that my kids don’t even want her around. I’m also a retired Army veteran with severe PTSD, and I rage when I’m mad. She wants to argue about who ate the last rice cake or took the last drink. It’s one argument after another. What do I do? — Confused From Indiana Dear Confused: It’s time for you to set some boundaries with your girlfriend. Micromanaging is one thing; insulting your kids via text, offending their mother and starting arguments over rice cakes are quite another. Assuming your relationship with her progresses, you will be one big family someday — all six of you. If you can’t squash her argumentative and overbearing tendencies now — toward both you and your children — they will only get worse. Talk to your girlfriend about what is appropriate and what isn’t. Having a mediator or a couples counselor present will prevent your confrontation from escalating to a(nother) full-blown argument.
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Dear Annie: For close to 50 years, my friend “Chloe” and I have met for dinner once a week, and she always discusses her husband’s past affair, which occurred over 50 years ago and lasted a year. They are still married and had a few children after the affair ended. She seems to refuse to believe he has told her “everything” and still asks him questions about it. I empathize with her pain and repeatedly tell her that forgiveness is about her being happy again within herself and that it does not mean she condones her husband’s past behavior. She has been very mean to him all these years and says hateful things to him, which distresses their daughters. They have been to couples therapy a few times, but nothing has changed with her. I am at a loss to figure out why she keeps this up after all these years. I need some understanding of why she repeatedly expresses hate for her husband but continues to live with him. Does she need to be a victim? — Concerned and Confused Dear CC: You are a good friend with wise advice, and Chloe is lucky to have you on the receiving end of her weekly pity parties. It sounds like Chloe is using a “victim mentality” to avoid dealing with deeper relationship prob-
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lems. If she forgives her husband’s infidelity, she’ll have to assume some responsibility for the failures in her marriage. It’s far easier to just lay the blame on him. Still, it is clear she has some unresolved feelings of rejection. Fifty years is a long time to be carrying around so much anger, and she must be tired. Chloe has two options here: leave her husband, or forgive him. If she chooses to forgive, remind her once more that forgiveness is not a stamp of approval for his actions; it is merely an acknowledgement that their marriage and their family are more important than a mistake he made 50 years ago. ——— Dear Annie: I have been with my partner for 10 years. While he was going through his divorce, his mother lived with us. At the time, she had nothing nice to say about his ex-wife. She acted like seeing her was a chore when one of the children graduated high school (I was not allowed to attend the graduation). Since then, the children he shares with his ex have grown up and they are on their own. The older child now has children of her own. My issue is that his mother stays with the ex when she comes into town and still sends her presents. Now, if my partner had been mean to the ex, or if the kids were still young and at home, I could understand. But that isn’t the case. The ex also hosts
parties for the grandchildren, and we are never allowed to attend them. Can you please help me understand why his mother still has this friendship with the ex? Again, during the divorce, she had nothing nice to say about the ex at all. She told me how abusive she was to him. — Fed Up Dear Fed Up: It sounds like your partner’s mother felt defensive of her son during his divorce and likely hurt and disappointed herself. Still, no matter how much water is under the bridge, your partner’s ex is and will always be the mother of her grandchildren. The relationship the two of them choose to have doesn’t concern you. Instead, work to foster the bond you have with your partner’s mother (and with his children and their children). After a decade together, that should take priority — not scrutinizing what friendship his mother may or may not have with the old flame. Don’t see their closeness as competition: You’ll only end up losing. Send your questions for Annie Lane to dearannie@ creators.com.
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FILED IN YOLO COUNTY CLERK'S OFFICE Jesse Salinas, Yolo County Clerk/Recorder F20211014 11/23/2021 Business is located in YOLO County Fictitious Business Name: BLACK FROG COFFEE Physical Address: 431 G STREET DAVIS, CA 95616 Mailing Address: Names of Registrant(s)/Owner(s): 1) COZEN'S HOLDINGS LLC 612 PACIFIC GROVE CT. VACAVILLE, CA 95688 Business Classification: Limited Liability Company Starting Date of Business: 11/23/2021 s/ BENJAMIN COZENS Official Title: Managing Officer Corporation Name: COZENS' HOLDINGS LLC I hereby certify that this is a true copy of the original document on file in this office. This certification is true as long as there are no alterations to the document, AND as long as the document is sealed with a red seal. Jesse Salinas, County Clerk/Recorder, State of California, County of Yolo Published December 22, 29, January 5, 12, 2022 #1625
FILED IN YOLO COUNTY CLERK'S OFFICE Jesse Salinas, Yolo County Clerk/Recorder F20211079 12/20/2021 Business is located in YOLO County Fictitious Business Name: PMSasquatch Productions Physical Address: 902 K Street Davis, CA 95616 Mailing Address: Names of Registrant(s)/Owner(s): 1) Paul M. Schwab 902 K Street Davis, CA 95616 Business Classification: Individual Starting Date of Business: 11/20/2021 s/Paul M. P. Schwab Official Title: Corporation Name: I hereby certify that this is a true copy of the original document on file in this office. This certification is true as long as there are no alterations to the document, AND as long as the document is sealed with a red seal. Jesse Salinas, County Clerk/Recorder, State of California, County of Yolo Published December 22, 29, January 5, 12, 2022 #1623
Announcement of Availability from the U.S. Department of Agriculture – Agricultural Research Service (USDA-ARS) and U.S. Army Corps of Engineers (USACE) The USDA-ARS invites the public to review the Draft Environmental Assessment and Finding of; No Significant Impact (FONSI) for the Agricultural Research and Development Center Facility to be constructed at 3031 2nd Street, Davis, CA. The document is available electronically: https://www.spk.usace.army.mil/media/usace-project-publicnotices/ USACE is assisting the USDA-ARS with design, construction and environmental compliance of the Facility at Davis, CA. Public Comment Period: January 5, 2022 – January 18, 2022 Written comments can be directed to Ms. Keleigh Duey at Keleigh.L.Duey@usace.army.mil or mailed to Ms. Keleigh Duey, 10th Floor, 1325 J Street, Sacramento CA, 95814. Questions, call (916) 557-5131. Published January 5, 2022 #1616
FILED IN YOLO COUNTY CLERK'S OFFICE Jesse Salinas, Yolo County Clerk/Recorder F20211024 11/29/2021 Business is located in YOLO County Fictitious Business Name: BIG CHILLEN COMPANY Physical Address: 22 W. Hays St. Woodland, CA 95695 Mailing Address: Names of Registrant(s)/Owner(s): 1) Albert Solano 22 W. Hays St. Woodland, CA 95695 Business Classification: Individual Starting Date of Business: 10/01/2021 s/Albert Solano Official Title: Owner Corporation Name: N/A I hereby certify that this is a true copy of the original document on file in this office. This certification is true as long as there are no alterations to the document, AND as long as the document is sealed with a red seal. Jesse Salinas, County Clerk/Recorder, State of California, County of Yolo Published December 15, 22, 29, January 5, 2022
NOTICE OF PETITION TO ADMINISTER ESTATE OF LILIAN ELAINE RIEUR CASE NO. PR2021-0277 To all heirs, beneficiaries, creditors, contingent creditors, and persons who may otherwise be interested in the will or estate, or both, of: LILIAN ELAINE RIEUR A Petition for Probate has been filed by: ELLEN R. KOLARIK in the Superior Court of California, County of: Yolo The Petition for Probate requests that: ELLEN R. KOLARIK be appointed as personal representative to administer the estate of the decedent. The petition requests the decedent's will and codicils, if any, be admitted to probate. The will and codicils are available for examination in the file kept by the court. The petition requests authority to administer the estate under the Independent Administration of Estates Act. (This authority will allow the personal representative to take many actions without obtaining court approval. Before taking certain very important actions, however, the personal representative will be required to give notice to interested persons unless they have waived notice or consented to the proposed action.) The independent administration authority will be granted unless an interested person files an objection to the petition and shows good cause why the court should not grant the authority. A hearing on the petition will be held in this court as follows: Date: 02/03/2022 Time: 9:00 A.M. Dept.: 9 Room: located at 1000 Main Street, Woodland, CA 95695. If you object to the granting of the petition, you should appear at the hearing and state your objections or file written objections with the court before the hearing. Your appearance may be in person or by your attorney. If you are a creditor or a contingent creditor of the decedent, you must file your claim with the court and mail a copy to the personal representative appointed by the court within the later of either (1) four months from the date of first issuance of letters to a general personal representative, as defined in section 58(b) of the California Probate Code, or (2) 60 days from the date of mailing or personal delivery to you of a notice under section 9052 of the California Probate Code. Other California statutes and legal authority may affect your rights as a creditor. You may want to consult with an attorney knowledgeable in California law. You may examine the file kept by the court. the file kept by the court. If you are a person interested in the estate, you may file with the court a Request for Special Notice (form DE-154) of the filing of an inventory and appraisal of estate assets or of any petition or account as provided in Probate Code section 1250. A Request for Special Notice form is available from the court clerk. Signed: Michael R. Peterson Attorney for petitioner 508 Second Street, Suite 210 Davis, CA 95616 (530)758-1750 Published January 5, 9, 12, 2022