PlusLiving+ Manawatu/Whanganui Issue #2

MANAWATU & WHANGANUI EDITION: 2 | 2024

Beyond the empty nest

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Debunking stereotypes about older drivers

Life after your kids leave home

Ageing audaciously Ditch the need for approval

Down the rabbit hole Tackling tough Internet topics

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Theto respect road

Debunking stereotypes about older drivers

Life after your kids leave home

Ageing audaciously Ditch the need for approval

Down the rabbit hole

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Tackling tough Internet topics

How to swim smart this summer

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LIVING WELL AND AGEING GRACEFULLY IN A MODERN SOCIETY EDITION: 2 | 2024

Beyond the empty nest

MANAWATU & WHANGANUI

MANAWATU & WHANGANUI EDITION: 2 | 2024

Forging your own path Navigating your way through life to find, and remain, on a path that works uniquely for you can seem like a lifelong quest akin to chasing the mystical pot of gold residing at the bottom of rainbows.

So this issue of Plusliving delves into a few topics to help you along the way.

We start the journey by looking at the road to respect by debunking stereotypes about older drivers.

We look at how to age audaciously, discussing the very real and impactful mindset of living without the need for approval. We also venture down the rabbit hole of technical bias by looking at how older adults can be unfairly stereotyped for lacking digital knowledge.

There are pieces on the realities of working from home, and life beyond the empty nest.

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The road to respect

Good reads

Mind Games

Working from home

Beyond the empty nest

Recipes

Swim smart

Ageing audaciously

Tough Internet topics

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The road to respect

By Ben O’Connell

Debunking stereotypes about older drivers New Zealanders must renew their driver licences at age 75, 80, and every two years after that, and there are a few changes to the process once you reach 75. Yet, with all this stringent testing, the stereotype that seniors are dangerous on our roads prevails.

Does this indicate the need for change?

Under New Zealand’s current system, older drivers must receive certification from their doctor regarding their eyesight and overall medical fitness. Doctors can revoke the licences of people who suffer from cognitive difficulties or physical frailty that impairs their driving ability. Greta Bond, chief executive of Age Concern Canterbury, says that this system safeguards older drivers and other road users, but she also imagines the roads might be safer if everyone had to undergo a five-yearly check-up.

Age-based stereotypes like these lead to harmful biases and unmerited scrutiny, driving just one example.

Greta would like to see a pushback on generalisations and age-based discrimination. She says that, like all of us, older people are a varied demographic with many different strengths and abilities: we must put the brakes on age bias of all forms.

“Ageism seems to be one of the last acceptable ‘isms’ allowed in society, not just in the sphere of driving,” she says. “Statistics, in fact, demonstrate that younger drivers aged 15 to 24 have more accidents than any other demographic. Older drivers are significantly less likely to be involved in a crash.”

Per the Ministry of Transport, there were 96 fatal crashes and 610 serious injury crashes in 2022. Young drivers had primary responsibility for 82 of these deadly crashes and 519 of the crashes that resulted in serious injury. In contrast, data shows senior drivers are above average in safe driving.

“This system seems to work pretty well,” she says. “If someone is concerned about an older person’s driving, there are solutions which don’t have to involve them stopping completely.

There’s support available, and strategies can be put in place to minimise risk.

As they may be more physically vulnerable and subject to more severe effects afterwards, older drivers are more likely to be seriously injured or killed should a collision occur. Higher injury and death rates for older drivers can be wrongly interpreted as seniors being worse drivers. These misrepresentations are especially harmful when you consider how serious the subject is.

“At Age Concern, we offer ‘Staying Safe’ driving courses all over Canterbury. I’m 50 years old, and I took one recently. I found it a useful refresher on road rules, with really useful strategies for staying safe. I would highly recommend this for all older drivers; it’s a real confidence boost.”

Greta says that older drivers actually tend to be more careful and seasoned road users, less likely to speed or drive while impaired by alcohol. Speeding and drunk driving are the two most common causes of road deaths.

Beyond the slow lane The stereotype that older people are bad drivers is a common misconception. It assumes that seniors have slower reaction times, worse vision, or impaired decision-making skills, implying they’re more likely to cause accidents or drive unsafely. Age can bring changes in ability, but they don’t necessarily lead to poor driving; most older adults are safe and cautious drivers well into their golden years. As typical with stereotypes, though it may be true in some cases, older drivers being bad drivers shouldn’t be considered a widespread truth.

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“I believe that other drivers are often impatient with older drivers because older drivers are often more compliant with road rules, such as driving safely within the speed limit or waiting at intersections to ensure they are safe.”

For older people who can still drive, staying safe on our roads and following typical advice is the simplest way to steer clear of stereotypes. Maintaining yourself, your car, and your abilities means combating negative misconceptions.

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“I would reiterate that just because you’re older doesn’t mean you’re a bad driver!” Greta says. “Be proactive about maintaining your skills, drive safely, and enjoy it!”

Fuelling independence A driver's licence symbolises freedom and maturity for young people, and the same goes for older people who lose their licence.

For some older adults, it can mean isolation, depression, or a loss of identity. Greta says it can be a real watershed moment in someone’s life, and many older people find their independence and ability to socialise constrained when they stop driving.

There are solutions, though. Age Concern Canterbury offers ‘Life Without a Car’ courses, which help older people stay connected if they can no longer drive. Strategies range from using public transport and connecting with social groups to getting discounts on taxi fares with a Total Mobility card.

Thinking wider, Greta says that our society’s focus on cars must change. “We all benefit when older people are enabled to keep socially engaged and contributing to our society; they’re a great asset. As we progress towards a future with an ageing population, I’d also encourage government bodies to take this demographic's transport and housing needs seriously.”

Existing public transport options may only be so accessible for older adults due to schedule inconsistencies, lack of routes in rural areas, and limited physical accessibility. Increased funding for senior mobility programs, subsidies for accessible housing, improving public transport nationwide, and supporting initiatives to create walkable communities are some ways we can help seniors who can no longer drive to maintain their freedom of movement.

Driving isn’t just about getting from A to B for seniors; it’s a vital component of independence and social engagement. Addressing age-based stereotypes and improving support systems can ensure that older adults stay safe, mobile, and connected.

For older people who can still drive, staying safe on our roads and following typical advice is the simplest way to steer clear of stereotypes. Maintaining yourself, your car, and your abilities means combating negative misconceptions.

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The realities of working from home Working from home may seem like the ultimate solution: no more daily commutes, no need to "power dress," and the ability to avoid the complexities of office politics and tricky workplace dynamics.

While technology has made remote work more accessible than ever, it’s important to recognise that it can be just as stressful as a traditional office job. Finding the right work-life balance is incredibly challenging when your office is also your home.

One key advantage of working from home is the freedom to manage your own schedule without a manager or supervisor constantly overseeing your day.

This autonomy can make you feel more in control of your time.

However, it requires a high level of discipline.

It's easy to get distracted by household chores or to let work spill over into personal time—working through lunch, skipping breaks, or staying up late to finish tasks when you should be resting. It’s easy to let work take over your life without clear boundaries.

For some, the isolation of working from home can also be a downside. It can feel lonely and disconnected without colleagues to collaborate with in person. Communication with co-workers or clients by phone, email, or video call often lacks the immediacy of face-to-face conversations.

Plus, no one is physically present to bounce ideas off of, seek advice, or provide support when things get tough.

Guilt is another common issue for home-based workers. When the laundry pile is staring you in the face or the dishes need washing, it’s tempting to interrupt your workday to take care of these tasks.

At the same time, you might feel guilty for taking breaks, such as having a cup of tea or eating lunch, when there’s always work to be done. The boundaries between "work time" and "home time" can quickly become blurred, leading to stress and burnout.

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Another challenge of working from home is the lack of a formal dress code. While you might think the luxury of "dress-down days" would be a benefit, it can sometimes lead to unproductive days.

You might find yourself still in your pyjamas at noon, distracted by the phone, emails, or meetings, and only later realise you've spent the entire morning at your desk without ever changing. This can become awkward if you get an unexpected visitor and realise you're still in your loungewear.

Beyond personal habits, there's the perception of working from home. Many friends and family members may not take your remote work seriously. They might assume you're just taking a break from "real" work or lounging around all day.

The idea that you work on your own schedule can lead them to believe you have endless free time, and they may be surprised when you can’t drop everything just because you're home. It can be frustrating to constantly explain that just because you're working from home, it doesn't mean you're available for every request.

Additionally, administrative tasks can add stress for those running their own businesses from home. Managing finances, taxes, or employee benefits can become overwhelming if you're not inclined toward handling numbers or paperwork.

For some, the isolation of working from home can also be a downside. It can feel lonely and disconnected without colleagues to collaborate with in person.

Communication with co-workers or clients by phone, email, or video call often lacks the immediacy of face-to-face conversations.

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Another significant advantage of remote work is increased productivity.

Without the constant interruptions of office meetings, ringing phones, or noisy co-workers, you might find yourself getting more done in less time. You can also set your own hours, which allows for a better work-life balance.

Plus, working from home means no more commuting, so you save time, money, and the stress of traffic. You can say goodbye to rush hour and avoid the stress of road rage and congestion.

So, while working from home offers flexibility and independence, it also comes with challenges like isolation, blurred boundaries between work and personal life, and distractions.

Thankfully, there are now many easy-to-use, web-based accounting and administrative tools that can simplify these tasks.

On the positive side, working from home can offer significant tax benefits. Use part of your home exclusively for business purposes, such as an office or storage area.

You may be able to claim a portion of household expenses—like utilities, insurance, and mortgage interest—on your taxes. It’s worth consulting with a tax professional to maximise these benefits.

Another significant advantage of remote work is increased productivity. Without the constant interruptions of office meetings, ringing phones, or noisy co-workers, you might find yourself getting more done in less time. You can also set your own hours, which allows for a better work-life balance.

Plus, working from home means no more commuting, so you save time, money, and the stress of traffic. You can say goodbye to rush hour and avoid the stress of road rage and congestion.

So, while working from home offers flexibility and independence, it also comes with challenges like isolation, blurred boundaries between work and personal life, and distractions.

By staying disciplined and setting clear boundaries, you can take full advantage of remote work's perks while minimising the downsides.

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Swim smart Water safety essentials for a happy summer

By Paige O’Brien

As summer approaches, the temptation of sparkling waters beckons most of us to enjoy the refreshing pleasures of oceans, lakes, and pools.

However, engaging safely in water activities requires awareness and preparation, especially for those who may have increased risks due to age-related physical changes. By taking a cautious approach and following these essential tips, older adults can enjoy the water safely and comfortably.

Understand your physical limits Ageing naturally impacts physical capabilities, which can influence activities such as swimming. Older adults need to evaluate their health and physical condition before taking part in water-based activities. Assessing your endurance and strength helps alter your water activities to your current capabilities, ensuring safety. Opt for lighter, more manageable activities like water aerobics or shortdistance swimming in calm waters to maintain comfort and safety.

Stay hydrated and protected from the sun Older adults are more susceptible to dehydration and heat-related illnesses. It is important to stay well-hydrated by drinking plenty of water before, during, and after water activities – even if you do not feel thirsty. Sun protection is equally important; wear a widebrimmed hat and lightweight, UV-protective clothing. Regularly apply a water-resistant sunscreen with an SPF of 30 or higher to protect from the sun’s rays, reducing the risk of sunburn and heatstroke.

Use appropriate swimming aids For those who may not be confident in their swimming abilities or may experience fatigue quickly, advisable to use swimming aids.

Flotation devices, such as life jackets or swim vests, can provide the support needed to stay afloat without exerting too much energy.

Ensure these aids are appropriate for your weight and size to provide support and safety.

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Swim with a buddy Swimming with a companion not only enhances the enjoyment of your swim but also increases safety. A buddy can provide immediate assistance in case of unexpected health issues or emergencies.

Especially in natural water settings, having someone nearby who can help or call for help is key.

Choose the right environment Selecting an appropriate swimming environment is critical for ensuring safety. Older adults should opt for locations with lifeguard supervision and where the water conditions are suitable for their swimming skills. Public pools, calm bays, and patrolled beaches are ideal because they offer safer swimming conditions. Avoid places with rough waters, strong currents, or without lifeguard coverage.

Regularly update swimming skills Those who haven’t swum in a while should consider taking swimming lessons to refresh their skills. Many community centres and local pools offer swimming classes tailored to older adults that focus on basic strokes, safety practices, and self-rescue techniques. Keeping swimming skills sharp can greatly build confidence and safety in the water.

Know when to stop Recognising when you are tired and knowing when to take a break are crucial aspects of water safety. Overexertion can lead to accidents and health issues. Make sure to listen to your body and rest when needed, enjoying your time in the water without pushing your limits.

With preparation and sticking to these safety tips, older adults can fully enjoy the numerous benefits of water activities during the summer. Remember, safety comes first, and by taking the necessary precautions, you can enjoy a safe and refreshing summer in the water.

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'Every year, bereaved New Zealand families are paying lawyers millions more than they need to, for basic paperwork, after a loved one dies' - says Kiwilaw lawyer, Cheryl Simes.

Spurred by a local client who needed letters of administration, Cheryl has developed a nationwide online service for bereaved families who need High Court approval ('probate') before they can uplift their loved one's financial assets or deal with their loved one's land. Although now based in North Canterbury, Cheryl's service is available anywhere in New Zealand or indeed overseas.

Probate is usually needed even if there is a valid will.

You do not have to use the lawyer who holds the will 'Bereavement is hard. But before agreeing to anything, ask your lawyer for a specific probate estimate.

'Most lawyers charge from $1,000 to $3,000 just for probate, not counting the rest of the estate administration.'

Check the fee, before you agree.

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It really is straightforward. An initial no-obligation online screening checks the will and any complications. If extra fees are required, you are told at that point. To go ahead, you answer questions in a simple online interview. Court-ready documents then arrive at your door, complete with instructions on what needs to be signed, how, where, and by whom, and how to send everything to the High Court for processing.

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Building a book club Imagine a cosy evening surrounded by friends who share your passion for books.

You're discussing a captivating novel, sharing your thoughts and insights, and discovering new perspectives.

That's the magic of a book club. Starting your own book club is a fantastic way to connect with like-minded individuals, explore new literary worlds, and foster a sense of community. Here’s how to start your own:

Gather your group Start by reaching out to friends, family or co-workers who share your love of reading. Take advantage of social media to find likeminded people, and join book club groups to post about your intentions and invite others to join. Encourage members to spread the word about your book club to attract new members.

Choose a meeting place Decide on a location that is convenient for everyone. Options could be libraries, coffee shops, community centres, or member homes.

Set a schedule Determine how often you want to meet, e.g., fortnightly or monthly. Choose a day and time that works for your members.

Book selection Decide how books will be chosen. You can do this by: Voting: Members suggest a book and vote on their favourites.

Theme: Choose books based on a theme or genre.

Curator: Appoint a member to select books.

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Take turns: Each member takes turns choosing a book. Make sure your book selections cover a range of genres, authors, and perspectives to cater to diverse interests.

Meeting structure Start each meeting with a fun icebreaker to keep things social and encourage participation. The aim is to create a welcoming and inclusive atmosphere where everyone feels comfortable sharing their thoughts and opinions.

Consider using a structured discussion format, such as a book circle or a debate, to keep the conversation focused and engaging.

Develop thought-provoking questions to guide discussions.

Consider questions that explore themes, characters, plot, and the author's style.

Rotate the role of facilitator among members to give everyone a chance to lead the conversation.

Special events Book-to-film discussions: Watch a movie adaptation of a book and discuss the similarities and differences between the two mediums.

Reading challenges: Encourage members to participate in reading challenges, such as reading a certain number of books in a year or reading books from a specific genre.

Book club bingo: Create a bingo card with different reading criteria and challenge members to complete a row or column.

Books

Good reads

Looking for your next great read?

Check out this selection of 2024’s best-sellers.

By Jamie Quinn

The Women by Kristin Hannah The Women is a poignant novel that follows a group of female nurses serving in the Vietnam War. The story centres on Frances "Frankie" McGrath, who enlists after her brother's death. It explores the challenges, sacrifices, and enduring bonds formed by these women as they navigate the horrors of war and societal indifference upon their return.

The Housemaid by Freida McFadden This suspenseful thriller follows a young woman named Greta, who accepts a nanny position in a wealthy family's isolated mansion. As she settles into her new life, Greta begins to uncover disturbing secrets about the family and their past. With a growing sense of unease, she realises that she may be trapped in a dangerous game where trust is fragile, and everyone has something to hide.

First Lie Wins by Ashley Elston In this gripping thriller, a woman named Emily becomes entangled in a dangerous game of deception and blackmail. After witnessing a murder, Emily finds herself caught between the powerful individuals involved and must navigate a web of lies and secrets to protect herself and her loved ones.

Then She Was Gone by Lisa Jewell Then She Was Gone follows the disappearance of Laurel. As the investigation unfolds, the lives of her family and friends are turned upside down. The novel explores the complexities of grief, the dark secrets that can be hidden within a seemingly perfect community, and the lengths people will go to protect their loved ones.

Safe Enough by Lee Child In the latest Jack Reacher adventure, Reacher finds himself in a small town where a mysterious disappearance has left the locals shaken. As he delves deeper into the case, Reacher uncovers a web of corruption and danger that threatens to engulf the entire community.

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Wellbeing

Beyond the empty nest When your kids fly the coop, the sudden home-alone feeling that we once craved can become dreaded and anxiety-ridden. Parenthood is a rollercoaster, full of major life events, yet society seems to stay relatively silent on the moment when children leave home.

Empty nest syndrome defines the grief that many parents feel when their children move out. It’s a common phenomenon in which parents experience loneliness, insecurity, sadness, and identity crises as they grieve the lifestyle they have had for so long.

The bottom line is that these feelings are normal, and you aren’t alone. Feeling this sense of loss is common, so don’t feel pressured to compare your journey to others, and do give yourself time to feel these feelings instead of burying them down unhealthily.

Sending your children off into the big, wide world can be really tough.

What is empty nest syndrome?

When a caregiver and their child embark on their next chapter and live independently, it can bring up many unexpected emotions, especially for those who have dedicated much of their life to raising their children. It stirs up everything from excitement and relief to sadness and anxiety, and all of these emotions are totally valid. You are proud to see your child take their next steps but cannot help but worry over their wellbeing.

Empty nest syndrome manifests in many different ways and can last a few weeks for some and years for others. It can start as an anticipatory emotional response long before your child has actually left the nest. Then, when the house feels empty and quiet, no longer lively thanks to active children, it hits a lot harder.

Parents may struggle with the sudden change in daily routines, which once revolved around their children’s needs and activities.

Consider taking up hobbies and evaluating your personal goals beforehand to ease the shift.

Some couples may find their relationship under strain as they adjust to being a couple again without the focus on parenting.

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This can either rekindle their bond or surface unresolved issues.

In time, it can become an opportunity for personal growth, rediscovery, and pursuing hobbies and experiences that were put aside while parenting. Reframing the pivotal event of your children leaving home as a chance to pick back up activities and desires previously sacrificed is the start of accepting your new normal.

Empty nest syndrome manifests in many different ways and can last a few weeks for some and years for others. It can start as an anticipatory emotional response long before your child has actually left the nest.

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You’re not alone

Maintaining healthy relationships

Seeking support or reconnecting with your personal goals can make the transition to an empty nest smoother. Consider connecting with other parents who are going through a similar experience; sharing stories and advice can lessen those feelings of isolation and stress. Talking to a mental health professional shows strength and never weakness and can help you process emotions, identify coping strategies, and build resilience as you adjust. Reaching out to friends, siblings, or extended family members for support can also provide comfort. An extension of this is to engage in volunteer activities, as this can provide a sense of purpose as you contribute positively to the community.

Spaces like book clubs, sports teams, or parenting forums also invigorate and connect.

Of course, your children leaving the nest doesn’t mean you won’t ever talk to them again. Maintaining a positive and balanced relationship with your adult children is an important step to navigating empty nest syndrome. Doing so allows both you and your children to feel supported, independent, and connected as you all move forward.

Painting, hiking, writing, or learning a musical instrument; whatever it is, fill the newfound time by picking up hobbies and goals that were set aside during your childrearing years. Likewise, exploring professional growth opportunities or career changes can be fulfilling. Taking time to travel or explore new places can provide a sense of adventure and excitement, as can embarking on a self-care journey through exercise, meditation, or yoga to improve overall wellbeing and create a sense of balance. An empty nest can be a chance to find yourself again. Couples can use this time to reconnect, like planning date nights or picking up shared hobbies.

Understanding that your adult children have their own lives and that your role as a caregiver has shifted is crucial. Give them the space to make their own choices, routines, and decisions, and let them learn from their experiences and mistakes, even if you don’t always agree with them. This shows that you trust and respect their autonomy.

Healthy communication is crucial, so be open about your feelings and let them know they’re welcome to do the same. Don’t make them feel guilty for leaving or imply they’re responsible for your wellbeing. Instead, keep conversations positive and encouraging, and be supportive without overstepping. Offer your guidance when asked, but avoid imposing advice or criticism unless it’s absolutely necessary.

You can be involved without being intrusive, too. Whether it’s discussing a favourite book or going to the same events, this quality time together will keep the relationship lively without feeling forced. Your relationship with them will continue to evolve. Embrace this change, show genuine interest in their life by celebrating their successes, big or small, be willing to adapt, and show that you understand and accept their new roles and priorities.

Understanding that your adult children have their own lives and that your role as a caregiver has shifted is crucial. Give them the space to make their own choices, routines, and decisions, and let them learn from their experiences and mistakes, even if you don’t always agree with them.

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Wellbeing

Ageing audaciously

Living without the need for approval

By Jamie Quinn

There comes a time in life when you start to see things a bit differently.

For many of us, hitting our 50s (or even before) sparks a beautiful revelation: What if we just stopped worrying so much about what everyone else thinks? Imagine making decisions that are truly for you, without that nagging concern about getting a nod of approval from the sidelines.

Take solo travel, for instance—yes, even in your 50s and beyond. You might get some raised eyebrows or even protests: "It’s not safe," or "Won’t you be lonely?" But this is your adventure, your story to write.

Solo travel isn’t just about ticking places off your bucket list; it’s about embracing freedom, meeting new people, and, most importantly, discovering parts of yourself that you never knew existed.

And why is this shift toward self-approval so crucial as we get older?

It comes down to authenticity. Making choices that align with your own wants and needs rather than bending to fit into the expectations of others deepens your self-respect. There’s something so satisfying about looking in the mirror and knowing the person staring back is living a life they’ve chosen, not one that’s been chosen for them.

Let’s face it—life is already filled with enough shoulds and musts.

Wouldn’t you rather fill it with want-tos and wills? This isn’t about dismissing good advice or constructive feedback, but about knowing when to listen and when to politely nod and go your own way. It’s about trusting your gut and valuing your happiness above external opinions.

As we age, we often gain a clearer understanding of what truly matters. We realise time is precious, and with that realisation should come a shift toward living more authentically. That might mean

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If you’re standing at a crossroads right now, feeling weighed down by what others might think or say, here’s a little piece of advice: Make the choice that lights you up.

picking up a new hobby that excites you, moving to a place that speaks to your soul, or even changing careers to something that fills you with passion every day.

And what about the risks, the fears, the potential for failure?

Embracing life without the safety net of societal approval means being okay with falling down a few times. It means valuing growth over comfort, learning over sameness. Sure, that solo trip might not be perfect—you might miss a flight, or find yourself lost in translation at a rural market—but these are the moments that make the best stories, the ones you’ll laugh about for years to come.

If you’re standing at a crossroads right now, feeling weighed down by what others might think or say, here’s a little piece of advice: make the choice that lights you up. Chances are, the decisions you’ll regret later aren’t the ones where you followed your heart—they’re the ones where you didn’t.

So, embrace the freedom to be yourself because life’s too short to live it on anyone else’s terms. Choose what brings you joy, do what feels right, and enjoy the journey of being truly you. After all, we only get one life, so make the most of it.

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Our services are here to support your property needs so that you can embrace your next chapter with confidence.

We understand that in real estate it takes local knowledge to do the job right. At Bayleys, we are 100% New Zealand owned and locally operated – so if you’re looking for an expert who knows their stuff and knows your neighbourhood, you’re in the right place.

Our team of experienced professionals bring local knowledge and a commitment to exceptional service, ensuring that your real estate experience is smooth and successful.

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Wellbeing

Old dog, new tricks

Embracing lifelong learning

They say, “You’re never too old to learn something new.” And it’s true; every day is a fresh opportunity to dive into something new, whether it’s trying a different recipe, picking up a new piece of technology, or even learning a new language.

The world is constantly evolving and fast! Staying open to learning keeps us engaged, fulfilled, and connected.

Science actually backs up the benefits of lifelong learning. Our brains are surprisingly adaptable, even as we grow older. Thanks to a quality called neuroplasticity, the brain can continue to form new pathways and connections throughout life. When we challenge ourselves by learning something new, we stimulate our minds, improve memory, and even help stave off cognitive decline. Essentially, keeping our brains active is like giving them a daily workout that strengthens them over time.

But lifelong learning is about more than just brain health; it’s about joy, growth, and a sense of accomplishment. The feeling of conquering something new—whether it’s finally figuring out that knitting pattern or navigating a new app—is rewarding. It’s a reminder that we are capable of growth, no matter our age.

Younger generations have a lot to teach us, often in ways we might not expect. They’re fluent in the language of today’s tech-driven world, and they bring fresh perspectives to old challenges. Learning from them keeps us in the loop and reminds us that knowledge flows both ways. These exchanges build valuable connections, showing that wisdom is a shared resource, flowing freely across ages. Each interaction reminds us that learning isn’t confined to the classroom or limited to any one stage of life—it’s a dynamic, continuous process enriched when generations come together with openness and curiosity.

When we approach learning with a few simple practices, it makes the experience even more enriching. First, be present. It sounds simple, but in a world full of distractions, focusing on the moment can be challenging. Removing distractions lets us fully engage with the person or activity in front of us, creating deeper, more meaningful learning experiences.

Then there’s curiosity. It’s amazing how setting an intention to be curious can open our eyes to details we might overlook. When we approach a new skill or conversation with curiosity, it brings out a

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sense of wonder. Curiosity turns the ordinary into the extraordinary, making even routine learning feel exciting and valuable.

Enthusiasm is another game-changer. When we choose to be enthusiastic about learning, it feels more like an adventure than a chore. That burst of energy we feel when we’re excited makes it easier to stay focused and retain information. Plus, enthusiasm is contagious—it lights up our interactions and keeps us motivated.

And finally, be courageous. Trying something new can feel intimidating, especially if we’re stepping outside our comfort zones.

But growth often lies just on the other side of that discomfort.

Embracing the “beginner” mindset can be incredibly freeing, reminding us that every expert was once a novice. With a bit of courage, we can push past any fear of mistakes or embarrassment and open ourselves up to new opportunities.

So, here’s to staying curious, enthusiastic, and brave as we embrace learning at every stage of life. Whether from a grandchild, a friend, or a new experience, each lesson adds something valuable to our lives.

We’re never too old to discover, grow, and enjoy the thrill of learning something new.

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The old saying ‘use it or lose it’ applies as equally to mental acuity as it does to physical wellbeing, and more so as we age.

With people progressively living longer lives, it is increasingly important to look after our mental health.

So here are some activities for the mind… brain food for improving your state of mind.

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Your Home

Crisp and easy

The ultimate air fryer guide

By Ben O’Connell

Air fryers are making waves in kitchens worldwide.

Despite their name, air fryers aren’t technically fryers but relatively small countertop ovens with convection fans that aim to mimic the results of deep-frying with nothing more than hot air. An oven uses dry heat from an electric heating element or gas flame to cook food, whereas air fryers use hot air and typically require less cooking oil and time.

Consumer New Zealand says that cooking with an air fryer uses as much energy as standard ovens and that getting an air fryer might not be necessary if you already have an oven, cooktop, or grill. However, an air fryer can be a smarter cooking solution for folks only feeding one or two people than booting up a regular oven for an hour.

Further, some ovens heat the entire kitchen or home; an air fryer can be a cooler way to cook in the summer. Their small size means heat is circulated more evenly and quickly, crisping up your food without hot spots. It’s no wonder air fryers are the flavour of the month regarding the most popular kitchen appliances this year.

Using an air fryer Using an air fryer is simple. Place your food in, set the time and temperature, and then let the food cook! To maintain your appliance, clean your air fryer after each use. Air fryers have practically endless uses, from fried food to meats and wholesome baking. Though using an air fryer is simple, not using it correctly can result in less-than-appetising foods. As air fryers operate by circulating air, overcrowding the basket means your food won’t be exposed enough to the process. Small batches at a time are the necessary approach.

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As air fryers are like ovens, some need to be pre-heated. If your appliance is too cold, the final meal might suffer, so ensure your air fryer is on when you’re ready to cook.

Some air fryers require oil each time they're used, but a quick spray gives most food the golden look you’re after. Shaking your air fryer shelf and clearing space inside will give you more even and highquality cooking results. By air frying over deep frying, you cook with a significantly smaller portion of fat, resulting in healthier eating (not to mention how messy deep frying is; have you ever had hot oil splash into your face?).

Features to consider Air fryers come in all shapes and sizes, some a simple basket that gets the job done, others offering all that and a bag of crinkle-cut chips. Some models have additional cooking functions and double as benchtop ovens that can roast, grill, and bake food for you. Some don’t exceed 200 degrees Celsius or have pre-determined temperature settings. Air fryers can be quite large, taking up precious space on the bench, or be small enough to neatly tuck away when unneeded.

Most air fryer models have pull-out drawers, but some have internal shelves, allowing even more food to be cooked at once. Some models have two or more drawers so you can cook different foods at the same time. Designs vary, from looking like a tiny plastic barrel to a massive immovable brick and from having many accessories such as tongs and grill racks to having none.

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de icious Simply

By Jamie Quinn

Italian Orzo Salad

This Italian orzo salad is packed with orzo, cherry tomatoes, chickpeas, cucumber, and fresh basil!

Serves 6

Method

It’s a flavourful combination that's perfect for a summer picnic or potluck.

1. Cook orzo according to packet.

Rinse with cold water, drain well and place in a large bowl.

Ingredients

2. Add tomatoes, chickpeas, cucumber, basil, onion and spinach.

• 350g dry orzo

• 1 tbsp fresh basil, chopped

• ½ C cherry tomatoes, halved

• ¼ red onion, chopped

•

2/3 C chickpeas, drained

and rinsed

• ½ C packed baby spinach • 1 C Italian dressing

3. Add dressing and toss to coat evenly.

Serving suggestion: Serve immediately.

Enjoy!

• 1 medium cucumber, chopped

Chicken Nectarine Salad Serves 4

Ingredients

Dressing

• 8 C spinach

• ½ C mayonnaise

• 2 medium nectarines, thinly sliced

• ¼ C fresh orange juice • 1/8 tsp ground cumin

• 2 C cooked chicken, seasoned with salt and pepper, then cubed • 1 C crumbled feta • 1 medium ripe avocado, peeled and sliced

This refreshing salad is perfect for summer!

• ½ C granola

With just a few simple ingredients, you can whip it up quickly and enjoy a healthy and delicious dish.

Method 1. Whisk together dressing ingredients.

2. In a large bowl, combine spinach, nectarines, chicken and feta.

3. Drizzle with dressing and toss to coat.

4. Top with avocado and granola.

Serving suggestion: Serve immediately.

Enjoy!

Recipes

Beef Skewers Serves 4

Method

Beef skewers are a delicious and easy summer meal.

Made with flavourful marinade and grilled to perfection, these skewers are perfect for a BBQ with friends and family.

Ingredients • • • • • • • • • • •

1. Cut steak, onions, and capsicums into equal size pieces.

2. In a large container, stir together olive oil, Worcestershire sauce, soy sauce, vinegar, garlic and onion powder, honey and chilli powder if using.

3. Add steak to container and marinate for at least one hour.

700g sirloin steak 2 capsicums 1 large red onion ½ C olive oil ¼ C Worcestershire sauce 2 tbsp soy sauce 2 tbsp apple cider vinegar 1 tbsp garlic powder 1 tsp onion powder 1 tbsp honey ½ tsp chilli powder (optional)

4. If using wooden skewers, soak for 10 minutes before skewering steak and vegetables.

5. Preheat grill to medium-high.

6. Skewer steak cubes and vegetables, alternating to your preference.

7. Place skewers directly on grill and cook for 3-4 minutes before flipping; cook for another 3-4 minutes.

Serving suggestion: Allow to rest before serving.

Enjoy!

Ingredients

Stuffed Peppers

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½ C white rice, uncooked 2 tbsp olive oil 1 medium onion, chopped 3 cloves garlic, finely chopped 2 tbsp tomato paste 500g beef mince

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1 can diced tomatoes 1 ½ tsp dried oregano Salt and pepper to taste 6 large capsicums, tops and cores removed • 1 C cheese of choice

Serves 6

Method 1. Preheat oven to 200 degrees.

Classic stuffed peppers are a surprisingly easy and satisfying meal.

2. In a large pot, cook onion until softened. Stir in garlic and tomato paste and cook until fragrant. Add mince, breaking it up as it cooks.

They're packed with flavour and perfect for a family dinner.

3. Stir in rice, diced tomatoes, oregano, salt and pepper. Let simmer, stirring occasionally, until rice is cooked and liquid has reduced.

4. Place capsicums in a baking dish and drizzle with oil.

Spoon beef mix evenly into each capsicum. Top with cheese, then cover with foil.

5. Bake until capsicums are tender, about 30 minutes.

Uncover and continue to bake until cheese is golden.

Serving suggestion: Serve hot! Enjoy!

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Technology

Down the rabbit hole Tackling tough internet topics Older adults can be unfairly stereotyped for lacking digital knowledge.

Today, many seniors grasp online spaces and their impacts; some wish to go even deeper. Everyone should be allowed access to deeper Internet literacy topics, regardless of age. Anyone can and should be allowed to be a fact-checking, dark web expert. The issue then becomes doing so safely.

The Dark Times Academy is one initiative that seeks to bring community education to critical digital topics. Recently launched in Auckland, they offer a range of online courses that aim to help people become better at navigating the modern world.

“We’re aiming to make learning joyful again – something that, in our view, is much needed in these dark times that we are all living through,” says Mandy Henk, who is formerly the CEO of community education group Tohatoha Aotearoa Commons. The initiative was founded by Mandy and Byron Clark, one of the nation’s leading experts on far-right extremism.

“From understanding the role of AI in the real world and fighting disinformation to an updated take on critical literacy, our courses are scheduled to be accessible to working adults across New Zealand and a range of global time zones, including the US and Australia,” Mandy says.

Grasping new Internet topics Many new hot-button digital topics such as mis- and disinformation, the AI bubble, dead Internet theory, and more are increasingly discussed.

It can be a lot to grasp! If you’re looking for rabbit holes to go down and research, consider looking into these digital concepts.

Misinformation refers to false information spread without harmful intent, while disinformation is intentionally misleading content. A mnemonic to remember the difference is that misinformation is often spread by mistake, whereas disinformation is deliberate. Both are rampant online and major talking points. Asking for information sources and developing critical media literacy are key modern skills.

There’s this concept called ‘dead Internet theory’, which suggests that a majority of online activity is generated by bots or AI, making the internet less "human" and more automated, with the content largely artificial. It’s good to visit sites like Netsafe and participate in education like Dark Times Academy to develop an understanding of what AI-generated content looks like.

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Technology

Be careful about what you post, too! Copyright laws govern what users can and cannot post, and privacy and content guidelines dictate what is acceptable. Violating these can lead to content removal or legal consequences. The biggest platforms, like Facebook, Instagram, Twitter (X), TikTok, and LinkedIn, each serve different purposes—social networking, content sharing, and professional development—and so have their own usage rules, privacy concerns, and community guidelines.

Online scams range from phishing to fraud and identity theft. Scammers use tactics like fake websites, emails, and social engineering to deceive individuals. Simply visiting a website that looks suspicious can deliver your data to hackers behind the scenes. Be careful when exploring the darker sides of the web without doing your research and protecting yourself with anti-virus software first. Stay safe online!

Staying connected Byron Clark says it’s important for Internet users to remain connected to a real-life network. It’s advice often told to school students that applies to folks of all ages. He notes how the tools and techniques that seniors would have learned to evaluate information at an earlier time are, in many cases, no longer accurate. “You have to approach finding information in a different way compared to even ten years ago.

“When it comes to the issues of mis- and disinformation, people are most likely to trust someone they have an existing relationship with.

People who are isolated can develop parasocial relationships with people online, so it’s important to keep up those in-person connections to help prevent someone from being misled, deceived, or scammed.

“Seniors can be susceptible to loneliness, and the Internet can also be a positive solution to that, so long as digital tools are used in the right way, and that’s something family and friends can help with.”

The Dark Times Academy combines live teaching and pre-recorded lectures. Byron says his students enjoy intergenerational discussion and curated resources from trustworthy sources.

“We also can offer extra ‘tech support’ sessions for the tools we use in our courses, so being less savvy isn’t a barrier to learning online.”

Asking for digital help from friends and family is something to be proud of. Showing interest in cutting-edge technologies and protecting yourself from the developing digital world is already doing more than others can say. There’s an entire network of interesting online spaces, concepts and trends at your fingertips, waiting to be explored.

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Clear Air offers a wide range of services designed to address various contamination challenges.

Our Class A asbestos removal services involve collaborating with licensed WorkSafe assessors to efficiently remove all Class A asbestos materials. This ensures that your buildings are safe to re-entry and free from hazardous materials, with a meticulous approach that guarantees your premises are completely decontaminated and safe for occupants.

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Real Estate

Looking to list your property?

Here’s how to get started

By Jen Baird, chief executive of the Real Estate Institute of New Zealand (REINZ).

It’s been a market of supply outweighing demand for several months, but as we enter spring, activity is expected to pick up — including the usual spring flurry of listings.

Typically, spring is seen as an ideal time to bring a property to market — particularly as many people look to make their buying plans this side of Christmas. Here’s what to think about as you look to list your property.

your home so there are no surprises, and so you can factor this into your budget.

As we head into the warmer months, the market cycle tends to see more listings and an increase in buyer demand.

Look for a salesperson who can demonstrate knowledge of your local area and community, ideally with a network of potential buyers, as this can help ensure your property is best positioned and marketed to the right people.

It is important to find a real estate professional who can deliver a standout marketing campaign, advise you on key steps for getting your property ready to list, and who will tell you what you need to know throughout the selling process.

Make sure you understand what a salesperson’s commission fee is. While fees do vary by agency, our advice is that choosing a salesperson on commission alone could lead to losing a significant amount of money by achieving a lower price for the property.

Research is key

The Real Estate of Institute of New Zealand (REINZ) is a champion for a world-class real estate profession delivering the best possible real estate services to New Zealanders.

Using a real estate salesperson can result in a more effective sale than selling privately. They will handle the details of the marketing and sales process, the cut and thrust of the negotiation or auction, and you can rest assured that you’re protected throughout the process by their expertise and requirements under the Real Estate Agents Act. To find the right person for you, ask around; talk to family, friends and neighbours and see if they have any recommendations on real estate salespeople they have previously used and whom they had a good experience with.

It’s also fundamental to understand where the market is today before you head into the selling process. Doing some of your own research is vital however, you can rely on your salesperson to bring expertise.

Salespeople have the time, access to the latest data and market information, and to advise on exactly what is happening in your market for your type of property. Having honest conversations with your real estate salesperson will enable you to understand the current market and the best approach for selling your home.

Honesty is the best policy A real estate professional will help to manage your price expectations with the latest statistics, their knowledge of the current market, the local area, what properties are attracting the most attention and why, the current levels of attendance at open homes, and more.

They should also explain what they will do behind the scenes to ensure the best possible outcome for you.

They can advise you on the best way to present your property for sale including aspects such as required maintenance, tidying up of gardens, de-cluttering, or home-staging.

With these factors come costs, and your real estate professional should ensure you are aware of the aspects you may need to invest in when selling

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Sandra’s success is powered by her deep local knowledge, a wide network of potential buyers, and an undeniable passion for helping her clients achieve their real estate dreams. She approaches each client’s unique needs with meticulous attention to detail and a tailored plan, ensuring that each stage of the buying or selling process is managed with the utmost care.

As a dedicated professional at Professionals Unique Realty in Palmerston North, Sandra is always ready to assist with property appraisals, crafting the best sales and marketing strategies, and managing all aspects of your property transaction. Her positive approach not only simplifies the process but also helps you achieve the best possible results.

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Funeral Directors

I don’t want a fuss

By Gillian Boyes, Funeral Directors Association CEO.

Shortly after I began in this role I spoke to my parents about their wishes for a funeral.

“I don’t want a fuss,” said my mum. “And it’s so expensive,” dad added.

It’s a common refrain and as a newcomer to the industry was one I was initially challenged to respond to. But over the last few months I’ve come to understand why some kind of farewell is essential to those of us left behind.

They can involve people near and far Many funeral homes now offer livestreaming of services reducing the cost and burden on physically attending.

Traditional, scripted services are no longer the norm

Some of the early healing can help when you’re preparing for a funeral

Modern funerals are personalised and can encompass whatever a family needs to help them farewell their loved one in a meaningful way. Venues these days, for instance, range from churches and chapels to sports clubs, theatres, or the local club.

And families are encouraged to add their own touches and tributes – both to save money but to also make it meaningful for them.

Going through old photos and reminiscing and sharing stories can be a powerful way to remember the significance of the life of your loved one. There will be laughter as well as tears and it can be an important bonding time for your family.

Your needs are just as important as those of the person who died

An ‘event’ helps a family move through the grief process

Finally, people often think they must ‘respect a person’s wishes’.

But what about your own? You’re the one left behind so it’s important for you and your own wellbeing that you get that chance to say goodbye, and to have support around you.

The funeral ‘event’ can help you begin to acknowledge the reality that someone in your life has died. Grief is a biological reaction, and it can be externalised though the event – something that will help with your immediate and future mental wellbeing.

If you genuinely fear disrespecting their wishes, have ‘that’ conversation. It doesn’t have to be morbid or difficult – after all you’ll be talking to the person you love most, and they’ll understand you will need help to carry on without them.

Funerals help us recall and remember – and even learn about a loved one How many times have you sat through a funeral eulogy and realised you didn’t know a certain fact about someone? Sharing unique memories and stories helps provide support to all those who attend.

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Luckily, my parents were already planning to use a Funeral Directors Association member so I don’t have to have that conversation. But with my new found knowledge I’ve also been able to talk to them about what I need from the funeral itself.

And at least a little bit of fuss is what’s right for me.

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