Note to Self

PRACTICING SELF-LOVE by Esther Bolaji.

How do you practice self love?

I’m EstaB, and a regular day of self love starts with a cup of chocolate tea before heading to work. When I’m less busy, I listen to some music or read novels to kill time. During weekends, I sometimes hang out with friends or stay home all day in bed doing nothing but watch movies or read novels. Being in my own space alone gives me a calm feeling to settle, decide things and enjoy my own company. I love to travel at least once in a few years for my mental health, a change of scenery is necessary for me. I love nature and I enjoy basking in natural environments to refresh myself, that’s how I take a breathe from over working myself for a while.

How do you handle self-doubt?

I resort to writing my accomplishments, to analyse my growth over the years on things I’ve began to do better and I acknowledge I’m a work in progress. Doing this regularly has helped boost my self confidence.

~ Esther Bolaji

My form of self love would be listening to motivational podcast daily , definitely skincare because I’m so obsessed with my skin so pigmentation or a little pimple would definitely trigger an insecurity which leads me to say self love is a journey, not the easiest if we are being honest but it’s all about appreciating ourselves even at our worst and struggles which could be so hard. We need to slowly appreciate the little things about us and see beauty within ourselves , figuring things we love and what makes us , us if that make sense. Growing up , my mum threw me into the modeling world early and I guess it made me grow up criticising myself steadily on my body weight or my arms as well as my skin because these were thing that were picked upon. The world “fat” was a trigger for me , I literally couldn’t process it and I would cry and I hate myself, overthinking on surgeries to get. I’m so glad I found someone like my mum who made me realise how worthy I was as of love and how perfect I am with all my imperfections which led me to embrace myself more. I am still struggling but I’m getting there I guess. Daniella xx.

“Self-love has less to do with how one responds to being treated a certain way by the world and more on how comfortable it is to be oneself. Are you comfortable with the way you smile or do you smile more often because you receive compliments when you do? most times it feels good to be complimented even though it could sometimes be social courtesy.

It definitely feels good to be seen and appreciated on our attributes physical or psychological”.