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ear Readers, On behalf of the entire Bukharian Jewish Link family, I would like to thank you for your outpouring of support for our new publication. Baruch Hashem, men and women of all ages have really accepted the BJL with open arms and made it an instant hit. People are already asking us to publish weekly, and some actually look forward to it being a daily newspaper! It’s a challenge we may accept in the future... but please, let’s take it one step at a time.

It truly touches my heart to see everyone excited about this new project. In fact, right before Rosh HaShanah, I had the great opportunity to meet Rav Yitzchak Yosef, the Sefardic Chief Rabbi of Israel, and Rav Yitzchak Yisraeli, the Chief Rabbi of the Bukharian community in the US and Canada. I told them about the progress of the newspaper; they both accepted me warmly and gave me their blessings for continued success. I am truly honored to be a messenger for this great project.

Speaking of the Chief Rabbi, there seems to be a lot of talk about this topic.

What is the role of a chief rabbi? What are prerequisites to become a chief rabbi?

I think the following observation will help answer this question.

If I read several science books, do I become a scientist? If I watch a video on how to perform brain surgery, am I fit to be a brain surgeon? What if I passed a few courses in college? Does that suffice to make me an expert in a specific field?

There is a famous saying that “knowledge is power.” But knowledge can also be very deceiving. A person can read some books on medicine and impress many people who aren’t well-versed in the field. But let’s be realistic: That doesn’t make him a doctor! Some people may even consult with

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Visions, Sacrifice, And Hard Work: An Interview With Rabbi Igal Haimoff (Part 1)

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ook around you. Chances are, if you’ve picked up this newspaper, you are in Queens or have been there recently. Today, the majority of the world’s Bukharian Jews live in Queens; they’ve been flocking here since the 1990s. This community has spent the greater part of two millennia in the heart of Central Asia and now seems firmly established and flourishing in the world’s borough. Its journey across the globe and its development has a wonderful backstory to tell about the strength, growth, and even evolution of a unique people.

To uncover this story, I interviewed Rabbi Igal Haimoff, a moving force behind the integration of Bukharian Jewry in America. His story begins at about the

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time when Bukharian Jews began emigrating to the U.S., and covers their community up until the very present. He graciously allowed me to interview him for this article and I hope to present his personal story over the span of several articles.

The following material has been stylistically edited to reflect the life, sacrifice and dreams of one of Bukharian Jewry’s greatest advocates.

I first asked Rabbi Igal Haimoff to share his thoughts on our new newspaper.

BJL: Why do you look forward to and hope for the success of this publication?

Rabbi Haimoff: This paper importantly fills a gap that was overlooked for too many years. We finally see a newspaper that will cater to the younger, English-speaking generation. We need to always move forward and towards a better future. I hope this publication will be utilized as the tool that it can be to revolutionize the Bukharian community.

BJL: Any advice how to best utilize the paper?

Rabbi Haimoff: I hope the paper publishes all types of articles that address the specific problems facing the community. As a flourishing society, we can benefit from articles addressing social and psychological concerns. The paper would render a great service with articles addressing family issues, substance abuse, divorces, etc. We need help not only addressing these issues, but also instructing the English-speaking public how to avoid those problems. If professionals wrote these articles with their expertise, I’m sure it would do wonders for our community.

BJL: Though you have been so involved in this community from the time of its inception, you actually hail from the holy city of Jerusalem. Can you tell us a

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Rabbi Haimoff: My grandfather, Simchah Haimoff, was a dayan (judge) in Porat Yosef (an advanced center of Jewish-Israeli scholarship) in Jerusalem. Actually, our shul, “Ohel Simcha,” was named after him.

He was recognized as a brilliant sage but unfortunately passed away at the young age of thirty-eight. He left behind his wife and eight children, one of whom was my father. His wife was a wonderful and brave woman who determinately raised her children on the path of the Torah. A little while after my father married, the Israeli war of Independence broke out and my father moved the family to Tel Aviv. And so even though three of my brothers were born in Jerusalem, I did not have the merit [chuckles].

My father supported the family with proceeds from his grocery shop in northern Tel Aviv, which at the time was known for its particularly secular residents. My father had five boys and one daughter, and my father sent us all to yeshiva. The name of the school was Chinuch Atzma’i, and it still operates today. Throughout my younger years I was recognized as a “challenger” [chuckles], and after graduation I attended Karlin-Stolin high school. It was an interesting contrast because up until high school I was trained in Litvak (Eastern-European methodology) style and now was introduced to more Chasidic style.

As time went on I witnessed my brothers enter the army and join the workforce, since my parents needed financial help. At a certain point I remained the only child to stay in Yeshiva and even continued to advanced studies. However, after a while I decided to get a “taste” of the army and challenge myself further. I entered the army and can tell you that what I learned there has actually been useful for me until today.

BJL: You can be as unspecific as you like in answering the next question, but I have heard that you served in an intelligence unit?

Rabbi Haimoff: Yes, eventually. For the first four months I served in an entertainment capacity [soft chuckle] as a singer on stage for the troops. After that they shipped me into intelligence. I cannot talk much about what transpired, but I can tell you that it was very interesting, challenging, and tense. My parents didn’t know what was happening and I could not tell them.

BJL: How old were you at this time?

Rabbi Haimoff: I was twenty-three at the time. Interestingly, whatever I learned in the Yeshiva from the Rebbeim (teachers) and Mashgichim (counselors) was exactly true about the army.

BJL: What do you mean by that?

Rabbi Haimoff: I mean the framework and mindset of the high command, the strategy and long-term goals. Everything my teachers taught me about the army’s “mindset” was exactly accurate. I was in this situation during the 1973 war. What an unusual situation it was. Our unit warned the high command that things were looking fishy. All the arrows were pointing to-

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wards a war of some sort, but strangely enough are warnings were not heeded.

I was in shul at the time the war actually broke out, a hazan for the Yom Kippur prayers. It was musaf time (midday) when the war sirens began blaring. It was a horrible day; thousands of Jews died…there were buses coming down every street, calling reservists and enlisted men. Like I said, the country was caught off-guard and we were not at our posts.

I heard the bus driver call out “Hai-

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moff, Haimoff” and I knew that I had to go. My father looked at me as I stepped down from the shtender (leading prayer bench) and asked me where I was going.

He took over the prayers as I left the floor and my mother followed me down the stairs towards the bus, hugging me and asking how I would contact her. I told her I would find a way to call her.

As I got on the bus, I met the driver, a man with a long beard and tallit (prayer shawl). We were all fasting that day, on that remarkable Yom Kippur. Back at the base there was another unusual scene: the religious, the secular, everyone together was praying with unbelievably great emotion.

We had so few prayer books but everyone wanted to pray. That was a great unity that I witnessed, ten men praying out of one mahzor (holiday prayer-book). It was a tragic moment that brought out the best in our nation: true unity and brotherhood.

As the war progressed, we witnessed many miracles, and the tide eventually turned. There was no question in my mind, and in the minds of many other people, that our combined prayers reached the heavens. On the day of fear and repentance began a day of miracles for our people, and it was clear to everyone at the time.

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Dear Friends: It is a great pleasure to send greetings to the readers of the Bukharian Jewish Link as it celebrates its recent inaugural edition.

New York has always maintained a strong bond with the global Jewish people, and these ties have shaped the rich fabric of the five boroughs for centuries. Publications such as the Bukharian Jewish Link are vital in connecting our residents to their shared faith and heritage, and its wide variety of news stories, cultural articles, and coverage of current events will help ensure that our city always remains at the heart of Jewish American life. With a mission to serve as a vital resource for the Bukharian Jewish community, BJL will unite its growing readership and keep New Yorkers well-informed. I am proud to join in congratulating this outstanding publication and its staff, supporters, and contributing journalists as we continue to foster the unmatched multiculturalism that strengthens our city.

On behalf of the City of New York, I offer my best wishes for continued success.

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Rediscovering Ourselves

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family friend once remarked to me that Yom Kippur is her favorite day of the year. Then she added with a halfsmile, “I don’t even know why I love it so much. I hate fasting, yet I love the day.

Am I crazy?”

I replied that I always feel there is a certain serenity that sets in as Kol Nidrei commences. I compared it to the early morning hours after a massive snowstorm. The whole neighborhood is covered in a pristine blanket of white, and the roads are still impassable. For at least a few hours there is nowhere to go, and everything seems so tranquil (unless of course you drive a snow plow).

The hours before Yom Kippur are an extremely frenzied and busy time. Meals, mikvah, showers, blessings, last minute phone calls, arrangements, candles - including yahrtzeit candles, tallit and kittel, slippers, etc. I always feel quite harried as I settle into my seat to try to say Tefillat Zakkah (the impassioned confession prayer recited prior to Kol Nidrei) with the intense concentration it warrants.

But then as the sun begins to set and the chazzan’s voice begins the ancient penetrating and haunting tune for Kol Nidrei, all of the frenzied rush is over. True, there is tremendous intensity and seri-

ousness that envelopes the synagogue.

However, at that moment, there is nowhere else to go and nowhere else to be. There are no meals to prepare, no arrangements to be made, and nothing else to do. There is only the machzor and the prayers before us.

Yom Kippur also affords us the opportunity to take a candid unhindered look at ourselves, and whether we are living up to, and fulfilling, our own dreams and aspirations.

It is well known that in the court of the great Kotzker Rebbe there was a tremendous emphasis in truth – in behavior, conduct, and even thought.

The Kotzker Rebbe once asked a woman why she had traveled a great distance to come to Kotzk. She replied that she had come to find G-d. The Rebbe replied that for that she could have stayed home, because G-d is everywhere. “Then why have I have come?” She asked. “To find yourself,” the Rebbe poignantly replied.

“To find yourself.”

Therein lies part of the greatness of Yom Kippur. We “come to Yom Kippur” to find ourselves: Where have we been?

Where are we going? It is an opportunity for serious introspection.

Yom Kippur may not be an easy day,

but it is a transcendent day, and in a sense, a day of great serenity and inner peace.

May we all rediscover ourselves and enjoy the experience.

Big wods - We “come to Yom Kippur” to find ourselves: Where have we been?

Where are we going?

Rabbi Dani Staum, LMSW, is the Rabbi of Kehillat New Hempstead,as well as a rebbe and the Guidance Counselor at Heichal HaTorah in Teaneck, and Principal at Mesivta Ohr Naftoli of New Windsor. Rabbi Staum is a division head at Camp Dora Golding. His email address is stamtorah@gmail.com. His website is www.stamtorah.info

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Rav Yehuda Ari Chaimov

By Rabbi Yisrael Kaikov

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n the last one hundred years, many famous Torah sages have walked the face of this earth.

Hashem, in his mysterious ways, has only revealed a small percentage of them to the general public.

We have all heard of Rav Ezra Atia, the Stiepler, and the Baba Sali. People often wonder, “Does that mean if a community did not produce famous chachamim (Torah scholars) then they didn’t exist?”

When I was a bachur (student) in Yeshiva, that thought often entered my mind, until a talmid chacham in the kollel (R’ Yonatan Admoni) shared an interesting thought with me. He asked me, “Did you ever hear of Rav Yosef Karo?” to which I replied, “of course; he wrote the famous Shulchan Aruch.” He then asked me “Did you ever hear of Rav Shmuel Valansee?” to which my response was, “no.”

He then opened up a Shulchan Aruch and showed how Rav Yosef Karo referred to Rav Shmuel Valansee as one of the greatest Torah sages of his generation. He then stated if no one hears a tree fall in the forest does that mean it didn’t fall?

With those words I was sold! Thus embarked upon this hobby of researching Bukharian Torah scholars.

Following the Russian revolution (1917) and the poverty that struck Israel in the ‘20s and ‘30s, it is understandable why the very previous generation did not

less, despite all of those obstacles, there emerged a Gadol Hador (Torah giant) in his own right - a scholar who stood shoulder-to-shoulder with all other leading poskim of the recent generation. His name was Rav Yehuda Ari Chaimov; he was a leading rav of the Bukharian community of Yerushalayim in the 1960s.

Rav Yehuda, or Mulla Ari, as he was

In 1945, when Rav Chizkiyahu passed away, Mulla Ari was proclaimed the rav of Yerushalayim’s Bukharian community, a position he held for 28 years have so many Bukharian Torah giants.

Even the Bukharians who were spared of communist Russia and ascended to Israel in the 1890s fell prey to the misleading anti-Torah leaders of the time. Neverthe-

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commonly referred, was born on the 18th of Iyar 1899 in the city of Andijan.

His parents, R’ David and Esther, merited to have eight children. In 1909, young Yehuda, his parents, and two sisters, Rachel

and Devorah, made the ultimate decision to travel to Eretz Yisrael along with a caravan of relatives. After about two years of living in Yerushalayim, the family decided to return to Andijon along with little Yehuda. In 1912, however, they decided to return to Yerushalayim - this time for good. Rav Yehuda’s older married siblings (two brothers and three sisters) stayed behind in Andijon with their respective families.

The Rebbi It is truly amazing how Hashem orchestrates his world. Rav Yosef Yedid Halaivi arrived in Tzafat from Syria in 1890 and lived there for 21 years. He was arguably one of the greatest poskim in Eretz Yisrael. In 1912 he made a trip to Yerushalayim to print a certain book that he authored. Rav Yosef decided to reside in Yerushalayim and transferred over all his belongings. A short while later he was appointed as a prominent dayan (Rabbinical judge) for the Bukharian community. His new appointment gained him many connections, one of which was

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inheriting the enormous library of the Rishon Lizion, Chacham Rephael Meir Panitzil. He also served as dayan in the Syrian Beit Din. Rav Yosef taught a group of students for s’micha (Rabbinica ordination), many of who were Bukharian.

The two most prominent were Mulla Ari and Rav Simcha Haimoff. Most probably those were the first two Bukharians to get s’micha in Eretz Yisrael. At the time the Mulla Ari was learning s’micha by his rebbe, the situation in Yerushalayim was very bad. It was in the middle of WWI and poverty had struck hard. There were literally dead bodies in the streets. Mulla Ari, together with his havruta, Mulla Simcha, were not deterred and used the opportunity to become ordained by their rebbe. In 1922, the renowned Yeshivat Porat Yosef opened. Mulla Ari was immediately accepted and even served as a maggid shiur (teacher for the older students) during the 1920s. Rav Yosef YeCONTINUED ON P. 21

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Forgiving Wholeheartedly

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s we approach the High Holiday of Yom Kippur, every couple has an obligation to ask for forgiveness from their partner for possibly “hurting” them in any way. Many couples are faced with the challenge of having to forgive their spouse after being hurt by their partner’s actions, speech, or behavior.

A recent client of mine, Sara, spoke about how hurt she was because her husband, David, did not understand her emotional need to receive adequate attention from him. She continuously discussed the matter with him, but he could not validate her needs and she felt hurt and pained that he was not able to understand her properly. After speaking to both of them about this, David slowly started to be more attentive to Sara’s needs and even more helpful around the house - but that did not ease her pain. Sara simply could not forgive her husband for his behavior and insensitivity towards her for all those years gone by.

What is it about having to forgive someone that makes it so hard? And why is it so especially difficult to forgive in the marriage relationship? If every year we come to ask forgiveness and are taught to forgive, then what are the hurts that stay with us, that even though we may forgive them it is impossible to forget?

Dvorah Levy, LCSW, explains that the hurts that stay with us are those that threaten our sense of secure attachment to our partner. Since humans were created to long for emotional and physical connections, positive attachment occurs when we feel secure that our partner accepts us and is there for us - physically and emotionally - when we need them the most. When we feel that we are not important and our needs are not met, then we create an “attachment injury.”

As the feelings inside of us are suppressed, we create a distance and dullness in the relationship. When we are asked to forgive two things have to happen: We have to allow ourselves to release the idea of the expected relationship rather than having him/her pay for what he/she did or did not do and allow ourselves to forgive. Since we sometimes feel hurt when our expectations are not met and feel it is owed to us, whether tangible or not, forgiveness means to erase the debt. If we look at the word “forgive” we can split it into two: For Give. For the sake of giving or giving for - for the one that owes you. We know the word love in Hebrew is “Ahava”

– which has the root word of Hav, which means to give. We are able to walk through the journey of forgiving someone to whom we can give our forgiveness in order to love.

Being able to let go of the past and allowing one to feel loved by the present words, actions, and behaviors are all acts of forgiveness or ways one can Give - For their spouse.

It is a personal journey that one has to go on to elevate their pain and start feeling relief.

A person has to say goodbye to the past in order to welcome the future or let go of the relationship they once yearned for to create a new one within the strengths and limitations of their spouse. Many times, our partners go through a journey of their own as they grow and strive to become spouses that are more emotionally sensitive to the other’s needs. In a marriage, we are always communicating; whether we are silent or

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Forgiveness is a commitment to a process of change through patience and understanding verbal – we are communicating. Therefore, taking notice of the changes verbally can create positive feelings to enhance the marriage relationship. We grow more from positive expressions rather than negative.

What is forgiveness? It is a decision to let go of resentment. When, in our hearts, we let go of grudges and bitterness, we allow room for compassion, kindness, and peace. Forgiveness can lead to healing.

When couples are having a challenge, feeling they are not being understood by their partners, there is a technique that I like to use. The partner that would like to discuss an issue should select a specific issue and then state his/her concern and his/ her feelings about it. For example: I notice that….

I feel hurt by….

I feel resentment…

I would like…

I appreciate you …

Not only is the person using the “I” statement, but also specifically identifying their feelings, their future request, and finding appreciation or what their partner has already been trying to do. While the speaker is talking, the partner is taking on a very important role - actively listening - and repeating back the message they heard stated. Only when a spouse really tries to listen, can they hear the message!

Forgiveness is a commitment to a pro-

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cess of change through patience and understanding. When there is a willingness to put effort into the relationship by not dismissing the hurt or my spouse’s feelings, there is motivation to work on the relationship.

When we take accountability and ask ourselves: What have I done to cause this pain?

We can ask our partner what type of reassurance they need from us at the time to show how committed we really are to the relationship.

There is nothing greater than being able to make our partners happy by fulfilling the other’s need. As we approach Yom Kippur and would like to forgive, we may consider the value of forgiveness and its importance in our relationships. We may reflect on the facts of the situation, how we reacted, and how this combination has affected our life, health and overall well-being. When we are ready, we can actively choose to forgive the one that hurt us… wholeheartedly.

Adina Ribacoff, LMSW has been teaching Kallahs for over 20 years. She and her husband, Rabbi Refael Ribacoff, have created a program to further enhance the relationship between husband & wife, called “Table for Two.” She specializes in individual, couples, and family counseling. She enjoys presenting workshops and lecturing on the topic of relationships and is in the process of creating a Community Marriage & Family Center to accommodate the needs of families in the community. She can be contacted at adinaribacoff@gmail.com or 347-680-9179.

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Relationship Between Choice And Consequence

By Adam Suionov

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he days of awe are marked by judgment, but how do I prove that I have free choice? You may say that you know you have choice because you have the freedom to choose. However, freedom to choose does not demonstrate choice in the most absolute sense. For example, if you only have a choice between two paths, one less desirable than the other, it can be said that you don’t really have a choice in the purest sense, but are simply doing the act of choosing. So how is it that we know we have a free will, in the purest sense?

Just because consequence denotes choice, does it mean that I cannot have choice without a consequence?

Free will is proven by the fact that our choices bear perfect consequences. Consequence by definition implies choice, and

therefore qualifies the claim that we have free will. Understand this. Therefore, if our actions had no consequences, we would not know if we were exercising free will.

Consequences for our choices are therefore more than just indicators of the choices we make; consequences can be said to perfectly embody our choices.

It is important to note that within the context of our discussion, the term “consequence” is distinct from the terms “result” or “reaction.” These terms do not necessar-

ily imply choice, and besides for mechanical connotations, can be used within the context of forced behavior as well. The term “consequence” as used here must be in perfect response to a choice. Of course, a consequence does not need to be fair to be true, but within the context of our discussion, we assume that all consequences are perfectly fair in the truest sense. It follows logically then that for a consequence to be deemed fair, the choice is sufficient and necessary. In other words, to know

that a consequence is fair, we must know that there was an absolute choice.

However, just because consequence denotes choice, does it mean that I cannot have choice without a consequence? In order to answer this question, we need to know what choice consists of. I cannot relate to a choice without its connection to a consequence - the choice itself is unknowable. This is because a choice in the purest sense must be more than the sum total of any given processes that weighs in on a direction; for if it weren’t, how could I be judged for having made that choice? We really have no framework with which to define choice because absolute choice is divorced from the given draws or tendencies that may indicate why one moves in either direction. To the extent that one is pulled, he can be said to actually not be exercising an absolute choice. That doesn’t mean he doesn’t have a choice, but rather that his actual choice is an ultra-fine dot in between two oceans with opposite currents. Therefore, because consequence is the result of a perfect judgment consequence it is the only true indicator, from our perspective, of choice. Only an all-knowing Judge can know for certain an unknowable choice and therefore only a judgment can show me that I exercised a choice.

Because the import of any consequence is certain fair judgment, we understand that judgment is what affirms free choice.

If we were to annul the concepts of judgment, we are in effect annulling the foundation of all free will.

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Three Israelis Killed In Terror Attack Outside Yerushalayim A Palestinian attacker opened fire early on Tuesday [9/26] at the entrance to a settlement outside Yerushalayim, killing three Israeli security men and critically wounding a fourth, Israeli police and medical services said, in one of the deadliest attacks in a two-year spate of violence.

Israeli officials said the attacker was a 37-year-old Palestinian father of four, with a valid work permit in Israel and a troubled personal life who appeared to have acted alone.

The attack comes at a tense period amid the Jewish holidays and is likely to complicate the mediation efforts of U.S. peace envoy Jason Greenblatt who just arrived in the region for meetings with Israeli and Palestinians leaders.

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‘Fix It Or Nix It,” Netanyahu Says Of Iran Nuclear Deal Israeli Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu said the Iran nuclear deal must be amended or canceled, but suggested that scrapping the deal may be preferable. “Israel’s policy regarding the nuclear deal with Iran is very simple — change it or cancel it, fix it or nix it,” Netanyahu said addressing the United Nations General Assembly in New York. The Israeli leader said canceling the deal would simply mean a notably the president, and visiting foreign dignitaries.

Alexa, What Do You See? Amazon Said To Be Working On Glasses Amazon is attempting to develop glasses that pair with Alexa and would allow users to access the voice-activated assistant outside the home. The Financial Times, citing sources, says the glasses could be released before the end of the year.

Earlier Wednesday, Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu’s office said it was sending a rescue team in response to a request for assistance from Mexico. Netanyahu paid an official visit to Mexico last week. return to massive sanctions as a means of pressure on Iran. The 2015 deal, negotiated by the Obama administration, traded sanctions relief for a rollback to Iran’s nuclear option. Netanyahu said Iran’s rulers should be wary of their constant threats against Israel. “Those who threaten us with annihilation put themselves in peril,” he said.

Equifax Dumps CEO In Wake of Damaging Data Breach Credit reporting agency Equifax is ousting CEO Richard Smith in an effort to clean up the mess left by a damaging data breach that exposed highly sensitive information about 143 million Americans.

Some Trump Advisers Used Private Email for Government Business At least six close advisers to President Donald Trump, including former Chief of Staff Reince Priebus and former chief strategist Steve Bannon, occasionally used private email addresses for government business. During Trump’s 2016 election campaign, the Republican attacked Democratic rival Hillary Clinton for her use of a private email server for official correspondence when she was secretary of state under

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Citizens in Puerto Rico ‘Gasping for Air’ After Hurricane Maria Strikes After Hurricane Maria knocked out electricity to all of Puerto Rico and left approximately 30 dead and dozens missing, residents of the United States territory are “gasping for air” in the brutal heat, says the mayor of the island’s capital city of San Juan. 44 percent of the population is without drinking water and 58 of Puerto Rico’s 69 hospitals are without fuel or power. Maria slammed into the small island on Sept.

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The shake-up announced Tuesday comes after Equifax disclosed that hackers exploited a software flaw that the company didn’t fix to heist Social Security numbers, birthdates and other personal data that provide the keys to identify theft.

Smith will also step down from the chairman post. He had been Equifax’s CEO since 2005.

Israel Sending Rescue Team to Mexico After Earthquake The Israeli military says it’s sending a 70-member delegation to Mexico to assist with rescue efforts following a magnitude 7.1 earthquake. Some 25 engineers make up the biggest component of the team. They will help survey and assess damage and determine whether buildings are safe. The team will also include search and rescue professionals, as well as support staff providing medical care and logistics.

President Barack Obama.

Trump’s son-in-law and close adviser, Jared Kushner, used a private email account alongside his official White House account to exchange messages with other administration officials.

Secret Service Says It Arrested Person With Guns Near White House On Sunday The U.S. Secret Service arrested a person with firearms near the White House on Sunday morning. Uniformed Secret Service officers were approached by the person at an intersection close to the White House.

The individual was arrested for possession of several firearms,” the statement said. No further details were provided by the Secret Service, which is the federal agency responsible for protecting top U.S. elected leaders,

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The world’s second-largest gem-quality diamond has been sold to a London jeweler for $53 million. Laurence Graff, chairman of Graff Diamonds, bought the diamond privately after it failed to meet its reserve price at an auction last year. The 1,111-carat stone was recovered by Canadian firm Lucara Diamond Corp in Botswana two years ago. The stone was first formed between 2.5 to three billion years ago and is roughly the size of a tennis ball. As well as its size, the diamond has been certified as being of “exceptional quality and transparency” by the Gemological Institute of America. [BBC]

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Irma was wasn’t an inconvenience; it was a pause button on life

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uesday morning. I feel great; time to tackle my goals. Let me just check something on my phone quickly.

Hmm, another hurricane on the way. I wonder how bad it’ll be. Category 5! But they still don’t know which way it’ll go. Maybe it’ll go around my neighborhood and just cause a lawn chair to tip over like Hurricane Matthew did last year. What if it’s a direct hit? I need to tell my husband. Of course, he says not to worry, as always. I’ll check flights out just in case. No available flights out on Spirit! What about JetBlue? Site not working - because too many customers using it. I’ll check again in a few minutes. It’s $697 per person?!?! Whoa. I’m not sticking around to see if it goes one way or the other.

I’ll fill up the gas tank and drive out of here if I need to. What if there’s no gas left? Am I finding out about all this too late?

Wednesday morning. I better start packing. For how many days? What do I take? I guess a few outfits per person plus outfits for Shabbat and just do the laundry wherever I go. Is one suitcase for all five of us enough? It’ll have to be. What kind of food will last us on the road? What if everything gets flooded like I saw on the news on Texas? How long would the recovery take? Will I ever come back to Florida? What’ll it be like when Mashiach reveals himself? Am I ready for that? Could I really leave all this behind?

Those were just some of my thoughts in the days leading up to Hurricane Irma. As we drove out and left our home behind, I had a very heavy feeling, and I consider myself a generally positive person.

I remember a story of an overwhelmed father who came to a renowned rabbi to ask for a blessing that his child should be healed. Because of his child’s condition, all he could do was worry. The rabbi blessed him that his child should have a refuah shlema (complete healing), and he added,

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The father was in shock. What kind of blessing is that? He asked the rabbi what he had in mind. The rabbi explained that when you are living life and have your daily routine, there are many challenges that pop up along the way and everyone has something that they need to deal with.

That’s just the way life is. However, when there is a major crisis, it takes over a person’s whole life. There is no daily routine.

All of a person’s focus is consumed by that one thing. So the rabbi was blessing this man that his life should go back to the routine, with the everyday challenges.

That’s what Irma was. It wasn’t an inconvenience, like being stuck in traffic so you’re 15 minutes late to a meeting, or like realizing you’re missing an ingredient for the birthday cake you’re making until you’re halfway through the recipe. Irma was a pause button on life.

School was cancelled. All the kids were home. While trying to prepare for the hurricane, you had to take care of them, too, at a time when they would normally be in school. You also had to think how you’d entertain them over the course of the next week, including days without electricity, and attempt to teach them about the upcoming chagim (holidays), because they’d be missing all the learning from school.

You had to mentally prepare for how hot it would be in the home from the Florida heat without any air conditioning and find ways to keep the whole family cool.

As far as the house, shutters needed to be put up to protect windows from shattering, in case of strong winds or flying objects.

Besides the usual Shabbat shopping, there was also a mad rush to fill up the gas tank and buy flashlights, batteries, candles, water, and whatever else was on the hurricane preparedness checklist before the stores ran out of items. You had to make sure to have enough nonperishable food, because who knew how long the power would be out.

You could also forget about going to work until everything settled down and the power was restored.

If you decided to leave instead of sticking around, you had to find a place to stay.

In some places, evacuation was mandatory.

Many hotels were completely booked. You could drive north, but who knew which path the hurricane would take and how far north you needed to drive to get to safety?

You had to pack all your valuables, clothing, and food, and head out early enough so that you had access to gasoline and didn’t get trapped in gridlock and make it in time for Shabbat, wherever your destination. Baruch Hashem, we had family who made us feel right at home and reassured us and prayed with us and drank l’chaims for everyone’s safety.

There were communities that opened their doors for all us South Floridians. “Mi ke’amcha, Yisrael” – whose level of kindness is as amazing as the Jewish people’s?! I received endless texts and emails about the chesed (kindness) that people were doing for each other. It blew me away. Shuls were contacting their members and finding out what each family’s plans were so they knew if they needed to check in on them. There were forms going around for people to fill in if they would be traveling to Atlanta or Maryland so that they could be matched up with families living there who were willing to host them for Shabbat. Amazing! For those who stayed in South Florida and lost electricity, there were others who hadn’t lost power yet and invited them in, even though they didn’t know them. It made me think. What’s keeping us together? It’s Hashem, the Torah, Shabbat – all One! As we turned on our phones after Shabbat to check the path of the storm, I realized how lucky we are to be able to disconnect.

What a gift to be present in the moment, to let go of the need to know and trust that Hashem is taking care of everything.

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spared. Yes, it was a relief, but we continued to pray for everyone else that would be impacted.

After the storm passed, the kindness continued. I was all the way in New York and a woman from my community contacted me to ask for my address so she could drive by and let me know if my home had power. She didn’t need to do that. My husband even had a friend who drove by and texted us pictures of the front of our home because we were wondering if there was any damage and wouldn’t be able to see until we drove all the way back.

The Jewish communities here were active in filling the needs of the communities.

A Jewish school, Ohr Yechezkel, was willing to open their doors and offer child care free of charge for a couple of days while most daycares and schools were still closed. Parents were searching for a place for their children to be and enjoy activities while they tried to repair any damage and attempted to restore routine to their lives.

There was also a South Florida Hurricane Irma Emergency Relief Fund set up by the rabbis of North Miami Beach. It is meant to help families who are in need of funds for food for the next few weeks. Many had to throw away all the food in their refrigerators and freezers, which spoiled because of power outages. Some people had already done major shopping for the upcoming holidays and lost it all. This fund is also set aside for short-term construction funding for those whose homes were damaged and need immediate repairs.

Irma was an experience, even if we didn’t stick around for it. It was full of teachable moments for my children. It was full of opportunities to thank Hashem and work on building our trust in Him. It was a time when other people’s lives continued, but ours had to stop. Now, as we are slowly but surely getting back into our routines, we are thankful for the everyday challenges!

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Message From The Publisher CONTINUED FROM P. 4 that community who are well-versed in the field of Jewish law. After all, the role of a chief rabbi is to be the “rabbi of the rabbis.”

His knowledge should surpass those of his pears, or at least be at a level that demands their respect. In order to be a chief rabbi, you need the rabbis that you represent to accept you as their rabbi and understand that your word is final to them. A chief rabbi’s decisions impact the entire rabbinical board he represents. If that is not the case with a chief rabbi, then, forgive me for saying this, that position would be nothing but a joke.

Recently, a commotion took place in our community when a certain individual was chosen to be a “chief rabbi” by a respected businessman in Israel. This businessman has given his life and soul for Jewish causes. He truly cares for the future of the Jewish people and especially for the Bukharian community. However, it truly is unfortunate that he is being fooled by certain individuals in New York into thinking that his choice for chief rabbi is actually the choice of the Bukharian Rabbinate.

This can’t be any further from the truth.

In fact, as one who attended the official coronation of this supposed “chief rabbi,” I saw an atmosphere of confusion. Everyone seemed shocked and many quite disappointed, including some of the business leaders of our community. A day later, the truth was revealed…and the truth is quite sad.

At a meeting hosted by Rabbi Eliyahu Ben Chaim at the Beit Din of Queens, approximately 40 community rabbis were in attendance. Four or five of them also attended the so-called “coronation” of the new chief rabbi the day before, and one by one they stood up and expressed their shock at what happened.

As an example, Rabbi Shlomo Nisanov stood up and stated he was invited by the Bukharian Congress to what was supposed to be a simple “l’chaim” for the holidays and he was utterly shocked to see how they staged this whole appointment of a supposedly new chief rabbi. Rabbi Avreich Kaziyev expressed his amazement at being fooled as well, and that was the reaction of Rabbi Yaakov Nasirov and Rabbi Chagai Niazov too.

When I saw this happen, I told myself that the truth must be made known to the greater public. People must realize that many of our rabbis give their hearts and souls to help our community grow. We have numerous wonderful organizations that work with our youth and inspire thousands every year.

We have rabbis and rebbetzins who stay up all night to help people who are having issues of shalom bayit. They are available at nearly all times of the day to give encouragement to community members who are dealing with the various issues they may be facing.

As such, we businessmen should appreciate the work of our rabbis and help them take our community to the next level. We definitely must not dictate to them who is deserving of what position. Only our rabbis have the expertise as to who is fit to be a chief rabbi, who is fit to be a rabbinical judge, who is fit to perform a marriage ceremony, who is fit to perform a brit milah, and so on and so forth.

The real chief rabbi of the Bukharian community, Rav Yitzchak Yisraeli, is a renowned Torah scholar respected by all the rabbis in our community and beyond. He was appointed to this position by the rab-

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binical leaders of our community. These are the basic facts - not fake news!

As such, a chief rabbi is not just a title; it’s a responsibility. Expertise in all areas of the Torah is a prerequisite and Rav Yisraeli fits the bill. He has dedicated his entire life exclusively to the study and dissemination of Torah. And he has excelled at his job.

In fact, a nice majority of the rabbis in the Bukharian community are his students and

consult with him for all major questions.

As we reach the holy day of Yom Kippur and the beautiful holiday of Sukkot, let us all unite and work together to improve our community. Unfortunately, there is much to work on. Drug abuse is rampant.

Divorces are on the rise. Problems are popping up everywhere. However, we can all make a difference! But everyone has their roles and they should focus on their roles.

Let the doctors be doctors, the lawyers be lawyers, and the rabbis be rabbis. We must all work together for a brighter future, but everyone must also know their boundaries. With that we will see even greater accomplishments in our community.

Wishing a G’mar Chatima Tova to all!

Avraham Yakubov Publisher

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Chief Bukharian Rabbinate of USA and Canada

‫מודעה רבה לאורייתא‬ ‫הננו להודיע בשער בת רבים שאנו הרבנים הח"מ התכנסנו כולנו בכנסיה לשם שמים ביום שני כ"ז אלול תשע"ז כדי להרבות‬ ‫ כי נזדעזענו לראות שנתפרסם ברבים שר׳ ברוך באבייב נבחר לרב ראשי של עדה הבוכארית‬,‫כבוד לתורה ולמחות על בזיון התורה‬ ‫ והוא אינו מקובל אצלנו‬,‫ והננו מודיעים באופן ברור וחד משמעית שדבר זה נעשה במרמה ובניגוד לרבני הקהילה‬.‫בארה״ב וקנדה‬ ‫ והננו להודיע להנ״ל כי עליו לסור מדרכו הנלוזה‬.‫ ואין זה מקובל שגביר ממנה רב בלי התייעצות עם רבני הקהילה‬,‫כלל וכלל‬ .‫ ואם לאו נאלץ לפעול ע"פ ההלכה כדת‬,'‫ והזהרו בגחלתן וכו‬,‫להתעטף באיצטלא שאינה שלו‬ ‫ ויהי נועם‬,‫ לאוקמי שכינתא מעפרא‬,‫ להגדיל תורה ולהאדירה‬,‫ל עליון מקבץ נדחי ישראל שחפץ ה' בידינו יצלח‬-‫ואנו תפילה לא‬ .'‫וגו‬ Important Public Notice We hereby notify the broader public, that we the undersigned Rabbis gathered together on the 27th of Elul to further improve the spiritual future of our community.... and we were utterly shocked to see publications falsely stating that R' Baruch Babaev was "elected" to serve as Chief Rabbi of the Bukharian community in the USA and Canada.

We make it very clear that this decision was done via trickery and was performed contrary to the opinion of the Rabbinical leaders of the Bukharian community. In reality R' Babaev is not at all approved to hold the aforementioned position and it's unacceptable for a businessman to make decisions for our community without consulting with the Rabbinical leaders.

We publicly notify R' Babaev to remove himself from the wrong path and recognize his true place in the community, for if he refuses to do so then the Beit Din will need to react according to halakha....

We conclude with a prayer that we succeed in furthering the growth of our community in all matters etc.

(General interpretation of Hebrew proclamation)

‫ובזה באנו על החתום‬

Rabbi Avraham Babachanov ‫הרב אברהם בבחנוב שליט"א‬ ‫ראש קהילת‬ ‫ג'מאיקא איסטטס‬

Rabbi Emanuel Yelizarov ‫הרב עמנואל אלעזרוב שליט"א‬ ‫ראש קהילת‬ ‫בית יעקב‬

Rabbi Moshe Abramov ‫הרב משה אברמוב שליט"א‬ ‫ראש קהילת בוכרים‬

Rabbi Itzchak Abramov ‫הרב יצחק אברמוב שליט"א‬ ‫ראש קהילת‬ ‫שערי תפילה‬

Rabbi Igal Chaimov ‫הרב יגאל חיימוב שליט"א‬ ‫ראש ישיבת אוהל שמחה‬ ‫וקהילת אל השורשים‬

Rabbi Eliyahu Ben Chaim ‫הרב אליהו בן חיים שליט"א‬ ‫אב בית דין ספרדי‬ ‫ קווינס‬,‫ניו יורק‬

Mulo Baruch Chodzhayev ‫מולא ברוך חודג'ייב שליט"א‬ ‫ראש קהילת‬ ‫חופזי קותון‬

Rabbi Rafael Zavulunov ‫הרב רפאל זבולונוב שליט"א‬ ‫ראש קהילת‬ ‫אור התורה‬

Rabbi Rachamim Dodobayev ‫הרב רחמים דודובייב שליט"א‬ ‫ראש קהילת‬ ‫ליפראק סיטי‬

Rabbi Nathan Gadayev ‫הרב נתן גדייב שליט"א‬ ‫מומחה לעניני הכשרות‬

Rabbi Nisan Gavrielov ‫הרב ניסן גבריאלוב שליט"א‬ ‫סטאריט סיטי‬

Rabbi Daniel Baruch ‫הרב דניאל ברוך שליט"א‬ ‫סגן ראש הכולל‬ ‫בית גבריאל‬

Rabbi Neria Cohen ‫הרב נריה כהן שליט"א‬ ‫ראש קהילת‬ ‫לב אחד‬

Rabbi Malkiel Itzchakov ‫הרב מלכיאל יצחקוב שליט"א‬ ‫ראש קהילת‬ ‫תומר דבורה‬

Rabbi Israel Itshakov ‫הרב ישראל יצחקוב שליט"א‬ ‫ראש קהילת בית גבריאל‬ ‫מנין צעירים‬

Rabbi Malkiel Yusupov ‫הרב מלכיאל יוסופוב שליט"א‬ ‫ראש בית המדרש‬ ‫אור הגנוז‬

Rabbi Avraham Tabibov ‫הרב אברהם טביבוב שליט"א‬ ‫ראש קהילת‬ ‫בית אליהו‬

R’ Pinchas Ilyasov ‫הר' פנחס אלייסוב שליט"א‬ ‫ראש קהילת‬ ‫תורת שבטים‬

Rabbi Yakov Nasirov ‫הרב יעקב נסירוב שליט"א‬ ‫ראש קהילת‬ ‫בית אל‬

Rabbi Shlomo Nisanov ‫הרב שלמה ניסנוב שליט"א‬ ‫ראש קהילת ספרדים‬

Rabbi Moshe Moretov ‫הרב משה מורטוב שליט"א‬ ‫ראש קהילת בית גבריאל‬ ‫מנין הנץ‬

Rabbi Moshe Mehdizade ‫הרב משה מהדיזדה שליט"א‬ ‫ראש קהילת‬ ‫בית של אהבה ותפילה‬

Rabbi Ilan Meirov ‫הרב אילן מאירוב שליט"א‬ ‫ראש אירגון חזק‬

Rav Bechor Cohenov ‫הרב בכור כהנוב שליט"א‬ ‫ראש קהילת‬ ‫בית ברוך חי אוהבי תורה‬

Rabbi Benyamin Tamayev ‫הרב בנימין תמאייב שליט"א‬ ‫ראש קהילת‬ ‫אמת ואמונה‬

Rabbi Emanuel Shimonov ‫הרב עמנואל שמעונוב שליט"א‬ ‫הרב הראשי קהילת‬ ‫בית גבריאל‬

Rabbi Rafael Ribakoff ‫הרב רפאל ריבקוב שליט"א‬ ‫ היוליט‬,‫ראש קהילת ספרדים‬

Rabbi Mordechay Rachminov ‫הרב מרדכי רחמינוב שליט"א‬ ‫ראש קהילת‬ ‫אוהל יוסף ברוכו תוכסור‬

Rabbi Gershon Pinchasov ‫הרב גרשון פנחסוב שליט"א‬ ‫ראש קהילת ספרדים‬ ‫מנין צעירים‬

Rabbi David Pleshtiyev ‫הרב דוד פלשטייב שליט"א‬ ‫ראש קהילת‬ ‫תורת חיים אוהל שרה‬

Rabbi Yakov Malayev ‫הרב יעקב מלייב שליט"א‬ ‫ראש קהילה הבוכרית‬ ‫טורונטו קנדה‬

Rabbi Baruch Cohen ‫הרב ברוך כהן שליט"א‬ ‫ראש קהילת‬ ‫ פיניקס אריזונה‬,‫אהבת ישראל‬

Rabbi Avrech Kaziyev ‫הרב אברך קזיאב שליט"א‬ ‫ראש קהילת‬ ‫סנטר בראיווד‬

Rabbi Itzchak Shimonov ‫הרב יצחק שמעונוב שליט"א‬ ‫ראש קהילת‬ ‫בית מלכיאל‬

Rabbi Daniel Cohen ‫הרב דניאל כהן שליט"א‬ ‫ראש בית המדרש‬ ‫שער האמת‬

Rabbi Benyamin Yochanan ‫הרב בנימין יוחנן שליט"א‬ ‫ראש קהילת‬ ‫ מונסי‬,‫בני בכורי‬

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By Roman Aminov, Esq.

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My first trusts and estates class introduced me to a legal world where the most important and sensitive parts of our lives, our mortality, were front and center. I was excited about the prospect of working with families and individuals to help them reflect on their achievements and plan for their futures. In the real world, I found estate work to be more focused on the practical and procedural and less on the personal. For example, my practice revolves around three main areas: (1) planning the distribution of assets, (2) protecting those assets from costly long-term care bills, and (3) obtaining access to and administering assets after death. All three are extremely rewarding experiences, and the

plicit question is constantly being posed to both the benefactor and the beneficiaries: “To What End?” What is the intended purpose of the money that the decedent has left behind? How should it be spent? What values should guide the beneficiaries in spending their inheritance? This article is

Their role is to leave behind the stories, history, struggles, values, and lessons of the writer to future generations ability to help families navigate the legal minefields is a privilege. However, in the background, the issue of our mortality and purpose in life still remains untouched by conventional estate planning tools. An im-

a step towards offering one answer to that question.

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He refers to them with great endearment and gratitude.

In 1937, a “vaad” (committee) was set up, consisting of the Bukharian spiritual leaders of Yerushalayim. They were Rav Avraham Aminov, Rav Chizkiyahu Rabin, Rav Moshe Hakohen Yitschakov, Rav Chaim Shalomov, and, the youngest of all the members, Mulla Yehuda Ari Chaimov.

In 1943, when some of the chachamim had passed away, Rav Moshe Yitschakov was appointed as rabbi of the community. When he passed away, upon Rav Moshe’s request before he passed, Mulla Ari was given the honor to fill in the position. Due to his humility, he rejected on the offer, and passed it on to his dear friend, Rav Chizkiyahu Rabin. Mulla Ari felt that it was the right thing to do since Rav Chizkiyahu was much older than him.

In 1945, when Rav Chizkiyahu passed away, Mulla Ari was proclaimed the rav of Yerushalayim’s Bukharian community, a position he held for 28 years. Mulla Ari tried assisting the Yeshiva in every way possible, keeping the atmosphere strong despite of the hardships Israel was going through at the time. His classes were of great guidance and inspiration to many future leaders of Eretz Yisrael, such as Rav

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Mordachai Eliyahu, Chief Rabbi of Israel during the 1980s, and Rav Yehuda Tzadka, Rosh Yeshiva of Porat Yosef. Mulla Ari had an especially close relationship and influence on Chacham Ben Zion Abba Shaul, Rosh Yeshivat Porat Yosef and leader of the Sepharadi Yeshiva world of Israel until his passing in 1996. Mulla Ari was also a member of the Bet Din Tzedek of the Eida Hacharaidit Hasepharadit.

After Mulla Ari’s passing on 20th of Tevet 1973, his house hosted the Yeshiva Ruach Yaakov. Years later, a Beit Keneset was constructed in his name, “Gur Aryeh Yehuda,” in B’nei Brak (Rechov Rebbi Akiva 37). Mulla Ari is a very unusual inspiration for all Jews, especially Bukharian yeshiva boys of our generation. To properly internalize Mulla Ari’s accomplishments on a worldly basis, it would be like saying that a Bukharian was the mayor of New York 50 years ago and did an amazing job in improving all aspects of the city. We should take this opportunity of pride of our gedolim, and emulate them so that we can achieve such spiritual heights with great zest as did Mulla Yehuda Ari Chaimov, Yehi Zichro Baruch.

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Joseph M. Frager

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s discussed in the first ecent political activitiespart by primarof ily Reform Jewish groups it this series,make there important to clarify the myths world are for many of politics and the mediasurrounding who really reprethe sents the Jewish People. bankruptcy proI will start, to be fair, by saying that the cess. This artiNazis did not differentiate between Reform cle, the second in and Orthodox Jews. As a matter of fact, if the series, will adyou had only one grandparent who was dress Great Myth Jewish, you were sent to the gas chambers. #2: “Bankruptcy is dishonest.”

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organizations. The phone call that these organizations were supposedly backing out of was not yet even in play. It is a disgrace that Reform Jews would do such a thing after all that the president has done to support Israel. The New York Times mistakenly said that “Mr. Trump is an unpopular gure with most American Jews, but has retained a well of support among the most religiously observant denominations in large part because of his views on Israel and Iran.”

Orthodox Jewish groups have much more on their minds than Israel and Iran, although important. The main thing on

on pro-BDS activists tells volumes where the Reform movement is today.

Israel has a legitimate concern that BDS is an existential threat. The refusal of four organizations of non-Orthodox rabbis – the Central Conference of American Rabbis (Reform), the Rabbinical Assembly (Conservative), the Reconstructionist Rabbinical

Reform Jews barely make up three percent of the population.

(which even the government of Israel has called a thorn in its side), and have become more aggressive than ever in their political messaging. Had they been like this when the Holocaust was taking place, many more Jews would have survived. These groups acted as the “amen choir” for President Obama, and now have decided to become the anti-Trump choir.

The “Women of the Wall” and the attempt to change the status quo of the Western Wall prayer practices have also been orchestrated by the Reform movement. The funding of these activities comes essentially from one man: George Soros. The Reform, with a dismal 1.7 per family birth rate and rampant assimilation, are failing miserably. The Orthodox, on the other hand, are growing rapidly both in the United States and in Israel, and they are thriving. part series, which will address Great Myth # The Reform movement does to not 3: “If I have no assets, I don’t need filerepfor resent Judaism’s core values, nor do they bankruptcy.” speak for the Jewish people. To make believe they isdo a great myth in that is in Btzalelthat Hirschhorn an is attorney specializing the areserious need of being busted. as of Bankruptcy Law, Debtors & Creditors Rights, & Real

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Francisco Moya will be a strong fighter for all in City Hall

he Alliance of Bukharian Americans congratulated Francisco Moya on winning the Democratic primary for NYC Council District 21, encompassing the residents of Lefrak Village, East Elmhurstm and Corona.

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tegrity to the City Council,” said Simcha Musheyav. "Francisco has led the fight for tenant rights, and has shown that he will continue fighting for the rights of each person living in Lefrak Village. He is a true champion for our schools, by looking out for the needs students of all backgrounds.”

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We’d like to apologize to our readers for not including a story on the new Tiferet Torah building in this week’s issue, as we had promised in our last issue.

G-d willing, we will publish it in our next issue.

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Daniel Rosenthal Tapped For Simanowitz Seat

By Sergey Kadinsky The State Assembly seat vacated by the death of Michael Simanowitz now has a candidate in Daniel Rosenthal. “Queens Democrats are thrilled to formally nominate Daniel Rosenthal to be our party’s candidate in the 27th Assembly District,” said Rep. Joe Crowley, the Queens party chairman. “He has a deep and unwavering passion for public service, and has spent years working in this community to improve the lives of its residents.”

Raised in suburban New Jersey, Rosenthal, 26, dove into neighborhood politics as a student at Touro College’s Lander College for Men, where he interned in 2011 for then-Assemblyman Rory Lancman. Although he lost the race for Congress that year, Lancman’s staff remained loyal to him as he returned to elected office a year later as Councilman. Outspoken and tireless, Lancman’s week is comprised of numerous meetings, press conferences, and visits across the district covering Kew Gardens Hills, Pomonok, Electchester, Fresh Meadows, Hillcrest, Briarwood, and Jamaica.

Wherever he went, Rosenthal followed Lancman as his note-taker, listener, and observer. He learned about the hot-button issues and which agency representatives to contact, established relationships and earned the trust of community leaders, learning about leadership through field experience with Lancman. “He has been receptive to the needs of the community, extending himself on issues that had to be

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In the early days of his internship, I supervised some of his constituent casework and recognized that in many ways he had the patience and resolve to carry each call and letter to its conclusion. The task of handling complaints from countless individuals may not be as visible or well-paid as that of the chief of staff, legislative director, or spokesperson, but it is the most rewarding and meaningful on an individual level. This is exactly how Simanowitz began his public service career, answering calls for Assemblywoman Nettie Mayersohn on various issues before rising to become her chief of staff and, ultimately, her successor in 2011.

Supervising both of us was Lancman’s then-chief of staff Dominic Panakal. “Daniel came to us because he loved the community. The passion that made him stand out as an intern is also what made Dan our first hire in the City Council and fueled his rise to District Director,” said Panakal.

At times, Rosenthal had the appearance of a shadow, as he followed Lancman from breakfast meetings to award dinners, putting in the long hours for which the Councilman is known to do. During elections, he went with Lancman to other districts, knocking on doors and handing out literature in support of other Democratic candidates. “I have observed the qualities that will make Daniel a success in the Assembly: a tireless work ethic, a deep passion for this

community, and a dedication to solving problems and helping others,” Lancman said in a statement. “I am excited to see Daniel step forward to represent the 27th Assembly District, and I know he will continue the advocacy and the work of Mike Simanowitz.”

The sense of continuity that Rosenthal represents was very much on the minds of community leaders, who saw Simanowitz as a leading voice in the Assembly on matters of importance to Orthodox Jews such as tuition tax credits and other proposals to reduce the high cost of private education, alongside advocacy for Israel. “He would govern from the middle and he is open-minded,” said Kew Gardens Hills resident Alan Sherman. “No matter how small the issue, he would talk about it. He will

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Rosenthal was selected as the Democratic Party’s standard-bearer by the four district leaders who vote on a successor when there is a vacancy. The special election where he will appear on the ballot will be on November 7, when the offices of Mayor, Public Advocate, and City Council seats will also be up for a vote. To date, no other candidates have been announced for the 27th Assembly seat, making Rosenthal’s path to Albany relatively easy. Nevertheless, he will be making the rounds across the district in the weeks to come, introducing himself to voters. “I look forward to meeting with families, community leaders, and local businesses to discuss how we can work together to build on Mike’s many achievements,” said Rosenthal.

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n Monday, September 25, hundreds of people gathered at the home of Mr. and Mrs. Ephraim Godolov to celebrate the finishing of a new Sefer Torah. The block of 79th Avenue and 152nd Street were filled with kids and adults of all ages to honor and dance with the Torah.

The Sefer Torah was escorted with live music and dancing from the Godolov house to SvetSarah Restaurant on Main Street. This Sefer will be used in the Midrash L’man Achai in Rego Park, under the leadership of Rabbi Kleinman, shlit”a.

Midrash L’man Achai is a high school for our Bukharian boys whose motto is “Every Jewish child deserves a Jewish education.” Many of the Rabbanim at the Yeshiva are old Bukharian alumni of Rabbi Kleinman. Mr. Godolov remarked, “I was looking to give the Sefer Torah to an organization that would constantly use it and not just leave it in the ahron to look good, and I don’t see a better organization than Midrash Laman Achai.”

The evening continued at SvetSarah Restaurant with live music and dancing.

Many had the zehut to purchase a letter to finish off the holy Sefer, with all funds going to the Yeshiva. During the event, there was a surprise visit from the holy Kaliver Rebbe’s son, who gave some words of inspiration and blessed Mr. and Mrs. Godolov with a baby boy this year so that Mr. Godolov can sit and learn Torah with his own children. Amen!!

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he Queens neighborhood of Forest Hills is regarded by its residents as safe, with much trust given to the police in keeping it that way. At the same time, with the High Holidays in mind, the Alliance of Bukharian Americans felt that with more information exchanged between the community and police, no place would be neglected in security. “We have a list of synagogues, including rented halls” said ABA Rego Park Liaison David Mordukhaev.

Commanding Officer Robert Ramos of the 112th Precinct recognized that while his colleagues are familiar with most synagogues in Rego Park and Forest Hills, those that operate only on holidays in catering halls should also receive the same level of protection. “We have a house of worship car that travels around religious organizations but there are places that we do not know about.” Along with the roving patrol, counterterrorism officers in special uniforms keep watch as crowds enter and leave services.

The meeting took place a couple of weeks before Rosh HaShanah at Congregation Beth Gavriel, one of the largest synagogues in Queens in terms of its building and membership. “Here we’re looking at about a thousand people at the main service,” said Mordukhaev. Although the synagogue has its own private security, Ramos offered the option of a paid detail where a uniformed officer is paid by the synagogue to stand watch for the duration of the services. Beth Gavriel Vice President Simcha Elishaev said that regardless of whether the security is private or NYPD, the presence of a uniformed guard offers comfort

to the congregants, many of whom still feel some fear over the rash of arsons back in late 2015.

Rabbi Shlomo Nisanov noted that unlike Kew Gardens Hills where he lives, Forest Hills is more densely built, making crowd control and pedestrian traffic part of the considerations in security planning.

State Senator Joseph Addabbo Jr. was also present at the meeting to lend support and offer his office’s services to constituents. He reminded the ABA that every precinct holds monthly public meetings organized by local precinct councils. “The 112th Precinct’s meeting takes place every third Wednesday of the month. It’s where safety is discussed.”

The work of the NYPD on the street is augmented by its all-volunteer auxiliary force that has the uniforms and marked cars, but without the deadly weapons that paid officers carry. Rabbi Nisanov added that there is also the Citizens Police Academy, where the public takes a 14-week course, learning about local waterways and counterterrorism all in a time-tested uniform.

In the aftermath of the earlier arson spree and occasional tire thefts, many Bukharian-owned mansions in Forest Hills now have security cameras installed. ABA consultant Pesach Osina suggested a list of private camera locations for submission to the precinct. Ramos agreed that knowing which homes have cameras would make it easier for police to quickly access the security footage. At the same time, he also expressed frustration in how the cameras are positioned.

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By Adam Suionov

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ome speeches are remembered for their content, some for their delivery, and some for the circumstances that surround them. It is quite impressive to hear a speech remarkable for all three. I was therefore very fortunate to be present when Rabbi Eli Mansour spoke on behalf of Chazaq at the Beth Gavriel Community Center in Forest Hills on Sunday, September 10, where he inspired a capacity crowd to understand their ultimate purpose in life. The beautiful shiur was dedicated for the refuah shleimah of Miriam bat Suri.

Rabbi Mansour began by expressing his utmost support and amazement of the tremendous outreach work Chazaq does throughout the Queens community and blessed them with continued success.

The following is a rendition of the skillfully-crafted Torah lesson that followed.

During the High Holidays we hope and pray for haim, for “life.” Our holiday prayer books are inundated with this request, but what is the “life” for which we beseech G-d? Our prayers cannot simply refer to the physical qualifications of living. Though sustained bodily function is a prerequisite for living, it does not define the term “life” within the context of our prayers.

The Talmud tells us that the wicked are dead as they live and the righteous experience life even throughout death. When we redefine our terminology to fit within the Talmud’s definition, we become aware of what we are actually praying for when we ask G-d for life.

The Talmud likens the Jew without Torah to a fish out of water. Why fish? Rabbi Gifter explains that the Talmud is emphasizing the apparent “excitement” which fish display when death is immanent. As it is reeled out of the water and splashes

about with great strength, the untrained eye may mistake its vibrancy for life. The same is true of a Jew without Torah. The enthusiasm and liveliness which animates an existence devoid of spiritual content must indicate “a fish out of water.” But if the Talmud insists that life does not consist of the physical plane, what does Judaism recognize as “life”?

The Torah teaches us: “You who cleave to your G-d, you are alive today!” (Devarim 4:4).

Judaism associates life with “clinging to G-d.” When we implore for life during Rosh we are actually requesting that G-d attach us to Himself, the source of existence.

But how does one cleave to G-d? G-d has no physical attributes to hold on to. Rather, our sages have taught us that the human soul is our attachment to G-d. It is this spiritual “piece of divinity from above” which infuses physicality with life and gives man his purpose.

Our Rabbis further explain that our soul needs spiritual nourishment to cleave to G-d. If the physical body perishes, the soul lives on; however, if the soul perishes, the person himself is lost. Hence, the wicked are dead as they live and the righteous experience life even throughout death. When we ask G-d for life on Rosh HaShanah, we are asking Him for an attachment to Himself, an attachment to Life Eternal. In fact, the sages tell us that the mitzvoth we are commanded to perform actually sustain and nourish our connection to G-d. The more we perform them, the more we live.

The Mitzvah of blowing the shofar on Rosh HaShanah is meant to make us aware of this idea.

The Shulchan Aruch (Codified Jewish Law) notes an interesting case. May one blow a shofar within a shofar during the holiday? The Shulchan Aruch responds that one may do so only if inner shofar pro-

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trudes outside of the encompassing shofar.

The outer shofar thus resembles the physical body, which clothes the inner soul. The lesson is that one is considered alive as long as his inner soul is conspicuous in his actions. As we beseech G-d for life, the blowing of the shofar reminds us as that a shofar only “breaths” when it is filled with “spirit.”

When we ask G-d for life this year, we

must realize that the quality of living is important as well. A person who does not understand this is like the bystander who sees the “fish out of water” and misattributes its excitement. Life devoid of spirituality may seem vibrant, but it is limited by its temporary nature.

May we all merit true life and be granted Eternity this year.

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Here are some very pertinent facts that everyone should be aware of, so that we do not fall into the propaganda trap that the Palestinians are trying to lure us and the world into: The Romans changed the name of Israel to Palestine. The people living at the time were Jews, not Arabs. If there had been a Palestinian people then, they would have been Jews. The Romans renamed the Land of Israel as “Palestine” about the second century of the Common Era. Arab refugees in Israel began identifying themselves as part of the Palestinian people in 1967, two decades after the establishment of the Jewish state.

For some 3,000 years, Jerusalem has been the Jewish capital and has never been the capital of any Arab or Muslim entity.

Jerusalem is mentioned over 700 times in the Tanach and not once in the Quran.

Jews pray facing Jerusalem. Arabs pray with their backs toward Jerusalem.

Arab refugees who ed Palestine were the hallmarks of Mines. He what intentionally notRav absorbed or noted integrated ainto great hus it is for Ravthey Mines thez’cArab lands that edtoto.have Jew-a talmid such were as Rav Alcabes, who has conish refugees completely absorbed in tinued hisno avodas in harbatzas a country larger hakodesh than the state of New hatorah Jersey. with the same love and patience Chevron resolution is just anothfor The which Rav Mines was famous.

Rabbi er example the anti-Israel bias at the Mandel thenofproceeded to be misayaim United Nations. How will this outthe mesechtah.

This long was followed by a rage and shamefulness continue? gathering of all the members of the chaburah, who recited together a moving hadran, led by Mr. Amnon Fayziyev, who has been a talmid of Rav Alcabes for over 15 years. Mr. Fayziyev expressed hakaras hatov to Rav Alcabes for his dedication to the chaburah, Where Is wives for assuming so many exand to the theresponsibilities Yir’as Shamayim Today? tra at home to enable their If, however, you watch many of our husbands to go out and learn.

Immediateyeshivah graduates daven, or see their ly upon the completion of Baba Kama, the conduct in the business world, or listen chaburah honored Rabbi Yehoshua Weiss, a to them speak with insolence and disreson-in-law of Rav Mines, to begin the new spect, you might wonder: “What is lackmesechtah of Baba Metziyah. In beginning ing? Where are we going wrong?”

Meseches Baba Metziyah, Rabbi Weiss emThe answer may well be the reason bephasized the importance of learning the hind why we learn. laws of nesikin in order that we are How many young men remain in able yeto properly conduct our business dealings shivah because it’s “the thing to do” or with honesty andtoaccording to shidduch?” the laws of because “I want get a good the Torah.

How many people want a son-in-law in Perhaps thethat’s highlight the evening kollel because what’sof respected and was the words of chizuk from the Rosh Yeexpected? shiva, HaRavthe Grunblatt, He noted Recently, menahel Shlita. of a prestigious that Baba Kamma concludes withseventh the dinyeshivah did a survey of his im of hakpada.

Grunblatt grade boys. He Rav asked a simpleemphasized question: the importance of the midah of “giving in,” “Why do you learn?”

The answers were of being “ma’ a vir al midosov.”

If we are not telling. “Because I want to get into a good makpid upon “Because others, then, measure for high school.” my father wants measure, Hashem Iwill likewise not be so me to.” “Because have to.” Everything strict with us and willbring shower with to his but “Because it will meuscloser Hashem.” and forgiveness, a theme most compassion It seems that whiley’mai our yeshivos areRosh doappropriate for these hadin. The ing a ne job educating the the nextprime generaYeshiva stated that this was mition,of there something boys dah RavisMines, zt”l. lacking.

He wasOur ultimate come uent in the masechta – but “ma’ avirout al midosov.”

He quoted a targum are they taught to love Hashem? girls from Koheles that connects beingOur satisfied come out knowing every Ramban in Chuwith what you have with the joy of learnmash, but When do they love the Are ing Torah. a person fillsmitzvos? his life with theyjoy shown howlearning, to workhe onneeds their characthe of Torah nothing ter traits?

We are Tosafos, butTorah are else.

This was Ravteaching Mines: His love of we teaching yir’as Shamayim? was so great, he was mivatair on everything else. This is meaning of the pasuk in TehilWe Are So Close lim, “Pekuday Hashem misamchai lev,” the The ironic part is that after all that commandments of Hashem gladden the we have been through, not only have we heart. survived, we have recreated a Torah naThe final speaker of the evening, repretion. And we are so close. So many of the senting the entire chaburah, was Dr. Khaiingredients needed for the nal redempmov. He thanked Rav Alcabes for his dedtion are in place. If we could just add in ication thepiece group and for the great this onetovital – yir’as Shamayim – enthusiasm and we lovewould he puts into end their then together nally learning. pointed that even though this longHe and bitter out exile and welcome most of the chaburah never met Rav Mines Mashiach. personally, they feel as if they know him

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gin in the Arabian Peninsula and can be traced as far back as the 19th century. Only when the Jews began returning to Israel en masse did the Howeitat tribe take up residence in Jericho, Jerusalem, and other parts of what are now Israel and Jordan, and started to claim that the land belonged to them.

To refute the falsehoods that are being bandied about, it is important to understand this issue in its proper context. In the 1948 War of Independence, following the orders from the Grand Mufti of Jerusalem, most Arabs living in Palestine ed to avoid the ghting. United Nations Resolution 181 recommended a partition of the territory from the British Mandate for Palestine into two states – one to be Jewish and one Arab. But the Arabs rejected the partition, deciding to go to war instead. Despite their superior numbers, the Arab countries lost the war and the Palestinian state never materialized. The ByArabs BJL Staff who ed were rejected by every single Muslim country that they tried to As Klal Yisroel immersed the escape to, with thewas exception of theinsmall spirit of teshuvah the commencing of percentage thatwith ended up in refugee Chodesh and the Yomim Noraim, the camps inElul Jordan Queens Torah community celebratedthey an So whatever false declarations make, the truth is that Israel became a naevening of inspiration and chizuk.

A chabution thousand beforeunder Islam and rah oftwo dedicated ba’ayears l habatim, the certainlyofbefore Arabs.Haim Alcaguidance their modern rebbi, HaRav bes, Mara D’asrah of the Mekor Habrachah Congregation in Kew Gardens Hills, recently marked their completion of Meseches Baba Kama with a moving siyum seudah.

The siyum was dedicated to the memory of FROM P. 10 mentor, HaRav ZechRavCONTINUED Alcabes’ rebbi and aria Mines, zt”l. Rav Mines, over many decbecome pure. ades, learned Torah with his beloved talmiIf, however, pursues the Torah dim at a table ina person the Chofetz Chaim Bais as an academic exercise – whether acMedresh. After Rav Mines’ petirah, Ravto Alcaquire wisdom or to climb the social ladder bes gathered a group of his mispallelim and – then he isn’t studying Hashem’s holy Tofollowed in his rebbi’s footsteps to learn torah. He is engaged in a course of ethics or gether at the same table. The siyum marks physics or mental gymnastics. It is no lonthe second mesechtah they have completger a spiritual activity, and after he learns, ed. Three and half years ago, they complethe will remain the same as he was before. ed Meseches Gittin, the same This seems to learning be what with Hashem said. dedication and devotion that Rav Yes, the Jews were learning – butAlcabes for the acquired his rebbi’s exemplary examwrong from reasons.

They were learning for ple.

The occasion was also highlighted by honor, learning to become wise, learning the of And the next mesechtah the forbeginning social status. so, even though they chaburah will be learning: Baba Metziah. were constantly involved in Torah study, Alcabes tone for the evening it Rav didn’t haveset itsthe normal effect.

It didn’t inchange his introductory Noting them. that it them, and remarks. it didn’t protect was the Yahrtzeit of the Ben Ish Hai, he explained a Chazal fromUnion his writings. The Ben The State of the Ish Chai emphasizes thatparticular although women These words have implicadotions not in have mitzvah of Talmud Torah, ourthe times. when their husbands and If they this enable was 1945 and you and I sons were state equal of thepartners Jewish nation, tosurveying learn theythe become in this the prognosis would grim.

While the Hitelevated mitzvah.

The be great sacrifices ler didn’t succeed in liquidating Jewwives of the misaymim undertake,the when ish joyfully people, he did succeed decimating they encourage theirinhusbands to Torahduring centers of Europe.

Gone gothe outgreat to learn Shabbat and every were the yeshivos of Poland andofRussia. evening, entitles them to a role honGone were the batei midrash ona wonevery or at the siyum. Rav Alcabes shared streetand corner of the memory shtetl, and were derful insightful of gone his Rebbi, countless Torah scholars.that America, the Rav Mines, zt”l.

He recalled Rav Mines melting of assimilation, but a never toldpot a student that he housed was wrong; edgling yeshivos all understaffed, hefew would always validate– the student and underfunded, and poorly Any then gently guide him to the attended. correct p’shat. intelligent person would have concluded: This was a reflection of his immense kavod the Torah nation is dead. not only to his ha’ adam that he exhibited, Yet, that isn’t what we see. Today, Tocherished talmidim, but to everyone he enrah ourishes as never before: yeshivos, countered.

Bais Yaakovs, kollelim, young people, old Rav Alcabes then introduced Rabbi Ashpeople, Jews from every walk of life. Toer Mandel, son-in-law of Rav Mines, to be rah learning seems to increase on a daily honored withargue the siyum mesechta. basis. Some that inof thethe course of our Rabbi Mandel expressed thesoappreciation history, we have never had many young ofmen the Mines family to Rav Alcabes for perlearning full time. petuating his father-in-law’s life, by emulatAnd that is the good news. ing and personifying the midos that were

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through his talmid, Rav Alcabes. He marveled how everything that was said about Rav Mines by the previous speakers can be applied to Rav Alcabes as well. He described how in the chaburah, it was not enough just to read or memorize the words of the Gemara, but that the key was to understand it. The chaburah would never turn the page until everything was thoroughly understood. Another insight that Dr. Khaimov shared was the impact his learning has on the children. He was so appreciative that they also attended the siyum so they could witness the special role Torah learning plays in his life. In conclusion, he men-

tioned the many practical lessons that were derived from studying Baba Kama - lessons in the importance of honesty in business and being careful of chilul Hashem, halachos that unfortunately are very often overlooked even by religious Jews. He also found in Meseches Baba Kama words of wisdom that have provided guidance in his own medical practice.

The evening was surely one of great inspiration, a true celebration of the simcha of Torah, and a wonderful way to usher in the chagim of Tishrei. The chaburah looks forward to many more siyumim in the future.

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hat is all this hype about emotional intelligence?

Emotional intelligence is the new buzzword in education and parenting. Research has shown that it is an important factor in helping our kids

When kids are fighting, we can gently separate them and encourage them to find a quiet place to recharge have healthy relationships with their future spouses, friends, and co-workers. Adults who are emotionally intelligent are happier and more satisfied with their lives. Kids who are emotionally intelligent are better behaved, more resilient, responsible, and calmer,

and are more likely to be emotionally intelligent adults.

There are kids who are naturally intelligent emotionally. They get along more easily with others: their parents, teachers, and friends. They are more resilient – they bounce back easily from disappointment. They are able to monitor and manage their feelings, they have self-control (ability to resist temptation in the service of a higher goal), and they naturally take into consideration the feelings of others. We all know and like these kids. But what if your child is not like this? What if

he is one of those kids who get upset easily and are more uptight?

Fortunately, research has shown that emotional intelligence can be taught.

One great way to teach emotional intelligence in our homes is to let your family members know that they can and should take breaks from one another when emotions are running high.

When kids are fighting, we can gently separate them and encourage them to find a quiet place to recharge. We can say, “Looks like you are having trouble getting along. Now is a good time to play quietly

far away from each other.”

We (the parents) can also role model emotionally intelligent language: “Boy, I am in a bad mood. I need a couple of minutes of quiet to pull myself out of this funk. I’ll be in my room if you need me.”

Family life is not always easy. Finding ways to cope can ease the tensions that arise. Treating others and yourself with respect when you are not at your best helps keep everyone on an even keel. This is a great way to encourage emotional intelligence at home.

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The Year In Review By: Rabbi Refael Ribacoff, Esq. & Mrs. Adina Ribacoff, LMSW The Holidays offer us a special opportunity to relive some of the most auspicious times of Jewish History. Each Holiday celebrates a unique event that transpired many years ago and offers us the chance to catch and feel a glimpse of that awesome energy all over again.

The wedding day and ceremony is a very special time for every couple, and at every anniversary the couple has a chance to relive those beautiful and exciting moments. It’s the time to take out the wedding album, scrapbooks, and videos and rekindle those explosive moments!

Let’s try to find a connection between the Holidays and the wedding.

Rosh HaShanah (the Jewish New Year) symbolizes renewal. It’s the “birthday of man.” It is the time when Adam and Chava were created as one, divided and brought back together as a couple.

The Midrash teaches that Hashem (G-d), the King, prepared the chupah (canopy) for the first couple to be married. Rosh HaShanah is the time when a couple, who were one neshama (soul), are divided into two halves and born into their respective bodies in this world. They grow up and finally meet each other again – hoping to reunite and fuse together as that one original neshama: the rebirth and beginning!

Yom Kippur is the Day of Atonement.

It is day of introspection before embarking on a new life together. It’s a Day of Purity. This day the kallah (bride) dresses in a beautiful white gown, and there is the custom for the chattan (groom) to wear a white kittel (robe). White symbolizes purity. The wedding day is the day in which all their sins are forgiven. Just like on Yom Kippur we don’t eat or drink, so too there is the custom for the couple to fast. The couple also has the custom to pray the special Mincha (afternoon prayer) before Yom Kippur – a chance to confess previous sins and promise to change and start a new life together.

On this Holy day, the Kohen Gadol enters the Kodesh HaKodashim (The Holy of Holies) and there are the two Cherubim (angels with children’s faces) who embrace each other – symbolizing the unity and love between Hashem and the Jewish people… the love between husband and wife.

The Kohen Gadol wore white – the chattan and kallah wear white. The Kohen Gadol did not wear his golden vestments – so too, the chattan and kallah don’t wear any jewelry. This is the preparation to eventually enter into the chupah.

Sukkot is the time when we sit in our Sukkah (makeshift hut) remembering the time when the Jews were protected with the Ananei HaKavod (Divine Clouds – Clouds of Glory) during their 40-year travels in the desert. The bedekin (when the chattan veils the face of the kallah) symbolizes that covering and protection. This also symbolizes the chupah itself.

Chanukah – the Festival of Lights.

We are taught that the special infinite light at the beginning of Creation shines

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again with these miraculous lights. The soul is the “Light of Hashem.” There is the custom for the ones walking with the chattan and kallah to hold candles in their hands. The candles symbolize joy, so that the couple’s life together will be one of light and joy. They must always remember to maintain peace and harmony in their relationship.

Their bodies and souls were meant for each other and now they have the chance to reunite and shine together as one. Their souls are shining bright for everyone to see – just like there is the mitzvah to publicize the lighting of the Chanukah candles.

The Hebrew word for candle is ner – which equals 250. Two candles – one for the chattan and one for the Kallah – equals 500. There are 248 limbs in a man and 252 limbs in a woman – which also equals 500.

This represents the coming together of the husband and wife. Also, the words “peru u’revu” (“be fruitful and multiply”) equal 500. The candles represent the hope that the couple will have a fruitful marriage.

This is also the light of the Torah, which needs to be permeated within the couple’s lives together.

Tu Be’Shevat is the New Year of the trees. This is the first time, after winter hibernation, that the sap begins to flow within the trees. The trees will soon begin to bud and grow new leaves and fruit.

The excitement of meeting and deciding to marry each other has sparked a special fondness for each other. There is that wonderful feeling flowing through your blood driving you to pure excitement.

The wedding is the new chance at life and rebirth.

Purim – pure joy and simcha! This happiness is felt throughout the wedding. It is the time to drink wine at the kidush. It’s music and dancing.

Pesach – the time that the Jews left one

sovereign and entered into another’s domain. The couple begins as the children of their parents but leaves as a united force in forging their own families. It is the time that the Jews committed themselves to their one Hashem and it’s the time that the couple commit themselves to each other to become one – (as the pasuk states: “basar echad”).

The seventh day of Pesach is when the Hashem split the Yam Suf (Sea of Reeds) for the Jewish Nation. When the couple walks down the isle, they are “crossing the sea.” They prove that it is only in the hands of Hashem to split the sea - and it is only Hashem who brings two people together as husband and wife. As the Gemara (Talmud) states: “The bringing together of husband and wife is as difficult as splitting the Yam Suf.” Although Pesach is compared to the engagement (betrothal) of the Jews to Hashem, Shavuot is the wedding day.

Just like the Jews count the s’fira (seven weeks) between Pesach and Shavuot, so too do the couple eagerly count down the days between their engagement to their wedding.

On Shavuot the Jews were finally united with Hashem - choosing the other forever and pledging to uphold certain standards. That standard is the Torah (Ten Commandments). At a wedding there is a ketubah (marriage contract) that binds the husband and wife together (forever).

The Midrash compares Shavuot and the revelation at Har (Mountain) Sinai to a Divine wedding, with Hashem the chattan and the Jewish people as the kallah. Many Jewish wedding customs even have their source in that idea: the chuppah recalls the mountain held over their heads; the candles represent the lightning; the music represent the thunder and blasts heard there; the breaking of the glass, the breaking of the luchot (The Tablets of Law – 10 Com-

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Tisha B’Av – the saddest day in Jewish History remembers the destruction of the Beit HaMikdash (Holy Temple). At the wedding, even during the happiest time of our lives, we remember the Temple destruction by breaking the glass. Our joy is not truly achieved knowing that the Holy Temple still does not stand. But we must remain strong and hope and pray for the coming of Mashiach – speedily in our days!

Tu B’Av – in days of old when young women dressed in white would go out to the vineyards and hope to find a young man to marry. The wedding ceremony ends with lively music and dancing (according to Jewish halachah).

The wedding ends with the Sheva (seven) Brachot. The chattan and kallah retain the status as king & queen for an additional seven days – during which the Sheva Brachot are recited at the meals.

We hope & pray that those that have not found their zivug (match) will find their bashert (destined one) right away and build a Beit Ne’eman B’Yisrael. And those who are already married should have merit happiness and joy! Shanah Tovah! Ketiva V’Chatima Tovah! Chag Sameach!!

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обрый день. Ну вот, прошел Йом Кипур. Все мои многочисленные знакомые евреи, которые соблюдают, так боялись этого дня, так переживали. Им было страшно за свои грехи. А я пил, курил, ел, веселился в клубе и… НИЧЕГО не произошло! И по новостям не передавали, что была массовая смерть евреев в синагогах (а грешников туда ходит только раз в году — жуть как много). Так что религия — это только для неудачников, которые в сказки верят. Как считаете? Oleksandr Уважаемый Oleksandr! Спасибо за интересную постановку вопроса. В Вашем понимании грешники должны были в Йом-Кипур помереть… Вы настроились и стали ждать. Но когда поняли, что на исходе Судного дня похоронной процессии из синагоги на кладбище не наблюдается, то пришли к однозначному выводу: «Религия — это только для неудачников, которые в сказки верят», и поэтому не стоит записываться в религиозные… Такое оригинальное понимание основ иудаизма, скорее всего, не стоило бы оспаривать, с ним легче живётся. Но дело в том, что в редакцию пришли ещё несколько писем от читателей, которых волнует подобный вопрос, но в более широком смысле: как так, мы грешны, а живём довольно-таки припеваючи, а вот всякие праведники — страдают?! К примеру, такое письмо: Я еврей, у меня отец и мать верующие евреи, а я нет. В общем, стал атеистом. Ещё в16 лет ушёл из-за этого из дома, и мой старший брат сказал, мол, я грешник и мне будет плохо без веры, и я быстро умру… Вот, дожил до 56 лет, думаю, еще столько же протяну. За всю жизнь в больницу обращался раза четыре, два раза был взрыв метана в шахте, один раз топором руку рассек и весной упал с третьего этажа, заживало все как на собаке. В местной больнице у меня даже нет карточки, так как за 15 лет жизни здесь я ни разу не болел, живу тоже хорошо, воспитываю троих детей. Есть где жить, чего есть, все есть. НО есть одно НО. Как так получается, я не верю в Бога, я жив и здоров, а моих братьев, верующих братьев, нет здесь с нами, а их было у меня 5. Как так, где был Бог, когда, я, грешник жил, а верующие умирали?! Этому есть объяснения?! С уважением, Игорь Следует заметить, что, в общем, такая постановка вопроса — древ-

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няя, как наш мир. Его евреи задают вот уже более 3300 лет: «Почему праведники страдают, а грешники торжествуют!?» Слышат ответ и продолжают задавать вопрос… И хотя не так просто ответить на такие глобальные вопросы в рамках короткого ответа, оставить без ответа тоже нельзя… В чём проблема? Человек, услышав, что в мире есть ответственность за совершённые поступки, решил, что Б-жественный суд должен быть ему понятен и работать по простой схеме: согрешил — получай наказание, поступил хорошо — награду. На первый взгляд, так и должно быть. Мера Правосудия требует моментального наказания за нарушение: если еврей предастся злословию — тут же у него должен язык отвалиться, если украдёт — рука отсохнуть и т.д. Но если бы так на самом деле мир был устроен, то не было бы у человека возможности грешить, то есть, делать то, что неугодно его Творцу. Другими словами, не было бы свободы выбора у человека. А если нет у человека свободы выбора, то и нет самого Человека… И для того, чтобы была у человека не только возможность выбора, но и возможность исправления греха, Творец установил, наряду с мерой Правосудия, посредством которой Он управляет миром, и меру Милосердия. Эта мера управления никак не отменяет полагающееся наказание за грех, а только откладывает его — на срок, известный только самому Творцу. Поэтому все грешники, которым кажется, что всё в их жизни гладко, подобны людям, которые беспечно уселись с компьютером на коленях и шоколадкой во рту под 100-тонным прессом, который может в любой момент грохнуться… Человек, который согрешил, — создал реальность греха, которая существует сама по себе и никуда не исчезает. Как же можно от него избавиться? Самый простой способ — исправлением самого греха, тшува называется. Это то, чего Творец ожидает от человека и терпеливо ждёт. А если он не исправится, то всё равно придётся реальность греха стирать, но уже не по-хорошему: в малой степени — страданиями или смертью, в неизмеримо большей степени — мучениями после смерти, в Геиноме… После смерти душа расстаётся с бренным телом. Тело возвращается в прах, а душа должна предстать перед Б-жественным Судом, где её спросят: а для чего тебя в тот мир посылали?! Там уже не будет животного тела, который скрывает истинный мир. Там сразу всё станет ясно, поэтому тут же придёт страшный стыд, который как огонь будет сжигать всё нечистое, грешное, что было накоплено в течение земной жизни. Это называют — Ад. Но кто туда попадает? Ведь нет даже самого большого грешника, у которого нет добрых дел? А с дру-

гой стороны, нет и самого большого праведника, у которого нет прегрешений? Тут и ответ на Ваш вопрос. Грешником человека определяют по большинству его деяний. Это грешник по сути, и такие грехи можно стереть только в Аду, на том свете… А вот за его добрые дела, так как их мало и они не тянут на проходной балл, — нет возможности воздать в Мире Грядущем. Поэтому такому грешнику полагается всё вознаграждение получить тут, в этом мире. Это и объясняет, почему грешники в этом мире могут жить припеваючи, не подозревая, что их ожидает… С другой стороны, у праведников обратная картина. Их суть праведная, поэтому им полагается вознаграждение. Но так как за такую праведность нет возможности в этом мире вознаградить, то оно их ждёт в Мире Грядущем. А вот за те малые прегрешения, которые всё же были в их жизни, им полагается наказание, и они его всецело получат в мире этом. Поэтому мы видим порой, что праведник страдает. Так же несложно понять и то, что происходит в Йом-Кипур, и почему не видно похорон… Да, написано в Талмуде, что в Рош а-Шана откры-

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ваются три «Книги» судьбы для каждого из нас и одна из них — «Книга Смерти», куда записывают грешников. В соответствии с простым пониманием может показаться, что кто туда записан, в этом году должен умереть. Но не это имеется в виду. «Книга Жизни» и «Книга Смерти» — это установление духовного уровня человека! Кто по итогам прожитого года является духовно живым, а кто — духовно мёртвым. Согласно этому Творец и устанавливает человеку его судьбу. «Живому» как играющему главную роль в мире, посылает испытание жизнью, иногда лёгкое, но порой совсем не простое. А вот «мёртвому» как статисту — как правило, выдают спокойствие, комфорт и сытость… Что касается непосредственно жизни и смерти, это уже идёт по другим Б-жественным расчетам. Надеюсь, загадка, почему праведники страдают, а грешники торжествуют, чуть прояснилась. Заодно Вам и ответ: где был Б-г? Он как раз обо всём этом и заботился: и чтобы Игорь здоров был и ноги не «протянул» до 56, и чтобы Олександр в Йом-Кипур спокойно мог в клубе повеселиться… С уважением, Ашер Кушнир

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‘Snow White’-Inspired Home For Sale In Washington

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Saudi Textbook Recalled Due To Photo Of Star Wars Character Next To King Faisal

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social studies textbook in Saudi Arabia was recalled for including a photo depicting a Star Wars character next to a king.

The black and white photo, by Saudi artist Abdullah Al Shehri, features the small, green Jedi Yoda seated next to King Faisal as he signed the United Nations Charter in San Francisco in 1945.

The Saudi education minister apologized for the mistake and said measures were being taken to correct the error.

Shehri, a 26-year-old artist, created the image as part of a series that inserts pop

culture characters into historical photos and learned it had turned up in a textbook through a text from his mother.

“I am the one who designed it, but I am not the one who put it in the book,” he said.

Shehri said he decided to insert Yoda into the photo because he reminded him of King Faisal and is the same color as the Saudi flag.

“He was wise and was always strong in his speeches,” he said. “So I found that Yoda was the closest character to the king. And also Yoda and his light saber - it’s all green.”

Drive-Through Pay-It-Forward Chain Lasts For 125 Cars

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orkers at a Missouri McDonald’s said a pay-it-forward chain started by a generous patron went on for an hour, totaling 125 customers.

The general manager of the restaurant said a woman who is a regular at the fast food eatery picked up the tab at 7:15 a.m. last Thursday for the vehicle in line behind her.

The general manager said such generosity is not uncommon at the restaurant, and often the recipients will keep up the trend, but it usually lasts for only 5 to 10 cars.

“About the 20th car that paid it forward

home inspired by the cottage from Disney’s Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs is on sale in Washington.

The four-bedroom and five-bathroom home featuring a design ripped directly from the 1937 animated film is listed for $775,000.

“Located on five wooded acres on a dead-end street behind a gated entry, the magic begins,” the listing states. “The sprawling main house of 2,800 square feet with its extreme high pitched and deeply sloped roofs looks exactly like it jumped off the pages of the children’s book.”

The illusion is brought to life by stucco walls, hard-carved wooden beams and rounded doors with iron hinges, and a massive indoor tree trunk that spans two floors.

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Despite its 1800s aesthetics, including fireplaces and wood stoves, the home is equipped with modern luxuries such as stainless steel appliances and high-speed Internet connection.

Boat Launching Fail Plunges RV Into Canal

n attempt to launch a boat into a New York state canal ended in disaster when the RV pulling the trailer ended up in the water.

A man posted a series of photos to Face-

book showing the RV submerged up to its windshield after ending up in the Erie.

Witnesses said the driver was attempting to launch a boat from the ramp when the RV rolled into the canal.

is when everybody was like, ‘Oh, my goodness. Here it goes,’ and it just went,” she said.

“It was actually very exciting,” she said.

“The kids got really excited.”

Thursday’s chain went on for about an hour, totaling 125 customers who picked up others’ tabs.

“It makes us feel that we’re appreciated, even in a McDonald’s. You know that the community appreciates the hard work that we do,” the general manager said. “It leaks out into the community, and it leaks out into our crew.”

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Book Returned To Massachusetts Library 78 Years Late

Massachusetts library said a local resident recently returned a book that was last checked out 78 years and 10 months ago.

The library said in a Facebook post that the book, The Young Lady at Home by T.S. Arthur, was brought in this week, well after the due date of Nov. 21, 1938.

“A gentleman was cleaning out a friend’s basement and saw that the book had our markings and a due-date card, and he thought we would want it back,” library deputy director Amy Rhilinger said.

“I’ve been here 15 years - we’ve never had anything returned the length of time that this item was,” Rhilinger said. “We were hysterical. I mean, really? 1938?”

She said the book is not in any condition to return to the stacks.

“Disrepair is an understatement,” Rhilinger said.

“It was definitely not a book that we

would be able to ever circulate again, or even put on a shelf near other books,” she said. “But what we thought was awesome was, here’s this guy who totally respects the fact that the library collects items for everyone to share, and in order to make it the democracy that it is, you bring things back.”

Rhilinger said the late fee for such a late book would come out to about $2,800, but the library doesn’t plan to seek out any reimbursement.

“There’s no fine attached,” Rhilinger said. “We have no way of finding who had it out. Obviously, we didn’t have computerized checkout systems back in the day. So that information is long gone.”

She said librarians also have no hard feelings toward the person who checked out the truant tome.

“We have our own fair share of overdue library items, and we’re here every day - so we get it,” Rhilinger said.

British Cyclist Bikes Around The World In Record 78 Days

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British cyclist set a new world record by biking around the world in less than 80 days.

Ultra-endurance cyclist Mark Beaumont rode his bicycle 18,000 miles across 16 different countries in 78 days, 14 hours and 40 minutes to set the Guinness World Record for fastest circumnavigation by bicycle (male).

“This has been, without doubt, the most punishing challenge I have ever put my body and mind through,” Beaumont said.

He began the journey in France on July 2 and made his way through frigid sub-zero winters in Australia and New Zealand and

the possibility of lingering bad weather in the United States from Hurricane Irma before ending the feat by rolling through the Arc de Triomphe in Paris.

Beaumont broke the previous world record of 123 days and 43 minutes held by Andrew Nicholson from New Zealand, on the path he dubbed the “Artemis World Cycle.”

During the journey he also broke a world records for the farthest distance cycled in one month with 7,031 miles.

“This was a fantastic milestone to achieve during the challenge of getting around the world in eighty days. I hope it is used as a marker for other cyclists to go and smash in the near future,” he said.

Utility Company Pepco Buys Hamster For Girl After Petco Letter Goes Astray

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video captured by a woman and posted to Facebook shows a man holding onto the back of a speeding commuter train last Saturday as it traverses the tracks in Western Australia.

“The train had been stopped at a station when we first saw the guy riding on the back,” the woman said. “We slowed down a bit so the train could get ahead of us again so I could capture the footage.”

She estimated the train was going about 70 mph.

The Public Transport Authority said the incident could have turned deadly.

“He was clinging on to a windscreen wiper - were he to fall it’s a very unfriendly and unreceptive surface with ballast and rail and concrete sleepers, he would have almost certainly been killed, if not badly injured,” a PTA spokesman said.

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tility company Pepco received an 8-year-old girl’s letter intended for pet store Petco and decided to help the girl achieve her wish of owning a hamster.

The D.C.-based Potomac Electric Power Company, more commonly known as Pepco, said it received a letter from 8-year-old Serenity that was meant to be mailed to Petco.

The letter read: “Dear Petco pets, I’m Serenity. I’m 8 years old. I live in Washington DC. I’m going to 2nd grade.

May I please have a hamester because I never had a pet. I [love] hamesters because they eat carrots, and grass. I will take good care of it because I’ll let it eat. I will make sure I clean the cage. If I reseive a hamster, I will do better in school, make more friends,

detained at the next stop and authorities said he could face trespassing charges.

The spokesperson said the incident marked the first time the PTA has caught someone in the act of train surfing.

“This is the first time in the memory of anyone at the PTA that we’ve actually known about it while it was happening,” he said.

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and become responsible.”

The letter ended up on the desk of a Pepco customer care worker, and he and a coworker decided to fulfill the girl’s request. They said they went to Petco for help, since that was the intended recipient of the letter.

Pepco tweeted photos of employees presenting Serenity with her new hamster, as well as a habitat for the pet and some accessories.

Serenity’s mother said a teacher helped the girl look up the address for Petco and they accidentally found Pepco’s address instead.

Petco said it was happy to help fulfill Serenity’s request. The girl’s mother told the company Serenity had been reading up on hamsters and their care for two years in preparation of getting her own pet.

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trio of alligator hunters in Arkansas bagged a nearly 12foot gator that tipped the scales at a whopping 525 pounds.

Martin Walt, one of 101 Arkansas residents to receive an alligator hunting permit during the summer, brought two friends along for a hunting expedition on a family swamp.

The men took a boat to seek out the largest of the nearly 50 alligators sighted in the swamp.

“We actually want the biggest, meanest, nastiest gator we can find to go after,” one friend said.

The men said the reptile put up a struggle.

“He kind of floated up and, I guess, held his ground more or less,” the friend said. “I feel like he was the dominant gator in the area.”

The hunters used two harpoons to snare the reptile and struggled for about 20 minutes to capture the beast.

Walt posted photos of the victorious hunters with their catch on Facebook this week.

The gator, which measured 11 feet, 8 inches long and weighed in at 525 pounds, was taken to a facility to have its skin made into boots and belts.

Lucky Lottery Player Wins $1,000 And $1 Million On The Same Day

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California man who won $1,000 from a scratch-off lottery ticket had another bit of luck to brag about on the same day - a $1 million jackpot.

Mario Martinez visited a California Lottery office recently to cash in a pair of winning scratch-offs: a ticket worth $1,000, and a ticket worth $1 million.

Martinez bought both tickets from the

same store in Los Angeles. The store received a $5,000 bonus for selling the $1 million winner.

Martinez said he and his wife haven’t decided yet how they will spend their $1,001,000.

“We haven’t thought about it since we don’t have it!” Martinez said while awaiting his oversized check.

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Estate Planning Basics

By Irina Yadgarova As estate planning attorneys, we are often asked, “What is estate planning?” Estate planning is a process that allows you to control the disposition of your property after your death and helps to eliminate uncertainty and chaos that invariably happen upon death or incapacity. Proper estate planning will help preserve the assets that you have worked hard to accumulate during your lifetime. It may also minimize or eliminate taxes on your assets (which your heirs or family may have to pay) after your passing. To understand estate planning, you need to have knowledge of the following basics explored in this article: Intestacy, Wills, Probate, & Trusts.

Intestacy If a person dies without a valid will, he or she is said to have died “intestate.” In that event, New York laws (not you) dictate how your assets should be divided among your distributees. Often, these laws divide the decedent’s assets very differently from the way the decedent would have wanted his assets to be divided. For example, if you leave behind a spouse and two small children, but have no valid will, New York law says that $50,000 and one-half of your assets pass to your spouse, and the rest to your children in equal shares. If your children are young, neither they nor your spouse will be able to freely use the children’s share of the inheritance until the children turn 21. If you wanted to avoid this situation, or to provide for a grandchild, a sibling, or a friend, your wishes would be disregarded—unless you had a valid will.

Wills Executing a valid will is an important step in taking control over what happens to your property after your death. A will allows you to direct who gets your assets, to provide for the payment of debts and funeral expenses, and even to set up trusts for your family members (discussed below).

Many people think that writing down their wishes on a piece of paper and having the paper notarized constitutes a valid will. In New York State, that is not so. A valid will must be drafted correctly and executed in

compliance with a number of strict rules.

A notarized paper that is not prepared by a qualified attorney will most likely not be recognized by New York courts as a valid will. Some of your assets, however, such as life insurance, pension plans, or joint accounts, are not distributed through a will.

If you want to ensure that your assets get to the correct beneficiaries upon your demise, you may want to consult an estate-planning attorney.

A final word about wills: Even when properly drafted and executed, they must be reviewed periodically! Our lives are full of significant events and changes, and instructions in a will written three years ago may no longer apply to our new situations.

For example, a divorce, a marriage, the birth of a child, the acquisition of property, or a death in the family may necessitate an update to your will.

Probate Probate is a necessary court process that establishes the validity of a will once the person who made the will has passed away. This process typically lasts about one year, during which time the assets of the estate may not be distributed to the beneficiaries. The cost of probate is, on average, 6%-10% of the value of the estate. When a person passes away without a valid will, the process of distributing his assets to

family is called “administration.” It is also a court process, but it typically costs more and lasts longer than probate. Sometimes, there is even a way to avoid probate. Avoidance of probate is just one of the several advantages to forming a trust.

Trusts A trust is a legal entity, created by you through a trust agreement, that holds whatever assets to put into it for the benefit of a named beneficiary and at some specified time transfers those assets to that beneficiary. A trust is like a treasure chest where you place an asset and give the key to a trusted person (called a “trustee”) to hold for some period of time. Although there are many different kinds of trusts, they will all fall into one of two categories: revocable and irrevocable. A revocable trust can be easily changed during your lifetime, whereas an irrevocable trust – with some exceptions – cannot be changed. This is because with the revocable trust, you hold the key of your treasure chest, and with the irrevocable trust, you give the key to someone else to hold.

Keep in mind, the revocable trust becomes

irrevocable upon your death.

Each of these types of trusts can serve a unique purpose. For example, probate may be avoided with either type of trust, but for other purposes – such as protection from creditors, minimization or avoidance of estate taxes, or qualification for Medicaid - only irrevocable trusts may be used. If you have significant life insurance, a special type of an irrevocable trust will help your family avoid estate taxes on the proceeds of that life insurance policy. If you want to ensure that you qualify for Medicaid or that potential creditors do not take your assets, an irrevocable trust is in order. If you only want to make sure that your family gets to use the assets right away if something happens to you, then a revocable trust is what you may need. Each trust agreement is a complex legal document that should be drafted by a qualified attorney who focuses on estate planning to avoid any unintended results or unfavorable consequences.

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By Adeena Sussman I’ve been curious about plov (based on the original Persian word pulaw), the signature Bukharian rice and meat dish, ever since I tasted it a few years back at a kosher Bukharian restaurant in New York’s Diamond District. Many countries–Afghanistan, Iran, Turkey, India, and Syria, to name a few–have a rice-and-meat dish with a phonetically similar name. Each country’s plov is slightly different, with its own array of seasonings and additional ingredients.

On a recent trip to Tel Aviv, I happened upon a delicious plov recipe in an amusing and typically Israeli fashion. I had ducked into a little salon on Sheinkin Street for a pedicure and got to talking to Bella, my aesthetician. It turned out she was an Bukharian immigrant who had run an Bukharian restaurant in Tel Aviv. I took out a pen and paper and scribbled furiously as she rattled off ingredients and instructions for this tempting layered dish.

This recipe, although somewhat time-consuming, is fairly straightforward to execute. Onions, garlic, potatoes, carrots, and meat are cooked in a deep skillet to which chickpeas, rice, and cooking liquid are added. Once the chickpeas and rice are cooked, the dish is inverted. The upper layer of rice becomes the bottom layer on a serving platter, which is topped with the fragrant, hearty stew.

Ingredients 2 cups white rice, rinsed until water runs clear 5 1/2 cups beef stock or lamb stock (or water), plus more if necessary 1 1/2 cups soaked (uncooked) chickpeas 3 large carrots, peeled, trimmed and

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cut into long thin strips 10 whole black peppercorns 1 teaspoons kosher salt 2 dried red peppers 1 Tablespoon ground cumin 1 head garlic, peeled and minced 1 large onion, diced (about 3 cups) 2 medium Idaho potatoes 1 1/2 lbs. cubed beef or lamb stew meat, preferably a bit fatty 2 Tablespoons canola oil Kosher salt and pepper to taste

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Directions Heat oil over medium-high heat in a large braising pan or Dutch oven. Sear potatoes on all sides until light brown and crisp but still uncooked on the inside, about 1-2 minutes per side. Add meat and cook until browned on all sides, about 6-7 minutes total.

Add onions, garlic, cumin, dried pepper, and peppercorns and cook until onions are soft and slightly browned, about 10 minutes.

Reduce heat to low, cover and cook an additional 10 minutes. Uncover, raise heat to medium, add carrots and cook until slightly soft, about 7 minutes. Add chickpeas, stock or water and salt and bring to a boil. Reduce heat to a simmer and cook until chickpeas are softer but still partially uncooked, about 25-30 minutes. Sprinkle rice on top of mixture; liquid should just cover rice (add a bit more stock if necessary). Simmer vigorously for about 20 minutes, until the rice is cooked and most of the liquid is absorbed.

Reduce heat to very low, cover and steam dish an additional 15 to 20 minutes to further tenderize rice. Remove from heat and let rest for 5 minutes. To serve, transfer rice to a large serving platter. Taste stew and season with salt and pepper to taste. Ladle stew over rice.

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Eitan Jacobs Credit Monitoring Company Equifax, one of the three major consumer credit reporting agencies, announced that a cyber-attack left the Social Security numbers, date of birth’s and other personal information of 143 million U.S consumers vulnerable to hackers. There are about 320 million people in the U.S, so roughly

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Look out for any incorrect personal information on your credit report and for any credit inquiries from companies you’ve never contacted 44% of the country is affected.

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• File your taxes early next year: You should also try to file your taxes as early as possible in 2018 to pre-empt criminals who may try to use your Social Security number to file a fraudulent return & net refunds. Many people won’t be able to file early, as many official documents like the K-1 take a while to be sent to taxpayers, but what you can do is have all your documents organized and ready so that you’ll be able to file as soon as all your documents are in.

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