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“One of our first tours overseas was in Italy. I considered myself quite the adventurer, but for some reason, I didn’t feel very comfortable getting out,” Brown recalled, who will celebrate 33 years of marriage this summer. “There was a friend of mine I knew from another location who called me up to show me around, and it was the most fantastic day I ever had.”

Paying it forward, Brown now advises other spouses to reach out to incoming families to show them the way, help locate the Airman and Family Readiness Center and assist in navigating the base. She also asks spouses to find out as much information as possible about the new place before they depart.

Despite the challenges, being a military spouse can also be rewarding.

“A rewarding moment is seeing a spouse, who felt they didn’t have much to offer, discover themselves and go forward to enlighten other people,” Brown said.

Brown remembered meeting a military spouse recently who turned her love for finding old pieces of furniture and repurposing them into an opportunity to help spouses create “new” additions for their homes while also fostering fellowship.

Oftentimes, spouses are concerned not only about their significant others but also for their children.

“I transitioned our kids in and out of schools and made sure that they were adjusting through engaging them in conversation and constantly checking in on them,” Raymond said. “It wasn’t easy. We had some tough conversations over the years. And they’ve struggled, but they all have become very strong, resilient young adults.”

Raymond advises all parents to “call the SLO (School Liaison Officer) before you go.” This way, parents can understand what educational options are available for a smoother transition.

In addition to helping others, Raymond advocates for self-care.

“We’re always taking care of others, but it’s OK to put yourself first, too,” she said. “Rest and enjoy doing something that gives you the battery recharge we all need to start a new day.”

Rachel Rush, spouse of Chief Master Sgt. of the Space Force Roger A. Towberman, advises spouses to keep open lines of communication with their partners.

“You have to be able to talk with your spouse. Even when things are tough, you must talk about it. If there’s something you want in life, something you want to do, something you want to be, take those tasks on,” Rush said. “Talk to your person as early as possible about what you would like to do with your life. Even though you’re on a journey together, it’s still an individual life. You want to look back at the end of it and not feel like you’ve missed out on opportunities.”

Rush uses her experience as a spouse and psychiatric nurse to help other spouses.

“In my line of work, which has consisted primarily of in-patient settings, I have unfortunately seen quite a few young spouses. There are trends related to feelings of displacement. Displacement from family and friends, from everything they’ve known.”

Rush advocates for service members to include their spouses in as many aspects of their lives as possible.

“Do your best not to isolate your loved ones; help keep them connected in this beautiful new life they’ve chosen to share with you,” she said.

Editor’s note: The spouse of the Chief of Staff of the Air Force, Sharene Brown, recently announced a Five & Thrive initiative, which increases focus and attention on the top five quality of life challenges military families face. The Thrive Guide was created “by spouses, for spouses” to help navigate the military spouse journey.

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