Thrive - David Clark - Central ChristanC hurch

e v i r h T David Clark Senior Pastor, Central Christian Church

e v i r Th David Clark Senior Pastor, Central Christian Church

Copyright 2018 by David Clark Central Christian Church ALL RIGHTS RESERVED Published by Lifetogether Ministries Copyright and use of the curriculum template is retained by Brett Eastman.

Unless otherwise noted, all Scripture quotes are taken from the Holy Bible, New International Version®, NIV® Copyright ©1973, 1978, 1984, 2011 by Biblica, Inc.® Used by permission.

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ISBN: 978-1-7326688-8-1 Printed in the United States of America

CONTENTS Introduction by Pastor David Clark

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Using This Workbook (Read This First)

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Outline for Each Session

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SESSION ONE: THE CALL

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SESSION TWO: FAITH

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SESSION THREE: GENEROSITY

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SESSION FOUR: TRUST

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SESSION FIVE: SACRIFICE

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SESSION SIX: COMMITMENT

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APPENDICES Frequently Asked Questions

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Small Group Agreement

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Small Group Calendar

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Spiritual Partners

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Memory Verse Cards (Clip and Review)

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SMALL GROUP LEADERS Prayer and Praise Report

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Small Group Roster

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Hosting an Open House

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Leading for the First Time

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Leadership Training

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Notes

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About

DAVID CLARK When you think about your life right now, what makes you happy about it? What are the areas where you wished things were better?

Sometimes when people look at their lives, they think a change or an addition would greatly improve their situation. Their hope is that a new job or a significant other would substantially improve their situation. Maybe if they lived somewhere else or had different friends things would go better, or so they think.

If you changed jobs, relationships, locations, or anything else, you would still be you. A new adventure could distract you for a while, but sooner or later, the new would turn into the same old, same old.

In order to find the life you’re seeking, something has to change on the inside. No change on the outside is going to make a lasting difference.

Fortunately, you have someone who cares a great deal about the life you are currently experiencing and wants something better for you. That someone is Jesus.

Jesus came so you could have life to the full, an abundant life. His mission was to offer you life that is really live. Instead of just surviving your days, God wants you to thrive.

In the next six weeks, you will explore what the life Jesus gives is all about and how to get there.

Thank you for joining us in this journey. You won’t be disappointed.

Here’s to thriving!

David Clark

About Travis Hall

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USING THIS WORK BOOK

Tools TO HELP

YOU HAVE A GREAT

LIFE-GROUP EXPERIENCE!

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Notice in the Table of Contents there are three sections: (1) Sessions; (2) Appendices; and (3) Small Group Leaders. Familiarize yourself with the Appendices. Some of them will be used in the sessions themselves.

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If you are facilitating/leading or co-leading a small group, the section Small Group Leaders will give you some experiences of others that will encourage you and help you avoid many common obstacles to effective small group leadership.

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Use this workbook as a guide, not a straightjacket. If the group responds to the lesson in an unexpected but honest way, go with that. If you think of a better question than the next one in the lesson, ask it. Take to heart the insights included in the Frequently Asked Questions pages and the Small Group Leaders section.

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Enjoy your Small Group experience.

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Pray before each session—for your group members, for your time together, or wisdom and insights.

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Read the Outline for Each Session on the next pages so that you understand how the sessions will flow.

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OUTLINE OF

EACH SESSION

A T YPICAL GROUP SESSION FOR THE THRIVE STUDY WILL INCLUDE THE FOLLOWING SECTIONS. READ THROUGH THIS TO GET A CLEAR IDEA OF HOW EACH GROUP MEETING WILL BE STRUCTURED:

WEEKLY MEMORY VERSES. Each session opens with a Memory Verse that emphasizes an important truth from the session. This is an optional exercise, but we believe that memorizing scripture can be a vital part of filling our minds with God’s will for our lives. We encourage you to give this important habit a try. The verses for our six sessions are also listed in the appendix.

INTRODUCTION. After the Memory Verse, a brief thought is included that will help you prepare for the session and get you thinking about the particular subject you will explore with your group. Make it a practice to read these before the session. You may want to have the group read them aloud.

SHARE YOUR STORY. The foundation for spiritual growth is an intimate connection with God and His family. You build that connection by sharing your story with a few people who really know you and who earn your trust. This section includes some simple questions to get you talking—letting you share as much or as little of your story as you feel comfortable doing. Each session typically offers you two options. You can get to know your whole group by using the icebreaker question(s), or you can check in with one or two group members, your spiritual partner(s), for a deeper connection and encouragement in your spiritual journey.

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HEAR GOD’S STORY. In this section, you’ll read the Bible and listen to teaching, in order to hear God’s story—and begin to see how His story aligns with yours. When the study directs you to, you’ll pop in the DVD and watch a short teaching segment. You’ll then have an opportunity to read a passage of scripture, and discuss both the teaching and the text. You won’t focus on accumulating information but on how you should live in light of the Word of God. We want to help you apply the insights from scripture practically and creatively, from your heart as well as your head. At the end of the day, allowing the timeless truths from God’s Word to transform our lives in Christ should be your greatest aim.

STUDY NOTES. This brief section provides additional commentary, background or insights on the passage you’ll study in the Hear God’s Story section.

CREATE A NEW STORY. God wants you to be a part of His Kingdom—to weave your story into His. That will mean change. It will require you to go His way rather than your own. This won’t happen overnight, but it should happen steadily. By making small, simple choices, we can begin to change our direction.

This is where the Bible’s instructions to “be doers of the Word, not just hearers” (James 1:22) comes into play. Many people skip over this aspect of the Christian life because it’s scary, relationally awkward, or simply too much work for their busy schedules. But Jesus wanted all of His disciples to know Him personally, carry out His commands, and help outsiders connect with Him. This doesn’t necessarily mean

Session outlines

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preaching on street corners. It could mean welcoming newcomers, hosting a short-term group in your home, or walking through this study with a friend. In this study, you’ll have an opportunity to go beyond Bible study to biblical living. This section will also have a question or two that will challenge you to live out your faith by serving others, sharing your faith, and worshiping God.

FOR ADDITIONAL STUDY (OPTIONAL).

If you have time and want to dig deeper into more Bible passages about the topic at hand, we’ve provided additional passages and questions, which you can use either during the meeting, or as homework. Your group may choose to read and prepare before each meeting in order to cover more biblical material. Or, group members can use the additional study section during the week after the meeting. If you prefer not to do study homework, this section will provide you with plenty to discuss within the group. These options allow individuals or the whole group to expand their study while still accommodating those who can’t do homework or are new to your group.

DAILY DEVOTIONS. Each week on the Daily Devotions pages, we provide scriptures to read and reflect on between sessions. This provides you with a chance to slow down, read just a small portion of scripture each day, and reflect and pray through it. You’ll then have a chance to journal your response to what you’ve read.

Use this section to seek God on your own throughout the week. This time at home should begin and end with prayer. Don’t get in a hurry; take enough time to hear God’s direction.

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SESSION ONE

The Call I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full. (John 10:10).

Are you living an abundant life?

Abundant living is experiencing a fulfilling life, a meaningful life. It’s the life Jesus has for you. In everyday life, the enemy has disguised his way of life to appear like something pleasing and good, while making the life Jesus gives look dull and rigid. As you enter into this study, focus on the life that is truly life – the life Jesus wants for you.

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Share

YOUR STORY

Each of us has a story. The events of our life—good, bad, wonderful or challenging— have shaped who we are.

God knows your story, and He intends to redeem it—to use every struggle and every joy to ultimately bring you to Himself.

When we share our stories with others, we give them the opportunity to see God at work.

When we share our stories, we also realize we are not alone—that we have common experiences and thoughts, and that others can understand what we are going through.

Your story can encourage someone else, and telling it can lead to a path of freedom for you and for those you share it with.

Open your group with prayer.

This should be a brief, simple prayer, in which you invite God to give you insight as you study. You can pray for specific requests at the end of the meeting, or stop momentarily to pray if a particular situation comes up during your discussion.

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Before you start this first meeting, get contact information for every participant. Take time to pass around a copy of the Small Group Roster on page 132, a sheet of paper, or one of you pass your Study Guide, opened to the Small Group Roster. Ask someone to make copies or type up a list with everyone’s information and email it to the group during the week.

Then, begin your time together by using the following questions and activities to get people talking.

• The point is, each item can be used for a variety of things, but it is still most effective when it’s fulfilling the exact purpose for which it was designed. The same is true for us: we are most effective—and satisfied— when we are fulfilling the exact purpose for which God created and designed us. Do you know what your purpose is?

• What are you truly passionate about? What makes you jump out of bed?

• What brings you joy?

• Whether your group is new or ongoing, it’s always important to reflect on and review your values together. On page 125 is a Small Group Agreement with the values we’ve found most useful in sustaining healthy, balanced groups. We recommend that you choose

one or two values—ones you haven’t previously focused on or have room to grow in—to emphasize during this study.

Choose ones that will take your group to the next stage of intimacy and spiritual health.

• If your group is new, introduce everyone—you may even want to have name tags for your first meeting.

• We recommend you rotate host homes on a regular basis and let the hosts lead the meeting. Studies show that healthy groups rotate leadership. This helps to develop every member’s ability to shepherd a few people in a safe environment. Even Jesus gave others the opportunity to serve alongside Him (Mark 6:30-44). Look at the FAQs in the Appendix for additional information about hosting or leading the group.

• The Small Group Calendar on page 127 is a tool for planning who will host and lead each meeting. Take a few minutes to plan hosts and leaders for your remaining meetings. Don’t skip this important step! It will revolutionize your group.

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WATCH THE VIDEO Use the Notes space provided below to record key thoughts, questions and things you want to remember or follow up on.

After watching the video, have someone read the discussion questions in the Hear God’s Story section and direct the discussion among the group.

As you go through each of the subsequent sections, ask someone else to read the questions and direct the discussion.

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NOTES

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Hear GOD’S STORY Read John 10:10.

I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.

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• In the video, Pastor David shares three different Greek words for life: bios meaning physical life (biology); psuche meaning mental or emotional life (psychology); and zoe meaning “the absolute fullness of a blessed life that comes only from God.” How does the life or zoe that God gives impact the other types of life?

• How does the life God offers, as Pastor David says, “superabundant life” affect your view of life? Where do you experience this?

• When it comes to discussion about life and God, many people reach the conclusion that this means drudgery in this life and eternal life in heaven. God intends for you to have abundant life now. How do you access superabundant life now?

• Pastor David says, “You’re working a faulty formula, when all your hopes fail. Life gets very frustrating. You feel powerless – powerless to do better at work or powerless to get things right at home.” How have you experienced this kind of frustration or powerlessness?

• What was the result of the experience described in the previous question?

IF YOUR GROUP IS NEW, WELCOME NEWCOMERS. INTRODUCE EVERYONE— YOU MAY EVEN WANT TO HAVE NAMETAGS FOR YOUR FIRST MEETING.

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Create A NEW STORY God wants you to be part of His kingdom—to weave your story into His. That will mean change—to go His way rather than your own. This won’t happen overnight, but it should happen steadily. By starting with small, simple choices, we begin to change our direction. The Holy Spirit helps us along the way—giving us gifts to serve the body, offering us insights into scripture, and challenging us to love not only those around us but those far from God. In this section, talk about how you will apply the wisdom you’ve learned from the teaching and Bible study. Then think about practical steps you can take in the coming week to live out what you’ve learned.

• When you look at your life right now, where are you thriving?

• Now, looking at the other side of things, what is frustrating in your life?

Where do you feel powerless?

• What is one thing you could start doing this week to help you tap into the abundant life Jesus has for you?

• Take a look at the Circles of Life diagram on the next page and write the names of two or three people you know who need to know Christ.

Commit to praying for God’s guidance and an opportunity to share with each of them. Perhaps they would be open to joining the group? Share your lists with the group so you can all be praying for the people you’ve identified.

• Also consider someone—in this group or outside it—that you can begin going deeper with in an intentional way. This might be your mom or dad, a cousin, an aunt or uncle, a roommate, a college buddy, or a neighbor.

Choose someone who might be open to “doing life” with you at a deeper level and pray about that opportunity.

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• This week how will you interact with the Bible? Can you commit to spending time in daily prayer or study of God’s Word (use the Daily Devotions section to guide you)? Tell the group how you plan to follow Jesus this week, and then, at your next meeting, talk about your progress and challenges.

• Stack your hands just like a sports team does in the huddle and commit to taking a risk and going deeper in your group and in your relationships with each other.

• Ask, “How can we pray for you this week?” Invite everyone to share, but don’t force the issue. Be sure to write prayer requests on your Prayer and Praise Report on page 131.

• Close your meeting with prayer.

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FOR ADDITIONAL STUDY (OPTIONAL)

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If you feel God nudging you to go deeper, take some time before the next meeting to dig into His Word.

Explore the Bible passages related to this session’s theme on your own and jot your reflections in a journal or in this study guide. A great way to gain insight on a passage is to read it in several different translations.

You may want to use a Bible app or website to compare translations.

Read Colossians 3:1-14. In order to embrace abundant life, you must turn from the things that take away from abundant life. There are certainly things that will build you up and things that will tear you down. As you study this passage, don’t just take an academic approach. Imagine the impact on your life right now.

• What does it mean to set your mind on things above?

What would this look like in the course of your ordinary day?

• How do you “put to death” the things that belong to your earthly nature?

• Paul speaks of the old and new natures almost in terms of a wardrobe change. How do you replace the old wardrobe of the old nature with the new wardrobe from God?

• How would your life be different if it was filled with the things described in verses 12-14? How can you get there?

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LET’S WITH GOD THROUGHOUT THE WEEK

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DAY 1 Read John 1:4.

In him was life, and that life was the light of all mankind.

Respond: How have you experienced Jesus’ light in your life? How has Jesus’ light in you affected others?

DAY 2 Read Matthew 6:25.

Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes?

Respond: How much do you worry about daily necessities? How much does God want you to worry about these things?

DAY 3 Read Matthew 10:39.

Whoever finds their life will lose it, and whoever loses their life for my sake will find it.

Respond: How would the real possibility of losing your life for the sake of Christ make a difference in how you live?

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DAY 4 Read John 10:11.

I am the good shepherd. The good shepherd lays down his life for the sheep.

Respond: What does Jesus’ laying His life down for you mean to you on a practical, daily basis?

DAY 5 Read Romans 6:11.

In the same way, count yourselves dead to sin but alive to God in Christ Jesus.

Respond: How are you dead to sin and alive in Christ?

DAY 6 Use the following space to write any thoughts God has put in your heart and mind about the things we have looked at in this session and during your Daily Devotions time this week.

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SESSION TWO

Faith In all these things we are more than conquerors through Him who loved us.

(Romans 8:37) How you see things makes a world of difference. Some even say that perception is reality. That’s often true when you discover how perspective can cause someone to react or even feel. Without the right perspective traveling through life can seem like walking through a house of mirrors. Reality can be greatly distorted.

If your perceptions are distorted, then your reactions will also be distorted. Just imagine the confusion that will cause.

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YOUR STORY

As we said last week, when we share our stories with others, we give them the opportunity to see God at work. Your story is being shaped, even in this moment, by being part of this group. In fact, few things can shape us more than community.

When we share our stories, we can encourage someone else, and learn. We experience the presence of God as He helps us be brave enough to reveal our thoughts and feelings.

Open your group with prayer.

This should be a brief, simple prayer in which you invite God to be with you as you meet. You can pray for specific requests at the end of the meeting, or stop momentarily to pray if a particular situation comes up during your discussion.

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Begin your time together by using the following questions and activities to get people talking: · Are you a glass half full or a glass half empty kind of person? · What is good about how you see your glass? What’s not good? · In the last session we asked you to write some names in the Circles of Life diagram. Who did you identify as the people in your life who need to meet Jesus? Go back to the Circles of Life diagram on page 23 to help you think of various people you come in contact with on a regular basis; people who need to know Jesus more deeply.

Consider ideas for action and make a plan to follow through on one of them this week. · Pair up with someone in your group. (We suggest that men partner with men and women with women.) This person will be your spiritual partner for the rest of this study. He or she doesn’t have to be your best friend. Instead, this person will simply encourage you to complete the goals you set for yourself during this study. Following through on a resolution is tough when you’re on your own; it makes all the difference to have a partner to cheer you on.

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WATCH THE VIDEO Watch the Video for this session now. Use the Notes space provided below to record key thoughts, questions, and things you want to remember or follow up on. After you finish watching the video, have someone read the discussion questions in the Hear God’s Story section and direct the discussion among the group.

As you go through each of the subsequent sections, ask someone else to read the questions and direct the discussion.

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Hear GOD’S STORY Read Mark 6:46-51.

Immediately Jesus made his disciples get into the boat and go on ahead of him to Bethsaida, while he dismissed the crowd. 46 After leaving them, he went up on a mountainside to pray. 47 Later that night, the boat was in the middle of the lake, and he was alone on land. 48 He saw the disciples straining at the oars, because the wind was against them. Shortly before dawn he went out to them, walking on the lake. He was about to pass by them, 49 but when they saw him walking on the lake, they thought he was a ghost.

They cried out, 50 because they all saw him and were terrified.

Immediately he spoke to them and said, “Take courage! It is I. Don’t be afraid.” 51 Then he climbed into the boat with them, and the wind died down. They were completely amazed,

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• In the video, Pastor David said, “Your perspective on life determines everything about your life—how you think, how you feel, what you do.”

Where do you see this in your own life?

• What does the Bible passage we just read reveal about the disciples’ perspective?

• As Pastor David pointed out, Jesus intentionally sent the disciples into the storm to grow their faith. How have you seen “storms” in your life produce faith?

• In verse 50, Jesus made three short statements that made a big difference: “Take courage! It is I. Don’t be afraid.” Jesus is always with you. In what ways do you experience Jesus when you’re in a difficult situation?

• How does faith defeat fear? If faith defeats fear, then how does fear defeat you at times?

• What makes faith grow?

• What are the main take-aways for you from this teaching by Pastor David?

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NOTES He dismissed the crowd (v.45). The boat trip in this passage was preceded by the feeding of the 5,000. The disciples had just witnessed a miracle of Jesus feeding a multitude with only five loaves and two fishes. This account stands in stark contrast to the disciples’ next encounter with Jesus.

He went up on a mountainside to pray (v.46). Jesus, being fully God and fully man needed to connect to the Father for instructions just like his disciples depended on him.

Don’t be afraid (v. 50).

This is the most repeated command in the Bible.

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Create A NEW STORY In this section, talk about how you will apply the wisdom you’ve learned from the teaching and Bible study. Then think about practical steps you can take in the coming week to live out what you’ve learned.

• Philippians 4:13 says “I can do all things through Christ, who strengthens me.”

If this is the case, then why do some believers often feel powerless, overwhelmed, and frustrated?

• When are you the most prone to worry?

• In the video, Pastor David said, “As soon as you surrender your life to your Lord, you have a boundless reality.” If this is the case, why do so many Christians struggle with fear and a lack of faith?

• What do you think would happen if you began to pray and ask God to increase your faith?

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• Here are some simple ways to connect with God. Tell the group which ones you plan to try this week, and talk about your progress and challenges when you meet next time:

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Prayer. Commit to personal prayer and daily connection with God. You may find it helpful to write your prayers in a journal.

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Daily Devotions. The Daily Devotions provided after each session offer an opportunity to read a short Bible passage five days a week during the course of our study. In our hurry-up world, we often move too quickly through everything—even reading God’s Word! Slow down. Don’t just skim, but take time to read carefully and reflect on the passage. Write down your insights on what you read each day. Copy a portion of Scripture on a card and tape it somewhere in your line of sight, such as your car’s dashboard or the bathroom mirror. Or text it to yourself! Think about it when you sit at red lights or while you’re eating a meal. Reflect on what God is saying to you through these words. On the sixth day summarize what God has shown you throughout the week.

• Ask, “How can we pray for you this week?” Invite everyone to share, but don’t force the issue. Be sure to write prayer requests on your Prayer and Praise Report on page 131.

• Close your session with prayer.

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FOR ADDITIONAL STUDY (OPTIONAL)

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If you feel God is nudging you to go deeper, take some time between now and our next meeting to dig into His Word. Explore the Bible passages related to this session’s theme on your own, jotting your reflections in a journal or in this study guide. Want to go deeper?

Select a few verses and try paraphrasing them: writing them in your own words. If you like, share them with the group the next time you meet.

Read Numbers 13:1-2, 17-20, 28-33.

The people of Israel have crossed the wilderness and are approaching the Promised Land for the first time. Even though they have constant visible reminders of God’s presence with them, the pillar of cloud/fire and the Tabernacle, their actual walk with God has been more stumbling than progress.

But the stage is set for God’s amazing promise to be fulfilled. Joshua sends in a special recon unit to scout the best approach and route for taking the land. They come back with a mixed report.

• What did the 10 spies see differently from Joshua and Caleb?

• Notice how the bad report escalates in verse 32.

How does fear amplify and distort reality in your life at times?

• At what times in your life does the bad overwhelm the good?

• Paralyzed by the spies’ fearful report, this generation of Israel never saw the Promised Land.

They wandered in the wilderness for 40 years.

How has fear ever kept you from what God has promised?

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DEVOTIONALS

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DAY 1 Read Ephesians 3:20.

God is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to His power that is at work within us.

Respond: What are you imagining? Take a few minutes to imagine what God could do; then ask Him.

DAY 2 Read Romans 8:28.

We know that in all things God works for the good of those who love Him and are called according to His purpose.

Respond: Based on this verse, what can you assume about God when things are not good?

DAY 3 Read Romans 8:37.

In all these things we are more than conquerors through Him who loved us.

Respond: In what ways do you feel like a conqueror right now? How might you feel conquered right now?

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DAY 4 Read Philippians 4:13.

I can do all things through Christ, who strengthens me.

Respond: If you truly took these words to heart, how would your life change?

DAY 5 Read Philippians 1:6 Being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.

Respond: What specific evidence of God’s past faithfulness and His work in your life can you list right now? How does it inspire your faith?

DAY 6 Use the following space to write any thoughts God has put in your heart and mind about the things we have looked at in this session and during your Daily Devotions time this week.

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SESSION THREE

Generosity Give, and it will be given to you.

A good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over, will be poured into your lap. For with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.” (Luke 6:38) When the topic of money or giving comes up in church, everyone gets a little tense. Our money is important to us.

There is nothing wrong with money as long as we don’t love it. After all, loving money is the root of all evil (1 Timothy 6:10). It’s okay to have money as long as money doesn’t have you. Why has God blessed you financially? Whether we have a little money or a lot of it, God blesses us so we can bless others in both big and small ways.

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YOUR STORY

Open your group with prayer.

This should be a brief, simple prayer in which you invite God to be with you as you meet. You can pray for specific requests at the end of the meeting, or stop momentarily to pray if a particular situation comes up during your discussion.

Sharing personal stories builds deeper connections among group members. Begin your time together by using the following questions and activities to get people talking.

• On a scale from 1 to 10 (1 being stingy and 10 being outrageously giving), how would you rate yourself?

• Why did you give yourself that number?

• Sit with your spiritual partner. If your partner is absent or you are new to the group, join with another pair or someone who doesn’t yet have a partner.

If you haven’t established your spiritual partnership yet, do it now. (See Share Your Story in Session Two on page 32.)

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WATCH THE VIDEO Use the Notes space provided below to record key thoughts, questions, and things you want to remember or follow up on.

After watching the video, have someone read the discussion questions in the Hear God’s Story section and direct the discussion among the group.

As you go through each of the subsequent sections, ask someone else to read the questions and direct the discussion.

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Hear GOD’S STORY Use the following questions to guide your discussion of the teaching and stories you just experienced on the video teaching and the Bible passage below.

Read Luke 19:1-10.

Jesus entered Jericho and was passing through. 2 A man was there by the name of Zacchaeus; he was a chief tax collector and was wealthy. 3 He wanted to see who Jesus was, but because he was short he could not see over the crowd. 4 So he ran ahead and climbed a sycamore-fig tree to see him, since Jesus was coming that way.

5 When Jesus reached the spot, he looked up and said to him, “Zacchaeus, come down immediately. I must stay at your house today.” 6 So he came down at once and welcomed him gladly.

7 All the people saw this and began to mutter, “He has gone to be the guest of a sinner.”

8 But Zacchaeus stood up and said to the Lord, “Look, Lord! Here and now I give half of my possessions to the poor, and if I have cheated anybody out of anything, I will pay back four times the amount.”

9 Jesus said to him, “Today salvation has come to this house, because this man, too, is a son of Abraham. 10 For the Son of Man came to seek and to save the lost.”

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• Prior to meeting Jesus, Zacchaeus, a tax collector, cheated people out of their money (v. 8). What was your relationship with money before you met Jesus?

• Zacchaeus made a profound change in his generosity, going from a 1 to a 10 in one meeting with Jesus. Where has your generosity gone since you met Jesus?

• Is giving easy or difficult for you? Why or why not?

• In the video, Pastor David said, “God is willing to release riches to us, as we are willing to release our riches to others.” How have you seen this work?

• Tax collectors like Zaccheaus were highly unpopular. Jesus, having never met him before, calls Zaccheaus by name in front of the crowd and invites Himself to Zaccheaus’ house for dinner (v. 5). How is Jesus showing generosity to Zacchaeus in this verse?

• How is Jesus calling you to show generosity in non-financial ways?

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NOTES He dismissed the crowd (v.2). Tax collectors were despised in Jesus’ day because they were Jews in collusion with the Romans, who ruled all of Israel. Tax Collectors were notoriously unsavory folks who overcharged taxes to make themselves rich. Zacchaeus was not only a tax collector, but the Chief Tax Collector.

He would have been regarded as the worst of the worst.

Sycamore-fig tree (v.4).

This sycamore in the Bible was a tall fig tree growing up to 40 feet in height. It had small unlobed leaves and poor tasting fruit. (Source: Warnell School of Forestry, University of Georgia).

Salvation (v.9). Zacchaeus, being a Jew, was among the “lost sheep of the house of Israel” (Matthew 10:6).

Despite his social standing and way of life, he was not beyond Jesus’ reach.

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Create A NEW STORY God wants you to be part of His Kingdom—to weave your story into His. That will mean change. It will require you to go His way rather than your own. This won’t happen overnight, but it should happen steadily. By making small, simple choices, we can begin to change our direction. The Holy Spirit helps us along the way, by giving us gifts to serve the body, offering us insights into scripture, and challenging us to love not only those around us but those far from God. In this section, talk about how you will apply the wisdom you’ve learned in this session.

• What do you believe are the advantages of generosity?

• How can you increase your generosity? What would it look like to regularly give an additional 1 percent of your income over what you currently give?

• How do you determine a worthy cause?

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• Determine an amount, even a small amount, that you will give this week.

• What steps will you take this week to grow in your relationship with God? If you’ve focused on prayer in past weeks, maybe you’ll want to direct your attention to scripture this week. If you’ve been reading God’s Word consistently, perhaps you’ll want to take it deeper and try memorizing a verse. Tell the group which one you plan to try this week, and talk about your progress and challenges when you meet next time.

• Ask, “How can we pray for you this week?” Invite everyone to share, but don’t force the issue. Be sure to write prayer requests on your Prayer and Praise Report on page 131.

• Close your meeting with prayer.

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Take some time between now and our next meeting to dig into God’s Word. Explore the Bible passages related to this session’s theme. Jot down your reflections in a journal or in this study guide. You may event want to use a Bible website or app to look up commentary on these passages. If you like, share what you learn with the group the next time you meet.

Read 2 Corinthians 9:6-15. These verses make a great personal prayer for others and a corporate prayer in worship. They highlight not only the inexhaustible supply of love that Jesus has but also measure the immeasurable height, width, length, and depth of that love.

• Do you sow sparingly or generously?

• What is the result of sowing sparingly or generously? How have you seen this happen?

• Why does God want you to be cheerful about your giving?

• Your generosity leads to God’s abundance (v. 8).

What causes you to depend on yourself for financial security? What is preventing your generosity and thus God’s abundance in your life?

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DAY 1 Read Proverbs 11:25.

A generous person will prosper; whoever refreshes others will be refreshed.

Respond: If this proverb is true, which we believe the Bible is true, then what keeps you from being generous?

DAY 2 Read Psalm 37:21 The wicked borrow and do not repay, but the righteous give generously.

Respond: Why is generosity equated with righteousness?

DAY 3 Read Hebrews 4:16.

So let us come boldly to the throne of our gracious God. There we will receive his mercy, and we will find grace to help us when we need it most.

Respond: What two things should we be seeking when we turn to God in prayer?

Why?

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DAY 4 Read Proverbs 22:9.

The generous will themselves be blessed, for they share their food with the poor.

Respond: How can you generously serve the poor? What’s your plan for the next time you see someone holding a cardboard sign by the side of the road?

DAY 5 Read 2 Corinthians 9:7.

Each of you should give what you have decided in your heart to give, not reluctantly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver.

Respond: What makes an uncheerful giver? What makes a cheerful giver?

DAY 6 Use the following space to write any thoughts God has put in your heart and mind about the things we have looked at in this session and during your Daily Devotions time this week.

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Trust “Father, into your hands I commit my spirit.” (Luke 23:46) These were the last words Jesus uttered before He left earthly life carrying all of the sins of the world with Him. Jesus’ words, however, are not dissimilar from what God calls you to do – commit your life, your spirit, and your eternity fully to Him. The exchange is to give up a life that weighs you down for a life where you will truly thrive.

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YOUR STORY

Open your group with prayer. This should be a brief, simple prayer, in which you invite God to be with you as you meet. You can pray for specific requests at the end of the meeting or stop momentarily to pray if a particular situation comes up during your discussion.

As we have said in previous lessons, sharing our personal stories builds deeper connections among group members. Your story may be exactly what another person needs to hear, and your listening to others’ stories is an act of love and kindness to them—and could very well help them to grow spiritually. Begin your time together by using the following questions and activities to get people talking.

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• When people talk about the “good life,” what do they usually mean?

• Last week, the group discussed generosity. Share about your own attempts at generosity this week. What did you try? How is your thinking about giving now?

• Sit with your spiritual partner.

If your partner is absent or if you are new to the group, join with another pair or someone who doesn’t yet have a partner.

If you haven’t established your spiritual partnership yet, do it now. Share one prayer request and one thing you want to thank God for. Spend some time praying about what you’ve shared. (See Share Your Story in Session Two on page 32.)

• Take some time for each person to share about how they’re doing on the challenge of inviting the people on the Circles of Life to church or your small group. What specific conversations are you praying about for the weeks to come?

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As you go through each of the subsequent sections, ask someone else to read the questions and direct the discussion.

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Hear GOD’S STORY Read Psalm 91:2-3, 9-16.”

I will say of the Lord, “He is my refuge and my fortress, my God, in whom I trust.” 3Surely he will save you…

9 If you say, “The Lord is my refuge,” and you make the Most High your dwelling, 10 no harm will overtake you, no disaster will come near your tent.

11 For he will command his angels concerning you to guard you in all your ways; 12 they will lift you up…

14 “Because he loves me,” says the Lord, “I will rescue him; I will protect him, for he acknowledges my name.

15 He will call on me, and I will answer him; I will be with him in trouble, I will deliver him and honor him.

16 With long life I will satisfy him and show him my salvation.”

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• What does the thought of a refuge mean to you?

• How do you “make the Host High your dwelling?”

• Pastor David puts it this way: “If you’ll hold on to Me for dear life,” says God, “I’ll get you out of any trouble. I’ll give you the best care, if you’ll only get to know and trust Me. Call Me. I’ll answer and be at your side in bad times. I will rescue you.” What are the benefits of trusting God? How have you seen these things play out in your life?

• In the video, Pastor David said, “A majority of people say they believe in God, but only a minority actually trust Him.” How easy or difficult is it for you to trust God? Why or why not?

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NOTES Tent (v. 10). The readers (or singers) of this psalm were possibly nomadic. As nomads their dwellings were portable and usually consisted of some sort of tent. Nomadic peoples still live this way today.

Angels (v. 11). Angels are spiritual beings created

by God before He created the heavens and earth.

They do not have bodies, yet can possess physical form. Contrary to popular thinking, angels are not former humans who are now in heaven. Angels do not multiply. There are still as many angels as God originally created.

Let him see (vv. 16). This is more the idea of “cause him to feast his eyes on.”

Feasting your eyes on God’s salvation gives the thought of receiving exactly what you needed and then some.

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Create A NEW STORY • Describe one practical personal application from this lesson that you intend to practice this next week.

Blessed are those who trust the Lord and have made the Lord their hope and confidence. (Jeremiah 17:7)

• What does it mean to make the Lord your hope and confidence?

• When you think about your daily life, what shows your trust in God?

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• Each of you in the group has different gifts and abilities. And every small group has tasks and roles that need to be done. How could you serve this group—perhaps with hospitality or prayer, by organizing an event, research or study of a topic, by worshipping or inviting new people?

• Spend some time praying about those you know who might respond to a simple invitation: to come to a church service, to join your small group, or even to just have coffee and talk about spiritual matters. Ask the Holy Spirit to bring to mind people you can pray for.

• Groups grow closer when they serve together. How could your group serve someone in need? You may want to visit a shut-in from your church, provide a meal for a family who is going through difficulty, or give some other practical help to someone in need. If nothing comes to mind, spend some group time praying and asking God to show you who needs your help. Have two or three group members organize a serving project for the group, and then do it!

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Take some time between now and our next meeting to dig into God’s Word. Explore the Bible passages related to this session’s theme on your own. Jot down your reflections in a journal or in this study guide. You may even want to use a Bible website or app to look up commentary on these passages. If you like, share what you learn with the group the next time you meet.

Read 1 Timothy 6:17-19. In writing to Timothy, Paul goes there. Most people put their trust in either God or money. This is why money is such a sensitive subject.

• What are the two cautions Paul gives about money in verse 17? How have these issues shown up in your life?

• When it comes to trusting God or trusting money, what is more certain? How does your life reflect your thoughts about this issue?

• When it comes to your relationship with God, what is the purpose of money according to verse 18? How are you doing in these areas?

• Paul says following God’s ways leads to “life that is truly life.” If following God’s ways produces a true life, what is a false life? When have you experienced living a “false life?”

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DAY 1 Read Luke 23:46.

Jesus called out with a loud voice, “Father, into your hands I commit my spirit.� When he had said this, he breathed his last.

Respond: Where do you struggle with letting go and letting God?

DAY 2 John 10:10a.

The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; Respond: How is the enemy attempting to produce this devastation in your life right now?

DAY 3 Read John 10:10b.

I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.

Respond: Considering what God intends for you, why are you sometimes tempted to trust anyone or anything other than God?

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DAY 4 Read Psalm 103:1.

Praise the Lord, my soul; all my inmost being, praise his holy name.

Respond: What would it look like for you to praise God with your heart, your soul, and your mind (your inmost being)? Take a few minutes and praise him right now in words or song.

DAY 5 Read Psalm 103:5. who satisfies your desires with good things so that your youth is renewed like the eagle’s.

Respond: God wants to satisfy your desires with good things. How are you currently satisfying a desire with bad things? What would it look like for God to satisfy this desire with good things?

DAY 6 Use the following space to write any thoughts God has put in your heart and mind about the things we have looked at in this session and during your Daily Devotions time this week.

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Sacrifice Then Jesus said to his disciples, “Whoever wants to be my disciple must deny themselves and take up their cross and follow me. (Matthew 16:24).

Following Jesus is a life of sacrifice and a life of tremendous reward. By following Jesus, you live an abundant life, you avoid hell; you get to spend eternity in heaven. That sounds pretty good. To be Jesus’ disciple, all you have to do is give up your life, not physically, but give up your control of your life. The reward on earth is a life beyond your dreams and abiding peace. Then, there’s the reward of spending eternity in God’s presence. You could choose to go your own way, but to be honest this leads you to somewhere you don’t want to go.

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Open your group with prayer. This should be a brief, simple prayer, in which you invite God to be with you as you meet. You can pray for specific requests at the end of the meeting or stop momentarily to pray if a particular situation comes up during your discussion.

Telling our personal stories builds deeper connections among group members.

Begin your time together by using the following questions and activities to get people talking. Sharing our stories requires us to be honest. We can help one another be honest and open by creating a safe place; be sure that your group is one where confidentiality is respected, where there is no such thing as “stupid questions,” where you listen without criticizing one another.

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• The cross is a popular jewelry item and decoration. What does the cross mean to you? Why? • Last week, you were challenged with trusting God with your life.

What is one way you trusted God this last week that you may not have in the past?

• Sit with your spiritual partner.

If your partner is absent or if you are new to the group, join with another pair or someone who doesn’t yet have a partner.

If you haven’t established your spiritual partnership yet, do it now. Answer this question: how has being in this group impacted your personal relationship with God? (See Share Your Story in Session Two on page 32.)

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As you go through each of the subsequent sections, ask someone else to read the questions and direct the discussion.

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Hear GOD’S STORY Read Matthew 16:15-17, 21-24.

“But what about you?” [Jesus] asked. “Who do you say I am?”

16 Simon Peter answered, “You are the Messiah, the Son of the living God.” 17 Jesus replied, “Blessed are you, Simon son of Jonah, for this was not revealed to you by flesh and blood, but by my Father in heaven.

21 From that time on Jesus began to explain to his disciples that he must go to Jerusalem and suffer many things at the hands of the elders, the chief priests and the teachers of the law, and that he must be killed and on the third day be raised to life.

22 Peter took him aside and began to rebuke him. “Never, Lord!” he said. “This shall never happen to you!”

23 Jesus turned and said to Peter, “Get behind me, Satan! You are a stumbling block to me; you do not have in mind the concerns of God, but merely human concerns.”

24 Then Jesus said to his disciples, “Whoever wants to be my disciple must deny themselves and take up their cross and follow me. 25 For whoever wants to save their life will lose it, but whoever loses their life for me will find it. 26 What good will it be for someone to gain the whole world, yet forfeit their soul? Or what can anyone give in exchange for their soul? 27 For the Son of Man is going to come in his Father’s glory with his angels, and then he will reward each person according to what they have done.

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• Peter was having a rough day. First, he is applauded for correctly identifying Jesus, then he is called “Satan.” What was “satanic” about Peter’s statement in verse 22?

• The cross was the fulfillment of Jesus’ mission on earth in providing the means of salvation and in reconciling the relationship between God and people. Denying yourself and taking up your cross is also required to follow Jesus. What does taking up your cross mean to you?

• What does taking up your cross look like in your daily life?

• What could you possibly gain that would be worth losing your soul over?

Why?

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NOTES Get behind me, Satan! (v.23). Jesus admonishes Peter in the harshest way.

Jesus being falsely accused and executed is something Peter wanted to prevent. The thought of preventing Jesus’ mission from being fulfilled would be against God, and thus, “satanic.”

Whoever wants to save his life will lose it (v.25). “Life” here can mean either life or soul. The same is true in verse 26.

Reward each person according to what they have done. (v.27). Jesus is not implying that his followers must work for their salvation. Believers are saved by grace through faith (Ephesians 2:8). Jesus is speaking about the reward for fully surrendering one’s life to Christ.

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Create A NEW STORY God wants you to be part of His kingdom—to weave your story into His. That will mean change. It will require you to go His way rather than your own. This won’t happen overnight, but it should happen steadily. By making small, simple choices, we can begin to change our direction. The Holy Spirit helps us along the way—giving us gifts to serve the body, offering us insights into Scripture, and challenging us to love not only those around us but those far from God. In this section, talk about how you will apply the wisdom you’ve learned in this lesson.

• While people can be saved from their sins, they must still work out their salvation. This is not working for their salvation. What parts of your life do you have yet to surrender to God? What’s the first step you can take in surrendering this area of your life to God?

• When you think about your daily routine, who calls the shots: you or God? What can you do daily to show that God is in charge of every aspect of your life?

• Spend some time praying about those you know who might respond to a simple invitation: to come to a church service, to join your small group, or even just to have coffee and talk about spiritual matters. Ask the Holy Spirit to bring to mind people you can pray for.

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• A strong group is made up of people who are all being filled up by God, so that they are empowered to love one another. What specific steps will you take this week to connect with God privately, so He can “fill you up?” If you’ve focused on prayer in past weeks, maybe you’ll want to direct your attention to Scripture this week. If you’ve been reading God’s Word consistently, perhaps you’ll want to take it deeper and try memorizing a verse. Tell the group which one you plan to try this week.

Then, at your next meeting, talk about your progress and challenges.

• Ask “How can we pray for you this week?” Invite everyone to share, but don’t force the issue. Be sure to write prayer requests on your Prayer and Praise Report on page 131.

• Close your meeting with prayer.

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Take some time between now and our next meeting to dig into God’s Word. Explore the Bible passages related to this session’s theme on your own. Jot down your reflections in a journal or in this study guide. You may even want to use a Bible website or app to look up commentary on these passages. If you like, share what you learn with the group the next time you meet.

Read John 12:23-26. This is a somewhat parallel passage to Matthew 16 regarding Jesus’ death and sacrificing one’s life.

• In the analogy of the kernel of wheat dying to multiply itself, you can clearly see how Jesus’ death multiplied His life. How can the “death” or surrender of your daily life lead to this kind of multiplying effect?

• In John 10:10, Jesus promises abundant life, yet in John 12:25 says unless you hate your life, you’ll miss out on heaven. How do you reconcile these two statements about earthly life?

• What does it mean to truly serve God as Jesus mentions in verse 26?

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DAY 1 Read Galatians 3:13.

Christ redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us, for it is written: “Cursed is everyone who is hung on a pole� (reference to Deuteronomy 21:23).

Respond: What does it mean to you personally that Christ became a curse for you? What is your response?

DAY 2 Read Galatians 2:20.

I have been crucified with Christ and I no longer live, but Christ lives in me.

The life I now live in the body, I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me.

Respond: How has your old way of living or living for yourself died to Christ? What part of that old self is still alive?

DAY 3 Read Galatians 5:24.

Those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires.

Respond: What makes human passions and desires sinful and deserving of crucifixion?

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DAY 4 Read Philippians 1:21.

For to me to live is Christ, and to die is gain.

Respond: How is the concept of a living sacrifice more challenging than the idea of a dead sacrifice?

DAY 5 Read Romans 12:1.

I appeal to you therefore, brothers, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God, which is your spiritual worship.

Respond: How is the concept of being a living sacrifice integrated into your daily life?

DAY 6 Use the following space to write any thoughts God has put in your heart and mind about the things we have looked at in this session and during your Daily Devotions time this week.

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Commitment “He committed no sin, and no deceit was found in his mouth.� (1 Peter 2:22).

Jesus made an enormous commitment to humanity when He died on the cross to save people from their sins. To receive His salvation, people must commit themselves wholeheartedly to Jesus in return.

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Open your group with prayer. This should be a brief, simple prayer, in which you invite God to be with you as you meet.

You can pray for specific requests at the end of the meeting, or stop momentarily to pray if a particular situation comes up during your discussion.

As we have said in previous lessons, sharing our personal stories builds deeper connections among group members. Your story may be exactly what another person needs to hear to encourage or strengthen them. And your listening to others’ stories is an act of love and kindness to them—and could very well help them to grow spiritually. Begin your time together by using the following questions and activities to get people talking.

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• What is the biggest commitment you’ve ever made?

What did it take for you to get there?

• Last week, the group talked about sacrifice. In what ways was your life more sacrificial this past week?

• Take time in this final session to connect with your spiritual partner. What has God been showing you through these sessions? What positive changes has your partner noticed in you? Check in with each other about the progress you have made in your spiritual growth during this study. Make plans about whether you will continue your relationship after the group has concluded.

• Take some time for each person to share about how they’ve done with inviting the people on the Circles of Life to church or your small group. What specific conversations are you praying about for the weeks to come?

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WATCH THE VIDEO Watch the Video for this session now. Use the Notes space provided below to record any key thoughts, questions, and things you want to remember or follow up on.

After you finish watching the video, have someone read the discussion questions in the Hear God’s Story section and direct the discussion among the group. As you go through each of the subsequent sections, ask someone else to read the questions and direct the discussion.

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Hear GOD’S STORY Read Luke 23:32-33, 39-43.

Two other men, both criminals, were also led out with [Jesus] to be executed. 33 When they came to the place called the Skull, they crucified him there, along with the criminals—one on his right, the other on his left.

39 One of the criminals who hung there hurled insults at him: “Aren’t you the Messiah? Save yourself and us!”

40 But the other criminal rebuked him. “Don’t you fear God,” he said, “since you are under the same sentence? 41 We are punished justly, for we are getting what our deeds deserve. But this man has done nothing wrong.”

42 Then he said, “Jesus, remember me when you come into your kingdom.”

43 Jesus answered him, “Truly I tell you, today you will be with me in paradise.”

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• What is common about the two criminals other than they were about to be executed along with Jesus? What do their statements say about their belief?

• Jesus bore your sins on the cross, but He did not die for His Own sins.

Jesus never sinned. What does that fact mean to you? Why?

• In the video Pastor David said, “We thrive based on our level of commitment to Jesus. We are committed to Jesus based on the level of our understanding of His commitment to us.” What do you understand better today about Jesus’ commitment?

• How willing are you to pursue an even deeper commitment to Jesus?

What would that look like?

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NOTES When you come into your kingdom (v. 42). Some translations say, “come with your kingly power.” The difference between the two statements is whether the criminal asked to be part of Jesus’ triumphal return to restore the kingdom back to Israel or whether the criminal perceived an eternal kingdom.

Paradise (v. 43). At the time of Jesus’ death, “Paradise” can be thought of as Heaven. In the account of the rich man and Lazarus, the rich man ends up in Hades, or the grave, while Lazarus is in “Abraham’s Bosom” or Paradise (Luke 16). Jesus promised the believing criminal on the cross that they would meet there that day.

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Create A NEW STORY How has God changed your story during this six-week study? What new things is He asking you to do? What truth has transformed your heart?

Think about specific steps you want to take to live a new story, to walk more closely with God so you can be part of His story, engaged in His kingdom.

• How does Jesus’ commitment to you help you thrive in your commitment to Him? • How does your daily life reflect your commitment to Jesus?

• How should your daily life reflect your commitment to Jesus?

• What is one thing you can do this week to demonstrate your commitment to Jesus?

• As this is the last meeting in this study, take some time to celebrate the work God has done in the lives of group members. Have each person in the group share some step of growth they have noticed in another member. (In other words, no one will talk about themselves. Instead, affirm others in the group.) Make sure each person gets affirmed and noticed and celebrated—whether the steps they’ve made are large or small.

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• If your group still needs to make decisions about continuing to meet after this session, have that discussion now. Talk about what you will study, who will lead, and when you will meet.

• Review your Small Group Agreement on page 125 and evaluate how well you met your goals. Discuss any changes you want to make as you move forward. If you plan to continue to meet, and your group starts a new study, this is a great time to take on a new role or change roles of service in your group. What new role will you take on? If you are uncertain, maybe your group members have some ideas for you.

Remember you aren’t making a lifetime commitment to the new role; it will only be for a few weeks. Maybe someone would like to share a role with you if you don’t feel ready to serve solo.

• Close by praying for your prayer requests and take a couple of minutes to review the praises you have recorded over the past five weeks on the Prayer and Praise Report on page 131. Spend some time thanking God for all He’s done in your group during this study.

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Explore the Bible passages related to this session’s theme on your own, jotting your reflections in a journal or in this study guide. You may even want to use a Bible website or app to look up commentary on these passages.

Read Hebrews 12:1-3. Your commitment to Jesus is not merely demonstrated with words, but is shown through your actions. Unfortunately, there are many believers who ascent to a statement of faith, but their lives do not reflect their supposed commitment to Him. Be challenged by these verses in what it looks like to live out your commitment.

• If someone was running a race, they would not carry extra baggage to weigh them down. In the same way, what things are you carrying that impede living your life fully for God?

• When you think of your everyday life, how do you keep your focus on Jesus? What other things are you prone to focus on?

• When do you become weary in your faith and might be tempted to give up?

• How can you stay personally motivated to persevere in your faith?

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DAY 1 Read Romans 8:37.

No, despite all these things, overwhelming victory is ours through Christ, who loved us.

Respond: Meditate on this verse long enough to rejoice in our victory through Christ and then tell God about your joy.

DAY 2 Read Ephesians 6:10-11.

A final word: Be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. Put on all of God’s armor so that you will be able to stand firm against all strategies of the devil.

Respond: What kind of routine would be helpful to use as a discipline of putting on the armor of God?

DAY 3 Read 2 Chronicles 20:15.

He said, “Listen, all you people of Judah and Jerusalem! Listen, King Jehoshaphat! This is what the LORD says: Do not be afraid! Don’t be discouraged by this mighty army, for the battle is not yours, but God’s.

Respond: When have you found it most necessary to remember that the battle is not yours but God’s? What makes us forget?

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DAY 4 Read Ephesians 6:13.

Therefore, put on every piece of God’s armor so you will be able to resist the enemy in the time of evil. Then after the battle you will still be standing firm.

Respond: How do you know when you are not standing firm? Who have you entrusted to “wake you up” if they catch you slipping or sleeping on guard?

DAY 5 Read Matthew 16:18.

Now I say to you that you are Peter (which means ‘rock’), and upon this rock I will build my church, and all the powers of hell will not conquer it.

Respond: Pray for the church of which you are a member today. Ask God for wisdom in making full use of everything He has built into you for the benefit of His body.

DAY 6 Use the following space to write any thoughts God has put in your heart and mind about the things we have looked at in this session and during your Daily Devotions time this week.

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FREQUENTLY ASKED Questions WHAT DO WE DO ON THE FIRST NIGHT OF OUR GROUP?

Like all fun things in life—have a party! A “get to know you” coffee, dinner, or dessert is a great way to launch a new study. You may want to review the Small Group Agreement (page 125) and share the names of a few friends you can invite to join you. But most importantly, have fun before your study time begins.

WHERE DO WE FIND NEW MEMBERS FOR OUR GROUP?

This can be troubling, especially for new groups that have only a few people or for existing groups that lose a few people along the way. We encourage you to pray with your group and then brainstorm a list of people from work, church, your neighborhood, your children’s school, family, the gym, and so forth. Then have each group member invite several of the people on his or her list.

No matter how you find members, it’s vital that you stay on the lookout for new people to join your group. All groups tend to o through healthy attrition—the result of moves, releasing new leaders, ministry opportunities, and so forth—and if the group gets too small, it could be at risk of shutting down. If you and your group stay open, you’ll be amazed at the people God sends your way. The next person just might become a friend for life. You never know!

HOW LONG WILL THIS GROUP MEET?

Most groups meet weekly for at least their first six weeks, but every other week can work as well. We strongly recommend that the group meet for the first six months on a weekly basis if at all possible. This allows for continuity, and if people miss a meeting they aren’t gone for a whole month.

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At the end of this study, each group member may decide if he or she wants to continue on for another study. Some groups launch relationships for years to come, and others are stepping-stones into another group experience. Either way, enjoy the journey.

CAN WE DO THIS STUDY ON OUR OWN?

Absolutely! This may sound crazy, but one of the best ways to do this study is not with a full house but with a few friends. You may choose to gather with another couple who would enjoy some relational time (perhaps going to the movies or having a quiet dinner) and then walking through this study. Jesus will be with you even if there are only two of you (Matthew 18:20).

WHAT IF THIS GROUP IS NOT WORKING FOR US?

You’re not alone! This could be the result of a personality conflict, life stage difference, geographical distance, level of spiritual maturity, or any number of things. Relax. Pray for God’s direction, and at the end of this six-week study, decide whether to continue with this group or find another. You don’t typically buy the first car you look at or marry the first person you date, and the same goes with a group. However, don’t bail out before the six weeks are up—God might have something to teach you. Also, don’t run from conflict or prejudge people before you have given them a chance.

God is still working in your life, too!

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WHO IS THE LEADER?

Most groups have an official leader. But ideally, the group will mature and members will rotate the leadership of meetings. We have discovered that healthy groups rotate hosts/leaders and homes on a regular basis. This model ensures that all members grow, give their unique contribution, and develop their gifts. This study guide and the Holy Spirit can keep things on track even when you rotate leaders. Christ has promised to be in your midst as you gather. Ultimately, God is your leader each step of the way.

HOW DO WE HANDLE THE CHILDCARE NEEDS IN OUR GROUP?

Very carefully. Seriously, this can be a sensitive issue. We suggest that you empower the group to openly brainstorm solutions. You may try one option that works for a while and then adjust over time. Our favorite approach is for adults to meet in the living room or dining room and to share the cost of a babysitter (or two) who can watch the kids in a different part of the house. This way, parents don’t have to be away from their children all evening when their children are too young to be left at home. A second option is to use one home for the kids and a second home (close by and a phone call away) for the adults. A third idea is to rotate the responsibility of providing a lesson or care for the children either in the same home or in another home nearby. This can be an incredible blessing for kids. Finally, the most common solution is to decide that you need to have a night to invest in your spiritual lives individually or as a couple and to make your own arrangements for childcare. No matter what decision the group makes, the best approach is to dialogue openly about both the problem and the solution.

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SMALL GROUP AGREEMENT OUR PURPOSE To provide a predictable environment where participants experience authentic community and spiritual growth.

OUR VALUES Group Attendance To give priority to the group meeting. We will call or email if we will be late or absent. (Completing the Group Calendar on page 161 will minimize this issue.)

Safe Environment To help create a safe place where people can be heard and feel loved.

(Please, no quick answers, snap judgments, or simple fixes.)

Respect Differences To be gentle and gracious to people with different spiritual maturity, personal opinions, temperaments, or “imperfections� in fellow group members. We are all works in progress.

Confidentiality To keep anything that is shared strictly confidential and within the group, and to avoid sharing improper information about those outside the group.

Encouragement for Growth To be not just takers but givers of life. We want to spiritually multiply our life by serving others with our God-given gifts.

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Shared Ownership To remember that every member is a minister and to ensure that each attender will share a small team role or responsibility over time.

Rotating Hosts/Leaders and Homes To encourage different people to host the group in their homes and to rotate the responsibility of facilitating each meeting. (See the Group Calendar on page 127.)

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SMALL GROUP CALENDAR

Planning and calendaring can help ensure the greatest participation at every meeting. At the end of each meeting, review this calendar. Be sure to include a regular rotation of host homes and leaders, and don’t forget birthdays, socials, church events, holidays, and mission/ministry projects.

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SPIRITUAL PARTNERS

Briefly check in each week and write down your personal plans and progress targets for the next week (or even for the next few weeks). This could be done before or after the meeting, on the phone, through an e-mail message, or even in person from time to time.

MY NAME: SPIRITUAL PARTNER’S NAME:

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MEMORY VERSES CLIP AND REVIEW SESSION ONE I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.

(John 10:10)

SESSION TWO In all these things we are more than conquerors through Him who loved us. (Romans 8:37)

SESSION THREE Give, and it will be given to you. A good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over, will be poured into your lap. For with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.” (Luke 6:38)

SESSION FOUR “Father, into your hands I commit my spirit.” (Luke 23:46)

SESSION FIVE Then Jesus said to his disciples, “Whoever wants to be my disciple must deny themselves and take up their cross and follow me. (Matthew 16:24)

SESSION SIX “He committed no sin, and no deceit was found in his mouth.” (1 Peter 2:22)

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clip and review THE MEMORY VERSES ON THE OTHER SIDE OF THIS PAGE.

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PRAYER AND PRAISE REQUESTS PRAISE REQUESTS

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HOSTING AN OPEN HOUSE If you’re starting a new group, try planning an “open house” before your first formal group meeting. Even if you have only two to four core members, it’s a great way to break the ice and to consider prayerfully who else might be open to joining you over the next few weeks. You can also use this kick-off meeting to hand out study guides, spend some time getting to know each other, discuss each person’s expectations for the group and briefly pray for each other.

A simple meal or good desserts always make a kick-off meeting more fun.

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After people introduce themselves and share how they ended up being at the meeting (you can play a game to see who has the wildest story!), have everyone respond to a few icebreaker questions: • • •

KEY RESOURCES TO What is your favorite family vacation?

HELP YOUR LEADERSHIP What is one thing you love about your church/our community?

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BEST IT CAN BE.

Next, ask everyone to tell what he or she hopes to get out of the study. You might want to review the Community Group Agreement and talk about each person’s expectations and priorities.

Finally, set an open chair (maybe two) in the center of your group and explain that it represents someone who would enjoy or benefit from this group but who isn’t here yet. Ask people to pray about inviting someone to join the group over the next few weeks. Hand out postcards and have everyone write an invitation or two. Don’t worry about ending up with too many people; you can always have one discussion circle in the living room and another in the dining room after you watch the lesson. Each group could then report prayer requests and progress at the end of the session.

You can skip this kick-off meeting if your time is limited, but you’ll experience a huge benefit if you take the time to connect with each other in this way.

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Hosting AN OPEN HOUSE

If you’re starting a new group, try planning an “open house” before your first formal group meeting. Even if you have only two to four core members, it’s a great way to break the ice and to consider prayerfully who else might be open to joining you over the next few weeks. You can also use this kickoff meeting to hand out study guides, spend some time getting to know each other, discuss each person’s expectations for the group and briefly pray for each other.A simple meal or good dessert always make a kick-off meeting more fun.

After people introduce themselves and share how they ended up being at the meeting (you can play a game to see who has the wildest story!), have everyone respond to a few icebreaker questions: • What is your favorite family vacation?

• What is one thing you love about your church/our community?

• What are three things about your life growing up that most people here don’t know?

Next, ask everyone to tell what he or she hopes to get out of the study.

You might want to review the Small Group Agreement and talk about each person’s expectations and priorities.

Finally, set an open chair (maybe two) in the center of your group and explain that it represents someone who would enjoy or benefit from this group but who isn’t here yet. Ask people to pray about inviting someone to join the group over the next few weeks. Hand out postcards and have everyone write an invitation or two. Don’t worry about ending up with too many people; you can always have one discussion circle in the living room and another in the dining room after you watch the lesson. Each group could then report prayer requests and progress at the end of the session.

You can skip this kick-off meeting if your time is limited, but you’ll experience a huge benefit if you take the time to connect with each other in this way.

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LEADERSHIP TRAINING 101 Congratulations! You have responded to the call to help shepherd Jesus’ flock. There are few other tasks in the family of God that surpass the contribution you will be making. As you prepare to lead, whether it is one session or the entire series, here are a few thoughts to keep in mind. We encourage you to read these and review them with each new discussion leader before he or she leads.

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Remember that you are not alone. God knows everything about you, and He knew that you would be asked to lead your group. Remember that it is common for all good leaders to feel that they are not ready to lead. Moses, Solomon, Jeremiah and Timothy were all reluctant to lead. God promises, “Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you” (Hebrews 13:5). Whether you are leading for one evening, for several weeks, or for a lifetime, you will be blessed as you serve.

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Don’t try to do it alone. Pray right now for God to help you build a healthy leadership team. If you can enlist a co-leader to help you lead the group, you will find your experience to be much richer. This is your chance to involve as many people as you can in building a healthy group. All you have to do is call and ask people to help. You’ll probably be surprised at the response.

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Just be yourself. If you won’t be you, who will? God wants you to use your unique gifts and temperament. Don’t try to do things exactly like another leader; do them in a way that fits you! Just admit it when you don’t have an answer, and apologize when you make a mistake. Your group will love you for it, and you’ll sleep better at night!

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Prepare for your meeting ahead of time. Review the session and the leader’s notes, and write down your responses to each question.

Pay special attention to exercises that ask group members to do something other than engage in discussion. These exercises will help your group live what the Bible teaches, not just talk about it. Be sure you understand how an exercise works, and bring any necessary supplies (such as paper and pens) to your meeting. If the exercise employs one of the items in the appendix, be sure to look over that item so you’ll know how it works. Finally, review “Outline for Each Session” so you’ll remember the purpose of each section in the study.

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Pray for your group members by name. Before you begin your session, go around the room in your mind and pray for each member by name.

You may want to review the prayer list at least once a week. Ask God to use your time together to touch the heart of every person uniquely.

Expect God to lead you to whomever He wants you to encourage or challenge in a special way. If you listen, God will surely lead!

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When you ask a question, be patient. Someone will eventually respond. Sometimes people need a moment or two of silence to think about the question. Keep in mind, if silence doesn’t bother you, it won’t bother anyone else. After someone responds, affirm the response with a simple “thanks” or “good job.” Then ask, “How about somebody else?” or “Would someone who hasn’t shared like to add anything?” Be sensitive to new people or reluctant members who aren’t ready to say, pray or do anything. If you give them a safe setting, they will blossom over time.

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Ask the group if anyone would like to read the paragraph or Bible passage. Don’t call on anyone, but ask for a volunteer, and then be patient until someone begins. Be sure to thank the person who reads aloud.

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Break up into smaller groups each week or they won’t stay. If your group has more than seven people, we strongly encourage you to have the group gather sometimes in discussion circles of three or four people during the Hear God’s Story or Change Your Story sections of the study. With a greater opportunity to talk in a small circle, people will connect more with the study, apply more quickly what they’re learning and ultimately get more out of it. A small circle also encourages a quiet person to participate and tends to minimize the effects of a more vocal or dominant member. It can also help people feel more loved in your group. When you gather again at the end of the section, you can have one person summarize the highlights from each circle. Small circles are also helpful during prayer time. People who are unaccustomed to praying aloud will feel more comfortable trying it with just two or three others. Also, prayer requests won’t take as much time, so circles will have more time to actually pray. When you gather back with the whole group, you can have one person from each circle briefly update everyone on the prayer requests. People are more willing to pray in small circles if they know that the whole group will hear all the prayer requests.

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Rotate facilitators weekly. At the end of each meeting, ask the group who should lead the following week. Let the group help select your weekly facilitator. You may be perfectly capable of leading each time, but you will help others grow in their faith and gifts if you give them opportunities to lead. You can use the Small Group Calendar to fill in the names of all meeting leaders at once if you prefer.

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One final challenge (for new or first time leaders): Before your first opportunity to lead, look up each of the five passages listed below. Read each one as a devotional exercise to help yourself develop a shepherd’s heart. Trust us on this one. If you do this, you will be more than ready for your first meeting.

Matthew 9:36 1 Peter 5:2-4 Psalm 23 Ezekiel 34:11-16 1 Thessalonians 2:7-8, 11-12

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Dr. David Clark has served as Lead Pastor at Central Christian Church in Beloit, Wisconsin for over 35 years. He led Central Christian through a relocation process in 1990 and the church completed its third major building project in 2007—a 1400 seat worship facility and contemporary children’s center.

Under his leadership, the church has grown from 200 to 2000 in average weekend attendance, adding a Hispanic congregation, an inner-city African-American congregation, and two satellite campuses. He has served on the NACC Continuation Committee and spoken at the NACC. David and his wife, Deby, have four children, two of whom are adopted from Haiti, and four grandchildren.

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In order to find the life you’re seeking, something has to change on the inside. No change on the outside is going to make a lasting difference. Fortunately, you have someone who cares a great deal about the life you are currently experiencing and wants something better for you. That someone is Jesus. Jesus came so you could have life to the full, an abundant life. His mission was to offer you life that is really lived. Instead of just surviving your days, God wants you to thrive.