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Pathways Faith, Hope, and Love A journey toward intimacy with Christ

BOOK TWO Hope: Deepening Your Life in Christ Together

by Greg Hawkins, Don Wink and Sara VanDeBerg

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Copyright © 2014 by Brett Eastman, Greg Hawkins and Lifetogether Ministries ALL RIGHTS RESERVED Published by Lifetogether Ministries, Rancho Santa Margarita, CA No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in retrieval system, or transmitted in any form or by any means -- electronic, mechanical, photocopy, recording, or otherwise -- except for brief quotations in printed reviews, without the prior written permission of the publisher.

Copyright and use of the curriculum template and content is retained by Brett Eastman. Permission for use in the Year of Transformation series is given to Lutheran Church of the Atonement, Barrington, IL. Unless otherwise noted, all Scripture quotes are taken from the HOLY BIBLE, NEW INTERNATIONAL VERSION®. Copyright 1973, 1978, 1984 and 2011 by Biblica, Inc.® Used by permission. All rights reserved worldwide.

ISBN 978-1-940077-24-6 Printed in the United States of America

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CONTRIBUTORS TEACHERS

DON WINK Don Wink has served as Senior Pastor at Lutheran Church of the Atonement, Barrington, Illinois, since 1999. He and his wife, Joy, have three children, who are nearly past the ages of being embarrassed by him. He is losing the race against time, but is gaining wisdom almost as quickly as he is losing energy.

He enjoys serving the community, coaching soccer, and staying connected to friends. Playing golf helps him dispel the myth of progress, but has not yet robbed him of hope.

SARA VANDEBERG Sara VanDeBerg is a graduate of Illinois Wesleyan University and the Lutheran School of Theology at Chicago. She was ordained in 2002 and has served at Lutheran Church of the Atonement in Barrington, IL since 2007. She and her husband, Paul, have three young children. She loves the challenge of balancing marriage, family, and professional life, and is thankful to know that she has only one true identity: daughter of God. In her free time she seeks out opportunities to exercise her creative gifts. Quilting is a perennial favorite.

GREG L. HAWKINS Greg serves on the senior leadership team at Oak Hills Church in San Antonio, Texas, where he offers leadership in the areas of new ministry innovation, strategy development, and spiritual formation. From 1996-2013, he served as Executive Pastor at Willow Creek Community Church, where he assisted Senior Pastor Bill Hybels in providing strategic leadership to Willow Creek’s six campuses.

He is the co-creator and lead practitioner of the REVEAL research initiative and co-author of four books related to the REVEAL research.

He holds a civil engineering degree from Texas A&M University and an MBA from Stanford University. He and his wife Lynn live in the San Antonio area with their three children.

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HOPE: DEEPENING YOUR LIFE IN CHRIST TOGETHER

CONTENTS

Welcome by Don Wink

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Acknowledgements 8 Introduction by Greg Hawkins

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Using This Workbook (Read This First)

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Outline for Each Session

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OUTLINE FOR EACH SESSION SESSION ONE: STRENGTHENED 14

—THE SUPPORT OF SPIRITUAL FRIENDSHIPS

SESSION TWO: ASSURED 38

—THE AUTHORITY OF THE BIBLE

SESSION THREE: KNOWN 60

—THE INTIMACY OF GOD

SESSION FOUR: INFORMED 84

—THE WISDOM OF THE BIBLE

SESSION FIVE: EXTENDED 104

—THE JOY OF PRAYER FOR OTHERS

SESSION SIX: GIFTED 126

—THE STRENGTH TO SERVE

APPENDICES

Frequently Asked Questions 150 Small Group Agreement 152 Small Group Calendar 154 Spiritual Partners 155 Memory Verse Cards (Clip and Review) 156 Small Group Roster 157 Identifying Your Shape to Serve 158

SMALL GROUP LEADERS

Hosting an Open House 162 Leading for the First Time 164 Leadership Training 166 Prayer and Praise Report 170 Notes 172

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WELCOME Honesty is an essential ingredient to any change effort. Before we can go someplace new, we have to acknowledge where we are. With that in mind, I want to begin with a brief confession.

Up until about eight years ago, on the subject of spiritual growth, here is what I had heard, believed, and even MAY have said about church members: What they want and what they need are far, far apart. They need more of God in their lives, they need to know both the love of God and the possibilities that love opens up to them. But what they want is safety, stuff, accomplishments, stuff, experiences, stuff . . . you get the idea.

I have since learned that what our people want and what they need are much more closely aligned. Not only do we need more of God in our lives, we want more of God in our lives. Not only do we need to know the love of God, we want to know it. And not only do we need to be open to a life grounded in Jesus’ self-giving love, we want that life.

The challenge for all of us, pastors and members alike, is to cut through all of the competing forces and voices, both internal and external, that would try to persuade us otherwise. Sunday worship gives us an hour each week to recalibrate our lives so that what we need, want, and what God wants for us are congruent. Assuming that we sleep an average of eight hours a night (and I know that for many of us, that would be “sleeping in”), that leaves just over 110 waking hours each week for us to get knocked off course. It’s difficult to maintain any kind of spiritual vitality that way, let alone to grow.

A Year of Transformation is Atonement’s most concerted effort to move more of our God-life into the other 110 hours we are awake each week. I believe that this unique mix of the best research on what leads to spiritual growth, the best practices of small group Christian community, and the teaching and personal stories of Atonement’s own people are well worth the effort. I fully expect that we will grow in love for God and for each other individually and collectively, and that after this year, there will be no going back!

Grace and Peace, Don Wink

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ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS “A Year of Transformation” was born in a conversation in spring, 2014, with Greg Hawkins. When I asked him what he was working on, he described a template of spiritual growth resources that he had just completed with Brett Eastman.

Given that our staff and volunteer leaders at Atonement had been wrestling over how to create practical “what’s next” steps for at least three years, I believe my immediate response was, “When can I buy that?” Greg tried to explain that it was not an off-the-shelf resource, but instead involved local church teaching and content.

Both Greg and Brett were in the Chicago area in May, and we arranged to meet for dinner. It was memorable because while we were eating dinner, the LA Kings scored six straight goals to beat the Chicago Blackhawks at home and turn the tide of their playoff series. Brett was happy about that; I forgave him his partisanship. On a happier note, Brett was able to generate much of the vision for what would become A Year of Transformation that evening.

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Between May and October, the team at Lifetogether got us organized. Keri Wyatt Kent and Allen White have brought all of their faithfulness and competence to this project. The production team took a bunch of oncamera novices and worked miracles.

The staff at Atonement discerned that God had been aligning all of the elements for us to make our biggest and most concerted push yet toward the spiritual growth of our members and friends.

They moved really fast (for a church) and put a lot of other things on hold in order to make this happen. Thank you, dear colleagues.

Atonement members have shared their lives through testimonies, their resources to fund this initiative, and their gifts in working behind the scenes on both the print and video production.

You know who you are...and the Year of Transformation is both on your shoulders and in front of you.

A project of this size and complexity exceeds my capacity to even know everyone who helped make it happen, let alone remember and thank them. So, in advance, I apologize for any omissions.

Tami Pringle has served as our local project manager with persistence and grace. Dave Johnson, Ann Pride, and Mary Williams have served with her as the core team, and each have brought their gifts and energy to the work. Sara VanDeBerg wrote and delivered much of the teaching content, and proved that it is possible to be both creative and collaborative.

Finally, Ruth Bruch brought her considerable gifts for strategic leadership to Atonement’s staff and volunteer leaders for several years. In short, she helped us all translate dreams into action plans, and obstacles into solvable problems. While her health did not permit her to record the testimony that she had prepared, in a very real way, this series represents part of her legacy.

In advance, I also acknowledge with gratitude all of the people of Atonement and beyond who will participate in the Year of Transformation. In doing so, you will help shape the world and your lives toward greater love for God and for each other.

Grace and Peace, Don Wink

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INTRODUCTION BY GREG HAWKINS “I’M INTERESTED IN GOD, BUT I REALLY DON’T UNDERSTAND HIM.” “I’M CURIOUS ABOUT FAITH, BUT RELIGION SEEMS TO BE ABOUT GUILT.” “GOD LOVES ME? WHAT DOES THAT MEAN, EXACTLY?” “I’M EXCITED ABOUT MY RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD, BUT I’M WONDERING WHAT TO DO NEXT.” “I BELIEVE IN JESUS AND I GO TO CHURCH, BUT MY FAITH HAS KIND OF STALLED OUT. I’M STUCK.”

If you’ve ever found yourself saying things like that, you are not alone. Since 2003, I’ve been involved in researching more than half a million church attenders. Most of them admit that they are trying to figure out this thing called faith. What is faith? How do you move forward spiritually? Is there a pathway to follow to find peace and joy?

What if you could replace the statements above with radical ideas like these?: “I’m going deeper in my faith, and the relationship I have with God brings me joy.”

“God loves me! I know it. I feel His presence and have peace in my heart.”

“Every day, God is leading me on a great adventure. I never knew life could be this good.”

“I really do believe I can do all things with God’s help.”

“My faith is really important to me; it gives my life meaning.”

Such a life is possible. In our research, we’ve uncovered what helps people move forward along the path toward a life of fulfillment and joy. And the study you hold in your hands is a road map, of sorts, to help you take steps toward that reality. While every person takes their own journey, there is a path that will move you toward living a life of faith, toward having a deep hope in your soul, toward experiencing love in a whole new way.

The journey begins with faith. What does it mean to have faith? How do we do that?

When we embrace faith, we discover that it gives us hope—the belief that things can be better, that we’re on a journey that will take us in the right direction. If we keep moving forward in hope, we’ll come to find the greatest thing of all—love. God, ultimately, invites us to live a life of love. How? That’s what this three-study series will help us to discover.

Living a Christ-centered life, in which everything you do reflects Christ, is not only possible—it is the way you are meant to live. This study can help you find the pathway to that kind of life.

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USING THIS

WORKBOOK The Pathways Year of Transformation series is made up of three six-week studies: Faith, Hope, and Love. While we recommend groups work through the three studies in succession, each also stands alone. Here at Atonement, we’ll be working our way through all three studies as a congregation.

The studies, and the lessons within them, are designed to catalyze movement.

The topics and methods for this series came out of the ongoing REVEAL research of more than 500,000 church attendees and their spiritual lives, including members of Atonement.

This study consists of six sessions that include Scripture, discussion questions, group activities and individual experiences for group members.

You’ll also find helpful resources in the appendices, including a Small Group Leaders section. If you are facilitating/leading or co-leading a small group, that section will give you some hard-learned experiences of others that will encourage you and help you avoid many common obstacles to effective small group leadership.

Consider the questions and information a guide—but let God lead you as you study together. If you think of a better question than the next one in the lesson, ask it. Take to heart the insights included in the Frequently Asked Questions pages and the Small Group Leaders section.

The outline on the next few pages will help you understand what’s included in each lesson. Read through it so you know what to expect in each lesson and how each session will flow.

Most of all, just have fun. Building community in a small group is rewarding, and one of the best parts about the journey of faith.

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OUTLINE

OF EACH SESSION

Life change happens in small groups. In the setting of community, we can obey Jesus’ command to love one another. In this study, you’ll not only read and discuss Biblical texts, you’ll think and talk about how to apply what you’ve learned to your everyday life. The goal is not that you’d accumulate knowledge, but that your life would be transformed, and your character will reflect that of Jesus Christ.

A typical group session for the Pathways: HOPE study will include the following sections: WEEKLY MEMORY VERSES. Each session opens with a Memory Verse that emphasizes an important truth from the session. This is an optional exercise, but memorizing Scripture can be a vital part of filling our minds with God’s will for our lives. We encourage you to give this important habit a try. The verses for our six sessions are also listed in the appendix.

SHARE YOUR STORY. The foundation for spiritual growth is an intimate connection with God and His family. You build that connection by sharing your story with a few people who really know you and who earn your trust. This section includes some simple questions to get the group talking—letting you share as much or as little of your story as you feel comfortable doing. An important part of this section is the opportunity to check in with your spiritual partner.

HEAR GOD’S STORY. In this section, you’ll read the Bible and listen to teaching—in order to hear God’s story and begin to see how His story aligns with yours. When the study directs you to, you’ll pop in the DVD and watch a short teaching segment. You’ll then have an opportunity to read a passage of Scripture, and discuss both the teaching and the text with your group. You won’t focus on accumulating information but on how you should live in light of the Word of God.

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CREATE A NEW STORY. God wants you to be a part of His Kingdom—to see where your story fits into His. That will mean change. It will require you to go His way rather than your own. This won’t happen overnight, but it should happen steadily. Talking with others who can encourage you and pray for you will help you to grow. The Bible reminds us to “be doers of the Word, not just hearers” (James 1:22 ESV). The discussion questions in this section focus on practical application of what you’ve learned in the lesson. This section will also have a question or two that will challenge you to live out your faith by serving others, sharing your faith, and worshiping God. You’ll discuss these during your meeting.

STUDY NOTES. This is a brief section with additional commentary, background or insights on the passage you’ll study in the Hear God’s Story section.

ADDITIONAL STUDY. If you have time and want to dig deeper into more Bible passages about the topic at hand, we’ve provided an additional passage and questions.

Your group may choose to do study homework ahead of each meeting in order to cover more biblical material. If you prefer not to do study homework, this section will provide you with plenty to discuss within the group. These options allow individuals or the whole group to expand their study, while still accommodating those who can’t do homework or are new to your group.

DAILY DEVOTIONS. Each week on the Daily Devotions pages, we provide scriptures to read and reflect on between group meetings. This offers you a chance to slow down, to read just a small portion of Scripture each day, and reflect and pray through it. Each day, you’ll not only read a verse, but you’ll also read a “REFLECT” paragraph written as if it were a personal note to you from Jesus. You’ll then have a chance to journal your response to what you’ve read. Use this section to seek God on your own throughout the week. This time at home should begin and end with prayer. Don’t hurry; take enough time to hear God’s direction.

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SESSION ONE

MEMORY VERSE “So then, just as you received Christ Jesus as Lord, continue to live in the faith as you were taught, and overflowing with thankfulness.”

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STRENGTHENED

THE SUPPORT OF SPIRITUAL FRIENDSHIPS

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The Christian life is, by definition, a life together with others. It is lived in the context of community. We are a part of the body of Christ—interdependent and interconnected, something that is distinctive of the life of faith.

That doesn’t mean we never spend time alone. In fact, we need one-on-one time with Christ. This intimacy with Christ fills us and strengthens us. We receive His love and then are able to share it with others.

In a church or small group, we love and are loved. But as our faith grows, we find ourselves hungry for deeper connection.

We want people of faith in our lives, and we somehow realize we experience more of God by loving others. Part of this makes sense. Part of this is a mystery, frankly. How can it be that we are somehow incomplete without others?

In our journey, we begin to see the value of accountability and encouragement that comes from one-on-one spiritual friendships. Ideally, spiritual friendships form naturally within a small group, as community deepens.

A spiritual friendship is a relationship focused on helping one another seek God and grow in faith. Spiritual friends ask each other the tough questions, encourage one another to stay strong in their faith, and “spur one another on to good deeds” (see Hebrews 10:24).

Spiritual friendship takes community to a deeper level. It requires vulnerability about our own struggles. Conversely, it also requires us to focus on another person and their journey.

That balance and reciprocal nature of this relationship make it both risky and rewarding.

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SHARE YOUR STORY

EACH OF US HAS A STORY. Each of us has a story. The events of our life—good, bad, challenging or wonderful—have shaped who we are. God knows your story, and He intends to redeem it—to use every struggle and every joy to ultimately bring you to Himself.

When we share our stories with others, we give them the opportunity to see God at work.

When we share our stories, we realize we are not alone—that we have common experiences and thoughts, and that others can understand what we are going through. Your story can encourage someone else, and telling it can be a path to freedom for you, and for those with whom you share it.

As you begin this first meeting, take time to pass around a copy of the Small Group Roster on page 157, a sheet of paper, or one of you pass your Study Guide, opened to the Small Group Roster. Have everyone write down their contact information. Ask someone to make copies or type up a list with everyone’s information and email it to the group this week.

Then, begin your time together by using the following questions and activities to get people talking.

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1.

hen you were growing up, who was your best friend? Describe your W relationship with this person.

2.

Which of the following most accurately describes your friendships right now: A) I feel lonely and disconnected.

B) I have a lot of acquaintances but not many real friends.

C) I’m connected with people but don’t always feel I can be myself around them.

D) I’ve got just a couple of really close friends who encourage me and are helping me to grow.

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Where would you place yourself on this spiritual continuum: 1) I’m not sure I believe in God. 2) I believe in God but am not sure about Jesus.

3) I am early in my relationship with Jesus.

4) I know and love Jesus but I find it difficult to be consistent in my spiritual life.

5) I feel very close to Jesus and depend on Him daily for guidance.

6) My relationship with Jesus Christ is the most important relationship in my life.

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If you were a part of the previous study in the Year of Transformation series (Faith), you answered the question above in the first session of that study. Are you in the same place on the continuum that you were when you began the Faith study?

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Through the course of this study, we will be talking about hope. What gives you hope?

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Whether your group is new or ongoing, it’s always important to reflect on and review your values together.

On page 152 is a Small Group Agreement with the values we’ve found most useful in sustaining healthy, balanced groups. We recommend that you choose one or two values—ones you haven’t previously focused on or have room to grow in—to emphasize during this study.

Choose ones that will take your group to the next stage of intimacy and spiritual health.

If your group is new, welcome newcomers. Introduce everyone—you may even want to have nametags for your first meeting.

We recommend that you rotate host homes on a regular basis and let the hosts lead the meeting. We’ve come to realize that healthy groups rotate leadership. This helps to develop every member’s ability to shepherd a few people in a safe environment. Even Jesus gave others the opportunity to serve alongside Him (Mark 6:30– 44). Look at the FAQs in the Appendix for additional information about hosting or leading the group.

The Small Group Calendar on page 154 is a tool for planning who will host and lead each meeting. Take a few minutes to plan hosts and leaders for your remaining meetings. Don’t pass this up! It will revolutionize your group.

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HEAR

GOD’S STORY

God uses stories to guide us. When we read the true stories of Scripture, we learn what God is like. We see His plan unfolding. And we learn principles for our own lives. How can we become a part of God’s story? By seeing where our stories align with His. By not just understanding what it means to follow Him, but actually doing it—changing our attitudes and actions to live as He would live.

WATCH THE DVD SEGMENT NOW.

What comments, insights or questions do you have after watching this week’s personal testimony? Use the following questions to guide your discussion after watching the teaching provided on the video and reading the Bible passage that follows.

Use the Notes section on pages 27 or 172 to record any key thoughts, questions and things you want to remember or follow up on.

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READ COLOSSIANS 3:15-17 “Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, since as members of one body you were called to peace. And be thankful. 16 Let the message of Christ dwell among you richly as you teach and admonish one another with all wisdom through psalms, hymns, and songs from the Spirit, singing to God with gratitude in your hearts. 17 And whatever you do, whether in word or deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through Him.” 15

Consider reading these verses from other Bible translations as well for a fuller understanding.

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What actions and attitudes would you expect to find in a person who has the “peace of Christ” ruling in his or her heart? How would that impact community?

2.

What does it mean that we are members of one body? Why do you think the Bible uses this metaphor to describe Christian community? (See Daily Devotions section for more on this idea.)

3.

We tend to see the word “you” in the Bible and assume it is singular, that these are individual instructions. But read carefully—the “you” in this passage is plural. How does that impact the meaning of this passage?

4.

Verse 16 tells us to admonish one another. What does that mean? What does it have to do with singing? How does admonishing one another strengthen the bonds of spiritual friendship?

5.

Pastor Don said, “Spiritual friendships are relationships in and through which we communicate and discern God’s presence and activity in our lives. In a way, spiritual friendships are an incarnation of the Holy Spirit.” Tell about a friendship, past or present that had this sort of “incarnational” feel.

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How would a decision to do all things in the name of Jesus impact your experience of community and spiritual friendship?

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STUDY

NOTES

Do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus. What does it mean to do something in Jesus’ name? It does not mean slapping a “Jesus loves you” bumper sticker onto questionable activities. To do something in the name of another person means to act as they would if they were in your place. To do things in Jesus’ name means to do them in His style, so to speak. To ask, “What would Jesus do?” in each situation, and then to act as He would. That’s easier said than done, of course. We must begin by imitating Christ in small ways, through simple habits: prayer, study, service. We must train ourselves for Godliness in simple, daily, quiet ways, if we hope eventually to do “everything” in Jesus’ name.

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Use this space to record your thoughts, questions and ponderings as you watch the video and discuss the Bible passage.

NOTES

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CREATE A NEW STORY

God wants you to be a part of His Kingdom—and He is inviting you to see where your story fits into His. That will mean change—to go His way rather than your own. This is a process, and won’t happen overnight—but it should happen steadily. By starting with small, simple choices, we begin to change our direction.

We move forward on our journey. The Holy Spirit helps us along the way: giving us gifts to serve the body, offering us insights into Scripture, challenging us to love not only those around us but those far from God. One of the clear catalysts that our research shows causes movement is to be a part of a community. We grow in faith when we’re loved by others, and have an opportunity to love them, as well.

In this section, talk about how you will apply what you’ve learned so far. Then think about practical steps you can take in the coming week to live out what you’ve learned.

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Who is your closest friend? Do you talk about spiritual matters with this friend? Explain.

2.

In the video, Pastor Don asked which of your current friendships already include spiritual elements and which of them might be candidates to become spiritual friendships. Who comes to mind when you hear those questions?

3.

Consider taking this action step: Between now and the next gathering, have a conversation with the person you identified in the question above, asking them if they’d be interested in getting together regularly to encourage one another spiritually.

4.

The passage we read earlier has the words “thankful” and “gratitude” in it. Go back and circle those words in your study guide, and look at the context. What are you grateful for? How does gratitude impact your relationships? How does it strengthen your ability to have hope?

5.

This week, how will you nurture your connection with God? Can you commit to spending time in daily prayer or reflecting on God’s word? (Use the Daily Devotions section to guide you.) Tell the group how you plan to follow Jesus this week, and then, at your next meeting, talk about your progress and challenges.

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TO CLOSE YOUR TIME TOGETHER, SPEND SOME TIME WORSHIPING GOD TOGETHER— PRAYING, SINGING, READING SCRIPTURE (AS THE VERSES WE READ FROM COLOSSIANS ENCOURAGE US TO DO).

Have someone use their musical gifts to lead the group in a worship song.

Try singing a cappella, use a worship CD, or have someone accompany your singing with a musical instrument.

Read a passage of Scripture together—make it a time of praise and worship as the words remind you of all God has done for you. Choose a psalm or other favorite verse.

Ask everyone to share: “How can we pray for you this week?” Be sure to write prayer requests on your Prayer and Praise Report on page 170.

Close your meeting with prayer.

If you find it helpful, have someone read the following prayer aloud: Dear God, we are so thankful that we don’t have to live alone. Thank you for the gift of friendship and community. Thanks for making us people who need one another and are built for connection. Help us to love each other well, to encourage one another as we seek you together. Amen

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ADDITIONAL STUDY If you feel God nudging you to go deeper, take some time between now and our next meeting to dig into His Word. Explore the Bible passages related to this session’s theme on your own, jotting your reflections in a journal or in this study guide. A great way to gain insight on a passage is to read it in several different translations. You may want to use a Bible app or website to compare translations.

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READ ECCLESIASTES 4:9-12 “Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: 10 If either of them falls down, one can help the other up.

But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up.

11 Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm.

But how can one keep warm alone?

12 Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves.

A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.”

What practical benefits of having a companion does this passage describe?

Have you ever “fallen down” spiritually and had a friend help you back up?

What happened? How did your friend help you?

What do you think verse 12 is referring to when it mentions “a cord of three strands”? In a spiritual friendship, who or what is that third strand?

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DAILY DEVOTIONALS

During the week between meetings, keep walking on your journey of faith by reading and reflecting on God’s Word.

Each day, read the verse given. Take your time. Imagine that Jesus is sitting with you. Then, imagine Him saying the words in the “Reflect” section to you personally—reassuring you with His presence and loving you with His words of comfort and strength. After reflecting on Jesus’ words to you, take some time to journal your response back to Him. You can write whatever is on your heart.

Answer the “Respond” question only if it’s helpful. You may want to go another direction, and feel free to do so. On the first day, you may want to read over all the verses for the week to get the “big picture” of the passage. But then walk slowly verse by verse, listening to Jesus and responding to Him as you meditate on the truths of Scripture and experience His presence.

As you experience these devotionals and think about community, think about how Jesus lived His life on earth and use it as a model for your own. Jesus surrounded Himself with people, not just because He wanted to teach them, heal them, etc., but also because He desired to share community with them. This is a beautiful and mysterious thing, but one that should bring us great joy.

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DAY 1: READ 1 CORINTHIANS 12:12 “Just as a body, though one, has many parts, but all its many parts form one body, so it is with Christ.”

REFLECT You, my child, are a part of a community that is my very body. Just as you use your body to walk, talk, and work—my body is the means by which I get things done in the world. When you figure out what part you play, you’ll see where you fit in the puzzle.

RESPOND What characteristics of a body make it an apt metaphor for the church or Christian community?

DAY 2: READ 1 CORINTHIANS 12:13 “For we were all baptized by one Spirit so as to form one body—whether Jews or Gentiles, slave or free—and we were all given the one Spirit to drink.”

REFLECT You are unique—different from anyone else. And yet, you have more in common than you realize. My followers, though they come from many backgrounds and circumstances, were all given the same Spirit. That Spirit creates a unity unlike any other. You, in your uniqueness, contribute to that oneness. When you embrace that mystery, you’ll experience my love in a profound way.

RESPOND The word “one” is repeated three times in this verse. What is the writer trying to emphasize with this repetition?

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DAY 3: READ 1 CORINTHIANS 12:14-15 “Even so the body is not made up of one part but of many. Now if the foot should say, “Because I am not a hand, I do not belong to the body,” it would not for that reason stop being part of the body.”

REFLECT My child, when you began a relationship with me, you became a part of my body—so you’re now in relationship with others. Each of you belongs, each has a role to play. Celebrate the contributions and gifts of others, and engage the gifts I’ve given you. You’ll find you experience a deeper connection and friendships. Let go of jealousy and comparison, and you’ll find you’re much less lonely.

RESPOND What unique contributions do you bring to the “body” of your small group?

DAY 4: READ 1 CORINTHIANS 12:18 “But in fact God has placed the parts in the body, every one of them, just as he wanted them to be.”

REFLECT Every person you lock eyes with—including the one you see in the mirror—matters to me, and I’ve got a plan for their life. I’ve put you exactly where I want you, and put others around you to encourage and strengthen you. And I’ve placed you in the body so that you can also strengthen those around you.

RESPOND Who needs you to strengthen them today? Whose life has God placed in front of you, perhaps for a purpose?

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DAY 5: READ 1 CORINTHIANS 12:19-20 “If they were all one part, where would the body be? As it is, there are many parts, but one body.”

REFLECT Friendships within my body are not always easy, but they are always beneficial, my child. You may think you’d be better off alone, but that’s not true. Keep working to be honest and loving, keep building community one friendship at a time, and you’ll come to know just how wonderful it is to be a part of one body, connected by one Spirit.

RESPOND Where have you experienced oneness within your community and friendships lately?

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MEMORY VERSE “What you say goes, God, and stays, as permanent as the heavens.

Your truth never goes out of fashion; it’s as up-to-date as the earth when the sun comes up.” [ PSALM 119:89-90,THE MESSAGE ]

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SESSION TWO

ASSURED THE AUTHORITY OF THE BIBLE

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When someone knows what they’re talking about on a specific subject, we sometimes refer to them as “a trusted authority.”

Dr. Oz might be considered a “trusted authority” on nutrition and exercise. Stephen Hawking would be a “trusted authority” on quantum physics.

Warren Buffet is a “trusted authority” on investing.

When someone consistently gives us guidance that works, we trust her or him. We allow that person to have authority—not because they demand it, but because we know it’s wise to follow what they say. A trusted authority is not going to steer us in the wrong direction.

So trust and authority go together. The more you trust people, the more authority you are willing to give them. That is, you believe they are telling the truth and you follow their advice. If you say that you trust someone (or some resource), but you don’t do what they suggest is best, you don’t really trust them at all.

On our journey of faith, we must eventually decide whether we believe the Bible is a “trusted authority” on how to love God and others, We must then decide whether we want to build a relationship with God. Do we trust that God, through the Bible, is giving us sound guidance? Are we willing to choose to follow its advice, even when it tells us something that might be different from our own gut instincts or desires? In other words, are we willing to see the Bible as the authoritative word on life?

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SHARE YOUR STORY

As we said last week, when we tell our stories, sharing them with others, we give others the opportunity to see God at work. Your story is being shaped, even in this moment, by being a part of this group. In fact, few things can shape us more than community.

When we share our stories, we can encourage others while also learning from those stories. We can experience the presence of God as we become brave enough to reveal our thoughts and feelings.

Open your group with prayer. This should be a brief, simple prayer, in which you invite God to guide you as you meet. You can pray for specific requests at the end of the meeting, or stop momentarily to pray if a particular situation comes up during your discussion.

Then, begin your time together by using the following questions and activities to get people talking.

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How did you live out what was discussed last week?

2.

When you need advice, to whom do you turn, other than your own gut instincts?

3.

In your profession, who is someone who is a trusted authority—someone whose advice and guidance you would not only believe but act upon? Who are the experts in your particular field—whether it is business, law, medicine, parenting, or something else?

4.

Pair up with someone in your group. (We suggest that men partner with men and women with women.) This person will be your spiritual partner for the rest of this study. He or she doesn’t have to be your best friend, but will simply encourage you to complete the goals you set for yourself during this study.

Following through on a resolution is tough when you’re on your own; it makes all the difference to have a partner cheering you on. Answer the following question: What made you decide to do this study?

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HEAR

GOD’S STORY

How can we become a part of God’s story? The truth is, we are already part of God’s story. The goal here is that our eyes will be opened, that we will begin to see where our stories align with The Story and to understand what it means to follow Jesus.

Some of us read or believe the Bible with a sort of blind faith. But what happens when we open our eyes? Does it make sense to believe it? Is it true?

Evidence in other writings of the time, archeological discoveries, and eyewitness accounts substantiate that events recorded in the Bible really did happen. The Bible records many prophecies about Jesus that were, indeed, fulfilled. There is, then, an intellectual and historical basis for believing the Bible is true.

For many of us, though, the bigger question is, ‘So what?’ The question we grapple with is not whether the Bible is true, but whether it is relevant. Can it still speak to us today? Does it offer timely and trustworthy wisdom?

WATCH THE DVD SEGMENT NOW.

What comments, insights or questions do you have after watching this week’s personal testimony? Use the following questions to guide your discussion after watching the teaching provided on the video and reading the Bible passage that follows. Use the Notes section on pages 49 or 172 to record any key thoughts, questions and things you want to remember or follow up on.

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READ 2 PETER 1:16-21 16 “For we did not follow cleverly devised stories when we told you about the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ in power, but we were eyewitnesses of his majesty. 17 He received honor and glory from God the Father when the voice came to him from the Majestic Glory, saying, “This is my Son, whom I love; with him I am well pleased.” 18 We ourselves heard this voice that came from heaven when we were with him on the sacred mountain.

19 We also have the prophetic message as something completely reliable, and you will do well to pay attention to it, as to a light shining in a dark place, until the day dawns and the morning star rises in your hearts. 20 Above all, you must understand that no prophecy of Scripture came about by the prophet’s own interpretation of things. 21 For prophecy never had its origin in the human will, but prophets, though human, spoke from God as they were carried along by the Holy Spirit.”

Consider reading these verses from other Bible translations as well for a fuller understanding.

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Peter, one of Jesus’ disciples, wrote this passage not long after Jesus died. Peter spent three years with Jesus and saw Him after the resurrection. What claim does Peter make about himself in verse 16? What does this tell you about the reliability of what he is writing?

2.

In Verses 17 and 18, Peter tells in his own words what happened when he and James and John accompanied Jesus to a mountaintop and saw Him transfigured. (See also Matthew 17, Mark 9 and Luke 9.) If four witnesses all give the same testimony in court, what do we typically conclude about the reliability of their story? If someone is an eyewitness to an event, what do we conclude? Therefore, what can we conclude about Peter’s testimony?

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What does verse 19 tell us about the Bible?

4.

According to verse 20, would you say that the prophets (Old Testament writers) were writing their own ideas about God, or were given words and ideas from God to write down?

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If the Bible is accurate about other things, can you trust it to be accurate in its advice about how to live your life today?

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STUDY

NOTES

The Bible was not written all at once but assembled by a wide variety of authors over a period of 1,400 years or more. It is not a novel or a history book but rather a collection of writings about God—and yet, it tells a cohesive story.

The standards for inclusion in what is called the “canon” of Scripture were strict.

Here’s a great group activity for the coming week: have anyone who’d like to, do some research to share with the group. Wikipedia is a good start, though not infallible. For more information on how the Bible came into being, we recommend The Case for Christ, by Lee Strobel.

“ . . . carried along by the Holy Spirit . . . ” This phrase is a word picture of what we mean when we say the Scriptures were inspired by God. Human authors wrote human words, in a variety of styles and languages, but they were carried along by the Spirit, like wind in the sails of a boat. The wind carries different styles of boats, but the same wind gets them to their destination. The result is that we have Scriptures that are cohesive: inspired by the same Spirit, but delivered via different channels.

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Use this space to record your thoughts, questions and ponderings as you watch the video and discuss the Bible passage.

NOTES

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CREATE A NEW STORY

In this section, talk about how you will apply the wisdom you’ve learned from the teaching and Bible study. Then think about practical steps you can take in the coming week to live out what you’ve learned.

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In the video, Pastor Sara said, “When our awareness changes, our perception does, too.” Tell about a time when your perception about God or the Bible changed.

2.

If the Bible contains eyewitness accounts, and its testimony is verified by other writers of the time, what does that tell you about its historical accuracy?

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Does the historical accuracy of the Bible have implications for us today?

4.

How would considering the Bible to be a “trusted authority” in your life impact your relationship with God?

5.

In order to live by the Bible’s wisdom, what essential step do you need to take?

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In the video, Pastor Sara reminded us that we read the Bible in order to be transformed. She challenged us to think about this: “Through us, someone else may get a glimpse of God.” When have you “glimpsed God” through another person? When those who share your life see you, are they getting a glimpse of God?

Take a look at the Circles of Life diagram below and write the names of two or three people you would describe as spiritually curious, or spiritual explorers. Commit to praying for God’s guidance and an opportunity to have a conversation with them. Share your lists with the group so that you can all be praying for the people you’ve identified.

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FAMILY (immediate or extended)

FRIENDS

FAMILIAR (neighbors, kids’ sports teams, school, and etc...)

FUN

FIRM

(gym, hobbies, hangouts)

(work)

A life of faith includes serving others, not to win Brownie points but because it helps us to grow. The first step toward serving others is, paradoxically, spending time alone with God: in prayer, in studying and reflecting on God’s Word. Here are some simple ways to connect with God. Tell the group which one you plan to try this week, and then, at your next meeting, talk about your progress and challenges.

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• Prayer. Commit to personal prayer and daily connection with God. You may find it helpful to write your prayers in a journal.

• Memorizing. Taking one Bible verse from this lesson and committing it to memory can be an exciting spiritual step. You’ll be surprised when the verse comes to mind at just the right time. You’ll find that you can use it to guide you when you pray or even just think. Try it, and share what happens with the group at your next meeting.

• Daily Devotions. The Daily Devotions provided in each session offer an opportunity for reading a short Bible passage five days a week during the course of this study. In our hurry-up world, we often move too quickly through everything—even reading God’s word! Slow down. Don’t just skim, but take time to read carefully and reflect on God’s word. Write down your insights on what you read each day.

Copy a portion of Scripture on a sticky note and put it somewhere you’ll see it, such as your car’s dashboard or the kitchen table. Or text it to yourself! Think about it when you sit at red lights, or while you’re eating a meal. Reflect on what God is saying to you through these words.

To close your time together, spend some time worshiping God together— praying, singing, reading Scripture.

• Have someone use their musical gifts to lead the group in a worship song. Try singing a cappella, using a worship CD, or have someone accompany your singing with a musical instrument.

• Read a passage of Scripture together, making it a time of praise and worship as the words remind you of all God has done for you. Choose a psalm or other favorite verse or perhaps this week’s Memory Verse.

• Ask everyone to share: “How can we pray for you this week?” Be sure to write prayer requests on your Prayer and Praise Report on page 170.

• Close your meeting with prayer.

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ADDITIONAL STUDY If you feel God nudging you to go deeper, take some time between now and our next meeting to dig into His Word. Explore the Bible passages related to this session’s theme on your own, jotting your reflections in a journal or in this study guide. Want to go deeper? Select a few verses and try paraphrasing them: rewrite them in your own words. If you like, share them with the group the next time you meet.

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READ PROVERBS 3:5-6 (THE MESSAGE) “Trust God from the bottom of your heart; don’t try to figure out everything on your own.

Listen for God’s voice in everything you do, everywhere you go; he’s the one who will keep you on track.

Don’t assume that you know it all.”

What do you think it means to trust God? How do you trust Him with “everything”—including the things that matter to you: your family, your career, your health, and so on?

How do you “listen for God’s voice”? How does reading the Bible help you to “hear” from God?

How does it help other people around you see God through you?

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DAILY DEVOTIONALS

Continue on your journey toward understanding and experiencing a life of faith. Each day, read the verse given. Take your time. Imagine that Jesus is sitting with you. Then, imagine Him saying the words in the “Reflect” section to you— reassuring you with His presence and loving you with His words of comfort and strength. After reflecting on Jesus’ words to you, take some time to journal your response back to Him. You can write whatever’s on your heart. Answer the “Respond” question only if it’s helpful. You may want to go another direction, and you’re free to do so.

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DAY 1: READ PSALM 25:1-2 (NEW LIVING TRANSLATION) “O Lord, I give my life to you.

I trust in you, my God! Do not let me be disgraced, or let my enemies rejoice in my defeat.”

REFLECT Do not be afraid. You can trust me to protect you, to keep you strong and free from disgrace. I’m here to hold you up.

Trusting me means trusting my word—reading and hearing Truth, and living it out. The way to avoid disgrace is to let my word guide you.

RESPOND Use the words of this Psalm as a prayer. Are you willing to trust God? What barriers get in the way of trusting Him?

DAY 2: READ PSALM 25:3 (NEW LIVING TRANSLATION) “No one who trusts in you will ever be disgraced, but disgrace comes to those who try to deceive others.”

REFLECT Trusting me is the path to life. And you can’t trust what I say unless you know what I say—and it’s all there, written for you in my Word.

Don’t try to deceive others, and don’t deceive yourself! Truth will set you free, my child. Seek truth, truth you can really trust, and you’ll find me.

RESPOND How are trusting God and trusting the Bible connected?

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DAY 3: READ PSALM 25:4 (NEW LIVING TRANSLATION) “Show me the right path, O Lord; point out the road for me to follow.”

REFLECT Are you at a crossroads, wondering which way to go? Do you need direction for your life? I’m happy to be your guide and point you in the right direction.

Bring your questions and your struggles to me. I’ll show you the path, and better yet, I’ll walk it with you. Look to my Word for guidance in how to live, how to walk with me.

RESPOND Are you currently facing a big life decision? Use this verse as a prayer, and ask God to show you the path. Then, spend some time just being quiet; listen for any thoughts or impressions that come. Write them in your journal, then test them against what the Bible says. God won’t contradict himself.

DAY 4: READ PSALM 25:5 (NEW LIVING TRANSLATION) “Lead me by your truth and teach me, for you are the God who saves me.

All day long I put my hope in you.”

REFLECT People choose to put their hope in all kinds of different things: their career, or success, or even being in the right social crowd, dating the right person. Some even put their hope in winning the lottery or succeeding in some other scam.

Don’t be fooled, my friend. Put your hope in me, and you won’t be disappointed. Let me lead you, teach you, and save you from a life of meaninglessness. What an adventure we’ll have, if you follow me.

RESPOND What do you think it means, practically speaking, to put your hope in God? What’s one thing you can do to actually that this week?

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DAY 5: READ PSALM 25:6 (NEW LIVING TRANSLATION) “Remember, O Lord, your compassion and unfailing love, which you have shown from long ages past.”

REFLECT When I look at you, my child, I overflow with love and compassion for you. I know life is hard, but if you’ll walk with me and trust me, you’ll discover strength for the journey.

My compassion for you has always been, and always will be. Open yourself to it, look for my love, share your burdens with me. You’ll find that I am and always have been trustworthy.

RESPOND How does reflecting on the history of God’s compassion give you hope for the present and the future?

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SESSION THREE

MEMORY VERSE “See what great love the Father has lavished on us, that we

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KNOWN THE INTIMACY OF GOD

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There’s something both wonderful and slightly disconcerting about having a friend who has known you a long time. They know your story—all the good and bad of it. It’s impossible to “spin” your story or maintain an image with a longtime friend—they’ll see right through it.

But close friends, because they know who you were when you were younger and more foolish, can also celebrate with you as you take steps to grow up, to become a better person, to move forward in your career or even in your faith. They can celebrate your journey because they’ve seen so much of it. You can relax with them because you feel secure in their love for you.

God has known you since before you were born. There’s nothing He doesn’t know about you. In fact, because He created you, He knows you better than you know yourself. And, perhaps astonishingly, He loves you anyway.

Not just in an obligatory way—He’s in love with you. He earnestly desires deeper connection and relationship with you. His love is not limited or rationed. It’s abundant. It is “lavished” upon us without limit. And all we need to do is open our hearts to receive it.

What on earth would that look like? The good news is, we don’t have to figure it all out. We can just let God love us, and open our hearts to responding to that love, one day at a time. We can spend time in prayer, just reflecting on the amazing truth of His love for us. Just as intimacy with a friend or a spouse is built over time, through conversations and shared experiences, so our connection with God will grow if we simply spend time with Him. We can begin to truly experience God as a deeply personal, intimate friend.

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SHARE YOUR STORY

OPEN YOUR GROUP WITH PRAYER. Open your group with prayer. This should be a brief, simple prayer, in which you take a few moments to focus your attention on God and your group—perhaps asking Him to help you be kind and respectful of one another, and to help you grow in wisdom as you learn together. You can pray for specific requests at the end of the meeting, or stop momentarily to pray if a particular situation comes up during your discussion.

Telling our personal stories builds deeper connections among group members.

Begin your time together by using the following questions and activities to get people talking.

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How did you live out what was discussed last week?

2.

When you were a kid, where did you imagine God “lived”? Was He at church, up in heaven, in your heart, right beside you? How has God “moved” as you’ve learned more about Him?

3.

Sit with your spiritual partner. If your partner is absent or if you are new to the group, join with another pair or someone who doesn’t yet have a partner.

If you haven’t established your spiritual partnership yet, do it now. (See Share Your Story in Session Two.) Answer this question: In your time with God this week (specifically in reading your Bible or praying), how did God surprise you? Did you experience any “ah-ha” moments? Talk about what happened.

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Who is someone who knows you well? How did they get to know you? (In other words, what specific activities or conversations help people know each other?)

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HEAR

GOD’S STORY

WATCH THE DVD SEGMENT NOW.

What comments, insights or questions do you have after watching this week’s personal testimony? Use the following questions to guide your discussion after watching the teaching provided on the video and reading the Bible passage that follows.

Use the Notes section on pages 71 or 172 to record any key thoughts, questions and things you want to remember or follow up on.

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READ JOHN 15:11-15 (THE MESSAGE) “I’ve told you these things for a purpose: that my joy might be your joy, and your joy wholly mature. This is my command: Love one another the way I loved you. This is the very best way to love. Put your life on the line for your friends. You are my friends when you do the things I command you. I’m no longer calling you servants because servants don’t understand what their master is thinking and planning. No, I’ve named you friends because I’ve let you in on everything I’ve heard from the Father.”

Consider reading these verses from other Bible translations as well for a fuller understanding.

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In this passage, Jesus says that what He wants for us is joy. When one person wants joy for another, what does that tell you about the relationship?

2.

Loving others is not an easy thing to do. Why do you think Jesus said we should do that?

3.

Do you see Jesus as a personal friend? If so, describe that friendship. If not, what gets in the way of that for you?

4.

How does knowing God loves you motivate you to love other people?

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What appeals to you about having Jesus as a friend? What scares you or makes you hesitate as you think about the idea of friendship with Him? What expectations do friends have of one another?

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In the video, Pastor Don said that sometimes we “resist being known.� What makes us do this, in your opinion?

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NOTES Love. Jesus calls us to a challenging assignment: To love others as He loved us.

Our culture misunderstands love as friendship, or romance. Both are reciprocal.

We love those who love us back. If someone doesn’t love us back, we typically withdraw. The love Jesus gives—and asks us to give others—is far deeper. It is what the Greeks called agape, a completely selfless love. Agape love does not depend on others returning our love. Jesus’ love was given to us before we even knew anything about Him. In the same way, He asks us to love unconditionally and sacrificially.

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Use this space to record your thoughts, questions and ponderings as you watch the video and discuss the Bible passage.

NOTES

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CREATE A NEW STORY

God wants you to be a part of His Kingdom—to see where your story is woven into His. That will mean change—to go His way rather than your own. This won’t happen overnight, but it should happen steadily. By making small, simple choices, we begin to change our direction. The Holy Spirit helps us along the way—giving us gifts to serve the body, offering us insights into Scripture, challenging us to love not only those around us but those far from God.

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In this section, talk about how you will apply the wisdom you’ve learned in this session.

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Which of the following best describes your current thoughts and feelings about God: A) I believe in God and want to get to know Him better.

B) I’m interested in a relationship with Jesus, but I don’t feel ready to make it my main focus in life.

C) I believe in Jesus and I’m working on what it means to get to know Him. D) I feel close to Jesus, we are indeed friends, and I depend on Him for daily guidance.

E) My relationship with Jesus is the most important relationship in my life; everything centers around it.

2.

Friendships are strengthened by time spent together. How do you spend time with God? What does that look like in your life right now? If someone else observed how you spent your time with God over the last week, would a casual observer say it’s a high, medium, or low priority for you?

3.

In the passage we read, Jesus says that believers should love other people the way He loves us. How, specifically, has Jesus loved you? How have you experienced His love?

4.

Jesus challenges His followers to “Put your life on the line for your friends.” In what ways has Jesus done this for you? If you are building a friendship with God, what would this mean in your friendship with Jesus?

5.

What gets in the way of you believing fully that God is crazy about you?

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What one thing do you want to do in the coming week to let God into your heart a bit more fully, to open yourself to a deeper personal relationship with him? Share it with the group.

7.

Tell about a time that you realized God didn’t just love the world, but loved you personally--intimately. How did that shift your relationship with Him?

8.

Pastor Don asked, “What would it take for us to lean in toward God rather than cover our faces or our bodies or our lives and try to disappear?” How would you answer his question?

9.

Groups that connect outside of the regular meeting time build stronger bonds and feel a greater sense of purpose. Why not plan a social outing with group members? As a group, brainstorm about ways that you could do something fun together—enjoy a meal or a night out together.

10. How will you spend time alone with God in the coming week? In prayer, in studying and reflecting on God’s Word, perhaps in engaging in an opportunity to serve at your church or in your community? Share with the group one or two specific steps will you take this week. If you’ve focused on prayer in past weeks, maybe you’ll want to direct your attention to Scripture this week. If you’ve been reading God’s Word consistently, perhaps you’ll want to take it deeper and try memorizing a verse. Tell the group which one you plan to try this week, and then, at your next meeting, talk about your progress and challenges.

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In the last session, we asked you to write some names in the Circles of Life diagram. Who did you identify as the people in your life who are interested in what it means to believe in Jesus? Go back to the Circles of Life diagram on page 52 to help you think of the various people you come in contact with on a regular basis who need to know Jesus more deeply. Consider the following ideas for action and make a plan to follow through on one of them this week.

• This is a wonderful time to welcome a few friends into your group. Which of the people you listed could you invite? It’s possible that you may need to help your friend overcome obstacles to coming to a place where he or she can encounter Jesus. Does your friend need a ride to the group? Help with childcare?

• Consider inviting a friend to attend a Sunday morning service with you and possibly plan to enjoy a meal together afterward. This can be a great opportunity to talk with someone about your faith in Jesus.

• Is there someone whom you might not have invited to your group but who still needs a connection? Would you be willing to have lunch or coffee with that person, catch up on life, and share something you’ve learned from this study?

Jesus doesn’t call all of us to lead small groups, but He does call every disciple to spiritually multiply his or her life over time.

TO CLOSE YOUR TIME TOGETHER, SPEND SOME TIME WORSHIPING GOD TOGETHER—PRAYING, SINGING, READING SCRIPTURE.

• Have someone use their musical gifts to lead the group in a worship song. Try singing a cappella or using a worship CD, or have someone accompany your singing with a musical instrument.

• Read just the Scripture verses from this lesson’s Daily Devotions in Jeremiah 31 out loud to the group. As you listen, think of them as a personal love letter from God to you. Then, spend some time individually writing a letter back to God. In it, respond to His declarations of love for you and tell Him how you feel. If you feel comfortable doing so, have a couple of people read their letters out loud to the group.

• Ask everyone to share: “How can we pray for you this week?” Be sure to write prayer requests on your Prayer and Praise Report on page 170.

• Close your meeting with prayer.

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ADDITIONAL STUDY Take some time between now and our next meeting to dig into God’s Word. Explore the Bible passages related to this session’s theme on your own, jotting your reflections in a journal or in this study guide. You may even want to use a Bible website or app to look up commentary on this passage, or look for similar passages. If you like, share what you learn with the group the next time you meet.

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READ PSALM 139:1-6 (THE MESSAGE) “God, investigate my life; get all the facts firsthand.

I’m an open book to you; even from a distance, you know what I’m thinking.

You know when I leave and when I get back; I’m never out of your sight.

You know everything I’m going to say before I start the first sentence.

I look behind me and you’re there, then up ahead and you’re there, too— your reassuring presence, coming and going.

This is too much, too wonderful— I can’t take it all in!”

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This Psalm reminds us that God knows us intimately and is aware of not just what we do but what we think as well. How does that make you feel?

Have you ever found yourself hoping you can hide from God? What does this Psalm tell us about that?

Think about a time you felt lonely. How does God respond to your loneliness?

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DAILY DEVOTIONALS

Each day, read the verse given. Really take your time. Imagine that Jesus is sitting with you. Then, imagine Him saying the words in the “Reflect” section to you— reassuring you with His presence and loving you with His words of comfort and strength. After reflecting on Jesus’ words to you, take some time to journal your response back to Him. You can write whatever’s on your heart. Answer the “Respond” question only if it’s helpful. You may want to go another direction and that is fine. On the first day, you may want to read over all the verses for the week to get the “big picture” of the passage. But then walk slowly verse by verse, listening to Jesus and responding to Him as you meditate on the truths of Scripture and experience His presence.

This week’s devotions are taken from the Old Testament book of Jeremiah.

Despite the rebellion of God’s people, His deep desire was to restore their relationship—to love them and be loved in return. As you read and reflect, think of these ancient words as a love letter God wrote centuries ago, knowing you would read them now.

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DAY 1: READ JEREMIAH 31:3 “I have loved you with an everlasting love; I have drawn you with unfailing kindness.”

REFLECT I don’t force myself on you or anyone—but my deep desire is that my love for you, my kindness toward you, would draw you, would pull you closer to me.

My love is not conditional or temporary. It’s always been there, and never failed. Come and live in this love; come and find the joy of experiencing my love for you.

RESPOND Imagine these words as a text or email from God. Write a sentence or two of response back to His declaration of love for you.

DAY 2: READ JEREMIAH 31: 4 “I will build you up again, and you, Virgin Israel, will be rebuilt.

Again you will take up your timbrels and go out to dance with the joyful.”

REFLECT I know you feel worn down, and life has been hard. You feel, at times, crushed. But I want to rebuild your life, strengthen, support, and reinforce your foundations. I can take ruins and make something beautiful.

Just trust me, lean into my love for you. Pretty soon, you’ll be filled with joy. Not because of your circumstances or success in the world, but because you know that you are loved.

RESPOND What specific situation in your life needs God to come in and rebuild what has been broken or neglected? Invite Him into that situation.

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DAY 3: READ JEREMIAH 31:13 “Then young women will dance and be glad, young men and old as well. I will turn their mourning into gladness; I will give them comfort and joy instead of sorrow.”

REFLECT I’m well aware of your sorrows, my child. I know the pain you’ve suffered, the challenges that seem overwhelming. I see them all. I see you, your heart, your discouragement.

Trust me, turn to me. I want to give you a fresh start, take away your sadness and give you great joy. You’ll find it when you simply let me love you.

RESPOND What does it mean to have joy in spite of your circumstances?

DAY 4: READ JEREMIAH 31:33 “This is the covenant I will make with the people of Israel after that time,” declares the Lord. “I will put my law in their minds and write it on their hearts. I will be their God, and they will be my people.”

REFLECT I want nothing more than a relationship with you—one in which you and I are so close, it’s as if my words are written on your heart. You’ll just know in your mind the truth that will give you life—I’ll whisper to your spirit so that your thoughts will echo mine.

I’m not interested in being one of your many gods. I want to have an exclusive relationship with you—where I’m your one and only, and you’re mine.

RESPOND This verse seems to express God’s longing for you. How do you respond to the idea of God longing for you and pursuing a relationship with you?

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DAY 5: READ JEREMIAH 31:34 “No longer will they teach their neighbor, or say to one another, ‘Know the Lord,’ because they will all know me, from the least of them to the greatest, declares the Lord. For I will forgive their wickedness and will remember their sins no more.”

REFLECT This is what I want: intimacy with you. I want you to know me so well that I won’t be a far off mystery but a close companion. So much so that you don’t even have to ask, “What would Jesus do?” because you’d already know my heart.

You know that sometimes your bad choices put distance between us. You turn away from me instead of toward me. It is not me who turns away from you, but you who turns away from me.

But I want to restore our relationship, to forgive and truly forget.

RESPOND Where have you gone your own way, rather than God’s way? Take some time to just confess those mistakes, let go of them, and experience the joy of being loved and forgiven.

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In recent years, countless polls and studies have shown that although Americans say that the Bible is a source of wisdom, and even claim to live their lives according to that wisdom, a disturbing number of those same people don’t have the slightest clue what the Bible says.

So the same person who strongly agrees that they live their life according to The Ten Commandments cannot name more than one or two of those commandments. A frightening percentage of Americans believe that “God helps those who help themselves” (a sentiment popularized by Benjamin Franklin) is found in the pages of Scripture (it’s not), Sodom and Gomorrah were a married couple (wrong again) and that Joan of Arc was Noah’s wife (she wasn’t).

An astonishing number of resources put the truth of God’s Word right at our fingertips. There are hundreds of translations in English alone, and you can access most of them via your smartphone, computer, or any number of printed versions. And yet, this generation probably reads the Bible less than any previous generations—even generations where literacy rates were much lower.

Yes, the Bible has wisdom. But in order for that wisdom to be helpful to us in any way, we have to know what it says. We have to read and absorb it, not just agree in theory that those pages might contain helpful truth.

Studying God’s Word will help us to not just have knowledge, but it will equip us to live a life of faith.

If we want to have hope that is more than wishful thinking, we have to understand what that hope rests upon. Hope rests upon the promises of God. The deeper our understanding of those promises, the stronger our hope becomes.

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SHARE YOUR STORY

OPEN YOUR GROUP WITH PRAYER. This should be a brief, simple prayer, in which you invite God to give you wisdom and insight you as you study and share together. You can pray for specific requests at the end of the meeting, or stop momentarily to pray if a particular situation comes up during your discussion.

Telling our personal stories builds deeper connections among group members.

Begin your time together by using the following questions and activities to get people talking.

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How did you live out what was discussed last week?

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Think back to high school or college. What class did you enjoy the most? What made it interesting? How did you feel about studying for that class?

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What do you think it means to study the Bible, as compared with just reading it? What would be the reason for studying it?

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Sit with your spiritual partner. If your partner is absent or if you are new to the group, join with another pair or someone who doesn’t yet have a partner.

If you haven’t established your spiritual partnership yet, do it now. (See Share Your Story in Session Two.) Answer this question: What do you think is your next step, when it comes to engaging with the Bible? What desire is God stirring in you when it comes to His Word?

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GOD’S STORY

WATCH THE DVD SEGMENT NOW.

What comments, insights or questions do you have after watching this week’s personal testimony? Use the following questions to guide your discussion after watching the teaching provided on the video and reading the Bible passage that follows.

Use the Notes section on pages 93 or 172 to record any key thoughts, questions and things you want to remember or follow up on.

READ DEUTERONOMY 11:18-22 (NEW LIVING TRANSLATION) 18 “So

commit yourselves wholeheartedly to these words of mine. Tie them to your hands and wear them on your forehead as reminders. 19 Teach them to your children. Talk about them when you are at home and when you are on the road, when you are going to bed and when you are getting up. 20 Write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates, 21 so that as long as the sky remains above the earth, you and your children may flourish in the land the Lord swore to give your ancestors.

18 “Be careful to obey all these commands I am giving you. Show love to the Lord your God by walking in his ways and holding tightly to him.”

Consider reading these verses from other Bible translations as well for a fuller understanding.

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What does it mean to commit yourself wholeheartedly to God’s words? What specific actions would result from that kind of commitment?

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What do you think God meant when He told us to tie His words to our hands and foreheads?

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Pastor Sara said, “The best way to understand the wisdom of the Bible is to study it.” What gets in the way of studying the Bible for you?

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How does teaching your children God’s Word help you to understand it better?

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What do you think it means to write God’s words on the doorposts of your house?

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What promise does God make to those who obey His Word?

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NOTES

“Tie them to your hands…” Many Orthodox Jews today continue the ancient practices of wearing small leather boxes that are strapped to both their hand and their forehead. These boxes, called phylacteries, or tefillin, contain small pieces of parchment with Scripture verses written on them. They’re typically worn during prayer services. Having a physical reminder like this on your arm and forehead is a helpful way to stay focused on God’s Word. In some ways, it’s similar to the idea of writing a meaningful verse on an index card or sticky note and keeping it with you to look at during the day.

But it is just as important to live out what you’ve read.

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Use this space to record your thoughts, questions and ponderings as you watch the video and discuss the Bible passage.

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CREATE A NEW STORY

God wants you to be a part of His Kingdom—to see how your story is woven into His. That will mean change—to go His way rather than your own. This won’t happen overnight, but it should happen steadily. By making small, simple choices, we begin to change our direction. The Holy Spirit helps us along the way: giving us gifts to serve the body, offering us insights into Scripture, challenging us to love not only those around us but those far from God.

IN THIS SECTION, TALK ABOUT HOW YOU WILL APPLY THE WISDOM YOU’VE LEARNED IN THIS SESSION.

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What benefits (if any) have you seen in your life as a result of studying God’s Word?

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On a scale of 1 to 10, how would you rate your own knowledge of the Bible? What is one step you want to take (such as taking a class, reading a commentary or other resource) in order to improve your understanding of the Bible?

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Have you ever been a part of a Bible study or a class at your church that focused on studying God’s Word? What did you learn?

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The passage we studied encouraged us to talk about God’s Word as we go through our daily routine. What happens when we talk about God’s Word? In order to talk about God’s Word, what do we have to do first?

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This week, try talking about God’s Word, with your family or friends, a little each day. See what happens.

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By telling the story of Abraham Lincoln and Edwin Stanton, Pastor Sara challenged us to not just know what the Bible says, but, as Lincoln did, live it out. What specific Biblical principles are difficult for you to live out?

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What specific steps will you take this week to strengthen your relationship with God? Can you commit to reading each day, using the Daily Devotions?

Perhaps you’ll want to use online resources to study a passage in depth. Tell the group which one you plan to try this week, and then, at your next meeting, talk about your progress and challenges.

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ADDITIONAL STUDY Take some time between now and our next meeting to dig into God’s Word. Explore the Bible passages related to this session’s theme on your own, jotting your reflections in a journal or in this study guide. You may even want to use a Bible website or app to look up commentary on these passages. If you like, share what you learn with the group the next time you meet.

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READ ACTS 17:10-12 10 “As soon as it was night, the believers sent Paul and Silas away to Berea. On arriving there, they went to the Jewish synagogue.

11 Now the Berean Jews were of more noble character than those in Thessalonica, for they received the message with great eagerness and examined the Scriptures every day to see if what Paul said was true. 12 As a result, many of them believed, as did also a number of prominent Greek women and many Greek men.”

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What attitude did the Jews in Berea have?

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How often did they study the Scriptures?

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What happened as a result?

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What do you think it means to “examine the Scriptures”? How could you do that?

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What changes would you expect to see in your life as a result?

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DAILY DEVOTIONALS

THE BIBLE IS NOT JUST A BOOK. Each day, read the verse given. Take your time. Imagine that Jesus is sitting with you, looking at you with love. He loves you the same whether you ‘get your reading done’ or not. Then, imagine Him saying the words in the “Reflect” section to you—reassuring you with His presence and loving you with His words of comfort and strength. After reflecting on Jesus’ words to you, take some time to journal your response back to Him. You can write whatever’s on your heart.

Answer the “Respond” question only if it’s helpful. You may want to go another direction, and you’re free to do so. On the first day, you may want to read over all the verses for the week to get the “big picture” of the passage. But then walk slowly verse by verse, listening to Jesus and responding to Him as you meditate on the truths of Scripture and experience His presence.

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DAY 1: READ EPHESIANS 6:10-11 (THE MESSAGE) “God is strong, and he wants you strong. So take everything the Master has set out for you, well-made weapons of the best materials. And put them to use so you will be able to stand up to everything the Devil throws your way.”

REFLECT No one can ever take away my love for you, or pull you away from me. But the Devil will try to make you doubt that love. He’ll try to shame you and make you think you’re not good enough.

So resist that voice of shame with truth—the truth you find in my Word. My Word is like a set of weapons and armor that will protect you, if you access it.

RESPOND What shame and lies has the Devil thrown at you lately? How can learning God’s Word help you stand up to that?

DAY 2: READ EPHESIANS 6:13-15 (THE MESSAGE) “Be prepared. You’re up against far more than you can handle on your own. Take all the help you can get, every weapon God has issued, so that when it’s all over but the shouting you’ll still be on your feet.”

REFLECT My child, the journey you’re on is one that will have some tough times. But I’ve given you what you need to endure, to move forward.

You can have hope—not a vague, uncertain hope—but a confident, strong assurance. When you waver, look to my Word for weapons that will fight off discouragement, uncertainty and fear. It’s all there for you.

RESPOND How does knowing God’s truth prepare you for the struggles of life? What habits do you need to cultivate in order to stay on your feet spiritually?

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DAY 3: READ EPHESIANS 6:16-17 (THE MESSAGE) “Truth, righteousness, peace, faith, and salvation are more than words. Learn how to apply them. You’ll need them throughout your life. God’s Word is an indispensable weapon.”

REFLECT Faith in me isn’t about theory and ideas. It’s learning the truth then figuring out how to live out that truth. Live righteously. Live peacefully. These aren’t just ideas or philosophies. They’re an armor of protection that will help you win the battles you face everyday.

RESPOND An essential first step to applying God’s Word to your life is to know what it says. How can you learn more about the Bible and what it says? Write down one step you’ll take to deepen your understanding of God’s Word.

DAY 4: READ EPHESIANS 6:18A (THE MESSAGE) “In the same way, prayer is essential in this ongoing warfare. Pray hard and long. Pray for your brothers and sisters.”

REFLECT My child, I love to hear your voice. I love to listen to you, to converse with you. But prayer is more than just that sweet conversation. If you ask for my help, I’m there to give it.

Pray for yourself, but also pray for others. That not only helps them, it bonds you with them.

Together, you can strengthen one another and be encouraged that you are not in this battle alone. Seeing you connected with others who love me brings me joy.

RESPOND Where are you feeling weak, or feeling attacked? Spend some time praying for God’s help.

Ask Him to strengthen and protect you.

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DAY 5: READ EPHESIANS 6:18B (THE MESSAGE) “Keep your eyes open. Keep each other’s spirits up so that no one falls behind or drops out.”

REFLECT It’s so easy to let your spiritual life slide, to just go through the motions. But stay alert, stay focused. Keep looking to me, keep yourself aware as you go on the journey of faith.

And remember those who walk beside you. Look to them for strength, and then offer them strength and encouragement, as well. Know the truth; tell it to each other, and you’ll prevail.

RESPOND How does encouraging others with the truth of Scripture impact both their faith and yours?

Who needs an encouraging word from you today?

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MEMORY VERSE “And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, may have wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, and to know the measure of all the fullness of God.”

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power, together with all the Lord’s holy people, to grasp how this love that surpasses knowledge—that you may be filled to [ EPHESIANS 3:17-19 ]

EXTENDED THE JOY OF PRAYER FOR OTHERS

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What an amazing privilege we have—to simply be able to talk to God, no matter where we are. We can be confident that He will not only hear us, but also guide us.

As we step into that intimacy, we realize that our prayer life is not meant to be all about us. We can intercede on the behalf of others. We won’t just say, “I’ll pray for you” when a friend shares their struggles with us—we’ll actually follow through and do it as God brings them to mind. And by interceding, we discover a deeper connection with God than we had when our prayers were all about ourselves. We experience what Jesus spoke of when He said to gain your life you must lose it, or at least stop thinking about it for a while. Praying for someone else serves them.

When we pray consistently for others, we also find a subtle but significant shift occurring in our hearts—our ability to love others (especially those we pray for) expands. Through the discipline of prayer for others, we become more loving. By following Jesus’ example of praying for others, our character becomes more like His. And this love is not just that we feel warmly toward them. To pray for someone means we are willing to respond to God’s leadings, to be His hands and feet in caring for those we pray for—meeting their physical and emotional needs, sharing our faith with them. In other words, we tangibly love them, in very practical ways.

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SHARE YOUR STORY

OPEN YOUR GROUP WITH PRAYER. Open your group with prayer. This should be a brief, simple prayer, in which you invite God to be with you as you meet. You can pray for specific requests at the end of the meeting, or stop momentarily to pray if a particular situation comes up during your discussion.

Telling our personal stories builds deeper connections among group members.

Begin your time together by using the following questions and activities to get people talking.

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How did you live out what was discussed last week?

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Have you ever had someone who prayed for you, interceding on your behalf?

How did that impact your relationship with that person?

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Tell about a time you received an answer to a prayer that you prayed for someone else. How did you feel?

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Sit with your spiritual partner. If your partner is absent or if you are new to the group, join with another pair or someone who doesn’t yet have a partner.

If you haven’t established your spiritual partnership yet, do it now. (See Share Your Story in Session Two.) Answer the question: What do you think would be your next step when it comes to prayer?

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GOD’S STORY

WATCH THE DVD SEGMENT NOW.

What comments, insights or questions do you have after watching this week’s personal testimony? Use the following questions to guide your discussion after watching the teaching provided on the video and reading the Bible passage that follows.

Use the Notes section on pages 115 or 172 to record any key thoughts, questions and things you want to remember or follow up on.

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READ EPHESIANS 3:14-21 “14 For this reason I kneel before the Father, 15 from whom every family in heaven and on earth derives its name. 16 I pray that out of his glorious riches he may strengthen you with power through his Spirit in your inner being, 17 so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith. And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, 18 may have power, together with all the Lord’s holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, 19 and to know this love that surpasses knowledge— that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God. 20 Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us, 21 to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, for ever and ever! Amen.”

Consider reading these verses from other Bible translations as well for a fuller understanding.

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In this passage, the author (the Apostle Paul) prays for other believers at Ephesus. What, specifically, does he pray for?

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Based on what he chose to pray for, what struggles do you imagine that the Ephesian believers were going through?

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Who is someone you know that needs you to pray a similar prayer for them?

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Verse 20 talks about how God works within us. Tell about a time you experienced that in your life.

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In the video, Pastor Don noted that our doubts about our own ability to pray reflect an underestimation of God’s listening capacity. Tell about a time you underestimated God’s listening abilities, but He showed you just how much He does listen.

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A glorious inner strength. The Christian life is not one of endless performing, of trying harder. Rather, it is a life yielded to the power of God. His Spirit, through us, can do amazing things. His Spirit even prays on our behalf, when we cannot.

(Romans 8:26) How do we access this power, this inner strength? By trusting, rather than trying.

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Use this space to record your thoughts, questions and ponderings as you watch the video and discuss the Bible passage.

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CREATE A NEW STORY

God wants you to be a part of His Kingdom—to see where your story is woven into His. That will mean change—to go His way rather than your own. This won’t happen overnight, but it should happen steadily. By making small, simple choices, we begin to change our direction. The Holy Spirit helps us along the way—giving us gifts to serve the body, offering us insights into Scripture, challenging us to love not only those around us but those far from God.

IN THIS SECTION, TALK ABOUT HOW YOU WILL APPLY THE WISDOM YOU’VE LEARNED IN THIS SESSION.

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Think about time you spent praying during the past week. Draw a circle to make a “pie graph” and divide your total prayer time into four categories: • Thanking God/Gratitude • Confessing my sins • Praying for guidance or my needs • Praying for others

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About how much time did you devote to each of the categories?

Prayer Time For others For my needs/guidance Confession Gratitude

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As you move to greater intimacy with Christ, how might your pie graph change?

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Look again at the passage we read from Ephesians 3. Who are three people you could pray this passage for? Who is someone you care about who needs someone to pray that God would ‘strengthen them with power through His Spirit’?

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In your experience, how has praying for other people impacted your relationship with God?

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What do you see as your “next step” when it comes to prayer? How will your pie graph shift when you take that step?

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Over the last few weeks, we’ve been talking about who might respond to an invitation to join your group or come to church. Update the group on any conversations or connections you’ve made. Have you also been praying? This week, commit to praying for someone who is far from God. Ask the Holy Spirit to bring to mind people you can pray for.

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In the video, Pastor Don reminded us: “When we pray for another person, we stand in the presence of God and that other person at the same time. It is sacred space.” What is one way you plan to step into that sacred space in the coming week?

Next week is the last session in this study. If you have not already, begin talking about future plans. Do you want to continue to meet after next week? This series has a third book, Love: Living Your Life in Christ Together, which would be a great next step. Who will lead the group? Plan on further discussions at your next meeting.

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To close your time together, spend some time worshiping God together—praying, singing, reading Scripture.

• Have someone use their musical gifts to lead the group in a worship song. Try singing a cappella, using a worship CD, or have someone accompany your singing with a musical instrument.

• Read a passage of Scripture together, making it a time of praise and worship as the words remind you of all God has done for you. Choose a psalm, this week’s memory verse or other favorite verse.

• Ask everyone to share: “How can we pray for you this week?” Be sure to write prayer requests on your Prayer and Praise Report on page 170.

• Close your meeting with prayer.

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ADDITIONAL STUDY Take some time between now and our next meeting to dig into God’s Word. Explore the Bible passages related to this session’s theme on your own, jotting your reflections in a journal or in this study guide. You may even want to use a Bible website or app to look up commentary on these passages. If you like, share what you learn with the group the next time you meet.

READ ROMANS 15:30-32 30 “ I urge you, brothers and sisters, by our Lord Jesus Christ and by the love of the Spirit, to join me in my struggle by praying to God for me. 31 Pray that I may be kept safe from the unbelievers in Judea and that the contribution I take to Jerusalem may be favorably received by the Lord’s people there, 32 so that I may come to you with joy, by God’s will, and in your company be refreshed.”

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READ PHILLIPPIANS 1:9-11 (THE MESSAGE) 9-11” So this is my prayer: that your love will flourish and that you will not only love much but well. Learn to love appropriately. You need to use your head and test your feelings so that your love is sincere and intelligent, not sentimental gush.

Live a lover’s life, circumspect and exemplary, a life Jesus will be proud of: bountiful in fruits from the soul, making Jesus Christ attractive to all, getting everyone involved in the glory and praise of God.”

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How does praying for someone allow you to “join them in their struggle”?

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In the Romans passage above, Paul asks for prayer. In the Philippians passage, he tells the church how he is praying for them. How does this give and take impact our relationships with others? Look at the text of each to see what clues you can find that describe the relationship Paul had with each of these churches.

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DAILY DEVOTIONALS

EACH DAY, READ THE VERSE GIVEN. Each day, read the verse given. Take your time. Imagine that Jesus is sitting with you. Then, imagine Him saying the words in the “Reflect” section to you— reassuring you with His presence and loving you with His words of comfort and strength. After reflecting on Jesus’ words to you, take some time to journal your response back to Him. You can write whatever’s on your heart. Answer the “Respond” question only if it’s helpful. You may want to go another direction, and are free to do so. On the first day, you may want to read over all the verses for the week to get the “big picture” of the passage. But then walk slowly verse by verse, listening to Jesus and responding to Him as you meditate on the truths of Scripture and experience His presence.

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DAY 1: READ EPHESIANS 1:15-16A (NEW LIVING TRANSLATION) 15 “Ever since I first heard of your strong faith in the Lord Jesus and your love for God’s people everywhere, 16 I have not stopped thanking God for you.”

REFLECT When you put your faith in me, and when you let my love flow through you toward others, you bless them. You cause others to praise my Father. When we work together like this—me loving you, you receiving that love, then passing it on—we glorify God. This is the path to joy, my child.

I’m delighted when you decide to follow me and join in. And then, when others come along and put their faith in me as well, you’ll thank God for that. This is how the Kingdom flourishes.

RESPOND Who are you thanking God for these days? Whose faith and love for others has caused you to rejoice?

DAY 2: READ EPHESIANS 1:16B – 17 (NEW LIVING TRANSLATION) “I pray for you constantly, 17 asking God, the glorious Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, to give you spiritual wisdom and insight so that you might grow in your knowledge of God.” REFLECT When you pray on behalf of others, definitely pray for their material needs, but also pray that they would have spiritual wisdom - that they would begin to get a glimpse of insight into spiritual truths, to see who God is and how much He loves them. Rather than praying for someone to change their behavior, pray for them to grow in their faith. As a result, their behavior will likely change, too.

RESPOND Is there anyone you are currently praying for in the way Paul describes in this verse? Who is someone who needs you to pray for them in this way?

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DAY 3: READ EPHESIANS 1:18 (NEW LIVING TRANSLATION) 18 “I pray that your hearts will be flooded with light so that you can understand the confident hope he has given to those he called—his holy people who are his rich and glorious inheritance.”

REFLECT I have called you by name, my child. You are mine. Your assurance is not based on performance, on getting everything right, every time. Your hope is not based on what you’ve done, but on what I’ve done for you. My love gives you hope. My sacrifice on your behalf makes you mine.

Have confidence in that.

RESPOND Think about your relationship with Christ. Now look at the verse again, and underline one or more phrases that describe that relationship. What does it mean to have your hearts flooded with light?

DAY 4: READ EPHESIANS 1:19A (NEW LIVING TRANSLATION) “I also pray that you will understand the incredible greatness of God’s power for us who believe him.”

REFLECT I’m so much more than a companion—although the intimacy we can share is deeper than any human friendship. But when you put your faith in me, you don’t just find a cure for your loneliness. You receive incredible power to do great things with God—by doing great things for others. Whether it’s praying for them, feeding them (physically or spiritually), setting them free—when you believe, you’ll receive power.

RESPOND Where do you need to see the power of God in your life? What situation are you praying about that needs God’s incredible power?

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DAY 5: READ EPHESIANS 1:19B – 21 (NEW LIVING TRANSLATION) “This is the same mighty power that raised Christ from the dead and seated him in the place of honor at God’s right hand in the heavenly realms.”

REFLECT Do you understand the significance of my victory over death? I humbled myself, so that I could draw you, and all people, to myself. Grab hold of me, and let my power and authority change you, and change the people you are praying for. The battle is already won, my child. Trust me and keep praying. Ask that others would understand and connect with the power I want to give them.

RESPOND Do you ever find yourself wondering or doubting whether God has the power to change a situation or a person you are praying for? What promise has God given you?

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MEMORY VERSE “When the time came, he set aside the privileges of deity and took on the status of a slave, became human!” [ PHILIPPIANS 2:7, THE MESSAGE]

GIFTED

THE STRENGTH TO SERVE

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Jesus never asks us to do something He Himself wasn’t willing to do as well. He gave up the throne of heaven to come and live as a human being. He didn’t live as an earthly King—He was born into a poor family of an oppressed people.

He modeled, in every moment, an attitude of humility and service. And He calls us to do the same. The amazing thing is, when we respond to that call, when we get out of the bleachers and onto the field, we find a level of satisfaction and joy in our faith that we simply cannot experience as spectators.

God calls us to serve, but with that calling comes an amazing equipping: He gives us spiritual gifts. He equips every believer with specific abilities, each of which helps others. When we use our gifts, we not only bless others, but also find meaning, purpose and joy.

Loving Jesus means following Him and following His example. Discovering and deploying your spiritual gifts, while staying connected to Him for strength and empowerment, will deepen and strengthen our faith. As we serve, we bring hope to others, and, in so doing, find hope for ourselves.

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SHARE YOUR STORY

BEFORE YOU GET STARTED Open your group with prayer. This should be a brief, simple prayer, in which you invite God to be with you as you meet. You can pray for specific requests at the end of the meeting, or stop momentarily to pray if a particular situation comes up during your discussion.

As we have said in previous lessons, sharing our personal stories builds deeper connections among group members. Your story may be exactly what another person needs to hear to encourage or strengthen them. And your listening to others’ stories is an act of love and kindness to them—and could very well help them to grow spiritually. Begin your time together by using the following questions and activities to get people talking.

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How did you live out what was discussed last week?

2.

Describe a time when you worked on a project—at work, home, or as a volunteer—that you completely enjoyed. One that made you say “Wow, I get to do this! This is great.” What happened?

3.

What is one thing you know you’re good at? When did you discover you had this strength or ability?

4.

Take time in this final session to connect with your spiritual partner. What has God been showing you through these sessions about what it means to stand alongside one another? Check in with each other about the progress you’ve made in your spiritual growth during this study—which lesson or idea was most significant to you? Why? Make plans about whether you will continue in your mentoring relationship outside your Bible study group.

5.

Take some time for each person to share about how they’ve done with inviting the people on the Circles of Life to church or your small group. What specific conversations are you praying about for the weeks to come?

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HEAR

GOD’S STORY

WATCH THE DVD SEGMENT NOW.

What comments, insights or questions do you have after watching this week’s personal testimony? Use the following questions to guide your discussion after watching the teaching provided on the video and reading the Bible passage that follows.

Use the Notes section on pages 137 or 172 to record any key thoughts, questions and things you want to remember or follow up on.

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READ 1 CORINTHIANS 12: 12-14, 27-31 12 “Just as a body, though one, has many parts, but all its many parts form one body, so it is with Christ. 13 For we were all baptized by one Spirit so as to form one body—whether Jews or Gentiles, slave or free—and we were all given the one Spirit to drink. 14 Even so the body is not made up of one part but of many.

27 Now you are the body of Christ, and each one of you is a part of it. 28 And God has placed in the church first of all apostles, second prophets, third teachers, then miracles, then gifts of healing, of helping, of guidance, and of different kinds of tongues. 29 Are all apostles? Are all prophets?

Are all teachers? Do all work miracles? 30 Do all have gifts of healing? Do all speak in tongues? Do all interpret? 31 Now eagerly desire the greater gifts.”

Consider reading these verses from other Bible translations as well for a fuller understanding.

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In this passage, the Apostle Paul uses the metaphor of a body to describe the church. He is describing community and connection, as well as service. What does this metaphor teach us about the nature of service?

2.

Go through the passage and underline the word “one” in your study guide.

How many times does it appear? What point was Paul trying to make by this repetition, do you think?

3.

Have you ever asked, “What gifts can I give to the Kingdom of God?” What happens when we look within ourselves and ask that question?

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4.

In the video, Pastor Don noted, “While we are each made in God’s image, God did not make each of us the same.” What do you think that means?

5.

Verse 28 lists some spiritual gifts. What is the connection between individual spiritual gifts and the oneness or unity that the rest of this passage talks about?

How does using your spiritual gifts contribute to the unity of the church?

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STUDY

NOTES

The Body of Christ. Just as every part of a human body has a function, so does each person in the church have something they do to contribute to the health, strength and usefulness of Christ’s Body. In our consumer-oriented culture, we tend to look more at what a church gives us, what we can get from it, than what we give to it. We say things like ‘I really didn’t get anything out of church today’, which reflects a mindset oriented toward the question, ‘Does this church meet my needs?’

The Bible teaches that our question should be the exact opposite: How can my gifts help this church? Every person should play a role, whether it is up front or behind the scenes. Every gift matters, every contribution is essential.

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Use this space to record your thoughts, questions and ponderings as you watch the video and discuss the Bible passage.

NOTES

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CREATE A NEW STORY

How has God changed your story during this six-week study? What new things is He asking you to do? What truth has transformed your heart?

As we grow and learn, we must decide that we can create a new story. We must let go of past priorities and grab hold of God’s priorities. Spend some time in this final session talking about how you’ll do that.

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1.

Are you serving in your church or community? What is your next step when it comes to serving?

A) Start serving somewhere just to try it.

B) Take a class or use an assessment to figure out my spiritual gifts.

C) Look for a service opportunity that matches my gifts.

D) Pray about where God wants me to serve.

2.

Pastor Don asked if you know what your gifts are. Do you? If you do not know your spiritual gifts, use the assessment in the appendix called Identifying Your Shape To Serve.

3.

The passage we read before from 1 Corinthians emphasized oneness and unity.

What is one thing you can do in the coming week to build unity with other believers?

4.

Have you ever seen someone serve in a way that made it clear they had a spiritual gift for whatever they were doing? How could you tell? How did being served by this person, or even seeing them serve, impact your faith?

5.

As you walk forward in your relationship with God, what will you do differently as a result of what you’ve experienced in this group?

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How does discovering your gifts impact your relationship with God? How does deploying your gifts (putting them to use in the local church or your small group) help you to grow spiritually?

As this is the last meeting in this study, take some time to celebrate the work God has done in the lives of group members. Have each person in the group share some step of growth that they have noticed in another member. (In other words, no one will talk about themselves. Instead, they’ll affirm others in the group). Make sure each person gets affirmed and noticed and celebrated—whether the steps they’ve made are large or small. If your group still needs to make decisions about continuing to meet after this session, have that discussion now. Talk about who will lead, and where and when you will meet.

Review your Small Group Agreement on page 152 and evaluate how well you met your goals. Discuss any changes you want to make as you move forward. If you plan to continue meeting, this is a great time to get more involved, perhaps by offering to keep track of prayer requests or organize the snack schedule. Remember you aren’t making a lifetime commitment to the new role; it will only be for a few weeks. Maybe someone would like to share a role with you if you don’t feel ready to serve solo.

CLOSE BY PRAYING FOR YOUR PRAYER REQUESTS. Review the praises and answers to prayer you have recorded over the past five weeks on the Prayer and Praise Report on page 170. Spend some time worshiping God and thanking Him for all He’s done in your group during this study.

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ADDITIONAL STUDY If you feel God nudging you to go deeper, take some time to dig into His Word.

Explore the Bible passages related to this session’s theme on your own, jotting your reflections in a journal or in this study guide. Want to go deeper? Select a few verses and try paraphrasing them: writing them in your own words. If you like, share them with the group the next time you meet.

READ ROMANS 12:3 -8 (NEW LIVING TRANSLATION) 3 “Because of the privilege and authority God has given me, I give each of you this warning: Don’t think you are better than you really are. Be honest in your evaluation of yourselves, measuring yourselves by the faith God has given us. 4 Just as our bodies have many parts and each part has a special function, 5 so it is with Christ’s body. We are many parts of one body, and we all belong to each other.

6 In his grace, God has given us different gifts for doing certain things well. So if God has given you the ability to prophesy, speak out with as much faith as God has given you. 7 If your gift is serving others, serve them well. If you are a teacher, teach well. 8 If your gift is to encourage others, be encouraging. If it is giving, give generously. If God has given you leadership ability, take the responsibility seriously. And if you have a gift for showing kindness to others, do it gladly.”

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This passage tells us to engage our gifts: to prophesy if that is our gift, to serve if serving is our gift. What is hindering the use of your gifts? What is one step you could take to engage a gift you’ve been given?

What character trait does verse three urge us to have? Why would that be important when we are talking about spiritual gifts?

Verse 6 mentions God’s grace. We often think of grace as the thing that saves us from our sins. How is God’s grace related to our gifts and our call to serve others?

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DAILY DEVOTIONALS

EACH DAY, READ THE VERSE GIVEN. TAKE YOUR TIME. Imagine that Jesus is sitting with you. Then, imagine Him saying the words in the “Reflect” section to you—reassuring you with His presence and loving you with His words of comfort and strength. After reflecting on Jesus’ words to you, take some time to journal your response back to Him. You can write whatever’s on your heart. Answer the “Respond” question only if it’s helpful. You may want to go another direction, which you are free to do . On the first day, you may want to read over all the verses for the week to get the “big picture” of the passage. But then walk slowly verse by verse, listening to Jesus and responding to Him as you meditate on the truths of Scripture and experience His presence.

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DAY 1: READ 1 PETER 4:8 “Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.”

REFLECT My love for you has covered all of your sin—past, present and future. It is all sufficient, and nothing you have ever done could keep me from loving you.

My dream is that you would love in this way—because when you love others, it covers not only their sins, but frees you from the bondage of your own sin. Love sets you free. You’ve been loved, now love others—by serving them.

RESPOND How is loving each other deeply related to service?

DAY 2: READ 1 PETER 4:9 “Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling.”

REFLECT So many people are confused about what it means to offer hospitality. It’s not about entertaining, or tending to a million details. Just think of my conversation with my friend Martha.

If you want to know how to extend hospitality, look to my example: I welcome people—all people—and provide a space in which they can be loved. It’s really that simple. Love others as you’d want to be loved.

RESPOND Also read Luke 10:38-42. What causes you to grumble? Why would hospitality induce grumbling?

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DAY 3: READ 1 PETER 4:10 “Each of you should use whatever gift you have received to serve others, as faithful stewards of God’s grace in its various forms.”

REFLECT My child, I’ve poured grace into your life, not just to save you from sin, but to save you for a purpose. You have been blessed to be a blessing, saved for a reason. You’re to be a conduit of my grace—to pour it out on others. Forgive them as you’ve been forgiven. Serve them as I’ve served you. Love others in practical, tangible ways, just as I’ve loved you.

RESPOND We typically think of stewardship in terms of our finances. But what would it look like to steward God’s grace in your life? What parallels are there between stewarding our resources and stewarding God’s grace?

DAY 4: READ 1 PETER 4:11A “If anyone speaks, they should do so as one who speaks the very words of God.” REFLECT Words have power. They can build up or destroy. I’m called the Word of God because I came speaking God’s truth, living out what the Scriptures said. And if you’ve been gifted to teach, to lead, to do anything that requires you to say anything—you’ve been entrusted with something incredibly precious. Be brave, be bold, but use your gift with wisdom and discernment.

RESPOND What steps should we who have speaking gifts take to steward those carefully?

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DAY 5: READ 1 PETER 4:11B “If anyone serves, they should do so with the strength God provides, so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ. To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever. Amen.”

REFLECT When you believe in me and follow me, I give you spiritual gifts, and the strength to use them.

The reason for your gifts is simple: to point others toward me. As you build up others, as you encourage and serve them, ultimately, your purpose should be to show God’s power and love.

Don’t try to serve in your own strength—tap into my strength. That way, I’ll get the glory, and you’ll share in my joy.

RESPOND According to this verse, what should be our motive for service? How can you access “the strength God provides?”

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APPENDICES GROUP RESOURCES TO HELP MAKE YOUR SMALL GROUP EXPERIENCE EVEN BETTER!

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FAQ WHAT DO WE DO ON THE FIRST NIGHT OF OUR GROUP?

HOW LONG WILL THIS GROUP MEET?

Like all fun things in life–have a party! A

It’s totally up to the group, once you come

“get to know you” coffee, dinner, or dessert

to the end of this 6-week study. Most groups

is a great way to launch a new study. You

meet weekly for at least their first 6 weeks,

may want to review the Group Agreement

but every other week can work as well. We

(page 152) and share the names of a few

strongly recommend that the group meet for

friends you can invite to join you. But most

the first six months on a weekly basis if at all

importantly, have fun before your study time

possible. This allows for continuity, and if

begins.

people miss a meeting they aren’t gone for a

WHERE DO WE FIND NEW MEMBERS FOR OUR GROUP? This can be troubling, especially for new groups that have only a few people or for existing groups that lose a few people along the way. We encourage you to pray with your group and then brainstorm a list of people from work, church, your neighborhood, your children’s school, family, the gym, and so forth. Then have each group member invite several of the people on his or her list.

whole month.

At the end of this study, each group member may decide if he or she wants to continue on for another 6-week study. Some groups launch relationships for years to come, and others are stepping-stones into another group experience. Either way, enjoy the journey.

CAN WE DO THIS STUDY ON OUR OWN? Absolutely! This may sound crazy but one

No matter how you find members, it’s

of the best ways to do this study is not with

vital that you stay on the lookout for new

a full house but with a few friends. You may

people to join your group. All groups tend

choose to gather with one other couple who

to go through healthy attrition–the result

would enjoy going out or having a quiet

of moves, releasing new leaders, ministry

dinner and then walking through this study.

opportunities, and so forth–and if the

Jesus will be with you even if there are only

group gets too small, it could be at risk of

two of you (Matthew 18:20).

shutting down. If you and your group stay open, you’ll be amazed at the people God sends your way. The next person just might become a friend for life. You never know!

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WHAT IF THIS GROUP IS NOT WORKING FOR US? You’re not alone! This could be the result of

HOW DO WE HANDLE THE CHILD CARE NEEDS IN OUR GROUP?

a personality conflict, life stage difference,

Very carefully. Seriously, this can be

geographical distance, level of spiritual

a sensitive issue. We suggest that you

maturity, or any number of things. Relax.

empower the group to openly brainstorm

Pray for God’s direction, and at the end

solutions. You may try one option that

of this 6-week study, decide whether to

works for a while and then adjust over time.

continue with this group or find another.

Our favorite approach is for adults to meet

You don’t buy the first car you look at or

in the living room or dining room, and to

marry the first person you date, and the

share the cost of a babysitter (or two) who

same goes with a group. Don’t bail out

can be with the kids in a different part of

before the 6 weeks are up–God might have

the house. In this way, parents don’t have

something to teach you. Also, don’t run

to be away from their children all evening

from conflict or prejudge people before

when their children are too young to be

you have given them a chance. God is still

left at home. A second option is to use one

working in you too!

home for the kids and a second home (close by or a phone call away) for the adults. A

WHO IS THE LEADER?

third idea is to rotate the responsibility of

Most groups have an official leader. But

providing a lesson or care for the children

ideally, the group will mature and members

either in the same home or in another home

will rotate the leadership of meetings. We

nearby. This can be an incredible blessing

have discovered that healthy groups rotate

for kids. Finally, the most common idea is

hosts/leaders and homes on a regular basis.

to decide that you need to have a night to

This model ensures that all members grow,

invest in your spiritual lives individually

give their unique contribution, and develop

or as a couple, and to make your own

their gifts. This study guide and the Holy

arrangements for childcare. No matter

Spirit can keep things on track even when

what decision the group makes, the best

you rotate leaders. Christ has promised to be

approach is to dialogue openly about both

in your midst as you gather. Ultimately, God

the problem and the solution.

is your leader each step of the way.

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OUR PURPOSE

SMALL GROUP AGREEMENT

To provide a predictable environment where participants experience authentic community and spiritual growth.

OUR VALUES GROUP ATTENDANCE SAFE ENVIRONMENT RESPECT DIFFERENCES

To give priority to the group meeting. We will call or email if we will be late or absent. (Completing the Group Calendar on page 154 will minimize this issue.)

To help create a safe place where people can be heard and feel loved. (Please, no quick answers, snap judgments, or simple fixes.)

To be gentle and gracious to people with different spiritual maturity, personal opinions, temperaments, or “imperfections” in fellow group members. We are all works in progress.

To keep anything that is shared strictly confidential and within

CONFIDENTIALITY

the group, and to avoid sharing improper information about those outside the group.

ENCOURAGEMENT FOR GROWTH SHARED OWNERSHIP

To be not just takers but givers of life. We want to spiritually multiply our life by serving others with our God-given gifts.

To remember that every member is a minister and to ensure that each attender will share a small team role or responsibility over time.

To encourage different people to host the group in their

ROTATING HOSTS/ homes, and to rotate the responsibility of facilitating each LEADERS AND HOMES meeting. (See the Group Calendar on page 154.)

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OUR EXPECTATIONS • Refreshments/mealtimes_______________________________________ • Childcare___________________________________________________ • When we will meet (day of week)________________________________ • Where we will meet (place)_____________________________________ __________________________________________________________ • We will begin at (time) ___________ and end at ___________ • We will do our best to have some or all of us attend a worship service together. Our primary worship service time will be_____________________________________________________ • Date of this agreement________________________________________ • Date we will review this agreement again__________________________ • Who (other than the leader) will review this agreement at the end of this study_____________________________________________

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GROUP CALENDAR Planning and calendaring can help ensure the greatest participation at every meeting. At the end of each meeting, review this calendar. Be sure to include a regular rotation of host homes and leaders, and don’t forget birthdays, socials, church events, holidays, and mission/ministry projects.

DATE

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DESSERT/ HOST HOME MEAL Steve and Laura’s House

Joe

LEADER Bill

SPIRITUAL PARTNERS

CHECK-IN PAGE

MY NAME:

SPIRITUAL PARTNER’S NAME:

OUR PROGRESS

WEEK 6

WEEK 5

WEEK 4

WEEK 3

WEEK 2

WEEK 1

OUR PLANS

Briefly check in each week and write down your personal plans and progress for the next week (or even for the next few weeks). This could be done (before or after the meeting) on the phone, via E-mail or text, or even in person from time to time.

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MEMORY

VERSES

SESSION 1: STRENGTHENED—THE SUPPORT OF SPIRITUAL FRIENDSHIPS “So then, just as you received Christ Jesus as Lord, continue to live your lives in Him, rooted and built up in Him, strengthened in the faith as you were taught, and overflowing with thankfulness.” (Colossians 2:6-7) SESSION 2 : ASSURED—THE AUTHORITY OF THE BIBLE “What you say goes, God, and stays, as permanent as the heavens. Your truth never goes out of fashion; it’s as up-to-date as the earth when the sun comes up.” (Psalm 119:89-90,The Message) SESSION 3 : KNOWN—THE INTIMACY OF GOD “See what great love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God! And that is what we are!” (1 John 3:1) SESSION FOUR: INFORMED—THE WISDOM OF THE BIBLE “If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.” (James 1:5) SESSION FIVE: EXTENDED—THE JOY OF PRAYER FOR OTHERS “And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with all the Lord’s holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, and to know this love that surpasses knowledge—that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God.” (Ephesians 3:17-19) SESSION SIX: GIFTED—THE STRENGTH TO SERVE “When the time came, he set aside the privileges of deity and took on the status of a slave, became human!” (Philippians 2:7, The Message) P | 156

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IDENTIFYING YOUR

SHAPE TO SERVE

#1 GIFTS PROFILE WORKSHEET Below you’ll see a list of gifts, interests, experiences, temperaments, and strengths. Check all that apply to you. Ask others in the group to tell you what they see in you.

GIFTS Preaching (1 Cor. 14:3) Evangelism (Acts 8:26-40) Discernment (1 John 4:1) Apostleship (Rom. 15:20) Teaching (Eph. 4:12-13) Encouragement (Acts 14:22) Wisdom (1 Cor. 2:1, 6-16) Missions (1 Cor. 9:19-23, Acts 13: 2-3) Service (Acts 6:1-7, 1 Cor. 12:28)

Mercy (Rom. 12:8) Hospitality (1 Pe. 4:9-10) Pastoring (1 Pe. 5:2-4) Giving (2 Cor. 8:1-7) Intercession (Col. 1:9-12) Leadership (Heb. 13:7, 17) Administration (1 Cor. 14:40) Faith (Rom. 4:18-21)

EXPERIENCES

INTERESTS

Think about the following experiences in your life:

Design/Develop Pioneer Organize Operate/Maintain Serve/Help Acquire/Possess Excel Perform Improve

Spiritual Painful Education Vocational Ministry

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Repair Lead/Be in Charge Persevere Follow the Rules Prevail Influence

GOD HAS PREPARED YOU FOR SOMETHING GREAT. God equips us each with powerful ministry tools. Discovering yours will help you find your place as a vital minister within your small group and beyond. Below are two tools to help you identify your shape for ministry.

Use the first tool to begin the process. Use your results to complete the second. Afterwards, talk about the results with your group leader and fellow members. Together you can figure out how you can best minister within your group and grow.

TEMPERAMENT Extroverted Routine

Self-controlled Cooperative

Introverted Variety

Self-expressive Competitive

STRENGTHS Entertaining Recruiting Planning Evaluating Managing Researching Artistic/Graphics Interviewing Counseling

Teaching Writing/Editing Promoting Repairing Feeding Recall Mechanical Operating Resourceful Counting/Classifying

Public Relations Welcoming Composing Landscaping Arts & Crafts Decorating Musical Ministry

#2 DISCOVERING YOUR SHAPE

What Do You Know? What Do Others See? What Could Be Next?

Gifts (Spiritual) Interests Passion Familiar Experiences Temperament Strengths (Talents) Copyright Š 2014 Lifetogether.

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S M A L L G RO U P L E A DE R S KEY RESOURCES TO HELP YOUR LEADERSHIP EXPERIENCE BE THE BEST IT CAN BE!

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HOSTING AN

OPEN HOUSE If you’re starting a new group, try planning an “open house” before your first formal group meeting. Even if you have only two to four core members, it’s a great way to break the ice and to pray and discern who else might be open to joining you over the next few weeks. You can also use this kick-off meeting to hand out study guides, spend some time getting to know each other, discuss each person’s expectations for the group and briefly pray for each other.

A simple meal or good desserts always make a kick-off meeting more fun.

After people introduce themselves and share how they ended up being at the meeting (you can play a game to see who has the wildest story!), have everyone respond to a few icebreaker questions: • What is your favorite family vacation?

• What is one thing you love about your church/our community?

• What are three things about your life growing up that most people here don’t know?

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Next, ask everyone to tell what he or she hopes to get out of the study.

You might want to review the Small Group Agreement and talk about each person’s expectations and priorities.

Finally, set an open chair (maybe two) in the center of your group and explain that it represents someone who would enjoy or benefit from this group but who isn’t here yet. Ask people to pray about inviting someone to join the group over the next few weeks. Hand out postcards and have everyone write an invitation or two.

Don’t worry about ending up with too many people; you can always have one discussion circle in the living room and another in the dining room after you watch the lesson. Each group could then report prayer requests and progress at the end of the session.

You can skip this kick-off meeting if your time is limited, but you’ll experience a huge benefit if you take the time to connect with each other in this way.

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LEADING FOR

THE FIRST TIME TEN COMMON LEADERSHIP EXPERIENCES. WELCOME TO LIFE OUT IN FRONT!

1.

S weaty palms are a healthy sign. The Bible says God is gracious to the humble.

Remember Who is in control.

Those who are soft in heart (and sweaty palmed) are those whom God is sure to speak through.

2.

Seek support. Ask your leader, co-leader, or close friend to pray for you and prepare with you before the session. Walking through the study will help you anticipate potentially difficult questions and discussion topics.

3.

ring your uniqueness to the B study. Lean into who you are and how God wants you to uniquely lead the study.

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4.

repare. Prepare. Prepare. Go P through the session several times. If you are using the DVD, listen to the teaching segment and Leadership Lifter. Consider writing in a journal or fasting for a day to prepare yourself for what God wants to do. Don’t wait until the last minute to prepare.

5.

Ask for feedback so you can grow. Perhaps in an email or on cards handed out at the study, have everyone write down three things you did well and one thing you could improve on. Don’t get defensive, but show an openness to learn and grow.

6.

Pray about launching a new group. This doesn’t need to happen overnight, but God’s heart is for this to take place over time. Not all Christians are called to be leaders or teachers, but we are all called to be “shepherds” of a few someday.

7.

Share with your group what God is doing in your heart. God is searching for those whose hearts are fully his. Share your trials and victories. We promise that people will relate.

8.

Pray about whom you would like to pass the baton to next week. It’s only fair. God is ready for the next member of your group to go on the faith journey you just traveled.

Make it fun, and expect God to do the rest.

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LEADERSHIP

TRAINING 101 TOP TEN IDEAS FOR NEW LEADERS

Congratulations! You have responded to the call to help shepherd Jesus’ flock.

There are few other tasks in the family of God that surpass the contribution you will be making. As you prepare to lead, whether it is one session or the entire series, here are a few thoughts to keep in mind. We encourage you to read these and review them with each new discussion leader before he or she leads.

1 Remember that you are not alone. God knows everything about you, and He knew that you would be asked to lead your group. Remember that it is common for all good leaders to feel that they are not ready to lead. Moses, Solomon, Jeremiah and Timothy - they all were reluctant to lead. God promises, “Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you” (Hebrews 13:5). Whether you are leading for one evening, for several weeks, or for a lifetime, you will be blessed as you serve.

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2 Don’t try to do it alone. Pray right now for God to help you build a healthy leadership team.

If you can enlist a co-leader to help you lead the group, you will find your experience to be much richer. This is your chance to involve as many people as you can in building a healthy group. All you have to do is call and ask people to help, you’ll be surprised at the response.

3 Just be yourself. If you won’t be you, who will? God wants you to use your unique gifts and temperament. Don’t try to do things exactly like another leader; do them in a way that fits you! Just admit it when you don’t have an answer, and apologize when you make a mistake. Your group will love you for it, and you’ll sleep better at night!

4 Prepare for your meeting ahead of time. Review the session and the leader’s notes, and write down your responses to each question. Pay special attention to exercises that ask group members to do something other than engage in discussion.

These exercises will help your group live what the Bible teaches, not just talk about it.

Be sure you understand how an exercise works, and bring any necessary supplies (such as paper and pens) to your meeting. If the exercise employs one of the items in the Appendices, be sure to look over that item so you’ll know how it works.

Finally, review “Outline for Each Session” so you’ll remember the purpose of each section in the study.

5 Pray for your group members by name. Before you begin your session, go around the room in your mind and pray for each member by name. You may want to review the prayer list at least once a week. Ask God to use your time together to touch the heart of every person uniquely. Expect God to lead you to whomever He wants you to encourage or challenge in a special way. If you listen, God will surely lead!

6 When you ask a question, be patient. Someone will eventually respond. Sometimes people need a moment or two of silence to think about the question, and if silence doesn’t bother you, it won’t bother anyone else. After someone responds, affirm the response with a simple “thanks” or “good job.” Then ask, “How about somebody else?” or “Would someone who hasn’t shared like to add anything?”

Be sensitive to new people or reluctant members who aren’t ready to say, pray or do anything.

If you give them a safe setting, they will blossom over time.

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LEADERSHIP TRAINING 101 7 Provide transitions between questions. When guiding the discussion, always read aloud the transitional paragraphs and the questions. Ask the group if anyone would like to read the paragraph or Bible passage.

Don’t call on anyone, but ask for a volunteer, and then be patient until someone begins. Be sure to thank the person who reads aloud.

8 Break up into small groups each week, or they won’t stay. If your group has more than seven people, we strongly encourage you to have the group gather sometimes in discussion circles of three or four people. With a greater opportunity to talk in a small circle, people will connect more with the study, apply more quickly what they’re learning and ultimately get more out of it.

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member. It can also help people feel more loved in your group.

When you gather again at the end of the section, you can have one person summarize the highlights from each circle.

Small circles are also helpful during prayer time. People who are unaccustomed to praying aloud will feel more comfortable trying it with just two or three others. Also, prayer requests won’t take as much time, so circles will have more time to actually pray. When you gather back with the whole group, you can have one person from each circle briefly update everyone on the prayer requests. People are more willing to pray in small circles if they know that the whole group will hear all the prayer requests.

9 Rotate facilitators weekly. At the end of each meeting, ask the group who should lead the following week. Let the group help select your weekly facilitator. You may be perfectly capable of leading each time, but you will help others grow in their faith and gifts if you give them opportunities to lead.

You can use the Small Group Calendar to fill in the names of all meeting leaders at once if you prefer.

Matthew 9:36 1 Peter 5:2-4 Psalm 23 Ezekiel 34:11-16 1 Thessalonians 2:7-8, 11-12

10 One final challenge (for new or first time leaders): Before your first opportunity to lead, look up each of the five passages listed. Read each one as a devotional exercise to help equip yourself with a shepherd’s heart. Trust us on this one. If you do this, you will be more than ready for your first meeting.

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PRAYER AND

PRAISE REPORT PRAYER REQUESTS

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