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GOD SWEARS TO KEEP HIS PROMISES

JERRY DI RMA NN

Copyright 2016 Jerry Dirmann ALL RIGHTS RESERVED

Copyright and use of the curriculum template is retained by Brett Eastman.

Unless otherwise noted, all scripture quotes are taken from the NEW KING JAMES VERSION®. Used by permission. All rights reserved worldwide.

ISBN #: 978-1-945589-12-6 Printed in the United States of America

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TA BL E OF CON T EN T S Foreword by Jack Hayford Introduction by Jerry Dirmann Using This Workbook Format of Each Session

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SESSIONS Session One: Session Two: Session Three: Session Four: Session Five: Session Six: Session Seven:

God Cuts a Covenant Covenant Representative Covenant Love Receiving a Better Covenant The Covenant Meal Covenant Friendship The Marriage Covenant

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APPENDIX Frequently Asked Questions Small Group Agreement Group Calendar Prayer and Praise Report Small Group Roster Memory Verse Cards

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SMALL GROUP LEADERS Hosting an Open House Hosting for the First Time Leadership 101 Host Notes What’s Next

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FOREWORD JACK HAYFORD (Excerpts from his full Foreword of the book, God Swears)

Be assured from the start, the title of this study is more than merely a clever means to spark curiosity. God Swears is a stark-yet-firm and soul-settling reminder that God is deeply serious about our truly understanding His love. His is a commitment—one that is pointed, unshakeable, verifiable and costly. Though freely offered through a price He paid, God’s love is provided as a gift—but one that calls us to “buy into it” with our hearts and eyes wide open ... opened with understanding His words.

God Swears brings focus, clarity and practical insight to the enriching meaning of “covenant.” It’s a near-forgottenword, an unwelcomed concept in any culture where relativism reigns, while truth, pledge, promise or reliability are optional, redefined-at-will or simply discarded as inconvenient or unrealistic.

There’s a reason for the relevance and substance of this content. It’s soundness throughout rises on the foundation of its rock-solid grounding in the truth of God’s word—the Bible.

So, dear reader—step beyond this Foreword, if you will. You’ll find you’ve entered a doorway of insight, inspiration and Holy Spirit-graced truth that is certain to enrich your soul, feed your understanding and lead to practical truth.

Jack W. Hayford, Chancellor The King’s University—Dallas

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INTRODUCTION In my last 30 years of studying, reading and hearing the teachings of God’s word, precious few revelations have deeply and consistently impacted the broad spectrum of listeners like the profound implications of God’s biblical covenants. The reason that understanding God’s covenants is so life-changing — especially His covenants with Abraham and Jesus — is that they were instituted for one primary purpose ... to convince us that He would keep His promises.

Though God is absolutely faithful, God’s people throughout history have struggled to believe that this invisible God could be trusted to use His self-described and unlimited power to bring about the Bible’s seemingly-too-good-to-be-true promises. This struggle of unbelief has caused countless unnecessary “forfeits” of God’s promised blessings. Because of this, after deliberately “limiting” His unlimited options by making promises to us, God went further to swear a blood covenant with us to assure us that He would be faithful to His word. His ultimate purpose is to convince us so that we can both believe and receive the promised benefits.

So, when it comes to God’s amazing promises, such as, “By His stripes we are healed,” “God shall supply all of your need,” and “Ask and it will be given,” the “big question” is, WILL GOD KEEP HIS PROMISES? And the “big answer” is … GOD SWEARS!

Jerry Dirmann Senior Pastor, The Rock Anaheim, CA

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USING THIS WORKBOOK T OOL S T O HEL P YOU H AV E A GRE AT SMALL GROUP E XPERIENCE!

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There are three components to this workbook: (1) Sessions; (2) Appendix; and (3) Small Group Leaders. The Sessions contain the small group study materials and outline. The Appendix contains materials and content that will be useful in the sessions. The Small Group Leaders section has information specific to those leading the group.

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Use this workbook as a guide, not a straightjacket. If the group responds to the lesson in an unexpected but honest way, go with that. If you think of a better question than the next one in the lesson, ask it. Take to heart the insights included in the Frequently Asked Questions pages and the Small Group Leaders section.

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Enjoy your Small Group experience.

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Pray before each session—for your group members, for your time together, and wisdom and insights.

5. Read the format for each session on the next pages so that you understand how the sessions will flow.

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FORMAT OF E ACH SES SION A typical group session for the God Swears study will include the following sections. Read through this to get a clear idea of how each group meeting will be structured:

TITLE OF SESSION AND SCRIPTURE. Each session opens with a verse that emphasizes an important truth from the session. This is an optional exercise, but we believe that memorizing these verses can be a vital part of filling our mind and heart with God’s will for our lives. We encourage you to give this important habit a try. The verses for our six sessions are also listed in the Appendix.

GETTING STARTED TOGETHER. This section includes some simple questions and activities to get you talking—letting you share as much or as little of your story as you feel comfortable.

Each session typically offers you two options. You can get to know your whole group by using the listed activities, or you can check in with just one or two group members for a deeper connection and encouragement in your spiritual journey.

INTRODUCTION. Each lesson opens with a brief thought that will help you prepare for the session and get you thinking about the particular subject you will explore with your group.

Make it a practice to read these before the session. You may want to read them aloud with your group.

WATCH THE DVD TOGETHER/DISCUSS THE TEACHING TOGETHER. In this section, you’ll read the Bible and listen to a teaching. When the study directs you to do so, you’ll pop in the DVD and watch a short teaching segment.

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on the teaching and the texts. The focus isn’t on accumulating information, but understanding the truths taught and then applying the insights to your life.

TAKE NEXT STEPS TOGETHER. God wants you to be a part of His Kingdom—to weave your story into His. By making small, simple choices, we can begin to change our direction in a positive way. The Bible says, “Be doers of the word, not just hearers.” (James 1:22) Many people skip over this aspect of the Christian life because it can be intimidating or awkward or simply too much “to do” for their busy schedules. But Jesus wants all of His disciples to know Him personally and to help others connect with Him. This does not necessarily mean that you have to preach on street corners, but it could simply mean welcoming newcomers, hosting a short-term group in your home, or walking through this study with a friend.

Take Next Steps Together will also have a question or two that will challenge you to live out your faith by serving others, sharing about Jesus, and walking with God. You will have opportunities to go beyond Bible study to biblical living.

DAILY DEVOTIONS. Each week on the Daily Devotions pages, you will be provided with scriptures to read and reflect on during the week. This provides you with a chance to slow down, read a small portion of scripture each day, and reflect on what you read. You’ll then have a chance to write your insights in a journal of your choice. This time at home should begin and end with prayer. Don’t be in a hurry; take enough time to hear God’s direction.

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GOD CUTS A COVENANT Therefore know that the Lord your God, He is God, the faithful God who keeps covenant and mercy for a thousand generations with those who love Him and keep His commandments.

DEU T ERONOMY 7:9

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Begin your time together by participating in the following questions and activities.

• What is your name? Tell the group a little bit about yourself.

• How did you hear about the group, and what brought you here?

• What do you hope to get out of this group?

INTRODUCTION Therefore know that the Lord your God, He is God, the faithful God who keeps covenant and mercy for a thousand generations with those who love Him and keep His commandments.

Deuteronomy 7:9

We’re all familiar with contracts. We’re required to sign or agree to them when we buy a house or a car, start a new job, open an account or install some new software. And though the pages may be numerous, and the fine print painfully binding, contracts seem to be broken more and more often. Our culture, however, is much less familiar with covenants. A covenant, and especially a blood covenant, is much more binding than a contract, and it can last many generations.

Today we’re going to explore this ancient and biblical practice called covenant, and discover why understanding it can (and should) completely change your life. Through this series, you will discover both the seriousness and reliability of a blood covenant, and that God Himself made some bold promises, and then entered into a blood covenant to convince us that He would keep His promises.

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WHAT ARE SOME CON T R AC T S YOU H AV E SIGNED? WHY ARE THOSE CONT R AC T S VA LUA BL E ?

Historically, covenants were most often made for one of two reasons: strengths and weaknesses, or love.

Strengths & weaknesses: One tribe may be good at raising crops, but be quite weak at defending their harvested food, while another tribe may be strong and powerful warriors but very poor farmers. This scenario could be ideal for a covenant. By joining our tribes together in covenant as one tribe, we can have the best of both worlds—plenty of food to eat and adequate defenses to protect it.

Love: Like in a solid marriage or friendship, love is often the most enduring and secure motive of covenant. Because of deep love, covenant commitments are often kept for a lifetime, even when they require great sacrifice or inconvenience.

COVENANT IMAGERY & LANGUAGE Covenants have been documented throughout history on every continent of the world, and many modern-day ceremonies, such as weddings and inaugurations, still contain covenant practices. Covenants were usually made between two or more people, families, tribes, or nations.

In this session, Pastor Jerry shares ten common elements of covenant ceremonies found in Scripture and what each element symbolizes.

TAK E A FE W MINUTES TO REVIEW THESE COVENANT CEREMONY ELEMENTS: Coat Exchange: “All that I am—my authority or influence—I am giving to you.”

Weapon Belt Exchange: “All of my strength—my ability, might and strength —now belongs to you. If someone comes against you, I will come against him.”

Dividing an Animal: “To break or separate from this covenant means death.”

Walk of Blood: “I willingly enter, understand and will remember the seriousness and consequence of this commitment.”

Cutting of the Flesh: “My wrist or hand is cut to draw blood, showing my personal commitment. My covenant counterpart does the same.”

Searing an Oath: “With my right hand raised and my blood flowing down, I swear to keep each term of the covenant. After swearing my oath, I join my wound to that of my covenant partner and, because blood represents life, now my life is your life and yours mine.”

Seal of the Covenant: “My scar from the cut of my wrist or hand marks a permanent covenant.”

Name Exchange: “I share my name with you, and take your name, to communicate that we have become one family, tribe, or nation.”

Covenant Meal (Bread and Wine): “As a symbolic point of contact, I feel your life coming into me, and you feel mine coming into you.”

Memorial: This may be a large pile of stones or perhaps the gift exchange of a reproducing sheep or goat; “These will remind us—and anyone—that we are in covenant.”

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Which of these covenant ceremony elements seem most surprising, and why?

Which of these covenant ceremony elements seem to be the most impactful to you, and why?

What element(s) of covenant do you see in God’s statements to Abram?

What question provoked God to make a blood covenant with Abram? Do you sometimes have the same question?

What was God’s primary purpose for initiating a blood covenant? Does God want us to believe He will be faithful to keep His promises?

Do you know of any promises in the Bible that God made to you? Do you believe God wants to keep them? Why?

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This week, will you commit to spending time in daily prayer and the study of God’s word?

You may use the Daily Devotions section to guide you. Tell the group how you plan to follow through with your Bible reading this week, and then, at your next meeting, talk about your progress and challenges.

Also consider someone—in this group or outside it—that you can begin to develop a healthier relationship. This may be your mom or dad, a cousin, an aunt or uncle, a roommate, a college buddy, a coworker or a neighbor. Choose someone who might be open to “doing life” with you at a more personal level, and pray about that opportunity.

Write the names of two or three people you know who need to know Christ. Commit to praying for God’s guidance and an opportunity to share with each of them. Perhaps they would be open to joining the group. Share the names with the group so you can all be praying for the people you’ve identified.

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How can we pray for you this week? Take time to pray for one another. Be sure to write prayer requests on your Prayer and Praise Report on page 104.

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READ HEBREWS 6 :17 (NLT ).

READ HEBREWS 6 :18 (NLT ).

God also bound himself with an oath, so that those who received the promise could be perfectly sure that he would never change his mind.

So God has given both his promise and his oath. These two things are unchangeable because it is impossible for God to lie.

Therefore, we who have fled to him for refuge can have great confidence as we hold to the hope that lies before us.

And I will establish My covenant between Me and you and your descendants after you in their generations, for an everlasting covenant, to be God to you and your descendants after you.

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This devotional will encourage you in your relationship with the Lord and help you meditate on the truth of God’s covenant. Each day you will find a verse. Read and reflect on each verse. You may choose to write your insights in a journal of your choice. This time at home should begin and end with prayer. Don’t be in a hurry; take enough time to hear God’s direction.

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RE A D 2 T IMO T HY 2:13.

RE A D NUMBERS 2 3:19.

If we are faithless, He remains faithful; He cannot deny Himself.

God is not a man, that He should lie, Nor a son of man, that He should repent. Has He said, and will He not do? Or has He spoken, and will He not make it good?

Use the following space to write any thoughts God has put in your heart and mind about the things we have looked at in this session and during your Daily Devotions time this week.

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For all of God’s promises have been fulfilled in Christ with a resounding “Yes!” And through Christ, our “Amen” (which means “Yes”) ascends to God for his glory.

2 CORINTHIANS 1:20 (NLT)

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Begin your time together by participating in the following questions and activities.

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Greet one another and welcome newcomers.

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How did your week go?

• In the last session, you wrote the names of two or three people you know who need to know Christ. Who did you identify as the people in your life who need to meet Jesus?

Go back to the list on page 105 and consider adding the names of others you come into contact with on a regular basis; people who need to know Jesus more deeply.

Consider ideas for action and make a plan to follow through on one of them this week.

INTRODUCTION To Him who loved us and washed us from our sins in His own blood, and has made us kings and priests to His God and Father, to Him be glory and dominion forever and ever. Amen.

Revelation 1:5–6

People have always had a fascination with royalty. Millions of people got up early in the morning to watch the wedding of Prince Charles and Diana Spencer back in 1981, and again in 2011 for the wedding of Prince William and Kate Middleton. We buy magazines and visit websites so we can see pictures of famous royal families and enjoy novels and movies that tell stories about kings and queens throughout history.

Yet for all of our interest in the power and elaborate lifestyles that accompany kings and queens here on earth, we often fail to consider that we actually have a close connection with the heavenly King. God our Father, through Jesus, has made a way for each one of us to be heirs of His kingdom and members of His “royal family.” So today we’ll look at another story about royalty, the story of David, and discover what his life can teach us about the great love of our heavenly King.

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The stories of David, Jonathan, and Mephibosheth demonstrate yet another powerful example of biblical covenant. In this session, Pastor Jerry also introduced the concept of a covenant representative. In this story, the covenant Jonathan made with David endured well after Jonathan’s death, giving his son, Mephibosheth, privileges and blessings that he never expected. In the same way, Jesus is our covenant representative, and He gives us access and a relationship with God that we could never earn or initiate on our own.

Discuss the following questions and participate in these activities as a group. Your insight will help encourage others and build faith.

What is the nicest thing someone has done for you?

What aspects of biblical covenant do you see playing out in the personal covenant made between David and Jonathan?

Why does David want to show kindness to Saul’s family and why would Mephibosheth have been afraid to encounter David? How does David’s treatment of Mephibosheth show God’s treatment of us?

How does the covenant between David and Jonathan as representative heads symbolize the covenant between God and man?

Is there anything that makes it difficult for you to accept the love and grace of God?

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Here are some simple ways to connect with God. Discuss with the group which ones you plan to try this week, and talk about your progress and challenges when you meet next time. You may also add other commitments to this list.

Prayer. Commit to personal prayer and daily connection with God. You may find it helpful to write your prayers in a journal.

Daily Devotions. The Daily Devotions provided in each session offer an opportunity to read a short Bible passage five days a week during the course of our study. In our hurryup world, we often move too quickly through everything—even reading God’s word! Slow down. Don’t just skim, but take time to read carefully and reflect on the passage. Write down your insights on what you read each day. Copy a portion of scripture on a card and tape it somewhere in your line of sight, such as your car’s dashboard or the bathroom mirror. Or, text it to yourself! Think about it when you sit at red lights or while you’re eating a meal. Reflect on what God is saying to you through these words. On the sixth day, summarize what God has shown you throughout the week.

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How can we pray for you this week? Take time to pray for one another. Be sure to write prayer requests on your Prayer and Praise Report on page 104.

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READ ISAIAH 43:4.

RE A D JOHN 10:10.

READ PSALM 7 8 : 7 0 -7 2 .

Since you were precious in My sight, You have been honored, And I have loved you; Therefore I will give men for you, And people for your life.

The thief does not come except to steal, and to kill, and to destroy. I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly.

He also chose David His servant, And took him from the sheepfolds; From following the ewes that had young He brought him, To shepherd Jacob His people, And Israel His inheritance.

So he shepherded them according to the integrity of his heart, And guided them by the skillfulness of his hands.

This devotional will encourage you in your relationship with the Lord and help you meditate on the truth of God’s covenant. Each day you will find a verse. Read and reflect on each verse. You may choose to write your insights in a journal of your choice. This time at home should begin and end with prayer. Don’t be in a hurry; take enough time to hear God’s direction.

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RE AD MAT THE W 9:36.

RE AD L AMENTAT IONS 3 : 2 2 -2 3 .

Use the following space to write any thoughts God has put in your heart and mind about the things we have looked at in this session and during your Daily Devotions time this week.

But when He saw the multitudes, He was moved with compassion for them, because they were weary and scattered, like sheep having no shepherd.

Through the Lord’s mercies we are not consumed, Because His compassions fail not.

They are new every morning; Great is Your faithfulness.

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Oh, give thanks to the Lord, for He is good! For His mercy endures forever.

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Begin your time together by participating in the following questions and activities.

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Greet one another and welcome newcomers.

• Briefly discuss with your group how the understanding of covenant has already changed your outlook on life.

INTRODUCTION It’s one thing for someone to do those things that are required by contract, such as employment agreements, payment agreements, etc., particularly when there would be negative consequences for not keeping those commitments. But mere contracts typically do not fill our hearts with joy and gratitude when staying committed to them.

With God, however, it’s completely different. God not only made a covenant with us, but He joyfully, faithfully and compassionately chooses to keep the covenant because of His great love for us.

God is not reluctantly keeping His commitments (promises). On the contrary, God initiated the covenant purely because of His love, goodness and favor toward to us, and He is willingly and lovingly remaining faithful to His covenant. Today we’ll learn more about covenant love and the character of God.

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DISCUS S THE FOLLOW ING QUEST IONS AND PART ICIPATE I N T H E S E A C T I V I T I E S A S A G R O U P. Y O U R I N S I G H T W I L L HELP ENCOUR AGE OTHERS A ND BUILD FAITH. Have you ever made a commitment or promise to someone purely because of a genuine care for his or her well being or enjoyment?

In what ways has God demonstrated His love toward you?

What is so significant about God’s covenant love for His people?

What are some of the differences between what society defines as “love” and what God defines as “love”?

Is it hard for you to accept or to believe that God loves you with hesed and agape love?

Why or why not?

In the kingdom of God, we are all called to give up certain things for the benefit of others (for example, our desires, our wants, our selfishness). How is God calling you to this and for whom?

How does knowing and remembering covenant love become a game changer for you?

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What steps will you take this week to grow in your relationship with God?

If you’ve focused on prayer in past weeks, maybe you’ll want to direct your attention to certain scriptures this week. If you’ve been reading God’s word consistently, perhaps you’ll want to take it deeper and try memorizing a verse.

Tell the group which one you plan to try this week, and talk about your progress and challenges when you meet next time.

Ask the group if there are any praise reports or testimonies on answered prayers.

How can we pray for you this week? Take time to pray for one another. Be sure to write prayer requests on your Prayer and Praise Report on page 104.

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RE A D P S A L M 3 2:10.

READ MICAH 7:18 (NLT ).

RE A D P S A L M 10 3:9-10.

Many sorrows shall be to the wicked; But he who trusts in the Lord, mercy shall surround him.

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Where is another God like you, who pardons the guilt of the remnant, overlooking the sins of his special people? You will not stay angry with your people forever, because you delight in showing unfailing love.

He will not always strive with us, Nor will He keep His anger forever.

He has not dealt with us according to our sins, Nor punished us according to our iniquities.

This devotional will encourage you in your relationship with the Lord and help you meditate on the truth of God’s covenant. Each day you will find a verse. Read and reflect on each verse. You may choose to write your insights in a journal of your choice. This time at home should begin and end with prayer. Don’t be in a hurry; take enough time to hear God’s direction.

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READ PSALM 10 3:17-18.

READ ROMANS 8:38-39.

But the mercy of the Lord is from everlasting to everlasting On those who fear Him, And His righteousness to children’s children, To such as keep His covenant, And to those who remember His commandments to do them.

For I am persuaded that neither death nor life, nor angels nor principalities nor powers, nor things present nor things to come, nor height nor depth, nor any other created thing, shall be able to separate us from the love of God which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.

Use the following space to write any thoughts God has put in your heart and mind about the things we have looked at in this session and during your Daily Devotions time this week.

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But now He has obtained a more excellent ministry, inasmuch as He is also Mediator of a better covenant, which was established on better promises.

HEBREWS 8:6

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Begin your time together by participating in the following questions and activities.

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Greet one another and welcome newcomers.

• From last week’s session, how has the understanding of covenant love impacted your understanding of God’s heart toward you in a positive way this week?

• Take some time to give an update on the names listed on page 105. How have you been taking the opportunities to engage with them on a personal level? If you have not done so yet, you may want to invite them to attend your group or church.

INTRODUCTION As we’ve studied various aspects of covenant over the last few weeks, you may still have questions as to why it was necessary for God to participate in these ancient covenant rituals with Abraham in order to establish His promises. Of course God can do whatever He wants, but the reason He chose to use the culturally-accepted ceremonies of the day was to ensure that His people truly understood His deep commitment to them and the seriousness of His promises. But God didn’t leave it there.

As usual, He makes things bigger, stronger, richer, and more meaningful.

Today we will take a look at how He transformed the ancient covenant system and used its ancient forms to create something new: a better covenant!

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DISCUS S THE FOLLOW ING QUEST IONS AND PART ICIPATE I N T H E S E A C T I V I T I E S A S A G R O U P. Y O U R I N S I G H T W I L L HELP ENCOUR AGE OTHERS A ND BUILD FAITH. Before watching this lesson, how would you have described the differences between the Old and New Testaments? How would you describe your understanding of them now?

Why was a new covenant needed and how is the new covenant superior to the old covenant?

Do you ever feel like you need to earn God’s love or salvation? What do you think contributes to that feeling?

What is a mediator and how is Jesus a mediator for both God and us?

The Bible says that Abraham believed God and it was accounted to him for righteousness. What did Abraham believe and why was it accounted to him for righteousness? What was the result?

Are you convinced that God is able to perform what He has promised? In what areas do you doubt and how will you build your faith in the promises of God?

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You have different gifts and abilities. And every small group has tasks and roles that need to be done. How could you serve this group—perhaps with hospitality or prayer, organizing an event, leading worship or inviting new people?

Spend some time this week praying for people you know might respond to a simple invitation to come to a church service, join your small group, or even to have coffee and talk about personal or spiritual matters. Ask the Holy Spirit to bring to mind people you can pray for.

Do you have any praise reports to share with the group?

How can we pray for you this week? Take time to pray for one another. Be sure to write prayer requests on your Prayer and Praise Report on page 104.

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READ HEBREWS 10:35-36 (NLT).

RE AD G AL AT IANS 6:9.

R E A D R O M A N S 1 0 : 1 7.

And let us not grow weary while doing good, for in due season we shall reap if we do not lose heart.

So then faith comes by hearing, and hearing by the word of God.

So do not throw away this confident trust in the Lord.

Remember the great reward it brings you! Patient endurance is what you need now, so that you will continue to do God’s will. Then you will receive all that he has promised.

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This devotional will encourage you in your relationship with the Lord and help you meditate on the truth of God’s covenant. Each day you will find a verse. Read and reflect on each verse. You may choose to write your insights in a journal of your choice. This time at home should begin and end with prayer. Don’t be in a hurry; take enough time to hear God’s direction.

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READ EPHESIANS 2:8-9.

Use the following space to write any thoughts God has put in your heart and mind about the things we have looked at in this session and during your Daily Devotions time this week.

So Jesus answered and said to them, “Have faith in God. For assuredly, I say to you, whoever says to this mountain, ‘Be removed and be cast into the sea,’ and does not doubt in his heart, but believes that those things he says will be done, he will have whatever he says. Therefore I say to you, whatever things you ask when you pray, believe that you receive them, and you will have them.

For by grace you have been saved through faith, and that not of yourselves; it is the gift of God, not of works, lest anyone should boast.

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…the Lord Jesus on the same night in which He was betrayed took bread; and when He had given thanks, He broke it and said, “Take, eat; this is My body which is broken for you; do this in remembrance of Me.” In the same manner He also took the cup after supper, saying, “This cup is the new covenant in My blood.

This do, as often as you drink it, in remembrance of Me.”

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Begin your time together by participating in the following questions and activities.

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Greet one another and welcome newcomers.

• Last week, you were encouraged to pray and look for opportunities to invite others to join your group or a church service, or even to have coffee and talk about personal or spiritual matters. Give an update on how this went and what steps you may be taking to make this happen.

INTRODUCTION Communion is a core practice to the Christian faith. Some churches may observe communion each week, and others may observe it once a month or a few times a year. Some churches call it the Eucharist or the Lord’s Supper. But no matter how often they participate in it or what words they use to describe it, Christians are united in prioritizing communion as an important and unique part of the faith.

As we’ll see in this session, communion is not only a way to remember Christ’s sacrifice for us on the cross but also a way to participate in God’s everlasting covenant with us.

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Why is communion significant in Christianity?

Did you understand the Old Testament context for communion before this session?

What aspects of this teaching were new to you?

How does the original Passover in the land of Egypt symbolize the new covenant and communion today?

What significance does God’s blood covenant have on communion?

What does it mean that Jesus is our Passover Lamb and what is the significance?

Why is it important to observe communion and what does it mean to you?

Look back at the covenant elements listed in Week 1 on page 19. How does communion fulfill the terms of the covenant meal?

How will the understanding of communion have an impact on your life and daily living with God and with others?

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Groups grow closer when they serve together. How could your group serve someone in need? You may want to visit a shut-in from your church, provide a meal for a family who is going through difficulty, or give practical help to someone in need. Perhaps you can discuss some areas of ministry involvement at your church. Spend some time praying as a group and asking God to show you how you and your group can serve others. You may want to consider organizing a serving opportunity as a group.

A strong group is made up of people who are being filled up with the love of Jesus so that they can be empowered to love one another. What specific steps will you take this week to connect with God privately so that He can continue to fill you up with His love?

If you’ve focused on prayer in past weeks, maybe you’ll want to direct your attention to regular Bible reading this week. If you’ve been reading God’s word consistently, perhaps you’ll want to take it deeper and try memorizing a verse and journaling consistently.

Tell the group which one you plan to try this week. Then at your next meeting, talk about your progress and challenges.

Do you have any testimonies or praise reports to share with the group?

How can we pray for you this week? Take time to pray for one another. Be sure to write prayer requests on your Prayer and Praise Report on page 104.

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The next day John saw Jesus coming toward him, and said, “Behold! The Lamb of God who takes away the sin of the world!

Then Jesus said to them, “Most assuredly, I say to you, unless you eat the flesh of the Son of Man and drink His blood, you have no life in you. Whoever eats My flesh and drinks My blood has eternal life, and I will raise him up at the last day.

But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our iniquities; The chastisement for our peace was upon Him, And by His stripes we are healed.

This devotional will encourage you in your relationship with the Lord and help you meditate on the truth of God’s covenant. Each day you will find a verse. Read and reflect on each verse. You may choose to write your insights in a journal of your choice. This time at home should begin and end with prayer. Don’t be in a hurry; take enough time to hear God’s direction.

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For as often as you eat this bread and drink this cup, you proclaim the Lord’s death till He comes.

These will make war with the Lamb, and the Lamb will overcome them, for He is Lord of lords and King of kings; and those who are with Him are called, chosen, and faithful.”

Use the following space to write any thoughts God has put in your heart and mind about the things we have looked at in this session and during your Daily Devotions time this week.

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A man who has friends must himself be friendly, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.

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Since beginning this study, how has the understanding of God’s covenant made an impact in your life?

INTRODUCTION It’s easy to call someone a friend. In fact, you might even have hundreds or even thousands of “friends” on Facebook, and you probably have someone you can hang out with if you want to see a movie or go to a game. Calling someone a friend may simply mean you like them and enjoy their company. There’s nothing wrong with that kind of friendship, but God wants us to also have covenant friendships A covenant friendship is one in which both you and your friend support each other, pray for each other, and have the other’s best interest in mind—always. A covenant friendship is marked by loyalty, vulnerability, honesty, and sometimes sacrifice, this type of friendship is modeled throughout the Bible. In this session, we’ll focus on what it means to be this kind of friend, and how to find covenant friendships that will help us grow.

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What qualities do you look for in a good friend?

What is the true definition of the saying, “Blood is thicker than water� and what significance does that have on covenant friendships?

What does it mean to be a friend of God? Is this something you believe God wants for your life?

In what ways can you cultivate a very personal friendship with God?

Do you believe that friendships can have a positive impact on your life as well as negative?

Do you have a friend who strengthens your walk with Jesus? If so, how do you and your friend make this happen?

Discuss with your group ways you can be a friend like this for someone else.

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Last week, your group was encouraged to consider opportunities to help someone in need.

For example, visiting a shut-in from your church, providing a meal for a family who is going through difficulty, giving practical help to someone in need, or serving in ministry at your church. Review this with your group and give an update on your progress.

Commit to continue praying for those listed on page 105. Look for continued opportunities to invite them to your group or church.

How can we pray for you this week? Take time to pray for one another. Be sure to write prayer requests on your Prayer and Praise Report on page 104.

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Beloved, if God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. No one has seen God at any time. If we love one another, God abides in us, and His love has been perfected in us.

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As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend.

Faithful are the wounds of a friend, But the kisses of an enemy are deceitful.

This devotional will encourage you in your relationship with the Lord and help you meditate on the truth of God’s covenant. Each day you will find a verse. Read and reflect on each verse. You may choose to write your insights in a journal of your choice. This time at home should begin and end with prayer. Don’t be in a hurry; take enough time to hear God’s direction.

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READ PROVERBS 2 7:9 (NLT ).

Use the following space to write any thoughts God has put in your heart and mind about the things we have looked at in this session and during your Daily Devotions time this week.

A friend loves at all times, And a brother is born for adversity.

The heartfelt counsel of a friend is as sweet as perfume and incense.

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‌ the Lord is acting as the witness between you and the wife of your youth, because you have broken faith with her, though she is your partner, the wife of your marriage covenant.

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INTRODUCTION God designed marriage not only to bring us joy and fulfillment but also to illustrate the covenant God has with His people. As we’ve learned over the past few weeks, God promises to be faithful, to be loving, to show us kindness and mercy, and to keep the covenant forever. When He designed marriage, He intended for us to experience the same promises with our spouse, and for our marriages to illustrate His covenant to the world.

Of course, we all know that no marriage is perfect, and some have experienced the devastating effects of divorce or unfaithfulness. But as we’ll learn today, there is hope and healing for anyone who wants to follow God with a covenant marriage.

Whether you are married or not, the truths found in this session will have a powerful impact on your relationship with Jesus Christ.

As we close this series, let’s reflect not only on the gift of marriage, but also the great God who loves us with a covenant love.

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What is the connection between human marriages and our relationship with God?

Why does God feel so strongly about marriage and why does He hate divorce?

How do traditional marriage ceremonies illustrate the ancient principles of covenant?

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White wedding dress Wedding rings Bride changing her last name Families seated separately White runner between the aisles Groom entering first Father giving bride away Bride and groom joining right hands Sharing a meal

Considering what we have learned about covenant in this entire series, how does intimacy in marriage also relate to covenant?

What has surprised you most about this series?

What has been one of the most impacting truths you learned in this series, and why?

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Marriage is very important to God. When He designed marriage, He intended for us to experience the highest level of commitment, trust and love with our spouse. Marriage is also meant to illustrate God’s covenant to the whole world.

If you are married, what steps will you take for your marriage to go to yet another level of love, friendship, commitment and trust? If you are not married, but desire to be married, what steps will you take today to ensure that your future spouse and marriage fully please and honor the Lord? If you have experienced the painful effects of divorce or even the death of a spouse, the Lord has promised that He will never leave you nor forsake you.

He not only wants to bring healing to your heart and soul, but He wants to encourage others who may be going through something similar. You may want to share how God has personally come through for you in a very real way. Your words may very well give hope and encouragement to someone in the group.

Take some time to pray over these things as a group.

Review your Small Group Agreement on page 102 and evaluate how well you met your goals. Discuss any changes you would like to make as you move forward as a group.

Commit to the final week of Daily Devotions for this series.

As this is the last meeting in this study, take some time to celebrate the work God has done in the lives of one another. Share with one another how you have grown in your relationship with the Lord since participating in this study. Please also share a word of encouragement regarding another member of the group. Make sure each person gets affirmed and noticed and celebrated.

How can we pray for you this week? Take time to pray for one another. Be sure to write prayer requests on your Prayer and Praise Report on page 104.

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Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish.

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Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.

And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you.

This devotional will encourage you in your relationship with the Lord and help you meditate on the truth of God’s covenant. Each day you will find a verse. Read and reflect on each verse. You may choose to write your insights in a journal of your choice. This time at home should begin and end with prayer. Don’t be in a hurry; take enough time to hear God’s direction.

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READ HOSEA 2:19 (NLT ).

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Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.

I will make you my wife forever, showing you righteousness and justice, unfailing love and compassion.

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Like all fun things in life—have a party! A “get to know you” coffee, dinner, or dessert is a great way to launch a new study. You may want to review the Small Group Agreement (page 102) and share the names of a few friends you can invite to join you. But most importantly, have fun before your study time begins.

Where do we find new members for our group?

We encourage you to pray with your group and to have each person brainstorm a list of people from work, church, your neighborhood, your children’s school, family, the gym, and so forth. Then have each group member invite several of the people on his or her list.

No matter how you find members, it’s vital that you stay on the lookout for new people to join your group. All groups tend to go through healthy attrition—the result of moves, releasing new leaders, ministry opportunities, and so forth—and if the group gets too small, continue to meet; you’ll be amazed at the people God sends your way. The next person just might become a friend for life. You never know!

How long will this group meet?

Most groups meet weekly for at least their first seven weeks. It is recommend that the group meet for the first six months on a weekly basis if at all possible. This allows for continuity, and if people miss a meeting.

At the end of this study, each group member may decide if he or she wants to continue on for another study. Some groups launch relationships for years to come, and others are stepping-stones into another group experience. Either way, enjoy the journey.

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Can we do this study on our own?

Absolutely! This may sound crazy, but one of the best ways to do this study is not with a full house but with a few friends. You may choose to gather with another couple who would enjoy some relational time and then walking through this study with you. Jesus will be with you even if there are only two or three of you (Matthew 18:20).

What if this group is not the best fit for me?

You’re not alone! This could be the result of a many things, life stage difference, geographical distance, level of spiritual maturity, or any number of things. Relax.

Pray for God’s direction, and at the end of this seven-week study, decide whether to continue with this group or find another.

You don’t typically buy the first car you look at or marry the first person you date, and the same goes with a group. However, don’t bail out before the seven weeks are up—God might have something to teach you through this group as well as use you to be a blessing to others.

be for their children. Often parents will decide that they need to have a night to invest into their spiritual lives individually, or as a couple and will make their own arrangement for childcare.

However, there may be people in your group who have childcare needs, and we suggest that you empower the group to openly brainstorm solutions that will serve the needs of your group. An approach that is often used is for adults to meet in the living room or dining room, and to share the cost of a babysitter (or two) who can watch the kids in a different room in the house. This way parents don’t have to be away from their children all evening, and can be available if needs arise. Another option might be to rotate the responsibility of providing a bible lesson or care for the children, which can be an incredible blessing for the kids. But no matter what decision the group makes, it is best to dialogue openly both about the problem, and the solution.

Who is the host?

Each Group has a host. But ideally, the group will mature and members will rotate the leadership of meetings. We have discovered that healthy groups rotate hosts/leaders on a regular basis. This model ensures that all members grow, give their unique contribution, and develop their gifts. This study guide and the Holy Spirit can keep things on track even when you rotate leaders. Christ has promised to be in your midst as you gather. Ultimately, God is your leader each step of the way.

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SMALL GROUP AGREEMENT OUR P URP O S E: To provide a predictable environment where participants can experience authentic community and spiritual growth.

OUR VA LUES: We commit to the following:

GROUP AT TENDANCE

We give priority to the group meeting. We call or email if we will be late or absent.

SAFE ENVIRONMENT

We encourage others with our words and to do our best to help create a safe place where people can be heard and feel loved.

(Please, no quick answers, snap judgments, or simple fixes.)

RESPECT DIFFERENCES

We are gentle and gracious to fellow group members with different spiritual maturity, personal opinions, temperaments, or “imperfections.� We are all works in progress.

CONFIDENTIALITY

We keep anything that is shared strictly confidential and within the group, and avoid sharing information about group members with those outside the group.

SERVE TOGETHER

We serve each other with our God given gifts and recognize that each person has a part to play. We encourage every member to share in a small team role or responsibility over time.

SHARED OWNERSHIP

We encourage different people to host the group and to rotate the responsibility of facilitating some of the meetings. (Ref the Group Calendar on page 103.)

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OUR GROUP E XPEC TAT IONS: Refreshments/mealtimes:

Childcare:

When we will meet (day of week) :

Where we will meet (place):

GROUP CALENDAR Planning and calendaring can help ensure the greatest participation at every meeting. At the end of each meeting, review this calendar. Be sure to include a regular rotation of leaders, and keep in mind birthdays, socials, church events, holidays, and mission/ministry projects.

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Therefore know that the Lord your God, He is God, the faithful God who keeps covenant and mercy for a thousand generations with those who love Him and keep His commandments.

For all of God’s promises have been fulfilled in Christ with a resounding “Yes!” And through Christ, our “Amen” (which means “Yes”) ascends to God for his glory.

2 Corinthians 1:20 (NLT)

Deuteronomy 7:9

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Oh, give thanks to the Lord, for He is good! For His mercy endures forever.

But now He has obtained a more excellent ministry, inasmuch as He is also Mediator of a better covenant, which was established on better promises.

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…the Lord Jesus on the same night in which He was betrayed took bread; and when He had given thanks, He broke it and said, “Take, eat; this is My body which is broken for you; do this in remembrance of Me.” In the same manner He also took the cup after supper, saying, “This cup is the new covenant in My blood. This do, as often as you drink it, in remembrance of Me.”

A man who has friends must himself be friendly, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.

Proverbs 18:24

1 Corinthians 11:23–25

SESSION SEVEN … the Lord is acting as the witness between you and the wife of your youth, because you have broken faith with her, though she is your partner, the wife of your marriage covenant.

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HOSTING AN OPEN HOUSE If you’re starting a new group, try planning an “open house” before your first formal group meeting. Even if you have only two to four core members, it’s a great way to break the ice and to consider prayerfully who else might be open to joining you over the next few weeks. You can also use this kick-off meeting to hand out study guides, spend some time getting to know each other, discuss each person’s expectations for the group and briefly pray for each other. A simple meal or good desserts always make a kick-off meeting more fun.

After people introduce themselves and share how they ended up being at the meeting (you can play a game to see who has the wildest story!), have everyone respond to a few icebreaker questions:

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What is your favorite family vacation?

What is one thing you love about your church or community?

What are three things about your life growing up that most people here don’t know?

Next, ask everyone to tell what he or she hopes to get out of the study. You might want to review the Small Group Agreement and talk about each person’s expectations and priorities.

Finally, set an open chair (maybe two) in the center of your group and explain that this represents someone who would enjoy or benefit from this group but who isn’t here yet. Ask people to pray about inviting someone to join the group over the next few weeks. Don’t worry about ending up with too many people; you can always have one discussion circle in the living room and another in the dining room after you watch the lesson. Each group could then report prayer requests and progress at the end of the session.

You can skip this kick-off meeting if your time is limited, but you’ll experience a huge benefit if you take the time to connect with each other in this way.

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HOST FOR THE FIRST TIME It’s okay to be a little nervous. You may be unsure of what to expect, but you’re going to do great!

Remember that God gives grace to the humble. Take a minute to pray, and ask God to help you as you host – and even in the face of the unknown, remember to have fun. Your group won’t be worried about you doing everything perfectly, and you shouldn’t either. So as you host, enjoy your group, and have fun!

Seek support. Ask your leader, co-leader, or close friend to pray for you and prepare with you before the session. Walking through the study will help you anticipate potentially difficult questions and discussion topics.

Bring your uniqueness to the study. Lean into who you are and how God wants you to uniquely lead the study.

Prepare. Prepare. Prepare. Go through the session in advance. If you are using the DVD, listen to the teaching segment and Host Insight. Consider writing in a journal or fasting for a day to prepare yourself for what God wants to do. Don’t wait until the last minute to prepare.

Ask for feedback so you can grow. Perhaps in an email or on cards handed out at the study, have everyone write down three things you did well and one thing you could improve on. Don’t get defensive.

Instead, show an openness to learn and grow.

Prayerfully consider launching a new group. This doesn’t need to happen overnight, but God’s heart is for this to take place over time. Not all Christians are called to be leaders or teachers, but we are all called to be “shepherds” of a few someday.

Share with your group what God is doing in your heart. God is searching for those whose hearts are fully His. Share your trials and victories. As you share you might be surprised how much people relate.

Prayerfully consider whom you would like to pass the baton to next week. God is ready for the next member of your group to go on the faith journey you just traveled. Consider asking someone else to lead the next group meeting.

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You have responded to the call to help shepherd Jesus’ flock. There are few other tasks in the family of God that surpass the contribution you will be making.

As you prepare to lead, whether it is one session or the entire series, here are a few thoughts to keep in mind.

We encourage you to read these and review them with each new discussion leader before he or she leads.

5. Pray for your group members by name.

Before you begin your session, go around the room in your mind and pray for each member by name. You may want to review the prayer list at least once a week.

Ask God to use your time together to touch the heart of every person uniquely. Expect God to lead you to whomever He wants you to encourage or challenge in a special way. If you listen, God will surely lead!

1. Remember that you are not alone.

God knows everything about you, and He knew that you would be asked to lead your group. Remember that it is common for all good leaders to feel that they are not ready to lead. Moses, Solomon, Jeremiah and Timothy were all reluctant to lead. God promises, “Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you” (Hebrews 13:5). Whether you are leading for one evening, for several weeks, or for a lifetime. God will be with you, and you will be blessed as you serve.

6. When you ask a question, be patient.

Someone will eventually respond. Sometimes people need a moment or two of silence to think about the question. Keep in mind, if silence doesn’t bother you, it won’t bother anyone else. After someone responds, affirm the response with a simple “thanks” or “good job.” Then ask, “How about somebody else?” or “Would someone who hasn’t shared like to add anything?” Be sensitive to new people or reluctant members who aren’t ready to say, pray or do anything.

If you give them a safe setting, they will blossom over time.

2. Don’t try to do it alone.

Pray right now for God to help you build a healthy leadership team. If you can enlist a co-leader to help you lead the group, you will find your experience to be much richer. This is your chance to involve as many people as you can in building a healthy group. All you have to do is call and ask people to help. You’ll probably be surprised at the response.

3. Just be yourself.

If you won’t be you, who will? God wants you to use your unique gifts and temperament. Don’t try to do things exactly like another leader; do them in a way that fits you! Just admit it when you don’t have an answer, and apologize when you make a mistake. Your group will love you for it, and you’ll sleep better at night!

4. Prepare for your meeting ahead of time.

Watch the Host Insight Video, review the Host Notes and watch the lesson and prepare your answers for each question. This preparation will help you lead an effective meeting and discussion time.

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7. Provide transitions between questions.

When guiding the discussion, always read aloud the transitional paragraphs and the questions. Ask the group if anyone would like to read the paragraph or Bible passage. Don’t call on anyone, but ask for a volunteer, and then be patient until someone begins.

Be sure to thank the person who reads aloud.

8. Use small groups.

If your group has more than seven people, we strongly encourage you to have the group gather sometimes in discussion circles of three or four people during the “Discuss the Teaching Together” sections of the study. With a greater opportunity to talk in a small circle, people will connect more with the study, apply more quickly what they’re learning and ultimately get more out of it. A small circle also encourages a quiet person to participate and tends to minimize the effects of a more vocal or dominant member. It can also help people feel more loved in your group. When you gather again at the end of the section, you can have one person summarize the highlights from each circle.

Small circles are also helpful during prayer time. People who are unaccustomed to praying aloud will feel more comfortable trying it with just two or three others. Also, prayer requests won’t take as much time, so circles will have more time to actually pray. When you gather back with the whole group, you can have one person from each circle briefly update everyone on the prayer requests. People are more willing to pray in small circles if they know that the whole group will hear all the prayer requests.

9. Rotate facilitators weekly.

At the end of each meeting, ask the group who should lead the following week. Let the group help select your weekly facilitator. You may be perfectly capable of leading each time, but you will help others grow in their faith and gifts if you give them opportunities to lead.

You can use the Small Group Calendar to fill in the names of all meeting leaders at once if you prefer.

10. One final challenge (for new or first time leaders): Before your first opportunity to lead, look up each of the five passages listed below. Read each one as a devotional exercise to help yourself develop a shepherd’s heart. Trust us on this one. If you do this, you will be more than ready for your first meeting.

Matthew 9:36 1 Peter 5:2-4 Psalm 23 Ezekiel 34:11-16 1 Thessalonians 2:7-8, 11-12

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HOST NOTES EVERY SESSION: Open the group with prayer. This should be a brief, simple prayer, in which you invite God to give you insight as you study. You can pray for specific requests at the end of the meeting, or stop momentarily to pray if a particular situation comes up during your discussion.

Encourage your group to attend church. Regular attendance in church can be a vital key to their spiritual growth.

FAQs for additional information about hosting the group.

The Small Group Calendar on page 103 is a useful tool for planning.

SESSION 4: This is a good time for your group to begin discussing what you will do when you finish this series.

For closing prayer, ask “How can we pray for you?”

Invite everyone to share, but don’t force participation.

Take a few minutes to talk to your group this week and refer to page 115 for some suggestions for what you can do next. You can find great resources at GodSwears.com

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SESSION 5:

If the group is new, welcome and greet everyone.

Introduce yourself by sharing your name and little bit about yourself. Have others do the same. Nametags may be a great idea for your first meeting.

In this session Jerry and Kimberly will lead the group in the covenant meal (communion). Make preparations to have the communion elements (i.e. juice and crackers) ready to be distributed when the time comes in the teaching.

Turn to page 105 and take time to pass around a copy of the Small Group Roster or the group leader’s workbook and write down your information. If everyone in the group is comfortable, you may ask someone to make copies or type up the list so that the group can stay in touch with one another.

On page 102 there is a Small Group Agreement with values that are useful in sustaining healthy, balanced groups. We recommend that you and your group choose one or two values to emphasize during this study.

Take a few minutes to plan hosts and refreshment volunteers for your remaining meetings. Don’t skip this important step! It will revolutionize your group.

We recommend you rotate hosts on a regular basis and let others lead the meeting. Studies show that healthy groups rotate leadership. This helps to develop every member’s ability to shepherd a few people in a safe environment. Even Jesus gave others the opportunity to serve alongside Him (Mark 6:30-44). Look at the 114

SESSION 6: If your group has not made a decision about continuing to meet after this series, have that discussion this week. Talk about what you will study, who will lead, and when you will meet.

We strongly encourage your group to continue meeting.

AFTER GOD SWEARS...

WH AT ’S NEX T As you probably realize from your time with your small group, meeting together with other people and learning from the word of God is a wonderful and impactful practice. Talk with your group about continuing to meet after this series.

We recommend you consider and discuss the following options: OPERATION SOLID LIVES (OSL) – LEVEL 1 OSL is a combination of specific disciplines that create a clear path to dramatic life change. This proven discipleship system will provide all you need to be filled with the word of God, limit distractions, grow and experience freedom together with your group!

START A NEW SERIES There are many small group series available. These series vary in topic and can be very beneficial your group.

You can find more information about these next steps and resources at:

GodSwears.com P.O. Box 4970 Anaheim, CA 92803 Info@GodSwears.com

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