Faith - Greg Hawkins, Don Wink and Sara VanDeBerg

FAITH

SEEKING YOUR LIFE IN CHRIST TOGETHER

Greg Hawkins, Don Wink and Sara VanDeBerg

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Pathways Faith, Hope, and Love A journey toward intimacy with Christ

BOOK ONE Faith: Seeking Your Life in Christ Together

by Greg Hawkins, Don Wink and Sara VanDeBerg

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Copyright © 2014 by Brett Eastman, Greg Hawkins and Lifetogether Ministries ALL RIGHTS RESERVED Published by Lifetogether Ministries, Rancho Santa Margarita, CA No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in retrieval system, or transmitted in any form or by any means -- electronic, mechanical, photocopy, recording, or otherwise -- except for brief quotations in printed reviews, without the prior written permission of the publisher.

Copyright and use of the curriculum template and content is retained by Brett Eastman. Permission for use in the Year of Transformation series is given to Lutheran Church of the Atonement, Barrington, IL. Unless otherwise noted, all Scripture quotes are taken from the HOLY BIBLE, NEW INTERNATIONAL VERSION®. Copyright 1973, 1978, 1984 and 2011 by Biblica, Inc.® Used by permission. All rights reserved worldwide.

ISBN 978-1-940077-20-8 Printed in the United States of America

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CONTRIBUTORS TEACHERS

DON WINK Don Wink has served as Senior Pastor at Lutheran Church of the Atonement, Barrington, Illinois, since 1999. He and his wife, Joy, have three children, who are nearly past the ages of being embarrassed by him. He is losing the race against time, but is gaining wisdom almost as quickly as he is losing energy.

He enjoys serving the community, coaching soccer, and staying connected to friends. Playing golf helps him dispel the myth of progress, but has not yet robbed him of hope.

SARA VANDEBERG Sara VanDeBerg is a graduate of Illinois Wesleyan University and the Lutheran School of Theology at Chicago. She was ordained in 2002 and has served at Lutheran Church of the Atonement in Barrington, IL since 2007. She and her husband, Paul, have three young children. She loves the challenge of balancing marriage, family, and professional life, and is thankful to know that she has only one true identity: daughter of God. In her free time she seeks out opportunities to exercise her creative gifts. Quilting is a perennial favorite.

GREG L. HAWKINS Greg serves on the senior leadership team at Oak Hills Church in San Antonio, Texas, where he offers leadership in the areas of new ministry innovation, strategy development, and spiritual formation. From 1996-2013, he served as Executive Pastor at Willow Creek Community Church, where he assisted Senior Pastor Bill Hybels in providing strategic leadership to Willow Creek’s six campuses.

He is the co-creator and lead practitioner of the REVEAL research initiative and co-author of four books related to the REVEAL research.

He holds a civil engineering degree from Texas A&M University and an MBA from Stanford University. He and his wife Lynn live in the San Antonio area with their three children.

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FAITH: SEEKING YOUR LIFE IN CHRIST TOGETHER

CONTENTS

Welcome by Pastor Don Wink

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Acknowledgments

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Introduction by Greg Hawkins

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Using This Workbook (Read This First)

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Outline for Each Session

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OUTLINE FOR EACH SESSION SESSION ONE: WELCOMED

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SESSION TWO: SAVED

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SESSION THREE: SURROUNDED

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SESSION FOUR: GROUNDED

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—THE JOY OF COMMUNITY

—THE SCANDAL OF GRACE

—THE NATURE OF GOD

—THE WISDOM OF THE BIBLE

SESSION FIVE: GUIDED

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SESSION SIX: INVITED

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—THE PRIVILEGE OF PRAYER

—THE OPPORTUNITY TO SERVE

APPENDICES

Frequently Asked Questions Small Group Agreement Small Group Calendar Spiritual Partners Memory Verse Cards (Clip and Review)

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SMALL GROUP LEADERS

Hosting an Open House Leading for the First Time Leadership Training Prayer and Praise Report Small Group Roster

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WELCOME Honesty is an essential ingredient to any change effort. Before we can go someplace new, we have to acknowledge where we are. With that in mind, I want to begin with a brief confession.

Until about eight years ago, on the subject of spiritual growth, here is what I had heard, believed, and even MAY have said about church members: What they want and what they need are far, far apart. They need more of God in their lives, they need to know both the love of God and the possibilities that love opens up to them. But what they want is safety, stuff, accomplishments, stuff, experiences, stuff…you get the idea.

I have since learned that what our people WANT and what they NEED are much more closely aligned. Not only do we need more of God in our lives, we want more of God in our lives. Not only do we need to know the love of God, we want to know it.

And not only do we need to be open to a life grounded in Jesus’s self-giving love, we want that life.

The challenge for all of us, pastors and members alike, is to cut through all of the competing forces and voices, both internal and external, that would try to persuade us otherwise. Assuming that we sleep an average of eight hours a night (and I know that for many of us, that would be “sleeping in”), Sunday worship gives us an hour each week to recalibrate our lives so that what we need and want, and what God wants for us are congruent. That leaves just over 110 waking hours each week to get knocked off course. It’s difficult to maintain any kind of spiritual vitality that way, let alone to grow.

The Year of Transformation that we are now beginning is Atonement’s most concerted effort to move more of our God-life into the other 110 hours we are awake each week.

I believe that this unique mix of the best research on what leads to spiritual growth, the best practices of small group Christian community, and the teaching and personal stories of Atonement’s own people are well worth the effort. I fully expect that we will grow in love for God and for each other individually and collectively, and that after this year, there will be no going back!

I look forward to this year and to what God will do within and among us.

Grace and Peace, Don

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ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS “A Year of Transformation” was born in a conversation in spring, 2014, with Greg Hawkins. When I asked him what he was working on, he described a template of spiritual growth resources that he had just completed with Brett Eastman.

Given that our staff and volunteer leaders at Atonement had been wrestling over how to create practical “what’s next” steps for at least three years, I believe my immediate response was, “When can I buy that?” Greg tried to explain that it was not an off-the-shelf resource, but instead involved local church teaching and content.

Both Greg and Brett were in the Chicago area in May, and we arranged to meet for dinner. It was memorable because while we were eating dinner, the LA Kings scored six straight goals to beat the Chicago Blackhawks at home and turn the tide of their playoff series. Brett was happy about that; I forgave him his partisanship. On a happier note, Brett was able to generate much of the vision for what would become A Year of Transformation that evening.

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Between May and October, the team at Lifetogether got us organized. Keri Wyatt Kent and Allen White have brought all of their faithfulness and competence to this project. The production team took a bunch of oncamera novices and worked miracles.

The staff at Atonement discerned that God had been aligning all of the elements for us to make our biggest and most concerted push yet toward the spiritual growth of our members and friends.

They moved really fast (for a church) and put a lot of other things on hold in order to make this happen. Thank you, dear colleagues.

Atonement members have shared their lives through testimonies, their resources to fund this initiative, and their gifts in working behind the scenes on both the print and video production.

You know who you are...and the Year of Transformation is both on your shoulders and in front of you.

A project of this size and complexity exceeds my capacity to even know everyone who helped make it happen, let alone remember and thank them. So, in advance, I apologize for any omissions.

Tami Pringle has served as our local project manager with persistence and grace. Dave Johnson, Ann Pride, and Mary Williams have served with her as the core team, and each have brought their gifts and energy to the work. Sara VanDeBerg wrote and delivered much of the teaching content, and proved that it is possible to be both creative and collaborative.

Finally, Ruth Bruch has brought her considerable gifts for strategic leadership to Atonement’s staff and volunteer leaders for several years. In short, she has helped us all translate dreams into action plans, and obstacles into solvable problems. While her health did not permit her to record the testimony that she had prepared, in a very real way, this series represents part of her legacy.

In advance, I also acknowledge with gratitude all of the people of Atonement and beyond who will participate in the Year of Transformation. In doing so, you will help shape the world and your lives toward greater love for God and for each other.

Grace and Peace, Don Wink

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INTRODUCTION BY GREG HAWKINS “I’M INTERESTED IN GOD, BUT I REALLY DON’T UNDERSTAND HIM.” “I’M CURIOUS ABOUT FAITH, BUT RELIGION SEEMS TO BE ABOUT GUILT.” “GOD LOVES ME? WHAT DOES THAT MEAN, EXACTLY?” “I’M EXCITED ABOUT MY RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD, BUT I’M WONDERING WHAT TO DO NEXT.” “I BELIEVE IN JESUS AND I GO TO CHURCH, BUT MY FAITH HAS KIND OF STALLED OUT. I’M STUCK.”

If you’ve ever found yourself making statements like this, you are not alone. Since 2003, I’ve been involved in researching more than half a million church attenders. Most of them admit that they are trying to figure out this thing called faith. What is faith? How do you move forward spiritually? Is there a pathway to follow to find peace and joy?

What if you could replace the statements above with radical ideas like: “I’m going deeper in my faith, and the relationship I have with God brings me joy.”

“God loves me! I know it. I feel His presence and have peace in my heart.”

“Every day God is leading me on a great adventure. I never knew life could be this good.”“I really do believe I can do all things with God’s help.”

“My faith is really important to me; it gives my life meaning.”

Such a life is possible. In our research, we’ve uncovered what helps people move forward along the path toward a life of fulfillment and joy. And the study you hold in your hands is a road map, of sorts, to help you move toward that reality. While every person travels their own journey, there is a path that will move you toward living a life of faith, toward having a deep hope in your soul, toward experiencing love in a whole new way.

The journey begins with faith—what does it mean to have faith? How do we do that?

When we embrace faith, we discover that it gives us hope—the belief that things can be better, that we’re on a journey that will take us in the right direction. If we keep moving forward in hope, we’ll come to find the greatest thing of all—love. God, ultimately, invites us to live a life of love. How? That’s what this three-study series will help us to discover.

Not only is it possible to live a Christ-centered life, one in which everything you do reflects Christ, but that’s the way God intended for you to live. This study can help you find the pathway to that kind of life.

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USING THIS

WORKBOOK The Pathways Year of Transformation series is made up of three six-week studies: Faith, Hope, and Love. While we recommend groups work through the three studies in succession, each also stands alone. Here at Atonement, we’ll be working our way through all three studies as a congregation.

The studies, and lessons within them, are designed to catalyze movement. The topics and methods for this series came out of the ongoing REVEAL research of more than 500,000 church attenders and their spiritual life, including members of Atonement.

This study consists of six sessions that include Scripture, discussion questions, group activities and individual experiences for group members.

You’ll also find helpful resources in the appendices, including a Small Group Leaders section. If you are facilitating/leading or co-leading a small group, that section will give you some hard-learned experiences of others that will encourage you and help you avoid many common obstacles to effective small group leadership.

Consider the questions and information a guide—but let God lead you as you study together. If you think of a better question than the next one in the lesson, ask it. Take to heart the insights included in the Frequently Asked Questions pages and the Small Group Leaders section.

The outline on the next few pages will help you understand what’s included in each lesson. Read through it so you know what to expect in each lesson and how each session will flow.

Most of all, just have fun. Building community in a small group is rewarding, and one of the best parts about the journey of faith.

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OUTLINE

OF EACH SESSION

Life change happens in small groups. In the setting of community, we can obey Jesus’ command to love one another. In this study, you’ll not only read and discuss Biblical texts, you’ll think and talk about how to apply what you’ve learned to your everyday life. The goal is not that you’d accumulate knowledge, but that your life would be transformed, and your character will reflect that of Jesus Christ.

A typical group session for the Pathways: Faith study will include the following sections: WEEKLY MEMORY VERSES. Each session opens with a Memory Verse that emphasizes an important truth from the session. This is an optional exercise, but memorizing Scripture can be a vital part of filling our minds with God’s will for our lives. We encourage you to give this important habit a try. The verses for our six sessions are also listed in the appendix.

SHARE YOUR STORY. The foundation for spiritual growth is an intimate connection with God and His family. You build that connection by sharing your story with a few people who really know you and who earn your trust. This section includes some simple questions to get the group talking—letting you share as much or as little of your story as you feel comfortable doing. An important part of this section is the opportunity to check in with your prayer partner.

HEAR GOD’S STORY. In this section, you’ll read the Bible and listen to teaching—in order to hear God’s story and begin to see how His story aligns with yours. When the study directs you to, you’ll pop in the DVD and watch a short teaching segment. You’ll then have an opportunity to read a passage of Scripture, and discuss both the teaching and the text with your group. You won’t focus on accumulating information but on how you should live in light of the Word of God.

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CREATE A NEW STORY God wants you to be a part of His Kingdom—to see where your story fits into His. That will mean change. It will require you to go His way rather than your own. This won’t happen overnight, but it should happen steadily. Talking with others who can encourage you and pray for you will help you to grow. The Bible reminds us to “be doers of the Word, not just hearers” (James 1:22). The discussion questions in this section focus on practical application of what you’ve learned in the lesson.

This section will also have a question or two that will challenge you to live out your faith by serving others, sharing your faith, and worshiping God. You’ll discuss these during your meeting.

STUDY NOTES. This is a brief section with additional commentary, background or insights on the passage you’ll study in the Hear God’s Story section.

ADDITIONAL STUDY. If you have time and want to dig deeper into more Bible passages about the topic at hand, we’ve provided an additional passage and questions.

Your group may choose to do study homework ahead of each meeting in order to cover more biblical material. If you prefer not to do study homework, this section will provide you with plenty to discuss within the group. These options allow individuals or the whole group to expand their study, while still accommodating those who can’t do homework or are new to your group.

DAILY DEVOTIONS. Each week on the Daily Devotions pages, we provide scriptures to read and reflect on between group meetings. This is a chance to slow down, to read just a small portion of Scripture each day, and reflect and pray through it. Each day, you’ll not only read a verse, but you’ll also read a “reflect” paragraph written as if it were a personal note to you from Jesus. You’ll then have a chance to journal your response to what you’ve read. Use this section to seek God on your own throughout the week. This time at home should begin and end with prayer. Don’t hurry; take enough time to hear God’s direction.

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SESSION ONE

MEMORY VERSE “A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, that you are my disciples, if you love one another.”

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WELCOMED THE JOY OF COMMUNITY

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The life of Christian faith is a shared journey. You can read and study and explore on your own. You can learn about Jesus and His teachings. You can get the facts about faith. But it’s when you join others on the journey that the fun begins.

In other words, you don’t have to travel this journey alone. In fact, by just showing up, you’ve taken an important step. You’re sitting right now with a group of other people who want to join you on this journey—others who need you to come along with them as well. You’ve been welcomed into community.

What if, when we embark on the adventure of faith with like-minded travelers, God smiles and says, “Yes—that’s how I’d hoped they would do it”? What if seeing our isolation eased by community makes Him glad?

That’s what we’re going to talk about in this session.

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SHARE YOUR STORY

EACH OF US HAS A STORY. The events of our life—good, bad, challenging or wonderful—have shaped who we are. God knows your story, and He intends to redeem it—to use every struggle and every joy to ultimately bring you to Himself. When we tell our stories, sharing them with others, we give others the opportunity to see God at work.

When we share our stories, we realize we are not alone—that we have common experiences and thoughts, and that others can understand what we are going through. Your story can encourage someone else, and telling it can be a path to freedom for you, and for those you share it with.

As you begin at this first meeting, take time to pass around a copy of the Small Group Roster on page 163 a sheet of paper, or one of you pass your Study Guide, opened to the Small Group Roster. Have everyone write down their contact information. Ask someone to make copies or type up a list with everyone’s information and email it to the group this week.

Then, begin your time together by using the following questions and activities to get people talking.

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Describe one incident or event from your childhood that shaped your understanding of the word “faith.”

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*Now look at this continuum, and place a check mark above the statements that resonate most with your current situation. 1) Not sure I believe in God, 2) I believe in God but am not sure about Jesus, 3) I am early in my relationship with Jesus, 4) I know and love Jesus but I find it difficult to be consistent in my spiritual life, 5) I feel very close to Jesus and depend on Him daily for guidance, or 6) My relationship with Jesus Christ is the most important relationship in my life.

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Whether your group is new or ongoing, it’s always important to reflect on and review your values together. On pages 148 is a Small Group Agreement with the values we’ve found most useful in sustaining healthy, balanced groups. We recommend that you choose one or two values—ones you haven’t previously focused on or have room to grow in—to emphasize during this study. Choose ones that will take your group to the next stage of intimacy and spiritual health.

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If your group is new, welcome newcomers. Introduce everyone—you may even want to have name tags for your first meeting.

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We recommend that you rotate host homes on a regular basis and let the hosts lead the meeting. We’ve come to realize that healthy groups rotate leadership.

This helps to develop every member’s ability to shepherd a few people in a safe environment. Even Jesus gave others the opportunity to serve alongside Him (Mark 6:30–44). Look at the FAQs in the Appendix for additional information about hosting or leading the group.

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The Small Group Calendar on page 150 is a tool for planning who will host and lead each meeting. Take a few minutes to plan hosts and leaders for your remaining meetings. Don’t pass this up! It will revolutionize your group.

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HEAR

GOD’S STORY

God uses stories to guide us. When we read the true stories of Scripture, we learn what God is like. We see His plan unfolding. And we learn principles for our own lives. How can we become a part of God’s story? By seeing where our stories align with His. By not just understanding what it means to follow Him, but actually doing it—changing our attitudes and actions to live as He would live.

Watch the DVD segment now, then use the following questions to guide your discussion of the Bible passage—which records the words of Jesus in a conversation with His disciples. (You may want to look up the full conversation in your Bible). The study notes on page 24 can help you understand more of the background of this passage.

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READ JOHN 15:9-17 9 “As the Father has loved me, so have I loved you. Now remain in my love. 10 If you keep my commands, you will remain in my love, just as I have kept my Father’s commands and remain in his love. 11 I have told you this so that my joy may be in you and that your joy may be complete. 12 My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you. 13 Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends. 14 You are my friends if you do what I command. 15 I no longer call you servants, because a servant does not know his master’s business. Instead, I have called you friends, for everything that I learned from my Father I have made known to you. 16 You did not choose me, but I chose you and appointed you so that you might go and bear fruit—fruit that will last—and so that whatever you ask in my name the Father will give you. 17 This is my command: Love each other.”

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What do you think Jesus meant when He said “remain in My love”? Can you think of a human relationship in which you’ve “remained” in someone’s love?

What’s involved or required to maintain that?

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*What does remaining in Jesus’ love enable us to do?

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What do you think of when you hear the phrase “the Father’s commands”?

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Why would Jesus command us to love? What happens if we don’t do it?

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If you read verse 13, what conclusions would you draw about the Christian faith and its values when it comes to community?

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According to verse 16, who initiated your relationship with Jesus—even if you are just beginning to explore faith?

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*In the video, Pastor Don said, “we lay down our lives when we surrender our desire to be right and to insist on having it our way. We make room for others, and, in so doing, become more together than we could ever be alone.” Tell about a time you let go of having your own way. What unexpected benefits did you experience?

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STUDY

NOTES

Lay down one’s life…Jesus had this conversation with His disciples right before He was arrested and killed by the religious and government authorities. He was not speaking figuratively; He literally laid His life down and died for His friends, and for all of humanity (See also 1 John 3:16.). While we may never be called to martyrdom, it can be difficult to “lay down” lesser things than our physical life. For example, laying down our rights, or laying down our need to have things go our way can be challenging. The life of faith calls us to be unselfish. Ultimately, that unselfishness is rewarding, but challenging. The good news is, others around us in our community help us by their example and encouragement.

We can lay down our lives when we truly believe and trust that God will provide all we need. We tend to protect our lives because we believe that if we don’t take care of ourselves, no one else will. But Jesus asks us to trust him.

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Love…In our culture, the word love is overused and misunderstood. We use the same word to describe our enthusiasm for a hobby (“I just love reading mystery novels.”) as we do to describe our love for our spouse, family or even God. Ancient Greek, the original language of the New Testament, had at least three words that meant love. Agape is used to describe selfless, active love. It differs from phileo (warm friendship or brotherly love) and eros (romantic or sexual love). In this passage, we see the verb agapomen, a verb form of agape that implies a strong command—do this! God’s love for us is anything but casual. It is deep, unconditional, and willing to sacrifice. It takes the initiative, but puts the other first. (See 1 Corinthians 13). Because God first loved us in this way, we’re able to love others with similar intensity and selflessness. In fact, we can’t love others without God first loving us. God loves us, which allows and enables us to love others.

Use this space to record your thoughts, questions and ponderings as you watch the video and discuss the Bible passage.

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CREATE A NEW STORY

God knows your story, and He is inviting you to see where your story fits into His. That might mean considering a new direction. This is a process, and won’t happen overnight, but it should happen steadily. By small, simple choices, we begin to change. We let go of guilt and move toward freedom. We move toward love, toward joy, and realize that these steps are moving us forward on our journey of faith. The Holy Spirit helps us along the way: giving us gifts to serve the body, offering us insights into Scripture, challenging us to love not only those around us but those far from God. One of the clear catalysts that our research shows causes movement is to be a part of a community. We grow in faith when we’re loved by others, and have an opportunity to love them as well.

In this section, talk about how you will apply what you’ve learned so far. Then think about practical steps you can take in the coming week to live out what you’ve learned.

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Who is your closest friend? What would you say caused you to become good friends? What connects you?

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*What barriers have you encountered in your journey of faith? What is one thing you can do to dismantle just one of those barriers?

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*Jesus told us to love one another. Some people are easier for us to love than others. How would you answer the question Pastor Don asked, “What relationship or situation might God be using to teach you how to love?”

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What is one thing that would change in your life if you were to love people— not just your friends and family, but all people?

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The Bible passage says that Jesus appointed us to bear fruit. What do you think that means? Who is someone you know who seems to be “bearing fruit” in their spiritual life?

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*What spiritual fruit do you long to see in your own life? For example, do you wish you were more loving or patient or kind? Or something else?

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The journey toward faith will help you get closer to God. This week, how will you nurture that connection? Can you commit to spending time daily praying or studying God’s word? (Use the Daily Devotions section to guide you.)

Tell the group how you plan to follow Jesus this week, and then, at your next meeting, talk about your progress and challenges.

TO CLOSE YOUR TIME TOGETHER, SPEND SOME TIME WORSHIPING GOD TOGETHER— PRAYING, SINGING, READING SCRIPTURE.

Have someone use their musical gifts to lead the group in a worship song. Try singing a cappella, using a worship CD, or have someone accompany your singing with a musical instrument.

Read a passage of Scripture together. Make it a time of praise and worship, as the words remind you of all God has done for you. Choose a psalm or other favorite verse.

Ask everyone to share: “How can we pray for you this week?” Be sure to write prayer requests on your Prayer and Praise Report on page 160.

Close your meeting with prayer.

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ADDITIONAL STUDY If you feel God nudging you to go deeper, take some time between now and our next meeting to dig into His Word. Explore the Bible passages related to this session’s theme on your own, jotting your reflections in a journal or in this study guide. A great way to gain insight on a passage is to read it in several different translations. You may want to use a Bible app or website to compare translations.

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READ EPHESIANS 4:29-32 (THE LIVING BIBLE) 29 Don’t use bad language. Say only what is good and helpful to those you are talking to, and what will give them a blessing.

30 Don’t cause the Holy Spirit sorrow by the way you live. Remember, he is the one who marks you to be present on that day when salvation from sin will be complete.

31 Stop being mean, bad-tempered, and angry. Quarreling, harsh words, and dislike of others should have no place in your lives. 32 Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God has forgiven you because you belong to Christ.

In some translations, verse 29 says we should say “only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs.” What words would build up others? What specific words could you say to that would bless others?

What are some examples of “harsh words”? Do you ever find yourself saying words like those?

Verse 32 says one distinctive characteristic of Christian community is forgiveness.

Most of us want to be in a community that forgives us when we mess up.

However, forgiving others is not easy, being a forgiving person takes work. In other words, it’s wonderful to be forgiven—but what benefits are there to being someone who forgives others?

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DAILY DEVOTIONALS

During the week between meetings, keep walking on your journey of faith by reading and reflecting on God’s Word. Each day, read the verse given. Take your time.

Imagine that Jesus is sitting beside you. Then, imagine Him saying the words in the “Reflect” section to you personally—reassuring you with His presence and loving you with His words of comfort and strength.

After receiving Jesus’ words to you, take some time to journal your response back to Him. You can write whatever is on your heart. Answer the “Respond” question only if it’s helpful. You may want to go another direction and you’re free to do that. On the first day, you may want to read over all the verses for the week to get the “big picture” of the passage. But then walk slowly verse by verse, listening to Jesus and responding to Him as you meditate on the truths of Scripture and experience His presence.

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DAY 1: READ ROMANS 12:10-11 “Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves. Never be lacking in zeal, but keep your spiritual fervor, serving the Lord.”

REFLECT When you seek to promote yourself, you actually isolate yourself. The path to life-giving community begins, My child, with thinking first of others.

This isn’t easy to do, because it goes against human nature. But if you seek to serve Me and know Me, I’ll help you to honor others. When you devote yourself to others, it comes back to you—so don’t be afraid to honor others.

RESPOND How does loving others impact your spiritual “zeal”?

DAY 2: READ ROMANS 12:12 “Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer.”

REFLECT I know all about the things that afflict you, that test your patience, My child. I know how weary you get. But don’t give up. Be patient, be faithful.

You’re not alone. I’m there for you, helping you along. When you put your faith in me, you’re going to grow in joy, you’ll be more patient, you’ll be strengthened to pray. I’ll change you from the inside out. Trust me.

RESPOND What afflictions are you dealing with right now? What do you need from Jesus?

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DAY 3: READ ROMANS 12:13 “Share with the Lord’s people who are in need. Practice hospitality.”

REFLECT The faith I’m inviting you into is not just about you. It’s about being part of a community—and that extends beyond your normal circles. It includes those who are in need.

When you love others by welcoming them into your circle or around your table, when you provide for those who are hurting—you’re forging a stronger relationship with me. You’re discovering what it means to live in faith.

RESPOND What would it look like to practice hospitality, even in the context of this group?

DAY 4: READ ROMANS 12:14-15 “Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse. Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn.”

REFLECT An essential component of Christian faith, and Christian community, is empathy. I don’t just want you to hang out with one another, engaging in superficial chitchat.

I’m inviting you to something deeper—a community where you are kind even to those who don’t return the favor. Where you build connections by coming alongside one another in good times and bad.

RESPOND What does it look like to “mourn with those who mourn”? Who needs you to mourn with them right now?

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DAY 5: READ ROMANS 12:16 “Live in harmony with one another. Do not be proud, but be willing to associate with people of low position. Do not be conceited.”

REFLECT My followers live in harmony—not in a push-conflict-under-the-rug sort of way. Rather, they work out conflicts with love and patience. They choose not to hold grudges; they choose to forgive and to love.

The community of My followers is not interested in social climbing or in grabbing the admiration of others. Rather, they just love—without regard to social status or position.

RESPOND Who is someone—of higher position than you—who was willing to associate with you?

How did that make you feel?

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MEMORY VERSE “For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith—and this is one can boast.”

SESSION TWO

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THE SCANDAL OF GRACE

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Have you ever received an extravagant gift? A gift that seemed outrageous, or over the top? Such presents might make us feel grateful; but also, truth be told, a bit uncomfortable. We wonder what we can possibly give in return.

Imagine receiving such a gift from a friend and saying, “Wow, that’s just over the top. Here, let me give you some money to help defray the cost.” You wouldn’t do that. Or saying, “Wow, I just don’t deserve this. But let me come to your house and clean your bathrooms or do some chores—so I can earn this gift.” No, you wouldn’t do that, either.

God has given you a gift: His unconditional love and acceptance.

And just as you wouldn’t pull out your wallet when a friend gives you a present, God doesn’t expect you to try to “pay” for His love by doing good deeds or following rules.

God’s love is not based on your performance. Nothing you do can make Him love you more; nothing you’ve done will make Him love you less. That’s what the Bible means when it talks about grace.

God just loves you, apart from your choices or even your interest in Him. Why? Because God is, by nature, a generous giver. God created you, and God wants to be in relationship with you. That’s really what faith is about—relating to God. And God is the One who initiates that relationship.

God doesn’t consider whether you deserve the gift of His love and grace. He just freely gives it to you, hoping you’ll respond by loving Him back.

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SHARE YOUR STORY

As we said last week, when we tell our stories, sharing them with others, we give others the opportunity to see God at work. Your story is being shaped, even in this moment, by being a part of this group. In fact, few things can shape us more significantly than community.

When we share our stories, we can encourage others, and learn from our own experience. We often feel God’s presence in those moments when we are brave enough to reveal our private thoughts and feelings.

Open your group with prayer. This should be a brief, simple prayer, in which you invite God to be with you as you meet. You can pray for specific requests at the end of the meeting, or stop momentarily to pray if a particular situation comes up during your discussion.

Then, begin your time together by using the following questions and activities to get people talking.

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*Describe the most extravagant gift you ever received. How did you feel when you got it? How did receiving it impact your relationship with the person who gave it to you?

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When you hear the word “grace” what comes to mind?

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*Pair up with someone in your group. (We suggest that men partner with men and women with women.) This person will be your spiritual partner for the rest of this study. He or she doesn’t have to be your best friend, but will simply encourage you to complete the goals you set for yourself during this study.

Following through on a resolution is tough when you’re on your own. Having a partner to cheer you on can make all the difference!

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HEAR

GOD’S STORY

How can we become a part of God’s story?

By seeing where our stories align with His, and by understanding what it means to follow Him. Watch the DVD session now. Then read the Bible passage, and use the questions that follow to guide your discussion.

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READ ROMANS 5:1-8 (THE MESSAGE) “By entering through faith into what God has always wanted to do for us—set us right with him, make us fit for him—we have it all together with God because of our Master Jesus. And that’s not all: We throw open our doors to God and discover at the same moment that he has already thrown open his door to us. We find ourselves standing where we always hoped we might stand—out in the wide open spaces of God’s grace and glory, standing tall and shouting our praise.

3-5 There’s more to come: We continue to shout our praise even when we’re hemmed in with troubles, because we know how troubles can develop passionate patience in us, and how that patience in turn forges the tempered steel of virtue, keeping us alert for whatever God will do next. In alert expectancy such as this, we’re never left feeling shortchanged. Quite the contrary—we can’t round up enough containers to hold everything God generously pours into our lives through the Holy Spirit!

6-8 Christ arrives right on time to make this happen. He didn’t, and doesn’t, wait for us to get ready. He presented himself for this sacrificial death when we were far too weak and rebellious to do anything to get ourselves ready. And even if we hadn’t been so weak, we wouldn’t have known what to do anyway. We can understand someone dying for a person worth dying for, and we can understand how someone good and noble could inspire us to selfless sacrifice. But God put his love on the line for us by offering his Son in sacrificial death while we were of no use whatever to him.”

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What does this passage tell us God always wanted to do for us?

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*How does this passage describe God? What does it tell us about God’s character and actions?

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In what ways has God “thrown open His door” to you?

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*What questions or thoughts did the video raise for you about grace? What do you think it means that Jesus’ grace was scandalous?

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Verses 3-5 talk about how life’s trials and struggles strengthen our character and our faith, and “keep us alert for whatever God will do next.” Do you agree that life’s struggles make people more attentive to God? Why or why not?

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Verses 6-8 assert that Jesus died for us, even before we had any understanding or interest in Him. What do you think motivated Jesus to do that? What does the text say about God’s motives?

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STUDY

NOTES

The true scandal of grace is that Jesus died in our place before we even knew anything about Him or his love. We’re made right with God through Jesus’ sacrificial death. This is what theologians call “substitutionary atonement.”

He atoned, or paid for, our sins. He was not punished for His own wrongdoing, because He did not sin. Rather, He served as a substitute for all of humanity, all of whom sin and need forgiveness. All of the Old Testament laws about sacrifice, requiring unblemished animals, pointed symbolically to the coming sacrifice that Jesus would make, once for all.

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Use this space to record your thoughts, questions and ponderings as you watch the video and discuss the Bible passage.

NOTES

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CREATE A NEW STORY

In this section, talk about how you will apply the wisdom you’ve learned from the teaching and Bible study. Then think about practical steps you can take in the coming week to live out what you’ve learned. It’s been said that justice is getting what you deserve; mercy is not getting what you deserve; and grace is getting what you don’t deserve. For example, imagine you get caught speeding. If you got a ticket, you received justice; if you got off with a warning, you received mercy.

But if you got caught speeding, got a ticket, and someone else paid your fine for you, you experienced grace.

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*Tell about a time when you received justice, mercy or grace in your life.

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*In her teaching, Pastor Sara asked, “Have you ever been on the receiving end of scandalous grace?” How would you answer that question?

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The Bible passage we read above talks about God generously pouring out blessings in our lives. How does this idea compare with how you have viewed God in the past?

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Verse 6 in the passage above says that Christ doesn’t wait for us to get ready before loving us and giving us His grace. In what ways do you (or people you know) try to “get ready” before they move forward on their journey of faith?

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*What implications does the truth that we can’t “get ready” by cleaning up our act have for you?

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What is one thing you want to do this week to respond to God’s amazing grace?

A life of faith is really about having a relationship with God. Any relationship is strengthened when we simply spend time with the other person, talking to them.

Here are some simple ways to connect with God. Tell the group which one you plan to try this week, and then, at your next meeting, talk about your progress and challenges.

Prayer. Commit to personal prayer and daily connection with God. You may find it helpful to write your prayers in a journal.

Memorizing. Taking one Bible verse from this lesson and committing it to memory can be an exciting spiritual step. You’ll be surprised when the verse comes to mind at just the right time. You’ll find that you can use it to guide you when you pray or even just think. Try it, and share what happens with the group at your next meeting.

Daily Devotions. The Daily Devotions provided in each session offer an opportunity for reading a short Bible passage five days a week during the course of this study. In our hurry-up world, we often move too quickly through everything—even reading God’s Word! Slow down. Don’t just skim, but take time to read carefully and reflect on God’s Word. Write down your insights on what you read each day. Copy a portion of Scripture on a sticky note and put it somewhere you’ll see it, such as your car’s dashboard or the kitchen table.

Or text it to yourself! Think about it when you sit at red lights, or while you’re eating a meal. Reflect on what God is personally saying to you through these words.

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TO CLOSE YOUR TIME TOGETHER, SPEND SOME TIME WORSHIPING GOD TOGETHER— PRAYING, SINGING, READING SCRIPTURE. Have someone use their musical gifts to lead the group in a worship song. Try singing a cappella, using a worship CD, or have some one accompany your singing with a musical instrument.

Read a passage of Scripture together. Make it a time of praise and worship, as the words remind you of all God has done for you. Choose a psalm or other favorite verse.

Ask everyone to share: “How can we pray for you this week?” Be sure to write prayer requests on your Prayer and Praise Report on page 162.

Close your meeting with prayer.

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ADDITIONAL STUDY If you feel God nudging you to go deeper, take some time between now and our next meeting to dig into God’s Word. Explore the Bible passage below to think more about grace. You might want to write down reflections in a journal or in this study guide.

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READ TITUS 3:3-8 (THE MESSAGE) “It wasn’t so long ago that we ourselves were stupid and stubborn, dupes of sin, ordered every which way by our glands, going around with a chip on our shoulder, hated and hating back. But when God, our kind and loving Savior God, stepped in, He saved us from all that. It was all his doing; we had nothing to do with it. He gave us a good bath, and we came out of it new people, washed inside and out by the Holy Spirit. Our Savior Jesus poured out new life so generously. God’s gift has restored our relationship with him and given us back our lives. And there’s more life to come—an eternity of life! You can count on this.”

Can you remember a time in your life when the first sentence in this passage would have accurately described you? What was that like?

Read slowly through the passage and underline the words that the writer uses to describe God or His actions. Note your gut response to each word: Do you agree, disagree? What surprises you about these words?

Find this statement in the text above and underline it: “It was all His doing; we had nothing to do with it.” How does this statement compare to what you thought about faith or religion in the past (in your childhood, or even a few minutes ago)?

According to this passage, what gift did God give to us? What happened when He gave us this gift?

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DAILY DEVOTIONALS

Continue on your journey toward understanding and experiencing a life of faith by taking a little time each day during the coming week to reflect on this amazing idea of grace. Each day, read the verse given. Take your time. Imagine that Jesus is sitting with you. Then, imagine Him saying the words in the “Reflect” section to you—reassuring you with His presence and loving you with His words of comfort and strength. After receiving Jesus’ words to you, take some time to journal your response back to Him. You can write whatever is on your heart. Answer the “Respond” question only if it’s helpful. You may want to go another direction, and you’re free to do so.

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DAY 1: READ EPHESIANS 2:1-2 “As for you, you were dead in your transgressions and sins, in which you used to live when you followed the ways of this world and of the ruler of the kingdom of the air, the spirit who is now at work in those who are disobedient.”

REFLECT Do you know your worth in My eyes? Because I love you, I rescued you from the pit of death that you didn’t even know you were trapped in. The ways of the world sparkle and seem enticing, but they’re another trap. They don’t give life—they take it away.

Follow Me, and you’ll move from death to life.

RESPOND What transgressions or sins have drained you, made you feel less than fully alive? What are some things that you used to do that you regret?

DAY 2: READ EPHESIANS 2:3 “All of us also lived among them at one time, gratifying the cravings of our flesh and following its desires and thoughts. Like the rest, we were by nature deserving of wrath.”

REFLECT You’re not alone. You’re not the only one who makes mistakes, who has given in to just doing what felt good or seemed like a good idea at the time. It’s human nature. I don’t ever pretend those sins didn’t happen. They did, and they saddened Me greatly.

But even as you did things you knew were wrong, even at the moment you did them, I still loved you. Nothing you’ve done could make Me love you less. My love is complete and unconditional.

RESPOND What afflictions are you dealing with right now? What do you need from Jesus?

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DAY 3: READ EPHESIANS 2:4-5 “But because of his great love for us, God, who is rich in mercy, made us alive with Christ even when we were dead in transgressions—it is by grace you have been saved.”

REFLECT My child, you could not save yourself. How can a person already slipping under the water save themselves from drowning? But My mercy is powerful—rich and full, more than you can imagine. Though you have messed up, I refuse to let you go. I saved you by My grace—do you even understand what that means? Do you know how much I love you? I gave you life when you were dead, and brought you back to life again.

RESPOND What does it mean that God is rich in mercy? What has He saved us from?

DAY 4: READ EPHESIANS 2:6-7 “And God raised us up with Christ and seated us with him in the heavenly realms in Christ Jesus, in order that in the coming ages he might show the incomparable riches of his grace, expressed in his kindness to us in Christ Jesus.”

REFLECT Do you know what a gift My grace is, what riches I’ve given you? If you understand the riches of My grace, you’ll begin to get a glimpse of how much I value you, how much you are worth in My eyes.

You are deeply loved. My heart is tender toward you, but that’s just the beginning. Grace has raised your status, given you an amazing inheritance.

RESPOND Read slowly through the verses and reflection. Let gratitude rise up in your soul. Write a response to Jesus below, thanking Him for whatever kindnesses come to mind.

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DAY 5: READ ROMANS 12:16 “For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith—and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God—not by works, so that no one can boast.”

REFLECT So many try to earn My favor by works, by doing good things. There’s nothing wrong with deeds—but they don’t save you.

When you accept the gift of grace, it changes your understanding of your identity. You become the kind of person who does good, kind, and loving things. Those deeds will flow out of who you are. Your identity won’t be based on your performance. Instead, your performance will flow out of your identity. People will know you’re My child.

RESPOND How do you understand the difference between identity based on performance, and performance based on identity?

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SESSION THREE

MEMORY VERSE “May the grace of the Lord Jesus Christ, and the love of God, and the

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God is bigger and more mysterious than any of us can explain or understand. Legend has it that St. Patrick, as he preached in Ireland, explained the mystery of God’s nature using a bit of the natural world—a clover with three leaves. There is only one God, he said, but he exists as three persons—just as this shamrock is one plant, but has three leaves.

St. Patrick’s analogy, while helpful, doesn’t completely explain how God can be One, yet be Father, Son and Holy Spirit. Some things are just hard for us to fully understand.

According to the Bible, there are not many gods, but one God. The God of the Bible is the only One. God existed before time or space began, and He has always existed as three persons: Father, Son and Spirit.

Our “tolerant” culture is not very tolerant of this idea! And our highly rational culture often dismisses anything that is mysterious as fiction. But things can be difficult to explain (or for our limited minds to grasp) and still be true. Most of us can’t explain exactly how the Internet or air conditioning or electricity work, but we believe in them and use them every day.

Mystery is not a bad thing. In fact, a god we can easily explain is not much of a god at all. But for many of us, not being able to explain things makes us uncomfortable. Sometimes, a step of growth means being willing to live in the tension between what we know, and what we don’t.

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SHARE YOUR STORY

OPEN YOUR GROUP WITH PRAYER. This should be a brief, simple prayer, in which you invite God to be with you as you meet. You can pray for specific requests at the end of the meeting, or stop momentarily to pray if a particular situation comes up during your discussion.

Telling our personal stories builds deeper connections among group members.

Begin your time together by using the following questions and activities to get people talking.

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In our culture, people often use the word “God” to express a wide variety of ideas or beliefs. What are some of the things people use the word “God” to describe?

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When you hear the name “Holy Spirit,” what do you think of?

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*Consider the following statement: “I believe the God of the Bible is the only true God—Father, Son, and Holy Spirit.” How accurately does it summarize your beliefs about God? Do you agree, disagree, or are you not sure? Explain.

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*Sit with your spiritual partner. If your partner is absent or if you are new to the group, join with another pair or someone who doesn’t yet have a partner.

If you haven’t established your spiritual partnership yet, do it now. (See Share Your Story in Session Two.)

Watch the DVD for this session now. Use the Notes space provided on page 69 to record any key thoughts, questions, and things you want to remember or follow up on.

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GOD’S STORY

Use the following questions to guide your discussion of the teaching and stories you just experienced on the DVD, and the Bible passage.

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READ JOHN 14:11-21 (THE MESSAGE) 11-14 “Believe me: I am in my Father and my Father is in me. If you can’t believe that, believe what you see—these works. The person who trusts me will not only do what I’m doing but even greater things, because I, on my way to the Father, am giving you the same work to do that I’ve been doing. You can count on it.

From now on, whatever you request along the lines of who I am and what I am doing, I’ll do it. That’s how the Father will be seen for who he is in the Son. I mean it. Whatever you request in this way, I’ll do.

15-17 “If you love me, show it by doing what I’ve told you. I will talk to the Father, and he’ll provide you another Friend so that you will always have someone with you. This Friend is the Spirit of Truth. The godless world can’t take him in because it doesn’t have eyes to see him, doesn’t know what to look for. But you know him already because he has been staying with you, and will even be in you!

18-20 “I will not leave you orphaned. I’m coming back. In just a little while the world will no longer see me, but you’re going to see me because I am alive and you’re about to come alive. At that moment you will know absolutely that I’m in my Father, and you’re in me, and I’m in you.

21 “The person who knows my commandments and keeps them, that’s who loves me. And the person who loves me will be loved by my Father, and I will love him and make myself plain to him.”

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*In his teaching, Pastor Don reminded us that while the Bible is true (and not just “our truth”), we always have a choice about whether to believe or reject it.

What does Jesus promise us if we choose to believe in Him?

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Which verses in this passage point to the idea of God in three persons? How do we conclude that God exists as the Trinity from this passage?

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How does Jesus describe His connection with God the Father in this passage?

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In this passage, Jesus refers to a “Friend” who is “the Spirit of Truth.” Who is He referring to?

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*In verse 15, what promise does Jesus make about this Friend?

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*What do you think Jesus means when He says some people don’t have eyes to see the Friend? Have you ever known someone who seemed to be spiritually blind?

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Where does your life experience align with knowing God as Father, Son, and Holy Spirit?

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NOTES Jesus refers to the Holy Spirit as the Friend (other translations use terms like Advocate, Counselor, Comforter, or Helper, just to name a few). The word in Greek is Parakletos, which has no direct English translation. It has the same root as our word parallel, which hints at its meaning—one who comes alongside. The idea of a parakletos is one who stands beside us, offering encouragement and comfort, guidance and strength. The Holy Spirit provides this assistance and presence—not from far off, but from within our hearts. He surrounds our souls and is always available no matter where we are, even if we try to push Him away or ignore Him.

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Use this space to record your thoughts, questions and ponderings as you watch the video and discuss the Bible passage.

NOTES

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CREATE A NEW STORY

God wants you to be a part of His Kingdom—to have your story woven into His. That will mean change—to go His way rather than your own. This won’t happen overnight—but it should happen steadily. By making small, simple choices, we can begin to change our direction. The Holy Spirit helps us along the way by giving us gifts to serve the body, offering us insights into Scripture, challenging us to love not only those around us but those far from God.

IN THIS SECTION, TALK ABOUT HOW YOU WILL APPLY THE IDEAS YOU’VE STUDIED IN THIS SESSION.

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What is your response to the idea that there is just one God, not many gods?

Complete this sentence: “If that is true, then…”

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*Pastor Don said, “It is simply not possible to hold mutually exclusive claims about God as equally valid.” What is your response to that statement?

3.

In verse 15, Jesus says, “If you love me, show it by doing what I’ve told you.”

What is one step you could take to respond to this statement?

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*In verse 20, Jesus says, “I’m in My Father, and you’re in me, and I’m in you.”

What does it mean to be “in” Jesus, or to have Him in you? If Jesus was truly in you, what is one thing you’d change about your actions or attitudes? How might having Him in you help you to make that change?

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What does it mean to trust in “a god”? What does it mean to trust in the only God? How are those two things different?

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If God exists as three persons, then He is, by nature, relational. What implications does this truth have for your relationship with Him?

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Like any friendship or relationship, our relationship with God is strengthened and deepened when we spend time together. What specific steps will you take this week to build that relationship? If you’ve focused on prayer in past weeks, maybe you’ll want to direct your attention to Scripture this week. If you’ve been reading God’s Word consistently, perhaps you’ll want to take it deeper and try memorizing a verse. Tell the group which one you plan to try this week, and then, at your next meeting, talk about your progress and challenges.

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We have found that groups that connect outside of the regular meeting time build stronger bonds and feel a greater sense of purpose. Why not plan a social outing with group members? As a group, brainstorm about ways that you could do something fun together—enjoy a meal or a night out together.

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Is there someone whom you might not have invite to your group but who still needs a connection? Would you be willing to have lunch or coffee with that person, catch up on life, and share something you’ve learned from this study? If this study has raised more questions than answers for you, that’s great. Is there someone who might want to discuss the ideas you’re wrestling with?

TO CLOSE YOUR TIME TOGETHER, SPEND SOME TIME WORSHIPING GOD TOGETHER— PRAYING, SINGING, READING SCRIPTURE. •

Have someone use their musical gifts to lead the group in a worship song.

Try singing a cappella, using a worship CD (or your phone or iPad), or have someone accompany your singing with a musical instrument.

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Read a passage of Scripture together. Make it a time of praise and worship, as the words remind you of all God has done for you. Choose a psalm or other favorite verse.

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Ask everyone to share: “How can we pray for you this week?” Be sure to write prayer requests on your Prayer and Praise Report on page 162.

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Close your meeting with prayer. If you like, you can have one person read this prayer to close (this is optional): Dear God, You are bigger than we are. You are mysterious and can’t be contained in a little box or a file folder with a label. But thank you for loving us, and for helping us to understand just a little about who you are. Your love surrounds our souls—help us to be brave enough to embrace that. Thank you for being a loving Father, for being our Savior, for being the Spirit within our hearts who guides and loves us. Amen

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ADDITIONAL STUDY Take some time between now and our next meeting to dig into God’s Word. Explore the Bible passages related to this session’s theme on your own, jotting your reflections in a journal or in this study guide.

You may want to read the entire chapter in your own Bible (or online) to get more context. You may even want to use a Bible website or app to look up commentary on these passages. If you like, share what you learn with the group the next time you meet.

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READ ACTS 17:22-31 (THE MESSAGE) 22-23 “So Paul took his stand in the open space at the Areopagus and laid it out for them. “It is plain to see that you Athenians take your religion seriously. When I arrived here the other day, I was fascinated with all the shrines I came across.

And then I found one inscribed, to the god nobody knows.

I’m here to introduce you to this God so you can worship intelligently, know who you’re dealing with.

24-29 “The God who made the world and everything in it, this Master of sky and land, doesn’t live in custom-made shrines or need the human race to run errands for him, as if he couldn’t take care of himself. He makes the creatures; the creatures don’t make him. Starting from scratch, he made the entire human race and made the earth hospitable, with plenty of time and space for living so we could seek after God, and not just grope around in the dark but actually find him. He doesn’t play hideand-seek with us. He’s not remote; he’s near. We live and move in him, can’t get away from him! One of your poets said it well: ‘We’re the God-created.’ Well, if we are the God-created, it doesn’t make a lot of sense to think we could hire a sculptor to chisel a god out of stone for us, does it?

30-31 “God overlooks it as long as you don’t know any better— but that time is past. The unknown is now known, and he’s calling for a radical life-change. He has set a day when the entire human race will be judged and everything set right. And he has already appointed the judge, confirming him before everyone by raising him from the dead.”

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Paul gave this speech in Athens, a Greek city in the ancient world where people believed in and worshipped many different gods. How was the true God different from the various gods that the people in Athens worshipped?

What does Paul tell the Athenians about God? What implication does the idea that God made the world have for Paul and his listeners?

How do you feel about the fact that the God who created everything is “near�?

Paul says this truth requires a response? What is it? How do you respond to this idea?

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DAILY DEVOTIONALS

Each day, read the verse given. Really take your time. Imagine that Jesus is sitting with you. Then, imagine Him saying the words in the “Reflect” section to you— reassuring you with His presence and loving you with His words of comfort and strength. After receiving Jesus’ words to you, and noticing what speaks most clearly to you, take some time to think about why, and journal your response back to him. You can write whatever is on your heart. Answer the “Respond” question only if it’s helpful. You may want to go another direction and that is exactly what you’re free to do. On the first day, you may want to read over all the verses for the week to get the “big picture” of the passage. But then walk slowly verse by verse, listening to Jesus and responding to Him as you meditate on the truths of Scripture and experience His presence. Note: This week’s devotions are taken from the New Living Translation.

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DAY 1: READ JOHN 16: 7 “But in fact, it is best for you that I go away, because if I don’t, the Advocate won’t come. If I do go away, then I will send him to you.”

REFLECT I know that you often wish you could be with Me in the flesh, that we could walk and talk together, that you could be in My physical presence. If you are My follower, then someday, you’ll get to experience that.

But for now, the Spirit truly is a better option—because you get to have the Spirit in your heart and soul 24-7. Spiritual realities are just as true as physical ones—when you embrace that belief, you’ll be so thankful for the Spirit.

RESPOND What longings does hearing about the Advocate (or Friend) stir in your heart?

DAY 2: READ JOHN 16:8-9 “And when he comes, he will convict the world of its sin, and of God’s righteousness, and of the coming judgment. The world’s sin is that it refuses to believe in me.”

REFLECT Do you need advice, help finding the right path? In order to find the right way to go, you have to be told which is not the right way. That’s what a wonderful gift the Spirit gives you—to convict you when you are going the wrong way.

The thing that separates us is unbelief—and when you turn around and follow Me, walk in step with me, I’ll take you on an amazing adventure. Listen to the Spirit and let His voice convict you—that conviction is wonderful guidance.

RESPOND Have you ever felt convicted about something you’ve done wrong, or neglected to do? What positive results can come from feeling convicted?

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DAY 3: READ JOHN 16:10-11 “Righteousness is available because I go to the Father, and you will see me no more.

Judgment will come because the ruler of this world has already been judged.”

REFLECT In order to be truly righteous, you can’t just embark on your own self-improvement plan. You need My help; you need My grace. You can’t be perfect on your own.

The good news is, I know that—and I love you anyway. You don’t have to get everything right in order for Me to accept you. But when you let Me love you, and let My Spirit in, you’ll change.

And that’s why the gift of the Holy Spirit is such good news. Through the Spirit living within you, righteousness is available.

RESPOND Imagine yourself as one of the disciples, hearing Jesus say that they would see Him no more.

How would you respond?

DAY 4: READ JOHN 16:12-13 “There is so much more I want to tell you, but you can’t bear it now. When the Spirit of truth comes, he will guide you into all truth. He will not speak on his own but will tell you what he has heard. He will tell you about the future.”

REFLECT My child, you want so much to understand everything all at once, to be able to figure everything out quickly. But mysteries like this take time to unfold. Take the journey. Let the Spirit guide you.

You need to let truth flow into your life at just the right pace for you to absorb it. I’ve given you a marvelous gift, if you’re willing to take it and embrace it. The Spirit will give you more than you could ever imagine.

RESPOND What questions has this week’s study stirred in you? What truth are you seeking? Spend some time just laying your questions and uncertainties before God.

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DAY 5: READ JOHN 16:14-15 “He will bring me glory by telling you whatever he receives from me. All that belongs to the Father is mine; this is why I said, ‘The Spirit will tell you whatever he receives from me.’”

REFLECT Do you see how the Father, the Spirit and I are so intimately connected? We share and serve one another, we mutually submit to one another. There’s no hierarchy or bossing around within the Trinity.

“And you—you were made in Our image, in Our likeness. You’re made to live in relationship, with God and with others. You are wired for community, for mutual service and love.”

RESPOND Read also Genesis 1:26-27. What is your response to the idea of one God as three persons?

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SESSION FOUR

MEMORY VERSE All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good work.

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GROUNDED THE WISDOM OF THE BIBLE

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Remember when you were assigned a research project in school? Or maybe in college when you had to write a term paper, or even a thesis?

What was the first step to any of these undertakings? A visit to the library, or a search online, to find books written about the topic you were studying. Any research begins by studying other resources. Even someone writing a book will read other books on the topic to learn about it.

While this is a normal and accepted way to learn about nearly any subject, it’s interesting how many people, when trying to learn more about God, begin with their gut feelings about faith, but they don’t go further than that.

Many people say that they are skeptical about the Bible, but they’ve never actually read it. How can you be skeptical about something you’ve never even opened?

The Bible contains truth about God and His people, presented through narrative, poetry, theology, biography, prophecy, and more. Through sixty-six individual books written over hundreds of years, it tells God’s story.

And yet, many people try to learn about God by just reading their feelings, rather than reading the Bible.

No matter what you believe about the Bible, wouldn’t it make sense to at least read it, if you are curious about spiritual matters? If you want to know God better, wouldn’t it make sense to do some research and read His story?

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SHARE YOUR STORY

OPEN YOUR GROUP WITH PRAYER. This should be a brief, simple prayer, in which you invite God to be with you as you meet. You can pray for specific requests at the end of the meeting, or stop momentarily to pray if a particular situation comes up during your discussion.

Telling our personal stories builds deeper connections among group members.

Begin your time together by using the following questions and activities to get people talking.

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*When you were growing up, what was your experience with the Bible: A. I never read it or even heard much about it.

B. I heard it only when Linus quoted it on the Charlie Brown Christmas special.

C. I heard it read in church.

D. My parents read me Bible stories.

E. I read it on my own, and even memorized some verses.

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We live in a time when the Bible is highly accessible—online and in hundreds of different translations—yet most people are not familiar with its content.

What keeps most people from reading the Bible?

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*Sit with your spiritual partner. If your partner is absent or if you are new to the group, join with another pair or someone who doesn’t yet have a partner.

If you haven’t established your spiritual partnership yet, do it now. (See Share Your Story in Session Two.)

Watch the DVD for this session now. Use the Notes space provided on page 91 to record any key thoughts, questions, and things you want to remember or follow up on.

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HEAR

GOD’S STORY

USE THE FOLLOWING QUESTIONS TO GUIDE YOUR DISCUSSION OF THE TEACHING AND STORIES YOU JUST EXPERIENCED ON THE DVD, AND THE BIBLE PASSAGE.

READ 2 TIMOTHY 3:14-16 “But as for you, continue in what you have learned and have become convinced of, because you know those from whom you learned it, 15 and how from infancy you have known the Holy Scriptures, which are able to make you wise for salvation through faith in Christ Jesus. 16 All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness,17 so that the servant of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good work.”

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*In this passage, the Apostle Paul encourages his protégé Timothy to read the Scriptures. If Timothy has already “become convinced” of the truth and has known the Bible his whole life, why does Paul tell him to “continue in” it?

What do you think Paul means by that?

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Because this was written in the first century, Paul’s reference to the “Holy Scriptures” would have meant what we call the Old Testament. How does the truth of the Old Testament make us wise? How does it lead us to faith in Jesus?

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*How would you answer the question Pastor Sara asked, “Have you had someone, even a well-meaning someone, make a statement to you about God that is simply not true?” How can you know whether what others tell you about God is true or not?

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What do you think the descriptor “God-breathed” means?

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*What claims about the power of Scripture does Paul make in verse 16? What does he say the Bible can accomplish? Do you agree or disagree? Have you ever experienced any of these things as you’ve read the Bible?

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How does the Bible equip people for good works?

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STUDY

NOTES

The Bible is actually a collection of books, which together tell God’s story. But the books don’t necessarily tell the story in chronological order. Some truth is written straight out as laws or guidelines, but some books are written as poetry. Jesus Himself used parables—made up stories—to illustrate a point. Whether you consider yourself a follower of Jesus or someone who is trying to learn more about him, a great place to focus your reading of the Bible is in the first four books of the New Testament: Matthew, Mark, Luke, and John. These tell Jesus’ life story from four different perspectives. By reading them, you can learn more about Jesus. When you reflect on God’s Word and its impact on your life, you are, in fact, spending time with Jesus. Not sure what you think of Jesus? Why not spend some time with Him in this way? By reflecting on them and using your imagination, you can use them to spend time with Jesus.

If you are not sure about Jesus, reading His story is a good way to figure out what you think of Him.

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Use this space to record your thoughts, questions and ponderings as you watch the video and discuss the Bible passage.

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CREATE A NEW STORY

God wants you to be a part of His Kingdom—to see where your story is woven into His. That will often mean change—choosing to go God’s way rather than your own.

This won’t happen overnight, but it should happen steadily. Through small, simple choices, we begin to change our direction. The Holy Spirit helps us along the way: giving us gifts to serve the body, offering us insights into Scripture, challenging us to love, not only those around us, but also those who are far from God.

IN THIS SECTION, TALK ABOUT HOW YOU WILL APPLY THE WISDOM YOU’VE LEARNED IN THIS SESSION.

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What has been your experience with reading the Bible? Did you read it as child? Can you think of a time that reading the Bible gave you some practical wisdom or insight for your life?

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*How often do you read the Bible: A. I really don’t ever read it.

B. Once a week—usually in church.

C. A couple of times a week, but I have trouble being consistent, and often don’t understand it.

D. Daily, and it gives me guidance for my life.

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*What other resources do you use to help you understand and get more out of the Bible? Consider helps such as daily devotionals, commentaries, listening to online teaching, Bible apps, online devotionals, Christian books, or other tools.

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Is reading the Bible a regular practice or something you are thinking you’d like to do on a more regular basis? Or is it simply not on your radar?

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*Tell about a time you read the Bible, and the words seemed to “jump off the page” or be directed toward your specific situation. How did that experience impact your faith?

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Do you consider the Bible a trustworthy source of wisdom? Does it have authority in your life? Why or why not? Be specific: what experiences with the Bible have influenced your opinion of it?

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What specific steps will you take this week to put what we’ve been discussing into practice? If you haven’t done so before, try reading just a very short section of one of the gospels each day, or use the Daily Devotions to guide you. Want a helpful tool to guide your Bible reading? Try using the S.O.A.P. method. The acronym stands for Scripture, Observation, Application and Prayer.

Start by reading a short section of Scripture, perhaps one from this lesson or the Daily Devotions. Observe what is in the text, especially what stands out to you.

What is God saying to you through what you’ve read? Next, apply this truth to your life: what do you need to do or change in your life as a result of what you’ve read? Perhaps you’ll feel prompted to share what you’ve learned with someone who needs it, as well. Finally, pray about what you’ve read. Ask for insight; ask for help in applying it. Thank God for His Word, and for speaking to you through it.

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If you’ve been reading God’s Word consistently, perhaps you’ll want to take it deeper and try memorizing a verse. Another way to use the Bible in your time with God is to take a verse (such as one from the Psalms) and use it as a prayer.

Tell the group which one you plan to try this week, and then, at your next meeting, talk about your progress and challenges.

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ADDITIONAL STUDY Take some time between now and our next meeting to dig into God’s Word. Explore the Bible passages related to this session’s theme on your own, jotting your reflections in a journal or in this study guide. You may even want to use a Bible website or app to look up commentary on these passages. If you like, share what you learn with the group the next time you meet.

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READ HEBREWS 4:12-13 12 “For the word of God is alive and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart. 13 Nothing in all creation is hidden from God’s sight. Everything is uncovered and laid bare before the eyes of him to whom we must give account.”

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What do you think it means that the Word of God is alive? How is the Bible different from other books?

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This verse is an example of what the Bible says about itself. How does the Bible describe itself? Do you know of other verses where the Bible “talks about itself ”? (Try Googling that to see what you can find.)

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Why do you think the writer uses the metaphor of Scripture being like a sword? How can truth “cut to the heart” of things?

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In what ways are the attributes of the “Word of God” similar to the attributes of God Himself?

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DAILY DEVOTIONALS

THE BIBLE IS NOT JUST A BOOK. It’s a book containing the true words of God. It is not just a collection of human ideas about God, but it was divinely inspired by God, so that we could know God better and live flourishing lives. The Daily Devotions are a great way to engage with God’s word—one small bit at a time.

Each day, read the verse given. Take your time. Imagine that Jesus is sitting with you, looking at you in love. He loves you the same whether you “get your reading done” or not. Then, imagine Him saying the words in the “Reflect” section to you—reassuring you with His presence and loving you with His words of comfort and strength. After receiving Jesus’ words to you, take some time to journal your response back to Him. You can write whatever is on your heart. Answer the “Respond” question only if it’s helpful. You may want to go another direction, which you’re free to do. On the first day, you may want to read over all the verses for the week to get the “big picture” of the passage; but then walk slowly verse by verse, listening to Jesus and responding to Him as you meditate on the truths of Scripture and experience His presence.

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DAY 1: READ PSALM 119: 97 “Oh, how I love your law! I meditate on it all day long.”

REFLECT It’s so easy to let the worries and cares of this world distract you, My child. It’s so easy to love stuff, or food, or the latest gadget—to think those things will satisfy you.

You were made to love Me, to love My words. When you spend your day just thinking about Me and the Truth I’ve given you, that’s what will satisfy you.

RESPOND What does it mean to meditate on God’s Word all day long? What are some practical things you could do to keep God’s Word in mind as you go through your day?

DAY 2: READ PSALM 119:98-100 “Your commands are always with me and make me wiser than my enemies.

I have more insight than all my teachers, for I meditate on your statutes.

I have more understanding than the elders, for I obey your precepts.”

REFLECT I’ve given you the amazing gift of My words, preserved and available for you at any time. These aren’t a bunch of rules I’ll judge you by—not at all. They’re not a way to earn My love—you already have that, no strings attached.

Like a child kept safe and carefree by the boundaries set by his parents, My Word provides clear direction that will give you understanding, insight and wisdom, and allow you to live in joy and freedom. See My words as the gift that they are.

RESPOND These three verses express three parallel ideas. When we keep God’s Word with us, meditate on it and obey it, we gain wisdom, insight, and understanding. How have you experienced this in your own life?

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DAY 3: READ PSALM 119: 101-102 “I have kept my feet from every evil path so that I might obey your word. I have not departed from your laws, for you yourself have taught me.”

REFLECT Here’s the best part of our relationship, My dear one: you don’t have to jump through hoops for Me. Just love Me, and let Me love you. When you live in My love, you’ll want to be with Me. The things that once tempted you won’t look that interesting anymore.

When you read My Word, ask Me to teach you as you read it. If you use My Word to start a conversation with Me, you’ll hear from Me—and you’ll grow in wisdom and insight. You’ll find the path to joy.

RESPOND Like laws in society that keep us safe and allow us to prosper, God’s laws offer a life-giving way to live. How does knowing that God loves us make “evil paths” less attractive?

DAY 4: READ PSALM 119: 103 “How sweet are your words to my taste, sweeter than honey to my mouth!”

REFLECT My words are not just rules. Take a look—open up My Word and see how much of it is a love letter from Me to you, telling you how much I want to bless you, protect you, guide you.

I long for you to know and experience My love—to know that I call you friend, that I care for you so deeply. It’s all there—just read and experience My love for you.

RESPOND Does God’s Word feel like something sweet to you? Be honest. If you’re not there yet, ask God to give you an appetite for His truth.

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DAY 5: READ JOHN 16:14-15 “I gain understanding from your precepts; therefore I hate every wrong path. Your word is a lamp for my feet, a light on my path.”

REFLECT So often, I see My beloved children, stumbling around in the darkness. Not realizing the irony, they demand to know where I am. The light is right there for them to pick up, but they ignore it.

The Bible, My Word—it’s a light for you. Use it. Read it, study it, understand it. Do what it says, and soon, you’ll be walking in the clear light of day.

RESPOND What does it mean that God’s Word is a lamp or a light? How does it illuminate our lives?

How have you experienced this personally?

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MEMORY VERSE “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer

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and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.” [ PHILIPPIANS 4:6 ]

GUIDED THE PRIVILEGE OF PRAYER

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My family and I (Greg) recently made a cross-country move. We left behind dear friends, many we have known for over 20 years. With starting a new job, getting my kids settled into new schools, and the travails of moving into a new home, I found myself so busy it was hard to connect with old friends.

Occasional emails and texts helped, but they are not enough. If I want to keep those friendships strong, we need more than that. Longer phone calls or Skype conversations will definitely help us maintain the bonds that we’ve established. And I must figure out when we can spend extended time together, and that is going to involve an airplane. It’s not cheap, but as the credit card commercial implies, a lifelong friend is “priceless.”

Even if you didn’t relocate recently, you still may find it challenging to carve out time to spend with people. But the people who are truly precious to you are those you make time for. That’s because you know that the path to a closer relationship with anyone is spending time with that person and to— over time—reveal more of who you really are to them.

What’s true of your relationships with people is also true of your relationship with God. It’s strengthened by spending time with Him, by talking to Him. Prayer is a conversation—in which we talk, are heard, and listen.

We must, of course, believe that when we speak to God, He hears us. Then, we trust that He not only hears but actually cares. When we find that He listens and responds, we move deeper into the conversation.

Prayer is not something you fully understand simply by studying about it.

The only way to really understand it and grow in it is to try it.

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SHARE YOUR STORY

OPEN YOUR GROUP WITH PRAYER. This should be a brief, simple prayer, in which you invite God to be with you as you meet. You can pray for specific requests at the end of the meeting, or stop momentarily to pray if a particular situation comes up during your discussion.

Telling our personal stories builds deeper connections among group members.

Begin your time together by using the following questions and activities to get people talking.

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What is the biggest question you have about prayer?

2.

*What is one thing you know for certain about prayer? What experience have you had? What convictions do you hold?

3.

Identify someone whose prayer life you admire. Why?

4.

*Sit with your spiritual partner. If your partner is absent or if you are new to the group, join with another pair or someone who doesn’t yet have a partner.

If you haven’t established your spiritual partnership yet, do it now. (See Share Your Story in Session Two.)

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GOD’S STORY Prayer doesn’t need to be formal or fancy. In fact, Jesus said that kind of thing is a waste of your breath. Watch the DVD segment now.

Then read the Bible passage, an excerpt of Jesus’ famous Sermon on the Mount. Use the questions to guide your discussion.

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READ MATTHEW 6:5-12 (THE MESSAGE) 5 “And when you come before God, don’t turn that into a theatrical production either. All these people making a regular show out of their prayers, hoping for stardom! Do you think God sits in a box seat?

6 “Here’s what I want you to do: Find a quiet, secluded place so you won’t be tempted to role-play before God. Just be there as simply and honestly as you can manage. The focus will shift from you to God, and you will begin to sense his grace.

7-13 “The world is full of so-called prayer warriors who are prayer-ignorant. They’re full of formulas and programs and advice, peddling techniques for getting what you want from God. Don’t fall for that nonsense.

This is your Father you are dealing with, and He knows better than you what you need. With a God like this loving you, you can pray very simply.

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*In the video, Pastor Don talked about having a “prayer place” where you go to pray. How would having a designated space help you to be more consistent in your prayer life?

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Have you ever heard a prayer that sounds like “a theatrical production”? What was your reaction to that prayer? Were you put off? Intimidated? Impressed?

3.

*Many of us are always surrounded by noise or people—always accessible, with our phones nearby. What would you have to do to follow Jesus’ advice to find a quiet, secluded place? How often do you do that?

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Have you ever been tempted to “role-play” before God? What do you think makes it difficult to be completely honest with God?

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What appeals to you most about the kind of prayer Jesus describes?

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NOTES

For many centuries, Christians used pre-written prayers to speak to God. While God does want to hear from our hearts and isn’t impressed by eloquent recitations, that doesn’t mean pre-written prayers are not helpful—especially if they come straight from the Bible. Sometimes, we don’t know exactly what to say— and others say it very well for us.

The earliest pre-written prayers were the Psalms. Since the longest book in the Bible is simply a collection of prayers, we have to assume that God is okay with using the words someone else has composed when we speak to Him. Sung or spoken, these poems can be used as prayers—whether to express our sadness, our joy, or even our doubt.

(See this week’s Daily Devotions.)

“He knows better than you what you need.” We may wonder, if God knows everything, why we even have to pray. He already knows it all. So why ask Him for what we need, or confess what we’ve done wrong?

Because prayer is not shopping.

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Prayer is the basis for relationship. If you’re a parent, you know what your children need, and you often know what mistakes they’ve made. But when they come to you and ask for help, or admit to and apologize for their bad choices, it builds the bond between you. God, as your heavenly Father, doesn’t need you to pray to give Him information. He is never surprised by your admission of mistakes or even your requests. But He eagerly desires to hear from you in order to build your relationship. Beyond that, prayer forms our souls. It changes us, strengthening our faith and our character—which is what God wants for us, and another reason He wants us to talk with Him.

“Approach God’s throne of grace with confidence…” (See Additional Study section.) In the ancient Jewish culture, only the high priest could enter the innermost chamber of the tabernacle, the Holy of Holies. He went on behalf of the people to confess their sins and make atonement.

When Jesus died, the curtain in the temple protecting the Holy of Holies was torn from top to bottom, symbolizing that we no longer need a human intermediary; instead, we can go directly to God with our requests.

Use this space to record your thoughts, questions and ponderings as you watch the video and discuss the Bible passage.

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CREATE A NEW STORY

God wants you to be a part of His Kingdom—to see where your story is woven into His. That will mean change—to go His way rather than your own. This won’t happen overnight—but it should happen steadily. By small, simple choices, we begin to change our direction. The Holy Spirit helps us along the way: giving us gifts to serve the body, offering us insights into Scripture, challenging us to love not only those around us, but those far from God as well.

IN THIS SECTION, TALK ABOUT HOW YOU WILL APPLY THE WISDOM YOU’VE LEARNED IN THIS SESSION.

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What is the biggest barrier in your life to making a steady habit of prayer?

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*Right now, how would you describe your prayer habits?: a. I don’t really pray much, and I’m a little skeptical that God could hear me or have any interest; b. I pray once in a while; c. I feel guilty for not praying more; d. I pray when I am desperate for help; e. I pray every day, asking God for help; f. I kind of keep a running conversation going with God throughout my day and believe I can hear Him as well as talk to Him.

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Tell the group about a positive prayer experience you’ve had—it could be recent, or from years ago, even from your childhood.

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*Verse 6 in the passage we studied above says: “The focus will shift from you to God, and you will begin to sense His grace.” Tell the group about a time you experienced this kind of thing, even if only for a moment. If that’s not yet been your experience, what feelings or longings does that sentence evoke in you?

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*Pastor Don talked about an experience of driving on a long car trip in silence, noting that “silence creates space to hear from God.” How often do you spend time in silence? What is your gut reaction to that idea?

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Even people who make a regular habit of prayer often find it’s hard to sustain concentration. For this reason, many people use a journal and write down lists of things to pray for, or write out a stream of consciousness “letter to God” each time they pray. An easy way to start? Just say please and thank you. Make a list of five things you’re grateful for, and thank God for them. Then make a list of five things you need His help with (for yourself or others), and ask Him to please guide and help you. Tell the group if you are willing to try this during the coming week.

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*Share with the group what sort of prayer practice you’d like to try in the coming week. (Perhaps you’ll want to use this week’s Daily Devotions, which are taken from the Psalms, as your prayer guide, or pray while you go for a walk.) At the next meeting, talk about your progress and challenges.

To close your time together, spend some time worshiping God together—praying, singing, reading Scripture.

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Have someone use their musical gifts to lead the group in a worship song. Try singing a cappella, using a worship CD, or have someone accompany your singing with a musical instrument.

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Read a passage of Scripture together, making it a time of praise and worship as the words remind you of all God has done for you. Choose a psalm or other favorite verse.

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Ask everyone to share: “How can we pray for you this week?” Be sure to write prayer requests on your Prayer and Praise Report on page 162.

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ADDITIONAL STUDY Take some time between now and our next meeting to dig into God’s Word. Explore the Bible passages related to this session’s theme on your own, jotting your reflections in a journal or in this study guide. You may even want to use a Bible website or app to look up commentary on these passages. If you like, share what you learn with the group the next time you meet.

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READ HEBREWS 4:14-16 14 “Therefore, since we have a great high priest who has ascended into heaven, Jesus the Son of God, let us hold firmly to the faith we profess. 15 For we do not have a high priest who is unable to empathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every way, just as we are—yet he did not sin. 16 Let us then approach God’s throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need.”

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How does the fact that Jesus has been tempted as a human being impact our prayers?

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Think of God as a king sitting on a throne. Why is God’s throne described as one of “grace” rather than of “judgment” or “punishment” or even “indifference”?

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What does this verse promise we will receive when we approach God (that is, when we pray)?

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What allows us to have confidence when we pray?

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DAILY DEVOTIONALS

EACH DAY, READ THE VERSE GIVEN. Take your time. Imagine that Jesus is sitting with you. Then, imagine Him saying the words in the “Reflect” section to you—reassuring you with His presence and loving you with His words of comfort and strength. After receiving Jesus’ words to you, take some time to journal your response back to Him. You can write whatever is on your heart. Answer the “Respond” question only if it’s helpful. You may want to go another direction, which you’re free to do. On the first day, you may want to read over all the verses for the week to get the “big picture” of the passage. But then walk slowly verse by verse, listening to Jesus and responding to Him as you meditate on the truths of Scripture and experience His presence.

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DAY 1: READ PSALM 34: 4-5 (THE MESSAGE) “God met me more than halfway, he freed me from my anxious fears. Look at him; give him your warmest smile. Never hide your feelings from him.”

REFLECT Don’t be afraid, My dear friend. I’m not hiding from you—I’m right here. I’m eager to hear what you have to say—even if it’s painful or sad.

I want to hear from you, to hear how you’re feeling, whether you’re joyful or angry, scared or elated. I never expected you to face life’s challenges alone—let Me free you from fear and walk with you.

RESPOND What fears do you need to talk to God about, and let Him set you free from?

DAY 2: READ PSALM 34:6-7 (THE MESSAGE) “When I was desperate, I called out, and God got me out of a tight spot. God’s angel sets up a circle of protection around us while we pray.”

REFLECT Nothing makes Me happier than responding to your cries for help—not so that you’ll owe Me, but because I love you. The Father is a rescuer—let Him rescue you.

When you pray, you’ll have protection, guidance, freedom. There’s so much waiting for you in that place of prayer. Go there and find Me. Find love.

RESPOND What desperate prayer do you need to call out to God with right now? What promise in these verses do you want to thank God for?

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DAY 3: READ PSALM 34:8 “Open your mouth and taste, open your eyes and see—how good God is. Blessed are you who run to him.”

REFLECT Those who don’t know God, who have never experienced Him, have no idea how amazing He is. In ignorance, they assume He’s bland, boring, even distasteful.

But don’t listen to people who don’t know what they’re talking about. Taste and see—what an amazing experience God’s love is. Don’t hold back—run to Him, and you’ll find joy and blessings.

RESPOND What would happen if you responded with your whole heart to the invitation in this verse: “run to Him”?

DAY 4: READ PSALM 34:17-18 “Is anyone crying for help? God is listening, ready to rescue you. If your heart is broken, you’ll find God right there; if you’re kicked in the gut, he’ll help you catch your breath.”

REFLECT I hear you, My child, crying into your pillow, feeling sad, holding the broken pieces of your heart in your hands. I’m there, I’m listening, ready to help.

When you reach the low point, I’m there with you. Pray, even a single word: “Help!” I’ll respond with love to rescue you.

RESPOND Which of these phrases resonated most deeply with you? If you are crying for help, heart broken, or feeling kicked in the gut, spend some time just talking to God about those struggles. Ask for His help.

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DAY 5: READ PSALM 34:19 “Disciples so often get into trouble; still, God is there every time.”

REFLECT Being My follower, My disciple, doesn’t inoculate you or make you immune to struggles. You are following Me in this world, and there will be trouble once in a while.

But you never have to be alone—even in the struggles, even in the trials. I don’t promise to take them away, but I do promise to be with you as you go through them. And My presence will strengthen you to endure. My being there will build your faith.

RESPOND What situation do you need God to be with you in right now? Talk to Him about it.

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SESSION SIX

MEMORY VERSE “For even the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve,

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and to give his life as a ransom for many.” [ MARK 10:45]

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The term “spiritual growth,” or “growing in your faith” can be somewhat mystifying. How do you know if you are growing?

Throughout this study, we’ve talked about how understanding the nature of God, and discovering the truth about grace, will help us grow.

We’ve explored how reading the Bible and building a habit of prayer will change our hearts and minds. But eventually, what we know must motivate what we do. We’ve got to put faith into action.

While going to church more, joining a Bible study, reading a book, or praying more are all helpful and important, an important catalyst for growth is serving.

That’s right. When we give of our time and energy to help others, whether in a church setting, our neighborhood or a local soup kitchen, we move from the fringes of faith toward a deeper, more “authentic” experience.

The REVEAL research of more than 500,000 church attenders pointed to this truth over and over. What is it about serving that makes it such a catalytic experience?

Serving others gets us outside ourselves. It opens us to a bigger world.

We realize there is more to life than our problems and concerns, and that stretches us. When we are less self-centered, we can become more Christ-centered.

It makes sense that serving would help us to grow, if growth means becoming like Jesus. Look at the nature of Jesus himself. He was above all things a servant, so if we also serve, we are acting like Him. What would that look like? That’s what we’re going to talk about in this session.

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SHARE YOUR STORY

BEFORE YOU GET STARTED take a few minutes to talk about the future of your group. Do group members want to commit to doing another six-week study? Consider: • Is the leader (or leaders) willing to commit to another six weeks? Is someone else ready to try leading (or co-leading) the group?

• What will you study? The next study in our Year of Transformation series, Hope: Deepening Your Life in Christ Together, picks up where this one leaves off.

As we have said in previous lessons, sharing our personal stories builds deeper connections among group members. Your story may be exactly what another person needs to hear to encourage or strengthen them. And your listening to others’ stories is an act of love and kindness to them—and could very well help them to grow spiritually. Jump into your discussion time by using the following questions and activities to get people talking.

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*When we go to a restaurant or shop, the staff “serves” us—it’s their job. If they don’t do it well, we complain of “bad service.” But sometimes, people choose to serve when it is not necessarily their job to do so. Tell about a time someone served you, voluntarily and unexpectedly. How did being served in this way make you feel? How is it different from being served by a waitress or store clerk?

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Have you ever volunteered in your church, your children’s school, or some other place? What did you like about it? What was difficult about it?

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*Take time in this final session to connect with your spiritual partner. Check in with each other about the progress you have made in your spiritual growth during this study. Make plans about whether you will continue in your spiritual partnership outside your Bible study group.

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Take some time for each person to share about how they’ve done with inviting people to your small group or talking with people outside the group about what you’ve learned here. What specific conversations are you praying about for the weeks to come?

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HEAR

GOD’S STORY

Watch the video segment on your DVD now.

Then use the following questions to guide your discussion of the teaching you just experienced in the video, and the Bible passage.

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READ MATTHEW 20: 20-28 (THE MESSAGE) 20 “It was about that time that the mother of the Zebedee brothers came with her two sons and knelt before Jesus with a request.

21 “What do you want?” Jesus asked.

She said, “Give your word that these two sons of mine will be awarded the highest places of honor in your kingdom, one at your right hand, one at your left hand.”

22 Jesus responded, “You have no idea what you’re asking.” And he said to James and John, “Are you capable of drinking the cup that I’m about to drink?”

They said, “Sure, why not?”

23 Jesus said, “Come to think of it, you are going to drink my cup. But as to awarding places of honor, that’s not my business.

My Father is taking care of that.”

24-28 When the ten others heard about this, they lost their tempers, thoroughly disgusted with the two brothers. So Jesus got them together to settle things down. He said, “You’ve observed how godless rulers throw their weight around, how quickly a little power goes to their heads. It’s not going to be that way with you. Whoever wants to be great must become a servant. Whoever wants to be first among you must be your slave. That is what the Son of Man has done: He came to serve, not be served—and then to give away his life in exchange for the many who are held hostage.”

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The Zebedee brothers are Jesus’ disciples, James and John (see Matthew 4:21, and Matthew 10:2). What do you suppose motivated them (and their Momma) to ask for places of honor?

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*Imagine yourself in the story, in the place of James or John. As your Mom has a conversation with Jesus, what’s going through your mind? What kind of expression is on Jesus’ face when He asks, “Are you capable of drinking the cup that I’m about to drink?”

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Why do you suppose the other disciples were angry? Did they know the truth that Jesus was about to teach them, or did they just wish they’d put in their request first?

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*How do we measure “greatness” in our culture? Think of how we measure greatness in the world of business, in Hollywood, in professional sports, and so on. How does that greatness compare to Jesus’ definition of greatness?

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*Pastor Don asked, “Can serving be both selfless and, at the same time, good for us?” How would you respond? Explain.

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Jesus said He came to serve, not to be served. What are some ways He served people?

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STUDY

NOTES

Son of Man. Jesus was fully God and fully man. He often used this phrase to refer to Himself, which has raised theological debate over the centuries. Was Jesus being humble, pointing toward His humanity and referring to Himself in the third person? Or was He referencing Old Testament prophecies that called the coming Messiah “the son of man?� (see Daniel 7:13-14) The term son of man expresses the mystery of Jesus: God wrapped in the flesh of a servant who makes the ultimate sacrifice, who indeed gives His life in exchange for many.

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Use this space to record your thoughts, questions and ponderings as you watch the video and discuss the Bible passage.

NOTES

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CREATE A NEW STORY

How has God changed your story during this six-week study? What new things is He asking you to do? What truth has transformed your heart?

As you walk forward in your relationship with God, what will you do differently as a result of what you’ve experienced in this group?

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*Have you ever known someone who wanted to “climb the ladder” at work but wasn’t willing to do the work required? What happens to people who do this?

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If Jesus came to serve, what implication does that have for us as His followers?

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*Pastor Don encouraged us to say yes to a serving opportunity that comes our way. Tell about a time you said yes to serving. What happened?

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Our culture tends to see church as a place we go to listen to teaching and music on Sunday mornings. It’s easy to just sit in the audience, watching the service. How does that experience compare to what Jesus taught?

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How does volunteering at your church help you to connect with other people?

What other benefits can you see from getting involved by serving?

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*The Bible says that Christians are to be known for our love—not just love for God but also for other people. (See John 13:35) What does serving have to do with loving others?

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How has Jesus served you in your life?

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A great way to experience the fulfillment and challenge of serving is to do a one-time service project with your group. Make plans to find a place to serve as a group at your church or a local ministry or not-for-profit organization.

As this is the last meeting in this study, take some time to celebrate the work God has done in the lives of group members. Have each person in the group share some step of growth that they have noticed in another member. (In other words, no one will talk about themselves, but, instead, they’ll affirm others in the group). Make sure each person gets affirmed and noticed and celebrated—whether the steps they’ve made are large or small.

Review your Small Group Agreement on page 148 and evaluate how well you met your goals. Discuss any changes you want to make as you move forward. If you plan to continue meeting, this is a great time to get more involved, perhaps by offering to keep track of prayer requests or organize the snack schedule. Remember you aren’t making a lifetime commitment to the new role; it will only be for a few weeks.

Maybe someone would like to share a role with you if you don’t feel ready to serve solo.

CLOSE BY PRAYING FOR YOUR PRAYER REQUESTS. Review the praises and answers to prayer you have recorded over the past five weeks on the Prayer and Praise Report on page 162. Spend some time just worshipping God and thanking Him for all He’s done in your group during this study.

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DAILY DEVOTIONALS

EACH DAY, READ THE VERSE GIVEN. TAKE YOUR TIME. Imagine that Jesus is sitting with you. Then, imagine Him saying the words in the “Reflect” section to you—reassuring you with His presence and loving you with His words of comfort and strength. After receiving Jesus’ words to you, take some time to journal your response back to Him. You can write whatever is on your heart. Answer the “Respond” question only if it’s helpful. You may want to go another direction, which you’re free to do. On the first day, you may want to read over all the verses for the week to get the “big picture” of the passage. But then walk slowly verse by verse, listening to Jesus and responding to Him as you meditate on the truths of Scripture and experience His presence.

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DAY 1: READ JOHN 13:3-4 “Jesus knew that the Father had put all things under his power, and that he had come from God and was returning to God; so he got up from the meal, took off his outer clothing, and wrapped a towel around his waist.”

REFLECT When you see a need, don’t sit back and wait for someone else to step up. You may think, on the last night of My life, I might have chosen to say more words, or have people serve Me. Loving actions (that’s what service at its best really is) will be remembered far longer than wise words. Remember My example when it comes to that—actions matter.

RESPOND This verse almost seems like a contradiction: Jesus knew about His powerful position, so He chose to be a servant. Why did Jesus do this?

DAY 2: READ JOHN 13:5 “After that, he poured water into a basin and began to wash his disciples’ feet, drying them with the towel that was wrapped around him.”

REFLECT Sometimes, serving means doing a job that others might find demeaning or even disgusting.

But My child, I would gladly wash your feet. And if you love someone, really love them, you’re willing to do whatever is necessary to care for them. Think of a parent tending a sick child— that’s just a fraction of the kind of care and concern I have for you.

RESPOND Imagine yourself at this dinner table. How would you react to Jesus’ actions? How would they make you feel?

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DAY 3: READ JOHN 13:12-13 “When he had finished washing their feet, he put on his clothes and returned to his place. ’Do you understand what I have done for you?’ he asked them. ‘You call me “Teacher” and “Lord,” and rightly so, for that is what I am.’”

REFLECT My child, do you understand what I have done for you? I left heaven to come and live as a man, to die a sacrificial death. I gave up My life. Why? Because I love you, and I want to give you life. I gave up My rights, to show you how much I love you—to show you what God is like—how much He loves you. Can you even comprehend it?

RESPOND What was so significant about Jesus’ choice to serve His disciples when He is their Teacher and Lord?

DAY 4: READ JOHN 13:14-15 “Now that I, your Lord and Teacher, have washed your feet, you also should wash one another’s feet. I have set you an example that you should do as I have done for you.”

REFLECT I have tried to make this as clear as possible—love is not just something you say, or think about, or even feel. Love is something you do. You put yourself in a position of a servant, you take on the dirty job that no one else wants, you show people how much you love them by your actions.

When you serve others, it’s as if you’re serving Me. And don’t just try to serve important people who somehow “deserve” it or will return the favor. Serve those who can’t serve you back.

RESPOND Read also Matthew 25:40. What is one way you can follow Jesus’ example today, as you go through your daily routine?

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DAY 5: READ JOHN 13:16-17 “Very truly I tell you, no servant is greater than his master, nor is a messenger greater than the one who sent him. Now that you know these things, you will be blessed if you do them.”

REFLECT Just as I’ve humbled Myself, obeying the will of My Father, so should you do the same. If you’re worried that people might not respect you, might take advantage—well, they might. But that doesn’t matter. What matters is that I love you, and that you respond to that love by loving others. That’s where the blessings are—hidden in the unlikely opportunity to serve others.

RESPOND Jesus says “you will be blessed, if you do them.” Do what? What is He asking us to do? What sort of blessing do you think you’ll receive by doing what He says?

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APPENDICES GREAT RESOURCES TO HELP MAKE YOUR SMALL GROUP EXPERIENCE EVEN BETTER!

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FAQ WHAT DO WE DO ON THE FIRST NIGHT OF OUR GROUP? Like all fun things in life–have a party! A “get to know you” coffee, dinner, or dessert is a great way to launch a new study. You may want to review the Group Agreement (page 148) and share the names of a few friends you can invite to join you. But most importantly, have fun before your study time begins.

WHERE DO WE FIND NEW MEMBERS FOR OUR GROUP? This can be troubling, especially for new groups that have only a few people or for existing groups that lose a few people along the way. We encourage you to pray with your group and then brainstorm a list of people from work, church, your neighborhood, your children’s school, family, the gym, and so forth. Then have each group member invite several of the people on his or her list. Another good strategy is to ask church leaders to make an announcement or allow a bulletin insert.

No matter how you find members, it’s vital that you stay on the lookout for new

HOW LONG WILL THIS GROUP MEET? It’s totally up to the group–once you come to the end of this 6-week study. Most groups meet weekly for at least their first 6 weeks, but every other week can work as well. We strongly recommend that the group meet for the first six months on a weekly basis if at all possible. This allows for continuity, and if people miss a meeting they aren’t gone for a whole month.

At the end of this study, each group member may decide if he or she wants to continue on for another 6-week study. Some groups launch relationships for years to come, and others are stepping-stones into another group experience. Either way, enjoy the journey.

CAN WE DO THIS STUDY ON OUR OWN? Absolutely! This may sound crazy but one of the best ways to do this study is not with a full house but with a few friends. You may choose to gather with one other couple who would enjoy going out or having a quiet dinner and then walking through this study.

Jesus will be with you even if there are only two of you (Matthew 18:20).

people to join your group. All groups tend

WHAT IF THIS GROUP IS NOT WORKING FOR US?

to go through healthy attrition–the result

You’re not alone! This could be the result of

of moves, releasing new leaders, ministry

a personality conflict, life stage difference,

opportunities, and so forth–and if the

geographical distance, level of spiritual

group gets too small, it could be at risk of

maturity, or any number of things. Relax.

shutting down. If you and your group stay

Pray for God’s direction, and at the end

open, you’ll be amazed at the people God

of this 6-week study, decide whether to

sends your way. The next person just might

continue with this group or find another.

become a friend for life. You never know!

You don’t buy the first car you look at or marry the first person you date, and the

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same goes with a group. Don’t bail out

either in the same home or in another home

before the 6 weeks are up–God might have

nearby. This can be an incredible blessing

something to teach you. Also, don’t run

for kids. Finally, the most common idea is

from conflict or prejudge people before

to decide that you need to have a night to

you have given them a chance. God is still

invest in your spiritual lives individually

working in you too!

or as a couple, and to make your own

WHO IS THE LEADER? Most groups have an official leader. But ideally, the group will mature and members will rotate the leadership of meetings. We

arrangements for childcare. No matter what decision the group makes, the best approach is to dialogue openly about both the problem and the solution.

have discovered that healthy groups rotate hosts/leaders and homes on a regular basis.

This model ensures that all members grow, give their unique contribution, and develop their gifts. This study guide and the Holy Spirit can keep things on track even when you rotate leaders. Christ has promised to be in your midst as you gather. Ultimately, God is your leader each step of the way.

HOW DO WE HANDLE THE CHILD CARE NEEDS IN OUR GROUP? Very carefully. Seriously, this can be a sensitive issue. We suggest that you empower the group to openly brainstorm solutions. You may try one option that works for a while and then adjust over time.

Our favorite approach is for adults to meet in the living room or dining room, and to share the cost of a babysitter (or two) who can be with the kids in a different part of the house. In this way, parents don’t have to be away from their children all evening when their children are too young to be left at home. A second option is to use one home for the kids and a second home (close by or a phone call away) for the adults. A third idea is to rotate the responsibility of providing a lesson or care for the children

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OUR PURPOSE

SMALL GROUP AGREEMENT

To provide a predictable environment where participants experience authentic community and spiritual growth.

OUR VALUES GROUP ATTENDANCE SAVE ENVIRONMENT RESPECT DIFFERENCES

To give priority to the group meeting. We will call or email if we will be late or absent. (Completing the Group Calendar on page 150 will minimize this issue.)

To help create a safe place where people can be heard and feel loved. (Please, no quick answers, snap judgments, or simple fixes.)

To be gentle and gracious to people with different spiritual maturity, personal opinions, temperaments, or “imperfections� in fellow group members. We are all works in progress.

To keep anything that is shared strictly confidential and within

CONFIDENTIALITY

the group, and to avoid sharing improper information about those outside the group.

ENCOURAGEMENT FOR GROWTH SHARED OWNERSHIP

To remember that every member is a minister and to ensure that each attender will share a small team role or responsibility over time.

To remember that every member is a minister and to ensure that each attender will share a small team role or responsibility over time.

To encourage different people to host the group in their

ROTATING HOSTS/ homes, and to rotate the responsibility of facilitating each LEADERS AND HOMES meeting. (See the Group Calendar on page 150.)

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OUR EXPECTATIONS • Refreshments/mealtimes ______________________________________ • Childcare __________________________________________________ • When we will meet (day of week) _______________________________ • Where we will meet (place) ____________________________________ __________________________________________________________ • We will begin at (time) ___________ and end at ___________ • We will do our best to have some or all of us attend a worship service together. Our primary worship service time will be ____________________________________________________ • Date of this agreement _______________________________________ • Date we will review this agreement again _________________________ • Who (other than the leader) will review this agreement at the end of this study ____________________________________________

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GROUP CALENDAR Planning and calendaring can help ensure the greatest participation at every meeting. At the end of each meeting, review this calendar. Be sure to include a regular rotation of host homes and leaders, and don’t forget birthdays, socials, church events, holidays, and mission/ministry projects. Go to www.lifetogether.com for an electronic copy of this form and other ideas for your group to do together.

DATE

LESSON

Monday, January 15

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HOST HOME DESSERT/ MEAL Steve and Laura’s House

Joe

LEADER Bill

SPIRITUAL PARTNERS

CHECK-IN PAGE

MY NAME:

SPIRITUAL PARTNER’S NAME:

OUR PROGRESS

WEEK 6

WEEK 5

WEEK 4

WEEK 3

WEEK 2

WEEK 1

OUR PLANS

Briefly check in each week and write down your personal plans and progress for the next week (or even for the next few weeks). This could be done (before or after the meeting) on the phone, through an E-mail message, or even in person from time to time.

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MEMORY

VERSES

SESSION 1: WELCOMED—THE JOY OF COMMUNITY “A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.” (John 13:34, 35) SESSION 2 : SAVED—THE SCANDAL OF GRACE “For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith—and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God—not by works, so that no one can boast.”

(Eph. 2:8-9) SESSION 3 : SURROUNDED—THE NATURE OF GOD “May the grace of the Lord Jesus Christ, and the love of God, and the fellowship of the Holy Spirit be with you all.” (2 Corinthians 13:14) SESSION FOUR: GROUNDED—THE WISDOM OF THE BIBLE “All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness, so that the servant of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good work.” (2 Timothy 3:16-17) SESSION FIVE: GUIDED—THE PRIVILEGE OF PRAYER “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.” (Philippians 4:6) SESSION SIX: INVITED—THE OPPORTUNITY TO SERVE “For even the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.” (Mark 10:45, NIV)

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SM A L L G RO U P

L E A DE R S H E L P S KEY RESOURCES TO HELP YOUR LEADERSHIP EXPERIENCE BE THE BEST IT CAN BE!

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HOSTING AN

OPEN HOUSE If you’re starting a new group, try planning an “open house” before your first formal group meeting. Even if you have only two to four core members, it’s a great way to break the ice and to pray and discern who else might be open to joining you over the next few weeks. You can also use this kick-off meeting to hand out study guides, spend some time getting to know each other, discuss each person’s expectations for the group and briefly pray for each other.

A simple meal or good desserts always make a kick-off meeting more fun.

After people introduce themselves and share how they ended up being at the meeting (you can play a game to see who has the wildest story!), have everyone respond to a few icebreaker questions: • What is your favorite family vacation?

• What is one thing you love about your church/our community?

• What are three things about your life growing up that most people here don’t know?

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Next, ask everyone to tell what he or she hopes to get out of the study.

You might want to review the Small Group Agreement and talk about each person’s expectations and priorities.

Finally, set an open chair (maybe two) in the center of your group and explain that it represents someone who would enjoy or benefit from this group but who isn’t here yet. Ask people to pray about inviting someone to join the group over the next few weeks. Hand out postcards and have everyone write an invitation or two.

Don’t worry about ending up with too many people; you can always have one discussion circle in the living room and another in the dining room after you watch the lesson. Each group could then report prayer requests and progress at the end of the session.

You can skip this kick-off meeting if your time is limited, but you’ll experience a huge benefit if you take the time to connect with each other in this way.

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LEADING FOR

THE FIRST TIME TEN COMMON LEADERSHIP EXPERIENCES. WELCOME TO LIFE OUT IN FRONT!

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3.

Sweaty palms are a healthy sign. The Bible says God is gracious to the humble.

Remember who is in control; the time to worry is when you’re not worried. Those who are soft in heart (and sweaty palmed) are those whom God is sure to speak through.

Seek support. Ask your leader, co-leader, or close friend to pray for you and prepare with you before the session. Walking through the study will help you anticipate potentially difficult questions and discussion topics.

Bring your uniqueness to the study. Lean into who you are and how God wants you to uniquely lead the study.

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4.

Prepare. Prepare. Prepare. Go through the session several times. If you are using the DVD, listen to the teaching segment and Leadership Lifter. Consider writing in a journal or fasting for a day to prepare yourself for what God wants to do.

5.

Don’t wait until the last minute to prepare.

6.

Ask for feedback so you can grow. Perhaps in an email or on cards handed out at the study, have everyone write down three things you did well and one thing you could improve on. Don’t get defensive, but show an openness to learn and grow.

7.

Use online resources. There are many notable small group leader blogs and resources available.

8.

Pray about launching a new group. This doesn’t need to happen overnight, but God’s heart is for this to take place over time. Not all Christians are called to be leaders or teachers, but we are all called to be “shepherds” of a few someday.

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Share with your group what God is doing in your heart. God is searching for those whose hearts are fully his. Share your trials and victories. We promise that people will relate.

10. Pray about whom you would like to pass the baton to next week. It’s only fair. God is ready for the next member of your group to go on the faith journey you just traveled.

Make it fun, and expect God to do the rest.

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LEADERSHIP

TRAINING 101 TOP TEN IDEAS FOR NEW LEADERS

Congratulations! You have responded to the call to help shepherd Jesus’ flock.

There are few other tasks in the family of God that surpass the contribution you will be making. As you prepare to lead, whether it is one session or the entire series, here are a few thoughts to keep in mind. We encourage you to read these and review them with each new discussion leader before he or she leads.

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Remember that you are not alone. God knows everything about you, and He knew that you would be asked to lead your group. Remember that it is common for all good leaders to feel that they are not ready to lead. Moses, Solomon, Jeremiah and Timothy - they all were reluctant to lead. God promises, “Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you” (Hebrews 13:5). Whether you are leading for one evening, for several weeks, or for a lifetime, you will be blessed as you serve.

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Don’t try to do it alone. Pray right now for God to help you build a healthy leadership team.

If you can enlist a co-leader to help you lead the group, you will find your experience to be much richer. This is your chance to involve as many people as you can in building a healthy group. All you have to do is call and ask people to help, you’ll be surprised at the response.

3

Just be yourself. If you won’t be you, who will? God wants you to use your unique gifts and temperament. Don’t try to do things exactly like another leader; do them in a way that fits you! Just admit it when you don’t have an answer, and apologize when you make a mistake. Your group will love you for it, and you’ll sleep better at night!

4

Prepare for your meeting ahead of time. Review the session and the leader’s notes, and write down your responses to each question. Pay special attention to exercises that ask group members to do something other than engage in discussion.

These exercises will help your group live what the Bible teaches, not just talk about it.

Be sure you understand how an exercise works, and bring any necessary supplies (such as paper and pens) to your meeting. If the exercise employs one of the items in the Appendices, be sure to look over that item so you’ll know how it works.

Finally, review “Outline for Each Session” so you’ll remember the purpose of each section in the study.

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Pray for your group members by name. Before you begin your session, go around the room in your mind and pray for each member by name. You may want to review the prayer list at least once a week. Ask God to use your time together to touch the heart of every person uniquely. Expect God to lead you to whomever He wants you to encourage or challenge in a special way. If you listen, God will surely lead!

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When you ask a question, be patient. Someone will eventually respond. Sometimes people need a moment or two of silence to think about the question, and if silence doesn’t bother you, it won’t bother anyone else. After someone responds, affirm the response with a simple “thanks” or “good job.” Then ask, “How about somebody else?” or “Would someone who hasn’t shared like to add anything?”

Be sensitive to new people or reluctant members who aren’t ready to say, pray or do anything.

If you give them a safe setting, they will blossom over time.

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LEADERSHIP TRAINING 101 7

Provide transitions between questions. When guiding the discussion, always read aloud the transitional paragraphs and the questions. Ask the group if anyone would like to read the paragraph or Bible passage.

Don’t call on anyone, but ask for a volunteer, and then be patient until someone begins. Be sure to thank the person who reads aloud.

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Break up into small groups each week, or they won’t stay. If your group has more than seven people, we strongly encourage you to have the group gather sometimes in discussion circles of three or four people. With a greater opportunity to talk in a small circle, people will connect more with the study, apply more quickly what they’re learning and ultimately get more out of it.

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member. It can also help people feel more loved in your group.

When you gather again at the end of the section, you can have one person summarize the highlights from each circle.

Small circles are also helpful during prayer time. People who are unaccustomed to praying aloud will feel more comfortable trying it with just two or three others. Also, prayer requests won’t take as much time, so circles will have more time to actually pray. When you gather back with the whole group, you can have one person from each circle briefly update everyone on the prayer requests. People are more willing to pray in small circles if they know that the whole group will hear all the prayer requests.

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Rotate facilitators weekly.

At the end of each meeting, ask the group who should leadthe following week. Let the group help select your weekly facilitator. You may be perfectly capable of leading each time, but you will help others grow in their faith and gifts if you give them opportunities to lead.

You can use the Small Group Calendar to fill in the names of all meeting leaders at once if you prefer.

Matthew 9:36 1 Peter 5:2-4 Psalm 23 Ezekiel 34:11-16 1 Thessalonians 2:7-8, 11-12

10 One final challenge (for new or first time leaders): Before your first opportunity to lead, look up each of the five passages listed. Read each one as a devotional exercise to help equip yourself with a shepherd’s heart. Trust us on this one. If you do this, you will be more than ready for your first meeting.

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“I’M INTERESTED IN GOD, BUT I REALLY DON’T UNDERSTAND HIM.” “I’M CURIOUS ABOUT FAITH, BUT RELIGION Which of these statements accurately describes your spiritual life?

Does reading them make you long for change? For growth?

For transformation?

That’s exactly what this study is about—growing your faith as part of the Atonement’s Year of Transformation.

In the coming year, we’ll gather in community to do three studies in the Pathways series: Faith, Hope, and Love. In small groups, you will study God’s Word, and take a journey that will strengthen your connection with God and with others. You’ll experience and understand God’s love for you, and be inspired to love His people.

SEEMS TO BE ABOUT GUILT.” “GOD LOVES ME? WHAT DOES THAT MEAN, EXACTLY?” “I BELIEVE IN JESUS AND I GO TO CHURCH, BUT MY FAITH HAS KIND OF STALLED OUT. I’M STUCK.”

Welcome to Faith: Seeking Your Life in Christ Together. It’s our prayer that this study will help us to experience the love, joy, and peace that truly knowing God and His love can bring.

EVERYTHING SMALL GROUPS

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