Fight For It by Lifetogether Ministries

FIGHT FOR IT WHAT IN YOUR LIFE IS WORTH FIGHTING FOR?

DR. ROGER PATTERSON

SMALL GROUP STUDY GUIDE

Copyright © 2021 by Roger Patterson ALL RIGHTS RESERVED Published by LifeTogether Ministries Copyright and use of the curriculum template is retained by Brett Eastman. Unless otherwise noted, all Scripture quotes are taken from The Holy Bible, English Standard Version. ESV® Text Edition: 2016. Copyright © 2001 by Crossway Bibles, a publishing ministry of Good News Publishers, unless otherwise indicated. Photos used by permission: Justin Kellough - Photographer Emily Gutierrez - Photographer Nathaniel Fino - Videographer ISBN: 978-1-950007-67-7 Printed in the United States of America

CONTENTS 3 Endorsements 7 Foreword 11 Introduction 12

Using This Workbook (Read This First)

Outline for Each Session

SESSIONS 16

Session One: Overview

Session Two: Fighting for Yourself

Session Three: Fighting for Your Home Part 1

Session Four: Fighting for Your Home Part 2

82 Session Five: Fighting for Your Church and God’s Glory 96

Session Six: Fighting for Faithfulness

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Session Seven: Fighting for Your City

APPENDICES

129 Frequently Asked Questions 133 Small Group Agreement 134 Small Group Calendar 135 Weekly Check-in 136 Small Group Roster 137 Memory Verse Cards (Clip and Review) 140 Prayer and Praise Report

SMALL GROUP LEADERS 143 Hosting an Open House

145 Leading for the First Time 146 Leadership Training 150 Notes

ENDORSEMENTS

In Fight for It, Roger Patterson gives us a clarion call to bring our very best efforts to advance the work of God and the common good around us. Drawing on the wisdom of Scripture, inspiring stories, and helpful advice, this book is a must-read for anyone who wants to make a difference for Christ! -D. MICHAEL LINDSAY, author, Hinge Moments; president, Taylor University Roger Patterson has written an authentic and scripturally thoughtful book, one that has challenged me to ask basic questions about things that really matter: my personal devotion to Christ, my family, and the witness of the church. In all these arenas, there is soul-searching to do and habits to change so that we exercise the influence in the world that God has called us to have. I gladly commend this book. -DR. ROBERT SLOAN, President, Houston Baptist University Has life knocked you down? Have you gotten hit by a combination of punches? Are you constantly bobbing and weaving, desperately avoiding the swings of your enemy, unsure of whether you can handle another blow? ... The good news is that you don’t have to stay on the defensive. You don’t have to lose. Victory is yours. In Fight for It, Pastor Roger Patterson teaches you how to lay hold of the win that Christ has already given you. -CHRIS BROUSSARD, Sports Broadcaster and NBA Analyst, Founder/President of The K.I.N.G. Movement In Fight for It, Roger Patterson has brought out truth that is profoundly important for the time in which we live. Drawn from the pages of Scripture, Roger’s work does more than motivate Christians to do more; this content gives them a new way of looking at the challenges ahead and experiencing victory in their own “Fight Stories.” -RYAN RUSH, Founder of Empowered Homes & Senior Pastor, Kingsland Baptist Church

Roger Patterson is a leader of leaders. This excellent study reminds us that there are some fights that are worth the effort. Mining the stories of Ezra and Nehemiah, Roger points us toward a great future for our families and our churches. God will use this book to help us move forward together. -DR. DUANE BROOKS, Senior Pastor, Tallowood Baptist Church Many of us spend life wondering when the “stroll in the park” section begins. Unfortunately life is more of a fight than a stroll. But good news… God is with you and Roger has written “Fight for It” to show the path of winning in Christ. His book and the accompanying resources shine with great news… God has a plan for your battle and He is fighting for you! “Fight for It” is an effective tool for discovering, reminding and walking in the fight, victoriously. Read it to win. -GREGG MATTE, Pastor of Houston’s First Baptist Church I’ve been in a few fights in my life – from fighting for a World Series to fighting through addiction – I know that in so many ways, life is a fight. In Fight for It, Pastor Roger Patterson helps us understand four key fights for every follower of Jesus Christ. Keep fighting… -DARRYL STRAWBERRY, Four-time World Series Champion Roger Patterson has so well identified and addressed one of the greatest needs in our world. The need to FIGHT for what we believe in. Thankfully, he also included Biblical strategies to do so. Fight for It is rich with content and wisdom that is vital to navigate the challenges of life. -ERON GREEN, President/CEO, STCH Ministries You can’t win, unless you know what you’re fighting against. You can’t be victorious until you know how not to lose-this new book uniquely speaks to the challenge and opportunity we all have to battle for everyday-and how to win! I’m thankful for its wisdom for life’s daily match! -DAN ORLOVSKY, ESPN’s NFL Football Analyst & 13 Year NFL Quarterback

“Fight for It” is a call to action encouraging us to recognize the things in life that are truly worth our time, focus, energy and prayer. In other words, the things that are worth fighting for. Dr. Roger Patterson provides sound biblical teaching and innovative resources in this thought-provoking read. He has a way of igniting fresh understanding using simple illustrations to clarify deep spiritual truths. I know we will all be blessed by this teaching on how a “good fight” can strengthen marriages, heal homes, fortify the church, and even influence culture. —DR. ED YOUNG, Senior Pastor, Second Baptist Church, Houston If you’re like me, you’ve gotten knocked down by life sometime during the last couple of years. That’s why I was so excited to see Roger Patterson’s work in Fight for It. He takes clear principles from one of my favorite books on rebuilding (Nehemiah) and applies them to today’s challenges. You’ve either been knocked down, or you will be. Either way, you need this book. -WILLIAM VANDERBLOEMEN, Founder and CEO Vanderbloemen The books of Ezra and Nehemiah present one of the most unexpected comeback stories in history. They tell of the amazing impact of ordinary people, led by God, to dream the extraordinary. “Fight for It” skillfully weaves our everyday choices and challenges into the narrative and demonstrates how we too can be used by God to impact not only the lives of our family but the lives of our city. It pushes us to dream bigger. -DR. MARK HARTMAN, Lead Pastor, Sugar Creek Baptist Church Leaders should expect struggle and learn how to power through. Knowing what fights lay ahead, and that some fights matter while others don’t, are critical junctures in the journey of every leader. This book will be a great resource for any who are seeking to use God’s word for counsel, discernment, and encouragement as they navigate the fights that truly are worth fighting. -DR. JOSH ELLIS, Executive Director UBA, Houston

WELCOME 8

As you look around our world today on the macro-level, things are a mess. Our nation’s healthcare system has been stretched to its limit. Our education system had to reinvent itself. The political landscape is deeply fractured. The country is divided right down the middle on which way we should head. On the micro-level, we have isolated from our neighbors. Our trust in leaders seems to be at an all-time low. We are tired, frazzled, at our limits. We wonder if things will ever return to normal. Yet all these facts and feelings do not negate the reality that we have great potential as a people. Our story is not too dissimilar to what happened in the divided nations of Israel and Judah beginning in 605 B.C. Many were asking, “Where did we go wrong?” Others asked, “Is there a way forward?” In this context—where the temple of the Lord, the walls of the city of Jerusalem, the hearts of the residents of the land, were lying in ruin—this is where God was up to something. Before we dig into this story and learn about what God was up to, let me ask you some key questions to consider. In a sentence, can you clearly articulate: •

For what are you fighting?

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For whom are you fighting?

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What do you believe is worthy of your fight?

In this study, we will examine things that are worth fighting for. This includes fighting for yourself, your home, your church, and your city. We’ve got a lot of fighting to do. Let’s get ready for round one!

USING THIS WORKBOOK

Tools to Help You Have a Great Small Group Experience: 1.

Notice in the Table of Contents there are three sections: (1) Sessions; (2) Appendices; and (3) Small Group Leaders. Familiarize yourself with the Appendices. Some of them will be used in the sessions themselves.

2. If you are facilitating/leading or co-leading a small group, the section Small Group Leaders, will give you some experiences of others that will encourage you and help you avoid many common obstacles to effective small group leadership. 3. Use this workbook as a guide, not a straightjacket. If the group responds to the lesson in an unexpected but honest way, go with that. If you think of a better question than the next one in the lesson, ask it. Take to heart the insights included in the Frequently Asked Questions pages and the Small Group Leaders section. 4. Enjoy your Small Group experience. 5. Pray before each session—for your group members, for your time together, and for wisdom and insights. 6. Read the outline for each session on the next pages so that you understand how the sessions will flow.

OUTLINE OF EACH SESSION

A typical group session for the Fight For It study will include the following sections. Read through this to get a clear idea of how each group meeting will be structured: WEEKLY MEMORY VERSES Each session opens with a Memory Verse that emphasizes an important truth from the session. This is an optional exercise, but we believe that memorizing scripture can be a vital part of filling our minds with God’s Word for our lives. We encourage you to give this important habit a try. The verses for our seven sessions are also listed in the Appendices. INTRODUCTION Each lesson opens with a brief thought that will help you prepare for the session and get you thinking about the particular subject you will explore with your group. Make it a practice to read these before the session. You may want to have the group read them aloud. SHARE YOUR STORY The foundation for spiritual growth is an intimate connection with God and His family. You build that connection by sharing your story with a few people who really know you and who earn your trust. This section includes some simple questions to get you talking—letting you share as much or as little of your story as you feel comfortable doing. Each session typically offers you two options. You can get to know your whole group by using the icebreaker question(s), or you can check in with one or two group members for a deeper connection and encouragement in your spiritual journey.

HEAR GOD’S STORY In this section, you’ll read the Bible and listen to teaching, in order to hear God’s story—and begin to see how His story aligns with yours. When the study directs you, you will watch a short teaching segment. You’ll then have an opportunity to read a passage of Scripture, and discuss both the teaching and the text. You won’t focus on accumulating information but on how you should live in light of the Word of God. We want to help you apply the insights from Scripture practically and creatively, from your heart as well as your head. At the end of the day, allowing the timeless truths from God’s Word to transform our lives in Christ should be our greatest aim. STUDY NOTES This brief section provides additional commentary, background or insights on the passage you’ll study in the Hear God’s Story section. CREATE A NEW STORY God wants you to be a part of His Kingdom—to weave your story into His. That will mean change. It will require you to go His way rather than your own. This won’t happen overnight, but it should happen steadily. By making small, simple choices, we can begin to change our direction. This is where the Bible’s instructions to “be doers of the Word, not just hearers” (James 1:22) comes into play. Many people skip over this aspect of the Christian life because it’s scary, relationally awkward, or simply too much work for their busy schedules. But Jesus wanted all of His disciples to know Him personally, carry out His commands, and help outsiders connect with Him. This doesn’t necessarily mean preaching on street corners. It could mean welcoming newcomers, hosting a short-term group in your home, or walking through this study with a friend. In this study, you’ll have an opportunity to go beyond Bible study to biblical living. This section will also have a question or two that will challenge you to live out your faith by serving others, sharing your faith, and worshiping God. FOR ADDITIONAL STUDY If you have time and want to dig deeper into more Bible passages about the topic at hand, we’ve provided additional passages and questions, which you can use either during the meeting or as homework. Your

group may choose to read and prepare before each meeting in order to cover more biblical material. Or, group members can use the additional study section during the week after the meeting. If you prefer not to do homework, this section will provide you with plenty to discuss within the group. These options allow individuals or the whole group to expand their study while still accommodating those who can’t do homework or are new to your group. DAILY DEVOTIONS Each week on the Daily Devotions pages, we provide Scriptures to read and reflect on between sessions. This provides you with a chance to slow down, read just a small portion of Scripture each day, and reflect and pray through it. You’ll then have a chance to journal your response to what you’ve read. Use this section to seek God on your own throughout the week. This time at home should begin and end with prayer. Don’t get in a hurry; take enough time to hear God’s direction.

Session One

What are You Fighting For? MEMORY VERSE: ROMANS 8:37 No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us.

INTRODUCTION

Every one of us is in a fight of some kind. Your fight might be in a relationship, on the job, in your neighborhood, or even within yourself. As a follower of Jesus, you go to battle every day. The life you want, the family you want, the church you want, and the city you want just don’t happen by default. It takes effort. It requires intentionality. It’s a fight. What are you fighting for?

SHARE YOUR STORY Each of us has a story. The events of our life—good, bad, wonderful or challenging— have shaped who we are. God knows your story, and He intends to redeem it—to use every struggle and every joy to ultimately bring you to Himself. When we share our stories with others, we give them the opportunity to see God at work. When we share our stories, we also realize we are not alone—that we have common experiences and thoughts, and that others can understand what we are going through. Your story can encourage someone else, and telling it can lead to a path of freedom for you and for those you share it with. Open your group with prayer. This should be a brief, simple prayer, in which you invite God to give you insight as you study. You can pray for specific requests at the end of the meeting, or stop momentarily to pray if a particular situation comes up during your discussion. Before you start this first meeting, get contact information for every participant. Take time to pass around a copy of the Small Group Roster on page 134, a sheet of paper, or pass around your Study Guide, opened to the Small Group Roster. Ask someone to make copies or type up a list with everyone’s information, and email it to the group during the week.

Then, begin your time together by using the following questions and activities to get people talking. 1.

When you think of a fight, what comes to mind?

2. Have you ever been in any kind of a fight? Tell the group how it turned out. •

Whether your group is new or ongoing, it’s always important to reflect on and review your values together. On page 131 is a Small Group Agreement with the values we’ve found most useful in sustaining healthy, balanced groups. We recommend that you choose one or two values—ones you haven’t previously focused on or have room to grow in—to emphasize during this study. Choose ones that will take your group to the next stage of intimacy and spiritual health.

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If your group is new, welcome newcomers. Introduce everyone— you may even want to have name tags for your first meeting.

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We recommend you rotate host homes on a regular basis and let the hosts lead the meeting. Studies show that healthy groups rotate leadership. This helps to develop every member’s ability to shepherd a few people in a safe environment. Even Jesus gave others the opportunity to serve alongside Him (Mark 6:30-44). Look at the FAQs in the Appendices for additional information about hosting or leading the group.

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The Small Group Calendar on page 132 is a tool for planning who will host and lead each meeting. Take a few minutes to plan hosts and leaders for your remaining meetings. Don’t skip this important step! It will revolutionize your group. If anyone is hesitant, simply tell them to think about it, and you’ll get back to them.

WATCH VIDEO SESSION 1 Use the Teaching Notes space provided on page 150 to record key thoughts, questions and things you want to remember or follow up on. After watching the video, have someone read the discussion questions in the Hear God’s Story section and direct the discussion among the group. As you go through each of the subsequent sections, ask someone else to read the questions, and direct the discussion.

HEAR GOD’S STORY READ NEHEMIAH 4:10-14 In Judah it was said, “The strength of those who bear the burdens is failing. There is too much rubble. By ourselves we will not be able to rebuild the wall.” And our enemies said, “They will not know or see till we come among them and kill them and stop the work.” At that time the Jews who lived near them came from all directions and said to us ten times, “You must return to us.” So in the lowest parts of the space behind the wall, in open places, I stationed the people by their clans, with their swords, their spears, and their bows. And I looked and arose and said to the nobles and to the officials and to the rest of the people, “Do not be afraid of them. Remember the Lord, who is great and awesome, and fight for your brothers, your sons, your daughters, your wives, and your homes.”

According to this passage, what opposition did the Jews face in rebuilding the wall?

2. How does remembering the Lord “who is great and awesome” dispel fear?

3. When a task is difficult why is it important to remember the cause you are fighting for?

4. In the video, [Roger] explained the four fights we are all in: self, home, church, and city. Which of these fights are affecting you the most right now?

STUDY NOTES JUDAH, verse 10, the two southern tribes of Israel. The most skilled and intellectual members of Judah were held in captivity in Babylon from 597-538 BC. YOU MUST RETURN TO US, verse 12, The translation of the phrase is uncertain. Other Bible translations use “Wherever you turn, they will attack us” (NIV) and “They will come up against us from every place where you may turn” (NASB). This does not mean that the passage is disputed or unreliable only that the exact translation is uncertain.

CREATE A NEW STORY God wants you to be part of His kingdom—to weave your story into His. That will mean change—to go His way rather than your own. This won’t happen overnight, but it should happen steadily. By starting with small, simple choices, we begin to change our direction. The Holy Spirit helps us along the way—giving us gifts to serve the body, offering us insights into scripture, and challenging us to love not only those around us but those far from God. In this section, talk about how you will apply the wisdom you’ve learned from the teaching and Bible study. Then think about practical steps you can take in the coming week to live out what you’ve learned.

When you think of fighting for yourself, where are you winning these days? Where are you falling behind?

2. What is front and center in the fight for your family, your church, or your city these days?

3. What is your personal fight right now? 4. What is one thing you can do this week to advance your fight? 5. Take a look at the Circles of Life diagram below and write the names of two or three people you know who need to know Christ. Commit to praying for God’s guidance and an opportunity to share with each of them. Perhaps they would be open to joining the group? Share your lists with the group so you can all be praying for the people you’ve identified.

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Also consider someone—in this group or outside it—that you can begin going deeper with in an intentional way. This might be your mom or dad, a cousin, an aunt or uncle, a roommate, a college buddy, or a neighbor. Choose someone who might be open to “doing life” with you at a deeper level and pray about that opportunity.

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This week, how will you interact with the Bible? Can you commit to spending time in daily prayer or study of God’s Word (use the Daily Devotions section to guide you)? Tell the group how you plan to follow Jesus this week, and then, at your next meeting, talk about your progress and challenges.

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Commit together to taking a risk and going deeper in your group and in your relationships with each other.

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Ask, “How can we pray for you this week?” Invite everyone to share, but don’t force the issue. Be sure to write prayer requests on your Prayer and Praise Report on page 140.

Close your meeting with prayer.

FOR ADDITIONAL STUDY

If you feel God nudging you to go deeper, take some time before the next meeting to dig into His Word. Explore the Bible passages related to this session’s theme on your own and jot your reflections in a journal or in this study guide. A great way to gain insight on a passage is to read it in several different translations. You may want to use a Bible app or website to compare translations.

READ JEREMIAH 29:1-9 1.

What were God’s instructions to the exiles?

2. Even though the Israelites were captives, how were they to bless the city of their captivity?

3. How can you seek the welfare of your city?

READ ROMANS 8:18-30. 1. How is creation suffering?

2. What is the role of hope amidst suffering?

3. How can you offer hope to others?

DAY 1. READ DEUTERONOMY 31:6

DAILY DEVOTIONS

Be strong and courageous. Do not fear or be in dread of them, for it is the Lord your God who goes with you. He will not leave you or forsake you.” Respond: How often do you recognize that God is with you?

DAY 2. READ PROVERBS 3:7 Be not wise in your own eyes; fear the Lord, and turn away from evil. Respond: How are you wise in your own eyes these days?

DAY 3. READ PROVERBS 15:16 Better is a little with the fear of the Lord than great treasure and trouble with it. Respond: How have you found this scripture to be true?

DAY 4. READ HEBREWS 13:6

DAY 6

So we can confidently say, “The Lord is my helper; I will not fear; what can man do to me?”

Reflect on the verses from this past week, and use the following space to write any thoughts God has put in your heart and mind about the things we have looked at in this session and during your Daily Devotions time this week.

Respond: How can the Lord help you deal with what you fear?

DAY 5. READ JOHN 14:12 Truly, truly, I say to you, whoever believes in me will also do the works that I do; and greater works than these will he do, because I am going to the Father. Respond: Considering all of the great things Jesus has done, what is He calling you to do?

Session Two

Fighting for Yourself MEMORY VERSE: NEHEMIAH 1:11 Give success to your servant today and grant him mercy in the sight of this man.

INTRODUCTION

Not every fight is a fight for your life. Some stories are filled with great opportunity. Some are calls for leaders to shift gears and make a difference. Some are sacrifices to become special as an athlete, a student, or a professional. Whatever they are, they are fights to stay relevant against the tide that is coming against you.

SHARE YOUR STORY As we said last week, when we share our stories with others, we give them the opportunity to see God at work. Your story is being shaped, even in this moment, by being part of this group. In fact, few things can shape us more than community. When we share our stories, we can encourage someone else, and learn. We experience the presence of God as He helps us be brave enough to reveal our thoughts and feelings. Open your group with prayer. This should be a brief, simple prayer in which you invite God to be with you as you meet. You can pray for specific requests at the end of the meeting, or stop momentarily to pray if a particular situation comes up during your discussion.

Begin your time together by using the following questions and activities to get people talking: 1.

In the last session we asked you to write some names in the Circles of Life diagram. Who did you identify as the people in your life who need to meet Jesus? Go back to the Circles of Life diagram on page 27 to help you think of various people you come in contact with on a regular basis; people who need to know Jesus more deeply. Consider ideas for action and make a plan to follow through on one of them this week.

WATCH VIDEO SESSION 2

HEAR GOD’S STORY READ NEHEMIAH 4:10-14

The words of Nehemiah the son of Hacaliah. Now it happened in the month of Chislev, in the twentieth year, as I was in Susa the citadel, that Hanani, one of my brothers, came with certain men from Judah. And I asked them concerning the Jews who escaped, who had survived the exile, and concerning Jerusalem. And they said to me, “The remnant there in the province who had survived the exile is in great trouble and shame. The wall of Jerusalem is broken down, and its gates are destroyed by fire.” As soon as I heard these words I sat down and wept and mourned for days, and I continued fasting and praying before the God of heaven. And I said, “O Lord God of heaven, the great and awesome God who keeps covenant and steadfast love with those who love him and keep his commandments, let your ear be attentive and your eyes open, to hear the prayer of your servant that I now pray before you day and night for the people of Israel your servants, confessing the sins of the people of Israel, which we have sinned against you. Even I and my father’s house have sinned. We have acted very corruptly against you and have not kept the commandments, the statutes, and the rules that you commanded your servant Moses. Remember the word that you commanded your servant Moses, saying, ‘If you are unfaithful, I will scatter you among the peoples, but if you return to me and keep my commandments and do them, though your outcasts are in the uttermost parts of heaven, from there I will gather them and bring them to the place that I have chosen, to make my name dwell there.’ They are your servants and your people, whom you have redeemed by your great power and by your strong hand. O Lord, let your ear be attentive to the prayer of your servant, and to the prayer of your servants who delight to fear your name, and give success to your servant today, and grant him mercy in the sight of this man.”

What caused Nehemiah to feel overwhelmed?

2. How does Nehemiah acknowledge God at the beginning of his prayer?

3. How does Nehemiah take responsibility for Israel’s sin?

4. At the end of this account, Nehemiah states he is the king’s cupbearer. As a cupbearer, what could he do about the condition of Jerusalem’s walls and gates?

STUDY NOTES HACALIAH, verse 1, There is no other mention of Hacaliah in the Bible except as the father of Nehemiah (1:1; 10:1) MONTH OF CHISLEV, verse 1, Chislev (or Kislev) is the ninth month on the Jewish calendar and occurs in November-December. WEEPING, MOURNING, FASTING, PRAYING, verse 4, fasting and praying often accompanies weeping and mourning in the Bible. For example: “But I, when they were sick--I wore sackcloth; I afflicted myself with fasting; I prayed with head bowed on my chest.” Psalm 35:13

CREATE A NEW STORY In this section, talk about how you will apply the wisdom you’ve learned from the teaching and Bible study. Then think about practical steps you can take in the coming week to live out what you’ve learned.

What has caused you to weep and mourn?

2. Why is it important to remind ourselves of God’s goodness when we are overwhelmed? 3. How has God answered your prayers about a seemingly impossible situation in the past? 4. What is one thing you need to start doing regarding your situation? What is one thing you need to stop doing regarding your situation?

5. Here are some simple ways to connect with God. Tell the group which ones you plan to try this week, and talk about your progress and challenges when you meet next time.

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Prayer. Commit to personal prayer and daily connection with God. You may find it helpful to write your prayers in a journal.

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Daily Devotions. The Daily Devotions provided in each session offers an opportunity to read a short Bible passage five days a week during the course of our study. In our hurry-up world, we often move too quickly through everything—even reading God’s Word! Slow down. Don’t just skim, but take time to carefully read and reflect on the passage. Write down your insights on what you read each day. Copy a portion of Scripture on a card and tape it somewhere in your line of sight, such as your car’s dashboard or the bathroom mirror. Or text it to yourself! Think about it when you sit at red lights or while you’re eating a meal. Reflect on what God is saying to you through these words. On the sixth day summarize what God has shown you throughout the week.

6. Ask, “How can we pray for you this week?” Invite everyone to share, but don’t force the issue. Be sure to write prayer requests on your Prayer and Praise Report on page 140 . Close your meeting with prayer.

FOR ADDITIONAL STUDY

READ PHILIPPIANS 4:4-9. 1.

What does Paul instruct you to do when you are anxious?

2. What is the result of prayer and petition according to this passage?

3. What are you anxious about right now? How can verses 8-9 help you embrace God’s truth for what you are anxious over?

READ PSALM 30:1-12 . 1.

When have you felt how the psalmist feels in this passage?

2. What is the psalmist solution for feeling overwhelmed?

3. How has God turned your “mourning into dancing” in the past?

DAY 1. READ PROVERBS 19:21

DAILY DEVOTIONS

Many are the plans in the mind of a man, but it is the purpose of the Lord that will stand. Respond: How could your plans be getting in the way of God’s purpose in your life?

DAY 2. READ HEBREWS 4:16 Let us then with confidence draw near to the throne of grace, that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need. Respond: In what area of your life do you need God’s mercy and grace today?

DAY 3. READ PSALM 24:1-2

DAY 5. READ PSALM 34:19

The earth is the Lord’s and the fullness thereof, the world and those who dwell therein, for he has founded it upon the seas and established it upon the rivers.

Many are the afflictions of the righteous, but the Lord delivers him out of them all.

Respond: How do you find comfort and confidence in this passage?

DAY 4. READ JONAH 4:3 Therefore now, O Lord, please take my life from me, for it is better for me to die than to live. Respond: When have you felt this kind of despair? How did God intervene?

Respond: How is the Lord delivering you out of your afflictions?

DAY 6 Reflect on the verses from this past week, and use the following space to write any thoughts God has put in your heart and mind about the things we have looked at in this session and during your Daily Devotions time this week.

Session Three

Fighting for Your Home Part 1 MEMORY VERSE: JOSHUA 24:15 But as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.

INTRODUCTION

The messy middle is where life really happens. It’s where our greatest character is formed. It’s where we learn to overcome challenges and embrace opportunities. It’s where we learn to resolve conflict or not. It’s where we will press ahead or where we learn to quit.

SHARE YOUR STORY Open your group with prayer. This should be a brief, simple prayer in which you invite God to be with you as you meet. You can pray for specific requests at the end of the meeting, or stop momentarily to pray if a particular situation comes up during your discussion. Sharing personal stories builds deeper connections among group members. Begin your time together by using the following questions and activities to get people talking.

Whose family do you admire and why?

2. Last week you stated a step you would take this past week. Report your progress to the group.

WATCH VIDEO SESSION 3

HEAR GOD’S STORY Use the following questions to guide your discussion of the teaching and stories you just experienced in the video and the Bible passage below. READ GENESIS 2:18-25. Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.” Now out of the ground the Lord God had formed every beast of the field and every bird of the heavens and brought them to the man to see what he would call them. And whatever the man called every living creature, that was its name. The man gave names to all livestock and to the birds of the heavens and to every beast of the field. But for Adam there was not found a helper fit for him. So the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and while he slept took one of his ribs and closed up its place with flesh. And the rib that the Lord God had taken from the man he made into a woman and brought her to the man. Then the man said, “This at last is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.” Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed.

What did God say was “not good?”

2. How was the woman created differently than every other living creature?

3. How was the creation of the woman more personal to man?

STUDY NOTES HELPER FIT FOR HIM, verse 18, also translated “a helper corresponding to him.” ADAM, verse 20, Adam literally means “the man.” SHE SHALL BE CALLED WOMAN, verse 23, the Hebrew words for woman (ishshah) and man (ish) sound alike.

CREATE A NEW STORY God wants you to be part of His Kingdom—to weave your story into His. That will mean change. It will require you to go His way rather than your own. This won’t happen overnight, but it should happen steadily. By making small, simple choices, we can begin to change our direction. The Holy Spirit helps us along the way, by giving us gifts to serve the body, offering us insights into Scripture, and challenging us to love not only those around us but those far from God. In this section, talk about how you will apply the wisdom you’ve learned in this session.

According to Roger’s teaching, what does it mean to become one flesh?

2. How does your belief about marriage affect your marriage?

3. How have you been shown sacrificial and unconditional love by anyone in your life? 4. In the video, Roger gave the acrostic B.L.I.S.S. which stands for Belief, Love, Intentionality, Service, and Sex. Rank these five components from best to worst in your marriage. 5. Choose one component for you and your spouse to work on this week. What step will you take this week to improve this area of your marriage? 6. What steps will you take this week to grow in your relationship with God? If you’ve focused on prayer in past weeks, maybe you’ll want to direct your attention to Scripture this week. If you’ve been reading God’s Word consistently, perhaps you’ll want to take it deeper, and try memorizing a verse. Tell the group which one you plan to try this week, and talk about your progress and challenges when you meet next time. 7. Ask, “How can we pray for you this week?” Invite everyone to share, but don’t force the issue. Be sure to write prayer requests on your Prayer and Praise Report on page 140. Close your meeting with prayer.

FOR ADDITIONAL STUDY

What is the balance between love and submission expressed in this passage?

2. How is loving your wife the same as loving your own body?

3. Why is love important to wives and respect important to husbands? How well are you loving or respecting your spouse?

READ 1 CORINTHIANS 13: 1-13. 1.

According to verses 1-3, what is the priority of love over spiritual gifts and sacrifice?

2. As you read through the qualities of love in verses 4-7, which quality is the most difficult for you?

3. Why is love the greatest thing?

DAY 1. READ 1 PETER 4:8

DAILY DEVOTIONS

Above all, keep loving one another earnestly, since love covers a multitude of sins. Respond: How have you experienced unconditional love in your life?

DAY 2. READ HOSEA 3:1 And the Lord said to me, “Go again, love a woman who is loved by another man and is an adulteress, even as the Lord loves the children of Israel, though they turn to other gods and love cakes of raisins.” Respond: When have you experienced love you did not deserve?

DAY 3. READ PHILIPPIANS 2:3-4

DAY 5. READ MATTHEW 19:6

Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.

So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.

Respond: How are you putting your interests before others? How are you putting others’ interests before yours?

Respond: What is pulling at your marriage? How can you stop it from separating you?

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DAY 4. READ EPHESIANS 5:21 Ephesians 5:21 Respond: How well are you avoiding selfishness and submitting to others?

Session Four

Fighting for Your Home Part 2 MEMORY VERSE: ROMANS 8:28 And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.

INTRODUCTION

To fight the battle in prayer is to touch the throne of God and come out victorious. You see, enduring the fight creates a sweetness in our relationships with Christ. This is the irreplaceable fellowship that we can only get because He gets us through the battle to the other side.

SHARE YOUR STORY Open your group with prayer. This should be a brief, simple prayer, in which you invite God to be with you as you meet. You can pray for specific requests at the end of the meeting or stop momentarily to pray if a particular situation comes up during your discussion. As we have said in previous lessons, sharing our personal stories builds deeper connections among group members. Your story may be exactly what another person needs to hear, and listening to others’ stories is an act of love and kindness to them—and could very well help them to grow spiritually. Begin your time together by using the following questions and activities to get people talking. 1.

What is something you can thank God for now that you weren’t so thankful for at the time?

2. Last week you stated a step you would take this past week. Report your progress to the group. 3. Share one prayer request and one thing you want to thank God for. Spend some time praying about what you’ve shared. (See Share Your Story in Session Two on page 37) 4.

Take some time for each person to share about how they’re doing on the challenge of inviting the people on the Circles of Life diagram to church or your small group. What specific conversations are you praying about for the weeks to come?

WATCH VIDEO SESSION 4

HEAR GOD’S STORY READ EXODUS 17:8-16. Then Amalek came and fought with Israel at Rephidim. So Moses said to Joshua, “Choose for us men, and go out and fight with Amalek. Tomorrow I will stand on the top of the hill with the staff of God in my hand.” So Joshua did as Moses told him, and fought with Amalek, while Moses, Aaron, and Hur went up to the top of the hill. Whenever Moses held up his hand, Israel prevailed, and whenever he lowered his hand, Amalek prevailed. But Moses’ hands grew weary, so they took a stone and put it under him, and he sat on it, while Aaron and Hur held up his hands, one on one side, and the other on the other side. So his hands were steady until the going down of the sun. And Joshua overwhelmed Amalek and his people with the sword. Then the Lord said to Moses, “Write this as a memorial in a book and recite it in the ears of Joshua, that I will utterly blot out the memory of Amalek from under heaven.” And Moses built an altar and called the name of it, The Lord Is My Banner, saying, “A hand upon the throne of the Lord! The Lord will have war with Amalek from generation to generation.”

What was the relationship between Moses’ staff and the Israelites’ fight with Amalek?

2. How was Moses able to hold his hand up until sundown?

3. Moses had Aaron and Hur to support him during the battle. Who supports you?

4. The battle at Rephidim was symbolic, in that, Moses’ actions on the plain above impacted the battle below. The plain above represents your prayer life. How does your prayer life impact your fight? Why is it easy to get involved in the fight and avoid prayer? What is the result?

STUDY NOTES REPHIDIM, verse 8, Located between Wadi Refayid in SW Sinai, Rephidim was the Israelites last stopping point before they reached Mt. Sinai. AMALEK, verse 9, or the Amalekites, were a nomadic tribe who descended from Esau. The Israelites were descended from Esau’s brother, Jacob. THE LORD IS MY BANNER, verse 15, is the name Jehovah-Nissi in Hebrew. This name represents how Moses’ hands were held up during the battle similar to how a banner is held aloft in a battle.

CREATE A NEW STORY 1.

In the video, Roger shares how “a hand upon the throne” represents acknowledging the hard things in the past that brought you to the place you are today. What hard things have brought you to where you are today?

2. Why do you need to remember things that you’d much rather forget? 3. In the video, Roger mentioned three enemies that everyone faces: the world, the flesh, and the devil. How are these enemies impacting your life right now?

4. What can you do to intentionally dwell on the “higher plain” this week? 5. Each of you in the group has different gifts and abilities. And every small group has tasks and roles that need to be done. How could you serve this group—perhaps with hospitality or prayer, by organizing an event, research or study of a topic, or inviting new people? 6. Spend some time praying about those you know who might respond to a simple invitation: to come to a church service, to join your small group, or even to just have coffee and talk about spiritual matters. Ask the Holy Spirit to bring to mind people you can pray for. 7. Groups grow closer when they serve together. How could your group serve someone in need? You may want to visit those who are homebound from your church, provide a meal for a family who is going through difficulty, or give some other practical help to someone in need. If nothing comes to mind, spend time praying and asking God to show you who needs your help. Have two or three group members organize a serving project for the group, and then do it!

FOR ADDITIONAL STUDY

READ EPHESIANS 6:10-20. 1.

What is the whole armor of God? Why is the importance of putting on the whole armor of God?

2. Who are you having a difficult time with? Could this be a spiritual battle?

3. Which part of the armor of God is lacking in your day to day life?

READ EPHESIANS 3:14-20. 4. According to this verse, how do you receive God’s strength?

5. What does it mean to be “rooted and grounded in love?”

6. What is the biggest thing you’ve ever asked God for or ever thought about? What could God do that is “far more abundant” than that?

DAY 1. READ MATTHEW 6:13

DAILY DEVOTIONS

And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil. Respond: What is tempting you right now? Pray for God’s deliverance.

DAY 2. READ JOHN 16:33 I have said these things to you, that in me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation. But take heart; I have overcome the world. Respond: Where do you need God’s peace in your life?

DAY 3. READ GALATIANS 6:14 But far be it from me to boast except in the cross of our Lord Jesus Christ, by which the world has been crucified to me, and I to the world. Respond: What does it mean to you to be crucified to the world?

DAY 4. READ GALATIANS 2:20

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I have been crucified with Christ. It is no longer I who live, but Christ who lives in me. And the life I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me.

Respond: How well is Christ living in you?

DAY 5. READ 1 THESSALONIANS 5:17 pray without ceasing Respond: How can you make prayer your first response?

Session Five

Fighting for Your Church and God’s Glory MEMORY VERSE: ROMANS 12:5 So we, though many, are one body in Christ, and individually members one of another.

INTRODUCTION

The church is the place where the Word of God is proclaimed and where the people of God gather to be built up in order to be sent out. The church is described as the body of Christ and the bride of Christ. We know all of these things about the church. But what if we understood the church to be the gathering point to be fueled up and filled up for the fight of our lives? What if it became the place where we pulled in, opened up the gas tank and made sure the fuel line was inserted so that we could be prepared for the road ahead as we live for the glory of God?

SHARE YOUR STORY Open your group with prayer. This should be a brief, simple prayer, in which you invite God to be with you as you meet. You can pray for specific requests at the end of the meeting or stop momentarily to pray if a particular situation comes up during your discussion. Telling our personal stories builds deeper connections among group members. Begin your time together by using the following questions and activities to get people talking. Sharing our stories requires us to be honest. We can help one another be honest and open by creating a safe place; be sure that your group is one where confidentiality is respected, where there is no such thing as “stupid questions,” where you listen without criticizing one another.

When you hear the word “church,” what comes to mind?

2. Why would Christians need to fight for the church? 3.

Last week you stated a step you would take this past week. Report your progress to the group.

WATCH VIDEO SESSION 5

HEAR GOD’S STORY READ EZRA 2:68-70; 3:1-3 Some of the heads of families, when they came to the house of the Lord that is in Jerusalem, made freewill offerings for the house of God, to erect it on its site. According to their ability they gave to the treasury of the work 61,000 darics of gold, 5,000 minas of silver, and 100 priests’ garments. Now the priests, the Levites, some of the people, the singers, the gatekeepers, and the temple servants lived in their towns, and all the rest of Israel in their towns. When the seventh month came, and the children of Israel were in the towns, the people gathered as one man to Jerusalem. Then arose Jeshua the son of Jozadak, with his fellow priests, and Zerubbabel the son of Shealtiel with his kinsmen, and they built the altar of the God of Israel, to offer burnt offerings on it, as it is written in the Law of Moses the man of God. They set the altar in its place, for fear was on them because of the peoples of the lands, and they offered burnt offerings on it to the Lord, burnt offerings morning and evening.

How did the Israelites give to the treasury? Why is this significant?

2. What motivated the Israelites to set the altar in its place?

3. What were the Israelites afraid of?

STUDY NOTES DARICS, verse 69, a coin weighing about ¼ ounce. MINAS, verse 69, a measurement of about 1 ¼ pounds REST OF ISRAEL, verse 70, or all Israel

CREATE A NEW STORY 1.

How have you experienced fear of “the peoples of the lands?”

2. How does the fear (respect) of the Lord replace the fear of “the peoples of the lands?” 3. What is the relationship between worship and mission? 4. What is one act of worship you can practice this week? 5. Spend some time praying about those you know who might respond to a simple invitation: to come to a church service, to join your small group, or even just to have coffee and talk about spiritual matters. Ask the Holy Spirit to bring to mind people you can pray for. 6. A strong group is made up of people who are all being filled up by God, so that they are empowered to love one another. What specific steps will you take this week to connect with God privately, so He can “fill you up?” If you’ve focused on prayer in past weeks, maybe you’ll want to direct your attention to Scripture this week. If you’ve been reading God’s Word consistently, perhaps you’ll want to take it deeper and try memorizing a verse. Tell the group which one you plan to try this week. Then, at your next meeting, talk about your progress and challenges. 7. Ask “How can we pray for you this week?” Invite everyone to share, but don’t force the issue. Be sure to write prayer requests on your Prayer and Praise Report on page 140. Close your meeting with prayer.

FOR ADDITIONAL STUDY

READ EPHESIANS 1:15-23. 1.

Why did Paul give thanks for the Ephesians?

2. According to this passage, what are the components that make up “the hope to which He has called you?”

3. What has Christ given to the church?

READ PSALM 34:1-10 . 1.

What is continually in your mouth? How can you praise God continually?

2. What are you grateful for?

3. Read this psalm aloud. What stands out to you?

DAY 1. READ PSALM 67:3-4

DAILY DEVOTIONS

Let the peoples praise you, O God; let all the peoples praise you! Let the nations be glad and sing for joy, for you judge the peoples with equity and guide the nations upon earth. Respond: How can you praise God for His justice today?

DAY 2. READ PROVERBS 29:18 Where there is no prophetic vision the people cast off restraint. Respond: How are you discouraged today by a lack of vision?

DAY 3. READ ROMANS 10:17 So faith comes from hearing, and hearing through the word of Christ. Respond: How is what you are listening to impacting your faith?

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READ 1 PETER 2:9

But you are a chosen race, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people for his own possession, that you may proclaim the excellencies of him who called you out of darkness into his marvelous light. Respond: How do the words of this verse affect you?

DAY 5 READ PSALM 119:105 Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path. Respond: How do you need God’s Word to illuminate your path today?

Session Six

Fighting for Faithfulness MEMORY VERSE: ACTS 13:36 For David, after he had served the purpose of God in his own generation, fell asleep and was laid with his fathers and saw corruption.

INTRODUCTION

One of the things that drew me to the Ezra and Nehemiah story is that it’s a rebuilding story. The temple was razed and so were the walls of Jerusalem. Many businesses, churches, and organizations find themselves rebuilding. As we opened back up from being shut down from the Coronavirus Pandemic, I told our staff, “You can tear anything down in a day – a career, a marriage, or a high-rise. But it takes seasons to build. It will take us two years to rebuild.”

SHARE YOUR STORY Open your group with prayer. This should be a brief, simple prayer, in which you invite God to be with you as you meet. You can pray for specific requests at the end of the meeting or stop momentarily to pray if a particular situation comes up during your discussion. Telling our personal stories builds deeper connections among group members. Begin your time together by using the following questions and activities to get people talking. Sharing our stories requires us to be honest. We can help one another be honest and open by creating a safe place; be sure that your group is one where confidentiality is respected, where there is no such thing as “stupid questions,” where you listen without criticizing one another.

What does it mean to be faithful?

2. Who is an outstanding example of faithfulness in your life? 3. Last week you stated a step you would take this past week. Report your progress to the group.

WATCH VIDEO SESSION 6

HEAR GOD’S STORY READ NEHEMIAH 4:1-6. Now when Sanballat heard that we were building the wall, he was angry and greatly enraged, and he jeered at the Jews. And he said in the presence of his brothers and of the army of Samaria, “What are these feeble Jews doing? Will they restore it for themselves? Will they sacrifice? Will they finish up in a day? Will they revive the stones out of the heaps of rubbish, and burned ones at that?” Tobiah the Ammonite was beside him, and he said, “Yes, what they are building—if a fox goes up on it he will break down their stone wall!” Hear, O our God, for we are despised. Turn back their taunt on their own heads and give them up to be plundered in a land where they are captives. Do not cover their guilt, and let not their sin be blotted out from your sight, for they have provoked you to anger in the presence of the builders. So we built the wall. And all the wall was joined together to half its height, for the people had a mind to work.

What was Sanballat’s response to the Jews building the wall?

2. What action did the Jews take?

3. When have you felt opposition to your faithfulness?

4. How does your faithfulness motivate others?

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STUDY NOTES WILL THEY RESTORE IT FOR THEMSELVES?, verse 2, is also translated “Will they commit themselves to God?” HEAPS OF RUBBISH AND BURNED ONES, verse 2. The walls had been burned, and fire made the limestone disintegrate. TOBIAH THE AMMONITE, verse 3, is also referred to as “the servant,” (Nehemiah 2:10) and may have been a freed slave.

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CREATE A NEW STORY God wants you to be part of His kingdom—to weave your story into His. That will mean change. It will require you to go His way rather than your own. This won’t happen overnight, but it should happen steadily. By making small, simple choices, we can begin to change our direction. The Holy Spirit helps us along the way— giving us gifts to serve the body, offering us insights into Scripture, and challenging us to love not only those around us but those far from God. In this section, talk about how you will apply the wisdom you’ve learned in this lesson.

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What rewards have you experienced for faithfulness?

2. What have you lost for not being faithful?

3. How do you need to grow in your faithfulness to God, to your spouse, to your family, or to your church? 4.

What is one thing you can do this week to demonstrate your faithfulness to someone?

5. Spend some time praying about those you know who might respond to a simple invitation: to come to a church service, to join your small group, or even just to have coffee and talk about spiritual matters. Ask the Holy Spirit to bring to mind people you can pray for. 6. A strong group is made up of people who are all being filled up by God, so that they are empowered to love one another. What specific steps will you take this week to connect with God privately, so He can “fill you up?” If you’ve focused on prayer in past weeks, maybe you’ll want to direct your attention to Scripture this week. If you’ve been reading God’s Word consistently, perhaps you’ll want to take it deeper and try memorizing a verse. Tell the group which one you plan to try this week. Then, at your next meeting, talk about your progress and challenges. 7. Ask “How can we pray for you this week?” Invite everyone to share, but don’t force the issue. Be sure to write prayer requests on your Prayer and Praise Report on page 140. Close your meeting with prayer.

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FOR ADDITIONAL STUDY

What was good about what the religious leaders were doing?

2. According to Jesus’ words here, what was the religious leaders’ offense?

3. When have you “strained a gnat and swallowed a camel” by majoring in the minors in your life?

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READ LUKE 16:1-13. 1.

According to verse 4, what was the dishonest manager’s motive?

2. What was the dishonest manager commended for?

3. How are the “sons of this world” more shrewd in dealing with their own generation than the sons of light?

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DAY 1. READ PROVERBS 26:4

DAILY DEVOTIONS

Answer not a fool according to his folly, lest you be like him yourself. Respond: How are you being foolish?

DAY 2. READ MATTHEW 25:21 His master said to him, ‘Well done, good and faithful servant. You have been faithful over a little; I will set you over much. Enter into the joy of your master.’ Respond: How are you showing faithfulness in little?

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DAY 3. READ LUKE 16:11

DAY 5. READ PROVERBS 12:22

If then you have not been faithful in the unrighteous wealth, who will entrust to you the true riches?

Lying lips are an abomination to the Lord, but those who act faithfully are his delight.

Respond: How have you been dishonest or unfaithful with worldly wealth? How might this impact spiritual matters?

DAY 4. READ GALATIANS 5:22-23 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law. Respond: What spiritual fruit is reflected in your life?

Respond: In what way has dishonesty crept into your life?

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Session Seven

Fight for Your City MEMORY VERSE: PROVERBS 11:10 Where the righteous prosper, the city rejoices. .

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INTRODUCTION

If our cities are ever going to be lifted, it is because the very people who fill our pews also recognize their stewardship to do something significant together both for the house of God and for the city. Where vision often gets stifled and derailed is around resources. But provision and resources are never a problem for God.

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SHARE YOUR STORY Open your group with prayer. This should be a brief, simple prayer, in which you invite God to be with you as you meet. You can pray for specific requests at the end of the meeting, or stop momentarily to pray if a particular situation comes up during your discussion. As we have said in previous lessons, sharing our personal stories builds deeper connections among group members. Your story may be exactly what another person needs to hear to encourage or strengthen them. And listening to others’ stories is an act of love and kindness to them—and could very well help them to grow spiritually. Begin your time together by using the following questions and activities to get people talking.

What has surprised you most about this group? Where did God meet you over the last seven weeks?

2. Last week you stated a step you would take this past week. Report your progress to the group. 3. What has God been showing you through these sessions? What positive changes has your group noticed in you? Check in with each other about the progress you have made in your spiritual growth during this study. Make plans about whether you will continue your relationship after the group has concluded. 4. Take some time for each person to share about how they’ve done with inviting the people on the Circles of Life diagram to church or your small group. What specific conversations are you praying about for the weeks to come?

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WATCH VIDEO SESSION 5

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HEAR GOD’S STORY READ EZRA 1:1-11 In the first year of Cyrus king of Persia, that the word of the Lord by the mouth of Jeremiah might be fulfilled, the Lord stirred up the spirit of Cyrus king of Persia, so that he made a proclamation throughout all his kingdom and also put it in writing: “Thus says Cyrus king of Persia: The Lord, the God of heaven, has given me all the kingdoms of the earth, and he has charged me to build him a house at Jerusalem, which is in Judah. Whoever is among you of all his people, may his God be with him, and let him go up to Jerusalem, which is in Judah, and rebuild the house of the Lord, the God of Israel—he is the God who is in Jerusalem. And let each survivor, in whatever place he sojourns, be assisted by the men of his place with silver and gold, with goods and with beasts, besides freewill offerings for the house of God that is in Jerusalem.” Then rose up the heads of the fathers’ houses of Judah and Benjamin, and the priests and the Levites, everyone whose spirit God had stirred to go up to rebuild the house of the Lord that is in Jerusalem. And all who were about them aided them with vessels of silver, with gold, with goods, with beasts, and with costly wares, besides all that was freely offered. Cyrus the king also brought out the vessels of the house of the Lord that Nebuchadnezzar had carried away from Jerusalem and placed in the house of his gods. Cyrus king of Persia brought these out in the charge of Mithredath the treasurer, who counted them out to Sheshbazzar the prince of Judah. And this was the number of them: 30 basins of gold, 1,000 basins of silver, 29 censers, 30 bowls of gold, 410 bowls of silver, and 1,000 other vessels; all the vessels of gold and of silver were 5,400. All these did Sheshbazzar bring up, when the exiles were brought up from Babylonia to Jerusalem.

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What was the scope of Cyrus’ power?

2. What did God direct Cyrus, the Persian king, to do?

3. How did God provide for the work?

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STUDY NOTES CYRUS KING OF PERSIA, verse 1, ruled Persia from 559 to 530 BC. He is mentioned more than 30 times in the Bible. In Isaiah’s prophecy, Cyrus is mentioned by name 100 years before his rule. (Isaiah 45:1). THAT THE WORD OF THE LORD BY THE MOUTH OF JEREMIAH MIGHT BE FULFILLED, verse 1. Jeremiah prophesied about God stirring Cyrus’ spirit in Jeremiah 25:11-12. CENSER, verse 9 is a portable metal vessel made to receive burning coals from the altar.

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CREATE A NEW STORY How has God changed your story during this seven-week study? What new things is He asking you to do? What truth has transformed your heart? Think about specific steps you want to take to live a new story, to walk more closely with God so you can be part of His story and engaged

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How has God used generosity in your life?

2. While generosity often refers to money, it’s more than that. Generosity encompasses your time, talent, and treasure. How are you using your time, talent, and treasure to fight for your city?

3. Where could generosity make a difference in your city? 4. What is one way this week you could show generosity to someone who is important to you? 5. Since this is the last meeting in this study, take some time to celebrate the work God has done in the lives of group members. Have each person in the group share some step of growth they have noticed in another member. (In other words, no one will talk about themselves. Instead, affirm others in the group.) Make sure each person gets affirmed and noticed and celebrated in some way. 6. If your group still needs to make decisions about continuing to meet after this session, have that discussion now. Talk about what you will study, who will lead, and when you will meet. 7. Review your Small Group Agreement on page 132 and evaluate how well you met your goals. Discuss any changes you want to make as you move forward. If you plan to continue to meet, and your group starts a new study, this is a great time to take on a new role or change roles of service in your group. What new role will you take on? If you are uncertain, maybe your group members have some ideas for you. Remember you aren’t making a lifetime commitment to the new role; it will only be for a few weeks. Maybe someone would like to share a role with you if you don’t feel ready to serve solo. 8. Close by praying for your prayer requests and take a couple of minutes to review the praises you have recorded over the past five weeks on the Prayer and Praise Report on page 140 . Spend some time thanking God for all He’s done in your group during this study.

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READ 1 TIMOTHY 6:17-19. 1.

What type of riches does God champion?

2. Which type of riches do you depend on the most?

3. How ready are you to share?

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READ LUKE 12:15-21 . 1. Where do you struggle with jealousy or envy?

2. How did the rich man in this parable misplace his trust? What was the consequence?

3. How are you rich toward God?

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DAY 1. READ PROVERBS 11:11

DAILY DEVOTIONS

By the blessing of the upright a city is exalted, but by the mouth of the wicked it is overthrown. Respond: How are you blessing your city?

DAY 2. READ PROVERBS 11:25 Whoever brings blessing will be enriched, and one who waters will himself be watered. Respond: What blessings have you received from blessing others?

DAY 3. READ ACTS 20:35 In all things I have shown you that by working hard in this way we must help the weak and remember the words of the Lord Jesus, how he himself said, “It is more blessed to give than to receive.” Respond: How can you personally help the weak?

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No one can serve two masters, for either he will hate the one and love the other, or he will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve God and money.

Respond: What do your calendar and your bank account reveal about who you serve?

DAY 5. READ 2 TIMOTHY 4:7 I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, I have kept the faith. Respond: How do you want others to remember you?

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Appendices Great resources to help make your small group experience even better!

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Frequently Asked Questions WHAT DO WE DO ON THE FIRST NIGHT OF OUR GROUP? Like all fun things in life—have a party! A “get to know you” coffee, dinner, or dessert is a great way to launch a new study. You may want to review the Small Group Agreement (page 132) and share the names of a few friends you can invite to join you. But most importantly, have fun before your study time begins. WHERE DO WE FIND NEW MEMBERS FOR OUR GROUP? This can be troubling, especially for new groups that have only a few people or for existing groups that lose a few people along the way. We encourage you to pray with your group and then brainstorm a list of people from work, church, your neighborhood, your children’s school, family, the gym, and so forth. Then have each group member invite several of the people on his or her list. Another good strategy is to ask church leaders to make an announcement or allow an insert in the Welcome Guide. No matter how you find members, it’s vital that you stay on the lookout for new people to join your group. All groups tend to go through healthy attrition—the result of moves, releasing new leaders, ministry opportunities, etc.—and if the group gets too small, it could be at risk of shutting down. If you and your group stay open, you’ll be amazed at the people God sends your way. The next person just might become a friend for life. You never know!

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HOW LONG WILL THIS GROUP MEET? Most groups meet weekly for at least their first seven weeks, but every other week can work as well. We strongly recommend that the group meets for the first six months on a weekly basis if at all possible. This allows for continuity, and if people miss a meeting they aren’t gone for an entire month. At the end of this study, each group member may decide if he or she wants to continue on for another study. Some groups launch relationships for years to come, and others are stepping-stones into another group experience. Either way, enjoy the journey! CAN WE DO THIS STUDY ON OUR OWN? Absolutely! This may sound crazy, but one of the best ways to do this study is not with a full house, but with a few friends. You may choose to gather with another couple who would enjoy some relational time (perhaps going to the movies or having a quiet dinner) and then walking through this study together. Jesus will be with you even if there are only two of you (Matthew 18:20). WHAT IF THIS GROUP IS NOT WORKING FOR US? You’re not alone! This could be the result of a personality conflict, life stage difference, geographical distance, level of spiritual maturity, or any number of things. Relax. Pray for God’s direction, and at the end of this seven-week study, decide whether to continue with this group or find another. You don’t typically buy the first car you look at or marry the first person you date, and the same goes with a group. However, don’t bail out before the study is up—God might have something to teach you. Also, don’t run from conflict or prejudge people before you have given them a chance. God is still working in your life, too!

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WHO IS THE LEADER? Most groups have an official leader. But ideally, the group will mature and members will rotate the leadership of meetings. Healthy groups usually rotate hosts/leaders and homes on a regular basis. This model ensures that all members grow, give their unique contribution, and develop their gifts. This study guide and the Holy Spirit can keep things on track even when you rotate leaders. Christ has promised to be among you as you gather. Ultimately, God is your leader each step of the way. HOW DO WE HANDLE THE CHILDCARE NEEDS IN OUR GROUP? Very carefully. Seriously, this can be a sensitive issue. We suggest that you empower the group to openly brainstorm solutions. You may try one option that works for a while and then adjust over time. One approach is for adults to meet in the living room or dining room and to share the cost of a babysitter (or two) who can watch the kids in a different part of the house. This way, parents don’t have to be away from their children all evening when their children are too young to be left at home. A second option is to use one home for the kids and a second home (close by or a phone call away) for the adults. A third idea is to rotate the responsibility of providing a lesson or care for the children either in the same home or in another home nearby. This can be an incredible blessing for kids. Finally, the most common solution is to decide that you need to have a night to invest in your spiritual lives individually or as a couple and to make your own arrangements for childcare. No matter what decision the group makes, the best approach is to dialogue openly about both the problem and the solution.

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Small Group Agreement OUR PURPOSE To provide a predictable environment where participants experience authentic community and spiritual growth. OUR VALUES

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Group Attendance: To give priority to the group meeting. We will call or email if we will be late or absent. (Completing the Small Group Calendar on page 134 will minimize this issue.)

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Safe Environment: To help create a safe place where people can be heard and feel loved. (Please, no quick answers, snap judgments, or simple fixes.)

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Respect Differences: To be gentle and gracious to people with different spiritual maturity, personal opinions, temperaments, or “imperfections” in fellow group members. We are all works in progress.

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Confidentiality: To keep anything that is shared strictly confidential and within the group, and to avoid sharing improper information about those outside the group.

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Encouragement for Growth: To be not just takers but givers of life. We want to spiritually multiply our life by serving others with our God-given gifts.

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Shared Ownership: To remember that every member is a minister and to ensure that each attender will share a small team role or responsibility over time.

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Small Group Calendar Planning and calendaring can help ensure the greatest participation at every meeting. At the end of each meeting, review this calendar. Be sure to include a regular rotation of host homes and leaders, and don’t forget birthdays, socials, church events, holidays, and mission/ministry projects..

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Spiritual Partners’ Check-In Briefly check in each week and write down your personal plans and progress targets for the next week (or even for the next few weeks). This could be done before or after the meeting, on the phone, through an email message, or even in person from time to time. MY NAME: OUR PROGRESS

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Memory Verse Cards SESSION ONE • ROMANS 8:37 No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us.

SESSION TWO • NEHEMIAH 1:11 Give success to your servant today and grant him mercy in the sight of this man.

SESSION THREE • JOSHUA 24:15 But as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.

SESSION FOUR • ROMANS 8:28 And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.

SESSION FIVE • ROMANS 12:5 So we, though many, are one body in Christ, and individually members one of another.

SESSION SIX • ACTS 13:36 For David, after he had served the purpose of God in his own generation, fell asleep and was laid with his fathers and saw corruption.

SESSION SEVEN • PROVERBS 11:10 Where the righteous prosper, the city rejoices.

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Small Group Leaders Key resources to help your leadership experience be the best it can be.

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Hosting An Open House If you’re starting a new group, try planning an “open house” before your first formal group meeting. Even if you have only two to four core members, it’s a great way to break the ice and to consider prayerfully who else might be open to joining you over the next few weeks. You can also use this kick-off meeting to hand out study guides, spend some time getting to know each other, discuss each person’s expectations for the group and briefly pray for each other. A simple meal or good desserts always make a kick-off meeting more fun. After people introduce themselves and share how they ended up being at the meeting (you can play a game to see who has the wildest story!), have everyone respond to a few icebreaker questions: 1.

What is your favorite family vacation?

2. What is one thing you love about our church/our community? 3. What are three things about your life growing up that most people here don’t know? Next, ask everyone to tell what he or she hopes to get out of the study. You might want to review the Small Group Agreement and talk about each person’s expectations and priorities. Finally, set an open chair (maybe two) in the center of your group and explain that it represents someone who would enjoy or benefit from this group but who isn’t here yet. Ask people to pray about inviting someone to join the group over the next few weeks. Hand out postcards and have everyone write an invitation or two. Don’t worry about ending up with too many people; you can always have one discussion circle in the living room and another in the dining room after you watch the lesson. Each group could then report prayer requests and progress at the end of the session. You can skip this kick-off meeting if your time is limited, but you’ll experience a huge benefit if you take the time to connect with each other in this way.

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Leading For The First Time TEN COMMON LEADERSHIP EXPERIENCES

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Sweaty palms are a healthy sign. The Bible says God is gracious to the humble. Remember who is in control; the time to worry is when you’re not worried. Those who are soft in heart (and sweaty palmed) are those whom God is sure to speak through.

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Ask for feedback. Perhaps in an email or on cards handed out at the study, have everyone write down three things that went well and one thing that could be improved on. Don’t get defensive. Instead, show an openness to learn and grow.

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Leadership Training 101 TOP TEN IDEAS FOR NEW LEADERS Congratulations! You have responded to the call to help shepherd Jesus’ flock. There are few other tasks in the family of God that surpass the contribution you will be making. As you prepare to lead, whether it is one session or the entire series, here are a few thoughts to keep in mind. We encourage you to read these and review them with each new discussion leader before he or she leads.

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Remember that you are not alone. God knows everything about you, and He knew that you would be asked to lead your group. Remember that it is common for all good leaders to feel that they are not ready to lead. Moses, Solomon, Jeremiah and Timothy were all reluctant to lead. God promises, “Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you” (Hebrews 13:5). Whether you are leading for one evening, for several weeks, or for a lifetime, you will be blessed as you serve.

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Don’t try to do it alone. Pray right now for God to help you build a healthy leadership culture. If you can enlist a co-leader to help you lead the group, you will find your experience to be much richer. This is your chance to involve as many people as you can in building a healthy group. All you have to do is call, and ask people to help. You’ll probably be surprised at the response.

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Just be yourself. If you won’t be you, who will? God wants you to use your unique gifts and temperament. Don’t try to do things exactly like another leader; do them in a way that fits you! Just admit it when you don’t have an answer, and apologize when you make a mistake. Your group will love you for it, and you’ll sleep better at night!

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Prepare for your meeting ahead of time. Review the session and the leader’s notes, and write down your responses to each question. Pay special attention to exercises that ask group members to do something other than engage in discussion. These exercises will help your group live what the Bible teaches, not just talk about it. Be sure you understand how an exercise works, and bring any necessary supplies (such as paper and pens) to your meeting. If the exercise employs one of the items, be sure to look over that item so you’ll know how it works. Finally, review Outline for Each Session so you’ll remember the purpose of each section in the study.

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When you ask a question, be patient. Someone will eventually respond. Sometimes people need a moment or two of silence to think about the question. Keep in mind, if silence doesn’t bother you, it won’t bother anyone else. After someone responds, affirm the response with a simple “thanks” or “good job.” Then ask, “How about somebody else?” or “Would someone who hasn’t shared like to add anything?” Be sensitive to new people or reluctant members who aren’t ready to say, pray or do anything. If you give them a safe setting, they will blossom over time.

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Provide transitions between questions. When guiding the discussion, always read aloud the transitional paragraphs and the questions. Ask the group if anyone would like to read the paragraph or Bible passage. Don’t call on anyone, but ask for a volunteer, and then be patient until someone begins. Be sure to thank the person who reads aloud.

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Break up into smaller groups each week or they won’t stay. If your group has more than seven people, we strongly encourage you to have the group gather sometimes in discussion circles of three or four people during the Hear God’s Story or Change Your Story sections of the study. With a greater opportunity to talk in a small circle, people will connect more with the study, apply more quickly what they’re learning and ultimately get more out of it. A small circle also encourages a quiet person to participate and tends to minimize the effects of a more vocal or dominant member. It can also help people feel more loved in your group. When you gather again at the end of the section, you can have one person summarize the highlights from each circle. Small circles are also helpful during prayer time. People who are unaccustomed to praying aloud will feel more comfortable trying it with just two or three others. Also, prayer requests won’t take as much time, so circles will have more time to actually pray. When you gather back with the whole group, you can have one person from each circle briefly update everyone on the prayer requests. People are more willing to pray in small circles if they know that the whole group will hear all the prayer requests.

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One final challenge

FOR NEW OR FIRST-TIME LEADERS

Before your first opportunity to lead, look up each of the five passages listed below. Read each one as a devotional exercise to help equip yourself with a shepherd’s heart. Trust us on this one. If you do this, you will be more than ready for your first meeting. MATTHEW 9:36 1 PETER 5:2-4 PSALM 23 EZEKIEL 34:11-16 1 THESSALONIANS 2:7-8, 11-12

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ABOUT THE AUTHOR Dr. Roger Patterson is the Senior Pastor for CityRise, a network of churches and ministries committed to lifting our city and our world by generously giving the gospel of Jesus Christ. CityRise includes campuses in and around the greater Houston, Texas area. He has held the role of Senior Pastor since 2010. Roger graduated from Houston Baptist University in 1995 with a degree in Speech Communication and Christianity and attended Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary where he received his Master of Divinity in 1998 and Doctor of Ministry Degree in 2006. With over fifteen years of experience in the subordinate leadership role in the local church, Roger coauthored Leading from the Second Chair with his friend and colleague Mike Bonem. Roger has extensive experience in training other leaders, whether they are in the first or second chair, to understand the dynamics of what it looks like to lead and to follow. Roger is also the author A Minute of Vision for Men, a 365-day devotional guide aimed at bolstering men’s lives by helping them determine God’s vision and purpose for their lives. Roger and his wife, Julee, have been married for 26 years and have three children: Brady, Cooper, and Carson. Roger loves to coach his kids’ sports teams, play golf, hunt, and spend time with his family.

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