All In Jeff Greenway

JEFF GREENWAY

LEAD PASTOR, REYNOLDSBURG UNITED METHODIST CHURCH

Copyright © 2016 by Reynoldsburg United Methodist Church ALL RIGHTS RESERVED Published by Reynoldsburg United Methodist Church Copyright and use of the curriculum template is retained by Brett Eastman.

Unless otherwise noted, all Scripture quotes are taken from the HOLY BIBLE, NEW INTERNATIONAL VERSION®. Copyright 1973, 1978, 1984 and 2011 by Biblica, Inc.® Used by permission. All rights reserved worldwide.

ISBN: 978-1-940077-95-6 Printed in the United States of America

CONTENTS

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Foreword from Brett Eastman

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Welcome from Jeff Greenway

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Using This Workbook (Read This First)

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Outline for Each Session

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SESSIONS

Session One: ALL IN for Jesus

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Session Two: ALL IN as Witnesses

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Session Three: ALL IN in Prayer

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Session Four: ALL IN in Faith

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Session Five: ALL IN in Sacrifice

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Session Six: ALL IN in Commitment

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APPENDICES

Frequently Asked Questions

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Small Group Agreement

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Group Calendar

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Spiritual Partners Check-in

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Group Roster

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Memory Verse Cards (Clip and Review)

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Prayer and Praise Report

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SMALL GROUP LEADERS Hosting an Open House

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Leading for the First Time

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Leadership Training 101

FOREWORD FROM

BRETT EASTMAN

Hello Reynoldsburg UMC! This is almost becoming a habit! I just want to tell you what a joy it has been for my Lifetogether team and me to work with you and your pastor, Jeff Greenway, on yet another significant small group study. As we see what God is doing through these campaigns in your church (and many others), we are encouraged in our vision for the transformation of congregations through lives connecting in small groups.

As you begin your ALL IN experience, I hope you have already developed an ALL IN view of your life as a follower of Jesus. It’s important to “count the cost,” but it’s crucial to take up your cross daily and say to Jesus, “Where to, Lord? I’m ALL IN.” When you’re ALL IN, where you have to go and what you have to carry get forgotten as you keep your eyes on Who you’re following.

This is a very important season for your church family. You are being invited to come to the very edge of yourself—where your ability ends—to trust God—and take a step of faith into the future God has for you. This journey is intended to grow your faith, deepen your discipleship, and expand your capacity to live generously. I am confident that what you are being invited to do is in the center of God’s will for you.

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Hebrews 12:1-2 says, “Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles. And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us, fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith. For the joy set before him he endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God.” I can’t wait to hear all that God is going to do through this ALL IN study!

Let me tell you that your Pastor is ALL IN. If you haven’t noticed it yet, Pastor Jeff is committed to making disciples and seeing those disciples grow up as disciple-makers themselves. The effort that he is putting into these studies is a reflection of the commitment he has to the ministry among you. Pray for him always, and particularly during this series. It’s one of the ways you can be ALL IN. Again, it is a great joy to come alongside you as a church and watch God at work. I can tell you that we have witnessed a great deal of evidence that when it comes to what He’s doing in and through Reynoldsburg UMC, God doesn’t hesitate to say, “I’m ALL IN!” ALL IN with you, Brett Eastman President and Founder Lifetogether

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INTRODUCTION FROM

PASTOR JEFF Welcome to ALL IN!

I can remember being fascinated with the high-diving platform at the local YMCA when I was a kid. It was probably 10 meters high—but it looked like it was one hundred feet above the water. I had learned to swim in that pool—easily passing the test which gave me permission to swim in the deep end—and to dive off the diving board and diving platform. I was capable of swimming in the deep end—and even jumped off and eventually dove from the diving board—but I was terrified of the platform. It was too high.

Each time I climbed to the top, I lost my nerve and went back down the same way I climbed up. It was humiliating. Then one day, I went to the edge of myself—and took a step. It seemed to take forever to hit the water, but the fall was exhilarating. I spent the rest of that day climbing up the ladder—jumping off the edge—swimming to the side—and running to get in line to climb the ladder again. I LOVED it—but that feeling did not develop until I came to the edge of myself—took a step—and went ALL IN. Life is full of ALL IN moments—moments when we come to the edge of ourselves and what we have known to that point—we take a deep breath and step into the promise of what comes next. Marriage—parenting—a job—a relationship—a decision—a purchase—are all examples of times when we go ALL IN to what comes next.

During this study, we will be challenging each other to take another step in growing our faith as followers of Jesus Christ. Each week, we will be exploring the question: “When it comes to my faith in Jesus—am I a consumer—or a follower?” When we accept Jesus, He does all kinds of amazing things in our lives—forgives our sin, gives us a new life filled with hope, often delivers us from harmful habits and saves or restores broken relationships.

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If we are not careful, we can think of our relationship with Jesus in terms of what we get out of it—as consumers. The time comes in each of our lives, however, when Jesus asks us to do something for Him which will probably cost us something—and that is often the place where we make the transition from being a consumer to being a follower of Jesus. It’s the time when we go ALL IN to what Jesus calls us as His followers.

There comes a time in each of our lives, when our faith gets stretched— where we come to the end of ourselves and have to take a step—and that is the place where faith is grown when we step past our own abilities and skills—and see what God can do when we yield our lives and resources to Him. That is the story of David when he took his sling and five smooth stones to take on Goliath—and Noah when he listened to the voice of God and began to build an ark—and Moses when he took his staff in hand and told Pharaoh to let God’s people go—and the little boy who gave the five barley loaves and two small fish that Jesus used to feed 5,000. Faith is like that—it only grows when we come to the edge of ourselves and take a step forward—trusting in God. I am excited to see what the next six weeks holds for us as individuals and as a congregation. ALL IN is the most consequential thing I have ever called a congregation to do—and the steps we take in these days will determine the trajectory of our lives for years to come.

I am honored to be your pastor!

Pastor Jeff Greenway

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USING THIS WORKBOOK TOOLS TO HELP YOU HAVE A GREAT SMALL GROUP EXPERIENCE!

Notice in the Table of Contents there are three sections: (1) Sessions; (2) Appendices; and (3) Small Group Hosts.

Familiarize yourself with the Appendices. Some of them will be used in the sessions themselves.

If you are facilitating/hosting or co-hosting a small group, the section “Small Group Hosts” will give you some experiences of others that will encourage you and help you avoid many common obstacles to effective small group leadership.

Use this workbook as a guide, not a straightjacket. If the group responds to the lesson in an unexpected but honest way, go with that. If you think of a better question than the next one in the lesson, ask it. Take to heart the insights included in the “Frequently Asked Questions” pages and the “Small Group Hosts” section.

Enjoy your small group experience.

Pray before each session—for your group members, for your time together, for wisdom and insights.

Read the “Outline for Each Session” on the next pages so that you understand how the sessions will flow.

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OUTLINE OF EACH SESSION A typical group session for the ALL IN study will include the following sections. Read through this outline to get a clear idea of how each group meeting will be structured: WEEKLY MEMORY VERSES. Each session begins with a

Memory Verse that emphasizes an important truth from the session. This is an optional exercise, but we believe that memorizing Scripture can be a vital part of filling our minds with God’s will for our lives. We encourage you to give this important habit a try. The verses for our six sessions are also listed in the Appendices.

INTRODUCTION. Each lesson opens with a brief thought that will help you prepare for the session and get you thinking about the particular subject you will explore with your group. Make it a practice to read these before the session. You may want to have the group read them aloud.

SHARE YOUR STORY. The foundation for spiritual growth is an intimate connection with God and His family. You build that connection by sharing your story with a few people who really know you and who earn your trust.

This section includes some simple questions to initiate discussion—letting you share as much or as little of your story as you feel comfortable doing. Each session typically offers you two options. You can get to know your whole group by using the icebreaker question(s), or you can check in with one or two group members, for a deeper connection and encouragement in your spiritual journey.

HEAR GOD’S STORY. In this section, you’ll read the Bible and listen to teaching, in order to hear God’s story—and begin to see how His story aligns with yours. When the study directs you to, you’ll start the video and watch a 9

short teaching segment. You’ll then have an opportunity to read a passage of Scripture, and discuss both the teaching and the text. You won’t focus on accumulating information but on how you should live in light of the Word of God. We want to help you apply the insights from Scripture practically and creatively, from your heart as well as your head. At the end of the day, allowing the timeless truths from God’s Word to transform our lives in Christ should be your greatest aim.

STUDY NOTES. This brief section provides additional commentary, background or insights on the passage you’ll study in the “Hear God’s Story” section.

CREATE A NEW STORY. God wants you to be a part of His Kingdom—to weave your story into His. That will mean change.

It will require you to go His way rather than your own. This won’t happen overnight, but it should happen steadily. By making small, simple choices, we can begin to change our direction. This is where the Bible’s instructions to “be doers of the Word, not just hearers” (James 1:22) comes into play. Many people skip over this aspect of the Christian life because it’s scary, relationally awkward, or simply too much work for their busy schedules. But Jesus wanted all of His disciples to know Him personally, carry out His commands, and help outsiders connect with Him. This doesn’t necessarily mean preaching on street corners. It could mean welcoming newcomers, hosting a short-term group in your home, or walking through this study with a friend. In this study, you’ll have an opportunity to go beyond Bible study to biblical living. This section will also have a question or two that will challenge you to live out your faith by serving others, sharing your faith, and worshiping God. DAILY DEVOTIONS. Each week on the “Daily Devotions” pages, we provide Scriptures to read and reflect on between sessions. This provides you with a chance to slow down, read just a small portion of Scripture each day, and reflect and pray through what you have read. You’ll then have a chance to journal your response to what you’ve read. Use this section to seek God on your own throughout the week. This time at home should begin and end with prayer.

Don’t get in a hurry; take enough time to hear God’s direction.

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SESSION ONE

FOR JESUS LOVE THE LORD YOUR GOD WITH ALL YOUR HEART AND WITH ALL YOUR SOUL AND WITH ALL YOUR STRENGTH. (DEUTERONOMY 6:5) A friend of mine has a life philosophy of “saying yes.”

She decided years ago that when life presents her with opportunities—to travel someplace far away, to explore a new kind of work, or to try a new experience—she will say “yes,” even if it’s scary. Over the years, this attitude has led her to visit Indonesia and India, to join a community sports league, to move across the country, and to speak in front of thousands of people.

It even meant she said “yes” to a date with a great guy—and eventually to his marriage proposal! If she hadn’t said “yes,” if she hadn’t gone ALL IN in experiencing life, she would have missed out on some of life’s best moments for her.

During the next six weeks, we’ll be exploring what it means to go ALL IN in our faith, in our spiritual growth, and in our commitment to God. This will require ALL of us to follow Jesus with ALL that we are; and today, we begin by learning more about what that means. Will you say “yes”?

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SHARE YOUR STORY

Each of us has a story. The events of our life—good, bad, wonderful or challenging—have shaped who we are. God knows your story, and He intends to redeem it—to use your every struggle and your every joy to ultimately bring you to Himself. When we share our stories with others, we give them the opportunity to see God at work.

Sharing our stories also helps us realize we are not alone—that we have common experiences and thoughts, and that others can empathize with what we are experiencing. Your story may encourage someone else, and telling it can lead to a path of freedom for you and for those with whom you share it.

Open your group with prayer. This should be a brief, simple prayer, where you invite God to give you insight as you study. You can pray for specific requests at the end of the meeting, or stop momentarily to pray if a particular situation arises during your discussion.

Before you start this first meeting, be sure to obtain contact information from every participant. Take time to pass around a copy of the “Small Group Roster” on page 82, a sheet of paper, or one of you pass your Study Guide, opened to the roster.

Ask someone to make copies or type up a list with everyone’s information and email it to the group during the week.

Then, begin your time together by using the following questions and activities to start the conversation.

What brought you here? What do you hope to get out of this group experience?

What’s the biggest risk you’ve ever taken? How did taking that risk change your life?

What is one of your dreams for the future? What will it take to get there?

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Whether your group is new or ongoing, it’s always important to reflect on and review your values together. On page 78 is a “Small Group Agreement” with the values we’ve found most useful in sustaining healthy, balanced groups. We recommend that you choose one or two values— ones on which you haven’t previously focused or in which you have room to grow—to emphasize during this study. Choose ones that will take your group to the next level of intimacy and spiritual health.

If your group is new, welcome newcomers. Introduce everyone—you may even want to have name tags for your first meeting.

We recommend you rotate host homes on a regular basis and let the hosts lead the meeting. Studies show that healthy groups rotate leadership. This helps to develop each member’s ability to shepherd a few people in a safe environment. Even Jesus gave others the opportunity to serve alongside Him (Mark 6:30-44). Look at the “FAQs” in the Appendices for additional information about hosting or leading the group.

The “Small Group Calendar” on page 80 is a tool for planning out who will host and lead each meeting. Take a few minutes to schedule hosts and leaders for your remaining meetings. Don’t skip this important step! It will revolutionize your group.

WATCH THE VIDEO

Use the “Notes” space provided on pages 94–96 to record key thoughts, questions and things you want to remember or note for follow-up. After watching the video, have someone read the discussion questions in the “Hear God’s Story” section and direct the discussion among the group. As you go through each of the subsequent sections, ask someone else to read the questions and guide the discussion.

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HEAR GOD’S STORY

READ LUKE 19:1-10 Jesus entered Jericho and was passing through. 2 A man was there by the name of Zacchaeus; he was a chief tax collector and was wealthy. 3 He wanted to see who Jesus was, but because he was short he could not see over the crowd. 4 So he ran ahead and climbed a sycamore-fig tree to see him, since Jesus was coming that way.

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When Jesus reached the spot, he looked up and said to him,“Zacchaeus, come down immediately. I must stay at your house today.” 6 So he came down at once and welcomed him gladly.

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All the people saw this and began to mutter, “He has gone to be the guest of a sinner.”

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8 But Zacchaeus stood up and said to the Lord, “Look, Lord! Here and now I give half of my possessions to the poor, and if I have cheated anybody out of anything, I will pay back four times the amount.”

Jesus said to him, “Today salvation has come to this house, because this man, too, is a son of Abraham. 10 For the Son of Man came to seek and to save the lost.”

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In the ancient Middle East, it was considered extremely undignified for a man to run. What does this tell you about Zacchaeus’ desire to see Jesus?

Why do you think Jesus began the conversation by inviting himself to Zacchaeus’ house?

Why did it bother the people so much that Jesus wanted to spend time with Zacchaeus?

How did Zacchaeus demonstrate the connection between loving God and obeying Him?

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STUDY NOTES

To fully understand the story of Zacchaeus, we must understand more of the culture of that time period. During Jesus’ time, tax collectors were a hated class of people for two reasons: first, the Romans ruled this area, so tax collectors were gathering money from the Jews (and other groups) and giving it to a foreign power. For example, if China ruled the United States, we would probably not be big fans of the government employees who took our money and gave it to the Chinese!

Second, not only did these individuals collect taxes, they collected over and above the designated amount, because the Romans allowed the collectors to keep a percentage of every tax collected. The more the tax collector charged, the more money he made.

Knowing this, we can understand why Zacchaeus was especially disliked.

Luke’s Gospel tells us he was a “chief” tax collector and was very rich— which means he had likely been a tax collector for some time—and was probably pretty dishonest, too. Certainly this was the last person to whom the local people wanted to see Jesus pay special attention.

This knowledge also helps us understand how amazing Zacchaeus’s response was to Jesus—he promised to give away half of everything he owned and pay back everyone he had cheated four times over. This had to amount to a huge sum of money. On that day, Zacchaeus definitely crossed the line from consumer to follower!

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CREATE A NEW STORY

GOD WANTS YOU TO BE PART OF HIS KINGDOM—TO WEAVE YOUR STORY INTO HIS. THAT WILL MEAN CHANGE— TO GO HIS WAY RATHER THAN YOUR OWN. THIS WON’T HAPPEN OVERNIGHT, BUT IT SHOULD HAPPEN STEADILY.

BY STARTING WITH SMALL, SIMPLE CHOICES, WE BEGIN TO CHANGE OUR DIRECTION. THE HOLY SPIRIT HELPS US ALONG THE WAY—GIVING US GIFTS TO SERVE THE BODY, OFFERING US INSIGHTS INTO SCRIPTURE, AND CHALLENGING US TO LOVE—NOT ONLY THOSE AROUND US, BUT ALSO THOSE WHO ARE FAR FROM GOD.

In this section, talk about how you will apply the wisdom you’ve learned from the teaching and Bible study. Then think about practical steps you can take in the coming week to live out what you’ve learned.

Jesus doesn’t promise that everything will be easy or trouble-free when we go all in with Him. Does this discourage you? Does it inspire you? Why does He allow us to experience struggles when we choose to follow Him? What are some of the potential costs of choosing to be a follower of Jesus instead of a consumer?

What does it mean to “give as much of yourself as you know to as much of Jesus as you understand”? What would it mean for you to do that?

If you prayed the prayer of commitment along with Pastor Jeff during the video, or if you’d like to pray that prayer before leaving your group, please connect with another group member and let them know. Your group will want to celebrate with you!

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TAKE A LOOK AT THE “CIRCLES OF LIFE” DIAGRAM BELOW, AND WRITE THE NAMES OF TWO OR THREE PEOPLE YOU KNOW WHO NEED TO KNOW CHRIST. COMMIT TO PRAYING FOR GOD’S GUIDANCE AND AN OPPORTUNITY TO SHARE WITH EACH OF THEM. PERHAPS THEY WOULD BE OPEN TO JOINING THE GROUP. SHARE YOUR LIST WITH THE GROUP SO YOU CAN ALL BE PRAYING FOR THE PEOPLE YOU’VE IDENTIFIED.

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Also consider someone— whether within this group or outside it—with whom you can begin going deeper in an intentional way. This might be your mom or dad, a cousin, an aunt or uncle, a roommate, a college buddy, or a neighbor.

Choose someone who might be open to “doing life” with you at a deeper level and pray specifically regarding that opportunity.

This week, how will you interact with the Bible? Can you commit to spending time in daily prayer or study of God’s Word (use the “Daily Devotions” section to guide you)? Tell the group how you plan to follow Jesus this week; and then, at your next meeting, talk about your progress and challenges.

Stack your hands (just as a sports team does in the huddle) and commit to taking a risk and going deeper in your group and in your relationships with each other.

Ask, “How can we pray for you this week?” Invite everyone to share, but don’t force the issue.

Be sure to write prayer requests on your “Prayer and Praise Report” on page 86.

Close your meeting with prayer.

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FOR ADDITIONAL STUDY IF YOU FEEL GOD NUDGING YOU TO GO DEEPER, TAKE SOME TIME BEFORE THE NEXT MEETING TO DIG INTO HIS WORD. EXPLORE THE BIBLE PASSAGES RELATED TO THIS SESSION’S THEME ON YOUR OWN, AND JOT YOUR REFLECTIONS IN A JOURNAL OR IN THIS STUDY GUIDE. A GREAT WAY TO GAIN INSIGHT ON A SCRIPTURE PASSAGE IS TO READ IT IN SEVERAL DIFFERENT TRANSLATIONS. YOU MAY WANT TO USE A BIBLE APP OR WEBSITE TO COMPARE TRANSLATIONS.

READ MATTHEW 19:16-24.

How does the Rich Young Ruler’s first question display a consumer mindset?

How does Jesus’ response reinforce the importance of being a follower?

Jesus did not tell everyone who wanted to follow Him that they must sell all their possessions. Why do you think this was His specific instruction to this particular person?

READ GALATIANS 2:20-21.

How did Jesus go ALL IN for us?

To what kind of commitment does this passage call us in response?

What does it mean to be crucified with Christ?

How do we live by faith in Christ?

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DAILY DEVOTIONALS

DAY 1 • ROMANS 12:1-8 Ponder: Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God—this is your true and proper worship (Romans 12:1).

RESPOND: What does it mean to be a “living sacrifice”? How is this an act of worship to God?

DAY 2 • DEUTERONOMY 13:1-4 Concentrate on verse 4: It is the Lord your God you must follow, and him you must revere. Keep his commands and obey him; serve him and hold fast to him (Deuteronomy 13:4).

RESPOND: Following God is not an accident; it’s a daily decision. How can you “hold fast” to Him today?

DAY 3 • PSALM 119:105-112 Pray: My heart is set on keeping your decrees to the very end (Psalm 119:112).

RESPOND: Is your heart set on following God, no matter what it takes?

Where do you waver in that commitment? Ask God for courage and strength to follow Him to the very end.

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DAY 4 • HEBREWS 3:1-6 Therefore, holy brothers and sisters, who share in the heavenly calling, fix your thoughts on Jesus, whom we acknowledge as our apostle and high priest (Hebrews 3:1).

RESPOND: It’s so easy to get distracted from trying to follow Christ. Take a few minutes to think about what distracts you from His call, and ask for His help in fixing your eyes on Him.

DAY 5 • JOHN 15:1-17 A promise for you: If you keep my commands, you will remain in my love, just as I have kept my Father’s commands and remain in his love (John 15:10).

RESPOND: There are so many benefits when we choose to follow Jesus, and one of the biggest is our constant experience of His love. Thank Him for this promise!

DAY 6 • Use the following space to write any thoughts God has put in your heart and mind about the things we have explored in this session and during your Daily Devotions time this week.

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SESSION TWO

AS WITNESSES BUT YOU WILL RECEIVE POWER WHEN THE HOLY SPIRIT COMES ON YOU; AND YOU WILL BE MY WITNESSES IN JERUSALEM, AND IN ALL JUDEA AND SAMARIA, AND TO THE ENDS OF THE EARTH. (ACTS 1:8) It’s been said that when a group of people witnesses a crime or accident and the police ask each person what happened, they receive several different accounts of what transpired. Each of us brings our background and previous experience into situations— even if we see the exact same thing. But the great news about the story of Jesus is that, even though many people witnessed His death and resurrection, the Scriptures tell us His followers went and told the same story to anyone who would listen. He was raised from the dead! Jesus invited them to tell others about Him—in their hometown, their region, their country, and the entire world. He asks us to do the same.

In this session, we will be discussing what it means to follow Christ by being a witness for Him. That does not necessarily mean going to another country to tell others about Jesus, but it could mean inviting our neighbor to church, or simply living our lives intentionally in front of those who need to see the difference He makes in our everyday life.

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SHARE YOUR STORY As we said in the last session, when we share our stories with others, we give them the opportunity to see God at work. Your story is being shaped, even in this moment, by being part of this group. In fact, few things can shape us more than community.

When we share our stories, we can encourage someone else and learn from their experience. We sense the presence of God as He helps us be brave enough to reveal our thoughts and feelings.

Open your group with prayer. This should be a brief, simple prayer where you invite God to be with you as you meet. You can pray for specific requests at the end of the meeting, or stop momentarily to pray if a particular situation arises during your discussion.

Begin your time together by using the following questions and activities to initiate the discussion: How did you decide to become a part of this group? Did someone invite you, or did you deliberately step out of your comfort zone to follow Jesus by joining a group of believers?

Have you ever participated in a mission trip? Were you nervous about “being a witness”?

In the last session we asked you to write some names in the “Circles of Life” diagram. Who did you identify as the people in your life who need to meet Jesus? Go back to this diagram on page 17 to help you think of various people with whom you come in contact on a regular basis—people who 23

need to know Jesus more deeply. Consider ideas for action, and make a plan to follow through on one of them this week.

Pair up with someone in your group (we suggest that men partner with men and women with women). This person will be your spiritual partner for the rest of this study. He or she doesn’t have to be your best friend.

Rather, this person will simply encourage you to complete the goals you set for yourself during this study. Following through on a resolution is tough when you’re on your own; it makes all the difference to have a partner to cheer you on.

WATCH THE VIDEO

Use the “Notes” space provided on pages 94–96 to record key thoughts, questions and things you want to remember or note for follow-up. After watching the video, have someone read the discussion questions in the “Hear God’s Story” section and direct the discussion among the group. As you go through each of the subsequent sections, ask someone else to read the questions and guide the discussion.

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HEAR GOD’S STORY

READ LUKE 9:18-26 Once when Jesus was praying in private and his disciples were with him, he asked them, “Who do the crowds say I am?”

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They replied, “Some say John the Baptist; others say Elijah; and still others, that one of the prophets of long ago has come back to life.”

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“But what about you?” he asked. “Who do you say I am?”

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Peter answered, “God’s Messiah.”

Jesus strictly warned them not to tell this to anyone. 22 And he said, “The Son of Man must suffer many things and be rejected by the elders, the chief priests and the teachers of the law, and he must be killed and on the third day be raised to life.”

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Then he said to them all: “Whoever wants to be my disciple must deny themselves and take up their cross daily and follow me. 24 For whoever wants to save their life will lose it, but whoever loses their life for me will save it. 25 What good is it for someone to gain the whole world, and yet lose or forfeit their very self?

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Whoever is ashamed of me and my words, the Son of Man will be ashamed of them when he comes in his glory and in the glory of the Father and of the holy angels.

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Why do you think Jesus asked His disciples who the crowds believed He was?

Jesus seems confident that His disciples knew who He was and what He came to do. What indicates that Jesus felt this way? What might have caused Him to ask this question and then warn them not to tell anyone?

Jesus told His disciples what would happen to Him, yet they seemed surprised and disillusioned when it actually took place. Why?

Why was Jesus so adamant regarding the importance of following Him? He even emphasized what would happen to someone who denied Him. Why?

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STUDY NOTES

It is interesting that Peter was the one disciple in the Scripture passage we just read who answered Jesus immediately by saying that Jesus was “God’s Messiah.” Even more interesting is the discourse that follows. Jesus explained step-by-step what would happen and then “laid down the gauntlet,” so to speak. It’s as if He said, “This is what is going to happen— now, what will you choose to do?”

Many of us are familiar with the story of how Peter responded when Jesus was taken away to be tried, beaten, and eventually crucified. Peter was the first to exclaim who Jesus was when Christ was with him, yet he denied knowing Christ (three times!) when questioned about being one of His disciples following Jesus’ arrest. Peter was given the chance to step up and be a follower — after all he had “consumed” while walking with Jesus for three years —yet he failed. It was not his greatest moment. Thankfully, however, Jesus forgives! After Jesus’ resurrection and ascension, Peter went on to be a staunch witness for Him and one of the most beloved disciples who led many people to Christ.

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CREATE A NEW STORY

IN THIS SECTION, TALK ABOUT HOW YOU WILL APPLY THE WISDOM YOU’VE LEARNED FROM THE TEACHING AND BIBLE STUDY. THEN THINK ABOUT PRACTICAL STEPS YOU CAN TAKE IN THE COMING WEEK TO LIVE OUT WHAT YOU’VE LEARNED.

Going ALL IN with your witness could mean some major changes in your life. What might they be and how do you feel about that?

If our “witness” is more often seen in the lives we lead, what does yours look like?

Pastor Jeff asked, “When our lives come to an end—and those who know us best look back over the total of our days—what will our ’witness’ say to them?” How would you answer this question?

What is one practical way you could go ALL IN in your witness?

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HERE ARE SOME SIMPLE WAYS TO CONNECT WITH GOD. TELL THE GROUP WHICH ONES YOU PLAN TO TRY THIS WEEK, AND TALK ABOUT YOUR PROGRESS AND CHALLENGES WHEN YOU MEET NEXT TIME.

Prayer. Commit to personal prayer and daily connection with God. You may find it helpful to write your prayers in a journal.

Daily Devotions. The Daily Devotions provided in each session offer an opportunity to read a short Bible passage five days a week during the course of our study. In our hurry-up world, we often move too quickly through everything— even reading God’s Word! Slow down. Don’t just skim, but take time to read carefully and reflect on the passage. Write down your insights regarding what you read each day.

Copy a portion of Scripture on a card and tape it somewhere in your line of sight — such as your car’s dashboard or the bathroom mirror.

Or text it to yourself! Think about it when you sit at red lights or while you’re getting ready for the day.

Reflect on what God is saying to you through these words. On the sixth day, summarize what God has shown you throughout the week.

Ask, “How can we pray for you this week?” Invite everyone to share, but don’t force the issue. Be sure to write prayer requests on your “Prayer and Praise Report” on page 86.

Close your meeting with prayer.

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FOR ADDITIONAL STUDY IF YOU FEEL GOD IS NUDGING YOU TO GO DEEPER, TAKE SOME TIME BETWEEN NOW AND OUR NEXT MEETING TO DIG INTO HIS WORD. EXPLORE THE BIBLE PASSAGES RELATED TO THIS SESSION’S THEME ON YOUR OWN — JOTTING YOUR REFLECTIONS IN A JOURNAL OR IN THIS STUDY GUIDE. WANT TO GO DEEPER? SELECT A FEW VERSES AND TRY PARAPHRASING THEM — WRITING THEM IN YOUR OWN WORDS. IF YOU LIKE, SHARE THEM WITH THE GROUP THE NEXT TIME YOU MEET.

READ 1 PETER 3:15 What is the best way to prepare to witness for Christ?

What are some verses that might be helpful in “giving the reason for the hope you have”?

Is the hope you have in Christ obvious to others in your sphere of influence? If not, what could you do to change that?

READ MATTHEW 6:33 How can we “seek first His kingdom and righteousness”?

What did Jesus mean by “all these things”? (Hint: refer to verses 25-32) Pastor Jeff said that being a witness for Jesus requires a willingness to die to ourselves.

What are some practical steps you could take to “die” to yourself?

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DAILY DEVOTIONALS

DAY 1 • PHILIPPIANS 3:1-11 Pray: I want to know Christ—yes, to know the power of his resurrection and participation in his sufferings, becoming like him in his death (Philippians 3:10).

RESPOND: How can you know Christ better and become more like Him? Ask the Lord to grow your faith as you journey through this study with your group.

DAY 2 • ROMANS 10:9-17 Remember: Consequently, faith comes from hearing the message, and the message is heard through the word about Christ (Romans 10:17).

RESPOND: If faith comes by hearing the message, the power of our witness is found in the strength of our faith. What specific steps can you take to grow your faith this week?

DAY 3 • PROVERBS 12:15-25 Anxiety weighs down the heart, but a kind word cheers it up (Proverbs 12:25).

RESPOND: Did anyone in your group express anxiety about sharing their faith? What are some encouraging words you could give them? How have you overcome this in your own life?

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DAY 4 • PHILIPPIANS 4:4-9 A challenge for this week: Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God (Philippians 4:6).

RESPOND: Do you become anxious when you are asked to be a witness?

Pray that God will give you courage to share your God-story­—your testimony of His faithfulness.

DAY 5 • DEUTERONOMY 31:1-8 Never fear! The Lord himself goes before you and will be with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged (Deuteronomy 31:8).

RESPOND: When you are tempted to become anxious regarding what God is calling you to do, remember this verse and be thankful that He is always with you.

DAY 6 • Use the following space to write any thoughts God has put in your heart and mind about the things we have explored in this session and during your Daily Devotions time this week.

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SESSION THREE

IN PRAYER REJOICE ALWAYS, PRAY CONTINUALLY, GIVE THANKS IN ALL CIRCUMSTANCES; FOR THIS IS GOD’S WILL FOR YOU IN CHRIST JESUS. (1 THESSALONIANS 5:16-18) Dr. Tony Campolo, a pastor and renowned speaker, once quoted a study of 50 people over the age of 95 who were asked what they would do differently if they had life to live over again. Their responses focused on the following: they would risk more, they would reflect more, and they would do more things that would live on after they were dead.

In this series, we’ve been talking about going ALL IN. What might it look like if we—as a church—were willing to risk more for Jesus, reflect on what He’s already done, and do more things for Him that would last beyond our lifetime?

Each of those actions requires a healthy prayer life. If we are going to do great things for God, we must ask Him to be in the midst of it all. How about you? Are you willing to spend more time in prayer — believing God is going to do great things?

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SHARE YOUR STORY Open your group with prayer. This should be a brief, simple prayer in which you invite God to be with you as you meet. You can pray for specific requests at the end of the meeting, or stop momentarily to pray if a particular situation arises during your discussion.

Sharing personal stories builds deeper connections among group members.

Begin your time together by using the following questions and activities to start the conversation.

How would you describe your prayer life?

When do you pray most often?

Sit with your spiritual partner.

If your partner is absent or you are new to the group, join with another pair or someone who doesn’t yet have a partner. If you haven’t established your spiritual partnership yet, do so now. (See “Share Your Story” in Session Two on page 23.)

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WATCH THE VIDEO

Use the “Notes” space provided on pages 94–96 to record key thoughts, questions and things you want to remember or note for follow-up. After watching the video, have someone read the discussion questions in the “Hear God’s Story” section and direct the discussion among the group. As you go through each of the subsequent sections, ask someone else to read the questions and guide the discussion.

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HEAR GOD’S STORY

READ ACTS 12:1-12 It was about this time that King Herod arrested some who belonged to the church, intending to persecute them. 2 He had James, the brother of John, put to death with the sword. 3 When he saw that this met with approval among the Jews, he proceeded to seize Peter also. This happened during the Festival of Unleavened Bread. 4 After arresting him, he put him in prison, handing him over to be guarded by four squads of four soldiers each. Herod intended to bring him out for public trial after the Passover.

So Peter was kept in prison, but the church was earnestly praying to God for him.

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The night before Herod was to bring him to trial, Peter was sleeping between two soldiers, bound with two chains, and sentries stood guard at the entrance. 7 Suddenly an angel of the Lord appeared and a light shone in the cell. He struck Peter on the side and woke him up. “Quick, get up!” he said, and the chains fell off Peter’s wrists.

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8 Then the angel said to him, “Put on your clothes and sandals.”

And Peter did so. “Wrap your cloak around you and follow me,” the angel told him. 9 Peter followed him out of the prison, but he had no idea that what the angel was doing was really happening; he thought he was seeing a vision. 10 They passed the first and second guards and came to the iron gate leading to the city. It opened for them by itself, and they went through it. When they had walked the length of one street, suddenly the angel left him.

Then Peter came to himself and said, “Now I know without a doubt that the Lord has sent his angel and rescued me from Herod’s clutches and from everything the Jewish people were hoping would happen.”

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When this had dawned on him, he went to the house of Mary the mother of John, also called Mark, where many people had gathered and were praying.

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Prior to Peter’s imprisonment, James had just been executed by King Herod. If you were in Peter’s shoes, what would be your initial response to being arrested?

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Where does prayer fall in your initial responses when you are frightened?

What about when you are concerned about a loved one?

It is interesting to note that Scripture says “the church” was praying for Peter—not just the disciples. How does this translate for us as a church when one of our own is in need?

Have you ever received an answer to prayer that shocked or amazed you?

Share that moment with the group, if you are comfortable.

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STUDY NOTES In the most difficult times of His life, Jesus prayed.

He prayed and fasted as His ministry was just beginning (Matthew 4:1-2) and He quoted Scripture as the devil tempted Him (Matthew 4:4, 7, 10).

He prayed for and provided healing to those who needed it (Matthew 4:24, 8:13, 9:22, 9:29-30, 12:13, 12:22, 15:28); and in each instance, the one who was healed had a measure of faith that grew through the healing.

He prayed for Himself, His disciples, and all believers (John 17).

He prayed when He was lonely and needed solace (Luke 5:16, Mark 1:35, Matthew 14:23).

He taught His disciples—and all believers—how to pray what we call “The Lord’s Prayer” (Luke 11:1-4; Matthew 6:9-13).

He prayed over the last meal He shared with His disciples (Matthew 26:2628). We remember this prayer each time we participate in the sacrament of Communion.

He prayed when His life was in danger and He knew His death by crucifixion was near (Matthew 26:26-43).

He prayed on the cross (Luke 23:34).

It is both comforting and convicting to know that our Lord Jesus Christ was immersed in prayer throughout His time on Earth. He was the Creator and the Savior of the world, yet He spent so much of His brief time here in prayer. Lord, help us to follow your example—as individuals and as a church.

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CREATE A NEW STORY

GOD WANTS YOU TO BE PART OF HIS KINGDOM—TO WEAVE YOUR STORY INTO HIS. THAT WILL REQUIRE CHANGE—TO GO HIS WAY RATHER THAN YOUR OWN. THIS WON’T HAPPEN OVERNIGHT, BUT IT SHOULD HAPPEN STEADILY.

BY MAKING SMALL, SIMPLE CHOICES, WE CAN BEGIN TO CHANGE OUR DIRECTION. THE HOLY SPIRIT HELPS US ALONG THE WAY, BY GIVING US GIFTS TO SERVE THE BODY, OFFERING US INSIGHTS INTO SCRIPTURE, AND CHALLENGING US TO LOVE NOT ONLY THOSE AROUND US BUT THOSE FAR FROM GOD. IN THIS SECTION, TALK ABOUT HOW YOU WILL APPLY THE WISDOM YOU’VE LEARNED IN THIS SESSION.

How does being reminded of the frequency with which Jesus prayed serve as an encouragement for you to engage in prayer more often?

Our memory verse for this week says to “pray continually.” How can you exercise that discipline this week?

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Describe the difference you have seen when you went ALL IN and consciously made an effort to spend more time in prayer.

What practical steps can you take to make prayer a priority in your life?

What steps will you take this week to grow in your relationship with God? If you’ve focused on prayer in past weeks, maybe you’ll want to direct your attention to the study of Scripture this week. If you’ve been reading God’s Word consistently, perhaps you’ll want to go deeper and try memorizing a verse. Tell the group which step you plan to try this week, and talk about your progress and challenges when you meet next time.

Ask, “How can we pray for you this week?” Invite everyone to share, but don’t force the issue. Be sure to write prayer requests on your “Prayer and Praise Report” on page 86.

Close your meeting with prayer.

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FOR ADDITIONAL STUDY TAKE SOME TIME BETWEEN NOW AND OUR NEXT MEETING TO DIG INTO GOD’S WORD. EXPLORE THE BIBLE PASSAGES RELATED TO THIS SESSION’S THEME. JOT DOWN YOUR REFLECTIONS IN A JOURNAL OR IN THIS STUDY GUIDE. YOU MAY EVENT WANT TO USE A BIBLE WEBSITE OR APP TO LOOK UP NOTES OR COMMENTARY ON THESE PASSAGES. IF YOU LIKE, SHARE WHAT YOU’VE LEARNED WITH THE GROUP THE NEXT TIME YOU MEET.

READ MATTHEW 6:9-13 The Lord’s Prayer is an outline for our prayers. How can you incorporate the major points of that outline into your own prayers on a daily basis?

Are your prayers more of a reflection of who you are or who God is? How so?

If your prayers have become ritualistic, be intentional about rejuvenating them by reading God’s Word and praying Scripture—just as Jesus did.

READ JAMES 5:13-16 When does this Scripture tell us to pray?

How does faith play a part in our prayers?

How can we make our prayers more powerful?

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DAILY DEVOTIONALS

DAY 1 • JOHN 17:20-26 Jesus prayed for us: My prayer is not for them alone. I pray also for those who will believe in me through their message, that all of them may be one, Father, just as you are in me and I am in you. May they also be in us so that the world may believe that you have sent me (John 17:20-21).

RESPOND: In this Scripture, Jesus is praying for us—His believers. How does it feel to know that the Master was/is praying for you specifically?

DAY 2 • PHILIPPIANS 4:4-8 Remember: Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:6-7).

RESPOND: It’s difficult not to worry or be anxious when a frightening situation arises. Have you ever felt peace in the midst of a trial? If so, praise God! If not, what change can you bring to your prayer habits in order to feel that peace?

DAY 3 • MATTHEW 6:5-8 Prayer is a deliberate act: But when you pray, go into your room, close the door and pray to your Father, who is unseen. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you (Matthew 6:6).

RESPOND: Where is your special place where you can pray and be alone with God?

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DAY 4 • 2 CHRONICLES 7:11-18 Consider this promise: If my people, who are called by my name, will humble themselves and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from heaven, and I will forgive their sin and will heal their land (2 Chronicles 7:14).

RESPOND: Is there anything in your life right now that is hindering your prayers?

DAY 5 • EPHESIANS 3:14-21 Pray: Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us, to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, for ever and ever! Amen (Ephesians 3:20-21).

RESPOND: Read this verse as a prayer. Give thanks to the Lord for what He is doing and what He is going to do—in and through the lives of those in your group and in our church.

DAY 6 • Use the following space to write any thoughts God has put in your heart and mind about the things we have explored in this session and during your Daily Devotions time this week.

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SESSION FOUR

IN FAITH NOW FAITH IS BEING SURE OF WHAT WE HOPE FOR AND CERTAIN OF WHAT WE DO NOT SEE. (HEBREWS 11:1) I once heard a pastor say, “If you truly want to grow your faith, attempt something so impossible that, without God’s intervention, it’s destined for failure.”

A true story is told of five men in the mid-1950’s who set out to reach the Auca Indians of Ecuador. Nate Saint, Ed McCully, Jim Elliot, Peter Fleming, and Roger Youderian all felt called as missionaries to two tribes of very violent people. They began by dropping gifts to the Indians and established a connection through several encounters via airplane because the area was deemed too dangerous to do more. Eventually, the men felt it was time for a face-to-face meeting with the Indians. They took a risk and ventured into the jungle to be among them. Within a few hours, however, all five men were killed. The men hoped and prayed this would be the opportunity of a lifetime to share Jesus with a hostile audience, but instead the venture ended in tragedy.

Why did they attempt something so seemingly impossible? They believed God was calling them to be ALL IN for Him. What was the result?

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Upon hearing about the missionaries’ fate, the effort to reach the Aucas was not abandoned but instead grew in intensity. Over 20 pilots offered to go and make contact with the Indians. More than 1,000 college students volunteered for foreign missions in response to the deaths of the five martyrs.

James Keifer writes, “When, in subsequent months, the Auca Indians heard the message that the Son of God had come down from heaven to reconcile men with God, and to die in order to bring about that reconciliation, they recognized that the message of the missionaries was the basis of what they had seen enacted in the lives of the missionaries. They believed the Gospel preached because they had seen the Gospel lived.”

What if we exercised the kind of faith that reached out to those who need Jesus the most? What if every one of us went ALL IN and answered His call to do something we’ve never done before?

SHARE YOUR STORY

Open your group with prayer. This should be a brief, simple prayer, in which you invite God to be with you as you meet. You can pray for specific requests at the end of the meeting or stop momentarily to pray if a particular situation arises during your discussion.

As we have said in previous lessons, sharing our personal stories builds deeper connections among group members. Your story may be exactly what another person needs to hear, and your listening to others’ stories is an act of love and kindness to them—and could very well help them to grow spiritually. Begin your time together by using the following questions and activities to initiate the discussion.

Have you ever felt a call to give more than you currently do—of your talents, abilities, resources, and gifts?

What practical thing can you do to “step out in faith” during this message series?

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Sit with your spiritual partner. If your partner is absent or if you are new to the group, join with another pair or someone who doesn’t yet have a partner. If you haven’t established your spiritual partnership yet, do so now. Share one prayer request and one thing for which you want to thank God. Spend some time praying about what you’ve shared. (See “Share Your Story” in Session Two on page 23.)

Take some time for each person to share how they’re doing regarding the challenge of inviting the people on the “Circles of Life” to church or your small group. What specific conversations are you praying about for the weeks to come?

WATCH THE VIDEO

Use the “Notes” space provided on pages 94–96 to record key thoughts, questions and things you want to remember or note for follow-up. After watching the video, have someone read the discussion questions in the “Hear God’s Story” section and direct the discussion among the group. As you go through each of the subsequent sections, ask someone else to read the questions and guide the discussion.

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HEAR GOD’S STORY

READ LUKE 21:1-4 As Jesus looked up, he saw the rich putting their gifts into the temple treasury. 2 He also saw a poor widow put in two very small copper coins.

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3 “Truly I tell you,” he said, “this poor widow has put in more than all the others. 4 All these people gave their gifts out of their wealth; but she out of her poverty put in all she had to live on.”

In the culture of Jesus’ time, women were not considered worthy of conversation or exaltation. They were treated as possessions. This woman was a widow, which meant she likely had very few possessions on which to live. Yet Jesus noticed her and made mention of what she had done. She gave more than all the others, in Jesus’ eyes, not because of the amount she contributed, but because she gave out of a grateful heart. As Pastor Jeff said, “It is not the size of the gift that matters most.

It’s the condition of the heart.”

The others who were giving to the temple treasury surely heard what Jesus said. What do you suppose “the rich” thought of His mention of the widow’s gift?

Why did Jesus call her gift “more than all the others”? What did this say about the woman’s faith?

How would you define “a grateful heart”? Do you give to God out of a grateful heart?

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STUDY NOTES ROMANS 12:3-8

For by the grace given me I say to every one of you: Do not think of yourself more highly than you ought, but rather think of yourself with sober judgment, in accordance with the faith God has distributed to each of you. 4 For just as each of us has one body with many members, and these members do not all have the same function, 5 so in Christ we, though many, form one body, and each member belongs to all the others. 6 We have different gifts, according to the grace given to each of us. If your gift is prophesying, then prophesy in accordance with your[a] faith; 7 if it is serving, then serve; if it is teaching, then teach; 8 if it is to encourage, then give encouragement; if it is giving, then give generously; if it is to lead, do it diligently; if it is to show mercy, do it cheerfully.

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Pastor Jeff talked about his high school basketball team not playing like a team and how the results were less than stellar. They lost to teams that were not as talented, but who worked together and used the strengths and abilities of each player to win.

Each of us has been given abilities, gifts and talents. The Scripture from Romans (above) reminds us not to think more highly of ourselves than we ought because each person has a place in God’s Kingdom and a responsibility to “the team” – the church and other believers. One part of the Body of Christ in the church is no more important than another. We have to work together to achieve what God calls us to do. If we all give our best to God, He will use our gifts and abilities to achieve His will.

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CREATE A NEW STORY

The power of a gift given with deep faith and a grateful heart is incredible. Describe a gift you have given with deep faith.

The widow’s gift showed great faith. Talk about a time when you trusted God to provide when you were stretched to give more than you thought was possible.

The size of our faith is directly connected to our capacity to live generously. How would you describe the size of your faith?

Discuss a time when you felt “checked by the Holy Spirit” for coming before the Lord empty-handed. How did you respond?

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Each member of your group has been given different gifts and abilities. And every small group has tasks and roles that need to be done. How could you serve this group—perhaps with hospitality or prayer, by organizing an event, by researching or studying a topic, or by worshipping or inviting new people?

Spend some time praying about those you know who might respond to a simple invitation: to come to a church service, to join your small group, or even to just have coffee and talk about spiritual matters. Ask the Holy Spirit to bring to mind people for whom you can pray.

Groups grow closer when they serve together. How could your group serve someone in need? You may want to visit a shut-in from your church, provide a meal for a family who is going through a difficult time, or give some other practical help to someone in need.

If nothing or no one comes to mind, spend some group time praying and asking God to show you who needs your help. Have two or three group members organize a serving project for the group, and then do it together!

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FOR ADDITIONAL STUDY READ HEBREWS 12:1-2

As believers, we run the race of faith in Jesus Christ. To whom is the writer referring as “the great cloud of witnesses” that surrounds us?

How can we throw off everything that hinders us in this race? How does this hindrance prevent us from going ALL IN? What does it mean to “fix our eyes on Jesus”?

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This chapter of Hebrews is often referred to as “The Faith Chapter.” Which of these Bible characters do you feel you are most like? Why? What specific steps could you take to strengthen your faith? Ask the Lord to give you strength and courage to do this.

In what specific ways has your faith been challenged in the last year? How has it grown as a result of those challenges?

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DAILY DEVOTIONALS

DAY 1 • MATTHEW 9:18-31 Imagine this woman’s faith: Just then a woman who had been subject to bleeding for twelve years came up behind him and touched the edge of his cloak. She said to herself, “If I only touch his cloak, I will be healed.”

Jesus turned and saw her. “Take heart, daughter,” he said, “your faith has healed you.” And the woman was healed at that moment (Matthew 9:20-22).

RESPOND: Throughout the New Testament, as Jesus healed those who came to Him, He repeatedly said, “Your faith has healed you.” Is your faith strong enough to receive this kind of healing?

DAY 2 • MATTHEW 17:14-21 Reflect: Truly I tell you, if you have faith as small as a mustard seed, you can say to this mountain, ‘Move from here to there,’ and it will move. Nothing will be impossible for you (Matthew 17:20).

RESPOND: Have you ever felt that you were asking God for an impossible request? Pray believing that God will answer the deepest cry of your heart.

DAY 3 • HEBREWS 11:8-16 By faith Abraham, when called to go to a place he would later receive as his inheritance, obeyed and went, even though he did not know where he was going (Hebrews 11:8).

RESPOND: Has God ever called you to do something or go somewhere without knowing the end result? How did you respond?

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DAY 4 • MATTHEW 21:18-22 Consider: Jesus replied, “Truly I tell you, if you have faith and do not doubt, not only can you do what was done to the fig tree, but also you can say to this mountain, ‘Go, throw yourself into the sea,’ and it will be done. If you believe, you will receive whatever you ask for in prayer (Matthew 21:21-22).

RESPOND: Jesus tells us we should have faith. The size of our faith is directly connected to our capacity to live generously. How will you respond to Jesus’ request? How will you draw upon your faith to go ALL IN?

DAY 5 • PROVERBS 3:1-10 Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will direct your paths (Proverbs 3:5-6).

RESPOND: How could you demonstrate your trust in the Lord? Are you willing for Him to be Lord over every part of your life?

DAY 6 • Use the following space to write any thoughts God has put in your heart and mind about the things we have explored in this session and during your Daily Devotions time this week.

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SESSION FIVE

IN SACRIFICE BE IMITATORS OF GOD, THEREFORE, AS DEARLY LOVED CHILDREN AND LIVE A LIFE OF LOVE, JUST AS CHRIST LOVED US AND GAVE HIMSELF UP FOR US AS A FRAGRANT OFFERING AND SACRIFICE TO GOD. (EPHESIANS 5:1-2) “To Sacrifice a Son: An Allegory,” a short story written by Dennis E. Hensley, and first published in the Michigan Baptist Bulletin in 1967, will help us help us understand the concept of sacrifice and remind us of the sacrifice Jesus made for us.

A switchman was waiting for the last train of the day to come.

His job was to operate the controls to turn the bridge and lock it into place as the train crossed. Soon, he saw the train lights. He turned the bridge into position, but found the locking control did not work.

If the bridge was not securely in position, it would cause the train to jump the track and go crashing into the river. This was a passenger train with many people aboard.

He hurried across the bridge to the other side of the river, where there was a lever switch he could hold to operate the lock manually.

He would have to hold the lever back firmly as the train crossed.

He could hear the rumble of the train now, and he took hold of the lever and leaned backward to apply his weight to it, locking the bridge. He kept applying the pressure to keep the mechanism locked. Many lives depended on this man’s strength.

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Then, he heard a sound that made his blood run cold. “Daddy, where are you?” His four year old son was crossing the bridge. His first impulse was to cry out to the child, “Run! Run!” But the train was too close; the tiny legs would never make it across the bridge in time. The man almost ran to snatch up his son and carry him to safety. But he realized that he could not get back to the lever in time if he saved his son. Either many people on the train, or his own son would die.

He took but a moment to make his decision. The train sped safely and swiftly on its way, and no one aboard was even aware of the tiny, broken body thrown mercilessly into the river by the rushing train. Nor were they aware of the sobbing man, still clinging to the locking lever long after the train had passed.

In similar fashion, our Father in Heaven sacrificed His Son to bridge the gap between us and eternal life. He caused the earth to tremble and the skies to darken when His Son died. How might He feel when we speed along through life without giving a thought to what was done for us through Jesus Christ?

The Savior of the world made the ultimate sacrifice for you. Are you willing to go ALL IN for Him?

SHARE YOUR STORY Open your group with prayer. This should be a brief, simple prayer, in which you invite God to be with you as you meet. You can pray for specific requests at the end of the meeting or stop momentarily to pray if a particular situation arises during your discussion.

Telling our personal stories builds deeper connections among group members. Begin your time together by using the following questions and activities to start the dialogue. Sharing our stories requires us to be honest.

We can help one another be honest and open by creating a safe place; be sure that your group is one where confidentiality is respected, where there is no such thing as a “stupid question,” and where you listen without criticism of one another.

Describe an experience when you sacrificed your time or money in ways that were difficult. What benefits did you experience as a result?

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Other than the sacrifice of our Lord, what is the most amazing sacrifice you have ever heard of or witnessed?

Sit with your spiritual partner. If your partner is absent or if you are new to the group, join with another pair or someone who doesn’t yet have a partner. If you haven’t established your spiritual partnership yet, do so now. Answer this question: how has being in this group impacted your personal relationship with God? (See “Share Your Story” in Session Two on page 23.)

WATCH THE VIDEO

Use the “Notes” space provided on pages 94–96 to record key thoughts, questions and things you want to remember or note for follow-up. After watching the video, have someone read the discussion questions in the “Hear God’s Story” section and direct the discussion among the group. As you go through each of the subsequent sections, ask someone else to read the questions and guide the discussion.

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HEAR GOD’S STORY

READ ACTS 6:8-14; 7:54-59 Now Stephen, a man full of God’s grace and power, performed great wonders and signs among the people. 9 Opposition arose, however, from members of the Synagogue of the Freedmen (as it was called)—Jews of Cyrene and Alexandria as well as the provinces of Cilicia and Asia—who began to argue with Stephen.

10 But they could not stand up against the wisdom the Spirit gave him as he spoke.

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Then they secretly persuaded some men to say, “We have heard Stephen speak blasphemous words against Moses and against God.”

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So they stirred up the people and the elders and the teachers of the law. They seized Stephen and brought him before the Sanhedrin.

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They produced false witnesses, who testified, “This fellow never stops speaking against this holy place and against the law. 14 For we have heard him say that this Jesus of Nazareth will destroy this place and change the customs Moses handed down to us.

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When the members of the Sanhedrin heard this, they were furious and gnashed their teeth at him. 55 But Stephen, full of the Holy Spirit, looked up to heaven and saw the glory of God, and Jesus standing at the right hand of God. 56 “Look,” he said, “I see heaven open and the Son of Man standing at the right hand of God.” 54

At this they covered their ears and, yelling at the top of their voices, they all rushed at him, 58 dragged him out of the city and began to stone him. Meanwhile, the witnesses laid their coats at the feet of a young man named Saul.

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While they were stoning him, Stephen prayed, “Lord Jesus, receive my spirit.” 60 Then he fell on his knees and cried out, “Lord, do not hold this sin against them.” When he had said this, he fell asleep.

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Why was Stephen so hated by these members of the synagogue?

Why was it blasphemous for Stephen to speak against Moses?

Do you think the men of the Sanhedrin would have been as violent toward Stephen if they had not been in such a large group and emboldened by the false witnesses’ testimony? Why did they react so angrily toward Stephen when he said he saw the Son of Man standing at the right hand of God?

What are the implications of Saul being present at the stoning of Stephen?

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STUDY NOTES

Stephen was known among the people and teachers of the law to be “full of faith and the Holy Spirit.” He had been chosen to help make decisions about the distribution of bread to widows. This was an important role.

Scripture said the others could not stand up against the wisdom the Spirit gave to Stephen. Perhaps this was what frightened these angry men.

Stephen knew what he believed—that Jesus was the Messiah—and he was not afraid to speak about it.

Stephen is the first of the Christians following Jesus’ death and resurrection to be martyred for his faith. Yet, while he was dying, he asked God to forgive his murderers—just as Jesus did from the cross. Was Stephen’s prayer answered? St. Augustine once said, “The Church owes Paul to the prayer of Stephen” (quoted in Barclay 1976:62). Stephen went ALL IN, regardless of the consequences of his actions. He was not afraid to take a risk for his beliefs. Are we willing to do the same?

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GOD WANTS YOU TO BE PART OF HIS KINGDOM—TO WEAVE YOUR STORY INTO HIS. THAT WILL MEAN CHANGE. IT WILL REQUIRE YOU TO GO HIS WAY RATHER THAN YOUR OWN. THIS WON’T HAPPEN OVERNIGHT, BUT IT SHOULD HAPPEN STEADILY. BY MAKING SMALL, SIMPLE CHOICES, WE CAN BEGIN TO CHANGE OUR DIRECTION. THE HOLY SPIRIT HELPS US ALONG THE WAY—GIVING US GIFTS TO SERVE THE BODY, OFFERING US INSIGHTS INTO SCRIPTURE, AND CHALLENGING US TO LOVE NOT ONLY THOSE AROUND US, BUT ALSO THOSE WHO ARE FAR FROM GOD.

In this section, talk about how you will apply the wisdom you’ve learned in this lesson.

The immediate consequence of Stephen’s actions were his death, but what was the ultimate result of his sacrifice? How can the difficulties we face become a story of redemption for others?

As Pastor Jeff has often said, “Our mess can become a message; our test can become our testimony.” Would you be willing to testify to God’s goodness if called upon to do so in a contentious situation?

Have you ever witnessed an injustice, as Saul did, but felt powerless to help? How did it change you? What would you do differently today as a result of your growing faith?

On a scale from one to ten, where one is “not willing” and ten is “all in,” how willing are you to make a sacrifice so that others could benefit from it, even if the decision was difficult and would require a change in your life?

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Spend some time praying about those you know who might respond to a simple invitation: to come to a church service, to join your small group, or even just to have coffee and talk about spiritual matters. Ask the Holy Spirit to bring to mind people for whom you can pray.

A strong group is made up of people who are all being filled up by God so that they are empowered to love one another. What specific steps will you take this week to connect with God privately so He can “fill you up”? If you’ve focused on prayer in past weeks, maybe you’ll want to direct your attention to the study of Scripture this week. If you’ve been reading God’s Word consistently, perhaps you’ll want to go deeper and try memorizing a verse. Tell the group which step you plan to try this week. Then, at your next meeting, talk about your progress and challenges.

Ask “How can we pray for you this week?” Invite everyone to share, but don’t force the issue. Be sure to write prayer requests on your “Prayer and Praise Report” on page 86.

Close your meeting with prayer.

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FOR ADDITIONAL STUDY TAKE SOME TIME BETWEEN NOW AND OUR NEXT MEETING TO DIG INTO GOD’S WORD. EXPLORE THE BIBLE PASSAGES RELATED TO THIS SESSION’S THEME ON YOUR OWN. JOT DOWN YOUR REFLECTIONS IN A JOURNAL OR IN THIS STUDY GUIDE. YOU MAY EVEN WANT TO USE A BIBLE WEBSITE OR APP TO LOOK UP NOTES OR COMMENTARY ON THESE PASSAGES. IF YOU LIKE, SHARE WHAT YOU’VE LEARNED WITH THE GROUP THE NEXT TIME YOU MEET.

READ MATTHEW 6:19-21 What are some earthly treasures you have stored up?

How do these treasures interfere with your ability to give generously to God? Where do you spend your time, energy and money (answer these individually)? According to this Scripture, your response is where your treasure is, as well as your heart. Take a moment to examine your mind and heart.

What do you feel God may be asking you to do?

READ HEBREWS 13:15-16 How can we continually offer a sacrifice of praise to God? What does it look like to do good and share with others?

What does the Scripture mean by doing this “through Jesus”?

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DAILY DEVOTIONALS

DAY 1 • READ HEBREWS 10:19-25 Let us hold unswervingly to the hope we profess, for he who promised is faithful. And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another—and all the more as you see the Day approaching (Hebrews 10:23-25).

RESPOND: What practical step will you take this week to encourage someone in your family or group to show love and share good deeds?

DAY 2 • 1 JOHN 2:1-10 Remember: My dear children, I write this to you so that you will not sin. But if anybody does sin, we have an advocate with the Father—Jesus Christ, the Righteous One. He is the atoning sacrifice for our sins, and not only for ours but also for the sins of the whole world (1 John 2:1-2).

RESPOND: Jesus is our atoning sacrifice. No one born before or since could save us from our sins. How can you express your thanks and praise to Him for this amazing gift?

DAY 3 • PSALM 50:1-15 Sacrifice thank offerings to God, fulfill your vows to the Most High, and call on me in the day of trouble; I will deliver you, and you will honor me (Psalm 50-14-15).

RESPOND: What are some ways we can sacrifice thank offerings to God and honor Him?

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DAY 4 • PROVERBS CHAPTER 3 Reflect on this verse: Do not withhold good from those to whom it is due, when it is in your power to act (Proverbs 3:27).

RESPOND: How can we fulfill this command from the Lord with those in our community?

DAY 5 • 1 JOHN 4:7-12 This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins (1 John 4:10).

RESPOND: Thank God for the love He shows us daily. How can you share this love with others in a tangible way?

DAY 6 • Use the following space to write any thoughts God has put in your heart and mind about the things we have explored in this session and during your Daily Devotions time this week.

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SESSION SIX

IN COMMITMENT I HAVE FOUGHT THE GOOD FIGHT, I HAVE FINISHED THE RACE; I HAVE KEPT THE FAITH. (2 TIMOTHY 4:7) A great deal of work goes into preparing to run a long race. It doesn’t just happen overnight. Days, weeks, and months are necessary to get your body ready and in shape for this test of endurance. There are several key steps that should be followed in order to ensure success. One of the first and most important steps is to fill your body with water and healthy food on a daily basis. Another is to avoid the wrong kinds of food and drink so as not to diminish your strength and cause your muscles not to function properly. Yet another step is to determine a pace that is comfortable and sustainable for the entire race. Finally, training daily is necessary to get your body accustomed to the rigorous toll it must withstand mile after mile.

Scripture often refers to our Christian walk as a race. Our journey with the Lord is like a race in that we grow in faith as we learn more about Him and about ourselves. It is a test of endurance. Just as filling our body with the right food and liquid is important for a physical race, filling our mind with the Word and talking with the Father is a daily necessity. The pitfalls of sin caused by filling our minds and hearts with the things of this world will cause us to miss out on God’s best and deter us from doing His will and finishing well.

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Determining a pace that is sustainable for us should include incorporating the six habits of a fully devoted follower of Jesus into our everyday lives: weekly worship, daily devotions, weekly small group participation, regular serving, faithful giving, and sharing our witness. Daily training in each of these disciplines will ensure that we reach the end of our race and hear our Father say, “Well done, good and faithful servant” (Matthew 25:21a).

How can we finish the race well? Commit to going ALL IN with Him. In this last session, we will learn how one of the most well-known and prolific writers of the New Testament faced hardship and yet endured faithfully to the end. He was committed to the cause of Christ, regardless of the opposition.

SHARE YOUR STORY Open your group with prayer. This should be a brief, simple prayer, in which you invite God to be with you as you meet. You can pray for specific requests at the end of the meeting, or stop momentarily to pray if a particular situation arises during your discussion.

As we have said in previous lessons, sharing our personal stories builds deeper connections among group members. Your story may be exactly what another person needs to hear to encourage or strengthen them.

And listening to others’ stories is an act of love and kindness to them—and could very well help them to grow spiritually. Begin your time together by using the following questions and activities to initiate conversation.

What has surprised you most about this group? In what ways did God meet you over the last six weeks?

Would you be willing to share this experience with someone who has not “plugged in” and tell them how you’ve grown throughout this series?

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Take time in this final session to connect with your spiritual partner.

What has God been showing you through these sessions? What positive changes has your partner noticed in you? Check in with each other about the progress you have made in your spiritual growth during this study. Make plans about whether you will continue your relationship after the group has concluded. (See “Share Your Story” in Session Two on page 23.)

Take some time for each person to share about how they’ve done with inviting the people on the “Circles of Life” diagram to church or your small group. What specific conversations are you praying about for the weeks to come?

WATCH THE VIDEO

Use the “Notes” space provided on pages 94–96 to record key thoughts, questions and things you want to remember or note for follow-up. After watching the video, have someone read the discussion questions in the “Hear God’s Story” section and direct the discussion among the group. As you go through each of the subsequent sections, ask someone else to read the questions and guide the discussion.

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READ 2 CORINTHIANS 11:23b-28 I have worked much harder, been in prison more frequently, been flogged more severely, and been exposed to death again and again. 24 Five times I received from the Jews the forty lashes minus one. 25 Three times I was beaten with rods, once I was pelted with stones, three times I was shipwrecked; I spent a night and a day in the open sea, I have been constantly on the move. I have been in danger from rivers, in danger from bandits, in danger from my fellow Jews, in danger from Gentiles; in danger in the city, in danger in the country, in danger at sea; and in danger from false believers.

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I have labored and toiled and have often gone without sleep; I have known hunger and thirst and have often gone without food; I have been cold and naked. 28 Besides everything else, I face daily the pressure of my concern for all the churches.

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What was Paul’s motivation for providing the details of his challenges?

Talk about a time when you felt as if you had sacrificed a great deal for something or someone and it went unnoticed. How did it make you feel? How did you react in response to that indifference?

It seems as though Paul had nowhere to call home. He had enemies from the past who hated him, acquaintances from the present who distrusted him, and government officials chasing after him. How do you think he was able to keep it all in perspective? How would you have handled Paul’s situation?

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Paul is emphasizing his struggles, but toward the end of the passage, he mentions his concern for the churches he serves. What does that say about his character? What was most important to him?

When Paul sent this letter, he knew some people would not believe him. Has anyone ever questioned your integrity as a Christian? How did you respond?

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STUDY NOTES

Paul wrote this second letter to the Christians in Corinth because controversy had arisen about his relationship with the church there.

False teachers were challenging Paul’s integrity and authority. He felt it necessary to defend himself, not only to his accusers, but to those Christians who were skeptical that what he was doing was solely to advance the cause of Christ. After all, he had been the one to persecute them not long before! He was setting the record straight. He was fully committed.

Paul needed all of them to know that he wasn’t the same Saul that stood and held the robes of those who stoned Stephen. He had been made new by his encounter with the living Christ on the road to Damascus. He had sacrificed life and limb (literally!) to tell anyone and everyone about Jesus and was willing to continue to do so, no matter the cost. He was ALL IN. Are you?

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How has God changed your story during this six-week study? What new things is He asking you to do? What truth has transformed your heart? Think about specific steps you want to take to live a new story, to walk more closely with God so you can be part of His story, engaged in His kingdom.

What is the most difficult thing about going ALL IN in commitment?

Which of the six lessons resonated with you the most? Why?

What is one thing you plan to change in your life as a result of this series?

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As this is the last meeting in this study, take some time to celebrate the work God has done in the lives of your group members. Have each person in the group share some element of growth they have noticed in another member. (In other words, no one will talk about themselves.

Instead, affirm others in the group.) Make sure each person gets affirmed and noticed and celebrated—whether the steps they’ve made are large or small.

If your group still needs to make decisions about continuing to meet after this session, have that discussion now. Talk about what you will study, who will lead, and when you will meet.

Review your “Small Group Agreement” on page 78 and evaluate how well you met your goals. Discuss any changes you want to make as you move forward. If you plan to continue to meet, and your group starts a new study, this is a great time to take on a new role or change roles of service in your group. What new role will you take on? If you are uncertain, perhaps your fellow group members have some ideas for you. Remember you aren’t making a lifetime commitment to the new role; it will only be for a few weeks. Maybe someone would like to share a role with you if you don’t feel ready to serve on your own.

Close by praying for your prayer requests, and take a couple of minutes to review the praises you have recorded over the past five weeks on the “Prayer and Praise Report” on page 86. Spend some time thanking God for all He’s done in your group during this study.

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FOR ADDITIONAL STUDY EXPLORE THE BIBLE PASSAGES RELATED TO THIS SESSION’S THEME ON YOUR OWN, JOTTING YOUR REFLECTIONS IN A JOURNAL OR IN THIS STUDY GUIDE. YOU MAY EVEN WANT TO USE A BIBLE WEBSITE OR APP TO LOOK UP NOTES OR COMMENTARY ON THESE PASSAGES.

READ PSALM 24:1 This Scripture says that all who live in the world belong to the Lord. Do you see yourself as belonging to the Lord? Why or why not?

Discuss whether you consider everything you own as belonging to the Lord.

If you struggle in this area of giving God control of everything in your life, how might you make a change?

READ LUKE 6:37-38 Which of these commands is most difficult for you to obey?

Are you willing to ask God to help you give in the same measure you have received?

Jesus promises to give you as much as you give to Him. How does that make you feel about your current giving?

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DAILY DEVOTIONALS

DAY 1 • READ 2 CORINTHIANS 9:6-8 Consider : Each of you should give what you have decided in your heart to give, not reluctantly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver (2 Corinthians 9:7).

RESPOND: Giving in itself is good, but which kind of giving does God love? Is this how you give?

DAY 2 • PSALM 37:3-6 Concentrate on 5-6a: Commit your way to the Lord; trust in him and he will do this: He will make your righteous reward shine like the dawn (Psalm 5-6a).

RESPOND: What is a practical way you can commit your way to the Lord and trust Him?

DAY 3 • MALACHI 3:6-10 Bring the whole tithe into the storehouse, that there may be food in my house. Test me in this,” says the Lord Almighty, “and see if I will not throw open the floodgates of heaven and pour out so much blessing that there will not be room enough to store it (Malachi 3:10).

RESPOND: Are you willing to test the Lord and see if He will honor His promise?

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DAY 4 • ACTS 20:22-24 Reflect: However, I consider my life worth nothing to me; my only aim is to finish the race and complete the task the Lord Jesus has given me—the task of testifying to the good news of God’s grace (Acts 20:24).

RESPOND: Is your aim the same as Paul’s? In what specific ways are you testifying to the good news of God’s grace?

DAY 5 • COLOSSIANS 1:3-12 For this reason, since the day we heard about you, we have not stopped praying for you. We continually ask God to fill you with the knowledge of his will through all the wisdom and understanding that the Spirit gives, so that you may live a life worthy of the Lord and please him in every way: bearing fruit in every good work, growing in the knowledge of God, being strengthened with all power according to his glorious might so that you may have great endurance and patience, and giving joyful thanks to the Father, who has qualified you to share in the inheritance of his holy people in the kingdom of light (Colossians 1:9-12).

RESPOND: Pray this prayer over your small group, spouse, and family.

Make it personal by inserting a name or names!

DAY 6 • Use the following space to write any thoughts God has put in your heart and mind about the things we have explored in this session and during your Daily Devotions time this week.

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APPENDICES

GREAT RESOURCES TO HELP MAKE YOUR SMALL GROUP EXPERIENCE EVEN BETTER!

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FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS WHAT DO WE DO ON THE FIRST NIGHT OF OUR GROUP? Like all fun things in life—have a party! A “get-to-know-you” coffee, dinner, or dessert is a great way to launch a new study. You may want to review the “Small Group Agreement” (page 78) and share the names of a few friends you can invite to join you. But most importantly, have fun before your study time begins.

WHERE DO WE FIND NEW MEMBERS FOR OUR GROUP? This can be troubling, especially for new groups that have only a few people or for existing groups that lose a few people along the way. We encourage you to pray with your group and then brainstorm a list of people from work, church, your neighborhood, your children’s school, family, the gym, and so forth. Then, have each group member invite several of the people on his or her list. Another good strategy is to ask church leaders to make an announcement or submit a bulletin article.

No matter how you find members, it’s vital that you stay on the lookout for new people to join your group. All groups tend to go through healthy attrition—the result of moves, releasing new leaders, ministry opportunities, and so forth—and if the group gets too small, it could be at risk of shutting down. If you and your group stay open, you’ll be amazed at the people God sends your way. The next person just might become a friend for life.

You never know!

HOW LONG WILL THIS GROUP MEET? It’s totally up to the group—once you come to the end of this six-week study. Most groups meet weekly for at least their first six weeks, but every other week can work as well. We strongly recommend that the group meet for the first six months on a weekly basis if at all possible. This allows for continuity, and if people miss a meeting they aren’t gone for a whole month.

At the end of this study, each group member may decide if he or she wants to continue on for another six-week study. Some groups launch relationships for years to come, and others are stepping-stones into another group experience. Either way, enjoy the journey.

CAN WE DO THIS STUDY ON OUR OWN? Absolutely! This may sound crazy, but one of the best ways to do this study is not with a full house but with a few friends. You may choose to gather with another couple who would enjoy some relational time (perhaps going to the movies or having a quiet dinner) and then walking through this study. Jesus will be with you even if there are only two of you (Matthew 18:20).

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WHAT IF THIS GROUP IS NOT WORKING FOR US? You’re not alone! This could be the result of a personality conflict, life-stage difference, geographical distance, level of spiritual maturity, or any number of things. Relax. Pray for God’s direction, and at the end of this six-week study, decide whether to continue with this group or find another. You don’t typically buy the first car you look at or marry the first person you date, and the same goes with a group. However, don’t bail out before the six weeks are up—God might have something to teach you. Also, don’t run from conflict or prejudge people before you have given them a chance.

God is still working in your life, too!

WHO IS THE LEADER? Most groups have an official leader. But ideally, the group will mature and members will rotate the leadership of meetings. We have discovered that healthy groups rotate hosts/leaders and homes on a regular basis. This model ensures that all members grow, give their unique contribution, and develop their gifts. This study guide and the Holy Spirit can keep things on track even when you rotate leaders. Christ has promised to be in your midst as you gather. Ultimately, God is your leader each step of the way.

HOW DO WE HANDLE THE CHILDCARE NEEDS IN OUR GROUP? Very carefully. Seriously, this can be a sensitive issue. We suggest that you empower the group to openly brainstorm solutions. You may try one option that works for a while and then adjust over time. Our favorite approach is for adults to meet in the living room or dining room and to share the cost of a babysitter (or two) who can watch the children in a different part of the house. This way, parents don’t have to be away from their children all evening when their children are too young to be left at home. A second option is to use one home for the children and a second home (close by or a phone call away) for the adults. A third idea is to rotate the responsibility of providing a lesson or care for the children either in the same home or in another home nearby. This can be an incredible blessing for kids. Finally, the most common solution is to decide that you need to have a night to invest in your spiritual lives individually or as a couple and to make your own arrangements for childcare. No matter what decision the group makes, the best approach is to dialogue openly about both the problem and the solution.

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SMALL GROUP AGREEMENT OUR PURPOSE To provide a predictable environment where participants experience authentic community and spiritual growth.

OUR VALUES

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Group Attendance To give priority to the group meeting. We will call or email if we will be late or absent. (Completing the “Group Calendar” on page 80 will minimize this issue.)

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Safe Environment To help create a safe place where people can be heard and feel loved. (Please, no quick answers, snap judgments, or simple fixes.)

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Respect Differences To be gentle and gracious to people with different spiritual maturity, personal opinions, temperaments, or “imperfections” in fellow group members. We are all works in progress.

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Confidentiality To keep anything that is shared strictly confidential and within the group, and to avoid sharing improper information about those outside the group.

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Encouragement for Growth To be not just takers but givers of life. We want to spiritually multiply our life by serving others with our Godgiven gifts.

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Shared Ownership To remember that every member is a minister and to ensure that each attender will share a small team role or responsibility over time.

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Rotating Hosts/Leaders and Homes To encourage different people to host the group in their homes and to rotate the responsibility of facilitating each meeting. (See the “Group Calendar” on page 80.)

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Who (other than the leader) will review this agreement at the end of

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GROUP CALENDAR

Planning and calendaring can help ensure the greatest participation at every meeting. At the end of each meeting, review this calendar. Be sure to include a regular rotation of host homes and leaders, and don’t forget birthdays, socials, church events, holidays, and mission/ministry projects.

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Steve and Laura’s

DESSERT/MEAL

Joe

LEADER

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SPIRITUAL PARTNERS’ CHECK-IN

Briefly check in each week and write down your personal plans and progress targets for the next week (or even for the next few weeks). This could be done before or after the meeting, on the phone, through an email message, or even in person from time to time.

MY NAME: PARTNER’S NAME: OUR PLANS: OUR PROGRESS:

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GROUP ROSTER NAME PHONE EMAIL

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MEMORY VERSE CARDS

SE SS I O N O NE

SESSIO N FO UR

LOV E T HE LO R D YO U R G O D

N O W FAI TH I S B E I N G SU RE

WIT H A LL YO U R H E ART AN D

OF W H AT W E H O PE F O R AN D

WIT H A LL YO U R S O U L AN D

CE RTAI N O F W H AT W E D O

WIT H A LL YO U R ST R E N GT H .

N OT SE E .

(DEU T ER O N O M Y 6 : 5 )

( H E B RE W S 11: 1)

SE SSI O N TWO

SESSIO N FIV E

TO T HE END S O F T H E E ART H .

B E I M I TATO RS O F GO D, TH E RE F O RE , AS D E ARLY LOVE D CH I L D RE N AN D L I VE A L I F E O F LOV E , JU ST AS CH RI ST LOVE D U S AN D GAVE H I M SE L F U P F O R U S AS A F RAGRAN T O F F E RI N G. AN D SACRI F I CE TO GO D.

(ACT S 1 : 8 )

( E P H E SI AN S 5 : 1 -2 )

BUT YOU W I L L R E C E I V E

P OWER WH E N T H E H O LY

S P IRIT CO ME S O N YO U ; AN D YOU WILL BE M Y W I T N E S S E S IN J ERU S A L E M , AN D I N AL L

J U DEA A ND S AM AR I A, AN D

SE SSI O N T H RE E REJ O ICE ALWAY S , P R AY

CONT INUA LLY, G I V E T H AN K S

IN A LL CIRCU M STAN C E S ; F O R T HIS IS G OD ’ S W I L L F O R YO U IN CHR I ST J E S U S .

(1 T HES S A LO N I AN S 5 : 1 6 - 1 8 )

SESSIO N SIX I H AV E F O U GH T TH E GO O D

FI GH T, I H AV E F I N I SH E D TH E RACE ; I H AV E K E PT TH E FAI TH .

( 2 TI M OTH Y 4: 7)

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SMALL GROUP LEADERS

KEY RESOURCES TO HELP YOUR LEADERSHIP EXPERIENCE BE THE BEST IT CAN BE.

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HOSTING AN OPEN HOUSE

If you’re starting a new group, try planning an “open house” before your first formal group meeting. Even if you have only two to four core members, it’s a great way to break the ice and to consider prayerfully who else might be open to joining you over the next few weeks. You can also use this kick-off meeting to hand out study guides, spend some time getting to know each other, discuss each person’s expectations for the group and briefly pray for each other.

A simple meal or good desserts always make a kick-off meeting more fun. After people introduce themselves and share how they ended up being at the meeting (you can play a game to see who has the wildest story!), have everyone respond to a few icebreaker questions: •

What is your favorite family vacation?

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What are three things about your life growing up that most people here don’t know?

Next, ask everyone to tell what he or she hopes to get out of the study. You might want to review the Small Group Agreement and talk about each person’s expectations and priorities.

Finally, set an open chair (maybe two) in the center of your group and explain that it represents someone who would enjoy or benefit from this group but who isn’t yet here. Ask people to pray about inviting someone to join the group over the next few weeks. Hand out postcards and have everyone write an invitation or two. Don’t worry about ending up with too many people; you can always have one discussion circle in the living room and another in the dining room after you watch the lesson. Each group could then report prayer requests and progress at the end of the session.

You can skip this kick-off meeting if your time is limited, but you’ll experience a huge benefit if you take the time to connect with each other in this way.

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LEADING FOR THE FIRST TIME TEN COMMON LEADERSHIP EXPERIENCES WELCOME TO LIFE OUT IN FRONT!

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Sweaty palms are a healthy sign.

The Bible says God is gracious to the humble. Remember who is in control; the time to worry is when you’re not worried. Those who are soft in heart (and sweaty palmed) are those through whom God is sure to speak.

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Seek support.

Ask your leader, co-leader, or close friend to pray for you and prepare with you before the session. Walking through the study will help you anticipate potentially difficult questions and discussion topics.

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Bring your uniqueness to the study.

Lean into who you are and how God wants you to uniquely lead the study.

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Prepare. Prepare. Prepare.

Go through the session several times. If you are using the DVD, listen to the teaching segment and Leadership Lifter. Consider writing in a journal or fasting for a day to prepare yourself for what God wants to do. Don’t wait until the last minute to prepare.

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Ask for feedback so you can grow.

Perhaps in an email or on cards handed out at the study, have everyone write down three things you did well and one thing you could improve on. Don’t get defensive. Instead, show an openness to learn and grow..

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Prayerfully consider launching a new group.

This doesn’t need to happen overnight, but God’s heart is for this to take place over time. Not all Christians are called to be leaders or teachers, but we are all called to be “shepherds” of a few someday.

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Share with your group what God is doing in your heart.

God is searching for those whose hearts are fully His. Share your trials and victories. We promise that people will relate.

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Prayerfully consider to whom you would like to pass the baton next week.

It’s only fair. God is ready for the next member of your group to go on the faith journey you just traveled. Make it fun, and expect God to do the rest.

LEADERSHIP TRAINING 101 TOP TEN IDEAS FOR NEW LEADERS

Congratulations! You have responded to the call to help shepherd Jesus’ flock. There are few other tasks in the family of God that surpass the contribution you will be making. As you prepare to lead, whether it is one session or the entire series, here are a few thoughts to keep in mind. We encourage you to read these and review them with each new discussion leader before he or she leads.

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God knows everything about you, and He knew that you would be asked to lead your group. Remember that it is common for all good leaders to feel that they are not ready to lead. Moses, Solomon, Jeremiah and Timothy were all reluctant to lead. God promises, “Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you” (Hebrews 13:5). Whether you are leading for one evening, for several weeks, or for a lifetime, you will be blessed as you serve.

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Don’t try to do it alone.

Pray right now for God to help you build a healthy leadership team.

If you can enlist a co-leader to help you lead the group, you will find your experience to be much richer. This is your chance to involve as many people as you can in building a healthy group. All you have to do is call and ask people to help. You’ll probably be surprised at the response.

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Just be yourself.

If you won’t be you, who will? God wants you to use your unique gifts and temperament. Don’t try to do things exactly like another leader; do them in a way that fits you! Just admit it when you don’t have an answer, and apologize when you make a mistake. Your group will love you for it, and you’ll sleep better at night!

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Prepare for your meeting ahead of time.

Review the session and the leader’s notes, and write down your responses to each question. Pay special attention to exercises that ask group members to do something other than engage in discussion.

These exercises will help your group live what the Bible teaches, not just talk about it. Be sure you understand how an exercise works, and bring any necessary supplies (such as paper and pens) to your meeting. If the exercise employs one of the items in the Appendices, be sure to look over that item so you’ll know how it works. Finally, review the “Outline for Each Session” so you’ll remember the purpose of each section in the study.

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Pray for your group members by name.

Before you begin your session, go around the room in your mind and pray for each member by name. You may want to review the prayer list at least once a week. Ask God to use your time together to uniquely touch the heart of every person. Expect God to lead you to whomever He wants you to encourage or challenge in a special way. If you listen, God will surely lead!

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When you ask a question, be patient.

Someone will eventually respond. Sometimes people need a moment or two of silence to think about the question. Keep in mind, if silence doesn’t bother you, it won’t bother anyone else. After someone responds, affirm the response with a simple “thanks” or “good job.”

Then ask, “How about somebody else?” or “Would someone who hasn’t shared like to add anything?” Be sensitive to new people or reluctant members who aren’t ready to say, pray or do anything. If you give them a safe setting, they will blossom over time.

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Provide transitions between questions.

When guiding the discussion, always read aloud the transitional paragraphs and the questions. Ask the group if anyone would like to read the paragraph or Bible passage. Don’t call on anyone, but ask for a volunteer, and then be patient until someone begins. Be sure to thank the person who reads aloud.

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Break up into small groups each week or they won’t stay.

If your group has more than seven people, we strongly encourage you to have the group gather sometimes in discussion circles of three or four people. With a greater opportunity to talk in a small circle, people will connect more with the study, apply more quickly what they’re learning and ultimately get more out of it. A small circle also encourages a quiet person to participate and tends to minimize the effects of a more vocal or dominant member. It can also help people feel more loved in your group. When you gather again at the end of the section, you can have one person summarize the highlights from each circle. Small circles are also helpful during prayer time. People who are unaccustomed to praying aloud will feel more comfortable trying it with just two or three others. Also, prayer requests won’t take as much time, so circles will have more time to actually pray. When you gather back with the whole group, you can have one person from each circle briefly update everyone on the prayer requests. People are more willing to pray in small circles if they know that the whole group will hear all the prayer requests.

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Rotate facilitators weekly.

At the end of each meeting, ask the group who should lead the following week. Let the group help select your weekly facilitator.

You may be perfectly capable of leading each time, but you will help others grow in their faith and gifts if you give them opportunities to lead. You can use the “Group Calendar” on page 80 to fill in the names of all meeting leaders at once if you prefer.

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One final challenge for new or first-time leaders.

Before your first opportunity to lead, look up each of the five passages listed below. Read each one as a devotional exercise to help equip yourself with a shepherd’s heart. Trust us on this one. If you do this, you will be more than ready for your first meeting.

MATTHEW 9:36 1 PETER 5:2-4 PSALM 23 EZEKIEL 34:11-16 1 THESSALONIANS 2:7-8, 11-12

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