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ith February being a time to celebrate love, why not start with a healthy dose of self-love in the first instance? If you’ve made a commitment to lead a healthier or more fulfilling life this year, then it all starts with you. What better way than by adopting and keeping up good habits that contribute to your overall wellbeing.

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Speaking of habits, don't forget to flip to our special Health and Fitness supplement nestled within these pages. Our special pull-out-and-keep guide is designed to be your companion on the journey to a healthier you.

Consider it your road map to maintaining those resolutions well into the year. And a huge thank you to our supplement sponsor, Mytime Active, who have pulled out all the stops to offer up to 25% off your first three months’ membership. What are you waiting for?

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Must-read features in this issue include the top 10 pieces of motherly advice (Relationships); How to effortlessly reduce your plastic pollution (A Final Thought); and William Farr’s contribution to a healthier London (History), to name just a few.

Remember, it's not about grand gestures but the small, daily victories.

So let's make this February not just about hearts and flowers, but about nurturing the habits that make our lives more fulfilling year-round.

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I took this picture of Oakley House in snow last year. The place is covered in snow, but yet appears cosy. The snow adds a lot of character to the already picturesque house.

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Last month we ran a couple of pictures sent in by 13-year-old Sachin Prakash here are a few more. If you would like to submit local pictures (old and new), to share with other readers you can email hello@lifeinmagazines.co.uk

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Andrea lives in Hayes with her husband and two of her three children.

Before working for Bromley, she was a civil servant and then retrained to be a primary school teacher. After a decade in the classroom, she left to follow her lifelong passion of working in football…

Andrea, you’re the Development Officer for Women and Girls at Bromley FC. When and how did you become interested in this career path?

As a seven-year-old I loved football but unfortunately, I was not allowed to join the school team. As I grew up there were even fewer opportunities to play. I played for a couple of years, but the provision was just not there. In 2018 I was interested in becoming a football coach so I took my coaching badge. At the same time, I heard about ‘women’s recreational football’ which was specifically for women aged over 30. I approached Bromley FC and set up the Bromley Belles, and the rest is history. Nearly six years on we have nearly 100 members and welcome all women aged 18+, regardless of their previous experience. I became the full-time Women and Girls Football Development Officer for Bromley FC Community Sports Trust in February 2022 and have loved every minute of it!

What does your job entail and what are your responsibilities?

I work across the community to increase female participation in football by designing and delivering provisions for all females to have access to football. We have all sorts of football – from our Bromley Women’s team to our recreational football sessions for girls, and walking football as well. We engage with around 250 females a week, with our youngest aged two and our oldest is in their late 60s. We deliver sessions both at Bromley FC and across seven schools in Bromley. I have also recently taken over the daily operations for the women’s team. It is an exciting time seeing them develop and grow and be part of their journey as they look to climb the leagues.

When did the club start encouraging girls and women to play football?

The women’s team has been in existence for around ten years and is well-established. Bromley has been at the forefront of promoting female football. Not just through its women’s team, but also the introduction of programmes such as Wildcats which supports girls aged up to 11 to try football. To employ a full-time Women and Girls Development Officer to solely promote female football is unheard of for a club of this size. Women’s football is growing exponentially, but Bromley were one of the first clubs nationally to support recreational football for women aged over 30 and we are proud of how this has grown.

Have you witnessed an increase in more interest in women’s (and girls) football since the World Cup? Women’s football as a whole has been on the increase over the last five years. Winning the Euros and the extended coverage of the World Cup in the summer only helped

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cement the prestige that it now holds. Players like the Lionesses have stepped up and females of all ages now have their own role models to look up to and know that football is a career choice and they have a place to play.

What groups are currently available?

We have many sessions available for women and girls. We start with our Mini Ravens for girls aged 18 months to four and then they can move to Wildcats (we hold sessions on a Saturday and Tuesday) which is fun football with an emphasis on making friends. SQUAD Girls is a similar project introducing girls aged 11-15 that are new to football. For those who want to develop their skills, we offer a Girls’ Only Development Group for girls aged ten-15 on a Saturday morning and a similar session on Tuesday evening. We also have several girls’ youth sides, and a Girls Academy for those completing their Post 16 education. For adults we have the women’s team who play in Tier 6 and our recreational sessions, Bromley Belles, for women aged 18+, and our Walking Football for women aged 40-plus.

Do you have any plans to continue developing football at Bromley FC? We are always looking to grow the game. Not just on the pitch but also off it. We run many programmes including mentoring for females, support in becoming a coach as well as projects to encourage those less active to play football.

What’s your advice or message to those wanting to find out more information?

Just to go for it! There is something out there for everyone, and football is a great team sport and opens so many doors.

Women’s football is full of other women who were nervous when they first started out, so you are not alone. As a club we provide a safe and non-judgemental environment for all our players to come along and enjoy football. All our coaches of women’s and girls’ sessions are run by female coaches and have experience in supporting players of all abilities.

What changes would you like to see in women’s football – and do you think we’ll ever get there?

I just think to get the recognition it deserves. Women’s football doesn’t need to be like men’s football; it is different and it holds some amazing values. Football is football, so it would be great to remove the prejudices that some females still face. We need to keep investing in the female game, both on and off the pitch, after all we were banned from playing for 50 years so we have some catching up to do! It is happening and it will take time but we are on an upward trajectory and the future is very bright.

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Helping the homeless

At the end of last year the Bromley Befriending team collaborated with local charity, Homeless Bromley, to reach out to their clients and volunteers to ask for help with donations.

Bromley Homeless helps homeless people in Bromley with emergency accommodation, confidential advice, support and help with benefits. They are based at the United Reformed Church Bromley, the same location that Bromley Befriending host its Monday HUB. The partnership was welcomed by Bromley Homeless who were low on cupboard items such as tea, coffee, tinned food and toilet roll. The Bromley Befriending team asked for donations in early December and products were thankfully delivered in abundance.

The items were then collected, sorted, bagged and delivered before Christmas and the team at Bromley Homeless were very grateful. Bromley Befriending would like to thank their clients and volunteers for their contributions and to let them know that they will make a significant difference to members of the community who need them the most.

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Pictures should be taken in portrait mode, be taken within the Bromley borough and the top 1/3 of the picture should remain clear (to allow for the magazine’s title).

Images submitted must not be copyright and should be sent at highres (300 dip) along with your name and a caption for the picture – where it was taken and any story behind the picture to hello@lifeinmagazines.co.uk

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New support for Bromley businesses New business support programmes have been launched to provide a further boost to small businesses across Bromley, with free expert one-to-one business advice now available.

‘Bromley Business Growth’ will see various forms of free advice and assistance made available to support Bromley businesses, including two new local support services through partners Goldsmiths, University of London and Newable.

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Outstanding CASPA CASPA has been announced as the winners of ‘The Outstanding Achievement Award’ at Bromley SEND Stars. Bromley SEND Partnership shared and celebrated the achievements of children and young people who have special educational needs and disabilities (SEND).

The inaugural annual event shined a well-deserved spotlight on the work of families, service providers, carers, school staff and anyone else that makes a difference to the lived experiences of our children and young people with SEND and their families. CASPA was nominated across all categories and the Judges selected CASPA as the overall winner. CASPA provides clubs and activities for Autistic Children and adults and provides support for their families, in and around The Bromley area. Founded in 2002, they have grown to be able to support over 500 members (and growing).

The work is being funded by the UK government through the UK Shared Prosperity Fund (UKSPF), following over £1.6m in grant funding being secured by the council to help make improvements to town centres or high streets and to support local businesses.

SMEs are able to access online support from the Bromley Business Hub (bromleybusinesshub.org), through SOS Creativity. Further one-to-one support is available for entrepreneurs and startups from Start Up Bromley. Local businesses are also able to access a number of pan-London support programmes being delivered through UKSPF funding.

See bromley.gov.uk/business-supportadvice/business-support for details.

For details see www.caspabromley.org.uk

SUPPORTING LOCAL AUTHORS… Steve Cotterell, an Orpington man and winner of the British Telecom national ‘BT Online Lockdown Heroes’ competition for running online meetings of the Croft Poetry Club during lockdown, launched his new book, Who Is This Guy, containing poetry, short stories and photographs during a reception at the Croft Tearoom in November last year.

Steve said: "This is my first and (at the age of 79) probably only book containing a selection of poetry, short stories and photographs that I have written and taken over the years. The poems, some poignant with one or two amusing, may go some way to answering the question posed in the book's title. The photos are some of my favourites, taken during my travels to various locations around the world. I think that the best poetry is aimed at the reader's emotions. Many of mine certainly are. Whether I've succeeded, I must leave to my readers to judge."

The books are priced at £6 each (plus £2P&P) and can be ordered by emailing info@scotrix.com

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SUPPORTING LOCAL AUTHORS…

ip, consultancy and Karen Goold lives in Bromley and has worked in senior leadersh passionate about is She s. industrie of number a coaching roles for 30 years across what motivates helping coaching clients navigate stressful situations, understand Lake entitled Debbie with book a co-write to her led This ce. them and build confiden to empower Smaller Knickers For Life – a motivational self-help book which aims weight and maintain readers to connect with their mind and body, to successfully lose a healthy lifestyle for life. friendship and Karen says: “The book was inspired by our own personal journey, g two years Followin fitness. and anatomy ience, neurosc in combined knowledge pilot workshops. of extensive research and trialling methods on ourselves, we ran understand their The best results came when people learnt to listen to their body, ted habits deep-roo as such , success their ing mindset and what might be sabotag and beliefs.”

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Sustainable planting trial begins in Bromley A sus

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tainable planting programm e is being trialled at ten locations across the boroug h, creating regenerative flow erbeds that provide environmental benefits year after year. The new trial has seen carefully sele cted flowerbeds in the bor ough with a mix of shrubs, flow ering plants and herbs. Wh ilst some of the flowerbeds have bee n planted with prairie plan ting styles, others have been designed specifically for pollinators, depending on the local con ditions of the bed itself. Crit ically, all plants have been selecte d to be of value to pollina tors and has avoided planting anything of an invasive nature. The sustainable planting trial began in Nov ember 2023 and will run for a threeyear period. During that tim e, Bromley Council will ass ess the suitability of the planting locations, their impact on biodiversity and will seek to collect feed back from residents on the effect on the environment. At pre sent, the council is respons ible for over 100 traditional sea sonal flower beds across the borough measuring almost 6,900m2 (1.7 acres), and containing over 150,000 bedding plan ts. The ten trial sites represe nt approximately 10% of the total bedding area. They are located at Waterman’s Square, Pen ge; Elmers End Green, (Ke lsey and Eden Park); Betts Park, Ane rley; Kelsey Park, Becken ham; St Mary Cray High Street, St. Mary Cray; Shortlands Green, Shortlands; Croydon Roa d Recreation Ground, Bec kenham (Kelsey and Eden Park); Con ey Hall Recreation Ground , Coney Hall (Hayes & Coney Hall); beds surrounding Coney Hall Roundabout, Glebe Way (Hayes and Coney Hall/W est Wickham); and Chislehurst High Stre et in Chislehurst.

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“A BIG thank you to Julie Doyle who leaves Successful Mums this month to start an exciting new career. It has been a fantastic year working with you and the team will miss you. Keep your crown in place and I know we will keep in touch.”

Jane Knight, Successful Mums

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Bromley is value for money

According to the Daily Telegraph, Bromley borough has been found to come in second place for overall value for money out of the 127 councils reviewed. The data was based on Council Tax Band D rates for 2023/24, and among the categories cited were 98% top-rated schools, 91% top-rated care homes and an impressive recycling rate which is first in London.

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William Farr’s contribution to a healthier London

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William Farr, 1807-1883, became one of Britain’s greatest statisticians, born in the hamlet of Kenley in Shropshire, son of John Farr, a farm labourer. His father moved to Dorrington near Shrewsbury soon after he was born. Effectively adopted at the age of two by Joseph Pryce, an elderly bachelor of private means, he went to the local Dame school, but never received a public school education. His classical and mathematical learning was acquired mainly from reading and private study. In 1826, aged 19, he took a job as a dresser (surgeon's assistant) in the Salop Infirmary in Shrewsbury and served a nominal apprenticeship to an apothecary.

In November 1828, Pryce died and left Farr £500 (equivalent to £67,000 in 2023). He studied medicine in France and Switzerland where he became interested in hygiene and statistics. In March 1832 he became a doctor; Licentiate of the Worshipful Society of Apothecaries.

Married to a farmer’s daughter, he took up medical practice in Grafton Street, London in 1833. Perhaps to supplement a meagre income, he offered to give lectures on ‘hygiology’ (the science of the preservation of health), but without success perhaps because his ideas were too far ahead of their time. Widowed, he married again (1842) and had eight children. In 1860 they moved to Southlands, Bickley and he travelled daily to Somerset House for work at the General Registry Office. He was to become a key player in the fight for health and hygiene.

In 1837 the General Register Office (GRO) took responsibility for the UK Census of 1841. Farr was hired to handle data arising from the census. Then, with a recommendation from Edwin Chadwick, a public health reformer, Farr secured another post in the GRO as the first compiler of scientific abstracts (i.e. a statistician). Chadwick and Farr aimed at improving public health, with the support of the initial Registrar General, Thomas Lister. Lister worked with Farr on the census design, to forward the programme. Farr was responsible for the collection of official medical statistics

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in England and Wales. His most important contribution was to set up a system for routinely recording the causes of death. For the first time it allowed the mortality rates of different occupations to be compared.

Health in the nineteenth century was precarious. The poor lived in squalor, vulnerable to a variety of deadly diseases including smallpox and cholera, both of which were killers.

Dr Jenner demonstrated in 1796, how a vaccination could protect people from the disease. Between 1837 when a smallpox epidemic broke out in London and 1853 it became compulsory for all children under four months old to receive the vaccination.

However, there was worse in store; cholera. It was thought that the disease was transmitted on polluted air, ‘miasma’.

A major outbreak of cholera in London in 1849 killed around 15,000 people. Early industrialisation had made London the most populous city in the world at the time, and the River Thames was heavily polluted with untreated sewage. Doctor John Snow suspected that polluted water rather than air was the source of the problem. Using data from the GRO he tracked the cholera casualties in the Broad Street area to the pump. He removed the handle and the casualties decreased.

The final proof that cholera was water-borne came in the scorching summer of 1858. As the heat increased and centuries of waste in the Thames began to ferment, the stench got worse and nothing could mask it. Finally, politicians had to take action and accepted a new sewage system. Joseph Bazalgette, Chief Engineer of the Metropolitan Board of Works, constructed a series of interconnecting sewers taking the sewage out to the sea on the tide. The Embankment was built above these huge sewers in London.

Chadwick and Farr, together with Dr Snow and Bazalgette, wanted to improve public health. They believed that improved drainage and provision of sewers, the removal of all refuse, the provision of clean drinking water and the appointment of a medical officer for each town would do this and ultimately it did.

Pay a visit to Bromley Historic Collections on the 2nd floor of Bromley Central Library to learn more about Bromley Borough’s history.

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MAYOR’S VOICE Greetings! I hope you are all hitting the ground running as we strive into the new year!

While there is much I have been proud of from my time as Mayor so far, there are also many exciting plans coming up to look forward to in 2024. Of course, we are always keen to do more, so please do get in touch if you would like the Mayor to attend any special events and we will endeavour to get to as many of these as possible.

Some of my personal highlights from the last few months have included visits to some of the fantastic charities that operate in Bromley, including Living Well, St Christopher’s Hospice and Bromley Mencap. Seeing the generosity with which our community serves one another never fails to inspire me – and gives me great hope for the future.

It has been a real pleasure to kick-off a new series of interviews with inspiring Bromley residents, titled ‘Stories from Bromley’, starting with my interview with 102-year-old veteran, Peter Lemon. I look forward to continuing this series in this year, so keep your eyes peeled on my social media pages – which can be accessed at www.bromley.gov.uk/mayor

I have continued to fundraise for my three chosen Mayoral charities - The MumMum Foundation, PTSD999 and Orpington Sea Cadets. These are all causes close to my heart and I hope that as well as raising money, I can also raise awareness of the excellent work each of them do.

I can’t wait to see many of you at events across Bromley in the coming months – see this month’s What’s On pages for details of this month’s Quiz Evening for example.

Cllr Mike Botting Mayor of Bromley (2023-24) Find out more and stay connected at www.bromley.gov.uk/mayor

Lines from Linda

hit my reddening face as I realised although my friend had taught me how to put a song on a message, Who remembers those little packets of Love she hadn’t told me how to stop it Heart sweeties with little love messages playing. Furious, bewildered and on them? We used to find one that had an I am relieved to say, some amused appropriate message on it, then leave it, secretly, faces, all now had pinned their eyes in my direction. ‘I’m really sorry I cried, near the person we wanted to go out with. Or we half hysterically,’ I didn’t mean to press it. sent an unsigned Valentine card declaring our (This received a few raised eyebrows and eyes love. heading toward the sky). Then someone stood up and I grew up in the seventies. How times have came to my aid. He pressed a couple of buttons, and changed! With social media, nothing, it seems, my phone became silent. I didn’t ask his age, I just can stay a mystery. So, if you can’t beat them, him repeatedly. He didn’t look more than Panic then thanked join them, that’s my motto. I am on Instagram, nine-years-old. and one evening, after a supper out, my dear hit my So, lessons learned. I am now going back to friend taught me how to use Instagram and reddening sending my hubby a Valentine card and my friend how to add music to my messages. I was a thank you note. Call me old fashioned. I am also face thrilled. When I was on my train home I started thrilled to see we have an extra day this month as playing around with Instagram. I decided to send it is a leap year. Having been married for 30 years, I my friend a message of thanks on her page, adding won’t be proposing to anyone on 29th of this month, nor a song she liked in the background of the message, and will I be sending song messages on Instagram. I am going also to send a love song and a loving message as an early to make the most of the leap year day and book a spa. I Valentine’s present to my hubby. hope you all enjoy your extra day.

The train was full, but I got a seat. I started scrolling down I also hope that the 14th brings you all the love you rightly the list of tunes that I had on Instagram to choose from, deserve – whether in message, song, on a card, or that and I stopped as the Wally Song appeared in the list. I’d old fashioned packet of Love Heart sweeties. never heard of the Wally Song. Then I pressed it, before I realised I had pressed it and the words ‘You are a Wally’ For more about me and my crime novels see burst into play. And, this was a crowded train, and the www.lindareganonline.co.uk Wally song was now ringing out very loudly. Panic then

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Work is now fully getting back into the swing of things as we move into February.

At the time of writing, I am just about to host over 20 delegates from across the borough, and the wider retail sector to look at how we can work together to improve our response to shoplifting, and the unacceptable rise in assaults and intimidation of retail workers.

We need our shops to be safe and secure places we can all go to buy essentials, and the staff working there need to feel they will be protected from criminality and abuse. I am optimistic we can make a meaningful impact on this.

We have joined a partnership problem-solving group focussing on vehicle related anti-social behaviour. This could include off-road motorbikes, road-racing, e-scooters and any other criminal activity or the inconsiderate use of vehicles that disrupts local communities. Sergeants Mike Goodman and Alex Farmer will be working on this from

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None Of This Is True Lisa Jewell Century Zoe Hill

None Of This Is True is a psychological thriller that will have you racing through its pages.

Josie Fair and podcaster Alix Summers are both at the same restaurant celebrating their 45th birthdays. When they realise the coincidence they joke about being ‘birthday twins.’ They then bump into each other again after their birthdays, and Josie, having listened to Alix’s podcast, suggests she could be a very interesting subject matter for her next series…

This book will have you cancelling all your social engagements so you can keep reading. It is dark, shocking and totally and utterly gripping. Like the title suggests; you won’t know what is truth and what is lies!

4.5 stars from me!

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the police side, and will be joined by representatives from the Local Authority, London Fire Brigade and other key stakeholders. Once again, this shows the strength of the partnerships we are building and an ability to pool and share our resources, so that we can be greater than the sum of our parts. As previously mentioned, this will be followed up by a broader focus on Anti-Social Behaviour at the Bromley Conference on 11th March, where local communities will be supported by police, partners and academic experts to come up with solutions to the issues we face.

All of the above projects should make inroads into the three things you tell us you are most concerned about as a community – Road Safety, AntiSocial Behaviour and Retail Crime, and I will keep you all informed how we are getting on with these as the year progresses.

Superintendent Luke Baldock Bromley Borough Neighbourhood Policing

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No Ordinary Day Matt Johnson with John Murray Publisher: Ad Lib Publishers Reviewed by: Stella Eames In 1984, WPC Yvonne Fletcher was fatally shot outside the People’s Bureau of Libya in London. On 17th April there was a demonstration against the Gaddafi regime, and a police presence to prevent breaches of the peace and minimise disruption.

But Gaddafi had instructed those inside the Bureau to shoot to kill demonstrators and, as Yvonne stood with her back to the building, she was fatally shot when gunmen opened fire. PC John Murray cradled Yvonne as she lay dying. This book is about his pursuit of her killer – and the sometimes dispiriting fight for justice.

This compelling book isn’t an easy read, but it is a shocking exposé of political decisions in the UK and Libya.

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Your essential what's on guide for events, activities, clubs and much more in and around Orpington.

There's something for everyone!

community & CHARITY Let’s Talk Better - Celebrating Positivity Thursday 22nd February, 10am – 1pm

Community House, South Street, Bromley, BR1 1RH Cost: £13 Contact: To book see https://tinyurl.com/ LTBanniversary Let’s Talk Better is celebrating its one-year anniversary with a focus on positivity, inspiration and hope, with a view to bringing about positive change to hearts, minds, and behaviour. Stories and examples of success will bring the feel-good factor to Let’s Talk Better more than ever before.

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Mayor of Bromley’s Charity Quiz Evening

In aid of The MumMum Foundation, Sea Cadets and PTSD999

Friday 23rd February, doors open 6.45pm for 7.30pm start

Crofton Halls, York Rise, Orpington, BR6 8PR Cost: £10 Contact: mayors.office@bromley.gov.uk Bring your own snacks on the night – drinks will be available to purchase from the licensed bar. Maximum of six per table and all entries must be received by 16th February.

Monkey Music classes for babies and toddlers aged 0-4

Every Thursday, 10am (2+3 years), 10.45am (1+2 years), 11.30am (0 – 12 months) LGA Dance Studio, 17 Homefield Rise, Orpington BR6 0FE Cost: £10.75 per class. First class is FREE. Contact: Email: beckenham.orpington@ monkeymusic.co.uk or call 020 3750 2228 Monkey Music is an award-winning music class for babies and toddlers. It has a 4 stage, progressive curricula, written by professional musicians to nurture a lifetime of music for you and your family with classes for ages between 0 months and 4 years. For details see www.monkeymusic.co.uk/area/beckenhamorpington

Access Sport – Inclusive Multi Sports Festival Saturday 17 February, 11am – 1pm

Bromley College Sports Hall, Rookery Lane, BR2 8HE Cost: Free Contact: Each participant must register at http:// bit.ly/BromleyMulti-SportFestival24. For more information call 020 7993 9883 or email disability.inclusion@accesssport.org.uk Access Sport are hosting a free disability community sports event for disabled young people and their families.

Community clubs from Bromley will be delivering free sport sessions including yoga, Zumba, football and tennis so it’s a great way to try different activities as a family.

For details see www.accesssport. org.uk

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The Free Hub

Every Tuesday (expect the third Tuesday of the month), 9:30am – 12 noon

Orpington Methodist Church, Sevenoaks Road, Orpington, BR6 9JH Cost: Everything is Free – tea, cake, leaflets, occasional expert advice and of course a warm welcome and someone to chat to guaranteed.

Contact: Email rotaryorpingtondistricteclub@gmail. com Where coffee, cake and chat are brought to you for free. Community coming together. Every week is different. During December we have Bromley Loneliness Champion attending to offer advice on loneliness on the 12th December, plus free mince pies on 19th December.

For details see www.orpingtondistrict-e-club.co.uk

Macular Society Bromley Support Group

1st Tuesday of every month (except Jan & Aug)

10am for tea/coffee and biscuits Meeting starts at 10:30am, finishing at 12pm Bromley Town Church, 2 Ethelbert Road, Bromley, BR1 1JA Cost: Free Contact: No need to contact – just turn up and introduce yourself We are a local support group for people suffering with age-related Macular Degeneration (AMD). Being diagnosed with AMD can be devastating, so we look to provide social interaction and mutual support to those affected. We have a variety of speakers and a mixed and diverse programme. No need to book - just come along and introduce yourself!

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3rd Monday of the month at 2pm

Crofton Main Hall, Orpington, BR6 8PR Cost: £12 a year Contact: Membersadmin@u3aorpington.org.uk or call 07732 005819 If you are retired or working part-time, why not join nearly 1,000 other members for access to over 95 different activities. Refreshments are provided.

Forget-Me-Not Survivors Of Suicide Loss Meets the first Thursday of every month, 7.45pm – 9.45pm

Cost: Free Contact: Sandra - 07519 105354 Email: sosl.orpington@gmail.com www.survivorsofsuicideloss.org.uk Forget-Me-Not offers support for all those affected by suicide loss. The group is self-led and informal, where you can connect with other survivors.

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Bereavement Café

Message the Facebook page for a call back Meets the last Thursday of every month Orpington Village Hall, 311 High St, Orpington BR6 0NN Cost: Free Contact: www.facebook.com/bereavementcafe If you're struggling with the loss of a loved one, contact The Bereavement Café to talk with qualified bereavement counsellors. All are welcome.

Polymyalgia Rheumatica & Giant Cell Arteritis Support Group

1st Wednesday of every month (except August & December) 2pm for refreshments followed by the meeting.

Finishes at 3.30pm

St Paul's Church, Crofton Road, Orpington, BR6 8JE Cost: £5 We are the local support group for the Bromley area for all who are affected by PMR and/or GCA, two little known and poorly understood conditions. Being diagnosed can be devastating and life changing. Our speakers range from rheumatologists to pharmacists, ophthalmologists to Bromley Lions Clubs. Our meetings are an opportunity to share with others who understand.

We are supported by the national charity - PMRGCAuk - which keeps us up-to-date with the latest medical advances. Call 0300 999 5090 for more information or visit pmrgca.org.uk/author/orpington

exhibitions and fairs Bromley Mum2mum Market

Saturday 3rd February, 10am – 12pm

Coopers School, Hawkwood Lane, Chislehurst, BR7 5PS Cost: Admission is £2 for adults and free entry for children Contact: Email: Lucy@mum2mummarket.co.uk Buy quality second-hand baby and children's clothes, toys and equipment at the biggest baby and children's nearly new sale in the borough! Come along for your chance to shop from thousands of bargains at a fraction of original prices.

For details see www.mum2mummarket.co.uk

Health, MINDSET & Beauty Flin's Online & Live Fitness Classes See website for class dates & times

Cost: PAYG £5 – £8 Contact: Fran on 07976 412027 Online streaming plus live offerings, 40+ classes a week, early mornings, mid mornings and evenings including weekend classes. Box Fit, Total Body Conditioning, Yoga Mobility & Yoga Flow, Pilates, Zumba, Cross.

Training, Back2Fit, Pump and more: fitness for all!

Mornings at Westcombe Park RFC, evenings at Tubbenden School. I also offer a free monthly ‘Dance Because Nobody’s Watching’ event on the first Sunday of the month, 11am, at Tubbenden Junior School – all are welcome. See www.flinsfitness.co.uk for details.

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Mel Crisp Yoga

Tuesday evening 7pm at Christ Church URC, Petts Wood - Vinyasa Flow Class (1hr) Cost: PAYG £12 or 4 classes for £40.

Tuesday at 8.15pm at Christ Church URC, Petts Wood – Hatha Flow (45mins) Cost: PAYG £9 or £30 for a block of 4 classes Wednesday at 9.45am at Orpington Village Hall Hatha Yoga classes (1hr) Mixed ability and beginners welcome at both classes.

Cost: PAYG £12, Block Payment Classes £40 for 4 consecutive classes. First PAYG class is free.

Contact: Mel on 07504 855 424. Email melcrisp41@ icloud.com www.melcrispyoga.com First class is FREE when mentioning Life In Orpington magazine Mel has partnered with the Primrose Centre (based in the grounds of PRUH) to offer Yoga For Breast Cancer patients on Tuesdays 2pm-3pm. Once registered with the charity (see www.primrosecentre.org.uk) the class is free to attend. For those who have finished treatment and have returned to work, a four-week block booking costs £8 per class and runs on Wednesday evenings from 7pm-8pm.

Yoga classes

Mondays 10am – 11.15am & Fridays 12.30pm – 1.45pm

Orpington Liberal Club Hall, 7 Station Rd, Orpington, BR6 0RZ Cost: £9.50 per class, pay as you go. Block booking reductions available.

Contact: Email katieknightyoga@gmail.com Friendly and welcoming mixed ability hatha yoga classes focusing on strength, balance and flexibility. Including breathing exercises, stretching, working towards yoga postures and finishing with a concentration and/or relaxation practice. Beginners welcome. For details see www.yogabeeskent.co.uk

libraries Did you know that the borough’s libraries run a variety of events throughout the month?

Check their websites via www.better.org.uk/library/ london/bromley or call them for more information.

Orpington

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Southborough

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MUSIC, entertainment & FOOD Into the Daylight – Jazz and Blues evening 1st February, 8pm

Daylight Inn, Station Square, Petts Wood, BR5 1LZ Cost: £5 admission (supporting Bromley Food Bank, Ukraine Appeal & MSF - Doctors without Borders).

Contact: 01689 877402. Book a table or walk in: www.thedaylightinn.co.uk The club is on the first Thursday of every month.

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NETWORKING/business People In Business (PIB)

Friday 23rd February, 9am – 10.30am

Chelsfield Lakes Golf Centre Chelsfield Golf Club, Orpington, BR6 9BX Cost: £20 Contact: Email pibnetwork@outlook.com or call 07984 179892 A monthly meeting for members at Chelsfield Golf Club in Orpington, usually on a Friday from 9am-10.30am.

The group offers exclusivity to members, and they also promote members across social media. Fees are £20 per calendar month and there is a one-off joining fee of £100. See www.pib-network.com

Bromley Business Network

Wednesday 14th & 28th February, 7am – 9am

On Zoom or in person at Bromley Football Club (Hospitality Suite), Hayes Lane, BR2 9EF Cost: £12.50 on Zoom or £23 in person Contact: hello@bromleybusinessnetwork.co.uk Bromley Business Network is a place where everyone feels comfortable building connections with fellow business leaders – whether you’re a first-timer or a serial networker. We meet every other Wednesday from 7am-9.30am at Bromley Football Club. Attendance includes unlimited refreshments and a fully cooked breakfast buffet. Attendees can also Zoom into the meeting for £12, making it a hybrid meeting.

For details see bromleybusinessnetwork.co.uk

Churchill Theatre, Bromley Contact: tickets@churchilltheatre.co.uk

Clueless The Musical

Monday 12th – Saturday 24th February Mon – Sat 7.30pm, Thu & Sat 2.30pm

Cost: Tickets from £20 Clueless is a new musical comedy based on the Paramount Pictures classic film. The modern spin on Jane Austen’s Emma gets another timeless makeover from the original film’s writer-director alongside a majorly acclaimed creative team. This is your chance to be the first to see this new musical in this exclusive twoweek run as it continues to be created and developed in Bromley. The production is adapted for the stage with a book by Amy Heckerling (writer-director of Clueless), music by the multi-platinum singer-songwriter KT Tunstall and lyrics by Grammy® winner and three-time Tony®nominee Glenn Slater.

Jesus Christ Superstar

Monday 26th February – Saturday 2nd March Mon – Sat 7.30pm, Thu & Sat 2.30pm

Cost: Tickets from £28 An album that inspired a revolution. A revelation that changed the world. A reinvention for this millennium. Timothy Sheader (Crazy for You, Into the Woods) directs this mesmerising new production of the iconic global phenomenon, JESUS CHRIST SUPERSTAR which comes to the Churchill Theatre for one week only! Starring Ian McIntosh (We Will Rock You) as Jesus, Shem Omari James (Dreamgirls UK Tour) as Judas and Hannah Richardson (Sting’s The Last Ship) as Mary, and also starring Julian Clary as Herod.

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Do: Wipe down equipment after use to avoid spreading germs, viruses and infections. It’s also worth sanitising equipment before you use it as well, in case it hasn’t been cleaned down.

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Don’t: Record people. Constant photos and videos can be problematic for fellow members, especially if they are in the background or you are holding up their workout. Discussions on etiquette on filming in gyms is a heated topic, but the bottom line is that you should not snap gym goers without their consent.

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Vitamin A: Around 700 micrograms for men and 600 Calcium: About 700mg a day for adults. Dairy micrograms for women. Good sources include carrots, products, leafy greens and nuts are good sources.

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Vitamin C: Roughly 40mg a day. Citrus fruits, berries

Iron: Men need around 8.7mg, while women need

and peppers are great sources.

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Vitamin D: 10 micrograms (400 IU) is recommended.

Folate (Vitamin B9): Adults should aim for 200

You can get it from sunlight, oily fish and fortified foods.

micrograms daily. It's found in green leafy veg, beans and fortified cereals.

Remember, these are general guidelines, and individual needs may vary depending on factors such as age, sex and overall health. It’s always good to consult with a healthcare professional for personalised advice.

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You asked – and they answered! Send your need-to-know questions to our local experts by emailing hello@lifeinmagazines.co.uk with the subject line ‘Ask The Experts’ Q: Statistically 31 million adults in the UK don’t have a will in place.

Why do you think this number is so high and what advice or top tips would you pass on to help people deal with such an important but sensitive subject?

Anthony: Firstly, I think we need to be more open about death. I think this is changing, but slowly. I think the misconception a will is for an old person is still prevalent. We aim to change this, and are proud to help younger clients at various stages of their life including buying their first house and starting a family. It’s amazing to meet a client who then introduces us to their children, and sometimes even grandchildren! Top tips if you don’t have a will: • Don’t leave it to chance • Think about who you’d like to protect • Make an appointment with a qualified professional • Be open and honest with your family about what you want • Once you have a will, review it regularly to ensure it’s up to date.

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Q: I’m suffering from lower back and hip pain. I’ve had my mattress for about 10 years – could an outdated mattress be the cause of this? I’m healthy otherwise.

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Scott: Testing – electrical circuits within your home should be tested on a regular basis. It is recommended they are tested every 5 years. This test is known as an Electrical Installation Condition Report (EICR). The testing and inspection will help identify any issues and give you piece of mind your electrics are safe.

Fuseboard – it is quite surprising how many homeowners still have the old fuseboards, also known as consumer units. The new consumer units have devices inside that disconnect the supply in the event of a fault, these devices are known as Residual Current Device (RCD) or Residual Current Circuit Breaker with Overcurrent Protection Devices (RCBO).

Extension leads – many households have a lack of sockets and use multi gang extension leads to overcome this problem. Sometimes extension leads are plugged into other extension leads. Overloading these leads can cause them to overheat which may in turn start a fire.

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Tried & tested: Ocean Basket On a cold winter day, the Life In…Magazines’ team was looking forward to warm food and a warm welcome at Bromley-based Ocean Basket...

The background: The brand originated in South Africa by brothers Fats and George Lazarides, who were inspired by their mother and spotted an opportunity to make delicious, quality seafood available to everyone. When queues started to form, they knew they had to take the brand to other towns and cities. Their very first UK launch was in Bromley’s Market Square in 2022.

Menu range: With a variety of options – from locally sourced oysters and platters, to salads, small plates and everything in between, we were all catered for. We liked the little nods towards the family’s values on the menu, as well as some interesting, educational snippets.

Décor & service: A warm, inviting atmosphere with a cosy but trendy wood and metal décor to offer an industrial feel. Attentive and friendly service, with staff making us feel welcome. They chatted freely with other customers to ensure they were happy.

A nice touch: Bread rolls were served as a matter of course and came complete with their own spices and dips.

We also learned that they are made on site – a nice touch.

Helen

Starters: Whitebait (£6).

Mains: Garden salad (£8 and new on the menu. Consisted of rocket, watercress, edamame beans, radish, pickled shallots and balsamic glaze, served with homemade dressing and tossed with Origanum) with the addition of grilled Cape Hake (£4).

Helen said: “A light and delicious starter, while the dressing on my salad was plentiful and combined throughout. The fish was cooked perfectly – really good value at £12.”

Tori

Starters: Padron peppers (£3.50 and new on the menu).

Mains: Fish burger (£9.50 and new on the menu) Crispy fried Cape Hake, homemade tartare sauce and pickles, served on a fresh brioche roll.

Tori said: “I really enjoyed the padron peppers seasoned

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with a squeeze of lemon and chilli flakes. The fish burger was nicely cooked and offered a good balance of salad, gherkins and fish. The only improvement? To see more quick, healthy lunch options for under £10 so I can come more often!”

Nicky

Starters: Padron peppers (£3.50 and new on the menu).

Mains: Bite of the ocean platter (£14.50), which consisted of 3 prince prawns, Cape Hake and tender calamari.

Nicky said: “Starters offered a generous portion of tender and flavoursome padron peppers. For mains, it was nice to be offered the option of grilled or fried fish. I went for fried and it was fresh, light and flaky. The calamari and prince prawns were delicious. Great size portions and nicely presented.”

Michelle

Starters: Prawn cocktail (£9 and new on the menu).

Mains: Fish and chips (fried and £10).

Michelle said: “The prawn cocktail was tasty enough, but I would have liked to have seen more prawns. For my mains, the fish was Cape Hake and there was plenty there. It was really lovely and great value for £10. I enjoyed the spinach and mixed veggies as side dishes too. Overall, it was a lovely meal, with friendly staff and a really nice place to visit and eat.”

Lauretta

Starters: Halloumi cheese (£4 and comes grilled or fried.

Lauretta chose grilled).

Mains: Panko & paprika grilled Scottish salmon (£21).

Lauretta said: “A decent portion for the starter and just as tasty as I had hoped. My main was recommended by the waiter – and I’m glad I listened. It offered a fusion of flavours, was served with a creamy red pesto sauce which tasted divine – garlicky just the way I like it.”

Lasting impressions: We all agreed that Ocean Basket was a winner. The attention to detail was an added bonus including the paper tablecloths and colouring pens for kids to be entertained – away from any screens! We could see that staff genuinely cared about giving everyone a warm and friendly welcome and making sure everyone was happy. No doubt whatsoever that we’ll be back.

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CELEBRATE VALENTINE’S DAY YOUR WAY

It’s the month of love! So, whether you’re single, married or dating – here are four ideas on how to mark the big day…

Singletons Self-love spa day: Treat yourself to a relaxing spa day at home. Run a bubble bath, use your favourite skincare product and unwind with a good book or music.

Friendship celebration: Gather your single friends for a fun evening together. You can have a movie night, cook a meal together or simply enjoy each other's company.

Volunteer for a cause: Spread the love by volunteering for a local charity or community project. Helping others can be a fulfilling way to spend the day.

Pamper yourself: Treat yourself to something you've been wanting, whether it's a new book, an item of clothing or a hobby-related item. Celebrate your independence and achievements.

Dating couples Dinner at home: Cook a special meal together. Choose a recipe you both like, set the table with candles, and enjoy a cosy dinner at home.

Outdoor adventure: Plan an outdoor activity like hiking, biking or a stroll in a local park. Fresh air and shared experiences can strengthen your connection.

Art or cooking class: Take a class together, whether it's painting, pottery or a cooking workshop. It's a fun way to learn something new and create memories.

Memory lane: Visit the place where you first met or had your first date. Reminisce about your journey together and celebrate the growth of your relationship.

Married couples Home movie night: Create a cosy movie night at home with your favourite films from over the years. It's a great way to relive shared memories.

Weekend getaway: Plan a weekend getaway to a place you both love or have always wanted to visit. Enjoy some quality time away from the routine.

Renew your vows: Consider renewing your wedding vows. It's a wonderful way to reaffirm your commitment and celebrate the years you've spent together.

Family celebration: If you have children, involve them in the celebration. Have a family dinner, play games and share stories. It reinforces the bond you've built as a family.

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More than eight out of ten Brits (82%) revealed they’ve learnt their best piece of advice from their mother, according to new research.

A quarter of the UK claimed that “being kind to yourself and others” is the number one piece of advice they’ve received from their mothers and what they’d pass down to their children, with “have confidence” (22%) coming closely behind and “always ask for help if you need it” (21%) rounding off the top three.

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HOW TO…PROTECT YOUR SKIN IN COLD WEATHER During winter it can be harder to stay consistent with your beauty sleep. The colder weather can make it more tempting to lie in bed and forgo your skincare routine. But there are easy ways to keep on top of your appearance without a lot of effort. The beauty experts at women’s lifestyle magazine Soul Factors take you through some top tips to help keep your night routine in check after a chilly day…

Change your pillowcases

Changing your pillowcases every two weeks can do wonders for your skin. Bacteria easily gets transferred from your skin to your pillows and can result in acne, so it’s important to refresh them regularly. Dust mites and allergens also easily accumulate on the surface, which may cause irritation. If possible, you should also wash the interior of your pillow at least yearly. You may want to level up your game with silk and satin pillowcases too, as these reduce friction between your skin and the sheets, minimising breakouts, hair damage and wrinkles.

Use a chamomile infused eye mask

Chamomile is excellent to include in your evening routine as it contains antioxidants that are great for reducing redness and hyperpigmentation. Soak some eye pads in chamomile tea, pop them in the fridge and then use them in the evening as you unwind before bed and see the magic slowly take effect. It can also help alleviate eye strain, keeping your eyes refreshed.

Make a moisture-boosting lip scrub

During the colder months, our lips become chapped and chaffed due to a lack of moisture caused by the weather,

so including a lip scrub in your routine is essential in preventing this. Mix a teaspoon of granulated sugar with a drizzle of honey to create a natural exfoliate full of antioxidants. Gently swirling the sugar into your lips will remove the miniscule dead skin particles while the honey ensures moisture gets through.

Prioritise foot care

Remembering your feet in your evening routine can be a great choice, and doing a foot mask will leave you with silky smooth feet in the morning. Mashing half of a banana, adding in half a teaspoon of honey and mixing the two will give you a natural moisturising foot mask which you can pop on for 15 minutes. Leave your mask on with an old pair of socks, or even plastic wrap, and when you take the mask off, you’ll be left with smooth skin.

Invest in a hair oil treatment

Hair oils are fast becoming popular in the beauty industry, and for good reason, with rosemary oil becoming one of the biggest beauty trends on TikTok over the last year.

Using hair oils overnight locks in moisture, prevents further breakage and can even increase the shine and softness of your locks.

Reduce blue light levels before bed

Blue light is one of the worst things you can expose yourself to before settling down for the night, as it blocks the brain’s ability to recognise it is night. Not only does it place a strain on your eyes to be using a screen so late, but some studies have found that blue light may result in worsened retinal damage. Getting yourself blue light glasses, designed specifically to avoid this, can prove a great addition to your beauty night routine.

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Is it time to give your business a kick-start? Business networking can be a great idea to connect with other local businesses, tap into people’s contacts and boost your brand awareness. Here are just some of the Bromley-based networking groups you need to know about…

Startup Bromley: Runs a free networking session for Startup members on Tuesdays in the workshop room in Bromley Central Library. This new event takes place on the third Tuesday of each month between 10am-11am and includes a guest speaker. See https://bit.ly/startupbromley

PIB (People In Business): A monthly meeting for members at Chelsfield Golf Club in Orpington, usually on a Friday from 9am-10.30am. The group offers exclusivity to members, and they also promote members across social media. Fees are £20 per calendar month and there is a one-off joining fee of £100. See www.pib-network.com Bromley Business Network: Meets every other Wednesday at 7am-9.30am at Bromley Football Club. To attend in person it’s £23 (no membership fees), which includes unlimited tea/coffee, fresh fruit, pastries and a fully cooked breakfast buffet. Attendees can also Zoom into the meeting for £12, making it a hybrid meeting. For details see bromleybusinessnetwork.co.uk Beckenham Business Association: The BBA runs regular workshops and networking events, as well as the annual Beckenham Business Day in the autumn. Membership costs £40 for the year. For details or to join the mailing list see www.beckenhambusinessassociation.co.uk Ladies Who Latte: A free monthly networking group that meets on the last Wednesday of the month (from 10am12pm) at Community House in Bromley’s South Street. Once you have attended in person you can join the Facebook Group. For details see https://bit.ly/47GqWeA

Pure B2B Mastermind: Business owners join forces twice-monthly (in Bromley and Chislehurst) to share their business knowledge and expertise. At the meetings, attendees can ask for advice on issues and challenges they are facing. The meetings are run on a membership basis by Anna Young and Joanne Bell from Bells Accountants.

Membership is £50 a month plus the cost of the meal. For details see www.PureB2B.co.uk

New law over working hours Workers across the country are being given more say over their working patterns thanks to new laws supported by the Department for Business and Trade.

Zero hours contracts – and other forms of atypical work – are an important part of the UK’s flexible labour market; however, the Government is determined to tackle unfair working practices.

The Predictable Working Act introduces a right for workers to request a more predictable working pattern, intending to redress the imbalance of power between some employers and workers in atypical work, encouraging workers to begin conversations with their employers about their working patterns.

Business and Trade Minister Kevin Hollinrake said: “Although zero hours contracts can often suit workers who want to work flexibly and employers whose needs vary, it is unfair for anyone to have to put their lives on hold to make themselves available for shifts that may never actually come – this Act helps to end the guessing game. A happier

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workforce means increased productivity, helping in turn to grow the economy, which is why we’ve backed these measures to give people across the UK more say over their working pattern.

“If a worker’s existing working pattern lacks certainty in terms of the hours they work, the times they work or if it is a fixed-term contract for less than 12 months, they will be able to make a formal application to change their working pattern to make it more predictable. Once a worker has made their request, their employer will be required to notify them of their decision within one month.

“As well as clear benefits to workers, the measures are also good for British business. In cases where requests are accepted, workers will have more predictable terms and conditions that better suit their individual circumstances, leading to higher job satisfaction. This can lead to a range of benefits for businesses, including better staff retention as a worker will not need to look for a new role to secure a working pattern to meet their needs.”

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THE LEAVING DO

by STELLA EAMES

Hallo and thank you all so much for coming. I count myself so lucky in having the best friends and family in the world and I am so glad that many of you have made it here today.

You, who all know me so well, know that I organise everything way in advance – so you may not be surprised to hear me talking to you today. Maybe that is something to do with my past – most of you know that I was found abandoned as a baby in Bath – and perhaps that confusing entrance to the world contributed to me wanting to micromanage my other major life events.

I’ve been a bit of a rebel too; growing up in Jane Austen themed Bath I instead focussed on Sarah Bernhardt as my idol. She was born on 22 October 1844 in Paris, and I was born about 22 October 1944, probably in Bath – at least, that is where I was found.

That similarity struck me when I was reading a biography of Sarah – and when I read that she was born illegitimate plain Henriette-Rosine Bernard, I realised that we had something else in common; I too could change my name, and eventually did, from the plain made-up Joan Bath I was registered at birth to the name I prefer and you all know me as – Joanna Somerset. Just a little tweak but much nicer I think. Would Daphne Busson have sold as many books as the aristocratic sounding Daphne du Maurier? Perhaps she would have – a rose is still a rose etc.

Despite my beginnings, I’ve had a good life; I read recently that if you have enough to eat winter and summer, a roof over your head and access to education and medical care you are amongst the luckiest 5% of people who have ever lived. That fact always helped me put my own problems into perspective.

My own problems – hm, yes, I can’t deny I’ve tended to overspend. Using another literary reference; annual income £20, annual expenditure £20 and 6d – result misery. Well, not quite misery in the present days of credit cards. But, still, the balance sheet needs to balance at some point. And I have enjoyed my manicures and massages – and as for hair colouring – you know me so well.

When I was planning this afternoon’s event, I had trouble deciding what to call it. Today’s fashion (and I have always been a follower of fashion) is to say Celebration of Life. But that sounds rather conceited when one is referring to oneself. After all I have never been a brain surgeon or rocket scientist or changed the world in any great respect. So, when I was crafting this speech, I thought of today as my final Leaving Do. So, like all good leaving do speeches I must remember everyone I want to mention. Thank you individually for what you’ve meant to me. Recall little nuggets, those simple things that meant so much.

But not to go on too long. I won’t ramble. And so I will stop now and ask that this recording be switched off shortly and you listen to a song whose words are appropriate for the occasion. My occasion.

Normally the coffin descends into the furnace at this point, but that isn’t happening as I left my body to medical science. And also – no singing. I promised no so-called singing at my leaving do. I’ve been to many dreary funerals where almost no one sings the dirges that pass for hymns.

So, instead, just listen to a song by Katrina and the Waves.

The lyrics reflect the fact that I was lucky enough to enjoy my earthly life until the last minute and perhaps beyond, who knows where I will be now, certainly not me at the time of writing. But I hope I’m Walking on Sunshine and Don’t It Feel Good!

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Effortlessly reduce your plastic pollution

by DAVID AUGUSTYN

Have you ever wondered what those weirdly named substances are under the ingredients list at the back of cosmetic products? I have. Names that I cannot even pronounce or understand. Polydimethylsiloxane.

Polyacrylic acid. Polyacrylamide.

It's about time we know what those big brands are putting inside our products. Those face scrubs that leave your face super soft or those toothpastes that can burn your mouth with mint can be satisfying to use, although mother nature finds no satisfaction in seeing us use them.

The truth is, that most of those tiny particles in your cosmetic products are, in fact, plastic. Or microplastics.

The real term is 'microbeads' – tiny plastic particles that are intentionally added to cosmetics with specific functions such as exfoliating. You may be thinking: 'What's the harm? I touch plastic every day. What difference will it make if I scrub my face with it and wash it off?' Keep reading and you will find out...

That is the issue. We wash them down the sink. Most rinse-off products (shampoo, shower gel, conditioner, face scrubs etc) contain microbeads (nine out of ten) and we send those microbeads down the sink, but they are too small to be filtered out, so they enter the vast oceans. Microbeads are tiny, mostly spherical, particles so marine life mistakes them for fish eggs and eagerly rush over to consume them. I'm sure you know the danger of consuming plastic, but it does not just affect wild animals.

Not only does swallowed plastic fill the stomach and reduce hunger, even though no nutrients are in it, it is toxic, therefore acting as an endocrine (hormone) disruptor. This impacts growth and development. It has even been shown to reduce fertility in fish.

Although we may not be directly consuming plastic, we might be doing so indirectly. The plastics that fish consume can travel up the food chain to us, ending up on a sumptuous plate of salmon. This can disrupt our hormones, distorting our growth, development and fertility.

Furthermore, these tiny plastic particles act as sponges, absorbing toxic chemicals, which significantly exacerbates the above effects.

Wait! There is hope! Fortunately for us, there is an app that can identify if your cosmetics contain microbeads.

It is super quick and easy to use and it is called 'Beat the Microbead'. Download it, scan the ingredients of your cosmetic product, and hey presto, the app tells you whether or not the product contains microbeads and therefore, if it is harmful to us and the environment. A great way to reduce your 'hidden' plastic pollution is by scanning all of your cosmetics and knowing which ones you should avoid using. Additionally, you can have the app open and ready to go next time you go shopping to select environmentally-friendly cosmetics. The app also has a list of brands with a 'Zero Plastic Inside' logo that do not use harmful microplastic ingredients in any of their products.

This makes it easy for us to support environmentally-safe brands.

You may be aware of a ban in 2018 that prohibited the manufacture of products containing microbeads in the UK. However, the app is still identifying microbeads in cosmetics today. After some research, I found that the most commonly identified microbeads are 'carbomer' and 'dimethicone' – look out for them. Although some companies argue that they are not 'technically' microplastics, at the end of the day, they are synthetic polymers and we must avoid them if we want to do good for our planet.

And for all those beauty gurus reluctant to give up their cosmetics, please consider stopping using cosmetics with microbeads. Nature needs every individual to contribute now more than ever. Plus, I am sure you can find alternative, cleaner cosmetics that give similar effects. You will most probably look and feel healthier when not using toxic plastic on your skin. Together, we will beat the microbead!

Sources: https://www.beatthemicrobead.org/ https://www.beatthemicrobead.org/get-to-know-microplastics-in-yourcosmetics-part-ii/ https://www.gov.uk/government/news/world-leading-microbeads-bantakes-effect https://www.plasticsoupfoundation.org/en/2022/04/almost-9-in-10products-from-major-cosmetics-brands-contain-microplastics/ https://www.futurity.org/bpa-fertility-reproductionfish882712/#:~:text=The%20offspring%20of%20fish%20exposed%20 to%20Bisphenol%20A,children%20could%20be%20affected%20 in%20the%20same%20way.

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