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Life Hacks
HOW TO…CONTROL NEGATIVE THOUGHTS & FEELINGS
by ANNE JONES, author of How to Heal (www.annejones.org)
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How do you vent the anger caused by any of the many situations that occur in your day or that are simmering away from past insults or abuse? Are you dealing with any of these issues?
• Feeling pain from the way you have been treated in your childhood? • Suffering heartache from being abandoned, rejected or abused by someone close to you? • Family or friends who anger you with their lack of respect or consideration of your feelings or needs? • Frustration caused by customer support personnel locked into a fixed process and showing no flexibility? • Thoughtless or selfish acts of your partner or work colleagues? • Anger caused by the actions of narcissistic and egodriven world leaders? • Anger at injustices and cruelty to people and animals?
My favourite way to express negative feelings is to have a burning ritual. Use this for past injustices or current situations. Just follow these simple but highly effective steps.
1. Write down your thoughts with no holds barred. You can swear and shout into the paper as you write, have no inhibitions. 2. Write until you have nothing left to say. The energy of your emotions passes from you into the paper. 3. Burn the paper in a safe location (or monitor with children if doing this exercise with them). As you see your hurt, anger and frustration going up in smoke and flames say, “I release all that hurts me. My negative feelings are now transformed into light now, right now, right now.” 4. Congratulate yourself for releasing your pent up and suppressed toxic energies and transforming them into light. Well done.
Here is another method, this one is used by Indigenous Americans
1. Take a pebble or stone 2. Speak or shout your feelings into the pebble 3. Find a safe place to hurl the stone as far as you can, preferably into the sea, a river or waste land.
Indigenous American children were taught not to pick up a stone from the ground without asking permission from the spirit of the stone first. This was to ensure they were not picking up other people’s discarded misery. Whatever method suits you, just remember that “it’s better out than in” and the worst approach to troubled feelings is to suppress and hold them within.
IDEAS TO CUT COSTS AT THE CINEMA
• If you’re a regular cinema goer, some membership schemes let you watch as many films as you like for a fixed price. Cineworld’s Unlimited card is the cheapest, at just £9.99 a month, while Odeon Limitless costs £14.99. These schemes pay for themselves after only two trips per month, and if you go even more times than that, then signing up to a membership scheme can result in considerable savings.
• Another great option for devoted film fans is the
Showcase Insider loyalty scheme, which offers discounted tickets (from £7.50 a film) and rewards providing discounts on tickets, snacks and drinks as well as access to exclusive advance screenings.
• More casual cinemagoers should look at offers that provide two for one tickets, like Meerkat Movies.
Anyone who has used comparethemarket.com to switch providers, get an insurance policy or take out a loan, credit card, car finance or mobile phone contract, is eligible. For a full year after using the site, customers will receive a weekly code, allowing them to buy two for one cinema tickets at Odeon, Cineworld and Vue on
Tuesdays and Wednesdays. • A similarly competitive deal is given to Vodafone customers, who can get two adult tickets for £7 at most Vue cinemas.
You just need to log into the My
Vodafone app, access the ‘VeryMe’ section and select the Vue deal. You will then be emailed two e-codes to use online or at the cinema.
• Savvy shoppers can use their Tesco Clubcard vouchers to cash in at Cineworld and Picturehouse. Your points can be redeemed for three times their value instore at
Tesco. That means that every £1 in Clubcard vouchers is worth £3 at the movies.
• It’s worth checking what the cinema in question’s policy is. A surprising number let you bring your own food and drink in with you - especially if it’s cold and non-alcoholic, so sweets and popcorn should be fine - so you can pick up snacks at a supermarket or similar on the way, rather than pay the prices at the box office.
PEOPLE IN BUSINESS (PIB)
We are a fun, friendly and affordable small business network group, holding monthly meetings for members who have exclusivity in their field. Our groups include Bromley, Bexley and Southwark.
Email pibnetwork@outlook.com or see www.pib-network.com for more information.
PRODUCTIVITY POD
If you’re a small business or sole trader and work alone – or just want some incentive to get your admin, accounts or social media done, join one of the Productivity Pod’s free sessions on Zoom! You continue to work with sound off but cameras ON & after the session you tell the others what you managed to get done in 2hrs!
Email productivitypod@post.com with your mobile number and name to register or for more details.
CLUBS & ACTIVITIES
AQUAKIDS
Aqua kids – swimming lessons that last a lifetime. Summer intensive course (25th-29th July) - places going quickly. Check our social media and the website for the latest updates.
www.aquakids.co.uk Facebook@aquakidsuk Twitter @Aquakidsuk Instagram @aquakids.uk
MY PARTY BOX.FUN
We provide sustainable party boxes that contain everything needed for children's parties. Our aim is to provide stress-free planning while helping you to create magical memories!
www.mypartybox.fun Tel: 0333 444 2017 Email: josette@mypartybox.fun
THE SUNDAY SESSIONS: ACTING
She Soars Productions hold monthly Sunday acting workshops for children aged 12-18. Our fun full-day workshops are led by industry professionals and previous guest workshop leaders include Casting Directors and Film and Theatre Directors. Check out our socials for the latest updates and visit our website to book in advance.
Email: office@shesoarsproductions.com Instagram @shesoarsprodltd Facebook @SheSoarsProductionsLtd
DESIGN & PRINT
NICKY GRANT DESIGNS
I specialise in making your business look its best with creative graphic design - offering a personalised, professional and cost-effective service.
T 07855 585690 E nickygrantdesigns@gmail.com
VINTAGE SCRIBE
Beautiful handcrafted invitations and cards for any special event. For that stylish, individual touch.
Call Vintage Scribe on 07716-837874 CHERYL HUGGINS MAKEUP ARTIST + SKINCARE SPECIALIST
Professionally Licensed Makeup Artist based in Bromley trained in London & Paris with over 20 years’ experience in artistry and skincare. Together we will create your signature glam look for Special occasions, Bridal + Wedding guest, Zoom or social media makeup, Prom & Celebration Party nights, Business headshots. Makeup Master Classes. All ages, all skin tones Book your FREE 30-minute consultation.
Call 07947 821 991, email makeup@cherylhuggins.com or see www.cherylhuggins.com
FAYE COX COACHING & THERAPY
Affordable Integrated Coaching and Therapy for Teens and Parents. Creating a deeper connection through better communication. We also offer Purpose & Progression sessions for 14-16 year olds, as well as a ‘Needs Audit’ for both parents and Teens.
For more information email faye@fayecoxcoaching. co.uk or send a message to 07968 381793.
GEO SPORTS MASSAGE
Qualified Physiotherapist and Sports Massage Therapist, providing sports and pregnancy massage in the local area. Whether it is a specific injury or to alleviate general aches and pains, sports massage can benefit you.
If you are interested or would like more information, please contact via Facebook: Geo Sports Massage, Instagram: geosportsmassage or Whatsapp: 07771299123.
SUBLIME BEAUTY
Mobile service for semi-permanent eyebrows, lips, eyeliner and collagen induction therapy. I am VTCT Level 4 Qualified - the highest accreditation in Semi-Permanent make-up (Micropigmentation). Gift vouchers also available.
Email simone@sublimebeauty.co.uk or see www.sublimebeauty.co.uk
HOBBIES
THE CREATION STATION SEVENOAKS, BIGGIN HILL, HAYES AND ORPINGTON
Providing award winning inspiring and imaginative arts and crafts sessions for all ages, parties, events, activities and after school clubs. For more information and booking visit www.thecreationstation.co.uk/alix-purton or call
Alix on 07906 078840 @TCSBeckenham on social media
PETS
TOP KNOT TOYS
We make safe toys for dogs using traditional Royal Navy knotting methods and, where appropriate, the dying trade of ‘whipping & splicing’ is used. We also offer a range of accessories, household essentials & gifts including dog leads, Monkey-Fist knot toys and doorstops.
