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BREATHE RELAX HEAL W W W . L Y N N F R A S E R S T I L L P O I N T . C O M
WHO WOULD YOU BE IF... Who would you be if you’d grown up in a healthy, happy home and felt protected and loved?
The work we do together is at the heart of radical healing. As we understand our core deficiency beliefs, we become a friendly support for ourselves.
We begin to deeply know and express our authenticity. This has been my journey. I know it is possible for you.
Lynn
IN THE CENTER OF EVERY STORM THERE IS AN ABSOLUTELY STILLPOINT
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THE CHALLENGES OF UNHEALED TRAUMA Do you have trouble sleeping because of worry? Do you make plans for better self-care only to have them fall apart? Are you sick of comparing yourself to that mental list of how you “should be”?
Do you say yes when you would like to say no? Do you feel trapped in a toxic relationship? Does someone you love demand your help yet again?
Does your mind torture you with whatifs and catastrophic thoughts?
YOU ARE NOT ALONE Abuse and emotional neglect
Any threat triggers our fight or
are both experienced as survival
flight mechanism. We are hardwired
level threats  to a child.
to survive and we did!
We hold our breath. Hide-out by
Now we are adults and can heal,
being good. Lash out or numb out.
support ourselves, and begin to trust other people too.
Our brains are literally shaped by
and from our own gut feelings. Our
our experience throughout life.
perception of threat and safety is
When we are protected and
compromised. When we numb out
loved, our systems relax. We
or dissociate, we’re not fully aware
experience peace, trust, and joy.
of our surroundings and are more
We know we belong.
vulnerable to being harmed.
When we feel afraid or
Experiences of feeling unloved or
experience disturbing events, our
unworthy become beliefs. I am
defense mechanisms kick into
unlovable. I am unworthy. These
gear and we become
false core beliefs drive our thoughts
hypervigilant, scanning for
and actions. We try to avoid these
danger. As a result, we become
awful feelings and find a way to get
disconnected from our instincts
through our day, through our lives.
WAYS
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IT
SHOWS
UP
MIND
NEGATIVE THOUGHTS Intrusive, compulsive thinking. Anxiety and depression. Catastrophic what-if
02 03 scenarios. Feeling like we’re not good enough. We don’t deserve kindness or success.
BODY
THE NERVOUS SYSTEM
Red or amber alert: always scanning for
danger. Fear and anxiety. Trouble sleeping. Foggy brain and lack of concentration.
Shallow, jerky breathing. Tight, contracted muscles. Can’t relax. Feel driven. .
EMOTION
OUR FEELINGS
Social anxiety. Fear. Difficulty feeling connected to ourselves and other
people. Isolation. Mistrust of others. Apathy. Lack of joy and creativity.
1. We have healthy breathing patterns,
10 SIGNS OF HEALING
relaxation in our body, and skillful means to work with troubling thoughts.
2. Emotional self-regulation. We become less driven by compulsions and addictions. Sleep improves.
3. We reach a tipping point when we realize we don’t have to avoid our feelings. Painful sensations aren’t here to hurt us.
4. We become calm and peaceful. We begin to like and trust ourselves.
5. As we stay with the energy in our body, our bodies feel lighter.
6. We understand ourselves and how we work: body, brain, nervous system, emotions and thoughts.
7. We know how the brain develops in response to experience. We no longer shame ourselves for our normal responses to unsafe situations.
8. Clarity emerges as we can stand to see the truth of our relationships and interactions.
9. We know ourselves. We are comfortable with our full range of experience.
10. We feel kindness and compassion. Judgmental thoughts fall away. We are on our own side.
T H E R O A D M A P
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G E T T I N G T H E R E
The Living Inquiries are a form of guided self-inquiry. Our experience shows up as thought and sensation. Thoughts are words and images. Sensation includes feelings and energies in the body. We slow down, look at each of the three elements (words, images, sensation) and ask one of three questions:
Is that me? Where is the urge to … ?
We work with rest, breathing and
Are these words, images or
relaxation to support and heal
sensation a threat?
your nervous system and mind.
Private sessions with Lynn are an
We attend to the feelings and
hour. We meet on Zoom, an online
sensations that come and go in your
video platform similar to Skype, so
body, and use effective tools to
you can be relaxed in the privacy of
release hurtful associations from your
your own home.
past.
PERSONAL TRANSFORMATION
This is a hero’s journey. Transformation is both exciting and unsettling. We need to assimilate and integrate insights and healing into daily life. It helps to have a reliable connection with a safe, trustworthy guide.
“I am fully present with you and your experience. I have healed my own trauma. I know what causes suffering and how to heal. You are not to blame for what happened to you. You made it through to new possibilities of healing and resilience.”-Lynn
“I’ve sent the person I love the most - my partner - to Lynn for sessions. I leave you in Lynn’s more than capable hands.” -Scott Kiloby
“Lynn is the real deal.” -Dr. Rick Hanson
“Freedom! Lynn’s work unraveled my false beliefs about me. My personal relationships are healthier. Most important, I have much more fun. If you have the chance, work with Lynn.” -Lane Ledoux