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issue, which of course got me thinking about men. And it got me thinking about the quote above, which I realize, you may be wondering what in the world it has to do with men. Stick with me.

Though it took a great deal of hindsight (and a good many hours on a counselor’s couch), I eventually came to realize how true Mr. Twain’s words were in relation to the beliefs I once held about men and women. In fact, these beliefs had much to do with why I found myself on a therapist’s couch in the first place, nursing broken heart after broken heart. Thanks to growing up in the “I am woman, hear me roar” era of the 1970s, I was absolutely certain about quite a few things when it came to men and women. Mainly, I was sure that if it weren’t for men standing in our way, women could be anything they wanted and have anything they wanted. I was also absolutely certain that dependence upon a man, especially in marriage, meant losing yourself. And, I believed without a shadow of a doubt that being a modern woman meant shunning any traditional roles and being independent, assertive, and fully in control instead. I guess I already spoiled it, but here’s a newsflash: that belief system didn’t work out so well for me. I measured every relationship by what it did for me and what I was getting out of it. All that I really managed to get, though, was a lot of failed relationships. As one very independent, type A man who I was head over heels for told me, “The world may need alpha females, but I don’t.” Thankfully, I had an “aha” moment equivalent to that of Mel Gibson’s character in “What Women Want,” only

mine came in the middle of a relationship crisis and not because I electrocuted myself in the bathtub. I learned the hard way and through a lot of trial and error (mostly error) that happiness has nothing to do with female empowerment or gender equality or even getting more than I was giving in a relationship. In fact, I discovered that those very things were actually contributing to my (and certainly to that of the men in my life) unhappiness. After all, it’s hard to elicit warm, fuzzy feelings when you’re angry all the time and defensive about everything. I learned instead that love has nothing to do with what you get. Love is something you give. Those of us who grew up in the 1970s learned from the pan-wielding Enjoli model that women can bring home the bacon and fry it right on up, without any help at all from her significant other. It’s probably even more true today: women really can do it all on our own. But why would we want to? What if we stopped worrying so much about what we aren’t getting as liberated, empowered women and concentrate instead on what we can give to the man in our life? Most men just want the opportunity to be our man. They want to love us, not compete with us. They want to provide for and protect us, not be secondary to us. They want us to have and exert our own mind, but not to be in constant conflict with us. They want to be needed, they want to be useful, and yes, ok, they want dominion over the remote control. Would it be so terrible if we allowed them these things? You can be like the former me and spend a lot of time on your relationship counselor’s sofa, or you could wind up with the relationship of your dreams. I know for certain (And this time, Mr. Twain, what I’m certain I know really is so) the latter is better.

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Including Dr.Todd Adams of Lakeshore Womenâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Specialists

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10 THINGS MEN WANT WOMEN TO KNOW

ESTABLISHING HEALTHY MARRIAGE BOUNDARIES

BACK-TO-SCHOOL ORGANIZING TIPS

MIND, BODY, SPIRIT: Goodbye, Fear; Hello, Faith!

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JOHN KEPNER

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ADAM BREEDING Lake Norman Law Firm

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DR. TODD ADAMS

ADAM BREEDING

DR. ANTHONY MARRA

JOHN KEPNER

MICHAEL ROUSSO

DR. JOHN WOODWARD

TIM WHELAN

DR. JOHN HETTIARACHCHI

DOUG BALOG

DR. WILLIAM MITCHELL

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and complex; however, some things that go on in the minds of our men might surprise you. Communication (or lack thereof) can make or break a relationship. Differences in our brains don’t necessarily mean differences in our hearts. With that in mind, here are 10 things to note about our male counterparts:

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Make an effort to know their friends. They feel loved when you try to understand “that guy” who’s been around since grade school.

Don’t bring up past arguments. Once an issue is resolved, leave it in the past. One of the sexiest traits a man finds in a woman is when she is the best version of herself.

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Don’t try to control them—any more than you want to be controlled. They need affirmation and to know they’re appreciated. Men feel the pressure to be the protector, but they have insecurities too—pamper and be there for them in a consoling, comforting way. Don’t talk about your ex! This should go without saying, but it is vital not to bring up past relationships or compare and contrast.

They don’t want a super model. They fell in love with YOU. They do not think about sex 24/7. In fact, they are more emotional than we give them credit for. Finally, guess what? Guys like to cuddle too!

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ur early childhood memories, sometimes ones that we cannot even consciously remember, can shape us in incredibly impactful ways. This is certainly the case for Dr. Todd Adams, a physician at Lakeshore Women’s Specialists in Mooresville. In the 1960s, his mother delivered his sister at only 25 weeks into her pregnancy and, as a young boy, Dr. Adams witnessed firsthand the myriad of complications that accompany such a premature birth. His mother’s pregnancy with his brother was also fraught with complications, as she required a dozen amniocentesis procedures. “Her pregnancy with me was the only ‘normal’ one she had,” Dr. Adams says, “but her difficulties with my siblings instilled in me early on the incredible impact ob/gyn physicians have on the lives of mothers and babies.” With that childhood recollection as his inspiration, Dr. Adams now strives to have that positive impact on his own patients at Lakeshore. However, he does admit that he wasn’t always certain obstetrics and gynecology were for him. But his family’s experiences and his passion for helping others and making a true difference nudged him into the specialty: “I never feel like a day is wasted,” he smiles.

dr. todd ADAMS PHYSICIAN,

Lakeshore Women’s Specialists

In his spare time, Dr. Adams enjoys hanging out with his wife and children, reading, and traveling. A perfect day, he admits, would start with a full night’s sleep, a rare treat for a doctor who spends many nights on call. With a heart full of healing, Dr. Adams enjoys comforting someone in a moment of need and insists his days must contain “at least three hugs and twice as many laughs.” Crediting his father for teaching him to be the same man in all circumstances, Dr. Adams shows love through his words and, more importantly, by his actions. “It’s important to say what you mean and mean what you say … go into situations with a kind heart and a loving attitude but you have to show up! We are marked and remembered by our actions.”

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WIFE LESLIE; DAUGHTER LYDIA; SONS JACKSON AND CLAYTON; DOG ENZO

A typical day for Dr. Adams consists of “30 hours of work in a 24-hour window.” Oftentimes, he delivers a baby early in the morning, then makes his rounds checking on other patients … and most days he performs a surgical procedure at the hospital or in his office before providing care to scheduled patients. His day wraps up with phone calls, reviewing labs and ultrasounds, and making notes of his “30hour day.”

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ery few things get Adam Breeding agitated or riled—but you might want to gird your loins come football time! As a graduate of the University of Tennessee-Knoxville, Adam’s blood runneth orange for the Tennessee Volunteers.

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Lake Norman Law Firm

“I’m usually not too sensationalistic,” he confides. “I don’t get too upset; I don’t do drama. But on an emotional scale, UT football moves the needle. It’s the one thing that will make me nervous, super excited, scream, cry, etc. There are 12 games per year, so if you want to see me outwardly ‘passionate,’ you might want to come over for a game,” he grins sheepishly. Adam says that he was always well-suited to be an attorney. “I think it’s an important service that lawyers provide,” he says. “I always respected the intellectual focus that the profession required. I wouldn’t be very good at a trade that didn’t demand some degree of reason. I also enjoy running a business. That comes rather naturally to me. I really respect and appreciate small business owners of all sorts. They’re the backbone of the economy – and I guess I wanted to be part of that when I started Lake Norman Law Firm.” Having been a supervising attorney, mediator, and simply a court spectator, he understands that emotions run high and you cannot forget that you’re dealing with people … emotional, reactive beings. But Adam takes pride in the fact that he can look at the problem and work to resolve it rationally, leaving courtroom drama and shenanigans for Hollywood. When clients get emotional, and they do, he is steady on his feet: “I observe the matter practically and from a solution-based standpoint,” he reiterates. “I believe that the clients deserve respect and an expectation (and confidence) that I’m working to achieve their goals, period.” Adam’s life perspectives and philosophies bode well for him and have led him to a high level of individualism and professionalism that spills over into his work, his family life, and all realms of his journey thus far. With a deep appreciation for Ayn Rand’s, Atlas Shrugged (he has a first edition/ first printing in his office), Adam particularly relates to the following quote from the book: “I swear by my life and my love of it that I will never live for the sake of another man, nor ask another man to live for mine.” To Adam, it epitomizes the primary component of Rand’s philosophy: to embrace individualism, and that pursuing one’s own happiness should be his highest moral goal.

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“If you think it sounds selfish,” Adam points out, “it does, and intentionally so. But, it’s a good kind of selfish – one where treating people right, doing good through your own work for fair value, and refusing to let others force your decisions are cornerstones. I think there’s a lot of value in the freedom of living that way.”

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very so often, we all have a pivotal moment—an experience that alters the course of our lives and changes who we are forever. Dr. Anthony Marra of Huntersville Family & Cosmetic Dentistry has had several. One of those life-changing moments came in 2010, shortly after Dr. Marra graduated from dental school at West Virginia University. Already planning to move to Lake Norman, Dr. Marra was introduced by a mutual friend to a physician named Aundrea who was planning to move to the same part of North Carolina. Within six months of meeting, they both made the move south, with Aundrea taking a position at a local obstetrics and gynecological office, and Dr. Marra practicing in nearby Belmont prior to purchasing his practice in Huntersville. The friendship that these two West Virginians formed not only helped with their transitions, it grew into a romance, and they were married in 2013.

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Before heading to the Tar Heel State, however, the pair traveled together as part of a mission trip to Ecuador. The poverty level is more than 50 percent in many rural areas of this South American country. Dr. Marra, Aundrea, and the other healthcare volunteers provided care for local residents who, because of these conditions, didn’t have access to or couldn’t afford medical care. And while that care probably changed many lives in Ecuador, this mission trip turned out to be another pivotal experience for Dr. Marra as well. “It really opened my eyes to how the rest of the world lives,” he notes. “I realized just how lucky and fortunate I am. These people not only didn’t have healthcare, but they lacked basic essentials, such as hot water and a warm meal. We take a lot of things for granted.” The most recent life changer for Dr. Marra, however, has been fatherhood. And while becoming a parent changes almost every man’s life in nearly every way, becoming a father

to twins changes a dad’s life at least twice so! “Right now, logistically making it to the grocery store, going out to eat, or running errands can be a task with 20-month-old twins,” admits Dr. Marra with a big grin. Dr. Marra will soon discover what it’s like to be a father of three: he and Aundrea are expecting a baby in November. As a dentist, Dr. Marra is able to create pivotal moments for others, too. He and his team focus first on building a foundation of trust with patients by educating them on their dental health options and providing a personalized plan of care. They offer a wide range of services, from routine checkups and cleanings to extractions and implants. But the procedures Dr. Marra enjoys performing the most are those that help patients smile again. “If patients are confident about their smile, they carry themselves in a different way,” explains Dr. Marra. “It can even be life changing for them. Because of that, it is very rewarding.”

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WIFE CLAUDIA; GOLDENDOODLE CHIMAY

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KEPNER (pictured here with son Jonathon)

etaphorically speaking, John Kepner’s life appears to be a hole in one; and that analogy suits him just fine since he has scored four on the golf course! While admittedly golf is one of his passions, what makes John’s world go ‘round is faith and family— and the beauty of relationships in general. “My relationship with our Lord, family, friends, and the families we serve in funeral service are so very important,” John says. “I try to start each day with a prayer and an attitude that I have been given each day to use as I will; I can waste it or use it for good … so I strive to do something positive every day.” John grew up in Wheeling, West Virginia, along the Ohio River. A very old town, Wheeling was incorporate in 1836, and the Kepner family started their funeral business not long after in 1845. With John and Claudia’s son, Jonathan, now in the business, the fifth generation of Kepners continues

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OWNER / PRESIDENT,

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to guide families through this most difficult of life experiences. Claudia and John also have a daughter, Krystal (Michael) Schoepke of Cornelius, who is expecting her first child next month—John and Claudia’s first grandchild! Having always wanted to grow the business outside of Wheeling, 2011 brought the opportunity John had been waiting for; the Raymer family was interested in selling their funeral business here in the Lake Norman area. After careful consideration, John and his brother, Jim, ushered in the “Sold” sign. Within the next two years, their children and Claudia’s mom, Beverly Wisbon, made the move south and joined them in North Carolina. “We absolutely love Lake Norman,” John smiles. “I enjoy golf and am a member of the North Stone Country Club in Huntersville. We also enjoy boating on the lake, especially at sunset with the entire family aboard.”

In 2016, John was awarded The Robert T. Cashion Business Person of the Year Award. Knowing the Cashion family personally made the award even more meaningful. John is also past president of the West Virginia Funeral Directors Association and current president of the Rotary Club of North Mecklenburg County; he serves on several other professional and community boards as well. John says he has been inspired by many: his mother and his wife have kept him grounded, his children keep him grateful, and he looks up to his father with love and respect. Being in the funeral business, John does not let time slip away, nor does he take anything for granted. He is reminded daily that you must seize the moment and make each day count. “Life goes by in an instant,” he acknowledges. “I want to be able to look back and be proud of my accomplishments and, most importantly, leave a loving memory.”

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ewelry is in Michael Rousso’s blood. His grandfather, Al Rousso, moved to Charlotte in 1946 with his young bride, Doris. Though born and raised in Alabama, Al had been living in California, and both he and Doris were excited to get back to the South. Soon after arriving in town, Al began working at Brownlee Jewelers, which at the time was located at the corner of Trade and Tryon Streets in Charlotte. Ten years later, Al bought the store from the original owners, and the family legacy began.

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Michael’s father, Harold, also made a detour to California before joining Brownlee Jewelers. He felt the pull of the film industry, which led to a two-year stint out west. But the lure of home was stronger—he returned to Charlotte and began working as the engraver in the Park Road location of Brownlee at age 25. Harold eventually purchased that location from Al and grew the company to its current eight locations. Now, following in his grandfather’s and father’s footsteps, Michael has found his niche as a jeweler at Brownlee. But in more ways than one, this apple didn’t fall far from the family tree: Michael first journeyed to California. Though he certainly felt right at home working for a family-owned jewelry store in Beverly Hills, Michael admits he suffered from culture shock when he arrived in Los Angeles, especially when he encountered celebrities. “We had a ‘code’ at work that if a celebrity was working with someone else, we

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wouldn’t interrupt,” he recalls. “But at first, I got really excited when someone famous walked through the doors!” Celebrity sightings eventually became the norm for Michael, until he met Leonard Nimoy, his sci-fi hero, that is. “I smiled for a week after that!” he adds. Despite being able to hobnob with the rich and famous, like his dad and grandad before him, the City of Stars wasn’t able to outshine Michael’s love for home and family: “I always felt very connected to the company that my grandfather built. And my dad is someone I hold in very high regard. I attribute my success to the opportunities he has given me.” Michael also loves connecting customers to their own families through his work. Whether it’s an engagement ring or a special gift, he takes joy in designing pieces in which their true value is tied to the love they represent and that will hopefully become part of a family’s history. “A lot of hard work goes into creating one-of-a kind heirloom jewelry,” says Michael, “but it is so rewarding to watch my clients light up when they see their ideas come to life.” Michael experienced that light in a more personal way than ever when he presented an engagement ring he designed to his fiancée, Chelsea, last year. They will marry this November, and with big dreams and a strong foundation, this third generation will carry on the Rousso family legacy at Brownlee Jewelers.

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think most folks would agree that Thomas Edison was a smart guy. He invented the light bulb and the phonograph after all. And though he didn’t exactly predict the current healthcare crisis, in the following statement, he did have the foresight to see that a doctor’s role would evolve and change over time: “The doctor of the future will … instruct his patient in the care of the human frame, in diet, and in the cause and prevention of disease.” Dr. John Woodward has held Mr. Edison’s futuristic vision like a lamp unto his feet throughout his career—feet that have been planted in two diverse medical worlds.

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Dr. Woodward, who grew up in the Midwest and completed his medical training at the University of Illinois School of Medicine, has two very different roles as a physician. As an emergency doctor for Novant Health, he serves on the frontline of medicine, making split decisions to save lives. In the ER, he works in an intense and emotionally-charged environment, treating the sickest of the sick in extremely demanding and unpredictable situations. So it’s no surprise that Dr. Woodward appreciates the strengths of conventional medicine for acute and crisis care. However, with a strong interest in treating the whole person and getting to the root cause of medical problems, he has been forging a path into the world of functional and integrative medicine, opening EverVitalMD in Mooresville. Here, he can focus on designing individualized healing plans for his patients that the time constraints of emergency room medicine simply don’t allow for. “With functional medicine, we treat the person who has the disease rather than the disease the person has,” says Dr. Woodward. “We save a lot of lives in the ER, but, now that I’m practicing functional medicine, patients actually tell me that I’m giving them their life back again.” As a functional medicine practitioner, Dr. Woodward listens to his patients’ medical histories and serves as something of a detective, looking beyond their symptoms to other factors such as genetics, environmental issues, and lifestyle choices. “Functional medicine is the best of both worlds,” explains Dr. Woodward. “I use both conventional medicine and evidencebased alternative treatment plans to help patients reach their optimal state of wellbeing where all faculties and senses are functioning at their peak.” After all, he stresses, “Health is much more than the absence of disease.” While most medical doctors receive little training on exercise and nutrition, Dr. Woodward has a master’s degree in cardiac rehabilitation and exercise science in addition to his medical degree. In fact, it was while setting up a program at a personal training studio that he met his wife, Erin, and it is exercise that occupies a good deal of Dr. Woodward’s spare time still. The exception, of course, is spending time with Erin and their children, Avery and Trey. “Spending time with them,” he says unequivocally, “is my greatest enjoyment.”

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PRACTICING PHYSICIAN,

EverVitalMD Integrative & Functional Medicine Clinic

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ust like a home needs a strong foundation, so it is with family and achieving success. Tim Whelan’s foundation was built on the integrity and hard-working ethics that his mother and father instilled in him as a boy. Tim recalls: “If you didn’t work for it, you didn’t get it.” Tim and his four siblings grew up in Brick, New Jersey, where Tim learned skills from his father, aunts and uncles, and close family friends. When he wasn’t working, he would spend time fishing or playing soccer.

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From running a 7-11 store in New Jersey to leading a successful custom home business, Tim credits his mother, Peggy, for having such incredible influence in his life. Tim’s father was a skilled craftsman who took pride in his work. Sharing that sentiment, Tim’s gratification comes from being able to create dreams for his clients—showing them a vision and guiding them through the process. When he needs advice, Tim turns to his brother and mentor, Jerry.

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At his niece’s 5th birthday party, Tim met the love of his life, Ann, who was a friend of his sister-in-law. Married since 1998, Tim and Ann have a 16-year-old son, Jake. “We are doing our best to raise a polite and respectful adult who will do great things one day,” Tim smiles.

WHELAN

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T. Whelan Homes, Inc.

Ann is an elementary school art teacher and helps Tim with design and color ideas. Not forgetting for one second the role she plays in his life, Tim reiterates: “Ann is my rock, my life partner, my everything.” Biscuit, a Golden Retriever, and a Shih Tzu named Maggie round out the Whelan home. Family time is his highest priority, and some of Tim’s favorite things involve spending time with his wife and son. As NASCAR fans, Jake pulls for the #48 car, while Tim follows the Joe Gibbs racing team. Tim and Jake also enjoy fishing together at the North Carolina Coast. While Ann will toss in a line as well, she normally leaves the fishing trips to the boys. However, when football season rolls around, the whole family attends every Carolina Panthers home game, and some away games as well. Tim, who often works Panthers’ guest relations, says Ann is the biggest Panther fan he knows!

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Tim and Ann have built a strong foundation together, and Tim is grounded by his upbringing and life experiences. “Hard work does pay off,” he says, “even if you can’t see it clearly for the short term. Life is so short. Love your loved ones with all your heart and let them know daily how much they mean to you.”

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HETTIARACHCHI

t took getting electrocuted while wearing pantyhose and lipstick for Mel Gibson, or at least the character he played in the blockbuster movie, to figure out what women want; too bad he didn’t just ask Dr. John Hettiarachchi of the Charlotte Center for Pelvic Health.

PRACTICING PHYSICIAN,

Charlotte Center for Pelvic Health

Whether on a personal or a professional level, what women want, Dr. Hettiarachchi says, is for someone to listen to them. “It’s the secret to a great relationship,” he asserts. “In my practice, it has helped me to customize the best treatment plan to help women with their issues and concerns. I love meeting all types of patients and really getting to know them. I feel privileged to be their doctor.” This awareness has obviously served Dr. Hettiarachchi well in his marriage, too—he and his wife, Catharina, who met on their last day of college, have been married for 27 years. Catharina works at the center as the practice manager. After medical school and a six-year residency in New York City, Dr. Hettiarachchi and Catharina sought a better quality of life for their family. Seeking a small-town atmosphere and a warmer climate, they eventually settled in Cornelius where Dr. Hettiarachchi built his urology practice. But because of his keen listening skills, Dr. Hettiarachchi knew there was a gap in care for women. He had witnessed time and again the frustration among women with the ineffective medications and treatments and overall lack of options they were given for their pelvic health issues. When a new American board certification in female pelvic medicine and reconstructive surgery became available in 2013, Dr. Hettiarachchi was 1 of 1,000 specialists in the country to qualify. As a result, Dr. Hettiarachchi was the first physician in the Greater Charlotte area to provide his patients with specialized care for sexual, urinary, vaginal, and pelvic health that includes minimally and non-invasive vaginal lasers and radio frequency therapies to manage vaginal pain and improve sexual function. But even with Dr. Hettiarachchi’s unsurpassed experience in the field and his expertise with multiple treatment technologies, listening is still a major part of any treatment plan: “However difficult or complex a case, treatment always starts with listening to the patient’s medical history, analyzing her symptoms, and then customizing a course of action that will work for her,” he notes.

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In fact, one of Dr. Hettiarachchi’s biggest challenges is stopping his mind from churning about patients’ cases during his down time. When he does manage to relax, he enjoys spending quality time with his family, road bicycling, or gardening. And, it seems that Dr. Hettiarachchi has figured out another secret about what women want—a man who will shop with them. One of his favorite ways to spend time with Catharina is to help her pick out a beautiful new dress!

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BALOG

PHARMACIST/OWNER/MANAGER,

HealthSmart Pharmacy

oug Balog’s father raised him with a relentless passion, perseverance, and determination to succeed. Growing up in the small steel mill town of Follansbee, West Virginia, Doug’s father helped him obtain the rank of Eagle Scout and pushed him to make the starting lineup on his high school football team. That year, Doug and his teammates went to the state championship playoffs and finished runner-up. Mr. Balog continued to counsel young Doug and urged him to find a career outside of the steel mill town. At a pharmacy within a short bike ride from his childhood home, Doug ultimately realized his life’s mission. After spending some time talking to the local pharmacist, Doug knew his career path. Drawing from his strong paternal influence, Doug says he and his wife Lorrie are “raising [their] three boys to be respectful, caring, and determined individuals.” Doug and Lorrie met at West Virginia University where they both attended pharmacy school (Lorrie is also a pharmacist.). “My wife keeps me going in the right direction,” he smiles. After moving to the South, Doug and Lorrie put their roots down in Mooresville, where the winters aren’t as harsh as the mountains of West Virginia. In their spare time, Doug, Lorrie, and the boys go on hikes, play in their swimming pool, or enjoy a variety of sports. The concept of sports is important in the Balog family: “You try your best, learn from your failures, rebuild, and try harder,” he says. Doug enjoys coaching the boys’ baseball teams, where they are able to spend even more time together. He motivates and encourages them just like his father did when he was a young lad. Sharing his fatherly advice with the boys, he tells them: “Be compassionate. You never know what others are going through. A small act of kindness can make a huge impact.” The toughest thing in life, he shares, is learning to stay the course through all of the ups and downs. “To help sharpen your focus,” Doug says, “you must realize that the next phase is just around the corner.” When Doug’s business was forced out of their building due to road widening, he had to relocate and rebuild, only to be over-shadowed by a big-box pharmacy store a short time later. Still keeping aim on the big picture, he was able to build the store he wanted on Williamson Road and is still there to this day. “Nothing is perfect,” he grins, “but nothing should keep you from trying to get there.”

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doctor’s ability to explain, listen, and empathize—in other words, to both tell and listen well to a story—has a profound impact on a patient’s care. That’s why Dr. William Mitchell of Southern Oncology Specialists spends much of his day doing just that. Sure, he also spends a good deal of time administering powerful therapies to his patients to help them beat cancer. But Dr. Mitchell understands listening to and sharing in his patients’ stories is an integral part of that treatment. The best part of this therapy is that all patients will respond to it because, as Dr. Mitchell explains, “Everyone has a story to tell, you just have to listen.” Dr. Mitchell’s own story began in Portsmouth, Ohio. It was in this steel mill town’s emergency rooms that he often hung out as a teenager, tagging along with the medical teams and watching them in action. So it was no surprise that after earning his undergraduate degree at Marshall University, he went on to medical school at the University of Louisville. But it was the story of an architect who had designed the Horse Racing Hall of Fame, just diagnosed with pancreatic cancer, and his insightful doctor who touched Dr. Mitchell so profoundly that he decided to train in internal medicine and oncology at Wake Forest University. “When he was diagnosed, none of the physicians knew how to help him,” recalls Dr. Mitchell. “Then the oncologist came in and knew exactly what to say and do. That is when I knew I wanted to be an oncologist.”

dr. william MITCHELL

PRACTICING PHYSICIAN,

Southern Oncology Specialists

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That was also when Dr. Mitchell began to realize how essential it was to communicate with patients about what was important to them in their lives and not just about cancer and treatments and prognoses. And he wholeheartedly acknowledges that the benefit of this exchange is mutual. Says Dr. Mitchell: “If I communicate the story of the journey we are going to take together as patient and physician in a meaningful and personal way, and if patients share what shapes their thinking and their way of life with me, we believe in each other’s stories and connect with one another. That’s powerful medicine, for both of us.” Dr. Mitchell has a love story to tell, too. It began at a Marshall University football game, where he met his wife, Jane, on a blind date. “When I met Jane,” Dr. Mitchell remembers fondly, “I met a strong, independent, and honest woman.” Three months later they were engaged. Of course, not all love stories end happily ever after, but it seems that this one is destined to do so: 27 years and two sons later, the fairy tale continues. Although, Dr. Mitchell admits that the “happily ever after” part didn’t come without some good lessons: “Be willing to admit you are wrong and apologize,” he advises. “Also remember it is never 100% your way; you must be willing to compromise.”

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JAMES

OWNER,

James Funeral Home

here do they keep the caskets?” Attending his grandmother’s funeral, Sam James was just 5 years old when he first quizzed his family about such things. That moment of curiosity sparked the light that shined on the path for Sam’s future ministry and career as a funeral director. Sam grew up in a loving, Christian home and believes that God used that spark of curiosity, calling him to serve people at a specific time in their lives. At 16, the Huntersville native went to the local funeral director, Johnny Raymer, for a job. Raymer quickly became Sam’s mentor, cultivating his career in the funeral home business. Sam eventually became Raymer’s manager and continued learning not only the business from his mentor, but also the skill of compassion and how to gently comfort families during a very vulnerable time in their lives. The James family, including young Sam and his brother, Ben, enjoyed spending most of the summer weekends in Blowing Rock, North Carolina, where frequent trips to Tweetsie Railroad formed fond memories. Today, Sam and wife Elizabeth, who also grew up in Huntersville, continue the fun tradition and often take their young son and daughter to Tweetsie. Three generations of the family board the old Number 12, taking in the sights of the Smokies … and the ongoing altercations between the cowboys and Indians! Sam and his family also look forward to their annual trip to New York City at Christmastime; experiencing the Christmas Spectacular show at Radio City Music Hall has become somewhat of a tradition for them. “We love the feeling of being in the center of the world in New York,” Sam says. “There is always something to do, day or night. But as much as we love our adventures, we do love being at home and relaxing with the kids,” he concludes. Devoted to pursuing opportunities to serve God and people, Sam is passionate about his ability to minister to individuals who have experienced loss. He is able to connect with the community he serves and show them the love of Christ. Sam often draws from the wisdom in the writings of C.S. Lewis in Mere Christianity, and from the Apostle Paul, who wrote in Romans 8:38-39 that absolutely nothing, including death, would ever be able to separate us from the love of God. Sharing that eternal promise is what drives Sam to continue his commitment to serving people who have been left behind.

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5 THINGS AN LKN

TOUR DE FOOD DAVIDSON FOOD TOUR Brickhouse Tavern 209 Delburg Street, Suite 210, Davidson 1:30 p.m. to 4:30 p.m.

The tour will start at the Brickhouse Tavern and from there you will wind your way through historical Davidson’s downtown Main Street, stopping at 6-7 different restaurants—from upscale dining to the soda shop along the way. Call 336.406.6294 for more information.

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Saturday, August 5

BACK 2 SCHOOL BASH17 Mooresville Middle School 233 Kistler Farm Road, Mooresville 8:30 a.m. to Noon

Whether you bring school supplies, donate books, or come volunteer for the day, please come out for this awesome community event! For more information email info@b2sb.org.

Davidson Village Green 6 to 8 p.m.

Concerts take place on the town green in downtown Davidson at the corner of Main Street and Concord Road, on the Davidson Public Library stage. All concerts are free, family-oriented, and open to all ages, rain or shine. Food and beverages are available for purchase. Bring chairs and blankets!

LAKE NORMAN YMCA TRIATHLON

Saturday, August 26

OMAN SHOULD DO IN AUGUST

CONCERT ON THE GREENS

YMCA Ingersoll Rand, 800 Beaty Street in Davidson 6:30 a.m. (race time starts at 7 a.m.)

4 Thursday, August 24

This event is a USA Triathlon sanctioned event. Hosted at one of the few YMCAs located on a lake, The Lake Norman YMCA Sprint Triathlon is one of the most popular events in North Carolina drawing over 600 athletes from around the Atlantic Coast and Southeast regions. Great for beginners or veterans alike, the sprint distance course allows for great competition and a friendly atmosphere. Call 336.471.3322 for more information.

MOVIES IN THE PARK— SECRET LIFE OF PETS North Mecklenburg Park 16131 Old Statesville Road, Huntersville 7:30 p.m. to 10 p.m.

This is a free family event (no ticket purchase is required). Drinks, candy, and popcorn will be available for purchase. Bring your furry fourlegged dog friends to celebrate! But please remember all dogs MUST be on a leash and must be up to date with current vaccines. (Any aggressive dogs will be asked to leave the premises.)

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NORTH HARBOR CLUB was a fantastic spot for our men’s photoshoot—despite the rain, storms, and hottest day of the year, much fun was had by all!

LKNW’s Stephanie with John (left) and Jonathan Kepner of Raymer-Kepner Funeral Home

Sam James, owner of James Funeral Home in Huntersville, with LKNW’s Stephanie at the men’s photoshoot in August

LKNW’s Chelsea, Stephanie, and Dana at the men’s photoshoot LKNW’s Stephanie (middle) with Tim Whelan of T. Whelan Homes and our fearless leader, Publisher Dana Nieters

LKNW’s Stephanie (left) with Dr. Todd Adams (Lakeshore Women’s Specialists) and Dana at the men’s photoshoot in August

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Doug Balog, owner of HealthSmart Pharmacy in Mooresville, with LKNW’s Stephanie at the August men’s photoshoot

Dr. Todd Adams and Dana making herself useful at the men’s photoshoot in August

Dr. Anthony Marra (Huntersville Family & Cosmetic Dentistry) and wife Aundrea “take ﬁve” with LKNW’s Stephanie at the men’s photoshoot in August

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Keeping communication open

In today’s world, social media can be messy. When it comes to posts, messages, texts, emails, and other electronic communications, couples should share login information, passwords, etc. Transparency is key!

Professionalism with work colleagues

Establishing Healthy Marriage Boundaries

Open communication is critical here as well. Intimate settings are often necessary in business, but let your spouse know if there are one-on-one meetings with colleagues of the opposite sex. Then choose to meet in an open environment such as the office or lunch with a group.

Friends of the opposite sex

Some questions to help in this arena are: Is your spouse fully aware of the friendship? Would you behave differently around your friend if your spouse were present? Would you feel uncomfortable if your spouse had a similar relationship with someone? This is the perfect time to honor the golden rule: Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.

A SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE IS BASED UPON MANY THINGS ,

such as love, honor, respect, and loyalty. But like any ﬂuid, living thing, marriage must be cultivated, nurtured, and tended to; it mustn’t be ignored or left alone to try to ﬂourish. One of the primary components in building a solid relationship, say many therapists, is to establish boundaries. It is important to be open and honest about what is and is not ok. Here are a few common courtesy boundaries to consider in your marriage: For more marriage and family advice, visit www.focusonthefamily.com.

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W Wome n’s Health ealth Symposium WHAT IS GENDER & TRANSGENDER? the transgender and gender nonconforming (TGNC) community has gained increasing visibility and awareness through popular media outlets such as the Internet, television, and film. Last year the city of Charlotte and state of North Carolina found itself at the epicenter of the current day LGBT rights movement with the passing of House Bill 2 in March of 2016 and subsequent repeal and passing of House Bill 186 in February 2017. While the popular focus was on the issue of bathrooms, the opportunity to educate the community regarding civil rights of all marginalized communities, particularly transgender, was missed. This article aims to provide basic information necessary to establish an understanding of gender identity. IN RECENT YEARS,

To begin, gender and sex are not one and the same. In general sex is determined by chromosomes and assigned base on the presence of male or female genitalia. Based on this assignment, certain gender roles are encouraged because of cultural and community norms. Gender is the expression of what the culture considers masculine or feminine. Because sex is either male or female, society expects gender to follow this same binary definition. Unfortunately, gender expression in humans and most species are not that simple. We know that most of us identify as male or female but express ourselves along a gender spectrum that does not always align strictly with the societal masculine or feminine roles. Moreover, the expression of gender doesn’t determine if one is attracted to the opposite or same sex. To clarify this statement, sexual attraction is very complex and not determined by chromosomes, genitalia, or gender.The extreme of the gender incongruence is considered transgender. Transgender individuals feel their physical body, genitalia, and expression of masculine or feminine is not consistent with the birth assignment of male or female. This overwhelming feeling of physical and gender non-congruence can result

in a significant amount of distress for these individuals and families. The distress and awareness is now known to occur as early as 5 or 6 years of age. Based on the 2015 National Transgender Survey, 0.6% of individuals in the United States identify as transgender. Until recently, the medical community considered individuals who were transgender to have a disorder. This implied that the condition was treatable. After decades of research, transgender, like being lesbian or gay, was removed from the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders. We now focus primarily on the distress, or dysphoria, some transgender individual’s experience that requires treatment with hormones or surgery. It’s important to point out that the majority of individuals who identify as transgender do not undergo gender affirming surgery. When individuals undergo treatment for transgender dysphoria, the distress resolves. Efforts to improve understanding and awareness of gender fluidity amongst medical societies, schools, and community advocacy groups are ongoing. The goals of these efforts are to address the many social stigma and discrimination affecting the transgender community. More information regarding the topic of transgender and gender non-conformity can be found on the World Professional Association for Transgender Health website www.wpath.org. For a list of local experts in transgender care, visit the Charlotte Transgender Healthcare Group website www.cthcg.org.

DR. G. BERNARD TAYLOR is an assistant clinical professor at the University of North Carolina School of Medicine, and assistant program director of the Carolinas Healthcare System Female Pelvic Medicine and Reconstructive Surgery fellowship program in Charlotte. He is a fellow in the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists, and board-certiﬁed in obstetrics and gynecology and in female pelvic medicine and reconstructive pelvic surgery.

Dr. Taylor practices at the Women’s Center for Pelvic Health; 704.304.1160 or 704.403.6350. The views and opinions expressed in this advertisement are those of the advertiser and do not necessarily reflect the views, opinions or positions of Lake Norman Woman Magazine.

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Back-To-School Organizing Tips

Parents love those three little words; kids dread them—Back To School! But after the long, hot summer even the most reticent of children might be longing to get back to their school chums and the routine of the classroom. While it is indeed a busy time of year, here are a few tidbits to help you start off the school year right:

Create a family bulletin board. Here you can keep class and extracurricular schedules, reminders, and even afterschool chores to keep everyone on task. Make it a habit to check it in the mornings before leaving the house.

Put lunch money in envelopes. This will come in handy as kids rush out the door in the morning—if you pack lunches, always prepare ahead of time and involve the kids in the preparation.

Create homework stations. Let your children pick out their own desk, lamp, and ﬁling system so they feel a part of the designated area, and it reﬂects their own wants and needs. They can keep their books, supplies, and backpacks here as well.

Buy a hanging shoe caddy for organizing. The individual pockets work perfectly for holding art and school supplies.

Have a snack station in the kitchen. The after-school munchies are inevitable so prepackage baggies full of healthy snack so when your kids come home from school all they have to do is grab a bag!

Organize clothes closets. By moving around summer attire and getting school clothes up front, your kids will have an easier time choosing what to wear. For more great back-to-school ideas, visit www.babble.com.

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MIND body spirit BETTER ME

BETTER YOU

BETTER WORLD

Goodbye, Fear; Hello, Faith! By: Michon McCorkle

A S A C H R I S T I A N C O U N S E LO R ,

many of my clients suffer from fear in some form or another. In clinical terms, fear is also known as anxiety. However, unhealthy and excessive anxiety are what often lead to panic attacks and insomnia. Sadly, living in excessive fear can steal opportunities and inner peace, destroy relationships, and hinder your ability to move forward in life. To be fair, fear is a natural emotion and gift that everyone experiences. “Healthy” fear is an internal indicator that causes us to examine our situations and plans for the future as it relates to health, family, career, and finances. When making plans, you should ask yourself, “Are my decisions driven by fear or faith?” Usually, a faith-based decision is wrapped in peace while a fear-based decision is wrapped in confusion and stress. The irony is that what we fear most almost never happens because life has an interesting way of working out.

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circumstances, and faith relies on God’s strength working through you. Fear is believing lies about yourself, people, and circumstances. Faith is believing the truth about yourself and circumstances. Fear says that you will never measure up and it will never work out. Faith says that with God you are more than enough, you have everything you need, and everything will work together for your good. A common topic for Christians in therapy is believing the truth (faith) or believing the lie (fear). Almost always, the part of us that believes the lie was born out of feelings of rejection, abandonment, loss, or a traumatic event. As a result, fear becomes a longtime companion and saying goodbye doesn’t happen instantly or automatically. Saying goodbye to fear and hello to faith is a huge leap that requires practice. Saying goodbye to fear must be a deliberate effort to face things that scare you. The good news is that overcoming fear develops spiritual maturity and growth. This process will put you on a path to endless possibilities, the discovery of talents, and the inner strength you never knew existed.

CONSIDER THE FOLLOWING STRATEGIES FOR A FAITH-FILLED LIFE: 1. Journal. List opportunities missed because of fear, then make a new list of goals. 2. Replace “lies” with truths. Use positive afﬁrmations and scripture daily. 3. Focus on the positives. Be thankful for what you have instead of focusing on what you don’t. 4. Nurture your faith. Pray and meditate; remember your past victories when feeling discouraged. 5. Surround yourself with positive people. Find an accountability partner. 6. Surrender control. Let go and let things develop in their own way and time. 7. Ask for help. Seek a therapist to help uncover the source of your fear.

Michon McCorkle is the owner of Family Matters Counseling in Cornelius. She is a licensed marriage and family therapist that specializes in Christcentered therapy for individuals, couples and families. For more information visit www.family-matterscounseling.com, or call 704.255.5077.

THE MIND, BODY, AND SPIRIT ARE INTIMATELY CONNECTED. Because unhealthy thoughts and emotions can create a vicious cycle that leads to unhealthy physical patterns, we can choose a victorious path that includes a positive, healing, uplifting spiral. By mixing the ingredients of attitude and action, we can change the ﬂavor of our own lives. Learn to nurture your body and soul to lead a more balanced life.

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Brad, Angela, and the team at McLean make the loan process easy, efficient, and seamless! Highly recommended! - Marc Martens, closed 2014

Brad is a great resource for all your mortgage needs. Brad gets the best program for the customer and has their interest in mind. He makes everything easy with First Class service and communication that is second to none.â&#x20AC;?

We appreciate the consistent professionalism and efficiency demonstrated by you and your office. The clients are always happy and well informed which makes the closing process so much less stressful for everyone involved. Keep up the great work.

- Andrew Lloyd closed 2014

Thank you Team Roche! You were able to get my home loan approved when no one else could. We love our new home.

- Ben Thomas, Attorney at Law Thomas and Godley Attorneys This was the easiest and most personable experience I have had with mortgages. Thank you for making it so easy.

- Dr. Robert Bowman, closed 2014

We loved the Tuesday report. It kept us from wondering what was going on!

- Sharon Ledford, closed 2014

- Howard Culbreth, State Farm Insurance Insurance Agent

Michael Frazier

I was impressed with your fast turnaround in the underwriting process. I think the fact that your website allowed for uploading helped tremendously.

- Todd & Heather Burkard, closed 2014

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Brad’s team goes above and beyond for a smooth closing, and they always close on time! - Rene Poteat, Sales Associate Meritage Builders

This was our third transaction with Brad and I wouldn’t hesitate to use him in the future. - Clint Stancil, closed 2012, 2013, 2014 When you need someone to clarify the options out there and get the job done and done right, Brad Roche at McLean Mortage is who we have our clients call. - Jeffrey A. Carbone, CFP® Cornerstone Financial Partners, Inc.

Glen Chavis

Brad is one of the most effective and service oriented mortgage bankers you’ll ever do business with! - Frank Antunez, closed 2012, 2014

Brad and his team were incredible to work with. They helped us secure a new home when everyone else said it couldn’t be done on our tight budget!

“The clients I have sent to Brad have appreciated his service and attention to detail. With his years of experience, his knowledge allows his customers to know that they will get all their questions answered and be comfortable with the process.” - Keith Taylor, ChFC®, CLU® Financial Strategist Centerpoint Associates

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- Gary & Lisa Glase, closed 2013, 2014

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200E North Harbor Place • Davidson | 702B Brawley School Road • Mooresville | 6100 Fairview Road • Charlotte Primary Residential Mortgage, Inc., DBA Element Funding, NMLS #3094. PRMI is an Equal Housing Lender. Some products and services may not be available in all states. Credit and collateral are subject to approval. Terms and conditions apply. Programs, rates, terms and conditions are subject to change and are subject to borrower(s) qualification. This is not a commitment to lend. North Carolina Commissioner of Banks L-112833. South Carolina Department of Consumer Affairs MLS3094, As Element Funding MLS-3094 OTN#1. Michael Frazier NMLS# 22526, Laura Lail NMLS# 570231, Brad Roche NMLS# 135191, Glen Chavis NMLS# 993247, Leigh Kugler NMLS# 41392, Tommy Bush NMLS# 108137