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Contributors Kerryn Anker

Whether it was writing as a young girl, interviewing family members or as a professional journalist, Kerryn has always been passionate about telling stories. These days she is kept busy with her young daughter Saharna, who loves to keep her mummy on her toes. Aside from the rare quiet moments she is able to write, Kerryn also enjoys spending time at the beach with her family, good coffee and laughing with friends.

Megan Blandford

Megan Blandford is a freelance writer specialising in travel, parenting and business features across a variety of online and print publications. Megan lives in country Victoria with her husband, two daughters and a growing collection of animals. You can find more of her writing at www.theplacesyoullgo.com.au

Annaliese Carter

Annaliese Carter is the Club Manager at Snap Fitness Redcliffe. With 10 plus years in the health and fitness industry, Annaliese is a wealth of knowledge and motivation for everyone looking to reach their health and fitness goals. www.snapfitness.com.au/redcliffe/

Belinda Costello

Belinda Costello is a mother of three rambunctious children, a wife and a registered nurse who is currently a stay at home mum. She is a maternity services consumer representative and passionate advocate for women’s rights in childbirth.

Belinda Hopper

Belinda can usually be found at her computer researching, writing, or editing. Otherwise she is likely to be sipping chai tea, engrossed in the next book for her book club. Belinda loves to hang out at the beach with her three girls and cafe-surf with her husband. Her undergaduate degree was in Communication, majoring in professional writing, from UWS. She studied fiction and novel writing with New York Gotham Writers’ Workshop and in 2015 she completed her Masters in Creative Writing at the University of the Sunshine Coast. Belinda lives by the motto why clean when you can create?

Nik Makim

Nic is a holistic nutritionist, naturopath, yogini and wholefood cook. She established Makim Wellness, a health, food and lifestyle online magazine, because she is passionate about helping others live their life to its fullest potential. The foundation of all her health advice begins with the nourishment of nutritional food and Nic and her team create healthy meals and treats at the Berkelouw Cafe in Eumundi. She is also mum to three children. You can read more at www.makimwellness.com or follow her on Twitter @MakimWellness. www.kidsonthecoast.com.au

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Meg Nagle

In between breastfeeding her youngest boy, chasing after her oldest two boys, blogging and occasionally sleeping, Meg is an International Board Certified Lactation Consultant (IBCLC) in private practice and works with women to help them reach their breastfeeding goals. Meg has a degree in Psychology and was a La Leche League Leader (breastfeeding counsellor) for seven years before becoming an IBCLC. She blogs about all things breastfeeding and has recently written her first book Boobin’ All Day…Boobin’ All Night: A Gentle Approach to Sleep for Breastfeeding Families. www.themilkmeg.com

Dr Tanya Obertik

Tanya is a GP currently working at the Palmwoods Clinic Family Practice and is proud to have recently become involved at the newly built Coastal Women’s Health Clinic on 2nd Ave, Maroochydore, that focuses purely on women’s health. She is also a Royal Australian College of GPs examiner for training GPs. Tanya completed her training in general practice and obtained her diploma of family planning in the UK before moving to Australia in 2009. www.doctorobertik.com.au

Jessica Jane Sammut

Jessica Jane Sammut is a leading writer, editor and journalist for Australian national media and global brands, who is ‘living the dream’ in her little white shack in Noosa with her two mini-me balls of fire, Zac and Finn.

Penny Shipway

Penny Shipway has more than 10 years’ experience as a print journalist in newspapers, magazines and online. She climbed the ranks at News Corp, editing many of the Quest Newspapers in Brisbane, and broke news stories for Australian Associated Press (AAP). Now a mother of two, Penny has shed the fast-paced city life to dip her toes in the ocean, settling on the Sunshine Coast to raise her beautiful girls. She juggles parenthood with freelancing and is writing a novel for tweens.

Cassy Small

Cassy Small is a freelance writer and mamma to a sweet little six-year-old and a feisty four-year-old. A Sunshine Coast local for over 15 years, Cassy loves nothing better than hanging out with the family on a quiet stretch of sand at Kawana.

Michelle Vogrinec

When Michelle is not caring for her three gorgeous boys, Joshua, Jacob and Max, she is Managing Director of GAIA Skin Naturals Australia. Her company’s signature brand, GAIA Natural Baby has become the most widely distributed natural and organic baby skincare range in the Australian market, and is stocked in leading supermarkets, pharmacies, baby stores and health food shops nationally and across the globe. www.gaiaskinnaturals.com

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SO YOU’VE DECIDED IT’S THE RIGHT TIME TO HAVE A BABY. FIRSTLY, CONGRATULATIONS! IT’S A WONDERFUL ADVENTURE TO EMBARK ON. START FOLIC ACID

If you’ve made this conscious decision you’ll be in a great position to get all your ducks in a row and optimise your health.

Folic acid should ideally be taken for a month prior to conception and for the first three months of pregnancy. It helps to reduce the risk of neural tube defects such as spina bifida.

There are many few things to consider at this time – finances, living arrangements, support networks, work and health. I’m going to focus on health.

Generally it is recommended that you take 500mcg each day but there are a few circumstances that more is recommended so speak to your GP. Folic acid is found naturally in green leafy vegetables, legumes, citrus and whole grains and can be bought as a standalone vitamin at the supermarket or pharmacy. I generally don’t recommend that using the expensive pregnancy multivitamins are necessary, but some women prefer to use these.

Before you even start trying for a baby, it is a good idea to pop in to your GP for a chat. They will be able to identify any pre-conception concerns such as the following: • Is your pap smear up to date? Generally a pap smear won’t be done during pregnancy, so even if you fall pregnant easily it will be about a year before your next smear so it’s important that it’s not already overdue.

GET ACTIVE! I’d recommend at least 30 minutes cardio workout three to four times a week. Everyone knows the importance of exercise and this holds true for conception and pregnancy. Maintaining a healthy weight and keeping your body fit and strong will have a profound effect on conceiving, a healthy pregnancy, labour and your post labour time.

• If you’re in a newish relationship it is sometimes advisable to have an STD screen and get anything treated if necessary, as STDs can be transmitted to baby and cause pregnancy or labour complications.

• Your GP will also generally arrange for you to have some blood tests. These will also identify whether or not you’re immune to rubella and chickenpox. If you’re not they will discuss your suitability to having these immunisations and if you do, remember that it is recommended that you do not fall pregnant within the four weeks following either of these immunisations.

Don’t overdo it though. Too much of anything is a bad thing. Plus, when you do fall pregnant, remember that your training regime may have to change but should not stop.

LIFESTYLE Start making some lifestyle changes now. Even if you aren’t planning on falling pregnant in the next couple of months, it can be a big challenge to stop smoking, stop your weekend drinking or change your diet. Start making some changes early on to make this adaptation easier.

• If you are on any medications your GP will also review their safety in pregnancy and make changes as necessary.

• Any medical conditions should be discussed with your GP to clarify their impact and importance in pregnancy. Importantly, mental health conditions should never be overlooked as the hormones of pregnancy and breast feeding can have a very powerful effect on them.

If you have found out you are pregnant and you haven’t considered any of these aspects, don’t panic.

Your body was ready to fall pregnant. Trust in nature.

But if we can prepare, then a bit of a helping hand can be a wonderful thing.

Editor’s note: This article was published originally as an online article on our website on August 24, 2015

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Nutrition for

Pregnancy Nic Makim, Naturopath ND www.makimwellness.com

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FROM THE MOMENT I BECAME PREGNANT, MY WHOLE LIFE HAS REVOLVED AROUND SOAKING UP AS MUCH OF MY GORGEOUS LITTLE ONES AS POSSIBLE. THIS REQUIRES ENORMOUS AMOUNTS OF ENERGY WHICH I ACQUIRE FROM OPTIMAL NUTRITION, DAILY EXERCISE AND MY YOGA PRACTICE. FROM A HEALTH PERSPECTIVE, THE NINE MONTHS SPENT IN THE WOMB AND THE MONTHS BEFORE CONCEPTION ARE THE MOST CRITICAL PERIODS OF OUR LIVES. Scientists are increasingly discovering that a mother’s health and nutrition during pre-conception and pregnancy have a profound effect on the health of the infant and that patterns of disease in adulthood can be traced to infant nutrition.

SUPPLEMENTS

BALANCE

• essential fatty acids – omega 3 (DHA) supplementation during pregnancy has been shown to support the neurological and immune development in children, improving hand to eye co-ordination by two years age and with less allergy in the first year of life

I recommend taking a practitioner range of supplements specifically formulated for pregnancy, including: • multivitamin and minerals

A healthy diet may also shape your baby’s food preference later in life. From my personal experience of three blissful pregnancies and clinical experience at Makim Wellness, energy levels and balancing mood swings seem to be the most often asked questions. To maintain energy levels and balance mood swings, enjoy well-balanced, nutritious, low glycemic meals regularly through the day. At each meal try to include:

• high potency probiotic with colostrum.

During pregnancy, the need for vitamins B1, B2, B6, B12, C, D, K, choline, folic acid, zinc, calcium, magnesium, phosphate and iron increases. Folic acid plays a vital role in the development of your baby’s organs and tissues, your energy levels, reduction of sugar cravings and may also reduce the risk of neural tube defects such as spina bifida. Good sources of folic acid can be found in barley, beans, eggs, endive, dark green leafy vegetables (spinach, broccoli, Brussels sprouts, kale, spring greens), lentils, liver, sprouts, soybeans, yeast and homemade muesli.

• Protein such as quinoa, nuts, seeds, eggs, cheese, chicken, grass-fed beef, oily fish, legumes, lamb and spirulina • Carbohydrates such as vegetables (especially dark green leafy vegetables), whole grains, quinoa and brown rice • Essential fatty acids (EFA) such as chia oil, chia seeds, flaxseed, flaxseed oil, coconut oil, cod liver oil, evening primrose oil, seaweed, walnut oil, wheat germ oil, olive oil, sardines, mackerel and salmon. EFAs are also associated with reduced risk of high blood pressure in the mother

Vitamin D has been shown to have numerous benefits during pregnancy, including reducing the risk of pre-eclampsia, insulin resistance and gestational diabetes. Vitamin D is also critical for fetal development and immune function. Walk in the glorious sunshine for ten minutes every day to soak up the vitamin D, and enjoy foods rich in vitamin D such as cod, halibut, herring, butter, egg yolk, milk and sprouted seeds.

Research shows that getting a good supply of choline during pregnancy helps restructure a baby’s developing brain for improved performance and improving the memory of adults. To boost levels of choline, eat free-range eggs, beans, chicken, milk, lentils, split peas, wholegrain cereals, yeast, spinach, flaxseed and lecithin. www.kidsonthecoast.com.au

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brewers yeast, capsicum, nuts, fish, egg yolks, ginger, milk, lamb, sunflower and pumpkin seeds, whole grains and yeast.

optimal nutritional levels. Drink a glass of water and wait ten minutes to curb the craving. Choose organic, local, fresh, unprocessed foods when possible. Light cardio and yoga will help you feel good and keep you committed to a healthy lifestyle.

MORNING SICKNESS Morning sickness may be due to hormonal changes and nutritional deficiencies. To help reduce your symptoms of morning sickness:

WHAT TO AVOID

• avoid an empty stomach by eating small protein meals regularly

• soft serve ice cream and thick shakes

Foods to avoid during pregnancy: • ham and other processed meats

• avoid strong smelling and fatty foods

• cold, smoked and raw seafood, especially oysters

• eat a ginger biscuit, ginger supplement and/or drink ginger or peppermint tea before getting out of bed in the morning

• paté • self-service salad bars or packaged salads, such as coleslaw and pasta salad

• maintain a supplementation program to avoid nutritional deficiencies

• soft cheese, such as brie, camembert, feta, cottage and ricotta

• drink as much as two litres of water – a dehydrated body functions less efficiently • eat iron rich foods such as lean, grass-fed beef and lamb

• liver – although a rich source of iron, liver also contains high levels of vitamin A, which, in excess, can be harmful to a developing baby

• ensure adequate, regular and consistent amounts of sleep each night

• strictly avoid alcohol and cigarette smoking, and reduce or avoid caffeine intake

• effective relaxation is essential – try techniques such as yoga or meditation

• trans fatty acids such as hydrogenated oils – these are in many of the processed foods found in packages, cans and boxes

• maintain a reasonable work and personal schedule

• fish containing mercury such as marlin, shark, swordfish, barramundi, ling, tuna and barramundi

• address chronic pain and/or depression.

CRAVINGS

• commercial fried foods

Sweet cravings may be due to hormonal changes and nutritional deficiencies. Be aware of what you’re craving and prepare alternative foods to satisfy your cravings such as berries and seeds drizzled with a little honey, a green smoothie or cacao and chia seeds, banana with almond butter, a few pieces of quality dark sugar-free chocolate containing raw cacao, oven roasted sweet root vegetable chips or an apple with a slice of parmesan cheese. Keep sugar out of the house and use small amounts of rapadura sugar or honey instead. Eat five small, well-balanced meals and take supplements to ensure you are receiving

• soy imitation foods such as soy milk and soy yoghurt • vegetable oils canola and corn • limit white flour, soft drinks and sugar Stress management techniques, massage, a manageable workload and regular, indulging treats are all important for a healthy pregnancy. Try to indulge in at least ten minutes every day to meditate, lie down or sit quietly to listen and ‘tune in’ to your beautiful body and precious baby.

Enjoy, indulge and glow through your pregnancy.

Editor’s note: This article was published originally as an online article on our website on July 10, 2013

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MATER MOTHERS’ PRIVATE BRISBANE AND REDLAND Since 1960, Mater Mothers’ Hospitals have been committed to providing the very best maternity care, delivering more than 10,000 babies each year and welcoming each new baby into the world while supporting every family.

As the largest private maternity and newborn service in Queensland, Mater Mothers’ Private Brisbane is second to none when it comes to providing compassionate, leading-edge care.

The goal at Mater Mothers’ Private Brisbane is to make the arrival of your new baby as happy and stress-free as possible. That’s why Mater offers a comprehensive selection of exceptional support facilities and services for you and your family.

During your stay, you’ll enjoy a family-friendly environment in a specifically designed single ensuite room, complete with day bed for your partner to stay overnight, personal baby bathing facilities and a patient entertainment system with access to the internet and Foxtel and free Wi-Fi on your own device. A contemporary menu, specifically designed by Mater chefs and dietitians for your health and wellbeing, is cooked fresh in-house daily and delivered to your bedside.

For those who live in the Bayside area, Mater Mothers’ Private Redland offers an outstanding maternity facility. Located within Mater Private Hospital Redland, Mater Mothers provides you with exceptional maternity care close to family and friends. Mater Mothers’ Private Redland is linked to Mater in South Brisbane and specialises in the care of low to medium risk birthing mothers and babies, and offers many of the same support facilities as South Brisbane.

Mater Mothers’ Private Brisbane and Redland midwives work closely with obstetricians to deliver exceptional care for you and your baby. Mater midwives are familiar with the expectations of your obstetrician and communicate regularly with them during your labour and birth to support your individual birthing plan. Following the birth, the midwifery and nursing team will look after you on the postnatal ward.

The experienced midwives caring for you and your baby in each postnatal unit are able to provide you with breastfeeding information, assistance and support. If you or your baby have special requirements, your midwife or doctor will refer you to the Mater Mothers’ Breastfeeding Support Centre at Mater Mothers’ Hospital, South Brisbane for a specialist consultation. This Support Centre is also available on a fee-for-service basis to anyone requiring breastfeeding support once you have left hospital.

For women with high-risk pregnancies, Mater at South Brisbane offers a state-of-the-art maternal fetal medicine service which provides expert diagnosis and management of complex obstetric cases. If your baby needs extra care after birth, Mater also boast one of Australia’s leading Neonatal Critical Care Units which includes intensive care, high dependency and special care cots.

To find out more about what to expect when you’re expecting as well as antenatal and postnatal information for both yourself and your baby, visit www.matermothers.org.au.

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You’ll enjoy a family-friendly and hotelstyle environment with luxurious private rooms including; ensuite, day bed for your partner to stay overnight and personal baby bathing facilities.

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IF YOU’RE PREGNANT, CONGRATULATIONS … AND WELCOME TO THE MINEFIELD OF NAVIGATING YOUR MATERNITY CARE CHOICES. In making this first major decision, it’s impotant to realise the difference between an obstetrician and a midwife. While many think them to be similar, they are in fact different fields that fall under the wider umbrella of maternity care. “Obstetrics is a medical speciality, so that’s probably who you want caring for you if you have a medical condition that’s associated with your pregnancy or your labour and birth,” Miller explains.

“But it’s a life event rather than a medical event in the majority of cases. Midwives are specialists in providing holistic care for pregnancy in low risk situations, where you don’t require surgical intervention, for example.”

Although the care of you and your baby should, perhaps, be a straightforward plan, the available options aren’t always well communicated by those around you. This can be due to an assumption that you’ll follow a mainstream path, or it can involve some political agendas from those within the health industry.

“The main problem we have is a lot of misinformation and misperceptions about the options,” says Yvette Miller, maternal health promotion researcher at Queensland University of Technology.

Ultimately, the best thing you can do is be informed about the options available to you and your rights throughout the entirety of your maternity care, from pregnancy and birth through to postnatal care. Your research will be rewarded: with that self-education and informed decision-making comes the security of having made the choice that’s right for you and your family.

Another consideration is the level of maternity and parenting education you feel you’d like to receive.

In most cases, this is given to a basic level. “Most women will do just the public antenatal education which prepares them for a birth at a public hospital, so you don’t get any of the extras around water birth or breathing techniques or things like that,” Young says. That may suit you and your partner and/ or birthing partners, or you might like to look into alternative options delivered by midwives, doulas or other birthing educators.

WHO WILL LEAD YOUR CARE? One of your main choices is whether you want your maternity care led by an obstetrician or a midwife. There is no right or wrong answer; rather, it’s a matter of deciding which option best suits your particular circumstances, values and other considerations such as costs.

It’s also worth giving some detailed thought to what will happen after the birth. Miller explains, “Because obstetricians are specialists in the medical experience of pregnancy, once they have a live mum and a live baby that’s the conclusion of their role. They’re not specialists in normal postnatal care, breastfeeding, those kinds of things; they’re specialists in avoiding or treating medical complications associated with pregnancy or birth.”

While there are community-based postnatal care options, such as your GP or health nurse, these are up to you to navigate by yourself without any considered transition from one carer to the next.

While your GP is generally your first point of contact when it comes to maternity care, they will direct you to specialised care options. “The GP will refer you to a public hospital or to the obstetrician of their choice,” explains Mary Young from the Sunshine Coast’s Know Your Midwife, a private practice group of experienced midwives, offering continuity of care from conception through to parenthood. This is certainly a time to speak up if you have particular preferences for a particular hospital, obstetrician, midwife or shared care arrangement. “The GP is the gatekeeper to the whole of your maternity care,” says Young. “You have to do the research because unless you start searching or come across another way by word of mouth, the majority of women simply do exactly what their GP says. You need to look for what suits you.”

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Midwifery care may give you a more continuous process. “That settling in, bonding period isn’t really a part of an obstetrician’s job, but with midwifery care it is within their scope of practice,” Miller says.

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If you think you might like maternity care that’s all encompassing, a shared care (sometimes referred to as collaborative care) option could be right for you.

This means that you’ll be cared for by an obstetrician as well as a midwife, and is a strong focus of the health system into the future. This covers all bases and is available at many local hospitals.

Young adds that there is a difference between the facts of the legislation and the realities behind them, which midwives are experiencing. “In 2010 it was said that every hospital in the country was to grant visiting rights to Medicare eligible midwives, and that has not happened,” she says. These realities can limit your options somewhat, or at the very least means you need to be rather determined and highly informed if following a less mainstream path.

PUBLIC OR PRIVATE? Your next decision is whether to go through the public or private healthcare system. Both offer various levels of collaborative care between obstetricians and midwives, and some hospitals also offer a birth centre option which can provide a different feel to your birthing environment.

“What’s happened now is that all women, regardless of their model of care, are expected to birth in a hospital,” says Miller, “and that’s the only place where your healthcare provider will have full insurance for the birth.”

CAN YOU GIVE BIRTH AT HOME?

Of course, the cost variance between the private and public options is a major determinant of your access to each service, as is whether you have private health insurance with maternity cover.

Home birthing is an option in Queensland and offers a different experience for parents and babies. Home birth support groups find that women generally choose this option for two reasons, explains Clara Domingo from Homebirth Queensland. “Some women have had a bad experience at hospital and don’t feel like it’s a nice memory, so they’ll do it at home the next time. Then there are women who want to have a space for themselves and to choose who their care practitioner is.”

PRIVATE: You’ll need private health insurance and a referral from your GP in order to access private maternity care. You can choose your obstetrician, and you will need to do some research with your insurer to find out the costs involved.

“It’s an intimate experience,” describes Domingo.

“There’s no transition between hospital and home, and your older kids can be there too.” This continuity of your carer between pregnancy, birth and postnatal care is attractive to many parents, as is the choice associated with who your carer is. If you choose to birth at home, you can seek out your own midwife and/or doula – the latter will act as a non-medically qualified supporter during your pregnancy and birth – or opt to not have any medical assistance at all.

You have ultimate control, although this doesn’t come without its highly publicised risks if an emergency situation arises or if medical intervention is required.

PUBLIC: Although you do not have the same level of say over who your maternity carer is in the public system, there aren’t any costs involved.

There is also the option of private midwives, who can work with obstetricians within the public or private hospital systems in order to give you a more tailored shared care arrangement. This means you can choose the midwife who will see you through the entirety of your maternity care. This can be covered, in part, by Medicare so that you aren’t out of pocket for the entire portion of your maternity care, however your midwife needs to be a Medicare provider in order for this to happen. “There were government changes a few years back whereby private midwives could become eligible and get a provider number so you could claim their pregnancy and postnatal care,” says Miller. These changes – and some pending changes that will see insurance required for home births – have, unfortunately, reduced the numbers of private midwives practicing in Queensland. www.kidsonthecoast.com.au

The idea of giving birth at home certainly isn’t for everybody, but it’s an option that’s important to many.

“We should all have the power of choice,” Domingo says. “If you feel safer at hospital, that’s where you need to go, and if you want to give birth at home that should be respected.”

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In this case, it’s a matter of knowing your rights and speaking up in order to gain changes to your care that best suit you. Miller says, “Many women don’t realise you can make a request to change your care provider, even if you’re in the public system.”

At the moment, private midwives can attend home births with the mums-to-be claiming their services on Medicare. This is only the case until late 2016, however.

“There are women who want private midwifery care for an out-of-hospital birth, and very soon they aren’t going to have that option available at all,” warns Miller.

Certainly, that sense of needing to know your options and be your own spokesperson throughout your maternity care and the first months of your baby’s life is important. This will give you not just the birth you’re hoping for, but an entire experience that matches with your specific circumstances.

CONTINUITY OF CARE There is a strong push (excuse the pun) towards the continuity of care throughout the stages of pregnancy, birth and postnatal care. This means that the same carer can see you through each of these steps, providing you with someone who knows your history and knows how you’d like to proceed into the next stages.

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This is often an ideal situation for many reasons.

“It’s important not just in maternity care, but to avoid clinical errors and to make the best care decisions as you move through that pathway,” says Miller. “The communication quality improves with continuity of your care providers as there’s a shared knowledge not just about the clinical aspects of your case but also your values and preferences – they’re all maintained when you have that continuity of care, and good quality decision-making becomes so much easier.”

For more information on Medicare options, visit www.health.gov.au To locate midwives who are eligible for Medicare, visit www.eligiblemidwives.com To find a doula to support you during your baby’s birth, visit findadoula.com.au or do some online research for your local area.

SUPPORT ON THE SUNSHINE COAST Know Your Midwife: www.knowyourmidwife.com.au

Of course, nothing is completely black and white, and for some women the continuity of care model isn’t the best option. “Some women involved in our research have said if they’re in the public system they’d actually prefer not to have continuity of their carer because they don’t get to choose their carer,” Miller explains. “If you have continuity of care with someone who isn’t a very good match it can be a disadvantage.”

Sunshine Coast Midwifery: www.sunshinecoastmidwifery.com.au SUPPORT ON THE GOLD COAST My Own Midwife: myownmidwifegc.com Midwives First: midwivesfirst.com.au Coastal Midwives: www.coastalmidwives.com.au

This fits with the current strong focus that health policies have on ‘woman centred care’ – that is, having your care needs (and those of the baby) focused around each individual woman. It’s a concept that’s designed to give you the power of active involvement in your care, and it’s a responsibility you should take seriously. As the National Guidance on Collaborative Maternity Care states: “Important concepts for woman-centred communication include informed choice, informed consent and informed refusal of recommendations for care.”

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Designed by the Sunshine Coast’s leading women’s health specialists, this 45-minute class will help you prepare for the birth of your little one and assist in your recovery after birth. Bubs & Bumps is a fantastic opportunity to nurture yourself and connect with other mums-to-be and mums from the second trimester of pregnancy through until your baby is four months old.

The classes are held indoors in a private and very relaxed warm water environment. A maximum of just 12 women per class ensures quality one on one time with the instructor, and allows individual progress to be monitored to ensure the exercises you are prescribed are specific to your needs.

Bubs & Bumps classes will commence in November 2015 across all Swim Fit Aquatic Centres. Bookings are essential and class numbers are strictly limited, so contact your nearest Swim Fit centre now to book your spot.

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SO, YOU HAVE JUST FOUND OUT YOU’RE EXPECTING AGAIN. IF YOUR LAST BABY WAS BORN BY CAESAREAN SECTION, YOU MAY THINK THAT MEANS YOUR NEXT BABY WILL HAVE TO BE BORN THE SAME WAY. WHILE THIS MAY BE TRUE AS THERE ARE NO GUARANTEES IN BIRTH, THIS IS NOT THE ONLY OPTION. A VAGINAL BIRTH AFTER CAESAREAN, ALSO KNOWN AS VBAC, IS ALSO ONE OF THE OPTIONS AVAILABLE TO EXPECTING MOTHERS WHO HAVE PREVIOUSLY HAD A CAESAREAN BIRTH. With 32% of all births in Australia being by caesarean section, many women face the decision about what to do for their subsequent births. So, what are the choices, the risks and the rewards of choosing a VBAC. And why is it so important to some women?

women, however, there are individual specific considerations which may increase the potential harms associated with planned VBAC. Facilitating shared decision making will enable women to make informed decisions about their birth options.

The decision to plan a VBAC can be daunting as women carry with them the emotions and the experience of their previous birth. The success rate of a VBAC is as high as, if not higher than, a vaginal birth for first-time mums. And the chance of a successful vaginal birth is the same for most previous caesarean mums as it is for any other mum, varying from 70 per cent to 90 per cent dependant on the kind of caregiver and hospital chosen. Yet only a minority of women opt for a VBAC.

There is often discussion about the risks of VBAC as there is a slight increase in the chance that a woman’s previous scar will rupture during labour. Currently that risk is believed to be 0.5 percent or 1 in 200 births.

The VBAC information page on the website of the Government of Western Australia Department of Health states: The risk of uterine rupture is less than all the other risks for women in labour i.e. Baby not coping with contractions during labour (fetal distress), shoulder dystocia (where the shoulders get stuck after the head is born), postpartum haemorrhage (excessive bleeding after the baby is born) or cord prolapse (where the umbilical cord comes before the head of the baby).

Only about 28% of Australian women who have had one previous caesarean currently choose to try a VBAC. This may be due to fear of not achieving a VBAC or they may simply not want to go through the trial of labour to have it end in a repeat caesarean.

Some women are comfortable with their previous caesarean and are happy to choose it again. Whatever the reason for their decisions, women should be supported to make an informed choice to decide on the type of birth they want.

The ‘Queensland Clinical Guidelines: Vaginal birth after caesarean section (VBAC)’ released by the Department of Health in July 2015 states:

Having a caesarean increases the risk to mother and baby for every subsequent birth, regardless whether the mode of birth is a VBAC or an ERCS. For most women, having a VBAC is the less risky choice of those two options, as an ERCS carries higher rates of haemorrhage, hysterectomy and placenta accrete in future pregnancies. Having a VBAC rather than a repeat caesarean can drastically reduce the risks to mother and child.

There are infrequent, significant clinical harms with both planned VBAC and ERCS [elective repeat caesarean section]. Findings from a large systematic review concluded planned VBAC is a reasonable and safe choice for most

No birth option is risk free and every woman has different factors that will influence the value she places on each set of risk. Only the expecting mother can decide what is more or less important, as each woman and her previous experience and current pregnancy is

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the mother’s own skin bacteria, which passes vital antibodies onto the child.

unique. Health care professionals can and should help each woman to go through the relative risks and give her the information she needs to make the choice that best suits her and her particular circumstances.

One great motivating factor in trying for a VBAC is that the mother is far less likely to be separated from their baby, unless the baby requires special help.

In comparison, a baby born by caesarean is often routinely separated from its mother at birth. For some, this is just for five minutes while the baby is warmed and dried and a paediatrician does a few checks. For some, this separation is far longer as some hospitals have a policy of not allowing a baby into recovery with its mother unless a midwife is available to care for the baby while the mother is cared for by the theatre recovery staff. This separation can last many hours and can cause great distress for some women.

THE REWARDS There are many reasons for women choosing to attempt a VBAC and it could be to achieve just one or a combination of the following rewards.

Since medical induction for a VBAC is contraindicated, most women will begin to labour spontaneously. It is now believed that the baby’s lungs being fully matured is one of the things that starts labour, along with a peak in the love hormone, Oxytocin, and the breastfeeding hormone, Prolactin.

Spontaneous onset of labour helps mothers to ensure that their baby is fully ready to be born and assists with bonding and milk coming in quickly.

It is for these reasons some women who chose a repeat caesarean may prefer to wait for labour to start spontaneously before going to hospital for a caesarean, thereby allowing their baby to choose its birthday. Of course, sometimes a baby needs to be born before spontaneous labour is able to occur and mothers, being the fierce creatures they are, fight hard to ensure their baby receives the same benefits.

Last but not least, some women experience an immense sense of satisfaction in giving birth vaginally. This is often one of the greatest motivators however is also the quickest thing to be discarded by mothers in the face of anything wrong with their baby and a caesarean section being necessary. Women who feel like this sometimes face judgement for wanting to know what it is like to birth vaginally, yet it has to be acknowledged as a main motivator.

I witnessed a conversation recently between two friends and first-time mothers who had both just given birth and were reunited in the postpartum ward. They talked about their births and how no one would have been able to explain to them what birth was like prior to them going through it, and I mused that this is what some caesarean mothers must feel after their births – the sense of not knowing what it is like.

Another reason many women try hard to have a VBAC is so they can avoid major abdominal surgery and be up and out of bed and able to care for their new baby and any older siblings much quicker than they would be after a ERCS. Babies who are born vaginally also have lower rates of admission to the neonatal intensive care unit (NICU) and overall better health outcomes in the long term, with lower rates of diabetes, asthma and obesity. There is currently much research being conducted to understand why this is, however it is generally believed to be due to the way a baby’s skin and gut is colonised with bacteria during the birth. Babies born by caesarean section are usually handled more by hospital staff than those born vaginally, and this is thought to lead to babies being colonised with hospital bacteria rather than

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All caesarean mothers understand what it is to lay down on a theatre bed and accept major surgery for the sake of their baby, so it is fair to say they, like most mothers, are a selfless group of women as a caesarean is no small thing. However, the wistful longing to understand what a natural birth is like can be powerful in many women and the sense of wonder after trying for a VBAC and succeeding can be overwhelming for many women.

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• Type of care: Midwifery care is more likely to result in a VBAC than obstetric care. Midwives are the experts in ‘normal’ birth and a VBAC birth is essentially the same as any other vaginal birth with just the slight extra risk of rupture. Midwives are well equipped to observe when a birth requires assistance from other health care providers.

The International Caesarean Awareness Network (ICAN) has a huge amount of information on caesareans as well as VBAC, and countless birth stories that may help women understand their options going forward. There are also many forums and FB groups where women gather to share their stories and gain encouragement and support.

• Spontaneous onset of labour.

Whatever option you choose for your next birth after having had a caesarean section, always remember you have choices. Speak with your midwife or doctor to discuss all the available options, look at the resources online and join a support group to explore what is best for you and your baby. Always remember…the choice for your baby’s birth is yours.

There are a number of factors that can help a woman have a successful VBAC, should she want one: • Type of hospital: Public hospitals in general have a higher rate of success for VBACs as they have higher rates of vaginal births than private hospitals. If you have several hospitals in your area to choose from, you may wish to call them to find out their VBAC success rates.

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• Continuity of care: Women receiving care from the same caregiver the whole way through their pregnancy have a higher rate of VBAC success.

Queensland Centre for Mothers & Babies – ‘Choosing how to birth your baby: A decision aid for women with a previous caesarean section’ www.havingababy.org.au

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Inspire Me Naturally offers an extensive range of beautiful items to nurture the health and wellbeing of the whole family, including Himalayan Crystal Rock Salt Lamps and other products such as ultrasonic diffusers, coconut oil products and essential oils.

BENEFITS OF HIMALAYAN NATURAL SALT LAMPS If you have ever experienced the air at a waterfall, on a mountain top, at the seashore or after a thunderstorm, then you have experienced the results of negative ions and you know how the air smells fresher and how much easier it is to breathe. Many studies have shown various benefits of Himalayan natural salt lamps.

Himalayan natural salt lamps can: • provide relief from hay fever, asthma, allergies and sinus-related illnesses • reduce stress and depression • increase mental alertness and concentration • enhance the immune system • purify the air • eliminate cigarette smoke odours around the home • reduce electro-magnetic pollution • aid in the healing process • create a soothing, relaxing, calming and refreshing environment.

HOW DO SALT LAMPS ACTUALLY WORK? Himalayan Salt Crystal Lamps are a natural negative ion generator. Salt is naturally hygroscopic which means it naturally attracts moisture. The interaction of humid air with the surface of a salt crystal releases negative ions. When a salt crystal is heated slightly, it generates negative ions. In order to facilitate this, a small light bulb (usually 7 to 40 watts) or tea light is placed inside a salt crystal. Therefore, it is important to remember that any salt crystal lamps or tea light holders under normal conditions will only generate negative ions when it is warmed by the internal light bulb or tea light. The size of the salt crystal lamp and the conditions of the surrounding area, will ultimately determine the radiant effect of a negative ion discharge.

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REBECCA: My first was on time but then they got earlier… and earlier. Stupid PPROM and stupid IC. 38, 25, 37, 26, 34 and 31 weeks.

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KYLIE: Drugs.

TINA: My doula!

WHAT BABY PRODUCTS DID YOU FIND YOU JUST DIDN’T NEED? AND WHAT WERE THE THINGS YOU COULDN’T LIVE WITHOUT? GAIL: Lots of hugs and love, food – either breast or bottle, home-made veges – he wouldn’t eat stuff out of jars, nor would his sister, dry behind and warm bed.

Really, they don’t need much more – all the stuff just is a total waste of money.

Nighties, blankets, bonnets, mittens, booties, a pram for a walk and MORE LOVE AND HUGS.

CHARLOTTE: Bumbo!

Couldn’t live without the muslin wraps/ burp cloths/blankies – they’re so versatile!

AMY: Change table is one bulky expensive thing I’ll never buy again. I just changed my baby on a mat wherever!

SYNDA: Bumbo and Baby Bjorn Bouncer.

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KELLY: Three kids later and so many things I may have not needed but did LOVE. Loved my nappy bin!

Did need my cot. So many things depend on different children and different parents. I DID NOT need a Bumbo or baby bath for long. I went without a Jolly Jumper (but some parents swear by this for sanity).

My first two never had swings but it was a lifesaver for my third! Although I didn’t use their cot mobiles heaps it was precious at certain ages. I would suggest functionality depends on certain people’s needs (basics, helpful functions, or beyond). I would imagine the responses to this question will vary greatly and be quite personal?

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…STORING AND FEEDING Medela’s Breastfeeding Starter Kit contains a range of products for the breastfeeding mum. Whether a mother is exclusively breastfeeding or additionally pumping, the Breastfeeding Starter Kit is an easy and safe solution to collect, store and feed. It is also easy to sanitise. Each set contains one Calma teat, two 150ml bottles with multi-lid, 12 disposable nursing pads, Purelan 100 nipple cream, one QuickClean microwave bag and five Pump&Save bags.

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GET CLOSER TO NATURE Tommee Tippee has introduced the Closer to Nature Express and Go system to make life easier for mums who express. The range uses a single pouch to express, store, warm and feed your child, so there’s no need to transfer milk at any stage and you’ll never lose a precious drop.

The Complete Breast Milk Starter Set includes two extra slow flow teats, a breast pump adapter set, 20 breast milk pouches, a pouch and bottle warmer, a breast milk storage case, and two breast milk pouch bottles with slow flow teats.

The range is available at Babies R Us, Baby Bunting and Big W. Find out more at www.closertonaturebaby.com.au.

PRETTY IN PINK Holster has launched its first super soft, ultra-cute ballet with a pretty pink bow trim for the tiniest of tots. Made from soft PU upper, velour lining and a twill outsole, the adorable style is available in pretty pink and winter white. RRP $24.99. To find out more visit www.holsterfashion.com.

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BREASTFEED IN STYLE The Laila & Spot versatile Cube Tee makes breastfeeding easy and looks great too!

The longer length is perfect for over leggings, skirts or jeans, and it is available in two colourways: red, black and white or blue, black and white. It features a ‘second skin’ for easy breastfeeding and a hidden zip pocket.

This is a standout piece to bring a splash of colour to your wardrobe. It is made from light breathable viscose/Spandex and cotton/Spandex and comes in sizes small to extra large.

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ADD SOME STYLE TO THOSE NAPPY CHANGES The Meister and Me Nappy Change Clutch is an absolute essential for any new mum. It features two internal pockets designed to hold your wipes and nappies, as well as a padded waterproof change mat. These clutches allow you to change your baby anywhere! RRP $49. Available in various prints. See www.meisterandme.com for more details.

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AN AWESOME GIFT FOR AN AWESOME NEW DAD The ‘New Dad’ Bloke Box is a unique gift for any expecting father! New dads are sometimes forgotten or get stuck with baby items made for only the mother. The products included are perfect for both dad and baby – your other half will be the coolest dad going around! Items in the box for dad include a camo patterned nappy bag, basic training book Pocket Commando Dad, two earplugs for when he’s off duty, and two nose pegs for those smelly situations!

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UNEXPECTED CHANGES TO YOUR BODY AFTER BUB

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For new mums, information on what to expect when you are expecting normally only extends to your bundle of joy and how you can both navigate through this unfamiliar territory unscathed. But in the haze of the early days you may stop for a second to look in the mirror, wondering where that radiant pregnancy glow went, why your favourite pair of shoes is now one size too small and why earning your stripes has a different connotation now that your body has been stretched to its limits.

Mater Mothers’ Hospital in Brisbane encourages women to move well and get plenty of rest during their pregnancy to help with the recovery of their body post-birth. Reducing excess strain can help protect the tummy and pelvic floor muscles.

Sunshine Coast author and mother-of-two Rebecca Mugridge says adjusting to life as a mum was a challenge in itself, let alone dealing with the visible changes to her body after giving birth to her daughters.

“My body was very different and I didn’t feel like myself anymore after putting on more than 30kg during my first pregnancy. I felt ugly, overweight and extremely stressed,” says Rebecca.

Expectations and preconditioned imagery of what a woman’s body will look like after having a baby don’t always match the reality, from that belly bump that doesn’t seem to want to budge to shedding more hair than the family cat. Knowledge of what to expect, the longevity of these changes and how to embrace these newfound womanly curves can make the transition into motherhood a little less rocky and the road forward a lot smoother.

“I had this expectation that my body would bounce back, like the celebrities bodies do. I felt this pressure to look like I did pre-pregnancy and was surprised by the many changes that had happened to my body.”

After feeling like she was trapped within her own house and her own body, Rebecca decided to start walking with her baby in her pram to get some fresh air and a new perspective. Building back up her confidence with each step she was taking, Rebecca used her personal experience of the changes to her post-birth body to write the parenting book, The Pram Diet.

Obstetrician and gynaecologist Dr Robyn Aldridge says there isn’t a strong focus among expecting mothers to discuss or seek information on the changes that occur to their bodies after birth, with many understandably more focused on the labour.

Dr Aldridge says changes in the size and shape of the abdomen, breasts and feet, as well as hair loss and a weak pelvic floor are particularly common occurrences for most women after having a baby.

“Even after all the walking there are still saggy bits on my tummy and stretch marks, but I have embraced these changes and have let go of that image I had of my younger self pre-baby,” Rebecca says.

“It is important for women to expect some or all of these changes and recognise that they are part of the process,” she says.

“I became more realistic that, as a mum, I am going to look different and that my tummy is going to be a little saggy from now on.”

“It will take time to recover, but if you’re worried about any particular ramifications, it is a good idea to discuss them with your obstetrician at the postnatal visit – usually six weeks after birth.”

WHAT GOES UP MUST COME DOWN In life what goes up, in most cases, has to come down. As a new mum, this isn’t something that you expect to relate to your cup size. With increased levels of hormones pumping through the body during pregnancy, many expecting mums may notice that their breasts have gotten bigger. Despite all the stretching and growing the body goes through during this time, some mums notice that they have a smaller cup size, months after giving birth.

A LITTLE EXTRA BAGGAGE Feeling like a so-called ‘yummy mummy’ in the early days is a phrase many new mums don’t feel they can relate to. After the abdominal muscles have stretched and strained over the nine-month pregnancy, what’s left for many women is a little extra, unwanted baggage. www.kidsonthecoast.com.au

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DON’T FORGET THOSE PELVIC FLOOR EXERCISES

Writer and mother Jenn Rian has seen the humorous side to the change in her cup size, creating the hashtag #ThingsThatLookLikeMyPostBabyBoobs. Using everyday items and placing them on her chest to illustrate how her body has changed, Jenn has likened her breasts to such things as deflated balloons and bread dough.

It’s drilled into you from the start of your pregnancy right through to after bub is born, but those simple pelvic floor exercises you do while brushing your teeth actually make a world of difference.

WHEN THE SHOE DOESN’T FIT

Exercise physiologist Esme Soan says 50% of women have some degree (symptomatic or asymptomatic) of pelvic organ prolapse postpartum. She says it is very important to do your pelvic floor exercises every day with 92% of mums with stress urinary incontinence at 12 weeks postpartum still having issues five years down the track.

A big surprise for some new mums after having their baby is the discovery that their favourite pair of heels no longer fit. This is extremely confusing for a sleepdeprived mum who can’t quite work out why all the shoes in her wardrobe have now shrunk.

Doctors believe that due to the extra weight and increased looseness of joints during pregnancy, the arch of the foot can in fact flatten out.

“The pelvic floor is a complex web of muscle, fascia and fibrous tissue. It functions to support the pelvic organs and help control bladder and bowel function,” Esme says.

Rebecca says after making peace with all the changes to her body after giving birth to her two girls, she was shocked to discover after her second pregnancy she could no longer fit into her shoes.

“At the end of pregnancy the weight of the baby on the pelvic floor has been found to be equivalent to a 100kg man standing on a trampoline.

“I knew that sometimes your feet swelled during pregnancy, but I was unaware that your feet can increase in size completely and even become wider,” she says.

“Many mothers I see are really keen to get back into shape and exercise after having their baby, but steps should be taken to repair and protect the pelvic floor prior to engaging in any high impact or high intensity exercise.”

“There are all these heels and boots that I can no longer wear. It could be seen as a good excuse to go shoe shopping.”

Esme says five great exercises that are appropriate and pelvic floor safe for pregnancy and postpartum include:

HAIR LOSS During pregnancy, most women are thrilled to witness their hair growing at a rapid rate and, in some cases, becoming thicker. This is caused by an increase in oestrogen levels in the body, which prolong the growing phase of your hair and result in less hair falling out. A pregnant woman will lose less hair on a daily basis compared to what she did beforehand.

• squats (can be onto a chair or with assistance from a Swiss ball) • any aerobic work such as bike, walking, deepwater running, aqua aerobics, swimming, dancing, jogging or whatever you enjoy • wall push-ups

However, once bub is born, it is very common for these luscious locks to shed as the hormone levels in the body drop.

• side planks • belly breathing – inhale and let your belly expand and pelvic floor relax. Then exhale and gently draw up your pelvic floor and imagine drawing your belly button to your spine to engage your lower abdominals.

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Personal trainer and mother-of-two Cassandra Porter runs a ‘me time’ mums fitness class in Brisbane, encouraging women to dedicate some time to themselves, nurturing and empowering their bodies.

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Cassandra says the ‘me time’ class is about mums looking after and caring for themselves, while releasing those feel-good endorphins that make you feel calm and relaxed.

Mater Mother’s Private Hospital: www.matermothers.org.au

Dr Robyn Aldridge, obstetrician and gynaecologist (Eve Health): www.evehealth.com.au

Esme Soan, exercise physiologist (Pear Exercise Physiology Pregnancy & Women’s Health): www.pearpregnancy.com.au

“As women, we spend so much time devoted to our children and our family. It’s equally important to look after ourselves as well as feel positive about our bodies,” she says.

Rebecca Mugridge, author: www.authorrebeccamugridge.com

“My body went through so many changes after having my two girls, but I acknowledged that it was all part of the process. At the end of the day you have created this amazing human being – that’s what is most important.”

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Cassandra Porter, personal trainer (Positive BODY Personal & Group Training): Email positivebodypt@live.com Raising Children’s Network: www.raisingchildren.net.au Pregnancy, Birth & Baby: www.pregnancybirthbaby.org.au

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COMMON ailments babies face in their first 12 months

by Belinda Hopper IT IS DIFFICULT TO SEE YOUR BABY SICK OR IN PAIN, ESPECIALLY IN THE MIDDLE OF THE NIGHT WHEN HELP IS LEAST ACCESSIBLE. SO HERE’S A LIST OF THE MOST COMMON AILMENTS BABIES FACE IN THEIR FIRST YEAR OF LIFE. This should not replace the consultation and advice of your doctor. Rather, consider it your middle-of-thenight, first port of call in finding out the likely reasons for your baby’s discomfort. Trust your instincts: call an ambulance if you think it’s serious. But be encouraged that in most cases, this too shall pass.

BABY ACNE Around six weeks of age baby’s face can suddenly be inflamed with infantile acne, due to mum’s hormones still coursing through their system. In rare cases, it may be due to a hormone imbalance.

Symptoms: Baby’s face appears red with white pimply pustules and blackheads that persist for about a month.

Treatment: Avoid thick moisturisers and clean their face with a washcloth, gentle cleanser and running water. It should clear up in a month or so. For prolonged cases, the doctor may prescribe topical medications or refer to an endocrinologist.

COLIC

Symptoms: Around three weeks old, baby starts to scream for about three hours at a time, often starting early evening, until they fall asleep, exhausted. They writhe, clench their fists, arch their backs and even vomit.

Treatment: Some babies are soothed by lying tummy-down along your forearm. Speak with your doctor about wind drops, gripe water or probiotics to alleviate tummy problems. Try changing formulas if your baby is formula fed. If breastfed, speak with your health professional about foods you eat that may cause sensitivity.

Monitor your baby’s response to stimuli and avoid things that trigger or worsen colic. Swaddle them firmly and create a calm environment with soothing music. Sucking a dummy or thumb helps some babies self-soothe. Colicky babies prefer movement: try a sling or walks in the pram. It’s exhausting caring for a colicky baby, but they still thrive and grow out of it as suddenly as they develop it.

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Internal discomfit may be due to an immature digestive system, acid reflux because of an immature oesophageal sphincter or sensitivity to food passed through the mother’s milk. In their first month, babies block out their environment to sleep. After that, some develop colic as a stress response to external stimuli.

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high-fibre foods such as pureed prunes, pears and barley cereal, and decreasing low-fibre foods such as bananas and rice cereal. A bottle of water with liquid from boiled prunes can help. Give your baby tummy time or crawling time, and lay them on their back and move their legs. If increased fluid and fibre doesn’t help, the doctor may prescribe a mild laxative, suppository or enema.

COLDS Babies’ immune systems are immature, making them vulnerable to the 200+ viruses that cause colds.

Symptoms: One of the first symptoms is nasal congestion. The mucus might start out clear and then turn yellowish or green. Sniffily noses, fevers, persistent coughs and loss of appetite are common.

Treatments: Babies under three months with a fever above 38 degrees need to be seen by a doctor immediately, preferrably in an emergency department.

There are a variety of serious infections which can be life threatening in young babies. Babies need a lot of fluids when they have a temperature, but a blocked nose makes it hard to feed. Fifteen minutes before feeding, turn on a vaporiser with a few drops of menthol or eucalyptus oil to let the steam clear their nasal passages. Put a few drops of saline in one nostril at a time and use a syringe to suction out the mucus.

Cough and cold medicines should not be given to babies. Ibuprofen can be given for fever to babies over 3 months old (please refer to the dose on the bottle based on your child’s weight), however please seek medical advice as soon as possible.

CRADLE CAP

CONSTIPATION

Diarrhoea is when bowel motions are watery instead of formed. Viral or bacterial infection, parasites, antibiotics or food allergies are known causes. The danger is dehydration from fluid loss, so look out for lethargy, dry eyes, dry mouth and fewer wet nappies.

Cradle cap is a yeast crust that forms on a baby’s scalp. It’s a dermatitis that develops between one month and two years, because mum’s hormones still in baby’s system overstimulate their oil glands.

Symptoms: It may present as a light smattering, or the baby’s head may be covered with waxy scales stuck to their scalp in hues of yellow, orange and pink.

Treatment: Massage some olive oil into their scalp every few days and wash it out with mild shampoo.

Never pick the scabs off, as this can lead to permanent bald patches. Use a soft baby hairbrush to sweep away dry flakes. The doctor may prescribe medicated shampoo in severe cases.

DIARRHOEA

It is normal for breastfed babies to pass a bowel motion anywhere from 10 times a day to once a fortnight. Formula-fed babies usually pass a bowel motion every day. If babies on solids have not used their bowel for three days or their daily stools are hard and difficult to pass, they are constipated. If it hurts to push, the less likely they will try. A buildup leads to a misshapen colon, which reduces the sensation of needing to go, affecting their long-term ability to pass a bowel motion unassisted.

Symptoms: Baby’s bowel movements suddenly become more frequent and take on a sloppy consistency. They may have increased thirst and a loss of appetite, a temperature or abdominal cramps.

Treatment: List what your baby has eaten in the previous 24 hours. Note changes to their diet that may have caused the diarrhoea. Keep fluids up and their diet bland. Yoghurt helps to replenish their gut flora. Track the frequency of diarrhoea to monitor fluid loss and don’t introduce new foods until it has passed. Your doctor may prescribe an electrolyte solution to help rehydration. Your baby requires medical attention if they have a high fever, bloody diarrhoea, abdominal pain, vomiting or weight loss.

Symptoms: Most constipation starts when solid foods are introduced. Watch for blood in the nappy, which suggests a rectal fissure caused by a hard stool. Baby may have a hard or painful lower abdomen, be restless and cranky, or cry when they strain to pass a motion.

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Trust your instincts: call an ambulance’s if you think it serious.

EAR INFECTIONS Ear infections are common because the Eustachian tube between baby’s ears and throat is flat, allowing fluid to accumulate in the middle ear, producing a culture for germs. The infected fluid presses on the eardrum, producing intense pain.

Symptoms: Baby may pull their ears, become restless or cry in pain, especially when lying down or feeding. They may also develop a fever and diarrhoea.

Treatment: Give ibuprofen for pain and fever (for babies over 3 months – refer to the dose on the bottle based on your child’s weight). Feed in an upright position so formula or milk cannot enter the ear canal. See the doctor if you suspect an ear infection as they may need antibiotics. Recurring infections may require a simple ear grommet surgery.

ECZEMA Eczema is a genetic skin irritation and sensitivity that results in dry, inflamed, itchy skin that usually develops on a baby’s cheeks, neck, underarms, elbows or behind the knees. Babies who develop eczema have a greater risk of developing allergies and asthma.

NAPPY RASH A baby’s skin is vulnerable to irritation, especially when trapped inside a nappy rubbing up against urine and faeces. The chemicals in soaps and creams used to clean and moisturise their bottom may also contribute to a persistent, painful nappy rash.

Symptoms: Eczema presents as a red, inflamed, itchy rash that may be dry and scaly, crusty or weepy, particularly if it has been scratched or rubbed. It usually shows up around the three-month mark as dryness on the cheeks and may slowly develop on other parts of the body.

Symptoms: A red, painful rash around baby’s genitals, anus and bottom cheeks that may develop little white pustules.

Treatment: Trim baby’s nails so they can’t scratch.

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Treatment: Check your baby’s nappy often and change it as soon as you notice it’s soiled, leaving enough room for some airflow. Use fragrance-free wipes and smear a zinc-based barrier cream on each time you change their nappy. Use soap-free washes in the bath to maintain their PH balance. Gently pat your baby’s bottom completely dry after a bath. Lay them on a towel without a nappy and let them kick freely for 15 minutes each day.

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Every baby experiences teething differently. Some have no symptoms while others are out of sorts for months. Baby’s first tooth can appear as early as three months and as late as twelve months, but the norm is around seven months.

Symptoms: Common teething symptoms include drooling, rashes on the cheeks, biting or chewing, refusal to feed, sleeplessness, general irritability, tugging at ears and crying. Teething may cause bleeding under the gums, which presents as a bluish lump. Some babies develop low-grade fever.

Treatment: Cold teething rings and wet washers can provide something to bear down on to alleviate sore gums. Babies like cold, soft food when their gums are sore. Amber teething necklaces are not recommended as they pose a choking hazard.

Topical teething gels numb baby’s gums for temporary relief.

URINARY TRACT INFECTION (UTI) Babies develop urinary tract infections (UTIs) when bacteria enter the urinary tract or from blockages.

UTIs are an inflammation and infection that may affect any part of the urinary tract. UTIs are more common in boys than girls and more common in noncircumcised than circumcised boys.

WIND Babies tend to gulp down air with their milk, trapping it in their tummy and causing discomfort.

Symptoms: Sometimes a fever is the only symptom.

Other symptoms include unexplained crying or irritability, crying when urinating, cloudy or bloody urine, diarrhoea or odd-smelling urine. A boy’s penis may become red and swollen.

Symptoms: Baby may stop feeding before they are full to writhe and cry in discomfort.

Treatment: Breastfed babies have less wind as they have better control over milk flow. You can help bottle-fed babies by holding them upright and tilting the bottle up so there is no air in the teat. After every feed hold your baby over your shoulder and massage their back to encourage them to burp. Or try sitting them up, their chin resting in your hand, or lay them across your lap. Have a cloth handy as they may bring up some milk with the air.

Treatment: Newborns are usually hospitalised for treatment with IV antibiotics. Take your baby to the doctor if you suspect a UTI, as it can lead to longterm damage of the kidneys, even kidney failure.

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PERHAPS THE MOST BASIC OF REQUIREMENTS FOR YOUR BABY CAN OFTEN BE FRAUGHT WITH A MIXTURE OF CONFUSION, FRUSTRATION AND GUILT. WE’VE SIFTED THROUGH THE BOTTLES, BOOBS AND BREAST PUMPS TO EXPLAIN YOUR OPTIONS FOR FEEDING YOUR BABY. BREASTFEEDING

getting enough milk. The ABA advocates feeding on demand and observing signs of hunger as opposed to following feeding schedules. “A baby’s tummy is approximately the size of a clenched fist, so it will need to be fed little amounts at regular intervals. It’s common for young babies to be fed up to 12 times over a 24 hour period,” says Dr Griffiths.

The original food source since the beginning of time, breast milk is perfectly designed by nature for human infants. The benefits of breastfeeding are vast and research has proven its ability to build resistance to infection and disease as well as reducing the risk of allergy and food intolerance.

The Australian Breastfeeding Association (ABA) is Australia’s leading authority on breastfeeding and responsible for education and support for mothers throughout their breastfeeding experience. ABA spokesperson Dr Maya Griffiths says that the official recommendation is for mothers to breastfeed their baby exclusively for the first six months. The World Health Organisation furthers this by saying that breastfeeding should continue until the age of two.

This is a statement that the ABA also supports.

“Is my baby getting enough” is a common question asked by breastfeeding mothers.

“From birth, the colostrum that a baby receives in breast milk is vital for their health and contains antibodies which fight infection. An older baby benefits from breastfeeding due to the fatty acids which are unique to breast milk and assist in brain development. You simply can’t replace that in formula,” Dr Griffiths says.

• Gaining weight and generally alert and active.

The following signs indicate that your baby is receiving enough breast milk: • Breastfeeding frequently – at least 8 times over 24 hours • Plenty of pale, wet nappies – at least 5 disposable or 68 cloth nappies in 24 hours • Two or more soft bowel motions a day Sometimes despite the best of intentions, things don’t go to plan. The serene image of a mother breastfeeding her child is one that’s ingrained in many of us. The reality, as many mothers discover, can be quite different.

“It’s important for new mothers to remember that breastfeeding is a learned skill,” says Dr Griffiths. But she reassures that support is on hand for mothers who are having problems with breastfeeding. “It’s vital to get the right help as early as possible.”

It’s not just the baby that benefits. Breastfeeding mothers release relaxing feel-good hormones that help in bonding with baby. Research also confirms that breastfeeding assists in post-pregnancy weight loss, can prevent osteoporosis and reduce the risk of developing breast and ovarian cancer.

Support options include the ABA 24 hour help line 1800 mum 2 mum (1800 686 268), email counselling via the ABA website (www.breastfeeding.asn.au), group meetings and home visits. “Lactation consultants will often visit twice daily in those first few days to establish a good pattern with breast feeding,” she says.

The breastfeeding relationship between mother and baby is one of nature’s miracles. Your baby and your own body are hardwired to know instinctively what to do. Your breasts make milk in response to your baby’s sucking. The more milk the baby takes, the more milk you make. This is sometimes the solution for mothers concerned about their baby not www.kidsonthecoast.com.au

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nutrients such as Omega 3 and probiotics,” he says.

The other major ingredient in formula is protein and this can consist of cow’s milk-based whey protein or casein. Formulas that are whey dominant or even 100% whey are often advised for younger babies as they are easier to digest and can limit common side effects from formula use such as constipation.

Breastfeeding in public is a topical issue with instances of mothers being banned from public places reported in the media. “It’s unfortunate that the sexualisation of women’s breasts can interfere with public opinion on breastfeeding and in turn effect a mother’s decision to breastfeed her baby,” says Dr Griffiths. Whether to breastfeed in public or not is the personal decision of a mother and according to the Sex Discrimination Act 1984 “it is illegal in Australia to discriminate against a person either directly or indirectly on the grounds of breastfeeding.” While for some, private mothers rooms provide the safe place desired to breastfeed while out and about, the ABA suggest that as experience with breastfeeding grows, mothers will be more confident about their decision to do so in public spaces.

Dr Lapsys adds that formula-fed babies often consume a greater volume of milk when compared to breastfed babies. “With breastfeeding you can never be fully certain the volume of milk the baby is receiving. Formula is much more controlled and some babies who have been upset and unsettled may suddenly sleep better or be generally happier once that volume is increased,” he says.

Parents are faced with a confusing array of options when selecting a formula for their baby. Marketing claims on the tin can all be subtly different and there’s much to consider. Often it can be a case of trial and error in finding the right one for your baby. As your baby changes, so does its nutritional requirements and it’s important that your choice of formula transitions through the various stages.

Parents are urged to seek advice from their doctor or child health consultant.

INFANT FORMULA Infant formula is the only alternative for young babies who aren’t receiving breastmilk.

The decision to formula feed is a personal one and can be due to a variety of medical or social reasons. Some women, despite their best attempts at breastfeeding, are simply unable to provide adequate nutrition for their child from breastfeeding alone.

The Infant Nutrition Council is the peak body for the infant formula industry in Australia and New Zealand and is responsible for education and the regulation of the formula industry. “We know that breastmilk is best, but if a baby doesn’t get breastmilk then it’s important they have a scientifically proven substitute,” says CEO Jan Carey.

Parents can be reassured that the nutritional needs of their children can be fulfilled by infant formula.

“Formula is the most regulated food product in the Australian market,” says Jan.

The decision to formula feed is a personal one and can be due to a variety of medical or social reasons.

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While some mothers are physically unable to breastfeed, some prefer bottle over breast for more personal reasons. Stella is a mother of two who decided from birth that breastfeeding wasn’t something she was comfortable with. “Although I had my reservations, I tried breastfeeding my first baby.

But we had problems latching on so I had him on formula from then. I also expressed for the first five months. For my second baby I knew straight away I didn’t want to breastfeed and came to hospital prepared with my bottles,” she says. Stella suffered a lot of guilt over her decision and was on the receiving end of criticism from hospital staff and friends.

“My children are older now and I don’t regret my decision for a minute. They’re happy, healthy kids and performing really well at school. To feel like you love your children less because you formula fed them isn’t fair,” she says.

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LEARNING HOW TO BREASTFEED

by Eva Lewis

COMPLEMENTARY FEEDING Complementary feeding is the combination of breastfeeding and bottle feeding with formula. For some mothers this may be the solution to assist reentry into the workforce or to keep their baby well fed if experiencing a dwindling supply of breast milk.

BREAST IS BEST….

WE KNOW

by Simone Bell

For mothers who have only ever breastfed, there are some new considerations to take on. When having formula, babies also need to drink water to maintain adequate hydration as constipation is a common complaint of formula fed babies.

Also of particular importance is maintaining strict hygiene standards by thoroughly sterilising bottles and any other equipment as formula fed babies don’t receive the same protection from infection as breastfed babies.

Regardless of the way in which you choose to feed your baby, it’s important to watch for signs that your chosen method may not be agreeing with your child.

Consult your doctor or local child health nurse with any questions or concerns.

ATTACHMENT ISSUES

by Michelle Vogrinec

Editor’s note: This article was published originally in issue Sunshine Coast 57 (2013).

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Goodnight,

Sleep Right

by Cassy Small

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HAS THERE EVER BEEN A LESS ACCURATE SAYING THAN THE COMMONLY QUOTED ‘SLEEPING LIKE A BABY’? UNDOUBTEDLY THERE’S NOTHING MORE BEAUTIFUL THAN WATCHING THE SOFT EBB AND FLOW OF BREATH FROM A PEACEFULLY SLEEPING BABE BUT THE JOURNEY TO THAT POINT OF REST CAN OFTEN BE FRAUGHT WITH PROBLEMS AND RESULT IN TEARS FROM BOTH MOTHER AND BABY. UNDERSTANDING SLEEP

Like all of us, babies follow patterns of light and deep sleep. Older children and adults will transition easily between sleep cycles, but unless a baby is an independent sleeper they will need assistance to go back to sleep, and this is where most common problems begin.

Many of the problems associated with sleep and settling begin with a lack of understanding of what is normal baby behaviour. A series of myths and old wives tales perpetuate the problem and add overwhelm to the long list of emotions felt by an overtired mum.

Problems with sleep commonly begin when babies start to rely on things like a dummy, bottle, breastfeed, patting or rocking to help them drift off.

These sleep associations then need to be repeated at regular intervals during the night as the baby transitions back into deep sleep.

While there’s a wide variety in sleep requirements between individual babies, most under the age of one will require 13 to 15 hours sleep in a 24-hour period. “Newborns will sleep much more than a six-month-old and the requirement will gradually decrease from there,” explains Clinical Nurse Rosemary Gore of Ellen Barron Family Centre.

It’s generally at this point one of the following three sleep solutions is sought from overtired parents.

All babies follow a regular pattern of feed, awake and sleep time, and the duration of each stage will change as the baby gets older. “We talk about newborns having a 24-hour clock; they don’t generally develop day night sleep patterns until eight weeks of age,” explains Gore.

THE PRIVATE SLEEP CONSULTANT As a qualified midwife and child health nurse, Jan Murray has the depth of experience to solve a wide range of problems.

Private sleep consultants such as Jan operate independently and may work with parents via online forums, email, phone calls or in-home visits. Often it’s this outsider’s perspective which proves to be the secret ingredient to a good night’s sleep.

Until three months babies may only have one hour of awake time, inclusive of a feed, before they go back to sleep. By the time he reaches three months, this awake period can stretch to 90 minutes before having a sleep of between one to one and a half hours. “Overnight you would expect babies of this age to still require a couple of feeds well spaced overnight,” Gore adds.

While all consultants differ slightly with their approach to in-home visits, Murray sees it as an opportunity to assess how the family is doing as a unit. “I’ll have a good conversation with the parents about the issues they’re having, what they’ve tried to do and how they are coping themselves. We’ll also measure and weigh the baby. Any possible health issue needs to be ruled out before we look at solving sleep,” she says.

By six months, most babies will still need three daytime sleeps and can be awake for a couple of hours before exhibiting tired signs such as yawning and rubbing eyes. “Breastfed babies may still need a feed overnight at this age. It’s important to find that balance between nutrition and sleep as they both impact each other,” says Gore. www.kidsonthecoast.com.au

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from colic. Sleep deprived and depressed, Fran says her first visit from Jan was an eye opening and life changing experience. “She sat down with me and talked about what a normal day was like for me and then offered a routine that suited me and my situation. We talked through meal ideas and health advice and she gave me some pointers on how to correctly swaddle. After two weeks things had changed completely,” she says.

Carly Morrisby is one such happy mum, and bought her copy of Save Our Sleep when son Max was six months old. Desperate for answers and a good night’s sleep, she read the book from cover to cover, twice, to familiarise herself with the routines and philosophy. “I started the routine on a Monday and followed it pretty much to the letter. By the Friday he was sleeping through,” she says.

However, implementing Tizzie’s routine with her second child Hudson wasn’t quite as easy.

Disruptions to his routine at four months of age combined with a clingy toddler meant the strict structure was difficult to adhere to.

If required, Murray and most other private sleep consultants can do overnight visits, but this is mostly in a supporting role to parents. She says many parents feel anxious about hearing their babies cry and extra professional support is helpful. “Controlled crying is a term that has a huge stigma behind it. A little bit of monitored crying with reassurance from the parent is fine. It works. We’re certainly not leaving a baby to cry it out on their own for hours and hours,” she says.

“When Hudson was ten months I tried to go back to the routine but it was certainly more challenging than with Max. In hindsight I think I could have been more organised, but when you’re in the moment, feeling tired and your patience has all but gone, it was too tempting to take the easy option,” Carly says.

Having an in-home visit was the solution to Fran’s problems, and she’s since called on Jan again with her second baby. “I need to sit and talk to someone regarding advice. One on one is more personal and has helped me the best,” she says.

It’s easy for sleep-deprived mums to misinterpret information or feel overwhelmed by the process.

Hall recognised this and credits her success to the support network which is also associated with the Save Our Sleep franchise. “Parents can join our online support network for a $79.95 annual fee and have access to our team who are available around the clock to answer those simple questions or point parents in the right direction.”

THE BOOK Nine out of ten Australian homes with children under the age of two have one of Tizzie Hall’s books on their bookshelf, making her Australia’s biggest selling parenting author. Hall refers to her book Save Our Sleep and subsequent Feeding, Toddler and My Very First Diary companion books as ‘instruction manuals’ and says that any baby can learn to sleep if they are well-fed and warm.

Finding the solution to settling your unique little cherub in a book may seem too good to be true, but Hall says her routines have been formulated through years of observing what babies do naturally. “Many people who prefer to demand feed find their timings to be similar to the routines in my book, even though they’re not on a routine.”

Hall’s routines are considered controversial by some in the industry, but she hears from happy mums on a daily basis who swear by her feed-sleep routines. “If you follow a routine you know your baby won’t be hungry and you know your breast milk will be its best quality. If you don’t follow a routine you can end up with watery breast milk and a very hungry baby,” she says.

Hall says she has never had a baby her routines don’t work for. “There are some parents that routines don’t work for,” she says. “You have to be organised, and that isn’t always for everyone.”

Carly says that before having children she never knew sleep was so difficult. “I still tell anyone that is expecting their first child to read up on sleep issues and I suggest

Note from the Editor: Read the response to this statement by Tizzie Hall from KOTC/KITC reader and certified lactation consultant Meg Nagle here.

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While at EBFC with her five-month-old son Daniel, Sara used the ‘Comfort Settling’ technique to teach him to self-settle and cure him of a dummy addiction which saw him waking almost hourly at home. “On our first day I stayed with him and patted him to sleep, but after that we left him on his own. It was difficult at times to listen to him cry, but having the staff there to support you was such a big help. It got easier as you started seeing some results,” says Sara.

Tizzie’s book. I believe it takes dedication from the mother as it was one of the hardest weeks of my life when I did it with Max,” she says.

THE SLEEP SCHOOL Ellen Barron Family Centre (EBFC), located in the Brisbane suburb of Chermside, is often the end of a very long road for many weary parents. The centre works with children aged zero to three and provides education and support in the areas of sleep and settling, feeding, development and behaviour and general parenting.

“By the second night, we had gone from getting up to him every one to two hours to only getting up once. He still woke up and cried out a little a few times, but most of the time he would put himself back to sleep,” she adds.

Families can be referred to EBFC from their GP, paediatrician or child health nurse after the traditional path of community support hasn’t worked. It’s a free government-funded service and the only one of its kind to cater for families across Queensland, Northern Territory and Northern New South Wales.

Being a parent can be one of the hardest jobs anyone can do, and having a baby that won’t sleep can make a hard job feel impossible. Don’t be afraid to ask for help or share your experiences with other parents. There are many different approaches, theories and thoughts on the best way to assist your baby to sleep better and we have only covered a few in this article. If you have any concerns it is best to seek medical advice.

Clinical Nurse Rosemary Gore says that the most commonly presented issue is problems with sleep, and parents with babies in the 6 to 12 month age range make up the majority of those that attend.

While the age and issues can be narrowed down to a core group, Gore says they work with each family on an individual basis as there is no one size fits all solution. “We spend a lot of time initially getting to know the parents and the problems they’ve been experiencing. Depending on the age of the baby and the parent’s preferences, we’ll then use one of four techniques,” she says.

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• ‘Settling in Arms’ refers to calming, or putting the baby to sleep before being placed in the cot.

• In ‘Hands on Settling’ the baby will be placed in the cot awake, but the parent will stay with the baby and settle them in the cot.

HOW TO GET TODDLERS TO SLEEP

• ‘Comfort Settling’ is teaching the baby to put themselves to sleep without any assistance.

• For older children, the ‘Toddler in Bed’ approach encourages toddlers to sleep in their own bed without a parent being with them.

Editor’s note: This article was published originally in issue Sunshine Coast 61 (2014) and has been updated for current relevance where necessary.

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FREQUENT NIGHT WAKING IN BREASTFED BABIES AND TODDLERS: Not a problem, but the biological norm A LACTATION CONSULTANT’S PERSPECTIVE

by Meg Nagle straight hours?” The answer to both questions is, “YES!” Yet unfortunately what many women hear is that their baby should be sleeping through, that babies need to learn how to sleep longer, fall asleep without breastfeeding and that the crying or ‘protesting’ during the sleep training is what we are supposed to do.

Sleep deprivation is something every mother understands. Being pushed to the brink of insanity from frequent night waking, that feeling of being woken almost immediately after just falling asleep.

Sleep deprivation is the cruellest form of torture!

As a breastfeeding mum who is the one and only person there to feed the baby, how can she meet the nighttime needs of her breastfed baby while getting the rest she needs? What is normal for babies and toddlers who are breastfed on demand?

Should they be sleeping through the night and falling asleep by themselves?

As an International Board Certified Lactation Consultant who has worked with breastfeeding women over the past decade, and having breastfed three boys myself I come from the philosophy of following your baby and your own instincts while sharing and discussing what the evidence based research shows in terms of baby sleep patterns and what is normal. It is not only the biological norm for babies and toddlers who are breastfed on demand to wake frequently to breastfeed, but there are actually many important reasons as to why this happens.

All mothers out there questions themselves and if they are doing it “right” when it comes to sleep and how much or how little their breastfed baby is sleeping.

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Why most breastfed babies and toddlers wake frequently to breastfeed:

Your milk is literally made to help them fall asleep while breastfeeding. It is how our bodies are designed. So cool! No crying involved, just pop them on! The only way a baby can communicate is through crying. A research article published in 2011 showed that although babies stopped crying on about the third night after sleep training, their stress hormone, cortisol, was still raised. Even though they had been trained to fall asleep and were quiet and seemingly peaceful, they still had elevated stress hormones within their body6. This is a physiological response that was recorded and shows just how distressing it is for a baby, even when they are sleeping.

• Research shows that frequent night waking to breastfeed is actually a protective factor against SIDS1. Dr James McKenna has done extensive research on this topic.

• Frequent night waking helps establish and keep up your milk supply. Research shows that babies take up to 20 per cent of their milk volume at night2! For some women, especially in the early months or if you are going to be separated from your baby or toddler during the day, these night time feedings will be crucial for keeping up your breastmilk supply.

• We often forget that babies and toddlers wake for many reasons other than hunger. They will of course wake for hunger or thirst but they will also wake for pain relief, comfort, to get an increase in the immunological components in breastmilk, to help them cope with their developmental milestone and the changes in their brain due to this, if they are scared, cranky or bored!

• Babies will wake more frequently when they are going through a growth spurt and need to increase your supply, are going through a developmental milestone, teething or are fighting an illness they have been exposed to. Many times women will be holding their eyelids open with toothpicks from the night before, only to discover that later that day their baby is coughing and has a stuffy nose! It’s a wonderful feeling knowing that their needs have been met through breastfeeding and makes the sleep deprivation so worth it.

• There are many sleep training articles and websites that state if your baby or toddler is sleeping through the night they will do better in school, have less chance of being obese and have an increased ability to learn. These statements are incredibly misleading. There is NO research to support the claim that babies and toddlers who fall asleep at the breast and breastfeed throughout the night are more likely to be overweight, have trouble in school and have a harder time learning. To have an actual valid study on this issue, we need a longitudinal study which specifically compares those who are exclusively breastfed to sleep and through the night with those who are sleep trained and night weaned, leaving out variables which can also affect the results AND have it be peer reviewed. This has not happened yet and therefore any study that is quoted is not actual valid or relevant to the issue of night waking in babies and toddlers.

• Research shows that the growth of our babies’ brains (DNA synthesis) happens rapidly during the first few years of life, along with nerve growth factors which is a hormone that facilitates development. These are both promoted through touch, and when mothers stop touching their infants, DNA synthesis stops and growth hormone diminishes3. When our babies are put down and left by themselves as they cry and are in distress, they go into “survival mode”4.

• Breastmilk has components in it which actually help our babies and toddlers fall asleep5. It’s like a natural sleep aid! This is why it is the biological norm for babies and toddlers to fall asleep while breastfeeding. Your baby does not have a “sleep problem” because they will not self-settle or fall asleep on their own in a cot. www.kidsonthecoast.com.au

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If we can shift our thinking away from “the baby” and their “sleep issues” then we can start focusing on ourselves and what we can change. We tend to run around like crazy in our society…take a deep breath and relax.

So when will my child actually start sleeping through?

Doesn’t it get harder the older they get? Actually, in my experiences working with mothers and babies and also my own personal experiences breastfeeding, the older your child gets the easier it gets to night wean them. Once your child is over the 12-month mark they will understand pretty much everything you are saying.

Once they start to communicate more themselves (usually nearing the 18-month mark) it becomes much easier to negotiate night time weaning with them and becomes less stressful for everyone involved. This is when they are developmentally ready to negotiate and understand what you are saying to them. Before this time, many mums find it incredibly difficult, distressing and frustrating to try to night wean. Of course if your baby is younger than this and is responding without crying or distress at falling asleep on their own then great — go with it!

Mothering through breastfeeding is one of the most natural, biologically normal things you can do for your child and it meets every single one of their nighttime needs. Breastfeeding to sleeping, breastfeeding to awake, breastfeeding for hunger, comfort or pain relief…every reason is important and nighttime waking to breastfeed is something that millions of us women do around the world every single night. Trust your instincts and follow the lead of your baby. No mother looks back and feels guilty for cuddling or breastfeeding her baby too often. You cannot spoil a baby. You cannot cuddle them too often, breastfeed them too frequently or love them too much.

There’s no denying that waking overnight to breastfeed and soothe a breastfed baby takes a toll on us as mothers. If you choose to breastfeed overnight, here are my top tips for getting more rest: • Focus on what YOU can do to get more sleep, not what you need to do to change your baby’s sleep patterns.

• Get community support; seek help during the day from friends, family members or a mother’s helper.

• Leave the washing and dirty kitchen and go sleep when your child sleeps during the day, cancel your plans for the day and stay home to have a quiet day instead. Delay returning to work for as long as possible.

Editor’s note: This article was published originally as an online article on our website on August 7, 2014. An expanded, updated version of this article is included as a chapter in Meg’s new book, Boobin’ All Day...Boobin’ All Night. A Gentle Approach To Sleep For Breastfeeding Families.

This book is available through her website www.themilkmeg.com and Amazon.

References: 1. McKenna J & McDade, T (2005). Why babies should never sleep alone: A review of the co-sleeping controversy in relation to SIDS, bedsharing and breast feeding, Paediatric respiratory reviews, 6, 134-152.

2. Kent, JC, et al. (2006). Volume and frequency of breastfeedings and fat content of breast milk throughout the day. Pediatrics 117(3):387-395.

3. Schanberg S (1995). The genetic basis for touch effects. In T. Field (Ed.), Touch and Early Experience, Mahwah, NJ: Erlbaum 4. How To Grow A Smart Baby http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/moral-landscapes/201101/how-grow-smart-baby 5. Sánchez, C, et al. (2009). The possible role of human milk nucleotides as sleep inducers, Nutritional Neuroscience, 12, 2-8.

6. Middlemiss W, Granger D, Goldberg W, Nathans L (2012). Asynchrony of mother–infant hypothalamic–pituitary–adrenal axis activity following extinction of infant crying responses induced during the transition to sleep, Early Human Development, 88, 227-232.

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Making time for your

partner after baby arrives

by Penny Shipway

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BRINGING YOUR NEW BUNDLE OF JOY HOME FROM THE HOSPITAL CAN BE AN EMOTIONALLY CHARGED OCCASION. THERE MAY BE TEARS OF JOY, GASPS OF EXCITEMENT FROM EXTENDED FAMILY, BEAMING SMILES FROM THE NEW PARENTS AND A GENERAL FEELING OF “WE MADE IT!” “It’s about grabbing those moments you do have.

Sometimes just a 15-minute chat somewhere in the day can help you stay connected. If you can’t afford a babysitter, utilise friends, family and grandmas, even just for a coffee for some uninterrupted time to sit and talk.”

But then elation can quickly turn to practicality as sleep deprivation kicks in, breastfeeding challenges present and adjusting to the relentless demands of your new little person takes over your life. So the idea of romancing or wooing your partner can seem completely off the cards as you try to manage all the challenges that a new baby brings.

But Val stresses these gestures should be discussed while the baby is still in the womb, so you and your partner know exactly what would make life easier for you when your child arrives.

Experts say the best thing we can do to ensure our relationships remain strong post-baby is to start with a conversation before the baby arrives.

Val Holden, a family counsellor from Relationships Australia, says couples need to realise that having a child is a big transition and that relationship dynamics will change.

“Be open about your needs and understanding the others’ needs. It’s all about open communication and respect.”

This is particularly important when it comes to fun in the bedroom as sex may not be what a new mum feels up to, Val says.

“Having open, ongoing dialogue is key to preparing for the change. The change for both parties is very big: for a mum you suddenly have a very dependent being and dads can feel not as important and not the centre of attention.

“Tell your partner ‘I still love you, but I’m still adjusting to being a mum’. This is a normal phase and it will pass.”

Val says men often say they feel they have lost their wife and will never have sex again.

“The work and commitment that goes into taking care of the baby takes its toll on the relationship, so it’s important for both parents to make time for each other and do something nice for each other at least once a week.”

“Things will go back – maybe not exactly how they were – but it will get a bit easier.”

Val says couples don’t have to buy each other roses, extravagant presents or go out to expensive restaurants to show their love. She says people express their love in many different ways; this could be a simple gesture like a hug or a kiss, making your partner a morning cup of tea or if your significant other is looking tired and worn out, taking the baby for a walk so they can have a sleep or a nice hot shower.

Sunshine Coast mother of two and primary teacher, Thea Nolte, says she and her husband Rob struggle to remain connected like any other parents living in this busy world.

“Forget about the washing up and just get some takeaway,” Val suggests. “If it’s 5pm and you have to do dinner, make a point of sitting down and enjoying it together. Have a cuppa or glass of wine while the baby sleeps, or sit in the bath or have a shower together.

“We believe that caring for our children means caring for each other. If we have been neglecting each other, we find we are frantic, disengaged parents. When we have taken time (even a few moments) to connect we are calmer and more enthusiastic with the kids.”

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But it’s the little things they do that help them remain grounded, Thea says, and making sure they have time for their relationship as ‘Thea and Rob’ and not just ’Mummy and Daddy’.

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Thea and Rob say “I love you” every day and most nights they will go to bed at the same time.

“We communicate every single day, even if it’s not for long. We share our days’ trials and highlights and make time to listen to each other. We also text one another regularly and often these are love quotes or funny/silly/naughty messages.”

Other times they will share an early morning coffee together while the kids sleep in or play, or simply watch a TV show together.

“We also love reliving child-free moments such as silly sing-a-longs on date nights and trying to remember the steps to our wedding dance, which usually results with laughter! Or we will put on our old favourite songs or slideshows from the past and reminisce.”

Thea says Rob always makes her a tea at night and coffee most mornings while she packs him fun ‘snack packs’ for his lunch to get him through his work day.

The couple often shares a bubble bath to unwind from their busy days and leave love messages on notes throughout the house or in secret spots where the other will find them.

If they are lucky enough to go out on a date night, they will have ‘surprise date nights’ where they take it in turns to plan the entire date.

FUN DATE NIGHTS ‘IN’ (when the kids are asleep)

“We also mix up our dates, so it’s not always a night out for dinner, but sometimes we may go hiking or paddle boarding. When we manage a rare night away, we have a tradition of incorporating something old and something new. For example, last weekend we stayed at a hotel I’ve been desperate to try and recreated a dining experience from eight years ago by sharing a seafood platter. It’s fun – makes you reflect on your past – but also realise how far you have come.”

• Grab a bunch of classic board games and stay up late playing them with a bottle of wine.

• Have a MasterChef competition by cooking a meal each then sharing it together.

• Lie on the trampoline with pillows and blankets and gaze at the stars.

• Spread out a picnic blanket and enjoy dinner outside under the moonlight while playing some of your old favourite songs on a portable player.

Thea also suggests couples should respect one another to have their own hobbies, where they can have their freedom and remain in touch with who they were before they had children.

• Have a bubble bath together and create some mood by burning candles. Who knows…it might lead to something else!

“We feel it’s important not to give up the things that make you happy and whole on your own.” www.kidsonthecoast.com.au

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Marg was at the brink: New house; Newborn baby; New feelings. “All I could think was, ‘this was not how motherhood was supposed to be, it was too hard’,” Marg says. “I felt I was at the worst point in my life.”

all be part of the build-up. Changes in our lives may be difficult to handle. These changes, as well as other psychological and social risk factors, can make certain women candidates for depression and anxiety.

Parenthood has been called the profession created to re-jig our expectations. The perfect-mum-and-dad myths we are fed can be a sure-fire recipe to make us feel like we’re not up to scratch if we stray from the ‘norm’.

UNCOVERING ANXIETY Recent studies suggest anxiety disorders may be as common as depression in the perinatal period, and even more frequent than depression during pregnancy. Early intervention specialist and psychologist Kathrin Veal says anxiety throughout pregnancy is a key postnatal depression indicator.

“Anxiety during and post pregnancy is only beginning to get the attention that it deserves,” she says.

We’re not talking about the times when we are just too damn tired to put in the effort and everyone’s grizzly. And we’re not talking about the baby blues, which around 80% of women experience up to 10 days after giving birth. We are talking about when we sink into a lower-than-normal hole and struggle to climb out.

A third of women will suffer from an anxiety disorder at some point in their lives, so it’s hardly surprising anxiety is common among pregnant women and new mums. Kathrin explains some anxiety at this time is universal. “In fact, it would be unusual for mums-to-be and mums to not be anxious during this time,” she says. But for many this normal level of anxiety can escalate and become an anxiety disorder, meaning that it gets more and more difficult to stop the worry.

“I was a big emotional mess... I was borderline suicidal...I wasn’t capable of hurting Georgia, but I was hurting her just by my actions,” Marg confesses.

STAGES AND STATS Little do we know how common our feelings and struggles can be, until we seek help.

Kathrin says character traits like perfectionism (buying into the myth of super mum) are strongly related to anxiety. Other key factors to predict anxiety are life experiences such as a miscarriage in the past, high risk pregnancies and IVF.

Postnatal depression (PND) is defined as depression in the months after the birth and it affects one in seven women. Interestingly, recent studies show antenatal depressive symptoms (those occurring during pregnancy) are just as common. November 15-21 is Perinatal Depression and Anxiety Awareness Week. Studies show depression identified postnatally begins antenatally in up to 40% of women. That’s the good news because it means problems can often be detected early. But despite the prevalence and farreaching effects of perinatal depression (the term used to describe both antenatal and postnatal depression) most sufferers remain unidentified and untreated.

Perinatal mental health nurse Melissa Homan says the first noticeable symptoms may be social withdrawal and sleep disturbance (as opposed to sleep deprivation) which means a mum cannot sleep when the baby is asleep, because they are anxious.

“The anxiety is like they are in a constant state of fright 24-7 – agitated, restless, tight chest and mood changes, Melissa says. And the dad’s most common comment is ‘It doesn’t matter what I do, it’s not good enough’,” Melissa says.

WHAT CAUSES PERINATAL DEPRESSION ?

SWINGING THE FOCUS TO LIFE SKILLS

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A mental health nurse of 26 years, Melissa says her role is about prevention. She helps parents develop life skills from the moment they conceive.

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Melissa attended the recent national Mental Health Summit and explains how its prevalent theme was primary prevention by detecting early warning signs.

“Perinatal depression is so treatable early enough, she says. But if it’s left for more than 12 months it has a huge ripple effect on the whole family.”

because of the fear of being thought crazy. There are many other reasons: “They do not want to be seen as a failure, they do not like to admit that they are not coping, they don’t know where to turn, or believe that it will soon get better,” she says. Well-meaning friends might tell them to get over it while guilt, fear and shame often blocks the path to help. This can include “the fear of their baby being removed or being labelled a bad mother,” Lisa says.

Melissa says her sessions bust myths like “mothers just know instinctively what to do”. “I tell them the reality is it takes six to 12 weeks to form a relationship with anyone,” she says.

Melissa agrees the key reason mums don’t seek help sooner is because of the stigma. “The only thing that keeps people from accessing help is pride – my definition is playing ostrich therapy,” she says.

Marg says she made an urgent appointment to see Melissa at what was “the worst point” in her life, nine weeks after the birth of daughter Georgia. “At that time I felt like I was being judged, I felt useless, fat, ugly... I just knew I was meant to love this child but I didn’t,” Marg says. “All I could think was, I hate this, I want to go back to work, and my husband was devastated.”

THE RECIPE FOR RECOVERY Lisa says a combination of support and treatment helps recovery. Sometimes medication is needed when the condition is moderate to severe, and this can be assessed by a GP. A support network of a GP, psychologist, child health nurse, partner, family and friends is the key. Individual counselling which focuses on looking at negative thinking patterns and ways to replace these thoughts with healthier thought patterns can really help. And she says group support offers a chance to meet other mothers who are feeling the same. This way the sufferer can feel accepted and not have to pretend to be coping.

The two-and-a-half hour appointment turned her life around. “When I walked out, I felt 10kg lighter, just getting it all off my chest,” Marg says. She explains how Melissa showed her how to handle Georgia’s 5pm ‘fussy’ period. “At 5pm every day I lost it,” Marg remembers. Then there were the simple sleep tips.

“Georgia went from waking up 10 times a night to sleeping 13 hours a night.... within four days!” Marg says.

Lisa says we need realistic expectations about motherhood: It WILL be a challenge, most babies DO NOT sleep through and babies DO cry for no apparent reason.

Melissa believes a marked change in women’s childbirth age impacts on life skills training. “Nowadays they are having children a lot later and it’s a huge issue because they have been in control of every aspect of their life and are goal orientated and babies don’t fit that criteria,” she says. “Everything they are used to changes and they come crumbling down.”

HANDS-UP FOR PREVENTION Clinical psychologist Dr Emma Harley says perinatal anxiety and depression are still very much underreported and under-diagnosed by GPs due to time limits. “Given the real demands on GPs the best hope is we can make women and their partners better educated about the issue so that they’re able to raise their concerns with their GPs directly, and ask for appropriate referral for help,” Emma says.

WHY DON’T WE SEEK HELP SOONER? Yes, society may be more understanding. Yes, there is more support these days. So why is depression during pregnancy and motherhood still having such a shattering affect on so many families?

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If those at risk are identified during pregnancy, postnatal depression could be prevented altogether.

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We need realistic expectations about motherhood: It WILL be a challenge, most babies DO NOT sleep through and babies DO cry for no apparent reason.

RECOGNISING THE SIGNS

by Dr Tanya Obertik

READ MORE ON OUR WEBSITE

standardises procedures and encourages all GPs to use the Edinburgh Postnatal Depression Scale antenatally, so the help can kick-in during pregnancy if need be.

Marg wonders why she waited so long to act during that low point of her life, because now she feels so different. “Georgia is the best thing that ever happened to us,” she says.

But one thing many parents (and many GPs) don’t know is specific Medicare funding is available for mothers to see a perinatal mental health specialist.

“They just need to speak to their GP about this,” Emma says.

FURTHER INFORMATION AND SUPPORT GROUPS: PANDA (Perinatal Anxiety & Depression Australia) – Call 1300 726 306 or visit www.panda.org.au Beyond Blue – Call 1300 22 4636 or visit www.beyondblue.org.au

REWARDS A PLENTY Seeking help pays off in a multitude of ways. Clinicians see pregnancy and motherhood as a window of opportunity to get to know ourselves better – to reflect on our own childhood, face our fears about losing our identity and respond to our anxiety about our ability to be a parent. Because the well-being of the whole family is at stake, the better understanding we glean from seeking help ripples out to everyone and creates a strong base for future challenges.

On-line help with Beyond Blue • Symptom checklist – Simple checklists that will tell you (or someone you know) if you have symptoms that are common in people with depression, anxiety or related disorders and indicate whether you may need to talk to a health professional.

Visit: www.beyondblue.org.au • The Emotional Health during Pregnancy and Early Parenthood guides – provides information about symptoms and effective strategies to deal with them. It includes an outline of local services for perinatal depression in each state.

Visit: www.beyondblue.org.au

Mental health champions like Melissa find their work enormously rewarding. “I get a lot of job satisfaction.

“I tell them ‘I’m your coach and cheer squad and I expect to be made redundant’,” she says.

Editor’s note: This article was published originally in issue Sunshine Coast 40 (2010) and has been updated for current relevance where necessary.

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Behind the mask:

PND in Dads

by Jessica Jane Sammut

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LIFE WITH A NEW BABY IS INTENSE. EMOTIONS RUN HIGH. EMOTIONS RUN LOW. IT’S ALL PART OF THE CRAZY RIDE THAT IS EARLY PARENTHOOD. HOWEVER, WHEN THE DOWNS BECOME GREATER THAN THE UPS AND A SENSE OF GLOOM, IRRITABILITY AND DISEMPOWERMENT FORM THE BASIS OF EACH DAY, IT IS LIKELY THERE IS MORE AT PLAY THAN JUST A BOUT OF TIREDNESS. managing the competing demands of work, supporting their partner, navigating their own relationship with their baby and caring for any other children while mum bonds with the new baby. And we know that the real numbers of fathers experiencing depression and anxiety are likely to be much higher as many new parents struggle on without seeking help.”

With postnatal depression (also known as perinatal depression) and anxiety affecting more than one in seven new mums each year in Australia according to Perinatal Anxiety and Depression Australia (PANDA), awareness of its signs and symptoms is at an all-time high.

However, what many do not know is that men are also at risk, with PANDA revealing that up to one in ten new dads struggle with depression and anxiety following the birth of their baby, and research released earlier this year from the Australian Institute of Family Studies highlighting the importance of supporting new dads.

In fact, many dads don’t speak up for fear of stigma or shame, or a lack of awareness of postnatal depression, even though it is very real.

THE SYMPTOMS So, what are the symptoms? Symptoms can include:

So, with our baby-daddies almost as susceptible as us mums to postnatal depression and anxiety, what should they (and we, as their partners) be looking out for, and why is it so important that they (and we) do?

• constant tiredness or exhaustion • ongoing headaches and high physical stress levels, e.g. muscle tension

PATERNAL POSTNATAL DEPRESSION AND ANXIETY

• loss of interest in sex • changes in appetite

“It is very common that the early signs and symptoms of postnatal depression are missed, ignored, denied or simply put down to being ‘part of having a baby’,” reveals Dr Nicole Highet, founder and CEO of COPE (The Centre of Perinatal Excellence).

• sleeping problems (unrelated to baby’s sleep) • ongoing irritability, anger or moodiness • feeling of being overwhelmed • increased use of alcohol or drugs

For new fathers, it is very debilitating condition, and can impact on the ability to support family, function at work and/or home, and respond to and enjoy bub.

• emotional withdrawal from partner, baby, family and friends.

With depression often taking the form of extreme sadness in women characterised by a low mood or consistent crying, in men it often presents differently.

“While it is normal to experience some anxiety about the arrival of a baby, for some men fatherhood can bring unrelenting unexpected and unwelcome thoughts and feelings that interfere with their enjoyment of being a dad,” explains PANDA CEO Terri Smith.

“In men, it can lead to a very agitated state of mind,” explains Terri. “Men with depression can feel wound up, frustrated or unable to relax – a feeling sometimes described as being trapped or like ‘pacing in a cage’. Men can also have outbursts of anger or rage that are not in character, leading to feelings of shame or guilt.”

“Over the last 12 months, we’ve seen a 51 per cent increase in calls to our national helpline from dads wanting to talk about their own emotional wellbeing.

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WHO IT CAN AFFECT

WHAT TO DO

“There is a common misconception that perinatal depression is a hormonal condition that affects women only,” reveals Terri. “Many families are unaware that new fathers can even experience it.

However, we know that, like all forms of depression, biological, social and psychological factors can contribute to a new dad struggling with physical and mental health issues. Men from all walks of life and all cultures, even those who generally feel confident and assured, can experience anxiety or depression as part of becoming a parent.”

New fathers have fewer interactions with doctors and do not generally access the services where women experiencing difficulties are picked up, such as maternal and child health nurses and midwives. It is therefore critical for new dads that we are aware of the signs to look out for and where to go for support.

If any of the symptoms for depression or anxiety last longer than two weeks, it is wise to have your man check in with a health professional, such as a GP. If he doesn’t want to do this, he may wish to make an anonymous phone call to a specialist centre such as PANDA (1300 726 306) or Beyond Blue (1300 22 4636), which are laden with non-judgmental expert advice on this exact issue. Alternatively, a dedicated paternal perinatal depression website such as www.howisdadgoing.org.au (see resources guide for more examples) might give your partner the understanding he needs to seek further assistance.

When you think about it, it makes sense that men can end up feeling lonely and isolated after a baby has arrived. A new mother is often very emotionally involved with or focused on her baby, which can create a sense of redundancy in a man. It is also a physically demanding time for a new mother, which can reduce her desire or energy for physical closeness. Perhaps new dads don’t get it quite so easy after all.

“Sharing the experience with trusted people such as a partner, parent or friend can also be incredibly helpful and can encourage support” suggests Dr Nicole. “Often high expectations and fear of judgment prevents many men from seeking help – but taking the first step is key.”

CONTRIBUTING FACTORS When it comes to trigger points, factors that can contribute to the risk of developing paternal postnatal depression and anxiety include: • a previous history of anxiety or depression

WHY SEEKING HELP IS IMPORTANT

• unmet expectations of fatherhood

Many men do not feel comfortable seeking help for any kind of health issue (don’t we know!), but it’s very important that depression and anxiety are assessed and treated. Depression is much like any other illness in that if it is ignored, it will get increasingly worse rather than go away. With proper treatment and support, however, a man can recover fully and be the father and partner he wants to be.

• sleep deprivation and its impact on family and working life • relationship stress/problems • financial pressures • lack of available/acceptable support or networks (social isolation) • supporting a partner with perinatal anxiety or depression

With research showing that dads experiencing depression are less likely to interact positively with their children, and that paternal depression in the postnatal period is associated with poorer social and emotional behaviour outcomes in children, particularly in boys, there has also never been a better reason to seek help.

• a history of childhood trauma or family conflict.

“The combination of factors is different for each person, and they all need to be addressed for recovery,” explains Terri.

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How to help your man:

10 TIPS TO NEW FATHER SELF-CARE IN ORDER TO HELP YOUR MAN GET HIS HEAD AROUND BEING A NEW PAPA, WHY NOT HELP HIM DO THE FOLLOWING: 1.

RECOGNISE THAT HAVING A BABY BRINGS MANY UNEXPECTED CHANGES – It takes time to adjust.

Talk with others who have had children about the ups and downs of parenthood to gain some valuable insight and perspective (remember that everyone is different and every baby is different, however).

2. BECOME EDUCATED – Too often, men think that postnatal depression won’t happen to them. Update your partner with regard to this so he has the necessary awareness on the topic and can understand the signs and symptoms of the illness. In doing this, he will be more likely to recognise it in himself if it occurs.

3. T AKE SOME TIME OUT TO GET TO KNOW BUB – Life might be different, but being a dad is also a wonderful experience. Don’t make it all about the daily grind; make sure you leave room for the joy felt by the first smile or first roll.

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PARENT AS A TEAM – Allow your man to be as involved with bub as possible so he feels wanted and included, and proficient as a father. Praise him on his skills. You’re in this together!

5. K EEP IN TOUCH WITH HIS MATES – Good mates are especially important at this time and might offer your partner the mental tonic he needs to de-stress, and maybe even a shoulder to lean on.

6. K EEP WELL AND FIT – Encourage your baby-daddy to look after his mental health with good food and exercise. Make it something you commit to as a couple.

7. U NDERSTAND THAT IF HE IS STRUGGLING, HE SHOULDN’T BE AFRAID TO ADMIT IT – Your man’s wellbeing is vital to your new baby and to your new family unit. If he is not feeling good, encourage him to visit the doctor.

8. KEEP TALKING – Talk and share your experience of parenthood together. This is very cathartic and can also keep the lines of communication open.

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CONNECT WITH OTHER DADS – Encourage your man to chat to other dads. Bonding over fatherhood is just a part of being a dad as is pushing a pram.

10. NURTURE YOUR RELATIONSHIP – Do something fun together as a couple. In doing so, you will inject some light relief into what can be an intense time. The love is there, it just may be buried under a pile of dirty nappies temporarily!

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“Great relationships with your children depend on connecting emotionally,” discloses Terri. “It is really hard to do this if your own emotional needs are not being met and you are feeling overwhelmed by a range of different pressures. Dads are key stakeholders in their children’s wellbeing, and the wellbeing of dads is therefore crucial. Every dad matters.”

“And the faster dads seek effective help, the faster they can recover,” adds Dr Nicole. “By waiting until breaking point, the depression is more severe and harder to treat, plus it will have had a negative impact on so many aspects of a father’s life as a new parent already. Getting help early is therefore the best thing a father can do for himself and his family. If he is not feeling quite right, talk to someone.”

THE TWO-STEP APPROACH

TREATMENT So, if your partner is suffering from depression, what can be done about it?

If you think your man may be suffering from postnatal depression or anxiety, PANDA offers a simple two-step approach to getting help:

The great news is that this sabotaging illness is treatable, so there is light at the end of the tunnel.

With a range of pharmaceutical and psychological therapies (such as cognitive behaviour therapy) on offer depending on the severity and duration of the depression, dads can get better, with some reporting a marked change within a couple of weeks of seeking help.

1. UNDERSTAND THE PROBLEM: Recognise the risks, symptoms and signs. As a general rule, symptoms that last for more than two weeks should be checked out with a health professional.

2. ACT EARLY: The longer the problem is left, the worse it can get. It is courageous and honest to admit that help is needed.

With many therapies available under Medicare and your private health fund, there is therefore no need to suffer in silence.

RESOURCES PANDA (Perinatal Anxiety and Depression Australia) National Helpline. 1300 726 306. www.panda.org.au HOW IS DAD GOING? www.howisdadgoing.org.au COPE (Centre of Perinatal Excellence). www.cope.org.au BEYONDBLUE – National Support Service. 1300 22 4636. www.beyondblue.org.au BLACK DOG INSTITUTE - www.blackdoginstitute.org.au

LINKS

DADS IN DISTRESS - www.dadsindistress.asn.au POSTPARTUM MEN - www.postpartummen.com

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Build a Strong

Post-Baby Body

by Annaliese Carter www.snapfitness.com.au/redcliffe/

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I OFTEN HAVE MOTHERS VISIT ME AT THE GYM WITH A GREAT INTEREST IN GETTING THEIR BODIES BACK ON TRACK. OFTEN, MOST THINK THEY HAVE LEFT IT TOO LONG AND TOO LATE. WE GO ON TO DISCUSS MANY THINGS FROM CHILDREN AND TIME TO DIET AND EXERCISE, THERE’S ALWAYS AN EMPHASIS ON THE FACT THAT THESE THINGS ARE ALL VERY OUT OF SYNC WITH EACH OTHER. in the abdominal area for a long period of time and the back muscles start to overwork and tighten. Your focus is to stretch out your lower back by using foam rollers and doing basic lower back stretches.

But one thing that is usually consistent with these meetings is reassuring mothers that getting their prebaby bodies back is in fact possible!

It’s all about putting it into perspective. A mother’s body goes through nine gruelling months of change.

It grows to nurture another human being, consumes excess nutrients and commonly craves whatever suits its hormone drive at the time. It stretches and manipulates itself to become the perfect incubator.

Along this journey many parts of a mother’s body are affected: spinal alignment, muscle mass, fat mass, posture, gait and the list goes on. These changes then affect sleep, movement and everyday function. When the baby enters the world, a mother’s body is no longer required as an incubator and the overstretched muscles and skewed spine are ready to get back into shape for a different use.

It’s also important that you slowly add abdominal muscles into your everyday routine. These exercises can be as simple as basic floor crunches or more complex exercises which incorporate the legs.

Think about all of the muscles that you’re already working quite a bit. Are you carrying baby around?

Picking them up and putting them down? Without even realising it you are using your shoulder and arm muscles and as baby gets bigger, you will be giving yourself an even better workout.

Don’t forget to: • change arms regularly to keep your strength and muscle even

Although post-pregnancy your body may seem injured, reversing the effects of pregnancy are certainly not out of the question. First of all it is important to embrace your body and accept that there will be stretch marks, a loose tummy and super relaxed muscles. As much as it’s easy to want to lose lots of weight post-pregnancy, the most important thing is working towards a healthy body and accepting that your body may start working differently after having a baby. Imagine spending nine months training for lawn bowls and then returning to a tennis court! You’re not going to bounce back straight away but you WILL get there.

• focus on upper back exercises so lifting your children doesn’t turn into a painful exercise e.g. exercises involving pulling to the chest/ shoulder area.

GET MOVING! If it is body fat that needs the shake up, well you’ve got to get moving! The more you move every day the more body fat you will burn! Get outside with the kids and focus on at least 30 minutes of cardio training every day. Cardio doesn’t just mean running either; it could be high powered vacuuming, walking with the pram, bicycle riding with a baby seat, running up and down your back stairs, or even running around your back yard while the baby sits in a swing or plays on a blanket . Just keep moving!

FOCUS ON CORE STRENGTH Core strength will help get your posture correct.

Many mothers can experience postpartum back pain.

This can be a simple case of carrying extra weight

Go get em’ girls!

Editor’s note: This article was published originally as an online article on our website on April 23, 2015

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Celebrate Your Body,

Beautiful!

by Michelle Vogrinec www.gaiaskinnaturals.com Do you know that a stretch mark is a form of scarring?

During pregnancy we are affected by changes in hormone levels, and our skin is stretched by the growth of our baby and the enlargement of our breasts in preparation for breastfeeding. At first, stretch marks may show up as reddish or purplish lines that may appear indented and have a different texture from the surrounding skin, but the good news is they often turn lighter and almost disappear over time with daily massaging with a hydrating cream or body oil. While wearing a supportive maternity bra will help minimise stretch marks to the breast area, skin everywhere on your body becomes more pliable and better able to stretch when it’s well hydrated both internally (by drinking plenty of water) and externally.

Since looking back at old family photos recently, I have been reflecting on the changes my body has gone through over the years – from the feisty international karate title-holder I was back when I met my husband to getting married and having our first baby, Josh (the catalyst for the GAIA Natural Baby range), to the subsequent births of my other two beautiful, sizeable baby boys. Oh, the joy I had nurturing them and feeding them with my own body!

What an amazing thing! But growing babies really is hard work, isn’t it?

Weird and wonderful changes in your body happen throughout. Some of them great – like lustrous hair like you’ve never had before or glowing skin – but some are not so great. Like the majority of pregnant women I got stretch marks too – on my tummy, breasts, hips and thighs. I was a veritable street map! I knew it was normal – ‘par for the course’ – and I wouldn’t have swapped my babies for the world! But I have been sensitive about them too. How do you feel about yours? www.kidsonthecoast.com.au

I know there is an assortment of products that claim to reduce your stretch marks. While some claims are more legitimate than others, I do believe you can easily help prevent and/or reduce your stretch marks with time, persistence and great natural moisturisers.

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VITAMIN E

During my third pregnancy, I was determined not to get any more and to fade my existing ones, and now they are just fine white lines barely perceivable to the naked eye. Many natural oils, especially pure essential oils, are powerful stretch mark reducers because they contain highly moisturising essential fatty acids, skin healing and collagen-regenerating minerals and enzymes, and natural antioxidants to repair damaged skin. If you consistently apply these oils to your skin, your stretch marks will fade or disappear naturally over time.

Provides nourishment, hydration, helps reduce redness and smooths scars.

And the pure essential oils of:

LAVENDER

If you’re like me and feel a bit sensitive about your stretch marks, look out for products containing the following oils – organic if possible:

Known for its calming and soothing properties, encouraging relaxation. Used to provide relief for mild skin disorders, it contributes to the healing process by stimulating the cells of a wound to regenerate. Particularly soothing for inflamed skin conditions including eczema, psoriasis and dermatitis and is beneficial in relieving itchiness. It is considered suitable for use during pregnancy.

ROSEHIP OIL

FRANKINCENSE

Very hydrating and high in linoleic and linolenic fatty acids, which encourage regeneration and repair of skin tissue, even out skin tone and reduce the redness and appearance of scars.

Recommended for use on scars and dry skin. It’s regenerative and promotes the healing of wounds and the formation of scar tissue. It is considered suitable for use in pregnancy.

JOJOBA OIL

MANDARIN AND TANGERINE

With similar properties to skin’s natural sebum, it’s easily absorbed with a nice texture and feel.

Regenerative and firming, it is useful for improving the tone and condition of skin. It provides important nutrients such as vitamin E and B group, minerals and essential fatty acids.

Recommended in massage blends to prevent stretch marks during pregnancy. It is often blended with Lavender or Neroli and considered suitable for use in pregnancy.

NEROLI Reputed to have a rejuvenating effect on the skin as it has an ability to stimulate the growth of healthy new cells. It is considered suitable for use in pregnancy.

WHEAT GERM OIL A very nourishing oil that contains very high amounts of vitamins E and A, as well as being high in essential fatty acids. Useful in healing damaged or scarred skin, reducing the appearance of scars and improving suppleness and elasticity.

PATCHOULI Recommended for treating conditions such as sores, fissures and scars due to the regenerating, moistening and cooling action is has on skin tissues.

It is considered suitable for use in pregnancy.

COCOA BUTTER Softening and protecting and is especially good for dry skin. Helps maintain suppleness and elasticity of skin and minimises stretch marks.

Remember a stretch mark is a scar so it will take time to fade. Just be consistent and the rewards will come.

Your body is an amazing, beautiful thing! The high, the lows – it has come through it all.

ALOE VERA A skin nutrient renowned for its soothing and hydrating action, it is used to soothe minor cuts and burns, moisturise dry damaged skin, reduce redness and provide long-lasting moisturisation. www.kidsonthecoast.com.au

Celebrate it, and give yourself and your body a treat!

Editor’s note: This article was published originally as an online article on our website on May 5, 2015

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TALK Parents

Some of the best-loved parenting bloggers in South East Queensland join Kids on the Coast and Kids in the City to discuss the topics that matter to you.

Looking back, what were the baby products that you really didn’t need and which were the ones you absolutely couldn’t live without?

LARA CAIN GRAY This Charming Mum

You only need to take one look at my kitchen to see that I love a good gadget! If you ever need a Tupperware melon baller or a thingamabob to make spaghetti out of a carrot, I’m your girl. So when I became a mother, I was first in line for any gizmo than promised to make me a better parent. Sadly, not every baby product delivered on its promises.

Baby rockers, for example, do not put every child to sleep. In fact, one of my kids was absolutely terrified of the blinking lights and elevator music that exploded from their bouncer.

I also wasted a fortune on ‘no-spill’ sippy cups that either leaked all through my nappy bag or were so liquid-tight that a child could suck until their eyes popped and not get a drink.

But, once a gadget-girl, always a gadget-girl. Sippy cups eventually made way for school drink bottles that STILL LEAK, no matter which new and improved design I choose.

Am I a risk taker, or just a slow learner? I’m still not sure.

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EMILY TOXWARD Have A Laugh On Me

HOLLY CONNORS Simplify Create Inspire

With a new baby in the house, we have had the perfect opportunity to consider all those have baby items we got first time around that were not really so useful after all.

The most obscure purchases were the cot mosquito net when we do not have a mosquito problem. It remained in the packet.

As did the pram weather cover. At no point have we thought it a good idea to go for a walk with the pram during heavy rain. Also still in the packet.

We also splurged on a fancy high chair which we regretted almost instantly when it came time to start solids. Every parent soon learns what a mess this can be so instead, a must-have baby item is by far the most basic IKEA style high chair.

Other items we would not have managed without would be a comfortable nursing cover, swaddle wraps and sleeping bags, a rocker and a floor gym with fun dangly toys. These were the things that made life easier, provided comfort and gave our babies entertainment long enough to cook dinner.

It’s easy to get caught up in the buying frenzy when you’re first pregnant, but my advice is to avoid impulse purchases. Sure if you see a gorgeous teddy bear or accessory for the nursery then by all means knock yourself out, but when it comes to buying gadgets, baby swings, special bathing potions and nappy bins – less is totally more.

Whatever you do don’t buy one of those bath support/ chair things for inside your bath because they’re awkward and a waste of money. Similarly, all these baby powders, sleepy moisturisers and other smellies, why put all those chemicals on to the most pure skin in the world? Keep it simple and use small washers to wipe a newborn’s bottom and avoid being sucked in by the propaganda when it comes to baby products. Most of them don’t work and are just playing on the tiredness and vulnerability of new mums!

In saying that, once a baby starts solids it’s time to invest in some good quality but hypo-allergenic wipes. I believe the essential baby products are small towels for spills, an easy-to-open stroller, a good bassinette or rocker that you can carry around and a good quality change table with mat.

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books &apps THE ESSENTIAL BABY CARE GUIDE The Essential Parent Company, Quadrille Publishing, RRP $30 Having a baby is an amazing event but it can also be intensely challenging, especially in the first year. The Essential Baby Care Guide brings together information from a panel of experts to give new parents the latest medically backed-up information on all aspects of caring for their baby.

The guide covers all the key areas for concern, providing clear and concise answers to support and reassure even the most anxious parent.

WHY PRE-CONCEPTION AND PREGNANCY NUTRITION MATTERS Michael Walne, Pinter & Martin, RRP $23

BABY PICS (iPhone, iPad) $3.79 Baby Pics is a new app created on the Gold Coast to capture precious pregnancy, baby and big kid milestone photos and special moments. Called ‘Best New App’ by Apple, Baby Pics allows users to add beautifully crafted artwork and personalised text to photos to mark milestones and special moments, creating lasting memories.

Sentimental text can be added to personalise photos, allowing users to capture finer details, including names, measurements, dates and quirks. Finished creations can be shared via Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, text or email. Adorable prints can be ordered instantly from the app and delivered free worldwide straight to your doorstep. For more information, visit www.babypics-app.com.

If we are what we eat, then babies in the womb are made from what we eat too.

The nutritional health of parents-to-be and their unborn babies is of paramount importance and yet is often overlooked or glossed over, as they are given vague recommendations to eat a healthy balanced diet, perhaps with ‘five-a-day’ or ‘everything in moderation’. This book looks at the question of pre-conception and pregnancy nutrition in detail, and the vital role food plays in short and long-term health, for parents-to-be and their children.

PLAYLATES (iPad, iPad Mini) $2.49 Playlates is a new app that encourages parents to explore active, developmental games with their babies in a way that is safe and fun. It is founded on the practices and principles of Pilates, which are extended to appropriately support babies who are just learning to move. From the age of 8 weeks on you can assist your baby in sitting, rolling over, crawling and standing all the way until they’re ready to take their first big steps.

Playlates is currently available from the Apple App store and is free to download with five introductory activities. Four further sets of activities are available at $2.49 each. www.kidsonthecoast.com.au

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BOOBIN’ ALL DAY...BOOBIN’ ALL NIGHT. A GENTLE APPROACH TO SLEEP FOR BREASTFEEDING FAMILIES

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Meg Nagle, Self-published, RRP $19.99 In this part memoir, part sharing of women’s stories, part research, part boobin’, Meg Nagle covers many topics including how to trust your own instincts, why your breastfed child is waking so frequently, why it’s so important to answer their cries, how to feel more rested, what to do when you are feeling exhausted and overwhelmed, safe co-sleeping and bed sharing guidelines, how to get your baby to take longer naps and some gentle night-weaning tips. An essential read for breastfeeding families!

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BECOMING A MOTHER: A JOURNEY OF UNCERTAINTY, TRANSFORMATION AND FALLING IN LOVE Leisa Stathis, Finch Publishing, RRP $27.99 There is perhaps no other journey quite like becoming a mother for the first time. For most, it is a moment filled with joy. Yet for many new mothers, it may soon be followed by confusion and self-doubt. Many women worry about if they will ever overcome those difficult early days and become the loving, confident mothers they long to be. This book, written by Brisbanebased social worker and family therapist Leisa Stathis, releases women from the pressure to be perfect mothers. Becoming a Mother explores the often unspoken challenges of caring for a baby in the first year and the complex emotions women may experience as they are transformed into mothers.

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