Kids in the City Magazine - Brisbane - Issue 13. September/October 2015

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FROM THE EDITOR

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WHAT’S NEWS

10 FEATURE: Raising a financially savvy child 16 CHECK THIS OUT 18 T HE P FILES: Must-have conversations with your son 22 C ALENDAR OF EVENTS: Find out what’s happening in the City during September & October 25 SPECIAL FEATURE: For the love of literature 28 EDUCATION: “I’m sorry...your child doesn’t fit the box” 32 WEB WRAP UP 34 BABIES: Mothers’ groups: friends or foes?

36 TEENS: Breaking down barriers: Talking about sex, drugs and alcohol

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40 CONVERSATION: mr.dad - Dale Ballentine 42 BOOKS – APPS – MOVIES

EDITORIAL CONTRIBUTORS: JESSICA JANE SAMMUT, JAMES MCMANIS, BELINDA HOPPER, MICHELLE KENNEDY, PENNY SHIPWAY, SANDRA SMITH, NATASHA HIGGINS COVER PHOTOGRAPHY: VERVE PORTRAITS

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FREE BOOK BANK IN WESTERN SUBURBS An educational toy shop in Graceville has created a thriving book bank, showing that reading without a screen is still a treasured activity for parents and children. Mention Bim Bam Boom to someone in the western suburbs of Brisbane and they will know what you are talking about. It has become somewhat of a local institution, having run kids' art workshops and parties for 16 years. Owner Sara Tilbury recently created the book bank because it’s a natural fit for her store, which is a real community hub. Parents and children drop in for famously messy and fun art classes five days a week. And now they are free to swap a book every time they come.

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The new store is scheduled to open in the second half of 2016, with construction starting recently alongside Westfield North Lakes. The Swedish furniture and homewares giant will bring a much needed boost to the region and will bring out the interior designer in many with affordable furniture and homewares (although some will likely cringe at the thought of having to assemble the furniture). The store will be similar in size to the Logan store at 29,000sq m with 12,000sq m dedicated to the furniture showroom and market hall. There will also be a restaurant that will seat 450 people as well as a food market and bistro.

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A new world-class lagoon swimming pool will open on September 5 as the centrepiece of stage two of Robelle Domain in Springfield Central. This development has secured for the city one of the biggest public lagoon-style swimming pools in Australia with a zero to over one metre depth swimming lagoon equal in size to Southbank’s famous beach pool. The lagoon will cater for the local community and families right across the western corridor. Ipswich Mayor Paul Pisasale invites everyone to see the new attraction when it opens. “We are committed to a city that is happy, lively and a place where people can’t wait to bring their kids,” Cr Pisasale said. “Whether that’s to have an ice cream and a splash in the lagoon on the weekend, or to make a permanent home for the family, everyone is welcome in Ipswich and we can’t wait to see you. Enhanced lighting, landscaping, seating, bbqs and water fountains will also be installed to make this a true recreation destination. The 3.74 hectare development that includes the lagoon and new green space and walking tracks brings together Robelle Domain, Orion Town Centre, Springfield Central train station, Education City and the Parklands Business District into a single unified hub. Being able to do some shopping at Orion, enjoy a gourmet al fresco lunch and then stroll through beautiful parklands to take the kids for a dip is in the immediate future for local residents,” Cr Pisasale said.

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FEATURE

Rai$ing a FINANCIALLY savvy child

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ADULTHOOD COMES WITH MANY CHALLENGES, WITH FISCAL ONES RIGHT THERE AT THE TOP OF THE LIST. SO HOW DO WE ENSURE OUR KIDS ARE FINANCIALLY SAVVY AND READY FOR THE BIG WIDE WORLD?

Parents of young children hear it all the time. “Can I have this?” It’s the catchcry of many a young child, and one that sometimes works and sometimes doesn’t depending on the suitability of the item in question, energy level of hit-up parent and cost of the chosen toy/ food/random implement. There it is. The dreaded ‘C’ word. And, whereas in the innocent world of our little cherished bambinos, the word does not exist (or if it does, does not have meaning), in the big wide scary grown-up world, it totally does. In fact, it not only exists, it pretty much goes to the heart of every household decision made, and while we all know that money doesn’t make you happy, a lack of it can certainly make you hapless.

So, when is the moment that we pull our kids aside to lecture them on the value of material things and how to save/spend/invest wisely? And why is it so crucial to our kids’ chances of adult success that we do?

WHY FINANCIAL SKILLS ARE IMPORTANT “Financial literacy is the foundation to a successful and prosperous life,” explains Darren Eising, senior financial planner at Elemental Wealth Management (elementalwealth.com.au).

“Just as with reading and writing, kids need to acquire a solid understanding of the fundamentals of finance, economics and investment in order to do well in life.”

“Financial literacy is defined as the ability to make informed judgements and to make effective decisions regarding the use and management of money (Coben, Dawes & Lee 2005),” adds leading educator Nadia McCallum who was recently awarded The Director General’s Award for Excellence in Service to Public Education and Training. “Given we live in a society where money provides a means to a home, health care, education and food, understanding how to manage money so that those needs are met is paramount.”

“From earning money, to spending money, to borrowing to investing, and even to leaving a legacy, financial understanding is crucial,” adds ‘Australia’s Money Guru’ Michelle House. “It is important kids understand the difference between needs and wants, and the consequences of poor money management.”

WHY LEARNING YOUNG IS BENEFICIAL

“Children who learn about sound money management when they’re young have the opportunity to build habits – like saving and investing – that will stand them in good stead throughout their lives,” explains Lacey Filipich, founder and director of Money School, a financial education program for families (moneyschool.org.au). “These habits, if learned early, become second nature. As children move into adulthood, they then don’t stress about money as much because they are comfortable with it and have a solid plan about how to manage it.”

“Financial awareness teaches kids about concepts such as delayed gratification, fair exchange (the opposite of 'entitlement', a common complaint of today's parents), value of hard work, and planning ahead,” concurs Dr Ash Nayate, clinical paediatric neuropsychologist. “The earlier a child can learn such concepts, the better. Ultimately, they become automatic.”

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THE SIGNIFICANCE OF A PARENT’S ROLE

With the education system not focusing too heavily on financial strategy, responsibility for raising a money-wise child rests almost entirely on parents.

“Research shows time and time again that children learn what to place importance on and to value from what their parents model,” explains Nadia. “If a child sees a parent picking up a book instead of turning on the television, they will be more likely to pick up a book. It is the same with money. If parents talk about money and the reasons for their decisions, children inherently learn and incorporate these values into their own belief system, and instinctively begin to make conscious decisions about how to use money.”

From a development point of view, it’s the consistency of our actions over our words that is key.

“Parents who tell their kids to make smart decisions (and yet themselves do not), send mixed messages, which can be confusing,” confirms Dr Ash. “In fact, not involving children at an early age in appropriate discussions and reasoning around money is the biggest mistake parents can make when teaching kids about money,” warns Darren. “Parents underestimate their children’s abilities to grasp economic concepts, and it is these lessons that become the foundation of their future financial literacy.”

THE MAIN FINANCIAL CONCEPTS CHILDREN SHOULD KNOW

Okay, we get it! Financial acumen is somewhat of a big deal for our growing babies. But, what are the main areas that children should be encouraged to grasp in order to get ahead? Lacey reveals her top five Money School concepts:

1. SAVING What it is: Putting aside a part of a sum of money earned/received and not spending it.

Why it’s important: Savings are the seed of the metaphorical money tree. Without savings, investment cannot occur, and if a setback is experienced (e.g. an accident or loss of job), there is no buffer.

What age: All ages. This can be done with any gifts your child receives, even as an infant. Show them what you do to save, then encourage them to do the same with their pocket money and any income they receive.

How to teach it: Use a bank account or a piggy bank to demonstrate how to save in real terms.

2. PLANNING What it is: Mapping out income and spending. Essentially, this is about understanding cash flow.

Why it’s important: To have control over one’s finances is an essential skill in life.

What age: From early primary school.

WHAT CHILDREN CAN UNDERSTAND

So, what can kids cerebrally understand about the fiscal opportunities of their world? Should we be talking NASDAQ to them, or simply keeping the chat restricted to pocket money terms and conditions?

“From about the ages of three to five, kids start to develop an understanding of the transactional nature of money (that money is exchanged for goods and services),” reveals Dr Ash. “The understanding of the actual value of money however, starts to develop at around the age of seven or so, when kids begin to appreciate abstract concepts (and money is a very abstract concept!). It is then that children can work out the difference in money magnitude, e.g. what can be purchased for $1 versus $2 versus $10. From the age of seven onwards, kids are then able to grasp such notions as delayed gratification and fair exchange, and so have a better appreciation for things like earning money through chores, or putting money in the bank where it can gain interest (i.e. spend now versus save and spend more later).”

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How to teach it: Include your child in setting and monitoring the family budget.

3. ACTIVE EARNING What it is: Trading time and effort for income, whether it’s a wage, a commission or dividends from an enterprise.

Why it’s important: This teaches delayed gratification and the difference between wants and needs.

What age: From mid to late primary school.

How to teach it: Start with pocket money as an illustrative example. Encourage your child to undertake chores and activities for money. Set a good example by actively earning yourself.

4. INVESTING (FOR PASSIVE EARNING) What it is: Buying assets – things that increase in value and provide extra income.

Why it’s important: Assets generate wealth. This passive income supplements active income and is a valuable revenue stream.

Savings becomes worth less every year (due to inflation) without investment, and the sooner kids understand the quicker they can start to develop a wealth mindset.

What age: From late primary school.

How to teach it: The best way to teach this is by doing it and including children in the process. Paper trading for shares and playing Monopoly are great ways to demonstrate such skills with low risk.

Earning interest on savings is the bare minimum, so get your child to monitor their interest-bearing savings account at the very least.

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5. BORROWING What it is: Leveraging other people’s money (usually the bank’s) to buy bigger assets.

Why it’s important: Debt can be risky, and too many people get their first introduction to debt via a credit card, which they then use to buy consumer goods (this is bad debt). Applied wisely however, debt can be used to generate more growth and passive income than can be achieved with savings alone.

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What age: From late primary school.

How to teach it: Give children a loan from the ‘Bank of Mum and Dad’. Ask them to present their case for their loan (as they would do for a bank), charge them interest, and repossess items if payments aren’t made.

HOW TO TURN YOUR CHILD INTO A MONEY MAVEN

Once the concepts have been grasped, the next step is implementing practical approaches on a regular basis that will help create a financially savvy child in the long run.

BE CONSISTENT How: Always pay attention to the importance of money, even when talking about just a few cents. From little things, big things grow…

How this helps: This reinforces consistency and helps build good habits through example. A child is far more likely to copy your actions than what you say if the two aren’t aligned.

TALK ABOUT IT

WHAT PARENTS SAY… AMELIE DROUIN, MUM TO FELIX (9), ANAIS (7) AND MATHILDA (4) “We want our children to know the value of money so that they understand it is important to work hard in life and to not take money for granted. We teach our kids to save via their school banking accounts and how to shop, by comparing different items at different prices across stores. We also encourage them to make money for themselves. We recently let Felix sell some bags of hot chillies he had grown in the garden (he made about $10 in an hour!). Plus, we help the children give to the needy by contributing to the Care program at our church and donating food to St. Vinnie’s. We hope to make them see they are very lucky to have a roof over their heads and food on the table every day.”

ARMAND AGUILLON, DAD TO JEWEL (15) AND IZAAC (3) “It’s so important to raise a financially savvy child, but schools don’t seem to teach this. If kids aren’t going to learn it in school, they need to learn it from us, as parents. We believe the single most important thing a child should be taught about money is to save 10 per cent of their income. Every fortnight, we also play monopoly and include our three-year-old in the game where he can play as the banker and hands out the monies. He also enjoys throwing the dice. Jewel is now at the stage where she knows how to win the game and wins it constantly.”

MELINDA EDWARDS, MUM TO BROOKLYN (4) “I believe it’s never too early to start planting the seed of healthy money habits in a child’s mind. Brooklyn used to ask me for an iPad all the time. I could have easily bought him one, but instead decided to use the situation as the perfect introductory lesson towards money: working hard, cultivating a resourceful mindset and reaching goals. I told him it's the same as anything in life – he can have whatever his little heart desires if he can figure out a way to earn it. From there, we worked out the goal amount he needed to purchase the iPad and brainstormed ways for him to earn the money. I also invested $50. As a result, he has been making and selling rocky road chocolate in his uncle’s bakery and has made approximately $130 profit to date.”

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How: Include children in financial discussions in a helpful way (no need to let them see you panicking about your mortgage, but instead involve them in looking for ways to bring costs down, for example).

How this helps: This gives children the opportunity to ask questions and to seek to understand. When they ask ‘Why?’, tell them, with a clear explanation.

LEARN TO SAY “NO” How: Don’t give your kids everything. Say no to buying things, and give them the opportunity to earn something they really want.

How this helps: Children need to learn about earning and waiting.

Giving them everything they desire does not help them learn that.

PRACTICE NEGOTIATION How: Encourage them to haggle with you!

How this helps: Adults are often scared to negotiate as they don’t want to seem rude, or they’re afraid they’ll offend someone. You make money on assets when you buy for less than when you sell. Negotiating the best possible price is therefore important, even for simply buying a family home. Start young so kids get comfortable asking for discounts and learning to read people during negotiations.

MAKE IT FUN How: Play Monopoly or other financial buying/selling games.

Adjust the rules if you like to allow for negotiation and borrowing, interest charges, etc.

How this helps: Games are a great way to teach kids about the importance of being financially savvy, connecting on their level.

Just ensure they can relate the lessons they learn to real life.

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WE ALL KNOW THE HOLLYWOOD IMAGE OF A PARENT AND A CHILD SITTING DOWN TO HAVE A DEEP AND MEANINGFUL CONVERSATION. THE TIMING IS PERFECT, THE LOCATION IS QUIET, AND THERE ARE NO DISTRACTIONS UNTIL AFTER THE SCENE IS OVER. THE CHILD LEAVES UNDERSTANDING THE MEANING OF LIFE, AND THE PARENT LEAVES SATISFIED THEY’VE DONE ALL THEY CAN FOR THEIR CHILD. THE END. SADLY, WE DON’T ALL HAVE A 100-STRONG FILM CREW TO SET THE SCENE, AND NOR DO WE HAVE THE EASE OF A SCRIPT WITH WHICH TO GUIDE THE CONVERSATION. NEVERTHELESS, CONVERSATIONS ARE THE MOST POWERFUL TOOL A PARENT HAS TO INFLUENCE AND SUPPORT THEIR CHILD. YES, THAT IS RIGHT…THE MOST POWERFUL TOOL. Conversations are not lectures. Conversations are not monologues on the pitfalls of life. The origin of the word conversation is from the combination of the two Latin words con ‘with’ and versare ‘to turn’ leading to converse ‘live among, be familiar with’ and to conversation ‘an informal talk between two or more people’. This is important to understand because the power of a conversation is a product of what is said and who it is said with.

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country’s future husbands, fathers, innovators and leaders. Yet, I ask you this: Where will they get their guidance from? Who will answer the questions they have about the world? What will they draw on when things get tough? The answer: They will draw on the conversations they had with you. They will hear that advice as a quiet little voice in the background guiding their decision. They will think back to the times they sat with you, when the world was unknown to them and you were their guide. This is what they will do, but only if you take the time to have the conversation with them – otherwise it will all fall to Google and Siri.

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THE P FILES

So, if you haven’t started conversing, begin now. If you have started, keep going. And make sure you cover the following topics.

CURIOSITY AND EXPLORATION “We keep moving forward, opening new doors, and doing new things, because we’re curious and curiosity keeps leading us down new paths.”

Walt Disney

Curiosity drives innovation. Curiosity is the ability to ask why and to question the status quo. Boys and young men need to have the confidence to be curious and explore. Parents need to have the confidence that they will do this safely. When they are small, this safety can be provided through monitoring and supervision.

However, as they get older you are not going to be able to monitor and supervise, you are going to have to rely on their decision making when faced with new opportunities. Parents need to discuss decision making with their sons, what to do when curiosity takes hold, and how to keep your head and respect yourself and your safety. Parents also need to push their sons to experience new things and encourage them to maintain an open mind when encountering something they’re not familiar with.

SEX AND INTIMACY “Those who have never known the deep intimacy and the intense companionship of mutual love have missed the best thing that life has to give.”

Bertrand Russell

There are few conversations that make a parent more nervous than having to talk about sex. Such is our society that the end (death) and the beginning (sex) are generally taboo topics, yet inevitable aspects of life we will all encounter. So many boys’ early experiences of sex and self-exploration are accidental and involve bumbling around blindly wondering how it all works.

This can leave young men afraid of, or blasé about, sex and without any understanding of intimacy.

Sadly, general sex education tends to focus on how a sperm and an egg make a human, not how trust and intimacy make for love. Taking the time (and courage) to discuss sex with your son in the context of intimacy, both with himself and others, will provide a great reward for the both of you. It will give him the opportunity to enjoy exploring these two aspects of humanity, and it will give you the chance to guide him, rather than his peers or, worse still, Google.

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FINANCE AND MONEY “Beware of little expenses.

A small leak will sink a great ship.”

Benjamin Franklin

Discuss the value of money and the price of debt. Pocket money is important for a young son’s education about the value of money, as is employment for an older son. Yet all too often parents forget to talk about how to spend that money. Discuss the different ways to use money; spending it recreationally, socially, charitably, or making investments for the future are all diverse ways to use money all yielding different outcomes. All too often recreational spending is the focus, saving up for a toy or piece of electronic equipment. Money is a tool. Discuss how that tool can be used and the benefits of using it in many different ways.

WORK AND ACHIEVEMENT “Coming together is a beginning; keeping together is progress; working together is success.”

Henry Ford

All too often young men want to skip the middle, skip working and go straight to having. The value of an achievement is measured by the journey taken to get there. If the journey is short, the achievement is small, and vice versa. However, modern society is highly focused on outcome, on ‘what is in it for me’, on how quickly can I get it. Sons need to understand the value of hard work and that it is through hard work that anything worthwhile is achieved.

MORALS AND VALUES “To educate a man in mind and not in morals is to educate a menace to society.”

Theodore Roosevelt

Education doesn’t stop with textbooks. Educating your son about values and morals gives him a compass with which to make the tricky decisions in life. We all know that many of life’s challenges involve decisions that don’t have a clear ‘right’ answer. For those decisions, we rely on our value system and our morals to guide our understanding of what is the right way to act and what is the right way to treat people in a given situation.

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RESPONSIBILITY AND INDEPENDENCE “The greatest gifts you can give your children are the roots of responsibility and the wings of independence.”

Denis Waitley

Independence can come only with responsibility. The two are permanently entwined; foregoing one results in foregoing the other. Having the foundations of character to accept responsibility is essential to future success in life. Being given responsibility is a privilege to be embraced, not a chore to recoil from. Responsibility and independence foster leadership. True leaders have a vision and a conviction. They believe in themselves and what they do. These people forged this self-belief by being tested with responsibility and independence and coming out the other side.

Your son needs to know that the chore list is actually a trust list and leads to an independence list.

HEALTH AND WELLBEING “It is health that is real wealth and not pieces of gold and silver.”

Mahatma Ghandi

AND FINALLY… TELL THEM THEY ARE LOVED “I have a son, who is my heart.

A wonderful young man, daring and loving and strong and kind.”

Maya Angelou

Self-esteem is the most common deficit of modern young men, not confidence and bravado, but genuine self-esteem. Self-esteem comes from a sense that I am loved, lovable and loving. Not because of anything I have done, but simply because I am. Discuss your love with your son and tell them what you love about them.

Be specific, be clear and be firm in your conviction that you adore them. It is also important to be consistent in your love. Love them when they are good and compliant, and love them when they are obnoxious and defiant. Don’t tolerate bad behaviour, but be clear in separating the behaviour from the person. You can love the person and not the behaviour.

Health is so crucial, yet in our youth we never believe that our health may one day leave us. A retired doctor once said to me as he was travelling through the Canadian Rockies, ‘My only regret is that I didn’t do this sooner. At my age my knees are too weak to traverse the forest path.’ As a result, he was unable to observe the beautiful mountain lake that he had travelled so far to see. Money is useless if you are not healthy enough to enjoy it.

It is also essential for your son to be able to accept love. Regularly expressing your love for him is important, but a conversation about how to accept love and gratitude from others for a job well done is a skill lacking in many young men. Australian men can easily be dismissive of praise, but authentic praise tells someone what they do well and why they are liked. It needs to be accepted. Giving love and accepting love are what makes a loving person; both need to go together.

Good health is more than ‘ripped abdominals’ and ‘pumped pectorals’. Health is balance, health is mobility, health is energy.

Good health is being able to do what you need to do while having enough left over to do what you want to do. Good health is consistency, maintaining healthy routines no matter where you are or what is going on in your life.

These conversations are opportunities. They are about sharing your experience and experiences, successes and failures. They are about building closeness and relationship. They are about identity. These conversations guide your son so he can find himself, find his place in the world and know who he is so he can one day share this with his own family.

James McManis is a psychologist at All Abilities Child & Family Therapy Centre in Noosa & Gympie. All Abilities work with children and adolescents as well as their families/carers to develop skills and facilitate positive change. They work from a developmental model and firmly believe that all individuals, regardless of age or ability, have the capacity to learn new skills and fully engage in everyday life. All Abilities Psychology believe that all clients' needs are unique and individually important, and are committed to meeting those needs by offering individual programs tailored to individual needs. For more information visit www.allabilities.com.au

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3D CHALK WALK Where: South Bank Cultural Forecourt Come down to South Bank and watch chalk artists bring their astonishing artworks alive.

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R U OK? DAY

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Where: Redlands IndigiScapes Centre, Capalaba Time: 10am – 11:30am Does your 8 – 12 year old love the environment? If so, go along to IndigiKids for all kinds of fun activities and workshops based around the local environment.

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Where: Walkabout Creek, The Gap Time: 11am & 1:30pm Join a ranger from Walkabout Creek to learn about our iconic park and meet wildlife up close. Catch a glimpse of the elusive platypus and say hello to some creek creatures.

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SEPTEMBER 13

Where: Little Stanley Street Lawns, North Time: 9am – 1pm Learn the skills of chess through fun stories and activities. Get your child involved in chess from as young as three years old!

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CHESS MATES WITH LITTLE DAYS OUT

SEPTEMBER 13

Where: The Spiegeltent, Cultural Forecourt, South Bank Time: 1pm This quirky, fantastic music show will have monkeys big and small up singing and dancing. Featuring kazoos, ukuleles, bongos, flying monkeys and harmonicas!

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SEPTEMBER 12 TO 25

Where: Aspley SS, Maundrell Tce, Aspley Time: 3:30pm – 8:30pm Join us in celebrating the 125th birthday of Aspley State School with amusement rides, baby animal farm and a fireworks finale at 8:30pm.

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Where: Simpsons Playground, Graceville Time: 2pm – 4pm Join in the fun of a guided walk around the beautiful parklands. Every family who comes along will receive a passport with a list of key features to find including scenery and animals.

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Where: Roma Street Station Time: 5:10pm & 6:45pm Dress up as your favourite Halloween character and board vintage carriages for a special nighttime steam train journey through the city.

Details: Family $91. Adult $28. Child $25. www.theworkshops.qm.qld.gov.au

HALLOWEEN EXPRESS

OCTOBER 31

Where: Brigidine College, 53 Ward St, Indooroopilly Time: 9:30am – 10:30am Enjoy a tour of the campus with one of our Senior students and morning tea with the Principal.

Details: Contact: 07 3870 7225 to book. www.brigidine.qld.edu.au

TEA AND TOUR

OCTOBER 26 & 27

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CHILDREN’S WEEK

OCTOBER 24 TO NOVEMBER 1

Don’t miss out on any events!

Where: Robelle Domain Parkland, Springfield Central Time: 3pm – 8pm Celebrate children’s week at this fun festival.

With magic shows, train rides and a water park the day is jam packed with activities and fun for the whole family.

Details: Free entry www.worldharmonysociety.org

Where: Riverside Dr, West End Get your flock together and join us for the biggest and quackiest festival race day in the country! Loads of family fun, rides, live music, kids entertainment, licensed area and a quacker of a good time!

Details: See website for fundraising details. www.supporttheduck.org.au

THE GREAT BRISBANE DUCK RACE

Where: C P Bottomley Park, Norman Park Time: 10am – 12pm Does your little one love dressing up and being the centre of attention? This is a drama workshop with a difference! Come and create your own circus character complete with wonderful dress ups and face paint and then put on a creative showcase for family.

Details: Free. For children 5 and over.

Bookings essential. www.bazilgrumble.com.au

OCTOBER 18

Where: Railway Pde, Darra Time: 5pm – 10pm Enjoy stage entertainment with local bands, international food, children's entertainment, market stalls, face painting and street entertainers.

Details: Free. $5 unlimited ride band. www.facebook.com/events/319051044971274

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Where: Fig Tree Pocket Boat Ramp Park, Fig Tree Pocket Time: 10am to 12pm Come dressed as a pirate where you will learn how to talk like a pirate, walk like a pirate and also learn how to play a pirate's favourite games. This is a swash buckling session perfect for little buccaneers!

Details: Free. For children aged 3 to 5.

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OCTOBER 10

Where: Brisbane Showgrounds Time: See website for details Check out the full program for Oktoberfest including the Kinder Zone for ful-on fun for kids and adults alike! www.oktoberfestbrisbane.com.au

Where: Booker Place Park, Bellbowrie Time: 10am – 12pm Keep the kids active with lots of action in the outdoors. Activities include putting up tents, orienteering, parachute games, super rockets and more!

Details: Free. www.brisbane.qld.gov.au

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Where: Various – see website for details Experience high-energy performances, world and Australian premieres plus the spectacular Sunsuper Riverfire.

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BRISBANE FESTIVAL

SEPTEMBER 5 TO 26

Where: Various – see website for details Check out the free family program on offer from the StoryArts Festival aimed at increasing an awareness of the value of the arts and literature for children.

Details: Online bookings required for some events. storyartsfestivalipswich.wordpress.com

STORYARTS FESTIVAL IPSWICH

SEPTEMBER 5 TO 16

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SPECIAL FEATURE

For the love of

literature

by Belinda Hopper

ALBERT EINSTEIN FAMOUSLY SAID, “IF YOU WANT YOUR CHILDREN TO BE INTELLIGENT, READ THEM FAIRY TALES. IF YOU WANT THEM TO BE MORE INTELLIGENT, READ THEM MORE FAIRY TALES.” WHY WOULD ONE OF THE CLEVEREST PEOPLE TO EVER LIVE SUGGEST THAT READING FAIRY TALES – MAGICAL, WHIMSICAL, MADE-UP STORIES – IMPROVES A CHILD’S INTELLIGENCE? IS IT BECAUSE FAIRY TALES ENCOURAGE CREATIVITY AND INNOVATIVE THINKING, HELPING CHILDREN IMAGINE WHAT MIGHT BE, RATHER THAN LIMIT THEIR THINKING TO WHAT IS ALREADY KNOWN ABOUT THE WORLD? Notice Einstein didn’t say, “Get your children to read fairy tales,” but for parents to read to them? Fifteen-year-old Sarah from the Sunshine Coast explains why. “Some books I would read myself.

Others I just wasn’t interested in when I tried to read them, but I loved them when mum read them to me. I knew by her expression whether something was meant to be funny or serious. She made the story come to life. I didn’t have to do the hard work of reading.

I got to just listen and enjoy the story.”

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On the importance of literature, Sunshine Coast author of 21 children’s books Aleesah Darlison says, “Stories teach children how to deal with real-life issues and feelings as they follow the protagonist’s journey.

Reading enriches children’s lives. Staring at a computer or television reduces their imagination, but a book engages it.” Besides the many ways in which literature enriches your child’s mind, it’s wonderful to end the day snuggled up in bed together sharing spine-tingling adventures or nailbiting mysteries and meeting new ‘friends’ between the pages of a book.

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HOW LITERATURE CHANGES US When someone says a book changed them, they’re not overstating. A study from Emory University1 on the short- and long-term effects of a novel on the brain found that the brain goes through short-term changes during the activity of reading.

The first change is to work out what the language of literature is communicating, then triggering neural activity associated with bodily sensations, placing the reader ‘in the body’ of the protagonist, allowing them to figuratively experience what the character experiences. In the long term, during the process of reflection and comprehension, changes continue in brain connectivity – long after we finish reading.

STORIES TEACH CHILDREN COMPASSION, ENLARGE THEIR WORLD VIEWS AND ENCOURAGE THEM TO THINK OUTSIDE THE SELF.

WHAT SHOULD KIDS READ?

Some long-term changes are to do with increased empathy and compassion. A study from York University2 on emotion and narrative fiction found that readers identify strongly with a character and their external experiences, leading to empathy for the character’s plight and internal responses.

Different types of stories appeal to different age brackets. Aleesah says, “Picture books are about exploring the world and dealing with feelings and providing comfort. The 8 to 12 years age bracket brings in elements of escapism and danger. The protagonists are often on an adventure without their parents. There is more at stake, but still within boundaries. Teens are introduced to a harsher world, often dealing with a dystopian, unsettling experience or environment, which the main character struggles to overcome.”

Dr Paul Williams, lecturer in creative writing at the University of the Sunshine Coast and award-winning author of novels for older kids, says, “Stories teach children compassion, enlarge their world views and encourage them to think outside the self.” Just as young readers get to ‘experience’ life in Africa by reading Dr Williams’ books, he says, “My father read Huckleberry Finn to me at 10 years old and I wanted to be Huck Finn, escaping from ’sivilization’ and rafting down the Mississippi.”

Because books have a real impact on our minds, ideas and emotions, parents have to stay in touch with what their children are reading, especially when it comes to advanced readers in the 8 to 12 year age bracket, who are looking for a more challenging read but might not be ready for themes in books for older kids. Aleesah says, “Eight to twelve-year-olds still need to read books with messages of hope and positivity, but the older books sometimes have more destructive, violent, dystopian themes.”

Aleesah believes books are a wonderful resource for teaching and sharing ideas with children. She says, “Books have the ability to help us heal.” This is particularly true of books that teach children how to deal with grief and loss, like Katherine Paterson’s Bridge to Terabithia, or how to build a new life, like Patricia MacLachlan’s Sarah, Plain and Tall.

So how do we know what books are age-appropriate? In the last few years Specialist Children’s Booksellers have compiled and published a small booklet called Don’t leave childhood without: a guide to the best books for children. The guide is sold at independent bookstores and contains an overview of the best books for kids, broken down into age categories.

NURTURE THEIR LOVE OF LITERATURE Beloved Australian children’s author Mem Fox believes it is never too early to start reading to your child and that parents should spend “ten wildly happy minutes every single day” reading aloud with their children.

Most libraries have a weekly story time for pre-schoolers: a time of interactive reading and craft, centred on the theme of the week.

While you’re there, encourage your child to select a few books to borrow and return the following story time. This gives children a sense of the communal nature of stories – that they are something we all share.

You can also peruse bookstores together and make a note of titles and authors your child shows interest in. Then tip off grandparents and aunts for gift ideas.

Encourage children from prep to year 9 to participate in the annual statewide Premier’s Reading Challenge. It’s not a competition; it’s designed to encourage kids to engage in reading for pleasure and learning. Children also gain a sense of achievement and improve their literacy skills. Your child’s teacher should know how to sign up for the challenge.

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SPECIAL FEATURE

TEENS AND LITERATURE

ENCOURAGE WRITING IN TEENS

In the teen years, social media can capture kids’ attention and suck up time they may have spent reading books in earlier years. So how do we ensure that our teens retain their love of reading?

One Brisbane teenage girl wanted a part-time job over the Christmas holidays to earn enough to buy a mobile phone. Her dad preferred she spend the time reading books that would prepare her for adult life. So, they struck a deal: he would pay her to read the books on his list and write a two-page review on each.

By the end of the holidays she would have earned enough to buy the phone she wanted, and he would be satisfied that her time was spent expanding and enriching her mind, and honing her critical thinking and writing skills, ready to start her first year at university.

Journalist and mother of three teenagers Susan Maushart conducted an experiment to unplug her family from all digital devices for three months and wrote about it in her book The Winter of our Disconnect. One result of her experiment was that they all rediscovered their love of reading.

We don’t have to go to the extreme of cutting off the internet altogether. One mummy blogger by the handle ‘Narrowback Slacker’ came up with a ploy to get her young kids to read more – by promising unlimited internet access! One of the things they have to do before gaining access to any ‘glowing screens’ each day is to read a book for 45 minutes. The result is that her kids sometimes get swept up in their books and read for longer before remembering they can now use their screens. Ingenious!

ENCOURAGING KIDS TO WRITE Nurturing a love of literature in children is not just about teaching them to read. It’s also about helping them employ their own imaginations and express their own ideas. Aleesah says it’s important to encourage children to write their own stories and offers the following tips:

Writing for as little as two minutes a day improves physical and mental wellbeing3, and encouraging your teen to write a brief reflection on their day can be a way of clarifying their thoughts and emotions and help them learn to set goals – all important life skills.

BEING A GOOD ROLE MODEL If values are ‘caught, not taught’ then children who see their parents read books are more likely to read books themselves.

Granted, reading is an activity best enjoyed in peace and quiet – which usually means sans children. We don’t always give ourselves permission to sit and read when there’s no end to the washing, but if we make reading a priority in our own lives, the more likely it is our children will become lifelong lovers of literature.

• Start by going for a walk together as walking improves creativity.

• Play with story ideas together and sit with them as they write a list.

• Find funny books to read and notice how pictures add to the telling of the story.

• Let their creative ideas flow and give them time to write them down.

• Encourage them to read or perform their stories for the family, so they see their characters come to life.

• Take them to meet authors so they can be inspired.

• Book them into holiday writing workshops at the library.

• Encourage them to enter their stories into competitions.

Above all, Aleesah says, “Make writing a fun process by getting involved in it with the children.” When kids are bored you could commission them to write a story and pay them an agreed amount per page. Not only will they learn that ideas have value, you will have a treasured memento of your child’s imagination at that age.

References:

THE MORE THAT YOU READ, THE MORE THINGS YOU WILL KNOW. THE MORE THAT YOU LEARN, THE MORE PLACES YOU’LL GO. DR SEUSS

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1. Berns GS, Blaine K, Prietula MJ & Pye BE. Short- and Long-Term Effects of a Novel on Connectivity in the Brain. Brain Connectivity 2013;3(6):590-600. doi: 10.1089/brain.2013.0166 2. Mar RA, Oatley K, Djikic M & Mullin J. Emotion and narrative fiction: Interactive influences before, during, and after reading. Cognition and Emotion 2011;25(5):818-833. doi: 10.1080/02699931.2010.515151 3. Burton CM & King LA. Effects of (very) brief writing on health: the twominute miracle. British Journal of Health Psychology 2008 Feb;13(Pt 1):9-14. doi: 10.1348/135910707X250910

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EDUCATION

“I’m sorry… your child doesn’t fit the box”

by Michelle Kennedy WE ALL WANT OUR KIDS TO ENJOY SCHOOL AND FEEL LIKE THEY FIT IN. WE WANT THEM TO DEVELOP GREAT FRIENDSHIPS AND BE EXCITED ABOUT THEIR LEARNING. THIS IS PARTICULARLY CRITICAL IN THE EARLY YEARS FROM AGES FOUR TO EIGHT AS IT SETS THEM UP FOR SUCCESSFUL LEARNING IN THE LATER YEARS OF PRIMARY AND HIGH SCHOOL. For some children though, learning is not a walk in the park, and struggles with schoolwork may lead to a child feeling they don’t belong. Learning problems can develop, which, if left undetected, can also create behavioural and emotional problems.

When a child is not fulfilling their learning potential, their parents may be told their child ‘doesn’t fit the box’, that they just don’t fit with the standard curriculum and teaching methods. As a parent, you know your child and what they are capable of achieving, so it is important that any learning issues are identified early and corrected as soon as possible to minimise disruption to your child’s learning.

WHAT DO WE MEAN BY LEARNING PROBLEMS? Learning problems generally fall into two categories: 1. More complex problems that require a diagnosis from a professional as they are beyond the expertise of the teacher.

These problems may include visual or auditory issues, sensory processing issues, dyslexia, ADHD or Asperger's syndrome.

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2. Problems that can be addressed within the classroom with elements modified by the teacher to support a child’s learning – changes that parents can help facilitate. This can include the teacher’s teaching style, the child’s learning style and taking regular breaks when learning.

WHAT CONTRIBUTES TO LEARNING PROBLEMS? Within the classroom, there are four key elements to consider which may contribute to learning problems experienced by children: 1.

2.

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A child’s learning style Breaks during lessons Interesting content A child’s self esteem

In addition, food can impact greatly on your child's ability to focus and sustain attention while learning.

Even if your child is doing well at school, it can be beneficial to consider each of these elements and rethink your child’s approach to learning.

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EDUCATION

A CHILD'S LEARNING STYLE What does it mean?

Put simply, a child’s learning style refers to the way they learn best.

When children commence school, they can be visual, auditory or kinesthetic learners.

Visual learners prefer to see things when learning something new.

Auditory learners (aural) prefer having things explained to them and will solve problems by talking about them.

Kinesthetic learners prefer to be moving/feeling when learning something new.

Generally, teachers will present content according to their preferred teaching style. This is where problems may occur for children, as the teacher’s teaching style may not suit each child’s learning style. The teacher may stand out the front of the classroom and talk about a new concept, which is great for the aural learner; however, the visual learner who needs diagrams to explain new concepts may lose focus. This problem has been acknowledged by renowned child psychologist Dr. Michael CarrGregg as one of the causes of poor learning in children.

Ideally, teachers need to cater for individual learning styles by using a multisensory approach to teaching. This means presenting content that uses the child’s visual, aural, tactile and kinesthetic senses. It is an effective way for teachers to provide learning experiences inclusive of most children’s learning styles.

How can parents help?

As a parent, you can support your child’s learning at home by being aware of their learning style.

A visual learner prefers information presented to them in a visual way with pictures, three-dimensional models or YouTube clips. An auditory learner generally has a good auditory memory and gains most from discussion, hearing stories and listening to recorded stories. They can dictate a story to you while you write or type it out. A kinesthetic learner prefers to learn by actually doing, to help new information to be retained. Using lots of hands-on activities enables them to ‘feel’ the learning.

A CASE STUDY A 7-year-old child was struggling with spelling. The child was assessed and results indicated there were no complex learning issues. The parents tried various support spelling programs outside of school with little success and consequently the child developed low self-esteem in relation to their spelling capability.

Further investigation showed the child's learning style (aural) was not catered for in support spelling programs (visual focus) which instigated a change of approach. Extra support for spelling changed to include a focus on hearing and repeating sounds and spelling patterns. Once correct spelling was achieved, the spelling pattern was reinforced with additional multisensory activities. A focus on self-esteem was also included in support sessions. The child’s results showed improvements over time, which began to translate to improvements with classroom learning.

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REGULAR BREAKS INCORPORATING MOVEMENT What does it mean?

One of the main things children struggle with is sitting still for extended periods. They lose focus and start to fidget and wriggle or distract other children in the class. They are often told to stop fidgeting and focus on their work. When children start to fidget it often means they need a break and to move around. In a classroom of 25 children, it can be difficult to allow some children to move as it will distract others, however, is there any reason why the whole class can’t have a short break? Most children would benefit from regular movement breaks while learning. Paediatric occupational therapist Angela Hanscom supports regular breaks for children when learning. She raises concerns that children are often misdiagnosed with ADHD when they actually just need more breaks. She observes that if children are getting fidgety it’s a good sign they need to get up and move. It indicates that children are not getting enough movement throughout the day.

How can parents help?

As a parent, ensure your child is involved in movement-based activities. This may include team or individual sports. If children are fidgeting at home, it means their bodies need to move. Movement helps to switch on the brain, which assists with sustained focus when doing homework. If your child is restless halfway through their homework, allow them a five-minute break.

A CASE STUDY A 9-year-old child was struggling with reading and writing, and a professional assessment had ruled out any learning difficulties.

The child had received additional academic support at school to improve reading fluency and writing structure. There was some improvement, however it was recommended the parents seek academic support outside the school.

The child revealed struggling with sitting still for long periods in the classroom. The child admitted to ‘switching off’ after sitting for a long time, explaining this was a regular occurrence. The child admitted to displaying undesirable behaviour to other children in the classroom due to not understanding the work.

When the focus in the support sessions changed to include regular breaks (which incorporated movement) and a focus on self-esteem, gradual improvements were observed. The child became more engaged in support sessions and was able to sustain attention for longer periods of time. These improvements transferred to the classroom with improved behaviour and consequently better academic outcomes.

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CONTENT REFLECTING THE INTERESTS OF THE CHILD What does it mean?

Children learn best when they are engaged in their learning.

This means content needs to be interesting otherwise children become bored in class.

World-renowned neurologist and educator Dr Judy Willis has published many articles and research papers that illustrate how roadblocks in the brain can prevent new learning being stored in children’s long-term memory. Some of these roadblocks occur when the content is taught using the same teaching method or when the children become bored with the content being presented.

How can parents help?

As parents, you understand the interests of your child. When completing homework, vary activities and relate content to the interests of your child.

An example is learning number facts. Automatic recall of number facts assists with calculating more difficult sums in later year levels.

Varying the way these facts are learnt makes the process more interesting and supports them being stored in long-term memory.

The key is to practise the facts in different ways; if the child loses interest, the practice becomes ineffective. Different ways to learn these facts may be using an iPad app or adopt a sporting focus by bouncing a ball while saying the number facts.

It can be challenging for parents to ensure learning remains interesting at home, however it is important to understand extra efforts made at home can benefit children’s learning in the long term.

A CASE STUDY An 8-year-old child was struggling learning their number facts for homework. The parent said they would have arguments about the importance of learning number facts, resulting in tension between parent and child. After discussions with the teacher, they decided to use different methods to assist with keeping the homework interesting. This involved using a different approach each night, such as a mathematics app or including some type of movement while giving oral answers to number facts.

Michelle Kennedy is an Early Years Learning Specialist based on Queensland’s Sunshine Coast. She holds a Diploma of Teaching (Primary), Bachelor of Education (Early Years) and Masters of Education (Early Years), and has taught at state and private schools in Australia and England.

Michelle works with children who need extra support or extension by using her unique whole child approach to learning, ensuring children reach their full potential.

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Keeping the child interested kept them focused, which assisted with number facts being remembered. Locking them into the child’s longterm memory allowed for quick recall of number facts when required.

A CHILD'S SELF-ESTEEM What does it mean?

Self-esteem refers to how children feel about themselves.

Young children often have positive self-esteem developed from encouraging comments from their parents.

Author, educator, and parenting and resilience specialist Maggie Dent discusses how children develop a sense of themselves as they progress through primary school according to how others perceive them. They become aware of how their performance compares with other children at school. When they experience repeated failure at school, children begin to lack confidence in

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their ability and can develop low self-esteem. This impacts on learning and can affect their memory and ability to focus.

Low self-esteem can be a major cause of children’s learning difficulties. In addressing learning difficulties, teachers and parents often focus on academic skills with minimal focus on self-esteem.

Focusing on self-esteem will give children the confidence to attempt something new, ensuring their minds will be open to improving academic skills.

How can parents help?

As parents, it is important to be positive and supportive. When children experience learning difficulties at school they experience failure, which can send negative messages. Parents need to consider the messages they send their child at home.

It is important to highlight a child’s strengths so they experience success as this may not be happening at school. Talk to children about your own strengths and weaknesses. Model to children that making mistakes is okay, as mistakes help us to learn and develop resilience when faced with difficulties.

Ensure you create an environment at home that encourages discussion about problems children may be experiencing. If children feel good about themselves there is a greater chance new learning will be understood and remembered.

A CASE STUDY An 8-year-old child was struggling with mathematics. An external assessment had ruled out any learning difficulties. The child had become anxious about their repeated struggles and expressed feeling embarrassed when others could work out answers to problems.

The parents sought additional academic support outside of school, explaining mathematics never used to be a problem. The child admitted not trying in mathematics as they ‘just didn’t get it anymore’ and didn’t feel good about themselves at school. The child’s low self-esteem was negatively impacting on their ability to learn mathematics concepts.

Support sessions included a focus on self-esteem and developing an ‘I can do’ attitude towards schoolwork. Simple mathematical problems were provided, increasing in difficulty over time to develop resilience when faced with a challenging problem. The child gradually built up self-esteem, which translated to improved marks in mathematics.

It is important to understand your child’s journey through school may come across a few roadblocks. Does this mean they have learning problems? Maybe…however often the roadblocks are a result of what is happening within the walls of the classroom.

Parents need to challenge any generalisation that 'your child doesn’t fit the box' by questioning elements within the classroom that may be contributing to these learning issues and actively support the child’s learning out of school. Being aware of your child’s learning style, ensuring content is interesting and building self-esteem and resilience can ensure your child is given the best possible opportunities during their education journey.

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BABIES

MOTHERS’ GROUPS: FRIENDS OR FOES?

by Penny Shipway WHEN YOU HAVE A BABY, YOUR LIFE AS YOU KNOW IT CEASES. FAST-PACED CAREERS BECOME LABORIOUS FEEDS AND MENIAL HOUSEWORK, CORPORATE SUITS ARE SWAPPED FOR PYJAMAS WHICH ARE SOMETIMES WORN AROUND THE CLOCK, AND FRIDAY NIGHT DRINKS ARE REPLACED WITH LATE-NIGHT MILK PARTIES OF A DIFFERENT KIND. SO WHEN YOU THROW A RANDOM GROUP OF SLEEP-DEPRIVED, FIRST-TIME MUMS TOGETHER IN A ROOM AND FEED THEM CAKE AND TEA, IT’S A WONDER THEY DON’T START A FOOD FIGHT. Mothers’ groups are a lifeline for many people in the early months with a new baby, but just because you all happen to have a new baby does not mean you will automatically click. Some mothers’ groups bond immediately and last a lifetime, while others descend into unhelpful gatherings that are a joy to leave.

Melbourne author and social commentator Monica Dux says mothers’ groups can be an invaluable support system for new mums, but it’s not surprising that many groups fail. “Mothers’ groups are a really difficult place to navigate. Some people do find a place, some don’t,” she says. “They are good in theory, but I don’t think they always work. And the reasons why they don’t work make perfect sense; they are fraught.

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“If you put a group of people with nothing in common – other than that they have procreated – in any social context, it’s going to be complicated. Parents are feeling scared, insecure and frightened. It can spell a social disaster.”

Monica, who has written two popular parenting books, Mothermorphosis and Things I Didn’t Expect (when I was expecting), says during her research she found just how passionate new parents were on this topic, albeit polarised. “I heard a lot of strong language. A lot of people said their mother’s groups were a pack of judgemental b*tches. One lady said it saved her life.”

The mother-of-two says she was most alarmed by the stories she heard of judgement and insecurity.

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IF YOU CAN’T FIND SUPPORT IN A MOTHERS’ GROUP, ATTEMPT TO CREATE A COMMUNITY OF WOMEN GOING THROUGH THE SAME EXPERIENCE, WHETHER THEY ARE FRIENDS WITH KIDS OR THROUGH ONLINE SUPPORT NETWORKS. “One woman was so scared of judgement she put concealer on her baby’s blemishes, and another woman saw a mother run her finger on the coffee table (to show the dust to everyone)...the worst examples of humanity in one room.”

But Monica says for some women the experience can be positive if mums go into the group being open and supportive. “We compare ourselves constantly, but for a lot of mums comparing gives them a chance to see how other women are doing things.

This can be a good thing when you realise you aren’t the only one. If mothers can get past that and not judge each other, then it can be a wonderful support.”

Sunshine Coast early learning teacher and mother-of-two Tania Brown met her two closest friends at her mothers’ group. “Those friendships took over for me outside of my traditional friends, because we were sharing a huge part of our lives,” Tania says.

“There were times when you had showered, and other times you hadn’t, and they would completely understand. Whether it was teething issues or the fact we were all tired, we were all going through the same thing and we could relate to each other.

MOTHERS’ GROUP

SURVIVAL

GUIDE Parenting author Monica Dux’s top 10 tips on navigating mothers’ groups

1. Be open, honest and not afraid to be vulnerable.

The best way to connect is to open yourself up and share your feelings.

2. Don’t judge. Also consider, are people judging you or are you judging yourself?

3. Have empathy, be kind and generous. Walk in with the recognition that everyone is trying their best.

4. Realise there is no wrong or right way of doing things.

5. Realise you are not all the same.

6. Forgive. We are all on the same train.

“It was also important to have friends outside my family, who knew my baby well, and had also bonded with my baby. That way I could call on them if I needed them to step in for me. It’s so important for kids to attach to other adults.”

7. Support each other. You are there to help not hinder.

Tania says the biggest benefit was knowing people with babies the same age, who you could meet at age-appropriate places, whether that be a coffee shop with babies and later, playgrounds.

10. Stay connected. Find a group that suits you.

While mothers’ groups are usually organised by state government health centres, parent groups can come in many different guises such as antenatal and breastfeeding groups, playgroups, music or Gymboree groups, online support groups and meet ups, or simply friends and family who have children and organise one of their own.

When Tania moved from Sydney to the Sunshine Coast two years ago, she remained in touch with her mothers’ group, but made a point of joining as many parent groups as she could to meet likeminded people and stay sane. “I have kept in touch with my original mothers’ group, but it was also important for me to continue to find more similar parent groups when I moved. Otherwise you isolate yourself and that’s when you have problems.”

Brisbane mother Emma Rennick wasn’t so lucky when finding a mothers’ group. Emma joined a group arranged by the midwives at her antenatal class, but what she thought would be a triumph of sisterhood turned out to be like a scene from the movie, Mean Girls.

"Immediately there was competition and conflict," Emma says. "One mother lined all of the babies up and measured them to see which was the biggest, which wasn't very nice for the mother who had a

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8. Don’t feel you have to live up to any standards.

9. If something isn’t working, move on.

35-weeker premmie. Another mother invited some mums to join a cast-off group that was for professionals only, so that meant she outwardly omitted my friend who was a pharmacy assistant. She kept telling everyone loudly that she couldn't relate to anyone if they didn't have a professional white-collar career. I went a few times and then stopped going. It was hideous, worse than high school."

Monica says if a mothers’ group doesn’t suit you, don’t feel defeated as there are other options.

“It’s not that anyone failed; it is really hard. We put so much pressure on mothers that they will become these angelic beings and form a perfect mothers’ group. They may not be your best friends forever, but if it gets you out of the house once a week then that’s great. If it’s not working for you, find a new one.”

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Whether it’s working for you or not, Monica says it’s crucial for new parents to find alternative ways to connect. “If you can’t find support in a mothers’ group, attempt to create a community of women going through the same experience, whether they are friends with kids or through online support networks. If it doesn’t work, find another way to connect. It is crucial to stay connected.”

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TEENS

BREAKING

DOWN BARRIERS

by Sandra Smith

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TALKING ABOUT SEX, DRUGS AND ALCOHOL WITH YOUR TEEN KEEPING UP OPEN COMMUNICATION WITH TEENAGERS IS A CHALLENGE FOR PARENTS, ESPECIALLY WHEN IT COMES TO TOPICS LIKE SEX, ALCOHOL AND OTHER DRUGS. IT CAN FEEL AWKWARD AND EMBARRASSING, BUT TEENS LOOK TO THEIR PARENTS FOR GUIDANCE AND SUPPORT, THOUGH THEY MAY NOT ADMIT IT. SO IT’S IMPORTANT TO START TALKING, TO BREAK DOWN THE TABOOS AND TO KEEP THE CONVERSATIONS GOING. LET’S TALK ABOUT SEX Sex is a difficult topic for parents to broach with their teenagers.

Though attitudes have changed over time and society is generally more open and permissive, parents may feel uncomfortable talking about sex with their teens – and it’s likely that the young people will feel awkward too.

True Relationships & Reproductive Health (formerly Family Planning Qld) general manager Anthony Walsh says that admitting to those feelings of embarrassment and awkwardness can be a good conversation starter.

“That creates a bond of honesty and respect between the parent and the teenager, so there’s absolutely no harm in saying how you feel about it,” he says. “Remember that despite what they’ll say and how they might react, teenagers actually want to hear from adults about this stuff.”

You can start a conversation by chatting about a current event, a recent documentary or magazine article, or asking what they’ve learnt in sex education at school. Anthony says that teens don’t want ‘the talk’ or a lecture, and sex is a broad area that can’t be limited to just one chat.

“They’re after a conversation, they’re after a discussion, a sharing of ideas. They want to be listened to as well as talked to,” he says.

SAFE SEX

If teenagers are sexually active, parents need to ensure they have a balanced view of healthy sexuality and access to birth control and condoms.

“Don’t wait for kids’ questions. Start the conversations. A lot of parents think they’ve got to wait until their child comes and asks them, and in many cases you’ll wait forever,” Anthony says.

Parents can support their child when they go to their GP for advice or to a service such as True, which offers young people support and consultations for contraception or sexual health checks.

True operates clinics and services in Brisbane and regional Queensland, and has also released a ‘Traffic Lights’ phone app to help parents understand and respond to a child’s sexual behaviour.

SEXUAL BEHAVIOUR OF AUSTRALIAN TEENS According to La Trobe University’s 5th National Survey of Australian Secondary Students and Sexual Health 2013: • 69% of secondary students have experienced some form of sexual activity • 34% of secondary students have experienced sexual intercourse • around 40% of students have experienced oral sex • 59% of sexually active students used a condom the last time they had sex

Parents should think about what young people need to know in order to be safe. If the young person is sexually active, it’s important to make sure that there is consent, that they practise safe sex and that the child is protected from exploitation by an adult.

• the most common forms of contraception among sexually active students are condoms (58%) and/or the contraceptive pill (39%)

Anthony advises parents to consider whether their teenager is in a respectful consenting relationship with a peer of similar age and abilities. Parents also need to ensure that teens understand the implications of being sexually active and how to take steps to protect themselves.

With technology at their fingertips, many teens are posting or sharing sexualised images and material on social media, and they may feel pressured into doing that. Over half of all students had received a sexually explicit text message and just over a quarter of all students had sent a sexually explicit photo of themselves, according to the report.

“They need to understand about consent; they need to understand about safe sex and condom use; they need to understand that it’s okay to talk to someone about their experiences,” says Anthony. “If they’ve experienced unwanted sex, if they’ve experienced unsafe sex, they need to know that it’s important for them to seek help and that their parents will help with that.”

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• 13% of sexually active students reported using no contraception the last time they had sex; while 15% used the withdrawal method.

The media normalises sex, but in a distorted way that doesn’t help young people with their own sexual activity. The report confirms that young people have a poor understanding of chlamydia, hepatitis and human papillomavirus (HPV), though their knowledge of HIV is relatively high.

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THEY’RE QUITE CLUEY AND THEY MAY NOT UNDERSTAND FULLY WHAT THEY ARE DOING OR WHY THEY ARE DOING IT, BUT THEY UNDERSTAND WHEN YOU TREAT THEM WITH RESPECT. WHEN YOU COMMUNICATE OPENLY THEY GET IT.

ALCOHOL AND OTHER DRUGS Some young people engage in risky, thrill-seeking behaviour and for some teens this may involve alcohol and other drugs.

Substance use may be motivated by curiosity, to feel better or to be accepted by their friends. This is a worrying time for parents.

Lives Lived Well community services manager Suzi Morris says experimentation and wanting to fit in with their peers is normal teenage behaviour. Teens with strong family and social connections will usually leave substances alone after a brief dabble, but those who continue using alcohol and other drugs often don’t have strong role models or positive leadership within their peer group.

“They’re leaning towards a peer group that gives them a sense of identity,” she says. “They feel okay because they feel part of something, even though that something could be quite negative.”

When there is continued use of alcohol or other drugs, Suzi says there is a pattern of behaviour over time that will raise a red flag for parents. This can include heightened emotions and mood swings, being unable to sit still, losing their appetite, avoiding eye contact, struggling at school or becoming secretive.

Parents need to trust their intuition, says Suzi, and be prepared to talk about these issues if they see their children’s behaviour changing or if different friends are on the scene. She advises parents to sit down and have an open discussion with their children.

“They’re quite cluey and they may not understand fully what they are doing or why they are doing it, but they understand when you treat them with respect. When you communicate openly they get it,” she says.

Parents are advised to get as much information as they possibly can about the effects and social harms associated with any kind of drug use, and then to approach the topic in a non-threatening way.

“You need to be gentle and you need to be genuinely concerned, which you would be as a parent, but it’s about nurturing that relationship you have with those kids so that you can get the best out of them and they can get the best out of you,” advises Suzi.

RESOURCES

Lives Lived Well: www.liveslivedwell.org.au Ph: 07 3834 0200 or 1300 727 957 (cost of a local call) Headspace: www.headspace.org.au Kids Helpline: 1800 55 1800 Parentline: www.parentline.com.au.

Ph: 1300 30 1300 Raising Children Network: www.raisingchildren.net.au True Relationships & Reproductive Health: www.true.org.au

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Alcohol is the primary issue for young people because it’s easily accessible and it’s legal, says Suzi. This is followed by cannabis and then methamphetamine. There has been intense media attention on ice, a potent form of methamphetamine, but Suzi says the media hype is disproportionate to the actual number of ice users in Queensland.

“You’ve got a massive media beat-up which makes it sound like every second kid is affected by methamphetamine, which isn’t quite true,” she says. “Alcohol and cannabis continue to be the lead in consistently creating social harm.”

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THE STATS ON ALCOHOL USE The 2013 National Drug Strategy Household Survey (NDSHS) by the Australian Institute of Health and Welfare states that 28% of young Australians aged 12–17 years have tried alcohol, 15% have tried cannabis and almost 3% have tried amphetamines or ecstasy.

Binge drinking is often seen as a rite of passage, but risky drinking can have serious consequences. It can cause health problems, serious injury and even death, or lead to sexual activities which teens later regret.

The report states that those under 15 years of age should abstain from alcohol completely, as they are at the greatest risk of harm.

For those aged 15–17 years, the safest option is to delay the onset of drinking as long as possible.

HOW PARENTS CAN HELP Parents need to set a good example for their kids, instead of normalising alcohol or illicit drug-taking through their own habits.

When parents drink or smoke, it’s more likely that their teenagers will do the same.

“Parents are our first role model, if you like, and so whatever your behaviour happens to be, eventually the kids in that family will mirror that in some way,” says Suzi. “So if you’re not quite up to scratch as a role model, then that’s what your kids are going to see and they will think that it’s okay.”

According to the NDSHS survey, friends or acquaintances are the most likely sources of alcohol for 12–17 year olds (45%), followed by parents (29%).

Teenagers want their independence and that’s healthy, but parents have a responsibility to keep kids safe. Keeping the lines of communication open is vital, along with setting clear boundaries and monitoring their behaviour. This could include picking them up at night from parties or chatting with the other parent prior to a sleepover.

Suzi says that help and support for drug and alcohol issues is available from organisations like Lives Lived Well and Headspace, where young people can feel safe to say what’s going on in their life without parental consequences.

“It’s a journey and it’s not a quick fix, and I think parents need to understand that there’s not a magic wand that’s going to go ‘bang’ and your kid’s going to be sorted,” says Suzi. “It takes time, so patience is key, and communication, and not just communication but consistency.”

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CONVERSATION

mr.dad Dale Ballentine

YOU MIGHT THINK YOUR LOCAL PUB IS JUST A WATERING HOLE, BUT IN ONE PUB IN BRISBANE YOU’LL FIND SOMETHING A LITTLE OUT OF THE ORDINARY…

The brainchild of Dale Ballentine – midwife and father of three boys, Lucas (4) and identical twins Harrison and Cameron (2) – mr.dad is an antenatal class for dads-to-be held in an environment sure to relax them.

a more positive birthing experience, less pain medicine is required and medical intervention rates are lower. We also know that the role of an engaged father contributes to the overall social and emotional development of our children.

Dale joins us to share his surely unique approach to antenatal classes for expectant dads and how important he feels the role of the father is in pregnancy, birth and parenthood.

Fathers play such a key role in the health and wellbeing of the family that it is important that they take time to look after themselves as well as provide support and communicate effectively with their partners to ensure their needs are also met.

What is mr.dad? mr.dad is an antenatal class designed exclusively for men. It is a one-off class held at the pub, so dads-to-be can relax in a familiar environment and feel that they can speak openly about their feelings.

The classes are hosted by male facilitators who have experience and knowledge of the current Australian maternity healthcare system and have a special interest in men’s health. We are all fathers so we hope that we bring some authenticity to the class.

What inspired you to start mr.dad?

There were two main reasons that motivated me to set up mr.dad.

The first was the interactions that I was having daily with new and expectant fathers in the hospital. While they were all very excited about becoming new dads, many of them didn’t feel prepared for the birthing experience or their new roles as parents, and didn’t fully appreciate the impact a new member of the family was going to have on their lives.

Secondly, despite being a midwife and having had experience in both delivering babies and educating new parents on how to look after their newborns, I also didn’t feel that I was prepared for the birth of my first son. Taking your own baby home from hospital and being responsible for them is very different to spending an hour here and there with new parents in a hospital ward.

This made me think that if I don’t feel prepared and I have all this experience, how does the average guy feel?

What are your beliefs regarding men, pregnancy and birth that drive your work?

I strongly believe that men play a vital role in all aspects of the pregnancy, birth and parenting journey. We know from some big international studies that when men are fully engaged and supportive during their partner’s pregnancy and birth, women have

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What do expectant fathers learn at your class?

The class is divided into three sessions. The first discusses the basics of labour and childbirth with a focus on the men’s role of supporting their partners. The guys then have a hands-on practical session with dolls that is designed to give them confidence in handling a newborn baby and allows them an opportunity to change nappies and do some safe wrapping. The last session is a bit more deep and meaningful, with the emphasis on how the men are feeling about becoming a dad. This part of the night allows the men to openly discuss their hopes and fears, and challenges their understanding of modern day fathering and masculinity. For many of the men, this is the first time they have spoken openly about these emotions and gives them confidence in knowing that they are not alone.

As a group we discuss our own father-son relationships and how they have shaped us growing up and explore the memories and legacy we each hope to leave for our children.

Many of the men are surprised to learn than 1 in 10 Australian men will suffer from postnatal depression in the first year of their child’s lives, thinking that only women are affected.

How often do the classes take place and how long are they?

The classes are offered once a month on a Thursday evening at the Norman Hotel in Woolloongabba. The class starts at 6pm and goes through to 9.30pm. On most nights the men are still chatting and exchanging personal details well after the session has finished.

How do men react when they learn there is an antenatal class just for them?

To be completely honest, I think most of the men attend the class because their partners send them. Once at the class, however, they relax very quickly and the written feedback at the end of the night is

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always very positive. A number of men have also been referred by their mates so word is getting out there. It is reassuring to know that past participants are talking positively about the classes and how it relates to their experiences, and see the value in attending.

my children every morning before I go to work and be home for dinner and weekend activities while they are young. Working office hours has meant taking a drop in my income, but it is well worth the sacrifice to be spending quality time with my children every day.

Do you have any plans to expand mr.dad in the future?

What has been your most rewarding experience at work?

There has been some interest recently from a number of midwifery and obstetric practices on the Gold Coast and in the Ipswich area, which I am keen to explore further. I also get emails from as far away as Sydney and Melbourne asking if mr.dad classes are available in these cities, so there is definitely a real possibility of expanding. I am also keen to partner with like-minded female midwives to offer something new and contemporary in terms of couples classes, with an emphasis not just on the birth but on the challenges we face as new parents.

Every experience at work is rewarding as I get to meet new and interesting people every day. I especially enjoy sharing my fatherhood experiences with other men, and giving them some confidence to get involved with their children right from the time they are born.

I also attended an international fatherhood conference in San Francisco earlier this year and have been networking globally on something that I can’t share yet, but watch this space!

What parenting advice has had the biggest impact on you?

You also work as a midwife at the largest maternity hospital in Australia. How do you balance family life and work demands?

Until recently I was working typical hospital hours – 12 hour day shifts, 12 hour night shifts and every second weekend – but I realised I was always tired and not spending quality time with my children. Late last year my wife went back to work as an international flight attendant, so I made a decision to change my job and work Monday to Friday.

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What memory of your past work stays with you the most strongly?

I will always remember the first birth that I witnessed as a student midwife. To be present at such a life-changing and intimate moment in a couple’s life was truly special.

I know it is a bit of a cliché, but to make sure I enjoy the time with my children while they are young as they will grow up fast. I want my children to know that I am always available to them.

What life message do you most hope your children will learn from you?

There are so many to choose from but if I was to pick just one I would have to say that I hope my children learn that it is okay to fail, and that they should not be afraid to try things for fear of failure. I want them to dream big, stand tall as men and don’t let others define them.

For more information visit www.mrdad.com.au and www.facebook.com/mr.dad.australia

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Books

For our personal reviews of these titles and many others we are sure you will love, head to www.kidsonthecoast.com.au

THE BOY WHO LOVED THE MOON

Rina Alaimo, Exisle Publishing, RRP $22.99 How many parents have whispered in their child's ear "I love you to the moon and back"? The notion of the moon, ethereal and eternal, has long held the imagination of parents and children in its magnetic pull. This stunning adaptation of the beloved The Boy and The Moon – winner of multiple international independent film awards – tells the story of a boy who swims the deepest seas and slays the mightiest dragons to win the moon’s love. Recommended for children aged 3 to 5 years, story-lovers of all ages will be drawn to the timeless beauty of The Boy Who Loved The Moon.

PAN

In cinemas September 24. Rating: TBC The story of an orphan who is spirited away to the magical Neverland. There, he finds both fun and dangers, and ultimately discovers his destiny – to become the hero who will be forever known as Peter Pan.

ODDBALL

In cinemas September 17. Rating: G The story of Allan “Swampy” Marsh and his Maremma dog Oddball.

Swampy convinced the local authorities to allow Oddball to protect a colony of Little Penguins on Middle Island from wild cats and dogs.

Oddball succeeds in his campaign and becomes a frontrunner for Maremma dogs used to protect other Australian wildlife.

TOO BUSY SLEEPING

Zanni Louise & Anna Pignataro, Little Hare, RRP $24.95 Eleanor longs to play with her baby brother, but newborn Reuben is always asleep. Will Eleanor wear out with waiting? First-time author Zanni Louise collaborates with award winning illustrator Anna Pignataro to create a warm domestic story of excitement and frustration.

Available in hardcover, Too Busy Sleeping brings a fresh perspective to sibling relationships and will resonate with all families with children.

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apps PLAYLATES

(iPad, iPad Mini) $2.49 Playlates is a new app that encourages parents to explore active, developmental games with their babies in a way that is safe and fun. It is founded on the practices and principles of Pilates, which are extended to appropriately support babies who are just learning to move.

From the age of 8 weeks on you can assist your baby in sitting, rolling over, crawling and standing all the way until they're ready to take their first big steps. Playlates is currently available from the Apple App store and is free to download with five introductory activities. Four further sets of activities are available at $2.49 each.

Meg Nagle, Self-published, RRP $19.99 In this part memoir, part sharing of women’s stories, part research, part boobin’, Meg Nagle covers many topics including how to trust your own instincts, why your breastfed child is waking so frequently, why it’s so important to answer their cries, how to feel more rested, what to do when you are feeling exhausted and overwhelmed, safe co-sleeping and bed sharing guidelines, how to get your baby to take longer naps and some gentle night-weaning tips. An essential read for breastfeeding families! Order from www.amazon.com or from her website www.themilkmeg.com

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