Goal for the soul

DIVORCE GUIDE

GOALS FOR THE SOUL PARENTS EDITION

GOALS FOR THE SOUL The most important question you should ask yourself in your divorce is where are you going now? It’s hard to stop and think through the divorce process. Divorce is a problem to which you are going to need to find a solution for. The solution may come through court but will most likely be resolved at a mediation or informal settlement conference. The important thing is to take control over the process BEFORE the process takes control over your happiness and pocket book. Since you have kids the first thing you have to remember is that this person is not going away in your life. Your both parents to your children. That being said its time to figure out how you’re going to work with this person DURING and AFTER the divorce. The assessments in our Divorce for the Soul is to help you determine the best course of interaction with your child’s other parent. Please take the assessment and then come back to it later in the day.

THREE PEOPLE TO CHOOSE INSTRUCTIONS: Who do you talk to right before you divorce?

You only get to choose three.

ATTORNEY

SPOUSE

KIDS

FRIENDS/FAMILY

REVEREND/PRIEST

THERAPIST

What's Troubling You? TOP 3!

PRESENT FINANCES

CUSTODY

RETIREMENT

CO-PARENTING

FRIENDLY DIVORCE

PROTECT CHILD FROM HARM

BEFORE TODAY YOU AND YOUR EX RESOLVED CONFLICT (CHOOSE ONE) WE NEVER DID, THAT’S WHY WE’RE FILING FOR DIVORCE

I WOULD ALWAYS AGREE TO AVOID A FIGHT

WE WOULD TALK THROUGH THE PROBLEM

WE WOULD GO TO OUR MARRIAGE THERAPIST PRIEST OR REVERAND

I WOULD JUST WALK AWAY FROM A ARGUMENT WE’D LOOK FOR A RESOURCE TO HELP SOLVE OUR PROBLEM

OBSTACLE CHALLENGE WHAT IS YOUR BIGGEST FEAR IN YOUR DIVORCE. WHAT IS THE GREATEST OBSTACE YOU BOTH FACE? YOU ANGER

FEAR

DEPRESSION

FAMILY FEAR OF THE UNKNOWN FEAR OF THE COURT SYSTEM

YOUR PARTNER

WHERE ARE YOU GOING? Not Important Amicable Divorce

Low Cost Divorce

Shared Parenting (50-50)

Co-parenting

Collaborative DIvorce

UNSURE!

Somewhat Important

Important

Extremely Important

GOAL FOR THE SOUL - BEFORE THE DIVORCE RATINGS: HI, SO-SO, OR LOW YOU ABILITY TO TALK THROUGH FEELINGS ABILITY TO CONTROL EMOTIONS

ABILITY TO TALK THROUGH FEELINGS

YOUR PARTNER

GOAL FOR THE SOUL MIRROR MIRROR FAIRS FAIR HOW DO YOU RATE YOURSELF? HIGH MEDIUM LOW

ABILITY TO TALK THROUGH FEELINGS

ABILITY TO CONTROL EMOTIONS

HAVE EMPATHY?

ABILITY TO LISTEN AND UNDERSTAND

The way I WANT to co-parent with my child’s other parent is to…

Is to win at all cost – compete

Avoid

Compromise

Collaborate

Accommodate – give in

Things I need to work on

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