Fall Newsletter 2019

OCTOBER 2019

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Message from KIDS Center’s Executive Director page 2

“Why didn’t my child tell me they were being abused?”

advice on creating an environment where children have the best opportunity to speak up page 3

Welcome New Board & Staff Member

See who’s joined our team! page 5

Board of Directors David DeRose, Chair Ginny Haarberg, Treasurer Dr. Blair Struble, Secretary Dr. Jeff Absalon Molly Carroll Sandy Cummings Ali Dietz David Gilmore Dr. Guitar Hanna Joel Hoff Eric King Jay Lyons Stacy Neil Annie Nelson Leslie Nelson Leslie Neugebauer Jason Nuñez-Mooney Roberto Riqueme Dietrich von Behren

Directors Robin Antonson

Direction of Development Interim Executive Director

Gabrielle Allender

Direction of Client Programs and Prevention

Carla Brinuck-Wood Director of Clinical Operations

Dr. Nancy Heavilin Medical Director

Holly West

Finance Director

Jefferson County Advisory Council Ken Clark Heather Crow-Martinez Cindy Hess-Mondoy Barbara Ibrahim Nancy Seylor Dr. Shilo Tippett

Dechutes County Advisory Council Tammy Baney Shannon Bauhofer Lilian Chu Patti Craveiro Dick Donaca Joanna Donaca Jim Dover Mike Dugan Chris Gardner Ted Hetzel Janet Hiatt Teresa Hogue Linda Huston Andy Jordan Jeff Klein Jay Mathisen Sue McWilliams Jeff Patterson Justin Phillips Sue Shepardson Bob Smit Marda Stoliar Diana Tomseth Jan Wick

Crook County Advisory Council Terri Andreasen Mona Boyd Eric Bush Kim Bush Muriel DeLaVergneBrown Joel Hoff Wendy Perrin

Visit our website to read more about our Staff and Board: kidscenter.org

From KIDS Center’s Executive Director The high-pitched laughter of a young child as they walk past my office door, the dedicated focus of our team scheduling an emergent visit, board members dreaming up new avenues of financial support, our front conference room packed with adults learning about KIDS Center’s services: what do these all have in common? They are just a few of the many reasons I will miss this amazing place.

to deploy throughout the region. These funds will also allow us to research and invest in tele-mental health options to optimally serve our rural neighbors.

It is clear KIDS Center is more than just a building. We are an embodiment of a community who cares for those affected by abuse and trauma. From clients accessing resources, to our staff, volunteers, board members, advisory councils, donors, This fall I am leaving my position as Executive community partners and regional teams, Director. It has been a veritable honor to every single one of you plays a crucial role in serve in this role. As KIDS Center celebrates nurturing the resilience of Central Oregon’s 25 years of providing comprehensive children. services to community members impacted by abuse, I am privileged to have led the I am inspired by the thousands of clients who have courageously shared their stories organization for 11 of those years. and journeyed towards healing. As KIDS During my tenure I have watched our Center carries on, I have full confidence the services steadily grow. Now, we conduct child staff and Board of Directors will ensure all abuse evaluations for residents spanning six services continue to meet the growing needs counties. We provide comprehensive family of our regional community. Thank you for 25 support services. We have on-site therapists years of support. Thank you for your positive who immediately respond to every client impact. Thank you for investing in Central and family, and who foster long term Oregon, KIDS Center, and me. I can’t wait to engagement of a family’s healing process. see what the future holds for this incredible We host prevention and education trainings, organization. bolstering our community’s preparedness to protect children from experiencing abuse.

I simply could not be prouder of the robust resources we offer families.

Today KIDS Center employs 27 staff members and counting. We were recently awarded a large multi-year grant to hire two new full-time therapists who we plan

Shelly Smith

Executive Director

Thank you for 11 Years of Passion, Advocacy and Leadership A Note from Dave DeRose – Board Chair As our Executive Director for 11 years, Shelly has led KIDS Center’s amazing staff in providing critical support to countless victims and families while also supporting education to our communities on child abuse prevention. Shelly has also been a passionate advocate in creating local, statewide, and national partnerships. Her efforts have improved programs, services, and resources for all families, especially those impacted by trauma. In my nearly 5 years on the Board of Directors, I have been inspired by the amazing work of KIDS Center under Shelly’s steadfast leadership. It has been a true privilege working alongside Shelly and witnessing the impact of KIDS Center. I want to thank Shelly for her invaluable contributions to KIDS Center. We’re excited to see what the future holds and look forward to honoring and perpetuating KIDS Center’s 25-year legacy.

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Dave DeRose Board Chair

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The words “bad” and “hurt” can be confusing to children because not all abuse physically hurts or feels bad.

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of abuse happens by a trusted family member or friend - only teaching children about strangers or bad people can confuse children that are being abused by someone that is loved and trusted by them.

“Why didn’t my child tell me they were being abused?”

Molly Bean, LCSW KIDS Center Child & Family Therapist

This is a question we hear repeatedly from frustrated and confused caregivers. There are many barriers that make it difficult for children to disclose abuse. Most children are abused by someone that is known, loved, and trusted to the child, their family, and/or community. It can be hard for children to think they will be believed when speaking up against someone so well-regarded. Kids sometimes have mixed feelings about getting a person in trouble; if they disclose, their caregiver, friend, coach could go to jail. There could also be aspects to the relationship with their abuser that the child views as positive such as attention or gifts. It’s possible their family could lose their community, home, or security. Sometimes the abuse has been so normalized that the child might not know it’s wrong until they

start spending time with other families and see different family dynamics or receive child abuse prevention education in schools.

So how can adults create an environment where children will have the best opportunity to speak up?

• Talk openly and honestly about body safety in order to model that no subject is too taboo or difficult to talk about.

• Many children won’t disclose abuse to their parent, so it is important to talk to children about other options for safe people (teacher, counselor, parent, aunt) they could disclose to.

April 2019 brought the launch of National Children’s Alliance’s SHINE campaign. The ultimate goal of this national campaign is to change the dialogue surrounding child sexual abuse. For many adults, child sexual abuse is where the trauma started. Without a Child Advocacy Center like KIDS Center to help, many survivors do not find their voice until adulthood. At a time when disclosures of sexual abuse and harassment are becoming more mainstream, adult survivors occupy a unique space where there are opportunities to demonstrate that healing can happen, and that hope is possible. Join the campaign of supporting survivors and KIDS Center, letting children know that there is hope and that survivors of child sexual abuse can lead rich, fulfilling lives. Follow the campaign on

• Watching language is important.

Teaching clear rules about body safety and letting children know that if ANYONE breaks those rules on their body (or a friend’s body) it’s necessary to speak up and to continue to speak up until help is given.

The more openly adults can talk about child abuse in age-appropriate ways, the more comfortable children will be repeating the behavior they see in their trusted adults.

Speak Up, Save a Child!

Instagram and Facebook to read survivor stories, or submit your own, and commit to being the light in our community that helps kids by supporting KIDS Center.

Be a child’s voice.

Speak out and #SHINE @SHINEcause @whyweshine 3

Donor Spotlight Through their heartfelt generosity, longtime donors and KIDS Center friends, David Gilmore and Scott Woods, have made a positive impact on numerous children and families impacted by child abuse.

the past 7 years, David and Scott’s impressive outreach has introduced over 100 community members to KIDS Center, connecting them to join us as we give hope and healing to the most vulnerable children in our community.

And their generosity doesn’t stop there! They In 2010, David took a tour of KIDS Center are also steadfast corporate sponsorship and and connected with the mission to provide auction donors through their affiliations prevention, evaluation, and treatment of child with Coldwell Banker Morris Real Estate and abuse. Since this tour, David and Scott have Greystone Hotels. Their generosity has funded been enthusiastic KIDS Center volunteers, over 25 child abuse evaluations- often the first donors, and ambassadors. step toward healing for a child and family.

David and Scott have a tremendous gift for Thank you, David and Scott! You are sharing their passion for KIDS Center with changing lives! others! As table hosts at our annual Healing Hearts Luncheon and Cork & Barrel events for

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We give to KIDS Center because we strongly believe in their mission and we want to support them in any way possible.

- David Gilmore and Scott Woods

Beneficiary Events THANK YOU to all of the organizations and individuals who held a fundraising event or toy/stuffed animal drive for KIDS Center. We deeply appreciate being the beneficiary of your event! A special thank you to those who raised $500 or more:

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10 Barrel Charity Night

Mark & Alice Sole’s Soup Cook-Off

2nd Annual Terry R Anderson Memorial Golf Tournament

McMenamins Friends and Family Night

Bend Adult Prom

PGA Oregon Open Golf Tournament

Compass Commercial Real Estate Services Cares program

Pine Tavern PT84 Beerfest Invitational

The 2019 Great Drake Park Duck Race

SELCO Cheer Member Appreciation Campaign

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Sandy Cummings, Board Member Sandy is an award-winning documentary filmmaker and owner of TV Storyteller, a nonfiction video production company in Bend. She spent more than 20 years as a producer and then a senior producer for NBC News and Dateline NBC, where she earned numerous awards including three Emmy® Awards, an Edward R. Murrow Award, a Columbia DuPont Award and an Overseas Press Club Award. While working for NBC News in Los Angeles and New York, she covered major breaking national news stories including the terrorist attacks on 9/11, the Columbia space shuttle explosion, the mass shooting at Columbine High School, Michael Jackson’s molestation trial; investigative stories; medical stories and social justice issues such as Australia’s stolen generation. She also served as the Director of Communications for the High Desert Museum from 2014-2018. She currently serves on the board of directors of Art in Public Places and is a volunteer wish granter for Make-A-Wish. Sandy and her husband Bruce moved to Bend in 2006 when Bruce retired from his job as a senior producer of NBC Nightly News. In their free time, they enjoy hiking, traveling, and woodworking.

Jay Lyons, Board Member Jay is a Partner and Principal Broker at Compass Commercial Real Estate Services; a commercial real estate brokerage, property management and construction services firm located in Bend, OR. Jay is originally Wisconsin, but has lived across the country including stops in Pennsylvania, Colorado and California. In addition to the KIDS Center board, Jay also serves on the boards for the Bend Chamber of Commerce and the Mt. Bachelor Rotary Club. Jay, his wife Katie their 3-year old daughter Riley and their 1-year old daughter Saylor currently live in Bend, OR.

Roberto Riquelme, Board Member Roberto Riquelme graduated from ITESO Guadalajara Mexico with a degree in Architecture. He currently works for Les Schwab Tire Centers as a Construction Project Manager.

Roberto is an outdoor enthusiast and enjoys Central Oregon’s mountain bike riding in the summer and snowboarding in the winter.

Central Oregon became home for Roberto beginning with family vacations to the area in the late 1970s.

Becoming involved in improving this community is the main reason he participates enthusiastically in local events and is committed to contributing his time and effort to KIDS Center.

Kaitlin O’Donnell, Bi-lingual Prevention Family Support Specialist Kaitlin O’Donnell moved to Bend, OR from Central California approximately one year ago, where she worked with teen girls to implement after-school and in-class education enrichment programs to help identify, remove, and prevent barriers to students’ academic, career, and personal development. Kaitlin is well-versed in the Spanish language and has spent a significant amount of time working in the Dominican Republic, assisting women in rural areas with finding stable employment opportunities and coordinating a diverse range of community development, resources, and educational services for a U.S.-based nonprofit.

Most recently, she has worked as a wilderness therapy instructor through Evoke Therapy Programs in Bend, providing guidance and support to teens, young adults, and their families.

Annie Adams, Front Desk & Volunteer Coordinator Annie comes to KIDS Center with a diverse background that will lend itself well to the multi-faceted role she’s taking on. For the past 5 years she has held various positions within 7 Peaks School, ranging from Teaching Assistant to Assistant to the Head of School. Previously, she has been an EMT and Emergency Room technician amongst other interesting and challenging roles. She is also a Professional Lifestyle Photographer (even volunteering her skills at Cork and Barrel in years past). She is a very proud mom of 3, and knows and loves our community.

WELCOME NEW STAFF & BOARD MEMBERS

He’s worked in the real estate and construction development industry on diverse projects and locations, including the Pronghorn Resort locally and internationally for the Ritz Carlton in the Turks and Caicos Islands. His flexibility, straight-forward thinking and action, and “get it done” attitude are why he’s effective in those varied experiences.

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These individuals, businesses, and private foundations donated $1,000+ from August 2018 through July 2019 in support of our direct services, helping to ensure we are here for every child when they need us.

Thank you for improving the lives of kids each and every day!

Anonymous - 9 10 Barrel Brewing Company 10below Jeff and Linda Absalon Advantage Dental Advisory Services and Investments LLC David and Susan Anderson Mary F. Anderson Terry Russell Anderson Memorial Avion Water Company Troy and Robin Bailey Joel and Valerie Bailie Ted and Leslie Bainbridge John and Gussie Baker Sherri Baker Curt and Robin Baney BDS LLC Mark and Nancy Beach Pierre Begin Bend Elks Lodge No. 1371 Bend Family Dentistry Bend Garbage and Recycling Co. The Bend Radio Group Bob and Jean Bennett Big Country RV Bigfoot Beverages Craig and Peggy Biss Galen and Meghan Blyth Tim and Breah Bollom Ann Brayfield and Joe Emerson Greg and Michelle Brenholdt The Brewer Family Foundation William and Jennifer Brewer Broken Top Club Brooks Resources Corporation Larry and Pat Burch Eric and Brianna Cadwell Bob and Pam Caine 6

Michael Caravelli and Nicole Earl Peter and Patti Carlson Robert and Kim Carrick Adam and Molly Carroll Cascade Insurance Center Cascades Academy - Commuity 101 cc McKenzie Shoe & Apparel Central Oregon Independent Practice Association Central Oregon Pediatric Associates Central Oregon Radiology Associates Chris Chambers Tommy and Katy Clabough Neil and Angie Cole Robert Cole Compass Commercial Real Estate Michael Cottam and Angela Hogan John and Lori Courtney Al and Penny Cowan Gary and Kay Craven Jack and Helen Crowell Bruce and Sandy Cummings Sarah Cummings Jack and Veronica Cuniff Jim and Jean Curran Leland and Holly Dake Keith and Vicki Darnall David D. Gilmore, Broker & Coldwell Banker Morris Real Estate Lois Day Ed and Kathy Deenihan Mike Del Nero Team DeLay/Hasson Company Realtors Jim and Dory Delp Dave and Janae DeRose Jeff Deswert

Adam and Ali Dietz Alex Dietz and Andrea Miller Bob and Carolyn Dietz Steve and Joan Dodd Jim and Julane Dover Dwyer and Williams, Attorneys, P.C. Bogden and Lea Dziurzynski Sean Easly East Bend Dental East Cascade Women’s Group Edwards Family Foundation Ken Edwards Greg and Vicki Everson Gary and Marcia Everton Fairfield Inns & Suites Nancy Faries First Interstate Bank Gary and Carol Fish Dennis and Zelia Flannery Shane and Jacey Forman Fred Real Estate Group LLC Lynn Freeman Stan and Gail Fridstein Harlan and Gwen Friesen Larry and Kelly Froeber G5 Search Marketing Inc. Brian and Kirsten Heinz-Garcia Lynn Gassner Staci and Sharon Gibson Scott and Tish Gilbert Pam and Dana Gillet David Gilmore and Scott Woods GreenLoop IT Solutions Greystone Hotels Meghann Griffiths Mark and Dana Hagenbaugh Lee and Lisa Handley Matthew and Kati Hannigan Ron and Beth Hanson

Jason and Angela Harris Hasson Company, Realtors Hayden Homes Margi Heater Ron and Annette Henderson High Desert Corvette Club High Desert Insurance Joel and Nicole Hoff Mike and Sue Hollern Hooker Creek Companies, LLC Lindsey Hopper Horodas Family Foundation Kevin and Bobbie Howard Neal and Jodie Hueske Bob and Trish Humphrey InFocus Eye Care Center, LLC. Jack Robinson & Sons Inc. Jackson National Life Insurance Company Jake Russell Excavation, LLC John and Nancy James Larry and Kathy Janssen Chuck Johnson Jones & Roth Andy Jordan and Marcia Morgan Tory Junkin Dusty and Connie Kaser Jonathan and Heather Kendall Keith and Deanne Kenneally Bradley and Melissa Kent Pat and Rene Kesgard Kenneth Kesler Eric King and Martha Ketsdever Mark King Max King and Dory Koehler-King Klein Investment Strategies Holly Klein Jeff and Michelle Klein

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Steve and Amanda Klingman Howie and Marcia Koff Russell and Martha Kohl La Pine Building Supply Andy and Colleen Larsen Greg Larson and Delia Feliciano Tom Lau - Suterra The Law Offices of Warren John West, P.C. Les Schwab Tire Centers William and Ann Lincoln Simon and Megan Liu Ron and Diane Lund Jim and Margie Lussier Terry Lynch and Teresa Hogue Jay Lyons Steve and Patsy Macnab Jim and Denise Mahoney Mary’s Peak Properties Russell and Sheri Massine Craig and Katie McClure Bill and Gail McCormick Van McIver and Brigid Turner Merrill Lynch Miller Lumber Dennis and Julie Miller Alan and Cathy Mills Alan Mofitt Craig and Lynne Moore Morgan Stanley: Schroeder/Fain Group

Ed and Marcy Mutch Marcie Nashem Laura Naumes Matthew and Annie Nelson Josiah and Kristin Neuhaus Greg Newton and Lisa Shrunk Bob and Vicky Nippert Jason Nunez-Mooney NW Natural Chris O’Driscol Erin Olson and Karyn Vincent Ron and Kathie Olson and Family Russ and Molly Omizo Isaac and Nancy Oren Samantha Osborne PacificSource Health Plan - Bend Pahlisch Homes, Inc. Dan and Rebekah Pahlisch Wayne and Kerry Parker John and Jill Pavlicek Ed Payne Skip and Lynda Paznokas Joan Pease-Barnum & Chuck Barnum Curt and Kim Pence Erick Petersen PGA Pacific Northwest Section Tom and Rhonda Pietrowski Pine Tavern Caroline Pinnick Zack and Maureen Porter

Arthur and Jean Pozzi PureCare Dental of Bend Jeanice Raper Hollings and Lou Renton David and Liz Rink Riverhouse on the Deschutes Anthony and Lynne Rosenthal Monicia Ruggieri Jake and Desiree Russell Greg and Stacey Sabin Heather Salvesen Saxon’s Fine Jewelers Jan Schnetzky Ryan and Alexa Scholz SealMaster Ron and Diane Seals SELCO Community Credit Union SGA Certified Public Accountants & Consultants Stan and Sue Shepardson Stephen and Paula Shultz Patrick and Liz Sireta Brad Smith and Susan Prior Doug and Laurin Smith Greg and Janey Smith Diana Starr StrategyCap Inc. Struble Orthodontics Trebor and Blair Struble Summit Bank Summit Medical Group Oregon -

Bend Memorial Clinic Norman and Nancy Swanton Michael and Adele Tennant Bob and Clella Thomas Tomseth Family Charitable Fund Towneplace Suites Stephanie Trautman and Ross Kranz Jen Treber and Dustin Whitaker U.S. Bank Ralph and Marcia Uri Chris and Erin van der Velde Scott and Kristin von Eschen Linda M. Wakefield WakeMAKERS, LLC Betsy and J.D. Weedman John and Amy Weinsheim Warren and La Juana West William and Julie Wheir Jan and Chris Wick Pam Williams Sally Wilson Ron and Ellen Wolff Scott Woods and David Gilmore Gregory and Robin Yeakel David and Lynda Zachar Terry and Shelley Zink

While every effort has been made to ensure the accurate listing of our supporters, please notify us of any corrections.

To learn more about how to make a gift, contact Robin Antonson, Director of Development at 541.306.6064.

Thank you for your support.

THANK YOU TO THE MANY FOUNDATIONS AND COMMUNITY PARTNERS FOR THEIR VITAL SUPPORT! KIDS Center has a long history of community collaboration and support through pubic agencies and private foundations. Thank you all for your steadfast support.

Anonymous - 1 Anonymous Fund of The OCF The Autzen Foundation Bend Police Association Bend Police Department BendBroadband Benge Family Foundation *Casey Family Fund City of Bend The Clabough Foundation Cow Creek Umpqua Indian Foundation Crevier Family Foundation Crook County District Attorney Deschutes Children’s Foundation Deschutes County Deschutes County Behavioral

Health Deschutes County DA Office Deschutes County Sheriff’s Office *Stuart and Leah Durkheimer Fund Early Childhood Wellness First Interstate Bancsystem Foundation Inc. The Ford Family Foundation GE Foundation *Giving Tree Fund The Darhl and Donald Guinn Family Fund of the Ayco Charitable Foundation *Harris Fund for Children Horizon Broadcasting Group LLC The Jackson Family Charitable Fund

Jefferson County United Fund Jonas Family Foundation Juan Young Trust Hank and Marcia Lawson Fund, an advised fund of Silicon Valley Community Foundation MacKenzie Family Fund of The OCF *Charles E. and Mary Miller Fund *Craig W and Linda J. Moore Family Fund MountainStar Family Relief Nursery Mt. Bachelor Rotary Club National Children’s Alliance NW Self Storage Foundation The Oregon Community Foundation

Oregon Network of Child Abuse Intervention Centers Pacific Power Foundation PGE Foundation Redmond Police Department Renton Family Foundation Rite Aid Foundation KidCents *Shelk Fund St. Charles Health System Storms Family Foundation The Swanton Family Foundation United Way of Deschutes County *Ward Family Fund WHH Foundation *Williamson Family Fund

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Pine Tavern Beerfest Invitational

The Pine Tavern Restaurant & Bar will host their 4th annual PT84 Beerfest Invitational on October 5, 2019 at 4:30pm. Central Oregon breweries will be competing to be Pine Tavern’s next signature “PT83” Beer. The aim of the competition is to select a winning beer and brewery and celebrate the craft beer industry in Bend! Proceeds from this event benefits KIDS Center. Sneak peak of Paso Robles Wines coming to Cork & Barrel July 2020.

Healing Hearts Luncheon

Join us for our 11th Annual Healing Hearts Luncheon on Monday, April 6, 2020.

The luncheon will take place at the Riverhouse on the Deschutes. To reserve your seat, sign up to be a Table Captain or Sponsor. Contact Joni at 541.383.5958 or joni@kidscenter.org

Cork & Barrel

Wine. Dine.

Make a Difference

Save the date for our 7th Annual Cork & Barrel that will be held July 16-18, 2020, featuring guest wineries from Paso Robles. For information on event sponsorships, ticket sales, wine or auction donations, please email info@ corkandbarrel.org or call 541.383.5958.

In accordance with Federal law and U.S. Department of Justice policy, KIDS Center is prohibited from discriminating on the basis of race, color, national origin, disability, religion, sex, or age.

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