Rachel + Neil Proof 3

RACHEL + NEIL

RACHEL + NEIL SEPTEMBER 29, 2018 THE BOATSHED KARAPIRO, CAMBRIDGE

Latch You lift my heart up , when the rest of me is down You, you enchant me, even when you’re not around If there are boundaries, I will try to knock them down I’m latching on babe. Now I know what I have found I feel we’re close enough, I wanna lock in your love I think we’re close enough Could I lock in your love, baby? Now I got you in my space I won’t let go of you. Got you shackled in my embrace I’m latching on to you. I’m so encaptured, got me wrapped up in your touch Feel so enamoured, hold me tight within your clutch How do you do it, you got me losing every breath What did you give me to make my heart beat out my chest?

I feel we’re close enough. I wanna lock in your love. I think we’re close enough Could I lock in your love, baby?

Apache Blessing Now you will feel no rain, for each of you will be shelter for the other. Now you will feel no cold, for each of you will be warmth to the other. Now there will be no loneliness, for each of you will be companion to the other. Now you are two persons, but there is only one life before you. May beauty surround you both in the journey ahead and through all the years. May happiness be your companion and your days together be good and long upon the earth.

Treat yourselves and each other with respect and remind yourselves often of what brought you together. Give the highest priority to the tenderness, gentleness and kindness that your connection deserves. When frustration, difficulties and fear assail your relationship, as they threaten all relationships at one time or another, remember to focus on what is right between you, not only the part which seems wrong. In this way, you can ride out the storms when clouds hide the face of the sun in your lives -- remembering that even if you lose sight of it for a moment, the sun is still there. And if each of you takes responsibility for the quality of your life together, it will be marked by abundance and delight.

1st Corinthians, Chapter 13 If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, I gain nothing.

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Our vows

Rachel, I take you to be my wife, to be with you whatever happens to us, in prosperity and in hardship, in health and in sickness, in sorrow and in joy, I will love, protect and cherish you as long as we live. This I vow before God. Neil, I take you to be my husband to be with you whatever happens to us, in prosperity and in hardship, in health and in sickness, in sorrow and in joy, I will love, protect and cherish you as long as we live. This I vow before God.

Mi pah Z

The Lord watch between me and thee, when we are absent one from another This ring is a token of my faithfulness and love, and a symbol that all I have I share with you.

on marriage - kahlil gibran You were born together, and together you shall be forevermore.

You shall be together when the white wings of death scatter your days.

Ay, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God. But let there be spaces in your togetherness, And let the winds of the heavens dance between you. Love one another, but make not a bond of love: Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.

Fill each other's cup but drink not from one cup.

Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone, Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music. Give your hearts, but not into each other's keeping.

For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.

And stand together yet not too near together: For the pillars of the temple stand apart, And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other's shadow.

What if I go Wherever you go I'm going with you babe, going with you babe I will and I must, ohI definitely wouldn't miss a thing When you're lost on your own and you're wondering If I'm following, Just know wherever you go I'm going with you babe, going with you babe

Our guests RACHEL

NEIL

KIRA

DUNCAN

JENNIE

STEVE

One

Two

Three

Four

SIMONE

JULIE

ANNE

MAHINA

JERRY

MIKE

GEORGE

JONO

NOOSHA

GARETH

JEAN

CHOI

CLIVE

PETRA

ROD

SHEREE

HARVEY

GINNY

BERNADETTE

ABERNATHY

ELLIOT

ROGER

CHRIS

MIKE

NEVE

SHAUN

TOBIN

TAHNEE

TRUDY

MARK

REID

TROY

SUE

MAUREEN

LEIGH

JOHN

LESLEY

DAVID

By all accounts some of my first words when Rachel was born were along the lines of “Now I’ll have to give a wedding speech” and having spent years worrying about it, here I am. For those of you who don’t know me, I’m Mike Holdsworth and, yes, I am the father of the bride and fortunately for her, Rachel got her looks from her Mum. A very special and moving time is being present at the birth of your child and Rachel’s was no different. Gareth got a new little sister and a new bike. She was a little girl confident in her ability and this she displayed when entering a colouring competition, stating that she would win a prize. “That’s great darling but remember, you may not,” we said. What do parents know – she won one of the $10 prizes to open a bank account and a photo for the local paper. She would also tell things as they were. On the only occasion that I had removed my moustache, Rachel took one look at me and said, “You look stupid, Dad!” and as you can see it’s still with me, albeit a different colour. On another occasion, when she was out with Roger, a dog started following them, so Rachel turned and said “P*** off dog”. I’m sure it turned around and walked off. She took up hockey at primary school and we enjoyed watching her endeavours and this continued into her teenage years.

Oh, the teenage years, the age when, perhaps, they should leave home as they know everything! I did sometimes joke with a suggestion that when the time came for marriage that Rachel should elope – it would save me having to do this!

The footprints in the garden outside her bedroom window caused us to wonder whether, perhaps, she was practising eloping or was it prowlers. It was neither – Rachel was just escaping to some late-night party with friends! The creative side of Rachel was certainly evident over the years and none more so than when doing Materials Technology at Wairarapa College – producing some beautiful ball gowns. Before you knew it was off to Victoria University and whilst there she decided that she would add teaching to her Arts degree choosing English as her subject, just like her Mum. Through the university years and beyond, our daughter has grown into a confident, competent, caring and thoughtful young woman.

Her ability to show empathy with people from all walks of life is a special gift she has. She has a big and loving heart.

Over the later years, when she wasn’t out shopping with Julie, I have really enjoyed the father/daughter time on trips to the zoo or aquarium and, more recently, the visits to Sanctuary Mountain. We are so proud of the beautiful person, both inside and out, that you have become, Sweetie, and we love you dearly. People of my generation have had to get used to using modern technology – computers, mobile phones and iPads whilst those of you younger guests have known nothing different. The use of social media is how many of us now communicate. Unbeknown to us Rachel and Neil were communicating on Tinder over the summer of 2015/2016 and arranged to get together for a drink upon her return to Perth after her trip to New Zealand. Who could have foreseen that the chance meeting would lead to us all being together today? I did have some reservations when I discovered Neil was a Manchester United supporter as I have followed Spurs for many, many years. However, when we first spoke via Facetime then met him in person later on a trip to Perth, the differing allegiances were not a problem. I did consider saying to Neil, when he Facetimed us, towards the end of last year, to ask for our blessing to marry Rachel, that I would say yes to his request when Spurs won the Premier League.

However, since Spurs last finished first in the top division when I was 11 years old, I didn’t think it would be fair on both of them to wait so long! Besides which, I have other long-time friends, Rod and Jean, whom I met on my first day in NZ. Rod is a Manchester United supporter, but I have managed to put that to one side over the last 43 years! When I told him of Neil’s allegiance and his request, he said he would marry him himself! However, despite this alternative offer, I didn’t think Rachel, nor Jean, would be too thrilled with that. Neil, despite my initial reservations regarding you being a Manchester United supporter, I can see that you make Rachel laugh, you make her feel good about herself, you make her happy and you are caring. You love her to bits and we’re so happy and proud to welcome you to our family. Thank you Sim and Jerry for raising a lovely son in Neil. Now for a few words of wisdom from your not so wise father and father-in-law. Just remember that marriage is usually longer than a life sentence but in this you are not on your own. The two of you have to work hard to maintain a healthy and happy marriage. There was a line from a film that said, “Love means never having to say you’re sorry”. This is not true as, whilst we love our children unconditionally, in marriage, we’re not perfect and we could quite possibly hurt the one we love. Then comes the time for apologising and forgiving to fix the hurt. Remember, try to do this so that no one goes to sleep feeling hurt or angry. I’m still learning about marriage after 42 years!! Keep the communication going at all times – so very important. Finally, I would appreciate it if you would all replenish your drinks, stand and raise your glasses as we toast our beautiful daughter, Rachel, and her husband, Neil.

I always knew I would have a daughter named Rachel. My baby daughter, now this beautiful and strong woman. So full of love and understanding, so sensitive and thoughtful and so precious to her family. My baby daughter with curls and dark eyes, my little girl wearing my red beads and red shoes to match her yellow pyjamas. My teenage challenge who told me off for dancing in front of her friends. My university student who came home when she needed mothering and knew I needed to mother her too. My reluctant first year teacher who couldn’t see the gifts she had inside of her. My brave young woman who faced the curved balls life threw at her at times and came out stronger. My confident and caring young woman who gives so much to everyone whose life she touches. And here now my magnificent bride of a daughter.

Thank you darling for all the love you have given to each one of us. We are so happy and content that you have added to our family a cheeky, hunk of a man who loves you dearly, your husband, Neil.

Firstly, a massive congrats to you both on tying the knot. It was awesome to see my sister smile the way she did today and see Mum and Dad so happy and proud - I’m sure they have been looking forward to this day for a long time. I know Nana Holdsworth had been too, after her not so subtle hints starting in your early 20s. She would be very happy for you today.

Nana White would be “so proud”, as would the rest of our family who couldn’t be with us today. I certainly have been looking forward to this day for a long time. Finally today I have had a big weight lifted off my shoulders knowing that I no longer need to intimidate prospective partners now that Rachel has found a suitable husband in Neil. I mean can you imagine the fear some of these guys would have had? In fact, more than suitable, she has found herself a top man - a down to earth nice guy who first and foremost loves and cares for her as much as we do but has just so easily slotted into our family. From me Neil I’d like to wish you a warm welcome to the family bro - I’m stoked to have another brother, another awesome uncle for my kids who just adore you (despite Tobin’s elbow drops on your back yesterday). I am very much looking forward to sharing a few good tunes and pale ales with you over the years to come. But if this is going to work for us - you need to learn your place in the pecking order with Mum’s gulab jamuns. Sis I am truly happy for you. Over the years you’ve made some pretty courageous decisions that have taken you all over the world where you’ve kissed a few frogs and faced a number of challenges and setbacks that you’ve had to deal with on your own away from family. This for a girl who for many years couldn’t spend a night away from home. You may have heard Mum say around 1000 times by now “everything happens for a reason” - and I might have to admit today that she might just be right. Despite these challenges your strong ambition has seen you make massive strides forward with your teaching career, and I’m a proud brother today to see how you’ve grown into a wonderful, smart and brave woman with more inner strength than you give yourself credit for. You are one of the most thoughtful and caring people I know, and I’m so glad that you’ve found someone that reciprocates that, makes you laugh and most of all makes you happy. From myself and Jen we also just want to say how much we adore you as a sister. For me over the years you’ve consistently been a wonderful sibling to me despite often being a useless or clueless brother. More recently with the kids you have shown another string to your bow. You have been such a thoughtful and loving aunty; you have spoilt them rotten and been such an amazing help to us and guest whenever you’ve been at our home. The kids just love you and I know Jen truly values your friendship and support, as do I. Love you sis.

I’d like to say a special thank you to Mike and Julie for a fabulous wedding. It really was. Wow. What can we say about it really? We feel absolutely privileged to be in this beautiful country attending Rachel and Neil’s wedding. It just doesn’t get any better. And the realisation that we’ve got Rachel as part of family. We absolutely love her to bits. I must say at times you know we miss our son, but the realisation that somebody loves him as much as we do – what can you say? Our son who we absolutely love to bits and are very very proud of. I can’t really say much else, only that the effort that Rachel has put in to make him happy, well you can see. She even asked for a tissue when he was emotional, she asked us for a tissue. That’s how much she cares for him. I’d just like to say I wish them a long and happy life together and it’s been fantastic to be here.

For those of you who don’t know me my name is Kira. And firstly, I would like to thank Rachel, Neil and their families for what has been an amazing day so far – it has been an absolute privilege to be a part of it. So, Rachel and I first met back in 2010 when we were both new to the bright lights of Perth, Western Australia and shortly after that first meeting we became neighbours and each other’s date every Friday night where chip and dip was always on hand and nachos was a regular meal. Over the years Rachel has become a best friend to me – she has always been there to pick me up during life’s lows and celebrate with me during the highs. She is such a caring and thoughtful soul, who I can count on for anything and I feel so blessed to be by her side on her big day. When Rach first told me about Neil, their chats on the phone, what they had in common and the things he would say to her I though “WOW” ...this guy – he might be more than just a little bit special. I have watched Rachel and Neil’s relationship grow from dating, to boyfriend and girlfriend, the big move of living together and engaged couple, and now as of today – husband and wife. And I can certainly see how they met each other’s match...They share a love of many things – eggs benedict and hollandaise sauce included - but more importantly, strong family morals, a caring friendship and a big bold love. So, Mr and Mrs Wickens as you start your new journey together as life partners, in the words of George Eliot - “Blessed is the influence of one true, loving human soul on another”. Here’s a toast to you – Congratulations!!!

For all that don't know me I'm Duncan and the best man for Neil. Firstly, I'd like to thank the lovely, gorgeous bridesmaids and make a toast to them. I'd also like to thank everyone who has come far and wide to this wedding.

Four years ago in Perth, I had the pleasure of not only first meeting Neil but going straight to living with him as he became a housemate in a house share I was living in at the time in Perth. A nice unassuming lad on first pleasantries, little did I know what I was getting myself into. In all honesty he was easy to live with - just had to put up with the random whale noises, fake knocking pretending someone was there then going 'Hello?', 24/7 FIFA, and his one hit wonder dish - chicken pesto pasta. Oh, and his entertaining drinking. Upon meeting Neil's best UK friend Gilly, we quickly realised Neil hasn't changed a bit especially when it comes to drinking. Not out the ordinary by any means but Neil tends to have 3 distinct stages of drinking. Stage 3 being what he's known for by everyone.

Stage 1: the downing stage. Drink as much beer as possible in as little time. Confidence and inappropriateness rise. Stage 2: Emotional stage. He loves everyone and everything he sees. Stage 3: Pass out stage. Like a marathon runner he will suddenly hit a wall of alcoholic intoxication and start passing out whenever, wherever he is. In the bar, sitting upright, in the car, on the couch, at a pub, literally in the middle of a conversation with someone. Now onto the meeting of Neil and Rachel. Both fresh out of long-term relationships at the time, in this modern age and in the ever-growing world of social media they turned to the dating app Tinder to find love. That's right, you're quite possibly at your first Tinder wedding. Rachel, potentially hesitant about getting back in the dating game was quickly swept away by Neil's charm. But she needed to know if he was a legit man. And that's when during casual conversation at a date, my name pops up. Turns out my sister Dana lived next door to Rachel in her first year at uni and also in her third year housing together in Wellington. I couldn't think of a better couple match. Rachel to whip Neil back into line if need be, Neil's fondness for everything kiwi and NZ. So, I'd like to raise a toast to the newlywed couple and wish them all the best in the years to come.

I will keep this brief as I'm sure everyone would like to get on with the dancing and drinking. For those of you who don't know me I am Gilly, Neil’s English best mate, but you may also know me as Choi, Dave, Tom, Rich, John, James, Lee or whatever other name Rach gave for me to keep my identity hidden for a surprise for Neil. I would firstly like to say you look absolutely beautiful today Rach and Neil, yes, you are definitely punching above your weight.

Rach you have been incredible in organising this whole trip for me and in helping me getting me here, arranging absolutely everything. I really wouldn't have got here without you, even if you did guilt trip me into doin’ it. Jokes aside, I myself appreciate it and thank you both for letting me be part of your big day. Even if Neil didn't know! And now we move on to you Neil. Me and Neil have been friends for about 15 years, and though we have known each other for this long, I travel all this way and you don't even recognise me at the airport! You looked at me twice and still didn't realise it was me. Cheers mate! You may find this hard to believe but not that I can remember we have never ever fallen out. It is probably because we have so much in common - drinking beer and football are the two that come to mind. I would like to take this opportunity to thank you Neil for being my best mate, my brother from another mother, for all these years and backing me no matter what. Even though you on the other side of the world to me I know you’ll always be there. Everyone has friends but true friends are hard to come by and you my friend are definitely that. Rach you have a great guy here and I know he will look after you. Even though I know you organise absolutely everything for him! I told you my speech would be brief so lastly, I would just like to wish you both all the happiness in the world and all luck for the next chapter in your adventure as Mr and Mrs. Could we please raise a glass for Mr and Mrs Wickens? Thank you very much. Let’s get drunk.

Whakataurangi ake te here ki taku ate Pupu ake nei te mauri o te aroha He hononga ki te iwi kua whakangaro ki te po Te pouriuri, ki te po i oti atu Kei nga whakaoati i herea ki te rangi Hei huarahi atu Tihei mauri ora The strings of my heart promise To hold onto the essence of Aroha Which connects us to all those of have gone before us into the darkness The deep darkness and final resting It is that promise that binds us to the heavens And sets a pathway for us Blessings of life

Congratulations to the greatest uncle that has ever existed to us. Thank you for being present for us and showing us love and supporting us whether near or far. We hope your day is everything you wished for and we wouldn’t have missed it for the world as our silly uncle Neil is very special to us and you have given us the most special gift of all, a beautiful aunty. Thank you, Rachel, for joining our family and being the best aunty everyone could ask for. Thank you for making us happy and making us laugh and giving us some good times with Uncle Neil. We hope that you have a magical life full of love and laughter and a happily ever after because we love you.

At last My love has come along My lonely days are over And life is like a song.

At last

At last

The skies above are blue My heart was wrapped up in clover The night I looked at you.

I found a dream that I could speak to, A dream that I can call my own.

I found a thrill to press my cheek to A thrill that I have never known.

Oh, you smiled. . .

You smiled and then the spell was cast Now here we are in heaven For you are mine at last.

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