For The Moms & Better Mental Health

by Kat Daniels

In 2017, Halle Berry tweeted, "For me, motherhood is learning about the strengths I didn’t know I had and dealing with the fears I didn’t know existed."

The role of a mother, often understood based on cultural expectations, encompasses responsibilities that extend far beyond the basic needs of feeding, clothing, and sheltering a child. Plus, any person or village can fill a mother role, bringing additional nuances to the caring role. It involves nurturing others in their care for emotional, psychological, and social development, requiring an extraordinary blend of patience, resilience, and unconditional love.

This delicate dance of duties not only shapes the life of the child but also leaves an indelible mark on the mother's mental health. Essentially, the mother-type person is responsible for developing those in their care. Because of this, the mental health of a mother is a pivotal factor in the emotional and psychological well-being of her children. The relentless pursuit of being a 'perfect mother' can lead to stress, anxiety, and even depression, as the societal pressure to excel in this role can be both overwhelming and unforgiving.

For The Mom’s

Motherhood brings immense joy but also significant stress, which can impact mental health. Here are some strategies mothers can use to improve their mental well-being.

Create a strong, supportive community environment. Motherhood can sometimes feel isolating, but connecting with other mothers who understand the unique challenges can provide comfort and advice. This support can come through family, friends, or mothers' groups, both online and in person. Sharing experiences and solutions can help mothers feel less alone and more empowered to handle the stresses of parenting.

Practice self-care. Yes, we've heard the trendy slogan, but it's a necessary practice for maintaining mental health. Mothers often put their needs last, but it's important to remember that taking care of oneself is not selfish —it's essential. This can mean setting aside time for activities that promote relaxation and happiness, such as reading, exercising, pursuing hobbies, or simply taking a quiet moment to breathe. Adequate sleep, a healthy diet, and regular physical activity can improve mental well-being.

Seeking professional help. Asking for help is not giving up. Instead, it's a sign of strength, not weakness. Whether it's consulting with a therapist, joining a support group, or talking to a healthcare provider about mental health concerns, getting help is a proactive step towards better mental health. Postpartum depression and anxiety are common, yet o ften underdiagnosed, conditions that can significantly impact a mother's life. Recognizing the signs and seeking help early can make a substantial difference.

Acknowledging the challenges and understanding that it's not about being perfect, but instead, it's about being present with the best possible mindset you can share with those in your care. And if you need to take a time-out, you can, but then get right back in. Yes, being a mother is a gift. But it's also hard, sometimes unrewarding, and even messy at best. Keep up the good work, moms - you've got this.

BIG LOVE to all those who are, were, and are trying to be moms to someone. Special thanks to the leading moms in my life who’ve been my rock, truth speakers, and soul whisperers.