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IN EVERY ISSUE 10 Craft Corner 12 Mojo for Moms 14 Date Night 16 5 Things 17 Word from Dad

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elcome, June! I typically write in this space about how much I love summer. But although my love of summer hasn’t changed, how we will spend the summer of 2020 has changed.

With so many of the typical events canceled for this year, summer will look a bit different, as did spring. And I know there are hard days and long days and good days and bright days ahead. My hope is that you find a few minutes each day to enjoy summer. We’ve put together a great summer bucket list for you and your family that can be done at home or out and about, in small groups or while socially distancing. Turn to pg. 50 and start the summer fun today!

Do you enjoy listening to podcasts? For a long time, I didn’t really “get” them (like I don’t really get Twitter, but that’s a story for a different day). But my husband loves them, and so after hearing him talk about them for a while, I finally started listening. Guess what?

They are a lot of fun! Some of my current faves include Office Ladies, Mobituaries and Beach Too Sandy, Water Too Wet. These are geared more for adults, so be sure to listen to each alone first before with kids around, in case there’s any content that isn’t parent approved. So many podcasts are out there and so many of them are family friendly! Local mom Gina Klein has put together a great list of podcasts the entire family can enjoy together. Check it out on pg. 42.

Along with the arrival of summer, June also brings Father’s Day on the third Sunday.

Olathe mom Sarah Lyons takes a look at what makes dads just a little bit different on pg. 20.

Make plans to celebrate these special guys on their special day!

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HIKING TRAILS Head to KCParent.com to find a list of great trails where you’ll be able to discover natural bridges, historic ruins, wildlife, lakes, ponds and beautiful outdoor spaces.

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LABOR & DELIVERY GUIDE Choosing the best hospital for the arrival of your baby is an important decision. Use the KCParent.com Labor & Delivery Hospital Guide to find the perfect location for you and your child.

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CRAFTCORNER

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hat should you do with all of those leftover toilet paper rolls?

Make a little monster of course!

Step one: Paint toilet paper roll.

Step two: While paint is drying, cut out teeth, whites of eyes and hair strips.

Step three: Once paint is dry, glue on whites of eyes and draw in eyeballs with black Sharpie. With black Sharpie, draw a mouth and nose.

Step four: Glue on white teeth and hair strips.

Step five: Make additional monster friends to play with!

Janelle Cumro-Sultzer lives in Overland Park with her husband, son and two dogs. Janelle is a former health care executive director and is a mediator in Kansas, helping families in conflict. Janelle loves to focus on learning through play and getting messy with crafts.

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• Paint • Paintbrush/Paint dish • Purple paint • Toilet paper roll • White paper/Green paper • Black Sharpie • Glue stick • Scissors

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ummer is here! This activity is a fun spin on traditional chalk. Easy, with minimal prep—you’ll have your kids outside painting and entertained in no time.

Step one: Grate an inch or so off the end of a piece of your chalk into a container.

Step two: Add a tablespoon or so of water to your chalk powder.

Step three: Mix and adjust ratio if needed.

Step four: Paint! The paint will get darker as it dries. Have fun!

Megan Coffey is a former kindergarten teacher and lives in Overland Park with her husband and two kids. She loves encouraging creativity with her children through art and play.

Surprise Bath Bombs

Plastic Bottle Hanging Planter

Paper Strawberries

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MOJOFORMOMS mōjō: 1. influence, especially magic power 2. mom joy

Emotions in the COVID-19 Crisis As the pandemic has turned our world topsy turvy, our emotional lives as moms can be tossed around on the same roller coaster—and that’s okay. In this month’s Mojo for Moms column, I want to explore the very substance of emotions. What are they? What creates them? Is what I’m feeling normal? Above all, I hope to impart some helpful wisdom and dispense an abundant dose of grace over our emotional experiences in these strange times.

E-motions = Energy in Motion

“Negative Emotions” Are Normal

Emotions as Professors

Emotions are energy in motion that we feel as sensations inside our bodies.

Healthy emotions are literally in motion: We allow their energy and sensations to flow through our bodies, because we’re willing to feel them. Problems come when we inhibit emotional flow, when we try to deny what we’re feeling, stuff it or resist it. Without flow, our emotions are like stagnant water; they become toxic. Emotions we resist persist. Emotions we allow ourselves to feel heal. Getting our emotions into flow for optimum health is a simple, three-part process: 1) Name the emotion (e.g., “I feel anger”). 2) Locate and describe it in your body in detail (heat rising, jaw clenching, etc.). 3) Breathe into the sensations and welcome them.

Negative emotions are not sinful or toxic. They are a natural part of the human experience, and the simple presence of these emotions—like anger, fear and sadness—is not a sign of mental illness. Very often, especially in times like these, negative emotions are a sign of mental health, and not a sign of its absence. I choose to feel angry when people neglect their civic duty to stay home—and out of anger, I speak out about why this matters.

I choose to feel sad when people are suffering and dying, which drives compassionate action. I choose to feel afraid of unnecessary risks and make wise decisions out of healthy fear. I also choose to feel joy in the midst of sorrow.

Emotions, like professors, come bearing an important lesson: They teach us about our thoughts. A thought is just a picture or sentence in our mind that we use to interpret life’s circumstances, and these pictures and sentences are what drive our emotions. The thought “I don’t’ know how to parent my kids through this!” drives confusion and anxiety (and those emotions are allowed—but is this thought serving us?). The thought “I know we’ll get through this” drives confidence and hope. By accessing the wisdom of our emotions, we can get to the root of the thoughts that drive them, and work to reframe toxic thoughts with a more tonic, healing mindset.

Wendy Connelly, M.Div., is a podcaster (MoJo For Moms podcast), life coach and mother of two from Overland Park.

You can find Wendy’s latest podcasts, TV appearances, retreats and more at MoJoForMoms.com.

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DATES WITH LETTER H

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“H”ave a blast with these letter “H” date ideas!

HARVEY’S Located in the center of the action at Union Station is an inviting, open-air restaurant called Harvey’s. Open for breakfast and lunch, and now with a grab-and-go marketplace, Harvey’s is the perfect place for a meal before or after visiting one of Union Station’s other attractions, such as Science City, Escape Room or the planetarium, or while exploring Union Station’s train or other historical exhibits. We have been to Harvey’s a number of times and have always thoroughly enjoyed it. It makes for a great date and is entertaining if you enjoy people watching! Most recently, we went for a late brunch on a Saturday morning. You can’t go wrong with anything on the menu, but you definitely have to try the French toast, made with Farm to Market challah bread. I never order French toast at any restaurant besides Harvey’s because it is that good.

HIKING The Parkville Nature Sanctuary is a 115-acre wildlife preserve with about 3 miles of hiking trails. We have been there on a number of occasions (even in the snow!) and have always enjoyed our time. We like to start on the Whitetail Trail, which is about 1.5 miles and can be moderate to difficult in places, depending on your level of fitness. Then it’s on to the Old Kate and Bluebird trails, where a couple of waterfalls and an old root cellar add interest. Those two add another mile or so and are mostly all easy terrain.

Overall, hoofing it is great exercise and the sanctuary’s a good place to commune with nature. Also, all the trails feature benches and some good spots for a picnic lunch. No matter what time of year you go, you’ll have fun. Before or after, check out Parkville’s downtown, with its charming shops and restaurants.

HITCH Sometimes, all you need for a great date night is a good movie, and a romantic comedy like Hitch is definitely one to consider. My husband and I have seen this movie several times and always enjoy it. I mean, watching Will Smith and Kevin James never gets old. In the movie, Smith plays a dating coach—Alex Hitchens—who helps guys lacking self-confidence build up the courage to pursue the women of their dreams. And one of his clients, Albert—played by James—is a bumbling, shy accountant who needs a little mentoring. What ensues is a great mix of hilarity and heartfelt moments. In the process, both guys learn that just being yourself is one of the best ways to a woman’s heart. As usual, Will Smith is charismatic and charming, while Kevin James is funny and likeable. Be sure not to miss the dancing at the end!

Hannah Berry is a freelance writer who lives with her husband in Kansas City. They enjoy regular date nights and love trying new restaurants and activities.

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FIVETHINGS

Takeout Dining Book You’ve seen me write about the Brunch Book and the Open Belly Book in this spot, and now Give & Partake, the group behind both of those books, launches the Give & ParTakeout Book. The idea behind it is to support local spots by purchasing a takeout meal at a venue featured in the book (without a discount), but at the time of purchase, you receive a stamp that gives a $10 credit for your next dine-in meal at the establishment. A way to support a business now and receive a bonus on a future visit! GiveAndPartake.com

Sunflower Butter My younger has a peanut allergy, so no peanut butter for us. We’ve sampled many different types of nut butter and have landed on sunflower butter as our nut butter of choice. We have our favorite brand that we keep on hand, but recently tried Once Again’s organic sunflower butter. It’s super yummy and just the right consistency and flavor. We like to add it to smoothies and oatmeal for an extra kick of protein and often eat it just by itself on a rice cake for a quick snack. Available at natural grocers and online at Buy.OnceAgainNutButter.com.

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Frothed Milk I’m pretty particular about how I enjoy my morning cup of coffee.

So much so that I carry packets of sweetener with me for when I’m out in case the establishment I’m visiting doesn’t carry my preferred brand.

But sometimes I like to get fancy and mix it up a bit. To add a bit of coffeehouse fun to my home brew, I’ll froth up some milk (for an extra yummy treat, use Shatto coffee-flavored milk).

The Bodum Schiuma frother is a handy and inexpensive tool that gets the job done quickly and perfectly each time!

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Taco Cat Goat Cheese Pizza A friend on Facebook shared a post about what fun her family had playing Taco Cat Goat Cheese Pizza, so I got on Amazon, ordered and scheduled a family game night. It’s a card game with only a few rules, but it brought lots of laughs. The funniest part was the fact that my older couldn’t get the hang of it and was getting very flummoxed. The more confused she got, the more I laughed. We played again with cousins of all ages, and everyone enjoyed!

Be prepared for some sore hands from slapping cards, but also be prepared to have lots of fun! Amazon.com

Strip Lights Both of my girls recently painted and redecorated their rooms, and they both wanted strands of lights to run across the top of their walls. I wasn’t sure how this was going to work, but we ordered the lights, they arrived, and now I understood how it works. You just peel and hang—so simple and fun! (Note: the sticky stuff is super strong and pulls paint off, so hang in the right place the first time.) The lights, controlled by a remote, have all sorts of colors and settings. Our hallway does look a little like a rave when both girls have the lights on at night, but they’re a fun way for them to personalize their living space!

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s your children grow and mature, they will want to interact with other children their own age.

Once social distancing guidelines are relaxed, a playdate is a great way to instill proper social skills kids can carry with them to preschool, kindergarten and beyond. Along the way, you may make some lifelong friends yourself, friends that will be great sounding boards and night-out cohorts. I remember riding my bicycle through our neighborhood with my daughter in the seat on the back and meeting a woman drawing chalk pictures on her front sidewalk with her little girl. Her daughter was the exact age as mine, around 3 at the time, and they became fast friends.

This mom and I discovered we had a lot in common and we thought alike. More than 20 years have passed since that day, and we are still soulmates, as are our daughters.

A good rule of thumb for a first playdate is to schedule it at a meeting place, such as McDonald’s or the park. That way, you won’t be expected to stay too long, and if your child has a meltdown or anything goes awry, you can leave easily and on good terms. Making group playdates is another good idea, so you and your child can meet more people.

As you get better acquainted, a home playdate is a workable option. If your child has

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some special toys she doesn’t want to share, simply stash those items away during the time friends are over. This will help eliminate hurt feelings, minimize the strain of sharing and protect the special toy from being broken.

Remember to be nice to your child’s friends’ moms. You don’t have to become besties, but you can be cordial. Also, you don’t always have to host. Take your child to the playground or library to make friends with children there.

Story times are a great meetup activity, as is swinging on the swing set.

Also, keep playdates short, a couple hours before lunch or dinner, so you won’t be stuck fixing a full meal. Set definite start and end times. And, for obvious reasons, schedule around naptimes if possible. An active and engaging playtime will help children sleep more soundly afterward.

Snacks, like apple slices or veggie straws, served in a designated area are a fun addition and help keep the grumps away.

Safety is paramount—lock up all guns and keep the pool off limits. Even if children have taken swimming lessons, don’t add this stress to the group time.

Before company arrives, prepare your child so he will understand what is going to happen. Other kids will be playing with his toys, sitting on your family’s furniture and

running around the house. Have him play host to you, simulating a playdate with his stuffed animals. The more prepared your child is, the less likely hurt feelings will rear up when a newcomer enters and engages with your family’s space and belongings.

Another tip is to not spend days cleaning your house. One of the reasons people are reluctant to host a playdate is because they will have to clean. You are not holding an open house for potential buyers! Make the day easy on yourself by confining guests to a few rooms. Simply clean the bathroom, kitchen and area where the kids will play.

This way you’re not exhausting yourself. Just block the areas you don’t want guests in with baby gates—or simply lock the doors. Give a quick tour when everyone arrives, but only show them the rooms they’ll need to access.

Lastly, remember to play during the playdate! You’ll find these sociable times a treasured time between you and your child.

Judy Goppert lives in Lee’s Summit. She enjoys drawing on her personal experiences to write about the nuances of everything wonderful about life.

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a little ball “Dad?” Ian fastened the strap of the cold pack around my knee. “What are you doing with your foot?”

I flexed my ankle again. “You mean this?”

“Yeah. You had knee surgery. Why do you keep doing that?”

From the time I returned home following my knee replacement, the recovery fascinated Ian. He became my home therapy coach and the resident expert on arranging the cold pack on my knee.

Now, yet another thing about my procedure piqued his curiosity.

“It’s something my dad taught me before you were born. He had a tractor accident and it ripped all the tendons from his right thumb. He had to have everything surgically fixed, but that wasn’t all. He needed a lot of physical therapy, too, so that his thumb would be fully usable again.”

“What did he do?”

“He got a little rubber ball that he carried with him everywhere he went.

Whenever he had spare time, he’d pull it out and squeeze. Every chance he got.”

“But, what does that have to do with your knee and your foot?”

“I can’t squeeze a ball with my knee, so the hospital therapist said I should flex my foot whenever I could. The more I did it, the faster I’d recover.” I flashed a few quick reps.

“Your dad taught you that?”

I gave him a gentle smile. “He had no idea that I’d need his help thirty years after he died, so he made a point to tell me as much as he could while he was still around. Thanks for helping me. I’ll call you when I need you.”

“No problem,” Ian said and left the room.

“How’d I do, Dad?” My father didn’t answer, of course, but it made me feel good knowing that he might have been watching.

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5 great ways dads are different Photography by Melissa Rieke Photography

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There’s no denying the differences between how moms and dads parent their kids. Just because dads may do things differently than moms doesn’t mean their parenting style is less beneficial to kids. A different perspective on how to handle challenges, how to have fun, and how to show affection is great for kids. Here are some great ways dads are different.

Dads play differently

When I watch my husband interact with our kids, I notice one major difference: how they play together. My husband will often hide and, when the kids start looking for him, then jump out and scare them. He fills water balloons for an hour to have a water fight that lasts five minutes. He spends time building Legos and helping the kids learn how to follow the instructions. He wrestles with, laughs with, and good-naturedly teases the kids. They love it. Most of these things I would rarely do, some I would avoid if possible. Dads have a way of bringing silliness and fun into our kids’ lives, usually in the form of a game. The kids love it, the dads love it, and it strengthens the bond between them.

Dads are more flexible

This may not apply to all dads, but many are a little more flexible than moms. When I was a little girl, my mom had a weekly night out with her friends, so my dad was in charge those evenings. Often on those nights at home with Dad, we dined on fried egg and ketchup sandwiches and stayed up late watching TV. I remember one day Dad let us have ice cream for dinner.

We walked to the ice cream shop, and my brother and I ordered bubble gum ice cream cones. By the time we had walked home, we were covered in a sticky mess. Instead of giving us a bath, Dad sprayed us down with a hose, took us inside and changed us right into our pajamas and called it a night. We all laughed the whole time, including my dad, and I remember thinking how Mom would never have allowed that. The next night we went back to our normal routine, but those little moments of silliness and flexibility taught me that sometimes it’s okay to set aside the rules and routine and have fun.

Dads show affection differently

Kids enjoy snuggling up with both Mom and Dad, but beyond sitting together to read a book or watch a movie, dads have a distinctive way of showing affection. They wrestle and tickle.

They lift kids up on their shoulders and carry them around.

They often spend time roughhousing and show affection in a totally different way than women typically do. They carry kids to their beds and throw them onto a pile of pillows, which is usually rewarded with giggles and a shout of “Do it again!”

Dads have a knack for showing affection and having fun at the same time.

No such thing as “mom guilt”

Moms often find themselves developing feelings of “mom guilt” over what they may or may not be doing compared to their peers.

These feelings are unnecessary, but women have a natural tendency to compare themselves to others around them. Dads generally don’t have these feelings when it comes to parenting. For example, the Joneses next door may feed their children only organic food, and their kids may be top students, award-winning athletes and impeccably groomed stunners. Dads don’t care. As long as everyone is fed, clothed and generally happy, dads consider it a win. Comparison doesn’t rear its head because dads are caught up in what is going on around them rather than what is going on next door. Chances are they haven’t even noticed the Joneses. This attitude can help our kids develop confidence and understand that comparisons are unfair and unnecessary.

Many are the differences between how moms and dads parent their kids, but neither is right or wrong. Each parent has something unique to teach kids and different—and important—ways of showing love.

Sarah Lyons is a part-time writer and full-time mom. She lives in Olathe with her family.

Awsome Books About Dads Because I’m Your Dad

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Daddy Donut Day

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Kisses for Daddy

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My Dad Is Amazing

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Dads encourage kids to try new things

I love how my husband encourages the kids to try new things. I usually find it easier to just order food for the kids when we are at a restaurant, but my husband lets them speak to the waitress themselves and order their own food. This teaches them independence and how to be comfortable speaking to other adults. If they are too shy to do so, he pushes them out of their comfort zone and tells them they can do it, gently encouraging them to try something new. There are so many situations like this. Dads often will push kids to try new things, learn to do things themselves or tell them to follow the directions on their own.

Dad Can Do Anything

by Martin Thomas and Ag Jatkowska

When Dads Don’t Grow Up

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Telephone So easy and so loved by kids of all ages. Ask the children to sit in a circle. Each child takes turns being “it.”

Whoever is “it” comes up with a silly (but appropriate) sentence and whispers it to his neighbor, who then whispers to the next neighbor and so on until the message gets to the last person. The one who hears it last stands up and says what she heard out loud, which is typically very different from the original sentence. Hilarity ensues.

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his past New Year’s Eve, my mom and I hosted what we termed “the ultimate sleepover” for my nieces and nephews at her house. Side note—had we known what a clunker 2020 would turn out to be, we might have skipped celebrating its arrival. I’m guessing folks will throw some big parties this December as we say goodbye to this year! But, back to the party. The ages of the kids ranged from 6 to 15, and we had a lot of time to pass before midnight, so our plan was to play games. Lots of games. However, my idea of games and my mom’s diverged. I went to Party City and loaded up on games (guess the terrible candy cane flavor was a favorite), while Mom relied on games from her childhood. I thought the kids would roll their eyes at playing “Telephone” or “Mother, May I?” but I was wrong! All of them enjoyed each contest, and we managed to keep them busy for quite some time. The next time you have a group to entertain, consider the following ideas—that don’t require any supplies!

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One child plays the role of “Mother” while the others line up on the other side of the room and face the mother. Mother takes turns choosing one child at a time to give directions to about how to move forward. For example, Mother may say, “Ally, take three giant leaps forward,” to which the child has to ask, “Mother, may I?” Mother then replies, “Yes, you may.”

The first person to make it all the way to Mother wins and becomes Mother for the next round.

There’s a catch! If someone takes steps without first asking for permission, then that unfortunate soul must move back to the start. Keep the game interesting by inserting some silly ways to travel to Mother: crab walk, teeny-tiny baby steps, twirly steps, etc.

Red Light, Green Light Choose one person to be “it” to start the game and play the role of stoplight.

The rest of the kids line up on the other side of the room. Whoever is “it” faces away from the group and calls out, “Green light!” Once green light is called, the lined-up kids move forward until “it” shouts, “Red light!” and turns around quickly. If “it” catches anyone still moving, that player must go back to start.

The person who first gets to and touches

“it” is the winner and becomes “it” for the next round. Having a parent around is always good for this game, as some arguing is sure to erupt over whether or not someone was still moving when “it” turned around.

Red Rover Divide kids into two teams (for this one, a larger group tends to work a bit better. The bigger the team, the longer the game will last). The children form a line by holding hands and line up about 30 feet apart from each other. Choose a team to go first and then the team decides on a player to call over from the other side to their side. Once they’ve agreed upon someone to call over, the team calls out, “Red rover, red rover, send Tori right over!” Tori must run over and try to break through the line. If she’s successful, she chooses someone to bring over to her team. If she can’t get through, she joins the opposition. Game continues until everyone is on one team. This is another good one to have adult supervision at hand as it can get a bit rough. Best to have kids near the same age play together, so you don’t end up with older kids trying to break through a line of younger kids.

Other oldies but goodies include charades, sardines and good old hiden-seek. Once you run out of ideas, ask the kids to invent their own games. As kids, my cousins and I invented a game called “hide behind things.” Although we won’t win any points for creativity in naming the game, it was a complex game with lots of rules that kept us entertained for hours at a time. Sometimes the best games come from a group of bored kids.

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SPORTS SPECIALIZATION IS IT A GOOD IDEA?

“Instead of focusing on one exact sport, try a little bit of different types of sports. Learn how to be athletic first and foremost, and then really have fun with those sports.” ~ Dr. Brian Harvey, Children’s Mercy Sports Medicine Center

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lthough sports can provide a multitude of emotional and physical benefits for kids, specializing in a single sport at too early an age can pose risks. How do you know when—or if— your children should specialize in a sport they love?

What is sports specialization? Brian Harvey, O.D., Children’s Mercy Sports Medicine Center, says that sports specialization is defined as playing and competing in one single sport exclusively for more than eight months out of the year.

Advantages of multisport athletes. Some parents worry that their children won’t have a competitive advantage later on if they don’t specialize early.

Karen Hughey, cofounder and CEO of Team Cura, Overland Park, works with scholarship-seeking athletes and their parents. As a former sports parent, Hughey says both her children played a variety of sports. She and her husband left it up to their children to decide which ones they wanted to pursue as they got older.

Although he was a talented golfer, her son Rob, cofounder of Team Cura, opted to quit golf early in his high school career to participate in other activities. But, by his junior year, he decided that he wanted to return to golf and play at the college level.

“He had to work harder to reach out to college coaches at that point, but he still was fine,” Hughey says. “He found a great school and a great fit for himself. So, leave it up to your kids.

They’ll find their way and figure it out.”

From discussions with many high school and college coaches, Hughey has found that they tend to prefer recruiting multisport athletes.

“I think football is probably the best example of not specializing,” Harvey says. “Ninety percent of the first-round draft picks are multisports athletes. They’re running track, playing basketball, wrestling. It certainly doesn’t hinder their ability to play professionally or get those college scholarships.”

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Prevent injury. “We see that kids, who have had experiences playing a multitude of sports, have fewer difficulties learning new skills and, generally, don’t suffer from the overuse injuries and burnout that are common with youth athletes specializing in one sport,” says Tim Cummings, PT, DPT, cofounder of Restore/ Thrive, an Overland Park physical therapy practice.

An overuse injury occurs as a result of repetitive motion and impact on one area of the body.

“Overuse injuries are those injuries that cause an athlete to lose more than a month of their sport,” Harvey says. “Those are the biggest ones that we see in the developing athletes that do sports specialization.”

Cummings says the most common overuse injuries he sees in younger patients include ankle sprains, knee pain, Little Leaguer’s elbow, ACL tears and Osgood-Schlater.

“Osgood-Schlater is a traction injury on a special type of growth plate called an apophysis, which is at the top of the shin bone,” Cummings explains. “The traction comes from strong and relatively tight muscles that develop during puberty and high activity levels. Pain and sometimes swelling can be felt directly over a bump at the bottom of the knee.”

Avoid burnout. Participating in different sports throughout the year is easier on developing bodies, and kids are less likely to get bored or even anxious or depressed.

“Athletes wanting to perform at their best, but not being able to, whether it’s due to injury or their fear of disappointing a coach or a parent or even themselves, plus that chronic daily physical demand, can lead to higher rates of burnout and quitting their sport,” Harvey says.

To allow the body time to rest and recover, kids shouldn’t train for more than eight months out of the year.

“And really try not to practice, train or compete more than their age in years per week,” Harvey says. (For example, no more than 12 hours per week for a 12-year-old.)

Striking a healthy balance between sports and other interests is also beneficial.

“Some of the high school athletes we work with have stressed the importance of needing downtime and being able to spend time with friends,” Hughey says.

Encourage free play. Whether they toss a football around with friends, shoot hoops in the driveway, play tag or make up competitive games, kids develop motor skills, creativity and social/emotional skills through unstructured play.

“When we start to look at young athletes, the body really needs time to develop, to learn how to run, learn how to jump—really learn how to use their bodies and play,” Harvey says. “Instead of focusing on one exact sport, try a little bit of different types of sports. Learn how to be athletic first and foremost, and then really have fun with those sports.”

When to specialize. “This isn’t a black and white, good or bad issue. Sports like figure skating, gymnastics, rhythmic gymnastics and diving require early specialization due to

the high demand to acquire specific sports skills early on,” Cummings says. “Peak performance in these sports most often happens before reaching full physical maturity.”

But, he emphasizes that early specialization combined with decreased recovery time does put an athlete at increased risk for overuse injuries no matter the sport chosen.

Harvey recommends parents gauge specialization readiness according to a child’s physical and mental maturity. Although he’d prefer kids wait until they were at least 12 (ideally 14 or 15), “there’s probably not a specific age that I would say is perfect.”

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Can cope with those demands in a healthy way.

Above all, “You’ve got to listen to your children,” Hughey says.

“Countless coaches have told us that you will know when the time is right. If you’re pushing it, it’s not the right time.”

Christa Melnyk Hines is a nationally published freelance writer based in Olathe. She and her husband are the parents of two active sons.

KEEP SPORTS FUN According to the National Alliance for Youth Sports, 70 percent of kids drop out of sports by age 13 because participation isn’t fun anymore. n

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Learning how to give back.

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Deepening faith.

If your teen enjoys church youth groups and activities, a church or other organized religious camp might be just the ticket.

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Working as a team.

Your child will be meeting kids of different ages and from different backgrounds. Learning how to get along and work as a team is a huge life skill that will be reinforced at camp. Some camps even have kids do team-building and trust activities to help them get to know each other.

Standing on their own.

Let’s face it. As our kids get older, they start to grow away from us. They are simply preparing to head out on their own and they are also preparing you for that transition by perhaps being a little distant. They are stuck in between childhood and adulthood, and it’s a confusing time. Going away to camp for even a short period of time helps teach independence. A daily structure at camp is already in place, which teens need to follow. Because parents aren’t the ones doing the nagging, teens don’t tune out, but rather respect other adults and learn from them.

Appreciating everything.

Away from screens, a person finds it easier to focus on nature, learning, forming relationships and more. Being away from parents, kids will come home with a new appreciation for what it takes to be in a family and help out in the running of the household. Your teen will probably also appreciate funny things like a full pantry that’s open all day, a comfy bed and privacy!

Teen summer camp has so many benefits that cover all the bases, including physical, social, mental and spiritual. As for the rest of the summer? Well, your teen can spend plenty of time doing those odd jobs to help pay for camp next year!

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I am not a camper by nature. But as leader of my daughters’ Girl Scout troops, I felt an obligation to be a day camp leader for several years. And while I can’t say it was the most enjoyable experience ever, I did learn a few things. Before sending your child off to day camp this summer, here are a few things to keep in mind to help make day camp a success!

Fill ’er up. Be sure to send plenty of

It’s built-in air-conditioning that really helps when the temps soar.

Dress them right. I was always a bit taken aback by what some kids wore to camp. Campers need to be dressed to spend the day outside, prepared to do a lot of walking. That means ONLY closed-toe shoes, preferably tennis shoes, shirts with sleeves and longer shorts. Leave the cute sandals and tank tops at home and don’t wear anything new. Chances are very good you may want to trash some of the clothes after camp ends.

water. Looking back at the four years I volunteered at camp, I realized that the record high temps for those summers occurred while we had day camp. It’s going to be hot, your camper is going to be active, and water is a key component to keeping your kiddo happy and healthy throughout the day.

Pack a snack. Send an extra snack with lunch. Kids are famished at the end of the day, and a small snack on the bus ride home can help ward off the grumps at pickup time.

Also be sure the lunch you send is substantial, because campers work up big appetites.

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Spray all over. Coat them in the

something of a similar size. Wet it, wring it out, fold it, place it in a zip-close baggie and place in the freezer. The next morning, place it in your camper’s lunch. By midday, the towel will have thawed just enough that your camper can place it around his neck.

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morning with sunscreen and bug repellent and then send it with them so they can reapply throughout the day. Nothing ruins a week at camp faster than a lack of sunscreen on the first day. And there will be bugs. Lots of them. Do a tick check each night after

camp. True story: I was in the outhouse with a child who commented, “Look at that big ant!” to which I replied, “That’s not an ant.

That’s a really big tick.”

Send a bandana and Lysol.

Strangest tip yet, I’m sure, but I am here to tell you those outhouses and port-a-potties stink with a capital “S.” My co-leader and I had it down to a system. Wrap bandana around nose and mouth. Open door to outhouse and spray away. Let it sit for a minute and then send child in (with mouth and nose covered) to take care of business.

Find a backpack. Send a cinch sack or something along those lines to hold water bottle, extra bug spray and sunscreen, frozen towel and individual wipes. While there will be areas to wash hands, a sanitized wipe is a good idea. Also, throw in a travel-sized hand sanitizer. The backpack will also come in handy to carry around any trinkets collected or crafts made throughout the day. Clean it out each night and restock for the next day.

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THE DIET DILEMMA PROTECTING KIDS FROM DIET CULTURE

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avid’s mom is fat. She needs to go on a diet.” When my sweet kindergartner innocently uttered this line after school one day, I couldn’t hide my shock. After experiencing my own body image ups and downs, I’d tried to protect my young kids from talk about weight loss and dieting. Faking composure, I countered with, “Oh? Um, where did you hear that?”

She explained, unfazed, “David’s mom said it herself. She was at school today and said to my teacher ‘I’m fat and I need to go on a diet.’ She said she doesn’t like her butt.” With a throwaway shrug, she skipped off to join her

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friends on the swing set. I was left swinging between anger that my 5-year-old had been introduced, albeit accidentally, to the idea of dieting for weight loss, and relief that she hadn’t come up with the “too fat” judgment herself.

Mostly, though, I felt powerless. I’d tried to shield my child from diet culture and failed.

Despite my efforts, the world’s message that our bodies are never good enough had found her.

How diet culture hurts kids The term “diet,” of course, isn’t necessarily a dirty word. But equating thinness with virtue and encouraging the pursuit of a physical ideal through

food restriction—the ideas central to “diet culture”—are problematic, says Amee Severson, a registered dietician in Bellingham, WA, whose work focuses on body positivity, fat acceptance, intuitive eating and social justice.

Though diet culture often passes for “wellness” or “clean eating,” it’s actually unhealthy, because people stop tuning into their own body’s signals about hunger and satiety, says Severson. By elevating thinness as the ideal physical state, moralizing food as good or bad, and promoting rule-based eating, diet culture disconnects people from their bodies’ actual nutritional needs. That

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WHETHER WE LIKE IT OR NOT, KIDS OBSERVE THIS TYPE OF DISORDERED EATING ALONG WITH IDEAS ABOUT THE RIGHT KIND OF BODY TO HAVE.

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might be why despite widespread dieting— one-third of Americans are on a diet at any given time—nearly all dieters regain lost weight within a few years.

Like any effort toward self-improvement, dieting is well-intentioned. It’s also completely normal and accepted in our society, but that doesn’t mean it’s good for our bodies or minds, says Severson. “Even when it’s called ‘clean eating’ or ‘wellness,’ making food choices that don’t come from your own body’s cues, food choices that come from rules or moral judgments about good food or bad food, is considered disordered eating.”

Whether we like it or not, kids observe this type of disordered eating along with ideas about the right kind of body to have.

Even well-meaning comments about body size, from “She’s really trimmed down! She looks great!” to “I’m just worried about his health,” can breed intolerance and exclusion at school and on the playground, says Severson. “Kids notice when we judge bodies, others’ or our own. Being fat is still viewed very negatively, and fat people are still the butt of jokes.”

Not surprisingly, kids quickly turn this type of judgment on themselves. According to research, the idea that other people’s fat bodies are inferior is linked to what researchers call “shape dissatisfaction,” or unhappiness with one’s own body, along with dieting behavior in young children, disordered eating behavior and eating disorders.

Kids aren’t the only ones harmed by diet culture, of course. By marginalizing people who fall outside the societal ideal—in our culture, it’s white thinness— diet culture harms the mental and physical health of trans people, people with different abilities, people with larger bodies and people of color, according to Christy Harrison, RD, host of the Food Psych podcast.

For Ivory Bruinsma, a certified fitness instructor in Tacoma, WA, who shares her journey with body acceptance through her Instagram account VibrantBrownGirl, rejecting diet culture meant rejecting the white standard of thinness.

“I had to stop chasing white thinness and what white beauty looks like, because that’s what I mostly see in our culture,” says Bruinsma.

Unlearning diet culture can take decades, says certified health and running coach Rose Coats, so it’s worth trying to prevent kids from absorbing it in the first place. “I was raised in diet culture, with Tab, Slim Fast and the whole thing,” she says.

Now a race director who organizes inclusive Sporty Diva run/walk events from Seattle to Orting, WA, she models a healthier approach to food, one that doesn’t involve calorie counting, for her twin granddaughters. “It took me awhile to get here, but I’m trying to show them a healthier way,” she says.

Fight back against fat shame One way to fight diet culture? Teach kids that “fat” is simply another descriptor, not a bad word, says Severson. “Guide your kids that fat is just another descriptor; I have brown hair, you’re short, I’m fat. It’s just a body size and not a moral indicator of a good or bad human. The more we can teach kids that, the more we can fight back against diet culture.”

When well-meaning friends or relatives comment on a child’s size or food choices, a simple “Please don’t comment on our food or our bodies” is in order, says Severson. “As parents, we’re the protectors of our children’s bodies.”

Families can prioritize health and do it in a way that doesn’t promote restrictive eating, says Bruinsma. A few years ago, her doctor advised weight loss after she survived stage-3 colon cancer. She resolved to find a way to heal her post-cancer, post-chemotherapy body without succumbing to diet culture or exposing her kids to restrictive eating.

“I was really hyper-aware about talking about weight loss in front of my kids,” she says.

“They would ask why I was working out and I’d say ‘mama wants to be strong and play with you.’ If they saw me weighing myself, I’d say, ‘I’m checking how strong I am!’”

Even if we don’t think they’re watching, kids pick up on our deeply held beliefs about fat and thin, good and bad, and who is worthy of love, says Bruinsma And before parents can keep diet culture from consuming their kids, they might need to heal themselves. “When I started my body acceptance journey, I literally stood naked in front of a mirror, at 200 pounds, and named each body part and why I loved it. I love my legs because they carry me where I want to go. I love my stomach because it carried three babies. No matter what my body looks like I’m worthy, and I’m enough.”

For my part, I’ve found stronger footing since my daughter’s innocent introduction to dieting in her kindergarten classroom.

Though I know I can’t completely shield her or her siblings from diet culture, now I know I’m strong enough to fight back. And David’s mom, if you’re out there—you’re strong enough too.

Malia Jacobson is a health and parenting journalist in Tacoma, WA. kcparent.com june 2020

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simple stress management for kids

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aybe it’s not about bills, health insurance woes or a busy day at work, but stress takes a toll on kids the same as it does on adults.

Even on days they can’t tell you why they’re stressed, they probably feel it in their bodies. Stomachaches, headaches, muscle tension, fatigue or changes in appetite could all be signs your kids are experiencing stress in their lives.

The American Psychological Association says children between the ages of 8 and 17 worry about doing well in school and getting into college, as well as about their family’s financial status. They report headaches, sleeplessness and stomachaches.

Life is inevitably full of stressors, but you can incorporates some simple coping strategies into your routine to help your kiddos deal with their stress in a healthy way. Start by encouraging mindfulness.

Yoga, meditation, stretching, journaling, drawing or painting are all activities that encourage mindfulness, which can alleviate stress and help with self-regulation.

Studies show meditation and deep breathing exercises may be the most effective tools.

The Cambridge Dictionary defines meditation as “the act of giving your attention to only one thing.” Chances are, when we’re feeling stressed, we’re thinking about dozens of things. Our thoughts are all over the place.

Kids feel this way too.

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According to the Headspace blog, meditation has been scientifically proven to help alleviate stress after just eight weeks of a regular practice. Studies show it ultimately reprograms the brain, training the mind to be more open and less reactive.

Meditating won’t eliminate stressful thoughts, or thoughts in general, but it will teach you to step back and observe them without judgment. Imagine your thoughts as clouds passing by in the sky—notice them, watch them pass, but don’t worry about them.

Yoga is another great stress-buster. According to Mayo Clinic, this practice brings together physical and mental disciplines that may help with peacefulness of body and mind—another key to relieving stress and anxiety.

The practice of yoga combines poses (a series of postures meant to increase flexibility and strength), controlled breathing (to help quiet your mind) and meditation (to help with presence). Try a slower-paced yoga with easier poses to help with stress management.

Carve out a few minutes every morning or evening to sit with your stressed kiddo and work on some simple yoga postures. Play classical music or even your favorite yoga YouTube channel from your iPad. Stress can cause muscle tension. Stretching encourages the release of endorphins, which should relieve any stress in the body. Stretching can soothe

headaches and help with circulation and fatigue. A few minutes of simple stretches a day should slowly relieve that tension. Stretch with your kiddos while having a Disney+ marathon.

Encourage your kids to record their feelings in a journal or even draw or paint them out. Writing can be therapeutic, and once kids see their big worries on paper, they might not seem so intimidating. Journaling serves as an emotional release and can help with problem solving. Most of all, it’s a great outlet for expressing tough emotions.

Sometimes, even just talking about their feelings (if they want to) will help kids process what they’re experiencing. Discuss your child’s feelings over her preferred activity, like painting, baking cookies or going for a walk. You may learn she’s nervous about an upcoming math test, and some deep-breathing exercises would calm her nerves.

Younger kids may not yet grasp the concept of meditation, yoga, breathing exercises or journaling, but they definitely get stressed out and need an outlet too. If you sense a meltdown coming on, here are a few tools to help your youngster decompress.

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• Play-Doh • Swinging • Jumping on a trampoline • Swimming • A bubble bath with lavender soap or essential oil • Blowing bubbles • Fidget cube • Stress ball (For a DIY stress ball, fill a balloon with rice or beans.)

• Coloring books • Silly putty Help your kids reframe their stress. Encourage them to look at the stressful situation in a new way, seeing the possibilities rather than the possible threats. Look for the things you can change, the benefits and even the humor in a situation.

Emily Morrison is a freelance writer, former copy editor, fulltime mommy and Disney fanatic who lives in Independence with her husband, 4-year-old son and two dogs.

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e all know too much screen time is never a good thing for our kids. However, the right type of screen time engages kids and makes them think. One of those right types? Podcasts.

Although podcasts may be a form of screen time, they’re unlikely to overstimulate children, and they’re a wonderful way for families to learn about something new together. Whether you’re at home struggling to find something to do, in need of something other than TV to entertain your little one while you finish preparing dinner, or en route to your family vacation, podcasts can be a real godsend.

So, where can you unearth these fabulous family-friendly podcasts? They’re pretty easy to find through app stores and online, and there is something for everyone. Is your child interested in history? Stories? Science? Mysteries? Listed below are some great kid-friendly podcasts to help get you and your family started.

Storynory. This podcast is from the popular Storynory audiobook site that posts a new kids story

every week. From classic fairy tales and myths, to original poems and adventure, something new will delight kids each week.

Sesame Street. That’s right! Get your weekly fix of your child’s favorite muppets sent right to your phone. This podcast teaches all the same lessons featured in the television episodes—patience, friendship, reading and caring. With this, you can listen to them in the car, at the store or anywhere else your child may need the distraction.

Brains on. Calling all science peeps! This podcast teaches a different science lesson in each episode.

With kid scientists as the hosts, episodes cover all sorts of topics, such as why we sneeze, the history of boogers, how ants and spiders walk on walls, why we smell and how elevators work.

Wow in the World. NPR’s first podcast for kids is here to school you and your child with

fascinating, kid-friendly news stories of the week. Episodes begin with a series of questions on a new, amazing scientific discovery or finding, and then answer through discussion or debate.

But Why: A Podcast for Curious Kids. As parents, we’re used to hearing the question, “But

why?” Although the question isn’t a bad one by any means, it is one we sometimes don’t have an answer to. The topics in this podcast are sourced from actual kids who can submit their questions using the voice note feature on your phone. For example, why do leaves change color?

Peace Out. If you’d like to help your kids calm down at the end of the day or just be more mindful, the Peace Out podcast is for you. It’s a podcast full of short stories for kids that will take young listeners through visualizations and easy breathing exercises. Peace Out helps kids visualize basic feelings like fear, jealousy and anxiety and guides them into a peaceful bedtime.

Circle Round. If your kids like myths, fairy tales and folklore, this podcast might just become a

favorite. Circle Round selects folktales from around the world. Created by parents, this weekly podcast is intended for kids between the ages of 4 and 10 and features some famous voices you just might recognize.

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Story Pirates. In this podcast, the story pirates are a bunch of actors, comedians and improvisers who act out original stories created by kids. You’re in for a treat!

Earth Rangers. Do your children enjoy animals, nature and the great outdoors? If so, they will

most likely enjoy the Earth Rangers podcast, which covers topics such as fossils, bees, feathers and giant marsupials. Your science-loving kid will undoubtedly love it.

Book Club for Kids. If your kids enjoy stories, but they aren’t really into reading books yet, this

podcast might be something to check out. Each story is read by a celebrity, followed by an interview with the author afterward. It just might be the spark that piques your child’s interest in books.

Saturday Morning Cereal Bowl. If you’re fed up with KidzBop and don’t trust your own music list to play something kid-friendly, try the Saturday Morning Cereal Bowl podcast. It’s chock-full of fun songs just for kids in a radio show format.

The Past and the Curious. No, this isn’t a podcast about super-fast cars, but it is a show you’re sure to enjoy! Comedic actors perform little-known stories from history in a playful manner, and there’s a quiz segment afterward where you and your little one can face off for points.

Saturday Morning Theatre. With the sound of an old-fashioned radio broadcast, this podcast series gives listeners short, imaginative adventures featuring superhero tales, westerns and mysteries.

New episodes are added one to three times a month, and their catalog goes back to 2013.

Story Time. If your kids love bedtime stories, and your sleepy eyes aren’t always up for reading, then this podcast is for you. Story Time is just under 20 minutes and perfect for ages 2 to 13, though you just might find that you enjoy the stories, too!

If you’re a first timer entering the world of podcasts, you might find it confusing. However, the digital tools available make it easy to start listening. You can find podcasts available to stream online, or you can download an app called a “podcatcher,” which is specifically for podcasts.

Here’s a list of options for listening: • Leela Kids Podcast App: A great podcast app featuring stories for 3- to 15-year-olds.

Once you begin adding podcasts into your family’s life, you’ll see just how wonderful they can be. No one will be staring at a screen; instead, they’ll be listening to fun stories and learning new things. The best part is that it’s one more activity the whole family can enjoy together. Happy podcasting!

• Kids Listen: An online service featuring kid-friendly podcasts.

• Fun Kids Radio: A great app to stream kid-friendly podcasts and videos.

• Podcast Addict: A podcast app for adults and children. Search for kid stories and you’ll find quite a list!

Kansas City mom and author Gina Klein admits she hasn’t listened to her podcast app in quite a while, but that’s about to change.

• Pocket Casts: An easy-to-use mobile app for podcasts. kcparent.com june 2020

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erhaps you thought this would be THE year. The year for you to get a leg up on all that goes with having a family and creating a home. The year to finally get a schedule for laundry, cleaning or meal planning. The year to NOT dread yardwork, cooking and grocery shopping. The year to not feel behind. All. The. Time. I don’t know about you, but for our family of six, laundry, meal planning and preparation, cleaning, yardwork, organization, etc., can really feel like a thorn in my side. Some weeks (most if I’m honest), I feel like all I do is clean, pick up, launder clothes, fold them, plan meals, shop for them, cook them and the list goes on. The grind can take over you, your household and maybe even your happiness. At the very least, it creates stress and unrest in your home. Don’t let it be this way! Believe it or not, you can take the stress off your plate and tame the chaos!

CLEANING LAUNDRY • Throw one load in every day. Put it in first thing in the morning so it’s ready to switch over after breakfast.

• Involve your kids in putting their own laundry away. If they are old enough, they can help fold too!

• If you are like Colleen, a working mom of three, you don’t have time in the week to do laundry. With the help of her kids and spouse, it all gets done Saturday and Sunday, ready for the week ahead.

• On the flip side, Jess, a working mom of two, says, “I used to try doing laundry over the weekend but then I felt guilty spending all of that time on clothes, when I wanted to be hanging out with my kiddos. I tried doing it throughout the week but found that I would forget or be too tired to switch it over. I ended up rewashing clothes because of the smell from sitting too long. After our washing machine broke, we bought one with a delayed start feature, and let me tell you, this has been a game changer! I can now put laundry in and set it to start later in the day. When I get home from work, the clothes have been freshly washed! I switch the load into the dryer during dinner, then we fold and put away together as a family.”

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• For new mamas, consider baby wearing to get tasks done while keeping your little one close.

• Try implementing zone cleaning or following along with a cleaning site, such as FlyLady.com or Clean Mama. You can also check out various cleaning schedules on Pinterest—some you can even customize to your own preferences.

• Get into the habit of doing a 5- or 10-minute cleanup three times a day. Not only does this help teach your children the art of cleaning up as they go, but it makes less for you to do later.

• Make it a team effort, involving your spouse and children as much as possible, even if the task isn’t done exactly how you would like.

Jess says, “I make a list throughout the week of what needs cleaned or organized. We take at least one hour over the weekend and clean as a family. We try and make it fun, putting on some music to jam out to while we clean. I find that doing it this way helps me feel like I am still spending time with the kids.”

• Stacey, a stay-at-home mom of seven, recommends “setting a timer. Have a specific space you are working on and a note card with the tasks for that room listed. Quickly work through the list with energy and focus. This also helps as the kids get older because you can hand them the note card with cleaning supplies, and they will be able to do a whole room for you!”

MEAL PLANNING AND PREPARATION • Planning and preparation are key. Spend some time on a weeknight or weekend cutting up and prepping the ingredients for meals you’ll be making through the week.

• Invest in a good programmable crockpot or jump on the Instant Pot bandwagon.

• Double up when making a meal, then freeze the second batch.

• Utilize online grocery shopping. Shop once children are in bed, then pick up the next day or choose delivery to save even more time.

• Premake breakfast options, then freeze for grab-and-go in the mornings. Many lunches can also be made the night before so you have one less morning task to worry about.

• Gather a few moms and do a meal preparation night. Everyone can contribute ingredients and leave with a couple of fresh meals or ones ready for the freezer.

We try and make it fun, putting on some music to jam out to while we clean. I find that doing it this way helps me feel like I am still spending time with the kids.

IF YOU CHOOSE TO OUTSOURCE TASKS • Check out WishWash, an app-based laundry service, in Olathe.

• Hire a cleaning company to come weekly or monthly.

• Head to Dream Dinners for meals with all the prep work done for you.

• Hire a professional lawn service or even a neighborhood child to do the mowing and raking.

YARWORK • Another great place to involve the kids! Our kids love to help if we get them a kid-sized snow shovel, rake or gloves. Their help doesn’t last for long—they eventually run off to play or ride their bikes while my husband and I finish up. But even when they bail, everyone is getting fresh air together!

• During the summer, do the yardwork after the kids are in bed. You can enjoy an evening with your family, then get the tasks done quickly once everyone is asleep.

Decide what your priorities are and what works for you and your family. You may choose to outsource certain tasks all the time or only during specific seasons. Stay away from the comparison game because everyone’s situation, circumstances and resources are different. Focus on one task you can get on top of now, then slowly add others. Soon you’ll see new habits and rhythms forming. And most importantly, give yourself—and your family—grace.

Julie Collett writes from Overland Park where she is constantly tweaking and adjusting what these household tasks look like in her home!

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ROUTINE REVAMP HELPING KIDS WITH AUTISM IN TIMES OF UNCERTAINTY

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hanges in routine are tough for all of us, but especially for those who thrive and depend on predictability—particularly children on the autism spectrum. A sudden shift in routine can trigger meltdowns or anxiety, affect their ability to regulate or cause them to lose motivation.

I am by no means an expert, but I have gained valuable knowledge over the years from speech therapists, occupational therapists, teachers and paraprofessionals.

I’ve gotten to witness how preschool classes structure their days. I even got to join my son in his therapeutic 2-hour weekly class when he was 2 years old (one of the perks of separation anxiety). I absorbed as much as possible about how they structured that time, activities they worked on, techniques they used, concepts they focused on and tools they provided.

The therapists constructed a visual schedule for him for that 2-hour period of time. It helped ease the stress of transitions

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and showed him what to expect. (Example: First we play with toys, then we have music time, then we do a sensory activity, we have a snack, we play outside, then I get to go home.)

It taught me some kids truly benefit from an hour-by-hour schedule. During times of uncertainty or any major life changes, it can restore some balance to their world.

Visuals, simple structure Even at home, you can create a looselystructured routine for just about anything.

For example, our speech therapist designed a visual schedule for my son for “riding in the car” — a seemingly simple task, yet he had struggled with it after preschool came to a halt. The schedule lists each step (put on my shoes, gather my things, walk to the car, sit in my car seat). The goal is to look at it together, cross off each step and keep him on task so he knows what to expect. The key is consistency.

Our preschool teacher stayed in touch during springtime, emailing resources

such as social stories. “Why Can’t I Go to School?” was one title that explained the coronavirus in simple terms for kids. If your child wasn’t enrolled in preschool this year and you haven’t had access to resources (such as visual schedules, online learning tools or videos), there are several printable visual schedule templates online. Check Pinterest, too. Explore the school websites for extra learning tools. You can even draw out your own on paper, a dry erase board or chalkboard.

Energy-busters With fewer places to go the past couple of months (other than drive-thrus, walking trails or doctor appointments), children have had fewer opportunities to get their energy out—a very important part of autistic kids’ days. My son, for example, has his best days when we plan a special activity, such as a playdate, trip to the trampoline park, zoo day or park visit. It provides him with additional sensory input, a change of

scenery and a chance to reset. Because that was not an option, I had to get creative—just like most parents had to.

I resorted to blowing bubbles in the living room when it rained outside. My son chased them around, popped them, jumped up and down. Sometimes we just played music from our Amazon Alexa device, and that got him moving. We utilized the small trampoline in our house.

Tip: Try clearing one room in your home (a playroom or open area downstairs or even the living room). Reduce clutter so your child has space to run around.

Small consistencies Before lunch, if it’s nice outside, we try to get as much sunshine as possible, running around the yard or on our deck. I’ve started leaving our deck door open, when the weather permits, and let him take specific toys out with him. The key is consistent toys so he associates them with this activity. One day I brought his portable tee-pee tent out.

He liked the predictability of this, and the next day he tried to drag it out by himself while signing, “Help.” Little consistencies like this can help your kids feel secure during a shift in routine.

Try to incorporate activities into your schedule even if it’s not necessarily a place you can go. We did teletherapy once a week with our speech therapist. My son has a visual schedule for that as well. We perfected our technique each week, and it was a positive consistency. He knew he would see her and laugh with her and learn with her once a week for an hour. We practiced colors, watched videos and listened to music, and she is great at guiding me through simple learning activities we can do at home.

I want to share a simple activity she suggested: working on preposition words (in, on, out, up, off, under). Repeating these simple words gives him opportunities to hear and imitate these words. We’ve been using plastic containers and toy boxes and

putting toys or pieces of Play-Doh in them.

I’ve tried using phrases like “put in” or “take out.” If we use Play-Doh tools I will give instructions like “cut” or “roll” for him to repeat.

Reach out to your pediatrician, Parents as Teachers contact, teacher friends, speech therapist or occupational therapist friends (or someone who can point you in the right direction of a good resource). Practice building a home routine and incorporating little consistencies into your day. Help your child adjust to life without social opportunities or a school structure. Most importantly, try to be patient with yourself and your child. You will find a new groove, no matter what bumps in the road you encounter.

Emily Morrison is a freelance writer, former copy editor, full-time mommy and Disney fanatic who lives in Independence with her husband, 4-year-old son and two dogs.

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PARENTING TRUTH BOMBS We are raising tomorrow’s heroes. And we are doing a dang good job.

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et’s face it, parenting is hashtag freaking hard. In these uncertain times, it can seem even more challenging than ever before.

Social media, television and even our own parenting friend circles can exacerbate our feeling that we’re just not doing it right or even well enough. Let me just assure you that you’re doing great. No one is perfect. My 4-year-old son wore his pajamas all day today.

Never took them off once. And when he went to bed, I realized he’d had them on backwards the entire day.

So let me say that again: You’re doing great.

But hey, we all need a little extra assurance now and then, so here are a few parenting truths you just may need to hear right now.

Don’t believe the hype Social media is on fire these days with over-the-top parenting posts.

One mom is doing homemade gel nail manicures derived from the tears of unicorns with her three daughters.

Another dad spent his weekend erecting an obstacle course in his backyard that rivals the set of American Ninja Warrior. Should you be doing this too?

The answer is well sure, if you want to.

But if the only activity you can muster for your child is a tattered coloring book and a handful of crayons you found in the couch cushions, that is fine too.

There is no minimum amount of effort you must meet in order to interact with your children in a meaningful way. Be with your kids and keep your focus on them. That’s what matters.

Milestones happen I recently saw an ad for a giant wall-hanging ruler that documents your child’s height over the years. I won’t lie, I had a mini meltdown. How had I not thought of this? After all, as a kid, I loved looking at the lines drawn on

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our kitchen wallpaper that displayed the growth of my siblings and me from year to year. Height is the easiest milestone on earth to document … and I failed to do it. But then I came to my senses and gave myself a break. As a parent, I document as much as I can.

My phone houses more photos of my family from the last six months than I have of my own entire childhood.

Times are different. We may not be able to remember and celebrate every little thing. And that’s fine.

Your kids love you This seems obvious, but please, hear that again. Your. Kids. Love. You. They may not always show it and may seem to work very hard to convince you of the opposite. But I promise, they love and need you more than words can describe. Kids today are navigating a new world they don’t recognize, and to make it more difficult, you as a parent are too. Keep your chin up and remind yourself that when your kids seem their worst, that’s when they need your unconditional love the most. You don’t need to do anything special or buy your way back into their hearts. Simply telling them you love them, you worry about them and you need them is all they really need.

the whole point. If you thought life was all about you, you wouldn’t have had children. You love something more than yourself, and that means you are still cool, no matter what your kids say.

What goes around comes around It’s far in the distance, but one day your children will thank you. A day many moons from now, when your own child is covered in baby vomit and can’t get her toddler to pee inside the toilet, she will call you. She will likely be in tears and say, “I’m so sorry I didn’t appreciate you more.”

You will be able to see it in her eyes. The eyes that once looked you dead in the face and complained, “You’re ruining my life!”

Parenting comes full circle. It’s the way it is, and it will never change.

This too shall pass Who would’ve thought we’d be living in a time where children attended school virtually and toilet paper is a hotter commodity than summer concert tickets? We truly have been in the upside down, and standards—especially when it comes to parenting—need to be reevaluated. We’re all doing our best to make it through while keeping ourselves and our families healthy. It’s important to remember the hard and fast truth that this will not last forever. We will come out the other side, perhaps a little paler and with a few extra pounds, but we will make it nonetheless. And we will have more empathetic children marching into the future because of it. We are raising tomorrow’s heroes. And we are doing a dang good job.

My Parenting Confessions to Make You Feel Better:

I once bought a new package of socks because I couldn’t be bothered to match the clean ones in the laundry basket.

I let my son eat Cheetos for breakfast last week because he said they were orange and that’s close to carrots.

You are still cool Look at yourself in the mirror.

You are raising tiny humans with your partner. You are responsible for keeping them fed, watered, quickwitted, empathetic and, eventually, self-sufficient. The task in front of you is not an easy one. In order to be the best mother or father within your power, some personal things will take a back seat. One of them is often your coolness factor. Gone are the days of your one-minute keg stand trick, and your wardrobe probably isn’t going to be influencer-worthy for a while. But that’s

I’ve completely forgotten my son’s name for several minutes.

Don’t even get me started on his birthday.

My toilets haven’t been thoroughly cleaned in two weeks.

I once told my son the park was closed at 2:00 on a Saturday afternoon so I wouldn’t have to go.

Kim Antisdel is a freelance writer and interior design sales rep for KC. She lives in Liberty with her husband, stepdaughters and toddler son.

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51 grill in & grill out 52 snacks kids can make 54 diy reading 56 mom’s toolbox of sanity savers 58 summer fun hunt 59 mad lib 60 summer A-Z 64 bucket list

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TASTYTREATS

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GRILL IN GRILL OUT

Turn up the heat because it’s summertime here in KC. Take advantage of the warm weather to kindle fresh takes on nutrition for your family and fire up your health, simply, nutritiously and beneficially.

The Grill – How Option 1- Step outside and light the fire.

Make sure to wash the grilling station before you bring food out and keep raw and cooked food apart during the grilling process.

Option 2- No grill? No problem!

Rediscover your oven’s broiler. Think of your broiler as an upside-down grill.

Instead of heat coming from the bottom, it comes from the top. A cast iron grill pan is a great tool to add flavor and flair to indoor cooking. Its ridges lift food off the bottom of the pan and can give you great-looking grill marks. Another benefit of a cast iron grill pan is that you can use it in the oven or on the stove top.

“I serve my kids cubed cuts of beef, chicken, turkey and salmon on skewers, and they gobble them right up!” says Tabitha, Lenexa mother of three.

Vegetarian options can be plantbased hot dogs, black bean burgers or grilled tofu. Opt to serve on wholewheat buns.

The Grill – Side Veggies Corn on the cob anyone? This sweet, fibrous vegetable is a classic go-to for the start of summer. Other alternatives are bright bell peppers, onions, mushrooms, carrots or zucchini.

Just make sure to drizzle with olive oil and vinaigrette for a juicy flavor, and season off right with pepper.

The Grill – Entrees

The Grill – Fruity Dessert

Who doesn’t enjoy a good burger or hot dog? Whether you and your family are meat-eaters or exploring a plant-based approach, you have lots of healthful options. Choose leaner cuts of beef, pork, poultry and seafood.

Grilled salmon and turkey burgers are an opportunity to expand the taste palate.

Grilling fruits caramelizes their natural sugars and enhances their natural flavors. Reach for bananas, pineapples, apricots or mangos.

Simply heat until the fruit has a slightly golden appearance. Serve with vanilla ice cream and top with a sprinkle of nuts.

Grilled Glaze Fruit Delight This sweet glaze takes fruit to the next level! Inside or outside, try these grilled kebabs at your next family cookout.

Ingredients 12 skewers 4 c. assorted cubed fruit (pineapple, bananas, watermelon, etc.)

1 T. canola oil 2 T. honey 1 t. vanilla extract ¼ t. ground cinnamon

Directions 1. Preheat a grill or grill pan to medium-hot.

2. Thread fruit cubes evenly onto the skewers, alternating the fruit varieties.

3. In a small bowl, mix together honey, vanilla extract and ground cinnamon.

4. Lightly brush the kebobs with oil and place on the grill. Cook for 3 to 5 minutes per side, basting with the honey mixture until you see grill marks.

Remove from grill and brush with any remaining honey. Serve warm.

So whether you stay in or cook out, do right for your family’s health by grilling a meal.

Amy Hundley is a registered dietitian nutritionist, licensed in both Kansas and Missouri, and a published freelance nutrition writer. She is currently practicing as a clinical RD and has been a resident of Olathe since early childhood.

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Kids Watermelon Sandwich Cookies

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(Family Features) s so many families spend more time at home than normal, many may be seeking ways to increase fun and activity, especially for children. One way to boost engagement while teaching lifelong lessons is to head to the kitchen for a learning exercise in creating nutritious snacks and treats.

Consider these creative ways you can get your kids involved in the kitchen:

Look for simple recipes kids can help create.

Logically, the first step in the process is to focus on ingredients and instructions that aren’t overly complicated. For example, avoid snacks that call for cutting with knives. Instead, try a recipe like these Frosted Watermelon Cutouts, which involves kid-friendly cookie cutters.

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Be flexible.

Another way to involve children is to let them help in the meal-planning routine. Because kids’ desired tastes may differ from your own, be open to outside-the-box ideas like breakfast for dinner, nutritious snacks for lunch and fruit for dessert.

and rind. For example, this recipe for Kids Watermelon Sandwich Cookies provides a sweet treat the whole family can enjoy while calling for just a few ingredients.

Visit Watermelon.org for more creative ways to use the whole watermelon, including recipes and kidfriendly carvings.

Take advantage of nutritious produce.

Craft a Fun, Frozen Fruit

Composed of 92 percent water to support hydration, an option like watermelon is a source of vitamin C and other important nutrients. At only 80 calories per 2-cup serving, one watermelon provides up to three dozen servings that can be used in a variety of nutritious family recipes, and 100 percent of the fruit is usable between the flesh, juice

Using leftovers is a fun way to avoid food waste. For example, if you have extra watermelon, simply cut into 1/2- to 1-inch wedges and insert clean crafting sticks into the center of the rind. Put them in the freezer for at least 1 hour to create sweet watermelon ice pops.

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h, summer! The time for relaxing and playing in the sun all day for months, right? Although that sounds nice, it’s hardly the reality for long—for either children or parents. Sure, everyone can savor some of that summer goodness, but all too soon, kids get bored and parents become frustrated that the kids can’t just enjoy their summer and entertain themselves—especially after the weeks of social distancing because of the coronavirus. I think we all appreciate a little structure to our days and like to feel accomplished in between the relaxing times.

Summer slump is a thing to avoid too. To top off distance learning this past semester, parents generally want their children to engage in a bit of brain expansion over summer vacation. So how do we help our kids with this? One way is to initiate a fun DIY summer reading program.

Your program can be as simple or elaborate as you’d like, as long as your children are engaged and you are committed to it. I think there should be an extra focus on fun this summer in particular after keeping up with pandemic school at home last semester. To ensure this, have your kids help you come up with ideas as you formulate your reading plan.

Begin with a simple blank calendar printed off for each month of summer vacation. Next,

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sit down with each child and come up with an appropriate and challenging enough reading goal. Depending on the child, perhaps working through a list of suggested reading-level books will be just right. If your child would rather choose his own books, you could agree on a total book count to complete. If that’s not appealing, a minutes- or pages-per-day goal might be satisfactory.

Then decide what time of day this reading should be done. If you have a reluctant reader, perhaps reading should be done first thing in the morning after breakfast or before a favorite activity like going swimming. Reading could also be built in as quiet or rest time in the afternoons. Some children prefer more independent quiet time away from the chaos of family all home together. More extroverted kids may do better if everyone sits down to do independent reading at the same time, so they don’t get as easily distracted or suffer from FOMO (fear of missing out).

Another way to squeeze in some reading time is to pick a couple of family read-alouds.

Children of all ages can benefit from being read aloud to—regardless of whether they still fit in your lap. According to ReadBrightly. com, “Reading aloud to kids helps expand their literacy skills, love of reading, worldview, and more.” It goes on to say that reading

aloud let’s children experience the joy of story, models fluent reading, can expose them to new types of books, and builds empathy and awareness. Personally, I look forward to read-aloud time with my kids and love the memories and inside jokes that come from that time together. For example, we read Junie B. Jones and the Mushy Gushy Valentine

by Barbara Park, and my 5-year-old likes to quote it and make the rest of us laugh by saying, “Wink, wink, Mom. Wink, wink, wink.” Associating reading with positive family memories can instill an interest in and love of reading for the rest of their lives. Some of our family’s favorite read-alouds include Pippi Longstocking by Astrid Lindgren, Harry Potter by J.K. Rowling, The Legends of Greemulax by Sarah Mlynowski, James and the Giant Peach by Roald Dahl, Mrs. Piggle Wiggle by Betty MacDonald and The Narnia Series by C.S. Lewis. Have this time count toward your kids’ reading goals, too, so they have extra incentive to listen and be better role models to any younger siblings. We have read together some afternoons or before bed depending on the day.

All summer reading programs need incentives too, right? Kids love rewards, so either decide what you’re willing to hand out or discuss as a family what some reward ideas

could be. Rewards could be daily, weekly or monthly or even a fun end-of-summer prize!

They can range widely in price, too, or even be freebies.

Some reward examples include a sticker for each day kids accomplish their reading goal, and they could earn a more substantial prize at the end of each week. Each child could earn her own rewards, such as a oneon-one date with a family member, a special treat from the grocery store, staying up late for a movie night or extra tech time. Family rewards could include a special trip to a new area swimming pool, a miniature golf outing, a trampoline park or a meal out at a family favorite restaurant. If your family already does a summer bucket list, maybe the kids could choose one list item to do each week that they accomplish their reading goals.

If you’re concerned about comprehension more than total books or minutes read, I suggest a reading journal where kids can journal along about what they’re reading and what they think of the book. They can make entries frequently or just after each book is finished.

To make reading more interesting, have your kids set up a book club with a few of their friends where they can get together to discuss the book, either weekly while they’re reading or monthly after they’ve finished the book. Let them be creative about the club, decorating or having a special snack related to each book. If your child has a best friend, suggest the two do a buddy read so they can discuss daily as they read at the same time. If that sounds too daunting, just hold a book swap where kids have a party to swap stories they’ve finished reading. Audiobooks are also a great option for getting in more reading time, even allowing listeners to multitask while helping with chores around the house or doing a craft. Of course, just listening is okay too.

Other ways to perk up your children’s reading lives include going on a Little Free Library hunt each month or week for a new book, visiting an independent bookstore, reading geographically, doing theme reads (books about animals/water/seasons/winter books over the summer to help you keep cool) or making a reading bingo game.

fun guide Reading geographically could mean reading a story set in each state or by an author from each state. A bingo card could include boxes such as reading while hanging upside down off the couch, reading in a swing or a hammock, reading to a tree or a pet, reading in an accent or reading the last page of a book first. Your crafty kids could even make dioramas about the books they read over the summer.

After the onslaught of at-home learning the past few weeks, make sure to cut yourself some slack. As long as your kids read a little bit, count it as a win. For more inspiration, check out some bookish podcasts such as The Read-Aloud Revival.

Stephanie Loux is a mother of three, and story time remains one of the highlights of the day with her kids Layla, 10, Mason, 8, and Slade, 5.

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sk kids what their favorite part of summer is and you’re likely to get something about how relaxing and unstructured it is. But given that COVID-19 has already given most families an early out and a lot of downtime at home, more of the same could be daunting. Just how do you manage to maintain a semblance of order without hyper-managing the family calendar? Have no fear. We’ve got you covered!

build a family bucket list Pinterest and moms groups have beautifully curated family summer bucket lists that provide inspiration. But if you’re a rule follower, they can also seem intimidating and overwhelming. After all, not all folks are up for accomplishing 50 “relaxing” activities during their warm weather spare time. Call a family meeting where everyone builds a top pick bucket list of his own (put a cap on the number of items you’re comfortable with). Encourage each person to circle the top favorite activity, which will take precedence, and then look for common items among family members, which can help limit the final list. What you find might surprise you—like the fact that the kids aren’t all that interested in creating homemade slime, despite its popularity on generic summer bucket lists (mess averted!). Make sure activities are a mix of things that take place indoors and outdoors in case of inclement weather. Once your list is built, hang it up in a highly trafficked area and work together to achieve those items at a life-giving pace. It can be tempting to do too much too soon, but remember, summer is months long and you’re wise to save some of those most beloved activities for the middle or even the end of the season. If you need Bucket List inspiration, check out pg. 64.

maintain (or tune up) a quiet time hour Even if your kiddos kicked naps to the curb years ago, establishing a quiet time hour can be a lifesaver on long summer days—naps optional! By having all the kids go to their rooms for an hour or so, siblings can have a much-needed degree of separation. Quiet time also allows the introverts in your brood the time to decompress, and, equally important, gives Mom a time to catch her breath!

Quiet time for older kids can look like many things: listening to audio dramas, drawing, building with Legos or getting lost in a book. If quiet time isn’t an established routine in your home, celebrate its advent by helping your kids equip their rooms with activities you deem “quiet time worthy,” such as a CD player and headphones or a small bookshelf for kids’ favorite reads.

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Screen time boundaries are one of the more inevitable challenges children and parents face when boredom strikes. Communicating your expectations is key. Some families require that chores be done before screens go on. Yet others build a checklist of choice activities that need to take place first—practicing a musical instrument, for instance, or playing outside. Some families offer a reward system in which screen time is earned for every minute spent free reading or the like. Still other parents have an anything goes mentality. It’s all up to you, but it helps your whole family when you communicate your expectations up front!

devise a family fun night For years now, Friday has been a long-standing family movie night for my family. It’s the perfect respite after a long week of extracurricular activities and work and school.

Summer doesn’t change that and actually gives a beautiful sense of structure (albeit a FUN structure) to a rather lackadaisical season. It’s the entire family’s favorite part of the week; the only night that we eat (popcorn and a charcuterie board are the go-to’s of choice) in front of and watch TV as a family. Per house rules, the phones are put away and it’s a time to only watch a new release, either new to the whole crew or new to the kids but a childhood favorite of my husband or me. Family fun nights don’t have to be limited to spending time around the TV either. They can be a time for board games, read-alouds, baking or more! By establishing a family fun night (or morning or afternoon), you build family culture that can be enjoyed long after the summer season.

learn some life skills Class time is all about the three Rs. Home life is all about applying those skills in the real world. Boost retention between semesters by letting academic and life skills converge, no worksheets required! Ask your kids to see what new skills they’d like to learn over the summer. Maybe your child wants to be a master chef but struggles with fractions or measurement conversions. If so, give him a designated meal to cook once a week, let him build the meal plan within a set budget, assist in grocery shopping, and work on doubling or halving a recipe. Summer is also a great time for tweens and teens to set up a bank account, learn to balance a checkbook or perform car maintenance like changing a tire or changing the oil. Pick one or two skills that you’d like to see mastered over the summer and then devise a plan. Who will be teaching this skill? How long will it take? What tools are required? How will you determine that the skill has been mastered?

let them be bored Boredom gets a bad rap but it’s honestly one of the best things that can happen to a child. Essentially the search for neural stimulation, boredom is what happens when that stimulation isn’t satisfied. If it can’t be found around you, then your brain takes it upon itself to make it. Daydreaming occurs when you have to “go inside your head” to find that stimulation. Not surprisingly, boredom can produce creativity, and it’s also found to improve mental health. Don’t feel compelled to structure every hour of your child’s day.

Rest in the knowledge that one of the greatest things you can give your kids this summer is the gift of free time.

Lauren Greenlee is a homeschooling mom of three who lives for summer. She and her boys consider it a good day if they’ve all been in the pool long enough for their fingers to get all pruny. She writes from her Olathe home.

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S U M M E R

Fun Bingo

Summer’s here, and that means lots of fun to be had, not only at home, but all over Kansas City! Challenge your family to complete the summer fun hunt below to make memories and enjoy all the season has to offer!

BY MARGARET SARVER

I scream, you scream, let’s go get some ice cream.

Try a new location or a fun new flavor.

Pull out a blanket, grab a book or magazine and head out back for a reading party. Set a timer for 30 minutes and have everyone enjoy quiet reading together.

Try out a new recipe!

Search the internet for a tasty new recipe and try it out for dinner.

Afterwards, have each person write a review and decide if it’s a keeper.

Find a local spot for berry picking and gather your own.

Nothing tastes better than fresh-picked fruit!

Take a walk!

Go around the neighborhood and each time you hit a turn, have someone choose left or right.

Take turns and see where you end up.

Grab a deck of cards, stop by Sonic for a limeade and head to the park for cool drinks and card game fun.

Head to the farmers market and choose tonight’s dinner based on what you purchase at the market.

Get some sidewalk chalk, give everyone a piece of space in the driveway and have an art contest.

Let your neighbors vote for their fave drawing.

Find a podcast the family can enjoy.

Take a drive with the windows down and enjoy listening to the podcast together.

Make homemade lemonade and serve with dinner tonight.

For an afternoon snack, take raspberries, rinse and drain. Place a white chocolate chip in the middle and freeze. Yum!

Water fight! Fill up water balloons or spray bottles and cool off on a hot day with a friendly water battle.

Put a few dollars aside. When you hear the ice cream truck coming through the neighborhood, grab that money, run out and get some treats.

Visit the library and rent a movie to watch together.

After a busy day, gather inside and enjoy a familyfriendly flick.

So many cool parks can be found all over the metro. Discover one you’ve never been to, then visit.

Purchase a watermelon and have an old-fashioned seed spitting contest!

Stargaze in your backyard. As the sun sets, place a blanket in your yard and watch the stars come out.

Did you know there are several beaches around town? Bring the family and spend the afternoon building sandcastles.

Make bubbles! Find an easy recipe online and make bubbles.

See who can blow the biggest bubble.

Set aside a day for a craft day. Use up what’s in your craft closet to create a masterpiece. Also, check out KCParent.com for loads of easy crafts.

Head to a baseball game or grill hot dogs at home and watch a game on TV or listen on the radio.

Tip: Take a quick photo of your family completing each of the suggested activities, then put the photos together in a small keepsake book.

Whip up s’mores tonight in the fire pit.

Don’t want to bother with a fire? Cheat and use the microwave.

No one has to know!

Too hot to handle the summer heat? Visit KCGoingPlaces.com and find a museum you’ve never been to, then go ahead and visit.

Eat a meal outside.

It doesn’t need to be a fancy picnic. Heat up some toaster waffles and dine outdoors in jammies!

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1) Get creative with the list below using your imagination.

2) When you’re done, copy your words into the story blanks at the bottom.

3) Read your mad libs, laugh out loud and share with others.

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grill ____________________ in the backyard and serve it with ____________________ and ____________________ .

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on ____________________ and played in the ____________________ sprinkler. Even ____________________ joined (Clothing)

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in the fun. For dessert, we roasted ____________________ over the fire and told ____________________ stories.

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______________________ played the ______________________ while ______________________ sang songs.

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____________________ noticed ____________________ lighting up the sky and asked for a ____________________ to (Family Member)

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keep them in. Then, we pulled out the ____________________ to look at the stars. It was a ____________________ (Noun)

summer night!

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ummer is always a time of freedom from schedules, and this summer will be an extension of what’s been happening in our world. Although the kiddos have been home for weeks already, the drive is strong to make their summer as normal as possible. Take some tips from these thoughts, breathe in the fresh summer air and love one another!

A is for Arts.

D is for Dog. Whether you have a dog or not, make an activity of learning about different dog breeds, and when you go on walks around your neighborhood, watch for each type. Or offer to take your neighbor’s dog for a walk or walk your own. Learn about canine care in warmer months and what makes dogs tick.

Summer is a great time to get your creativity on! From something as simple as sidewalk chalk or paint, to even more elaborate activities like an art camp, find plenty of ways to get artsy this summer.

B is for Barbecue.

The warmer months are ideal for firing up the grill to cook dinner—plus you won’t heat up the kitchen! Make a burger bar by grilling hamburgers, then set out lots of toppings so the family can create their own masterpieces.

Take hints from your family’s tastes and include items like guacamole, salsa, cheese, pineapple and different types of cheese.

E is for Exercise.

Rain or shine, do something to get moving. Run up and down the stairs, play basketball in the driveway or see how many jumping jacks you can do. Offer prizes for who does the most and have your children come up with fun ways to move … how about dancing, doing cartwheels or going on a scavenger hunt?

C is for Creativity.

Write your own story! Make “books” from typing paper stapled together, or purchase pretty journals. Come up with titles together, then spend time each day crafting a story. For example, watch the cat and see how her day goes, then make a chapter about it. “Felicity woke up and stretched, then walked over to the window to watch the birds in the birdbath. Then she….”

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F is for Fantasy.

Imagination comes in may forms, from the dreams your children have to the books they read. How about creating fairy gardens? These are all the rage, and you can find supplies at your local dime store or just around your house or yard. Check online for ideas.

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G is for Grandparents.

If grandparents are not close by, set up FaceTime dates frequently. And if grandparents are staying home, have the kids show off artwork, swimsuits or foods they create—or let the kids read a book aloud for them. If you are lucky enough to see them in person, plan outings in which grandparents can share.

H is for Hair.

Girls and boys alike will enjoy an activity that involves putting washable dye in their hair. Blue for the Royals, red for the Chiefs or patriotic stripes for the Fourth of July. Find styles online for braiding, sculpting and coloring.

I is for Imagination.

Children are born with natural curiosity, so feed it. Now, more then ever, encourage kids to dream and learn new things. If your son loves baseball, why not teach him to imagine hitting a home run or becoming a pro player? Is your daughter a dancer?

Have her practice her steps at home. You even can set up a home studio with mat, dance bar and special lighting.

J is for Journey.

Take your children on a “journey” walk and see whether you can find things that begin with J… junk, jungle gyms, jets flying, and more. Before you begin, talk about where you will go, and afterward, snack on crackers and different jams.

K is for Kite.

Make your own! There are plenty of ideas online, and you can theme them to your children’s interest. Dragons, superheroes—you can make all styles and sizes, and most fit in the trunk of a small car.

L is for Lazy.

Veg out sometimes. Have a day when yor only wear your pjs or keep your swimsuit on all day. There is nothing wrong with lazing about, and you can color, read or make jewelry from beads on the picnic table outside. Take time to reconnect.

M is for Moonlight.

Why not get a tent and camp outside in your own backyard? Lie on a blanket spread on the ground and count the stars. Memories are made during these special times, and together you can enjoy the outdoors. Sometimes, a flashlight and lightning bug jar are all you need.

N is for Nest.

Build a bluebird house! You can find plans online for this very simple activity.

Learn where to place the house so the bluebirds will be attracted to it, then watch as these beautiful birds fly in and out, building their nest, then feeding their babies.

O is for Oars.

Go canoeing or kayaking. The teamwork it takes to canoe will teach patience and balance, and a kayak gives young people confidence to do something by themselves. Take this a step further and read about the origin of the first paddle or oar

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P is for Parasailing.

Yes, you can! Many lakes and area parks will teach lessons and rent you the boat. If you don’t want to go that route, take a paddle boarding class or just spend time on the shore watching others do these activities while you picnic or fish.

Q is for Queen for a day.

Designate a date for your child to be queen or king for the day. The royalty gets to select the foods eaten throughout the day, the activities planned and the shows or movies the family watches.

R is for Reading.

With libraries closed, you can still give your children a challenge of reading a book a week or every few days. Simply go to the library website and download books kids can read online. This is a fun escape!

S is for Swimming.

Jump in and float, splash and enjoy. An outdoor, blow-up or aboveground pool in your own yard works fine. Even older kids will enjoy putting their feet in, no matter what size it is. Turn on the sprinkler and get out the water guns if the local pools are not open. Local lakes and rivers are ideal nature trips.

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T is for Turtle.

If you get around water, you are bound to see box turtles. These pets, simple for all ages, don’t require much care. If you don’t want the live version, research turtles and find out how they lay their eggs and learn that some tortoises live to 150 years! These are amazing creatures. Draw and color pictures of them.

U is for Umbrella.

Raindrops keep falling on our heads—so keep plenty of colorful umbrellas in an umbrella stand by your door. Your children can paint them with waterproof colors and then get out there and splash in the puddles!

V is for Vacation.

A vacation does not require flying on an airplane or traveling miles by car. It is a state of mind. Vacation to Hawaii by cutting a fresh pineapple, practicing hula dancing or making tie-dye shirts. Have a beach day and spread out colorful towels and sit under an outdoor umbrella for a fancy picnic.

Don’t forget the island music!

W is for Work.

Make a list of jobs for the day and place the chart on the fridge or pantry door. Make it fun so your kids won’t dread it. Today, the boys clean the garage, and the girls water the plants. Or have everyone fold the clothes and dust the dressers. Don’t assign anything too overwhelming and do reward, reward, reward!

X is for Xylophone.

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Or any other instrument. Learn to play the flute, the drums, the piano or the guitar. There are many local teachers, and if they are not available, take classes online. Summer is the ideal time to make music and learn a new skill.

Y is for Yacht.

Z is for Zoo!

Now, not all of us are lucky enough to be able to take a ride on an actual yacht, but any innertube, raft or wakeboard can become your yacht. Take time to float in a fishing boat you can rent or a paddleboat. Water is, after all, one of the best parts of summer!

There’s no place like the zoo during the summer. If by chance it is not open, check online for other animal oasis sites, such as Burr Oak Woods Nature Center in Blue Springs.

The zoo is offering virtual views of their animals, and this is a great learning activity.

Try creating your own ABCs of summer! It’s a fun way to use your imagination. Give everyone different letters and have each person come up with an activity. Have a fun summer!

Judy Goppert lives in Lee’s Summit. She enjoys drawing on her personal experiences to write about the nuances of everything wonderful about life.

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KC PARENT’S SUMMER FUN

BU CK E T L IST This summer, celebrate the best of the season with some classic family fun!

URBUILD-YO OWN BARS Create a summer Saturday tradition and serve a meal or dessert for the family with a DIY build-your-own bar. These are some of our favorites: pizzas with toppings like pepperoni, n Individual sausage, hamburger, vegetables, sauce, cheese and maybe pineapple.

with toppings: strawberries, bananas, n Waffles blueberries, chocolate chips, peanut butter chips, nuts, whipped cream, syrup.

with a variety of toppings, including n Tacos meat, cheese, salsa, lettuce, tomato, onion, peppers, olives, rice, guacamole and beans.

parfaits with toppings, including n Yogurt granola, fresh fruit, nuts. cream sundae bar with toppings like fresh n Ice fruit, chocolate sauce, whipped cream, maraschino cherries, nuts, sprinkles, chocolate chips and crumbled cookies.

burritos with fresh tortillas, scrambled n Breakfast eggs, browned breakfast sausage crumbles, ham, hashbrowns, peppers, onions, salsa, cheese, spinach, tomatoes and salsa.

sandwiches with a variety of meats, n Subway cheeses, spreads and fresh vegetables. with toppings, including cheese, sautéed n Burgers onion, lettuce, tomato, condiments, bacon, peppers and other fresh veggies.

night: Melt chocolate or cheese and set n Fondue up a variety of fun things for dipping, from fresh fruits to bread and pretzels.

or baked potato bar: Make a list of n Salad everyone’s favorite salad or potato toppings and pull them out for a homemade salad or potato bar.

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DELICIOU SUMMER T S REATS Make these classics at home this summer: floats: You can go classic with vanilla n Soda ice cream and root beer or change it up with your favorite ice cream and soft drink for a new combination.

n Make homemade ice cream. s’mores. Serve classic marshmallow n Serve and chocolate bar on a graham cracker or try adding a twist, replacing the graham crackers with cookies. For another option, a different easily melted candy could replace the classic candy bar. homemade Popsicles. Buy ice pop n Make molds and fill with instant pudding or favorite juices for frozen DIY treats.

n Create a sweet salad or pizza with fresh fruit. n Make smoothies or milkshakes. n Bake cupcakes and decorate them. homemade lemonade. Our favorite n Make recipe is at AllRecipes.com/recipe/32385/ best-lemonade-ever.

SUMMER ARTS & FASHION SHOW DIY a bit of fun summer fashion at home.

n Tie-dye t-shirts as a family. Wear them throughout the summer and take photos of the fun you’re having.

n Decorate flip flops. Bedazzle or decorate with

ribbons or paint, making your own fun design.

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Paint ball caps. Purchase solid-colored ball caps and paint with fabric paint.

n Classic cut offs: Clean out the “too short jeans” from the

closet and cut them off for denim shorts. These can also be decorated with fabric paint, lace or ribbons.

n Make sidewalk chalk masterpieces in the driveway. n Create shadow art. Lay a piece of paper on your backyard

picnic table and place objects on the paper so they cast shadows. Toy plastic animals or other fun objects work well.

Trace the shadows, then draw a picture using the shape.

INDOOR FUN When it’s too hot or rainy to enjoy the outdoors, make memories inside.

n a family talent show complete with prizes for the n Host best performance.

Set up pillow and blanket forts.

an at-home sibling slumber party in the n Host basement, living room or one sib’s bedroom.

n Make it a movie night with snacks for dinner. on a puppet show or play reenacting a n Put favorite fairy tale or classic story. n Make a family journal. n Sing along with your favorite movie musical. in the library’s summer reading program. n Participate You’ll find the details on KCParent.com. a jigsaw puzzle. Glue it together and frame it. n Complete Have the entire family sign and date the back as a keepsake. day share the highlight of your day with the family. n Every Write these down on slips of paper and collect them in a jar. At the end of the summer, read them all together to remember the good times.

n Play a new board game. through old family photo albums or memory books and n Look reminisce about past trips and summer memories. Use the memories to write a fictional story of a new dream getaway.

ENJOY FRESH AIR & SUNSHINE Visit a local green space (all on KCParent.com in our Going Places Guide) or play in your own backyard:

n Play Frisbee golf at a local park. n Ride bikes. n Go for a walk. n Play hide-and-seek. n Catch fireflies (and remember to release them too).

n Set up the sprinkler, fill water balloons and enjoy a backyard water fight.

n Relive your childhood recess and

challenge the kids to a family game of kick ball in the backyard.

n Build a fire in the firepit and tell stories or sing songs.

n Hunt for shapes in the clouds. n Skip rocks in a local river, pond or lake. n Go fishing. You’ll find a guide to the best local fishing spots on KCParent.com.

n Play basketball in the driveway. n Plant a flower garden. n Go on a hike. n Complete a neighborhood scavenger hunt. n Relax in the backyard hammock. n Play on a swing set. n Climb a tree. n Play flag football. n Fly a kite. n Grow vegetables in a backyard garden. n Blow bubbles. n Get up early and watch the sun rise.

This is especially fun if you visit a local lake or pond for the experience.

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