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was working full time as a teacher when my older was born. She arrived during the summer, so I had some extra time off with her before I had to return to work. A couple months before I was to return to work, I started to look into childcare. My husband and I knew we wanted in-home care, but I wasn’t sure where to start the journey. (This was before Google and the internet were pervasive. Yes, I’m that old.) After talking with friends and making several phone calls, I had a good list of prospective providers in our area. I made visits and asked questions (lots and lots of questions), and we made our decision. We did a trial run a few days before the real deal to make sure everything went smoothly. I remember so many details from that day. My mom was here, and we dropped off Tori (no tears from me or her!) and ran a few errands. I made Italian beef for dinner that night. The day went well, and I started back to work knowing Tori was in great hands. Choosing the right care for your little one is a daunting task! Check out Gina Klein’s article on pg. 26 to help you make your decision.

My younger was born in October. I had worked hard to prepare my older for her sister’s arrival. After Ally arrived, Ty went home to get Tori and bring her up to meet her new sister. They stopped in the gift shop of the hospital to pick out a little something for Ally, and Tori chose a balloon that read, “Happy Boss’ Day.” She liked it because it had a frog on it. I liked it because of the subtle message that there was a new boss in town. If you’re expecting your second, third or fourth, check out pg. 28 for tips on how to prepare for adding a new member to the family.

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hen a couple finds out a new baby is on the way, they imagine a healthy pregnancy, bringing home a full-term baby and starting their new life as parents. No one imagines delivering a preterm baby and spending time in the NICU (neonatal intensive care unit) while their child fights for its life. Having a preemie in the NICU is one of the most stressful things new parents can face. They may experience feelings of loss (of a normal pregnancy and birth experience), detachment, guilt they’ve done something wrong to cause preterm labor, worry about older children at home, stress about work and responsibilities uncared for, fear for the life of their newborn baby, stress on their marriage and other relationships, and so much more. It quickly becomes evident why parents with a child in the NICU need extra support but may not know what to ask for or how to ask for it.

Six years ago, I gave birth to triplets six weeks before their due date. We also had three older children at home who needed our love and attention as well. One of the babies was born with a congenital heart defect and was transferred to a separate hospital for surgery. We found ourselves with six children in three different locations and struggled to manage basic care of our household and mental health.

Although no experience is the same, there are some universal ways to help families facing the challenge of having a child in the NICU. We asked Kansas City area NICU parents for realistic suggestions on how to help.

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WHAT TO SAY TO A NICU PARENT It can be hard to know what to say to encourage a friend who has a child in the NICU. You can start by using one of the phrases below. Then just listen and follow your friend’s lead.

• “How are you doing?” or “How is your spouse doing?”

• “How is your baby doing?”

• “Do you need help with your older kids?”

• “You are a good mom/dad.”

• “You are doing the best you can.”

• “It’s okay to feel scared/upset/ angry/sad.”

• “Can I bring you something to eat or drink?”

• “Can I see pictures of the baby?”

• “Do you want to talk about it?”

• “It’s okay if you don’t want to talk about it.”

• “Is there anything I can do to help?”

• “I would like to help you by ______ (mowing the lawn, cleaning the house, running errands, making dinner, picking the kids up from school, etc.).

• “I will be thinking of you/I will pray for you.”

• “This is not your fault.”

The thing NICU parents need most is a supportive friend to lean on and someone to listen and encourage them. A supportive friend would never trivialize the situation or place blame. It can be hard to know the right thing to say. When you don’t know, try simply listening to the parents’ concerns and feelings and offering encouragement wherever possible. A simple text saying, “I’m thinking of you,” can really lift a parent’s spirits on a rough day. “The texts and messages of support were always appreciated, but please know that if I don’t respond, I’m not ignoring you. My mental energy is just somewhere else at the moment,” says Olathe mom Jessica Pelski.

Provide basic needs Maintaining basic functions in a household can become a burden when you are preoccupied with your baby’s health while also recovering from birth. One of the best and easiest ways to help a NICU family is to provide a meal or a gift card that can help them focus on the baby instead of planning, shopping for or cooking meals.

“Gift cards for the restaurants near the NICU allowed us to have a short break and eat a meal before returning to the NICU,” says Kansas City, MO, mom Erin Dickerson. Many families with babies in the NICU are from towns outside of the Kansas City area, forcing them to miss work and spend a lot of money on gas and eating out. “Gift cards were our biggest help,” says Cindy Price. “We drove downtown every day from Excelsior Springs. The gift cards could be used for food, gas or other items needed.” There are other practical things that can be offered in a time of need, such as house cleaning, mowing the lawn, errand running or taking care of the pets, so parents can focus on their newborn. “My friends arranged to have my house deep cleaned before the baby came home,” says Lyndsey Gruber-Chatfield from Liberty. “After 98 days in the NICU, things got a little disorderly at home, and it was so nice to have someone take care of that for me.”

Help with other children One of the most challenging parts of having a baby in the NICU is feeling guilty about not having time or energy to focus on the other children at home. Friends and family can help with this by offering to take the older kids for a few hours so Mom and Dad can spend time in the NICU with the baby. Offering to carpool, picking the older children up on your way to the park or sending a small gift to the older child to let him know he’s special are other great ways to help and show you care.

Our triplets are now almost 6 years old and stared kindergarten this fall. They have caught up to their peers, and it is hard to imagine they were born early and struggled through their first few weeks in the NICU. Perspective is easy when you’re looking back. However, when you are in the middle of the NICU experience, seeing beyond the current circumstances is challenging. The best thing friends and family can do is to support these parents, listen when needed, and help wherever possible. The NICU stage will pass, but while families are going through it, they need as much support as possible.

Sarah Lyons is a part-time freelance writer and full-time mom.

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Many women go into the labor process thinking a C-section means they failed, but that couldn’t be further from the truth. Sometimes giving birth vaginally is either impossible or dangerous.

C-sections often happen when the baby’s heartbeat is showing distress, the baby is breech (feet-first) or you’ve had a C-section before and choose a second C-section over a vaginal birth after Cesarean (VBAC). You may also have a C-section if your cervix won’t dilate to 10 cm after every attempt to increase dilation or if your baby is too big for your pelvis. No matter the way you deliver, our priority is always healthy outcomes for mom and baby.

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Most often, you should see your baby’s first tooth between 5 and 8 months, typically in the bottom front of the mouth. If you notice your baby’s teeth are coming in, it’s time to start practicing daily hygiene to eliminate toothaches, gum disease and serious developmental and health problems down the road. This includes brushing and rinsing. If this is your first rodeo and you’re not quite sure how to effectively brush the teeth of a wiggly infant or toddler, Starting Point is here to help! Schedule your first appointment, and we will teach you how to properly care for your infant’s teeth, until they are able to start taking care of them for themselves.

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My dog has not been around many children and I am now expecting. How do I prepare my dog for our new baby?

My #1 tip for phone photography is to CLEAN your lens. Phones are notoriously filthy with finger smudges and film, but you can get a clear shot simply by making sure your camera lens is clean. Next is to pay attention to your light source. It is very hard to get a crisp, clear image with a phone if the light is directly behind the subjects, so try to keep the light to the side or in front of the subjects. Place your subjects close together and raise the camera just slightly above the eye line...click...perfect!

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Start refreshing or training your dog on the basics such as “sit,” “wait,” and “no jumping.”

The “leave it” command is also a good one to utilize when your dog and new baby are first getting to know each other. Familiarize your dog with the baby gear and strollers. Take the dog for a walk with the stroller prior to the baby’s arrival and have the dog spend some time in the baby’s room so everything is not new all at once.

Create a safe space where your dog can go if he feels overwhelmed and never leave your baby unsupervised with your dog.

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veryone has heard about the Terrible Twos, but have you heard about the Terrific Twos instead? Around the time toddlers turn 18 months old, they enter into this new stage of independence that can often feel like a power struggle to parents and caregivers. Your once sweet baby is now mobile and ready to make her own mind up. Here are some tips to help make the twos terrific all around!

The first way to set your little one and family up for success is to talk as a family what your goals and expectations are. One of the easiest ways to decide what you want as a family is to focus on creating a daily routine. You will quickly identify what is important to you in the way you set up your day. Focus on a routine instead of a schedule. No one likes the idea of “Fun Playtime 9:00-9:30 a.m.” Instead, focus on certain things to be scheduled such as meals, nap time and bedtime. For example, you could start getting little ones ready for bed at 7:00 with a goal of bedtime at 7:30 but understand that sometimes bedtime will be 7:20 and other times bedtime will be 7:40. Focusing on a routine will make the day more predictable and easier for not only your little one but for your whole family. A routine becomes easy to predict, which will lead to fewer meltdowns. If your little one attends daycare or has a sitter, make sure you plan what the days will ideally look like together, so you can maintain the same routine all days of the week. No day will ever be an exact copy of another, and your aim is to keep things consistent, not exactly the same.

Once you get a routine in place and your kiddos know what to expect on a daily basis, it is time to start leaning into helping them build their independence. Toddlers at this stage are really just trying to tell you they want to make their own choices about things that are important to them. Often we see toddlers have tantrums because they are trying to communicate with us that they want or need something, and unfortunately we don’t understand what they want. A 2-year-old might be able to communicate with you he is hungry but not able to communicate with you he wants Cheerios in the red bowl with the train spoon and a cut up banana on the side. The easiest way to figure out what your tots want and to reduce the tantrums is to offer them choices. A lot of choices. The key is to only offer choices you want them to pick.

You can offer choices with everything. Ask whether he wants the blue or red cup, the green or purple shirt, to play with the blocks or the puzzles. The possibilities are endless for the appropriate options you can offer your kid. Your child is getting to pick things he wants, and you’re helping him find his voice toward independence.

Another way to help your terrific 2-year-old is to focus on modeling the behavior you want your child to be part of. You can easily build these goals into your daily routine focusing on your priorities to teach your child. You can set up roles or chores for your 2-year-old. Once you teach your child her new responsibilities, then your role is to remind her of when the tasks need to be done, helping her complete the tasks and cheering her on for completing things. One simple chore a 2-year-old can complete is to put her dirty clothes in the hamper. Weave this into part of the bedtime routine and remind her to put her clothes in the hamper every night. Giving toddlers simple tasks to complete will help them feel more independent and develop pride in themselves. Some other tasks a 2-year-old is capable of helping with are pushing in his chair at the table, throwing away his napkin after meals, helping to pick up his toys, feeding the dogs with assistance … the list goes on and on! Don’t expect toddlers to be perfect at tasks, but giving them their own responsibilities from a young age will help them develop and communicate the independence they are searching for. They are on their way to the terrific twos!

Helping a toddler become terrific is hard work! Don’t beat yourself up every time your toddler gets upset. Focus on controlling what you can and let the rest go.

Remember, your toddler is trying to communicate with you, and how you help set up parent-child communication now will make the twos terrific!

Janelle Cumro-Sultzer lives in Overland Park with her husband, son and two dogs. She is a former health care executive director and is a mediator in Kansas, helping families in conflict.

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Maternity Leave Realities

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ust as you’re getting into the rhythm of new parenthood, reality hits—it’s time to plan for your return to work.

Manage the transition from maternity leave to work with confidence! Here’s how.

Coordinate your return. Schedule calls with your human resources department and your supervisor at least two weeks before your leave ends to confirm your return to work date and get questions answered in a timely manner.

“They’re looking at it from two different perspectives,” says Cheryl Wright, president, Darda Human Resources Advisors, Shawnee. “HR is looking at it from leave compliance policies, but there’s also the aspect of transitioning back into the work team—your supervisor or manager can help with some of that.”

Wright suggests asking HR questions like: • Have there been any changes to work place policies and procedures? Are personnel working from home and/or alternating days in the office (due to COVID-19)?

• What are the company’s policies for nursing mothers? Is taking time to pump a paid or unpaid break?

• Where is the lactation room? How do I access is it? Will I need a code or a key to get in? Will I need to schedule the room in advance?

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If you’re seeking more schedule flexibility when you return, Wright suggests opening the dialogue with your supervisor and HR sooner rather than later.

“That allows the company time to figure out how much and how to accommodate the request,” she says.

Check in with your manager or supervisor and one or two of your colleagues.

Find out what has changed in your absence to avoid surprises or a sense of disconnect from the team. You might ask questions like: • How has the team changed? Any new hires? Promotions?

• What projects is the team focused on?

• What projects have been completed?

Visit your child’s daycare. Although you likely toured your daycare prior to your baby’s birth, schedule another visit a week or two before you head back to work.

Ask questions like: • What do I need to bring?

• Would it be helpful for you if I wrote out my baby’s schedule?

• How do you put the babies down for naps?

That kind of visit “proved to ease my mind closer to the time. And then I had a little bit of time and space to order something or run to the store, like we

needed extra pacifiers for daycare and different kinds of bottle labels—things like that,” says pediatric physical therapist Kailee Noland, a Roeland Park mom of two and owner of the Movement Mama.

If your baby has special needs, go over these with your daycare provider at this time too.

Prep your baby for bottle-feeding. If you’re breastfeeding, at about 4 weeks begin introducing your baby to a bottle.

“Start weekly—if not more than that— just so you feel at peace realizing your baby is going to be able to take a bottle when they go to daycare,” Noland recommends.

Do a dry run. Visit your workplace a week or two before you are due back. The short visit helped Noland ease back in, visit with coworkers, get her desk arranged, figure out where she was going to store her pump and milk and do a mental walkthough of the first day back.

“You can plan as much as possible before the baby comes, but you don’t really know logistically what some of those things are going to look like until they’re here,” Noland says. “It gave me that first opportunity for some space on my own to really feel the magnitude and the weight of being away from my babies.”

You may also discover new traffic patterns you weren’t expecting and logistical snafus you hadn’t thought of when it comes to getting to daycare and work on time.

Ease back in. If you can, gradually ease yourself and your baby into the new routine.

“I came back in the middle of the week, and for the first week, I only worked half days,” says relationship management expert and mindful leadership coach Alex Villalobos-McAnderson, an Overland Park mom of two boys and owner of Villalobos Vitality. “This really helped with the hormones and getting comfortable with going back.”

Schedule appointments. As much as possible, get well-baby checkups and other personal appointments plugged into your calendar before returning to work to avoid the stress of having to squeeze these appointments into your schedule later.

If you’re breastfeeding, don’t forget to schedule pumping breaks too.

Pumping at work. Planned pumping breaks can help train your body when to release milk, Noland says. Plan a midmorning, lunchtime and mid-afternoon pump and maintain consistency in your schedule as much as possible during those first few weeks back to work.

Noland also recommends bringing photos and videos of your baby to work, which can help with your milk letdown when you need to pump.

And store extra pump parts in your desk. “Inevitably, you’re going to walk out the door one day and totally forget your parts. It’s great to just have one in your desk on reserve for days like that,” Noland says.

“Usually your insurance company will cover the cost of those.”

Villalobos-McAnderson says she pumped and stashed a surplus of milk in her freezer before heading back to work. “So if I missed a pumping session, I wouldn’t stress about it.”

still experience some emotional bumps along the road as you adjust to time away from your baby.

“I was surprised that with both my babies, I longed to be home with them, especially in those early months when they were so small,” Noland says. “It’s really hard to turn them over to someone else to care for them. Of course, no daycare provider is ever going to be mama, but usually people don’t get into childcare if they don’t love children and don’t have a genuine desire to help them. Know that they’re going to really try to meet all of your needs. So just really honor whatever feelings you’re feeling and know they may last or may be transient.”

Christa Melnyk Hines is a nationally published freelance writer. She lives in Olathe with her husband and two sons.

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CENTERPOINT MEDICAL CENTER 19600 E. 39th St. S. Independence, MO 64057 Centerpoint Medical Center takes the unique needs of expectant moms and personalizes each birth experience. Nearly 8,000 babies have been born since Centerpoint opened in 2007 and, with the most advanced, family-centered care backed by HCA Midwest Health’s technology and resources, we offer private, spacious labordelivery and postpartum rooms, dedicated lactation consultants, and an electronic infant security system and robust communication for Baby’s safety. Centerpoint also has a Level III NICU supported by experienced neonatologists, specialized nurses and more.

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Check out the virtual Labor & Delivery Guide at KCParent.com MENORAH MEDICAL CENTER 5721 W. 119th St. Overland Park, KS 66209 The spa-like environment at the Women’s Center at Menorah Medical Center is nurturing, relaxing and secure for expectant moms, featuring private and spacious suites for labor, birth and recovery for the length of stay. Backed by HCA Midwest Health’s technology and expertise, the Women’s Center provides compassionate doctors specializing in mother-baby care and experienced nurses and support staff dedicated to caring for moms and newborns. Should the need arise, Menorah has a Level II NICU for babies requiring advanced 24/7 care.

1.877.769.6636 MenorahMedicalCenter.com/ uniquedelivery

OLATHE MEDICAL CENTER 20333 W. 151st St. Olathe, KS 66061

The four-story Birth Place blends the care you’ve grown to trust at Olathe Medical Center with an impressive facility you’ll immediately love. Every detail of the Birth Place is designed to provide the most comforting experience, from personalized music and overhead fans for mom in the delivery room to queen-sized beds in the MotherBaby Suite. The Level II neonatal intensive care unit (NICU) includes secure, webcam-enabled nurseries and individual rooms where you can stay overnight with your baby.

Find a doctor who delivers at OMC. 913.791.4396 OlatheHealth.org/birthplace

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HOSPITAL LABOR & DELIVERY GUIDE | Special Advertising Section OVERLAND PARK REGIONAL MEDICAL CENTER 10500 Quivira Rd. Overland Park, KS 66215 The comfort and nurturing environment of Overland Park Regional Medical Center is matched only by our expertise and resources including experienced, skilled nurses and board-certified obstetricians and perinatologists available 24/7. Our spacious birthing suites are designed for privacy and relaxation. Also offered: the region’s first and most comprehensive certified nurse midwife program, high-risk momand-baby specialists including Johnson County’s most advanced NICU with access to pediatric specialty care and the region’s only dedicated antepartum unit. We’re here for your family after you go home too, with a dedicated Pediatric ER and Johnson County’s only Pediatric Intensive Care Unit.

913.541.5058 OPRMC.com/uniquedelivery

RESEARCH MEDICAL CENTER 2316 E. Meyer Blvd.

Kansas City, MO 64132 Expectant moms feel confident and comfortable before, during and after giving birth with modern and spacious birthing and recovery suites at Research Medical Center, which is backed by HCA Midwest Health’s technology and resources.

Research has doctors specializing in mother-baby care and dedicated, experienced nurses and support staff, plus the region’s most comprehensive certified nursemidwife program. Research is one of only a few hospitals in the region to offer comprehensive OB hospitalist and OB emergency services, and a Level III NICU is available.

816.276.3206 ResearchMedicalCenter.com/ uniquedelivery

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IS IT TRUE LABOR‌OR FALSE? Your due date is near; your hospital bags are packed and ready. The contractions have begun, and at times, they take your breath away. While still bearable, they’re coming a lot more often and lasting much longer than before. Anxiety and excitement set in. Could this be it? Is it really time to head to the hospital? The chart below tells some of the differences between true labor and false.

FALSE LABOR

TRUE LABOR

How often do the contractions occur?

Often irregular and do not get closer together.

Come at regular intervals and last about 60 seconds. As time goes on, they get closer together.

Do they change with movement?

May stop when you walk or rest, or may even stop if you change positions.

Continue despite movement or changing positions.

How strong are they?

Usually weak and do not get much stronger. Or they may be strong at first and then get weaker.

Steadily increase in strength.

Where do you feel the pain?

Usually only felt in the front of the abdomen or pelvic region.

Usually start in the lower back and move to the front of the abdomen.

As always, please consult your health care provider with any questions or concerns.

Check out the interactive virtual

Hospital Labor & Delivery Guide at KCParent.com where users can find comprehensive information on hospitals, including descriptions, images, videos, social media links and much more!

Other hospitals in the Kansas City metro that offer labor and delivery services include: Lawrence Memorial Hospital Liberty Hospital North Kansas City Hospital Providence Medical Center Saint Luke's East Hospital Saint Luke's Hospital of Kansas City Saint Luke's North Hospital Saint Luke's South Hospital Truman Medical Center Hospital Hill Truman Medical Center Lakewood University of Kansas Health System kcparent.com october-december 2020

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#PREGNANCYPROBLEMS HEARTBURN

ALLERGIES

DROOLING

DARKER SKIN

METALLIC TASTE

EXCESSIVE GAS

SWELLING

HOT FLASHES

HAIR CHANGES

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ausea, fatigue and unexplained cravings for dill pickles and ice cream may be the classic telltale signs of pregnancy. But some pregnancy symptoms are so unique, they almost sound like a curse right out of Greek mythology. Here at KC Baby & Maternity, we’ve got the 411 on pregnancy problems, sorting out fact from fiction.

ALLERGIES

LEAKY BREASTS

This lesser-known symptom is actually one of the most common. More than a quarter of all pregnant women complain of developing an allergy throughout the course of their pregnancy—some of which may stick around even after your little bambino is born! Although seasonal allergies and food sensitivities are inconvenient, one allergy can hit particularly close to home: allergies to pets. If your feline friend or canine companion cause you to have itchy eyes and shortness of breath, you may need to reach out to a friend or family member to temporarily relocate your beloved pet.

DARKER SKIN No, this isn’t that pregnancy glow you always hear about. Considered the “mask of pregnancy,” melasma is a condition known to produce dark patches on the forehead, cheek bones, upper lip and nose.

Melanin, the substance that produces your natural skin pigmentation, can find itself in increased production because of hormone changes throughout pregnancy. But don’t worry! Typically a first trimester symptom, melasma should be a thing of the past once Baby arrives. In the meantime, grab a widebrimmed hat and wear sunscreen to avoid prolonged sun exposure, a factor known to aggravate the condition.

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DROOLING

HEARTBURN

METALLIC TASTE

If you thought drooling was a condition reserved for your newborn, think again.

Ptyalism, also known as hypersalivation, is a bizarre pregnancy condition that can be chalked up to increased hormone production.

Women with ptyalism can expect to produce anywhere from 3 to 4 quarts of saliva a day.

Kansas City mom Machelle Kuftack knew this problem all too well throughout her pregnancy. “I couldn’t have conversations with people without needing to spit every few seconds. It was just pooling in my mouth!

And I couldn’t swallow it because it would make my nausea worse,” Kuftack says. “It went away as soon as I delivered, thankfully!”

Many a pregnant mama complains about heartburn, but did you know your preexisting condition may actually reverse when you’re pregnant? That’s right! If you were prone to having heartburn before pregnancy, you might find you lose that terrible acidic feeling when a bun is in the oven. That was the case for KC mom Yolanda Navarrete, who took prescription heartburn medication prior to pregnancy. “The heartburn miraculously went away. Those were the best 9 months of relief I’ve ever had from it!”

Waking up to the taste of copper pennies or tin foil on your tongue might sound like a remnant of a nightmare, but for many moms, it’s a first-trimester reality with a name to match: dysgeusia.

This metal mouth conundrum, thought to be the result of estrogen surges, is known to dissipate by the second trimester. To combat it, moms can reach for acidic foods, such as crackers and citrus juices, or nosh on spicy foods followed by icy beverages. Still others find relief with vinegar-brined veggies (three cheers for dill pickles!).

HOT FLASHES

SWELLING

Quick! What pregnancy symptom is something you and your menopausal mother can bond over? If you said hot flashes, you’re correct. Pregnancy gives your body a crash course in what’s to come down the line, all thanks to the combination of extra progesterone and increased blood flow due to metabolic overdrive. If you find yourself sweating like crazy, know it’s with good cause: Your body is working feverishly to produce new life. Interestingly, some women experience hot flashes with one pregnancy but not another. If you find yourself in the uncomfortable position of being a “hot mama,” it might be time to invest in a few extra fans.

Pregnancy apps that compare your baby’s monthly size to a piece of fruit are a hot ticket item. I mean, how can you not squeal with delight when you find out your baby is finally the same size as a kumquat? But swollen fingers and ankles? No one wants to know what piece of produce matches those bloated extremities! Because of increased blood production, some women find themselves swollen from stem to stern. Thankfully, swelling often goes down after delivery, but you may see one permanent change to your lower extremities: expanded foot size. Feet take a beating during pregnancy, and it’s not uncommon to go up a half size or more permanently, thanks to weight gain and added pressure.

EXCESSIVE GAS Potty humor may make you giggle, but breaking wind when you least expect it is no laughing matter. Bloating, cramping and passing gas are all unpleasant side effects associated with pregnancy. You can thank progesterone working its way through your system and slowing down your digestion for this one. Unlike some other unusual pregnancy symptoms that are here today, gone tomorrow, this side effect can hang around for all three trimesters. So just how can you avoid this unfortunate situation?

Aim to graze throughout the day while avoiding large meals. Also, you might pass on cruciferous foods, such as cauliflower and broccoli, high fiber foods like beans, and carbonated beverages like soda.

HAIR CHANGES More hair, less hair and texture changes are all par for the course when you’re with child. Some women find their hair to be at its best when they’re pregnant— shiny, thicker, stronger. Others find their lovely locks falling lackluster and evening clumping at the shower drain at an unprecedented rate. Still more may experience an incredible anomaly: straight hair transforming into corkscrew curls or fine hair turning coarse.

LEAKY BREASTS Sore breasts are one of the first maladies that pregnant women complain of. But don’t be surprised if you find them leaking, too. As early as 14 weeks into pregnancy, your breasts may produce colostrum, a highly nutritious milk your body is preparing for your little one’s arrival. There’s no need to be alarmed if you find that your breasts have sprung a leak. Just keep a supply of nursing pads on hand to prevent leaking through your bra.

Lauren Greenlee is a local freelance writer and mom of three who found broccoli cheese soup grotesquely unappetizing throughout her pregnancies. Other than a sensitive palate, she couldn’t complain about having too many #pregnancyproblems!

As always, please consult your health care provider with any questions or concerns.

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guide to baby’s first year: tips to

survive & thrive

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xcited to be a new parent? You absolutely should be— it’s an exciting new chapter. Also terrified as you are responsible for a totally dependent tiny human? I’d be worried if you weren’t. Much like marriage or a general significant relationship, no definitive guidebook or instruction manual tells us how to deal with the difficult things. We get lots of advice from the people around us, but unfortunately, like relationships, all babies are different.

You have a new human to take care of and, in the beginning, he has one way (though with multiple inflections) to communicate all things. Crying. And babies do it a lot. The frustration you and your partner experience with each cry seems to be tied to the amount of sleep you are getting. This is also normal.

As excited as you might be to have this baby, the accompanying feelings of confusion, frustration, a little (or a lot of) helplessness, and total terror are normal. It’s easy to feel alone when you are experiencing these emotions. Here are a few tips to survive and thrive in your baby’s first year.

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Find a community to support your questions.

• Don’t be afraid to call your doctor, friends, parents, neighbors or anyone else you feel comfortable asking questions. It helps to know people who have been there and done that— whether you find them online, at a support group or just in an individual. Talk to people; don’t hold frustration in.

• Form a list of experienced moms to bounce concerns off.

Google is a great resource, but when it comes to concerns with new babies, I found way too much information in the search engine, and my anxiety got worse.

Find a time to make food.

• Food is something so many people lose track of. The meals from outside people will run out eventually. Make a plan with either your partner or someone else to care for Baby while you get food ready. Do freezer meals or take some time to prep as far out as you can. This will drastically ease frustration because so often babies seem intent on keeping you from cooking.

• Remember to eat. If you are nursing or pumping, you’ll eat

as much as you did during pregnancy. Or at least I did. I found a lot of times I didn’t realize I needed food and I got frustrated. Just remember to eat.

• Eating healthy takes time and effort. The healthier you eat, the better you’ll feel physically to take care of your new baby.

Plan small chunks of time away from your baby.

• This can be hard to grasp as a new mom or dad. You are afraid

to be further than a couple of rooms away from your baby.

Let me tell you, even a 30-minute mental break to walk helps.

Drastically. Find someone you trust to watch the baby while you get a couple minutes away from the house.

• Babies make everything a task. Get the bag ready, make sure you have the stroller, blankets, snacks and toys. Lug everything to the car, make sure the car isn’t too hot—so many things. Taking the baby out and showing him off is fun, but a quick, quiet dinner date is so relaxing.

• If you didn’t get my point, mental breaks are needed to be a better parent.

Communicate more than necessary with your spouse/partner.

• Your world and relationship just got more complicated. With

lack of sleep, frustration rises more easily and quickly for both of you. We tend to automatically assume the other knows

what we need or are thinking. Your partner doesn’t. If you need something, voice it. Food, drink, a small break, laundry, whatever. Let it be known.

• Communicate expectations. Babies come with a lot of small tasks, new habits, and to-do’s. We get frustrated when we expect others to help out. Things still need to get done around the house, errands need to be run and new items need to be stocked in the pantry. Things just don’t happen as smoothly. Find the way that works best to keep communication open.

Establish routines.

• The faster you can get systems and routines set, the smoother

things will get. This is probably the last thing on your mind as a new parent, but it will make a difference. Babies and growing kids thrive on routines.

• Know that the routine might get thrown out the window and roll with it.

Kids are hard. The beginning stages are the hardest. And it would seem that’s when you are the least ready. Trust and believe you can do it.

Breathe deeply and follow your gut. Don’t be afraid to say no to things.

If you are someone who doesn’t like to accept help, you should start.

Lauren Dreher lives in Stilwell, KS, with her husband and two toddlers.

As always, please consult your health care provider with any questions or concerns.

The starting point for a healthy smile.

Did you know?

The American Association of Pediatric Dentists recommends that infants be seen by a pediatric dentist at the age of one or when their first teeth are visible. This will help them be comfortable with their future appointments and provide families with the tools they need to stay cavity free.

Locations:

Overland Park 14465 Metcalf Ave Overland Park KS 66223 913-553-2492

Legends 10940 Parallel Pkwy Kansas City KS 66109 913-948-8688 Owner John P. Roth DDS and family Specialist in Pediatric Dentistry Specialist in Orthodontics

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pregnancy nutrition basics

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ongratulations on your pregnancy! While your baby is developing both physically and mentally in your womb, your food and drink choices are very important to the baby’s growth and development, as well as to your immune system.

By now, you may have already started receiving advice from well-wishers about what you should eat more or less of. And, even if you already eat like a nutrition rock star, a few tweaks might be necessary.

Especially during the first trimester, you might need to stick with whatever you can keep down because morning sickness will challenge even the most dedicated to their diet. After that, according to the What to Expect website, a general rule is try to consume an average of an extra 300 calories per day in the second trimester and 500 extra calories per day in the third trimester. Read on to learn how to get those calories in so you can feel your very best while also growing a healthy baby. Be sure to talk to your doctor if you have more specific questions.

Protein The American Pregnancy Association says, “Experts recommend 75 to 100 grams of protein per day. Protein positively affects the growth of fetal tissue, including the brain. It also helps your breast and uterine tissue to grow during pregnancy, and it plays a role in your increasing blood supply.”

This was my favorite food group during pregnancy, and just a few examples of protein include lean meats and chicken, fully cooked fish, nuts, tofu, beans, peanut butter, eggs and Greek yogurt—so there are many options here. Sarah Lyons, mom of six from Olathe, says, “I liked avocados and hummus. I ate nuts or trail mix. Things that were high in protein. I could only eat small snacks and meals.”

Fruits and vegetables Juicing is a fantastic way to sneak in many of the vitamins and minerals you need, as well as fiber. Barbara F., mom of five from Kansas City, MO, had her last child in her 40s and says, “I juiced two times daily with an assortment of fruits and vegetables.”

Now is the time to try some new things! Just a few examples: dragon fruit, ugli fruit, purple sweet potato, pummelo and watermelon radish! Also consider vegetable lasagna, veggie pizza, dried fruit … any way you can find to sneak in those fruits and veggies!

Grains Nutrient dense is the way to go in this food category, and the carbs and fiber provided by this food group give you lots of energy.

Choose wheat bread over white, brown or wild rice over white, as well as whole-wheat pasta. A quick and easy beef barley soup would be a great way to get in many of the food groups at once in a flavorful way that’s also easy on your first-trimester sensitive stomach (soup also promotes good digestion).

Dairy products Dairy products pack a triple whammy with calcium, vitamin D and protein and help create strong teeth and bones for your growing baby. Lynn Letzig, South KC mom of one and foster mom to many, says, “I ate cottage cheese with peaches every day.” Other options

include yogurt (so many choices of flavor and consistency) and hard cheeses. If you can’t tolerate milk, try items such as calcium-fortified OJ and soy milk.

Water and other fluids

Supplements Talk to your doctor first, but generally during pregnancy, women will be advised to take a folic acid supplement, as well as a prenatal vitamin to fill in any nutritional gaps.

According to WebMD.com, “Women who are pregnant or breast-feeding need additional fluids to stay hydrated. The Office on Women’s Health recommends that pregnant women drink about 10 cups (2.4 liters) of fluids daily...” There are so many great benefits to getting enough fluids, including lowering the incidence of swelling, bladder infections and constipation. All fluids count toward your daily total, but make sure you’re not consuming too much sugar or caffeine.

Things to avoid

Fats, oils and sweets

Special considerations

Go for the healthy fats, but try to use them sparingly. Think avocado toast, trail mix with a variety of nuts and seeds, as well as olive oil and vinegar for your salad dressing. Don’t deprive yourself!

It’s okay to treat yourself every now and then with a sweet treat—just do it in moderation.

According to BabyCenter.com, you need to watch out for canned tuna, sushi, raw cookie dough and anything undercooked or raw, including meats, as well as any fish that might be high in mercury.

Soft cheeses and unpasteurized products are also items to steer clear of. Other good practices are to avoid any alcohol consumption and keep caffeine to a minimum (200 mg or less per day).

If you’ve been diagnosed with gestational diabetes, you’ll need to meet with a dietician to discuss consumption of a healthy balance of protein and carbs to keep your insulin levels balanced.

Also, if you’re pregnant with twins, you should be taking in approximately 300 extra calories per day per baby.

For more information The Whole 9 Months: A Week-By-Week Pregnancy Nutrition Guide with Recipes for a Healthy Start by Jennifer Lang What to Expect: Eating Well When You’re Expecting by Heidi Murkoff Feeding the Bump: Nutrition and Recipes for Pregnancy by Lisa Neal Kerrie McLoughlin (TheKerrieShow.com) ate a pretty balanced diet with each of her five pregnancies … plus a little extra chocolate.

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finding quality childcare

f you’re looking for trustworthy childcare for your child and are feeling a bit flustered, you’re not alone. The search for quality childcare can be tough, whether you’re looking for a part-time babysitter, full-time daycare or a full-time nanny. The most important things you’ll want to look for are convenience, cost and childcare that is safe, healthy and offers learning for your child. Finding the right caregiver for your little one can be a bit overwhelming, but with a little research and a lot of questions, you’ll be on the right track in no time.

Choose your childcare type. If you’re

Start early. No matter what type of care

just needing a night out or an occasional afternoon free to go shopping, a babysitter is ideal. However, if you’re in need of someone to be with your child daily in your home, then you’ll want to look for a nanny.

Looking for childcare outside your home?

Then you’ll want to explore a family daycare center. With daycare, you’ll want to decide whether you prefer a smaller center or one that’s larger with more staff and space.

you’re considering, start the search as far in advance as you can. Finding the right childcare can take quite a bit of time.

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Get recommendations. Ask around!

One of the best ways to find great childcare locally is to ask friends and family. They can give you more detailed inside information, such as how their child reacts to a particular babysitter or whether a daycare center is clean and hands out reports on what the

children accomplish each day. Don’t be afraid to check things out yourself, too.

Schedule appointments to meet with a potential babysitter, nanny or childcare center director.

Look for licenses, certifications and accreditations. Although childcare centers are required to be licensed in all states, licensing doesn’t ensure quality. It does, however, set minimum health, safety and caregiver training standards that centers

want to ask how they put babies to bed and what’s allowed in the crib, as the American Academy of Pediatrics recommends that babies sleep on their backs without pillows, blankets or toys in the bed with them to reduce the risk of SIDS. Does the atmosphere feel warm and welcoming?

Don’t be afraid to ask questions. (The same goes for interviewing a potential babysitter or nanny.) Spend time with them and ask as many questions as you wish. Good teachers will really listen to you and answer your queries. This is a wonderful sign they’ll be there to communicate with you every step of the way, even after you’ve enrolled.

Check references. Before hiring a nanny

have to maintain. Licenses and certifications don’t guarantee perfect childcare, but they’re still worth considering. A great place to start is by researching the National Association for the Education of Young Children website (NAEYC.org). Look for accredited childcare centers in your area, which show that the centers have met the highest quality of standards and processes for childcare and education.

Visit and ask questions. If you’re looking for a childcare center, set up a visit so you can see the facilities, talk with the director and find out whether it’s a good fit. Look around and see whether the place is clean and tidy. Are the children engaged and happy? Are children and infants supervised at all times, even when sleeping? Does the center have see-through cribs? Teachers should be able to see your baby every minute of the day. You’ll also

or babysitter, or signing up with a daycare, check with at least two references. They can fill you in on the positives and possible negatives of working with the person or facility. When checking references for babysitters or nannies, you can call past employers, do a background check and maybe ask for a driving record or for him/ her to take a drug test. Many nanny agencies out there will administer drug tests, but you also can purchase an over-the-counter drug test kit. For daycare centers, make sure their state license is up to date, check whether any formal complaints have been filed with the state licensing agency or the Better Business Bureau, and ask other parents whether they’re satisfied with the center.

Try it out. Before committing to a sitter or childcare center, give it a trial run to see whether the situation is a good fit for your family. Be extra observant. Watch how your child behaves. How does the provider interact with your child? Red flags to watch for include your child refusing to go to the daycare or a provider who’s reluctant to give you a progress report. Always trust your gut.

Recognize that every new situation will feel strange at first and require time to adjust.

However, if you have a feeling something isn’t right, trust it and move on, even if you don’t have any evidence. If you don’t have the peace of mind that your child is in good hands, then that’s not the caregiver for you.

Make your choice. Look at all the information you gathered from your visits and interviews. Which one felt like the right fit for your family?

Stay involved. Once you’ve found the right childcare for your family, work on building a strong relationship with your provider. This will help your child’s learning and development. Meet up regularly and ask questions. Share information about your child with your provider, including updates on what happens at home. If your child is in daycare, visit regularly, including occasional surprise visits. Work together with your provider on your child’s learning plan.

It’s not always easy finding the right childcare for your family. The daycare you want may have a wait list, or maybe the sitters or nannies you interviewed didn’t meet your standards. Don’t give up. Talk to friends, neighbors and people at your work, school, church or community center.

Discuss your childcare need with your employer and coworkers. Make a shortterm plan until you’re able to find the childcare that will work for your family.

Get on a waiting list with the daycare centers that you liked. These lists can be shorter than anticipated, so don’t let a long wait keep you from adding your name.

Keep with it, and don’t give up on finding the care your family desires. It will happen.

Gina Klein resides in Kansas City with her husband, two daughters and a houseful of animals.

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another new baby

t’s fun to prepare for the arrival of a new baby … choosing nursery decorations, buying outfits, selecting cute and cuddly toys. And yet, a bit of the fun seems to wane and a challenge sets in as a family welcomes a second, third or fourth sibling into their home. Being creative in gift giving is a challenge, too, if

subsequent children are the same gender as the first and relatively close in age.

We experienced this head on with four daughters, each two years apart. Well-

meaning friends and family were eager to welcome our newest daughter and shower her with gifts, but she was coming into a home with a basement stockpiled with plastic tubs of clothes and toys from her older sisters. What is a friend to do? How can parents create traditions that celebrate each new baby?

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Here are some practical ideas to bless and not burden new moms and babies: THINGS A FRIEND OR RELATIVE CAN DO FOR BABY: Special items: Baby book, baby blanket, piggy bank, Baby’s first bibs, growth chart and special silverware (Tip: Make sure these items do not hold family traditions for grandparents or aunts. Also, make sure they fit your friend’s parenting style. Modern moms range from crafty scrapbookers to digital memory makers!)

Personalized items: CDs of music with songs including the child’s name (we love the collections from JustMeMusic. com), or frames, plush toys, cups and more (see LillysKids.com or look at local toy stores).

Consumables: Diapers (or a gift card from Diapers.com), wipes, cream, baby powder, baby wash, lotion, savings bond

takes the stress out of dinnertime.

Patrons choose meals from the Dream Dinners menu to easily assemble as freezer meals to cook and enjoy at home later. The friendly staff guides you through the simple process—they provide the food, the recipes, the cleanup and the simplicity. DreamDinners.com

Gift cards for photo development: Purchase a card for Snapfish or another local or online developer. You might even consider a gift certificate for professional portraits.

Practical items: Laundry detergent, batteries for baby gadgets, pizza or takeout gift cards, paper goods, grocery or super store gift cards.

Big sister/brother shirts: FamilyPanda. com sells adorable sibling shirts … including Big Sister Again designs (Bit.ly/31l9UCe).

FOR MOM: Coupon for free babysitting for older siblings: This is great before

Items on a registry: When our second baby came, I spent time creating a registry to provide ideas for those who were asking what we needed. Stick to the registry or purchase a gift card.

Moms with new babies do not need more clutter.

candles, comfy socks or a favorite snack

FOR THE FAMILY:

Flowers, balloons, edible bouquets

Frozen or hot meals: Use disposable

TRADITIONS PARENTS CAN START FOR EVERY CHILD:

containers and include a supply of paper goods for dining to spare a tired mom of cleaning up or returning dishes. Also, call ahead to verify allergies and food preferences. Dream Dinners, located in Overland Park,

or after delivery. Give your friend an afternoon to herself before Baby comes, or a date night with Daddy.

Goodie bag filled with her favorite things: Lotion, tea, magazine, scented

For older siblings before Baby arrives: Take the kids on fun family outings before the new baby arrives.

Take each sibling shopping to select a hospital gift for the baby. Read books about becoming a big sibling or attend a hospital class.

For older siblings when Baby arrives: At the hospital, give each child a “big sibling gift” from Mommy and Daddy that they can enjoy in the hospital room. Craft kits, a favorite quiet toy, “older sibling” books and shirts make great choices.

First birthday: Create a time capsule.

Ask guests to contribute letters, photos, newspaper clippings or even receipts (I buy a dozen eggs, gallon of milk and loaf of bread on each first birthday and include the receipt in the capsule to compare prices in the future.). Seal the capsule and save it to open on the child’s 16th birthday.

This is a great way to preserve memories. Purchase autograph teddy bears at the local party store for each guest to sign.

First Christmas: Give the baby a special ornament and gift. For girls, we like “My First Christmas Doll” from LillysKids.com. For boys, you can purchase a “First Christmas Teddy Bear” plush toy or blanket from PersonalizationMall.com.

All birthdays: My husband purchases a rose for each year on our daughters’ birthdays and presents them with a card. Keep the cards in their scrapbooks and save the petals for their weddings. For a son, balloons or cookies make fun “bouquets,” or start a collection. Decorate your home for the birthday child with balloons and streamers and use a special birthday plate for the honoree.

KCMO mom Kristina Light, mother of four girls, has more than her share of girl clothes, but a new box of laundry detergent would always be nice!

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early exploration SCIENCE CITY

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ears ago, I was an elementary teacher with an emphasis on early childhood education. Early childhood education holds a special place in my heart. And after seeing for myself what Science City has just added for the younger set—specifically for children ages birth-7—I can tell you it’s a true game-changer for parents, educators and caregivers alike. It’s so important to give our youngest learners a solid start, and I’m thrilled that it’s a brilliant new focus at Science City. Read on for some of the highlights of the three new exhibits encompassing more than 13,000 square feet . . . and make plans to visit today! ScienceCity.com At the Goppert Creative Corner, children unlock their imaginations with opened-ended art activities as they learn to express their creative spirit in the Paint Room, Sand Room and through ever-changing art-based explorations.

Goppert Creative Corner Highlights:

• Active center for visual and creative arts for children of all ages.

• Early learners can explore open-ended, sensory rich materials and enhance their creativity, confidence and problemsolving skills.

• Practice fine motors skills by engaging with a variety of art tools, techniques and materials.

• Early learners will delight in playing with different materials, making choices and being allowed to be a little messy—paint smocks are provided!

By Margaret Sarver

In the Let’s Play area, little ones under 3 explore safely through the Babyscape, Pretend Play, Ramps & Runs and Air Play areas.

Let’s Play Highlights:

• Children under 3 can learn about themselves and the world around them.

• Practice developing skills – social, emotional, cognitive, physical (fine and gross motor), language and numeracy.

• Allows adults and young children to build trusting relationships and experience delight in playing together.

• Caregivers can observe and celebrate their children at play, as well as discover and practice some of the foundational elements of child development and early learning.

Visit All Aboard, the newest train-themed area geared for younger guests, ages 4-7. Hop on the play steam locomotive, role play in the sleeper and dining cars, transport goods and materials at Load It Up, create a toy train village at Build-A-Track, crawl through the massive model train display and move freight at the Intermodal Table.

All Aboard Highlights:

• Inspired by the people and technology of trains and railroads, early learners will imagine, experience and role-play a variety of people and places.

• Engages children ages 4-7 in train and railroad themed activities to develop spatial thinking, organizing and problem-solving skills.

• Learn about and appreciate the complex, creative systems that define train and transportation networks.

• Enjoy a range of developmentally appropriate experiences that offer opportunities to strengthen physical, social and emotional skills.

Visit ScienceCity.com for complete details regarding times and ticket prices.

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>> FALL 2020 CALENDAR

Visit KCParent.com and search “Favorite Dates� for even more ideas!

parents night out

Axe Throwing Blade & Timber

Friday Night Concerts Thru Oct. 30, Stone Pillar Winery. Bring a blanket to sit on the lawn and enjoy live music and food from a tasty food truck. No outside food or alcohol. StonePillarVineyard.com Hall of Trees Nov. 21-Dec. 31, Hall of Waters (Excelsior Springs). Come experience the magic of Christmas by touring the Hall of Trees, which includes more than 30 trees decorated by local businesses. Enjoy dinner out and a tour of the display! 816.637.2811

Turkey Hike Burr Oak Woods As the weather turns cooler, take a hike at Burr Oak Woods, where you can enjoy watching the wild turkeys that roam the property, including the bird watching land around the center. Nature.mdc.mo.gov

Candlelight Stroll Dec. 3, Overland Park Arboretum. A quieter, adults-only luminary walk experience that features the same dazzling light displays, but without musicians or rides. Wine and hot adult beverages for sale.

Tickets limited, must be purchased in advance. ArtsAndRec-OP.org Candlelight Tour Dec. 12, Fort Osage National Historic Landmark. Celebrate the holidays by stepping back in time. Enjoy caroling, crafts, piping hot holiday beverages, shopping for unique holiday gifts and more.

Must purchase tickets in advance at FortOsageNHS.com.

First Fridays in the Crossroads Art District, Kansas City, MO. Art galleries, retailers and other participating art venues located in the Crossroads Art District showcase art from 7:00 to 9:00 the first Friday of each month.

Axe Throwing Blade & Timber (multiple locations). The perfect date night destination! Experience axe throwing with their coaches who teach you how to hit the target. BlandAndTimber.com

Escape! Grab your spouse or small group of friends and collaborate to break out from an interactive escape room while cracking codes and solving puzzles. Tick Tock Escape Games (TickTockEscapeGames.com) and Breakout KC (BreakoutKC.com) are our favorites.

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>> FALL 2020 CALENDAR

Visit the KCParent.com calendar for over 1,000 more events!

playdates WEEKLY

Elephant Expedition Daily, Kansas City Zoo. The new elephant exhibition is open at the zoo. Reserve a time online and plan a visit with the family!

KansasCityZoo.org

Retro Story Time Second Wednesday of the month, 10:00-10:45, Johnson County Arts & Heritage Center. Enjoy stories from long ago and a craft activity. Preregister by calling 913.831.3359.

Story Time Visit MyMCPL.org or

Preschool Story Time Various dates, Ernie Miller Nature Center. Visit the nature center for stories, songs and surprises. Meet a special animal friend every time. Pre-reg at JCPRD.com.

JoCoLibrary.org to find a complete list of story times.

Little Leapers Wednesday 10:00-Noon

Readers: These events typically occur every week, but there may be exceptions. Please call ahead to verify times.

& Sunday 9:00-11:00, Sky Zone locations. Little ones bounce under the supervision of their parents and without interference from the big kids.

SkyZone.com

Nature Story Time for Preschoolers Thursday 10:00-10:30, Prairie Park Nature Center (Lawrence). Each week will feature a story and a live animal. Children may color a coloring page after the presentation. Pre-reg at LawrenceKS.org.

kc pumpkin patches Carolyn’s Country Cousins

Don’t miss Kansas City’s #1 destination pumpkin patch and fall family adventure, Sept. 19 through Oct. 31. Open 7 days a week from 10:00 to 7:00. Individual season passes are available. Enjoy 32 + attractions including the historic Country Carousel, the Pumpkinator cannon, wall ball games, sports ball games, grain truck slide, live entertainment, Little Bud’s Railroad, Uncle Lester’s Pig Races and more. Educational school tours, birthday parties and corporate events are available too ! Online ticketing with designated days and times will be available this year during Covid-19. Follow us on Facebook, Instagram & Twitter. www.CarolynsCountryCousins.com

Johnson Farms

At Johnson Farms, you’ll be in the country, but close to your home at a real farm. Take a wagon ride out to the u-pick pumpkin patch, veggie patch or apple orchard. Experience our giant jumping pillows, rally car course, barnyard arcade, baby pig barn, animal corral or corn labyrinths, all INCLUDED in your admission. Delicious food and Safe Health protocols in place each time you visit! Plenty of parking and outdoor fun for all ages. www.JohnsonFarms.net, 816.331.1067, @johnsonfarmsMO

Louisburg Cider Mill and Country Store

Store hours 8:00-6:00 (Mon-Sat), 9:00-6:00 (Sun). Live music, food trucks, kettle corn and caramel apples. Watch as fresh cider is pressed and enjoy the delicious cider donuts! Fall family fun will be happening until November 1. Enjoy the 10-acre corn maze, huge pumpkin patch, farm animals, children’s play area, jump pillow and more! 913.837.5202. www.LouisburgCiderMill.com

Weston Orchard and Vineyard

Enjoy a u-pick pumpkin patch, u-pick apple orchard, hayrack rides, apple cannons, rat racers, bouncing pillow, low ropes course with zip line, kids corn maze and more! If you play hard enough to work up an appetite, enjoy kettle corn and caramel apples to keep your energy up. Open 7 days a week, 9:00-5:00.

Apple cannons available on weekends only. www.WestonOrchardAndVineyard.com

KC Parent is giving away 50 FAMILY 4-PACKS to all of your favorite pumpkin patches!

PLUS find our geo-based ONLINE PUMPKIN PATCH GUIDE. All the details are at KCParent.com.

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coolest parks for tiny tots

BY ANNA HIESTAND

Kansas City has TONS of great parks! Here are four fun parks for the younger set. Get out and enjoy the cooler temps!

ANTIOCH PARK – Merriam Antioch Park’s Dodge Town transports you right into the Wild West! Parents can relax in the shade while children explore this mini town, which includes a bank, blacksmith shop, city hall, general store, pony express, schoolhouse and train station. Two accessible playgrounds are connected to this play area.

DAGG PARK – North Kansas City Dagg Park contains an accessible “woods fountain” for children ages 2 and under. Two playgrounds are

available, with separate areas for older and younger children. Colorful equipment adds a pop to the two adjoining playgrounds, which contain roped climbing structures, saucer swings and long slides.

HARRIS PARK – Lee’s Summit This park’s castle-themed playground is perfect for young princes and princesses. In addition to offering access to playground equipment, the large castle structure is a great backdrop for playing pretend.

Open Sept. 19-Oct. 31 10:00am-7:00pm 7 days a week

Frontier Park FRONTIER PARK – Olathe For a pirate-themed adventure, head to Frontier Park. The equipment is built around a pirate ship structure with a big flag and steering wheel. This park is also an ideal place for sports, as it contains two softball fields, a soccer field and a basketball goal.

Fabulous Fun on the Farm!!

• World Famous Pumpkin Donuts • Company Outings and Birthday Parties • The Amazing Jumping Pumpkin • Historic Country Carousel • Pig Races on Weekends • Homemade Fudge, Mouthwatering Kettle Corn and Delicious Roasted Nuts • Traditional Farm Animals • Wall Ball Skill Games • 60 Acres of Pumpkins

Watch our Facebook page for Carolyn’s Curbside Pickup for your fall goodies!!! kcparent.com october-december 2020

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Remember that YOU are the expert of your baby.

We asked KC Parent’s 54,000+ Facebook fans:

– Julie

What’s the best parenting advice you received as a new parent?

Maria: Trust your gut.

Trish: Accept any and all help that is offered.

Mary: Sleep when the baby sleeps.

Amy: Take care of yourself and be sure to make time for fun.

Cathy: This, too, shall pass. This is good advice for EVERY stage of parenting!

Ellen: Be flexible.

Abbie: Don’t buy too much gear. You need a lot less than you think.

Lisa: The first couple of weeks are HARD. That’s okay; it will get easier.

Kara: Don’t listen to the advice and follow your heart!

Val: It’s okay to make mistakes. Everyone does.

Trish: You won’t love every minute of parenthood. Sometimes it’s hard.

Julie: Remember that YOU are the expert of your baby.

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Deliver in comfort.

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Be comfortable and confident on your big day. The Birth Place was carefully designed with you in mind. That means cozy suites, luxury amenities and a NICU where you can stay in the same room with your baby. It also means we’re going the extra mile to keep newborns and their families safe and healthy.

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We have a new 3D tour at olathehealth.org/birthplace.

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