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had a lot of apprehension about the onset of labor when I was pregnant with my firstborn. How exactly would I know when I was in labor? Would my water break or would I just have contractions? And, as a planner, I wanted to know when it would start. As it turned out, I worried needlessly (isn’t that always the way with worry?), and my water didn’t break before the hospital with either of my girls—and I definitely was able to tell when it started. But if your water does break before you are at the hospital, that’s a sure sign that Baby is on her way! Head to pg. 26 for tips on what happens and what to do if your water does break.

Are you a list maker? I am! My mom always says the first item on any list should be “Make a list.” That way you are able to mark off at least one item on your list, even if you don’t get to anything else. If you love lists, head to pg. 8 for your pregnancy to-do list. Written by Emily Cline, a Lenexa momma who just delivered her new baby, her trimester-by-trimester to-do’s will have you covered.

During these cooler months, it’s easy for kids (and parents!) to feel a bit stir-crazy.

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f you want an honest opinion when it comes to food, ask your kid. From your eldest to your newborn, what you make matters. What you put in your body and what you put in your baby’s body are also important. Food prep isn’t rocket science, right? So how can you make gourmet meals for your baby? Keep reading to find out.

WHERE DO I START? Fresh food starts with fresh ingredients.

If you are going to create homemade baby food, don’t start with canned or preserved foods. I strongly recommend starting slow.

Really soft foods are ideal. If your child is just beginning the solid food transition, start him off with really ripe or easily mashable foods like bananas or potatoes. Watch your child’s reaction—facial expressions really let you know whether you should stop while you’re ahead or keep on whipping up the good stuff. Also, remember to check those diapers!

Not only do you want to know what’s going into your baby, it’s important to know how it’s coming out. The best produce is usually found in the fresh food section of your local grocery store or at your local farmers market.

Those are the places to get the freshest picks.

HOW DO I DO IT? You have to tackle baby food like any other meal preparation. The moment you look on it as a chore is exactly the moment it becomes a chore. A great tip when deciding what to prep for your baby is to prep whatever you’re eating. If you’re making chicken and vegetables, make the baby a mashed version of just that. Don’t overcomplicate this. When making foods like this, food processors help a great deal.

Separate the baby’s portion before adding seasoning or spices. Remember to cook your food thoroughly and separate food from bones or tough skin and stems. Make sure you take the proper steps in cleaning your food before you cook or prepare it.

Don’t be afraid to thin foods out with things like breastmilk, formula or water. Last but not least, make sure the food is heated appropriately; you don’t want to burn your little muffin.

immediately. If you really do want to make it ahead and save it, just freeze it. Baby food, depending on the item, will keep up to two months in the freezer. The trick to freezing food, however, is having airtight containers and freezing only freshly made food. A feeding spoon all too efficiently carries bacteria from your baby’s mouth to the dish of food and back again. You don’t want to attempt saving what’s been contaminated.

Don’t let penny-pinching hurt your baby’s health—you’ll be saving already by making your own baby food.

Go ahead and give homemade baby cuisine a genuine try. You may find the transition is a breeze for you and your baby.

And if it doesn’t work out well, Gerber is still one of the hottest selling baby food brands on the planet. You will not be judged, I promise—and trust me when I say I understand.

HOW DO I KEEP IT? Eat it, freeze it or toss it! Babies are precious, and so is their food. Some parents use Mason jars, some use ice trays, and others use Tupperware. I recommend only making what you want to feed your child

Jessica Samuel lives in Kansas City and is a freelance writer and photographer.

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love that initial rush of excitement when you get that big, fat, positive test—we’re having a baby! Pretty shortly

after, I then get hit with all the things I have to do to get ready for Baby. It can overwhelm a new mom so much, especially while navigating those pesky pregnancy symptoms.

Here’s a breakdown of things to take care of during each trimester.

I am a mom who just had baby number two, so I’ve been there before, but I’m also living it right now. Use this checklist to help you stay on track and feel prepared for when that sweet little baby joins your family!

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TRIMESTER 1 Choose a health care provider. Whether you select a doctor or a midwife, you’ll want to make a phone call and get an appointment to confirm your pregnancy and discuss what your care will look like throughout pregnancy.

Decide how and when you will announce to family and friends. Some parents choose to wait until after the first trimester; others can’t wait to share the happy news!

Buy a baby book or journal. It’s never too early to begin to keep track of special moments and thoughts! If a traditional baby book isn’t your style (or you just know you won’t keep up with it), simply writing down your thoughts, milestones and memories in a journal will be something special to look at later.

Begin your research. Start reading up on all things baby! It’s so fun to download some pregnancy apps on your phone and track the baby’s weekly growth. Check out the pregnancy section at the library and read up on sleep and feeding schedules and newborn care. This is my second go around, and I still find myself brushing up on these things!

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Plan the baby’s nursery. Some go all out in

Take time to pamper yourself. Schedule a

choosing colors and themes, but as long as you have a safe place for the baby to sleep, you’re fine.

pregnancy massage, facial or pedicure at a day spa. You won’t regret it!

Sign up for a childbirth and/or baby care class. This is a great way to acclimate you and

Settle household routines. A new baby

your partner to what goes on when the big day arrives. For me, attending a childbirth class eased a lot of my anxiety about labor and delivery.

Think about your birth plan. After your childbirth classes, you’ll know more about all your options. Start having conversations with your partner about your labor and delivery preferences, while understanding the need for flexibility. Write your thoughts down to share with your health care provider.

Register for baby gear. Start a list of all the things you will need for Baby and decide where you want to register.

Make work plans. Look at your work leave options, talk to your supervisor and make a plan for your maternity leave.

Get a baby name list going! Will you find out the gender? Either way, start a list to test some names out and see what sticks.

Take a babymoon. This is optional, but if you can work it out, go for it! Even if you can just get away for one night at a nearby hotel, find a way to connect and get some alone time.

will add to and throw off your existing home routine. Talk to your significant other and discuss who will be in charge of which household and baby tasks.

Freeze meals. Prepping some meals for the freezer will be a lifesaver after Baby comes. If you’re like me and not thrilled at the thought of shopping for and prepping multiple meals at once, check out a local service like Social Suppers, which does all the hard work for you!

Pack your hospital bag. When my first came a couple of weeks early, I was not as prepared as I would have liked. I will not make this mistake the second time around and plan on having the bag packed and ready to go by week 36.

Deep clean. You’ll find your nesting instincts will be in full force at this point, which will help you get the house in tip-top shape. You never know when you’ll get around to cleaning the baseboards again, so now’s the time. Plus, it feels so good to bring a brand new baby home to a clean house.

Install the car seat. You won’t be able to leave the hospital without one!

Emily Cline lives in Lenexa with her husband, 4-year-old son and new baby girl. She is an instructor of education at a local university and blogs about motherhood at EmilysLittleLoves.com.

As always, please consult your health care provider with any questions or concerns.

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EXPERTS We have a wide range of experts on hand to answer your questions on everything from pregnancy and birth to sleeping, feeding, fitness and general well-being.

If you have a question that needs answered, get in touch.

John P. Roth, DDS STARTING POINT PEDIATRIC DENTISTRY AND ORTHODONICS Starting Point Pediatric Dentistry and Orthodontics specializes in giving kids the care and special consideration they need for successful dental care.

913.553.2492, StartingPointDental.com

David Kennedy, MD ADVENTHEALTH SHAWNEE MISSION BIRTH CENTER Every day, the AdventHealth Shawnee Mission Birth Center provides the compassionate, expert and exceptional care families expect from Johnson County’s leader in mother and baby care.

AdventHealthKC.com/birthcenter

Mary Altman MCPL Mid-Continent Public Library has 33 branches and serves more than 816,000 residents across Jackson, Clay and Platte counties, offering resources and services for all ages.

816.836.5200, MyMCPL.org

Ram Chettiar, DO CHILDREN’S MERCY HOSPITAL Children’s Mercy is one of the nation’s top pediatric medical centers. With hospitals and specialty clinics in Missouri and Kansas, we provide the highest level of care for children.

816.234.3000, ChildrensMercy.org

ASK THE EXPERTS...If you have a question, send it our way and we’ll ask one of our experts to answer.

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Besides books, what else am I able to get with my library card?

Ugh! We know the teething phase can be a frustrating time for parents and babies. The front teeth tend to be easier for both infants and parents. When the back teeth start to erupt, your child may suffer from fevers, ear aches, and increased crankiness. Don’t fret though! You have several options to alleviate the pains of teething and make your baby feel better.

Start by introducing something cold to chew on.

Over-the-counter children’s pain relievers and a gentle massage to the painful gums with a warm soft cloth will reduce pain and help the teeth break through.

People are always surprised when they learn that they can use their Mid-Continent Public Library card to download eBooks and eAudiobooks for both adults and children, download up to five songs per week to keep, learn a language, get free online tutoring and take free online courses in a variety of professional and personal development subjects.

You can also read the Kansas City Star and Kansas City Business Journal for free, and access important information on ConsumerReports.com before a big purchase. This is just the tip of the iceberg of what you can access with your library card.

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How much screen time is okay for kids?

Spitting up is normal, and most babies will outgrow it within a few months. There are a couple things that can be done to help minimize frequent spitting up, such as burping during and after a feeding and keeping your baby upright for 20-30 minutes after feeding. If spitting up persists or worsens, or if your baby is extremely fussy after eating, talk to your baby’s health care provider to see whether he or she may be eating too much or too frequently. They will check to make sure your baby is gaining weight appropriately.

Simple spitting up does not generally require any special treatment, but your baby’s health care provider will let you know if medication or a change in formula (if your baby is formula fed) might help.

With kids’ virtual learning and activities, we find ourselves overwhelmed with screen time. Data shows that kids are spending about 50 percent more time in front of screens than before the COVID-19 pandemic.

David Kennedy Pediatrics and Internal Medicine AdventHealth Medical Group Primary Care at Shawnee Mission

Typical age-appropriate limits: • Under 18 months: no screen time except video chatting with loved ones • 18 months to 2 years old: 1 hour per day of high quality educational content, co-watching with adult • 3 to 5 years old: 1 hour per day • 6 to 10 years old: 1.5 hours per day • 11+ years old: 2 hours per day But during these unprecedented times, screen time guidelines are not always possible or reasonable to follow. Instead of focusing on the amount of time spent, focus on how to make screen time more meaningful.

Ram Chettiar Child & Adolescent Psychiatry, Children’s Mercy

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ithin the mom community, naptime is sacred. How many of us have DO NOT DISTURB signs taped over the doorbells and nearly lose our minds when the dog barks during that blissful and long-awaited time? As a parent of four children myself, I can identify with this much-needed time— not only for me but for my children, as well. And although we can joke about this precious time, the truth is, naps are crucial for development and a necessary part of any baby and toddler’s day.

When you bring your new baby home, you’ll spend the first several weeks and months getting to know your baby and adjusting. However, around the 8- to 12-week mark, you may notice a rhythm to your baby’s sleep schedule settling in.

Babies this age need approximately 14-17 hours of sleep, including three to four naps.

If you are nowhere close to this, don’t panic!

Make sure you are at least working toward establishing a positive nap routine for your baby by paying attention to cues, setting up the environment and maintaining consistency.

Kathleen, mom of three, says, “The key to nap time is learning your baby’s sleep cues. My husband and I took the ‘Taking Cara Babies’ newborn class and learned so much! Through the class we’ve learned to read our daughter’s sleep cues, so we can put her down for a nap before she gets overtired. This has been a game changer!”

By 6 months, your baby’s total daily sleep will be approximately 15 hours, including naps, which may have dropped down to three per day. Remember to continue working on a healthy nap routine for your baby. This could look like reading, singing and rocking, then laying Baby down awake. Find what works for you and your

baby! “I’m not a person that always has a consistent schedule, but with my son’s naps, I try to do it the exact same way. Plus, I make sure to keep it happy and light so he associates good things with sleep,” says Christine, mom of one.

Around 9 months, your baby should be fairly solid in his nap schedule and is likely down to two naps, a morning and an afternoon one. “Nap time is necessary for a baby or child’s health and development, and it also provides a break time for me to recharge and rest,” Lindsey, a mom of two, says. “I protect that time for all of us in our house to help keep the routine, sleep and sanity.”

By 18 months (give or take), your baby will be down to taking just one nap, which is usually in the afternoon. Naps begin tapering off over the next few years, and the majority of children are done napping by age 5. Signs that your youngster is finished with naps could be trouble falling asleep at night or fighting the nap time altogether.

Beware though—some children will fight it but still need it! Anna, a mom of two,

laughs at her situation: “It’s not so much our son is transitioning out of naps, but fights them and then transitions to a nap in the hallway, on the kitchen bench or in the carpool line!”

Nap time is necessary for a baby or child’s health and development, and it also provides a break time for me to recharge and rest.

During any of these sleep transitions, be flexible and willing to change. Continue to watch your child instead of the clock.

You may need to adjust nap or bedtimes based on cues from your youngster. And keep in mind every child is different. I have two kids who stopped napping around 2 or 2-and-a-half, one who is 8 and could still nap if I let her and a 3-year-old who (knock on wood) is still solidly rocking his afternoon nap.

As the old saying goes, “Sleep begets sleep.” Sometimes parents make the mistake of keeping babies up for longer, hoping for a nice, solid nap or night of sleep. The reality is, the more Baby sleeps, the better Baby will sleep. So, keep working toward establishing a routine and good sleep habits for your baby, and everyone will benefit!

Julie Collett writes from Overland Park where she is hanging on for dear life to her fourth child’s afternoon nap! *Approximate sleep times came from WhatToExpect.com.

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• Nap yourself!

• Exercise.

• Catch up on TV shows.

• Housework.

• A creative project.

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positive pregnancy test is just the beginning of the loving relationship you will have with your child. As your body begins to change and the time to deliver grows closer, you may feel a disconnect from your unborn child. This is normal, considering all the new adjustments and worries you may be facing as a momto-be. Give yourself the time needed to bond with your unborn child. Try these techniques if you want to form a stronger bond with your bump.

Speak up Babies begin to develop hearing during the second trimester and can listen to their mother’s voice and heartbeat. Spend time talking or singing to your baby bump. You may notice that your child will respond with pushes and kicks. Rubbing your belly in response to movements is another way to bond with your unborn child.

Exercise Participating in light exercise can be a great way to get in touch with your changing body and bond with your baby. Taking a walk, swimming or participating in a prenatal yoga class will help you stay healthy and refreshed, and give you time to reflect on the miracle of pregnancy.

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Find your people

Sometimes pregnancy can feel surreal until you catch your first glimpse of Baby during an ultrasound.

Ask for a printed photo of the scan and keep it on hand.

This can help remind you that the baby is growing and changing. Also consider doing a prenatal photo shoot.

Many women will see the beauty in pregnancy when it is captured through photography.

Many women find that when they become a mother, they instantly have things in common with other moms.

Reach out to other pregnant women and discuss how you are feeling and what you are excited about, consider joining a local moms group or speak to your own mom about what pregnancy and the newborn stage was like for her. Surround yourself with people who understand what you are going through and can be excited for the things to come.

Write it down Journaling is a great way to record the day-to-day feelings of pregnancy. Write down how you are feeling, your body changes, and other observations during pregnancy. This can be for you or for your child to read someday. Some women may also choose to write their child a letter explaining their feelings and excitement in meeting their baby. Putting feelings into words can help a mom-to-be process emotions and adjustments that are happening in her life leading up to birth.

Prepare Many preparations need to be made before the baby is born. You will likely shop for clothes, a car seat, stroller and a crib, and register for and attend your baby shower. All these things will help you get excited for the baby’s arrival. Choosing an outfit to bring your baby home in, decorating your nursery and planning for life with a newborn will help you bond with the baby also.

Get creative Use your creativity to help you grow closer to your unborn child. Sew a quilt, crochet a hat or blanket, create a scrapbook, paint the nursery, or use your own talents and artistic gifts to make something special for your child. This is a great way to bond with the baby and it will be a keepsake to cherish many years to come.

There is no right or wrong way to bond with your unborn child. If none of these suggestions work, find something that feels right for you. Give yourself time and the chance to adjust to the big changes that come along with parenthood. You have a lifetime of love, joy and great experiences ahead.

Sarah Lyons is a part-time freelance writer and a full-time mom. She lives in Olathe with her family.

HOW DADS CAN BOND WITH THE BUMP Dads are an important part of the baby’s life right from the start, but bonding with their unborn child may be difficult for dads because they don’t experience the physical changes women do. Here are some great tips for dads who want to bond with the bump.

Bond with mom. Stay in tune to your partner’s needs and the challenges she is facing.

Attend birth classes. Educate yourself on pregnancy, birth and newborn care so you know what to expect when the time comes.

Go to doctor appointments. Go with your partner to doctor appointments so you can hear the heartbeat, see the sonograms and experience pregnancy with her.

Talk to Baby. Baby can hear you and get to know your voice, just like Mom’s.

Write a letter. Consider writing down your thoughts and feelings about pregnancy to share with your child when he is older.

Talk to other dads. Connect with other men who have experienced parenthood.

Snuggle up. Cuddle with Mom and feel for Baby’s movements and kicks.

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By your second trimester, you may be feeling more at ease in your pregnancy with higher levels of energy. You can use this time to lay the groundwork for your birthing experience. Customize your birthing experience by completing your birth wishes form and attend our parent

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s a child, you probably dreamed about what your own children would be like someday, how many you’d have and, perhaps, even their genders. You even may have thought up some great names for them.

But that was then, and this is, well, now.

Now you’re all grown up, pregnant and struggling to find the perfect name for your little one. Naming your baby is not always an easy task. In fact, it can be downright difficult, especially when you and your partner may not agree on what to name your new addition. Just remember, though, there are about as many ways to pick a name as there are names themselves. Here are just a few examples to get you started:

• A favorite book or movie character.

Many parents out there choose names based on a favorite character in a movie or book they’ve read.

• Grandparents’ or parents’ names.

Perhaps you’d like to pass down the names of important people in your life.

• A geographical location. Some babies are named after special places on the map or simply unique geographical names, such as Dakota, Dallas and Sydney.

• Last names as first names. Johnson, Jackson, Coleman, Bentley, Piper… the possibilities are endless.

• A name from an advertisement or sign. A lot of babies have been named after their parents saw the name they loved on an advertisement or a sign on a vehicle or building.

• Vintage names. Maybe you’d like to name your baby Pearl, Eleanor or Gertrude. More and more parents are bringing back names from the past.

• Calling out nature. If you’re a nature lover, perhaps you’d like to name your baby something like River, Skye or Starr.

Whatever you choose to name your baby, here are some great things to consider before your baby’s name is final:

• How does the full name you’re considering roll off your tongue?

Is it a tongue twister? Could the combination turn your child’s name into a joke? (e.g., Terri Anna could become Terry Anna Banana).

• Think about how you spell the name you choose for your baby. Although choosing a unique spelling can be fun, consider whether that choice will turn into a lifetime of correcting people who will spell it notoriously incorrectly. Also, will people be able to pronounce it?

• What nicknames might be created from the name over time? Will you be happy with the long and short versions of your baby’s name? (e.g., Nicholas/Nick/Nicky, Katherine/Kate/Katie, Matthew/Matt/ Matty, Elizabeth/Liz/Beth) • Pay attention to initials and be sure they don’t spell out disaster for your child (Asher Samuel Smith or Beth Opal Olson).

However you choose to name your new little one, make it special in the way you feel is appropriate for your family. The name game can be a nerve-wracking process, but it also can be a lot of fun!

Kansas City mom and author Gina Klein learned years ago that the day her parents saw the name Gina on a pizza truck, they knew it was “the one.” kcparent.com january-march 2021

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abies cost a lot of money! Diapers, formula, clothes and baby gear can take a huge chunk out of your monthly budget. Some families find the cost of child care or reducing

to a single income makes the adjustment even more difficult than expected. Here are some tips to cut down on spending.

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Trimming Your Baby Budget Diapers To save on diapers, consider switching to cloth. Modern cloth diapers are easy to use and come in cute designs. The initial cost is typically $10-20 per diaper, but they can be reused for years.

If cloth diapers aren’t for your family, you still can find ways to save money on disposable diapers. Check manufacturer websites for high dollar coupons and combine with store sales. Generic diapers are another great way to save and they are typically comparable to name brand.

Formula Breastfeeding is not always an option for families for a variety of reasons, and formula is pricey. Coupons and rebates are readily available from manufacturers. Go to the manufacturer's website and sign up for additional coupons and have friends and family do the same. You also can ask your obstetrician and pediatrician for free formula samples.

Baby gear

Entertainment

Car seat, stroller, high chair, bouncer, swing and more—for someone so small, a baby seems to require a lot of gear. And each item seems to cost a hundred dollars or more. Buying a new car seat that meets current safety standards is wise, but you can purchase all the other items gently used and sell them again later when your family no longer needs them.

Just because a new baby is in the house doesn’t mean you have to stop enjoying entertainment, but you might need to approach a night out in a new way. You do not need to forego movies, concerts or area attractions but do check deal sites to see whether there are any options available to you. Doing this requires planning ahead to make sure the expenditure fits into the budget and that you have child care covered, if necessary. Also consider whether items like cable or streaming subscriptions are necessary. Choose to pay for the entertainment you use and enjoy.

Baby clothes Babies grow fast! It doesn’t make sense to spend a lot on several cute baby outfits when your child outgrows them only a few weeks later. Consider buying gently used clothing and asking friends for hand-medowns. If you want new items, buy less than you think you will need because your baby will use them for only a short time.

Childcare To save money on childcare, you have to get creative. Ideas include having a family or friend watch the baby at a lower rate, trading babysitting with another family or alternating shifts with your partner to reduce time in childcare. Some companies offer flexible spending plans to pay for childcare with pre-tax money.

Reduce Our homes are filled with items we rarely use. Consider selling these items to put extra cash in your hand that can be used for all those new baby expenses. Have a garage sale, utilize consignment sales or sell items in online marketplaces.

Trim expenses Look at the family budget and evaluate where you easily can trim expenses. Do you belong to a gym, have club memberships, subscriptions or other monthly bills for

services you don’t use enough to justify the expense? Discuss with your partner whether some of these items can be cut to free up the money for other expenses.

DIY A simple way to save money is to do things yourself. Cleaning and lawn services are nice but expensive. Taking care of it yourself is free. Instead of paying someone to repair or remodel things around the house, try it yourself first and save the money you would have spent on labor.

Bringing home a new baby is an adjustment in many ways, and financial priorities may have shifted in your family.

In time, you will adjust to your new lifestyle and budget and you will feel comfortable with budgeting after Baby.

Sarah Lyons is a stay-at-home mom of six children, including 2-year-old triplets. She has learned to cut costs and save money in a variety of ways over the years as they added to their family.

Trimming Other Areas Wardrobe The key to saving money on adult clothing is to shop for versatile pieces that can be worn many different ways. A solid color top can be worn with jeans, slacks or a skirt and paired with a scarf, necklace, jacket or worn alone for a variety of looks.

Once you have your key pieces, only buy clothing when you really need something.

Food Several strategies can help cut costs in this area. Purchasing groceries with coupons or on sale or buying generic brands can save money. Also, consider making items from scratch and eating out less to help trim your food budget. A quick Google search will provide you with several $5 meal ideas.

11 Ways to Find Hidden Cash in Your Home You may have potential cash lying around your house in the form of unused items that can be sold for cash.

• Gently used designer clothes, shoes and purses

• Gold or silver jewelry—even broken items

• Old cell phones or electronics

• Books, CDs and DVDs you no longer use

• Gift cards

• Things that were gifts or freebies that you never have used

• Collectibles such as figurines, coins or stamps

• Outdoor or sporting equipment

• Musical instruments

• Formal dresses that were only worn once

• Home decor and antiques

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baby talk: language development

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little one’s first words are music to a parent’s ears, but did you know that you play a critical role in the process of getting your baby to that point? It’s true! Children with parents who regularly talk to them are known to have increased communication skills and a more robust vocabulary than those who don’t. Thankfully, the way most of us feel compelled to talk to babies is the way they prefer to hear it: in a sing-songy cadence such as “I looove youuuu!” and “Now wheeerrreee did your sock gooo?!?!”

Talking to your baby comes naturally, whether it’s in the form of a game of “peekaboo,” a conversation you have with her while you change her diaper (“Let’s get you all cleaned up!

Now, don’t you feel better?”) or a soft lullaby serenade given while you rock her to sleep.

But what seems like second nature—and possibly just fun and games—is actually a key part of bolstering your little one’s speech, language and social development. Her little brain is absorbing every articulation and nuance in the way you speak to her, and it’s preparing her to be able to communicate with you in turn.

Alyssa Gerrity, a speech pathologist and mom of one, has devoted more than a decade to serving children between her own private practice and more recently within Canyon Creek Elementary in Olathe. She encourages parents with this simple truth: there are ample ways to make a home a language-rich environment. Here are some of them.

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Never Underestimate the Power of Story Alyssa recommends hitting the books from the start. “First and foremost, reading to your child—even from birth—is one of the best ways to help your child develop a strong language foundation,” she says. Your baby won’t understand everything you’re saying, but by her first birthday she will have learned all the sounds necessary to speak in your native tongue. So the more stories you introduce her to, the stronger her vocabulary will be and the more improved her own speech will be.

Reading aloud builds memory and listening skills and teaches little ones

Face Time Vs. Facetime “A screen can never replace face-toface interaction in terms of the quality of a communication exchange,” Alyssa asserts.

Since the advent of the tablet, parents have downloaded educational apps with the intention of bolstering Baby’s IQ and language skills. But research confirms that there is no substitute for Mom and Dad as primary language teachers. Looking into your baby’s eyes, asking questions and giving time for him to absorb and respond with his babbles and coos, give a real-time response that is necessary for healthy social interaction (and it’s something no device can provide). Limit the screen time (which is known to stunt language skills) and talk away!

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about the world around them. Your baby will pick up cues about different emotions and expressions, mimic sounds that you make and point to pictures, the first sign of asking questions. But perhaps the greatest reason to cuddle up together with a good book is the bond that it forms between readers and the book itself. If little ones are read to often and with fondness, they, in turn, associate books with happiness—and new readers are born. One of the best ways to grow a reader is to keep books readily accessible around your home.

Keep sturdy vinyl, cloth or board books within easy reach so that Baby can easily grab a book as soon as he’s able.

What do Little Boy Blue, Jack and Jill, and Mary Mary Quite Contrary have in common? They’re all part of one of the most underrated and highly valued tools for building early speech: nursery rhymes.

A common practice in childhoods of old, nursery rhymes fail to get the credit they’re due in modern times. Alyssa encourages parents to introduce their children to a broad assortment of these beloved poems and songs as a way of bonding and learning together. Purchasing a few collections in book form is a wonderful way to get started. But don’t forget to consult Mimi and Papa! Grandparents innately have a vast knowledge of these antiquated sayings and notions, and they can be wonderful teachers to the next generation. If words come to you but you fail to come up with a tune, look into nursery rhyme collections such as Wee Sing where both you and your baby can familiarize yourself with both lyrics and melodies.

There’s More Than One Way to Talk “I think baby sign language is great,” Alyssa recommends. “Some people think that if you teach Baby sign language that it will replace spoken words. That’s a myth.

Teaching sign and pairing it with the word verbally help provide a bridge to spoken language. It also teaches young children the power of communication, which ultimately leads to an increase in verbal communication.”

One of the greatest benefits of baby sign language is that it helps nonverbal children express themselves earlier than they might otherwise, while, on the flip side, fueling a natural chatterbox’s insatiable appetite for more words. Parents can find signing classes to participate in with their baby through various sources, from local community centers, library programs and moms groups. For home use, look into Rachel Coleman’s program Baby Signing Time, which teaches sign language through books, DVDs and music as demonstrated by babies themselves.

Lauren Greenlee is an Olathe mom of three who loves bonding with her kids over good stories.

Baby Talk? Parentese?

What’s the Difference?

Do you know the difference between baby talk and parentese?

Baby talk is when parents and caretakers mispronounce words and use improper grammar when talking to their little ones in an attempt to mimic their child (“Wook at dose widdle shoes!”). Parentese, however, takes three of the best elements of “baby talk”—higher pitch, slower tempo and exaggerated intonation—and applies them to real words and correct grammar. The results? A University of Washington linguistics study found that babies ages 14-18 months spoken to in parentese had nearly twice the vocabulary of their control group counterparts. More interesting still, this parenting technique is represented in almost every language throughout the world!

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CRAFTCORNER

Materials Needed:

• Felt balls (any craft store or

Amazon). I used 50 multicolored pink 1-inch balls.

• White string • A 2-inch-long sewing needle • Metal or wooden ring (craft store or Amazon)

• Scissors • Rulers

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fuzzy mobile as anyone told you how much babies cost? They are expensive!

Instead of spending around $100 on a baby mobile, make your own for around $20 and an hour of your time!

Step one: Pick your design with the felt balls. I decided to have the lightest on top and the darker on the bottom. I chose to have 10 rows of five balls each.

Step two: Depending on the look you’re going for, either measure out or just guess the string length. Double the string before you cut it. Remember you can always cut away extra string but would have to double your work if you decide to make the strings longer later. I used 36 inches of string per row.

Step three: Lay the ring flat and place one piece of the string under the ring and pull until the string is in half. You will bead one row of the balls onto this string.

Step four: Place the two ends of the string into the needle eye without tying the end and then bead the felt balls onto the string from your top ball to your bottom ball.

Step five: Once you have completed a row from your design, double tie the end of the string into a loop knot.

Step six: Repeat with all rows of felt balls. Don’t worry about adjusting the balls at this time.

Step seven: To make the hanger, you will need to cut one more piece of string than the number of rows in your design. My design has 10 rows, so I cut 11 pieces of same-length string. Measure if you have a certain height you need to account for. You can always add additional string at the top later, if needed.

Step eight: Loop the string in between each of the rows of hanging balls and tie into a giant double loop knot at the top.

Step nine: Hang and adjust the felt balls to the height and spacing you prefer.

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Materials Needed:

nursery letter wreath decor

• Wooden letter (any size will work!)

etting up your nursery can be very expensive! All the little pieces of decor really start to add up. DIY your own letter wreath for a fraction of the cost to buy one!

Step one: Paint wooden letter. Let dry completely.

• Paint • Paintbrush • Wreath • Hot glue gun • Optional: Little bow/decor

Step two: Hot glue the letter onto your wreath.

Step three: Hot glue any decor onto the letter.

Step four: Let dry completely and hang!

Step five: Optional: After Baby has arrived, add on Baby’s feet prints with paint Janelle Cumro-Sultzer lives in Overland Park with her husband, son and two dogs. Janelle is a former health care executive director and is a mediator in Kansas, helping families in conflict. She loves to focus on learning through play and getting messy with crafts.

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handbook tips for first-time parents

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t was a beautiful, magical birth experience—your contractions didn’t last long, you got to the hospital just in time, received an epidural, pushed a few times and met your baby. You could relive the moment over and over.

Then the excitement slowly starts to wear thin. The pain medications begin to wear off. The sleep deprivation kicks in. Your body starts to feel the realities of that magical experience—and it doesn’t feel so good. Are you really ready to head home with your newest tiny family member without the night nurse to check in on you every hour?

This is the moment of truth. But don’t worry—we’ve got you covered with a number of tips to help you through those first few days (or months) of caring for your brand new baby like a pro. Let’s start with the basics.

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Feeding baby Are you breastfeeding or bottle feeding?

It doesn’t matter, as long as you create a good routine (or quickly learn your baby’s eating habits). Most newborns require a feeding every two to three hours. If breastfeeding, your pediatrician may recommend Vitamin D supplements for your baby. A lactation consultant visited my home a couple times to help me figure out the best positions for nursing, how to latch correctly and other basics. I remember this helped tremendously. You might even consider joining a moms breastfeeding group.

Bath time tips Some babies love bath time, and it immediately relaxes them. Others, not so much. That’s okay—each little person is different. Place a warm, wet washcloth over your baby’s stomach to help him stay chillfree. Keep a warm towel ready to wrap him in when you take him out. If his skin isn’t too sensitive (eczema, for example), use a soothing lavender lotion.

Soothing suggestions I found my son was soothed best when I carried him around in my Ergo Baby carrier or set him in his baby swing or bouncy seat. The constant motion kept him happiest. Though every baby is different, this worked for us. You might try different holding positions or rocking your baby.

Swaddle her or sing to her. Trial and error is the key.

Diapers + diaper rash Diaper rash is almost inevitable.

Finding the right brand of diapers for your little one, plus the right diaper cream, is key. This may take a bit of trial and error, too. Our son has super sensitive skin. Luvs and Pampers diapers worked best for him, combined with Boudreaux’s Butt Paste, which we sometimes rotated with Burt’s Bees Baby diaper cream.

Eczema/cradle cap This one was tough. Our baby wore mittens often because he scratched his head so much it would start to bleed. We

tried so many different products before we landed on the simplest remedy. We changed laundry detergents. Prescription ointments didn’t quite do the trick. He was too sensitive for certain soaps and shampoos. I recommend trying Baby Dove products (before this brand came about, we used a simple bar of Dove soap to wash him). The less product on Baby’s skin, the better.

Separation anxiety If your baby is breastfeeding, separation anxiety is inevitable. You may have to practice having Dad feed him a bottle of pumped milk or stepping away for minutes at a time before you delve into having Grandma and Grandpa or Aunt Susan babysit one evening. It may take starting with only small increments of time before having your baby be away from you for too long, but eventually it will get easier.

When baby is sick Our baby got the stomach bug a few times, which is no fun. To help settle his tummy, we would (with supervision) let him take many naps in his bouncy seat and sometimes a bit during the night when lying down only further upset his stomach. This kept him propped up and made for easier cleanup.

During cold and flu season, a little contraption called the Nosefrida may become your best friend. I never imagined I’d have the stomach to use it, but it works wonders for clearing your baby’s congested nasal passages, making it easier for her to feed and sleep.

Sleep when your baby sleeps I hated hearing this phrase over and over, but nothing is more accurate.

Because sleeping through the night is no longer an option, you’ll need to take those catnap opportunities whenever they arise. If your baby falls asleep midmorning after eating, close your eyes for a bit too. I always set multiple alarms on my phone to ensure I was awake and alert even before my baby was, but every bit of shut-eye helps your body.

Restocking the diaper bag I restocked my diaper bag every single day, sometimes multiple times a day, in case I needed to leave the house. I never wanted to forget an essential. This saves so much time and allows for extra time getting yourself and Baby ready for an outing.

Diaper bag essentials: • diapers • wipes • pacifier or teething toy • hand sanitizer • changing pad • one or two changes of clothes • burp cloths • Clorox wipes • Puffs (when they’re old enough) • packet of backup formula • extra bottle • diaper cream • plastic shopping bags (for dirty diapers and outfits)

Find time for self-care In order for your baby to thrive, you need to as well. In between pumping sessions, feedings, diaper changes, soothing Baby and healing your postpartum body, a new mom needs time to unwind. Take a nap, eat a nutritious meal, grab a coffee, take a bubble bath, have your partner give you a foot massage. And then feel zero guilt for any of these activities.

Don’t worry if you still haven’t gotten the hang of this whole parenting thing. You’ll learn more and more along the way. Never be afraid to reach out to your pediatrician, midwife, nurse, lactation consultant, parents or all of your mom friends simultaneously.

You’ll discover even more tips and tricks as you get to know your tiny human. The most important thing is that your baby is fed, clothed and loved. And remember, though it takes a village, Mom knows best.

Emily Morrison is a freelance writer, former copy editor and full-time mommy and Disney fanatic who lives in Independence with her husband, 4-year-old son and dog.

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My Water Broke NOW WHAT?

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fter all the months of feeling your baby, the cravings, the emotional roller coaster, you are ready to hold your new bundle of joy! Any mom will agree that nine months is plenty of time to be very ready. From all your classes and reading, you know that for Baby to be born, the amniotic sac must break at some time, whether that is as you are standing in line at the grocery store or lying on the table at the doctor’s office—or even after the baby is born! Yes, the sac can stay intact in rare cases.

The actual term, water breaking, refers to the breaking of the amniotic sac, which surrounds the fetus and contains amniotic fluid. When this sac breaks, the amniotic fluid is released. This is usually a subtle event, and you may notice a popping sensation before fluid gushes or trickles from your vagina. Others may notice excess dampness in their underwear.

You can tell the difference in urine and amniotic fluid because the fluid is odorless or slightly sweet smelling and is pale and straw colored. Another way to tell whether your water has broken is to stand up. If the fluid seems to leak more then, your water has broken.

Fortunately, this is a pain-free experience because the amniotic sac has no pain receptors. The water typically breaks during labor. If this happens and labor does not start soon, a medical

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professional may induce labor to start uterus contractions and reduce risk of infection for Mommy and Baby. In most cases, the sac will break when the woman is at full term, which is 39 to 40 weeks and six days. Sometimes, however, the water may break before this, something known as pre-term pre-labor rupture of membranes (PPROM). This affects around three to 10 percent of all deliveries and could cause complications.

If the baby is born prematurely, he may experience other complications. When PPROM occurs at 34 weeks of pregnancy or later, a doctor may recommend

delivering the baby to reduce the risk of complications. If there is no indication of infection, the physician may allow the pregnancy to continue, under careful monitoring, until labor begins.

Doctors do not have a full understanding of how the water breaks, but experts believe it may have something to do with brain signals from your fetus. Now, if the water does not break during labor, a doctor or midwife may artificially break the sac using a technique called an amniotomy. I know about this, as my doctor did this with the birth of both my children. He simply inserts a thin plastic hook through the cervix to

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break the sac, allowing the fluids to exit.

This is painless.

An en caul birth happens when the amniotic sac never breaks, and the baby is born covered in it. This rarity occurs in one in every 80,000 deliveries and is considered good luck, not just because of the lower pain during labor. The moment the doctor breaks through that barrier and lets your child enter the world is amazing. Doctors have considered the values of trying a C-section attempting to preserve the sac for premature births if possible, to ease the baby’s transition into the world. Interestingly, some famous people born en caul include Charlemagne, Napoleon, Liberace, Lord Byron and Sigmund Freud.

Doctors don’t really have an explanation for why some amniotic sacs burst before others, although poor prenatal care, smoking, STDs and family history could put you at a higher risk for preterm premature rupture of membranes.

Think of your bag of waters as a special cushion for your baby that forms very early in pregnancy, about 12 days after

conception. It is a major part of your baby’s support system and it also aids in her development.

The amount of amniotic fluid peaks at about 36 weeks, and for most women, their uterus holds about one quart at the time.

After that, the level goes down, and the baby blocks a lot of it from coming out. That is a good thing, because the baby still needs protection during labor.

You may want to sit on a towel on the way to the hospital or maybe put a pad in your underwear because you are probably going to be leaking fluid for a little while.

Be assured that sometime soon, whether it’s minutes, hours or even days later, you will get to meet your baby.

An avid outdoors girl, Judy Goppert lives in Lee’s Summit. She enjoys drawing on her personal experiences to write about the nuances of everything wonderful about life.

As always, please consult your health care provider with any questions or concerns.

Think of your amniotic sac as a bathtub with a rubber ducky floating around inside. If the rubber ducky, your darling baby, is over the drain, then he or she acts like a plug and stops the flow. If you lie down, you may be able to shift your baby’s head just the slightest bit away from the hole and the fluid will escape in the second before the baby shifts back to cover it.

It may seem silly, but it could help you figure out whether it is time to get checked. It could mean that your baby will be on the way into the world soon!

Sources: MedicalNewsToday.com, BabyGaga.com

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iters don’t make friends. As adults, we learned long ago that using our teeth for anything other than food is inappropriate.

So how can such a simple concept be so difficult for toddlers to grasp? All parents know the—literal—pain of their child’s discovering her own teeth. We’ve all experienced the moment when our child first takes a chunk out of our hand or finger. That is the moment when the panic sets in. Will our child be “the biter” at school? How do we make sure she isn’t?

We can’t get kicked out of daycare!

Relax and take a breath. To stop biting, it’s best to first understand the reason behind it. Only then can you look at things through your child’s eyes and develop the right action plan. Here are the top situations for biting and how to quell them—quickly.

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Language barriers and tooth growth – Before words are available for a baby, he looks for ways to show you he’s upset, angry, happy, and feeling all the feelings. As those chompers come in, they provide the perfect communication device.

At the same time as teeth arrive, your baby will feel the need to chew and stimulate his gums. Put those two factors together, and you have the perfect biting storm.

What to do – For babies not yet speaking, make sure you have loads of things for them to chomp on when the need to chew arises.

Teething rings, grippie sticks, squeaker chewy toys, snacks—you have your range to pick from. If your baby bites you in frustration or anger, immediately put the teether in her hands, say, “We don’t bite,” and drop the matter instantly. (Of course, keep the dog’s chew toys separate from the human ones.)

Biting at school – Believe it or not, almost all parents will experience their children biting at one time or another. The single most important thing you can do is establish what happened immediately before the biting.

Establish a motive, if you will. Was your baby protecting his food at lunchtime? Was your child feeling unsafe and defending himself?

Was he being taunted or hurt by another child? Evaluate whether this was the first time or whether it’s become a recurring issue.

What to do at school –Take comfort in knowing that every daycare has a protocol for this situation and should inform you of the situation immediately. Have a clear conversation with your provider to be certain you understand what is being done to help prevent a recurrence. Do they issue a time out? If the biting is happening with a particular student, what do the teachers

do to keep distance between your child and that student? Additionally, if there are steps you want taken outside of standard protocol, now is the time to communicate them.

Biting at home – If biting is occurring at school, it’s almost guaranteed to happen at home. Be sure to mirror the consequences from school. If your child bites your spouse, lower your voice to a very serious tone and say flatly, “No. We do not bite. Biting hurts.”

Immediately drop the attention on your biter and focus on who was bit. Say calmly, “Look at Daddy’s hand. It hurts now because you bit him. We do not bite.” After this, it’s important to move on quickly. Don’t give the incident more life than it needs. Shift your attention to a new game or a different activity.

In many cases, biters are looking for attention. If they bite and immediately get a mouthful of big words, waving hands and loud noises, they got exactly what they were looking for. So take a few seconds to gather yourself, say your magic sentence, and move on quickly.

Extra sleep – It seems cliché, but biting can be a reflex response to a situation out of sheer overtiredness. If your child is starting to bite, consider bumping bedtime back 30 minutes. That extra time might be just the ticket to keep her from acting as aggressively.

Having a biter is stressful and challenging for parents. Just remember, this situation is extremely common, and many times kids will grow out of it in a matter of days or a few weeks. Give them some extra love and

reinforce how hurtful biting can be. However, if the instances keep occurring, consider a visit to the dentist and/or speech therapist. Your child could have underlying verbal challenges or perhaps pain from a growing tooth.

Kim Antisdel is a freelance writer and interior design sales rep for KC. She lives in Liberty with her husband, stepdaughters and toddler son.

As always, please consult your health care provider with any questions or concerns.

Additional help for biters: Keep a log – Ask your daycare to provide written recollections of bites. Do the same at home. Look for patterns as to what might be causing these instances.

Snacks – Keep healthy, chewy options at the ready. The more your child’s mouth is engaged with yummy things, the less he’ll want to chomp on someone else.

Keep the volume down – Extra stimulation and high activity situations can bring out anxiety, which can lead to biting. Try to keep high sensory experiences to a minimum.

Don’t bite back – Never, ever bite a child to “show him how much it hurts.” This will do much more harm than good.

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wonderful winter outings WITH TINY TOTS IN KC

he weather outside is frightful, and the snow isn’t so delightful. Memories of snowmen and sledding seem magical and nostalgic, but reality is often something quite different if you’re home with little children confronting cold and snow. Entertaining small children to keep cabin fever at bay is a challenge. Fortunately, many family-friendly venues in Kansas City offer options where you can enjoy a day of learning, exercising and beating the winter blahs!

KidScape at the Johnson County Museum (8788 Metcalf Ave., Overland Park, 913.826.2787, JoCoMuseum.org) is a whimsical, hands-on, child-sized city. Children time travel to different periods and communities from the region’s past. They enjoy pretend play as they work on the farm, perform at the theater or the puppet show, teach in the school, deliver the mail, care for patients at the hospital and fry up some burgers at the diner. This exhibit is a favorite for early education.

Note: Currently, online reservations are required to visit most of these local attractions. Be sure to visit websites in advance for details.

Legoland Discovery Center (2475 Grand Blvd., Kansas City, MO, 816.471.4386, LegolandDiscoveryCenter.com). Legoland Discovery Center Kansas City offers a fun, highly interactive and educational 2- to 3-hour indoor experience. Based on the everpopular Lego brick, Legoland Discovery Center provides a range of interactive play areas. The Train Station Adventure is where children climb, slide, jump and roll around train obstacles. Lego 4D cinema features exciting Lego movies with additional wind, rain and snow effects to really bring the film to life, and Duplo Village lets little ones build a colorful Duplo flower for the garden, or wiggle and slide around the cottage and play with the special big, soft bricks. Families also enjoy the Kingdom Quest and Merlin’s Apprentice rides; Miniland, an interactive Lego replica of Kansas City’s most famous landmarks; and a variety of Lego play spaces.

Cultivate a Love of Learning Young children learn best when the opportunities are hands-on and engaging.

Science City at Union Station (30 W. Pershing Rd., Kansas City, MO, 816.460.2020, UnionStation.org). Science City is Kansas City’s largest, most interactive science museum with something for visitors of all ages. Little ones especially love three brand new experiential, hands-on exhibitions that just opened this year! The “Let’s Play!” exhibit is designed especially for babies, crawlers, toddlers and their caregivers and features activities designed for developmental needs with multiple sensory and role-playing activities. “Creative Corner” is an exhibit where art meets science in a whole new way with cool interactive activities encouraging kids to explore, paint on glass and interact with sand and light tables to engage senses and stimulate minds. And “All Aboard” celebrates Union Station’s rail history, allowing families to discover how steam engines work as they play and explore throughout the exhibit that encourages problem-solving and creativity.

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Take a Walk on the Wild Side We often think of petting zoos and parks as summer outings, but many venues offer indoor animal exhibits—and the cold months, generally less crowded, can be a perfect time to visit.

The Kansas City Zoo (6800 Zoo Dr., Kansas City, MO, 816.513.5800, KansasCityZoo.org). The zoo is open year-round.

In fact, winter is one of the best times to visit, as the animals are

especially playful, and the zoo isn’t crowded. The indoor exhibits at the Polar Bear Passage, Helzberg Penguin Plaza, Tropics, and Discovery Barn are great on chilly days. Bonus: Weather permitting, enjoy a ride on the carousel or train for more fun.

Animal Watching at Local Nature Centers. Kansas City is home to many wonderful nature centers, but these are some of our favorites: Burr Oak Woods (1401 NW Park Rd., Blue Springs, 816.228.3766, MDC.mo.gov/regions/kansas-city/burr-oak-woodsnature-center) is one of our favorite outings on a cold afternoon.

You’ll meet an animatronic Smokey Bear teaching children fire safety and see a large aquarium of Missouri’s freshwater fish, as well as displays of snakes, turtles, toads and more. Lakeside Nature Center (4701 E. Gregory Blvd., Kansas City, MO, 816.513.8960, LakesideNatureCenter.org) is home to some of the best animal displays in the area, with falcons, owls, eagles, toads, frogs, fish, insects and wonderful exhibits on the animals in our city and in our homes. Lastly, Prairie Park Nature Center (2730 Harper St., Lawrence, 785.832.7980) features reptiles, amphibians, birds and mammals, as well as a hands-on center for preschoolers that features nature puppets, puzzles and activities. Looking for more? Visit the Going Places tab on KCParent.com, where you can search for local nature centers.

Get the Wiggles Out Children need to exercise and play, but that can be tough when it’s too cold for the backyard swing set. Consider a day of swimming or indoor play!

Jump! Jump! Jump! Trampolines, toddler play areas and obstacle courses are perfect ways to burn off energy and get exercise, and Urban Air Trampoline Park (two locations: 8554 Maurer Rd., Lenexa, and 14401 Metcalf Ave., Overland Park, UrbanAirTrampolinePark.com) is one of our favorite places to play!

With giant tubes playgrounds, ropes courses, a Sky Rider, virtual reality, and a bevy of trampoline spaces, this is a great place for little ones (who love the playgrounds) and older siblings and friends as well!

Go for a Swim! Kansas City boasts dozens of terrific indoor pools, from lap pools to full indoor water parks complete with slides, lazy rivers and more. (Visit the Going Places tab on KCParent.com to find the best pool near you.) Best of all, many offer terrific toddler areas, and you don’t have to worry about big crowds if you swim while school is in session. Our three favorite inexpensive but funfilled options are Lenexa Rec Center (913.477.7529), Legacy Park Community Center in Lee’s Summit (816.969.1550) and the High Blue Wellness Center in Belton (816.348.7400).

Three More Favorite Winter Outings with Tiny Tots in KC: Wonderscope Children’s Museum (433 E. Red Bridge Rd., Kansas City, MO, 816.643.6700). The museum reopened in a brand new space in the Red Bridge neighborhood in October 2020, offering amazing hands-on exhibits specially designed for early learning and play.

The Nelson-Atkins Museum of Art (4525 Oak St., Kansas City, MO, 816.751.1278, Nelson-Atkins.org). Spend an hour exploring the Nelson-Atkins Museum of Art with little ones in strollers. For toddlers, bring a copy of our Nelson-Atkins Scavenger Hunt, found on KCParent.com.

Overland Park Arboretum and Botanical Gardens (8909 W. 179th St., Overland Park, 913.685.3604, OPKansas.org/recreation-fun/arboretum-botanical-gardens).

The 300-acre Overland Park Arboretum and Botanical Gardens turns into a winter wonderland perfect for an outdoor stroll or hike if you love crisp winter air and nature.

For more winter ideas for little ones, search “Cabin Fever Busters” on KCParent.com.

Kristina Light loves winter with her girls. They are often out and about at local museums, libraries and play places.

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>> WINTER 2021 CALENDAR Visit the KCParent.com calendar for over 1,000 more events!

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TUESDAY Jumperoo 9:00, Tue, Fri and Sat. Urban Air (Lenexa). A special time when entire park is open for children 5 and under with a parent. Jump, bounce and crawl!

UrbanAirTrampolinePark.com

Note: Many places now require advance reservations. Please check before heading out.

DAILY Story Time: Visit MyMCPL.org or JoCoLibrary.org to find a complete list of virtual story times.

MONDAY Elephant Expedition 10:00, Kansas City Zoo. The new elephant exhibition is open at the zoo. Reserve a time online and plan a visit with the family.

KansasCityZoo.org

Mom & Me Bumper Bowling 9:30, Summit Lanes. For just $3 per person, you get a game, shoe rental and drink on Mondays and Wednesdays.

SummitLanes.com

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Dinosaur Road Trip 9:00, Union Station. A walk-through prehistoric adventure with 26 life-size animatronic dinosaurs that you and your family won’t want to miss!

UnionStation.org Visit Sea Life 10:00, Sea Life Aquarium.

Bring the kids to see the Doodle Reef, the touch pool, Stingray Bay and more! Purchase tickets online at VisitSeaLife.com.

Tots on Tuesday 10:30, Kemper Museum. TOTs on Tuesday is now online! Sing songs, read books, explore art and make your own art with a Kemper Museum educator and a Kansas City librarian. Register online.

Facebook.com/KemperMuseum/events

WEDNESDAY Polar Bear Passage 10:00, Kansas City Zoo. Visit Nuniq, the zoo’s newest polar bear at home in Polar Bear Passage.

Reserve a time online at KansasCityZoo.org

Preschool Pals 9:00, Lenexa Rec Center.

Program for children ages 3 to 5 to help with developmental milestones through hands-on learning. Pre-reg at Lenexa.com.

Visit the Nature Center 9:00, Lakeside Nature Sanctuary. Visit the nature sanctuary with the family.

Download a scavenger hunt from LakesideNatureCenter.org.

Retro Story Time Second Wednesday of the month, 10:00-10:45, Johnson County Arts & Heritage Center. Preschoolers love the stories from long ago, read by a special guest from the 1950s All-Electric House!

Craft activity included after the story ends.

Pre-register by calling 913.831.3359.

Preschool Story Time Third Wednesday of the month, 10:30-11:00, Ernie Miller Nature Center. For ages 2-6. Visit the nature center for stories, songs and surprises geared to preschool children.

Come listen and learn. Meet a special animal friend every time. JCPRD.com

THURSDAY Visit Legoland 10:00, Legoland Discovery Center. Take the kids to the ultimate indoor playground for the biggest fans of Lego. Purchase tickets at LegolandDiscoveryCenter.com.

Crown Center Ice Terrace

parents night out Outdoor Ice Skating Daily thru March 7, Crown Center Ice Terrace. Downtown Kansas City’s only outdoor skating rink, is celebrating its 48th season. Reservations are required for ice skating and may be made two days in advance. CrownCenter.com

Good Living Expo Feb 5-6, Overland Park Convention Center. An interactive, experiential event, highlighting the importance of “living the good life” through staying fit, active and healthy.

OPConventionCenter.com

Stanley Station Second Saturday of the

The Texas Tenors March 27, Midwest

month, 11:00-6:00, Stanley Station. Live music, food trucks and vendors! Support local businesses! A responsible, socially distanced outdoor event. Facebook. com/StanleyStationSecondSaturday

Trust Center. First appearing in 2009 on America’s Got Talent, the Texas Tenors were invited back in 2019 as the only vocal group from the United States for America’s Got Talent: The Champions.

JCCC.edu/carlsen-center-presents

First Fridays in the Crossroads Art District, Kansas City, MO. Art galleries, retailers and other participating art venues located in the Crossroads Art District showcase art from 7:00 to 9:00.

Axe Throwing Blade & Timber (multiple

KC Restaurant Week Jan 8-17, Celebrate Kansas City’s premier dining event at hundreds of restaurants throughout the metro. No matter where you decide to dine, everyone wins thanks to special multicourse lunch and dinner menus at discounted prices.

KCRestaurantWeek.com.

Back to the 50s Bowling Sundays, Noon-5:00, Summit Lanes. Games, shoe rentals, hot dogs and sodas are just 50 cents each from noon to 5:00, with a $5 cover charge. Bowling is a classic way to enjoy some family fun with the whole gang! SummitLanes.com

locations). The perfect date night destination. Experience axe throwing with their coaches who teach you how to hit the target. BladeAndTimber.com

Escape! A popular trend in entertainment is a game where you and your partner (or small group) collaborate breakout from an interactive escape room while cracking codes and solving puzzles. Tick Tock Escape Games (TickTockEscapeGames.com) and Breakout KC (BreakoutKC.com) are favorites.

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