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A HEARTFELT FAREWELL TO THE VILLAGE TOY SHOP NORTH SHORE RESIDENTS PAY THEIR RESPECTS AS A BELOVED RETAILER CLOSES ITS DOORS. BY DEBBIE LEE THE NORTH SHORE WEEKEND
For Stephanie Simpson of Winnetka, birthday parties are a regular fixture on her social calendar. As the mother of kids ages 3, 5, and 7, she can hardly make it through a week without having to pick up a new toy for her children or one their friends. And although she is just as guilty as any of us for enjoying the convenience of online shopping, Simpson often relied on a local retailer—The Village Toy Shop—to provide the perfect gift. So, in December, when she heard that the business would be closing its doors, she immediately drove to the store to confirm the rumor. It was true. Mother-and-daughter team Pat and Liz Berwanger, who ran the 71-year-old shop, said a confluence of hurdles—rising rents, online competition, and multiple construction projects that reduced foot traffic—led them to their ultimate decision. And unfortunately, not much could be done to change their minds. Simpson shared the news on NextDoor, a social networking app for neighbors; her post was met with a chorus of concerned voices. The response was so overwhelming that within a few days, she established a GoFundMe campaign, asking locals to contribute to a farewell fund. It was a small way to alleviate the sorrow shared by both the Berwangers and the community, as well as one last opportunity for North Shore residents to say thank you to the family for their many years in business. To date, the campaign has surpassed its original goal of $5,000, collecting $7,545 from 92 donors. “I didn’t want to put pressure on Liz [to stay open] because she didn’t ask me to do this,” says Simpson. “I wanted to be clear that this was not going towards keeping the business afloat; it was a gesture of support from the community, and the funds would be used at their discretion.”
Pat and Liza Berwanger, owners of The Village Toy Shop PHOTO COURTESY OF LIZ BERWANGER
Carrie Hoza, who was born in Winnetka and lives in Northfield, was among many customers who made contributions to the fund. “The Berwangers and The Village Toy Shop have been a staple to our community forever,” says Hoza. “I don’t think you could grow up in Winnetka and not be overly excited on your birthday when you saw a present in that historic polka dot wrapping paper… And when I was an adult, they were so great at taking care of me as a customer and making my life easier by going above and beyond with their customer service.” Hoza, who is a fourth-generation partner in a local plumbing company, also sympathizes with the challenges of keeping a small
family operation viable. “I loved that store, and I donated because— as someone who is part of a business that has been here for almost 83 years—I completely understand the changing of times,” she says. “The village has truly lost a treasure with its closing. Mollie VanderLaan, 41, is a decade-long resident of Winnetka whose children frequented the store. For her, this is more than the loss of a local retailer—it’s also a lost opportunity to teach kids about fiscal responsibility. “The ladies at the Village Toy Shop were always patient with my daughters counting Continued on PG 8
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LIFESTYLE & ARTS 10 north shore foodie
Chicago’s popular Himalayan Sherpa kitchen open a second location in Highwood.
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Celebrating 150 years of Howard Van Doren Shaw with the Lake Forest Preservation Foundation.
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LAST BUT NOT LEAST 18 sunday breakfast
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NEWS VILLAGE TOY SHOP Cont. from PG 1 out the vast amounts of coins they had saved in order to buy a toy,” she says. “My daughters loved riding their bikes there on their own, picking out something, and paying for it with their savings. Experiences like these teach kids autonomy. Charging something on a credit card with Amazon doesn’t teach them quite the same lesson.” The younger Berwanger, 49, still remembers riding her bike to the shop as a child. Her mother Pat began working there in 1980; she was hired in 1984 as a high school freshman; and the family purchased the shop from their employer in 1985. Having given the bulk of their lives to the business, they compare their feelings about its closure to the seven stages of grief. “We hear from other business owners that there’s a sense of relief after closing, and that gives me some comfort, but we’re not quite there yet,” says Berwanger. “This was such a big part of my family’s life and the community’s history; it’s been an incredible thing to watch families and kids grow up over the years. Maybe one day we will feel good about our decision, but for now, we really wanted to keep the store going and are sad to see it end.” Simpson received a thank you letter from Liz Berwanger in early January, which explained that a portion of the funds would be used for continuing education expenses as she starts her
post-toy shop chapter. (Pat is formally retired, but plans to keep busy with volunteer commitments.) The remainder of the money will be donated to the American Cancer Society in the names of former co-workers who lost their lives to the disease. “We have been so lucky to have been a part of this fantastic community, and people like you continue to make us feel blessed,” Berwanger wrote in her letter. “Each of these brave women were residents of Winnetka and were also strong advocates for our community.” “Incidents like this are a wake-up call,” says Simpson. “I would love as a community to continue to maintain focus and support local businesses. Because if you don’t, they are going to go away and you’ll lose the charm of your town.” Simpson, who is a partner in a local restaurant chain, also points out the hidden cost of neglecting neighborhood shops. With less business comes less tax revenue—a burden that residents are then forced to bear. But aside from the politics, Simpson’s primary objective was to express her appreciation for a brick-and-mortar that served her and her family well. “I am optimistic,” she adds. “People have shown an interest in having a thriving downtown; it takes something like this to make it a priority. We just need to cut through the clutter of our day to day lives and get more involved in what’s important.”
After 71 years in business, the shop permanently closed its doors after Christmas. PHOTOGRAPHY BY DEBBIE LEE
FROM STORY TIME TO PRIME TIME WINNETKA YOUTH SERVICES LIBRARIAN MAKES HER JEOPARDY! DEBUT THIS FRIDAY. BY DEBBIE LEE THE NORTH SHORE WEEKEND
Clue: This bright, gregarious 27-year-old North Shore librarian has prepared her whole life for her network television game show debut, which airs on January 17. Answer: Who is Lindsay Goldstein? If you’re a parent or caregiver, perhaps Goldstein is a familiar face. As a youth services librarian at the Winnetka-Northfield Public Library District, she shuttles between two locations to conduct story times, plan youth programs, and help young readers develop a voracious appetite for books. But this Friday, she will be introduced to a national audience as a contestant on America’s Favorite Quiz Show. Although a nondisclosure agreement prevents her from sharing the results of her appearance, her journey to the stage is the real story. Goldstein, a self-professed Jeopardy! superfan, has been waiting for this moment for her entire life. “I’ve been watching since I was 8 years old,” says Goldstein. “I remember going to my aunt’s house, where my cousin and I would watch episodes. We’d rewind it on TiVo, then re-watch it with my aunt and try to convince her that we knew all the answers.” Her aunt was wise to the kids’ tricks, admits Goldstein with a laugh. “But she played along for many years.” She eventually took the game more seriously. As a student at Highland Park High School, she competed in Scholastic Bowl, an academic club that tested members’ knowledge on a variety of subjects: math, science, history,
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Lindsay Goldstein, youth services librarian at Winnetka-Northfield Public Library District, will appear on Jeopardy! on Jan 17. PHOTOGRAPHY COURTESY OF JEOPARDY PRODUCTIONS, INC.
current events, etc... “Everyone had their specialty, and mine was literature,” she says. “It’s nice to know that all of the reading I did as a kid had an outlet in real life.” Goldstein went on to earn a bachelor’s degree in journalism from DePaul University. She then had a stint in the corporate world, working in communications for tech and insurance companies. However, she couldn’t resist her lifelong love of books, and last year she enrolled at Dominican University, where she is currently
working on a master’s degree in library and information science (MLIS). But before taking on a busy life of juggling work and school, there were her Jeopardy! aspirations. Goldstein applied for a spot on the show more than two years ago, starting with a timed, 50-question online quiz. From there, she was selected to participate in a live audition in St. Louis, which involved a written test, live round, and mock interview. Sixteen months passed before her call to Culver City. With one month to prepare, she
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enlisted her boyfriend as a personal coach. Together they participated in trivia nights around Chicago, watched old episodes, studied past clues, and role played different scenarios for betting strategies. She practiced buzzing in her answers with a spring-loaded toilet-roll holder—it’s known as the best substitute for the actual buzzer used on the show. Goldstein brushed up on her knowledge of British monarchs, geography, world capitals, and the Bible (she jokes that as someone who was raised Jewish, she had to devote extra time to the New Testament). She took comfort in the advice that former contestant James Holzhauer often gave to press during his epic winning streak, which was to read children’s nonfiction. “This really is her wheelhouse,” says Goldstein’s mother and former Highland Park resident Robin Dreyfus. “We were not at all surprised that Lindsay was chosen as a Jeopardy! contestant. She has the best memory of anyone I know, and an uncanny ability to retain information. She has been the “memory-keeper” for our family her whole life, providing details about anything that we have trouble recalling. She amazes us.” Goldstein’s poker face is strong; she offers no clue about how well she fared. But the experience itself was a wild ride she’ll never forget, and colleagues and community members are retroactively rooting for her. “I’m a giant nerd about the show, it was a cool experience getting to be present where it’s made,” she says. “I’m amazed that other people are excited about it and I can’t wait for them to see it.” THE NORTH SHORE WEEKEND
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FROM THE HIMALAYAS TO HIGHWOOD CHICAGO’S HIMALAYAN SHERPA KITCHEN BRINGS ITS NEPALESE CUISINE TO THE NORTH SHORE BY DEBBIE LEE THE NORTH SHORE WEEKEND
Walk into Himalayan Sherpa Kitchen in Highwood on a weekday afternoon and you will not be hard pressed to find traces of its former incarnation as Curry Hut. There’s the same bargain lunch buffet, dining room furniture, and warm staff. The usual suspects—korma, vindaloo, and chicken tikka masala—are still on the menu. In fact, except for a single colorful garland of Tibetan prayer flags that hang over the booths, you might never know that the restaurant recently changed hands. But you’ll taste the difference; you just need to know where to look. Co-owner Raj Thapa has been mindful of Curry Hut’s loyal clientele, keeping much of the former restaurant intact (and even retaining its chef ). But he’s also made some tweaks, like adding rotating specials to the buffet, and hiring a consulting chef from Nepal to recreate the food of his native country. “We definitely see regulars,” says Thapa. “The previous restaurant was here for 16 years, and I understand that there are people who come in for lunch and want to see the things they are used to. But I also believe it’s always good to change.” One of the most popular new dishes is momo. It’s a perfect marriage between China and India, where Nepal is literally situated. The steamed dumplings look like they belong on a dim sum trolley in a Chinatown banquet hall, but beneath their translucent skins are a chicken filling redolent with Indian spices. (Nepalese cuisine novices be warned: a vegetarian option with fiery cabbage might make you break a sweat.) In place of soy sauce you’ll find a condiment made with roasted
ABOVE: Special dishes from Nepal are the draw at Himalayan Sherpa Kitchen, which took over the former Curry Hut in November. LEFT: Punya Subedi, co-owners Raj Thapa and Gopal GC, and Bir Khadka PHOTOGRAPHY BY DEBBIE LEE
pureed tomatoes, cumin, and chile peppers. Conversely, there’s the Thakali thali set—a regal-looking platter packed with an assortment of stews, grains, pickles, chutneys, and sauces in individual metal bowls. It appears to be a traditional Indian feast-for-one, but is actually unique to Thakali people—an ethnic group whose cuisine Thapa deems the most popular in Nepal. A close look occasionally reveals East Asian
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influences. For instance, Indian saag is often made with spinach that’s either canned or cooked to the consistency of pudding; Thapa sources mustard greens from Chinese markets for a fresh, verdant side stirfry that’s pleasantly bitter and retains a little crunch. Other dishes get a tingly heat from the surprising use of Sichuan
peppercorns. On one visit, I sampled a set served with bone-in chunks of tender braised goat; it was a decent (but definitely gamey) alternative to the traditional Sherpa protein, yak. On another, I noshed on a vegetarian version that included crispy papadum, a mixed vegetable curry and a simple, satisfying lentil soup. Ironically, anyone seeking a gentle introduction to Nepalese fare should look to a section of the
menu labeled “thrill seekers.” Many of the items have a Western counterpart, which might put trepidatious palates at ease. There’s Tibetan sephaley, glazed with ghee and filled with minced chicken and peas—they’re often compared to empanadas or hand pies, but flavored with Himalayan spices. Enjoy Chinese food? Then try the chow mein. A staple in every Nepalese home and restaurant, it’s similar to the kind you’d find at your favorite takeout joint. The only difference is the addition of a mild curry flavor. For the Buffalo Wild Wings fan, there’s the buffalo special wings, braised and stir-fried with freshly ground spices. Substitute raita, a cucumber yogurt dip, for blue cheese sauce. Thapa, 28, is a native of Pokhara, a popular tourist destination in Nepal that serves as a base for Himalayan trekkers. At 16 he left for London, where he eventually earned a degree in travel, tourism, and hospitality. He landed in Chicago three years ago, where he briefly worked in the hotel industry before teaming up with three fellow Nepalese immigrants to open the first Himalayan Sherpa Kitchen in Lincoln Park.
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His professional experience and pride in his homeland are evident; Thapa is a gracious host who is happy to provide a crash course on the nuances of Nepalese cuisine. He explains that variations in flavor and ingredients are the result of the country’s diverse terrain and religious beliefs, as well as its proximity to neighboring countries. Thapa says many of the dishes can accommodate vegetarians, vegans, and gluten-free eaters; he also encourages guests to be transparent about their tolerance to heat and spice. He will often personally make adjustments according to each diner’s needs. “These are dishes I grew up with,” he says. “So when I am not managing the restaurant, you can find me in the kitchen slicing and chopping. I’ve been working in hospitality since I was 13; I even do most of the cooking at home. Sometimes I think that if I wasn’t in this industry, I don’t know what else I’d do.” Himalayan Sherpa Kitchen is located at 410 Sheridan Road in Highwood, 847-432-2889, himalayansherpakitchenhighwood.com. THE NORTH SHORE WEEKEND
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Socials LFPF’s Holiday Celebration Photography by Larry Miller Members of the Lake Forest Preservation Foundation (LFPF) mingled over wine and hors d’oeuvres during the group’s annual holiday party,
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Enjoy history’s charm blended with today’s technology. Located on prestigious Sheridan Road, this home boasts a De Giulio Kitchen with Granite & Carrara Marble counters, Stainless Steel appliances, large island, built in China cabinet and eating area. Spectacular master suite. His and hers custom closets, spa like bath with heated floors, granite counters, double sinks and Jet tub. Lower Level has additional bed and bath, theater, wine cellar, gym and Rec room. This perfect home also has an audio/video smart system that can be accessed worldwide, wrap around porch, extensive landscaping and elevator servicing all 4 floors. Steps to beach, town, metra, schools.
Location: 1321 Linden Avenue, Highland Park Size: 4+1 Bedrooms / 4.1 Bathrooms Price: $879,000
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Location:2480 Sheridan Road, Highland Park, Size: 7 Bedrooms / 7.3 Bathrooms Price: $2,750,000
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Gorgeous complete gut rehab with over $300,000’s in renovations. Fantastic location,this spacious home offers 4 levels of finished living space. Foyer entry leads the way to bright living room with fireplace. The sun room/office is located off the LR. Separate dining room with two original corner storage hutches. Gourmet kitchen with immense cabinet storage and Bosch SS appliances including side by side double ovens. Main floor laundry/mudroom with quartz counter and built in storage and seating. Second level offers a Master suite with two w/i closets and a gorgeous bathroom w/double sink vanity and large shower with bench. 3 additional bedrooms including one en-suite. Bonus third level with vaulted ceiling is great for a playroom or home office. The finished basement offers a bedroom, full bath, recreation area and a workout area. The brick paver patio finishes the home off. Everything is new including, Recessed lighting throughout, all hardwood is either new or has been refinished, hvac, hot water heater, windows, bathrooms, kitchen and laundry. Taxes have been successfully reduced at $12634. Exclusively Presented By: Margie Brooks & Karen Skurie, Baird & Warner Highland Park Margie.brooks@bairdwarner.com, Karen.skurie@bairdwarner.com 847-494-7998, 847-361-4687
Location: 1576 Eastwood Avenue, Highland Park Size: 4+1 Bedrooms / 4.1 Bathrooms Price: $855,000 The large open floor plan boasts gleaming hardwood throughout, a brick wood-burning fireplace, granite countertops, stainless steel appliances, an office/library, along with a charming front door arched entrance way. 2-car attached garage, mudroom with storage. An open staircase leads to an immaculate master bedroom/ bath, Jack & Jill bedrooms, quiet en-suite bedroom #4 and laundry room. Family-room setting downstairs with full wet bar, full bathroom, extra bedroom, lots of storage and workbench, and your private work-out center/spin studio. The lovely stone patio and landscaped gardens are the added touch to your entertaining and living pleasures. Easy access to transportation, O’Hare airport, Chicago, quaint suburban restaurants and shops in multiple nearby communities (Deerfield, Highland Park), as well as parks and nature trails. $$ taxes will be reduced per 2020 sale. Exclusively Presented By: Michael Heagney, Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices Chicago 847.456.4290 MHeagney@BHHSChicago.com
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A-OK Cekay LAKE FOREST HIGH SCHOOL GYMNAST TAYLOR CEKAY HAS RED-LETTER DAYS IN MEETS—AND IN PRACTICES. “Here’s what’s great about Taylor—she never gets down, never gives up, fights through the tough times, and always looks forward to the next opportunity to show what she’s capable of doing,” Moccia says. Cekay is like a “little sister” to Prozument, the varsity’s lone senior. They first met years ago at the
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First-year Lake Forest High School girls gymnastics coach Brittany Moccia called an audible near the end of a recent practice. Her Scouts had hit the mats hard—and worked harder than ever—on January 8. They deserved a respite with about 10 minutes remaining in the session, Moccia thought. “They looked exhausted,” Moccia, a former LFHS gymnast, recalls. “Most were ready to go home.” The coach announced to her team that she would dismiss them early, but only when Scouts sophomore Taylor Cekay nailed her new uber-difficult flight series on the balance beam. The series: back handspring to back layout. Don’t try this at home. Or at any venue, even ones with scores of sturdy spotters. “Taylor,” Scouts senior co-captain Sophie Prozument says, “had a sweatshirt on when we heard our coach’s challenge to her. She whipped it off and got on that beam, right away.” With all tired eyes on her a few days before the Straus Invitational on the home equipment, a fearless, unwavering Cekay collected herself and focused on executing the tricky tricks for her teammates. A fall, or a glaring wobble along the slat, would force Cekay to attempt the series again. Cekay, calm and cool, went 1-for-1. Cheers followed. So did hugs. Cekay then reunited with her sweatshirt. “Not surprising,” Prozument says of Cekay, on a clear path to surpass the season-high 9.5 she notched on the log in her freshman season. “She’s the hardest-working person I know, as well as an amazing teammate. When she puts her mind to something, look out. She’ll do it. She’ll impress you.” The 5-foot-8 three-sport athlete (also a diver and soccer player) and 10-year club gymnast sticks beam moves in meets, too. Cekay performed a first-place 9.4 on beam at the home Holiday Quad on December 19 and finished runner-up (9.2) to junior teammate Kristin Fisch—the Scouts’ top all-arounder—at the Straus Invite on January 11. Fisch scored a 9.3. “I wanted it to be different,” Cekay says of her decision to spice up her beam show with the eyecatching flight series. “It takes sort of a mind game to do it. You have to know you’re going to stay straight while doing it. You also have to see your feet [as they touch down].” A state qualifier on beam a year ago, Cekay appeared to have collected a state berth in diving last fall at the Highland Park swimming and diving sectional meet with a personal-best and sixth-place score of 400.15 points. Most seasons, that high of a score reaches at-large status. But not in 2019. “I watched our swimmers compete later that day, and the Vernon Hills diving coach [Nathan Lightman] was keeping track of the diving scores at the
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Here’s what’s great about Taylor—she never gets down, never gives up, fights through the tough times, and always looks forward to the next opportunity to show what she’s capable of doing.
‘CE’ SOARS: Lake Forest High School sophomore Taylor Cekay, seen here working her balance beam routine at a gymnastics meet last winter, added a difficult flight series to her beam gig this winter. She earned a 9.5 on beam last season, a top-10 all-time mark in the program. PHOTOGRAPHY BY JOEL LERNER
other sectionals,” Cekay recalls. “I looked over at him at one point, and a look he gave me indicated I had not qualified for the state meet. Crazy. Next year, right? Sure, it would have been nice to dive at state, but I wasn’t devastated. “How could I be? It was my best meet.” Attitudes don’t get much healthier than that. What also lifted her spirits at meets: Club diving coaches liked Cekay’s blatant talent and consistency and encouraged her to up her game off the boards at a club in the offseason. She’s considering doing just that. College diving? “Maybe,” says Cekay, who was born in Miami and hinted she would apply for admission to the University of Florida in Gainesville. But landing on mats instead of in water consumes
her now, much to the delight of Moccia and Cekay’s gym mates. “Taylor is more confident as an athlete and as a person,” Moccia says, adding Cekay’s fresh flight series has something to do with Taylor Cekay 2.0. “I’ve also noticed more consistency. She’s more comfortable at meets this season. She’s having fun; we all see that. And she’s having fun while trying new tricks.” Bad routine? Bad meet? All gymnasts deal with both. Annually. Cekay responds to both with a shrug and gobs of determination. Cekay developed her competitiveness while growing up with brother Ryan, a former crack wide receiver at LFHS (Class of 2019) and current gridder at Colgate University.
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club Flips Gymnastics North Shore in Lake Forest. “Taylor intimidated me at first because I watched her and thought, ‘She’s so good at gymnastics,’ ” Prozument admits. “But we started talking, and my fear went away as I got to know her. She brings a tremendous dynamic to a team; she’ll be such a great leader next season and the season after that. She’s a leader now, as a sophomore. “Just watch her at a meet,” the co-captain continues. “If she’s having a tough day, that won’t stop her from cheering for her teammates and being excited to be around her teammates for the rest of the meet. You can learn a lot from watching Taylor when she’s not competing.” NOTABLE: Lake Forest High School’s girls gymnastics team tied for runner-up honors (141.55 points) with Conant High School at last weekend’s Straus Invitational atop the home mats. Carmel Catholic captured the championship at the highly competitive 10-team gathering with a 145.8-point total. LFHS junior Kristin Fisch took fifth in the all-around (35.9) and third on floor exercise (9.4), ahead of freshman sister and teammate Reagan Fisch (fourth, 9.35). LFHS sophomore Lindsay Fontana scored a team-best 9.1 (eighth-place tie) on vault. … Senior Sophie Prozument and junior Gianna Pasquesi are serving as the Scouts’ cocaptains. Pasquesi sustained a season-ending elbow injury last month. THE NORTH SHORE WEEKEND
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S U N D AY B R E A K FA S T
BY DEBBIE LEE ILLUSTRATION BY BARRY BLITT
It was March of 2018 and Paul Sweetow, having just finished a session at the gym, was stuck in traffic in Highland Park. This wasn’t a case of rubbernecking caused by the ordinary fender bender. More than 1,600 students from Highland Park and Deerfield High Schools were participating in a national walkout to honor those killed at Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School in Parkland, Florida. The crowds peacefully made their way to Port Clinton Square, demanding action to prevent violence and promote school safety. Witnessing the event, Sweetow—a licensed clinical social worker (LCSW ) who specializes in counseling young children and teens—felt compelled to do his part. “These kids were literally crying out for help,” he says. “There’s a Japanese concept, giri: a duty or obligation. I’m not equipped to handle certain issues [e.g., gun control], but in terms of mental health services. I had ideas that I wanted to get out to help and I knew they could make a difference in kids’ lives.” Those ideas took shape in the form of multiple child development books. His first release, Student Life Skills, provides two-minute lessons on social skills, emotional regulation, and increased happiness for children in grades K-6. A companion book, The Socratic Parent (published January 10), teaches caregivers how to use a question format to guide children of any age. It’s a concise, actionable read that provides readers with an alternative to the binary system of being either authoritarian or overly permissive parent. Sweetow, born and raised in Skokie, holds a bachelor’s degree in psychology from University of Illinois Urbana-Champaign, as well as a master’s degree in social work from The University of Chicago. But what makes his perspective and approach unique is his background as a karate champion and instructor. In addition to his private counseling practice, he offers lessons in martial arts and sports psychology. At the time of our chat, he was en route to Santiago, Chile to compete in an Olympic qualification tournament (karate will debut as a sport in the 2020 summer games). “I’ll be 56 in March and I’m one of the oldest athletes competing,” says Sweetow. “It’s something I embrace. It’s good for my students to witness my personal motivation, and to see me set goals that are lofty and difficult— but not impossible—to reach. I talk a lot about this with my athletes—don’t always play it safe.
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“Plus it’s just fun. Regardless of the results of the competition, which is only one day, the process of training really hard is emotionally rewarding.” Sweetow began his foray into martial arts 40 years ago, when a friend convinced him to take a tae kwon do class through the local park district. He switched to karate shortly after, eventually taking a part-time job in high school as a private instructor for children. When he asked parents for feedback, they would often report that their kids were happier, more confident, and more social. “They would respond about ways in which the kids’ mindsets, rather than techniques, improved,” says Sweetow. “I saw a connection between the practice and enhancing one’s life.” He opened his first school in 1993 in Arlington Heights before relocating to Winnetka in 1999, where he still works today. The Socratic Parent is designed to help caregivers of all socioeconomic backgrounds, but I ask Sweetow if, based on his decades of practice, children of the North Shore face any unique challenges. “In any affluent community, what happens is that children have access to a lot of things,” he says. “And many of them are positive. There are tutors, organizations, clubs ... but there’s a downside, too. Some kids have part-time jobs, but many don’t need one. The challenge is that there’s a lot of free time that’s devoted to video games, mobile phones, and technology.” An entire chapter of the book is dedicated to reducing screen time, which he considers a root cause of decreased social skills and increased social anxiety. But in an age where parents themselves are guilty of taking selfies and scrolling through newsfeeds, how can they expect their children to behave differently? Sweetow says it starts by doing away with the old adage, “Do as I say, not as I do.” “I don’t want to put parents in a place where they think they need to be perfect,” he says. “If we’re asking our kids to work hard, eat healthy, exercise, and control their tempers… those are not easy to do, because even most adults
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don’t do it. It’s about being on the path of making improvements, and having an inner dialogue. Use the Socratic parenting method on yourself and ask what kind of person you want to be. Try to take a step forward each day and have what I called “plus one” moments. Ask yourself if the thing you’re about to do it a plus or minus in your life.”
It’s good ... to set goals that are lofty and difficult—but not impossible—to reach.
He shares a personal example to illustrate the value of taking small steps: when his son Jacob (now 22) was 5-years-old, Sweetow designed an Excel spreadsheet. The goal was to do five pushups a day and tick off a box every time the task was completed. They made it through an entire year, eventually adding to the reps until he was doing 25 per day—or 9,125 a year—by 8th grade. “You can do something that takes ten seconds or less each day,” he says. “What ends up happening is that the longer they commit, children will build a sense of resilience, grit, and accomplishment.” These are the qualities that will set them up for happiness and success long after they leave the nest. When it comes to effective parenting, Sweetow references another Japanese concept—bushido, or a warrior mindset. “It’s about finding that balance where you’re really working toward being a good, virtuous, and compassionate person who is also powerful and able to defend yourself when necessary,” he explains. “Embrace vulnerability, set goals, and try to help others. Those are the most important lessons for children. But for it to work, you have to walk the talk.” Paul Sweetow will host a talk, The Socratic Parent: How to Navigate Raising Your Child by Asking the Right Questions, on Sunday, January 19 at Winnetka Community House. For information on the event, visit lakeshoreunitarian.org. The Socratic Parent is available on amazon.com. For more information, visit paulsweetow.com. THE NORTH SHORE WEEKEND
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