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This Hanukkah, spread the light IT SEEMS LIKE we could all more of a hassle. A triad of use a little more light in our medical issues still threaten, lives right now. from COVID and flu to RSV. Light gives us joy. It opens The impact of all this is our eyes to the world around taking a toll on our mental us and cancels the darkness. health.

And there sure is a lot of And there is the war in darkness right now. I’m not Ukraine, turmoil in China just speaking of the early and Iran, and concerns setting of the sun, which about food shortages and can be just discouraging on climate change worldwide. its own. I’m using the word We are experiencdarkness figuratively. ing more mass In Arizona, election killings and an deniers are holding increase in up certification of hate speech an election with against little or no evidence Jews, that any serious Asians, issues occurred that Blacks and impacted the outcome. others.

In Georgia, a runoff It can feel overelection is putting our core whelming. values to the test. And So how can we spread whichever candidate wins, more light? What brings us is it a win for the state and joy? How do we increase our country or another occasion optimism and avoid focusing for us to tumble into election controversy?

Our politics are ‘As you light the dividing our leaders, but also our families Hanukkah candles, take and friendships.

December darkness a few moments to focus in Washington, D.C., could bring more on the positive.’ political controversy.

Will our lame-duck Congress act on a long entirely on the negative? list of important and conHanukkah is a good start. troversial issues before the A little light from the glow end of their tenure? Will the of our Hanukkah candles is new Congress work together always a welcome sight on to solve problems, or stoke these short December days. them? And what will the And that brings me joy. I Supreme Court do next? know Hanukkah is certainly We face a lot of economic not the most significant of uncertainty and potential holidays, but it always seems shifts in our homes and to come at the right time. investment values. TravelHanukkah is a celebration ing is more expensive and of freedom, perseverance

and miracles. That little vial of oil burned brightly for eight nights. What could offer more hope in these negative times?

That promise of light attracts loved ones to my house, which brings joy to our entire family. And the anticipation of crispy latkes certainly helps.

I’m happy to host our family gatherings, with the accompanying excitement and warmth. Everyone has a menorah, and we light them all together. If that doesn’t push out the darkness, I don’t know what will.

A wise rabbi has told me repeatedly over the years that the more we light candles, like the Shabbat candles or the Hanukkah candles, the more light we bring into the world and the more good will come of the light.

This month, as you light the Hanukkah candles, take a few moments to focus on the positive, the warmth and the love that surround you.

Take the opportunity of the Festival of Lights to shine a light on what is good and right. And perhaps take the opportunity to think about how you can contribute more to the light moving forward.

I’m going to kindle all our hanukkiot this year because our world can sure use the light. I hope you will too, and that it will help you experience some of the joy of the miracle of Hanukkah.

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Kate Liberman

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Trinity Rep’s new executive director has extensive background in theater

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ince childhood, Kate Liberman has lived and breathed theater. She’s devoted nearly all her adult life to the performing arts, in cities across the Northeast and

in California. So the staff of Trinity Repertory Theater, in Providence, was eagerly awaiting Sept. 1, Liberman’s first day as executive director of the company.

LIBERMAN, 37, who grew up in Needham, Massachusetts, has a brother who works in the theater industry, but says her parents “weren’t really theater people.”

“But my parents were very encouraging of whatever we were interested in,” she adds.

Liberman’s mother is a printmaker and illustrator, and her father was an educator for the former Bureau of Jewish Educa-

tion of Greater Boston.

When Liberman was growing up, her brother Jacob would perform impromptu plays in the living room, which led to family outings at the local community theater.

Then they volunteered there, followed by visits to Boston playhouses.

As a student at the New Jewish High School, now known as the Gann Academy, in Waltham, Massachusetts, Liberman

identified mostly as an athlete, playing on the soccer and basketball teams. But when she started her studies at the University of Pennsylvania in 2003, she gravitated toward the theater department. She says that it was the technical and managerial aspects of theater, not being in the spotlight, that appealed to her.

“I never caught the bug of enjoying being onstage,” Liberman says. “I don’t like to be other people, I like to be me. [And] I have trouble remembering lines. That’s not my expertise. But I like being part of telling stories through art.”

During college, Liberman landed an internship at the Manhattan Theatre Club. Most of her work was helping to write grants, but she was fascinated by the number

of invisible networks that labored behind the scenes.

“I realized there were all these people who worked at the theater who weren’t in the scene shop, or the costume shop, or working backstage at night,” Liberman recalled. “There was this whole team of managers.

Really, there are so many different levels of expertise that are necessary for putting a play on stage for a live audience. That’s when I started to understand that problem-solving could spill over into a profession.”

After college, Liberman found a job on the development team at the John F. Kennedy Center for the Performing Arts, in Washington, D.C. The world-renowned venue was eye-opening for Liberman; she experienced top-notch productions and

international art expos, but she also experienced the 2008 financial crisis, when arts organizations were scrambling to retain their funding.

After two years at the Kennedy Center, Liberman says she felt the need to go back to school to enhance her skills.

In 2008, Liberman was admitted to Yale University, and she settled comfortably into her new home in New Haven, Connecticut. She earned an MFA and an MBA in Theater Management, and spent innumerable hours working with the Yale Repertory Theatre.

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The message of Hanukkah is more relevant than ever

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THE TORAH PORTION Vayetze describes Jacob’s vision of a ladder stretching between heaven and Earth: “He dreamed, and lo – a stairway was set on the ground with its top reaching to heaven, and lo – angels of God going up and coming down on it” (Genesis 28:12).

The rabbis point out that although the angels first went up the ladder, they always came back down. A midrash (Raba Vayikra 29:2) equates the angels to Esau and suggests that the angels ascending and descending the ladder represent the major empires of ancient Jewish history, such as the Babylonians and the Persians, that ascended to a place of power over the Jewish people only to descend again. The midrash also refers to our overcoming Greek domination, which we celebrate during Hanukkah.

The midrash was meant to reassure the Jews, who were under Roman rule at the time it was written, that just as God had limited Esau’s ascendency and the reign of Babylonia, Persia and Greece,

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the small Jewish nation would survive even the rule of mighty Rome.

The analogy of Jacob fearing that his children would never be free of Esau’s domination being compared to the Jews under Greek and Roman rule, who despaired that they would never be liberated, is countered by the words of Genesis 28:15, in which God says, “And here I am, with you: I will watch over you wherever you go, and I will bring you back RABBI to this soil. I ESTELLE MILLS will not let go of you as long as I have yet to do what I have promised you.”

Yet, despite God’s promise, the Jewish people have continued to experience moments in history when the ascendency of the angels recurs.

Jewish homeland and/or the Jewish people face threats to their very existence by those who have achieved positions of power, whether hostile nations or antisemitic groups.

The holiday of Hanukkah teaches us that we should not remain passive and rely

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CONTINUED FROM PAGE 4 Gershman, a veteran theater technician who was studying in the same department, and who would eventually become her husband.

The couple weathered a long-distance relationship while Liberman served as general manager of The Laguna Playhouse, in Laguna Beach, California, for two years. She says she loved the environment in California, describing it as “paradise,” but she missed home.

“I ultimately learned that I’m a New Englander at heart, and it kind of felt foreign” in California, she says.

In 2015, Liberman became the managing director of the Hudson Valley Shakespeare Festival, in Garrison, New York. She loved her life and work there, and stayed for seven years. During that time, the festival was given a 100-acre gift from a local benefactor, and a permanent facility will soon replace the tent that is erected each summer.

solely on God’s promise, but rather we should also act on our own behalf. In addition to remaining steadfast in our faith in God, we must also do everything we can to help ourselves, working toward making the world better and fighting against those seeking to destroy us as a people and a nation.

In the thousands of years since God’s promise was made, the Jewish people have endured many threats to our existence. Even in modern times, rulers and nations, such as Hitler, have climbed the figurative ladder only to fall back again. But history has also taught us never to be complacent.

The nation of Israel and Israelis have fought against those seeking to destroy us or deny our right to practice our traditions. As American Jews, we must do whatever we can to support Israel against terrorists and others who wish to destroy it, and urge our government to do the same. But we should not do so by becoming like our enemies or supporting those who act in such a manner.

Hanukkah serves as a reminder of our many struggles for self-determination

Liberman weathered the Providence to investigate the worst of COVID with her opportunity.

Hudson colleagues, and the “All it takes is an hour with festival became one of the Curt Columbus, our artisfirst live theatrical events tic director, and I was very in New York state to reopen quickly convinced that I had to the public. For her work to be a part of this place,” she there, Liberman was named says with a laugh. a “40 Under 40 Rising Star” While visiting, Liberman by the Westchester Business saw Trinity’s production of Council.

August Wilson’s “Gem of the “I hold that Ocean” and company was further ‘I hadn’t been very close to sold on purmy heart,” suing the job. looking for my next she says. “We She were building was also something move, but this is it.’ impressed really excitwith the theing there. ater’s home People would come every in downtown Providence. summer, and built it into their “It feels like we’re in a family traditions.” moment of downtown reviLiberman and Gershman talization for the city. It was might have continued to exciting. I hadn’t been looking live there, raising their son, for my next move, but this is Tobias, 4, in upstate New it,” she says.

York. But then the execuLiberman received the job tive-director opening at Trinoffer in the spring; stayed ity Rep appeared on Liberat the Shakespeare festival man’s radar in early 2022. through the summer; moved She hadn’t been searching her family to Cranston at the for new work, but she visited beginning of August; and

and the importance of our right to practice our religion free from persecution. Recent reports from the FBI, the Southern Poverty Law Center and the Anti-Defamation League, among other organizations, have shown a sharp rise in hate crimes against Jews and others. But we do not need their reports to notice this trend; news stories all too frequently alert us to new incidents of antisemitism and the steady rise in hate crimes against other groups as well.

This surge is not limited to the United States; it parallels a worldwide resurgence of antisemitism and hate crimes. In a world like this, the message of Hanukkah, that we can unite and win victory against those who hate, is more relevant than ever.

As we light our Hanukkah candles, let us continue to believe the promise that God made to our people, but let us not rely on the promise alone. Let us also do whatever we can to ensure

another group or nation does not ascend the ladder and oppress us, or any other group.

We are taught that we were created in God’s image and, like God, can share our compassion, love and power so that it multiplies and makes the world better – just like the candles of Hanukkah share their flames, growing brighter and multiplying with each additional night.

RABBI ESTELLE MILLS is the spiritual leader of Congregation Beth Jacob in Plymouth, Massachusetts.

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started at Trinity on Sept. 1.

For her husband, now 37, the move was relatively easy; Gershman is a consultant for arts organizations around the world, and most of his work is remote.

Upon arrival in the Ocean State, the couple took a badly needed two weeks off.

“We got to know as many beaches as we could and unpacked as many boxes as we could,” says Liberman.

“We sort of started to love Rhode Island already, just in that short period of time.”

Liberman’s family has also eased into the local Jewish community, observing the High Holy Days at Temple Emanu-El, in Providence.

As it turned out, Liberman had already met Barry Dolinger, the rabbi at Congregation Beth Shalom, in Providence, when they were undergraduate students at

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“Our family is deeply committed to living Jewish values in our household,” she says. “We have started to get involved where we can.”

ROBERT ISENBERG (risenberg@ jewishallianceri.org) is the multimedia producer for the Jewish Alliance of Greater Rhode Island and a writer for Jewish Rhode Island.

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Kosher Senior Café and Programming. In-person lunches 11 a.m.-1 p.m. Monday – Thursday and Friday, 12/16 (Hanukkah Party – see event below), at the Dwares JCC, 401 Elmgrove Ave., Providence; Friday (except 12/16) at Temple Sinai, 30 Hagen Ave., Cranston. No Café on 12/26. In-person and Zoom programming from 11 a.m.-noon followed by lunch and a guest speaker or discussion from noon-1 p.m. The second Tuesday of the month is “Susie’s Corner” with Susie Adler. The third Thursday of the month is a book chat with Neal Drobnis. Suggested donation: $3 per lunch for age 60 and older as well as for younger adults with a disability. Other adults $6.50. The Kosher Senior Café is a program of Jewish Collaborative Services and is supported by the Jewish Alliance of Greater RI and Blackstone Health. Information and RSVP, Neal Drobnis at neal@jfsri.org or 401421-4111, ext. 107.

Information, Adina Davies at office@ templehabonim.org or 401-2456536.

Temple Habonim Lunch and Learn. Thursdays noon-1:15 p.m.

165 New Meadow Road, Barrington.

Join Rabbi Howard Voss-Altman in person for weekly Torah Study on Pirke Avot: A Modern Commentary on Jewish Ethics. Free. Information, Adina Davies at office@templehabonim.org or 401-245-6536.

naftalikarp@gmail.com or 401-6323165.

Temple Habonim Tot & Family Shabbat. First Friday of each month. 5:45 p.m. 165 New Meadow Road, Barrington. Tot Shabbat (5:45-6:15 p.m.): interactive service designed for families with young children that offers an opportunity to experience the joy of Shabbat through music, story and prayer.

Pizza Dinner (6:15 p.m.): $5 per

wasser and Cantor Deborah Johnson. Zoom link at templesinairi.org.

Information, dottie@templesinairi. org or 401-942-8350.

Cape Cod Synagogue Shabbat Services. Fridays 7 p.m., except second Friday of the month 6:30 p.m. when Family Shabbat Services take place. 145 Winter St., Hyannis, Mass. With Rabbi David Freelund.

In-person and livestreamed on website, Facebook, Cape Media,

Project Shoresh: For Young Professionals – A Walk through Torah. Tuesdays 7-8 p.m. 132 Lancaster St., Providence. Explore the Five Books of Moses with Rabbi Chaim Yehuda and Mrs. Guta Shaps. RSVP (requested) or information, text or call Rabbi Shaps at 732-822-0028.

Temple Habonim “The Wisdom’s Literature.” Wednesdays 11 a.m.noon. Study the texts found in the Writings, the final section of the Hebrew Bible. These texts offer perspectives on our relationship with God and the meaning and purpose of our lives. Via Zoom.

Temple Habonim Torah Study.

Saturdays (no Torah Study when there is a Bar or Bat Mitzvah) 10-11 a.m. Rabbi Howard Voss-Altman leads study on current portion. Via Zoom. Information, Adina Davies at office@templehabonim.org or 401245-6536.

Cape Cod Synagogue Shabbat Services. Saturdays 10:30 a.m.

145 Winter St., Hyannis, Mass. With Rabbi David Freelund. In-person and livestreamed. Services are in-person with proof of vaccination; masks optional. Services also available on our website, Facebook and YouTube. Information, Cape Cod Synagogue at 508-775-2988 or capecodsynagogue.org.

Project Shoresh Ladies’ Partners in Torah Night. Sundays 7:45-8:45 p.m. Providence Hebrew Day School, 450 Elmgrove Ave., Providence. Partner-based study group. On-site facilitators available.

Free. Information, projectshoresh. com or Naftali Karp at naftalikarp@ gmail.com or 401-632-3165.

Delve Deeper | Sephardi and Mizrahi Jews: From 1492 to the 20th Century. Mondays 7:30-9:30 p.m.

Thru 12/12. Explore via Zoom the history of Arab/Middle Eastern and Sephardi Jews in this course taught

by Yaron Ayalon, Ph.D., director of the Yaschik/Arnold Jewish Studies Program and associate professor of Jewish and Middle Eastern Studies, College of Charleston (South Carolina). Presented in cooperation with the Jewish Alliance of Greater Rhode Island, Congregation Beth Sholom, Temple Beth-El, Temple Emanu-El, Temple Habonim, Temple Sinai and Temple Torat Yisrael.

Information, Morty Miller at mortymiller1945@gmail.com.

Temple Sinai Shabbat Breakfast & Torah Study In-person and via Zoom. Saturdays 9:30-11 a.m. Temple Sinai, 30 Hagen Ave., Cranston. Breakfast followed by interactive discussion at 10 a.m. with Rabbi Jeffrey Goldwasser or others in our community. Zoom link at templesinairi.org. Information, dottie@templesinairi.org or 401942-8350.

Temple Sinai Shabbat Morning Service In-person and via Zoom.

Saturdays 11 a.m. (10:30 a.m. when celebrating a Bar or Bat Mitzvah).

30 Hagen Ave., Cranston. Information, templesinairi.org or Dottie at 401-942-8350.

Some of the fun at the Hanukkah Spectaculah in 2021.

This year, the event in downtown Providence is on Dec. 18.

Temple Torat Yisrael Men’s Club Game Night. Thursdays 6-8 p.m.

1251 Middle Road, East Greenwich.

Socialize and play games including table tennis. Information, www. toratyisrael.org.

Delve Deeper | Moses Maimonides: Rabbi, Philosopher and Community Leader. Thursdays 7:30-9:30 p.m. Thru 12/15. Explore Maimonides’ mindset, life and cultural world in this course taught

by Alan Verskin, Ph.D., associate professor of History, URI. Presented in cooperation with the Jewish Alliance of Greater Rhode Island, Congregation Beth Sholom, Temple Beth-El, Temple Emanu-El, Temple Habonim, Temple Sinai and Temple Torat Yisrael. Information, Morty Miller at mortymiller1945@ gmail.com.

Project Shoresh presents “Jew in 2022: Exploring a Meaningful Life” with Rabbi Eli Kasirer.

Thursdays 8-9 p.m. Providence Hebrew Day School, 450 Elmgrove Ave., Providence. Rabbi Moshe Don Kestenbaum’s book “Olam Ha’avodah – A guide to understanding and achieving our purpose in this world” will be the basis for discussions. To confirm time and place for each class, Naftali Karp at

person; email office@templehabonim.org to sign up. Family Service (6:45-7:45 p.m.): both in-person and streamed restorative service designed for both families with school-aged children as well as those without. Information, Adina Davies at office@templehabonim. org or 401-245-6536.

Project Shoresh Lively Kabbalat Shabbat. Fridays. Services will begin at the commencement of Shabbat. Be in touch for exact timing each week. Providence Hebrew Day School (side entrance), 450 Elmgrove Ave., Providence.

Welcome Shabbat with a few inspiring words, melodious songs and traditional services. Open to all.

Information, Naftali Karp at naftalikarp@gmail.com or 401-632-3165.

Temple Torat Yisrael Virtual Kabbalat Shabbat Songs & Torah Services. Fridays in December except 12/16. 5:45-6:30 p.m. Led

by Rabbi David Barnett. Information and Zoom link, Temple@toratyisrael.org.

Temple Sinai Shabbat Evening Service. Fridays usually 6 p.m. 30 Hagen Ave., Cranston. Song, prayer and reflection offered in person or on Zoom. With Rabbi Jeffrey Gold-

YouTube and Community Television Comcast channel 99. Services are in person with proof of vaccination; masks optional. Information, 508775-2988 or capecodsynagogue. org.

Temple Beth-El Torah Study.

Saturdays 9-10:30 a.m. (No Torah Study second Saturday of the month.) 70 Orchard Ave., Providence. Delve into the weekly portion with Rabbi Sarah Mack and Rabbi Preston Neimeiser. Join in-person or via Zoom. Information, Joie Magnone at jmagnone@temple-beth-el. org or 401-331-6070, ext. 100.

Temple Beth-El Shabbat Morning Service. Second Saturday of the month 9 a.m. 70 Orchard Ave., Providence. Shabbat morning minyan with lay participation incorporating study, Torah and Haftarah readings. In-person or via Zoom. Information, Joie Magnone at jmagnone@temple-beth-el.org or 401-331-6070, ext. 100.

Temple Torat Yisrael Shabbat Services. Saturdays 9:30 a.m. 1251 Middle Road, East Greenwich. On 12/3, streaming only. Other Saturdays, both virtual and in-person.

Led by Rabbi David Barnett. Information, Temple@toratyisrael.org.

Wednesday | December 7

Sandra Bornstein Holocaust Education Center presents “The State of Hate.” 7 p.m. Dwares JCC, 401 Elmgrove Ave., Providence.

Peggy Shukur, deputy director of the Anti-Defamation League of New England, will discuss regional and national threats, the ADL response to rising antisemitism and hate, and how the average citizen can help to combat this growing threat. Information, Kelly Vest at info@hercri. org or 401-453-7860.

Sunday | December 11

Congregation Beth David Story Time and Crafts with PJ Library.

9:45 a.m. 102 Kingstown Road, Narragansett. Explore a variety of PJ Library books, and participate in crafts and games. No fee; synagogue membership not required.

For ages 2-8. Hosted by Congregation Beth David in partnership with PJ Library. Information, Amanda Stevens at greenspan.amanda@ gmail.com.

Temple Beth-El K’tantan 5783 Hanukkah Lego Celebration with PJ Library. 4 p.m. 70 Orchard Ave., Providence. Get ready for Hanukkah by building a giant hanukkiah with Legos. K’tantan is a wonderful way to celebrate

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Community Microgrant Initiative Shabbat and holidays with children ages 0-5 with our friends from PJ Library. Information or to register, Rachel Mersky Woda at rmerskywoda@temple-beth-el.org or 401-331-6070, ext. 107.

Tuesday | December 13

Core Connects RI Book Club: “Shanda: A Memoir of Shame and Secrecy.” 7:30-8:30 p.m. In her deeply engaging, astonishingly candid memoir, author and activist Letty Cottin Pogrebin exposes the fiercely guarded lies and intricate cover-ups woven by dozens of members of her extended family.

Via Zoom. Information, Elissa Felder at CoreConnectsRI@gmail.com or 401-241-9631.

Project Shoresh Ladies Presents “Hanukkah Delicacies & Inspiration.” 7:45 p.m. Providence Hebrew Day School, 450 Elmgrove Ave., Providence. Prepare for Hanukkah with ladies from across the community with inspiration while enjoying classic Hanukkah delicacies. Information and to RSVP, projectshoresh.com.

Wednesday | December 14

Behind the Book: “Under Jerusalem: The Buried History of the World’s Most Contested City.” 7 p.m. Delve into the tombs, tunnels and trenches of the Holy City in a saga of biblical treasures, intrepid explorers and political upheaval.

With author Andrew Lawler. Via Zoom. Free. In partnership with the Jewish Book Council. Information, Larry Katz at lkatz@jewishallianceri.org or 401-421-4111, ext. 179.

Friday | December 16

Kosher Senior Café Hanukkah Party. 11 a.m.-1 p.m. Dwares JCC, 401 Elmgrove Ave., Providence.

Festive meal including butternut squash soup, potato latkes, salmon croquettes and sufganiyot. Music

by Stanley Freedman & Sounds of Simcha. The Kosher Senior Café is a program of Jewish Collaborative Services. This event supported by the Isenberg Music Celebration Series, the Jewish Alliance of Greater RI and Blackstone Health.

Suggested donation: $3. Information and RSVP, Neal Drobnis at neal@ jfsri.org or 401-421-4111, ext. 107.

Sunday | December 18

Temple Torat Yisrael Torah Sprouts: Hanukkah. 9:15-10:15 a.m.

1251 Middle Road, East Greenwich.

Learn about Jewish culture and holidays in a one-hour active program with Rabbi David Barnett and Morah Leah. For children ages 3-5 and their parents. Open to all. You do not need to be a member of the synagogue. Cost: $12 per session or $80 for 8 sessions. Information and RSVP, www.toratyisrael.org.

Temple Habonim’s Shoreshim: Roots – Pre-K Program: Hanukkah. 10:15-11:15 a.m. 165 New Meadow Road, Barrington.

Introduce your child to the sounds, sights and traditions of Judaism with a focus on Jewish holidays.

Once per month. A grown-up must stay with child. Led by PJ Library’s Lindsey Ursillo and Temple Habonim’s Educational Director David Perolman. Information and registration, Adina at office@ templehabonim.org or David at eddirector@templehabonim.org.

Hanukkah Spectaculah. 3-6 p.m.

Biltmore Park, Between Exchange Terrace & Dorrance Street, Providence. The Department of Art, Culture + Tourism, in collaboration with the Jewish Alliance of Greater RI, the Board of Rabbis of Greater RI, RISCA, RI Commerce, Providence City Council and P3, presents festive music, food, drinks, candle-lighting and art activities.

Open to all. Free. Information, Larry Katz at lkatz@jewishallianceri.org or 401-421-4111, ext. 179.

Thursday | December 22

Project Shoresh “Best Jewish YP Hanukkah Party.” 7:45 p.m.

Providence Hebrew Day School, 450 Elmgrove Ave., Providence.

Join YPs from around Southern New England for an uplifting, joyous, music-filled evening with Hanukkah delicacies, music, latkes, dreidels and fun for everyone. $10.

Information and to RSVP, projectshoresh.com.

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These grants are intended for individuals in the community to offer their own programming and content that is uniquely relevant to them, their interests, and their immediate community. This can be in the form of a Shabbat dinner, a park meet-up, a Jewish learning group, a holiday gathering, or something more creative and innovative.

Collaborative grants are intended to fund new and creative partnerships that contribute to vibrant Jewish life in our state and build meaningful collaborations between different Jewish and non-Jewish organizations.

Traditionally under-served or under-acknowledged populations are strongly encouraged to apply.

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‘It started with words of hate’

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re Americans waking up to the disturbing resurgence of antisemitism to the point where they’ll stand up to those

trying to make it open season on Jews? mans during the rise of the Nazis, in the 1930s – want someone to blame for the country’s problems.

Ye, in a Twitter post (since deleted) to his millions of followers, wrote that he was going to go “death con 3 On JEWISH PEOPLE.” Most companies, including Adidas, eventually cut ties with Ye over the post, but his Twitter

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• During a University of Florida versus University of Georgia football game on Oct. 29, “Kanye is right about the jews” was projected on the outside of one of the end zones at TIAA Bank Field, in Jacksonville, Florida.

• In late October in Los Angeles, antisemitic banners were displayed over the 405 Freeway.

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• In Massachusetts, similar banners were spread across overpasses on highways in Saugus and Danvers in September. In October, swastikas were found on a family’s lawn in Stoneham.

• In November, basketball player Kyrie Irving, of the NBA’s Brooklyn Nets and formerly of the Boston Celtics, was suspended by the Nets for tweeting about a film that includes many antisemitic tropes and denies the Holocaust.

YE AND IRVING’S WORDS returned to the spotlight on Nov. 12, when comedian Dave Chappelle devoted his lengthy monologue on “Saturday Night Live” to the controversies.

He first read this statement: “I denounce antisemitism in all its forms. And I stand with my friends in the Jewish community.” Then he added a series of jokes that made me extremely uncomfortable and had me doubting his sincerity: “And that, Kanye, is how you buy yourself some time,” he said right after his statement.

By the end of the monologue, it was hard not to conclude that Chappelle was joining those who have either defended Ye and Irving or who have thought that way too much has been made of their hurtful and harmful words.

If you think hate speech is no big deal, you’re wrong, because such talk often leads to violence, as it did, tragically, four years ago, when the deadliest attack ever on American Jews resulted in 11 being killed during a Sabbath service at a Pittsburgh

synagogue.

Holocaust survivors, including those who survived Kristallnacht, the “Night of Broken Glass,” are adding their inspiring voices to the warning against hate speech.

During Kristallnacht, on Nov. 9, 1938, Nazis and Germans terrorized Jews in Germany and Austria, killing at least 91 and vandalizing 7,500 Jewish businesses and temples.

Their voices have been raised as part of the #ItStartedWithLARRY Words campaign, which KESSLER is being undertaken, according to the Associated Press, by the New York-based Conference on Jewish Material Claims Against Germany, a digital-education project that gives survivors a chance to reflect on the moments that led to the Holocaust.

“It started for me when I was 8 years old, and I could not understand why my best friends were shouting bad names at me,” Auschwitz survivor Eva Szepesi, 90, told the AP. Greg Schneider, the conference’s executive vice president, said in the same AP story, “with the growing prevalence of Holocaust denial, distortion and hate speech on social platforms, the core message behind the ItStartedWithWords campaign becomes even more important: The Holocaust did not start with camps, ghettos and deportations; it started with words of hate.”

Indeed, that was precisely the strategy that the Nazis used in the 1930s as they targeted everyone not considered a “pure” German.

That created the atmosphere that led to Jews being denied their basic rights, having their property seized and being deported to concentration camps across Eastern Europe, where 6 million were slaughtered. (Another 5 million non-Jews were also executed by the Nazis in their drive to “purify” Germany.)

Those determined to stand up to a revival of such vile hate include New England Patriots owner Robert Kraft, who is Jewish. A nonprofit he founded aired an ad during

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OR WILL THE MILLIONS who are indifferent, or even embrace, antisemitic rants by the likes of entertainer Ye (formerly Kanye West) continue their hateful view of the Jewish people, pushing us closer to the unthinkable?

Ye's Twitter rant against Jews is just one of the recent events demonizing Jews by people who – like the Ger-

account remains.

And such despicable expressions of hate are only the tip of the iceberg:

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the Oct. 30 Patriots-Jets NFL game that condemned hate speech targeting Jews and encouraged non-Jews to speak up.

The 30-second spot from Kraft’s Foundation to Combat Antisemitism said: “We hear you today. We must hear you tomorrow. There are less than 8 million Jewish people in this country. Fewer than are watching this ad. They need you to add your voice.” The ad ended with the hashtag: #StandUptoJewishHate.

Kraft, in a statement to AP on the dramatic rise in antisemitism, said: “I have committed tremendous resources toward this effort and am vowing to do more.

I encourage others to join in these efforts. My hope is this commercial will continue to enhance the national conversation about the need to speak out against hatred of all types, and particularly to stand up to Jewish hate.”

Antisemitism, of course, isn’t new; Jews have been targeted for centuries. When I was growing up in Dorchester, Massachusetts, in the 1950s and ’60s, it was still commonplace for Jews to be excluded from many organizations and workplaces. My father was denied employment at the Boston Globe because, in the ’50s, you could ask prospective employees their religion. He was told the Globe didn’t hire Jews.

Now, 77 years after the Allies liberated the Nazi death camps, neo-Nazis are using the same rhetoric, and with Holocaust survivors down to a precious few, it seems as if most Americans have forgotten what happened inside those camps.

That’s why American Jews will continue to be worried, if not frightened, until a majority of Americans say enough is enough to people who insist on demonizing them.

Think it can’t happen here?

Many Germans who didn’t speak up when Hitler started persecuting the Jews thought it’d never happen there, either.

LARRY KESSLER (larrythek65@ gmail.com) is a freelance writer based in North Attleboro. He blogs at https:// larrytheklineup.blogspot.com.

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Some of George Goodwin’s photo albums.

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The joys of more than a few photo albums

BY GEORGE M. GOODWIN

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few weeks ago, my wife, Betsey, and I were fortunate enough to take our first trip abroad since the onslaught of

COVID. We returned to Italy, one of our favorite destinations, where we focused on Venice and the surrounding area.

I LIKE TAKING PHOTOS, so, using my cellphone, I took about 3,500. On a typical twoweek vacation, I often take about 2,000 photos, so 3,500 seemed somewhat excessive.

And what could I possibly do with so many?

I may be one of the last Rhode Islanders who still enjoys assembling photo albums. I will print 700 of the better photos – seven per page – to mount in a beautiful, handmade Italian album.

Then I’ll stick it on a shelf or inside a cabinet – if I can find one with room.

Over the decades, my penchant for album-making has become far more than a hobby. I have created more than 100 albums, holding perhaps 35,000 photos. I have never had a reason to count them, but I recently compiled an index so I can rediscover that favorite trip to Israel or remind myself what I did three summers ago or last

January.

Why have I created so many albums? Do I fear that I will forget much of the distant, or recent, past, or that our kids or grandkids will do the same? Who, after all, would be much interested in what Betsey and I have experienced during nearly 40 years together?

My basic motivation is to become a more accomplished photographer. As much as I love art museums and art books, I’ve never had much interest in the work of master photographers. Do I endeavor to craft a near-perfect image, one that captures not only a moment, but a week, a year or even a decade? Perhaps.

And while I occasionally enjoy paging through some of my better albums, I’m much more interested in my next adventure.

So how did I develop such a photographic obsession? It’s easy to blame my late mother,

Madeline, who created her first album after Theo, my older twin, and I were born.

Mom’s older brother, George, became a professional photographer and a highly accomplished art collector, but I doubt that Mom ever owned a camera.

Rather, she relied on my late father, Eugene, to take photos, though this never became one of his considerable accomplishments. Mom also saved all kinds of paper records. For example, nearly 1,000 letters!

Eventually, reflecting frequent and distant travels, Mom created 30 or 40 photo albums.

After our parents passed away, Theo, my sister Betty and I agonized over what to do with these albums. We had not participated in most of these voyages, and we had limited space for our own ever-expanding collections.

Ultimately, we decided that we would save only some of the best albums, as well as some of the best photos from others.

No doubt my obsession with creating photo albums also evolved from some of my childhood passions for collecting, especially stamps, but also postcards and books.

I collected photos long before I began taking them.

In 1969, when I studied in Florence, Italy, during my

junior year of college, I foresaw a career as an art history professor, so I bought slides in museums shops to eventually show my students.

Gradually, I began taking my own slides of paintings, sculptures and buildings, and I still have a collection of perhaps 30,000, all neatly organized.

Is it fair to blame part of my obsession with photo albums on Betsey? I began assembling my first, in 1983, soon after we met. After we were married, and moved far from our parents, and welcomed Molly and Michael into this world, my album infatuation steadily increased.

Travels near and far soon worsened my infatuation.

These travels may have included a few days in Maine, an afternoon in Boston or a walk around the block.

I often take portraits of our home, both its exterior and interior. Flowers are an easy subject, but given my love of good food, any meal or snack can present a compositional challenge.

So what will become of my ever-proliferating album collection? Of course Molly and Michael will be welcome to whatever they want, but they too will face physical as well as emotional constraints.

Having been deeply involved with the Rhode

Island Jewish Historical Association for decades, I would be pleased to donate some albums to its wonderful archival collection. And I’ve also been active on the board of the Rhode Island Historical Society, and I believe that a large number of my albums belong in its encyclopedic collection.

Since I also care about Temple Beth-El’s important Braude Library, perhaps I should also donate a few albums there.

Or perhaps I exaggerate my own importance when I occasionally refer to myself as “Rhode Island’s last epic photo-album maker.” But one thing I am sure of: virtually all of my albums record countless blessings.

Yes, I have suffered many disappointments and occasional defeats, but my life has been filled with much goodness, privilege, joy and wonder.

Taking photos is almost always fun, often quite challenging and occasionally thrilling. And more often than not, the results are my quite tangible expressions of thanksgiving.

GEORGE M. GOODWIN, of Providence, is the editor of Rhode Island Jewish Historical Notes.

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HANUKKAH HAS two miracles: the physical victory of a tiny band of Jews over the Greeks, which had the most powerful army in the world in the second century B.C.E., and the spiritual victory of finding one unspoiled cruse of oil, which miraculously lasted for eight days instead of one.

But what exactly is a miracle, from the Jewish perspective?

In researching this question, I came across an in-depth article in the Merrimack Valley Havurah’s website, “The Jewish View of Miracles,” by Robert D. Kaiser.

In the article, published on Nov. 21, 2001, Kaiser discusses the biblical view; miracles as part of creation preplanned by God; Maimonides’, Nachmanides’ and Gersonides’ views of miracles; and non-literal reinterpretations of miracles.

He writes, “Despite the many different views of miracles … there are some beliefs that most Jews have in common. According to Maimonides and Gersonides, God created a set of laws of nature, and all events occur in accordance with these laws. According to the Hasidic view, all events are miracles.

“Note that common ground does exist: We can consider the laws of physics as miracles in and of themselves, and therefore all of nature is a miracle – and should be appreciated as such. However, nature follows its course and God does not supernaturally intervene. This ideology is expressed in the Modim prayer in the Amidah, the central prayer of every Siddur.”

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• I needed extra work, and at that exact moment, I got a phone call from a new client.

Can you relate to any of these?

• You help a friend who is ill and they get better much quicker than expected.

• The person you were just thinking about calls you.

• The stranger in front of you helps to carry your heavy bags.

• You get a letter, hug or gift that gives you (at least) eight days of joy.

THESE SMALL MIRACLES count as much as the big ones. And sometimes those small acts of kindness can actually save a person’s life.

Happy Hanukkah to all.

Here’s to celebrating the miracles in our lives!

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ONCE UPON A TIME, was there in fact a cactus that caught fire by itself?

I read that once: a spontaneous flaming shrub gave birth to the Torah tale of the divine voice speaking to Moses from the earthbound bush. Just a natural phenomenon of the desert that inspired a long-lasting legend ... perhaps.

The stainedglass circle above the ark at Temple Emanu-El, in Providence, depicts this image and has always captured my rapt attention, from my Bar Mitzvah ever onward.

Well, I was a December baby, so Hanukkah often brings the birthday menorah out from its hiding place, onto the table or the mantel or windowsill, for one and all to behold on a special candlelit holiday of lights and fights.

The family that struggled to liberate the temple and dedicate the renewal of our sacred space and the prayers of our people, that heroic band of brothers, holds a special spot for me on my calendar. My “Roman” birthday is on the 12th, which likewise has a numerical metaphorical meaning for me, like the iconic 12 tribes of Israel.

I love to give gifts of fine and fancy menorahs to my children and grandchildren, but once I made a mistake: I chose one that was shaped like a grove of trees, so the branches were somewhat uneven. The ritual director at Emanu-El was then “Mr. Adler,” the beloved Edward O., and he objected to my selection.

“They should all be of equal height to be kosher, except for the One,” he told me, and so I use that one merely as an outdoor decoration, not on a windowsill for all to observe and honor.

Somehow, I was always fascinated by the way miracles seem to sum up the seasons that bring beauty, maybe magic, into our daily lives that buoy up our moods and bring us words of cheer and comfort.

Indeed, Hanukkah is not Christmas (although both are about the miracle of light,

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how it vanishes and then renews itself). And every year on each calendar, I try to listen to my annual inner voice speaking to me about the words that rise from the wicks of the wee slim candles of many colors.

Like Joseph’s coat of many colors, like the Torah tales, like the Sabbath duo, or even the memorial glass miniature lamps to summon back the souls of our dear departed, who visit us on their anniverMIKE FINK saries: Nothing disappears quite utterly or silently. There is always the unexpected visit from our spiritual but not silent past – and they return not to haunt us, but to speak to us from beyond.

Like all of our moon months, we can live yesterday, today and tomorrow.

And this holiday features the stars of the firmament (one of my favorite words), which whisper to each of us and all of us, with quiet blessings and tidings of resistance and good counsel.

Why, by the way, does the burning bush instruct Moses, while listening, to take off his shoes? In a small Jewish museum in Copenhagen, I found a book in its bookshop that suggested an answer to that command: “Listen” with your feet on the ground. That volume claimed that Jews serve as cobblers to respect the earth itself!

I was intrigued, touched, even inspired, by that rather subtle invitation to connect all the tales in the Torah to whatever themes strike the reader as relevant, useful, adaptable, to whatever chapters in the chronicle of our people, our species, unfold in our hourly history.

So happy holiday. Wiggle your toes freely, look up at the stars in the skies above, stand with and for us Jews everywhere, and admire the trees, their leaves, their imprints on the sidewalk, even their branches, which somehow speak to us.

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Meet the Jewish founder of the world’s only bobblehead museum, and his Hanukkah bobbles

BY JACOB GURVIS (JTA)

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ith a Jewish co-founder, it was just a

matter of time before the world’s only bobblehead museum unveiled Hanukkah bobbles.

THE NATIONAL BOBBLEHEAD Hall of Fame and Museum, in Milwaukee, was founded in 2019 by Phil Sklar, a Jewish Illinois native, and his friend, Brad Novak. The museum has 7,000 bobbleheads on display, including some manufactured by Sklar and Novak.

Bobbleheads date back to the late 1700s, Sklar said in an interview with the Jewish Telegraphic Agency.

A famous painting of Queen Charlotte – a replica of which hangs in the bobblehead museum – shows two figurines behind the monarch, with heads that bobble.

In 2021, the museum unveiled its first-ever Hanukkah items: a Bobble Menorah that features nine bobbling “flames” and comes in three color patterns, and a Bobble Dreidel on a geltshaped base.

“Having the candles with the flame bobbling and the dreidel on a spring, we thought was pretty unique,” said Sklar. “It was something that was tasteful and that people would enjoy displaying on Hanukkah, or with their Judaica collection.”

JTA spoke to Sklar about how a unique collection turned into a one-of-a-kind museum, how he uses bobbleheads for a good cause, and, of course, which famous Jews have their own bobbleheads.

This interview has been edited and condensed.

Q: With any collection like this, the first question has to be: How did you get into bobbleheads?

A: My dad collected baseball cards, and he got me into collecting when I was growing up. Brad [Novak]

Phil Sklar and his bobbleheads. was working for a minor league baseball team in the early 2000s, and they gave away a bobblehead for the first time in 2003. We decided the bobblehead was sort of cool, and the [Milwaukee] Brewers and Bucks and local soccer and hockey teams were giving out bobbleheads.

So we started to circle the bobblehead dates on the calendar, since we were already going to several games a year anyway as big sports fans. The collection sort of grew from that.

Q: How did this interest turn into the world’s only bobblehead museum?

A: The collection grew out

of traveling. We went on a journey to try to go to all the Major League Baseball stadiums, and as we traveled, we’d go to different museums in local places.

Several times we’d either go to the stores in the area of the stadium, or antique malls, and just pick up some bobbleheads from the area to bring back.

Before we knew it, we were doing some buying, trading and selling on eBay, in our free time. Then in 2013 we set

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out to produce a bobblehead for the first time, of a friend of ours who was a manager for the University of Wisconsin-Milwaukee sports teams, and also a Special Olympian.

We thought it would be a cool way to honor him.

During that process, we realized there was a need in the market, an opportunity to produce bobbleheads – people or things that otherwise haven’t had bobbleheads produced – and market them.

At the time, our collection was numbering in the 3,000 range. I don’t even know how we got that many. We were running out of room for them. It’s a lot easier to store 3,000 baseball cards – you can get one box and store them. But 3,000 bobbleheads take up a lot more room.

We started brainstorming, and realized, hey, there’s no museum in the world dedicated to bobbleheads. There’s museums dedicated to mustard and spam, and a bunch of other random things.

So we started to do market research on the museum side, and November 2014 was when we announced the idea for the museum.

Q: Tell me about the collection. How many bobbleheads do you have now, and what are some of the highlights?

A: We have 7,000 unique

bobbleheads on display in the museum. The collection itself is now numbering in the 10,000-11,000 range. We’re getting in new bobbleheads pretty much daily. There are teams sending them in, organizations, people across the country. It’s really everything from sports to pop culture, politics, music, movies, TV, comics. Really anything and everything that can be turned into a bobblehead, including the menorah and the dreidel.

Q: Do you have a personal favorite bobblehead?

A: The one of [friend]

Michael is sort of the one that sparked the whole idea for the museum, so that’s my sentimental favorite. He’s also Jewish. We didn’t meet because of being Jewish, we just saw him around campus when we started going to school and got to know him. Then we got to know his family, and found

out we went to the same congregation.

Q: What has the reception been to the museum? How did the pandemic impact your work?

A: We’ve been blown away

by the reception. We’ve had visitors from all 50 states and I think 25 different countries.

We opened on February 1, 2019, and then closed for about 14-and-a-half months in March 2020 because of the pandemic. Luckily, we were able to produce a ton of bobbleheads during that time. In the beginning of April was the first Dr. [Anthony] Fauci bobblehead .… We were able to keep busy, keep everybody employed that works for us, and also do something for a good cause during the pandemic.

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There’s definitely people out there who collect Jewish figures and bobbleheads. Or, usually, it’s their favorite team or player. There are definitely Grateful Dead [bobbleheads] – quite a few different bobbleheads, and people try to collect all of them. There are people who are political, they want all the presidential- or historical-related.

The Wisconsin Jewish Chronicle did a story, and we sent them pictures of the different Jews that have been depicted in bobbleheads.

Sandy Koufax, Ruth Bader Ginsburg, a member of Kiss, a wide variety of people. It’s sort of fun to see, there’s more [Jews] than we had anticipated when we were going through the list.

Q: How do you decide who to make?

A: Every day we’re coming

up with new ideas. Staying in tune with the news, social media and trending topics is definitely helpful. But then we have a long list of general ideas. Like, there hasn’t been a turkey bobblehead in a long time, and we have a series of bobbleheads where holiday characters are sitting on a shelf. So we have a turkey on a shelf coming out for Thanksgiving. Things like that, we’ll identify sometimes years in advance. A lot of them take some time to come to fruition. But it’s more, what do we think people will enjoy or buy? And we go from there.

Q: How did you decide to create the Hanukkah bobbles? What is your goal with the products?

A: It was probably around

Kindle the Menorah on each of the eight nights of Chanukah. See below for the times, number of lights and the order of kindling. The Chanukah lights are kindled in the front window or by a doorway.

Q: Are there any other Jewish holidays that you think would be particularly conducive for a bobble?

A: Yeah, I think my aunt

You may use olive oil or paraffin candles which are large enough to burn until half an hour after nightfall. Use the shamash to kindle the lights and place it in its special place on the Menorah.

actually sent a list. There were some characters like Judah Maccabee. We could do Purim. We’re sort of waiting to see how the Hanukkah bobbleheads go. There’s also some other fun things that we could turn into bobbles. A bobble hamantashen just came to mind. But I don’t know, it might get people to try to eat it or something. We’ll put a warning on the package.

All members of the family should be present at the kindling of the Chanukah lights. Students and singles who live in a dormitory or in their own apartments, should kindle in their own rooms.

Friday afternoon, the Chanukah lights (which will burn until 1/2 hour after nightfall) are kindled before the Shabbat candles. The Menorah should not be relit, moved or prepared, from the time Shabbat candles are lit, until Shabbat ends and the Havdalah prayer is recited

Q: A lot of your products and launches are connected to charities. Why is it important to you to use the bobbleheads to support these causes? Does your Jewish identity have any impact on that?

A: I think it probably does

Menorah Kindling Blessings

2. Bo-ruch A-toh A-do-noi E-lo-hey-nu Me-lech Ha-o-lam She- a-sa Ni-sim La-a-vo-sey-nu Ba-ya-mim Ha-heim Bi-z’man Ha-zeh.

Blessed are You, L-rd our G-d, King of the universe, who wrought miracles for our fathers in days of old, at this season.

have something to do with my upbringing. Being taught to give back, and taught about tzedakah [charity]. And we’ve seen other bobblehead companies start to do the same thing, and they hadn’t done it in the past, so I think we’ve actually inspired other people.

We’re not doing it to boost the sales, but we’ve seen that when it has that good cause, it can definitely help boost the sales, and boost the excitement around it as well. But we’re really doing it to give back to causes and to get people engaged.

The following blessing is recited on the first evening or on the first time one kindles the Chanukah lights this year: 3. Bo-ruch A-toh A-do-noi E-lo-hei-nu Me-lech Ha-o-lom She-he-chi-ya -nu Vi-ki-yi-ma-nu Vi-hi-gi-ya-nu Li-z’man Ha-zeh.

Blessed are You, L-rd our G-d, King of the universe, who has kept us alive, and has preserved us, and enabled us to reach this season.

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Judith changed my young life

BY ORA DAMELIN This story was originally published on HeyAlma.

MOST OF THE WOMEN in the Bible fall into a few distinct categories. There are the wise wives and mothers like Sarah, Rebecca and Yocheved, required to make hard decisions to protect their children. Then there are the tragic romantic damsels, the ready-for-soap-opera players: Rachel, Leah and Bathsheba.

Silent sufferers who survive humiliation, poverty and assault with grace – like Tamar, Ruth and Esther – are credited with saving Jewish continuity and tradition.

But supporting figures who speak their minds, women like Miriam and Michal, often pay for their unruliness, their misdeeds defined in the eternal text as a warning for generations to come.

And then there’s Judith.

Most people learn about Judith in art history class from Artemisia Gentileschi’s iconic Baroque painting, “Judith Beheading Holofernes” (1620). I learned about her in day school as a third grader. I must have been 8 or 9; my teacher, probably Rabbi Gold or Gordon, went over the story of Hanukkah for the umpteenth time.

Greeks, Maccabees, teensy weensy bottle of oil – I’d been there before. But then he started to add in new details: a tyrannical Greek general named Holofernes, the sort of military leader who never rides out into battle but still

claims his legion’s body count as a personal victory.

The scale of his wickedness is rivaled only by that of his security detail. Somebody needs to kill him (and take his army down with him), but nobody can get close enough.

Enter Judith. She sweettalks her way into his tent, plies him with cheese and wine until he passes out, lops off his head and brings it back to the Jewish resistance on a pike.

I can pinpoint the exact moment my pre-adolescent heart short-circuited.

Growing up in a tight-knit Orthodox community and attending Jewish day school, I learned a lot of stories from Tanakh, the Hebrew bible.

The ones I didn’t learn in school, I read on my own time whenever I ran out of children’s fiction. I quickly learned that the women in these stories were not – could not be – like the outspoken warrior-princesses of my favorite grade-school fantasy novels.

When Miriam dares to criticize Moses’ treatment of his wife, God infects her with a spiritual malady and she is forced outside of the camp, banished from the presence of God. Bathsheba does not play an active role in her relationship with King David: she neither protests when King David makes advances upon her, nor does she aid him in plotting to kill her husband.

Ruth’s plan to save herself and her family from poverty hangs on the involvement of a man. These are stories of women existing, manipulat-

ing the rules of, and suffering through a man’s world. Either they live to support righteous men, or they need men to save them and act for them.

Judith who criticizes Uzziah for this dangerous ultimatum, and it is Judith, portrayed as devout yet practical, who refuses to wait for God or to let desperate men decide the Judith is the exception. fate of her city.

In the storybook narraIn her painting, Artemisia tive fed to me as a child, she Gentileschi depicts a mixture takes orders from no one but of the two stories, the fairyherself. She’s oddly detached tale and the ancient text. On from the male figures of the the canvas, Judith holds down Hanukkah story, the HasHolofernes with the help of moneans. a handmaid. Neither woman There is no male military is beautiful, and neither is leader behind her assignation the murder being committed. mission. Judith doesn’t have Judith slowly saws through a husband; she’s a widow who the general’s neck, her eyes never remarries. Even better, filled with fury and deterwhile she gains Holofernes’ mination. There is nothing trust by gentle or modseductive est or even ‘As an adult, I means, heroic about she never her. This is actively sought out Judith’s a woman seduces him. doing what Unlike Yael, she believes story at its source.’ the other she has to do; woman in she does not the Jewish tradition to slay shirk her responsibility, but a general, the Sages do not she also does not revel in the hypersexualize her in their bloody act. Nobody showed commentary. She’s never me that picture when I was married off to some righteous 8. If they had, I would have man as a reward or scolded known that Judith was more by the midrashim for some complex and more real than mild infraction. She exists in the sexy warrior princesses of her own right, independent of my favorite novels. and unhindered by the men Already, at 8, the idea that around her. my influence on my world was As an adult, I sought out limited to my influence on the Judith’s story at its source, men around me, that I could “The Book of Judith.” In never directly alter destiny this version, Holofernes has by myself, was frightening. besieged Judith’s city. Unable The quiet message that you to watch his people die of cannot just be, but must thirst and starvation, the become a wife and mother, local leader, Uzziah, makes instead, followed me from my a public demand that God elementary school classroom help them or he’ll surrender into an ultra-Orthodox high the city to their enemies. It is school where I was taught

that a woman’s role was to rule through whispers and hints, to lead only in the shadows, to speak through the men around whom her life revolves. One teacher told me that women were created in the image of God – but the version of God that did not perform open miracles, the God who preferred to let human beings believe they controlled the narrative.

And yet, still, there was Judith. Judith who takes no orders, who invades a man’s tent and walks out with his head on her pike. Judith who attacks alone, who is neither punished nor silenced.

Judith, who alters the destiny of her people, my people, independently of her generation’s male heroes. Judith, who does the work of the God of open miracles, the God who splits the sea – the God who does not merely influence, but acts.

Every Hanukkah since I learned her story, I do not just commemorate the victory of the small against the mighty, the miracle of a small bottle of oil lasting for eight nights.

I celebrate the human miracle of a Jewish woman defined not by her marriage or children, but by her actions alone.

And I pray that even in the ultra-Orthodox community of my youth, this may cease to be a miracle during my lifetime.

ORA DAMELIN is a Los Angeles based writer, Hebrew School teacher, and amateur baker.

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achel Cohen stared at the full box of candles. Since her parents had separated, getting ready for Chanukah wasn’t the

same. Four candles were broken. Of course.

She chewed on her lower lip.

In the old days, her family had gathered around the kitchen table, and argued about who would light the shammos and who would light the first candle.

“YOU DID IT LAST YEAR,” her twin brother Yakov always insisted.

“No,” Rachel would counter. “I lit the shammos, which is better.”

“No, it’s not. The first candle is best.”

“Children, hush,” their mother, Sarah, would say as she flipped a potato latke. “You’ll disturb your father.”

Their father, Isaac, would be looking at his little book, pretending to mumble prayers, while holding back a smile.

The compromise was always the same. Rachel would light the shammos, which was better, and Yakov would light the first candle, which made him happy too.

This year, her parents lived in different houses, and Chanukah wouldn’t be the same. Rachel didn’t know what to do. She felt small, helpless, and embarrassed.

In the village of Chelm, twelve-year-old Rachel Cohen was known as the smartest young girl, someone whose wisdom was both sought after and respected.

“If you don’t know what to do,” everyone said, “ask Rachel Cohen, and whatever she says, do that!”

Rachel knew that she wasn’t really that brilliant.

But whenever someone asked her a question, she either had the answer, or knew how or where to find it.

“The secret of being wise,” Rabbi Kibbitz had once taught her, “is to listen quietly for as long

as you can without saying anything. Ask a few questions, and then nod your head, and wait until the answer arises. Most of the time, they’ll think of it themselves, and then give you all the credit.”

Rachel nodded her head and asked herself, “But what does a so-called wise person do, when they don’t know the answer?”

She looked around the kitchen, which was also silent.

Then it came to her, and she smiled. * * * The bell over the door to Mrs. Chaipul’s restaurant rang, and without looking up, the elderly woman behind the counter told Rachel, “Your mother’s gone to the market in Smyrna to get potatoes for the latkes.”

“Can we talk?” Rachel asked quietly.

Mrs. Chaipul glanced at the young girl, nodded her head and shouted, “All right, the restaurant is closed until lunch for a health and safety inspection!”

Most of the men finished drinking their tea or coffee, put on their coats and headed to the door.

Reb Cantor the merchant didn’t budge. “I thought you already paid the health and safety inspector.”

“This is for your health and safety,” Mrs. Chaipul told the merchant.

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Reb Cantor smiled, stood, and kissed Rachel on the top of her head as he left the restaurant.

Mrs. Chaipul locked the door behind him, and let Rachel to the table in back, where she’d already placed two cups of hot herbal tea.

The young girl and the old woman sat across from each other, lifted their cups at the same time, and blew. * * * Mrs. Chaipul listened as Rachel explained, “On the first night of Chanukah, our family starts with eight candles ablaze, and then we light one fewer each night. This, my father says, echoes the Maccabees’ fear that the oil in the eternal light might burn out at any moment.

“But on the last night, where there would only be one candle and the shammos, we changed the tradition and light all eight again. For us, the last night is a true celebration of joy. My mother says it’s just nice to have all the extra lights.

“This Chanukah, Yakov and I are supposed to take turns, one night with Mama and the next with Papa. I want things to be the same, but no matter how hard I try to rearrange it, the number of candles always comes out uneven. Plus, four of our candles are already broken, which seems like a sign!”

Rachel waited for Mrs. Chaipul to tell her how to solve the problem.

But Mrs. Chaipul didn’t say anything. She was married to Rabbi Kibbitz, and kept her own name, which is another story.

She’d often chided her husband that it was better to keep your mouth shut than to put your foot into it.

Rachel sighed. She sipped her tea.

Then she smiled, and nodded. She suddenly knew what to do. “Thank you, Mrs. Chaipul. I need to hurry and buy more candles.”

Mrs. Chaipul gave Rachel a hug. “I didn’t do anything. But I wish you well.”

Rachel ran from the restaurant, and Mrs. Chaipul reopened the front door

for the lunch crowd. * * * That year, Rachel Cohen changed their tradition again.

“Whether we are with mother or father,” she told her brother, “instead of lighting eight or seven or one, each night we will take turns lighting all eight Chanukah candles.”

Yakov was upset. “So many candles seems wasteful. And that isn’t the way Chanukah is supposed to be celebrated!”

“Everything changes,” Rachel said, “and it’s up to us to make it new again.

This way, the time we spend together will be even brighter.”

“All right.” Yakov shrugged. “But I light the first candle.”

“You did it last time.”

Rachel smiled. “But that’s fine. Lighting the shammos is better...”

THE END

IZZY ABRAHMSON is the author of “Winter Blessings” and “The Village Twins.” He’s also a pen name for storyteller Mark Binder. Find the books on Amazon, Audible with signed copies and links to the audio version of this story at IzzyAbe.com and MarkBinderBooks.com NOTES: A shammos is the candle that is used as a match to light the other candles. Latkes are deep fried potato pancakes, delicious! While most people follow the tradition of Rabbi Hillel, and light one candle the first night of Chanukah and adding candles, the followers of Rabbi Shammai start with eight and work their way down. Rachel Cohen is not yet a rabbi, but who knows what the future will bring.

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New Hanukkah forever stamp dedicated

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EW YORK CITY – Temple Emanu-El was host to a dedication ceremony on

Oct. 20 for the U.S. Postal Service’s vibrant new Hanukkah stamp.

LORI DYM, U.S. Postal Service managing counsel for procurement and property law, opened the dedication ceremony by saying, “On behalf of the 655,000 men and women of the United States Postal Service, I am honored to participate in the unveiling of our new stamp celebrating this joyous Jewish holiday.”

Dym was joined by Susan Krantz, president of Temple Emanu-El; Rabbi Matt Cohen; Jeanette Kuvin Oren, the stamp’s designer and artist; and others.

“Temple Emanu-El is honored that the United States Postal Service approached our congregation to host the first-day-of-issue cer-

emony for the launch of the 2022 Hanukkah stamp,” Krantz said.

Cohen said, “While our Hanukkah menorahs are not yet kindled, this communal celebration reminds us that despite all odds, throughout time and history, the lights of the Jewish people have miraculously continued to grow brightly and illuminate the world with wholeness, blessing and peace.”

The stamp art features a design from an original wall-hanging.

The fiber art was hand-dyed, appliquéd and quilted to form an abstract image of a hanukkiah.

The blue and purple colors represent the sky, while the greens and browns represent the earth.

The bright yellows and oranges represent the Festival of Lights, as Hanukkah is also known.

Along the bottom of the stamp, the words Hanukkah, Forever and USA appear in white capital letters.

News of the stamp is being shared on social media with the hashtag #HanukkahStamp.

Followers of the Postal Service’s

Facebook page can view the stamp’s story at facebook.com/ usps.

Customers may purchase stamps and other philatelic products at usps.com/shopstamps, by calling 844-737-7826, or at post offices nationwide.

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(JTA) – A BBC article about an attack on a bus full of Jewish students celebrating Hanukkah last year contained “significant editorial failings,” according to a report released by the British government’s media regulator on Nov. 7.

Last November, the bus was driving along London’s Oxford Street when it was accosted by a group of men who made obscene gestures and remarks and reportedly threw a shopping basket at the bus ridThe BBC failed ers. The BBC reported that an audio recordto promptly ing from the incident contained anti-Muslim acknowledge that the slurs coming from someone on the bus. audio was disputed…

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Some Israelis seeking pure olive oil for their menorahs are being scammed

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ERUSALEM (JTA) – In a supermarket here, Ohad David made a beeline for the most expensive olive oil in the store.

He took three bottles of the award-winning Midnight Coratina brand,

which goes for about $3 per ounce. It has “medium potency, green fruitiness and a green-leaf, grassy bouquet,” according to its description on the website of Ptora, the boutique olive oil factory that makes it.

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BUT DAVID, a 40-year-old their menorahs. insurance agent and father “The temptation to of five, did not buy the oil deceive customers is trefor its taste. mendous,” Rabbi Moshe Like thousands of OrthoBiegel, an expert on Israel’s dox Jewish consumers Kosher certification induswho buy premium olive oil try, wrote in a 2020 essay ahead of Hanukkah, David on the olive-oil sector in purchased $160 of the stuff Israel. only to burn it in a menoIsraeli authorities perrah. form inspections on dozens Observant Israelis of brands each year around increasingly like to use Hanukkah, and often find olive oil in their hanukkiah, that oil advertised as pure or menorah, instead of wax candles ‘Israeli olive oil was because of its significance in the holiday’s on average double the story. Hanukkah is a celebration of how price of its European the Maccabees, after defeating the Greeks, counterparts in 2019.’ were able to light the hanukkiah in the temple in Jerusalem contains up to 50% canola for eight days with a oneor soy oil. But, despite fines day supply of oil –believed and naming the offenders to be of the olive variety. online, the phenomenon “Using olive oil for persists.

Hanukkah candles is not For David and others in required by halakhah [Jewhis community, the soluish law], but in our commution is to stick to boutique nities everybody does it,” brands, no matter the cost.

David said.

“You know there’s no Those who do so want monkey business because only 100% pure olive oil to to them it’s a matter of use in their menorahs – pride, so there’s a high level and that has become more of transparency and trust,” expensive in Israel over David said. time because of tariffs on He said he discovered imports and the rising Ptora during a family trip demand. to the northern Negev In response, some prodesert, where the factory ducers dilute their olive and groves are located, oil with cheaper vegetable about 30 miles southwest of oils, without disclosing all Jerusalem. of the ingredients, and lure Like many boutique olive consumers in with lower factories in Israel, Ptora prices. The product can offers tours and tastings still be considered Kosher, to increase their brand but it is unacceptable for recognition. the observant Jews who “The place is magical,” want only pure olive oil in Hani Ashkenazi, owner of

the Jerusalem Olive Oil factory, said about the Ptora groves. He is technically a competitor, but the two companies cooperate on some projects to leverage their respective strengths.

The olive is a national symbol tied closely to the country’s broader agricultural history – it is even depicted in the official emblem of Israel.

In 2019, Israel’s Ministry of Agriculture found that Israeli olive oil was on average double the price of its European counterparts, costing about 9 euros (roughly $10) in Israel per liter compared to 5 euros throughout much of the European Union. Israel employs a protectionist customs policy meant to level the playing field for local producers.

Both production and demand are rising steadily in Israel, a 2020 report from the ministry shows. About 30,000 tons of olive oil are sold in Israel annually, of which about 12,000 are imported. In comparison, the average annual production between 1990 to 2010 was 5,000 tons. The average for the past decade has been 16,000 tons annually.

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Above, Adam Greenman and Juju Chang in conversation. At right, Harris Chorney thanks the crowd.

PROVIDENCE – Journalist Juju Chang brought her insights on antisemitism and Asian hate to the Alliance’s Dwares Jewish Community Center on Nov. 20, when she spoke at the Annual Campaign Thank You event.

More than 120 people gathered in the JCC’s Social Hall to hear Chang discuss her Jewish journey, the rise in antisemitism, Asian hate, and bits and pieces from her 35 years in the news industry.

Chang, co-anchor of ABC’s “Nightline,” has worked hard to give a voice to marginalized communities, is active in AAPI [Asian-American Pacific Islander] advocacy and has served on the board of her synagogue in New York City.

Born in Korea, Chang was raised an atheist in California.

The Stanford University graduate said, “I came to New York with advice from my antisemitic father to ‘watch out for the Jews.’

I promptly fell in love with a nice Jewish man. I told him I’d never convert.”

But after seven years of courtship and five years of marriage, she did convert. She and husband, Neal Shapiro, have three sons, who have been raised Jewish.

Chang said that during her decades in the news industry,

she’s seen “a tonal shift.”

“I like to remind people that we [at ABC News] have lawyers who look at every word we say. It’s different in cable news. There is regular news and the opinion page [mostly evening shows]. That’s a distinction that’s often lost on people.”

On rising hate incidents against Asians, she said, “This has nothing to do with the [COVID] virus and everything to do with fear.

The Jewish community knows this well.”

Chang suggested that building community, as the Jewish Alliance of Greater Rhode Island strives to do, is one way to combat hate and increase understanding.

She pointed out that both the Jewish and the Asian communities are quite diverse, and said both communities need to make all members feel welcome.

At the end of Chang’s talk, Alliance President and CEO Adam Greenman asked her several Jewish-oriented questions in a “lightning round” modeled on his popular “Chutzpah!” podcast. It turns out that Chang likes matzah ball soup, bagels with lox, and Passover – but she would add kimchi to the seder plate.

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Holocaust survivor recalls the horrors of Kristallnacht

BY FRAN OSTENDORF PROVIDENCE – Ruth Oppenheim was only 9 years old when the men in her small town in Germany went on a rampage, dragging her father out of the house and terrifying her mother and siblings.

It was Nov. 9, 1938, known as Kristallnacht or the Night of Broken Glass.

More than 160 people gathered in the social hall of the Alliance’s Dwares Jewish Community Center on the 84th anniversary of that fateful night to listen to Oppenheim tell her story.

She lived with her mother, father, two sisters and brother in northern Germany, near the Dutch border. She was one of the fortunate few on Kristallnacht – her father came back after a few hours, bloody and beaten, and he carried the shul’s Torah, which the family was able to hide.

The family was eventually able to get visas to go to the United States, by way of Holland, and were on the last passenger ship allowed out of Rotterdam. The Torah ended up at a congregation in Morningside Heights, New York,

according to Oppenheim, 95.

She characterized those last years in Germany as an “era of utter despair.”

“People often ask me if I think this could happen here in the United States,” she said. “Several years ago, I answered emphatically no.

After the attack on the Capitol, I’m not so sure anymore.”

Oppenheim speaks about her experiences to school groups, adult groups and others so that nobody forgets.

She recently spoke to the Barrington Police Department, and she’s spoken at the U.S. Naval War College, in

Newport.

“To keep the memories alive is to struggle for a better future,” she said.

The evening opened with a Yiddish melody sung by Cantor Judith Seplowin of Temple Beth-El, in Providence. Ralph Posner, a Holocaust survivor, introduced Oppenheim. The two have known each other for many years. Posner’s father was also arrested on Kristallnacht, though they lived in different places.

Then, Posner’s father and Oppenheim’s husband worked together after both immigrated to the United States.

Students and facilitators discuss the speech, above and right.

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At the end of the hourlong program, Cantor Brian Mayer, of Temple Emanu-El, in Providence, chanted the El Malei Rachamim, the traditional memorial prayer.

The event was sponsored by the Sandra Bornstein Holocaust Education Center in partnership with Temple Emanu-El and Temple Beth-El. FRAN OSTENDORF (fostendorf@jewishallianceri. org) is the editor of Jewish Rhode Island.

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Sweet! Ricotta fritters are perfect for Hanukkah

BY LEANNE SHOR I KNOW THAT sufganiyot – jelly doughnuts – are traditional and beloved for Hanukkah. But I feel confident that once you try these easy and incredibly delicious ricotta fritters, you will become a fan.

And, I confess, I have actually never loved traditional sufganiyot. Sometimes our family made our own, or we bought them from local bakeries, but we were usually left feeling that they were kind of

meh. They were always a bit too bread-y and heavy.

Around 10 years ago, my sister enlightened us all with these perfectly crisp, round fritters. They’re light and creamy, with a hint of fresh lemon zest.

The batter comes together in just five minutes, and it is as easy as making pancakes! We love to warm up some of my mom’s homemade jellies and jams for dipping.

Since these fritters are at their absolute best when they’re fresh, I like to fry

them up while I make tea after the holiday meal. The wow-factor of fresh fritters is incomparable!

Our guests also love the deconstructed sufganiyot because it’s unexpected and gets people talking. I serve them with a variety of warm jellies like pomegranate, peach and blackberry.

If you should happen to have any fritters left over, you can store them in a paper bag for 1-2 days at room temperature.

Lemon Ricotta Fritters INGREDIENTS 4-6 cups canola oil, for frying 4 eggs 2 cups whole milk ricotta cheese 1/3 cup granulated sugar 2 1/2 teaspoons pure vanilla extract 1 1/2 cups all-purpose flour 1/2 teaspoon Kosher salt 4 teaspoons baking powder 2 teaspoons freshly grated lemon zest 1/2 cup powdered sugar 1 cup jam or jelly (I love pomegranate, peach and blackberry, but feel free to use whatever jam/jams you like)

DIRECTIONS Heat the oil in a large pot on medium heat until it reaches 365 degrees F. While the oil is heating, combine in a large bowl the eggs, ricotta, sugar and vanilla extract. Whisk to thoroughly combine. In a medium bowl, combine the flour, salt, baking powder and lemon zest, whisking to thoroughly mix.

Pour the dry ingredients into the wet ingredients and stir with a spoon until

the batter just comes together and there are no lumps of flour.

If you don’t have a candy thermometer, you can check if the oil is hot enough by placing a wooden spoon in the hot oil. If small bubbles immediately form around the spoon, the oil is hot enough. When the oil has come to temperature, use a #40 cookie scoop (2 tablespoons) to carefully scoop the batter into the hot oil, without crowding the pot.

Cook for about 2-3 minutes per side, until deep golden brown. Check the first fritter that you remove from the oil to make sure the inside is cooked.

Use a slotted spoon or metal spider to remove the fritters and any excess oil, then transfer to paper towels to drain.

Dust with powdered sugar.

In a small pan, heat the jam or jelly until it becomes liquid, then transfer to a serving bowl.

Serve immediately for best results.

This story was originally published in The Nosher, at www.myjewishlearning.com.

Have a little fun with those latkes and try them for brunch

BY SHANNON SARNA THESE LATKES are both creamy and savory. Making latkes bite-size makes the experience a little more fun – guests can easily eat the latkes with their fingers, and also feel like they can indulge a little more since the portions are small.

Yield: 12-15 latkes

Everything Bagel Latkes With Dill Cream Cheese and Smoked Salmon INGREDIENTS For the latkes: 4 Idaho (Russet) potatoes 1 small-medium onion 3 large garlic cloves 2 eggs 2 to 3 tablespoons flour 2 teaspoons salt 2 ounces goat cheese, left at room temperature For the cream cheese: 6 ounces cream cheese, left at room temperature 2 tablespoons chopped fresh dill 1 teaspoon fresh lemon juice Salt and pepper to taste

For the everything bagel topping: 1 tablespoon sesame seeds 1 tablespoon poppy seeds 1 tablespoon dried minced garlic 1 tablespoon dried onion 2 teaspoons thick sea salt Thinly sliced smoked salmon Vegetable oil for frying

DIRECTIONS Before getting started on the latkes, make the everything bagel topping and the dill cream cheese.

Add softened cream cheese to a bowl and combine with fresh dill, lemon juice and salt and pepper to taste.

Place back in the fridge until ready to serve.

To make the everything bagel topping, mix together the sesame seeds, poppy seeds, dried garlic, dried onion and thick

sea salt. Set aside.

Peel and cut potatoes and onions in half.

Peel garlic cloves.

Place potatoes, onion and garlic through food processor for a coarse grate (you can also grate coarsely by hand).

Place potato mixture to a large bowl. Add eggs, flour, salt, goat cheese and 2 tablespoons everything bagel topping mix.

Heat vegetable oil in a large saute pan over medium heat. Form

bite-sized mounds of latkes, taking care not to squeeze too much liquid out of the latkes.

Fry until golden brown on each side, then place on a wire rack on top of a baking sheet to cool.

Immediately sprinkle with a pinch of salt.

When ready to serve, spread thin layer of dill cream cheese on top of each latke. Add smoked salmon on each latke and top with sprinkle of everything bagel topping. Serve while still warm.

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Crowd-pleasing Filipino lumpia blends traditions

BY ABBY RICARTE THE MOST DELICIOUS, comforting recipes are often the simplest, especially if they come with a bushel of history and soul.

My Jewish husband’s grandmother (Grandma Esta) made the best brisket I’ve ever tasted. I know that these might be fighting words, but hear me out.

It was complex, sweet and tender – everything that Grandma Esta embodied. I was honored that she passed down her recipe to me, but also surprised that the world’s best brisket could pretty much be made with only carrots and onions.

My Filipina mother makes the best lumpia.

Hands down. Lumpia is a Filipino spring roll filled with meat, or vegetables, skillfully

rolled up and fried to golden perfection.

My earliest food memories include platters of lumpia at family parties, which relatives raved about as my mom basked in the compliments.

Preparing for parties typically meant that my mom would make the filling ahead of time. Eventually, I would lose many of my weekend mornings to hours of rolling lumpia from that never-ending bowl of filling.

I had no idea what was in the filling. It wasn’t until I was an adult, throwing my own parties, that I was able to pull back the curtain on the mysterious, world’s-best lumpia recipe – simply by calling my mom and asking.

After Rosh Hashanah, when I have leftover brisket in

my fridge and guests coming over, my first thought is, let’s turn this into lumpia!

Lumpia is always a crowd-pleaser, and it can be fried ahead and served at room temperature.

My brisket lumpia was merely a quick Filipinx/Jewish experiment, but it tasted so wonderful and so familiar – I had forgotten that my mom’s lumpia’s recipe is really mostly carrots and onions, just like Grandma Esta’s brisket.

As I look forward to creating my own special Jewish home with my husband, I’m comforted by these unexpected connections between his family and my own.

This story was originally published in The Nosher, at www.myjewishlearning.com.

Lumpia INGREDIENTS 1 cup raw walnuts 2 yellow onions, roughly chopped 1 carrot, roughly chopped 2 tablespoons neutral oil (i.e., avocado, grapeseed, vegetable) plus about ½ cup more for shallow frying 1 pound ground beef 1 teaspoon of salt (plus more to taste) 1 packet spring roll pastry (found in the freezer aisle at Asian grocery stores, see note) Store-bought sweet chili sauce for dipping

DIRECTIONS For the filling, pulse walnuts, onions and carrot in a food processor until finely minced.

Heat 2 tablespoons of oil in a large wok or sauté pan over medium high heat.

Add vegetable mixture and sauté for 2 minutes.

Add ground beef to the pan and combine thoroughly. Cook until beef is just brown and there is no more red. Add salt to taste.

Remove the filling from the pan and set aside to cool.

To roll the lumpia, place a single pastry sheet on a cutting board or clean counter.

Point one corner towards you so that the sheet is positioned like a diamond. Add about two teaspoons of the cooled filling to the lower triangle that is closest to you. Use your fingers to shape the filling into a log.

Pull the bottom corner up and over the filling and roll tightly, tucking in the sides like a burrito. Use a dab of water on your finger to seal the final edge. Repeat to roll the rest of the lumpia.

Add enough oil to a large wok or pan over medium high heat so that it is about a ½-inch deep. Gently heat the oil and then fry the lumpia until golden brown.

Serve lumpia with a side of sweet chili sauce for dipping.

Note: You can find spring roll pastry for this recipe in the freezer aisle at Asian food markets. It is similar to phyllo dough, but not the same as egg roll wrappers.

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OPINION Delightful story

Dianne Izzo Newport, RI

Keep speaking out EXCELLENT EDITORIAL (November 2022). With the midterms , people voted and expressed what they want and do not want. We must continue to persevere and value our democracy. We must speak out and, as you said, silence is not acceptable.

Thank you.

Miriam Plitt Pawtucket, RI

IN THE NEWS

YEHUDA AMICHAI (1924-2000) is Israel’s best-known contemporary poet; his work has been translated into 40 languages. In my bookcase stand several of Amichai’s volumes in the Hebrew original and several additional volumes in English translation.

One of my favorites among Amichai’s several hundred poems can be titled in English as “A Poem about a Lie on Erev Shabbat.” The poem is not one of Amichai’s best-known works; it is not easy to find among the many collections of his writings in English translation. Nevertheless, I have long been attracted to this poem about a lie because of its tension between innocence and sophistication: “One erev Shabbat, at twilight of a summer’s day … / I began, in my youth, to lie to my father: / ‘I went to another synagogue.’ ” Amichai goes on to confess, “I don’t know if he believed me or not.”

It could well be that his father had asked him at the Shabbat dinner table, “Why didn’t I see you at shul earlier this evening?”

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Perhaps he chose to accept his son’s lie as an awkward and obvious cover for his youthful rebellion, his age-appropriate need to defy his father: “You can’t make me go to shul if I don’t want to.”

Whatever his father’s unspoken motives for not confronting his son, the young Amichai found that “the taste of that lie was good and sweet in my mouth.” And the poet carried within him the sweet taste of that lie well into middle age, never knowing for sure how his father interpreted his words, RABBI JAMES “I went to another ROSENBERG synagogue.”

Amichai concludes his poem by looking back with a sense of bittersweet ambiguity and maybe a touch of regret: “And ever since then that lie is good and sweet in my mouth / and ever since then I always go to another synagogue. / But my father returned the lie to me when he died: ‘I have gone to another life.’ ” On Nov. 2, 1997, Amichai spoke at the inaugural William G. Braude lecture at Temple Beth-El, in Providence. At the event, Amichai read

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WHAT A DELIGHT it was to read the story of Dick Shapiro (November 2022) – and to watch the video – which I learned of from the emailed newsletter Inside Jewish Rhode Island.

The writing, editing and photography were all wonderful, befitting the character himself, who made me laugh out loud with his witty and truthful remarks.

Please thank all persons involved and keep up the good work.

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several of his better-known poems, many of which reflect the poet’s ongoing lover’s quarrel with his father and with the God of his father.

Poems like “God Takes Pity on Kindergarten Children,” which begins, “God takes pity on kindergarten children, / less pity on school children / and on adults no pity at all.”

And he read poems such as “El Malei Rachamim,” (“God Full of Mercy”), which stands the traditional prayer of mourning and memory on its head: “God full of mercy, / were it not for the God full of mercy, there would be mercy in the world / and not only in Him.” During the Q&A period following Amichai’s reading, I had the opportunity to ask the poet, “Are you still carrying on a lover’s quarrel with God?” To which Amichai responded, without batting an eyelash: “I still haven’t worked out my relationship with my father.”

JAMES B. ROSENBERG is a rabbi emeritus at Temple Habonim, in Barrington. Contact him at rabbiemeritus@templehabonim.org.

Passengers get payout (JTA) – Nearly seven months after they were denied boarding in Frankfurt, a group of more than 100 Hasidic Lufthansa passengers are getting paid for their troubles.

The airline is paying each passenger $20,000 plus giving them $1,000 to reimburse them for expenses incurred during the May incident, according to Dan’s Deals, the discount travel website that first reported the incident at the time.

After legal fees and some other expenses, each passenger will net approximately $17,400, the site is reporting.

Lufthansa would not confirm the dollar figures but told the Jewish Telegraphic Agency that it is seeking to settle with each of the affected passengers, capping a series of conciliatory responses to the incident.

“Although we are not commenting on the details, we can confirm that Lufthansa endeavors to settle the claims with all of the passengers denied boarding on May 4th, 2022,” the company said in a statement.

That date was when airline agents in Frankfurt barred many Jewish travelers coming from New York City from boarding their connecting flight to Budapest, citing the fact that some of the passengers were not wearing masks, as was required at the time. But that rule was applied inconsistently, passengers said at the time, and a Lufthansa supervisor was caught on video speaking disparagingly about Jewish passengers as a group.

Be more like Beit Shammai and Beit Hillel

BY ELIHAY SKITAL ONE ELECTION, then another one, and another one.

The first time I was able to vote was on April 9, 2019. I remember how excited I was. I was already a soldier, and I was voting in my uniform, which gave it a double meaning for me.

However, the excitement didn’t last very long. The second time I voted was just five months later, and I was still in my army service, and still excited, just a little bit less.

In the two years and eight months that I served in the IDF (the Israeli army), I voted four times – though normally Israel’s elections happen once every four years.

Those elections made Israeli society very divisive. In the past, when you asked an Israeli what he or she means by “us,” the answer was

pretty clear: “us” is the Israeli society, us is the Jewish people around the world, and us is the people of Israel. Even when there were big controversies, we were all united.

Now there is me, not us. We have lost some of the unity that kept us so strong, and we have to find a way to become “us” again.

Hanukkah is coming very soon, and the holiday sparked a very famous disagreement between Beit Shammai and Beit Hillel, rival schools of thought 2,000 years ago.

Beit Shammai held the opinion that on the first night of Hanukkah, eight candles should be lit, and then each night, we should decrease the number of candles. Beit Hillel thought the opposite, starting with one candle and finishing with eight, to increase the holiness.

That is one of many examples of disagreements between Beit

Shammai and Beit Hillel – however, it didn’t change the respect they had for each other. Although they had a lot of disagreements, they were following the phrase vehaemet vehaShalom ahavu – therefore you must love honesty and peace (Zechariah 8:19).

Each side respected the other side; they understood that it was important to follow the rules of Judaism the way they believed, but unity and peace between all was more important. They understood that they didn’t have all the truth, and that they all needed to thrive to connect and bring peace.

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OPINION From the president

No one should stand alone A FEW WEEKS AGO, in the dark of night, antisemites spread their hatred around Warwick and North Providence. Hundreds of leaflets were littered throughout neighborhoods, spreading antisemitic vitriol and putting a new spin on conspiracy theories that have existed for millennia.

This is not the first time that this has happened. Just last month, a similar group of antisemites, who came from out of state, scattered the same hate through neighborhoods in Newport and North Providence. In the last few months, we’ve seen antisemitic incidents take place at Jewish institutions, online, and perhaps most concerning, in schools. Unfortunately, our Jewish community knows all too well the danger that comes as these incidents become more frequent.

Antisemitic incidents reached an all-time high in the United States in 2021, with a total of 2,717 incidents of assault, harassment and vandalism reported to the Anti-Defamation League (ADL). This represents the highest number of incidents on record since ADL began tracking antisemitic incidents in 1979 – an average of more than seven incidents per day and a 34% increase year over year.

At the Jewish Alliance of Greater Rhode Island, we track antisemitic incidents in our region. Since June, there have been 25 reported incidents. Over the same

period last year, there were only six. What was once rare and concerning has become too routine, and alarming.

What was once a statistic has become for many in our community, too personal. For my family, it became personal when our daughter heard a fellow middle-school student say, “Kanye was right about the Jews.” This must stop, but our Jewish community cannot stop this on our own.

Throughout the Torah there is a word uttered by major figures in biblical history. It is uttered by Abraham, Jacob and Moses as an answer to God. It is the Hebrew word, “Hineni,” which translates to, “Here I am.” At the Jewish Alliance, Hineni is one of our core values. To us, it means standing with others, so no one stands alone.

Our Jewish community needs all of Rhode Island to say Hineni. We need everyone in Rhode Island to stand with us so we do not stand alone.

We need elected leaders, business leaders, community leaders, and everyday Rhode Islanders to call out antisemitism. The Jewish community is only 2% of Rhode Island’s population, so we cannot fight this hate on our own.

There are many ways for you to encourage your non-Jewish friends to support our community. When they see or hear an antisemitic act, it should be reported to law enforcement or to the Jewish Alliance. If people

feel comfortable doing so, the antisemitism should be called out in the moment, or recorded. People can also educate themselves about the long history of antisemitism and hatred. There are many resources on this at antisemitism.adl.org, and at the Sandra Bornstein Holocaust Education Center. Finally, encourage people to join you for a Jewish community event. Whether it is something at a local synagogue or at the Dwares JCC, a Shabbat dinner or a PJ Library story hour, help others see the joy of our community.

Nearly 400 years ago Roger Williams came to Rhode Island fleeing religious persecution. Since then, our state has been a place where religious freedom is a core value.

It is a state that includes the first Baptist Church of America and America’s oldest synagogue. For hundreds of years, Rhode Island has been a place where the Jewish community has felt safe. Where it has thrived and flourished. In this moment of deep concern, we ask all Rhode Islanders to say Hineni, to stand with us, so we can stamp out hate, and so we can all stand together.

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officially traveling alone, I never was alone. There are also many Facebook and WhatsApp groups for Israelis to share information, get advice, or just to ask for help. You feel like you’re in a community, one with so many people who just want to have a great time – and make sure that you do too. This was so important to me. I felt like I was home so far away from home.

Elections can bring out a lot of hate, and I ask all Jews to not forget about the “us.” To be more like Israelis in South America, to remember that we are all one big family.

I ask that we be more like Beit Shammai and Beit Hillel.

It’s OK to have disagreements, but it’s not OK to forget what love is.

Hanukkah is the time of the year when we celebrate our Judaism and the miracle.

We light candles and we sing together, eat sufganiyot and latkes, and dance together. It’s the time to connect again, not just within your family, but with everyone.

And just like the miracle, I hope this light and love will stay for many years.

the army, and the majority travel in South America and Asia.

I had decided to be a staff member at a summer camp in Pennsylvania after my army service, and then I continued to travel for a few more months. I mention this because in South America there is a little bit of a utopia.

When you go there, the minute you meet an Israeli, you become best friends, regardless of your political beliefs, age or any other differences.

Every Friday night you meet new people who become your friends; you all buy food together and make a great Friday dinner. So while I was

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ADAM GREENMAN is the President & CEO of the Jewish Alliance of Greater Rhode Island

Chag Hanukkah sameach!

ELIHAY SKITAL is the Israeli shaliach (emissary) at the Jewish Alliance of Greater Rhode Island.

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IN 1961, Murray’s Discount House opened its doors on North Main Street in Providence. The store sold a range of household and luxury gifts for at least two decades. Some Rhode Islanders even remember buying their wedding rings at the store. The building, located just a few blocks from the Pawtucket border, has since turned into a laser dermatology center, and memories of Murray’s are hazy. But the store’s motto is timeless: “We may look expensive, but our price tags… give us away.”

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New rabbi brings a rich history and plans for the future to Sha’arei Tefilla

BY SARAH GREENLEAF

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liezer Marcus, who became the rabbi at Sha’arei Tefilla, in Providence, this past August, comes from a family of rabbis.

“MY FATHER WAS A congregational rabbi in Toronto, Canada, for many years. So I was born and raised in that type of home where that was something I always aspired to,” Marcus, 35, said.

“I guess my father miraculously made the rabbinate look like something attractive that a young Jewish boy should want to do. He pulled that off somehow, right?” he said with a laugh.

While growing up in his Orthodox home, Marcus went through the Orthodox school system in Toronto.

After attending various yeshivot there, he studied in Israel for a few years. While he was there, right after his 20th birthday, his father passed away.

Marcus returned to Toronto, where he studied at the Institute for Advanced Judaic Studies for seven years. Then, he moved his family to Buffalo, New York, where he was the rabbi at Young Israel of Greater Buffalo for six years.

His father, Rabbi Raphael Marcus, led Congregation B’nai Torah, in Toronto, for over two decades.

“He had a very intuitive sense with people, you

Rabbi Eliezer Marcus know, understanding them and feeling what Marcus chose to relocate they need. I think that’s to Providence because it what made him very sucbalanced a small city with cessful as a rabbi,” Marcus robust Jewish infrastrucsaid. “I think, as a child, ture. that makes an impression At Sha’arei Tefilla, “The on you, somebody who school, the Yeshiva, the really has a phenomenal [New England] Rabbinical grasp of human nature, College, that seemed attraca very deep understandtive to us,” he said. “And ing of people – and that’s so far, I see people are nice something that you want to people over here.” implement in your life and Marcus said he enjoys building relationships.” connecting with people Rabbi Marcus credits both and making a meaningful his parents for instilling in difference in their lives. him the value of building That is “the most enriching relationships. experience of being a rabbi,” “My mother actually he said. comes from a long line “The truth is, I can’t say of, you know, a famous that it’s one particular rabbinic family,” he said. moment in time. I think “And if you’ve heard of the it’s a collage of things, you Soloveitchik name, Joseph know, an accumulation over Ber Soloveitchik was my time when you work with great-uncle.” somebody, and you feel that Ber Soloveitchik, also you made a difference in known as “The Rav,” came their life. I would say that’s from a long line of rabbis something that I appreciate, and began the Maimonides if I’m blessed to have that School, in Boston, with his opportunity.” wife, Tonya Soloveitchik, In his new role at the before becoming the head Orthodox Sha’arei Tefilla, of the Rabbi Isaac Elchanan Rabbi Marcus hopes to creTheological Seminary ate more cohesiveness in the (RIETS) at Yeshiva UniverJewish community. sity, in New York City, in “There’s such diversity,” 1941. he said, “but sometimes if

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it’s not channeled properly, you can end up feeling like you don’t really belong anywhere.”

He is also interested in growing the Orthodox community and keeping Jewish families in the city.

“Listen, within the Orthodox community, quite a number of families have moved out over the last three years or so,” he said.

“So, I’d like to try to stem that tide.”

When not acting in his official capacity, Marcus said he enjoys getting outdoors with his family.

He and his wife, Baila, have 8 children, ranging in age from 5 months to 12 years.

“I love going to state parks,” he said. “You know, looking for animals, things like that. Just taking my kids to a nice, deserted area with water and trees. I love nature.”

Marcus is also a history buff, “much to my wife’s chagrin,” he said, reminiscing about the early years of their marriage and the numerous summer trips to Gettysburg, Pennsylvania.

“My poor wife,” he said, as he described driving around

the Gettysburg military park and stopping the car every few feet to jump out and look at a statue or read a plaque. Marcus thanked ha-Shem for his wife and her tolerance numerous times throughout the interview.

In addition to learning more about his new congregation and connecting with people, Rabbi Marcus said he is looking forward to “bringing more people together in a way that makes everybody comfortable, enriched and proud of their Jewish heritage.”

SARAH GREENLEAF (sgreenleaf@ jewishallianceri.org) is the digital marketing specialist for the Jewish Alliance of Greater Rhode Island and writes for Jewish Rhode Island.

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Jewish Rhody Media launches podcast on multifaith relationships

BY FRAN OSTENDORF

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ntermarriage. It’s been whispered about for years. Who we marry

and their faith or spirituality can divide families and communities. But intermarriage is growing.

“BREAKING THE GLASS,” a new six-episode podcast from Jewish Rhody Media, will explore multifaith relationships. With religious engagement in decline and polarization becoming more common, podcast producer and host Emma Newbery talked to people who are making these relationships work despite challenges, and

Emma Newbery the experts who are helping to carve out new communities of understanding.

“We don’t want to present multifaith partnerships as something happening parallel to the Jewish experience – they are a crucial piece of it, and they aren’t going anywhere. In the U.S., the rates of multifaith marriage among Jews who are not Orthodox hover around 72% in the last decade. More and more Americans are marrying outside of their religion,” Newbery said.

“In highlighting the voices of couples, faith leaders and community advocates for the inclusion of multifaith couples in religious life, our

goal is to not only validate and share the experiences of our guests, but also to break any silence or sense of taboo around the subject of multifaith relationships and family constellations.”

It’s a subject that is near and dear to Newbery. She grew up in a progressive Reform Jewish community in Brooklyn, New York.

Her Jewish mother and Episcopalian father raised Newbery and her sister in a community where many of her friends had multifaith parents. Yet she encountered many of the same issues of intolerance faced by the couples she interviewed in “Breaking the Glass.”

“Within my family, we would talk a lot about the different religions and cultures in our household, but among the larger community, I kept it to myself,” she said.

“So, many years later, when it came time to do this project, it was very cathartic for me personally – and I hope for our team [at Jewish Rhody Media] as well – to coax some of these stories out of each other as we were learning from our series guests about their moments of frustration, growth or joy.”

“Breaking the Glass” has been a year in the making, during which Newbery said she went through a process of learning and unlearning.

“The first thing I learned is that there is no one understanding of what it means to be ‘multifaith.’ We had to set a scope for the series so that it wasn’t sprawling, but I’m glad we were able to capture the ways in which couples, families and leaders are pushing at the edges of more traditional definitions in religious life.”

The project involved input from a team at the Jewish Alliance of Greater Rhode Island and experts who are fea-

tured in the series, including Denise Handlarski, a Humanistic Jewish rabbi with an online multifaith community, and Edmund Case, founder of The Center for Radically Inclusive Judaism and an advocate for multifaith families in their Jewish engagement.

Also featured in the series are local interfaith couples and clergy from several faiths.

Newbery said she hopes the series will help those in relationships, or associated with those in a relationship, to understand their experiences.

“My greatest hope for the series is that someone who I didn’t interview – who I’ve

never spoken to – listens to it and hears pieces of themselves and their experiences in it. The array of stories we have in the series and the intricacies of these couples and individuals demonstrates the richness and variation of ‘interfaith’ or ‘multifaith.’ ” Listen to the first three

episodes of “Breaking the Glass” now at jewishrhody. org or where you get your podcasts. Watch for the next episode on Dec. 15.

FRAN OSTENDORF (fostendorf@jewishallianceri. org) is the editor of Jewish Rhode Island.

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BY JEWISH ALLIANCE STAFF DAVID MANDELBAUM is proud to say that he comes from a generous family – a family that knows the true meaning of tzedakah (righteousness/charitable giving). His grandfather gave to all who asked – sometimes perhaps more than he could afford.

His mother, Judy, always welcomed another person to her Shabbat or holiday table.

And his Uncle Victor gave generously to many causes.

Judy’s Kindness Kitchen, a Sunday soup kitchen named in memory of David’s mother, was established in November 2004 as a program of Congregation Beth Sholom, in Providence.

Today, more than 900 meals are prepared every week at the Alliance’s Dwares Jewish Community Center and delivered to Crossroads Rhode Island, Emmanuel House and The Rescue Mission Homeless Shelters in Providence.

When Mandelbaum told his uncle, Victor Werber, Judy’s brother, about this program, Werber immediately wrote a check for $5,000, and then repeated the gift every year. To make sure that his support continued long after his passing, he also included Judy’s Kindness Kitchen in his estate plans.

Upon his passing, Beth Sholom received a bequest to establish the Uncle Victor

Werber Fund for Judy’s Kindness Kitchen. By doing this, Werber ensured that the program named after his beloved sister will be supported in perpetuity.

This new fund joined Beth Sholom’s existing endowment fund at the Jewish Federation Foundation.

Judy’s Kindness Kitchen has become a core program of the congregation.

Beth Sholom co-president Marvin Stark stated, “It is a well-known saying that the world’s existence relies upon three things: Torah, prayer and chesed [acts of loving kindness]. You only have to spend a couple of minutes watching the volunteers preparing meals at Judy’s Kindness Kitchen to see the joy and camaraderie experienced during this true act of loving kindness. Congregation Beth Sholom could not be prouder to act as a partner in this wonderful endeavor.”

Shortly after helping start this new fund, Mandelbaum and his wife, Alison, established a donor-advised fund at the Jewish Federation Foundation. They already had a donor-advised fund (DAF) with another institution, but also saw the value of investing in the Jewish Federation Foundation.

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Program to explore buried Jerusalem and its implications aboveground

BY LARRY KATZ EXCAVATIONS IN ISRAEL can elicit protests and even lead to threats of war.

I recall a time, decades ago, when I went to visit an American cousin who was spending the summer working on a dig at the City of David archaeological site, immediately south of the Old City in Jerusalem.

As I approached the corner of a building in downtown Jerusalem (at least a mile from the dig), I heard some chaotic noise. Then I turned the corner and almost stumbled into a protest by ultra-Orthodox Jews, who were angry about the dig.

Andrew Lawler writes in his book, “Under Jerusalem: The Buried History of the World’s Most Contested City,” that “Adventurers seeking the Ark of the Covenant nearly plunged two empires into chaos in 1911.

They rattled the Middle East six decades after that. When the mayor opened a new exit to a tunnel along the Western Wall in 1996, more than one hundred people lost their lives .…” In 2001, peace talks collapsed over this underground territory.

On Dec. 14, Lawler will present a Zoom program on the tombs, tunnels and trenches of Jerusalem, sharing stories from his book, which he describes as “the hunt for the Holy City’s past by a strange and colorful mixture of treasure hunters, scholarly clerics, religious extremists, and secular archaeologists.”

As a city revered by more than half the people on Earth, even digs in Jerusalem can be earth-shaking.

Lawler begins his book with an incident that inspired some of Abraham Lincoln’s last words in Ford's Theater: “There is no place I so much desire to see as Jerusalem.”

However, the treatment of

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Jewish graves during that dig sparked international outcries.

Lawler will discuss many such contentious digs and how they have influenced Zionism, Arab nationalism and international conflict, as well as led people from around the world to explore under Jerusalem.

Lawlor’s research was largely funded by the National Geographic Society.

The New Yorker writes, “Lawler’s history tracks both the marvels found underground and the events unfolding above them. ….

Probing excavators’ often partisan motivations, Lawler highlights archeology’s power to shape narratives and its development from a discipline ‘not far removed

from its far older cousin, tomb robbing,’ into a modern tool of nationalist mythmaking.”

In addition to “Under Jerusalem,” Lawler is the author of “The Secret Token: Myth, Obsession, and the Search for the Lost Colony of Roanoke” and “Why Did the Chicken Cross the World?: The Epic Saga of the Bird that Powers Civilization.” His interest in Jerusalem was sparked by an archaeology conference at Brown University over a decade ago.

The free program will take place on Wednesday, Dec. 14, at 7 p.m. on Zoom. It will be hosted by Elihay Skital, Rhode Island’s shaliach/ emissary. For more information, contact Skital at 401-4214111 or eskital@jewishallianceri.org. To register for the program, and get the Zoom link, go to https://www.jewishallianceri.org/under-jerusalem.

The program is part of the Jewish Alliance of Greater Rhode Island’s Behind the Book series, which is co-sponsored by the Jewish Book Council. It is also part of the Israeli Culture Series, which takes place on the second Wednesday of every month.

LARRY KATZ (lkatz@ jewishallianceri.org) is the director of Jewish life and learning at the Jewish Alliance of Greater Rhode Island.

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Stand up to antisemitism with a menorah window display

BY RACHEL MERSKY WODA

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ate crimes and antisemitic incidents hit a record high

in the United States in 2021, even right here in our beloved Ocean State.

IN NOVEMBER, antisemitic flyers left in yards in Warwick and North Providence and Newport shattered the peace of our community, and hateful words spoken and tweeted by famous people with a national audience were painful and disturbing to Jews and non-Jews alike.

So when I heard from Jan Dane, owner of Stock Culinary Goods, in Prov-

idence, and president of the Hope Street Merchants Association, asking how to best include the Jewish community in their upcoming holiday celebrations, our conversation quickly turned to antisemitism.

I asked Dane if she had heard about what happened in Billings, Montana, in the mid-’90s.

When faced with a series of hate crimes against Native Americans, Blacks and Jews, the community responded immediately.

During one incident, a brick was thrown through the bedroom window of a 6-year-old boy who had placed a menorah in his window for Hanukkah. In response, the local newspaper printed a full-page menorah for people to

display in a window. The message was clear: The irrational hatred of a few cannot destroy the bonds of our community.

This simple way to stand together against hatred and bigotry inspired other

with crayons, or decorated however you like, and hung in a window so that people know you stand with the Jewish community against hatred and antisemitism.

Organizations such as The Sandra Bornstein

‘On the back page of this newspaper is a full-page outline of a menorah, ready to be filled in with crayons, or decorated however you like.’ communities to do the same.

Nearly 30 years later, we are asking our community to follow suit. On the back page of this newspaper is a full-page outline of a menorah, ready to be filled in

Holocaust Education Center, in Providence, and the Jewish Alliance of Greater Rhode Island, partner with our synagogues, other Jewish groups and schools to spread light in a world that has so much darkness.

Together as a community, we must continue to find ways to invite and activate our neighbors and interfaith partners to stand up as well.

As you shop in our wonderful small businesses for gifts for the holiday season, you will find that many have copies of the menorah and a #GetLoudSpeakOut sticker.

Please decorate and hang your paper menorah to share the light of the season and help fight against all forms of hate and bigotry.

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ews and slavery in the Atlantic world of the American colonial era is the subject of the first program in Touro Synagogue

Foundation’s Winter 2022 Judah Touro Program Series. Guest speaker, Dr. Paul Finkelman, will present a talk titled “Jews, Slavery and the Meaning of Freedom,” on Thursday, Dec. 15 at 6 p.m. via Zoom. There is no fee to participate, but reservations are required to receive the Zoom link.

THE HISTORY OF NEWPORT, which was founded upon the principles of religious freedom, is also the history of those who did not find freedom there – enslaved Africans. Many Newporters, including Jews, either owned slaves or participated in some aspect of the transatlantic plantation system, which was based on the slave trade and goods produced through the labor of enslaved Africans. Finkelman’s talk will address this central paradox of America – the coexistence of slavery and freedom, along with an intermingling of noble ideals about liberty with the poison of racism.

His talk will address these issues in a way that will help participants understand them clearly and honestly.

Finkelman is one of America’s most respected legal scholars and has published extensively on the history of slavery and on Jews in America. He currently holds

the Rydell Visiting Chair at Gustavus Adolphus College in Minnesota. He received a B.A. in American Studies from Syracuse University and a Ph.D. in history from the University of Chicago. He is the author of more than 200 scholarly articles and the author or editor of more than 50 books. His most recent major book, “Supreme Injustice: Slavery in the Nation’s Highest Court,” was published by Harvard University Press in 2018. Finkelman has spoken on slavery, human trafficking, civil liberties, and human rights issues at the United Nations, throughout the United States and in more than a dozen other countries.

Two more presentations in this virtual series have been scheduled. On Jan. 12, 2023, at noon, Professor Pieter Vlaardingerbroek, live from Amsterdam, will present a talk, “The Architecture of the Portuguese Synagogue in Amsterdam.” Then, on Feb. 9

Dr. Paul Finkelman at 6 p.m., Samantha Baskind, a distinguished professor of art and history at Cleveland State University, will give an illustrated talk, “Picturing Ashkenazi and Sephardic Jews in Seventeenth- and Eighteenth-Century Amsterdam (1675).”

The series closes with a special collaborative presentation on March 30 at noon, hosted by the Rhode Island School of Design Museum, “Local Collections in Conversations,” featuring Touro Synagogue’s Ner Tamid (Eternal Light) and its Great Chandelier, and

Honor your loved ones through philanthropy CONTINUED FROM PAGE 30 ing grants from a JFF fund is that all grant recipients, Jewish and otherwise, know that the grant is coming from a Jewish entity because the grant letter arrives on JFF letterhead with the Hebrew date at the top.

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Thanks to David Mandelbaum and his family, both his uncle and mother will always be remembered for their generous spirit and kindness.

comparative objects from the collection of the RISD Museum. Presenters will include Howard Newman, a nationally respected Newport artist and conservator, who restored both these objects.

To reserve for the Dec. 15 presentation, please visit the

“Program & Events” page at tourosynagogue.org, or use this link: https://tinyurl. com/3rszvu8x . For more information or assistance with registration, please contact Meryle Cawley at 401-847-4794, extension 207 or meryle@tourosynagogue.org

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Book empowers women to silence online trolls

BY SARAH GREENLEAF THERE IS NO RIGHT WAY to be a woman online, just like there is no right way to be a woman in the world. No matter your preferences, your skills, your education, your style, your background, someone, somewhere, will have a problem with it. And they will let you know.

Nina Jankowicz’s “How to Be a Woman Online” (Bloomsbury Academic, 2022) is part explainer, part how-to, about how women can survive on the internet as public-facing figures.

For women who are online, the parts of the book that explain how bad the situation is will seem obvious, but they weren’t written for us.

“Employers often do not have the systems in place to support the women representing them in the public

sphere,” Jankowicz writes, and the parts of the book that outline the dismal online situation are written for them.

For women online, the book has actionable steps to stay safe(ish) online, often listed at the end of chapters. In a world where law enforcement hasn’t kept up with the online sphere and where social media platforms either can’t or won’t keep up with the tactics of online trolls, safety is relative.

book, and their stories, make a case for more participation in public spaces by women, not less. Cindy Otis, a former CIA officer and disinformation expert, is quoted in the book as saying, “I know I’m limiting my professional progress each time I scale back on social media.”

Being an active industry expert on social media can not only enhance your career, but it can also act as much needed counter-programming to the dominance of male voices ‘Who is at risk for an online and influence online. attack? Essentially, any One striking (and chilling) woman with opinions online.’ theme in the book is who the trolls are. We’re It is understandable that often told that internet trolls some women think, “why are disenfranchised men liveven bother to participate?” ing in their mom’s basements, However, the women in this but they are just as often pro-

fessional people coordinating the takedowns of their female colleagues and peers.

Who is at risk for an online attack? Essentially, any woman with opinions online.

Van Badham, an Australian activist, playwright and columnist for The Guardian, is quoted as saying, “You may not think you’re famous, but if other people do, you’re in trouble.”

With the increasing audi-

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ence segmentation of social media, you could very well have only a handful of followers, but be perceived as famous. The point of some trolling is not only to silence women, but for the trolls to hijack her audience and influence.

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Again, we must deal with the age-old idea that there is only so much air in the room, and that air is for men.

Though the book walks the reader through a sampling of the sort of trolls who exist online, these examples are for outsiders – women already know them well. There’s the man who always has some reply to your every point, the guy who acts like an ally only to turn on you, the man who asks you questions he could easily Google, the older man who just knows better than you about anything you have to say, the neo-Nazis, the fascists, the Men’s Rights Activists. With the exception of the last group, these are men that most working woman have had to deal with in real life.

“Women are socialized to be accommodating, but your social media profiles are not a democracy,” Jankowicz writes. Mute the trolls, block them, deny them influence and notoriety, and move on, she writes.

Many of the women profiled in the book make it clear that you are often on your own in dealing with a coordinated attack. No one is coming to save you, so it is imperative that women online build their own networks of support and have the tools they need to fight back.

“It is a privilege to protect oneself,” Jankowicz writes.

Not only that, but with the new verification issues on Twitter, it is becoming harder than ever for marginalized people to protect themselves from imposter accounts. If the largest corporations in the world can’t protect themselves from spoof accounts, what chance does an ordinary person have?

In the chapter “Policy: Making it Work for You,” the author walks us through each major social media site and the tools it offers to deal with trolls. The U.S. legal system isn’t much use to women targeted online, so she urges women to read the terms of service and understand reporting policies for each site.

In the chapter “Community: Cultivating a Circle of Solidarity,” Jankowicz reminds us that “Social media is supposed to be social.” She urges women to weigh in on topics they’re interested in or have expertise about, to reach out to people with whom you have something in common, to make jokes and tell people their dogs are cute.

She advocates for building community with other women by following them, engaging with them, sharing content from women instead of men, amplifying other women, and calling out harassment of women when you see it online. She urges building online solidarity with women before you need it.

Jankowicz also suggests that you work with your employer to create a policy on how to deal with online harassment before it happens.

“In most cases, it will likely fall to employees to mount a campaign with an organization’s leadership to protect those who might endure online abuse,” she writes.

Jankowicz suggests spelling out the problem to your employer and asking for a new policy regarding online harassment. She gives the example of Defector Media’s Human Resource policy: “Every Defector employee has a precautionary subscription to DeleteMe, which can be upgraded to ‘white glove service’ during severe campaigns.”

Having these policies, Jankowicz writes, “builds the circumstances in which women, who often preemptively self-censor in anticipation of online abuse, can feel safer to publicly express themselves.”

For me, this is the key solution offered in the book.

I know many women, myself included, have shied away from participating in social media discourse not because we didn’t have something to say, but because it seemed inevitable that whatever we said would lead to a harassment campaign.

Jankowicz will tell you that it is inevitable, but that doesn’t mean you cannot mitigate it, handle it, or move past it. But it is time-consuming, expensive and difficult to do so, so ask your employer to shoulder some of the burden.

She also points out that women being silenced in the public sphere is a feedback loop that will only lead to worse things for women in the long run.

“Silence is a norm we simply cannot afford to accept,” she writes.

SARAH GREENLEAF (sgreenleaf@jewishallianceri. org) is the digital marketing specialist for the Jewish Alliance of Greater Rhode Island and writes for Jewish Rhode Island.

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Patricia Raskin’s ‘Positive Aging’ podcast gives life advice on timeless topics

BY FRAN OSTENDORF FOR FOUR DECADES, Patricia Raskin has delighted in interviewing people and turning those interviews into columns and broadcast and internet radio shows. Raskin, who is a columnist for Jewish Rhode Island, has also worked as a lifestyle coach and consultant, focusing on topics such as health and wellness. She prides herself on her positive outlook.

Now, the 75-year-old Rhode Islander has a new podcast, “Positive Aging,” that aims to help the growing number of older adults in the United States.

Jewish Rhode Island recently interviewed Raskin about her newest venture.

Why did you decide to focus on the aging population?

My work has always been about positive living, and my first program on cable television, in 1982, was called “Positive People.” Now that I am older and an early baby boomer, positive aging fits for me as well as for millions of others in our age group. The principles [of positive living] are the same, we are just older.

We may not walk as fast or hear as well but we still get there!

In addition, there is still a lot of ageism in our country, and I want to debunk the myths and show how as older

adults we can create the “new” in work, hobbies and relationships.

Love is love at any age, creative thinking is creative thinking at any age. They don’t have numbers attached to them.

BAMA companies and Balancing Life’s Issues. The podcasts air each week until Dec. 13.

The show remains archived on Spotify, Apple and other podcast platforms. To listen to the podcast, go to https://www. buzzsprout.com/2025964.

Do you think there is appeal in your podcast for all ages?

How does this lean into your Jewish values?

Yes, the topics are timeless.

We cover wellness, medical topics, relationships, technology, innovation, travel, finances and many others. We all need to eat well, exercise regularly, get enough sleep, learn technology to stay current, have positive relationships, learn new things to keep our brains active, and think positively. On my “Positive Aging” podcast, we adapt specific strategies and activities to older adults, but the concepts are the same for all of us to stay active, vital and healthy.

What are you looking for in a guest on your podcast?

I have chosen guest experts in their fields who are shining examples of positive living and positive aging. They are all on a mission to help others stay or improve mental, physical, emotional and behavioral health. We have already recorded the 13-week series, which is produced by Rhode Island PBS and funded by Southcoast Health, Greenwood Credit Union, Cochlear,

Judaism teaches us about doing mitzvahs, giving tzedakah, tikkun olam [repairing the world] and having a purpose in life. All of my interviews, and there have been over 5,000 of them in four decades, focus on one of these in some way. I would say that about 70% of the experts, authors and celebrities I have interviewed have been through a life-changing event that propelled them to do their work, write their book and teach their principles.

I know you have a finite number of episodes, but do you hope to keep going on this subject with podcasts?

Absolutely! Podcasts are growing every day and now there are over 2 million podcasts available worldwide.

This is such a great way to get information when you can’t watch, and today many podcasts are produced on a platform such as Zoom, where you can watch as well. Also, podcasts are so adaptable. You can transcribe them, turn them into a blog or book, and

Patricia Raskin keep them archived so they are evergreen. Podcasts are really radio shows in a digital format.

What’s your next step to age positively?

To keep doing the things talked about on my program so that I can continue to stay vital, active, and continue to learn and grow. My motto comes from the book “Illusions,” by Richard Bach, who I was fortunate to interview.

In it, he writes, “You teach best what you most need to learn.” That has been my life’s work in a nutshell. The more I teach and interview, the more I learn and grow.

Anything else you’d like people to know?

Positive aging is really positive living. I started applying these principles early in my career, but you can start at any age. On a television documentary I produced, I interviewed a 102-year-old golfer who started playing golf at 92.

His average score was 100!

A very special person in my life got a bachelor’s degree at 46, a master’s degree at 60, learned how to scuba and snow ski at 63, and began dance lessons at 81.

The way we think makes such a difference! And this is true at any age.

FRAN OSTENDORF is the editor of Jewish Rhode Island.

OBITUARIES Howard Bergel, 62

COVENTRY, R.I. – Howard J. Bergel passed away on Nov. 15, 2022, at the Respiratory and Rehabilitation Center of RI. Born in Rhode Island, a son of Joan D. (Erenkrantz) Bergel and the late Jordan P. Bergel. He had lived in Norton, Massachusetts, for many years before moving to Coventry in the winter of 2021. He was a tinkerer who was passionate about cars, he fueled this passion by surrounding himself with like-minded individuals as an auto-parts delivery driver.

Howard’s memory is treasured by his beloved mother, Joan Bergel, of Warwick. He

was the dear brother of Cindy and her husband, Steve Spector, of Mount Pleasant, North Carolina.

Please consider making a donation in his memory to a charity of your choice.

Dr. Maurice Bermon, 78

On Nov. 12, 2022, Dr. Maurice (Maury) Bermon of Barrington passed away.

Maury was born in Philadelphia on Aug. 7, 1944, to David Bermon and Pauline Needleman Bermon, and grew up in the Oxford Circle

neighborhood of Northeast Philadelphia along with his older brother Stuart. Maury graduated from University of Pennsylvania, completed an MD at Tufts University and an internship at Boston City Hospital (now Boston Medical Center). He completed a residency in psychiatry through Harvard University at Cambridge Hospital.

Maury came to Rhode Island to serve as the chief of psychiatry for the Rhode Island Group Health Association, the first HMO in Rhode Island. He worked as a psychiatrist for more than 40 years at RIGHA, Harvard Pilgrim Health Care, Landmark Hospital and finally in private

practice. He loved his work and it brought deep meaning to his life.

Since childhood, Maury lived with renal failure and received the gift of life from his brother Stuart who donated his kidney as a living donor in 1988. Miraculously Stuart’s kidney continued to function and sustain Maury for the next 32 years. Maury was predeceased by his brother Stuart in 2007 at the age of 70.

Maury loved music of all kinds, especially classical.

For decades, he was an enthusiastic subscriber to the RI Philharmonic. His children grew up listening to him play Gershwin on the piano. He

was an avid sports fan and a scrappy competitor on the court. He was a lover of food, and his friends knew him as a world-class eater. He loved to dance and even after two hip surgeries, nothing could keep Maury from the dance floor. More than anything, his family and friends were the world to him.

Maury is survived by the love of his life, his wife, Louise Bermon, his children David James Bermon (Jessy Needham) of Long Beach, California, and Susan Elizabeth Stewart-Bermon (wife Becca Stewart-Bermon) of Jamaica Plain, Massachusetts, and his niece Jennifer Bermon, of Marina del Rey, California.

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OBITUARIES Daniel Cohen, 41

PROVIDENCE, R.I. – Daniel Michael Cohen passed away suddenly and unexpectedly on Nov. 11, 2022, while traveling to a family reunion.

Danny was born in New York City on Aug. 25, 1981, but grew up and spent most of his life in Providence. He was considered by all to be a true Rhode Islander. He attended Providence’s Wheeler School, followed by the University of Vermont, where he earned a BA in psychology and history in 2005. The next year, back in RI, he met Annalise, his soulmate and future wife.

From a young age, Danny loved computers. He was deeply inspired by computer science and its potential to unite people and improve the world. He earned an MS in Internet Engineering from Marlboro College and went on to have a successful career as a software engineer. He taught hundreds of engineers around the world and built collaborative, effective teams through his unique combination of technical expertise and human touch. Only Danny could train software engineers to work better together by making pizza.

Intent on making any event, large or small, the most fun and meaningful it could be, Danny enjoyed sharing his interests in skiing, playing music, running, traveling and cooking. Every meal, every musical performance and

every moment was a chance to bring loved ones together.

Danny loved traveling the world and had an innate ability to make dear friends everywhere he went. He created communities from Rhode Island to Vermont, Washington, D.C., to Florida and Kyrgyzstan to India, where he frequently traveled for work.

He is survived by his loving wife, Annalise; his adored children, Olivia, Samuel and Hope; his brother, Joseph (and wife Danielle); mother, Jill, and father, Donald. He also is survived by a beloved extended family of nieces, nephews, aunts, uncles, cousins, in-laws and friends.

Donations in Danny’s name may be made toward the building of the new Community Center at the Meadowbrook Waldorf School at www. meadowbrookschool.com or by mail at 300 Kingstown Road, Richmond, RI 02892.

Allan Cole, 79

AUSTIN, TEXAS – Allan Sidney Cole, of Austin, passed away peacefully Oct. 31, 2022, in Knoxville, Tennessee, in the company of his daughters.

Born May 17, 1943, to William and Erie Cole, in New York City, Allan was the oldest of three children. Upon graduating from Mahwah High School, in Mahwah, New Jersey, Allan attended and graduated from Drexel University in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania, as an electrical engi-

neer. He lived in Austin for 26 years, until recently when he relocated to Tennessee to be closer to his children.

Allan is survived by his children and their spouses, Sondra Sexton (Wayne) and Dara Park (Scott), and three grandchildren, Danielle, Logan and Sidney. He also leaves his brother, Lawrence R. Cole, and sister, Paulette L. Johnson; three nieces, Sarah, Rebecca and Chava Leah; and one nephew, Binyamin. He was predeceased by his niece, Rochel Cole.

Allan enjoyed a long career in computer engineering at IBM, and later in Austin, Texas, for various technology companies. In 1981, while at IBM, he and a colleague earned a patent for cooling computer chips.

Allan enjoyed rodeos, accordion conventions, eating Texas barbecue, travel, attending computer shows, shopping marathons and collecting Hanukkah menorahs from all over the world. He truly embraced all things Texas and was a good ambassador for his chosen home. Having deep fried turkey at Thanksgiving and taking summer trips with his family were times he treasured very much. He also enjoyed dispensing career advice to any and all family members. His family always benefited from his up-to-date computer knowledge, which ranged from fixing their computers to his encyclopedic knowledge of the best technology deals each week.

Robert Cooper, 72

NEW BEDFORD, MASS. – Robert W. Cooper passed away on Nov. 19, 2022, at St. Luke’s Hospital in New Bedford, Massachusetts, after a short and unexpected illness. He is survived by his loving wife, Bonnie Mintz Cooper, with whom he shared 47 years of marriage, love and adventure.

After a chance meeting in Vermont nearly 50 years ago, Bob fell hard for Bonnie and immediately moved from the South to be with her in New England. They had two sons, Ben and Sam, who they raised together in Barrington with love and a commitment to having fun. Ben’s two daughters, Edie and Sunny, were the object of Bob’s affection – manifested through their shared love of coin collecting, dancing and sweet treats.

Bob and Bonnie cultivated a loyal group of friends

wherever they lived. First, in Barrington, where they traveled, dined and laughed over the course of decades with two couples, the Molvars and the Blooms. Then, in Padanaram, where Bob joined the New Bedford Yacht Club and the Wharf Rats, a group that instantly recognized him for his good humor and enduring curiosity.

For over 40 years, Bob managed the family business, Klear-Vu, a manufacturer of cushions, in Fall River, Massachusetts. He had a passion for the work, approaching it like a puzzle with his engineering background and his love of new ideas. His patented invention, the Gripper, replaced the cushion’s ties with a non-slip bottom, thus improving the company’s product and invigorating the company. He found much professional fulfillment working with a dedicated group of employees, including his father-in-law, brother-inlaw and son.

He studied civil engineering and earned a Bachelor of Science degree from the University of Alabama. He loved watching his alma mater’s football team, the Crimson Tide.

Born and raised in Auburn, Alabama, Bob grew up riding bikes, participating in Boy Scouts, and playing on the family farm with his siblings, Art, Mary and Don, with whom he remained close for his whole life. All four gathered their families every other year at Thanksgiving, bringing together family members from across the country.

Son to Arthur W. and Dorothy Summers Cooper, and survived by two sons, Benjamin Cooper and wife, Jackie Delamatre, and Samuel Cooper and partner, Nicole Najafi, two granddaughters, Edie and Sunny Cooper, three siblings, Arthur Cooper and wife, Julia Cooper, Mary Kitchen and husband, Robert Kitchen, and Donald Cooper and wife, Hyunchu Cooper, brother-in-law Mark Mintz, and many nieces, nephews and dear friends. They will hold him in their hearts forever.

Memorial contributions may be made to the United Way of Greater Fall River, 30 Bedford St., Fall River, MA 02720 or the Boys & Girls Club of Fall River, PO Box 5155, Fall River, MA 02723.

Adam Gilstein, 54

WARWICK, R.I. – Adam David Gilstein, of Warwick, died on Nov. 19, 2022, at HopeHealth Hulitar Hospice Center.

He was the beloved son of

Suzanne (Bograd) Gilstein and Alan Gilstein who predeceased him.

Adam graduated from The Winchendon School. He was a buyer and inventory manager for Summit Medical Compassion Center. Adam had a passion for helping people managing medical conditions with medical cannabis and was highly sought after for his expertise and compassion. Adam had many friends throughout his lifetime who loved his sense of humor, love of football and gatherings with him at his home. His family is particularly grateful to his childhood friend Tim Hughes who cared for and supported him throughout his illness.

In addition to his mother, he is survived by his sister Debbi Jaffe and her husband, Jordan, of Barrington; he was the loving uncle of Jacob and Alan Jaffe. He is also predeceased by his grandparents Benjamin and Lillian (Krakowsky) Gilstein and Bernard and Goldie (Flint) Bograd.

Contributions can be made to The Miriam Hospital Emergency Staff Support Fund, The Miriam Hospital Foundation, Box H, Providence, RI 02901.

Molly Granoff, 93

WARWICK, RI – Molly Granoff, of Warwick, died peacefully at home on Nov. 21, 2022.

She was the beloved and devoted wife of 62 years of the late Marvin L. Granoff.

Born in Providence to the late Charles and Sarah Kadsivitz, she was the loving mother of two sets of twins: Charles Granoff (Angel) of East Providence, Rick Granoff (Marcy) of Cranston, Faye Stolzman (Robert) of Providence and Dr. Sara Granoff-Schor (Dr. Charles) of Providence. She will forever be remembered by her four grandchildren Jonathan Granoff (Paige), Jamie Granoff, Nora Stolzman and Jenna Schor. Molly also is survived by her sister Rose (Kadsivitz) Sagan (the late Lester) and sister-in-law Nanci Levin Kay (the late Harry). She also leaves many nieces, nephews, and many great-nieces and nephews. Molly was one of eight devoted Kadsivitz brothers and sisters whom she dearly loved.

Children and family were a huge part of who Molly was.

Entertaining family at her summer home in Narragansett was one of her greatest joys. Molly was predeceased

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OBITUARIES by her brothers Sam, Bob, Harry and Nathan Kay (the late Robin Montgomery). As well as sisters Betty (Kay) Plotnick, Sylvia Greenfeld (the late Harold), and her late nephew Neil Greenfeld.

Molly was a voracious reader of all books but liked historic novels the best. Molly loved the beach, oil painting, playing tennis, bridge and canasta.

The Granoff family would like to thank Molly’s incredible caregivers and loyal “handyman” for their many years of kindness, compassion and hard work. Thank you for the love you have shown Molly: Maureen Lipata, Wanda Carroll, Mona Dionne, Ernestina Johnson, Paula Ginalski, Cynthia Gallo, the late Helen Sears and Brian Carpenter.

Contributions in her memory may be made to HopeHealth Hospice Care, 1085 North Main St., Providence, RI 02903 or the Alzheimer’s Association of RI, 245 Waterman St., Suite 306, Providence, RI 02906.

Janice Temkin-Irvin, 93

CARLSBAD, CALIF. – Janice Markell Temkin-Irvin passed away in hospice care on Nov. 11, 2022. Janice is remembered as a great cook and a tennis player with The Stage Coach Team. Janice worked as a bookkeeper for a large law firm in Los Angeles and subsequently for Jewish Family Service in San Diego. She had been married to Jacob Temkin and then to Lester Irvin.

Janice is survived by her children, Alan Temkin, of Providence, and Elizabeth Temkin, of Los Angeles.

Shirley Konicov, 93

BOCA RATON, FLA. – Shirley Konicov died Nov. 16, 2022.

She was the beloved wife of the late Monte Konicov. Born in Baltimore, Maryland, a daughter of the late William and Fannie (Weiner) Cohen. She lived in Boca Raton for 25 years, and previously lived in Warwick for over 50 years.

In her early forties, Shirley pursued a college degree and embarked on a career as a health caregiver. As a Rhode Island licensed registered nurse, she worked in several skilled nursing facilities. She assumed leadership roles as nurse supervisor at both the Charlesgate Nursing Center in Providence and the former Pawtuxet Village Care in War-

wick, retiring in 1994.

Shirley was an active resident of Century Village in West Boca Raton, and a life member of Hadassah. She was a patron of the arts and culture, especially enjoying music, theater and multiple forms of dancing in which she personally excelled. She will be remembered as a committed caregiver both in her career, and more importantly in her daily life. With family and friends, she was constantly recognized as an exquisite hostess and fabulous cook.

She was a devoted mother of Marc Konicov and his wife, Roberta, of Wakefield, Massachusetts, Dr. David Konicov and his wife, Michelle, of Lincoln, Ellen Ellin and her husband, Barry, of Baltimore, Maryland, and Howard Konicov and his wife, Judy, of South Orange, New Jersey.

She was the dear sister of the late Bernard Cohen. She was the loving grandmother of Andrew, Bruce (Marni), Carys, Jenna (Bashar), Benjamin, Jacob and Justin. She was the cherished great-grandmother of Dylan and Sophie.

Contributions in her memory may be made to Hadassah, 40 Wall St., 8th Floor, New York City, NY 10005.

Andrew Latzman, 50

CRANSTON, R.I. – Andrew Neil Latzman died unexpectedly on Nov. 7, 2022. He was the beloved partner of Sue Misto for three years. Born in Manhattan, New York, he was a son of the late Allen and Mona (Nesser) Latzman.

He was raised in New Rochelle, New York, with his brother, Philip. After graduating from New Rochelle High School, he went on to receive a bachelor’s in political science from Binghamton University in 1994. There, he met his lifelong friends, Rick and Mike.

Andrew moved to Cranston in 2002 with his young family; he made a point to be a strong and reliable force in the lives of his sons.

Andrew took immense pride in cultivating his beautiful yard and enjoyed long walks on the beautiful beaches of Rhode Island. He was a diehard and lifelong fan of the Knicks and Jets, he described himself as the best NBA player that never played.

When he wasn’t working on his game, he served as a coach for his son’s soccer team. He

was described as a passionate coach who focused on putting his team at the top. He was a cat lover who tenderly cared for and rescued many cats throughout his lifetime.

Andrew worked for Metrics Lab as a data analyst. He was proud of his work and had reached a point which allowed him to excel in the field of market research and gained notoriety within the company as the best on his team.

He was the devoted father of Samuel and Nathaniel Latzman, both of Cranston. He was the dear brother of Philip and his wife, Jill Latzman, of Scottsdale, Arizona. He was a loving uncle to Marisa and Mitchell Latzman. He was the cherished nephew of Stephen and his wife, Pat Latzman, as well as Carol and her husband, Lee Mizrahi, who became loving parental figures after the loss of Andrew’s parents.

He was the valued cousin of Robert, Jonathan, Daniel, Tara, Evan, Kevin and David. He was treasured by so many longtime friends: Rick Adleson, Mike, Kevin Klein, Danny and the Baron family, Mark, Judy and the Denton family, the Gelman family, the Feigenbaum family, Joyce Furfero and others. He was predeceased by his parents, his grandparents and his uncle, Barry.

Contributions in his memory may be made to Gloria Gemma Breast Cancer Resource Foundation, 249 Roosevelt Ave., Suite 201, Pawtucket 02860 or Juvenile Diabetes Research Foundation, 200 Vesey St., 28th Floor, New York City, NY 10281, or the Woonsocket Cat Sanctuary, 266 Mendon Road, Woonsocket, RI 02895.

Vanessa, Mindy Melissa and Sarah Dawn. She had eight grandchildren: Nathaniel Roy Dunbar Levitt, Kelsae Rhiannon Levitt, Isabelle Rochelle Carroll, Devin Christian Carroll, Gabriel Claude Carroll, Dylan Andrew McIntyre, Jordan Alan McIntyre and Brayden Alexander McIntyre.

Jo is survived by her sister, Fanny Lou Jenkins Grote (Richard). She was preceded in death by her brother, Berl Leroy Jenkins, and nephew, Joshua Richard Grote. Also surviving is her nephew, Daniel Andrew Grote (Kathy), and daughter, Elizabeth Claire, as well as more nephews, nieces, great-nephews and greatnieces.

In 1994, an incident while scuba diving in Cozumel left Jo with an injury to her spinal cord that resulted in paraplegia. Despite her disability, she continued to be an independent woman. Her husband, Rick, provided care for her during the times that she was unable to care for herself. At home, Jo provided granny-daycare for all of her grandchildren, which fostered very close relationships with them. She had a profound impact on everyone she met.

The joys of her life were her husband, children and grandchildren. She enjoyed taking the kids to the beach

during the summer, camping in their trailer at the pond on weekends, scuba diving during vacation and throwing parties. She and Rick adored each other and shared amazing memories together.

Throughout her time in her wheelchair, Rick would push her throughout the neighborhood, and she enjoyed every walk they took while talking with neighbors.

After years of suffering from Alzheimer’s disease, Jo passed peacefully at the HopeHealth Hulitar Hospice Center.

As Rick put it, any time with her after her scuba diving accident was considered “bonus time.” He had 28 years of “bonus time” with her, which we all appreciated and loved! The family is especially grateful to HopeHealth and their compassion to Jo and the entire family.

Jo’s forever friend Marie Flinchum’s grandson, Dylan Flinchum, had a rare and terminal disease, metachromatic leukodystrophy (MLD). Jo was passionate about supporting her friend and her friend’s family from the very beginning. Jo and her family have attended the Dylan Flinchum Rock On 5K each year since it began. This organization helped the Flinchum family support Dylan Flinchum’s medical needs, as well as the

Thelma Jo Levitt, 76

PAWTUCKET, R.I. – Thelma Jo Levitt, of Pawtucket, passed away on Oct. 31, 2022, at HopeHealth Hulitar Hospice Center, in Providence. Born Oct. 15, 1946, in Lawton, Oklahoma, she was the daughter of the late Roy E. and Betty E. (Shafer) Jenkins. Jo was a graduate of the class of 1964 at the Apache High School, Apache, Oklahoma. She was a member of the First Baptist Church, where she played piano for Sunday school, was the pianist for the high school chorus and acted in the senior play.

Jo was the loving wife of Richard Alan Levitt, of Pawtucket, and mother of Julie

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OBITUARIES needs of other families with MLD. Dylan passed away on Nov. 11, 2021. His family continues to support other families with MLD. Our family will always continue to help this amazing foundation.

In lieu of flowers, donations in Jo's memory can be made to the Dylan Flinchum Rock On! Foundation (DylanRockOn. org).

Nancy Lieberman, 73

WAKEFIELD, R.I. – Nancy Deborah Lieberman, of Wakefield, wife of the late Stephan Howard Lieberman, died peacefully, with her family by her side, on Nov. 17, 2022, at Kent Hospital from complications of cancer.

She was born at Doctors Hospital, New York, Feb. 2, 1949, the daughter of artist Frances Joslin Gold and Harold Arthur Gold, DDS, of Wilton, Connecticut.

Raised in Wilton, she attended Wilton High School and graduated from Boston University with a degree in Early Childhood Education.

She married Stephan Howard Lieberman on July 22, 1972, in Wilton.

Nancy is survived by sons David William Schauer Lieberman (and wife Jessica Schauer Lieberman) of Somerville, Massachusetts, Scott Jeffrey Lieberman, granddaughter, Cypress Rose Lieberman of Wakefield, sister Susan Gold Purdy (and husband Geoffrey H. Purdy) and niece, Cassandra Heather Purdy of Roxbury, Connecticut.

In 1992, Nancy and Stephan opened Bagelz Bakery in Wakefield (now owned and operated by Scott Lieberman)

and a second location on the campus of URI in Kingston.

She previously served on the board of Congregation Beth David in Narragansett.

Donations may be made to Welcome House of South County or Temple Beth David in her memory.

Lawrence Miller, 78

SANTA ROSA, CALIF. – Lawrence Samuel Miller (Larry), of Santa Rosa, peacefully passed away in his sleep at home on Nov. 21, 2022. Larry grew up in Providence and lived there until 1986 when he moved to San Francisco to pursue a life of healing the world. He got close, but after the 2016 election that all fell apart.

Larry graduated from Hope High School and attended elementary school at The Providence Hebrew Day School, inspiring lifelong agnosticism and devotion to Buddhist practices as an adult. Larry received a BA from New Hampshire College before marrying Sara (Linder) Sheiber of Providence. As a Sergeant in the United States Army during the Viet Nam War, Larry was stationed in Berlin and liked to brag that he killed more Germans during the Viet Nam war than any other soldier. This was not true.

Having earned an MA in Psychology from the New School in San Francisco Larry had several careers as a clinical psychotherapist, licensed massage therapist, non-denominational hospital chaplain and foster parent to medically fragile babies in the San Francisco foster system.

Larry and his then partner Mindy Zlotnick devoted seven years to caring for medically fragile newborns and infants for three to six months at a time, with some babies staying two to three years.

Per his final wishes, Larry donated his body to UC Davis.

Donations can be sent to the VA Northern California Health Care System which took good care of him for 30 years. However, this did not stop him from dancing.

Larry is survived by son Lee Miller of Nashville, Tennessee, grandchildren Max and Sophia Miller, partner Kira Ohina of Santa Rosa, and sister Iris Minkin of Narragansett.

Shirley Nulman, 94

NORTH KINGSTOWN, R.I. – Shirley L. Nulman passed away on Nov. 8, 2022, at Bayview Rehab at Scalabrini, in North Kingstown. She was the beloved wife of the late Lawrence Nulman for 70 years. Born in Providence, she was the daughter of the late Nathan and Mollie (Silverman) Snell. She had lived in Cranston for 61 years.

She worked alongside her husband, Lawrence, at Barnes Cleansers for some time, serving as a bookkeeper and alterations assistant. While she enjoyed working alongside her adoring husband and truly enjoyed her work with Barnes Cleansers, she was graced with a more important job that she took very seriously, motherhood. She was an active mother who made sure to provide her children with the unwavering support they needed; she joined the PTA and oversaw a troop of Brownies with the Girl Scouts of America as a troop leader.

She enjoyed sewing and creating beautiful clothing for her daughters.

She enjoyed reading, ballroom dancing and playing mahjong, but most of all she valued time with her family as her children grew and brought grandchildren into her world.

In her later years, Shirley joined the condo association in Pompano, Florida, and was blessed to be able to enjoy winters in Florida.

She was a devoted mother to Lee Nulman, of Cranston; Patti and her husband, Noel Simpson, of Narragansett; and Nancy and her husband, Tim Persons, of St. Louis, Missouri.

She was the dear sister of the late Albert Snell; his wife, Miriam; and William Snell.

She was the loving grandmother of Nicole Berman and her wife, Cait Dooley; Mitchell Berman; Alyssa Persons; and Kyle Persons and his wife, Rachel Trent.

Contributions in her memory may be made to Beacon Hospice, 854 American Way, Suite A, Baton Rouge, LA 70816 or the Alzheimer’s Association of Rhode Island, 245 Waterman Ave., Providence, RI 02906.

Elaine Silverman, 92

WARWICK, R.I. – Elaine Silverman passed away on Nov. 5, 2022, at HopeHealth Hulitar Hospice Center surrounded by her loving family. She was the beloved wife of the late Alan Silverman for 60 incredible years. Born in Boston, Massachusetts, a daughter of the late Israel and Tillie Mushkin, she raised her children and stayed in Warwick for 63 years, previously living in Cranston.

She was a devoted mother who raised her children with compassion.

She was the devoted mother of Vickie Turnquist and her husband, Tom, of Warwick; David Silverman and his wife, Sue, of Cranston; and the late Susan Silverman-Kinney. She was the loving grandmother of six: Adam, Sarah, Lauren, Zachary, Cooper Lee and Caylee. She was the cherished great-grandmother of one.

Contributions in her memory may be made to HopeHealth Hulitar Hospice Center, 1085 North Main St., Providence, RI 02904.

Leona Spilka, 97

FORT LAUDERDALE, FLA. – Leona (Zawatsky) Spilka, of Fort Lauderdale, formerly of Providence, passed away Oct. 29, 2022. She was the wife of the late Dr. Norman M. Kahn and the late Samuel Spilka. Born in Providence, a daughter of the late Julius J. and Sarah (Michaelson) Zawatsky, she was a longtime resident of the city before moving to Florida in 1990.

Leona was a secretary in the Providence public school system for 26 years before retiring. She was a lifelong member of Temple Emanu-El, Hadassah, the Jewish Home for the Aged and ORT. She also enjoyed volunteering at the Galt Reading Room in Fort

Lauderdale.

She is survived by her daughter Deborah Roberts (Stan) of Warwick, stepdaughter Ronnie Kippel (Dr. Gary) of Brooklyn, New York, and three grandchildren, Rachael Kaplan (Ben), David Roberts (Molly) and Aliza Rose Kippel. She adored her four great-grandchildren, Madelyn, Henry, Simon and Max, as well as several nieces and nephews.

She was the mother of the late Robert A. Kahn, sister of the late Albert and Martin Zawatsky, and mother-in-law of the late Stanley Roberts.

Contributions in her memory may be made to Temple Sinai, Rabbi’s Discretionary Fund, 30 Hagan Ave., Cranston, RI 02920 or Holy Cross Catholic Hospice Unit in Fort Lauderdale, Florida, where she was so beautifully cared for with great dignity.

Alan Webber, 70

WARWICK, R.I. – Alan B. Webber died Nov. 23, 2022, at home, surrounded by his family. He was the beloved husband of Lori (Swanholm) Webber for 31 years. Born in Providence, a son of the late Marshall and Betty (Cantoff) Webber, he lived in Warwick, previously residing in East Greenwich and Cranston.

He was president and owner of both the former Marshall Trading and Pauley Companies. Alan was a history buff and passionate about teaching and sharing knowledge with his students at both Toll Gate and Warwick Veterans high schools, retiring in 2021. Alan was a past president of the Potowomut Golf Club, a former softball coach, and an avid Red Sox and Patriots fan.

He was the devoted father of Danielle Webber and her husband, Joseph Fleury, of Boston, Massachusetts. He was the dear brother of Paul Webber and his wife, Kate, of Newport and the late Steven Webber and James Webber and his surviving wife, Emily, of Cranston. He was the loving uncle of several nieces and nephews. He was the cherished lifelong friend of Richard Bedrosian of Dix Hills, New York.

Contributions in his memory may be made to the American Cancer Society, 931 Jefferson Blvd., Suite 3004, Warwick, RI 02886.

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