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PUBLISHER'S GUEST | Jeana Fr azzini, Basic Rights Oregon

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HE 2012 ELECTIONS DELIVERED UNPRECEDENTED VICTORIES FOR THE LGBT COMMUNITY.

voters at their doors and on their phones, accounting for 10% of the volunteer hours on the Washington campaign!

I am filled with joy for the families in Washington, Maine and Maryland who have won the freedom to marry the person they love — and did so, for the first time ever, by a vote of the people.

I am also glad for the people of Minnesota who successfully blocked a constitutional ban on marriage equality for the first time.

Here in Oregon we still have work to do, and we know it won’t be easy. Oregon is one of 30 states with constitutional amendments banning marriage for gay and lesbian couples. Oregon stands ready to be the first state to overturn a constitutional amendment at the ballot. Basic Rights Oregon is committed to leading this effort, and our education campaign has already increased support for the freedom to marry by double digits in the past three years.

The list goes on: our country re-elected the first sitting president to support the freedom to marry, elected the first openly gay U.S. senator, and four new out members of the House of Representatives (including the first out person of color and first out bisexual)! In New Hampshire, the first out transgender person was elected to the state legislature.

And right here in Oregon, we championed the re-election of Secretary of State Kate Brown and Labor Commissioner Brad Avakian and helped secure a pro-equality majority in the Oregon house, where Rep. Tina Kotek will become the first-ever lesbian speaker of a statehouse.

These are a lot of firsts and there is no question that the tide has turned irrevocably toward equality — and toward the freedom to marry, in particular.

As more and more Americans are having conversations with LGBT, and allied friends and family, they're coming to realize that committed couples, whether they are gay or straight, hope to marry for similar reasons — to make a lifetime promise to share the joys and sorrows that life brings.

The victories on election night have bolstered our confidence and confirmed that we are exactly where we need to be. We know that we are on the right path. The education campaign Basic Rights Oregon has undertaken over the past three years is winning hearts and minds. And our movement has proven that we can win marriage through legislatures, in the courtrooms and, finally, at the ballot. Now is the time to begin repealing these discriminatory amendments.

We’re also keenly aware that none of our victories have been a slam dunk. In Washington alone, it took over 12 million dollars and more than 30,000 volunteer hours to eke out a four-point victory – despite going into the campaign with greater public support for marriage than there currently is in Oregon. For two months, Basic Rights Oregon dedicated staff and volunteers to the campaign to run the Southwest Washington outreach. Our volunteers had thousands of conversations with Washington

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While the movement now turns to states with constitutional bans, we must also continue working at the federal level. Next year, the Supreme Court could finally overturn the federal Defense of Marriage Amendment. We cannot win only at the state or only at the federal level. Either victory would be incomplete without the other. Winning at the federal level will not provide the freedom to marry in Oregon until we change our state laws, and winning in Oregon will not provide Oregon couples with any federal recognition until DOMA is gone.

Now is the time for every fair-minded Oregonian to stand with us in order to complete this journey to the freedom to marry.

We need you to GET ENGAGED today.

A November 13th New York Times article described how the wins on the ballot this year were achieved through “patient, labor-intensive personal dialogue.” Mainers United for Marriage, the article explained, “phoned some 250,000 residents or knocked on their doors, engaging many of them in 20-minute conversations about love, marriage and commitment and persuading some to rethink their views.”

The only way we will win the freedom to marry in Oregon is through heart-felt conversations. We must continue to have the courage and honesty to talk to friends, family and coworkers about why marriage matters for all caring and committed couples — gay or straight.

Please go to our website and sign our pledge to have 10 conversations before the end of this year with friends and family about why marriage matters to you.

In the next few weeks, we'll be on the road for a Victory tour through Oregon. We want to celebrate our victories and get to work for 2014. Look for details soon. § Jeana Franzinni is the Executive Director of Basic Rights Oregon.

For more information about Basic Rights Oregon, basicrights.org

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Our People

Johnny Mathis graces this month's cover.

The legendary singer is in portland for a concert this month and talked exclusively to just out. Cover photo by Jeff Dunas.

All food photography, including Mathis's dish, was shot by Just Out's Art Director and Photographer Horace Long (above).

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Hot Holiday Tips

Just Out’s editor has some holiday suggestions — martini included.

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The legendary Johnny Mathis

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Food

An exclusive interview with Mr. Christmas.

Festive Foods

Four Portland chefs share their favorite holiday recipes.

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Bring The Outdoors In Personalizing your holiday mantel.

Decking The Halls

The quest for the perfect Christmas tree.

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Astrology Is Element-ary Ms. Tammy Whynot teaches astrology while she and Pagan Holliday represent the four elements.

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PUBLISHERS Jonathan Kipp Eddie Glenn

Plus ça change, plus c’est la même chose…

EDITOR-IN-CHIEF Alley Hector

As I approach the half-century mark of my life, it seems that it takes less and less time for the earth to circle the sun. Intellectually, I know this isn’t true, but it doesn’t sway how I feel … that yesterday was a sweltering day in mid-August and not another dreary, wet December day. Maybe it’s because our kids (5 and 8 years old) are constantly measuring the calendar in terms of the next ‘big event’: a holiday, a birthday, losing a tooth, a play date, a family vacation. Or, perhaps, ‘those college years’ are finally catching up to me. Or it could be because I now measure life in 30-day increments required with publishing a monthly magazine.

Or just maybe the speed of change around us is the culprit.

Indeed, there has been a lot of change for our community during 2012. Marriage equality referendums passed in three states last month (including our neighbor to the north) bringing to nine the total number of states that allow us to marry those whom we love. Contrast this to what we were facing 20 years ago with Oregon’s Measure 9 (fortunately defeated).

2012 saw much change for Just Out as well. We started the year mourning the loss of a publication that had served our community for nearly 30 years. By June, Just Out was re-launched. Even though it has a new publication cycle (monthly) and a new format (glossy magazine), the soul of the publication – to serve the LGBTQ community – has not wavered.

You, our readers, have embraced the change. Over the past four months we have had nearly one thousand readers participate in our reader survey. From the survey, 95 percent of you indicated that you loved the change to magazine format. You told us (90 percent of you) that you use Just Out to stay in touch with our community, including our advertisers.

Nearly 50 percent read every issue of Just Out (another 30 percent say they read almost every issue). Over 33 percent have been reading Just Out for over 10 years. And 10 percent told us they have been reading it for more than 20 years! You also told us that you read Just Out more than any other LGBTQ publication.

Our readership identifies themselves as gay, lesbian, bi, trans, queer and everything in between. And economic level varies as much from those that need our help to those extremely well off. Readership is roughly split between male and female (with men just edging out women). Age-wise, we have young readers and mature readers alike. We, indeed, are a diverse community.

Advertisers, we also want to take this opportunity to thank you for your support during the transition!

When you invest your advertising budget with Just Out, you are not only supporting the publication, but also our community.

In 2013, Just Out will celebrate its 30th anniversary. This is a big deal, not just for the publication, but also for our community. For 30 years, our extremely diverse community has worked together to accomplish great things, and has stuck together during very trying times. For 30 years, Just Out has chronicled this journey. We will not only take occasional looks back during our anniversary year, but will also look forward as we continue to make this place we call home a better place for all of us.

Here’s to the next 30 years.

Plus ça change, plus c’est la même chose — the more things change, the more they stay the same.

Eddie Glenn is the co-publisher of Just Out. Reach him at Eddie@JustOut.com.

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Ditto's Memoir

Gossip frontwoman Beth Ditto has just released her first book, Coal to Diamonds. Though her band’s recently released album, A Joyful Noise, debuted in Billboard’s top 100 in the U.S. and managed to reach the top five in four European countries, life wasn’t always so great for the singer. She recounts some of the tougher moments in her memoir with help from writer Michelle Tea. Ditto talks about her early life in Judsonia, Arkansas — a place where indoor plumbing was a luxury, squirrel was a meal, and sex ed was taught during senior year in high school (long after many girls had gotten pregnant and dropped out) and her move to Olympia and Portland, including the life, loves and successes she found there.

She also opens up about her battle with sarcoidosis, a rare immune-system disorder that attacks the internal organs (and killed comedian Bernie Mac in 2008), and her help from Portland and other communities at a time when she had no health insurance and was not yet a celebrity.

With her usual blunt and unapologetic storytelling, Coal is still a poetic journey of a talented woman coming into her own.

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Congratulations James Komoro, Just Out's lastest iPad giveaway winner! James was randomly drawn from thousands of entrants in our second iPad giveaway this year! Follow us on Facebook and Twitter — JustOutPortland — for more fabulous giveaways!

Logan Lynn

Portland indie-popster, Q Center PR Manager, and Just Out Columnist Logan Lynn has just released his seventh studio album, Tramp Stamps and Birthmarks. His danceable beats are often upbeat tunes with serious subject matter — good gay club anthems that have landed him praise such as “the new Golden boy of electro-pop.” The first single from the album, “Turn Me Out,” released in early fall, is a naughty on-the-floor track in more ways than one, and features a video about both the desire to be loved and the darker side of sexuality. loganlynnmusic.com

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Rapid HIV Testing

OraSure has just introduced its OraQuick In-Home HIV Test nationwide making it the first rapid infectious disease test ever to be made available directly to consumers for in-home use. The test detects antibodies to both HIV-1 and HIV-2 with an oral swab, providing a confidential in-home testing option with results in as little as 20 minutes. The in-home test is an over-the-counter version of OraQuick ADVANCE(R), the oral swab rapid test that has sold more than 25 million units in the professional market, to doctors, hospitals, clinics and other trained professionals. OraSure is also making available specialized resources including live support and comprehensive referral services through a toll-free support center 866-436-6527 and consumer website. orasure.com

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EDITOR’S NOTE | QPDX

by Alley Hector

Holiday Hot Tips Where to pick up a unique gift, and see twinkling lights during December, some recent decorating trends, plus a Peppermint Stick Martini!

CRAFT FAIRS You don’t need to brave the horrors of a crowded mall in Portland where we have several local craft fairs that feature truly unique artisans and extra special gifts.

SATURDAY MARKET Portland’s longest running outdoor market stays open all the way through Christmas Eve every Saturday 10 a.m. - 5 p.m. and Sunday 11 a.m. - 4:30 p.m. at the Waterfront and Ankeny Parks in downtown Portland. Extended holiday days and hours. portlandsaturdaymarket.com CRAFTY WONDERLAND Quarterly hipster craft extravaganza gives us two days in honor of the holiday season, December 8th and 9th, 11 a.m. – 6 p.m. at the Oregon Convention Center (777 NE MLK Jr Blvd).

Goodie bags and free admission. craftywonderland.com BIKECRAFT Nothing goes together better than Portland queers and bikes, so check out this one-of-a-kind and oh-so-Portlandia fair December 1st and 2nd 11 a.m. - 6 p.m. at Sandbox Studio (420 NE 9th Ave). Admission is free and prizes are given throughout the fair. bikecraftpdx.com SEE THE LIGHT Lots of different types of venues where you can see holiday lights without running up your own electric bill.

PEACOCK LANE The homiest of all the light shows, Peacock Lane is simply a neighborhood in Southeast Portland that has agreed to celebrate their holiday spirit with lights, nativity scenes and Santa replicas since the 1920s. The lane is between SE Stark and Belmont, one block east of Cesar Chavez, and runs 6 p.m. - 11 p.m. December 15th - 31st with pedestrian only nights the 15th and 16th. You can even take a horse drawn carriage! peacocklane.net ZOO LIGHTS More than a million LED lights with animal themes take over the Oregon Zoo from 5 p.m. - 8:30 p.m. November 21st thru December 31st. Features include moving sculptures, forests of lighted trees, animal silhouettes and a light-bedecked steamer train. oregonzoo.org/visit/zoolights CHRISTMAS SHIPS See lights floating merrily down our city’s main

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stream from December 7th - 21st (with a special performance in Camas/ Washougal December 1st) featuring a 55 - 60 boat fleet of volunteers. christmasships.org DECORATING TRENDS Just a few ideas to make the yuletide gay.

GLITTER Gays tend to like glitter all year round but now is your opportunity to really get out the reflective glitz. It’s the perfect contrast to the Pacific Northwest natural look and can add just the right contrast to a real tree. Glittered looks have appeared in more vendors’ lines either as new collections or as updates on popular classics like Kurt Adler nutcrackers.

EURO/RETRO MASHUP Mid-century modern is the perfect motif for a cheeky yet stylish take on the holiday season. Rockefeller Christmas accessories can be both festive and ironic and it’s fun to throw in a little 70s Scandinavian charm into the mix of bubble lights. Rumor has it Santa actually resides in Lapland, and it should be easy to get good decorations from Ikea.

SEASIDE CHARM I keep seeing the idea of a coastal Christmas popping up everywhere and there are lots of ways to integrate a nautical theme into the season. Think seashells, candles and metal lanterns. Plus, it’s a great excuse to make a winter escape to Cannon Beach for some cute new ornaments, and hopefully, a seaside cabin with a hot tub. Think of it as a present to yourself.

DRINKS AND SNACKS We already know that no one likes Fruitcake, but what other food and booze ideas can we come up with that bridge the traditional and the new?

PARTY COCKTAILS I love a good eggnog or hot buttered rum but here’s a particularly different winter punch recipe for a drink dubbed "Santa’s Helper." Soak peeled and sliced cucumber wedges and crushed mint overnight in Bacardi Limon. Then right before the party, strain out the solids and add limeade concentrate, no-sodium soda water, and enough cranberry juice to create a beautifully crimson cocktail. Garnish with lime slices.

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For a more individual drink try this one!

PEPPERMINT STICK MARTINI 1 peppermint stick, crushed 1 1/2 ounces vodka 1 ounce peppermint schnapps 1 ounce Triple Sec Ice 1 small candy cane

Use crumbled mint bits on the rim, then combine the vodka, schnapps, Triple Sec and ice in a cocktail shaker. Shake and strain the mix into the martini glass and garnish with the candy cane.

e Alternately, if you’re really lazy, just make some hot chocolate and hang a cane on the rim of the coffee cup until it melts into the warm chocolate.

DESSERT TABLE Party guests love variety, and a table of tiny desserts can give you the opportunity to throw in some handmade creations while not feeling bad about filling the bulk of it with store bought goodness. Luckily, in this foodie town there are a ton of local bakers and candy makers that will make the whole table look fancy and homemade. Try mini-cupcakes from Cupcake Jones, traditional candy such as peppermint bark from Willamette Valley Confectionary (a handmade candy company run by our own A&E editor Ken Hoyt), or the more traditional holiday petit fours and ribbon candy from the decidedly not-Northwest, but still delicious, Swiss Colony. That last one’s part of my bi-coastal family tradition. §

Just Out’s Editor-In-Chief Alley Hector can. be reached at Alley@JustOut.com.

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VOICES | In The Trenches

by Logan Lynn

Back To The Garden Hearing familiar music one Autumn evening transports this man from darkness to the light of the universe and a once unknown clarity.

I turned thirty-three this past October, and, on the eve of my new year on Earth, some strange magic occurred that has catapulted me into the most exquisite inner awakening I have ever experienced. At the risk of sounding totally certifiable, I have decided to share this journey with all of you. Some of you may relate, others may not, but I feel I may burst if I don’t give it back to the world.

When I was seven years old one of the students at the college my father worked for came to live with us for a year. This was not uncommon in the close-knit Christian education system we were immersed in at the time, and my parents knew this young man well … at least they thought they did. Over the months that followed his moving into our home it would become clear that he was not who he seemed to be, as is so often the case with these types of people.

During the year that this man lived with us he molested me countless times and raped me on a number of occasions. I was made to participate in sexual acts that no seven year old should even know about, much less be subject to. He used my fear to keep me quiet, and twisted my young faith up with sexualized violence to the point where I shut down completely. I no longer trusted adults, and the wedge he drove between my family and me would take decades to repair.

By the time I was ten I began looking for escape wherever I could find it, and the burden left by the hurt this man had so thoroughly inflicted seemed to get heavier and heavier with each passing year. Every failed relationship, every broken feeling, all piling on top of the weight of this man who had taken me away from myself, my loved ones, and the world at such an early age. Even in happy times when everything was going well, I was not able to shake it. The inner burden was constant.

At around midnight on my birthday this past October 15th, as I was lying down in bed next to my already sleeping, very supportive, loving partner and our new puppy, I heard music start to play. It was a song I had heard before somewhere long ago, a familiar tune, coming closer with each passing moment. It started soft, but the volume grew and grew until it was all around me, enveloping me, pulling me into its ancient melody. I cannot fully explain what happened next. It was as if the universe peeled back to reveal itself and the dark room filled with the brightest light I have ever seen. I was paralyzed for the moment, then transported from our bedroom to some other place; a place I had been before but can’t begin to describe; it just felt like I was home.

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In that moment a message was imprinted on me. There was no voice speaking words, yet some grand vision of my entire cosmic journey came rushing back — everything I have ever been, everything I am a part of still, the stardust from which I was formed — and it told me that none of this life has been happening to me, but rather that I have created it all; that these experiences I’ve been running from my whole life were chosen by me a long time ago, formed in this very place I was now seeing again for the first time; that somewhere along the way I had forgotten I am a teacher, a creator; that nothing is ever as it seems, and that this body is just a tool to get me back to the celestial garden I feel so much a part of.

Even the seemingly horrifying bits of my memory were suddenly awash in the light of the universe, shown for what they really are, and put back in their place.

It felt as if I was suddenly let in on the fact that I have spent all of my years in a comatose state, that my entire life up to this point had just been imagined. I don’t remember anything after that, nor do I recall falling asleep, but when I woke up the following morning I felt light, free, and at peace for the first time in decades. The weight of this man I have been carrying on my back all of these years was gone, and has not returned since.

This body is just a tool to get me back to the celestial garden.

It is my hope that those of you who are suffering will remember that you too are just stardust. You are in control of every breath, every molecule, every moment; they have been yours and yours alone all along. You are all teachers and creators, and nothing is ever as it seems. This life is simply your plan unfolding as you wanted it to long ago, and though you may have forgotten yourself at points along the way, it is not too late to remember that you are perfect just as you are. § Logan Lynn writes In The Trenches for Just Out. He is a Portland based musician, activist, writer, and is a regular contributor to The Huffington Post.

Reach him at Logan@JustOut.com

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VOICES | In Transit

by Courtney O'Donnell

Where to Pee? Nature's calling shouldn't be a cringe moment for trans people but it often is. Technology and Portland are helping to improve things, though.

As trans people go about their lives, there’s the daily dilemma of where to pee? Aside from our homes, and perhaps workplace and social routines, “where to pee?” is the question trans people are most likely to ask ourselves when we’re out and about. Unfortunately, we usually just mumble in silence and look for the lesser evil of the choices we usually have — a male or female restroom — knowing that using one or the other could result in being shouted at or violently attacked.

Trans people have been physically harmed for using the seemingly safer female restroom as evidenced by a recent east coast attack on a transgender fast food customer that was captured on videotape and closed-circuit TV. This nationally reported incident resulted in lengthy jail terms for the two female attackers.

Gatekeepers can also get in the way of safe bathroom decisions. Across the river in Vancouver, a bartender denied a trans woman access to the women’s restroom, which later led to local media coverage. While television news cameras were rolling, the bartender explained she has no problems with trans customers, but drew the line at allowing the trans patron usage of the ladies’ room because the trans woman is “still a boy and she wants to go in the woman’s restroom…” Although the trans patron has since filed a complaint with that state’s human rights commission, it shows that trans people not only have to face difficulty with other users of public rest rooms, but also with those that own them.

Gender-neutral restrooms, of course, are the solution, and down the road there will be more of them as the paradigm of public restrooms changes as a result of transgender advocacy.

or trans-safe bathrooms around the country and makes it available to anyone at no cost. I found that Portland appears to be in the top five cities with reported gender-neutral bathroom sites. I spotted numerous Portland businesses, retailers, malls and movie theaters in the database.

Browsing through the Portland locations listed will bring peace of mind to many trans people in the city.

In addition, there is an app for the iPhone that taps into the safe2pee data.

By utilizing GPS, the TranSquat app can bring up the gender-neutral locations closest to you. It’s community driven so that users can add or update the database. Those new to Portland, or on the go in another city, can use this app to make safe choices. Trans man Billy Bolt developed the app to help fund his sex reassignment surgery — a really clever idea.

There isn’t an Android version at this time, but I wouldn’t be surprised if one came out down the road.

Gender-neutral restrooms, of course, are the solution...

To help make the where to pee(?) dilemma a thing of the past, trans and the entirety of the LGBT community, as well as their allies can make a routine habit of urging places and businesses they frequent to adopt gender-neutral bathroom policies. Not only might some businesses like to be ahead of the curve on providing this access if given information of the need, others could be persuaded of the financial sense it makes when shown the safe2pee database, especially if their location is likely to be suggested to potential customers using the TranSquat app.

In Portland, a number of businesses and agencies are already on Nature’s calling shouldn’t be a cringe moment. We now have options and board with gender-neutral bathrooms. The Q Center, Reed College, solutions. More will come our way if we speak up. Thanks for reading.

PSU, SMYRC, and Portland Loos already have gender-neutral sites. A Your thoughts and comments are always welcome! § Portland business, Floyd’s Coffee Shop, adopted the idea after a customer suggested it.

In Transit is written by Courtney O’Donnell for Just Out. Courtney is a Transgender actress, A website — safe2pee.org — collects information about gender-neutral

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advocate, and writer, including being a regular contributor to The Huffington Post. She is also the star of the film 'Lexie Cannes'. Reach her at Courtney@JustOut.com.

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VOICES | In The Pink

by Lyska Mondor

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Volunteering Feel like giving back this holiday season? Four non-profits that could use your gift of time — no waiting required.

Recently, I was talking with a friend about funny things that have happened to me while volunteering. For example, there was that time a gust of wind swept a giant Styrofoam crucifix out of someone’s hands and into my head. It knocked me down, and needless to say, kept me in the line of fire for some pretty amazing jokes. Ashamedly, it has been too long since I last donated time to a good cause, and getting back on the wagon can be intimidating.

Discussing the topic of volunteering with friends has revealed something interesting. In my age group of 25-35 year olds there are rampant excuses, and loads of misinformation leading to a lack of action in our community.

Asking around I hear a lot of the same things.

“I hear there’s a huge waiting list to volunteer there, and it requires a lot of hours. It’s basically like having a job.”

Okay, in my research for this, none of the places I contacted had a waiting list to volunteer. If for some reason you come across an organization that miraculously has too many hands trying to work for free, move on to the next one. Most of the groups I spoke with would love to have more volunteers, and offer time commitments at many different levels.

Here are my top picks for easy-approach quick-turnaround volunteering.

HANDS ON GREATER PORTLAND | HANDSONPORTLAND.ORG This is a wonderful organization. Go to the website and click on “Ways to Volunteer.” You can read a brief explanation on how it all works, and yes, 2 - 4 hour single time commitments are even possible. There’s no experience required for some of their opportunities, and the whole process is positive from beginning to end.

They work with too many organizations to list, but seniors, cats, bikes, kids, and queers are all there. For opportunities working with vulnerable members of our community (i.e. kids and seniors) expect a background check.

Keeping them safe from harm is a top priority.

Lyska Mondor pens In The Pink for Just Out. She is a published poet and aspiring sci-fi author. Reach her at Lyska@ JustOut.com

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VOLUNTEERMATCH | VOLUNTEERMATCH.ORG The more I time I spend on their site, the more of a “wow” factor I feel. Basically, their whole purpose is to make

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matches between groups in need of help and volunteers with busy lives. Once you register with them at VolunteerMatch.org, you can immediately get paired with something just right for you. They’ve made over 6,000,000 referrals, and host very useful free web seminars full of information on who they are, volunteering in general, and the organizations with whom they partner. I really had a “welcome to the future” moment on their website.

THE Q CENTER | PDXQCENTER.ORG Portland’s LGBTQ Community Center, located on Mississippi Avenue, is a great resource for all things Q. Whether you want to volunteer directly for them, or another program such as SMYRC — an LGBTQ youth program, helping is simpler than you’d think. I went in and spoke to a front desk volunteer named Michael Lecker. He’s a PhD student that wanted to get involved at a local level, and emailed Q Center through their volunteer link. In two days he had a brief interview scheduled that quickly landed him a part-time desk position.

He also said that nonscheduled volunteering is easy too. You can work various one-time events, and I recalled the intense mayoral Q&A some weeks ago, and regretted not volunteering for it. For those who did not attend, let’s just say that the candidates were very colorful, and a few were downright entertaining.

If Michael is an example of the kind of person that volunteers for the Q Center, then I want to be there too. You don’t have to look far to see the great amount of good they do in the community, and being a part of that is one email away.

THE PIXIE PROJECT | PIXIEPROJECT.ORG What Portlander doesn’t want to volunteer with animals? The Pixie Project runs a newly expanded atypical animal shelter with amazing pet owner support, and a fully stocked nonprofit pet supply store. They do pet-to-owner matchmaking, and have some of the most positive attitudes I’ve encountered in this kind of work. From their website you can get info on volunteering. Some of these opportunities include dog walking and working in their cattery.

A cattery? Me-wow!

I’m impressed by how easy and positive talking to these organizations was. Thanks to everyone who got back to me with information. I think it’s pretty clear that any laidback Portlander can easily lend a hand. §

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VOICES | The Simple Truth

by Scott MacDonald

Sexual Reorientation We can change any number of things about ourselves if we want to. We are in charge. But what if one day humans can alter their sexual orientation?

The origin of homosexuality in humans has long been debated. In fact, it wasn’t that long ago (the 1970s) that the medical community viewed homosexuality as a form of mental illness. Forty years later, the landscape of science and society has dramatically changed. Years of research in genetics, psychology, and sociology have revealed that we still don’t know conclusively what causes a person’s sexual orientation.

The debate still rages. Do people choose to be gay or is it genetic from birth? What about environmental influence or evolution? Is it a combination of all the above or something completely different? A 2008 study published in Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences journal found similarities in brain structure between the brains of gay men and heterosexual women, and lesbian women and heterosexual men. A 1991 study published in Science researched the anterior hypothalamus, which “participates in the regulation of male-typical sexual behavior.” This study found that certain cell groups in that area were “more than twice as large in the heterosexual men as in the homosexual men.” Another study published in Endocrine Development in 2009 found that, “The presence of a substantial genetic component in the development of sexual orientation is apparent from family and twin studies. However, exactly which genes play a role is not yet clear. Given the complexity of the development of sexual orientation, it is likely to involve many genes.”

All of this is to say that genetics and biology do influence, but perhaps do not concretely dictate, our sexual orientation, which undoubtedly leads to the question – what if we can someday alter our sexual orientation?

And if possible, under what conditions is it morally and ethically responsible to undergo such a change?

It’s a question that many GLBT people, myself included, have wondered.

Like many of us who struggled with our orientation, I tried to “pray the gay away,” and when that didn’t work I tried to “straighten” my sexuality, and when that didn’t work, I despaired. What about reparative therapy?

The American Psychological Association stated in 2008, in an informative pamphlet on sexuality, “All major national mental health organizations have officially expressed concerns about therapies promoted to modify sexual orientation. To date, there has been no scientifically adequate research to show that therapy aimed at changing sexual orientation (sometimes called reparative or conversion therapy) is safe or effective.” People with disabilities and those who are transgender have

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encountered this situation before. If a procedure existed to alter an aspect of your being you found incongruous with who you are, should you accept it? A person who is deaf might be able to hear again with a cochlear implant. A person who is biologically male, but feels they are female, can change their gender. If a person is born gay, but finds homosexual attraction repulsive, is it acceptable for them to become straight or are they rejecting themselves?

The line at which people change for themselves or change because of societal expectations is barely a line at all. And “change” is the correct term here; no one is being cured, although, some would certainly view this as a “cure” for any sexuality or state of being that isn’t hetero-normative.

Sexuality in our society is still viewed in such a black and white manner that it’s doubtful any person could distinguish between what they think they want and what society wants them to want.

Such change cannot be taken lightly. Even if we can change, it doesn’t mean we should, and it certainly doesn’t mean that everyone would. Our ability to change someday should not undermine the development of a tolerant society. The “born this way” argument could change into something far more ugly when we have the ability to change, and yet decline to do it. Change could be an option; tolerance should not Science, politics, religion, and conjecture aside, an important point always seems lost in these discussions. Regardless of how anyone thinks that we “came to be,” we are still human, and perhaps surprising to some, just like everyone else. To those who say that we make a choice to be who we are, what kind of choice is that to make? Why would anyone, in this day and age, make such a decision that results in others holding them in outright contempt, in immeasurable hatred? The simple truth is that no one would.

The choice we do make, to the vexation of others, is to act upon our attractions, feelings, and emotions, which is inherently human. Animals follow instinct and biological imperatives, but humans don’t always play by the rules. The capability to think and act, to rationalize and moralize, to feel and love, is what makes us unique in this world. To deny another’s sexual orientation is to deny part of their humanity.

And to be hated for an aspect of our being that is beyond our control is to know hatred in its purest form. § Scott MacDonald is an award winning young journalist originally from Idaho. He writes The Simple Truth for Just Out. Reach Scott at Scott@JustOut.com

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Community The Oregonian editorial board thinks Oregon shouldn't wait until 2014 for a vote on gay marriage. On November 10 the board suggested that 2014 is too long of a wait, writing the legislature should take the cause up pronto, undoing the Oregon constitutional amendment that defines marriage as "one man, one woman." Since that amendment passed Oregon has changed, The O. claims, and is ready for, gay marriage. But newly named Speaker of the House, Tina Kotek, told The O. that she thinks this is an issue for the community and not the legislature. The O. team believes the misdirected amendment shouldn't be on the books a day longer than it has to be and calls for the legislature to get the issue on the ballot in 2013.

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Go Washington!

NOT ONLY DID OUR NEIGHBORS TO THE NORTH, WASHINGTON STATE, PASS A HISTORIC MEASURE ALLOWING SAME SEX MARRIAGE, THEY WERE AMONG THE FIRST STATES TO DO SO BY VOTE RATHER THAN THE COURT SYSTEM OR LEGISLATURE. MAINE AND MARYLAND ALSO PASSED LAWS FOR CIVIL MARRIAGE RIGHTS AT THE BALLOT BOX. THIS ELECTION BRINGS THE TOTAL NUMBER OF STATES THAT ALLOW GAY MARRIAGE TO NINE, IN ADDITION TO THE THREE STATES THAT RECOGNIZE MARRIAGES BETWEEN TWO MEN OR TWO WOMEN PERFORMED OUTSIDE STATE LINES. AT THE SAME TIME, MINNESOTA VOTERS REJECTED A BALLOT MEASURE THAT WOULD HAVE ENSHRINED AN ANTI-GAY MARRIAGE LAW IN THEIR CONSTITUTION, AND NEIGHBORING WISCONSIN ELECTED TAMMY BALDWIN AS THE COUNTRY'S FIRST OPENLY GAY U.S. SENATOR.

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The independent film Bearcity2: The Proposal is having its Portland premiere December 7 - 9 at the Clinton St. Theatre. Director Doug Langway is flying in (all the way from a previous premier in Germany) and will be at all screenings. Portland is home to one of the biggest bear communities in the world — the Oregon Bears. bearcity2.com

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Speaker Kotek

Oregon State Representative Tina Kotek will be the first openly lesbian politician to lead a state legislative chamber in the United States. Kotek, featured in Just Out last September, was selected by her Democratic peers November 15 to be the Oregon Legislature's Speaker of the House during the 2013 session. The decision will become final in January. Gay leaders also will control the House or Senate in four other states: Washington, California, Colorado and Rhode Island, according to The Huffington Post. Senator Ed Murray was elected majority leader in Washington. Kotek represents District 44 in Portland.

Cascade AIDS Project Executive Director Michael Kaplan left November 15 to accept the position of President and CEO of AIDS United, a national nonprofit headquartered in Washington DC committed to ending the AIDS epidemic in the U.S. Jackie Yerby, CAP's Board Chair said, "…the Board feels well-positioned to guide CAP through the next transition as we begin an Executive Search. CAP is a very strong organization. We have a topnotch team of Directors as well as a group of staff and volunteers who are deeply committed to CAP's mission." cascadeaids.com

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World AIDS Day

On December 1, around the world and throughout the United States, communities will come together to mark the 24th annual World AIDS Day. To commemorate the day and raise awareness throughout Oregon and SW Washington, local and global HIV/AIDS service organizations have collaborated to launch the World AIDS Day Northwest campaign with a message of “Getting to Zero – One Person at a Time.” With 33 million people infected world-wide with HIV and 1.1 million in the U.S., the goal of the campaign is to mobilize schools, faith-based organizations, businesses and community-based organizations to become involved in raising awareness, bolstering HIV prevention efforts and ensuring hope for those already infected.

Local area AIDS organizations have come together to create a website to serve as a hub of information for World AIDS Day in Oregon and SW Washington. worldaidsdaynw.org

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BRO Videos

Basic Rights Oregon has just put out two video campaigns celebrating two-spirit families and trans justice. The trans justice video was a firstof-its-kind, discussing trans experiences of health care discrimination; eight incredible community members are joined by two allies to share struggles, joys, and triumphs regarding trans-inclusive care.

Our Families is a community-based education project that raises the visibility of LGBT families of color in our communities. As part of BRO’s ongoing education campaign, this video highlights the unique trials and triumphs of Native American Two-Spirit LGBT families. A special screening was held on November 12th at the Native American Rehabilitation Association of the Northwest (NARA ). It included a panel with the courageous families who shared their stories and a fun social hour. basicrights.org

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A Legend Among Us It's just not the holidays without JOHNNY MATHIS playing in the background of our lives. The legendary crooner has sold over 350 million records and he cooks.

One of our own, THE KING OF CHRISTMAS talks, cooks, and sings exclusively with Just Out.

by Ken Hoyt

The word legend is tossed about with some regularity and applied, without irony, to things that can scarcely bear the weight of such an accolade. Legends may well be born, but they generally require seasoning, and it is essential that they stand the test of time. Only then can the title be awarded without reservation.

Johnny Mathis is, in fact, a legend. His cherubic face, velvety voice, and long sustained notes have launched many top selling songs. It helps to start early if you want a long career (although that’s not exactly insurance — see one-hit-wonders).

Mathis began in his career in 1956 and he’s been on the charts every decade since, with over 73 albums that have hit the Billboard Charts and a tidy 350 million records sold. At seventy-seven years old, Mathis and his voice are in fine shape as he continues to travel extensively for concerts.

It seems that where Mathis is concerned the world is blissfully colorblind. Even so, he began his career prior to the Civil Rights struggles of the 60’s, and yet he doesn’t recall much strife. “So many times,” he says, “I wondered when it would come up. I was a little naive, and very fortunate.

When I came along Nat (King Cole), Ella (Fitzgerald) and Sammy (Davis Jr.) had blazed the trail and had taken the brunt. I didn’t have to deal with it. I’ve been very lucky.”

Mathis began his career at Columbia records, a giant in the industry, but not known as a “race” label. The world was different too. Recording artists were heard long before they were seen. “Columbia,” says Mathis, “had mainstream Caucasian performers. I sounded like them.” His wavy hair and boy-next-door looks made his race more difficult to determine.

Mathis credits a lot of his early success with Percy Faith, a bandleader, composer and arranger known for his use of string instruments in his lush orchestrations. The romantic sounds that Faith produced were a perfect match for Mathis’s rich vocal quality.

Photo by Jeff Dunas

Mathis recounts following the legendary Mahalia Jackson into the studio to record all afternoon. “Then, I was off to the Copacabana,” Mathis recalls, “to do five shows a night.” There was a dark side too. “Amphetamines,” he remembers, “were prescribed to keep performers going. No one knew they were harmful, but I was under the influence for three years. I went through hell and fire like everyone else.”

Unlike many of today’s crop of teen idols, Mathis was better equipped to enjoy a lengthy career. That longevity may well have to do with a voice that he had help crafting and developing. His father, Clem, bought a piano when he thought his five-year-old son was showing interest and promise. Johnny sang everywhere, church, school and local festivals.

When he turned thirteen his father decided it was time for him to get professional training. He studied with local voice teacher Connie Cox

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for six years. “I would help out around her house,” Mathis remembers, “in exchange for lessons.”

The wisdom of that vocal training is evident today. His sound is unchanged to most ears. Mathis insists, “I’ve let go of certain songs that I don’t have the chops for anymore.” The tunes that he’s quietly retired do not include the songs he calls “the holy trinity:” “Chances Are,” “The Twelfth of Never,” and “Misty.” “Those,” he notes, “are the songs the audience is waiting for at every concert.”

On a sweet separate note Mathis mused, after hearing a recent recording of himself, “Now, I sound just like my father.”

To have a long career is a blessing, but one that may have built-in difficulties. For instance, how does one keep a song sounding fresh, meaningful and heartfelt when one has been singing it for over fifty years? “The whole process of performing,” says Mathis, “is so visceral. No way I can go on and not sing from the heart. I can’t lie to people. I have so much respect for an audience — I love what I do.”

Mr. Mathis is open and warm in conversation, but there are things he prefers not to discuss. Like many gentlemen of his era he prefers not to discuss the intimate matters of his life. Early in the 80’s he came out in an interview. He hasn’t talked about it much since. There is also a strong suggestion that the death threats that followed his openness in that original interview have made him very wary.

He has been entertaining thoughts of a new album, but nothing has solidified. He hasn’t ruled out the idea of an autobiography, although he’s in no hurry to tackle the project. In fact, outside of regular touring dates he’s content to work on his golf game, which he does most days.

To some readers, Mathis will be most recognizable as a frequently played Christmas artist. To date, Mathis has recorded five Christmas albums with lots of songs that have become holiday standards including, “The Sounds of Christmas,” “A Marshmallow World” and “Christmas Is a Feeling In Your Heart.”

“When I was growing up we didn’t have a lot of extra money for gifts,” Mathis remembers, “but there was always the smell of holiday foods cooking and music all around the house. It’s always been my favorite time of year.”

To some he has become the “King of Christmas,” a title he enjoys almost as much as he does the season itself. When asked if he would ever have dreamed he’d get that moniker he replied, “I was so unsure as a child of what the future would hold. If I’d known that I would be the King of Christmas … well, that would have been the star on the top of the tree.” § IN CONCERT Johnny Mathis, the King of Christmas, will be appearing with the Oregon Symphony on December 22nd at 7:30 p.m. Tickets and additional information are available at orsymphony.org.

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Q+A Johnny Mathis Cookbook author/Gourmet KITCHEN INSPIRATION?

Photos courtesy of Johnny Mathis

I learned growing up; both of my parents were great cooks. I’ve always cooked all of my own food. I enjoy it and it’s relaxing and it’s never made sense to me to have someone cook for me.

ENTERTAINING? I don’t entertain so often now because of travel and golfing. But I used to love having groups over. The best thing was that I had a golfing buddy who would come over early and do all the chopping; he loved to chop and he was good at it. That made it easier and more fun.

FAVORITE HOLIDAY? I love Christmas; it has great memories for me. When I was a child there wasn’t a lot of money for gifts, but there were always wonderful foods, the smells coming from the kitchen, and we had lots of music.

IS THIS A FAMILY RECIPE?

STICKY TOFFEE PUDDING by Johnny Mathis 3/4 pound (or 8 ounce package) of chopped Pitted Dates 1 cup water 1 tsp. Baking Soda ¼ cup butter ¾ cups sugar 2 eggs 1 cup + 2 Tbl. of all purpose flour ½ tsp. vanilla Combine dates and water in a saucepan and bring to a boil Remove from heat Stir in Baking Soda Then set aside Cream butter and sugar together until smooth Add eggs – one at a time, beating after each addition Fold the flour into cream mixture Add dates with liquid and vanilla

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Pour the batter into a greased 7 X 7 X 2 baking pan Bake @ 350 for 30-40 minutes While pudding is baking, prepare the sauce: Sauce 1 cup firmly packed brown sugar ¼ cup + 2 Tbl. whipping cream ½ cup butter ½ tsp. vanilla Combine sugar, cream, butter, vanilla into saucepan Bring to boil Reduce heat and simmer for 3 minutes Pour some of the sauce over the baked pudding Return to oven for 7 more minutes Pudding should absorb the sauce and turn golden brown Cut into squares and serve with extra sauce P.S. “If You Want To Gild The Lily, Throw Some Pecans Into The Sauce.”

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TOP: Mathis penned a cookbook in 1982, Cooking For You Alone. BOTTOM: An old family photo. Mathis’s mother and father are in the first row, and Johnny is standing in the back row with his brother and sisters (Johnny is top right). He had 6 siblings. “When I was growing up we didn’t have a lot of extra money for gifts,” Mathis remembers, “but there was always the smell of holiday foods cooking and music all around the house.”

No, it actually came from my golfing buddy, Howard Keel (MGM musical star). He’s gone now, but he had great stories about his movie career. §

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FOOD | Chefs

THIS PAGE Top: Cranberry Caramel Tart Bottom: Blue Collar Baking's Mt. Hood Bundt Cake OPPOSITE PAGE Top: Fattingman Bottom: Overnight Lamb Shoulder The detailed recipes for these 4 dishes can be found at our website. Justout.com/recipes

Meet 4 Of Our Favorite Local Chefs + Get A Favorite Holiday Recipe The sense of smell is cited as a most effective trigger for memories. A whiff of fragrance can send us reeling into romantic thoughts, or perhaps elicit a shimmering glimpse of the sheltered, cozy world of childhood.

One of the hallmarks of holiday festivities is the heart-melting scents wafting from the kitchen.

It almost doesn’t matter what’s in the oven: cookies, cakes, scalloped potatoes or roasts — we’re crazy about them all! The precise combination of spices and butter along with time and talent wield the power to seduce and enchant.

To help launch this season of gathering and feasting we’ve connected with some of our favorite cooks (sisters and brothers, all) to share their memories and the recipes that evoke them.

Whatever your religion or traditions, may this season of sharing and celebration bring you hope and joy. §

Festive Foods!

Many Treasured Memories Begin In The Kitchen...

by Ken Hoyt

Photography Horace Long

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Warren Becker, Head Baker/Owner

Blue Collar Baking Company

Blue Collar Baking’s Mt. Hood Bundt Cake KITCHEN INSPIRATION? My Mom definitely was the one who inspired me. For better or for not, Mom always equated baked goods with love. If things were a little rough around the house I’d find an extra baked treat in my school lunch box.

FAVORITE INGREDIENT? Vanilla. Real vanilla is the only kind I use. It’s almost like a booster; it brings out the other ingredients.

When I get stressed out at the bakery, it’s not uncommon for me to open a bottle of vanilla and take a big whiff.

FAVORITE HOLIDAY? Thanksgiving is my favorite holiday because it doesn’t involve the pressure of gift giving. There isn’t all that expectation about did I get the right gift, will I get a gift, do I have to put on a fake smile. It truly is about people gathering, breaking bread, relaxing and just being appreciative of what and who is in front of them. The whole country can get around it; it’s not a religious holiday. You don’t have to worry about being Muslim, Jewish or Christian.

FAVORITE HOLIDAY MEMORY? One of my favorite memories with Art (Kranz, his late partner) is that every year we would take my truck and go get a Christmas tree. We looked together to find the perfect tree on a crisp winter night. We’d bring it in to the house.

On the first night we’d cuddle on the couch while the tree adapted. It would have no ornaments on it. The house would fill up with that evergreen smell. It was just beautiful. I haven’t had a real tree since he passed. I haven’t forsaken Christmas at all, but it’s still a work in progress for me to reclaim Christmas. § 319 SW Pine Street, Portland 503-227-3249

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Tim Thompson, Baker

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Caterer and Hired Gun

Cranberry Caramel Tart HOW DID YOU GET STARTED? My Mom worked in the cafeteria at my grade school. I remember going in early in the morning with her and playing with dough and making rolls. It was something that I always did, and I assumed that every other child did it as well. The baking was in me. It was something that was there.

KITCHEN INSPIRATION? My Grandmother was a nice German lady. She babysat me so I was around her a great deal. I remember some of her yummy treats. She was on a fixed income so at Christmas she’d make her Kringle cookie for everyone. Her apartment was crowded with the preparations. She’s since passed away, and that’s a tradition that I continue.

FAVORITE HOLIDAY? Michael (Mendelson, his partner) and I have two different faiths.

It’s a little funny, Michael is Jewish but he’s generally a little antsy about putting up the Christmas tree and I’m excited about pulling out the Menorah.

CHRISTMAS TRADITION? Our biological families are in the Midwest, so we’ve had to create our own family, our own memories.

On Christmas Eve, Michael and I go out to whichever expensive, extravagant restaurant we can find open and are defiantly decadent.

Then (we go) home to watch the twenty-four hour marathon of Christmas Story and open a gift or two. The following morning, Christmas Day, we have our Christmas brunch for 8 - 10 friends. And, of course, we have lots of Grandma Linda's Kringle. And Mimosas.

FAVORITE INGREDIENT? I loved chocolate until I moved to Oregon and discovered the fresh fruit. Now I can't wait to make something with the first rhubarb, the first apples or cranberries. § pdxtt@aol.com

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Laura Widener, Baker/Owner,

Pastrygirl

Fattingman WHEN DID YOU START COOKING? I was in second grade when I made my first cake. I think it was a box cake. [In my childhood home] most of our baking was done during the holidays. Occasionally during the summers there might be a pie. I took on the pie baking mantle when I was in high school. I perfected my apple pie before I graduated high school.

WHO INSPIRED YOU? My family kind of inspired me. I was really encouraged by how much they loved and enjoyed my cooking and baking. It brought me a lot of joy to have them respond so positively to it.

FAVORITE INGREDIENT? I love chocolate. I love the things you can do with chocolate. It can be something so simple as chocolate chip cookies or as elaborate as a chocolate soufflé. I love everything from the 40% milk chocolate to the 85% bittersweet chocolate and all of the different things you can do with them.

FAVORITE HOLIDAY? Halloween is our favorite holiday. I love it! I love all the treats, the decorations and the mystery that comes with it.

It’s exciting to offer people home baked goods during this season, because they don’t expect it.

When I was very young and homemade treats were still very popular (before scary people were doing scary things to candy), I loved that our neighbors would do popcorn balls and candy apples.

HOLIDAY TRADITIONS? The holidays for Stephanie and I are very special and our traditions are things we’ve built together. Christmas eve is fantastic; we have crab, a green salad and champagne. We’ve done it with just the two of us and with other family if they are in town.

Everyone loves it.

FAMILY TRADITIONS? I didn’t know my Grandmother very well, but I do have a connection. The Fattingman were her recipe, but my Mother carried on the tradition by making them for the holidays. And now I make them, too. § The detailed recipe for this dish can be found at our website. Justout.com/recipes 30 SE JustOut.com

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Devon Chase, Chef de Cuisine

Oven & Shaker

Overnight Lamb Shoulder KITCHEN INSPIRATION? When I think about childhood, and developing a love for food, my grandfather, Chevy (Chase, but not the actor) stands out. He always cooked, and he often had everyone over for really big meals. It was the only time we sat down to eat in large groups. He loved to have theme nights, like “Chevy Chongas,” the chimichangas that were the feature of his Mexican feast.

HOW DO YOU ENTERTAIN? We spend the holidays with friends and family. A few times I’ve had friends to a restaurant that I worked at, while we were closed down, for a big Thanksgiving feast. I love to cook for friends, especially around the holidays. My partner (Rachel Palmer) and I have just started cooking together a lot.

HOLIDAY TRADITIONS? At Christmas we tend to try and relax through the holidays ... so we do the opposite of stressful. Last year we rented a hotel room downtown and ate at the buffet (laughs). Then we just lounged in the hot tub.

Besides that, we like our plastic white Christmas tree. And we have friends over for Hot Toddies and holiday movies, like Scrooged and Christmas Story. We have a fake fireplace, so we plug that in.

This recipe has become a new tradition. It’s a pretty traditional Italian style of cooking lamb, with a slow braise. A restaurant that I worked at featured it every Sunday and I cooked it regularly and it became easy. It may seem complicated, but it’s an easy thing to put together.

Also, it feeds a lot of people and it’s not an expensive cut of lamb. § December 2012 Street, Portland, 503-241-1600 1134 NW Everett

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FAMILY | In The Family Way

by Cathy Busha & Anna Deligio

Lighting Our Way

Parenting can lead to conflict during the holidays. How much Christ do we want in Christmas? Discuss.

Softly glowing candles lit to warm the deep darkness of winter, gifts bought or made for those we love, special meals prepared with care and shared with joy – these are some of the markers of the winter holiday season.

Whether we light the menorah or the Yule log at the end of the year, it is a time to gather with those we love and celebrate those relationships.

Prior to being parents, perhaps you and your partner used the days off during this time to go somewhere special (and potentially sunny) to celebrate your relationship, bypassing the sometimes hectic pace and consumerism that can add a tin glint to the intended glow of the season.

Perhaps you alternated years celebrating with each other’s families, or perhaps the two of you hosted your families of choice for the holiday celebrations. Whatever you did before you became parents, the activities were likely geared towards the tastes and traditions of your adult peers.

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Like most of the rest of your life, now that you are parents, what you do for the holiday season takes on more significance. Whereas in the past you and your partner might have casually cobbled together traditions from both of your histories to create a collage experience of the holidays, now you are aware of passing on and creating new traditions for your wee one. Like the rest of your life now, you find yourself basing decisions on a reflected response to your own upbringing. If the holidays were a time of great cheer as a child, you likely will try to recreate that magic for your little one. Conversely, if the holidays lacked the glow and cheer anticipated for the season, you likely will try to do everything you wished your care givers had done for you during the holidays.

Will you have a Christmas tree and a menorah?

What about Solstice or Kwanza?

The cobbling of traditions between you and your partner that worked previously may now become a point of tension. A previously casual or semi-disdainful relationship with the sacred aspects of your holiday traditions may suddenly become a point of great contention as you and your partner discern how much Christ you actually want to keep in Christmas, so to speak. If celebrating Christmas, do you want the holiday to be about the birth of Jesus or do you want it to be about Santa Claus December 2012

or both? If you and your partner come from different religious traditions, how will you chose the traditions you will carry on? Will you have a Christmas tree and a menorah? What about Solstice or Kwanza?

Children act as instant witness to our decisions and reporters of how your family differs from those of their peers. Decisions made casually in the childless years are suddenly held to a new scrutiny when the open, innocent eyes of your wee one bear witness. Why don’t we have a Christmas tree? Jacob gets 8 days of presents – how come we don’t? Who is this scary, old, fat man with a big beard who is able to watch my every move and will be breaking into our house in a few weeks?

How do you wade through these decisions and create a holiday experience that, if not an experience worthy of gracing the front of a Hallmark card, would at least create some joy and set the foundation for some good memories?

Aside from the “something blue” bit, Cathy and I have framed our conversations of how we want to create the holidays for Oliver around the idea of “something old, something new, something borrowed…” She was raised in a fairly secular home that celebrated Christmas through gifts and food; I was raised in a very Catholic home with an Italian immigrant father who had no frame of reference for a Christmas tree but put one up every year anyway. From those old experiences, we’ve decided to pull the pieces of Santa Claus, Christmas trees, and stockings by the fire. Also, my family did the traditional Italian seafood feast on Christmas Eve, so we’ll do that.

She has fond memories of watching the Nutcracker ballet on TV with her dad, so we’ll make sure Oliver knows that music. For our “something new,” we’ve decided to make an ornament each year as a family craft project. Finally, we plan to borrow Solstice ideas around creating light and honoring the shortest day of the year.

We remain in discernment about the Baby Jesus and how much of that story we want to weave into our traditions, which is really a corner of the bigger question of how we want our child to understand and experience religion.

However you decide to celebrate the holidays that mark the winter and end of the year, may it be a time of joy and belonging. §

In The Family Way is written by Cathy Busha and Anna Deligio. Cathy and Anna are the new parents to son Oliver.

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SPIRIT | Like A Prayer

by Jennifer Yocum

Less Than Kind A fan letter leads this Pastor down a familiar, painful road; she returned with good advice for all of us.

I suppose I should not have been surprised, but I was caught off guard. I received a kind note from a reader complimenting my column from October’s issue of Just Out titled “Great Sex? Thank God!” The note’s writer thanked me for the article and then suggested I check out an “outreach to gay and lesbian people” from the Catholic Church.

The writer is unlikely to have known that I grew up Catholic and am well aware of the Catholic Church’s teachings on homosexuality, authored in 1986 by the man who is now pope. That 1986 document labeled homosexuality as an immutable trait, not subject to change, but also as a spiritual illness and as a condition leading to “a moral tendency toward evil.”

Nevertheless, with 26 years having passed since that official teaching damning me and mine was published and the present day, some small part of me hoped that there might have been a thaw in the rhetoric, a crack in the ice that I’d somehow missed.

I went to the website that had been recommended and … there it was again — the direction to “surrender same sex attractions into the agony of Jesus,” the invitation to join reparative groups, the pervasive hypocrisy present in the teaching that a loving God would give us the “affliction” of same sex attraction so that we could overcome that through our love for Him [sic].

I don’t think the writer of this piece of “fan mail” meant to be cruel, but repeating this plunge of the axe into my spiritual roots was less than kind. You see, as a child, teenager and young adult, I loved the Catholic Church, heart and soul. When I learned, over two decades ago, of the church’s betrayal of God’s promise to love me unconditionally, the shock and pain destroyed my sense of being God’s beloved own, and although grace has restored my faith, that pain still echoes in unguarded moments.

This is what I would say to all those religious institutions whose “outreach” to the LGBTQ community consists of trying to “repair our brokenness.” Look to your own brokenness. Look to your own willingness to condemn, to judge, to cleave off the bright giftedness of those who have been drawn to your light.

If your doctrine cannot tolerate difference, if your practice cannot allow you to embrace the other, if your religion has no resilience in the face of humanity, your faith is too poor.

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This month, many of us will make an annual pilgrimage to visit families of origin where an insidious whisper of this kind of impoverished faith, begging us to return to a path that was never ours, will hum along with Christmas carols in the background. Don’t listen. Celebrate instead the miracle of light, the new birth, the return of the sun heralding more love, more joy, more hope, more compassion and more kindness yet to break forth. Pay no attention to the death rattles of institutional denominations that would strangle our spirits. There are more open, welcoming paths that will bring us truly home. §

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NORTHWEST Between West Burnside and NW Upshur, from NW 15th to NW 26th

Back in the day this was the "gay neighborhood." Since then, we've spread out across the city but Northwest is still a favorite for grabbing a coffee, cool shopping, great food and enjoying the ambiance of Nob Hill. It's our Greenwich Village, some think.

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Portland's LGBT community isn't concentrated in one neighborhood like in some cities. Since we are an especially diverse group, living in the Rose City, you can find us in every nook and cranny of the Metro area.

Speaking of NYC comparisons, the Pearl District is our Soho. Not long ago it was the epicenter of seedy Portland. But that has given way to multi-million dollar penthouse lofts, hip restaurants, shops — everything chic. Well-dressed LGBTs can be seen here.

OLD TOWN/CHINATOWN Between West Burnside and NW Lovejoy from the the Willamette River to NW Broadway

The home of our Chinatown and where you can experience a little bit of grit. Colorful people, some great drinking holes, and some good late night Chinese are the backdrop as you pass through, on your way from the Pearl to stroll along the Willamette River. A few gay bars and clubs make this one of our neighorhoods.

MISSISSIPPI AVE. In North Portland, North from Fremont St

That said, here are eight neighborhoods where our community members are likely to be seen playing, eating, drinking and living.

DOWNTOWN SW Portland between Burnside and Lincoln from the Willamette River to SW 12th.

This is the area that blows out-oftowners away. Shopping, the arts, restaurants, a view of the river and Mt. Hood, and clean to boot.

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ALBERTA DISTRICT In Northeast Portland, heading East on Alberta from NE MLK Jr. Blvd

Like the Mississippi neighborhood, Alberta District is hip, cool and down to earth. Art is what most people think of. Last Thursday is the big deal on these streets where the melting pot that is Portland come together to eat, drink, and look at cool art.

HAWTHORNE/BELMONT In Southeast Portland between SE 12th and SE 60th From SE Hawthorne Blvd to SE Belmont St

Before there were the new cool neighborhoods, there was this one. This was hippy central back in the day and you can still feel the vibe as you make your way up and down the streets. When you see Portland on TV, this is probably the area you see. It's Portland personified, where the grunge look incubated and, to be honest, still lives.

IRVINGTON/HOLLYWOOD NE Broadway, from Grand to Hollywood Blvd and beyond

Beautiful tree-lined streets with lots of gay homeowners and renters in the area. Before Alberta and Mississippi came into their own, this was "gay central."

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OREGON TOWNS Oregon's LGBT community is, of course, largest in the Portland Metro area. But our community members quite literally live in every corner of this big state.

Several smaller cities and towns have annual Pride celebrations and other opportunities for community members to meet.

ASHLAND Home of The Oregon Shakespeare Festival, this is one of the gay-friendliest spots in the state.

Out-of-town actors in residence, coupled with new comers, make this tiny town a wonderful stop.

Pride is in early October.

Sopride.org ASTORIA This picturesque and kicked-back town at the mouth of the Columbia River has a regular Q-Night at a local bistro. astoriacoffeehouse.com BEND The Aspen of Oregon. This is the hub of the Central Oregon LGBT community. The community is an interesting mix of cowboys and ranch hands, more well-to-do LGBTers on the pristine golf courses that surround Bend, athletes, and outdoorsy types.

Pride is in June. humandignitycoalition.org CORVALLIS The more conservative Corvallis, home to Oregon State Unversity, is coming along with a growing community and LGBT resources. They celebrate Pride in late June.

PrideCorvallis.com EUGENE See page 41 GRANTS PASS This little town hosts one of the only PFLAG chapter in Southern Oregon. Though it is often considered an arch-conservative city, even rumored to have an Aryan Brotherhood group, the people at

the United Methodist Church are working hard to counterbalance that. phelpsmerland@charter.net HOOD RIVER Known for windsurfing, scenic beauty, and trust funders, Hood River has a small LGBT community. Downtown has shopping, small restaurants and coffee shops. The vibe says it's okay to be gay here.

KLAMATH FALLS This conservative rural town is getting organized to make life for the LGBT folks safer and more welcome. klambda.org LINCOLN CITY "California and Seattle aren’t the only places where you can comfortably enjoy the Pacific Ocean," the tourist website says. This beach town is focused on the LGBT market. Pride is in September. oregoncoast.org/lgbt PENDLETON Though this is the old West and cowboy country, Pendleton has an active group of citizens supporting human rights activism and an active PFLAG chapter.

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DRAG Some say Portland has among the best drag queens in the biz. The epicenter of that scene has to be Darcelle XV, the oldest drag caberet in the country. The Embers also has regular shows. And the city is packed with pageants of all sorts. darcellexv.com embersportland.com

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Comfortable yet filled with energy. During the warmer months get a sidewalk table.

SOUTHWEST Check out these Portland spots.

Most are LGBT establishments, where you can feel comfortable and at home.

SILVERADO 318 SW Third Ave silveradopdx.com

BOXXES 1025 SW Stark St boxxes.com

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This landmark bar is going to change BIG TIME, we hear. Expect greater things at this site in the months to come. In the meantime enjoy this lounge, regular special events and a convivial atmosphere.

ESCAPE 333 SW Park Ave At the corner of SW Stark/Park An all ages LGBTQ nightclub.

FEZ BALLROOM 316 SW 11th Ave fezballroom.com One of the premier showcase venues for live music and djs in the city.

Lounge, nightclub, VIP area, and outdoor terrace. Add strippers.

CASEY'S 610 NW Couch St caseyspdx.net Casey's is an all inclusive lounge that welcomes anyone. It's a place for people from diverse demographics.

CC SLAUGHTERS 219 NW Davis St 503-248-9135 ccslaughterspdx.com Gay nightclub and martini lounge. Special events. 2,000 watt sound system and killer lighting and laser show.

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HOBO'S 120 NW Third. Ave hobospdx.com

DARCELLE XV SHOWPLACE 208 NW Third Davis St darcellexv.com

Piano bar and restaurant. A mainstay for local LGBTQs for good food/drinks for years.

Darcelle XV is the epicenter of drag performances. The oldest, and one of the last venues, of its kind in the country. Strippers late night too.

EMBERS AVENUE 110 NW Broadway embersportland.com Dance bar and show club for 43 years.

Shows Wed-Saturday.

FOX & HOUNDS 217 NW Second Ave

BRANX/ROTTURE 320 SE Second Ave rotture.com A live music venue located in the Lower Southeast Industrial neighborhood. Frequent queer events.

VAULT MARTINI BAR 226 NW 12th Ave vault-martini.com A Fireplace, 18-foot glass bar, and 44 kinds of martinis. Need we say more?

A friendly neighborhood bar.

HAMBURGER MARY'S 19 NW Fifth Ave hamburgermarys.com/pdx Food, dancing, special events. Lots of fun.

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SOUTHEAST CRUSH 1400 SE Morrison St crushbar.com A little bit of everything. "11 years of DRAMA! Everything from drag queen cat fights to naked twister, jealous girlfriends to t-shirts and tight blue jeans," their website says.

HOLOCENE 1001 SE Morrison St holocene.org Live music venue with regular queer events.

STARKY'S 2913 SE Stark St starkys.com Neighborhood bar and restaurant.

NORTHEAST JOQ'S TAVERN 2512 NE Broadway joqs.webs.com A neighborhood tavern.

LOCAL LOUNGE 3536 NE MLK Jr. Blvd local-lounge.com "We are looking to meet the white collared and the blue collared, the starving artist and the hopeful musicians, the young and the old, the liberal and the liberal, the Blazer fan and the Laker hater, men and women, gay or straight," their website says.

NORTH THE EAGLE PORTLAND 835 N Lombard St eagleportland.com "The Eagle is the kind of men’s bar that fits like your favorite pair of jeans. It’s a relaxed hang-out for the men of North Portland," their website says.

FLORIDA ROOM 435 N Killingsworth St "It's got everything the pro and amateur barfly can appreciate and then some."

PortlandBarFly.com says. Queers go here.

FOGGY NOTION 3416 N Lombard St facebook.com/thefoggynotion Live rockshows. Queer events, too.

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According to the Columbian, the Advocate ranked Vancouver as the country’s No. 6 "gayest city" in 2011. That's right! The Vancouver with the WA after it. That was three spots above Seattle; five ahead of San Francisco. And way above Portland. We know!

But congratulations to our brothers and sisters across the river. We truly are happy for you. “One gets the sense that a lot of those groovy gay and lesbian Portlanders are mellowing out and coming here to settle down."

Advocate reporter Mike Albo wrote. gayvancouverwa.org

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New men's bathhouse, sex club, and social venue.

Crystal Ballroom 1332 W Burnside

STEAM PDX steamportland.com

Doug Fir

TABOO ADULT VIDEO taboovideo.com

3017 SE Milwaukie Ave

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830 E. Burnside dougfirlounge.com

Holocene

1001 SE Morrison St

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Mississippi Studios

3939 N Mississippi Ave mississippistudios.com

Roseland Theater

A men's bathhouse and club.

Adult everything is available.

MR. PEEPS mrpeeps.com Since 1981. Adult products.

SHEBOP Sheboptheshop.com Female-friendly adult products.

FANTASY VIDEO fantasyforadultsonly.com Erotic products and videos.

8 NW Sixth Ave roselandpdxQA.com

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• Sauvie Island (Collins Beach) Fully 100% legal nude beach.

• Rooster Rock State Park View a 360 degree moving panoramic of Rooster Rock taken at an extreme Columbia River low water level. Fully 100% legal nude beach.

• Glassbar Island aka Bring Beach in the Eugene/Springfield area. Volunteers are working with the State Parks to establish a official clothing optional beach in this area along a fork of the Willamette River.

• Nudy Rock on the McKenzie River a mile up from Armitage Park near Eugene.

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HOTEL MONACO 506 SW Washington St. monaco-portland.com Smart, savvy, fun and eclectic; eco-chic, family friendly and welcoming to pets, Hotel Monaco serves up cutting-edge Portland seasoned with colorful Pacific NW history.

NINES HOTEL 525 SW Morrison thenines.com Poised in the heart of the city center at the top of one of Portland, Oregon's Meier & Frank Building. This is swanky for Portland.

ACE HOTEL 1022 SW Stark St acehotel.com/portland

If you are into beaches au natural, Oregon is your state. According to naked.wikia.com there are four public spots to check out (and numerous private businesses where you can strip down).

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Ace Hotel Portland is a small hotel in historic downtown, surrounded by gay bars and the Pearl just steps away. Look for celebs.

HEATHMAN HOTEL 1001 SW Broadway heathmanhotel.com The Heathman Hotel offers an inspiring blend of natural elegance and modern lifestyle. And they have original Warhols.

HOTEL DELUXE 729 SW 15th Ave hoteldeluxeportland.com A contemporary tribute to the Golden Era of Hollywood filmmaking that tastefully balances art deco and art modern styles for a mix of timeless sophistication and serene comfort. Check out the Driftwood Lounge.

LESS $$. STILL NICE. CRYSTAL HOTEL 302 SE 12th mcmenamins.com/CrystalHotel This hotel was for decades of one Portland's most popular men's bath houses and bars.

JUPITER HOTEL 800 E Burnside jupiterhotel.com A mid-century, renovated motor innturned-boutique hotel in the heart of Portland, minutes away from Downtown Portland. Markets to gay tourists.

MARK SPENCER HOTEL 409 SW 11th Ave markspencer.com At Stark Street in the center of gay everything. Extended stays available.

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The Capitol City has an LGBT scene all its own. Local leaders say they have a virbrant, active community, and are much friendlier and mutually supportive than many other cities. Snap! The hub of the local scene may be the SouthSide Speakeasy where locals drink, eat and enjoy the shows.

Capitol Pride Salem, in downtown, is in early August. southsidespeakeasy.com salempride.com

PDX EATS Not queer per se, but among the favorites of locals to eat, drink and hang out. Plus some reader choices.

BLUEHOUR 250 NW 13th Avenue bluehouronline.com Spacious, elegant venue. Many attractive gay men. Gay owned.

DEPARTURE 525 SW Morrison St departureportland.com Atop the Nines Hotel in the old M&F Building. Deck overlooks Portland.

GILT CLUB 306 NW Broadway giltclub.com Between the Pearl and Old Town. Hipsters and queers abound. Serving food late.

IRVING STREET KITCHEN 701 NW 13tth irvingstreetkitchen.com So Portland. Elegant, comfy-cozy and hip.

In the Pearl. What more would you want?

MINT/820 816 N Russell St mintand820.com

A award winning spot. Cozy, elegant. Like going home to your gay-loving rich mom's house.

CAFE NELL NW 20th & Kearney cafenell.com A NYC-meets-Paris small cozy bistro. Gay friendly. Where Just Out staff celebrated our re-launch. Delightful!

PALIO DESSERT HOUSE 1996 SE Ladd Ave palio-in-ladds.com "If you are looking for that perfect hideaway to meet that special someone, or write that late term paper, it can be found at Palio," their website says.

POK POK 3226 SE Division St pokpokpdx.com We know people who work here. And, yes, it is as good as you hear. Go!

SAUCEBOX 214 W Broadway saucebox.com "...pioneering Portland’s Deejay-Cafe movement, with equal emphasis on food, service, and vibe," their website says. Gay owned.

A pan America Bistro. Sleek, cushy interior.

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MOTHER'S BISTRO 212 SW Stark mothersbistro.com

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Toro Bravo Grüner Firehouse La Bonita Russell Street BBQ Interurban Monsoon Thai Bar Bar Brass Tacks Kenny & Zukes Lovely's 50/50 Dick's Kitchen Southside Speakeasy Kelly's Olympian Pizza Nostra Maize The Roxy Bartini/Urban Fondue Bamboo Grove McGraths

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PDX EVENTS This is not an exhaustive list of LGBTQ events in the area, but it highlights how vibrant our community is throughout the year.

(June thru May)

PORTLAND BLACK PRIDE Small but growing.

In early June. facebook.com/portland.blackpride BEARTOWN A multiple day celebration of everything BEAR. Early June. beartownweekend.com PORTLAND PRIDE The biggest pride celebration in the region. Big parade, festival, and many other sanctioned (and un-sanctioned) events.

Parade on Father's Day in June. pridenw.org MR. MISS AND MS. GAY OREGON The Imperial Sovereign Rose Court holds its annual pageant.

In late June. rosecourt.org

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PORTLAND LATINO PRIDE The longest running Latino gay pride in the Northwest. In mid-July. latinogaypridepdx.com QUEER MUSIC FESTIVAL A music festival celebrating our diverse queer community!

Mid-July. facebook.com/pdxmusicfestival PEACOCK AFTER DARK Sometimes campy, sometimes cutting-edge but always entertaining. Raises money for scholarships. Early September. peacockafterdark.org MUSICFESTNW Features many queer acts. Early September. musicfestnw.com GAY FAIR IN THE SQUARE LGBT friendly organizations

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for an afternoon of music, information, and interaction.

Mid-September at Pioneer Square. pdxgmc.org

NATIONAL COMING OUT DAY Mid-October. pridenw.org

CAP AIDS WALK PORTLAND A 2.5 mile annual walk brings together individuals, teams and volunteers with the goal of raising much-needed funds for HIV/AIDS services, public education and outreach to youth and adults most at risk.

In late September. cascadeaids.org

IMPERIAL SOVEREIGN ROSE COURT CORONATION Mid October. rosecourt.org

PORTLAND LESBIAN & GAY FILM FESTIVAL For nearly 16 years, this festival has been bringing thought-provoking and entertaining queer cinema to Portland.

In October. plgff.org IGNITE The Basic Rights Oregon Event Recognizing community leaders, business executives, lawmakers, supporters, and activists who have furthered equality. Mid-October bro.org

The home to University of Oregon, Eugene is known for its large lesbian population.

Liberal in nature, Eugene is so laid back it has to be gay-friendly. But the city lacks the infrastructure that Portland enjoys; it doesn't have a gay bar or restaurant. The city has 100 parks and 2,600 acres of open-space, arts, culture and lots of academics though.

Check out John Henry's and the Curthbert Amphitheater for queer live acts. The city celebrates Pride in Alton Baker Park in midAugust. gayeugene.com queereugene. com eugenepride.org thecuthbert.com facebook.com/johnhenrysclub

BENT: A HALLOWEEN'S EVE BALL Get out your “bent” costume and get ready for a nontraditional, sophisticated and provocative party featuring dancing and celebration of the haunted season. Late October. equityfoundation.org WORLD AIDS DAY December 1. Many events. worldaidsdaynw.org/events Q Center Winter Gala Late January Elegant and fun. Not your average dress-up fundraiser.

Dance the night away. pdxqcenter.org

RED DRESS PARTY Hundreds of men and women in red dresses partying to raise money for charities. Many say this is the party of the year.

Mid-April. reddresspdx.com BRO'S OREGONIANS AGAINST DISCRIMINATION Business Leaders Luncheon Mid-April. bro.org CAP ART AUCTION An iconic event to raise money to prevent the spread of HIV/ AIDS and provide service to those infected or affected by HIV in the Northwest. In late April. capartauction.org QDOC Portland Queer Documentary Film Festival The only festival in the United States (and only the second in the world) devoted exclusively to queer documentaries.

In mid-May. queerdocfest.org

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CURTAIN CALL Live theatre and dance companies popular with local LGBT audiences.

Triangle Productions In its 23rd year, they are one of the city's oldest live theater companies and an LGBT favorite. tripro.org Miracle (Milagro) Theatre Productions in English, Spanish, and sometimes bi-lingual. Some LGBT subject matter. milagro.org Artists Repertory Theatre Bringing Portland the newest and most exhilarating plays being written today and simultaneously showcase the talents of local theatre artists. artistsrep.org Portland Center Stage The largest producing theater in Portland. pcs.org

PEOPLE WATCH There is an endless list of things to do in Portland and throughout the state. But if you aren't that ambitious, consider the numerous LGBT people-watching spots in The Rose City and the quick day trips you can savor, tourist or local.

Check out PORTLAND SATURDAY MARKET (SW Naito Pkwy).

Even if you aren't into crafts and vendor food, the Portland vibe down by the river is a memorable one. Soak up some sun or jump in the mud puddles. portlandsaturdaymarket.com The PORTLAND FARMER'S MARKET at PORTLAND STATE UNIVERSITY (Saturday mornings, March thru December, on the South Park Blocks on campus) is hard to beat for relaxing, nibbling, and slow strolling. portlandfarmersmarket.org Just steps away from the university is the PORTLAND ART MUSEUM (1219 SW Park). Featuring the best of fine art shows, multi-media presentations, and film, this museum is one of Port-

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land's gems. Not surprisingly, our community is a big supporter and keeps at least one eye on the goings-on there. pam.org After shopping and eating your way through downtown, grab a coffee at PIONEER COURTHOUSE SQUARE (Broadway between Morrison and Yamhill), Portland's "living room". Some days are better than others, but this block tends to have special events and a wide array of people to watch. thesquarepdx.org

Oh! What could be more Portland than a feminist community center?

IN OTHER WORDS (14 NE Killingsworth St). A bookstore is the centerpiece of this local treasure. inotherwords.org

Jump in the car and head out of Portland on I-84 (due East) to the COLUMBIA GORGE. Stop by the clothing-optional beach about 20 minutes out (see Beaches on pg.

41) or any of the beautiful waterfalls. Lots of people. crgva.org Or head West to the OREGON COAST. In about 70 minutes — one of the most beautiful coastlines in the world. Lincoln City, Cannon Beach, Seaside, and Astoria are all gay-friendly and have accommodations that welcome our community. (See purpleroofs.com) visittheoregoncoast.com

A short drive from downtown is the PITTOCK MANSION (3229 NW Pittock Dr) Besides seeing an amazing 22-room mansion over looking the city, you're bound to see tourists that also have discerning taste in architecture and who are people watching as well. pittockmansion.org

On the way back to Portland, visit the WINERIES OF YAMHILL & WASHINGTON COUNTY. Now, this detour may just make a visitor want to move here. Or if you are a local, at the very least you'll fall back in love with Gay Oregon all over again. willamettewines.com

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THE OREGON ZOO AND WASHINGTON PARK (4001 SW Canyon Rd) are full of LGBT types enjoying nature, caged animals, and snowcones. Once a cruisy area, we don't recommend it any longer. It's still fun though. oregonzoo.org

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Defunkt Theater An ensemble theatre company dedicated to creating innovative productions that challenge conventional ideals at a reasonable price. defunktheatre.com OregonBallet Theatre A blend of the classics and contemporary perfomances. obt.org White Bird Dance Fostering the growth of dance in Portland. whitebird.org Portland Center for the Performing Arts Twenty-one resident companies call the PCPA home. From lectures to opera, symphony to the ballet.

It's all here. pcpa.com

The Portland Gay Men's Chorus

aspires to expand, redefine, and perfect the choral art through eclectic performances that honor and uplift the gay community and affirm the worth of all people. pdxgmc.org

The Portland Lesbian Choir

is a non-audition community chorus welcoming all women who love to sing and laugh. plchoir.org

Rose City Gay Freedom Band

Three larger groups (a symphonic wind ensemble, a 16-piece swing band and a marching band) and several smaller ensembles. rcgfb.org

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HEALTH: HIV/AIDS/STDs +alk (POS TALK), A five-session small group series for people living with HIV. Develop and practice skills for negotiating safer sex, reduce stress around discussing HIV status with family, friends, and sex partners.

Gift cards for completion and referral of a friend. 503-278-3868, bgerritz@cascadeaids. org CARE:ASSIST pays for health insurance premiums, prescription drugs and insurance plan co-payments and deductibles for eligible people with HIV/AIDS. Program of Oregon DHS and the Ryan White CARE Act. 503-731-4029 CASCADE AIDS PROJECT (CAP) educates youth and adults about HIV prevention, supports people with HIV and their families and advocates for sound HIV policy. For HIV testing, call 503-278-3879. Spanishlanguage assistance available. Oregon HIV/ STD Hotline 800-777-2437.

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COLUMBIA COUNTY Public Health offers anonymous and confidential HIV testing, counseling and case management to anyone.

We lend HIV books and videos and offer education materials and free condoms.

503-397-4651 DAILY BREAD EXPRESS provides home delivery of high-quality meals to HIV-positive individuals in need. Fresh meals delivered weekdays, frozen meals for weekend. Volunteers invited to inquire. Mara 503-460-3822 ESTHER’S PANTRY in Milwaukie provides food and personal care items to people with HIV/AIDS. Call to donate or for services.

503-349-4699 ourhouseofportland.org HEALTH, EDUCATION, AIDS LIAISON (HEAL) offers information about alternative views of AIDS causation and HIV testing.

Call for free packet of information. 503-2272339, bwport@comcast.net HIV DAY CENTER offers hot meals, counseling, laundry facilities, clothing, showers and hygiene supplies, computers with Internet access, phones, mail drop, recreational activities, massage and haircuts. Volunteers invited to inquire. 503-460-3822 THE LINK, a social networking group for HIV-positive gay, bi, and trans men, meets the second Wednesday of each month for food and discussion about an HIV, men’s health or other relevant topic. 503-278-3868, thelink@cascadeaids.org MANIFEST, a nonprofit men’s wellness community, prevents and addresses HIV and STD’s by empowering men to pursue their wellness passions together through programs like yoga, cycling, hiking, meditation, healing touch classes, vision teams, wellness coaching, information and referrals.

503-223-8822, manifestpdx.org MULTNOMAH COUNTY Health Department’s HIV Community Test Site offers confidential testing by appointment. Some walk-in testing. Sliding-scale fee. 503-9883775

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MULTNOMAH COUNTY offers free HIV rapid testing to gay, bi, and trans guys. 503988-3030 OHSU HIV CLINIC provides comprehensive health care for people living with HIV/ AIDS. Services include HIV specialty care, psychiatry, counseling, addiction treatment, case management, same-day visits and online chart access. Appointments are available regardless of insurance. 503-494-8562 OUR HOUSE OF PORTLAND provides Oregon and southwest Washington’s only network of integrated health and housing services for people with HIV/AIDS. Programs include Our House (24-hour residential care), Neighborhood Housing and Care, Community Services and Swan House. Volunteers needed. 503-234-0175, ourhouseofPortland.org PARTNERSHIP PROJECT provides services to people living with HIV/AIDS, their families and those at risk. Programs include HIV Medical and Nursing Case Management to Persons Living with HIV/AIDS; information and referral; service navigation to Refugees and Immigrants living with HIV/AIDS and support groups. Intake 503-230-1202 ohsu. edu/partnership PORTLAND AREA HIV SERVICES PLANNING COUNCIL is a county decision-making body that identified services needed for people living with HIV/AIDS and allocates federal funds annually. Needs volunteers from all walks of life. 503-968-3030, hivportland.org POSITIVE SUPPORT ASSOCIATION supports all persons that have been affected by the HIV/AIDS epidemic here in the Pacific Northwest. The PSA maintains a comprehensive web site that people can visit to help newly diagnosed persons get help and support. The PSA is also seeking volunteers to assist in HIV/AIDS Awareness Projects, including our Peer Positive Mentorship Program. positive-support.org PROJECT QUEST INTEGRATIVE HEALTH CENTER offers conventional and alternative health care, nutrition classes, support groups and recreational sports activities for people seeking a wellness focus to living and dying, especially those living with HIV/ AIDS or cancer. 503-238-5203. pquest@qwest.net

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REAL TALK is a support group for African Americans living with HIV which occurs the 3rd Friday of every month. The group features speakers from the community on topics such as staying adherent to medications, tips for supporting mental health through rainy winter months, and ideas for how to talk with family and friends about HIV. For more information: Maurice at (503) 278-3812, mevans@cascadeaids.org.

THE RESEARCH & EDUCATION GROUP provides access to HIV/AIDS research trials of new drugs and therapies. 503-229-8428 THE RISK REDUCTION ZONE, a program of Outside In, provides a queer safe space that offers HIV, Hepatitis C and STD prevention programs; Internet resources,; peer counseling; referrals; and support groups in a nonclinical setting. 503-535-3895 SOCIAL AND SUPPORT GROUP discusses HIV issues for men at Quest Center. Meet other nice guys, share information and have fun. 503-253-2292 SWAN HOUSE is a specialized adult foster care home for low-income people with HIV/ AIDS who need assistance with personal care, mobility, medications or drug/alcohol/mental health support. 503-786-4829, ourhouseofportland.org TOD’S CORNER in Milwaukie provides clothing, household items, companion pet care, cremations and more to people with HIV/AIDS. Call to donate or for services.

503-349-4699, ourhouseofportland.org CAP WASHINGTON COUNTY offers free rapid HIV testing every week in Beaverton.

For more information, call 503-278-3867 cascadeaids.org/hiv-testing-resources.

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HEALTH/ANTI-VIOLENCE BRADLEY-ANGLE provides emergency shelter for domestic violence survivors of all genders. LGBTQ-specific services include a weekly all-genders support group facilitated by a queer-identified advocate. Individual support and advocacy is available for selfidentified LGBTQ persons experiencing physical, emotional, sexual or economic violence within an intimate relationship.

Healthy Relationships classes are offered several times a year. Free, confidential and safe. Crisis Line: 503-281-2442, Office: 503-595-9591, bradleyangle.org

OUTSIDE IN operates a clinic for anyone who can’t qualify for the Oregon Health Plan.

Provides transition housing for youth 20 and younger and for those HIV-positive and younger than 23. Need volunteers of all ages. 503-5353800. outsidein.org CENTER AGAINST RAPE AND DOMESTIC VIOLENCE serves survivors of domestic and sexual violence in Linn and Benton counties and offers a 24-hour hot line, confidential shelter, legal and hospital advocacy, safety planning and support groups. Crisis Lines: 541-754-0110 or 800927-0197. Business: 541-758-0219 CLACKAMAS WOMEN’S SERVICES offers shelter, support and resource referral to survivors of domestic and sexual violence.

Lesbian, bi and trans friendly. Wheelchair accessible. TTD, relay calls and collect calls accepted. Crisis: 503-654-2288.

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KIDS ON THE BLOCK AWARENESS PROGRAM, a service of Impact NW, is a valuable resource for children, parents and teachers with topics like Preventing School Violence, Appreciating Cultural Differences, Making Health Choices and more. Kidsontheblockimpactnw.blogspot.com PORTLAND WOMEN’S CRISIS LINE offers free and confidential services for survivors of domestic and sexual violence; operates a 24-hour crisis intervention hot line that provides referrals for shelter, counseling and support groups; provides sexual assault advocates; and offers a program for sex workers. Foreign language translation available.

503-235-5333 or 888-235-5333, pwcl.org SEXUAL ASSAULT RESOURCE CENTER promotes social justice by eliminating sexual violence through support, advocacy and education. Services include a 24-hour confidential crisis line, free counseling and support groups, community education and volunteer opportunities. Crisis: 503-6405311. Business: 503-384-0480, sarcoregon.org HEALTH/GENERAL BREATHE FREE, the Oregon LGBTQ Coalition Against Tobacco, provides education around queer tobacco use and advocates for tobacco reduction. 503-784-5813, r.e.szego@cascadiabhc.org DHARMA QUEENS, a Buddhist-based gay men’s weekly meditation group. Trans friendly. Meetup.com/Dharma-Queens MEN’S TANTRIC YOGA offers body/mind/ spirit health in a safe, structured environment for men to explore their connection to self and to others. Two classes weekly.

Elementalhealing.org OUTSIDE IN operates a clinic for anyone who can’t qualify for the Oregon Health Plan as well as needle exchange services that include those who inject hormones. Provides transition housing for youth 20 and younger and for those HIV-positive and younger than 23. Need volunteers of all ages.

503-535-3800, outsidein.org

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PIVOT is a community space for men into men. We offer a variety of programming that is both social and education in nature, a drop-in space (that’s right, sip our coffee and use our WiFi for free, we don’t mind), and weekly STD-HIV testing. Free condoms and lube. 209 SW 4th Ave, 503-445-7699, pivotpdx.org PLANNED PARENTHOOD of the Columbia/Willamette provides confidential and affordable sexual and reproductive health care, including STD testing and treatment, 20-minute anonymous HIV tests, annual exams and condoms. Sliding-fees, insurance welcome. Health centers in SE and NE Portland, Gresham, Beaverton, Salmon Creek, Salem, Bend and Vancouver. 888-875-7820, ppcw.org

LIVE AND LET LIVE CLUB offers the sexual minorities community a safe place to find friendship, recovery and clean-and-sober activities. Meeting space available for 12-step groups.

1210 SE 7th Ave 503-238-6091

HEALTH/RECOVERY CENTER FOR FAMILY AND ADOLESCENT RESEARCH offers free counseling for parents of drug-abusing youth, 15 to 20, who refuse to go to treatment. Counseling is also available for adolescents, 13-17, who have both substance abuse and depression, as well as for adolescents 15-22 who use methamphetamine. 503-243-1065, ori.org/cfar/Portland DUAL DIAGNOSIS ANONYMOUS is a peer support program based on a version of the 12 steps of Alcoholics Anonymous with an additional five steps focusing on dual diagnosis (mental illness and substance abuse).

Meets at the Live and Let live Club, 1210 SE 7th Ave, 503-222-6468 EXTENDED FAMILY hosts queer-friendly Alcoholics Anonymous meetings at Metropolitan Community Church of Portland, 2400 NE Broadway, 503-281-8868 LUNCH BUNCH hosts queer-friendly Alcoholics Anonymous meetings at Metropolitan Community Church of Portland, Noon daily, 1 p.m. Sunday, 2400 NE Broadway, 503-281-8868 LIVE AND LET LIVE CLUB offers the sexual minorities community a safe place to find friendship, recovery and clean-and-sober activities. Meeting space available for 12-step groups. 1210 SE 7th Ave, 503-238-6091 POZ FOR THE CAUSE, a 12-step recovery group for anyone infected or affected by HIV or Hepatitis C who has a desire to stop the suffering associated with alcohol and drug abuse, meets at Rosewood House.

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PORTLAND LESBIAN CHOIR, a non-audition community chorus, encourages women who love to sing in harmony, regardless of musical experience, age, race or sexual orientation, to join us for singing, skill building, socializing and fun. portlandlesbianchoir@ hotmail.com, plchoir.org

Our core values are: creating community, celebrating diversity and playing nicely with others. We don’t decide who belongs – you do. butchcrewpdx@gmail.com

PORTLAND SYMPHONIC BAND always welcomes new members, from accomplished musicians to those who have not played since high school.

Portlandgaysymphonicband.org

COQSURE is a social group for people who were assigned a female sex at birth but identify otherwise (female-to-male, genderqueer, drag king, etc.) 503-471-1515, groups.yahoo. com/group/coqsure

ROSE CITY GAY FREEDOM MARCHING BAND performs one a year during Portland Pride. rcgfb.org

50+ is a lesbian social group that meets monthly. 503-642-3360, sutaytig@aol.com

ROSE CITY SWING is a traditional 16-piece big band performing everything from classic dance standards to contemporary swing.

Membership by audition. Rosecityswing.org

RAINBOW RECOVERY Al-ANON is a 12step group of queer and questioning people who support one another in recovering from the effects of another person’s drinking. 503292-1333, ext. 1, al-anonportlandoregon.org SEX ADDICTS ANONYMOUS is a 12-step program for those suffering from addictive sexual behavior. Any gender and sexual orientation is welcome. Weekly gay-and-lesbian meeting focuses on Steps 1-2-3 and spiritual solution.503-452-5961, portlandsaa.org SURVIVORS OF INCEST ANONYMOUS (SIA) meets each Wednesday at 6 p.m. at the Alano Club and welcome any sex abuse survivors age 18 and older. 909 NW 24th St. SUNDAY OVER THE RAINBOW, a 12-step Al-Anon group primarily for the sexual minorities community, helps family and friends of those addicted to alcohol or drugs on their own path to health and recovery. Channing Room @ First Unitarian Church of Portland, 5:15 p.m., 1011 SW 12th Ave. THE TRIANGLE PROJECT at Cascadia Behavioral Health Care is Oregon’s alcohol and drug addiction treatment program specifically for the queer community. Safe, respectful, confidential and effective since 1986. Services include a group for gay and bi men struggling with meth addiction.

503-230-9654, cascadiabhc.org SOCIAL/Arts & Music CONFLUENCE: The Willamette Valley Mixed GALA Chorus rehearses weekly in Salem. 503-364-2370, confluencechorus.org CREATIVE CONNECTION is a social gathering for gay men who are artists, writers or musicians or who pursue some creative activity. Noncommercial, nonjudgmental; supporting personal creativity for novices

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Monthly potlucks. 503-284-2971 FOREIGN FILM GROUP meets every second and fourth Sunday to screen foreign films at various venues, followed by a group discussion. Pdx-gayfilm@yahoo.com PORTLAND GAY MEN’S CHORUS is open to singers, support members and volunteers.

503-226-2588, pdxgmc.org

PORTLAND LESBIAN CHOIR, a non-audition community chorus, encourages women who love to sing in harmony, regardless of musical experience, age, race or sexual orientation, to join us for singing, skill building, socializing and fun. portlandlesbianchoir@ hotmail.com, plchoir. org

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SATORI MEN’S CHORUS welcomes new members of all ages and races, regardless of sexual orientation or musical background, to join rehearsals. No audition necessary.

503-242-4244. satorichorus.org SOCIAL/GENERAL ASIAN PACIFIC ISLANDER PRIDE is for LGBTQ people of Asian and Pacific Islander descent in Oregon providing safe and supportive opportunities to celebrate, educate and bring our communities together. api-pride.blogspot.com BAD GIRLS is a social and education leather and B/D/S/M club for self-identified women with an emphasis on safety and education.

Workshops, discussions, events and parties.

Women of all orientation can connect and ask questions during the Kinky Women’s Welcoming Munch monthly. 503-972-2233, blackoutleather.org BLACKOUT LEATHER PRODUCTIONS is Oregon’s premier LGBTQ leather production company. We are proud to produce the Mr. & Ms. Oregon State Leather and Oregon State Bootblack contest, as well as LURE, NW Sash Bash, and other events. blackoutleather.org BOOKWOMEN is a lesbian discussion group that meets monthly to share stories, favorite authors, top 10 lists and opinions and review of the assigned book.

503-684-0305, mikkata@comcast.net BORDER RIDERS MOTORCYCLE CLUB provides opportunities to gay men interested in recreational motorcycle touring and camping.503-328-2204, brmcprez@borderriders.com BUTCH CREW PDX is a social group that welcomes everyone who identifies as a butch/boi/macha/stud/tomboy/masculine of center/soft butch/bucha or any similar identity. Meet ups are at the Q Center.

CHARGED+ is a free monthly club night for HIV+ men. 503-248-9135

FTM PACIFIC NW OR & WA is a discussion group for female-to-male trans men.

Groups.yahoo.com/group/FTM_PacificNW FUNNY LADIES is a social group for nice lesbians, 35 or older, as well their friends and loved ones. Hold monthly potlucks. flataps@yahoo.com

KESHET is a social connection group for queer Jews and their spouses, partners, significant others and good friends, meeting monthly for potluck dinners and special events.

Iraf@spiritone.com, gayjewishportland. com GAY GUYS GARDENING is a member supported organization focused on growing, harvesting and storing food crops. 503-2632696, gayguysgardening@yahoo.com GET OFF MY AXE! is a lesbian RPG gaming group in the tradition of Dungeons & Dragons, d20, etc. We play various PG-13 campaigns as suits us, sharing laughs and kicking kobolds as we go. Dust off your geek armor and join us! Lynneme2@gmail.com HAPPY OURS PRODUCTIONS is a grassroots group dedicated to building the visibility, community participation and collective leadership of lesbian women of color through a wide variety of social, networking, consciousness-raising and action-oriented activities, events and projects. 503-7649351, happyoursproductions.com

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HILLSBORO MUNCH is an informal monthly BDSM/kink-friendly get-together representing all orientation and gender identification. Come chat and make friends is a casual, public venue in Hillsboro.

Hillsboromunch.blogspot.com IMPERIAL SOVEREIGN ROSE COURT OF OREGON is the oldest gay, lesbian, bi and trans social-fund-raising organization in the state of Oregon. Meets twice a month.

Rosecourt.org IN OTHER WORDS This valued non-profit, volunteerun feminist community center has a bookstore as its centerpiece. inotherwords.org JEWISH GAY MEN’S GROUP. Please call for meeting time and place. 503-246-5939, efraimlevi@aol.com KESHET is a social connection group for queer Jews and their spouses, partners, significant others and good friends, meeting monthly for potluck dinners and special events. Iraf@spiritone.com. gayjewishportland.com LAVENDER WOMYN is a lesbian social group with chapters in Portland, Salem, Eugene, Corvallis-Albany, Rogue Valley, and Grants Pass. They organize several events throughout the year including potlucks, BBQs, bowling, bunco, game night, and more. Lavenderwomyn.com.

LESBIAN HORROR MOVIE FANS meet at various Portland theaters to watch moves together. kawfeelover@yahoo.com LESBIANS WITH DEGREES is a social group that was started for degreed women, but no degree is necessary. Just come and join the fun. Pool parties, Scrabble and more.

503-233-3557, lesbianswdegrees-subscribe@ yahoogroup.com LES COUVE GROOVE, a lesbian potluck group for Southwest Washington. Meets monthly. lescouvegroove@gmail.com WINDANDSEA is a group embarking on the journey of bringing the Oregon Coast LGBT community together. Let’s get together and figure out how to enhance our coastal lives together and have fun. commonwind@yahoo.com OREGON MEN ENJOYING NATURISM is a social organization for gay male naturists/nudists. Social gathering monthly.

Omenpdx.org PDX_FTM is a social group for female-tomale trans men and allies.

Groups.yahoo.com/groupPDX_FTM PDX GAY BOARD GAMERS meets monthly to play everything from old-time gems (Life, Monopoly) to new classics (Settlers of Catan, Puerto Rico). Bring your favorite game along. Brunt1234@gmail.com

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PODER LATINO is a non-profit social community voice group for gay, lesbian, bi and trans people that reaches out to Latino and Latinas by organizing events and retreats and advocating HIV prevention. Meets at Outside In. 503-997-8615 THE PORTLAND GAY MEN’S GARDEN GROUP meets once a month to explore various gardens and nurseries. Come socialize and meet other men who love plants.

503-309-4342 PORTLAND LEATHER ALLIANCE is one of the largest pansexual, nonprofit B/D/S/M, leather and fetish lifestyle organizations in the Northwest. Regular social and educational opportunities, including KinkFest, Leather Ball and Fall Vendors Fair.

Pdxleatheralliance.org PORTLAND LEATHERMEN meets monthly for potluck and socializing. Meet men into a leather lifestyle and keep abreast of leather happenings. No dues, no formal organization, no officers or board. 21 years old 360-896-6665, tuckerwalter@gmail.com PORTLAND LESBIAN BOOK CLUB gathers monthly to chat about a chosen book or to attend selected events.

Yahoo.com/group/portlandlesbianbookclub

AMAZON DRAGONS PADDLING CLUB invites women 16 and older to join Portland’s only out lesbian dragon boat team. Be part of the fun and fitness with this dynamic group.

Amazondragons.org THE PORTLAND LESBIAN GARDEN CLUB enjoys all things green, from the latest perennial or vegetable finds to yard design and container planting. We focus not on meetings, but on garden and nursery tours, plant/seed exchanges, and holiday parties.

All ages and expertise are welcome.

503-909-2002, lgcpdx.org PDX LESBIAN NETWORK hosts monthly card games, pool and bowling nights, brewpub visits, hiking, kayaking, backpacking, snowshoeing, skiing, snowboarding, cross country skiing, monthly book club, etc. We also have an annual campout for members in Summer and participate in the Hood to Coast relay. Find us on Facebook.

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PORTLAND METRO PRIME TIMERS meet monthly. Established in 1980 as a social group for older Gay men as well as younger men who enjoy their company. Activities include potluck meals, picnics, dinners out, Bingo, celebrations of special holiday occasions. 360-254-1718. pdxprimetimers.org RAINBOW EASTENDERS is a group of active senior gay men who meet at Rainbow Vista in Gresham to socialize, travel and attend outings, including holiday parties, ocean cruises and dining out. Come make some new friends. 503-667-5575, ian@rainbowvista.com RELATIONSHIP GARDENING is a support group for single, gay men, who desire monogamy $25/week 503-348-0405, relationshipgardening.com ROSE CITY DISCUSSION CLUB, the largest and oldest open pansexual/alternative sexuality club in the Northwest, is open to all orientation, fetishes and lifestyles that are safe, sane and consensual. rcdc@teelport.com, rcdc.org SAPPHO SOCIAL CLUB is a group of women 40 years and older building community through social and cultural activities. thesapphosocialclub@yahoo.com SOMOS LGBTQ Latinos group is welcoming social and educational gathering for GLBTQ Latinos. Somos.info@gmail.com TUESDAY TWILIGHT TASTINGS meets for casual tastings of fine wines and inspired food at West Café. 503-784-4807 WOMEN’S 55+ BREAKFAST CLUB & COFFEE TALK. 503-528-4219, cbramor@gmail.com SOCIAL/PHYSICAL RECREATION THE ADVENTURE GROUP organizes a variety of activities year round, including hiking, walking, cross-country and downhill skiing, rafting and mountain biking.

Adventuregroup.org AMAZON DRAGONS PADDLING CLUB invites women 16 and older to join Portland’s only out lesbian dragon boat team. Be part of the fun and fitness with this dynamic group.

Amazondragons.org TURF GIRLZ GOLF GROUP turfgirlz.com LESBIAN EQUESTRIAN GROUP gets together for equestrian activities in the Pacific Northwest. 503-654-3865, kelrav@rdrop.com

OUT DANCING teaches dancing for samesex couples at Ankeny Street Studio. Classes for different dance styles start each month: country, swing, tango, cha-cha, etc.

503-236-5129, out-dancing@yahoo.com , home.att.net/~outdancing OUTKAYAKING is Portland’s gay and lesbian sea kayak group, exploring the lakes, rivers and bays of Northwest Oregon and SW Washington. Outkayaking.org PDX PRIDE BOWLING LEAGUE is recruiting for fun games Friday nights September through April. info@pdxpridebowl.com PDX NETRIPPERS is Portland’s queer soccer organization with competitive indoor soccer, outdoor scrimmages, practices for all levels and regional tournaments. bendoverbeckham@gmail.com, myspace.com/netrippers PORTLAND GAY & LESBIAN BOWLING ASSOCIATION Labor Day through Memorial Day. Drop-ins welcome anytime. pdxbowl@yahoo.com, pdxbowl.com PORTLAND GAY BASKETBALL ASSOCIATION welcomes all skill levels.

Groups.yahoo.com/group/PortandGayBasketballAssociation PORTLAND FRONTRUNNERS welcomes, gay, lesbian, bi and trans people of all abilities and interests, whether you’re a running novice or a seasoned marathoner.

Portlandfrontrunners.org ROSE CITY SOFTBALL ASSOCIATION is Oregon’s largest sports organization for the GLBT community. With open and women’s divisions at all levels, RCSA plays slow-pitch softball game on most Sundays throughout the summer at Gordon Faber Recreational Complex in Hillsboro. Rosecitysoftball.org ROSETOWN RAMBLERS, Portland’s gay and lesbian square dance club, dances at mainstream and plus levels.

Rosetownramblers.com

ROSE CITY SOFTBALL ASSOC Oregon’s largest LGBT sports organization, RCSA plays slow-pitch softball game on most Sundays throughout the summer. Join a team or form a new one.

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RUBY RED FLIPPERS, a group of gay and lesbian scuba divers in the Portland area, teaches new recruits and take dives in Tacoma, Hood Canal and other Pacific Northwest waters. Rubyredflippers.org

THE DADS GROUP is a social support group for gay, bi, trans or questioning men who are dads or want to be dads. Meets monthly at the Q Center. 503-310-4723, thedadsgroup.com

SHE ROCKS, a supportive rock climbing group for lesbians 18 and older, organizes year-round climbing and training events chosen according to skill level. Monthly meetings. Sherocks.wetpaint.com

FOREST GROVE PFLAG (Parents, Families, and Friends of Lesbians and Gays) welcomes everyone to its monthly program and support meeting monthly. 503-232-7676, Pflag.fg@mail.com , grovenet.org/westernwashingtoncounty/pflag

TEAM PORTLAND TENNIS meets Sundays. All levels of play welcome. teamportland-tennis.org

GAY & GREY We offer social events and outings, weekly lunches, peer support groups, resources, and case management for LGBT seniors. Housing options for LGBT elders. 503-224-2640, eracoordinator@ friendlyhouseinc.org or facebook.com/ gayandgreypdx COMMUNITY/SUPPORT CLACKAMAS COUNTY PFLAG (Parents, Families, and Friends of Lesbians and Gays) meets monthly. Clackamaspflag.com LATE AWAKENINGS, a support group for lesbians who came out late in life, meets monthly at Q Center. 503-227-0605 CENTRAL CITY CONCERN’S WOMEN’S HOMELESS VETERANS REINTEGRATION PROGRAM provides employment and housing services to female Veterans who are homeless or in transition. Resume building, job search skills and general case management can help you in your quest for self-sufficiency. 503-226-7387 DADDIES and PAPAS, a social and support network for queer men raising children in the Portland area, offers play dates for kids, parenting tips and resources at Q Center. daddiesandpapas@gmail.com

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GAY/BISEXUAL MEN’S THERAPY GROUP This weekly therapy group is meant to create a safe space where gay, bisexual, queer men and the like from the Portland/ Vancouver area can intimately discuss issues relevant to their lives. Our goal is to help gay men build intimacy and trust in ways that facilitate interpersonal growth, depth, and connection. 503-281-4852 ext. 6 GAY & GREY is a program of Friendly House, a non-profit neighborhood center & social service agency in Portland, Oregon.

We offer social events and outing, weekly lunches, peer support groups, resources, and case management LGBT seniors. We also provide diversity trainings in the community and a housing assessment program to identify LGBT friendly housing options for LGBT elders. 503-224-2640, eracoordinator@friendlyhouseinc.org or facebook.com/ gayandgreypdx GLBTQI disability group brings together the GLBTQI community with physical disabilities of all types, and friends, for activities such as movie-going, music, eating out and exploring Portland. 503-893-5756, pdxglbtqidisabled@comcast.net MULTIPLE SCLEROSIS SELF-HELP GROUP for lesbians and gay men meets to share information and provide support in dealing with challenges of living with MS. 503-223-9511 NORTHWEST GENDER ALLIANCE is a monthly social and support group for individuals desiring to explore and express another gender. 503-533-8787, nwgapdx.com PFLAG PORTLAND BLACK CHAPTER is a place for Black gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender people to come together with friend and family and support each other.

Meets monthly. 503-232-7676, pflagpdx.org PORTLAND PFLAG (Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays) welcomes all to its monthly meetings at First United Methodist Church. 503-232-7676, pflagpdx.org TRANS-FEM strives to engage and unite anyone of the trans-feminine spectrum through community building, social events, and activism. Meets monthly at Q Center.

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PARENT ACCESS TO GENDER EXPRESSION SUPPORT (PAGES) group for parents and family members of gender non-conforming and transgender children and youth age 18 and younger. PAGES provides an opportunity for parents and family of trans youth to share their experiences with one another in a secure and supportive setting.

PAGES group meetings are free to participating family members and caregivers. Childcare is available if needed. Meets monthly.

503-927-7052, family@transactiveonline.org

TRANZ GUYZ is a peer support and discussion group that meets at Q Center for people assigned female at birth but identifying as trans men/guys, intersex, genderqueer, questioning, FtM, etc.

Meets monthly.

Tranzguyspdx.org TRANZ GUYZ is a peer support and discussion group that meets at Q Center for people assigned female at birth but identifying as trans men/guys, intersex, genderqueer, questioning, FtM, etc. Topics include medical and emotional health, coming out, “passing,” hormones and relationships/sexuality. Meets monthly. Tranzguyspdx.org VETERANS FOR HUMAN RIGHTS is a non-profit Veterans Organization that promotes the full recognition and equal protection of active reserve and Veteran members of the U.S. Armed Forces. VFHR advocates for gays, lesbians, and bisexuals to serve openly in the U.S. Military. VFHR opposes all forms of discrimination and promotes patriotism. Vfhr.org or Facebook “Veterans for Human Rights."

COMMUNITY/POLITICAL RADICAL WOMEN are active in the struggle against bigotry and exploitation.

Call us to get involved. Meets twice a month.

503-240-4462, rwpdx@igc.org BASIC RIGHTS OREGON (BRO), the state’s largest grassroots queer rights political organization, lobbies the Legislature, educates

the public and works to end discrimination through election activities. 503-222-6151, basicrights.org DEMOCRATIC PART OF OREGON’S GLBT CAUCUS participates in policy decisions and outreach, recruits and supports candidates and delegates, and gives sexual minorities access to elected officials and candidates. 503-224-8200, stonewalloregon.org OLD LESBIANS ORGANIZING FOR CHANGE (OLOC), provides lesbians 60 and older the chance to meet like-minded women in our common struggle to confront ageism, to share mutual interests and to experience the joy of playing and working together. Meets monthly 503-286-3575 COMMUNITY/GENERAL BABBLE-ON TOASTMASTERS, Portland’s most diverse Toastmasters club, meets every Sunday afternoon to have fun while developing communication and leadership skills.

Laughter and applause guaranteed.

503-330-2706, babble-ontm.org BISEXUAL COMMUNITY FORUM is a space to meet people and discuss issues relevant to the bi community. Everyone is welcome. Meets monthly. 503-285-4848 CATLIN GABEL SCHOOL is an independent, co-educational day school for children (and families!) from preschool , kindergarten and grades 1 through 12. 503-297-1894, catlin.edu DEAF & HEARING OUTREACH (DHOR) is a nonprofit organization dedicated to building community among deaf and hearing queers and allies. Programs, services, events and community resources.

503-517-8880 TTY/voice. dhor.org DOUBLE RAINBOW FOUNDATION is available to help all queer parents who co-conceive children to be treated equally.

We believe, regardless of gender, two adults in committed relationships who agree to co-create children should be given the same rights as heterosexual couples.

Myspace.com/doublerainbowfoundation EQUITY FOUNDATION is a nonprofit organization founded by gays and lesbians to build communities that embrace the dignity and worth of all people. Equity has distributed more than $2.8 million in grants and scholarships throughout Oregon.

503-231-5759, equityfoundation.org THE GAY AND LESBIAN ARCHIVES OF THE PACIFIC NORTHWEST (GLAPN) works to discover and publicize the history of sexual minorities in the Pacific Northwest, primarily in Oregon and Southwest Washington. We collect, seek out, document, and share information as it becomes available, while maintaining an archive of historically

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significant materials at the Oregon Historical Society. Additionally, we help individuals and groups preserve their own historical data. GLAPN will gladly work with organizations in our community to publicize and celebrate the history of all LGBTQ-identified minorities in our region. glapn.org GETTING BI PDX is a women’s group that meets for discussion, coffee and planning social events. Gettingbipdx.com

PRIDE NORTHWEST, a volunteer-run 501(c)3 nonprofit organization seeks vendors and volunteers for the Portland Pride Festival, which is held every Father’s Day weekend at Waterfront Park. 503-295-9788, pridenw.org Q CENTER is a space that increases visibility and fosters a connection within Portland’s queer community. 503-234-7837, pdxqcenter.org

KBOO-FM’s OUTLOUD: queer news and public affairs show, featuring local guests and announcements. Airs the second and fourth Tuesdays. This Way Out, the international queer show, airs on first, third and fifth Tuesdays. ( 6 p.m. 90.7 FM Portland, 91.9 FM Hood River, 100.7 FM Willamette Valley) Schedule subject to change. kboo.fm

THE SEXUAL MINORITIES ROUNDTABLE meets monthly with representatives from the Multnomah County Sherriff ’s Office and the Portland Police Bureau to discuss and resolve issues between the queer community and law enforcement agencies.

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NORTHWEST VETERANS FOR PEACE is queer-friendly and meets weekly.

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THE SEXUAL MINORITIES ROUNDTABLE meets monthly with representatives from the Multnomah County Sheriff’s Office and the Portland Police Bureau to discuss and resolve issues between the queer community and law enforcement 503-823-0027 THE OREGON SAFE SCHOOLS AND COMMUNITY COALITION seeks to create safe schools and communities for families, educators and students statewide.

503-260-5792, oregonsafeschools.or POLYAMORY CIRCLE is a gathering for folks exploring options beyond monogamy.

Discussions include open relationships, extended families and intentional communities. Everyone is welcome. Meets monthly.

503-285-4848.

PRIDE AT WORK OREGON is a new affiliate of the AFL-CIO that lets union members rally support for gay, lesbian, bi and trans issues and lets the queer community support workplace rights and respect on the job.

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CHATpdx is a youth program through Cascade AIDS Project that offers Healthy Sexuality education and information for ethnic and/or sexual minority young people 24 and under. We offer free bilingual HIV & Syphilis testing, peer educator trainings, community education workshops, and a drop-in youth space the 2nd and 4th Monday of the month from 3p-7p. For more info call/text: (971) 270-0674, cascadeaids.org, facebook.com/CHATpdx.

IT GETS BETTER PROJECT was created to show young LGBT people the levels of happiness, potential, and positivity their lives will reach – if they can just get through their teen years. The It Gets Better Project wants to remind teenagers in the LGBT community that they are not alone — and it WILL get better. Itgetsbetter.org SMYRC (Sexual & Gender Minority Youth Resource Center) SMYRC creates safety and support for LGBTQ youth in Oregon through youth empowerment, community building, education and direct services.

Smyrc.org PFLAG supports LGBTQ persons, their families and friends through love, understanding, education and advocacy.

Pflagpdx.org, clackamaspflag.com, facebook. com/pflag.portlandblackchapter TRANSACTIVE A group for transgender and gender non-conforming youth meets monthly. Transactiveonline.org THE TREVOR PROJECT is a national 24-hour, toll-free confidential suicide hotline for LGBTQ youth. 866-488-7384, trevorproject.org THE PRIDE PROJECT is a program for LGBTQ youth 21 and under in Washington County. 503-260-5792, prideproject.org OUTSIDE IN helps homeless youth and other marginalized people move

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503-535-3800, outsidein.org THE LIVING ROOM is a program of LGBTQ youth ages 14-20 in Clackamas County. Search “The Living Room, Clackamas County” on Facebook.

GLSEN OREGON The Gay, Lesbian & Straight Education Network strives to assure that each member of every school community is valued and respected regardless of sexual orientation or gender identity/expression.

503-936-5614, glsen.org/Oregon QUEER SCOUTS PDX Search “Queer Scouts PDX” on Facebook.

PSU QRC Portland State University’s Queer Resource Center. 503-725-9742, qrc.pdx.edu QPOWER is a group of young, motivated leaders committed to fighting to pass the policies and elect the candidates that will bring full equality to Oregon.

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Bring The Outdoors In Simple but equisite holiday decorating begins with a trip outside to pick up some nature. Then the fun begins.

LONESOMEVILLE POTTERY Find LoneSomeVille Pottery at The Portland Art Museum andPendleton Home (Southwest Broadway/ Portland Airport).

Sign up on the mailing list: Lonesomeville.com, or on Facebook at Lonesomeville Studios for invitations to their “serendipitous” open garden events.

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boughs on every flat surface, with votive candles, on fireplace mantels and to top our display cases and grandfather clock.

Anne Jaeger: What elements from nature are your favorite decorations?

AJ: Why is nature such a strong component your holiday decorating and pottery?

Wayne Hughes: Well, first of all, the untrimmed noble fir tree in the front room can only be 9 feet tall but we get a 12 foot tree and cut off the lower branches to use as decorative touches around the house.

DH: You can't get anything prettier than nature. I'm always heavily influenced by nature. I interpret what I see into my style. Good example is the Deco Tulip Vase, (available at their Christmas open house) which evolved from a trip to Seattle. We came home and out popped the Deco Tulip Vase from my imagination. I wasn’t even consciously aware of it.

Danny Hills: Yeah, we like our tree untrimmed, like our men. Just as nature made ‘em (laughing). Throughout the year, I stalk the neighborhood for (white) pine cones while on our dog walks and come home with bags full. We save them for our decorations, too.

WH: Then, to screen out our neighbors we planted holly trees judiciously on the property line. For Christmas we have plenty of holly, so we bring lots of that in. We replace the holly when it dries out. And for more color, we cheat and buy the bright red holly berries from Michaels craft store, because only the female holly makes berries. And they last longer.

DH: We use those berries, pine cones, holly and fir

AJ: You don’t just start piling stuff up on a mantel; how do you get the balance right?

WH: Anyone here at the “Gay-mune” (what they jokingly call their communal home) can perfectly decorate a mantle.

DH: First, we wind the mini-light cords around the fir bows before putting it up on the mantle. No wire can show! The design is a simple triangle: make the center the highest point in the design and slope it down toward the ends. And remember to use enough stuff so it looks lush.

WH: BUT(!) unlike donuts MORE is not better when it comes to decorating a mantle. Do a little, stand back, do a little more, and then evaluate. Repeat.

WH: Nothing says Christmas like ponderosa pine.

That’s why you see the image on our plates and vases.

It’s funny, visitors pick up a piece of our pottery and they blurt out “Oh, this really speaks to me!” And I say "Silly rabbit, the pottery’s beautiful, but it cannot talk."

AJ: I guess I’m hearing things, then. I'd love people to see your decorations.

WH: We're having a holiday open house: December 8th from 1 - 8 p.m., 5006 SE Long Street, Portland. We’ll be completely “Holi-decked” out. § December 2012

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ABOVE: Inspired by Danny and Wayne, Anne brings nature inside as she begins to decorate her home for the holidays.

To my eye, nobody does holidays like the guys at LoneSomeVille Studios. Now internationally known pottery makers, they’ve got artistry to die for. Of all the gardeners I've met, Danny Hills and Wayne Hughes have the most profound effect on my garden and aesthetics. Their Victorian home and garden in Southeast Portland are over-thetop in a completely natural way. Most of it has been rebuilt by hand, by one of the four men who live there. Let me just confess; I've taken a “bite (or two) outta their style” and tweaked ideas as my own. So why not pass on the gift? Like me, you’ll see the art to their holiday decorating is accessible to all. It comes right out of nature. Holidays aren’t constructed with a bunch of plastic and throw away junk; these decorations come from the earth’s beauty. All it requires is picking up stuff off the ground and in the yard. How easy is that? Happy Holidays!!!

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by Jonathan Hopp

Decking The Halls The dream of a magazine-worthy tree, surrounded by perfectly wrapped packages, leads to a different — even better — version of perfection.

I always have wanted the perfect Christmas tree. As an interior designer, I am always envious of the seasonal design magazines where the stunning 9-foot tree is artfully decked with matching ornaments, perfectly spaced white lights (designers don't do multi-colored bulbs), and stunning gifts artfully wrapped to match the theme of the tree. I mused over ornaments, pulled pictures from magazines, and developed a design file of ideas that I wanted to implement. My partner at the time had other ideas.

As an interior designer, I’ve worked with numerous clients in designing their homes. The first questions that come up are: What does ‘home’ mean to you? What traditions do you honor? What items do you cherish?

How do you want your home to feel? The same questions can be applied to the holidays: What do the holidays mean to you? What traditions do you honor, or more importantly, what traditions do you want to create?

How do you want your holidays to feel? What do you cherish about the holidays?

A couple of years ago, my friend Phil, who adores Christmas, was decorating a restaurant and enlisted a couple of dozen people to install the décor. There was everything from vintage sleds hanging on the walls topped with misfit toys, to oversized gold leafed frames around sparkling green wreaths. The columns had upside down Christmas trees stuffed with brightly wrapped packages and all of the tables had custom centerpieces. I had never seen so much Christmas stuff and we didn’t use everything. Even the foyer was outfitted with a fireplace complete with crackling logs, nutcrackers, Santa in various shapes, and lights, lights, lights everywhere. When everything was complete it truly did look magical and brought a genuine sense of joy and sparkle to all of the spaces.

He had collected ornaments since he was a child and his family made a point of exchanging ornaments. He had a tradition when he was little of pulling out his felt knee-hugger pixie elf tree ornament and telling it everything that had happened over the year. His ceramic choir singers, Christmas hand towels, and holiday candles that were never burned because they were so pretty never failed to elicit a resigned sigh from me.

This was not the stuff of decorating magazines; how was I ever going to get on the cover of Traditional Home?

Seasonal holidays are an anniversary of sorts. Regardless of your religious affiliation or nationality there is an annual event that is supposed be about something. My partner David and I are celebrating our fourth Christmas as a couple. Slowly we’ve developed our own Christmas traditions of food, celebrating friends and embracing the holiday traditions of others. Together we have created our own traditions here in Portland that I've come to love. There is the excursion to the Christmas tree farm where we agonize over the best tree, and I’ve come to love watching David fuss over the lights for hours. (One night he came to bed around 3 a.m. after removing all the ornaments and re-doing the lights). We have both started buying ornaments as gifts for one another, and I am slowly building my stock of designer approved items to decorate the house. As we sit back and view all our handiwork, I smile, and though it will likely never be on the cover of a magazine, I think it’s just perfect. §

I have one friend from the south that uses dough to create a realistic appearance of snow on a tree branch. A friend here in Portland likes pink Christmas trees; another collects snowmen that take over his house during the holidays. And a few collect, well, all-things-Christmas. What is absolutely adorable about all of them is the joy that their holiday tra-

Based in Portland, Jonathan Hopp has worked as a residential interior designer for over 25 years designing homes all over the US. In 2011, he published Interior Bliss: How To Decorate Like A Pro Without Breaking The Bank. A regular personality on Portland's AM Northwest, Jonathan shares tips and trick of the trade to create a home that you will be a delight for years. jonathanhopp.com Write him at JonthanH@JustOut.com

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When you are the eighth child born to middle age parents, Christmas doesn't have the same meaning as it does for many others. Frankly, they were burned out, and at a certain point I remember being the kid that climbed into the garage and pulled down all the decorations, happily decked the halls with our red and gold balls, acrylic garland and, for fun, one year tied nearly one hundred tartan plaid bows because I had seen the completed red/gold/green color scheme in a magazine. It was clear early on who the decorator in the house would be. Over time, it grew to be a rather solitary annual event more influenced by A Charlie Brown Christmas as I sang the saddest rendition of "Christmas Time Is Here," one of the most melancholy songs I could find. At least it was animated.

ditions bring to each of them. In their exuberance, they have made me realize that decking the halls isn’t about having a picture perfect home.

It’s about what matters to you most.

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“It looks like Christmas threw up in here.” I knew this wasn't the right response, but it’s the first thing that came to my mind. So, I managed to blurt out, “Magical!” This is one of those somewhat generic compliments when you’re at a loss for what to say. And it worked. I was off the hook, my friend Phil was happy, and the Christmas decorating was done.

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Astrology is Element-Ary Long before Netflix or the electric light, our ancestors turned to the heavens for their entertainment. The Sun, the moon, and stars became their TV and over time they got good at channel surfing. The ancients also enjoyed a good plot line, so intricate mythologies were spun to describe each constellation and like any episode of the OC, they were jam-packed with plenty of intrigue and loads of drama. Eventually this sky drama was brought down to earth in the form of the 12 sign zodiac, and imbued with the four elements of terra firma: Fire, earth, air and water.

FIRE is life’s spark and fire signs are hot, sassy, frisky and free. These firebrands want freedom to do what they please, but if they get the hots for someone, especially another fire sign, they are the quickest to shack up (think U-Haul gals).

Aries is the first fire sign, and they hit you with a pow! They’re fearless pioneers who can work a crowd. When Elton John came out publicly, it damaged him, but he kept coming back like a refurbished jet. These guys have an assertive, masculine streak, and even the ladies look good in tight jeans.

Leo is next, and they seem to draw you to them like cold hands to a warm hearth or a flat screen TV during premier week. They’re arduous lovers and very loyal. Delta Burke is one Leo cat who fought tooth and nail for LGBT rights, not just for her fans but also for her lesbian sister.

Sagittarius is the most restless fire sign. They’re half horsey so they need wide open spaces. They crave travel and adore hobnobbing with foreigners. They’re uncomfortable in their own shoes (unless they’re dancing)

and want to try on your moccasins. SAG award winner Felicity Huffman easily slipped into the shoes of a pre-op transgender woman in the film Transamerica.

EARTH is stable, cautious, practical and surprisingly sensual. It takes time for earth signs to be intimate, but once you go out with them you become their property. What these folks lack in PDA’s, they make up for in practical ways like fixing your water heater.

Earthy Taurus is pretty stubborn, but luckily they’re huggable, snuggable and squeezably soft. This sign is packed with gay icons like Cher, Babs and Grace Jones, along with “King of Trash” John Waters.

Virgo is a nervous earth sign that seems like a canary in the coal mine with regard to the latest flu bug or elevated pollen count, but they are extremely smart and meticulous in how they look after you. Lily Tomlin is my fave Virgo/Lesbo combo.

Capricorn is a rags-to-riches sign that contains one of the biggest fag hags. Dolly Parton says she loves makeup so much that if she were born a man, she’d be a drag queen. David Bowie has some sugar too.

AIR is the intellectual element that focuses less on practicality and more on possibility. These signs are fun talkers and extremely bright. They relate to anyone and make you feel comfortable just being you. They seem so relaxed in social settings that coming out for them might seem like a breeze.

Gemini is the “double your pleasure, double your fun” air sign that makes you giggle to tears, but sometimes their bad twin spoils the fun by eating too many Jell-O shots. Boy George has been down that road.

Airy Libra tries to cultivate harmony and find a life partner all in one fell swoop. Their ruler Venus makes them look good (just think of your Continues on page 55

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average super model and there you go). The gay rights movement flowered during the late 60s and 70s when the planets Uranus and Pluto cruised through this sign. Robert Reed, aka Mike Brady on the Brady Bunch, was everybody’s favorite dad, and in reality, a big ol’ queen.

Air sign Aquarius is a revolutionair y and often mistaken for water because of its wet sounding name. Its symbol looks like waves, but on closer examination you get lightning bolts that shock you. Aquarius is fixed air that holds moisture (think clouds) and they rain it down as knowledge (think wireless internet). Aquarius is the sign of friendship, and who could be a better friend than our old pals Ellen DeGeneres and Oprah?

WATER is the giver of life and governs the emotions that seem to well up in us. Water signs are psychic, secretive and tender. They soak up impressions all around them like sponges and if you’re feeling low, they sink with you.

Cancer is a maternal water sign. They instinctively remember the concept of god as a great mother, and like Mother Nature, they want to nurture you but can have a nagging way of doing so. Give ‘em hugs now and then and remind them how special they are. George Michael is a Cancer who tried to sidestep his sexuality, but like his symbol the crab, he ended up in hot water.

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Scorpio is fixed water so be careful when rowing your dingy by their icebergs; there is way more berg below the surface. Scorpios appear cool but deep down is a boiling cauldron of passionate obsession. They have piercing eagle eyes that stare into your soul, yet they remain enigmatic until they have you. Sex is serious business with them so take a life raft. K.D. Lang and Peaches are two Scorpios that get under you skin in good ways.

Give ‘em hugs now and then and remind them how special they are.

Watery Pisces have big, beautiful fish eyes. They are chameleons who slip from the crowd and escape through the arts or a bottle of cheap bourbon and a pack of lucky strikes. They’re dreamy and mucho understanding, listening to your secrets as you cry on their shoulder. Theirs is a calming influence. Ever notice when you stare at a fish tank that your blood pressure goes down? Wanda Sykes makes you laugh so you forget. §

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WHAT DO YOU DO FOR A LIVING? Owner of Healthy Pets Northwest (the Alberta Street location) HOW LONG HAVE YOU BEEN IN PORTLAND? WHAT DO I LOVE/HATE ABOUT IT? I was born and raised in Portland. I did leave for three years to get my second bachelors... and then moved back.

I love how Portland seems to draw creative people to it — like a magnet. I love how openminded we are and how crazy happy we can be.

What truly does bother me about Portland at this time is how unclean the streets are. For a moderate-sized city, not a large one, and one that claims to be so environmental, I am appalled and downright outraged at how much trash is strewn about all over the place. This is a newer problem.

Portland has lost some of its pride. My first impression of our city, should I be a tourist would most certainly be littered, well, with litter.

WHAT'S YOUR MOST EMBARRASSING MOMENT OR PASSION THAT NO ONE WOULD GUESS? I am already living my passion. I love my store and my customers, both two and four-legged. A very close second would be being a women's basketball coach.

WHO DO YOU LOOK UP TO IN THE GAY COMMUNITY OR HISTORICALLY? As a teenager in the 80's, I idolized (and still do) groups like The Eurythmics, most notably, Annie Lennox. Music is such a conduit and Annie, being so open-minded herself and so androgynous — I was just mesmerized. There was someone who stood for being different and it just resonated with me on so many levels.

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HAVE YOU EVER EXPERIENCED GAY BASHING? The most noticeable was when I was fired from my first job out of college. I know it was because they found out I was gay. The reason I was told never lined up and I was pretty angry for a long time and I let it play with my self esteem for far too long. §

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Q+A JAMES DIXON

HOW DO YOU IDENTIFY? I have a problem with structured sexuality in any form, so the hedonist in me comfortably identifies as queer. Men are typically the main course however I’m moderately polyamorous and pan sexually curious; and secretly attracted to masculine energy in any biological form that it manifests itself in. Sum that up in one word and make me a bumper sticker if you feel so inclined.

WHAT DO YOU DO FOR A LIVING? I’m a Concierge for the Gerding Theater at the Armory, which is the home of Portland Center Stage. PCS is the first historic building and the first performing arts venue to achieve a LEED Platinum certification. I am also a Professional Development Volunteer for PCS which helps to support our renovation capital campaign and a variety of education and community outreach programs.

HAVE YOU EXPERIENCED DISCRIMINATION WITHIN THE QUEER COMMUNITY? The poignant truth is that I have. I am AfricanAmerican, queer, Pagan, and I am not wealthy.

These are all labels that I have been discriminated for and it is unfortunate. I think that the people of the LGBTQ community should research the definition of “solidarity”, look in the mirror, and paint that face on each morning. We could accomplish so much as an actual community.

WHAT ADVICE WOULD YOU GIVE PEOPLE COMING OUT? Own your moments… This life is yours to command and you should be free to manifest all of the wonderful things in it without the burden of caring what people think about you.

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WHAT DO YOU SEE FOR THE FUTURE OF LGBT PEOPLE AND THEIR RIGHTS? We will succeed! There are federal and state level LGBTQ nonprofits that are fighting this war for us and not everyone feels included in this process.

Not having the ability to write a big check doesn’t mean that these people should not be heard. We are still so divided as a community which is so damaging to us as a whole. Even together we are outnumbered. How can we ask for acceptance if we can’t accept each other? § Be a part of OUR PEOPLE: Send a short note to editor@justout.com and tell us about yourself or a friend.

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