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Dear Readers,

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itting on our perches in the United States, it’s hard for us to fully grasp the political divisions in the State of Israel.

Nowadays, the main issue is not how to deal with the millions of Arabs who daily profess their desire for the destruction of the Jewish state. That issue, of course, has been there since before the inception of Israel as a country – and it’s probably never going to go away. After years of failed peace overtures by Israel, most of the country now accepts Golda Meir’s maxim that peace will only come when the Arabs love their children more than they hate Israel. As such, even those in Israel who align themselves with the left political parties that peddle a “peace” platform are in the minority.

The main issue driving this month’s election in Israel is the chareidi-chiloni divide. This is a weighty topic that big minds have grappled with since the founding of the modern state of Israel. We live in an imperfect world – will we see this issue resolved soon? Sadly, the answer is probably no.

When Israel was a fledgling state, its first prime minister and founding father David Ben Gurion held a highly touted meeting with the holy and elderly Chazon Ish in Bnei Brak to discuss the topic of the draft and yeshiva bochurim. It is widely believed that the Chazon Ish argued that yeshiva bochurim should be exempt from army service because they protect Israel through their study of Torah. Ben Gurion capitulated to the Chazon Ish because, at the time, there were only a handful of yeshiva bochurim throughout the land. He thought that, as the years go by, the numbers filling the batei medrashim would diminish. Would Ben Gurion be alive today and walk down the streets of Meah Shearim and Rechov Chazon Ish he would be astounded. There are now around one hundred thousand yeshiva bochurim in Israel, and the numbers are only growing.

One of the most inspiring videos I have seen this year is of frum soldiers in the IDF celebrating the completion of a mesechta. They sing joyously

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as their commander calls out the names of the different units and the mesechtos that they finished.

When watching the clip, I am able to forget about the divide that exists between religious and non-religious Jews in the only Jewish state in the world.

When the chilonim in Israel bring up the issue of the draft, though, they’re referring to something bigger than incorporating thousands of boys and their shtenders into the army. It’s a resentment that simmers beneath the surface and then bubbles up violently. It’s a hatred of seeing someone whom they don’t know across the divide who acts and dresses differently than themselves. And it’s not pretty when siblings are at war with one another.

Soon, when Moshiach comes, we will be united as one. We won’t see our differences; we will see our similarities. But until then, I only wish that we can reach out to one another. Talking with one another, sharing a joke, helping each other…these gestures show the other side that we’re human, we’re people, too. We all have similar desires – to live in a safe country that makes us feel secure and provides for our needs.

What, you may ask, is the pull of the Israeli TV show Shtisel? Shtisel is a show that follows a family in Meah Shearim through their daily lives and challenges. The show is extremely popular in Israel – and it’s mainly chilonim who are watching it.

For them, they are able to catch a glimpse into the chareidi world. They see us from a distance on the streets; on TV, they feel as if they’re able to truly delve into our lives.

Perhaps we can learn a thing or two from Shtisel.

Perhaps it’s showing us that our non-frum brothers and sisters want to learn about who we are and how we live. They want to see us as people. And when they see us as people, any baseless hatred that they may have been feeling towards the faceless chareidim across the street will melt away. Because, after all, we truly are brothers.

Wishing you a wonderful week, Shoshana

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Contents LETTERS TO THE EDITOR

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COMMUNITY Readers’ Poll

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Community Happenings

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Spruce D’Vine: A Spirited Store

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NEWS Global

12 National

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Odd-but-True Stories

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ISRAEL

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Israel News

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Matanat Chaim by Rafi Sackville

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A Nation Divided Against Itself

by Tzvi Lev

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JEWISH THOUGHT Rabbi Wein on the Parsha

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The Empathy of Elul by Rav Moshe Weinberger

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Parsha in Four by Eytan Kobre

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Willpower by Shmuel Reichman

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PEOPLE Military Bands, Part I by Avi Heiligman

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HEALTH & FITNESS How to Build Healthy Self-Esteem in a Child by Dr. Deb Hirschhorn 102 Preferring Prevention over Intervention by Dr. Hylton I. Lightman 104 A Healthy Seminary Year by Aliza Beer, MS RD CDN

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FOOD & LEISURE The Aussie Gourmet: Perfect French Fries

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Dear Editor, A friend recently gave me a pastrami challah as a “treat.”

This past Friday night we heated it up but realized it required its own challah board and cover, to prevent our regular board and cover from becoming “meat.” When cutting into the challah after Hamotzi, my wife screamed, “We need mustard.” We both realized that we were eating a pastrami sandwich at our Friday night table, something we did not grow up with nor have we ever done.

Although I enjoy when we “mixup” our Shabbos fare, i.e. tricolor instead of regular gefilte fish, and the like, I wondered if we really need pastrami challah in our lives. And I started to wonder, where does this all end?

Why not in November, turkey challah; around Purim, prune, poppy or apricot challah; latkeh challah on Chanukah, and for Rosh Hashana, a challah that oozes honey upon slicing.

Clarification Please note that the recipe for the minestrone soup by Naomi Nachman published in the September 5, 2019 issue of TJH should have stated that the chicken broth should be pareve.

LIFESTYLES Mind Your Business

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Dating Dialogue, Moderated by Jennifer Mann, LCSW

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Leaving Kollel, Part II

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Your Money

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A Cuppa Minutes of Your Time

by Rivki D. Rosenwald Esq., CLC, SDS

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On a more serious note, this being the month of Elul and with Rosh Hashana looming, I think instead of looking inside a challah, let’s look inside ourselves, our hearts and minds and daven for a good healthy New Year.

At our Rosh Hashana table, we decided we will have raisin challah and regular round challah, symbolic of the New Year, but nothing more exotic.

Gut yur, shana tova!

Saul R. Stromer, M.D. Lido Beach, NY Dear Navidaters, The son of the engaged woman will likely to get to like his stepfather when he gets to know him. I know a young man who was much closer to his stepfather than his real father.

Not talking a lot does not make a person a bad person. This man sounds like he’s too good to pass up. It may be helpful to talk to a rav to work things out.

Sincerely, Been there, done that Dear Editor, I noticed that you are publishing a series called “Leaving Kollel.” Although I am not in kollel, and don’t know many people who are in learnContinued on page 10

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ing, I found that I enjoyed reading the column, as certain items pertain to many individuals who are deciding different careers to embark on. Many of us don’t yet know what we want to do. Yes, there are some who always knew they wanted to be a doctor or lawyer or Indian chief. But there are many others who don’t know which path they should take. It’s very frightening to go to school, knowing that the school and the career path that you embark on will essentially be the path that you’re going to be treading for almost the rest of your life. Yes, there are those who switch careers, but they are few and far between.

What I have found, in my experience, that has helped me, is speaking with friends, family members, people in shul, etc. about their careers and why they chose their careers and like what they do. Every person has characteristics that they are given. They should use them to their fullest, to help themselves and to help others.

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If you are someone who is very organized and work in special education, you may also want to help the PTA with organizing teachers’ gifts or mishloach manos. There are a lot of other ways to use your talents to help others that doesn’t have to involve your career.

Sincerely, A Reader Dear Editor, A few weeks ago, you published an article letting readers know about what was going on with the state and with yeshiva education. It was extremely informative and pushed me to send out the letters you were advocating for. I want to extend my appreciation to you and to other organizations (Agudah, Teach NYS, etc.) and schools that united our community for a cause. Together, the community worked and made our voices heard. We didn’t sit by silently; we showed them that we may not look the same, but we are all one.

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The Week In News

British Airways Pilot Strike

British Airways was forced to cancel virtually all flights for Monday and Tuesday after its pilots went on strike for the first time in the airline’s history this week.

The strike was called by the British Airline Pilots Association (BALPA) amid a heated dispute over pay with the airline that shows no sign of abating. BALPA is planning another strike for September 27. Further

strike days may be announced in the future.

Almost 200,000 passengers were supposed to be flying on September 9 and 10 on the airline.

The strike comes amid a bitter dispute over pay. Pilots are unhappy with British Airway’s offer of an 11.5% salary increase over three years. They want a greater share of the airline’s profits. The airline posted as operating profit of almost $2.5 billion for 2018, an 11.6% increase over the previous year.

“We are seeking to share in a tiny fraction of that huge profit,” a BALPA spokesperson told CNN Business.

In harder times, pilots had made “significant sacrifices” to keep British Airways afloat, such as giving up annual leave and accepting pay cuts, the spokesperson said. “Fundamentally, BA pilots have lost trust and confidence in their management.”

BALPA general secretary Brian Strutton told the BBC on Monday that the profit-sharing arrangement the union had proposed would entail staff receiving up to 7% of base pay in good times and zero when times were tough. It would not involve an increase in base pay.

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The cost of the strike for the airline will likely be around $49 million per day, which means, in total, the three announced strike days would cost British Airways around $148 million.

Putin Supporters Lose in Elections

The summer in Moscow saw tens of thousands of people protesting over barring opposition candidates from upcoming elections. This week, when the nation headed to the polls, pro-Kremlin candidates suffered

substantial losses in Moscow’s city council elections, an unusual blow to President Vladimir Putin’s ruling party.

The city council itself has little power, but the anti-Kremlin opposition had targeted its elections in an effort to demonstrate the unpopularity of Putin’s party, United Russia.

While the Russian president himself remains popular, his party’s support has plummeted in polling, particularly in the capital.

Russia’s top opposition leader Alexey Navalny hailed Sunday’s result as a victory of his strategy of tactical voting, in which he had called on people to vote for any candidate with the best chance of defeating the Kremlin’s pick. In practice, this largely meant voting for candidates from the Communist Party, which acts as a mostly tame opposition.

With all votes counted on Monday, the Kremlin saw its majority in the 45-seat Parliament slump from 40 to 24. The Communists took 13 seats, while the nationalist A Just Russia party took three. The liberal Yabloko party, which is allied with Navalny, also won all four seats where it fielded candidates. United Russia’s leader in Moscow, Andrei

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Metelsky, lost his seat.

Local elections took place across Russia on Sunday, and the Kremlin saw better results outside of the capital. United Russia, though, saw extreme defeat in the far-eastern city Khabarovsk, where the party lost all of its seats to the nationalist Liberal Democratic Party and the Communists. The Kremlin had successes in the governor races that were held on Sunday, with all six of its candidates winning in the first round.

Moscow’s vote was the most closely watched. The normally little-noticed election attracted major attention following this summer’s protests. They were sparked when authorities blocked virtually all anti-Kremlin candidates from running in mid-July. Tens of thousands of people joined demonstrations most Saturdays since then.

Authorities responded with the harshest crackdown in almost a decade, arresting hundreds and handing harsh prison sentences to several demonstrators. Police also raided the barred opposition candidates’ homes and jailed many of them, including Navalny.

Australia, Italy, Canada, and Switzerland.

The report, which included 140 countries, ranked countries based on infrastructure, safety and security, health, culture, accommodation, sustainable travel initiatives, value for the money, and other considerations. It also considered a country’s natural and cultural resources and travel and tourism policy.

Finland, Iceland, and Oman were ranked the safest countries in the world, while El Salvador, Nigeria, and Yemen – which came in last overall – were ranked least safe.

Wherever you go, it’s best to avoid the following countries: Yemen, Chad, Liberia, Burundi, Democratic Republic of Congo, Mauritania, Angola, Haiti, Burkina Faso, and Sierra Leone. They came out as the worst places to visit in the world.

Trump: Talks with Taliban Dead

Spain is the Best Country to Visit

For the third year in a row, Spain took the top spot in the World Economic Forum’s Travel and Tourism Competitive Report – the best place for people to visit.

The European winner boasts over 3,000 miles of coastline and 48 UNESCO World Heritage sites.

France ranked in second place, followed by Germany, Japan, and the United States. Rounding out the top ten were the United Kingdom,

President Donald Trump announced this week that his administration’s talks with the Taliban to end the 18-year conflict in Afghanistan are “dead.”

“As far as I’m concerned, they are dead,” Trump said on Monday.

The president didn’t give any hint if he would withdraw the 14,000 U.S. troops from the war-torn country as scheduled, saying merely that “we’d like to get out but we’ll get out at the right time.”

Trump’s remarks come a few days after it was revealed that he had called off talks with senior Taliban officials that were supposed to take place over the weekend in Camp Da-

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Sgt. 1st Class Elis Angel Barreto Ortiz was killed on Thursday in Afghanistan when a car bomb exploded at a checkpoint near NATO headquarters and the U.S. Embassy in Kabul.

Barreto, a 34-year-old paratrooper from Morovis, Puerto Rico, was a maintenance control sergeant assigned to Company H, 82nd Brigade Support Battalion, 3rd Brigade Combat Team, 82nd Airborne Division, from Fort Bragg, North Carolina.

Barreto had joined the service in 2010 and is a recipient of the Purple Heart and the Bronze Star Medal.

He was the 16th U.S. servicemember to have been killed in Afghanistan in 2019.

Calling the decision to kill an American soldier “a big mistake,” Trump said that he refuses to negotiate while American troops were being targeted.

“They thought that they had to kill people to put themselves in a little better negotiating position,” the president said. “We had a meeting scheduled. It was my idea and it was

my idea to terminate it. I didn’t even discuss it with anyone else. I cancelled Camp David on the basis that they did something that they sure as [anything] shouldn’t have done.”

Following Trump’s announcement, the Taliban vowed that it would continue killing U.S. soldiers in Afghanistan.

“We had two ways to end occupation in Afghanistan: one was jihad and fighting, the other was talks and negotiations,” said Taliban spokesman Zabihullah Mujahid. “If Trump wants to stop talks, we will take the first way and they will soon regret it.”

The current impasse likely spells the end of marathon negotiations between the Taliban and the United States. Under the tutelage of Afghani-born diplomat Zalmay Khalilzad, the two sides had appeared intent on hammering out a deal that would end the 18-year conflict.

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The study, which involved giving volunteers a growth hormone and two diabetes medications, showed that participants lost an average of 2.5 years from their biological age, with both their epigenetic clocks and their immune systems improving over time.

Steve Horvath, a researcher from the University of California, Los Angeles, told Nature: “I’d expected to see slowing down of the clock, but not a reversal. That felt kind of futuristic.”

The changes continued to be present in participants’ blood after the experiment was over, the Independent noted.

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Zimbabwe President Mnangagwa tweeted on Friday: “It is with the utmost sadness that I announce the passing on of Zimbabwe’s founding father and former president, Cde Robert Mugabe.

“Cde Mugabe was an icon of liberation, a pan-Africanist who dedicated his life to the emancipation and empowerment of his people. His contribution to the history of our nation and continent will never be forgotten.

May his soul rest in eternal peace.”

Mugabe, a former teacher, spent ten years in prison for opposing the white-minority government prior to Zimbabwe’s independence. In 1980, the guerilla war orchestrated by Mugabe succeeded in winning the country its freedom, and Mugabe was crowned prime minister.

He and his comrades believed white leadership made their people “a race of no rights beyond those of chattel,” CNN noted.

In 1987, Mugabe stepped down as prime minister to become his country’s president and head of the armed forces. Later, despite a deepening economic crisis, Mugabe obstinately refused to step down, claiming that “only G-d who appointed me will remove me,” calling efforts by the U.S. and European Union “unjustified” and “illegal.”

On November 7, 2017, after angering officials by firing Mnangagwa (who was First-Vice President at the time) in order to clear the position for his wife, Mugabe was placed under house arrest and finally forced to step down.

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According to The Guardian, Mann was named an “anti-Semitism czar” by former Prime Minister Theresa May just before she stepped down.

PM Boris Johnson then promoted him, allowing him to take the position full-time.

He told the Jewish Chronicle that the new role “will allow me to devote 95 percent of my life to fighting the war against anti-Semitism, rather than the five percent I was able to devote while working as an MP. “I think I can make a significant impact internationally, particularly on areas such as the IHRA definition.”

He told the Chronicle, “It was ‘Jew this… Jew that’ to two members of the community and myself who were just sitting outside having some food and attempting to chat. That’s the scale of the problem – it’s becoming normalized.

“When Corbyn goes, the problem doesn’t go with Corbyn. But his failure to lead is the big problem – as is the problem of anti-Semitism on the left.

Corbyn is an enabler. His unwillingness to undo the damage he has done has had huge consequences. He’s not just an enabler; he’s the enabler in this country.

“His refusal to sort things out – and the things he’s done and said in the past – gives an open license to it.”

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“I’m not prepared to stand as an MP with Corbyn as leader,” Mann, 59, told the Jewish Chronicle. He added that he will still remain a Labour

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She later learned that Sietsma had been killed in Dachau but found a letter which he had written on a piece of toilet paper and thrown from the train on the way to Dachau.

The letter, found with other prisoners’ messages and belongings, read, “Darling, don’t count on seeing each other again soon. I have the feeling that it will take at least a year… Even if we won’t see each other on earth again, we will never be sorry for what we did, and that we took this stand.”

After the war, Eman became a nurse and moved to Venezuela. She later married an American, settling in Michigan after their divorce.

Eman, who in 2015 was called “one of our national heroes” by Dutch King Willem-Alexander, is survived by two children.

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Eman, who was a resistance fighter, worked with her fiancé Hein Sietsma to shelter a Jewish violinist named Herman in The Hague.

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Among other things, Eman translated BBC radio reports to spread forbidden news, served as a courier, and buried weapons in her parents’ garden. Together with a resistance group, she and Sietsma helped to provide money, ration cards, and false documents for Jews trying to escape the Nazis.

The pair were eventually arrested. When the Gestapo officers were distracted, Eman succeeded in tossing an envelope full of ration cards, hidden under her blouse, away from her. During Eman’s time in the Herzogenbusch concentration camp in Vught, she resisted interrogations by pretending to be simple-minded.

After her liberation in 1944, Eman returned to working with the resistance.

Senior Conservative lawmaker Amber Rudd resigned her position as the UK’s Secretary of State of Work and Pensions last weekend, accusing Prime Minister Boris Johnson of an “assault on democracy.”

Rudd’s resignation follows that of Johnson’s brother, Jo Johnson, last Thursday.

In a letter to PM Johnson which she shared on Twitter Saturday night, Rudd wrote that she cannot “stand by as good, loyal, moderate Conservatives are expelled” in an “assault on decency and democracy.”

She added that she “no longer” believes that “leaving with a deal is the government’s main objective.”

“I remain committed to the One Nation values that drew me into politics,” she added.

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after they blocked his move to leave the European Union without a deal.

Rudd, who has been a member of Parliament since 2010, told BBC Sunday that she has “not seen enough work going into actually trying to get a deal,” even though she believes Johnson is “trying to get a deal with the EU.” “It’s like 80-90% of government time is going into preparing for no deal,” she said, adding that “the absence of actually trying to work to get a deal is what has driven 21 of my colleagues to rebel, and I need to join them.”

Therese Coffey will replace Rudd as Work and Pensions Secretary.

N. Korea Launches More Projectiles Despite assertions that it is willing to sit down with the U.S. for talks and agreements, North Korea is continuing to show its belligerent side.

On Tuesday morning, North Korea launched two unidentified projectiles from South Pyongan Prov-

ince toward the East Sea, also known as the Sea of Japan. The projectiles flew approximately 205 miles and were launched at 6:53 a.m. and 7:12 a.m., Korean time.

The launches took place just hours after a top North Korean diplomat working on nuclear negotiations with the United States said Pyongyang would be open to resuming talks with Washington.

The envoy, Choe Son Hui, said in a first-person statement published on Monday by North Korean state media that North Korea is willing “to sit with the U.S. side for comprehensive discussions of the issues we have so far taken up at the time and place to be agreed late in September.”

“I believe that the U.S. side will

come out with a proposal geared to the interests of the DPRK and the U.S. and based on the calculation method acceptable to us,” Choe said, referring to North Korea by an acronym for the country’s formal name, the Democratic People’s Republic of Korea.

After more than a year of refraining from missile tests, North Korean leader Kim Jong Un’s regime has conducted 10 launches since May including Tuesday’s. Most of those are believed to be short-range missiles.

In the past, U.S. President Donald Trump has called the tests “very standard” and noted that Kim had agreed to stop testing long-range ballistic missiles.

U.S. Secretary of State Mike Pompeo said on Sunday that Kim hasn’t yet violated his commitment to Trump but that the U.S. is “disappointed that he is continuing to conduct these short-range tests. We wish that he would stop that.”

“But our mission set at the State Department is very clear: to get back to the table, to present a mechanism by which we can deliver…a full, completely denuclearized and verified denuclearized North Korea.”

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Alibaba Group founder Jack Ma, who helped launch China’s online retailing boom, stepped down as chairman of the world’s biggest e-commerce company on Tuesday at a time when its fast-changing industry faces uncertainty amid a U.S.-Chinese tariff war. Ma’s departure was not a surprise. He gave up his position on his 55th birthday as part of a succession plan announced one year ago. He is one of China’s wealthiest and best-known entre-

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preneurs. He will stay on as a member of the Alibaba Partnership, a 36-member group with the right to nominate a majority of the company’s board of directors.

Ma, a former English teacher, founded Alibaba in 1999 to connect Chinese exporters to American retailers.

The company has shifted focus to serving China’s growing consumer market and expanded into online banking, entertainment, and cloud computing. Domestic businesses accounted for 66% of its $16.7 billion in revenue in the quarter ending in June.

Alibaba says its revenue rose 42% over a year earlier in the quarter ending in June to $16.7 billion and profits rose 145% to $3.1 billion.

Still, that was off slightly from 2018’s full-year revenue growth of 51%.

The total amount of goods sold across Alibaba’s e-commerce platforms rose 25% last year to $853 billion. By comparison, the biggest U.S. e-commerce company, Amazon.com Inc., reported total sales of $277 billion.

Alibaba’s deputy chairman, Joe Tsai, told reporters in May that the

company is “on the right side” of issues in U.S.-Chinese trade talks.

Tsai said Alibaba stands to benefit from Beijing’s promise to increase imports and a growing consumer market.

Alibaba is one of a group of companies including Tencent Holding Ltd., a games and social media giant, search engine Baidu.com Inc., and e-commerce rival JD.com that have revolutionized shopping, entertainment, and consumer services in China.

Alibaba was founded at a time when few Chinese were online. As internet use spread, the company expanded into consumer-focused retailing and services. Few Chinese used credit cards, so Alibaba created the Alipay online payments system.

Ma, known in Chinese as Ma Yun, appears regularly on television.

At an annual Alibaba employee festival in Hanzhou, he has sung pop songs in costumes that have included blond wigs and leather jackets.

He pokes fun at his own appearance, saying his oversized head and angular features make him look like the alien in director Steven Spielberg’s movie “E.T. The Extraterrestrial.”

The Hurun Report, which follows China’s wealth, estimates Ma’s fortune at $38 billion.

In 2015, Ma bought the South China Morning Post, Hong Kong’s biggest English-language newspaper.

Ma’s successor as chairman is CEO Daniel Zhang, a former accountant and 12-year veteran of Alibaba.

He previously was president of its consumer-focused Tmall.com business unit.

Rebuilding after Dorian

After Hurricane Dorian ripped through their country, nearly 5,000

residents of the Bahamas fled.

“I want to assure evacuees that as we start rebuilding their communities, they will be returned home,” Bahamas Prime Minister Hubert Minnis said on Monday.

Hundreds more remain trapped on the islands, following confusion about what documents Bahamians need to travel to the U.S. Over the weekend, some 119 passengers hoping to evacuate Grand Bahama – one of the hardest hit islands – were told to get off a Balearia Caribbean ferry boat heading to Florida if they didn’t have visas, according to the ferry operator.

The operator has since apologized for the “hardship and inconvenience” the passengers experienced but added, “We boarded these passengers with the understanding that they could travel to the United States without their visas, only to later having been advised that in order to travel to Ft. Lauderdale, they are required prior in-person authorization from the immigration authorities in Nassau.”

U.S. Customs and Border Protection (CBP) said the operator did not properly coordinate the evacu-

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ation ahead of time and noted that passengers were ordered off the boat by the ferry operator and not by any U.S. government entity. If the passengers would have stayed onboard and would have reached the U.S., they would have been processed and vetted.

Over the weekend, nearly 1,500 evacuees arrived in Palm Beach, Florida, on board the Grand Celebration humanitarian cruise ship.

Those passengers were properly documented to enter the country – that process was coordinated with CBP ahead of time.

By Monday, the death toll of Hurricane Dorian on the Bahamas had risen to 50, the Royal Bahamas Commissioner of Police said. Authorities have recovered 42 bodies from the island of Abaco and eight from Grand Bahama.

“We anticipate the discovery of more deceased persons, as the process of search and recovery progresses,” the commissioner’s statement said.

USAID Administrator Mark Green said on Sunday that some areas in the Bahamas looked “almost as though nuclear bombs were dropped on them.”

“I have no words to say how bad,” said Marilyn Laing, a resident of High Rock on Grand Bahama. “Maybe one in 10 houses is standing.”

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The resolution had attempted to condemn both sides for the recent exchange of fire on the Lebanese border. However, the U.S. decided

to block the decision after it became clear that it would not single out the Hezbollah terror group for its role in starting the fighting.

According to the AFP, member countries expressed their “deep concern at the recent incidents” over the past week. The draft added that “members of the security council condemned all violations of the Blue Line, both by air and ground, and strongly calls upon all parties to re-

spect the cessation of hostilities.”

The condemnation of Israel’s actions while ignoring Hezbollah was too much for Washington, and it blocked the draft resolution twice between announcing that it would veto it should it proceed to the Security Council.

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equal footing with Hezbollah.”

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by evacuating troops that were not actually injured in order to fool the militia into thinking that the attack was successful.

The IDF had been on high alert after Israel bombed a target in Beirut a week prior. The strike was the first time Israel attacked Lebanon since the Second Lebanon War ended in 2006, leading Hezbollah leader Hassan Nasrallah to vow revenge.

Netanyahu Exposes New Iranian Nuclear Site Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu revealed two more secret Iranian nuclear sites in a special televised address on Monday.

Speaking from the Foreign Ministry in Jerusalem, Netanyahu first said that Iran had tried to deceive International Atomic Energy Agency (IAEA) inspectors when it came to evidence of nuclear radiation at a facility near Tehran that he had revealed at the UN last September.

“The Iranians claimed that it was a carpet cleaning plant. I called on the IAEA to immediately inspect the facility in Turkuzabad. Today, I

inform you that the inspectors found uranium nuclear material that Iran was hiding against its international obligations. This is the most serious breach of the Nuclear Non-Proliferation Treaty,” asserted Netanyahu.

Netanyahu added that the IAEA director general told him that he had not received cooperation from Tehran, which did everything to hide the incriminating materials.

“Before our exposure, we saw the containers in which they hid equipment and nuclear material,” said Netanyahu, pointing at a photo of the site. “Here is the facility after our exposure – they removed and destroyed the containers, and they covered the site with gravel. This is what is called total coverage. It did not help them because they left behind nuclear material.”

Netanyahu then revealed a military site in a remote part of Iran that he said the Islamic Republic used to build nuclear weapons. “Today I find out we have uncovered other secret sites,” Netanyahu continued. “One of the suspected locations is a site for developing nuclear weapons south of Isfahan.

“Just like in Turukozabad, when Iran realized that we were on its trail, they began to hide it,” the prime minister said. “It’s just amazing. Every time they hide anything, we reveal it and then they try to blur their footprints.”

Netanyahu’s announcement came following the announcement by the International Atomic Energy Agency that Iran is making advanced centrifuges, a move that is a direct violation of the 2015 nuclear deal.

Greenblatt Leaving the Administration Thirty-year-old Lawrence native Avi Berkowitz has been named as Jason Greenblatt’s replacement as

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President Donald Trump’s special envoy to the Middle East.

Greenblatt had suddenly announced last week that he would leave his position following the Israeli elections on September 17. Greenblatt had spent the last two years hammering out the Trump administration’s long-awaited peace plan, nicknamed the “Deal of the Century.”

In announcing his departure, Greenblatt said that he was “incredibly grateful to have been part of a team that drafted a vision for peace.

This vision has the potential to vastly improve the lives of millions of Israelis, Palestinians, and others in the region.”

Greenblatt was thanked by both President Donald Trump and Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu for his work on the Deal of the Century.

“I wish to thank Jason Greenblatt for his work for peace and security and for speaking the truth about Israel in front of all those who bash it,” said Netanyahu.

“After almost 3 years in my Administration, Jason Greenblatt will be leaving to pursue work in the private sector. Jason has been a loyal and great friend and a fantastic lawyer,” added Trump. “His dedication to Israel and to seeking peace between Israel and the Palestinians won’t be forgotten. He will be missed. Thank you, Jason!”

Greenblatt’s replacement will be Avi Berkowitz, who will now be tasked with getting Israel and the Palestinians to agree on the long-awaited peace plan after it is unveiled in September.

Berkowitz grew up in Lawrence, New York, and attended Yeshiva of Far Rockaway for high school. Following his graduation, he studied in Yeshiva Kol Torah in Jerusalem and began studying for his undergraduate degree in Queens College.

After graduating Queens College, Berkowitz continued his studies at Harvard Law School. However, it was his close ties with Trump’s sonin-law Jared Kushner that launched his career in government. Reportedly meeting during a basketball game

at a Passover program in Arizona, the two soon became fast friends.

After graduating Harvard, Berkowitz turned down a lucrative job at a top-tier law firm to work at the New York Observer, a newspaper owned

by Kushner.

Following Trump’s shock victory to become president in 2016, Berkowitz became a special assistant to the president and is said to be very close with America’s highest elected official.

Controversial “Cameras Law” Fails to Reach Knesset Floor

In a blow to the Likud, a controversial law enabling political parties to film polling stations failed to garner enough support for the Knesset to vote on it.

The Knesset was slated to vote on the law late Monday in time for it to take effect ahead of next Tuesday’s nationwide elections. However, a vote in the Knesset Regulatory committee to fast-track the bill ended in a 12-12 tie, leaving it with no way for it to become law.

Avigdor Liberman’s party notably refused to support the bill, arguing that it was designed to allow Prime Minister Netanyahu “to steal the elections” from the Israeli voter.

“What Netanyahu is trying to pass is not a voter observer bill; it is an election-stealing bill,” Liberman blustered.

Coalition lawmaker Roi Folkman (Likud) also abstained from the vote, leaving the bill dead on arrival.

Netanyahu had proposed the law earlier this week and had pushed hard for its passage despite a flood of controversy that the legislation spurred. While Netanyahu claimed that the law was needed to crack

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down on what he alleged was widespread voter fraud, left-wing factions accused him of attempting to intimidate Arabs from voting.

The bill was also hotly opposed

by President Reuven Rivlin, Elections Committee Supervisor Hanan Melcer, and Knesset legal advisor Eyal Inon, who said that the bill allowing representatives of private parties to film the polls was unconstitutional.

The legislation came amid claims of massive voter fraud in the April elections, with the Arab Bald party reportedly engaging in widespread ballot box stuffing. Numerous testimonies spoke of Balad representatives offering poll supervisors money in exchange for walking out for a few minutes. Police are probing allegations at 24 different ballot stations..

Two Stabbed in West Bank Village An Israeli father and son were stabbed on Saturday by a terrorist

after visiting a Palestinian dentist in the West Bank village of Azun.

The father, Yosef Perez, 60, was lightly injured, while his 17-year-old son Liber sustained more serious wounds to his upper body.

The victims are residents of the southern Israeli city of Ofakim, and they went to the dentist for treatment along with Yosef’s brother due to the significantly lower cost of treatment there. Upon leaving the dental practice, they were accosted by a teenage Palestinian male who asked them if they were Jews.

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“My son was afraid for me. He pushed me aside, and he quickly jumped on him with his head down,” recounted Yosef Perez. “[The attacker] took advantage of the position and began stabbing him in his back.”

Both men said the assailant was holding a knife in his hand during the encounter and that the dentist helped save them. “The dentist helped us; he jumped on him and held him against the wall and hit him while we escaped,” continued Yosef. “For a year now I have been coming to this dentist for treatment and everything was fine. I never thought something like this would happen.”

The dentist, who identified himself as Dr. Amin, told Channel 12 that the men were attacked “inside my clinic… They are my patients.”

The father and son were treated at Meir Medical Center in Kfar Saba, where Liber was later listed as in moderate but stable condition.

According to Palestinian media reports, the IDF arrested the 15-yearold suspect’s father on Saturday.

Flareups Along the Gaza Border

An Egyptian military delegation entered the Gaza Strip on Monday in an attempt to calm tensions following security escalations in recent days between Israel and Hamas.

Members of the delegation toured the Rafah Crossing and the adjacent industrial zone and met with Hamas leader Gaza Yahya Sinwar. The officials had been slated to arrive later in the week but moved up their meeting following a recent flareup in tensions between Hamas and Israel.

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fell in Israeli territory. The targets included a warehouse used to store gear for Hamas’ naval commandos and two military complexes utilized by its drone fleet in northern and central Gaza Strip.

In the attack the IDF called a “red line,” a kamikaze drone heavily damaged an IDF Humvee but didn’t manage to injure any troops.

“The IDF will continue to act against attempts to harm Israeli citizens and holds the Palestinian terror group Hamas responsible for everything that takes place in the Gaza Strip and which emanates from there,” said the military.

Prime Minister Netanyahu warned a day earlier that Israel was losing patience with the violence coming out of the Gaza Strip and said that Israel would not hesitate to respond. Hamas has been ramping up its rocket fire and border riots recently, betting that Israel would not launch an operation ahead of next week’s Knesset elections.

“Hamas is responsible for all aggression emanating from the Gaza Strip. Any attempt to harm our citizens and our soldiers will be met with a forceful response,” Netanyahu said.

Expats Don’t Love the U.S.

Skyrocketing healthcare costs and a decreasing sense of personal safety caused the U.S. to plummet in a recent Expat Insider’s annual quality of life report.

To reach its conclusions, the study polled more than 20,000 expats living today in 187 different countries. In the report, the term “expat” was defined as an American sent abroad due to work or personal reasons and included 182 assorted

nationalities.

The report reached its conclusions by asking respondents to rank their current place of residence according to 48 different factors.

These data points were then sorted into five categories, which included quality of life, ease of settling in, working abroad, family life, and personal finance.

In the report, the U.S. finished a distant 44th out of 64 countries in the quality of life index. A main complaint from respondents was the astronomical cost of health care, with one Australian expat fearing that “something major could happen, like a hospital stay, and I would need a loan to pay the bill.”

Despite 57% of those surveyed approving of the U.S.’s overall quality in healthcare, 71% took issue with its escalating cost, making U.S. healthcare the most expensive in the world.

With crime and mass shootings rising across the U.S., another issue of concern among expats is personal safety. “The country ranks 49th out of 64 in this subcategory: about seven in ten expats (69%) feel safe in the USA, a lower share than the global average of 81%,” wrote the report. “Less than half (48%) rate the country’s political stability positively, compared to 61% globally.”

Other problems raised by expats were the lackluster public transportation in the U.S., the high cost of living, and a hard time finding the proper balance between family and work. Overall, those polled with a full-time job averaged a 44.5-hour work week, above the global average of 43.9 hours.

“I work too many hours with not enough flextime or vacation,” said one British national currently living in the U.S.

Some Primaries Cancelled in Support of Trump The Republican parties in South Carolina and Kansas won’t hold nominating contests in 2020 in order to support U.S. President Donald Trump against several would-be GOP candidates aiming for a shot at the White House.

South Carolina’s announcement,

made on Saturday, echoed Kansas’ Friday move. Officials in both Nevada and Arizona are also examining the option of canceling their primaries, USA TODAY said.

The site quoted GOP State Chairman Drew McKissick, who wrote in a statement that “with no legitimate primary challenger and with President Trump’s record of results, the decision was made to save South Carolina taxpayers over $1.2 million and forgo an unnecessary primary.

“President Trump and his administration have delivered for South Carolinians, and we look forward to ensuring that Republican candidates up and down the ballot are elected in 2020.”

Currently, Trump’s challengers include former Massachusetts Gov. Bill Weld, who announced his bid in April, and former Rep. Joe Walsh, who announced that he would run in August. Former South Carolina Gov. and Congressman Mark Sanford expressed disappointment at his state’s decision, which stripped him of his ability to run.

“I believe that political parties are about ideas, and ideas are refined and made stronger by debate and that’s what primaries are about,” he said. “The debate of ideas is part and parcel to the American way.”

It is not unusual for state parties to cancel primaries when a strong incumbent is running for re-election. According to The New York Times, Democrats canceled 10 presidential primaries in 2012 to support then-U.S. President Barack Obama in his bid for re-election.

“These are decisions made entirely by state parties and there are volumes of historical precedents to support them,” Tim Murtaugh, Trump’s campaign communication director, said. “Nevertheless, President Trump will dominate and prevail in whatever contest is placed before him.”

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squirrels “expressed significantly lower and more rapidly declining levels of vigilant behavior than those exposed to ambient noise.”

The squirrels’ tendency to relax when hearing the chatter of birds that are not predators is “likely to indicate safety because such sounds are generally given when imminent threat has not been detected.”

This study is groundbreaking in the scientific community because it marks the first time that animals have been documented using noise caused by other animals to give them a sense of safety. While animals commonly pick up cues from their own species, it is rare that they learn to interpret the chatter of other animals for their own benefit.

“A few studies have demonstrated eavesdropping on non-sentinel calls within co-foraging groups as an index of safety,” the study reads. “However, to our knowledge, our study is the first to demonstrate eavesdropping on non-sentinel calls outside of a co-foraging group association, indicating that eavesdropping on cues of safety may be more widespread than previously recognized.”

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According to a new study published in the journal PLOS One, grey squirrels commonly eavesdrop on nearby bird chatter in order to up-

date themselves on the absence or presence of nearby predators.

During the study, researchers at Oberlin College broadcasted different birdcalls to squirrels in their natural habitat. When hearing the sound of a red-tailed hawk, which is a predator of the squirrels, the animals perked up and began scanning the area for enemies. The behavior included freezing, looking around, or getting ready to run.

However, after hearing recordings of non-threatening birds, the

Ship Island Excursions, which has survived a world war, hurricanes, global recessions, and a variety of economic challenges since its founding in the 1920s, may finally be forced to bite the dust after algae responsible for closing Mississippi’s beaches shows no sign of disappearing, HuffPost reported.

The cyanobacteria, a blue-green algae, appeared earlier this summer, leading Mississippi to close its 21 Gulf Coast beaches. No one knows when the algae will disappear.

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A rare two-colored lobster was found off the coast of Maine last week by a local fisherman who had a 1-in-50-million chance of finding the unusual crustacean

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“I’ve never seen something so dramatic,” he added. “It’s very similar to the BP oil spill…. People are frightened to just walk in the sand.”

Scientists have never seen such algae before, since blue-green algal blooms are usually confined to freshwater species. According to Mississippi officials, the algae is the result of record flooding diverted from the New Orleans area which pushed polluted, nitrogen-rich water down the Mississippi River.

The polluted water killed oyster reefs and decimated brown shrimp and crab catches, altering the salinity levels of the entire estuarine area.

Though the salinity levels are returning to normal, the algae has not disappeared.

Exposure to the algae can cause nausea, vomiting, diarrhea, and kidney and liver damage, the Center for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) said. Pets are especially vulnerable, and several dogs have died after exposure to the toxic bloom.

Meanwhile, businesses dependent on summer beach tourism are facing enormous losses, with decreases of up to 70%. Commercial fishermen have also been affected and worry that the local fishing industry will be facing its demise due to health advisories, despite the fact that algae have not yet been found in any actual catches. Mississippi’s Department of Marine Resources noted that 90-100% of the state’s oyster reefs have been killed – and they may never recover if the flooding does not stop.

Scientists are also investigating whether the algal blooms may also play a role in the deaths of 300 dolphins found along the northern Gulf coast this year – nearly half of which were found in Mississippi.

Lightning Strikes WA 1,250 Times

Washington State was all aglow over the weekend when about 1,250 lightning strikes were recorded in the west of the state during a storm that caused widespread power outages on Saturday night, the National Weather Service said.

A strong line of thunderstorms developed over the area, bringing frequent lightning, heavy rains, flooding, and hail to the Puget Sound region.

Lightning occurs when ice particles within a cloud interact with each other through collision, causing the particles to fracture and break apart, according to NASA. The intense heat of the lightning generates a sound called thunder that is transmitted through the air at the speed of sound. Lightning and thunder occur at the same time but since light travels faster than sound, the flash of lightning is seen sooner than thunder is heard.

“When lightning strikes, a bright flash of light is generated. Light travels at a constant 186,000 miles/second, which means that we see the flash immediately as it happens,” NASA said.

At its peak, the lightning storm caused power outages to over 4,500 customers, according to Seattle City Light.

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and close to the record 53 deaths recorded in 2018.

The push by carmakers to roll out new safety features was praised by the National Safety Council, who said that it was a welcome yet insufficient first step.

“Automakers took a step in the right direction Wednesday, adding another layer of protection against these tragedies,” the council said.

He added, “Automakers should move fast on their commitment and continue to collaborate on additional protections that can be provided to all our drivers.”

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Preventing Hot Car Fatalities Carmakers have unveiled a series of new safety features meant to stop children from dying in hot cars.

In an announcement made last week, the Alliance of Automobile Manufacturers and the Association of Global Automakers said that mem-

ber companies would step up the fight against hot car deaths.

The new and improved safety features include installing rear seat warnings in new cars that utilize “auditory and visual alerts” to warn drivers of sleeping children after the car is shut off. The system will be in place in almost every new car and truck that rolls off the lot by 2025.

“Automakers have been exploring ways to address this safety issue,

and this commitment underscores how such innovations and increased awareness can help children right now,” said Alliance Interim President and CEO David Schwietert.

The move comes as the number of children who died as a result of being left in hot cars continues to rise. With three months remaining in 2019, 40 children have died in the U.S. in overheated cars so far this year, surpassing the national average of 38

Golden Ray, a 656-foot cargo ship, began to list heavily off the coast of Georgia on Sunday. By evening, the whole ship was laid over on its side as authorities worked to stabilize the ship so they could rescue four South Korean crew members who were onboard the vessel.

Twenty of the 24 people onboard the ship were rescued by the Coast Guard and other agencies before a fire hindered the rescue mission. The missing crew members were in the engine room of the ship.

“As smoke and flames began to appear, our crews, along with the Glynn County heavy rescue team, assessed that the situation was too risky to further go inside the vessel to attempt to locate the four individuals who remain missing at this time,” Capt. John Reed, commander of the Coast Guard Sector Charleston, said.

Finally, on Monday, Coast Guard rescuers pulled the four trapped men from the capsized vessel, drilling into the hull’s steel plates to extract the

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crew members more than a day after their vessel overturned. All four men were alert and in good condition despite the ordeal.

“Best day of my 16-year career,” Lt. Lloyd Heflin, who was coordinating the effort for the Coast Guard, wrote in a text message to The Associated Press.

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Bolton Shown the Door President Donald Trump abruptly announced in a tweet on Tuesday that he has asked national security adviser John Bolton to resign, noting that he “strongly disagreed with many” of Bolton’s suggestions “as did others in the administration.”

“I thank John very much for his

service. I will be naming a new National Security Advisor next week,” Trump wrote.

The tweet came just one hour after the White House press office said Bolton was scheduled to appear at a Tuesday press briefing alongside Secretary of State Mike Pompeo and Treasury Secretary Steve Mnuchin.

Asked during the briefing whether he and Mnuchin were surprised that Bolton was fired, given that he was supposed to appear alongside them, Pompeo said, “I’m never surprised.”

According to Bolton, though, it wasn’t the president’s idea for him to leave his post. Tweeting just minutes after Trump’s announcement, Bolton wrote, “I offered to resign last night and President Trump said, ‘Let’s talk about it tomorrow.’”

Bolton reiterated the point that he

offered to resign to Fox News Tuesday.

His resignation letter to Trump, dated Tuesday, was short and to the point with Bolton writing: “I hereby resign, effective immediately, as Assistant to the President for National Security Affairs. Thank you for having afforded me this opportunity to serve our country.”

“John Bolton’s priorities and policies just don’t line up with the President’s and any sitting president has the right to put someone in that position that can carry out his agenda.

That became no longer tenable so the President made a change,” White House deputy press secretary Hogan Gidley told reporters.

He claimed there was “no one issue” that led to Bolton’s firing.

The White House is already discussing potential candidates to replace Bolton, several sources told CNN. There are at least 10 names being circulated and there does not appear to be a shortlist at this time.

Trump has plowed through an unprecedented number of national security professionals while multiple geopolitical crises have played out.

The president has had three national security advisers: Bolton, Michael Flynn and H.R. McMaster. He has summarily fired a secretary of state, Rex Tillerson, by tweet, after undercutting the former ExxonMobil CEO for months. Secretary of Defense James Mattis resigned as well, reportedly in frustration over Trump’s decision to pull out of Syria.

Bolton’s departure comes as tensions with Iran are escalating in the Persian Gulf, North Korea continues to develop its weapons capabilities, arms control experts are warning of a potential nuclear arms race with Russia, and trade tensions with China are intensifying, while Trump is discussing a drawdown of forces in Afghanistan.

GOP Wins in N. Carolina It was a narrow victory in North Carolina on Tuesday for Republicans when Sen. Dan Bishop defeated Democrat Dan McCready in the 9th District’s special congressional election.

The race drew national attention as a potential 2020 bellwether, in a district that stretched from the Charlotte suburbs to the military town of Fayetteville. President Donald Trump and Vice Presi-

dent Mike Pence both made eleventh hour trips to the district on Monday in an effort to bolster Bishop. Trump had won the area by 12 points back in 2016. Despite him handily winning the election a few years ago, it was a tight race for the candidates this time around, in a district when Republicans should have come in easily.

The “do-over” special election came after the state board of elections refused to certify the 2018 House race results in the district after fraud allegations, ordering a new election.

The closely watched contest in the state’s 9th District came after credible allegations of ballot fraud in the 2018 midterm election caused the State Board of Elections to order a new election earlier this year. Now, nearly 10 months after Election Day, voters finally decided between McCready, a Marine Corps veteran, and Bishop, the second Republican nominee.

McCready appeared to suffer a narrow defeat to Republican Mark Harris last November, but evidence of ballot fraud by a GOP operative connected to Harris surfaced before the results could be certified. Harris decided not to run again in the special election.

Bishop was previously best known for his lead role in passing North Carolina’s “bathroom bill,” legislation widely denounced as discriminatory and subsequently scaled back with the approval of Democratic Gov. Roy Cooper, who had campaigned against it.

Voters in the state’s 3rd Congressional District also elected Republican state Rep. Greg Murphy over Democratic former Greenville Mayor Allen Thomas. The special election in that Republican-leaning district was called after GOP Rep. Walter Jones, who had represented it since 1995, died in February.

Trump, who has sent several tweets in support of Bishop and Murphy, held a rally in Fayetteville on Monday night in an attempt to push them over the finish line. Trump cast the special election, and the 2020 presidential election, as a fight for the status quo.

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The five U.S. states with the highest death rates have an average death rate 49% higher than that of the five states with the lowest death rates, the U.S. Center for Disease Control and Prevention’s (CDC) National Center for Health Statistics recently reported.

The report, published last Thursday, found that in 2017, age-specific death rates for all age groups were higher in the top five states than in those with lower death rates. It also found that age-adjusted death rates for chronic lower respiratory diseases and unintentional injuries for the states with the highest rates were almost doubled compared with the states with the lowest rates.

The five states with the highest death rates in the country are Alabama, Kentucky, Mississippi, Oklahoma, and West Virginia. On the other hand, the five states with the lowest death rates in the nation are California, Connecticut, Hawaii, Minnesota, and New York.

However, despite the disparity in numbers, the five leading causes of death for both the states with the highest and lowest death rates were heart disease, cancer, chronic lower respiratory disease, unintentional injuries, and stroke. In other words, wherever you live, these illnesses are prevalent.

Dr. Jiaquan Xu, a National Center for Health Statistics researcher and author of the report, noted some interesting findings. “Alzheimer’s disease for California, one of the five lowest-rate states, was higher than the

rates for Kentucky and West Virginia, two of the five lowest-rate states. California had a higher death rate from diabetes than Alabama. Hawaii had the highest death rate from influenza and pneumonia in the nation.”

He added, “The findings in this report are important information for the health community to learn about inequalities in mortality between the two groups of the states and help them in their important work using such information.”

U.S. Best Cities to Live In

When it comes to choosing a city to call home, every person and family has a different set of priorities and tastes. Still, there are some universal traits to a city that make it better than others, including safe streets, a strong economy, and affordability.

Recently, 24/7 Wall St. created a weighted index of over two dozen measures from the U.S. Census Bureau, the FBI, and other sources to identify the best city to live in. It looked at all boroughs, census designated places, cities, towns, and villages with at least 8,000 residents.

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munities are often within commuting distance of a major metropolitan area. Close proximity to a major city provides residents with more access to job opportunities.

Some of the best cities in the United States turned out to be just outside of Chicago, Los Angeles, and Houston.

These metro areas are highly desirable places to live, but the downside is that they also tend to be very expensive.

According to the report, West University Place in Texas, with a population of 15,477, is the best city to live in in the United States. The average household income there is more than $240K. In addition to entertainment and culture in nearby Houston, West University Place, which is a suburb of Houston, has a far greater concentration of restaurants, bars, fitness centers, museums, and theatre companies than is typical nationwide.

Beverly Hills, California, came in at number two in the nation. Pella, Iowa, nabbed spot number three.

Montecito, California, and Grove City, Pennsylvania, rounded out the top five best cities to live in in the nation.

University Park, Texas; Ladue, Missouri; Hanover, New Hampshire; Whitefish Bay, Wisconsin; and Le

Mars, Iowa; came in at the next few spots on the list.

And no, not one city in New York or New Jersey took the first 50 spots on the list. I guess they never visited the Five Towns.

Boston: $50 for Every Kindergartener

On the first day of kindergarten this year, every child in the Boston public school system will be $50 richer. A program called Boston Saves has expanded to include all public kindergartens in the city this year.

Each student is automatically enrolled in Boston Saves. They can’t touch the $50 until after high school,

and the money can only be used for college or other job training. Parents can also earn incentive payments for the program. Families can earn up to an extra $65 from the city during the first year if they regularly contribute to the account.

“Over 4,000 kindergartners today get $50 seed money,” explained Gosia Tomaszewska, who manages Boston Saves.

It started as a pilot program three years ago in 11 schools.

“We are giving people a tool and money, but really, what we’re trying to do is start parents and kids thinking about the future early on. What is a better way to invest in the future of Boston and Boston’s families than investing in our kids,” Tomaszewska said.

The cost of Boston Saves is about $200,000 for the city each year. There are also contributions from the private sector and non-profits. The state is piloting a similar program that goes statewide next year.

Cheese on a Roll

London loves cheese, or so it seems. Pick & Cheese, an eatery at the Seven Dials Market in Covent Garden, has a 40-meter conveyor belt that serves up a ginormous supply of cheese for consumers. It offers at least 25 varieties of the dairy delicacy sourced from around the United Kingdom.

The restaurant boasts that it’s the “world’s first conveyor belt cheese restaurant,” a claim no one is disputing.

“At Pick & Cheese we want to show that cheese and wine bars don’t have to be boring and can be enjoyed by everyone, whether you’re dropping in for a quick plate of British cheese and a glass of something unusual, or settling in for a cheese flight and a bottle of natural wine,” says Mathew Carver, founder of The Cheese Bar.

“We’re looking forward to switching on the belt and loading her up with our pick of the country’s most exciting small producer cheeses.”

After taking a seat at the belt, diners can pick whatever takes their fancy during the never-ending cheese parade, where plates are color-coded by price, or they can follow a pre-selected “cheese flight.”

“Off-belt dishes,” such as panfried angloumi and a four-cheese grilled sandwich, can be ordered directly to your chair.

The restaurant, which is the brainchild of the team at the Cheese Bar, a restaurant in London’s Camden Market, also holds a specially curated wine list from natural wine retailers, Les Caves de Pyrene, that diners can pair with the cheeses.

Let the “gouda” times roll.

73-Year-Old Gives Birth

An Indian woman who gave birth to twin girls last week is believed to be the oldest person to ever give birth after having the babies at the age of 73.

Erramatti Mangayamma, from Andhra Pradesh, gave birth on Thursday. Her husband is 80. The couple has been married since 1962 but has never been able to have children.

“The surgery went well…. The mother and the babies are all healthy with no complications,” Dr. Sanakayyala Umashankar said. The couple had been undergoing treatments at his clinic to help with the pregnancy.

He said the pregnancy was free of complications, owing largely to the fact that Mangayamma doesn’t have diabetes, hypertension, or other conditions that could make a pregnancy at her age particularly dangerous.

“I don’t think she will have any major health issues in the post-delivery period,” the doctor told The Hindustan Times.

That’s good because she’s going to be a bit busy for the next few years.

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Seeing Double

Voters in California may be seeing double when they head to the polls in 2020.

U.S. Congressman Raul Ruiz, a California Democrat, is facing a challenge for his seat by a Republican businessman named – wait for it – Raul Ruiz.

The 47-year-old representative for the state’s 36th district, a Harvard-educated physician, has handily won re-election every two years since entering Congress in 2013.

But the 2020 elections might prove to be complicated, especially if he faces an opponent with the same name.

On Thursday, his largely unknown challenger, who was homeless for a time, according to his website, released a campaign launch video, a 40-second online clip that identifies him as “the right Raul Ruiz for Congress.”

“I grew up picking vegetables in the fields that feed America, dreaming up my own American Dream,” Ruiz, the Republican, said, adding that he later became a carpenter and started a business that employed hundreds.

In his bio, the challenger writes that Congressman Ruiz and “radical liberals want to use handouts to keep people dependent on the government and rob them of their shot at the American Dream.”

Will the real Raul Ruiz please stand up?

Breaking Scuba Records at 96 A 96-year-old celebrated his birthday on Saturday by breaking his own record as the world’s oldest active scuba diver for the third year running, plunging to the depths of the equivalent of a 15-story building to explore a shipwreck off Cyprus.

World War II veteran Ray Woolley, who turned 96 on August 28, plunged to a depth of 42.4 meters for 48 minutes, the event organizers said. He beat his previous record of 40.6 meters for 44 minutes.

“It’s just unbelievable. I’ve been diving now for 59 years, and these are the sort of dives that you remember because there are so many divers with you,” Woolley said, of the other 47 divers who swam with him.

I’m getting old,” Woolley says in the trailer.

Isn’t age just a number?

“If I can still dive and my buddies are willing to dive with me, I hope I can do it again next year,” Woolley said after the event.

Woolley, who lives in Cyprus, was a radio operator in World War II. He has successively broken two previous records he held in 2017 and 2018. He is originally from Port Sunlight in northwest England.

A documentary on his life, “Life Begins at 90,” will be shown at the Bosnia-Herzegovina film festival in September.

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A bench is set to fetch at least $614,500 at auction – because it offers breathtaking views of one of Britain’s best beaches.

It is perched on the tip of a cliff overlooking the stunning Three Cliffs Bay in Wales, which recently topped a poll of Britain’s best picnic spots. The sandy beach has stunning views of the Bristol Channel and is a popular beauty spot for walkers and swimmers.

The bench is all that remains of a ramshackle wooden cabin put up more than 50 years ago.

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The single-story wooden shed clad in cedar shingling was built in 1959, but fell into disrepair when the owner passed away. Known as “The Cabin,” it was demolished in 2015 after planning permission was granted to build a new structure.

“The Cabin will not fail to impress you, from the moment you step into the grounds you feel like you have just entered a different land,” a spokesperson for agents Fine and Country said. “This spectacular waterside location offers a superb chance to purchase a development opportunity.”

The land currently has approved planning permission for a three bedroom bungalow, including an openplan kitchen/living space, a master bedroom with an en-suite bathroom and a sunroom – all providing ample opportunity to take advantage of the surrounding scenery. For now, though, there’s only a lone bench taking in the view.

The Cabin is available for $614,500 and will go up for public auction on October 2 in the Marriott Hotel Swansea Marina.

Bidders are sitting at the edge of their seats for this auction.

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Now, Heinz has released a new bottle that will help consumers keep the ketchup flowing.

The Pour-Perfect bottle features a label that’s off-center, but the magic happens when you tilt the bottle so the label is straight.

This is what Heinz calls “the

perfect pouring angle,” which will supposedly allow a reasonable flow of ketchup that neither drowns your home fries nor insults them with a single watery trickle of ketchup goo.

The bottle is only available in Canada right now, but ketchup lovers may be flocking over the border for this genius bottle.

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Touro Students Learn Jewish History Through A Summer Course in Europe

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ouro College brought 60 students to study the Holocaust in Germany and the Czech Republic through a unique 10-day immersive summer course. Each year, students travel to different places in Europe that offer real world opportunities to learn Jewish history and Holocaust history as part of a program presented by Touro College Graduate School of Jewish Studies.

Founded by Touro professors Simcha Fishbane and Israel Singer, the course is taught by both Touro faculty and local experts. “Our goal is to broaden students’ perspectives

and build their awareness of the history, the geography and the future of Jews in Europe,” said Professor Singer, of Lawrence.

This year’s students recently toured ancient synagogues, Jewish ghettos, and concentration camps in Prague, Nuremburg, and Munich.

“When Touro’s program began five years ago, 15 students attended. This year 60 students joined the journey. The trip itself lasted ten days, but the impact lasts a lifetime.

It is different each year so some students come more than once,” explained Dr. Fishbane.

The group visited the Jewish Museum in Prague, the Nuremburg Trial courtrooms, and the memorial to the Munich massacre, among other locales. They heard from experts including Florian Dierl, head of the Documentation Center at Nuremberg, and Rabbi Yehuda Horowitz, the vice rabbi of Munich. They davened on Shabbos in the famous Altneuschul, built in the 13th century, where the Maharal of Prague davened.

Each day students heard relevant lectures and participated in guided walking tours and lots of discus-

sions. There was also time set aside for students to enjoy the seeing the local sights.

Back in New York, Joel Friedman, a student at Touro’s Lander College for Men, reflected on the experience.

“I now appreciate that I can mostly walk around America peacefully without the fear of discrimination...

I always knew that there weren’t too many of us remaining, however, when walking in the streets of Germany, this has become more evident to me. It is as if I have been living in a closed box my entire life,” he said.

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The new school year at Siach Yitzchok began with tremendous simcha and excitement last week. The menahel and rabbeim greeted all the boys with a smile and a warm shalom aleichem. All the classes were surprised with black and white cookies in honor of the first day of cheder.

Madraigos Provides Mental Health Awareness to Local Mechanchim

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he start of school is filled with critical meetings, vital presentations, and inspiring divrei chizuk. Recognizing the crucial need to bring mental health awareness to their teachers, two local schools, Mesivta Netzach HaTorah and Yeshiva of South Shore, included a program by Madraigos for their staff. Created by Rabbi Dr. Dovid Felt, Director of School-Based Services at Madraigos, MAP, a Mental Health Awareness Program for educators, is a primer on mental health prevention in the classroom. With

statistics indicating that a significant number of students have a mental health disorder, this innovative program provides educators with the basic tools to help increase their awareness and ultimately facilitate the first step in treating mental health issues that may otherwise go unnoticed.

Rabbi Dr. Dovid Felt has the background and credentials necessary to embark on this much-needed project for the Jewish educational community. He is a talmid of Gateshead, Brisk, Mirrer, Bais Medrash Gevoha, and Chofetz Chaim yeshivos. Rabbi

Dr. Felt holds a Master’s in Education and a Ph.D. in Psychology. He was a mechanech for 20 years and a menahel for 10 years. His experience in both the educational and mental health fields provides a unique perspective to help students struggling with mental health disorders.

The recent program was delivered by Mr. Pinny Farkas, LCSW, who shared the curriculum content in a clear way that helped all the educators and therapists in attendance to better understand the material in the context of their daily interactions

and relationships with students. As a professional psychotherapist, Mr. Farkas has a background in supporting individuals, couples, and families for over10 years. He holds an MSW from the Wurzweiler School at Yeshiva University and has received advanced training from the Beck Institute for Cognitive Therapy in Philadelphia.

For more information on MAP or to inquire about bringing this program to your school, please contact Rabbi Dr. Dovid Felt, PhD, at 516-3713250 x 111 or rdfelt@madraigos.org.

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Talmidim enjoyed an amazing first week at Yeshiva Netzach Hatorah

Smiles and spirited learning at Yeshiva Ketana of Long Island last week

A “Sweet” Day in Fleetwood

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leetwood screams for ice cream!

The Fleetwood community will welcome its first kosher-certified eatery on Sunday, September 22, as the Swirls and Sweets frozen yogurt shop officially unveils its strictly kosher certification under the Orthodox supervision of Rabbi Daniel Rosenfelt of Fleetwood Synagogue.

The rabbi spearheaded the process to get the existing facility kosher, which included doing random taste testing to find out how different the kosher topping substitutes are, replacing many of the toppings, and the kashering of the items used to make the hot foods: waffles and crepes.

Swirls and Sweets offers eaters 20 flavors of frozen yogurt, ice cream, and over 30 toppings. The shop also has freshly made waffles, crepes, milkshakes, and coffee. Make sure to get the Blueberry

Cheesecake Waffles or Banana and Nutella Crepe, both freshly made inhouse.

Located down the block from the Fleetwood Synagogue right off the

Cross County Parkway in Mount Vernon, Swirls and Sweets is located equidistant from both Riverdale and New Rochelle, about 10-15 minutes away from each, and four minutes from the

Cross County Shopping Center.

Make sure to mention the Fleetwood Synagogue and receive 20% off your order all day (September 22, 2019 only)!

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JCCRP Legislative Breakfast Celebrating 47 Years

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his past Sunday, over 400 community members came together to pay tribute to the JCCRP and the devoted elected officials in our community. The Jewish Community Council of Rockaway Peninsula held its annual Legislative Breakfast on Sunday morning at the White Shul, and it was a roaring success. From high ranking elected officials to local community members and even grateful clients who benefit from the organization’s services day in and day out, people from all walks of life came to express their appreciation and gratitude for the all-encompassing nature of the work done at the JCCRP. The breakfast opened up with the MC of the event, Mordecai Zvi Dicker, JCCRP Board president, introducing Rabbi Eytan Feiner of The White Shul to deliver the opening remarks. Rabbi Feiner in his usual fash-

Senator Addabbo, Assemblymember Pheffer-Amato, Congresswoman Meng, Councilman Richards, Councilmember Koslowitz, David Greenfield, Councilman Barry Grodenchik, Moshe Brandsdorfer, and Councilman Yager

ion captured the audience with divrei Torah about hakars hatov, the great importance of expressing gratitude.

He not only highlighted the JCCRP’s crucial services but also the significance of thanking the elected officials who advocate for the community on a regular basis.

Moshe Brandsdorfer, Executive Director of the JCCRP, presented the Community Chessed Partnership Award to Karen Friedman, former chair of the Caring Commission at the UJA Federation of NY. Moshe ex-

pressed, “The Bais Hamikdash was designed by Shlomo Hamelech to shine forth its light to the world, so too the UJA’s mission is to illuminate, impact, and enhance the world for millions of people.” Karen graciously accepted the award and spoke about her work with the UJA Federation and its aligned partnership with the JCCRP. Also in attendance was Alex Roth-Kahn, the managing director of the UJA Caring Commission.

David Greenfield, CEO at Met Council, presented the Distinguished Congressional Service Award to Congresswoman Grace Meng.

David highlighted his deep admiration for the congresswoman and how his staff is always able to confidently guide constituents to the JCCRP for assistance. Congresswoman Meng accepted the award and spoke about her love for the State of Israel and the importance of fighting the BDS movement.

Stacey Pheffer-Amato, Assemblywoman on the Rockaways, presented the Distinguished Community Ser-

vice Award to her colleague, Assemblywoman Melissa Miller, for her selfless dedication in ensuring the needs of the Long Island community are always met. More frequently referred to as Missy, the assemblywoman proudly spoke about the work that is done at the JCCRP and her crucial work in the district and Albany.

Our local NYS Senator, Joe Addabbo, presented the Distinguished Public Service Award to our other local NYS Senator, James Sanders.

During the presentation, Senator Addabbo called up Richard Altabe, board member at the JCCRP, to speak about Senator Sanders. Richard spoke passionately about the fight in Albany over imposed education regulations on private schools. He profusely thanked the Senator for advocating for the thousands of children in the community who attend yeshivot and private schools. Upon receiving the award, the Senator discussed the great work of the organization and his firsthand knowledge of it due to

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Mr. Richard Altabe, Congresswoman Meng, Moshe Brandsdorfer, David Greenfield, and Rabbi Pollack

Moshe Brandsdorfer, Assemblymember Pheffer-Amato, Assemblymember Missy Miller, and Mr. Richard Altabe

Moshe Brandsdorfer, Senator James Sanders, and Mr. Richard Altabe

Mordechai Zvi Dicker, Alex Roth-Kahn, Karen Friedman, and Moshe Brandsdorfer

Awardee Elisheva Trachtenberg surrounded by the JCCRP staff

his 30-plus years of representing the Rockaways.

The morning continued with speeches from Congressman Gregory Meeks, Queens Borough President Melinda Katz, Councilman Chaim Deutsch, and NYC Comptroller Scott Stringer. These speakers highlighted the beautiful community that we live in, the fight against anti-Semitism, their admiration for the JCCRP’s work, and the battle to protect the State of Israel at all costs.

Our local NYC Councilman, Donovan Richards, presented the City Legislative Leadership Award to Councilman Barry Grodenchik. Councilman Richards lauded Grodenchik for his advocacy at the NYC Council to in-

crease funding for food pantries.

Councilman Grodenchik accepted the award and discussed the great work of the organization and his firsthand knowledge of it from the time of his working for Met Council in the Rockaways dating back to 1982.

And last but certainly not least, the director of social services at the JCCRP, Elisheva Trachtenberg, LMSW, was honored with the Distinguished Staff Member Award presented by former colleague and current board member, Devorah Pelman. In her acceptance speech, Elisheva stated, “It is a privilege to be honored but I could never do this without the support of my wonderful family and co-workers.”

JCCRP Executive Director Moshe

Brandsdorfer remarked, “The legislative breakfast was an amazing display of unity, pride, and achievement.

The recognition given to the JCCRP’s services and accomplishments by our elected officials on a local, city, and state level was outstanding. We are so thankful to our honorees, elected officials, and community members for their ongoing support. We are an open door to anyone in the community in need of services or any assistance.”

The Legislative Breakfast is one of the few occasions during the year in which the local Jewish community has the opportunity to come together and demonstrate our strength as a community to the elected officials, city and state agencies, and other

community partners. This was an opportunity for the entire community to thank individuals who have rendered services to the Jewish Community. The JCCRP is thankful to those members of our community whose attendance and participation was the best advertisement for our community and a source of encouragement for the many individuals and institutions that work together with the JCCRP to make our community an even better place to live.

To find out more about the JCCRP services or to sign up as a volunteer please email info@jccrp.org or visit www.jccrp.org.

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MSH Starts the Year with Sparkle MTA Mishmar Kick-Off

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TA kicked off its first Mishmar of the year with chulent for the entire yeshiva, as well as special shiurim for each grade, followed by Mishmar.

Talmidim and rebbeim were excited to begin another amazing year of learning together.

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hough short in days, the first week of MSH was jam packed and truly incredible. Orientations, a G.O welcome activity, getting to know our new Coordinator of Student Activities, Mrs. Nechama Strauss, meeting new teachers, new classmates, new big and little sisters, book pickup, locker assignments, and more were crammed into a busy three days.

We also kicked off the special learning environment of providing both formal and informal educational experiences at MSH with two special shiurim on Friday, given by Rosh HaYeshiva Rabbi Zev Meir Friedman and Menahelet Esther Eisenman, already beginning to set the tone for the upcoming chagim. Through a love of learning, MSH’s aim is for our students to develop an appreciation of Torah and halacha, as we seek to demonstrate real world applications of these values.

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the first week of school. The MSH Department of Student Activities and G.O. has been hard at work all summer planning the twelfth annual school-wide Shabbaton taking place iy”H this Shabbat at the beautiful Camp Seneca Lake.

Shabbaton is one of the highlights of the extracurricular program at MSH, a highly anticipating, action-packed, and meaningful weekend retreat filled with achdus and ruach.

Shabbaton is held annually at the start of the school year, bringing the MSH school community together in a more relaxed setting. Students connect with classmates as well as with girls across all grades, strengthen friendships and create new ones, as well as form bonds with faculty that last long after graduation.

Stay tuned for news from the mountains next week, as we continue to kick off what is sure to be an amazing year.

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ver the summer, MTA history instructor Mr. Sragow and English instructor Mrs. Siegfried joined educators from 14 Jewish and Catholic middle and high schools from New York, New Jersey, and Los Angeles at the Civic Spirit Summer Institute, an intensive civic education training conference. MTA

is proud to be part of the pioneering first cohort of schools revitalizing civic education across the country and is excited to celebrate its second year in the Civic Spirit program, as they shape how 21st century civics is taught in religious middle and high schools in America.

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Rav Pinchos Wachsman, maggid shiur, Yeshiva Darchei Torah Beis Medrash, delivering shiur during the first week of the zman

Rav Nissim Kaplan Visits YOSS

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av Nissim Kaplan, Rosh Yeshiva of Yeshiva Daas Ahron in Eretz Yisroel, visited Yeshiva of South Shore this week.

After the fifth grade came out to give him a kabbalas panim, he spoke to the seventh and eighth grade about how a new zman is an opportunity to

reflect on our jobs and obligations as yeshiva bochurim and not to lose focus on important mitzvos only because we do them often. The talmidim were inspired, and they each received a bracha from the Rosh Yeshiva.

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his summer, three of our science students had the opportunity to participate in a special experience that melded their religious and intellectual values. The 2019 Garcia Research Symposium began with a private siyum ceremony arranged for Jewish students and faculty by Garcia Program Director Dr. Miriam Rafailovich. During the nine days prior to the Jewish fast of Tisha b’Av, it is customary not to eat meat unless there is a religious celebration, so Jonathan Lederer of HAFTR completed the tractate Megillah of the Talmud to allow Orthodox Jewish faculty and students to partake in the kosher meat lunch sponsored by the symposium.

We are so proud of Meirav Grajower, Hannah Hamerman, and Lauren Stiefel who presented their research projects with confidence and grace. Hannah even held her own when her research team was questioned by a professor in the audience, explaining clearly where her

research had answers and where it had limitations. All of them will continue traveling to Stony Brook University during the month of September to complete the projects that they started over the summer. Mrs. Ruth Fried, science chair and program advisor, and Mrs. Miriam Chopp, program advisor, shared how the students made them proud not only because they presented with clarity and precision but because members of the Garcia faculty complimented them for their refined behavior, commitment, and kindness to others in the program.

Now that the symposium is over, the most intense part of the Science Institute Program is about to begin.

As Meirav, Hannah, and Lauren complete their research and write their papers, they will enter into national and international high school science research competitions, where they will need to defend their research.

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The White Shul in Far Rockaway celebrated the opening day of this year’s Youth Department with a grand carnival. Shul members enjoyed incredible rides, raffles, Rita’s Ices, and a delicious family barbecue

DRS Welcomes Largest Class to Date

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his year, DRS Yeshiva was excited to welcome 99 freshmen to the Class of 2023. This is the yeshiva’s largest class in its 23-year history. DRS now boasts 377 students – another DRS record. This Shabbos, freshmen will head to Camp Kaylie in Wurtsborough for the Freshmen Retreat. An annual tradition, the Shabbaton offers new students a chance to forge new friendships and create relationships with rabbeim and administration. Wacky Olympics, lively tisches, a grade-wide flag football

tournament, and an inspiring sholosh seudos program are just some of the highlights students can expect from the weekend.

One of the great features of the DRS experience is the school’s Advisory Program. Every Friday morning, immediately following breakfast, students join a small group of 8-9 students and meet with their advisors for 40 minutes. Advisors come from both DRS’s Judaic and secular faculty. The role of the advisor is to act as an advocate, guide, and mentor to the

students.

The purpose of these advisory sessions is to facilitate healthy communication and engagement, with an emphasis on personal growth and character development. The intimate nature of the sessions allows every student to feel safe, accepted, and ensures that all participants are encouraged to participate.

This past Friday, freshmen partook in a grade-wide advisory session.

Freshmen grade Dean Rabbi Aaron Fleksher ran a human-bingo activity

which allowed students to learn facts about their new classmates.

To meet the needs of its ever-growing student body, last year DRS launched a highly successful expansion campaign, raising 4 million dollars to improve and expand its facilities. Visitors to the yeshiva’s campus will see active construction as the school is planning on adding six new classrooms, a STEM lab, an office suite, an outdoor basketball facility, and an additional 40 parking spaces.

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Welcoming Our New Central Family

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he Central family welcomed a number of wonderful new faculty and staff members this fall. Ms. Kymberly Baker, familiar and beloved by many YCQ students from her experience there, will be working at the front desk and part of the Central admissions team. Mr. Erez Bar-Levy will be teaching all levels of Spanish; he is also known as “Profe” and has a passion for Spanish Golden Age literature, which he hopes to share with his students. Dr. Katina Manko joins the history department; in addition to her high school teaching experi-

ence, Dr. Manko also taught history curriculum design at the college level at Bard College and the Ramapo College of New Jersey and worked in museums. Ms. Hannie Ricardo arrived from Israel to teach Hebrew language and music, and Mr. Sabyasachi Rath will be teaching physics after many years of teaching physics at the college level.

Ms. Tzirel Schwartz joins the Learning Center staff as a learning specialist; she previously taught in Toras Emes Klurman Elementary School in Miami and Bnos Malka in Queens. Finally, for the first time, Central is offering a

college course for which students can receive credit at Yeshiva University colleges.

Mr. Michael Strauss, Interim Dean of the Sy Syms Business School, will be teaching

a heavily subscribed elective called, “Business and Entrepreneurship: Swimming with the Sharks.”

The Central faculty and students look forward to wel-

coming the new faculty into the Central family over the coming weeks and are excited for all of the new ideas and knowledge they will bring to our building.

YCQ is Off to a Great New Year

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fter a relaxing summer, the new faculty at Yeshiva of Central Queens (YCQ) were invited to a welcome luncheon to meet the administration and learn about the workings of YCQ. The following day, all staff returned for meetings and trainings and to set up their classrooms to prepare for the school year.

At the meetings, the staff heard about the new junior high school Chromebook program, the added security and building upgrades, and other school policies, as they got reacquainted with old colleagues and friends, met new ones, and discussed summer break, as well as new ideas for the coming year.

During part II of the staff trainings on Tuesday, September 3, the day before the YCQ doors opened for students, Rabbi Jonathan Rietti, renowned lecturer for Gateways Seminar Program, spoke and discussed the facets of teaching and the importance of creating an environment where each student feels important and valued.

He spoke about how this positive relationship between teacher and student can be attained by speaking positively to the students and encouraging them in their educational growth and love of Torah.

Following the meetings, the Parent Teacher Organization (PTO) held their annual Pre-school Bash, a program geared to give incoming pre-

school students and their families a chance to get to meet other children and their teachers and morot that they will be in class with. This is the second year the event was held with attendance of around 300 people. Each preschool class was given a color, and the students received name tags in those colors and sat at tables with their class color. The student made a project donated by the Jewish Heritage Museum and heard about the activities and learning experiences they will have at school. The idea behind this program is to help the young children transition more smoothly into the yeshiva setting.

The staff and administration at YCQ have a goal to help students comfortably acclimate to the yeshiva environment and to feel safe, excited, and happy in their learning environment while they are away from home. Pre-

school and first grade students attend an orientation on day one of school, along with their parents to help transition them into their new classroom settings.

For the new students past preschool age, the social work department runs an annual YCQ New Mentor Program. Student mentors were chosen from grade eight and paired up with a new student. The students played Human Bingo as an ice breaker game. “I think it is good that someone who has been in the school before can answer questions for the new students. This is my tenth year at YCQ, I know how things work so I can be supportive. This was a good opportunity to help other kids,” said Atara Peretz, who was set up with Ethan Bellehsen, grade one. Another student mentor, Leah Miriam Borenstein, was paired with Taliah Taasa, grade four.

The excitement and energy were felt and heard as students gave hugs to their friends and quickly made new friends. They met their new teachers, rabbeim, and morot, and learned about expectations and exciting learning opportunities for their classes.

The teachers worked hard on creating well thought-out and interesting bulletin boards that along with the improvements to the physical building gave a warm and welcoming feeling as YCQ got off to a magnanimous start to the 2019-2020 academic year.

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Welcome Back to SKA

W The Ganger Early Childhood at TAG started the year with smiles and excitement at the kindergarten and nursery orientations on Friday, September 6. Welcome back to all our talmidos and their outstanding moros.

Looking ahead to another amazing year.

hen the morning bell rang on Wednesday, September 4, students, faculty and administration members of the Stella K. Abraham High School for Girls looked forward to a brand new year.

Yom Chaverut, held the previous spring, had acquainted the incoming ninth graders with their new classmates and administration, but the freshmen orientation, held on Thursday, August 29, brought things to a new level. Everyone had the opportunity to meet and socialize again

while learning to navigate their new school. The ninth grade parents had their own orientation later that evening. To enhance their new high school experience, the freshmen were able to connect again during the first week of school in anticipation of their Freshmen Experience Retreat on Tuesday and Wednesday, September 10-11.

The SKA sophomores, juniors and seniors enjoyed their own events that week which launched the school year off to an exciting start.

Welcome back everyone!

rode roller coasters at Phoenix’s largest theme park, and so much more.

The adventure concluded with a gala banquet and closing ceremonies on Tuesday, August 20. Many inspirational speeches were given by campers, telling their journeys and the hope that Kids of Courage gives them. The entire group applauded and cheered to thank everyone who made the trip possible – from the sponsors, to the medical team, to anyone who had a hand in making it happen through months of phone calls, emails, and behind-the-scenes planning. An amazing dance party with special treats and surprise gifts ended off the evening.

As the last night of K.O.C. came

to a close, everyone packed up, got ready for departure, and said their goodbyes. Along with their K.O.C. signature gear they packed many smiles, memories, and enough courage to last until the next adventure!

KOC Heads to Phoenix

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he day Kids of Courage had been anxiously awaiting finally arrived!

On Wednesday, August 15th, 130 seriously ill children made their way to airports around the world to kick off a unique eight-day adventure to Phoenix, Arizona, aboard over a dozen flights.

The flights were filled with music and dancing, starting off their annual summer adventure on a rockin’ note.

As they touched down in Sky Harbor International Airport, an airport crew was ready and waiting to greet all the amazing Couragers.

“What we do logistically is jaw-dropping,” noted one head staff member. “The medical logistics to

ensure each camper’s medical needs are tended to at every moment of this eight-day trip requires a dedicated army of volunteers, and that’s exactly what Kids of Courage is.”

Over 450 individuals made their way from all over the U.S., Canada, and Israel to the sumptuous Pointe Hilton Tapatio Cliffs Resort. It was truly a sight to see! Over the course of the eight days, the courageous group visited the brand-new OdySea Aquarium, rented out Golfland Sunsplash waterpark, watched as heroes dueled it out at Medieval Times, enjoyed a concert from DJ Matt Dubb, went jet skiing on Lake Pleasant, took in an Arizona Diamondbacks game (and ran/rolled the bases after the game),

Kids of Courage is a volunteer-based, 501c3 non-profit organization whose mission is to improve the lives of medically fragile children and their families through year-round programming and bi-annual adventure trips.

For more information or to make a much-needed donation visit kidsoc. org. Be sure to follow @KidsOfCourage’s adventures on your favorite social network.

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lthough most people prefer not to think about the possibility of needing nursing-home care, statistics show that 70 percent of the adult population will need long-term care or some type of medical or healthcare services. How these services are paid for can become a primary concern for you or a loved one.

The combination of escalating medical and healthcare costs and the potential need for long-term care is one of the greatest risks facing seniors today, particularly someone with a chronic illness or serious injury.

If you or a loved one needs to pay for an extended stay in a nursing home, it can be quite difficult or may even be impossible without the help of Medicaid. Since Medicaid is a means-tested program, in order to be eligible and qualify, a person’s income and assets must fall within certain financial limits. This is when protecting your money, home, income, and other assets becomes a real concern.

If you have the resources to pay for long-term care, you’re expected to cover the costs and pay your expenses until you are no longer able to, which can be financially devastating. At this point, if you qualify, Medicaid can step in and cover your medical and healthcare expenses for as long as they are needed.

Medicaid has strict rules of compliance and is a means-tested pro-

gram. So, in other words, in order to qualify for the Medicaid program, essentially, you need to be financially impoverished. If you are fortunate enough to reside here in New York state, and you are single, you can keep up to $15,450 and still be eligible (as of 2019). If you are a married person needing nursing-home care, there are protections for your spouse, who does not need nursing-home care, and can live at home. In this situation, the well spouse has a maximum resource allowance of $126,420 (as of 2019). Certain types of resources are not counted, such as the equity value in your home in an amount up to $858,000, and one motor vehicle.

If you have resources above those limits, you may be told that you need to “spend down” your assets. This means you will be required to deplete most of what you own to pay for nursing-home care until you reach the poverty-level resource limits – in order for Medicaid to begin coverage.

Often, even if you do qualify for the Medicaid program and obtain coverage, Medicaid can seek to recover the amounts they paid for your cost of care. By way of example, after Leah’s husband passed away, she was living in their home until she fell and broke her hip. Forced to go into a nursing home, she remained there until she passed on. Medicaid then put a lien on her home in order to recover the sum of money spent for the cost of Leah’s nursing-home care.

There is an alternative. You can

take steps in anticipation of the future need for long-term care and transfer assets in advance – to preserve your family’s resources while still qualifying for Medicaid. Keep in mind, Medicaid has strict rules of compliance, so it is important to contact an experienced elder law attorney for this type of planning. When done properly, it is most often the preferred strategy.

In addition to the income and asset restrictions imposed, when applying for nursing-home Medicaid you will be required to disclose all financial transactions, including gifts and transfers, for the previous five years.

This length of time is commonly referred to as the “five-year look-back period” for transfers of assets. Any transfers of assets for less than their fair market value may prevent you from becoming eligible for Medicaid.

Depending on the type and value of the asset transfer, you may be subject to a penalty period (time of ineligibility), which may even extend past the time when your assets have already been spent down.

The good news is that Medicaid rules don’t apply if your assets were transferred five years, or more, prior to the submission of your application. This is why it is best to plan in advance. There are legal solutions, including trusts, reallocation of assets, and asset transfer exceptions, a qualified elder law attorney can utilize to ensure Medicaid eligibility and help you preserve your assets, so you can pass them along to the

people who matter most.

With effective planning, most people can be saved from financial devastation brought on by the costs of longterm care and receive the medical and healthcare services required as long as they need it.

Monet Binder, Esq., serves Brooklyn, Queens, and Long Island, dedicated to protecting families, their legacies, and values. All halachic documents are approved by the Bais Havaad Halacha Center in Lakewood, under the direction of Rabbi Dovid Grossman and the guidance of Harav Shmuel Kaminetsky, shlita, as well as other leading halachic authorities. To learn more about how a power of attorney can help you, you can send her an email at monet@mbinderlaw.com or call 718-514-7575.

The information in this article is intended solely for your information. It does not constitute legal advice, and it should not be relied on without a discussion of your specific situation with an attorney.

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Around the Community Congresswoman Kathleen Rice met with the Consul General of Israel Amb. Dani Dayan last week at the Israeli Consulate in New York City. The photo was taken in front of an Israeli flag recovered from the World Trade Center site after 9/11 and was presented to Shimon Peres by Mayor Michael Bloomberg in 2006.

It was smiles galore as students from nursery through 12th grade returned to Shulamith for another great year

HANC Freshman Retreat

Meeting Mrs. Kirschbaum at Shulamith

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hulamith Early Childhood Center hosted an Open School Night for parents on Monday evening, September 9. Parents in nursery through Pre-1A heard from the new director, Mrs. Esther Kirschbaum. Morah Esther joined Shulamith this summer after having served as the Early Childhood Director at Bais Yaakov Queens for more than 25 years. An experienced professor, she has taught education courses at both Yeshiva University’s Stern College for Women and at the graduate level at Mercy College.

She chaired the CAJE (Conference for the Advancement of Jewish Education) Day School Conference at St. Johns University, is a member of NAEYC (National Association of the Education of Young Children) and JECA (Jewish Early Childhood

Association), and is a board member of Shalom Task Force. Additionally, Morah Esther has three decades of experience presenting professional development workshops to directors and teachers on a wide range of topics related to early childhood.

Morah Esther engaged the parents with her educational practices and theories. Her warmth, sincerity, and breadth of knowledge impressed everyone in the room.

The parents then visited their daughters’ classrooms and learned what a typical day for their daughter will look like and the goals to be accomplished this year. The buzz of eager anticipation was felt as parents headed out, excited for all the ways their daughters will be growing this year.

he HANC high school class of 2023 was inaugurated into high school at the annual freshman retreat this past Sunday and Monday, September 9 & 10, at Camp Kaylie in Wurtsboro, NY. The students participated in two days of amazing activities, entertainment and “just getting to know one another.” The trip was chaperoned by administrators, mechanchim, and members of HANC’s Student Life Team.

The retreat started with a pizza lunch and an incredible hike in Harriman State Park where students climbed to the peak, “almost perpendicular.” Students were awed at the beautiful vista where they took their first grade photo for the new school year.

Once the group arrived at Camp Kaylie, they had the opportunity to participate in various activities such as dodgeball, boating, go-karts, and basketball. After a sumptuous dinner, Rabbi Adelman welcomed the class and challenged them to think

out of the box and picture what their next four years at HANC would look like. To do this, every freshman received a HANC journal which will be used to document their journey throughout high school.

The second day of the retreat began with tefillah, a hearty breakfast, and meaningful learning sessions.

This was followed by an amazing group team building activity of boat building. Everyone had an awesome time and made new friends.

Thank you to Rabbi Daniel Mezei, director of Student Life, and his team, Rabbi Aharon Friedler, Mrs. Nomi Zanjirian, and Rabbi Yakov Grun, for organizing the entire program. Kudos to the grade mechanchim, Mrs. Rebecca Gordon and Rabbi Nafi Orlofsky, for joining the retreat. This event could not have been possible without the team of senior advisors: Carly Kahn, Stephanie Hoch, Sarah Zeigler, Kayla Stern, Aaron Liviem, Dovy Lowenthal, Aaron Aphraim, and Nathan Matatov.

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Middot and Chaburah at SHS

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hulamith High School is back in session, and the warmth and spirit in the hallways is palpable. The hallways are full of posters advertising new programs.

One of the newly launched programs is a middot program: “CPR, Character interPersonal Refinement.”

Each month will focus on a new middah. The topic will be introduced in a morning presentation. There will be engaging learning and activities each month. This program is being kicked off at the perfect time. Elul, being a month of cheshbon ha’nefesh, an accounting of the soul, will take

on a new meaning as Shulamith High School students look inward, reflect, and grow as Bnot Yisroel.

In addition, there is now a weekly chaburah on Fridays. Ariella Wachholder of Chinuch programming kicked this off with enthusiasm…and potato kugel. Our team of five incredible madrichot ran group discussions and facilitated meaningful conversations. Each week, the chaburah will focus on the middah of the month. It was standing room only last Friday, and students look forward to a year of introspection and growth.

While Siach Yitzchok is just weeks away from moving into its new home on Beach 9th Street, we were graced with a visit from Rabbi Moshe Bender, Associate Dean of Yeshiva Darchei Torah. Rabbi Bender was given a detailed tour of the building, including the magnificent bais medrash, the spacious dining room, full-size gymnasium, offices, classrooms, library, and even the rooftop play area. Rabbi Bender shared his excitement for Siach Yitzchok to be located in the center of the community and how important it is for the community to have Siach Yitzchok here.

Chaverim to the Rescue

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ack in the winter of 2014 when Rabbi Zvika Soroka drove over a large pothole and sustained a flat tire, he called a friend to come help. Fast forward a few months, the weather was warm and now his car would not start, so, of course, he called his friend again. His friend happens to be a member of Chaverim

of the 5 Towns & Far Rockaway.

Whether one is locked out of their home or car, needs help changing a flat tire, needs a battery jumped (boost), or runs out of gas, Chaverim is there to help.

Chaverim has been providing roadside assistance to the Far Rockaway and Five Towns community for close

to 20 years.

Rabbi Soroka felt that the chessed performed by Chaverim is so important, not only take to advantage of personally, but to educate the next generation about as well. In his capacity as an eighth grade rebbe in Yeshiva Darchei Torah, he invites someone from Chaverim to his classroom each June to

give a firsthand account of the chessed that Chaverim performs thousands of times each year. Rabbi Soroka can attest to the fact that, without fail, each year he hosts someone from Chaverim to lecture and demonstrate he gets a phone call from a talmid shortly thereafter who says they were able to make a difference with the

skills they gained from that short visit to the classroom.

It is Chaverim’s interest to continue to educate the youth of our community about their vital services by way of visiting local yeshivas and schools to lecture and demonstrate. To have someone from Chaverim visit your school, please email info@chaverim5t.org.

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Days Before Rosh Hashana, Daf HaYomi B’Halacha to Embark on Chelek Hei, Hilchos Pesach

By Chaim Gold

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irshu’s Daf HaYomi B’Halacha program is completing the difficult halachos of Eiruven and moving on to hilchos Pesach. Perhaps it is no coincidence that the beginning of hilchos Pesach coincides with the yahrzeit of the Chofetz Chaim. The Dirshu Daf HaYomi B”Halacha program is devoted to learning a daily page of the Chofetz Chaim’s Mishnah Berurah and a daily portion of one of the Chofetz Chaim’s mussar sefarim.

Certainly, the zechus of the Chofetz Chaim is an integral component in ensuring that the Daf HaYomi B’Halacha has grown beyond belief with thousands of shiurim and many tens of thousands of participants all over the world.

“Now is an opportune time to join the Daf HaYomi B’Halacha program and complete most of the halachos of Pesach in advance of next Pesach,” said Rabbi Shlomo Rozenstein, Dirshu’s Director of Public Relations.

“This is the second machzor of the Daf HaYomi B’Halacha program.

About seven years ago, the first time we started hilchos Pesach, many new participants joined. Chelek Daled, which is primarily devoted to eiruven, had been viewed by some as a difficult undertaking. Once, we reached Chelek Hei and hilchos Pesach, however, many more joined.

We anticipate a tremendous bump in enrollment this year with the start of hilchos Pesach on 26 Elul/September 26, just days before Rosh Hashana.

What a wonderful kabbalah to undertake in advance of Rosh Hashana and in honor of the Chofetz Chaim’s yahrtzeit.”

Indeed, Dirshu’s special, Fifth Annual International Yom Limud and Tefillah will be held on Tuesday, 24 Elul/September 24, the day before the completion of Chelek Daled. Yidden throughout the world will gather to recite specific perakim of Tehillim and learn segments from the two seminal seforim written by the Chofetz Chaim, the Mishnah Berurah and the Sefer Shmiras Haloshon.

The Yom Limud and Tefillah, under the auspices of Dirshu and its kiruv arm, Acheinu, is designed to reach out with a message of achdus to all Jews from across the spectrum

and at all levels of observance, promoting Torah learning and tefillah.

All of Hilchos Pesach is Within Reach Hilchos Pesach is one of those areas in the Mishnah Berura where lomdei halacha with limited time often choose to learn only the seemingly more relevant halachos. Many of the important simanim, which, on the surface, seem to either be very intricate or not as relevant to our times are therefore neglected. Countless individuals suffice with learning the beginning of Chelek Hei which deals with the halachos of bedikas chametz and biyur chametz and then skip over to the seder night thus missing numerous vital halachos. There are the halachos of taaruvos chametz, the halachos of what one must do if, G-d forbid, he finds chametz in his house on Pesach, the halachos of kashering keilim, baking matzos and the list goes on…

In fact, during the last machzor of the Daf HaYomi B’Halacha, one of the lomdim remarked, “I would never have dreamt that I would one day be zocheh to learn all of the halachos of baking matzos, all of the complex details on how to properly sell chometz to a gentile and the detailed wording of the shtar, the document of sale.

When would I have ever sat down and properly learned the difficult halachos of hagalas keilim, kashering keilim for Pesach with so many associated, contemporary scenarios? But I have done just that, thanks to Dirshu’s Daf HaYomi B’Halacha program.”

The many tens of thousands of participants in the Dirshu Daf HaYomi B’Halacha don’t just learn perfunctorily. They learn and review the halachos together with the Dirshu Biurim U’Musafim that depicts hundreds of modern-day scenarios emanating from these halachos and they were tested on all of them! In fact, the senior Rosh Yeshiva of Ponovezh, HaGaon HaRav Gershon Edelstein, shlita, said before the commencement of hilchos Shabbos in reference to the Dirshu edition of the Mishnah Berurah, “We have been zocheh that a Mishnah Berurah with many important additions has been published.

This is very important. It would be a tremendous zechus for every single

Siyum on Chelek Gimmel of Mishna Berurah at the home of HaRav Chaim Kanievsky

person to try keeping Shabbos according to halacha. In this zechus may we merit the geulah sheleimah.”

“Halacha is the Ikur” “Halacha is the ikur” were the words of HaGaon HaRav Dovid Feinstein, shlita, Rosh Yeshiva of Mesivta Tiferes Yerushalayim and one of the senior poskim of our generation, when asked what his father Rav Moshe would have said about a daily halacha learning program such as the Daf HaYomi B’Halacha.

One prominent rosh yeshiva, upon his visit to a Dirshu testing site, observed hundreds of people diligently taking tests on halacha and mussar, and exclaimed, “Can one imagine what simcha there is in Shamayim?!

Can one imagine the nachas that the heilige Chofetz Chaim and the heilige Rav Yisroel Salanter, founder of the mussar movement, must be having, when they look down and see thousands of people from all walks of life learning halachah and mussar?! The tens of thousands of lomdei Daf HaYomi B’Halacha comprise an army; an army of soldiers declaring, ‘My day will be one in which I encounter Hashem Yisborach every second!’”

More than a decade ago, the Posek Hador, HaGaon HaRav Yosef Shalom Elyashiv, zt”l, encouraged the hanhala of Dirshu to create halacha programs whereby lomdei Torah would be encouraged to learn, understand and know halacha l’maaseh, practical halacha. Over the course of the years, lomdei Dirshu in both its Kinyan Halacha and Daf HaYomi B’Hala-

cha programs have followed through on Rav Elyashiv’s guidance and have wrought a transformation in the Torah world. With the completion of Chelek Daled, Hilchos Eiruven and the commencement of Chelek Hei, Hilchos Peasch, Daf HaYomi B’Halacha learners will now be able to learn the entire hilchos Pesach.

Fleeing This World for the “World of Hashem!”

Perhaps, the discerning remarks of the Sar HaTorah, HaGaon HaRav Chaim Kanievsky, can serve as the greatest catalyst to start learning hilchos Pesach with the Daf HaYomi B’Halacha. He recently said, “In our generation, the generation of ikvesah d’Moshicha, there is a great tumah, impurity, in the world. The power of the yetzer hara in this world is greater than it ever was. That is why we must flee from ‘this world’ and enter ‘the world of Hashem.’ What is the ‘world of Hashem’? The ‘world of Hashem’ is the daled amos of halacha.”

Whereas some of the Dirshu programs cater to those who are able to devote a considerable part of their day to learning, the Daf HaYomi B’Halacha program is for everyone. Now, right before Rosh Hashana, is an optimum time to join and begin Chelek Hei. Learning daily halacha with a structured program will have a transformative impact on your life.

What are you waiting for!?

To join Daf HaYomi B’Halacha please call, 888-5-Dirshu, or e-mail, info@ kolleldirshu.org.

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Dor Yeshorim Does More for Your Family Research & Development is only one way Dor Yeshorim preserves generations

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or Yeshorim is a brand name.

Its services have benefitted hundreds of thousands of individuals across the globe. Its groundbreaking screening has pioneered, preserved, and protected tens of thousands of healthy families, resulting in priceless joy and boundless Yiddishe nachas.

As with all brand names, the behind-the-scenes reality is even more heartwarming and impressive. Medicine and healthcare are constantly evolving. Dor Yeshorim’s cutting-edge, world-leading Institute of Research & Development keeps it ahead of the latest innovations－and indeed, often shapes them.

One such example is Spinal Muscular Atrophy. SMA is a devastating, all-too common genetic disease that attacks the body’s muscles. SMA occurs across all ethnic groups and has no known cure. A fully reliable genetic test for SMA does not exist. Unscreened, people tragically discover

that they are carriers in the hardest way possible, when it’s too late to prevent the pain.

Dor Yeshorim’s Director of Research and Development is Dr. David Zeevi of the Translational Genomics Lab in the Medical Genetics Institute at Shaare Zedek Medical Center.

“Dor Yeshorim is currently leading the global genetic industry in our research and development for a

groundbreaking, highly reliable and comprehensive SMA testing method,” he says. “We will not rest until we know that Klal Yisrael is protected from this horrifying disease.”

Dor Yeshorim endeavors to do to SMA what it has done to Tay Sachs: virtually eradicate it from within our midst. With Hashem’s blessing and extensive work by Dor Yeshorim’s top-of-the line Research and Devel-

opment Department, a testing breakthrough is imminent.

Dor Yeshorim’s mission and mandate is to pioneer, protect, and preserve our people, healthy generation after healthy generation.

Researching and developing current solutions for present, future, and eternal generations is one of many ways that Dor Yeshorim serves you and your family.

Touro Comes to Mesivta Yam HaTorah

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s Mesivta Yam HaTorah continues to move forward in providing its students with opportunities for academic excellence, it has recently entered into a partnership with Touro College to allow our 12th grade students to receive college credits while attending our school.

This exciting development will allow our students to get a taste of the college experience, offer an expanded curriculum and enable our students to get a head-start on college at a vastly discounted rate. Additionally, all students participating in this program are guaranteed acceptance to the NYSCAS (NY School of Career and Applied Sciences) division of Touro College. During the fall semester, we will be offering General Survey of Psychology which will enable our students to earn 4 credits. In the spring semester we will be offering Public Speaking and Presentation which will enable our

students to earn 3 credits. The credits are transferable to other universities as well.

Stay tuned for more updates regarding the expanding program at Mesivta Yam HaTorah, as we continue to provide our students with innovative approaches to achieve success.

Is your son an out-of-the-box thinker? Can he benefit from personal guidance and a closer relationship with Rebbeim and mentors? Does your son need an academic environment that goes beyond the standard curriculum and embraces a more interactive and stimulating learning experience? Does he need a wholesome environment that respects him for his unique personality?

If you are interested in finding out more information please visit www.yamhatorah.org or email mesivtayamhatorah@gmail.com.

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Centerfold Who Said It?

Match the quote with the Israeli prime minister who said it.

1. “Anyone who believes you can’t change history has never tried to write his memoirs.”

2. “Let me tell you something that we Israelis have against Moses. He took us 40 years through the desert in order to bring us to the one spot in the Middle East that has no oil.”

3. “Put three Zionists in a room, and they will form four political parties.”

a. Benjamin Netanyahu b. Ariel Sharon c. Levi Eshkol d. David Ben-Gurion e. Golda Meir

4. “Give peace a chance.”

f. Yitzhak Rabin

5. “I always lose the election in the polls, and I always win it on election day.”

g. Yitzhak Shamir

6. “There is no bulletproof vest in my size.”

i. Shimon Perez

h. Menachem Begin

7. “The Jew bows before no man, only G-d.”

8. “The driving force for the Arabs is hatred of Israel, hatred of the Jewish people.”

9. “The Jew’s greatest contribution to history is dissatisfaction. We’re a nation born to be discontented. Whatever exists we believe can be changed for the better.”

Answers to Who Said It?: 1) D; 2) E; 3) C; 4) F; 5) A; 6) B; 7) H; 8) G; 9) I

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You gotta be kidding Every day an Israeli collector sells pretzels at the entrance to the Old City for 1 shekel per pretzel. Every day a nice woman passes by and gives the collector 1 shekel, even though she doesn’t take a pretzel.

This goes on for several months. One day, after the woman puts a shekel in the bowl, the colle ctor screams out at her to come back.

The woman says, “You know I never take a pretzel, why are you calling me back?”

The collector replies, “I just wanted to let you know that the price went up to 2 shekels per pretzel.”

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Bibi Trivia 1. Netanyahu is Israel’s longest serving prime minister. How many years has he served so far? a. 7 b. 13 c. 15 d. 19 2. From which American school did Netanyahu get a B.S. (1974) and an M.S. (1976), during which he took time off from work to return to Israel and fight in the Yom Kippur War?

a. Brooklyn College b. MIT c. Yale University d. University of Phoenix 3. When he became prime minister in 1996, Netanyahu became the youngest-ever prime minister of Israel. How old was he at the time? a. 39

4. Which unit did Netanyahu serve in while in the IDF for six years, rising to captain? a. Nachal Chareidi b. Sayeret Matkal c. Border police d. Cyber unit 5. Which political party is Netanyahu the leader of?

6. Netanyahu’s brother Yoni was the commander of an elite unit and was killed during which of the following? a. Six Day War b. Yom Kippur War

b. 42

a. Labor

c. Raid on Entebbe

c. 46

b. Likud

d. 51

c. Meretz

d. 1968 Israeli raid on Lebanon

d. Kadima

 Answers

2. B 1. B

5-6 correct: You and Bibi are on a first name basis...along with every other taxi driver in Israel.

3-4 correct: Not bad, unless you just answered B to most of the questions because you get my game by now.

0-2 correct: Call Birthright – you can use a little brushing up on your Israel facts.

Answer to Riddle Me This: From left to right: #1: Mrs. Sherman lives in the glass house #2: Mrs. Ulman lives in the straw house #3: Mr. Tessler lives in the brick house #4: Mr. Wein lives in the wood house

See answer to the right

3. C

Who lives where and what is their home made from?

4. B

Mrs. Sherman’s house is somewhere to the left of the wooden one and the third one along is brick. Mrs. Ulman owns a straw home, and Mr. Tessler does not live at either end, but lives somewhere to the right of the glass house. Mr. Wein lives in the fourth house. The first bungalow is not made from straw.

5. B

There are four houses on a road on a yishuv. They are made from these materials: straw, wood, brick, and glass.

6. C

Riddle me this?

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Torah Thought

Parshas Ki Seitzei

By Rabbi Berel Wein

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his week’s Torah portion deals with many different issues of human behavior and family relations. We are all aware that the relationships between parents and children, as well as between other relatives in the same family, are often difficult ones and fraught with potential danger, frustration, and even tragedy.

People within a family are very capable of disliking and even hating one another despite their biological and social connection. This is because in

the basic family structure there exists a bond of love between the members of the family that is natural and quite strong. And any time strong love is present, the possibility of strong hate always lurks in the background.

Precisely because children love their parents, they feel justified in holding them to unrealistic standards of behavior and attitude. And since parents often fall short of such absolute perfection, the resentment towards them can become so great

as to lead to awful family disputes.

Hard statistics reveal that most murders occur between perpetrators and victims who are related or know each other well. These family members have experienced disappointment and often complain of severe mistreatment.

There are many current theories as to how to properly raise children and create tranquility and harmony within the family unit. But, as is true in almost all areas of life, one size does not fit all, and it is difficult to fit each separate case into any general rule. Because of this, it is obvious that every family must sort through relationships and affairs individually.

when no logical or rational solution is present or possible. It is difficult for us in our time, when we have unlocked so many doors regarding the mysteries of science, technology and medicine, to have to admit that there are basic human problems that exist within family relationships that we are powerless to solve on our own.

Later in the Torah we will read that that there are many hidden things in human life that only Heaven can deal with. We can only do the best that we can, to the extent that we are physically, emotionally and intellectually able. There is no question that this limitation upon our omnipotence is very frustrating especially to mod-

It is difficult for us in our time to have to admit that there are basic human problems that exist within family relationships that we are powerless to solve on our own.

Very rarely, if ever, can any outside source, no matter how wise or professional, solve the problems and workings of the family unit.

From the narrative that appears regarding the rebellious son – a narrative that according to one opinion in the Talmud is to be treated only as a metaphor – it is clear that we are being taught that there are instances

ern humans who believe that they are capable of everything.

By realizing that, paradoxically, we can accomplish more than we thought possible in times of difficulty, eventually we know that we must rely upon the G-d Who infuses us with life to help us solve all difficult situations and to accept G-d’s will.

Shabbat shalom.

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Parshas Ki Seitzei The Empathy of Elul

By Rav Moshe Weinberger Adapted for publication by Binyomin Wolf

Elul and the Root of Yibum We are in the midst of our efforts to prepare ourselves for Rosh Hashana and Yom Kippur throughout the month of Elul. Our sages have found a number of allusions to the month of Elul in the Torah, including in the mitzva of yibum, levirate marriage, in which one brother marries the widow of his childless, deceased brother. In this week’s parsha, the Torah tells us that the purpose of the surviving brother’s yibum marriage is that “the firstborn son who will be born [of the yibum relationship] will uphold the name of his brother, and his name will not be erased from the Jewish people” (Devarim 25:6).

This is made even clearer the first time this mitzvah is mentioned in the Torah, when Yehuda instructed his son Onan to marry his brother Er’s widow Tamar (Bereishis 38:8). Yehuda told him, “Come to [marry] the wife of your brother and perform yibum with her to establish progeny for your brother.”

Establishing a Jewish person’s name and legacy among the Jewish people is really what we are celebrating at every joyous occasion, whether it is an engagement, marriage, birth, bris, or bar or bas mitzvha. But Onan did not want to participate in that. The pasuk says about Onan (ibid. 9), “And Onan knew that the children would not be his, lo lo…” Our sages see in the words, lo lo, not his, as an allusion to the month of Elul, which shares the same letters.

But what is the connection between the month of Elul and the mitzvah of yibum, and, more particularly, Onan’s desire not to do a mitzvah to uphold his deceased brother’s name in the Jewish people?

During Elul, there is a custom to study the sefer Tomer Devorah by Rav

Moshe Cordovero, zt”l, the Ramak.

Tomer Devorah explains we can work to emulate G-d’s thirteen attributes of mercy which we read at Tashlich on Rosh Hashana, and by doing so, draw down a manifestation of those attributes from Above. The fourth attribute is “The remnant, she’airis, of His inheritance.” The Ramak points out that the word she’airis, remnant, is connected to the word she’ar, blood relative.” The Ramak writes: The Holy One Blessed is He conducts Himself with the Jewish people in the following way: He says, “How will I act with the Jewish people when they are my relatives, I have a blood relationship with them?” They are G-d’s match and He calls them “My daughter,” “My sister,” and “My mother.” As Chazal explain, the pasuk “Yisroel, nation which is his relative,” means that He is literally a relative with them and they are His children. That is what “The remnant, she’airis, of His inheritance” means, which is an expression of a blood relationship. In the end, they are His inheritance.

That is why the pasuk says, “If I punish them, it will hurt Me…” The Ramak continues that the pasuk in Yeshaya 63:9 is written one way, but read differently. It is read, “In all of their pain, it pained Him, lo tzaar [with a vav],” but it is written “lo tzaar, it did not trouble Him” [with an aleph].

Hashem feels our pain because we are so close to Him. This pasuk also alludes to the month of Elul because the two ways of reading the pasuk [lo/lo] are the same as the letters that spell Elul.

The Ramak then continues by explaining what this attribute of G-d’s means for us: “This is how a person

must conduct himself with his friend.

All Jews are blood relatives to one another because all souls are part of one totality. Each one has a portion in the other… This is why all Jews are responsible for one another, because each one contains part of everyone else within him.”

The fact that Hashem considers us “blood relatives,” as it were, His “empathy” for us is the root of our ability to rejoice in each other’s simchahs and cry for each other’s suffering. That is why, whenever a Jew suffers, even one who is far from being a tzaddik, Hashem says (Sanhedrin 46a), “My head hurts, My arm hurts.” We are so intimately connected to Hashem, that He considers us part of his “body,” so to speak. We all know the story that Reb Areye Levin, zt”l, told the doctor, “My wife’s foot is hurting us.” The real trick is living with the consciousness that this is not simply a beautiful idea or a nice slogan. The fact that we are intimately connected to our Father Above, and, by extension, other Jews, is a reality that must inform the way we relate to Hashem and other Jews.

Empathy and the Foundation of the Exodus Rav Joseph Albo, zt”l, in his Sefer Haikarim (2:14), explains that G-d feels “pain” when we suffer. He took the Jewish people out of Egypt using this trait when He said (Shmos 3:7-8), “I have surely seen the suffering of my nation which is in Egypt, and I have heard their cry because of their slave drivers, for I know their pains and I descended to save them from the hands of Egypt…”

Rav Elyah Lopian, zt”l, as recorded in the sefer Lev Eliyahu (Vol. 1, p. 98),

teaches that Hashem wanted to infuse this ability to empathize and identify with others into the DNA of our nation.

He therefore redeemed us with that trait. Hashem even chose a redeemer who possessed that quality. The first thing Moshe did when he grew up was to exhibit this ultimate marker of maturity and responsibility, as the pasuk (Shmos 2:11) says, “Moshe grew up and went out to his brothers and saw their burdens…” Rashi explains that this means “he directed his eyes and his heart to be pained for them.”

And the Jewish officers the Egyptians used as enforcers over the Jewish slaves exhibited this remarkable trait as well. The pasuk says that after Pharaoh increased the Jewish people’s workload by forcing them to collect their own straw (Shmos 5:14), “And the officers of the Jewish people who Pharaoh’s taskmasters had appointed over them were beaten…” According to the Midrash (Shmos Raba 5), “They sacrificed themselves for the Jewish people and they endured beatings in order to lighten their [the Jewish people’s] load.” Hundreds of them were killed because they did whatever they could to lighten their brothers’ burdens.

Because these Jewish officers could not live a life of relative ease while their fellow Jews suffered, they awakened the attribute of “The remnant, she’airis, of His inheritance” Above. By caring about their brothers’ pain, they brought down Hashem’s mercy, and, consequently, the redemption itself. That is why Hashem first revealed Himself to Moshe in a burning bush, which Rashi explains (Shmos 3:2) was meant to convey “I am with them in their pain.”

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their pain and I did not cover my eyes, nor did I conceal My ears from their cries.”

The mitzvah of yibum in this week’s parsha, whereby a brother does the selfless act of bringing Jewish souls in the world not for his own sake but to uphold his childless brother’s name among the Jewish people, reminds us not to be like Onan, who felt “the children would not be his [lo lo] …” Rather, Hashem calls on us to recognize that not only are we His “flesh and blood,” so to speak, but that the Jewish people are literally one corpus. We must turn around the letters lo lo to spell Elul by rejoicing in other Jews’ successes, mourning for their tragedies, and not turning a blind eye to their needs.

Rav Chaim Volozhiner zt”l’s son, in his introduction to Nefesh Hachaim, said in Rav Chaim’s name that he repeatedly reminded his children that the purpose of their lives is to do good things for other people. We do not live for own sake. Rather, we live for other Jews’ sake.

Rav Kook, zt”l, teaches about a person who has internalized this attitude as follows (Oros Hakodesh 30): There are those who sing the song of the nation. A person in that category goes out of the sphere of his own private concerns, which he finds to be insufficiently broad, in which idealism does not dwell.

He longs for mighty heights and cleaves, with a refined love, to the totality of the Jewish people. He sings its songs, feels its pain, delights in its rectification, and delves into the pure, supernal depths of its past and future. He investigates, with love and wisdom, the depths of its inner spiritual heart.

The Chozeh and the Barber The beauty of a Jew who puts others’ concerns over his own is illustrated by a story told by Reb Shlomo Carlebach, zt”l, about the Chozeh, the Seer, of Lublin.

The Chozeh needed a haircut before Yom Tov like anyone else. But everyone knew about the Chozeh’s spiritual sensitivity and were afraid to touch the Chozeh’s head, lest he be unworthy and somehow disturb the Rebbe’s holiness. All of the barbers in Lublin spent several days before each yom tov fasting, praying, and doing teshuva in the

hopes that whoever the Chozeh chose for his haircut would be worthy enough for the Chozeh to tolerate his haircut.

Just before one particular yom tov, the Chozeh’s assistants, as usual, gave notice to the barbers to begin preparing themselves to cut the Rebbe’s hair.

When the day arrived, the barbers lined up outside of the Chozeh’s room.

The first barber approached the Rebbe’s chair. But when he touched the Rebbe’s head, although the Rebbe did not intend to insult him, he cried out in pain. He quickly left the room, feeling horrible that he had hurt the Rebbe.

The other barbers saw how quickly he left, without giving a haircut, and they became even more afraid. The second barber went into the room and the same thing happened. As soon as he touched the Rebbe’s head, the Rebbe screamed out in pain. The process repeated itself until they ran out of barbers. They did not know what to do in order to arrange a haircut for the Rebbe for yom tov.

But someone told one of the Rebbe’s assistants that he saw a strange looking Jew on the streets of Lublin, a traveler, who carried a sign around his neck that said, “I’m a barber and a little bit of a doctor.” After discussing the matter among themselves, they concluded that it was worthwhile to at least try to determine whether this Jew could cut the Rebbe’s hair. Perhaps he was an upright person. When they approached the man about cutting the Chozeh’s hair, they asked him whether he would cut the Rebbe’s hair. Once they assured him that it was a paying job, they asked him if he knew whose hair he was about to cut. He said that he did not but that it did not matter. He was capable of cutting anyone’s hair. They told him that they were about to bring him to cut the hair of the Chozeh of Lublin. Unfazed, he answered, “Okay, everyone needs a haircut. So does the rabbi. And I’m a barber. No problem. Please bring me to him.” He entered the Rebbe’s room without any preparation.

The man and the Chozeh looked at one another and the Rebbe saw the barber’s little sign and smiled. It seemed the Chozeh already liked this barber. He took out his old scissors and the Rebbe’s assistants began covering their eyes, not relishing the scream they were about to hear. But when the barber touched the Rebbe’s head, he

sighed and said, “A mechaya, a pleasure!” And with every single snip, the Rebbe continued to enjoy himself, repeatedly saying, “A mechaya!” As soon as the haircut was over, the man simply left.

The Rebbe’s assistants followed him, “Sir, sir! Can we ask who you are?

Where are you from?” But he simply answered, “You can see on my sign. I am a barber.” Apparently, he did not want to say anything about himself.

They formulated a plan, however, to find out more about him. They invited him to a local establishment that served alcoholic beverages. Once he had enjoyed a couple of drinks and they saw that he was in a good mood, they asked him again, “Tell us who you are. When every other barber in Lublin touched the Rebbe’s hair, he screamed out in pain, but when you cut his hair, it was a mechaya. We have never seen anything like that. What is your story?

Even with a couple of drinks, however, he did not want to talk about himself. But they persisted and asked him repeatedly, “Tell us about yourself. Who are you?” Finally, the barber told them that he had done one that that may be able to explain why the Rebbe was able to tolerate his haircut.

He stood up, pulled up the back of his shirt, and they saw that his entire back was covered with horrible, disgusting welts. They chassidim recoiled and asked him, “What happened? What is that?” So he told them the following story: I travel from place to place.

I am a barber and a little bit of a doctor. I cut people’s hair and do what I can for them. In one town, I saw some sort of commotion.

When I approached, I saw that the non-Jewish authorities were dragging a man away from his family and his wife and children were screaming. I asked someone standing there what happened and they told me that something had been stolen in the town. And as the authorities always did, they blamed the Jews and grabbed the first Yid they found. They were going to take him away and give him 100 lashes for his “crime.” The man was so skinny and small that I realized he would die. He would not be able to survive.

And because I am a little bit of

a doctor, I figured that I am healthy and somewhat stronger so that I would probably survive 100 lashes. Also, no one would marry me anyway. I have no wife or children.

And even if I am wrong and I die of my injuries, at least I would not leave behind a widow and orphans as this man would. So I walked over to the police and told them, “You have the wrong man. I did it.” I was a strong man and I truly thought I could handle it. But those wicked people beat me with such strength that after ten lashes I was sure that I was going to die. I cried out to Hashem, “You know I am not doing this for myself. I am doing it for this man, his wife, and children. I accepted these lashes only because that man is a Jew and I am a Jew and one must help another Jew. So please Hashem, have mercy and let me not die.”

And I do not know how I survived. Every blow felt harder than the one before. But somehow, I endured one hundred lashes. And that is why I walk with a limp and why my back looks this way. But thank G-d, I am alive.

When the Chozeh saw this Jew, he saw someone who did not turn away from other Jews. This Jew had every reason to run. But he took a beating for another Jew. The Chozeh felt that in the deepest way. His hands and his entire existence were filled with sacrifice for other Jews.

Just like Hashem says, “I am with them in their pain,” “My head hurts, my arm hurts,” and calls us His “blood relative, may we also merit to see other Jews in this way. Let us dance at their weddings like the bride and groom are our own children, sisters, or brothers.

Let us cry and daven for other Jews’ pain like we ourselves are suffering.

And let us not turn away from other Jews when they are in a time of need.

And in that merit, may we see the final redemption just like we did in Egypt in the merit of Moshe’s and the Jewish officers’ acts of self-sacrifice for other Jews.

Rav Moshe Weinberger, shlita, is the founding Morah d’Asrah of Congregation Aish Kodesh in Woodmere, NY, and serves as leader of the new mechina Emek HaMelech.

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Parshas Ki Seitzei

By Eytan Kobre

Weekly Aggada You shall surely send away the mother, but the young you may take for yourself, so that it will be good for you and you will prolong your days (Devarim 22:7) The “prolonged days” mentioned here refers not to the days of this world but to the days of the World to Come.

This was a root of the downfall of the once-great Elisha ben Avuya, about whom G-d says, “Return, all sons, who will return; return to Me, and I will return to you (Malachi 3:7) – except for Elisha ben Avuya, who knows My power and nevertheless rebelled against Me.” Once, Elisha ben Avuya was sitting and learning in the Ginosar Valley when he saw a man climb a palm tree, take a mother bird in front of her children, and descend in peace.

Later, he saw another man climb to the top of the palm tree and send the mother bird away before taking the young birds. When this man descended from the tree, however, he was bitten by a snake and died.

So said Elisha ben Avuya: “It is written, ‘You shall surely send away the mother, but the young you may take for yourself, so that it will be good for you and you will prolong your days.’ Where is this man’s ‘good’ and where is this man’s ‘prolonged days’?”

When challenging G-d in this way (r”l), Elisha ben Avuya did not know that R’ Akiva already had explained publicly that the Torah’s promise that “it will be good for you” refers to the World That Is Completely Good

(i.e., the World to Come) and “you will prolong your days” refers to the World That Is Entirely Long (i.e., the World to Come) (Rus Rabba 6).

Weekly Mussar You shall not see your brother’s ox or his sheep driven away, and hide yourself from them; you shall surely bring them back to your brother (Devarim 22:1) This refers not only to one who sees his fellow’s animals being driven away but also to one who diverting his line of sight from the animals, “as if” he does not see them being driven away (Rashi).

The imperative to not divert our line of sight “as if” we do not see a friend’s animals being driven away is difficult to understand: if we have no intention of helping our friend, it won’t matter whether we see the animals being driven away or divert our gaze “as if” we do not (in other words, expanding the prohibition to one who pretends not to see will have no impact on one who has no desire to help). And if we intend and want to help our friend, we will do so no matter what. Why, then, does the Torah address the person who diverts his eyes “as if” he does not see? There seems to be no practical difference – that person will either help or he will not.

The practical application here, explains R’ Betzalel Rakow (19272003; former chief rabbi of Gateshead, England), is the human tendency to delude oneself.

No decent, courteous person would see his friend’s animals go-

ing astray and refuse to take action.

That would be callous. But we might divert our line of sight from the animals, “as if” we did not see them going astray. Then we could justify our inaction: hey, I did not actually see my friend’s animals being driven away. It is a silly charade, but it enables us to justify our inaction.

We often justify our wrongful actions and inactions by deluding ourselves in this manner. For instance, the Chofetz Chaim often noted how it is rare for one who speaks loshon hara to actually own up to doing something wrong. Instead, they delude themselves into thinking that what they are saying isn’t really loshon hara or that it is permissible (a mitzvah even!) to say loshon hara about that person or in this situation (or any one of several other misguided justifications).

That is what the Torah instructs here: Do not delude yourself. You either don’t see your friend’s animals being driven away or you do see your friend’s animals being driven away.

Just pretending not to see them fools no one but yourself.

Weekly Anecdote You shall not plow with an ox and a donkey together (Devarim 22:10) When the Radzyner Rebbe, R’ Gershon Chanoch Henech Leiner (1839-1890), was a young man, he once entered the local bais medrash of a small town not far from his own, surprised to see it teeming with a sizeable group of misfits in a tumult.

When the young Radzyner asked why they were assembled there and

in a state of commotion, the group explained that the town’s wealthiest man was marrying off his son and was throwing a grand feast in honor of the occasion but that they had been left out of the festivities and were famished.

“Come with me,” said the young Radzyner, motioning for the group to follow. And with that, he set out for the wealthy man’s home, the bevy of ne’er-do-wells in tow behind him.

The young Radzyner arrived at the wealthy man’s home and knocked at the front door.

“Sorry, we are not accepting visitors today!” came the loud response from within.

But the Radzyner had a plan. “I understand that the town rav is inside at your party!” he called out.

“I have a question for the esteemed rav!”

After a brief delay, the door swung open, and the Radzyner was allowed inside to ask his question – and only to ask his question. The band of misfits remained outside.

“Rabbi,” the young Radzyner addressed the rav sitting at the dais, “why does the Torah prohibit us from plowing with an ox and donkey together?”

Now, the rav had no patience for these sorts of questions, and he didn’t particularly appreciate being disturbed at the lavish party. He tried to give the young Radzyner short shrift. “We do not know the reason behind a great many of the Torah’s commandments. But we obey them nonetheless.”

“Ah, but I believe there is a simple logical reason behind this specific commandment,” replied the young Radzyner. “You see, the ox chews its

cud; the donkey does not. So when the ox finishes its food, it appears as if it has yet additional food to eat. Now, if the ox and donkey were to plow together, the donkey would look upon the ox with jealousy. The Torah, therefore, pitied the donkey and prohibited the plowing of the ox and donkey together so as not to cause pain to the donkey.

“And certainly,” the young Radzyner continued, “if the Torah is concerned about the pain a donkey might feel by watching an ox eat lavishly, surely we humans must not slam the door shut on other poor humans while we feast lavishly…”

The father of the groom got the message, and his doors were opened immediately to the sorry, starving lot waiting outside.

Weekly Halacha When you build a new house, you shall make a parapet for your roof,

so that you not place blood upon your house if anyone falls from it (Devarim 22:8) This is the positive Torah com-

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of any floor upon which people may walk if it is ten tefachim (40 inches) above the ground (or above another landing). The fence must be ten tefachim tall and sturdy enough

We often justify our wrongful actions and inactions by deluding ourselves.

mandment to build a fence on the roof of a house that is used for living (Sefer HaChinuch 546; Rambam, Sefer HaMitzvos, Positive Commandment No. 184; Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 190:1).

A fence is required at the edge

to prevent someone from falling (Shulchan Aruch, Choshen Mishpat 427:5; Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 190:1). While some disagree, most authorities hold that a blessing – “asher kideshanu b’mitzvosav vitzivanu la’asos ma’akeh” – should

be recited upon building the fence (Rambam, Berachos 11:8).

Because the Torah refers only to a “house,” shuls are exempt (they are not intended for living ) (Chullin 136a; Shulchan Aruch, Choshen Mishpat 427:3), as are structures intended for storage or to house animals (Shulchan Aruch, Choshen Mishpat 427:1; Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 190:1; but see Chazon Ish, Maasros 19). One who rents a house is also required to build a parapet if the owner has not already done so (Shulchan Aruch, Choshen Mishpat 314:2).

The Weekly Halacha is not meant for practical purposes and is for discussion purposes only. Please consult your own rav for guidance.

Eytan Kobre is a writer, speaker, and attorney living in Kew Gardens Hills.

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E-mail eakobre@outlook.com.

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Think, Feel, Grow

Willpower Generating Momentum for Our Return

By Shmuel Reichman

T

here’s a story of two elderly men who were childhood friends but had not seen each other in the past thirty years. One day, they run into each other on the street and are delighted to recognize one another. One of them lives in the neighborhood and invites the other into his home. They happily begin talking and catching up, getting lost in their stories and jokes as the day goes on. The guest finally notices that it has become dark outside and asks his friend to look at his watch and tell him the time.

“I don’t have a watch,” his friend replies.

“So look at the clock, and tell me what time it is.”

“I don’t have a clock either,” his friend replies.

Puzzled, the first man asks the second man: “If you don’t have a watch, and you don’t have a clock, how do you tell the time?”

“I use my trumpet!” the second man proudly replies.

“A trumpet? How can you tell time with a trumpet?”

“I’ll show you.” The second man picks up his trumpet, opens the window, and blows a long and deafening blast. A few seconds later, his neighbor yells out: “Three o’clock in the morning and you’re playing your trumpet?!”

The man turns to his friend and announces, “It’s three o’clock in the morning.”

The shofar is Hashem’s trumpet,

begging us to wake up from our slumber. When we hear it, we must remind ourselves what time it is. It’s time to question, to think, to redirect.

Often, though, life has a way of running on autopilot, subject only to the flow of momentum. Newton’s first law of motion states that an object in motion stays in motion, and it’s easy to see this principle play out in our lives. When things are going well, they tend to continue flowing forward. One good decision leads to another, and we ride the surge of confidence as we continue to push ourselves forward. This is the beauty of momentum. Without thinking, we can progress a tremendous amount, whether it means a push forward in our careers, a positive development in our relationships, or taking the next step in our spiritual growth. However, this same momentum can be our undoing as well. Some days, one bad move leads to another, leading to an unstoppable landslide of destruction as we eventually fall apart. Maybe we snooze our alarm one too many times, and the next thing we know we’ve taken our frustration out on those closest to us, made a mess of our work, and spent the day walking around in a hostile daze. The question is, how do we control this momentum instead of becoming a victim of it?

The answer to this question is a concept at the very core of this month of Elul and any process of self-transformation.

Teshuva and Free Will Parshas Re’eh begins with the

principle of choice: Hashem presents us with the choice between blessings and curses, between good and bad. In a few parshios from now, the Torah states: “U’bacharta b’chaim, You shall choose life” (Devarim 30:19). This is the source used by most commentaries for the principle of free will, the power of choice.

The month of Elul is deeply tied to the theme of teshuva, usually translated as repentance. The Rambam (Hilchos Teshuva, chapter 5) includes the concept of free will within the laws of teshuva. This seems both strange and unnecessary. The necessity and nature of free will appears more philosophical than legal, so why does the Rambam include this in work of halachic codes? To understand this, we must delve into the true nature of teshuva.

While teshuva is often translated as repentance, its literal meaning is “return,” as in the word “shuv.” The goal of teshuva is not only to free ourselves of punishment and responsibility from our past, it’s about self-transformation, returning to a higher and better version of ourselves. We don’t only wish to escape; we wish to ascend. It is with this premise that the Rambam describes the three-step process of teshuva.

The first step of teshuva is recognizing that there is a problem to fix, that a mistake has occurred. It is impossible to solve a problem without first admitting that the problem exists. It is all too easy to simply push forward in life, ignoring our inner

and outer struggles. But that always results in the downwards cascade described above. Only by acknowledging the problem can we stop the downward momentum and actually solve it.

The second step of teshuva is to regret one’s mistake. Often, we know a problem exists, but we don’t feel ashamed, hurt, or even bothered by it. Without internal regret or hurt, we won’t be motivated enough to take the actionable steps required to make actual change. When we yearn for the truth, and allow ourselves to powerfully feel the inner contradiction between how we could be living and how we currently are living, we can generate the emotional response necessary to genuinely regret any past mistakes.

Third, one must commit to an improved and ideal future, one in which this mistake will not be repeated.

In other words, one must commit to strive towards a greater version of themselves, whereby if given the chance to repeat this mistake, one would not give in to temptation but would overcome the challenge.

There is one principle that is absolutely fundamental in order for this process of teshuva to exist: free will. The only way one can genuinely change, transform, and evolve is with the unique capacity to assert their inner will and create a new reality within themselves. This requires a complete re-creation of self within one’s inner world. While yesterday, one was the type of person

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‫בס"ד‬ ,‫בבקשה שכל אחד יחזיק חוב קדוש לעצמו להחזיק את הכולל החשוב היחיד במינו‬ .‫ולבוא להשתתף‬ It is for this reason that many people When life begins to fall apart, and who did this, today, a new decision shuva is about reengineering our ,‫לטוב‬ ‫לבבינו‬ ‫משאלות‬ ‫בישועת כל‬ ‫עלינו שנוושע‬ ‫שמתפללים‬ ,‫עמהם‬ ‫אשרי‬ don’t change; change is hard, uncomthe bad decisions start piling‫שחלקו‬ up, we ‫מי‬will, was formed, a new reality was creatrecreating our desire, rewiring fortable, requires sacrifice. to cut them‫תורה‬ off before ed, a new from was conceived withwants. It’s about the decision to ‫עלינו‬ ‫הטובה‬ '‫ביד ד‬and ‫ומעוטרת‬ ‫מבורכת‬One ‫ טובה‬must ‫לשנה‬learn ‫לכוח"ט‬ ‫נזכה‬ ‫ החזקת‬our ‫ובזכות‬ they expand, before they destroy in their inner world. This requires a needs to believe so strongly in their be better, to be great, to become our .‫תמיד‬ new future in order to give up their us. The key is making the decision, best complete assertion of willpower, an and true self. As the Ramchal asserting your inner will, and foovercoming of self, a breakdown and current lifestyle. However, when explains in Mesilas Yesharim, if you cusing the full force of your will toreformation of inner drive and char- one pushes with all one’s might, and can change what you want (akiras expresses a full force of inner will, wards cutting off that momentum. acter. This means giving up who you ha’ratzon), you can change who you If you can cut off the momentum of are for who you want to be, sacrific- they come in touch with the sublime, are. If you can make a new decision, a taste of truth, an experience of desbad decisions, of a lifestyle that is ing what you think you want for what you can create a new reality for yourdraining the life out of you, you can you truly want. It means overcom- tiny, and a glimpse of their true self. self. stop it from spreading, and the virus ing the emotional and overwhelming When the shofar blows this year, will wither and die. With nowhere to let us truly awake. pull of current desire and generating Breaking the Momentum spread, it’s like a flame without oxya new want within your very core.

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Matanat Chaim Giving to Receive a Second Chance at Life

By Rafi Sackville

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ur next door neighbor, Israel, told me he and his wife Batya were traveling on Motzei Shabbat to the center of the country; he said she had to undergo an operation. I didn’t pursue inquiry. They returned late Tuesday night, but by that time word had gotten around about Batya’s three-day stint in hospital and why such a healthy woman was in need of surgery. It’s not that our friends like keeping secrets; it’s just the way they operate: they’re quiet, humble people who don’t create a fuss when there’s no need for one.

What Batya had done was donate a kidney. She’s the second person in our neighborhood to do so. The first was a young rabbi at the Hesder Yeshiva here in Ma’alot.

I looked up the Matanat Chaim

Israel, Batya, and Shlomo’s mother, sister, wife, and younger sister

website and there among the list of recent transplants was the following entry: Recipient: Shlomo ben Bracha Donor: Batya bat Avigayil Date and location: June 23, 2019; Beilinson Hospital Also found on the website is a photo of the gathering of the previous year’s donors. Well over one hundred in number, they represent a quality of altruism that is hard to find today.

The road to disengaging oneself from a kidney is a process which requires patience, fortitude, and a healthy dose of selflessness. Patience, because it’s not going to happen overnight; fortitude and selflessness because it takes a special type of person to want to become a donor.

The most common kidney trans-

plants are performed between family members because compatibility is high.

Batya’s kidney fell under the category of cross donation, whereby there is an exchange of donors and transplant candidates. New pairs are created between transplant and donor candidates.

A database cross-checks and finds matches between donors and transplant candidates from other pairs.

Once a transplant candidate is matched to a donor they will be contacted and asked to come to the transplant center where the final process is conducted before surgery is performed.

The recipient of Batya’s kidney is an ex-patriot Israeli living in Florida.

Earlier in the year, during February, he had flown to Israel after The National Exchange Program for Live Kidney Donors informed him they had found

a donor.

He arrived under the belief that his prayers had been answered. There was a hitch, however. As Batya explained, the vetting process is both thorough and exhaustive. A long interview with potential donors is held in order to eliminate anyone who has ulterior motives or is overly zealous. An example of the former might be someone looking to trade a kidney for money or to feed a dependence on a drug habit.

Back in February Shlomo was close to going under the knife when a flaw in the potential donor was uncovered during the final vetting process. The last question the donor was asked was what his wife thought about his donating a kidney. He replied that he had yet to inform her. The board immediately dismissed his candidacy.

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MILESTONE PORTRAITS Recipient Shlomo returned to Florida where he waited for six months until Batya’s data was found to be a perfect match. Batya and Shlomo have been in frequent contact since the transplant.

He told her how, had the match between them not been made, he would have had to begin dialysis within days.

Among the many pre-operation questions Batya was asked was what would she think were the recipient of her healthy kidney to die soon after the operation. Her answer was illuminating. She told the board that she trusted them to make the best decision in finding an appropriate recipient who would be able to get many years of good health from her kidney.

One of the board members reacted

diseases that cause kidney failure equally affect both kidneys. In other words, a person having both kidneys will not be at any advantage over a person having only one if he develops diabetes or hypertension or a virus or receives some defective medication.

There is a story of a woman in New York who wished to become a donor.

She was put through the typical rigmarole of testing. By chance, she was discovered to have a rare growth on her spinal cord that would have become fatal had it not been found. It was successfully removed. The patient recovered and a year later underwent the same battery of testing before being given the green light to donate her kidney.

It can equally be argued that if we can survive with one kidney, the reason we have been granted two is so we can save a life.

Rafi Sackville, formerly of Cedarhurst, teaches in Ort Maalot in Western Galil.

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Batya’s recovery was slow but without a hitch. She and Israel sat at our Shabbat table telling us about this, her latest journey in a life full of good deeds. We asked her how she came to be interested in donating her kidney.

She nodded her head in Israel’s direction. “He did,” she said. This, in turn, led to the next, obvious question, of whether Israel would also consider doing the same.

Batya laughed. She explained how Israel had patience and selflessness.

“But I don’t have her fortitude,” he added with a laugh.

Early one recent Friday morning Israel called and asked if I’d run upstairs to take a photo of their guests. There I met Shlomo’s mother, sisters and wife, who had come to visit Batya during her recovery.

After taking the photos I mentioned how good it was that they’d all made new friends.

“Friends!” exclaimed Batya. “We’re not friends. We’ve made a new family.”

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The obvious question is why donate a kidney if we were born with two? The second kidney must be there for a reason. On the other hand, it can equally be argued that if we can survive with one kidney, the reason we have been granted two is so we can save a life.

Logic dictates that the more donors there are the greater the chance of finding a compatible match. The numbers testify to a remarkable success rate.

There have been almost 700 kidney transplants in Israel since 2009.

The program encourages people to register. This increases the database which leads to the greater possibility of saving someone’s life. There is no cost or risk in registering. If one has registered, the option of withdrawing from the program is always available.

A frequently asked question is what might occur should kidney donors themselves suffer sometime in the future from kidney disease. Statistics prove this to be almost non-existent.

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A Nation

DIVIDED Against Itself

A Peek into the Vitriol Slung against the Religious Community in Israel’s Upcoming Elections

By Tzvi Lev

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Tuesday, motorists on Tel Aviv’s central Ayalon t horoughfare were greeted by a massive billboard featuring Education Minister Rabbi Rafi Peretz. Carefully edited to make the veteran educator appear as demonic as possible, the advertisement warned that “if we don’t wake up, rabbis will be teaching our children.”

The ad was paid for by the Democratic Union, a party combining the radical-left Meretz faction with a new party led by former Prime Minister Ehud Barak and ex-Labor MK Stav Shaffir. It would have once been unthinkable for a major political party to base their election campaign on stirring up hatred against rabbis. But the do-over elections in September are causing some people to act in strange ways.

Every election cycle in Israel revolves around one major issue. In April, it was Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu’s desire to remain in office despite the three different criminal in-

dictments hanging over his head. In 2015, Netanyahu tangled with the Left over his handling of Operation Protective Edge in Gaza the previous year and the fate of the Israeli-Palestinian conflict.

HATRED OF HADATA When Israelis go to the polls on September 17, one of the primary issues at play will be the complicated relationship between religion and state.

This tension between Israel’s Jewish and Democratic aspects is not new.

Since the country’s founding in 1948, hot-button issues such as the role of Shabbat in the public sphere and the Rabbinate’s monopoly on marriage have been divisive. Yet never before has this subject taken such a prominent role in a national election and never has so much vitriol been openly hurled at the religious population and at Judaism.

Welcome to the fight against “Hadata.” Readers of these pages will remember the article published last year

detailing the battle launched by the secular Left against any semblance of religion in the public sphere.

For over two years, the left-wing dominated media has been pumping out stories darkly warning of a takeover of Israel by chareidim, or alternatively, the Religious Zionist community. Often featuring sensational stories that later turned out to be false, the consistent supply of headlines nevertheless succeeded in convincing a significant amount of secular Israelis that their way of life was under attack.

The results have been devastating to anyone interested in coexistence between the religious and the secular in the Holy Land. Suddenly, any and all practice of religion became controversial, including things that had never before been a topic of concern. For example, a court banned the northern city of Afula in July from holding a concert for the charedi community featuring the popular singer Motti Steimetz.

The reason? Like any event for the charedi community, it mandated sep-

arate seating. Different areas for men and women have been the norm for this community for at least three decades.

Yet, according to the secular activists who sued the city, separate seating constituted discriminatory gender separation and was against the law.

The judge agreed, with the High Court of Justice later backing his ruling. The city of Haifa had to cancel a Mordechai Ben David concert two weeks later for the same reason. Meanwhile, the flurry of anti-religious activity continues to spread. In Tel Aviv, Mayor Ron Huldai sent a book to every religious first grader that denied G-d’s existence and mocked the very nature of religion.

In nearby Ramat Gan, Mayor Carmel Shama-Cohen rammed public transportation on Shabbat through city hall despite the protests of the city’s sizable charedi and religious community.

In heavily observant Jerusalem, the municipality banned advertisements promoting support for the traditional Jewish view on marriage.

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LIBERMAN’S ANTI-RELIGIOUS PROPAGANDA What caused the anti-Hadata fight to go national was Avigdor Liberman.

The gruff and stocky politician had effectively toppled the previous government when he quit his post as defense minister and left the coalition. His abrupt exit left the government with a bare minimum of 61 lawmakers, and it was not long before the entire government collapsed, sending Israel to early elections in April.

As the results rolled in on April 9, it appeared that Netanyahu was on his way to another term as prime minister.

Racking up 35 seats despite his mounting legal troubles, the right-wing bloc as a whole had 65 seats, more than enough to establish a stable coalition.

Yet in what increasingly appears like a calculated political move, Liberman kept on hardening his conditions for joining the coalition.

As the deadline closed in, Liberman still refused to join a Netanyahu-led government if the prime minister refused to pass a law mandating that every charedi yeshiva student enlist in the IDF. This condition was rejected by the charedi UTJ and Shas factions out of hand, bringing both sides to an impasse. Being that the six Knesset seats Liberman’s Yisrael Beytenu possessed were crucial to passing the 61-seat minimum, his refusal meant going to elections.

Immediately after new elections were called Liberman started making increasingly bellicose statements that besmirched the charedi community.

Contending that the chareidim were forcing a “halachic state” on Israel,

the anti-religious rhetoric escalated to heights not seen since Tommy Lapid’s Shinui party portrayed religious people as worms in campaign advertisements back in 2003.

All over Israel, billboards were put up featuring a tough-looking Liberman under the caption, “Yes to a Jewish State. No to a halachic State.” On social media, campaign ads told viewers that chareidim don’t work, shirk military

service both spiritually and physically.

Ever since the first mechina was opened in Eli back in 1987, Religious Zionist officers have flooded the military and have commanded some of the IDF’s most elite units. Included in the mechinot alumni who fell on the battlefield is Emmanuel Moreno, a long-time operative in the elite Sayeret Matkal unit. He participated in missions so sensitive that the military censor for-

THE ANTI-RELIGIOUS RHETORIC ESCALATED TO HEIGHTS NOT SEEN SINCE TOMMY LAPID’S SHINUI PARTY PORTRAYED RELIGIOUS PEOPLE AS WORMS IN CAMPAIGN ADVERTISEMENTS BACK IN 2003. service, and milk the country’s coffers dry. Last week, Yisrael Beytenu sent a letter to the Attorney General alleging massive voter fraud in the charedi community and demanded that Israel’s top legal official hire observers to watch the ballot boxes.

Yet the charedim were not the only ones to be targeted by Liberman’s newfound secular sensibilities. The Religious Zionist community have been raked under the coals as well, with Liberman invoking his refrain of a “forced halachic state” the “messianic rabbis” were allegedly planning.

Nothing was off limits to Liberman.

One of Religious Zionism’s top contributions to Israeli society is the pre-military academies. Known in Hebrew as the mechinot, these one-year programs prepare religious youth for military

bids photos of him to be published despite 12 years passing since his death in the Second Lebanon War. Major Roi Klein, who died after jumping on a grenade in Lebanon to save his soldiers in the aforementioned war, had spent a year in a mechina, as did Hadar Goldin, a special operations officer whose body has been held

by Hamas ever since he was killed in Gaza during 2014’s Operation Protective Edge.

According to Liberman, however, the growth of the mechinot was actually a dangerous plot by the religious to take over the army and turn it into a “private militia.”

“They are cultivating soldiers whose subordination is not to the direct military commander but to spiritual authority, to the rabbi,” Liberman said

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during an interview last month. “The religious preparatory programs have produced some of the bravest fighters in combat, and I hope they will continue to function, but what is happening today is that the preparatory programs are developing into private religious militias.”

Liberman’s rhetoric didn’t stay confined to Yisrael Beytenu but infected the entire political system. For years, the Left has been looking for a wedge to use against the Right. With most Israelis against establishing a Palestinian State, the Left has been roadkill at the ballot box.

Yet the anti-religious narrative presented an opportunity: if anti-religious hostility is on the rise, goes the thinking, and every right-wing government always includes the chareidim, then we can channel the fear of a halachic state into votes for the Left.

And so it was. The left-wing Democratic Union and Blue and White parties eagerly adopted Liberman’s anti-religious narrative, catapulting religion and state issues into the main theme of the election. Day after day, the aforementioned factions have been pumping out a series of advertisements blaming religious people for all of Israel’s ills.

Radical left-wing lawmaker Stav Shaffir alleged that Israeli high schoolers were spending less time learning math due to the public school system’s preoccupation with brainwashing them with Judaism. After a 10-year-old child tragically committed suicide as a result of bullying, some leftist MKs said that Education Minister Rabbi Rafi Peretz was at fault for being too busy teaching

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religion to notice.

It seems that no problem can’t be blamed on religious people. Yet the problems facing the right-wing go well beyond hurtful rhetoric. For the first time in recent memory, it doesn’t look like the Right will have enough seats to reach the 61 Knesset members needed to establish the next government.

It’s not that the Israeli people have suddenly become left-wing. Rather, Liberman, who was always counted as part of the Right, has now made it increasingly clear that he will side with Benny Gantz, Yair Lapid, Gabi Ashkenazi, and Moshe “Bogie” Yaalon. With Yisrael Beytenu gobbling up 10 seats in the polls, there simply appears to be no way for the Right to attain a sufficient number.

A SCRAMBLE FOR WASTED VOTES As election day approaches, it becomes increasingly clear that the key to victory for the Right hinges on how many votes will be wasted on parties that do not cross the electoral threshold. Currently, the minimum stands at 3.25%, or four Knesset seats. In the previous elections, the Right lost out on no less than eight Knesset seats.

There was Naftali Bennett’s New Right, which missed the minimum threshold by only 1,000 votes, and the libertarian Zehut faction. Zehut had exploded onto the political scene in the month prior to the elections in April, with polls showing Moshe Feiglin’s party getting as many as eight seats.

As the results rolled in, however, it became clear that Zehut had collapsed.

Not only was Zehut not getting eight seats, it did not even pass the electoral threshold, wasting an estimated three

seats. A collection of fringe right-wing parties wasted another seat combined.

Had so many votes not been wasted, Netanyahu could have easily formed a government even without Liberman. Yet with the estimated 250,000 ballots going into the trash, Liberman was suddenly able to hold the entire country hostage and send it to an unprecedented re-do election.

As such, the challenge for the Right was simple: unity. In newspaper editorials and on social media, in talk shows and on the street, everyone knew that the warring Zehut, New Right, Jewish Home, National Union and far-right Otzma Yehudit needed to run on a joint slate.

And so it was. Following weeks of marathon meetings, the Jewish Home-National Union joint list put aside their anger at Naftali Bennett and agreed to run together with the New Right. But rather than Jewish Home leader Rabbi Rafi Peretz leading the list, it was the secular Ayelet Shaked.

A successful and popular former Justice Minister, Shaked was installed at the top of the list in the hope that she would be able to draw secular Israelis to vote for the list dominated by Religious Zionism. The merger drastically reduced the number of wasted votes but still left the problem called Zehut and Otzma Yehudit.

It was clear from the beginning that there would be problems merging with the far-right Otzma. The radical party had run with the Jewish Home and National Union in April on a list titled the Union of Right Wing Parties (URP), but cracks in the list quickly appeared. Otzma members accused the URP of failing to keep their com-

mitments and of being left-wing, and they quickly scrapped the deal after new elections were called.

In addition, Naftali Bennett also opposed running together with Otzma, feeling that their extreme brand of politics would turn off secular voters who would otherwise be taken in

by Shaked. Negotiations went down to the wire but to no avail. Otzma refused pressure from Prime Minister Netanyahu, top rabbis, and even its own members and refused to run together with the other aforementioned factions.

This decision could easily be a death knell for the Right, as current polls show Otzma wasting as much as three Knesset seats.

Another problem was Zehut. While still reeling from its unexpected collapse in April, Moshe Feiglin swore that he would take his party to the end. However, his mounting debts did him in. With the party owing millions in loans it took out ahead of the April elections, Netanyahu promised to cover the debt if Zehut dropped out of the race.

With a long string of polls showing that Zehut wasn’t even coming close to passing the electoral threshold, Feiglin bowed out. Holding a press conference with Netanyahu last week, Feiglin left the race in exchange for a promise by Netanyahu to appoint him as a minister should Netanyahu stay on as Israel’s prime minister.

THE LEFT UNITES The Left had also initially faced a similar scenario after former Prime Minister Ehud Barak appeared on the scene with his new party. Together with Yair Golan, an outspoken former

general who once compared Israel to Nazi Germany, Barak contended that his proudly left-wing faction could get as much as 10 seats.

However, the polls said otherwise.

With every survey finding Barak’s new party hovering around the electoral threshold, the anxiety among leftwing voters rose. More and more senior left-wing figures pressured Barak to merge with other similar-minded parties in order to generate momentum and avoid wasted votes that could give Netanyahu the edge he needs.

Finally, Barak gave in. Announcing a merger with the radical-left Meretz and adding fiery Labor MK Stav Shaffir, the new alliance called itself the Democratic Union. With only a little more than a week to go until elections, this union is everything Blue and White isn’t. Proudly left wing, openly calling for a Palestinian State, and with strong message discipline, the party initially appeared to be getting as much as 10 seats.

But in recent weeks, the Democratic Union started dropping in the polls. For some reason, their loud and anti-religious platform isn’t working.

If the party started at 10 seats in the surveys, they are now averaging between 5 and 7, only slightly above the death zone of four seats.

And then there is Blue and White.

In the previous elections, the faction led by Yair Lapid, Benny Gantz, Moshe “Bogie” Ya’alon and Gabi Ashkenazi was the hottest thing on Israel’s election scene. Headed by no less than three former IDF chiefs of staff and the charismatic Lapid, many viewed the party as the ones that would finally topple Netanyahu.

That was then. Over the past two

months, serious fissures have appeared among the four aforementioned leaders that cast doubts over the party’s future following the elections. One major issue is the party’s unclear worldview. Lacking any coherent ideology, and with their leaders contradicting each other on key issues at least twice a week, the only thing that holds them together is the desire to send Bibi packing.

That’s why Gantz can promise to repeal the “racist” Nationality Law while giving Zvi Hauser a senior spot on the Knesset list. Hauser, it should be pointed out, literally wrote every word of the Nationality Bill when he worked at the Kohelet Forum think tank.

And that’s why professional charedi hater Yair Lapid can have charedi MK Omer Yankelevitch in his party, and why a proponent of settlements such as Yoaz Hender can sit next to radical leftist Ofer Shelach in the Knesset.

Another issue is Gantz. If the griz-

zled general was once seen as prime minister material, today many people have their doubts. He’s come out as an atrocious interviewer; his many missteps have led campaign spin doctors to hide him from the cameras for fear of future gaffes.

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paid private investigators to surreptitiously probe Lapid and his cohorts.

While Gantz had gone to this unusual step to see who was leaking damaging personal information about him to the press, the revelation that he had hired private investigators caused a deep

THE CYNICAL AND CALCULATING POLITICIAN WHO SENT ISRAEL TO NOT ONE BUT TWO ELECTION CYCLES IN A YEAR NOW SEEMS TO REAP THE BIGGEST BENEFIT FROM HIS SHENANIGANS. His stuttering and blatant gaffes have been the biggest gift to Blue and White’s rivals. “Gantz, it’s too much for him,” warn the ominous clips disseminated by Likud’s communications specialists on social media.

Meanwhile, many missteps by Gantz have raised questions about his leadership skills. Earlier this month, news reports surfaced that Gantz had

strain between him and his co-leaders.

Yet despite everything listed above, Gantz and Blue and White still have a serious chance of unseating Netanyahu. Currently, Blue and White and Likud are locked in a tie with an average of 32 seats. With the right-wing and left-wing blocs tied at around 56 seats apiece, and with Liberman at 10 seats, Gantz can re-

alistically see himself as the heir to Netanyahu’s seemingly endless term at the top.

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election day less than a week away, the two blocs are neck and neck and only one person holds the key to Israel’s future: Avigdor Liberman. Yes, the cynical and calculating politician who sent Israel to not one but two election cycles in a year now seems to reap the biggest benefit from his shenanigans.

With the two blocs virtually tied, Liberman again finds himself as the deciding factor. Neither the right or the left has enough Knesset seats in the polls to reach the magic 61 needed to establish a government. Should he commit to Netanyahu, Israel’s longest ever serving prime minister will get yet another term at the top. But if Liberman throws his support to Gantz as expected, it will be the dawn of a new day for Israel’s 9 million residents.

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Spruce A Spirited Store with Sophisticated Taste

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hether you like dry or sweet, red or white, Israeli or French, oaky or fruity, you have reason to shop at Spruce D’Vine. Tequila tickle your fancy? For you, is it rosé all the way?

Or perhaps a splash of scotch as you chew on your lox?

Whatever flavor or variety of spirits you prefer, Spruce D’Vine has your pleasure – and its salespeople are there to help you as you wander down its wide aisles in search of the perfect drink to soothe your discerning palate.

Spruce D’Vine opened its grand doors last week. Since then, throngs of shoppers have been heading to the store in the Spruce shopping center to purchase their weekly wines, taste a scotch or two, and marvel at the floor-to-ceiling shelves filled with wines and spirits. Adam Neustadter, manager of Spruce D’Vine, was able to spend some time with TJH to tell us more about the opening of this expanded, well-designed store filled to the brim with every wine and alcoholic beverage available to the kosher consumer.

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Spruce D’Vine is big. According to Adam, “Smaller stores don’t have room to put all their items out, and things can get lost in the shuffle.

At Spruce D’Vine, our large store allows us to display all our items. That means that customers can see what we have and are able to make a more discerning purchase.” He also likes the shopping carts that are on-hand for customers to use as they shop. “There’s a spot where you can put your coffee cup on the shopping cart. Isn’t that great?!” The carts allow customers to peruse the aisles and the displays without worrying about their arms getting too full.

You can develop a taste for wine. According to Adam, “The best way to develop taste overall is to just eat a lot of interesting foods and taste more wine.” He adds, “It’s like working out. The more you work out, the more muscle you always have.” What about personal preference? Can taste of wine be subjective? “Of course,” answers Adam. “Preference is personal. But if you and I taste something and we both taste chocolate, that’s objective. Whether or not you like chocolate is subjective. So that’s why you have all these different wine writers who like different wines, but they’ll all taste similar facets of a wine.” And

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the more wine one tastes, the more one can discern the different nuances in each vintage and variety of wine.

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Like a kid in a candy store. Head to the back of Spruce D’Vine and there’s a special, glass-enclosed insulated wine storage room featuring bottles of wines and spirits. The temperature in that room is a chilly 54 degrees, perfect for the wines sitting within. Spruce D’Vine houses its older vintages there. “We have some Covenant ‘03s, ‘04s, ‘05s in there,” Adam says. “We have Capcanes Peraj Ha’abib ‘03s, ‘04s, ‘05s, ‘06s, ‘07s, ‘08s, ‘09s. I think we even have some Herzog Limited 1999 sitting there, too. We have so many amazing wines in there; I’m like a kid in a candy store when I enter that room.”

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Yup, they have Macallan 25 Year. Looking for something to wow your boss this Purim?

Spruce D’Vine has Macallan 25 Year, one of most expensive kosher scotches out there. (It’s sherry cask aged, so consult with your local rabbi before consuming.) With hints of peach, blood orange, and wood spice, your boss will be impressed – and you may even get that raise you’ve been hinting about.

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Collectors’ corner. If you’re looking for something that’s high quality to add to your collection, a trip to Spruce D’Vine is a definite must. Adam refers to the Herzog Limited Editions – the Chalk Hills Generation VIII specifically. He adds, “We’re fortunate enough to stumble across some wines that were only available at the winery that we were able to get our hands on. There’s a lot of collector item products in Spruce D’Vine. We have some older Yatirs, some older Castels – things that really appreciate, not just financially, but appreciate in quality.”

Breathing wine cheats time. “You know the old adage of wine needing to breathe?” Adam asks me.

“When wine is breathing, basically you’re cheating time. You’re allowing the wine to oxidize faster as opposed to the way it naturally would in a bottle with a cork. The way it would naturally in a bottle with a cork is the way it’s supposed to be done. And when you can age these wines for 15, 20 years you will get the best quality and the best tasting wine.”

and dislikes, I ask Adam for a general recommendation. “If you like something that’s full-flavored and very robust, Shiloh has a merlot that they just released in the Shor series. It’s around $27 a bottle and is great wine for the money.” He also recommends the Variation Series from Herzog, which is around that price point, too. He explains about the Variations series, “They took the same wine and they aged it in American oak and French oak. They also have different sets of Variations – three, four, or five – where they took cabernet from three different vineyards, and then added a fourth vineyard, and then they added a fifth vineyard, so you can actually taste the difference between the French oak and the American oak, and you can taste the difference between the fourth vineyard added and the fifth vineyard added. It gives you a great sense of wine knowledge, and people are loving it.”

Mevushal vs. non-mevushal. It used to be that mevushal wines wouldn’t age well, but that’s no longer the case, Adam tells us. Now, there are certain winemakers, like Joe Hurliman at Baron Herzog in California, who are making mevushal wines and have got it “down pat.” Other wineries – especially in Israel – have perfected the process as well. Previously, mevushal wines would provide a higher quality wine initially but wouldn’t be able to age well. As Adam explains, “You used to want to drink mevushal wines now and save non-mevushal wines for a few years before drinking. Now, though, wineries have perfected the mevushal process so well that they’re aging them as well.

These wines can last 10, 15 years – as opposed to the maximum of five years that they used to be good for.”

Tequila’s a new tradition. Because bourbons and scotches have become pricey in the past few years, tequilas have become more popular recently. Tequila is made from the agave plant. “The plant looks like a giant pineapple,” Adam notes.

Essentially, he says, “if you take anything and ferment it and distill it without adding anything else to it – we’re talking about non-grape products here like wheat, grain, rye, potatoes, apples – you can make a spirit out of it that’s kosher by default because there’s nothing non-kosher in it.” Tequilas can run around $75 to $140 a bottle, but Spruce D’Vine carries the Clase Azul Anejo Ultra, which runs for a whopping $1,899.99 a bottle. The tequila comes in a beautiful black bottle, and, according to Adam, “is supposed to be one of the best tequilas on the planet.” He wouldn’t know personally, as he hasn’t been privileged to taste the specialty spirit. Consumers, though, can buy the coveted liquor in Cedarhurst to taste the experience.

Adam’s recommendations. When asking for recommendations on what to bring to my Shabbos seudah, Adam starts to ask me questions. “Well, what’s your price range? Do you like fruity or oaky wines? Red or white?” With so many options, and knowing that TJH readers have a variety of likes

Scotch and bourbon. Scotch is whiskey made in Scotland. Bourbon has to be, by law, at least 51% corn whiskey and is made in the U.S. Taste is subjective, but Woodford and Boondocks are popular bourbons. Spruce D’Vine offers about 75 different bourbons and over 100 different scotches. Game

of Thrones aficionados will appreciate the Game of Thrones Collection of scotches. As we said, it’s all about preference, although there are no dragons lurking behind the counters in Spruce D’Vine.

No quarters? No problem. Adam tells me about the customer service that he and his staff are famous for. Customers already know that they can call in their order and that someone at Spruce D’Vine will bring their order to their car for them.

That’s especially important on a busy Friday or before yom tov. “Just yesterday, a customer called me up,” Adam recounts. “‘Adam, I need a case of this and a few bottles of that. I’m outside. Can you bring it to me?’ One of us brought his purchases to his car so he didn’t have to find parking.”

He adds, “People know us. We’ve all been working in the industry for decades. We all know our wines, our liquors, scotches, and whiskeys. Our customers appreciate our expertise and our recommendations and know that we’re here to help – in any way we can.”

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Joe Hart: “Build Trust, Build Relationships”

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very Sunday evening since July 2015, Yitzchok Saftlas, CEO of Bottom Line Marketing Group, hosts 77WABC’s “Mind Your Business” show on America’s leading talk radio station. The show features Fortune 500 CEOs, CMOs, and top business leaders, where they share their business knowledge and strategic insights on how to get ahead in today’s corporate world. Since Q2 2017, the 77WABC “Mind Your Business” show has remained in the coveted Nielsen “Top 10” in New York’s highly competitive AM Talk Radio market. Guests have included John Sculley, former CEO of Apple and Pepsi; Dick Schulze, founder and Chairman Emeritus of Best Buy; Beth Comstock, former Vice Chair of GE; and Captain Sully Sullenberger, among nearly 200 senior-level executives and business celebrities.

Every other week, TJH will feature leading questions and takeaways from Yitzchok’s popular radio show.

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n a recent 77WABC “Mind Your Business” broadcast, Yitzchok sat down to speak with Joe Hart about the secrets behind his remarkable success. Joe is a major influence when it comes to building one of the most iconic brands in the business and education industry. Joe is the president and CEO of the world-renowned Dale Carnegie Training. Dale Carnegie is famous for building and shaping young entrepreneurs, as well as large corporations and organizations.

Whether improvement in professional development, leadership training, customer service, employee engagement, or any other essential management skill, its training solutions are available in over 90 countries, in 29 languages, and have served millions of people worldwide. Dale Carnegie services 400 of the Fortune 500 companies, and Joe Hart is the man who stands behind it all.

YS: Joe, let’s talk about your success with Dale Carnegie. Millennials dream that by age 22 they’ll be the CEO of a Fortune 500 Company. You’re the CEO

of Dale Carnegie. What was the journey like?

JH: It’s pretty incredible for me even to think about. You know, I started out as a young man. My father introduced me to the book, How to Win Friends and Influence People, Dale Carnegie’s bestseller book. As a teen, I thought it was a phenomenal book, and it really had a huge impact on me.

I went to college, then to law school, became a lawyer, and, as a young lawyer, I decided I wanted to take a Dale Carnegie course. This is back in 1995, and the industry really was committed to career and personal growth. That course had a tremendous life-changing impact on me. It changed my vision for myself. As much as I was, I think, a good lawyer, I wasn’t necessarily a happy lawyer, and it really challenged me and ultimately, I left the practice of law. I started a business that was an e-learning company in 2000. Actually, Dale Carnegie was my first client. The whole concept of that company started with the idea that in Dale Carnegie you take a class or a program that’s really awesome but then the question is, what do I apply afterward? How much

am I really realizing? So, I developed a system to really help apply the Dale Carnegie principles and turned it into a business, and Dale Carnegie became a client. We built that e-learning company with other great clients, Roy Hill and others, and I sold it in 2005. Then I had an opportunity to start another company, a national health promotion company, that was based on the technology we developed in that first program. I was recruited in 2000 to become the CEO of Dale Carnegie and went through a very rigorous process. I moved my wife and six kids from Michigan to Long Island and probably would not have done that for any other company other than Dale Carnegie.

YS: You touched on something that is such a crucial point for anyone in business and that is goal setting. We all have goals, we all have vision, we all have ambition. But what’s your recommendation to someone who has failed to put it down to get them to really start hitting their targets?

JH: The question of vision is such

an important one. A lot of us know what we want to do or have a vague idea about it but haven’t really taken the time to sit down and write it down.

Some of it is less about complexity and more about discipline – actually, having the discipline to write down and say, “This is my vision, this is what I stand for” and then to ask what is my plan to make that happen, to have those goals. So often people will have goals, like New Year’s resolutions, and then next year it’s like, what happened?

This is one of the major parts of a Dale Carnegie course. We work with people to define their vision, and, if it’s in six months from now, put it in terms that are not “I will be,” but “I am.” Because there’s an emotional component in it, that’s what we mean when we talk about behavioral change. Sometimes people just think about why I need to do this or how do I do this. But is there really any emotional commitment? We really believe that emotional change and behavioral change are what lead to performance change. So if people have that vision and take the time to write it down they need to have the consistency to go back and look at it. They

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need to have that strong “why.” What am I committed to? Even if it’s only one thing you need to be committed to – be committed to it and go for it.

YS: How important is it to have it written down on paper?

JH: I’d say it’s critical. We’ve heard examples of people who will write themselves a check and put it in their wallet or whatnot. But in my own experience, if I have a goal but I don’t write it down, then I’m pulled in too many directions every single day. There are distractions – distractions of the phone, e-mail, social media, family, work, and all kinds of things. I would advise people to keep it simple and short. It doesn’t have to be 10 things. It doesn’t have to have 20 sub-parts. Just, what is that clear goal? What are you really committed to achieve and achieve that?

And once you achieve that, do the next one.

YS: You speak around the world and one of the concepts you speak about is the “global leadership crisis.” Perhaps you could share your vision on that.

JH: I think the first time I talked about it was in 2015 in Brazil. Brazil’s a country that has had significant turmoil, as our country has and many have, around political leadership, social business leadership and so forth.

And really what we’re talking about is a breakdown of trust. People expect our leaders to perform in a certain way and often they don’t. Often, it’s for personal gain. So part of what we teach in Dale Carnegie is that the foundation of everything in life and success starts with a relationship and having strong relationships requires trust. So in what ways can I build trust? How do I build trust with people? Some of this is common sense, like keeping your promises.

But part of it also just goes with who I am, who am I being? And then, what am I doing? Am I being empathetic?

Am I showing appreciation for you?

Am I listening to you? Am I respecting you? So often, we are so focused on ourselves and what we’re doing that if a relationship is crucial, we should really be focusing on how am I building a better relationship with the people I work with, with the people in my family, with the people in my community and so forth.

The Dale Carnegie principles are things that people can do to build better relationships and build trust.

YS: How can a leader build trust and respect from their team?

JH: That’s a big question because it’s multifaceted. It’s not necessarily one thing. We talk about who am I being? Am I a leader who is authentic?

Am I a leader who is empathetic? Am I a leader who really communicates? And one of the things we talk about at Dale Carnegie is that people support the world they help create. Am I talking to my people? Am I listening to my people? Am I asking them what they think?

Or am I simply directing and saying this is what you’re going to do? There’s a time and place for different types of leadership styles. And at the same time, a leader who works to build relationships with people and who listens and appreciates them is going to be much more successful at building trust.

YS: I want to move to corporate storytelling. We know that storytelling has been around since the beginning of time. Perhaps you could discuss it and relate how critical it is for a company to craft their unique corporate story.

JH: When we talk about corporate storytelling, we are referring to connection. How do I connect with people and build consensus? Dale Carnegie talks about how to win friends and influence people. And one thing that unifies people across geographies, races, religions or whatnot is who we are as people and this nature of storytelling. People will stop if I said to them, “I want to tell you a story.” In a corporate environment the same thing is true. We still can communicate in a powerful way if we can communicate a story or a message, whether it’s through an example or an analogy or whatever it might be. In a business environment, how do I communicate? How do I tell an effective story? How do I make it not too long, not too short, not too much detail, and so forth. Part of what we talk about is that there are stories that are my personal stories that I can tell and are excited about and can be powerful. And there might be stories also that I can tell that will make a point and help you see my perspective and so forth.

YS: Are there any other tips on that? You touched on something very powerful: that a CEO may have the right to tell his own story, which may have value, and sometimes it’s a corporate story or a parable. Perhaps you could still elaborate on this because it’s such an important topic.

JH: As a CEO myself, whether I’m speaking to my own team or to teams around the world or to someone who might come to an event where I’m speaking, it’s about how do I engage an audience? How do I give something of value? I’m thinking to myself about that audience. And if it’s a corporate message, being able to tell a story that helps people see, as I understand, that’s really what this is about. Bu, the best CEOs, the most effective ones, interact with people and can engage people and often they’re really good at telling the stories.

YS: I’m going to go to another question that came from the audience, and this is from David from Boca Raton. How do I handle a fellow staff member when your responsibilities put you in a superior position of another person who is your senior?

JH: It’s a tricky situation and tough situation, for sure. One of the things that that we teach is a first principle: try honestly to see things from the other person’s point of view. Recognizing that we’re working together, so how are you seeing this? How are you seeing me? How do I handle that situation? I try to have some level of understanding. Clearly, I’ve got a job to do. You’ve got to know that we’ve got to work together and get the results we have to get. But I’m going to have a sensitivity to the fact that if I come in and start telling you what to do that may cause some friction. In a situation like that, just recognize that you’ve got a person who’s probably proud of the work that they’ve done.

If they’re senior to you, maybe start by asking them their opinion. Hey, we’ve got a situation here, how would you recommend we handle it? Start by engaging, by listening, by appreciating, by demonstrating a level of respect and understanding, and then you can start to build a bridge. It’s not always easy, but begin in a friendly way.

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YS: This question came from Josh from Manhattan. If you could give just one tip, one piece of advice, what would you say is the key to success?

JH: This question is such a hard question. I think what Dale Carnegie might say is that everything starts with our attitude and our outlook. He collected quotes from great people and one of the quotes is from Marcus Aurelius, the Roman emperor, “Our lives are what our thoughts make it.” You have two people in the exact same situation, one who’s happy and one who’s miserable, and the difference is their thoughts. People need to have an awareness of how they think and really be open to the positive. What are the things that I can be grateful for right now? What can I build on? And in any one of us, no matter how bad the situation is, we’ve got a lot of things to be positive about. Do I focus on those or do I focus on the things that didn’t happen? It’s that mindset.

The second thing that I want to mention is about fear. There’s a great quote: “Everything you want is on the other side of fear.” Once we realize that life is going to involve things that are uncomfortable, and that what I want is going to require me to get out of my comfort zone and confront fears, that’s when amazing things can happen in our lives.

YS: My final question is going to be a takeaway, but perhaps we can even share some of the Dale Carnegie principles since they’re so valuable.

JH: Sure. Don’t criticize, condemn, or complain.

That could be misconstrued because clearly there are times we have to give people feedback and so forth. But, if we want to be a friendly person and if we want to build stronger relationships, how do we feel when we’re around people who are complaining all the time and criticizing us like, oh my gosh, it’s enough toxic! What are the things that we’re focused on? We have the ability in our interactions with other people to bring out greatness in them or to just to be negative, and so forth.

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Dating Dialogue

What Would You Do If… Moderated by Jennifer Mann, LCSW of The Navidaters

Dear Navidaters, I expect that my letter may be quite controversial. I’m wondering what your thoughts are on the matter. I am in my very early twenties and have been dating for a year. I’ve been told I have a beautiful face but that I am very overweight, and if I want to get serious about dating, I have to lose weight. I have been so upset that I never get past the second or third date with anyone and finally a shadchan sat me down and told me that the guys think I’m great but that I need to lose weight. I am not mad at her, and I kind of appreciate her honesty.

I want to lose weight for health reasons but now I kind of don’t want to do it if that is the only reason a guy will like me. Do you think I should lose the weight in order to increase the likelihood of a shidduch? Obviously, it would be great for my health, too. I know that. Or do you think the right guy will fall for me no matter my size? And do you think whatever your answers may be would be different if I were a guy?

Disclaimer: This column is not intended to diagnose or otherwise conclude resolutions to any questions.

Our intention is not to offer any definitive

conclusions to any particular question, rather offer areas of exploration for the author and reader. Due to the nature of the column receiving only a short snapshot of an issue, without the benefit of an actual discussion, the panel’s role is to offer a range of possibilities. We hope to open up meaningful dialogue and individual exploration.

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The Panel The Rebbetzin Rebbetzin Faigie Horowitz, M.S. don’t think this is a controversial subject at all. I will venture to guess that my colleagues on this forum will agree that a woman serious about dating for marriage should be realistic about contemporary ideals of feminine beauty. Today’s image is thin, whether we like it or not. You have what to offer, obviously, but G-d created people with eyes that work faster than brains. That’s just the way it is. So frame your positive attributes with an attractive figure. It’s substance that is more important but it needs to be showcased properly. If you are serious about dating, you will take the steps you need to take to get you into the pool of dating girls.

Getting on a high horse about principles is neither smart nor practical. I think that guys who are overweight are challenged in today’s world that is focused on fitness, health, and attractiveness. It is much more important, however, for women. That’s the way it is.

I think you are ready to hear this; you knew this was coming for a long time. Apparently, you wanted to hear this from the Dating Forum so now we are telling you. Go and do what you have been postponing for a while.

You have a lot to offer, as you know and evidenced by you getting some dates. So, go exercise and enjoy the health and dating opportunities. You can do it!

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The Mother Sarah Schwartz Schreiber, P.A. o, Dorothy, dating is not Disneyland. Only in Fantasyland do handsome princes fall in love with plus-size princesses. Only in Tomorrowland do single women call the shots and enjoy the upper hand in dating.

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fair process – no matter how beautiful, how slim, how wealthy, how brilliant, or how well-connected you are. Shidduchim, to put it bluntly, is a high-stakes competition.

And the competition can be fierce.

So, you put your best foot forward. If it means losing weight, as that courageously candid shadchan advised, find a nutritionist and start the journey. The benefits of a healthy diet far outweigh (did I just say that?) a more attractive silhouette. Sensible eating will leave you feeling more energized, more confident, and more empowered. That confidence is guaranteed to permeate all facets of your life – academic, professional, social, and personal. Talk about a win-win decision!

The choice is yours. You can nibble on cheesecake while you wait for Mr. Right to love you just the way you are; you can apply makeup to your beautiful face while you rage against a society obsessed with appearances and externals. Or you can look in the mirror and declare, I can do this: For Me.

The Shadchan Michelle Mond icture the scene. A teenager puts her mind to it: she is going to start saving up money for her future. She came to this conclusion herself, after witnessing a particularly close friend go through financial hardship in the early stages of marriage. Suddenly, one of her least favorite teachers comes on the scene and tells her what she already knows. The teacher goes into a doom and gloom speech about why it’s important for her financial future if she starts saving money early and explains how it will be catastrophic if she does not. Suddenly, she is not sure what she wants to do anymore. “If I save money will I just be doing what my annoying teacher thinks it is right?” “Maybe I want to blow all my money on CDs, fast food, and lattes” and “Who is she to tell me

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how to use my money? I can do whatever I want!” are some of the many thoughts crossing her mind at this subconscious junction.

The same thing is happening to you right now. You recognize the need to get serious about losing weight for health reasons (your personal line) and I quote, “I want to lose weight for health reasons,” however, the moment someone suggests it you bail out. This is so typical human nature!

I venture to say this is because your end goal is flawed. You should not want to lose weight because of guys, dating or shidduchim; rather, you should want to become healthier and feel good about yourself. Any path to health and weight loss will fail in the long run if it is not being done for yourself and your own health and wellness, not to mention connection to Hakadosh Baruch Hu. The quote

Sensible eating will leave you feeling more energized, more confident, and more empowered.

by Harold Stockburger holds true: If you focus on results, you will never change. If you focus on change, you will get results. To implement real, long-lasting change you must have internal motivation and a person-

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al goal in mind, only then can you challenge yourself in a healthy way.

Only Hashem knows when and where your bashert will show up; it is not for the panel to theorize whether it will be when you are a size 6X, 16, or 6 – this would be the same for a man or a woman. What I do know unequivocally is that if you do get healthy for yourself you will consequently feel happy, strong, rejuvenated, and confident in your own skin. Will you not then present as a more exuberant candidate not just for marriage, but for living a healthy, happy life in general? My point is, in short, if you are going to do this, do it for yourself. Hashem will take care of your bashert; you take care of you!

The Single Tova Wein osing weight for the purpose of increasing your shidduch prospects should never be because it is “the only reason” a guy will like you.

Obviously, anyone who is worthwhile will have a much longer list of “must haves” when it comes to dating. I’m sure you’re mature and intelligent enough to recognize that a prospective husband is looking for qualities that lie within, such as kindness and honesty and shared values.

That being said, a person is entitled to expect to be attracted to the person they are dating. Yes, there are definitely men (and women) out there who do not object to going out with an overweight individual.

Not every bride is a size 2. But if we are all being honest right now, it’s important to admit that many more people are weight-sensitive than not. And so, if you don’t mind limiting your prospects significantly, then that’s a call for you to make.

It’s just a fact of life that has to be accepted for what it’s worth – nothing more, nothing less.

Regarding a double standard, I would say that most likely there are more women than men who would be more inclined to overlook outer appearances. Perhaps it’s because

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We have to teach young women to love and accept their bodies.

(as old fashioned and ridiculous as this may sound) there are different expectations placed on women than there are on men. Whether they are willing to admit it or not, many men might see a women’s attractiveness as something high on their list, whereas a woman might substitute that need with a man’s work ethic, ambition, kindness or success, to name just a few possibilities.

Right now, your goal should be about becoming the best you can be – mostly for yourself but also because it will spill over onto your dating prospects. You are struggling with weight, and someone else might be struggling with shyness or time management issues.

We all have challenges to meet, and the more we grow as human beings, the more success we will hopefully attain in all areas of our lives. But we must make the effort, first and foremost, for ourselves.

Reader’s Response M.F. care about four things (4 H’s): Your relationship with Hashem, your health, your happiness, and you marrying the right husband.

And so I hope my response will reflect these priorities. Will losing weight affect: Your health? We both already agree, yes.

Your happiness? There is a lot of research how diet and exercise make individuals happier people, and I believe that’s a great baseline for the klal. Speaking to you as an individual, finding the right diet and exercise is essential. It has the ability to increase your happiness both chemically (the right foods and energy) as well as personally (based off of creating goals and accom-

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plishing them, higher self-esteem and more positive self-image). You mentioned: “I’ve been told I have a beautiful face,” but I want you to find yourself beautiful. As you continue to discuss this decision, part of me wants to encourage you to do it for yourself.

Your husband? This is a hard

one that only Hashem knows. I know many women of all shapes, sizes, and personalities who marry all various types of guys. And you only need that one guy who will love you and find you beautiful. That being said, the reality is that we encourage everyone to put their best foot forwa rd

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for shidduchim: girls should look presentable in the public eye, send only flattering pictures, get involved with volunteer world, etc.

Would more guys be interested in you if you lost weight? Yes. Would the right guy be more interested?

I don’t know. As shadchanim are telling you that you have a beautiful face and guys are going out with you, then maybe this is the change (read: hishtaldus) necessary for your basher t to come your way. I believe

it’s worth a shot.

Your relat ionship w it h Hashem? This, I think, is the most important. For someone who now diets and exercises, my happiness and health are much better, which allows me to serve Hashem with more simcha. But, chas v’shalom, if this will be done begrudgingly, it takes you further away (which I don’t believe will happen).

To summarize: Hashem loves you. And, iy”H, you’ll find your husband soon and he’ll love you as you are. In the interim, I believe this hishtadlus will behoove you and benefit you in so many ways.

living your healthiest and best life and attracting others who are living their healthiest and best life! Do I think that looking like you take care of yourself and your health is more attractive to most men? Yes, I do. Much in the same way a man who takes care of himself is more attractive to most women. This is human nature. We can be upset about it, but we can’t deny it.

Before you begin any weight loss journey, please consult with your doctor. I am not a nutritionist or a doctor, but I know that anything that is a fad or too extreme will not last. Don’t find a diet; find a new way of life.

If I ever had another career, it would be to help women reclaim their health, teach you what and how to eat, and help you feel excited about your

new life…and a healthy life is a new life. The benefits both physical and emotional are absolutely amazing.

All the best, Jennifer

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thank you for writing in. I carried this letter with me in my heart, not knowing how to respond, for quite some time. There will be women reading this, impressionable women. Young girls will be reading this as well. My message to you all is to love your body. Love it so much! Admire your beauty. Have gratitude for the things your body does for you every day. The places it takes you to, the things it allows you to see, taste, hear, smell, touch and experience. And take care of it. Make sure it is healthy so it can continue to carry you through life.

There is a big problem in shidduchim. This ideal body image of a skinny minnie girl with a teeny tiny waist is quite literally making women sick as they starve themselves to reach this goal.

I imagine the readership will be divided on this one, and I can only imagine the emails I will be receiving this week from our wonderful readers. Some will be angry with the responses of the panelists, and some will agree. This is polarizing. I want to approach my response with utmost sensitivity and apologize in advance if I will have offended anyone.

I am painfully aware of the young girls in shidduchim who aren’t eating normally in order to fit the mold

of what they think men find attractive…or what the men are told to find attractive. Studies show that men actually enjoy being with a woman with curves and who will sink her teeth into a juicy burger while on a date than being with a woman who is starving herself.

Someone who can take pleasure in the physical aspects of life, one example being enjoying food (in moderation), is a highly attractive quality to most men. We have to teach young women to love and accept their bodies! We have to help girls and women to stop abusing and punishing their bodies by withholding or bingeing on food. Anything excessive in either direction is unhealthy.

It is your body and ultimately your decision. (Though I do appreciate the honesty of your shadchan, and I applaud your maturity in appreciating her response.) If you are comfortable and feel good in your skin, power to you! However, being “very overweight,” is not good for your health.

And if you’ve been feeling down about your weight and your health, you may want to invest in yourself right now.

To me, it’s not about being a certain size for a man, as much as it is about

Jennifer Mann, LCSW is a licensed psychotherapist and dating and relationship coach working with individuals, couples and families in private practice in Hewlett, NY. She is looking forward to teaching a psychology course at Touro College in the fall. To set up a consultation or to ask questions, please call 516.224.7779.

Press 2 for Jennifer. Visit www.thenavidaters.com for more information. If you would like to submit a dating or relationship question to the panel anonymously, please email thenavidaters@gmail.com.

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Hi Readers!

Receiving your enthusiastic emails wanting to participate in the Reader’s Respond section has been wonderful! Just a reminder about how Reader Response works. Email thenavidaters@gmail. com with the subject line “Reader Response.” We will then ask you, in the order we receive your email, if you would like to respond to the coming week’s email. If you would like to respond to an already printed Navidaters Panel, please submit your answer to the editor at editor@fivetownsjewishhome.com. You can also join us on our FB page @thenavidaters on Sunday evenings to post your response to the week’s column. Interacting with you has been a pleasure! Thank you for all of your feedback.

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Dr. Deb

How to Build Healthy Self-Esteem in a Child

By Deb Hirschhorn, Ph.D.

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esearch shows that low self-esteem is associated with depression in adolescents and lower achievement in school. How can parents help their children to build healthy self-esteem?

High Self-Esteem Can be Dangerous One would think that it is obvious that children should have high self-esteem, but research shows otherwise.

For example, a child told he is “so smart” when his ability is only average could, conceivably, develop an unrealistically high opinion of his abilities. He could then be in for quite a shock when he performs below what he expected.

Another outcome could be that he stops making an effort to do well because he falsely assumes he doesn’t need to put effort out since he’s so smart.

Being told he’s smarter or better than others can lead to arrogance and callousness as well. Going to the extreme opposite end of the spectrum, John Rosemond, an author in this area, recommended breaking down children’s self-esteem so that it does not become artificially inflated. That’s really bad advice. The result of that tactic

can also be a child giving up trying: He figures that his parents are telling him he’s not so smart after all, so why make an effort to reach for the impossible?

The same conclusion came from research reported in the Journal of Social and Clinical Psychology in 2007.

Investigators attempted to encourage failing children to make more effort in school by sending them emails that said, “Students who have high self-esteem not only get better grades, but they remain self-confident and assured.” Therefore, each one needed to “hold your head-and your self-esteemhigh.” That plan backfired; those students’ grades actually dropped.

This makes sense. I imagine a failing student would look at the email and say, “This doesn’t apply to me. I’m not confident and assured. In fact, receiving this message rubs in my face that I’m not the one that fits this description.”

These different examples show that a child can end up with low self-esteem in spite of parents’ and educators’ efforts to accomplish the opposite. Then, the child that doesn’t think well of himself can turn to drugs, feel alienated, and fail in school.

So what’s the solution to helping a child develop realistic self-esteem?

A 2014 study in the Journal of Experimental Psychology made a distinction between “person praise” and “process praise.” An example of “person praise” might be “you’re so smart” while process praise could be “you tried hard.” The researchers had children play an internet game and children randomly received the person praise. The problem is that when children lost, they felt ashamed of losing so the message did not build up their self-esteem. The children who received process praise, on the other hand, were able to utilize it to keep on trying and keep up their morale.

Being Smart Creates Obligations There’s another reason why person praise is a mistake: If a child is smart, who should take credit? If you think about it, it is not the child; it’s a gift.

In fact, I would go further. If the child was given such a gift, then it seems to me that it carries with it a huge obligation. That is, gifts should not be squandered. Being smart is only the beginning: What you do with that potential

is what matters. So, to a smart child, a parent might say, “You were blessed to have been given a good head – now you need to show you appreciate that by working hard.”

In this way, the child is neither built up nor taken down because of his brains but rather shown the importance of putting it to good use. This, in turn, keeps his self-esteem intact; he can feel blessed to have been given this gift while at the same time he will recognize that it obligates him to use it well.

This method of dealing with the self-esteem issue can be thought of as a combination of process praise and taking a look at the big picture. That big picture refers to our relationship with our Creator and what He wants of us. In a sense, for a gifted child, it introduces humility into the mix so that the praise will not artificially inflate the child’s opinion of himself.

What to Say to a Child Who is Struggling Bringing in the big picture is actually quite powerful in helping children who have all different capabilities. For example, when a child is challenged

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We love you because you’re you.” This means that even if that child has been sitting in the principal’s office, our love for him does not diminish. In spite of the value of process praise over person praise, the message nevertheless here

in school, a parent can say, “Yes, it is harder for you than some of your classmates. But you know what? You are learning how to work hard. You’re developing patience and persistence.

These are amazing qualities. And your friends might not have that opportunity. So in the end, you are developing important qualities that students who find it easy may not develop.”

The same principle of combining process praise with a look at the big picture might also be useful in talking with children who are in trouble at school. Such children may have low self-esteem for any number of reasons.

Perhaps there was a divorce, or parents are too busy with finances or illness to pay attention to him. Perhaps messages he received in school about his abilities or how well he fit in were hurtful. How do we build up that self-esteem?

The most important message a parent can give a child is: “You’re okay. We love you because you’re you.”

is person praise. Why? The answer is that we are not praising behavior but rather conveying acceptance of who he is. The teen should not feel that we are disappointed in him because this will lead to further depression and a greater detour onto the wrong path.

The Key is to Accept the Child The most important message a parent can give a child is: “You’re okay.

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us. We accept a person because he is who he is even if we don’t quite know who he is.

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ant message of global acceptance and unconditional love but process praise lets the child know his strengths.

Thus, the parents might also say to him, “You were so kind to help your younger brother do X,” or “You always have been a respectful person/hard worker/neat and clean/whatever and we appreciate that.” The key is to find things you truly regard in your child and then offer them to him or her in the course of conversation. It is no surprise that if the process praise is based on good character, it is that much more powerful. The goal is for the child to start knowing himself and feeling good about who he is. Rather than achieve high self-esteem, the result is having realistic self-esteem, and that is so much more valuable.

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Health & F tness

Preferring Prevention Over Intervention The Case of Preventive Pediatric Health Care

By Hylton I. Lightman, MD, DCH (SA), FAAP

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ou’ve heard from the doctor. It might be a postcard in the mail.

Perhaps a “robo” call, text, or an email. The doctor’s office is reaching out to you, informing you that your child is due for a well checkup. By asking parents to please call the office to schedule the well visit, there is literally a “call to action.”

You may not be in the mood to deal with it. You might even be thinking, “Well, does my child or adolescent still need the well visits?”

Please take the call seriously and schedule the well visit.

I’m here to inform you definitively that, yes, your child (and every person, for that matter) should have an annual physical or well visit. It is important to be proactive about one’s health and the annual physical is the time to establish the baseline for what’s going on with your health.

Well visits come under the category of “prevention.” Prevention is the proactive process that empowers individuals and systems to create con-

ditions that promote the wellbeing of people. The well visit is so important that more time is allocated to it than to the sick visit because there is more to be accomplished. Also, because each patient and family is unique, the well visit requires time because we want to know your children.

Most pediatric well visits do not yield too many surprises. Thank G-d.

We check height, weight and Body Mass Index (BMI), blood pressure, and urine. The urine exam can sometimes reveal when a person is diabetic or has a kidney disease.

Although all of us are guilty (to some extent) of not sufficiently monitoring our children and their sugar intake, I beg rebbes, morahs and teachers, now that the school year has begun, not to ply their students with nosh. It is totally unnecessary to reward the children for learning or behaving well with candy or sodas. An apple a day will make them just as happy to learn and to play. And you might even then keep the doctor and

dentist at bay: may you see us for well visits only.

Further, healthier snacks from home are important. Generally, they are healthier. Also check the sugar content of the multitude of yogurts presently available. Schools should restock the high caloric vending machines with appropriate drinks and snacks. Diet soda does not mean that it is better than regular soda. Water and seltzer are always the preference.

Then there is the physical exam.

At some ages, there are mental health screenings (which thankfully most kids answer honestly so if there are issues, physicians and other providers can address them). Vision and hearing will be checked as well as backs for scoliosis. Genitalia are checked. This is important for tracking puberty and overall development. Rarely, although it happens, testicular cancer has been diagnosed during a routine well visit as well as varicoceles in males. When things are caught early, the prognosis is so much more optimistic. Girls are

made aware of self-breast exams.

For teens, the annual well visit is an opportune time for them to begin learning how to take care of themselves medically and how to advocate for themselves in this area. Sleep patterns are discussed as are healthy eating patterns. Doctors and teen patients often speak frankly about psychosocial issues and unhealthy behaviors like smoking, vaping, juuling, and drinking, etc. The more tweens and teens understand about their own physical and overall development, the greater the likelihood they will be involved in their own health care now and as adults and, please G-d, with their children. This is a good thing.

There is a lot of pressure on today’s youth from within and without frum society. The antinomian view of the secular world, gender fluidity, and egalitarian humanistic approach causes much angst and confusion in the adolescent (and his or her parents).

The more teens and tweens understand their own physical health and

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overall development, the greater the likelihood they will be involved in their own health care now and as adults and, please G-d, with their children. This is a good thing.

I’m a big fan of bloods being done at certain ages. The CBC, which is a “complete blood count,” affords us a glimpse into one’s “inner workings.”

Nowadays, it’s not uncommon for kids to have high cholesterol, to have been exposed to Lyme disease, and who knows what else. But there is so much we can do when we have the information and can proactively intervene.

It’s not uncommon to arrest and even to reverse something negative from developing. Healthy eating, exercise, and correct lifestyle choices make healthy human beings (unless one has an unlucky genetic predisposition to illnesses).

Different ages require different vaccines. Readers know that I believe in the efficacy of vaccines. The science and research that produces and backs them up is outstanding. I advise and

encourage my patients to have the flu vaccine. It is not perfect and there have been many cases of flu this season even after being vaccinated. The flu vaccine is made of dead flu viruses except for the flu vaccine administered nasally.

The American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) recommends that all children ages 6 months and above receive the flu vaccine, ideally by the end of October. This will help to ensure that protection is in place before the flu and

Healthy eating, exercise, and correct lifestyle choices make healthy human beings.

Since they’re dead, you can’t catch the flu from them. Also, when you get a vaccine, it takes about 2 weeks for your body to be ready to fight. In addition, many viruses mimic flu symptoms.

Nonetheless, the flu vaccine mitigates against stronger symptoms and a person becoming even sicker. Lest we forget, the flu can kill people.

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its nasty germs begin circulating and rendering harm.

In addition, please teach children and adolescents that they can fight the spread of the flu and other germs.

How? • Wash hands frequently • Sanitize toys (give your children Lysol wipes to clean toys – that’s an

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activity) • Cough into their elbows As a pediatrician, my focus first and foremost is on keeping children healthy. However, I am using this forum to advocate for flu vaccines for all, particularly pregnant women (after discussing this with their obstetricians) and people ages 65+ years.

This Sunday, September 15, we are holding a “Back to School Extravaganza” at our office. It will be replete with a bounce house, face painting, balloons and a Cholov Yisrael ice cream truck.

We will be providing flu vaccines to our pediatric patients. We are celebrating the beginning of the new school year and trying to remain healthy.

As always, daven.

Dr. Hylton I. Lightman is a pediatrician and Medical Director of Total Family Care of the 5 Towns and Rockaway PC. He can be reached at drlightman@totalfamilycaremd.com, on Instagram at Dr.Lightman_ or visit him on Facebook.

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leaving

KOLLEL

a three-part series

PART II: DEALING WITH YOUR INTERNAL WORLD By: Yeshaya Kraus, LCSW

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ou’ve come to a decision.

You’ve spoken with industry leaders, as well as with those working lower down on the totem pole. You and your wife have conferred with your mentor, and you’re both satisfied with what this career path may mean to you on a spiritual level. You’ve determined that this is it. The financial future looks good, expected hours are acceptable, the commute means you’ll be home for bedtime (yours?

The kids’? Gotta look into that again).

You’ve looked into what kind of education you’re going to need in order to move down the path you’ve chosen in a professionally respectable way.

You’ve determined that it’s not beyond your reach.

Now comes the big step. It’s time to leave.

Up until now, your research and analysis has been theoretical. From now on, it’s real. This is going to be your life going forward. You’re going to feel the difference, both in terms of the practical and logistical details,

and in terms of the spiritual parts of your life.

Whether you’re going cold turkey, jumping into full-time school and driving an Uber on the side to pay the bills, or staying one or two sedorim in yeshiva while your plumbing business builds, there’s a feeling of loss when the average yungerman steps out of the beis medrash for the last time as a full-time member of the kollel. It may seem like a small step for other men, but it’s a giant one for you.

There are a lot of different factors that contribute to this particular difficulty. It’s worth sitting down with someone to sort through it. Here’s a brief sampling of thoughts that go through the minds of many people: • “I failed.”

• “I’m scared.”

• “How will my friends look at me?”

• “How can I let my wife down like this? She married a learner, not a (fill in the blank).”

• “I’m never going to be able to learn again. My growing years are

over.”

• “Hashem is upset at me because I didn’t learn/daven/ act appropriately. That’s why this happened.”

There are more, obviously. Everyone has their own experience to work through, their own mindset to struggle with. If you give it some thought, you may begin to notice that whatever mindset is present when you leave is closely related to the mindset you went in to kollel with. It may be the exact same one, or just a close extension. There’s nothing new under the sun in general, and certainly not in terms of your emotional reactions.

This is not an easy perspective to consider. While in yeshiva, you staved off that mindset, that little voice, by being involved in learning. Something about learning fulltime helped you to feel better about yourself. How can you combat these thoughts now? You’re going to need some kind of answer, and a valid one at that. The little voice won’t be satisfied with answers that don’t really address the core issues. It’s important to understand where these ideas

originally stem from.

In speaking with numerous yungerleit, it’s come out that there are largely two underlying motivations that urge people to go into kollel.

They may be dressed up differently, but they generally fall under two categories: l’shma and shelo l’shma.

This may seem harsh. “What do you mean? Of course, I’m learning l’shma! I was working towards becoming a talmid chacham!” This may be true, and I don’t mean to attack anyone’s motivations for doing what they’re doing. This is an important point to consider, though, and may help people come to terms with and thrive in their new situation.

When a person does something purely l’shma, or because that’s what Hashem wants, there’s a huge degree of self-bitul that’s involved. The ideal mindset of someone learning l’shma would be, “My own needs and interests don’t matter right now. I’m channeling my strengths and talents into learning, because this is what Hashem wants. This is what I’m going to do, at least for right now.” The

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addition of personal negius, or lack of bitul, is where the “I” creeps into it. “It’s what Hashem wants. It’s also what my wife/rebbi/parents want.

My friends look up to me for it, and I like feeling good about learning.

Gonna get me some Gan Eden, too.”

The most dangerous one: “Hashem will be angry at me for not learning.”

If you’re honestly doing it for the sake of Hashem, consider that just as Hashem put you in a position to learn up until now, He’s putting you in a different position going forward. You need to do yours, and you need to live in the situation He’s given you. That’s what He wants from you. Leaving kollel ends up being not such a big shift in mindset. It’s a simple matter of practicality: How can I do what He wants in this situation? If you work with it, you’ll figure it out. You may need some assistance, but you’ll get there if that’s your goal.

When you worry about what others might think, that suggests that you weren’t really concerned ex-

clusively about doing what Hashem wants to begin with. It may have been a big part of it, but it’s not the whole thing. That’s OK. That’s normal, and it’s part of being human. It’s worth focusing on those feelings and under-

THERE’S A FEELING OF LOSS WHEN THE AVERAGE YUNGERMAN STEPS OUT OF THE BEIS MEDRASH FOR THE LAST TIME AS A FULL-TIME MEMBER OF THE KOLLEL. standing why they’ve been there for so long. They’re hurting you now, and they’ve probably hurt you in the past.

Maybe it’s time to do away with them.

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these external trappings.

Sit down with a trusted mentor.

It could be a friend, a rav, or a family member. It could even be a therapist.

If you want to be your best self, you need to sort through these feelings and make sense of them. If you don’t, you will always be subject to their whims. Your decisions will be based on fears, concerns, and worries, instead of on your own balanced and rational power of choice. A life strung together with decisions based on fear and worry is not yours.

It’s only your life if you’re in the driver’s seat.

Yeshaya Kraus, LCSW, is a psychotherapist in Far Rockaway who works with individuals, couples, and parents. He is particularly passionate about working with yungerleit and their wives, helping them navigate the kollel exit experience and orienting to their new reality, on both practical and emotional levels. He can be reached at yykraus@gmail.com or at 917412-5824.

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Health & F tness

A Healthy Seminary Year

By Aliza Beer MS, RD, CDN

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t’s that time of the year again!

Kids go back to school, and high school graduates go off to Israel for a year (or two, or three…) to seminaries and yeshivas. The boys typically either lose or maintain their weight, and the girls usually gain – sometimes a significant amount. It is not uncommon to see girls return home at the end of the year with an extra 20 pounds! Why does this happen, and what can be done to inhibit this weight gain?

The girls tend to be more “social” than the boys and eat out in restaurants a lot. They have more free time in the evenings, unlike the boys who are sitting and learning in the bais medrash. The differences in schedules leads to different behaviors and subsequently very different outcomes. The following guidelines should help girls in seminary avert seminary weight gain disaster.

• Cooking Facilities: Find out what the girls have access to in seminary, i.e. fridge/freezer, stovetop, oven, microwave, sandwich maker, George Forman grill, etc. in order to develop a game plan. The more appliances available, the better, but some can have multiple uses.

For example, a sandwich maker or George Forman grill can be used to

make eggs as well. If the seminary doesn’t provide any appliances, find out what is allowed and order those appliances to be delivered, so they are ready and waiting.

• Send Supplies: I know luggage space is very much at a premium and Israel is not a third world country, but send a few staples in your daughter’s luggage/carryon so she doesn’t have to scrounge around looking for them when she first arrives. Important items include one

• Research the Menu: Each seminary provides meals differently. Some serve all three meals a day, some only one or two, and some none at all. Find out what meals are served and speak to girls that attended the seminary recently about what foods are offered. The results of your research will help you determine what appliances are needed and what foods should be put on the shopping list.

• Restaurants: Avoid bread-

You don’t have to say yes to the bread basket every single time it’s offered to you.

box of high fiber cereal, low-fat powdered peanut butter (like PB2), one box of whole wheat crackers or melba toast, organic fruit leather (like Matt’s Munchies), and no sugar added, high fiber protein bars (like No Cow Bars).

ed and deep-fried foods! Also, you don’t have to say yes to the bread basket every single time it’s offered to you. Very often, the portion sizes are too big, so try sharing an entrée with a friend; you will save money and calories!

• Walk: Weather permitting, walk as much as possible. It will help burn off those extra calories and you’ll get to explore the Holy Land. During the winter months consider joining a gym, and go at least three times a week.

• Smart Snacks: Instead of buying bread and chocolate spread try buying some fruits and veggies to munch and crunch on. The PB2 would go great with an apple or celery. Look for dehydrated fruit snacks without added sugar in the winter when the fruit options are not as robust.

• The Rebbetzin to the Rescue: If the seminary has a reputation of poor quality/selection of food, then consider buying homemade food from a female entrepreneur. There are many rebbetzins or other local women that have built thriving businesses catering to the dietary needs of the yeshiva/seminary student population.

• Shomer Shabbos: Most Shabbosim the girls are eating out meals in other people’s homes and are not in control. Make the best choices from the available options.

Control the challah and avoid the dips for the most part – they only lead you to eat more challah! Eat

the fish, soup, chicken, and any veggie/veggie kugel/salad that’s available. Minimize portions of potato/noodle kugels, and try to keep dessert to just a few bites per meal when possible. Don’t skip lunch on Friday. You will only come starving to Friday night dinner and you will overeat at the meal!

• Check the Scale: It’s a good idea for the girls to weigh themselves once every few weeks.

Seeing the number on the scale will help deter some new and unhealthy behaviors or habits. If one sees that the scale is steadily climbing, then perhaps they will curb their sufganiot enthusiasm on Chanukah and have only one or two doughnuts instead of 10 or 12. I wouldn’t advise the girls to keep a scale in their rooms – it might lead some to unhealthy obsessive behaviors – but perhaps a madricha or aim bayis can keep one for the girls to use every once in a while.

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cuss a plan including options for the daily meals and how best to navigate Shabbos and eating out in restaurants. Encourage healthy eating and making the best choices from available options. If you have a picky eater or the food is subpar, then investigate alternatives. Emphasizing adequate water hydration and portion control will be helpful as well. As always, if you or the seminary notice any unhealthy or disordered relationship to food developing, then consult with your physician immediately.

Wishing all the seminary and yeshiva students much hatzlacha in the coming year!

learning, emotional and spiritual growth. It is the first time that these teenagers/young adults are getting a real taste of independence. With this newfound independence comes many challenges, some that are dif-

ficult to overcome. Approach this year with the knowledge that it is an imperfect situation in terms of food, and the girls can only do their best.

Preparation is key to successfully minimizing weight gain. Dis-

Aliza Beer is a registered dietitian with a master’s degree in nutrition. She has a private practice in Cedarhurst, NY. Patients’ success has been featured on the Dr. Oz show. Aliza can be reached at alizabeer@gmail.com, and you can follow her on Instagram at @alizabeer.

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In The K

tchen

Perfect French Fries

By Naomi Nachman

Who doesn’t like French fries? (FYI, in Australia we call them “hot chips”.) Here is the traditional way to make French fries. It’s also fun to make fries with the kids so they can see the process involved in making this iconic food.

The kids can help peel and cut the potatoes and can also help make the sauces. The key is to pre-heat the oil to the right temperature and to fry them twice.

Ingredients 5 lb. russet potatoes Vegetable, canola or peanut oil for frying Sea salt

Preparation Peel and rinse the potatoes, then cut them into sticks by cutting each potato in four or five vertical pieces, then cutting each piece into sticks. Place them in a large bowl and cover with cold water. Allow them to soak for two or three hours. (You can also stick them in the fridge and let them soak for several hours or overnight.)

When you’re ready to make the fries, drain off the water and lay them on two baking sheet lined with paper towels. Blot them with paper towels to dry them.

Heat a few inches of oil in a heavy pot to 300°F. Use an oil thermometer to determine the temperature.

Fry the potatoes for about 4 to 5 minutes per batch (in 3 or 4 separate batches. Don’t overcrowd the pan) or until the potatoes are soft (but not crisp).

They should not be brown at all at this point! You just want to start the cooking process.

Remove each batch and drain them on paper towels.

Once all the potatoes have been fried once, turn up the heat until the oil reaches 375°F. When the oil reaches the right temperature, you can start frying the potatoes in batches again, cooking until the fries are golden and crisp. Remove from the oil and drain the fries on paper towels.

Sprinkle fries with sea salt.

Dipping Sauces Ingredients Creamy Garlic Dipping Sauce 1/3 cup mayo ¼ cup sour cream 2 cloves minced garlic ¼ teaspoon smoked paprika Pinch of salt ¼ teaspoon black pepper

Spicy Chili Mayonnaise 1 cup mayonnaise 2 teaspoons sriracha sauce 1 teaspoon garlic chili sauce 1 teaspoon lemon or lime juice

Preparation To prepare the sauces, mix all the sauce ingredients together in a small bowl until smooth. Serve with the French fries.

Naomi Nachman, the owner of The Aussie Gourmet, caters weekly and Shabbat/ Yom Tov meals for families and individuals within The Five Towns and neighboring communities, with a specialty in Pesach catering. Naomi is a contributing editor to this paper and also produces and hosts her own weekly radio show on the Nachum Segal Network stream called “A Table for Two with Naomi Nachman.” Naomi gives cooking presentations for organizations and private groups throughout the New York/New Jersey Metropolitan area. In addition, Naomi has been a guest host on the QVC TV network and has been featured in cookbooks, magazines as well as other media covering topics related to cuisine preparation and personal chefs. To obtain additional recipes, join The Aussie Gourmet on Facebook or visit Naomi’s blog. Naomi can be reached through her website, www.theaussiegourmet.com or at (516) 295-9669.

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Notable Quotes “Say What?!”

Is it fair for us to expect our children to continue the cycle of family and generation in a world whose chaotic climate future we knowingly create and so far have done little to address?

- Audience member’s question at CNN’s climate change forum with the 2020 Democratic primary candidates

The answer is yes.

- 2020 hopeful Sen. Bernie Sanders when asked by an audience member at the CNN climate change forum whether curbing population growth would be part of a plan that he would enact as president

Call an election, you great big girl’s blouse.

What are you going to do in the next one year to diminish the mentally retarded actions of this guy?

- British Prime Minister Boris Johnson goading opposition Labour leader Jeremy Corbyn for not backing a new general election

- An audience member to 2020 presidential candidate Sen. Kamala Harris (D-CA) at a campaign rally

There’s only one chlorinated chicken that I can see…and he’s on that bench.

Well said. Well said. Well, I plan to win this election, I’ll tell you that.

- Ibid., while pointing at Corbyn

- Sen. Harris responding, while chuckling

When my staff played the video from my town hall yesterday, it was upsetting. I didn’t hear the words the man used in that moment, but if I had, I would’ve stopped and corrected him. I’m sorry. That word and others like it aren’t acceptable. Ever.

- Tweet by Sen. Harris the following day, after facing a backlash

If I can still dive and my buddies are willing to dive with me, I hope I can do it again next year.

-World War II veteran Ray Woolley, 96, after breaking his own record as the world’s oldest active scuba diver for the third year running, plunging to the depths of the equivalent of a 15-story building to explore a shipwreck off Cyprus

I know you guys wanted Serena to win, so I’m so sorry.

- Tennis player Bianca Andreescu, 19, of Canada, apologizing at her press conference for defeating Serena Williams in the U.S. Open

Because I didn’t read the article all the way through.

- Democrat Valerie Plame, who is running for New Mexico’s 3rd Congressional District, on CNN, excusing herself for posting an anti-Semitic article on Twitter in 2017 by claiming that she didn’t realize that the article was anti-Semitic because she did not read the whole article. (The article was titled “America’s Jews are Driving America’s Wars,” and Plame’s tweet said, “Read the entire article”)

He’s got some talent.

- Attorney Barry Levine after his client John Hinckley Jr., 64, who shot President Regan in 1981, asked his parole board for permission to move to California to pursue his dream of being in the music business

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In my job, I’m always asked what I like here in the State of Israel in my role, what makes an impression, and my answer is everything. It’s a great country, and when they say to me, “Give us one good place anyway,” so I can say Jerusalem, the Holy City, Tel Aviv for business, the Dead Sea, which is the lowest place in the world, Masada, Tiberias, Tzfat, etc. All places are the correct answer, but you cannot complete the answer without mentioning the city of Sderot, without saying this place.

A place that proves that Jews will be in Eretz Yisrael forever and ever.

–U.S. Ambassador to Israel David Friedman at the inauguration ceremony for expanding the beis medrash at the Sderot Yeshiva this week

So it is past time to end the failed war on drugs, and it begins with legalizing marijuana.

- From 2020 hopeful Sen. Kamala Harris’ just released criminal reform plan

He’s done about as much to find out who did the Sharpie thing as O.J. Simpson has done to find out the murderers.

- Rep. Steve Cohen (D-TN) on MSNBC while waving a Sharpie pen and discussing “Sharpiegate,” referring to when President Trump used a Sharpie-altered map while talking about Hurricane Dorian

It is quite ironic and saddening that the people who are most vulnerable to these man-made storms are the ones who, in all cases, are not the contributing factors to the carbon emissions that are causing these storms.

- Emory University Professor Tiphanie Yanique on PBS, calling Hurricane Dorian a “man-made” storm

We find things on trains every day. I saw a lot of paperwork – that was a clue that it probably wasn’t anything nefarious going on.

- Long Island Rail Road conductor Jerry Savino after finding and returning $9,000 in cash to a commuter on the Hempstead rush hour train, explaining that he spotted a large folder on the overhead rack of a train on Thursday evening

Cilla Carden has a problem with her neighbors cooking meat on their BBQ, because she’s a vegan. Recently taking them to the Supreme Court!

Don’t let Cilla destroy a good old Aussie tradition. Join us for a community BBQ in protest of her actions, and help Cilla Carden GET SOME PORK ON HER FORK. BYO hotdog buns, p.s. NO VEGANS -Poster for a massive barbeque to take place in Australia next door to the home of vegan Cilla Carden who unsuccessfully sued her neighbors for barbequing meat and offending her senses

If I (am) to be concerned with IEA projections, I’ll probably be on Prozac all the time.

- Saudi Arabia’s Prince Abdulaziz bin Salman, who is the country’s oil minister, speaking at an international energy forum

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We did our trade mission to Israel a couple of months ago. We had an opportunity to put a prayer into the Western Wall. And, so I wrote on my prayer, “Good L-rd, spare us from hurricanes this year.” So we will see if that prayer ends up being answered.

– Florida Governor Ron DeSantis talking to the media during preparations for Hurricane Dorian, when it was projected to make landfall in Florida

Well, look, all I can tell you is last week the storm was a beeline, a buzz saw, above Florida, and it stalled out and turned 90 degrees to the north. So if we had a hand in assisting that, I’m not going to argue with the Big Guy upstairs.

– Ibid., when asked about the note by a reporter, after the storm ended up turning away from Florida at the last minute

I keep my checks until the end of the season to make sure I don’t spend any money. And then at the end of the season, I deposit it.

If we could keep that down a little bit.

- New England Patriots defensive end Michael Bennet, who has made $59 million so far over his career, on the “Kneading Dough” podcast talking about how he makes sure not to blow his earnings

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Political Crossfire

Senate Democrats’ Unprecedented Threat Against the Supreme Court

By Marc A. Thiessen

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n 2017, Senate Minority Leader Charles Schumer, D-N.Y., accused President Trump of showing “a disdain for an independent judiciary that doesn’t always bend to his wishes” after Trump criticized a federal judge who ruled against his administration. Senate Democrats, by contrast, have launched an unprecedented attempt to actually bend the Supreme Court to their wishes – threatening to restructure the court if the justices do not rule as they see fit.

The threat came over the Supreme Court’s decision to hear a challenge to New York City’s restrictions on how gun owners who have residential permits can transport their guns. In a legal brief, Sens.

Sheldon Whitehouse, D-R.I., Mazie Hirono, D-Hawaii, Richard Blumenthal, D-Conn., and Kirsten Gillibrand, D-N.Y., argued that the case against New York was moot because it had rescinded the gun regulations in question. Fair enough. It is perfectly fine for the senators to make legal arguments in a legal brief to the court.

What is not acceptable is openly threatening the court with political retribution if it does not rule a certain way. That is precisely what these

Senate Democrats did. “The Supreme Court is not well,” they wrote. “And the people know it. Perhaps the Court can heal itself before the public demands it be ‘restructured to reduce the influence of politics.’” As all 53 Senate Republicans wrote in a letter to the court last week, “the implication is as plain as day: Dismiss the case, or we’ll pack the Court.”

Talk about disdain for an independent judiciary! Can you imagine if Trump issued such a preemptive threat? Heads would explode. And in contrast to Trump’s impulsive Twitter rants, the Democrats issued their threat in a carefully crafted legal brief submitted to the court. They thought this through and decided that blackmailing the Supreme Court was a good idea.

Not only was their brief inappropriate; it also was brimming with cognitive dissonance. The Democrats accused the Supreme Court of being too political, but their plan to “reduce the influence of politics” on the court is to have senators order the justices how to decide or face political consequences? What utter hypocrisy.

Keep in mind that these are not backbenchers. Among the signatories to the brief is Durbin, the second-ranking Democratic leader in

the Senate. He should know that the Supreme Court is an equal branch of government that does not answer to the Senate, much less its minority.

The Democrats justify their unprecedented intimidation tactics by pointing out that since 2005, the court has issued 78 5-to-4 or 5-to3 opinions in which Republican appointees provided all five votes in the majority. “With bare partisan majorities,” they declared, “the Court has influenced sensitive areas like voting rights, partisan gerrymandering, dark money, union power, regulation of pollution, corporate liability, and access to federal court, particularly regarding civil rights and discrimination in the workplace. Every single time, the corporate and Republican political interests prevailed.”

Give me a break. In each of the cases to which they object, the liberal bloc voted in unison as well. Were they behaving as a “partisan” minority? Senate Democrats would have no problem with these 5-to-4 decisions if they had been decided by a liberal majority. Their complaint is not with the rise of “political influence” on the court, but rather with their lack of political influence on the court.

The judicial left has gone off the deep end because it is losing its bat-

tle for an activist liberal court. When Justice Antonin Scalia died in 2016, they saw a once-in-a-lifetime chance to shift the ideological direction of the court for a generation. By appointing two conservative justices, Trump has thwarted those dreams.

And now they are worried, due to concerns over Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg’s health, that Trump might get a third appointment. So, many Democrats are now openly talking about adding more justices if they gain power.

Those threats will backfire because they dramatically raise the stakes in the 2020 election. In 2016, over a quarter of Trump voters said that the Supreme Court was the most important factor in their decision to support him. With Trump already having secured a conservative majority on the court, his ability to appoint justices was shaping up to be a less powerful argument this time around.

But now that Democrats have threatened to pack the court with liberal judges if they win the White House and the Senate, the Supreme Court will once again be front and center.

For the president, this is a massive stroke of luck. (c) 2019, Washington Post Writers Group

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Political Crossfire

Trump’s Personal Diplomacy in China is No Substitute for Clear Policy

By David Ignatius

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s we move into the fall, there’s one overriding foreign-policy priority for America: find a strategy to deal with a rising China that protects U.S. interests but doesn’t subvert the global economy.

China is the challenge of our time, and the risks of getting it wrong are enormous. Huawei, the Shenzen-based communications powerhouse, argues in a slick new YouTube video that its critics want to create a new Berlin Wall. That’s not true – Huawei and other Chinese tech companies have allegedly been stealing intellectual property for years and are finally being held accountable – but there’s a real danger that America will talk itself into a digital Cold War that lasts for decades.

We’re at a crossroads: at a conference on U.S.-China relations last month at the University of California, San Diego, a Chinese participant offered a blunt prediction about the future: “We think we are heading toward a partial decoupling of our relationship.” Trump administration officials argue that China has been decoupling itself – denying access to Western firms, even as America and its allies provided technology, training and market access.

But what comes next? Trump administration officials hope that prog-

ress toward a trade deal may happen at last, now that a meeting with a senior Chinese official has been set for October. But Myron Brilliant, who runs the U.S. Chamber of Commerce’s international programs, cautions, “There’s a trust deficit between Washington and Beijing that needs to be restored before there’s progress.”

President Trump reiterated last Wednesday that the administration plans to deny Huawei access to American technology. “It’s a national security concern,” Trump told reporters at the White House. “Huawei is a big concern of our military, of our intelligence agencies, and we are not doing business with Huawei.” That leaves a little wiggle room, but not much.

White House officials tell me the Chinese are mistaken if they think the administration is seeking to cripple China technologically. Officials say their goal isn’t a rerun of the anti-Soviet strategy of containment, but something more flexible. One administration official says his colleagues sometimes refer to this still-unnamed strategy simply as “the noun.”

The Trump administration’s problem is that it has gutted the national security process that could devise a systematic plan for dealing with China. Instead, policy is highly personalized, and shaped by Trump’s erratic

decision-making style. “President Trump is our desk officer on China,” says Michael Pillsbury, an informal White House adviser on Asia policy.

Strange as it sounds, that’s probably accurate.

This administration’s sharp policy debates on China strategy are exacerbated because there’s no decision-making process to resolve them.

On one side are China hawks like White House adviser Peter Navarro; on the other are would-be deal-makers like Treasury Secretary Steven Mnuchin. In the middle is Secretary of State Mike Pompeo, who seems to have an instinct for where Trump will eventually land.

“On no issue is the lack of a policy process more visible or dramatic than China,” says Kurt Campbell, who oversaw Asia policy in the Obama administration. He contrasts how the presidents of the world’s two superpowers spent the last weeks of summer. President Xi Jinping met with top party officials at a beach resort and emerged with a new honorific, the “People’s Leader.” Trump spent those weeks in very public and sometimes self-destructive Twitter barrages, at home and abroad.

Trump has a simple four-word summary of his China baseline, notes one administration official: “Xi is my

friend.” Personal diplomacy has its uses, but it’s no substitute for clear policy.

Framing a real China strategy should be Job 1 for Trump (and his successor in 2021, if he’s defeated).

Pillsbury described the scope of the challenge in the title of his 2016 book, “The Hundred-Year Marathon.” He told me this week: “We need to change the trajectory that we’re on now. That means running faster and slowing them down.” That’s a good formulation, but both goals require disciplined U.S. policy, something in short supply.

Making good decisions about China (and, implicitly, about the future of global technology) requires a sound U.S. policymaking structure.

The best idea I’ve heard is a bipartisan bill introduced this year by Sen. Marco Rubio, R-Fla., and Sen. Mark Warner, D-Va., to create a new “Office of Critical Technologies and Security” to oversee decisions about China and other key countries.

Trump was right to take the China trade and technology problem more seriously than his predecessors. But the time for Twitter diplomacy and deals with “my friend” Xi is over. U.S. moves on this chessboard should be guided by clear planning, not whim. (c) 2019, Washington Post Writers Group

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Forgotten Her es

Military Bands Part I

By Avi Heiligman

A military band at a Union camp during the Civil War

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ot all jobs in the military have to do with shooting a rifle on the front lines. In fact, only one in seven American soldiers during World War II were actual frontline combatants. Many were medics, truck drivers, and clerks, among a lot of other positions that did not require the soldier to fight in foxholes. One of the more interesting units in the military is the unit of musical bands. In the U.S., military bands date back before the Revolutionary War and have a long, storied history since the mid-eighteenth century.

Music has been a part of military culture for thousands of years. In the past three centuries a few distinct types of bands have emerged. Marching bands or military field music typically use wind instruments like bugles, trumpets and bagpipes accompanied by drums. These are mainly seen in parades and historically have led troops into battle. Some modern military bands include woodwind and brass instruments. Mounted bands on horses emerged over 100 years ago.

For many, it is a great honor to serve in a military band whether on parade, on stage during a performance, or some other duty where music is being played.

European military bands since the Middle Ages had become part of their culture while on and off the battlefield.

The American colonies soon picked up on this culture. The earliest known music played by colonial militias date

back to 1633 in Virginia. In 1756, Colonel Benjamin Franklin, regimental commander of Philadelphia, marched with military musicians and is one of the earliest known military band in the colonies. Three years earlier, a band of fifteen oboes and a number of drums was organized for the local New Hampshire troops.

Musical accompaniment during the Revolutionary War mainly used fifes and drums. Bugles also played a role in the war as they were used in important battles such as the engagement at Saratoga. Bands became a regular part of the American military and served with distinction during the War of 1812 and the Mexican-American War. It took until 1798, when the Marine Corps Band was established, for bands to become an organized part of the military. Known as “The President’s Own,” the Marine Band has a long connection with U.S. presidents dating back to 1801.

On New Year’s Day of that year President John Adams had the band perform in the White House which had just become the executive mansion a couple of months earlier. President Thomas Jefferson requested that the Marine Band play at his inauguration – a tradition that is still continued over 200 years later. The most famous director of the Marine Band was composer John Phillip Sousa. Under his leadership, the band became the foremost band in the military. Known as

the March King, two of Sousa’s most well-known marches are the National March of the U.S., “Stars and Stripes Forever,” and “Semper Fidelis,’ the official march of the Marine Corps.

Today the Marine Band has over 500 performances every year and has a full complement of 130 members.

In the years leading up to the American Civil War and during the conflict, musicians were trained at the School of Practice for U.S.A. Field Musicians at Governor’s Island, New York. Three quarters of all Union regiments had a band and were very popular among soldiers. Most regiments had a bugler – which was not necessarily part of the band – and had unique calls that the men would recognize as commands.

This became very important during the midst of intense battles as the soldiers would know what their commander wanted through the bugler or band.

Musicians were present right from the beginning of the Civil War. The 1st Regiment of Artillery Band was at Fort Sumter for the bombardment and subsequent surrender. The first bloodshed of the war took place in Baltimore. The 6th Massachusetts Regiment Band suffered dozens of injuries and four dead as an angry mob attacked their incoming trains at the station.

Congress eventually passed laws regulating the size of each type of band but militias continued to have bands with 50 or more members. Bands performed not only on the battlefield but

also at concerts, parades, and reviews.

Concerts were played during “downtime” and also as the troops were nearing the frontlines. Several generals, like General Philip Sheridan, really liked to hear music from regimental bands and took a personal interest in their wellbeing. Another general saw one of Sheridan’s bands and noted that “under heavy fire, [they were] playing Nellie Bly as cheerily as if it were furnishing music for a country picnic.” There are even accounts of bands from both sides joining together and performing concerts for all to enjoy.

Military bands are a part of military culture and have been looked up to by regular soldiers for centuries. Throughout the years, 32 Army musicians have been awarded the Congressional Medal of Honor. Twenty of the recipients served in the Civil War, 10 in the Indian Wars, one in the Boxer Rebellion, and one in the Spanish-American War. Military musicians, sometimes as young as 12, are mainly unknown today as their stories are rarely published. In an upcoming article we will discuss military bands in the 20th and 21st centuries as well as military music from around the world.

Avi Heiligman is a weekly contributor to The Jewish Home. He welcomes your comments and suggestions for future columns and can be reached at aviheiligman@ gmail.com.

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DAY HAB PROGRAM COORDINATOR POSITION AVAILABLE Seeking organized, responsible, sensitive and creative individual to help supervise and coordinate an adult program for people with special needs.

Family friendly/flexible work environment.

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ADMINISTRATIVE ASSISTANT POSITION AVAILABLE FOR ADULT DAY HAB PROGRAM Must be organized and have good computer and phone skills will include interaction with individuals with special needs Resume to shanie@otsar.org

ASSISTANT TEACHERS CAHAL is seeking part time or full time Assistant Teachers for Judaic Studies (AM) and/or General Studies (PM) for the 2019-20 school year.

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SPECIAL ED TEACHERS CAHAL is seeking a Part Time (AM) Special Education Judaic Studies Teacher for a middle school Bais Yaakov class, and Part Time (PM) Special Education Secular Studies Teacher for elementary school class.

Send resume to shira@cahal.org or Fax 516-295-2899. Call 516-295-3666 for more information SHOMER SHABBOS OFFICE LOOKING FOR A FULL TIME MATURE SECRETARY Hebrew reading and writing, computer knowledge (Word Perfect, Excel, QuickBooks, etc...) and communication skills a must.

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Looking for a post-high school "Bais Yaakov girl" to work as a warm and loving assistant Morah in a 2 year old Far Rockaway playgroup 9:00-3:10 (Friday 12:10) Competitive salary, vacation and sick days, lunch break For more information, please CALL/TEXT 718-926-9336 DIRECTOR OF DEVELOPMENT 5-Towns non-profit is seeking a Director of Development. Duties include planning and coordinating fundraising events, cultivate relationships with donors and Rabbinic and community leaders, disseminate positive PR, establish fundraising Board. E-mail resume to dirdevjob@gmail.com.

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Seeking full time PHYSICAL THERAPIST for Special Education school located in Brooklyn. Experienced preferred.

Competitive salary. Room for growth. resumes@yadyisroelschool.org

JUST KIDS EARLY CHILDHOOD LEARNING CENTER is a group of specialized preschools serving children with a wide range of disabilities from 3 - 5 years of age.

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SPECIAL ED DIRECTOR Responsibility: Curriculum Designer Individual curriculum as needed Staff training Innovative, visionary Requirement: Masters Special Ed and Education Administration or SLP Backgroup Email Resume: specialedresume2018@gmail.com

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YOUNG ISRAEL OF LONG BEACH IS SEEKING A VIBRANT YOUNG COUPLE (REBBE/MORAH TYPES) TO SERVE AS YOUTH DIRECTORS. The candidate(s) would run youth groups on Shabbos and develop youth programming for all ages and seek to engage the young couples in the shul. email cwakslak@att.net.

FANTASTIC OPPORTUNITY FOR A HEAD MORAH IN TAG GANGER EARLY CHILDHOOD (Far Rockaway).

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HASC Center seeks Residence Manager Train and oversee all residence staff Work with appropriate clinical or program staff and community agency staff to provide services to individuals with developmental disabilities

Daily review of notes and documentation for each individual in the program Develop residence facility rules and procedures and ensure compliance by all staff Ensure residence facility is kept clean, neat, healthy and safe

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TORAH ACADEMY FOR GIRLS, FAR ROCKAWAY SEEKS QUALIFIED, EXPERIENCED MOROS, ELEMENTARY DIVISION. Please email resume to mlevin@tagschools.org

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5 TOWNS BOYS YESHIVA SEEKING ELEM GEN ED TEACHERS Excellent working environment and pay. Only lic/exp need apply.

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Money

Cheap Hits

By Allan Rolnick, CPA

C

hances are good that sometime soon, you’ll find yourself in front of a football game.

Love it or loathe it, from now through early 2020, the game will dominate the airwaves, to the point where, if you can’t sleep at 4a.m., you can find an ESPN channel somewhere featuring a bunch of aging ex-jocks droning on about their fantasy teams.

(If that doesn’t put you back to sleep….) Pro football is like a shark, relentlessly prowling for more: more passing, more scoring, more replays, more concussions.

Many fans, turned off by the NFL’s 24-hour Hype-o-Matic, have turned their eyes to the college game. This is especially true for schools still paying lip service to the ideal of amateurism. Alumni and students alike thrill to classic sweatshirt-weather matchups from “The Game” between Harvard and Yale, all the way down to the “Rocking Chair Classic” between “little Ivy” rivals Hamilton and Middlebury.

This season, college programs are facing off across the neutral zone from some new patterns at the IRS. The Tax Cuts and Jobs Act of 2017 takes a handful of shots at college

sports. And while it may not be the end of the professionalism creeping into college sports, it might be the end of the beginning: • The new higher standard deductions mean millions fewer donors will be itemizing deductions. That means they won’t get to write off their dona-

tackles deductions for those gifts entirely. Motivations matter! But here’s something to ponder. The first wave of “Varsity Blues” parents who pled guilty to bribing a crooked counselor to get their underachieving kids into prestigious schools are about to go to jail for their crimes. Yet parents who

In 31 states, the highest-paid public employee is a college football coach.

tions. So far, that hasn’t affected giving: the National Philanthropic Trust reports that Americans upped their total giving by 0.7% in 2018, with 14% going to education. But when the next recession inevitably blitzes, we’ll see if losing that deduction cramps giving.

• Adding insult to injury, it used to be that boosters could deduct 80% of any gifts that included the right to buy athletic tickets. The new law

give money directly to the schools to get their underachievers admitted can still deduct their gifts.

• Nonprofits owe a new 21% excise tax on salaries over $1 million they pay to their five highest-compensated employees. That’s a helmet-tothe-head hit on college sports — in 31 states, the highest-paid public employee is a college football coach.

Alabama football coach Nick Saban will make $8.2 million more this year

than Alabama governor Kay Ivey. (In all fairness, Saban’s probably going to have a better season.)

• There’s a new 1.4% excise tax on investment income for about two dozen private schools with endowments topping $500,000 per student. Opponents see this as a direct shot at those institutions, which have been mocked as tax-free hedge funds with universities attached. Harvard alone manages $35 billion — more than the GDP of Bahrain. (Fun fact: Harvard football has won twelve national championships, although you’ll have to go back to the leather-helmeted 1920 season for that last title).

Don’t let any of these changes keep you from enjoying the game.

Your favorite schools will find ways to adjust to the new laws, just like we do.

So pour yourself a crisp bourbon and cider, grab your preppiest down vest, and take up your team’s fight song. We’ll be guarding the tax line for you!

Allan J Rolnick is a CPA who has been in practice for over 30 years in Queens, NY. He welcomes your comments and can be reached at 718-896-8715 or at allanjrcpa@aol.com.

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A “Cuppa” Minutes of Your Time

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usk, dawn, twilight, sunrise, sunset.

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In England, they drink tea with milk.

Here, many people enjoy tea with sugar. But it’s no big deal – teas have no

their importance and overlooked the ways they can help us. We’ve seen them as half-empty instead of as a cup full of possibilities.

Can we take a little time to be the best version of ourselves even when we aren’t thinking we are interested in another person?

There could come a time, for example, in the dawn of a new experience, when you don’t have your usual supports around or in the twilight of your years when you need more help

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We’ve seen them as half-empty instead of as a cup full of possibilities.

feelings. People do! (I can’t be certain, though, that there won’t be some group advocating for the feelings of tea leaves in the near future. Still, for now, I hope I’m quasi safe making that statement.)

So can we be aware of that?

People get hurt, offended, days are actually ruined, by how others treat us.

People may even have a rich, deep, hardy significance we missed by being too fast to judge. We’ve missed their meaning or their purpose. We’ve missed

than you thought you would and you will need others you thought you did.

You can’t just look in the tea leaves and know what the future brings. So don’t treat them poorly now, when you think you don’t need them. Be thoughtful, right now, when they may need you.

Rivki Rosenwald is a certified relationship counselor, and career and life coach. She can be contacted at 917-705-2004 or rivki@ rosenwalds.com.

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