INCLUSIVE INTIMACY

Fuck any way you want without limitations.

Words by CM McCambridge

Art by Freddy Toglia

Sex is great. If it were up to us, we would end the article there, but it would be a “waste of resources” and “weird to publish.” However, for many people, especially those with disabilities and mobility issues, sex can be a struggle. Expressions of love and sensuality are often, by culture and by nature, tied to their physicality. Accessibility in intimacy in broader culture can become somewhat tricky to navigate, especially without any resources. Certain positions, however, can do a great deal to facilitate easier and more enjoyable sex for everyone involved.

Modified Missionary

In all likelihood, you’ve probably done this before. One partner lies or sits back on the side of a bed (or another piece of height-appropriate furniture) while the other stands, providing an experience close to standard missionary. This allows for one partner to move less and avoid any uncomfortable hip or back positions, while the other can keep them comfortable as they go, adjusting as needed.

Modified Doggy

This is great for people in wheelchairs or who generally lack mobility in their hips, this position is rather simple. One partner remains seated (if they’re in a wheelchair, be careful not to roll back), while the other is on top, facing away from them and leaning forward, typically over a table. The partner on top does most of the moving here.

Modified Doggy (Part 2)

If the previous position doesn’t work, don’t fret! There’s another version! The goal of this one is comfort for the partner in front, while the one in the back does most of the moving. More akin to a regular doggy-style position, the partner in front is on their knees facing forward. What differs here is that they’re provided a cushion under their arms or chest, keeping their hips at a 45-degree angle. It’s comfortable and keeps them from having their back or hips bent in uncomfortable positions while staying intimate.

Side-Lying

Perhaps best for those with general mobility issues, this one is rather simple. Starting from a spooning position with both partners lying on their sides, any penetration (by anyone or anything) is done with minimal movement. This one is also one of the most toy-friendly approaches, as there is little in the way of obstruction. While the partner doing most of the movement is typically behind the other, this one works fine either way, providing plenty of comfort for both.