Boys Will Be Boys - Interview Segment

boys will be boys Part of a Final Major Project

by Joelle Constantinou

My conversations with

Daniel Martins, Oliver Down, Rohen Rai and Robert Burke

Being a Man What are the thoughts and feelings of young men in society today? How do their cultural backgrounds, the places they were raised and their relationship with their fathers impact their views on masculinity?

JC What does the word masculinity mean to you? What does the word make you think of and are there any men you feel embody what it is to ‘be a man’?

OD Honestly the first thing I really think of is just a man and maybe the idea of strength. I think of my dad, someone who leads his family, goes to work and comes home - man of the house sort of thing. Yeah, a powerful male figure. But powerful doesn’t always mean strong.

RB That’s tough because I think what I want it to mean to me is just identifying as a man. I think masculinity is a construct. I think in a societal sense masculinity is just being tough, being calloused, not showing your emotions too much because in a sense masculinity means you’re supposed to be strong. Since emotions are supposedly a weakness, to be masculine is to be able to keep those feelings inside and not burden anybody else. As I’ve gotten older, I guess I’ve just started to think that masculinity is just a construct of the time and I don’t think its necessarily one specific thing. I think in my head I view masculinity as something that involves being strong, being able to be a rock for some people but that doesn’t mean you have to hide your emotions.

One of my uncles actually represents that acting tough kinda thing, I’ve never once heard this man talk about something that has emotionally bothered him or made him upset. He’s only talked about things that have made him angry but no other emotion.

Anger is such a masculine emotion.

DM When you said the word masculinity the first thing that came to mind is an action movie with Jason Statham or something like that, that’s the first thing that I associate with masculinity even though it’s not really it, but I think that is basically what is shown as masculinity. The idea of being a man is being like James Bond or Idris Elba, people like that, those are the people shown to be manly men. I don’t think in real life there is one role model to show what it is to be a man.

RR A guy. Like a dude, I guess. I don’t know. I think I actually think of French, the language French, because I remember learning about words that were masculine and feminine. That’s just a context where I have heard that word a lot.

JC What ideas did you have about masculinity as a child?

RB Well a big one was that being a man I would have to be able to fully take care of my family and by that, I mean financially. I’d have to be the breadwinner and have to be the head of the household. I definitely didn’t think about equality as much – it was a weird balance of being told that a man should be the head of the house but also that women should be respected and are equal. As a child that was a weird one to think about.

Other than that, I mean being tough and being able to stand up to anybody that gave me shit, not backing down. That was definitely something that was important during middle school.

OD On a personal level, I’ve always looked up to my dad as a sort of target figure.

As a kid you grow up knowing “I must get a job”, “I must provide for my family”, “I must be strong”. But strong doesn’t mean muscle strong, I’m saying you have to be head strong, determined and show no weakness in terms of if moments in your life are difficult. I mean, I know my dad has had difficult times and he’s always come through it. So, as a kid I think whenever I thought of that word, even though I might not have known what it meant, I thought about determination and that’s probably why I was so competitive as a kid. If you win, if you beat other people it makes you feel powerful.

RR It was an unconscious thing, I think. I’m not from a place where things were equal. I grew up in a place where a man and a woman had their own roles. It was quite normal for women to be housewives but at the same time growing up I didn’t really pay attention to the idea of masculinity that much because it was never really talked about. Obviously moving here there are a lot of women who work and they are more independent so I guess its more of a level playing field but I know its more equal here than what I grew up with.

JC Do you remember the first time you were told to be a man or that boys don’t cry?

How old were you?

DM Never. I was raised of course by my dad and my mum, but also my godmother, my grandma … so I had a lot of feminine influence and nobody ever told me these kinds of things.

RB I’m not sure. I’ve definitely been told it before, but I don’t really remember the first time I heard it. I know I’ve been blessed enough that my immediate family aren’t like that, they don’t say shit like that, so I know it wasn’t from them. I’ve definitely heard it from friends in high school.

“being a man is being like James Bond or Idris Elba, those are people shown to be manly men”

JC Did you have any male role models growing up? Who are some men who you look up to now?

OD I looked up to my dad and I still look up to my dad. I think it’s a common thing to be fair. My dad came from a council house with no central heating, started from nothing really and now he has a nice house, family – pretty much has it all now. Honestly one of those rags to riches sort of stories. When he tells me about that I think, here’s someone who is content with what they have and doesn’t show off and that’s a role model really isn’t it.

RB Well my obvious male role model is my dad. There’s a perception that a lot of African American people don’t have fathers, which is an unfortunate perception because it isn’t true – a lot of people do have fathers present in their lives. I was lucky to have a really good one, he always took care of us and took care of my mom and his mom as well.

Now... still my dad of course. Barack Obama is definitely one. He stands out to me as a role model because of the way he speaks – he has a way of speaking that is very reassuring to people. He speaks with gentle confidence and I’ve always wanted to be able to do that as well. Also, he’s mature but he’s also funny and I just always thought I want to be like that too.

DM My role model is my dad and that’s really it. One of my cousins as well, he’s the oldest cousin and liked graphics and it’s because of him that I went to art school. Also, when I was a kid, I used to love Eminem. He was cool as fuck and would say whatever, but he definitely wasn’t a role model just someone I thought was a cool guy.

RR My biggest role model growing up was this guy called Shaktimaan, he’s an Indian superhero right. He’s basically like superman, his name basically means power man.

Growing up my inspirations were always superheroes. Shaktimaan, Spiderman for example. I guess I was always into comics so those were my inspirations growing up. Now its sort of the same but not as prominent. I see those characters in a different way, because when you’re young you just want to be strong or powerful, but the characters grow up with you. Now though, I look up to more illustrators and stuff and people who inspire me and help me move forward.

JC What is the earliest memory you have of, or with your dad?

RR This is a strange one right. I don’t really remember him much in my childhood because he wasn’t really around. Obviously, he was in the army and in England, and I didn’t get to see him that much to be honest with you. I think the earliest memory I have of him; he used to come and visit when he could. He came to visit, and we were living in this rented apartment and he had gotten a haircut and he called me and my brother and he was wearing a vest, like a wife beater vest.

He was like “I’ll give you guys two lollipops if you clean this vest”. Another time I remember was I think in 2002, it was the world cup qualifiers. He called me on the phone, and we were talking about football and I was like “Yeah! Yeah! England is my favourite team”. I remember the specific spot I was standing in and I remember telling him that.

OD Honestly the one that sticks out would be when I was first getting into football. He played football at semi-professional level and then broke his leg and stopped playing. I remember when I went to my first game, he was actually assistant manager of the team and I played for the year above because there wasn’t a team for my age. I knew how to kick a ball but not very well and he brought me on, and I scored in the wrong goal. At the time it was hands on head, he was gutted but he knew how upset I was, and he brought me aside and then spent a lot of time with me developing my skills.

When you think ten years later, I was playing better than he was at his age.

RB Probably not my earliest but this one does stand out. When I was maybe 5 or 6, my dad signed us up for a basketball team. All the kids were really young, I don’t remember exactly but young enough that we were all trash. I think my dad signed us up because all his friends had signed their kids up. At the time I didn’t even really care for basketball like that, he just threw me in there. I don’t know if it was for me or for him but yeah that would be my first memory.

DM I think its also the earliest memory I have of myself, excluding videos and photos. Helping my dad out when we were renovating our house and I was 5 or something.

I was helping him out by carrying tiny buckets of sand and my dad was saying “cool cool you’re doing a lot” but really, I was fucking around. There is a video of me helping him by hiding a shovel under a bucket I was sitting on. He just picked up the bucket and grabbed it and kept working.

JC How do you think your relationship with your dad has affected the man you are today?

RB My dad doesn’t often complain about things that impact him emotionally, at least not to me or my sister. I think because of that for a long time I thought of it more that things didn’t bother him rather than he was keeping things in. I always thought that was a really good thing and I always tried to do that and it has worked a lot for me in time where I felt under pressure or stressed but, other times I’ve definitely been in situations where it would’ve been better for me to address the issues head on, vent about them or be upset but instead I would try to keep it in and not even consider it important to open up. I think a lot time if I was getting upset, I would talk myself down. I still sometimes do it, but I’ve gotten a lot better at opening up.

That’s something though that I took from him that impacted me for a lot of years.

RR I think it’s affected me more recently more than growing up because he wasn’t really there growing up. He’s obviously a very disciplined guy and from a military background but I was never really like that. I’m not really disciplined in that way. I think there was always a little bit of distance in terms of relatability. My dad was fighting in Afghanistan and Iraq so I kinda felt that I had to be strong like that, or maybe it trickles down. It’s made me more appreciative for what I have because he’s done a lot to get here and it kinda makes me want to do the same. It makes me more driven; you know but at the same time of course there are negatives too. The way we think is different so sometimes there is a lot of disagreement, because I didn’t grow up completely in that lifestyle that he grew up in and half of the time I was in the UK so that gives me two

perspectives at the same time. There were disagreements but it makes me more open minded and want to be a better person.

DM I don’t know, my dad was always very present with me and he still is, we talk everyday – several times a day. My parents are equally present but yeah, he’s always helping around the house, helping people like my grandma – even my grandma on my mum’s side. My dad always got on really well with her and he taught me a lot about helping other people even if they aren’t your direct family.

that. He did teach me a lot though. A lesson I caught onto is just the idea of doing things, trying everything and not wasting opportunities. Not being shy to try things no matter what. I guess that’s the one main thing.

JC Is there any advice your dad taught you that you would pass on to your future son?

RB My dad was always one of those people who is very prompt in everything that he does so he always told me “being early is being on time, being on time is being late and being late is like not having shown up at all”. Can’t say I follow that in my current lifestyle, but I think it’s a good lesson which would help me out if I followed it.

Another one is that he always taught me to treat people with respect no matter how disrespectfully they treat you.

OD Dad always said make sure you’re always happy and enjoying what you do, that could be sport, work … it applies to all things you do. If you don’t enjoy what you’re doing, then why are you doing it kinda thing.

He’s always told me to take risks as well, he had ten years where he jumped from job to job and didn’t settle. He’s always said he doesn’t care what I do, I always have a place here but if I enjoy what I do and am good at it then the money will come. I think I’m materialistic with stuff like tech and trainers but when it comes to happiness, money isn’t a primary factor for me.

DM It’s a bit cliché but once I talked to my dad about it and it kinda stuck with me.

Its that we might as well enjoy what we are doing right now because after a certain age in life, time starts moving quickly. He was saying that he felt like it was only a few months ago that he left the military (because my dad had to do service for a year) and that was in the eighties!! After leaving the military he said time went by really quickly and he was always happy in what he was doing and the people he was with, so its important to hold onto those things and enjoy them because life is gonna move quick!!

RR I don’t know to be honest. This is the thing; I don’t think my family have ever been one to ever sit you down and tell advice like that. Everything I’ve been told I’ve taken with a pinch of salt and I don’t really think he was in the position to give me advice on being here. I think if we lived back home, his advice would be more suitable and valid. Growing up here is completely different and I’m the first one to experience

“I’ve definitely been in situations where it would’ve been better for me to address the issues head on, vent about them or be upset but instead I would try to keep it in”

JC Do you remember at what age you stopped holding hands with your dad in public? Do you show affection to your dad, whether physical or verbal?

RR Nah. Not really no. There was never anything like that. There isn’t any interaction like that growing up – that’s what was missing. I think it is a lot to do with the fact that the mum is the one who raises you but even my mum, I rarely hug her.

RB I don’t remember what age, but it must have been very early, like I don’t have any memory of holding hands with my dad.

Me and my dad definitely do show affection but not in the same way I do with my mom.

He’ll say he loves me and stuff like that, but we don’t really hug. I guess we dap each other up or do any other physical thing, it’s more like comments in passing.

DM Yeah of course I show affection. I stopped holding both my parents’ hands at the same time basically. I never held hands that much anyway because I was always a free spirit. Holding hands was not a big thing.

I don’t remember it really, my parents let me roam around as long as I knew my boundaries. Hugs in public, that stuff doesn’t bother me, I don’t care. Sometimes still me and my dad will be waiting for my mum to do something and I just lean against him like a kid.

OD I thought about this recently. Me and my dad have always got on well and had good chats about lessons and we can have a laugh but in terms of affection it’s not very common. Maybe when I moved to uni or he know I was gonna be away for a while, then he’d give me a hug. I don’t know how it is for other lads, but I wouldn’t say that our rela-

tionship is intimate in a sense that you see that its intimate. I don’t have a memory of last holding my dads’ hand which shows how long ago that was unless it’s something as a joke, when I was 17 and crossing the road.

But other than that, intimate moments are more when we sit down and laugh and have a chat rather than anything physical now that I’m older.

“I think every lad should see their dad cry but, unfortunately, crying comes with the connotation of weakness” JC Have you ever seen your dad cry and how did it make you feel?

RB No, I haven’t. I think I would be pretty heartbroken. Right now, my dad is going through a lot of things with my grandmother not being in the best health and I can tell that there is a lot of pressure on him. I have seen him get emotionally frustrated but not cry, so I think if I did, I don’t know how I’d feel.

He’s like a pillar of strength in the family so it would be really weird to experience seeing him break down.

OD Yes. That broke me. I think every lad should see their dad cry, because I think they’re every son’s role model. Unfortunately crying comes with the connotation of weakness and that sort of thing, and I think knowing that even your dad can cry is a lesson in itself. Knowing that they aren’t robots and it makes you feel like you can show emotions like that as well.

DM Yes of course, not all the time but bad stuff happens, everyone cries, and I don’t expect my dad to be the only one who stands there and doesn’t show his feeling.

RR I haven’t. I don’t know how I’d feel.

I think to a certain extent it would be weird but also, I’m grown enough to know it’s a normal thing. It would be weird but not because it’s a dude crying but more because Nepalese dads don’t really show anything like that. You don’t know what’s going on really.

JC When is the last time you remember crying, and not to a movie or show? Would you say you cry often or very rarely?

OD Not to a movie!! My goodness. You know what I think it was when I saw my dad cry, which was at his best friends’ funeral. I think that broke me more, knowing how upset he was. I think I was about 16/17.

RR I think it was in high school probably, I think I was having an argument with my dad. It was an unfair situation and I was just frustrated because I wasn’t being listened to. I think it was about what I was going to do for A-Levels because I wanted to do art and obviously there was a disagreement.

RB I do not cry often. I think the last thing I cried about something that didn’t involve a show was in 2018, at the end of the year. I feel like I do get sad, but the tears aren’t always there. Maybe I suppress the crying aspect, I’m not sure.

DM Oh shit I don’t know. I cry if I have to, not on demand. It doesn’t happen often.

The last time was probably October 2019 during sad homie hours.

JC Who do you find it easiest to talk about your emotions to? S/O, male friends, female friends, family etc.

RB Me and my family have a good relationship, but they definitely aren’t the first people I would reach out to. For a while now it’s been friends, specifically female friends.

I’d say for the most part I don’t really talk about emotions with my male friends. For whatever reason I feel like my female friends would be less judgemental. Also of course, I speak to you about that stuff too. I think part of why I don’t speak to my male friends as much is because of the fear of judgement and fear of being looked at like a baby. It’s weird because I shouldn’t care, and I know I have friends who wouldn’t be like that at all.

It’s this feeling that they won’t really care or give good advice, they would just encourage me to “fuck a bitch” or get laid to get over it.

Nah… that’s not me and after getting that advice before, I don’t think I need that kinda negativity again.

OD I think in terms of emotions, lots of my emotions come from ideas of failure rather than sadness. I think if I were to talk to someone about how I was feeling it would be my dad. He is more often open with me about how he’s feeling than I am with him, it’s that thing of knowing that he trusts me as a source of support for him so that gives me the confidence to know I can go to him.

think girls are raised with the mentality of “you don’t have emotions” and although it wasn’t my case, I think it is a lot of peoples cases growing up being told “why are you crying, are you a little girl”

I think it depends heavily on the person or the context. I think I’d always go to male friends over female friends. My go to way of thinking is “I’m a guy and I’m feeling this so maybe other guys have felt this” so I’ll ask them and if they haven’t well crap. I think that’s something I think about without realising it. But yeah, I think probably 9 times out of 10, it would go that way.

DM Because it relates back to the manly thing. You’re supposed to be man of the house and people rely on you and stuff like that. If people are raised like that and think like that then they will be against asking for help. I never have spoken to anyone because I never felt the need to but if I ever need to, I will and I think it’s good for people to talk to someone who actually understands shit and not just your friends who think they have advice about relationships but have never been in one. Shout out to a couple of people I know.

RR I think I do talk about emotions, I guess to friends mostly. I think I don’t really speak about things like that with my parents or family. I’ve spoken to my brother about that kinda thing once. I think mostly friends and Lucia, but definitely friends over family.

It depends on the person. I talk to Prabhat a lot about these things regarding family and stuff and growing up because he’s obviously in the same situation and he helps me put things into perspective and understand that this is just a product of these changes our parents have had to make. It’s not just me and these are things everyone goes through.

DM You know the answer. You. And Ricky too. I think it depends on the boys first of all. In a way I can talk about that stuff with some friends, but only when it’s just two of us together. If it’s a group, they might be like “oh pussies” or something. In general, though, girls are easier to talk to – definitely. I don’t

JC Why do you think so many men are reluctant to go to therapy or ask for help? Would you or have you ever spoken to a therapist?

RR Well a lot is to do with the image that you kinda have to embrace. A man doesn’t cry, a man doesn’t have feelings, you know. I think that’s the main reason.

Guys are just supposed to get through these things. I don’t think I’d go to a therapist because I don’t think I’d get to that point. I’ve been through so much that I guess it sounds douchey but I’ve gone through a lot regarding feeling down that I know how to deal with my feelings. I guess I armchair therapist myself. I’m saying this now, I guess if I did need to I would, but it would have to be a dire situation.

RB For a lot of men seeking out help like that displays weakness. If you go to therapy, it must mean that you are struggling with something or something is both-

ering you enough that you can’t fix it on your own. A lotta dudes don’t want to appear weak to others, especially publicly. It’s a bad way to think about therapy because yeah, I have been to therapy, twice. I haven’t been as much as I want to because of insurance, it wasn’t for anything specific I just felt like over time I hadn’t expressed a lot of stuff. At first, I thought it was something I didn’t need but now I think about it as something that everyone should go to – obviously some people need it more, but you know your friends and family can’t be your therapist.

OD It’s that conscious understanding that most men have of, as I said before you know you don’t want to see your dad cry because you don’t want to see your role model collapse like that. Unfortunately it’s this destructive connotation and you don’t want to show sign of weakness and have to rely on someone else to get better but really is you need the help you should get it because it could lead to more suffering cant it. I think generally men don’t do it because they fear what other men would think. I think also some people have developed fronts where they seem like they’re really confident and headstrong, so hearing that they need help or have asked for help can be shocking to some people. But yeah, I’ve always been someone whose said, if I need help, I will ask for it.

JC Do you think aggression is natural in men or is it taught by society?

RB I think its taught. Mainly by society – I think we often don’t realise how much society has an impact on us through social norms and stuff like that. I think its nurture not nature.

OD It depends on the context. I think men are taught to have an approach to life that is to be headstrong and take on things by the horns which maybe, when they feel they’re in a vulnerable position, they act on that with aggression. I think aggression is an interesting term. I think I’ve seen women in my life be more aggressive than men in my life. But also, I can understand that some people would’ve been taught to not back down and that’s what leads them to act like that more.

RR That’s a hard question. The way I see it, it’s a physical thing. Physical as well as mental. Guys are usually more physical, and I guess to some extent its natural. You take this back a couple of thousand of years and it’s always been the thing – the dude is out there hunting, fighting, trying to get the girls. The males are always competing for the female. It was kinda necessary for the guys to be more aggro and that just became part of society and what’s expected. We just never got rid of it, as a species.

DM In a way, I kinda feel like it’s the environment. I feel that the guys and girls who are more prone to fight are like that because of the environment. That’s why you see those videos too of girls pulling each other’s hair and all that. Men are the same. They square up, puff their chests all the way up, looking like fucking peacocks, trying to be the alpha male which is something that doesn’t even exist in the human race. But yeah, I think it’s mostly how you’re raised but also hormones and the fight or flight as well maybe.

JC What would be your initial reaction if someone called you a pussy or told you to man up? Would you feel differently if a friend said it compared to a stranger?

DM I don’t think my reaction would be different. Me and my friends back home always do the thing of reacting to comments by just looking in their eyes and laughing to make them more mad. If someone told me to be a man, I would just think … what the fuck does that even mean.

RB Me right now, I wouldn’t care. I feel like when someone is saying shit like that, I don’t really give a fuck. It would definitely be different if it was a friend saying it though, especially a close friend. If one of them said it, and it wasn’t obviously some sort of joke, I think it would really hurt.

JC Have you ever been teased or bullied for liking something that isn’t seen as masculine in society?

OD When I did diving for 4 years it was definitely a bit of a shock for my football friends. I went from playing at a high standard to quitting because I didn’t enjoy it. My dad encouraged me to stay active and competitive and try something else. Soon of course I was in competitions at a national level and I was being recognised more for those achievements than for football. I think that caused a negative reaction within my friends and I don’t know if it was jealousy, but I did lose a few friends because of it. It definitely wasn’t seen as a masculine sport, but I didn’t care, I just wanted to boss it.

RR I don’t think so. I think at one point in my childhood I really wanted a barbie doll, and my mum got me one. It wasn’t even a

real one, it was some fake ass one. Even then, I was never bullied or teased for anything.

DM Not bullied but kinda “Oh you care about clothes… what” teased, I guess. People ask me if I’m gay a lot. Its not a matter of if, but when they ask. I don’t even remember the first time. I think people assume this because especially in high school I hung out with girls all the time, like I do now. I feel girls are easier to get along with. I get on with boys as well of course, but masculinity has a smell and it isn’t pleasant. I think because I grew up with so many women I find it easier as well.

RB Oh get this?! Not really bullied but made fun of by a friend of mine. This one is really dumb. In early highschool a friend of mine made fun of me because he thought I listened to too many female music artists. He would say “ bro are you a girl … you listen to all these females”. If someone said that now I’d just laugh.

“Social media definitely lets people be toxic easily” JC Do you think social media has caused an increase in toxic masculinity? Which site/app do you personally find to be the most toxic?

RB Yes, I do. My first thought was Instagram, but twitter is up there too. A lot of times on twitter men have free reign to hypersexualise women and demean them, have means to shit on other dudes for things they like, calling other men simps because they said something nice. Twitter is just a place where people can speak freely without many repercussions. My first thoughts about Instagram was about vanity and seeing the physical expectations for men and women.

I mean, a lot of these meme pages and other ones too, have a lot of free reigns when making jokes to just shit on people. A lot of meme pages came after Dwayne Wade when his son came out as trans. They were making all these jokes and then looking at the comments and it’s just some of the most awful things. Everyone dropping their opinions on what a family should’ve done.

RR From what I’m seeing I think it’s the opposite. Social media is a very progressive platform, so I think there’s a lot of positive thing out there, that I’ve been seeing at least. I don’t know what I’ve been browsing – but I’ve been seeing a lot of feel good about yourself kinda posts. I haven’t really seen any toxic things but of course there is a lot of it out there still. As a platform it becomes toxic when you get to that point where you’re being dictated by it and spend too much time within it. I think when it rules your life that’s when it starts impacting you in terms of body image and stuff like that.

OD This sort of links to some research I’ve done for my project as well. I think for young teenagers, not just men, I think there is a pressure because you see all these models on Instagram who get so many likes. What makes Instagram particularly harmful is the feeling of “If I don’t get as many likes as this

person, am I as attractive as them? Am I as talented as them?”. Not many lads I know care about likes that much but there have been people, and I’ve been amongst it before, where you’re very conscious about what you put on social media because you’re representing yourself. The harm comes from the fear of judgement and what people are gonna say in response to what you’re posting and the only thing you can control in that situation is what you post. So, if you aren’t secure in yourself or your appearance etc then that’s where the harm comes in.

DM I don’t think it’s completely toxic all the time but there are always gonna be toxic people on it. It definitely lets people be toxic easily. They don’t have to say anything to someone’s face. Those shitty pages that encourage that, those are specific examples.

Who are you... why you always have to put people on blast?

JC Who are some public figures that you think are good role models for kids today?

RB Will Smith is a good role model.

DM I don’t know there are a lot, Tom Hanks, Idris Elba and even DiCaprio … giving a voice to environmental issues is really important. There’s a lot of people who have a voice and use it to tackle issues, even like Joaquin Phoenix with the Joker, and I think these are good people to look up to. Terry Crews as well. First of all, he is really funny!

I don’t really know much about it but, his influence in the #MeToo movement as well, because that helps a lot of men be more comfortable talking about those things.

Playlist The Man / The Killers Samaritans / IDLES One Man Can Change the World / Big Sean / John Legend / Kanye West It’s a Man’s Man’s World / James Brown The Man / Aloe Blacc Father and Son / Cat Stevens BOYS / BROCKHAMPTON Borracho y Loco / Luis Vargas Hijo De Su Madre / Omar Apollo American Boy / Estelle / Kanye West Keep Ya Head Up / Tupac Shakur If I Were A Boy / Beyoncé First Things First / Stormzy Wet Dreamz / J Cole TeachMe / Musiq Soulchild Like Father Like Son / The Game / Busta Rhymes Whatta Man / Salt-n-Peppa / En Vogue I / Kendrick Lamar You’re a Man Now, Boy / Raleigh Ritchie Lad / Hak Baker I’m Your Man / Wham!

Too Many Man / Skepta / BBK Boys / Lizzo Boys Don’t Cry / The Cure ‘Cause I’m A Man / Tame Impala Like a Boy / Ciara A Boy Named Sue / Johnny Cash

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