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The It al ian, who is underst ood t o have earned a personal f ort une, al so branded cosmet ic surgery "idiocy". "A smal l breast does not have t o become big," he t ol d The Sunday Times Magazine. "I pref er t o l ook at a nat ural woman. A woman shoul d be courageous t o become ol der, not be desperat e t o l ook younger t han her age. "Wit h t ime, a woman's body is bet t er. As a woman goes t o work, has babies, she is st rong. She has charact er. Look at Cat e Bl anchet t ." As f or men, he added: "I don't l ike muscl e boy. Not t oo much gym. I l ike somebody heal t hy, somebody sol id, who l ooks af t er his body but doesn't use his muscl es t oo much." Unaf raid t o crit icize his cont emporaries, Armani described Miuccia Prada's designs as "snob f ashion". He al so recal l ed a t ime when his rival Gianni Versace, known f or his f l amboyant and sexy designs, t ol d him: "I dress sl ut s. You dress church l adies."
He also recalled a time when his rival Gianni Versace, known for his flamboyant and sexy designs, told him: "I dress sluts. You dress church ladies." One of t he worl d's most f amous f ashion designers has appeared t o condemn gay men f or dressing "homosexual ". Giorgio Armani, who has never denied t hat he is gay, said "a man has t o be a man". The out spoken 80-year-ol d al so crit icized men who work out t oo much, saying he does not l ike muscl e. "A homosexual man is a man 100% . He does not need t o dress homosexual ," Armani said. "When homosexual it y is exhibit ed t o t he ext reme - t o say, 'Ah, you know I'm homosexual ,' - t hat has not hing t o do wit h me. A man has t o be a man."
Armani's comment s come a mont h af t er his f el l ow designers Domenico Dol ce and St ef ano Gabbana caused cont roversy when t hey crit icized same-sex f amil ies. The accl aimed designers evoked f ury f rom a st ring of A-l ist cel ebrit ies, incl uding El t on John, when t hey said in an int erview t hat t hey opposed gay adopt ions and t hat "t he onl y f amil y is t he t radit ional one". The It al ian duo said: "No chemical of f spring?s and rent ed ut erus: l if e has a nat ural f l ow, t here are t hings t hat shoul d not be changed." In a scat hing post on pict ure-sharing sit e Inst agram, El t on John, who has t wo chil dren wit h husband David Furnish, branded t he designers "archaic" and "judgment al ". He t ol d t he pair, who f ounded Dol ce & Gabbana and who were a coupl e f or 23 years t hat he woul d never wear t heir designs again.
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Al l t he a dv i c e y o u n eed t o meet t h e r i g h t g ay ma n f o r y o u. For the most part, gay men are like everyone else on the dating scene. They're looking for affection, attention and love. Like their straight counterparts, gay men also desire connection, companionship and commitment. Unfortunately, the gay dating pool is viciously competitive. So, instead of fighting over the newest man meat on Grindr, I recommend these practical tips for gay men: 1. Get in the game. Sitting on the sidelines will get you nowhere. Either play the gay dating game or get out of the other gay guys' way! This doesn't mean you have to play every day. The goal is for the single gay community to know you're in circulation.
2. Try something new. Try a sparkling, new approach to gay dating. That is, if you've been doing the same thing and expecting a different result, then change detergents, add some fabric softener and try a new way of putting yourself out there. Going to the same coffee shop, grocery store and gym leads to the same scenery and the same results. Yawn! So instead, change it up!
3. Step out of the box. You love to run, hike and go to the theater. Great. Now what activity would be so out of the box for you, it might put you in a space to meet new guys, make friends with people who have gay friends or try a new hobby? Think of it this way: If you can step out of the closet, you can certainly step out of your rut! 4. Reflect what you desire. If you really want a guy who appreciates monogamy, then hanging out with people who have open relationships probably isn't the best place to meet Mr. Right. From sex to finances and family to intellectual awareness, letting your true desires show up doesn't make you weak, weird or wacky. It's you being truly you, so let your authentic self shine. 5. Stop making excuses. The more you make excuses for why your gay dating life is the toilet, the less room there is for it to be any other way. If every date you go on with a gay guy leads you to say, "He was nice, but ... " stop and ask yourself "Why are you always justifying your way out of dating?"
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least that's what the replay of the tape your listening to is saying. So change the tape! 8. Be a fearless, foolish and fun-loving. Crazy as it sounds, one of these three "f-words" could lead you to Mr. Right. First, be fearless in your gay dating pursuits. After all, if he thinks you're afraid, you probably are, and your sweaty armpit stains will rat you out! If you can't win them by being fearless, then be a little foolish, and let your heart lead you. Even if you feel like a fool, you'll rack up the frequent heartbreak points that will eventually pay for an all-expenses-paid trip to true love. Finally, let the fun-loving gay dater in you out to play. What's the worst that can happen?
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6. What's sex got to do with it? Well, it depends on your position ? no pun intended. Dating from the perspective of "it's all about sex" can pay off if that's how you truly feel. Conversely, making sex the secondary acquisition can also be a home run. Regardless of your perspective, the take-away here is to be truthful with yourself all along. When you hide from your truth, it won't set you free. Plus, being honest with yourself is a great launching pad for honesty in your relationship.
9. Stop comparing. Check out the merchandise, evaluate the functionality, weigh the benefits, but for crying out loud, stop comparing yourself to everyone around you! The more you look to others to validate your existence, your value and your self-worth, the deeper the hole gets for you to lay in and have sand kicked in your face. Just because "Bryce" dates like a mad man doesn't mean he's more datable than you. Find your stride, your way, your place and snuggle in. That cozy warm space of dating your way will find you.
7. Ask yourself, "So what?" Constantly in a tailspin with the same old audio tapes playing in your head? Do you always say: "Gay dating is such a chore," or, "Gay men just want sex," or "Every gay guy I meet only wants to talk about themselves?" If so, start asking yourself, "So what?"
10. Trust yourself to be yourself. You've heard it before: Trust is the basis of everything. But honey, practice makes perfect, and it starts with you. As gay men, one of the hardest obstacles we face is trusting that we're okay because we're gay. The more you dial in, trust yourself and stop second-guessing, the more you'll be able to see the decisions you're making in your gay dating life are exactly as they should be. But baby, you gotta trust yourself because their ain't no one else that's gonna do it for ya.
For example, "Gay dating is such a chore." So What? "When it becomes work, it's not fun." So What? "If it's not fun, then I might as well just stay home." So what? "If I stay home then I get depressed and lonely!"
Whether it's a first date, casual dating or dating to mate, gay guys face the same challenges as everyone else. The only difference is they do it with class, sass and still get a piece of ass when it's done right!
Bingo! Gay dating is a chore that eventually leads to feeling depressed and lonely ... or at
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4 Easy Ways t o Seduce a Lesbian One of the most thrilling experiences you will ever have will be your first lesbian conquest: the first night you go out and bag your first girl. Indeed, no matter how long you?ve been a lesbian, the thrill of seducing a beautiful woman never really goes away. Still, the question remains: how the hell do you seduce a lesbian? Surprisingly, it?s not as hard as you might think. No, not because lesbians are all sluts (ha-ha). It?s because the art of seduction boils down to a few very simple things: confidence, humor, proximity? and maybe even a little luck. Once you nail these things, there?s almost no way you won?t get nailed (or at least close to it). Whoever came up with the saying ?Beauty is only skin deep? knew what they were talking about. Beauty can?t be defined by plastic singers or anorexic actresses. In other words, beauty isn?t something you can buy. However, it is something that you can exude. Whether you were born with flabby arms or flat hair is irrelevant. Your irresistible charm and confidence is what makes you beautiful to others ? and to yourself. If you think of yourself as a woman who deserves to be desired, you will become desirable.
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So, how do you become that desirable woman that other women want and men wish they could have? First, shed your insecurities because you, my dear, are fabulous. And as long as you can remember these fairly simple tips, They want to feel a connection. With soon you?ll be fighting off the ladies technology more and more prevalent, it?s with a stick! easy to feel alone in the world. Some What Every Lesbian Woman Wants? women are dying to form a personal connection, and you?re the perfect girl to Sex appeal is great, but there are do it with. other things women are looking for when they head out on a Saturday night. Familiarize yourself with the following list of things women want to make yourself even more appealing to the girl of your dreams. After all, the more you offer, the more she?ll want you.
They want to be inspired. It?s easy to feel trapped in one?s day to day existence. By showing a girl that there are possibilities beyond her immediate here and now (in terms of things to see or places to visit), you?ll be an intriguing force she won?t be able to resist.
They want to feel attractive. One of the simplest things women want is to be wanted. Making a girl feel attractive, sexy, and important will go a long way in the art of seduction.
These tips work so go on out and seduce the lady of your dreams!
They want to have fun. No one wants to hang out with someone who makes them sad or depressed! Keep things light and help them forget the stresses they?ve experienced that day, not relive them.
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Sout hern Decadence Set t o begin in New Orleans Southern Decadence started fourty-four years ago as a s simple going away party. As a top gay Labor Day Weekend destination, it has evolved into one our our world?s major annual events. It is one of the largest annual celebrations and festivals in New Orleans, and has become known as the ?Gay Mardi Gras.? People begin to arrive Wednesday before Labor Day, and generally don?t even think about stopping or going home until next Tuesday. With over 160,000 gay. Lesbian, bisexual and transgender participants in 2014, and an economic impact estimated to be in excess of $190 million, the city has recognized the festival?s importance with Official Event proclamations. As Liberace once said, ?Too much of a good things is wonderful.? New Orleans?wildest neighborhood gets even crazier as the French Quarter is packed for the entire event; however, the big day is Sunday. That?s when the Grand Marshals lead the annual walking parade through the streets beginning at 2pm. The 2015 Grand Marshals are Steven Mora, Frankie Fierce, Misti Ates, and Marsha and Rip Naquin-Delain. The theme for 2015 is ?Swimmin?with Gods and Goddesses,? and the colors are lavender, lime green and silver lame.
gay nightclub, The Bourbon Pub Video Bar and The Parade Dance Club, which is home to the hottest dancers in town. Also located her is the Southern Decadence Official Welcome Center, inside of Hit Parade Gift and Clothing. And most of the city?s main gay attractions are within a few blocks. Most street party activities take place in the immediate area of the French Quarter, and the dance arties are in the clubs. Since gay bars never close, there is something happening around the clock. Some of the nation?s best DJs work the crowds to a fremzy. Guest DJ Kidd Madonny will return for 2015, an encore to his amazing performance in 2014. The hosts for the weekend are ?The Bearded Lady? Billy Francesca and ?The Bad Ass Bitch? Rhea Litre. The Bourbon Street Extravaganza, the free outdoor concer at the corner of Bourbon and St. Ann Strees, will return in 2015 for its eleventh anniversary show on Saturday afternoon, september 5th. No wonder the weekend is often referred to as Southern DecaDance!
The corner of Bourbon and St. Ann Streets is generally considered to be the epicenter of Gay New Orleans, and even more so during the Southern Decadence festival weekend. At that intersection is the largest
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Ch i ppendal e's dancer comes out! A Chippendale?s dancer has let the world know he is out and proud! Jaymes Vaughan, the lead singer and emcee for the fabulous male revue came out on the pages of magazine, QVegas. While he was already out to his family and friends, Jaymes wanted to be public about his sexuality so he could serve as a role model as one of the few openly gay entertainers in Vegas. The Chippendaler said the following: I hope to be able to take advantage of a platform so that my fourteen-year-old self that was sitting in Chesterfield County, Virginia, might find some hope. The fourteen year old that had no one to look up to; whose mama told him he better not be gay; whose
church told him he was going to hell; whose best friend killed himself because he didn?t ?fit in.? Because he didn?t have any hope. I thought for so long you had to cover up who you were to be successful. I?ve realized you can be more successful by being yourself. Well said, Jaymes! Jaymes is also lead vocalist for Show in the Sky, which is on the same night as Chippendales! We're proud that Jaymes wants to be a role model to gay youth. Plus he'll always have our support. Yum!
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Pri ncess Di ana remembered by h er sons It will be 18 years this August since the tragic death of Princess Diana, but her caring nature and good-humored wit continue to live on in her sons. As the Duke and Duchess of Cambridge welcome royal baby No. 2, we take a look back at some of the heartfelt speeches Prince William and Prince Harry have made about their late mother. Princess Diana was killed at the age of 36 in a Paris car crash in 1997. Prince William and Harry paid tribute to her at a memorial service in August 2007. "William and I can separate life into two parts," Harry said in his tearful speech. "There were those years where we were blessed with the physical presence beside us of both our mother and father [Prince
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Charles]. And then there are the 10 years since our mother's death." Prince William, for his part, described how Princess Diana's death affected him in January 2014. "Never being able to say the word 'mummy' again in your life sounds like a small thing. However for many, including me, it is now really just a word. Hollow and evoking only memories," he said at the time. "I too have felt, and still feel, the emptiness."
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Direct ions: Cut t he chicken breast s in hal f so t hey are hal f as t hick and sprinkl e it wit h sal t and paper Add ½ cup of f l our t o f l at -bot t omed medium dish. Dredge, or coat t he chicken wit h t he f l our. Use just enough f l our t o coat and t ap of f ext ra. Heat 2 Tbsp of but t er and 2 Tbsp of ol ive oil in a l arge skil l et over medium/ high heat unt il t he but t er begins t o sizzl e. Add ½ of t he chicken and Saut e f or about 2-4 minut es per side (depending on t he t hickness of your chicken). Remove chicken t o a serving pl at t er. Add 1 Tbsp but t er and 1 Tbsp ol ive oil t o t he pan and repeat wit h t he second bat ch of chicken. Scrape t he pan wit h a spat ul a and t ry t o remove t he l arger browned pieces of f l our l ef t behind. It s OK if some browned bit s remain. In t he same skil l et , wit hout reducing t he heat , add ½ cup wine, 1 Tbsp of but t er and l emon juice. St ir f or about 3 minut es. Sauce wil l sl ight l y t hicken. Pour t he sauce over t he chicken just bef ore serving. Garnish wit h l emon sl ices.
Lem on Chicken w it h Whit e Wine Sauce This chicken is sim ple t o m ake. The t angy flavor m akes t his chicken dish st and out . It s am azing how just a few ingredient s can m ake such a flavorful sauce. Dredging t he chicken in flour produces a t ender cut let . It s sim ple enough t o m ake for your fam ily and fancy enough for com pany. This chicken is delicious over rice or past a, w hich absorbs t he t angy sauce. A salad and som e crust y French bread w ould be fine accom panim ent s. For m ore great recipe ideas for drinks, appet izers, m eal ideas and dessert s, check out m y w eb page at w w w .cookingw it hjaclyn.w eebly.com
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M ari l yn M onroe Remembered: 53 Years Later 53 years after her death at only 36 years old, Marilyn Monroe still draws a crowd. This month hundreds of fans will gather at her Westwood Memorial Park crypt to remember her, and to attend a memorial service in the same chapel where her funeral was held in 1962. The memorial service is one of a four-day series of gatherings and events that brought fans from all over the world to Los Angeles; she has finally been recognized for the one thing she most wanted; as a gifted actress and more than simply a sex symbol.
Marilyn draws fans from all walks of life; her enduring influence is evidenced by the devotion of her fans, who came from as far away as New Zealand, Italy, and Spain, and by her continual presence in pop culture so long after her passing. Her tragic death ensured her place as a legend, and it shows no sign of wearing off. I can't think of any other star who remains so present after half a century, nor can I think of any start today who might be remembered in the same way. Marilyn Monroe was one of a kind; an American icon.
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This year's t heme f or Wicked Manors is "Once Upon A Drive!" and we ant icipat e over 30,000 at t endees enjoying t he evening. The bl ock part y wil l be hel d on Wil t on Drive and t raf f ic wil l be prohibit ed t o provide a saf e area f or cost umed guest s t o cel ebrat e t he Hal l oween f est ivit ies. Hunt ers Night cl ub has signed on again as our Present ing Sponsors as wel l as The Fort Lauderdal e Convent ion & Visit ors Bureau and THE HITS 97.3 FM and wil l be promot ing Wicked Manors t hroughout t he Sout h Fl orida airways. We have t he opport unit y t o creat e a nat ional l y recognized dest inat ion event . The part y wil l st art at 7pm t il l Midnight and t here wil l be no charge t o at t end! Cost umes are st rongl y encouraged!
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